I've been questioning my gender identity for almost a year now and I feel I haven't found my answers yet. I know it can be a lengthy process that shouldn't be rushed but I am hoping I'll find the answers soon. I was assigned male at birth but I feel my mind is more female e.g. I am more caring. I am not physically strong like my male friends. I don't have an interest in typically masculine activities (like aggressive sports). I am trying to experiment but it is difficult to do so as I still live with my parents and I worry they might try and find out and ask awkward questions which I'm not prepared for yet. In my mind, I think I am more female than male. I don't think I like being labelled as masculine, male, heterosexual or cisgender (which are some of the things I don't associate with). As for my sexual orientation, I can only make a guess right now as I have had no real life experience with dating or relationships. As of right now, I feel more attracted to women (especially Asian women e.g. Japanese women). It can be confusing when you have little to no real life experiences with dating and relationships and limited resources when it comes to what's available in my area (as I live in a small town in England). Plus, it can be confusing when I am unsure what my gender is etc.
+TheVORTEX794 I totally can connect with your story, (except the Asian / Japanese woman) though i found out that i am pan-sexual and so that's at least one bridge past, its just now i'm scared to do anything about my gender and my appearance, especially because i sadly went thru allot of depression and almost suicide. I started going to a therapist to address my depression, and i have noted them of the fact i want to be a girl, rather than a male because that's just how i feel more happy. Sadly they haven't helped me at'all yet, there advice was to go into observation for a few weeks to a month or two. I personally don't wan't this and i luckily have that choice, and ill note them again about my feelings and why i am there and if they can help me. Because they even said that they don't know whats wrong that's why they want me in observation.
I also went through depression and was experiencing suicidal feelings in the past. I know it isn't easy so I can relate. I've been questioning my gender identity for roughly 11 months to a year now (though, if you include certain thoughts then it would be longer e.g. 10 or so years). I also remember having a dream a few months ago where I was a woman (I'll spare the details as it did have adult content and I think RUclips doesn't like it). Because of how things are regarding my life at the moment, it is difficult to find the right information and resources where I live at the moment (because I live in a small town). And I hope everything's OK. I am here if you want a random person to talk to, if it helps in any way.
+TheVORTEX794 well I've been questioning my gender since somewhat around november 2014 and well, now i am still busy with it, so that's more than a year, but random thoughts eh since i can remember thongs personally i always wanted to wear girls cloths. But i never had the courage to do so, now i kinda do. and so i did. I already came out around me as transgender MtF. Only i am pour and so buying cloths is really difficult. And sadly my dad (divorced parents) isn't really helpful. He wants the best for me as his "son", but he still doesn't supports me ;( i don't know really what to do about it and its controlling my life kinda, this empty unsure feeling and as i said i'm seeing a therapist but shes not really helping yet.. :( if you wanna get in contact just contact me ;)
I feel I am 'in the same boat' as you regarding questioning my gender identity. The initial thoughts came around when I was attending school, didn't know who to talk to as I didn't have the resources I have today (like internet at home). Though, it's only recently that I have been giving it more thought. I find it difficult to experiment as I still live with my parents and it is difficult to try things and such. Even though I have not experienced parents getting divorced, I imagine it is still difficult. I am here for you even if I am just a random person. I am also seeing a psychologist but I feel they aren't helping much either, at least not at the moment. It is nice to have someone to talk to about it though :)
it sucks because i have the exact same problem (not the japanese women part) but i feel more like feminine brain and stuff but my problem is i want to identify as Cisgender Heteroxexual Male because even though my mom is super accepting and i live with her, my dad and stepmom would probably hate me if i came out as trans
I have been questioning my sexual orientation as well as my gender identity for a while now and I might be unsure as to whether or not I am transgender or not. Regarding sexual orientation, I currently feel mostly attracted to women on a romantic and sexual level (even though I have not had a real life relationship before). Regarding gender identity, I think I could be male to female transgender. There are a few things I kinda don't like about my current appearance and my current characteristics like I don't like having body and facial hair (and I don't want to shave or grow longer body/facial hair). I have been wondering what it is like to have certain female characteristics and I have often wondered what it is like to be a girl. I have also experienced depression and I feel I have a lot of anxiety but I am unsure what caused my depression at the moment. Though, I am unsure if it is because of the changes made by testosterone as I started puberty as well as other things but it is a possibility. As of lately, I have been playing as a female character in video games and I feel I am comfortable with that (as I feel I was not entirely comfortable with the male character in the past). I was wondering can I still identify as transgender even though my definition of each term is different to other people's definitions? Also, as I am currently attracted to mostly women, I am wondering what sexual orientation it could be. It is difficult to say because I am questioning my gender identity as well. You could say I am visiting each train stop to see how I feel about those identities and seeing whether those puzzle pieces fit together perfectly. And a question about the book, what websites will it be available on when released? Will it be available on websites and stores like Amazon (the UK version) and other alternative stores (online and physical stores)? Thanks in advance.
Hey, I'd really like to see more Ask a Gender Therapist videos on non-binary folks. You seem to focus mostly on transgender people, and rightly so, as that's probably who you mostly work with. I consider myself genderqueer, and on the spectrum between masculine and feminine, I would say I'm almost exactly in the middle, but slightly fluid, moving just a little toward one end or another from time to time. Of course, gender is a never-ending journey of self-discovery. I constantly have feelings of wanting to express myself more through the way I dress. Currently I wear mostly t-shirts and jeans, and shop exclusively in the mens section. But I'm always considering a bolder masculine or androgynous style. So, could you possibly do a video regarding non-binary people, and gender expression, and possibly how a person can be slightly fluid, or move around anywhere on the spectrum, not necessarily strictly feminine at one point, and strictly masculine at another? I'd also like to point out that I just recently came onto this channel, and I'm not sure if you've talked about your own personal gender identity. If you haven't, I suggest you do the gender tag. I've honestly been itching to know, especially since you're a gender therapist, and I'd like to know why you got into the field. I'm all over the place about what career I might choose, but this is definitely something I'm considering. Sorry for the super long comment lol. Great channel. :)
+Katie Trapp Thanks for the comments! I posted a video a couple of weeks ago called "My Own Gender Journey" that gives an introduction to some things going on with me. I'm still figuring a few things out about myself but am starting to share a little bit at a time about them. :)
Hey Dara, is there anyway I can send you a personal message? I have anew questions, that if you can answer, or lead the answer in the right direction. That would be wonderful, thank you
im a male but have breast like a woman and legs like a woman and long hair like a woman but my face is still like a manan I still consiserd a trangender
I'm a female but I check out women more than I do men & I'm in a relationship w/a man & women but I don't feel as connected to him as I do her & I don't really feel as comfortable having sex w/him anymore but I do enjoy having sex w/her. I'm trying to figure out what this means for me. Could you help me out a little bit.
I've been questioning my gender identity for almost a year now and I feel I haven't found my answers yet. I know it can be a lengthy process that shouldn't be rushed but I am hoping I'll find the answers soon. I was assigned male at birth but I feel my mind is more female e.g. I am more caring. I am not physically strong like my male friends. I don't have an interest in typically masculine activities (like aggressive sports). I am trying to experiment but it is difficult to do so as I still live with my parents and I worry they might try and find out and ask awkward questions which I'm not prepared for yet.
In my mind, I think I am more female than male. I don't think I like being labelled as masculine, male, heterosexual or cisgender (which are some of the things I don't associate with). As for my sexual orientation, I can only make a guess right now as I have had no real life experience with dating or relationships. As of right now, I feel more attracted to women (especially Asian women e.g. Japanese women).
It can be confusing when you have little to no real life experiences with dating and relationships and limited resources when it comes to what's available in my area (as I live in a small town in England). Plus, it can be confusing when I am unsure what my gender is etc.
+TheVORTEX794 I totally can connect with your story, (except the Asian / Japanese woman) though i found out that i am pan-sexual and so that's at least one bridge past, its just now i'm scared to do anything about my gender and my appearance, especially because i sadly went thru allot of depression and almost suicide. I started going to a therapist to address my depression, and i have noted them of the fact i want to be a girl, rather than a male because that's just how i feel more happy. Sadly they haven't helped me at'all yet, there advice was to go into observation for a few weeks to a month or two. I personally don't wan't this and i luckily have that choice, and ill note them again about my feelings and why i am there and if they can help me. Because they even said that they don't know whats wrong that's why they want me in observation.
I also went through depression and was experiencing suicidal feelings in the past. I know it isn't easy so I can relate. I've been questioning my gender identity for roughly 11 months to a year now (though, if you include certain thoughts then it would be longer e.g. 10 or so years). I also remember having a dream a few months ago where I was a woman (I'll spare the details as it did have adult content and I think RUclips doesn't like it). Because of how things are regarding my life at the moment, it is difficult to find the right information and resources where I live at the moment (because I live in a small town).
And I hope everything's OK. I am here if you want a random person to talk to, if it helps in any way.
+TheVORTEX794 well I've been questioning my gender since somewhat around november 2014 and well, now i am still busy with it, so that's more than a year, but random thoughts eh since i can remember thongs personally i always wanted to wear girls cloths. But i never had the courage to do so, now i kinda do. and so i did. I already came out around me as transgender MtF. Only i am pour and so buying cloths is really difficult. And sadly my dad (divorced parents) isn't really helpful. He wants the best for me as his "son", but he still doesn't supports me ;( i don't know really what to do about it and its controlling my life kinda, this empty unsure feeling and as i said i'm seeing a therapist but shes not really helping yet.. :( if you wanna get in contact just contact me ;)
I feel I am 'in the same boat' as you regarding questioning my gender identity. The initial thoughts came around when I was attending school, didn't know who to talk to as I didn't have the resources I have today (like internet at home). Though, it's only recently that I have been giving it more thought. I find it difficult to experiment as I still live with my parents and it is difficult to try things and such.
Even though I have not experienced parents getting divorced, I imagine it is still difficult. I am here for you even if I am just a random person.
I am also seeing a psychologist but I feel they aren't helping much either, at least not at the moment. It is nice to have someone to talk to about it though :)
it sucks because i have the exact same problem (not the japanese women part) but i feel more like feminine brain and stuff but my problem is i want to identify as Cisgender Heteroxexual Male because even though my mom is super accepting and i live with her, my dad and stepmom would probably hate me if i came out as trans
I have been questioning my sexual orientation as well as my gender identity for a while now and I might be unsure as to whether or not I am transgender or not. Regarding sexual orientation, I currently feel mostly attracted to women on a romantic and sexual level (even though I have not had a real life relationship before). Regarding gender identity, I think I could be male to female transgender.
There are a few things I kinda don't like about my current appearance and my current characteristics like I don't like having body and facial hair (and I don't want to shave or grow longer body/facial hair). I have been wondering what it is like to have certain female characteristics and I have often wondered what it is like to be a girl. I have also experienced depression and I feel I have a lot of anxiety but I am unsure what caused my depression at the moment. Though, I am unsure if it is because of the changes made by testosterone as I started puberty as well as other things but it is a possibility. As of lately, I have been playing as a female character in video games and I feel I am comfortable with that (as I feel I was not entirely comfortable with the male character in the past).
I was wondering can I still identify as transgender even though my definition of each term is different to other people's definitions? Also, as I am currently attracted to mostly women, I am wondering what sexual orientation it could be. It is difficult to say because I am questioning my gender identity as well. You could say I am visiting each train stop to see how I feel about those identities and seeing whether those puzzle pieces fit together perfectly.
And a question about the book, what websites will it be available on when released? Will it be available on websites and stores like Amazon (the UK version) and other alternative stores (online and physical stores)?
Thanks in advance.
Hey, I'd really like to see more Ask a Gender Therapist videos on non-binary folks. You seem to focus mostly on transgender people, and rightly so, as that's probably who you mostly work with. I consider myself genderqueer, and on the spectrum between masculine and feminine, I would say I'm almost exactly in the middle, but slightly fluid, moving just a little toward one end or another from time to time. Of course, gender is a never-ending journey of self-discovery. I constantly have feelings of wanting to express myself more through the way I dress. Currently I wear mostly t-shirts and jeans, and shop exclusively in the mens section. But I'm always considering a bolder masculine or androgynous style. So, could you possibly do a video regarding non-binary people, and gender expression, and possibly how a person can be slightly fluid, or move around anywhere on the spectrum, not necessarily strictly feminine at one point, and strictly masculine at another?
I'd also like to point out that I just recently came onto this channel, and I'm not sure if you've talked about your own personal gender identity. If you haven't, I suggest you do the gender tag. I've honestly been itching to know, especially since you're a gender therapist, and I'd like to know why you got into the field. I'm all over the place about what career I might choose, but this is definitely something I'm considering.
Sorry for the super long comment lol. Great channel. :)
+Katie Trapp Thanks for the comments! I posted a video a couple of weeks ago called "My Own Gender Journey" that gives an introduction to some things going on with me. I'm still figuring a few things out about myself but am starting to share a little bit at a time about them. :)
Two teenagers were arrested for going to their Prom in "Drag". What do you think of that?
Albert Giesbrecht that’s awful
Hey Dara, is there anyway I can send you a personal message? I have anew questions, that if you can answer, or lead the answer in the right direction. That would be wonderful, thank you
I've questioned my gender for over 7...8 or more years.
im a male but have breast like a woman and legs like a woman and long hair like a woman but my face is still like a manan I still consiserd a trangender
I'm a female but I check out women more than I do men & I'm in a relationship w/a man & women but I don't feel as connected to him as I do her & I don't really feel as comfortable having sex w/him anymore but I do enjoy having sex w/her. I'm trying to figure out what this means for me. Could you help me out a little bit.