Dara I, can't thank you enough for this video. I thought I needed to present my gender as an issue if I wanted to ever receive hormone therapy. Clearly I've been misinformed and the mindset has me tied in knots trying to keep my sense of self in check while trying to talk to a therapist. The discussion about informed consent in this video is a huge tableflip and I feel much more confident for myself. Thank you so much! I feel so naive having been in the dark about transitioning, but I'll be alright. I'm a prime example of how much we're lacking in the accessible information department. Hopefully in the nearest future this topic will be common knowledge.
Here in Perth Australia you have to go to therapy for 12 months and the trouble is, in this city there is only ONE person who does this and his clients list is full and has another 20 people waiting to get on his list. He only does 2 people per fortnight so that means it will take bloody YEARS to even get the HRT, if I went to the eastern states where they have more people to get the therapy you need to do to get past the gatekeeper crap but that has even MORE issues that are BS such as being forced to have between 3 and 12 months RLE (real life experience) as the changed sex you long to become and have it documented. The thing with that is you are NOT that gender yet so do-not-pass! So they are victimising you and punishing you to do that first. I would prefer to take the meds then when I feel comfortable to go all the way in RLE then I can do it when I know I could pass rather than being forced to just to get the meds... That could be traumatising and it is just plain unfair imo. I do kind of understand why they think this is a good idea but they do not understand why it is just the wrong way to do things...
I am questioning transgender woman and I’am ready for my next step in getting hrt . I’am seeing a gender therapist right now in the process of seeing a new one I hope to finally get hrt already so this was pretty helpful my nearest lgbtq center is an hour unfortunately.
I’m trying to transition to a girl, but I haven’t told a parent. I’m under the age of 18. Is it possible to start a therapy without your parents knowing?
Please don't do anything. Of course it would harm you. Don't repress your commonsense. If you are obese it probably means that you need to protect yourself. You should learn how to protect yourself a bit more. Maybe you have been the victim of a narcissistic person all those years who has made you sick. Transitioning won't heal you. It can relieve you at first but then it can add layers and layers to your distress. You may feel trapped at the moment but if you "choose" the path of transitioning you will fall into another trap. In this society we are all becoming like cancerous cells unfortunately. Cancerous cells don't respect rules and they don't care about the impact they have on the others. I wonder if your dad is missing or if he is present but emotionally absent or narcissistic or abusive. Why haven't you been able to identify with him ? Maybe your mum is narcissistic. Maybe she has had toxic men in her life (her dad ? Her husband ?), that's why she may subconsciously feel safer with a "castrated" son who wants to be a girl. Not all men are toxic. Maybe your emotional needs have been unmet. You haven't been seen and heard for who you are. Maybe you are too enmeshed with your mum. Are you living with 2 women, your mum and your aunt ? You are not your mum. You can love her and be compassionate but you also need to be yourself. You are not her. Don't let yourself be sacrificed on the altar of your mum, even if you love her and can put yourself in her shoes ... Maybe your dad didn't play his role. Maybe it is your parents who need to heal more than you. You need to heal too of course. You need to find the root of your suffering, the hidden meaning behind your gender dysphoria. Somebody has drained you of your energy and has stolen your identity and has made you think that you were not capable. In fact you are capable. You are suffering so much but be careful. Don't damage your health. Take care of yourself. Do meditations (free on RUclips). Eat healthily. Take long walks in nature. Try to connect with nature, to reconnect with yourself, to heal and embrace each fragment. Do things you like doing. You probably have talents or potential talents that you could develop. Maybe a group like codependent anonymous (coda ) could help you, or emotive anonymous. If you believe in God maybe a church could help you. You can trust people, some people can help you. Yet don't trust everybody, anybody. You could attract other narcissists. You need to heal from your emotional wounds. You need unconditional love. Unconditional love doesn't mean total acceptance of everything, it doesn't mean 100% positivity. In my view advising you to take hormones out of "compassion", to make you feel "comfortable" in your body without paying attention to your context, and to the cancer in your family would not be true empathy, it would be irresponsible.
There are professionals wanting to accuse me of being F2M, with claiming Testosterone has no hazards, so can be dosed highly without need for testing. While my birth is as a male, so how does a biological male decertify a Female to Male transition? Because I did this to State Level Standards and local Law Enforcement standards, yet certain people have decided they know how to create a desire for the needed to pass Testosterone.
hi, I'm from Indonesia. I mtf and I wanted to ask, was a few months I take Diane35 one pill/day and spironolactone 100mg/day. And my breasts grow, enlarged. but a different size, the larger right than the left. help me. explanation please.
therapy is exspensive! this was the video I was looking for! I'm transgender and would like to transition
Dara I, can't thank you enough for this video.
I thought I needed to present my gender as an issue if I wanted to ever receive hormone therapy. Clearly I've been misinformed and the mindset has me tied in knots trying to keep my sense of self in check while trying to talk to a therapist. The discussion about informed consent in this video is a huge tableflip and I feel much more confident for myself.
Thank you so much! I feel so naive having been in the dark about transitioning, but I'll be alright. I'm a prime example of how much we're lacking in the accessible information department. Hopefully in the nearest future this topic will be common knowledge.
Here in Perth Australia you have to go to therapy for 12 months and the trouble is, in this city there is only ONE person who does this and his clients list is full and has another 20 people waiting to get on his list. He only does 2 people per fortnight so that means it will take bloody YEARS to even get the HRT, if I went to the eastern states where they have more people to get the therapy you need to do to get past the gatekeeper crap but that has even MORE issues that are BS such as being forced to have between 3 and 12 months RLE (real life experience) as the changed sex you long to become and have it documented. The thing with that is you are NOT that gender yet so do-not-pass! So they are victimising you and punishing you to do that first. I would prefer to take the meds then when I feel comfortable to go all the way in RLE then I can do it when I know I could pass rather than being forced to just to get the meds... That could be traumatising and it is just plain unfair imo. I do kind of understand why they think this is a good idea but they do not understand why it is just the wrong way to do things...
What about Thailand? Any better there?
Try online therapy
What about Kentucky???? Ive been living in Kentucky for a few years as a girl/woman and i need to get on hormones asap
Thank you so much for putting information out there! Happy I'm a Coloradan
I am questioning transgender woman and I’am ready for my next step in getting hrt . I’am seeing a gender therapist right now in the process of seeing a new one I hope to finally get hrt already so this was pretty helpful my nearest lgbtq center is an hour unfortunately.
My therapist just makes it worse she makes me rip paper but it doesnt do anything at all i just wanna start hrt bc riping paper does nothing
Thanks I’m MTF and this helped me a lot
I so wish you were in austin tx. But thanks for the great info
DaraHoffman I had a bypass last year and I'm also diabetic would I be able to get hrt
What about Michigan
I’m trying to transition to a girl, but I haven’t told a parent. I’m under the age of 18. Is it possible to start a therapy without your parents knowing?
how do i get hormone therapy in Alberta Canada to start my transition
I'm looking for me some resperdail hormones
i live in texas, age 47, how do i find a gender therapist?
lonnie
I am 51 years old, obese, have hypertension, and my mother and aunt are battling Breast Cancer, what are the chances of me getting MTF HRT?
Please don't do anything.
Of course it would harm you.
Don't repress your commonsense.
If you are obese it probably means that you need to protect yourself.
You should learn how to protect yourself a bit more.
Maybe you have been the victim of a narcissistic person all those years who has made you sick.
Transitioning won't heal you.
It can relieve you at first but then it can add layers and layers to your distress.
You may feel trapped at the moment but if you "choose" the path of transitioning you will fall into another trap.
In this society we are all becoming like cancerous cells unfortunately.
Cancerous cells don't respect rules and they don't care about the impact they have on the others.
I wonder if your dad is missing or if he is present but emotionally absent or narcissistic or abusive.
Why haven't you been able to identify with him ?
Maybe your mum is narcissistic.
Maybe she has had toxic men in her life (her dad ? Her husband ?), that's why she may subconsciously feel safer with a "castrated" son who wants to be a girl.
Not all men are toxic.
Maybe your emotional needs have been unmet. You haven't been seen and heard for who you are.
Maybe you are too enmeshed with your mum.
Are you living with 2 women, your mum and your aunt ?
You are not your mum.
You can love her and be compassionate but you also need to be yourself.
You are not her.
Don't let yourself be sacrificed on the altar of your mum, even if you love her and can put yourself in her shoes ...
Maybe your dad didn't play his role.
Maybe it is your parents who need to heal more than you.
You need to heal too of course.
You need to find the root of your suffering, the hidden meaning behind your gender dysphoria.
Somebody has drained you of your energy and has stolen your identity and has made you think that you were not capable.
In fact you are capable.
You are suffering so much but be careful.
Don't damage your health.
Take care of yourself.
Do meditations (free on RUclips).
Eat healthily. Take long walks in nature. Try to connect with nature, to reconnect with yourself, to heal and embrace each fragment.
Do things you like doing.
You probably have talents or potential talents that you could develop.
Maybe a group like codependent anonymous (coda ) could help you, or emotive anonymous.
If you believe in God maybe a church could help you.
You can trust people, some people can help you.
Yet don't trust everybody, anybody.
You could attract other narcissists.
You need to heal from your emotional wounds.
You need unconditional love.
Unconditional love doesn't mean total acceptance of everything, it doesn't mean 100% positivity.
In my view advising you to take hormones out of "compassion", to make you feel "comfortable" in your body without paying attention to your context, and to the cancer in your family would not be true empathy, it would be irresponsible.
wtf
@@corinnegodard8358 why am I only seeing this now? I wrote my questions 4 years ago.
In Ontario I need a letter for my physician he tells me to get a letter stating the medication and dosage please help
How can I contact you please I need help?
Does the therapist and process have to be in the state you reside in? I ask because I am never in NC but I am licensed there (trucker driver)
There are professionals wanting to accuse me of being F2M, with claiming Testosterone has no hazards, so can be dosed highly without need for testing. While my birth is as a male, so how does a biological male decertify a Female to Male transition? Because I did this to State Level Standards and local Law Enforcement standards, yet certain people have decided they know how to create a desire for the needed to pass Testosterone.
been stugleing with this issue since1982 please help. totaliy confused
Todd Gipe oh honey. . message me 💜😌😞🙏
hi, I'm from Indonesia. I mtf and I wanted to ask, was a few months I take Diane35 one pill/day and spironolactone 100mg/day. And my breasts grow, enlarged. but a different size, the larger right than the left. help me. explanation please.
Hallo GUYS that is normal. one boob tends to be slightly bigger than the other
Thank you
Hey, I don't know if you respond to questions from youtube but I'm fairly new to your channel and wonder what your pronouns are? Thanks!
OMG I so wish I found this a couple of years ago! Thanks!
Yaysies!
Go to planned parenthood. I started a year ago.
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thank you so much