Can I Transition if I'm Non-Binary or Genderfluid?

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  • @emiliohansen4723
    @emiliohansen4723 9 лет назад +173

    Seriously, this issue needs to be addressed. There's seemingly no resources addressing surgery for non-binary and genderfluid people. Thank you so much for making this video!

    • @dreh1564
      @dreh1564 7 лет назад

      What does it mean to neutralize genitalia? I'm genuinely curious, not trying to be rude or dismissive.

    • @robotbench6102
      @robotbench6102 5 лет назад +1

      @@dreh1564 which means probably to alter genitals where its hard to tell if they belong to a girl or a boy.
      As someone looking into this stuff i dont understand much either but still researching

    • @GearsUpDownUp
      @GearsUpDownUp 5 лет назад

      This helped me so much ♡♡♡

  • @mango3269
    @mango3269 8 лет назад +97

    being nonbinary isn't just falling between the man and woman. you can be outside of that spectrum

    • @catsrule8844
      @catsrule8844 4 года назад +4

      Ugggggghhhhhhhhhhh
      seriously though, Megan
      Seriously. Megan.
      MEGAN. SERIOUSLY, Megan.
      Seriously. Come on.

    • @Asterly0
      @Asterly0 4 года назад +13

      @@catsrule8844 are you good?

    • @thatarcherkid6791
      @thatarcherkid6791 4 года назад +5

      @@catsrule8844 if you want to call someone out and suggest they're wrong- bring your facts next time please. Enby is a blanket term for trans people who don't fall under the binary system- meaning Megan's statement is completely valid and true.

    • @levnuica8863
      @levnuica8863 3 года назад

      @@thatarcherkid6791 I think they're trolling:))

    • @levnuica8863
      @levnuica8863 3 года назад

      @@thatarcherkid6791 but the original statement is true, no contradictions there

  • @myfriendlikeshorse2308
    @myfriendlikeshorse2308 8 лет назад +106

    Yup, that's what I want. I'm gender fluid and top surgery would help ^.^

    • @odysseyrain
      @odysseyrain 6 лет назад +3

      same

    • @jasonmero2245
      @jasonmero2245 6 лет назад +3

      yup same

    • @kaid7281
      @kaid7281 6 лет назад +3

      Same

    • @feebweed
      @feebweed 5 лет назад +12

      Same, I Often wish I could just feel a t-shirt against a flat chest, or be able to be shirtless with a flat chest (I’m not trans, but I’m gender fluid and my chest makes me feel upset sometimes)

    • @deadnebula
      @deadnebula 5 лет назад +4

      phoebe doering same, I’m also Gender Fluid and I hate Having a Chest

  • @keelanc674
    @keelanc674 10 лет назад +78

    It feels great to know I could get top-surgery without having to take hormones too. (I'm pretty Genderfluid (sometimes I feel more female, sometimes more male and other times I feel genderless), though I lean more towards masculine, so I'm still undecided about whether or not I'd want to take hormones. I am however, very eager to rid myself of my breasts.)

    • @joyj6793
      @joyj6793 6 лет назад

      Keelan C yes same

    • @feebweed
      @feebweed 5 лет назад

      Me too

    • @18Star04
      @18Star04 3 года назад

      Same, but, hormones sound great too, because, i really dont like my very feminine features, so i want to tone that down so it doesnt look way to feminine nor way too masculine, im currently 15 (16 in a few weeks) and i still havent come out to my parents on it, but i will soon hopefully

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 3 года назад

      Same

  • @mitchell12375
    @mitchell12375 9 лет назад +159

    Dara, non binary does not have to mean in between male and female, we can be outside of the spectrum entirely, I myself do not identify as any gender. Also gender fluid people can be entirely male and flow to female, they don't have to be in between, great video though!

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  8 лет назад +71

      I've learned a lot since I first made this video and regret I didn't give the proper definition. Thank you for posting so others can see :)

    • @jadehess9496
      @jadehess9496 8 лет назад +1

      +milo lugo that's a very good question, and we're still working on it

    • @ghostcelestite
      @ghostcelestite 8 лет назад +9

      +milo lugo probably the definitions of male and female. when you get into learning about trans and nonbinary stuff and gender, you usually realize that it's a lot more complicated than how most people define "male" and "female".

    • @ghostcelestite
      @ghostcelestite 8 лет назад +4

      explain why you think it's a huge problem?

    • @jadehess9496
      @jadehess9496 8 лет назад +7

      There are two different sorts of gender words, those that refer to a person's mental state, and those that refer to a person's genitals, both can be just as arbitrary, take for example a child born with ambiguous genitalia, we've decided as a society that that isn't an acceptable way of being so a doctor gets to assign a gender to the child and surgically alter their genitals, there's other bizarre ways that gender can be bent and messed with, why don't you define what it means to you so that we can provide specific examples

  • @lauradeerfield
    @lauradeerfield 9 лет назад +25

    I'm 45, and my gender expression has been all over the map. I've always had a good idea of what my "real" gender is (basically "other"), but a lot of confusion about how to live that. After having a hysterectomy last year, I realized how much body dysphoria I've had. I had blamed it on health issues--and thought I'd feel more comfortable as female-bodied having those taken care of. Instead, it's made me more comfortable as gender neutral. When I found out that it might be possible to get top surgery without needing to take hormones or identifying as male, I was very surprised by the emotions, the excitement at the possibility. I would have said I didn't want it--but I now realize that was rationalization.
    I am so grateful to the kids, because I'm learning a lot from young people about being OK with being "other."

    • @MaxieGrant
      @MaxieGrant 9 лет назад +4

      Hello darling. My child is agender (I'm trans). Yes it is delightful! I realized they were actually suffering from dysphoria when I asked them to describe what they were feeling. They came out to me at the same time as I came out to them. They like to present as female around me . . . and I realized they were probably trying to look like pre-transition me, which would have been as andro as possible. So I had this (very wonderful) vision of my "parenthood" being "nonny" to my "baby non." I described this to my child and they loved it. I recognize the feelings you are having . . . it very much helps me relate more to my beloved little Li.

    • @annemariebenoit4263
      @annemariebenoit4263 3 года назад

      It's true. Younger people tend to have a much better grasp of what non-binary encompasses and the options available.

  • @AShatteredDragonsSpirit
    @AShatteredDragonsSpirit 7 лет назад +15

    I'm an agender demiboy. Basically, imagine a pie chart, where most of it is grey (for 'nothing') but about a fifth is blue (for 'male'). that's how i describe myself. im planning to have a full transition from my afab body. this video was extremely useful, thank you.

  • @samclemens7576
    @samclemens7576 9 лет назад +48

    This made me so happy I almost cried. Thank you thank you thank you

  • @ShadowAnimeation
    @ShadowAnimeation 10 лет назад +54

    I don't consider myself trans because sometimes I feel more female and other times more male, but I always have chest dysphoria. So theoretically, I can still get top surgery without being fully trans?

    • @stevieg4969
      @stevieg4969 6 лет назад +6

      of course :) most of us will love you no matter what x

    • @kaid7281
      @kaid7281 6 лет назад +4

      Yeah, im genderfluid and when i actually come out to my parents, i want to get top surgery

    • @sahilkhandare_1234.
      @sahilkhandare_1234. 5 лет назад +1

      Bro it is same with me also.

    • @sahilkhandare_1234.
      @sahilkhandare_1234. 5 лет назад +1

      Bro I am also a genderfluid person mine situation is same like you.

    • @declan-kayodekeegan1598
      @declan-kayodekeegan1598 4 года назад +1

      It's sort of similar to how I feel but I'd like to go on HRT.

  • @XavierGreyWolf
    @XavierGreyWolf 10 лет назад +16

    Thank you SO much for this video. I'm gender neutral and wanted to start HRT about 2 or 3 years ago, mostly because I feel I'm "top-down male, halted at the waist." My therapist, though, told me clearly that I HAD to identify as male, live the male life, etc. in order to start. I was so discouraged I never looked back. Recently, I found an informed consent doctor, so I'm thinking about starting on my journey again. Now, though, I know I can get my letter for top surgery from a therapist REGARDLESS of my gender (or lack thereof). THANK YOU!

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  10 лет назад +5

      Very happy to hear that it was of such help!

    • @jessedrawsstuff1402
      @jessedrawsstuff1402 6 лет назад

      XavierGreyWolf is that possible? Would I be able to only have the top half transitioned? I’m questioning my gender and I want to know what options I have but I don’t have the time to watch a 9 minute video at this point in my life.

    • @annemariebenoit4263
      @annemariebenoit4263 3 года назад

      I think it depends where you are how much has been adjusted, especially in what is covered by insurance or, where applicable, universal health care. Definitely people should look up transition videos to see what procedures they want and what procedures are available both covered and not covered where they live. Lots of places include top and bottom surgeries. It is common for trans men and non-binary enby people to get top surgery but not bottom surgery because constructed penises are not as good as constructed vaginas yet-- both in terms of sex and health. Facial feminization surge and adam's apple shaving can also be available and/or covered. Some of the more liberal places even include laser hair removal (beards, for example, are a big source of dysphoria for many AMAB people).

  • @Faerie_Kim
    @Faerie_Kim 8 лет назад +14

    watching this video helped me realise that I probably am fluid between female or almost female ("I wish I was a girl") to intergender ("I'm balanced and inbetween") to agender ("gender is bollocks"). Annoying though. I wish I'd stay in one place. It can be really confusing.

    • @strangerr13
      @strangerr13 6 лет назад

      Abrosexuality is a sexuality where one flows between different sexualities, if that helps ☺️ (edit sorry this is about gender) try researching pangender

  • @SkyeID
    @SkyeID 10 лет назад +21

    For me, I'm Agender, so the binary doesn't apply to me. In California, I was able to surgically transition without any problems. No physicians, therapists, or surgeons gave me any trouble, and letters were not needed to get top surgery.

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  10 лет назад +12

      That is great to hear, and I'm sure provides hope to those who didn't know it is DEFINITELY possible. Thanks for your comment!

    • @AbsoluteMonarchist
      @AbsoluteMonarchist 10 лет назад +3

      Just remember - the fluidity of gender is transcendental spiritualism with normal ethical paradigms don't apply. Read the Marque de Sade to understand the abstract nature of gender identity expression. Our role model in the LGBT movement should be Ernst Rohm - a revolutionary LGBT fascist who died at the hands of the racist, homophobic reactionary Hitler.

    • @rachaelplatt6090
      @rachaelplatt6090 7 лет назад

      If I may ask, what physical changes did you make?
      Regards.

  • @ilikeunicornsoup9551
    @ilikeunicornsoup9551 8 лет назад +13

    Can I just say what you're doing with this channel is so amazing and kind. You need an award for doing your job and beyond.

  • @johannschiel6734
    @johannschiel6734 9 лет назад +6

    Very cool channel!! I'm not personally affected by the issues but very interested in the whole subjekt area (sexual/gender identity, orientation and so on). Very well-made videos.

  • @TheGhoststarotcards
    @TheGhoststarotcards 6 лет назад +10

    I’m gender fluid so This is literally amazing

    • @xbduf4gb
      @xbduf4gb 4 года назад

      You’re so special. Don’t forget to change your gender fluid every 5000 miles.

    • @Sacoglossa
      @Sacoglossa 3 года назад

      I am deeply, deeply afraid of being genderfluid. I just want to transition fully but sometimes I feel like that isn't right for me, and I want the ability to move and change, but at the same time, I hate that that's something I want.
      Edit: wow I've just vented to a random comment section on RUclips what is my life

  • @jennak33
    @jennak33 7 лет назад +5

    you the best dara :) A LONGGGG time ago I came across one of your vids and this is when I started my journey to find myself. I hope to find a therapist like you, seeing my dr real soon :)

  • @Laurynbay
    @Laurynbay 6 лет назад +2

    I'm not sure whether to title myself genderfluid, non-binary, or demi boy.
    I always find myself bouncing between identifying as non-binary and identifying as a Man.
    Demi-boy is basically what I just described.
    I dont feel like a woman, altho I do find myself feminine.
    My pronouns are he/him/they/them.
    PLEASE comment💕
    I love you guys, you're amazing💞

  • @maxwellbrooks5430
    @maxwellbrooks5430 8 лет назад +2

    Though I remember spots where I definitely didn't feel connected with my birth gender, the majority of it was, by A LOT. Also, when I first heard of the term "transgender", I didn't think much of it. During the summer between my sixth and seventh grade year, I felt extremely disconnected and I had no idea why. I still didn't think it was gender for the most part, though, again, I still remember points in time where I'd think of things like, "When I move to my new school, maybe I should try to convince people that I am *opposite of birth gender*." In other words, I wasn't exactly aware of the disconnection until mid-seventh grade. I came across the term "bigender" and it made some sense, and that's when I started to question. I realized that my feelings were mostly neutral, but (though I know that masculinity and femininity don't always apply to male and female) being masculine or feminine can greatly affect what gender I connect with more. I thought maybe I just changed masculinity and femininity but it got to the point where a different pronoun would make me feel strange. I don't feel that it is a phase, but I look back and realize that I never really thought about a disconnection until puberty started for me and my body began to differ from my opposite sex, since I've always dressed relatively neutral. Would that be a situation that wouldn't be considered for hormone therapy in the future?

  • @MrRicarium
    @MrRicarium 9 лет назад +19

    Hey Dara! Hopefully you're still reading these comments.
    I identify as non-binary, born male and 18 years old, all I want is to stop my body from further becoming male. I want to stop the body hair and facial hair from multiplying. The body hair I can easily remove, but the beard/mustache is starting to freak me out as even when I shave the shadow is becoming more and more visible.
    What can I do?

    • @emiliohansen4723
      @emiliohansen4723 9 лет назад +4

      MrRicarium For your facial hair, I would suggest laser hair removal. That would be the surest way to have that shadow removed.

    • @MrRicarium
      @MrRicarium 9 лет назад +3

      ***** It's so expensive though... :(

    • @tavrosnitram1529
      @tavrosnitram1529 9 лет назад +6

      +MrRicarium There are hormone blockers that you are able to take, i don't know much about them at all, but what i do know about them, is that they keep things from happening, so like, if a person started developing breasts and they didn't want them, they can take hormone blockers to stop them from further development.
      i think the same is possible for people growing facial hair and not wanting it to be there, i think the hormone blockers keep it from spreading and growing in more often

    • @MrRicarium
      @MrRicarium 9 лет назад +2

      Tavros Nitram It would be awesome but you need hormones in your body. Estrogen or testosterone, they are needed in your body for it to function properly. I'm currently looking into androgen to see if it's an option for me...
      Hormone blockers are usually used in preparation for hormone replacement therapy, not as a life time commitment I don't think...

    • @tavrosnitram1529
      @tavrosnitram1529 9 лет назад +1

      Ah ok
      Like i said i no pretty much nothing about them X3

  • @4ArmedManiac
    @4ArmedManiac 8 лет назад +8

    Here is a link to the Standards of Care for the Health of Transsexual, Transgender, and Non-Conforming People Version 7: www.wpath.org/uploaded_files/140/files/IJT%20SOC,%20V7.pdf
    I couldn't find a link in the comments

  • @LittleFishyFishies
    @LittleFishyFishies 10 лет назад +2

    I could not be more ecstatic that I found you & this channel, Dara!! Thank you so much for doing this all for us!!

  • @MRHawks-ee2fl
    @MRHawks-ee2fl 8 лет назад +9

    Non-binary is an umbrella term that includes genderfluid, Agender (non-gender individuals), genderflux, bi-gender, poly-gender, or any other gender that does not include binary genders which are only male and female.

  • @petertheyoyoman163
    @petertheyoyoman163 4 года назад +1

    I’m just gonna drop by Colorado and give you a hug when I can. 😅
    Thanks so much for these videos! My parents can’t afford a gender therapist for me,, so these episodes really help.

  • @pao_sophia_m
    @pao_sophia_m 4 года назад

    OMG, thanks... thank you for this!!!!! I've been searching for this a lot, there are no words to express my gratitude... I was feeling so sad and so hopeless thinking that i might not be able to have an HRT just because I don't want to become a woman, when i feel so disphoric about my body, and i really want to change it... this changes my whole reality just like that, again, thank you so much :D

  • @ravenclaw2849
    @ravenclaw2849 3 года назад +2

    I am genderfluid and I'm very scared as I want to start T but it sounds very scary and I'm afraid they won't allow me to go on it or understand my gender 😭✋

  • @godlessdisco4266
    @godlessdisco4266 4 года назад +1

    For a long time I’ve been so confused because I want to transition mtf but I feel like my gender identity is non-binary. Seeing this was so incredibly helpful to give words to how I feel

  • @renavaters521
    @renavaters521 10 лет назад +2

    This was super informative!! Thanks for the link, and thanks for sharing your wisdom with me, Dara! :D

  • @Aconitum_napellus
    @Aconitum_napellus 10 лет назад +12

    Your videos are very helpful and informative, thank you.

  • @ALLinHerMovements
    @ALLinHerMovements 10 лет назад +6

    OMG thank you for covering this! My insurance company covers surgeries for trans people ( yah !) but they say I'd have to be on hormones for a year before receiving top surgery ( boo!). My problem is that I don't want to fully transition, I just want top surgery to help me be more fluid and to help with my bad dysphoria. Do you know if the WPATH standards apply to insurance companies too? Like I'm wondering how I can encourage them to pay even though I really don't want to ever be on hormones. Any suggestions? Thanks!!!!

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  10 лет назад +3

      Yeah, things are going to be complicated for a while as insurance companies begin to understand better what is going on. I'm wondering if you found a gender therapist who understands the WPATH standards, that they can write you a letter and explain what is going on, and that the insurance company would make an exception?
      If you run into any issues I'd suggest contacting WPATH directly to see what they would advise. Good luck hon!

  • @7lilly5
    @7lilly5 7 лет назад

    Dara! I am so happy this video showed up on my youtube feed! Thank you kindly for all the info. I feel surprisingly blessed; where I live, my GYN is from Sweden, and is completely on board with helping me get my double masectomy, and low dose HRT. The only thing he required was I take better care of myself, and loose about 100 pounds. As for HRT, he said he would gladly help me sort it out with my insurance. Ironically, most cis-women despise him; they say he is unemotional, and non validating. He is a matter of fact man, and has been extremely validating of me. I look forward to viewing more of your videos. Thank you for your kindness and compassion. Namaste!

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад

      So glad to hear you have a supported GYN, that makes such a big difference in making the transition process move along more smoothly! Namaste to you as well. :)

  • @Ryan78336
    @Ryan78336 3 года назад

    It’s truly mind boggling how little info about this in Australia in video form. Would clear things up, as well as make people feel less alone.

  • @Supergrl5013
    @Supergrl5013 10 лет назад +3

    Thank you for answering this, Dara! You are AWESOME! :)

  • @tmntmangle1325
    @tmntmangle1325 7 лет назад +2

    This helps me so much. Thank you so much for this confirmation that not all transitions are binary

  • @ibtiamat
    @ibtiamat 9 лет назад +1

    I am genderfluid and I had people ask me if I am going to be on hormone replacement therapy or already on it or if I am going to get top surgery and I say "No" to both because if I do, two things will happen; one, I still won't feel comfortable with in my skin and two, all of my hair will fall out, I will get severe acne, and my emotions will be out of whack (genetic problems) I actually have to take a testosterone INHIBITOR so I won't lose my hair or have skin problems. So in a way I am going backwards and sometimes I really hate being genderfluid (especially the random gender dysphoria), I wished my gender identity was something more clear cut but I am glad I don't want to go through replacement therapy or surgery because that is money I won't have for YEARS.

    • @ibtiamat
      @ibtiamat 8 лет назад

      Wow. This was years ago. Lol. I would like to get chest reconstruction surgery at least. I want to get off my testosterone inhibitor and perhaps get on HRT just so my hormones will balance out.

    • @WebVManReturns
      @WebVManReturns 6 лет назад

      I'm a dude with boobs and am afraid to seek treatment as I have a weak heart and would be afraid Testosterone shots would give me a heart attack. I also hate the idea of becoming "a man's man".

  • @declan-kayodekeegan1598
    @declan-kayodekeegan1598 4 года назад

    I'm a trans woman who's denied this for so long. Growing up in the 80s I never knew what to do about it and becoming a teen I was forced to 'man up' in a homophobic society.
    I forced myself to accept my male body and even started to enjoy it at some point but I always loved for my boyfriends to call me by female endearment. I thought I was non binary or bi gender. I'll love to go on HRT now as I have been getting more dissatisfied and want to live more as a woman but at the same time I don't want want surgery. Truth is I've been so confused as I also want to keep my male side. I happy to be gender fluid.

  • @TheMadHaatter
    @TheMadHaatter 9 лет назад +2

    Im 17 gender fluid an want to get hormones to balance my self out a bit as right now im quite the manly man. is this a good idea? tell me your thoughts

  • @capt_zo
    @capt_zo 7 лет назад +3

    What about bigender people? I want to transition into androgyny and get top surgery. I'm uncomfortable with passing for just female when I also identify as male :/

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад

      Yes, this applies for those who are bigender too :)

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      Transition into androgyny? Don't be daft, people are naturally androgynous, you make it sound like a choice. You don't pass as female, you are female. "Identify as male"? Sounds like a choice.

  • @bronwenjones4360
    @bronwenjones4360 6 лет назад

    I want to point out that most transgender people actually prefer FTM or MTF as abbreviations for Femme/Feminine to Masculine, or Masculine to Feminine/Femme. I understand that "Female to Male", or "Male to Female" are simpler, and easier ways to describe it to someone who isn't familar with the language, but I think it's an important distinction if you want to speak the language that we prefer.
    I believe I saw someone else post that gender doesn't necessarily have to fit between the "male" and "female" boxes, but can be outside of that. I'm agender (also referred to as androgynous, or gender neutral) myself, and thus I am one of those people who doesn't fit into female, male, or somewhere in between.
    Great video, just wanted to contribute to the conversation! Very informative. :)

  • @SirChubbyBunny
    @SirChubbyBunny 10 лет назад +9

    I recently heard that you no longer need proof of surgery to get your gender marker changed. If you know more on this, can you elaborate? Is that just for Social Security or does that mean the whole nine (IDs, birth certificates and so on)?

  • @Oliver-zz2jf
    @Oliver-zz2jf 9 лет назад +1

    I'm so glad I found your channel! Hopefully your videos can help me :)

  • @Jaybird196
    @Jaybird196 9 лет назад

    What sorts of HRT can a gender-queer/genderfluid person (of either sex), reasonably expect? Thanks.

  • @frigglebiscuit7484
    @frigglebiscuit7484 8 лет назад +2

    honestly, the only thing keeping me alive right now is the hope that i can get started on some form of hrt. im not exactly trans, but a bit of both,just more on the female side. if i end up not being able to get it, i feel that i wont be able to live anymore.

    • @munii3216
      @munii3216 8 лет назад

      Same, I literally was so suicidal knowing that I would never be born again as intersex or something because I hate being seen as my birth gender, I loved my body before puberty but now that I'm in my teen years I cannot stand any feature...I'm just hoping that when I receive my appointment from my gender clinique (in 3-6 months) that they do not turn me away for just wanting blockers an hormones!

    • @frigglebiscuit7484
      @frigglebiscuit7484 8 лет назад

      +Muneeb Yasin congrats! i hope they dont either...but i would figure they are there to help, instead of persuade. im still figuring myself out, so only time will tell for me...

    • @munii3216
      @munii3216 8 лет назад

      I hope you the best with your journey hun!!! Keep that head high and put no filter on your personality and expression! xx

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      @@munii3216 You want to stay a child and not deal with adult life.

  • @spekticat
    @spekticat 5 лет назад

    Thankyou so much for this

  • @reekmee
    @reekmee 5 лет назад +1

    i really love your channel it’s so helpful

  • @alluz4177
    @alluz4177 3 года назад

    Am I allowed to only want top surgery? Is that valid? I’ve been trying to get help but it’s been so hard.

  • @rachaelplatt6090
    @rachaelplatt6090 7 лет назад +1

    *Please help!*
    Your definition of non-binary would seem to include everyone because everyone falls into a range between male and female. There are perhaps a handful of people who are not all male or all female. Can you help me narrow down that definition?
    I keep hearing non-binary is transgender. What does a non-binary person transition into?
    Thank you.

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад +3

      When you say everyone falls between male and female, I believe that is true when it comes to the expression of feminine and masculine energy. But many people define themselves as either female or male and are comfortable doing so. What TYPE of male or female they are, that can certainly differ from person to person.
      Perhaps a simpler way to look at what it means to be nonbinary is that this can be someone who moves AWAY from their assigned gender at birth. And they move towards...well, that different for each individual.

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      @@darahoffmanfox People define themselves as male or female because that is their biological sex. You for example are biologically female. What type of male or female everybody is differs from person to person because we are all different. You are not another gender, you are the TYPE of female that you want to be, just like everybody else.

  • @declan-kayodekeegan1598
    @declan-kayodekeegan1598 4 года назад

    Thanks for this video.
    I have a question : being somewhat gender fluid, if I go on HRT how much will it change my body?
    I identify as female but I also do enjoy being male....

  • @the_queer_forest_fairy5170
    @the_queer_forest_fairy5170 4 года назад

    Dara im AFAB nonbianary can i take testrone? ....i feel alot of dysforia conserning all my female features.....

  • @sashas3362
    @sashas3362 6 лет назад

    In my experience most doctors are not willing to give HRT or SRS to someone who does not identify completely with the opposite sex/gender because this could lead to the patient feeling trapped in the wrong body. I was interrogated and challenged to identify my gender and ran into problems because I identified as other/non-binary/non-conforming since I feel caught between male and female after going through HRT but not being able to get SRS in the past due to limits in insurance coverage and also financial limitations. Now my insurance will pay for it but I am running into problems with getting approvals because I described myself as non-binary, etc since I haven't fully transitioned (although I made it clear I do want to transition to be completely female). If your goal is to get HRT and SRS or any other cosmetic surgery then it may not be wise to tell the doctors or therapist you identify as other/non-binary/non-conforming/fluid/etc. Of course, one should not need to lie. But at this time it does seem that it could adversely affect your ability to get gender confirming procedures paid for if you describe yourself as anything other than the opposite sex.

  • @xz740
    @xz740 5 лет назад

    Not that long ago people were refused surgey and hormones if their identity fluctuated from day to day.

  • @RangoGreen
    @RangoGreen 10 лет назад

    I live in Australia ( W.A ) and was wondering if you could direct me towards resources for getting hormones as a non binary person.

  • @zajuice17
    @zajuice17 10 лет назад +2

    I am so happy I found you! thank you for answering this, been looking everywhere! :D

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  10 лет назад +1

      My pleasure! :)

    • @AbsoluteMonarchist
      @AbsoluteMonarchist 10 лет назад

      Gender is fluid and glistening and slippery like KY Jelly. Laws based on "age" and the definition of "consent" are used to wage an ideological war against the LGBT community. It's part of the social construct the patriarchy invented to suppress LGBT community and women. And now Rolf Harris is being imprisoned for expressing his gender identity 20 years ago? It's a disgrace that so many of us are still forced to hide in the closet.

  • @riverlefae2047
    @riverlefae2047 6 лет назад

    Am I able to take hormones but not transition surgically?

  • @weirdkid3801
    @weirdkid3801 4 года назад

    I have a question, I'm gender fluid and when I'm filling something out and ask if I'm male or female what do I put? ~ Lindsey & Aaron

  • @elcetinski9173
    @elcetinski9173 8 лет назад

    Wow this was one of the most helpful videos I have watched on this sort of topic. I am gender fluid and I have always had this question so thank you so much for answering this!

  • @m.7877
    @m.7877 7 лет назад

    feels so good to have more clarity ^^

  • @cobalius
    @cobalius 4 года назад

    I love my body like it is and like i know it.
    In terms of gender-specificy i would say, i'm a demiboy. But i'm fine with male

  • @MsTinaZee
    @MsTinaZee 9 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for your channel, Dara! Your videos are such an amazing resource to everyone in the trans community. You're a fantastic teacher - always learn something from your videos (and FB posts).

    • @MsTinaZee
      @MsTinaZee 8 лет назад +1

      +Donny boy gonna Trump the World Although my mother always told me never to enter a battle of wits with an unarmed man, I'll reply for the easy sport. I clicked to your page, Donny boy. It says "This channel has no content."
      Understatement of the decade.

  • @googlygooglee5978
    @googlygooglee5978 7 лет назад

    Thnx for d info. but I can't find the quote at 5:01 nowhere in d wpath guideline. can u please tell me in which page/section I can find it?

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад

      That was actually a quote from the president of WPATH in 2011, not a direct quote from the SOC. Sorry for the confusion!

    • @googlygooglee5978
      @googlygooglee5978 7 лет назад

      Dara Hoffman-Fox okay. If it's on the web, can you please provide the link?

  • @jayfender851
    @jayfender851 9 лет назад

    I have been looking for a video or website answering my question and this is the first one that I saw thank you so much.

  • @garrettzachgo9112
    @garrettzachgo9112 8 лет назад +2

    hi there again this is Viki I have one more question for you if you are a androgynous female can you still get Top surgery if you wanted to

    • @jbent5124
      @jbent5124 8 лет назад

      +Viki Zachgo Cis women get breast reduction surgery done all the time

    • @garrettzachgo9112
      @garrettzachgo9112 8 лет назад +1

      I don't want them at all not reduction

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      Viki Zachgo. Imagine having breast cancer.

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      @@jbent5124 Don't call women "cis". Please keep your labels to yourselves

  • @OdinsRaven5
    @OdinsRaven5 9 лет назад

    Do you know where the link is to the duty of care requirements to give to the Dr?

  • @ax6356
    @ax6356 2 года назад

    my fluid gender doesn't often flow, but JUMP!

  • @aiden6684
    @aiden6684 8 лет назад

    Hi Dara,
    So I came out to my mom and school as FtM in early October. At the time I had no clue what gender fluid or non-binary was, all I know is I wasn't quite happy being called a girl and being limited to what I could wear because of it. When I watched Caitlyn Jenner's MtF interveiw I got excited. I got excited because I never really knew what transgender meant or was or even how it worked really until I watched the intrveiw. So I thought well since I don't like my birth given pronouns maybe I was meant to be a boy. So I told everyone I was trans. But now that I researched more and really looked back on things and been living as a male for about a year it just doesn't feel right. I still like coloured lip gloss, compact, sweaters with a longer frame, nail polish, and skin tight stretchy pants I also like my short haircut and I want top surgery and I don't like being called a girl at all. I just want to know what this means. Does it mean I'm gender fluid? Or non-binary? And how should I tell my mom and come out to my highschool?
    Thanks Xx
    P.S
    If anyone can help me please email me at aidencollette13@gmail.com

    • @ghrmz529
      @ghrmz529 7 лет назад

      makeup is for boys too. so you can be ftm and wear whatever you want. (and sorry for my english i'm french) :)

  • @ouzu4628
    @ouzu4628 5 лет назад

    I like being femenine and called she her but i also would like to look masculine... i am afraid that if i transition i will get depressed that i dont look femenine anymore. (But i still cant stop thinking about looking masculine)

    • @artsydream2737
      @artsydream2737 5 лет назад

      There actually is a way to take a low dose of testostrone and so changes are slow and not as prominent. So you can choose when to stop. Also taking testostone wont change hips and chest . it does redistribute fat so your chest may seem smaller and you hips may not be as noticable. Hope this helps

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      See a medical doctor for fooks sake. A qualified one. Not a so called gender therapist.

  • @oo0o0opss
    @oo0o0opss 9 лет назад

    I have that question too!

  • @TheEmberosis
    @TheEmberosis 9 лет назад

    Thank you very much for this video. It was worded so perfectly. I think you could say how I feel even better than I could.

  • @studdybaby4166
    @studdybaby4166 9 лет назад

    what if someone wanted to change/make their voice deeper and who also wants some what of a masculine face by using "testosterone" but not wanting use it for too long .... is their a way that someone can use "T" without out growing extra hair on the legs etc and without going fully as a ftm..?

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      You don;t get to pick and choose virulising features. You start testosterone you masculinise. When you stop some changes are permanent some revert back. Testosterone is an anabolic steroid not a designer drug.

  • @miskajussila5802
    @miskajussila5802 8 лет назад +1

    Does this only apply to US? I'm from Finland.

    • @atlasabsentee3426
      @atlasabsentee3426 7 лет назад +2

      Mun tietojen mukaan, Suomessa ei pääse tutkimuksiin ennen kuin on kahdeksantoista ja vakuutus ei kata leikkauksia tai hormooneja non binary porukalle. Itselleni on jäänyt vähän epäselväksi voiko Suomessa edes non binaryna laillisesti käydä mitään näitä transition prosesseja läpi. Setan sivustoilta saattaa löytyä tietoa.

    • @miskajussila5802
      @miskajussila5802 7 лет назад +1

      Okei, kiitos kun selvensit ^_^

  • @garrettzachgo9112
    @garrettzachgo9112 8 лет назад

    hi there. This is Viki and someone asked you if you are non binary and if you transition doesn't it mean that you're transgender or can you just translation if you just want to do have to be transgender to transition for at least to have top surgery

  • @thyscemopanda3415
    @thyscemopanda3415 10 лет назад +2

    Thank you so much!

  • @lastyoungrenegade6517
    @lastyoungrenegade6517 6 лет назад +1

    Oh, thank God a gender therapist doesn’t think nonbinary genders are special snowflake bullshit. ❤️

  • @orion4049
    @orion4049 7 лет назад

    Non-Binary is an umbrella term, it includes everybody who does not fit as completely male or female. There are different identities which all fit under nonbinary, for example:
    -agender, having no gender.
    -bigender, feeling you are both male and female.
    -demigirl or demiboy, people who feel a weak connection to these genders.
    For example, a demigirl can feel 10% female, and 90% like they don't have a gender. It can also be 40% or 60% female, it depends.
    -genderfluid, people who'se gender varies.
    Al these, and more, fit under nonbinary.
    There are also people who choose to use just non-binary to describe themselves, without using a more specific label. Some people want a word that describes them as well as possible, some people want

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад

      Indeed. I made this video over three years ago, and in fact came to the realize that I am nonbinary after creating it! I've learned a lot since then :)

    • @orion4049
      @orion4049 7 лет назад

      Dara Hoffman-Fox Ohh I see! Haha sorry, I can never resist to share all the information I know.

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      No there aren't.

  • @mikethegoo
    @mikethegoo Год назад

    Okay, so if I am genderfluid, I CAN get HRT (or, well... At least it's possible in some places) to for example, develop breasts? No need to be a transgender woman?

  • @andrewpalumbo3291
    @andrewpalumbo3291 5 лет назад

    Can you be a trans guy and non binary at the same time?

  • @sheep1ewe
    @sheep1ewe 7 лет назад

    I Think i am clear with things like my sexual orientation, and things like that. but
    I deffinitly feel that i don´t belong one side, not between the sides either and not non. I am not a man inside, but not fully as a woman either, often it feels like a think and act in a manly way (i was born as a boy, any no one was thinking of anything else when i was a little kid i think, even if they said i was different, but they did not fully understand why i was different, i did not either.), but i am not sure. I feel sort a drifting between the two sides, more at the femal side inside i often identify my self as a woman and i feel much more comfortable with that and by being a man full time, but not that much i could get a clear decicion if i should transform my body permanently or not. I don´t want it this way but i hawe no choice.
    I just wish there was a magic portal one could step in to and come out as the person i am inside. Possibly a beautiful fairy or someting similar (well, if i had that choise, who want to stay ugly as i feel today, i think wery few people... if i had that choise i had added that too of coure.).
    I hope things will be better when i am dead and gone from this world, no metter if there are another life or not.
    But it´s not that easy.
    Kolevainen...

  • @princessKeithz
    @princessKeithz 5 лет назад

    This is very helpful.

  • @jeweledincense4545
    @jeweledincense4545 6 лет назад

    Thanks this video explains a lot

  • @ecclunareccalyptus6560
    @ecclunareccalyptus6560 7 лет назад +1

    I tried calling your guys office, but you guys never got back to me... I've have identified as non-binary/genderfluid for over three years now. I have severe gender dysphoria. I cannot feel comfortable in this "female" body. I get extremely aggravated when someone calls me she, (which happens all the dang time). I'm not sure where I can get therapy that won't suck the life from my wallet. I live outside the spectrum of what people consider "Male and female" Clothes are clothes and nothing more. I wish I could do something to enhance my non-binary look, but its even more difficult because I love dressing goth. All the non-binary people I come across don't dress like I do, and that's perfectly fine. I get jealous of them because they can pull off the look, get surgery, hormones, ect. I fear that this is going to get to me in the end. My mind cannot take it anymore, I need to find someone who can help me....

  • @aang7253
    @aang7253 3 года назад

    It's good to know I can hove hormone therapy and top surgery

  • @alx3296
    @alx3296 6 лет назад

    so I can be non binary and trans because trans is just identifying other than you assigned gender?

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      Genders not assigned. Sex is observed at birth. SEX. OBSERVED.

  • @vincentmontrose4468
    @vincentmontrose4468 4 года назад

    I’m non binary and want the body of a female however I don’t mind being called she her or he him.....

  • @ivanayankertitsov3479
    @ivanayankertitsov3479 7 лет назад

    Can a non binary biological male get an orchiectomy from a urologist rather than go through all the rigamarole of therapy letters?

    • @darahoffmanfox
      @darahoffmanfox  7 лет назад

      I'm not 100% sure, but I think it would have to do with whether or not you are using insurance. If using insurance, they will want letters.

  • @SheSmashedYourCat
    @SheSmashedYourCat 9 лет назад

    Thank you for doing this video! I just want to say that its pretty sad nonbinary and fluid folks have to educate their doctors. I don't know a single "medical conditon" or procedure where a doctor was ill-informed beforehand.

  • @sebastianjung95
    @sebastianjung95 9 лет назад

    Does a gender fluid/ non binary have to go through hormone replacement therapy to remove their breasts?

    • @zeyata-cicero-herron4608
      @zeyata-cicero-herron4608 9 лет назад

      +Rowan Chung You need top-surgery in order to remove breasts.

    • @sebastianjung95
      @sebastianjung95 9 лет назад

      +Zeyata-Cicero-Herron i know that i was wondering if it was necessary to go through hormones before getting the surgery

    • @zeyata-cicero-herron4608
      @zeyata-cicero-herron4608 9 лет назад

      +Rowan Chung I'm assuming you're FtM? In that case, I don't believe you need HRT before surgery, though I would double check that if I were you.

  • @lisalovelylpa
    @lisalovelylpa 6 лет назад

    Semantics jeez lol
    Winks
    Lisa

  • @nostalgicgamer6553
    @nostalgicgamer6553 8 лет назад +1

    I am non binary, I don't like identifying as any gender. not even in between.

  • @eduarestrepocastano8997
    @eduarestrepocastano8997 4 года назад

    GRACIIIAS !!

  • @brienaskyelynstarkey2815
    @brienaskyelynstarkey2815 10 лет назад

    I Love the necklace..

  • @thespoileralert395
    @thespoileralert395 7 лет назад

    i am a man but i want to boost my testostrone

    • @WebVManReturns
      @WebVManReturns 6 лет назад

      I have the same issue. I have Low T & Hyperestrogenism. During the last 4 months, my body has become more and more feminine in appearance.

    • @xz740
      @xz740 5 лет назад

      @@WebVManReturns See an endocrinologist

  • @blondiegirl4384
    @blondiegirl4384 8 лет назад

    I'm 13 and agender and I HATE my boobs with a burning passion and also don't really like my hair but that's all i have

    • @ellieirene4388
      @ellieirene4388 8 лет назад

      +Blondiegirl I'm 15 and hate my boobs as well. The days that I identify more as male, I don't even want to look down there.

    • @ellieirene4388
      @ellieirene4388 8 лет назад

      milo lugo No, my masculine identity just hates boobs.

    • @carlyt8543
      @carlyt8543 8 лет назад +4

      +milo lugo regardless of what masculine means to you, it's important to respect the fact that +Blondiegirl and +Ellie Barrett struggle with some sort of dysphoria or dislike of having breasts. It doesn't mean that males/masculine-identified people can't have breasts or be comfortable with their breasts, but both of the people mentioned above are obviously uncomfortable with the ones they have. For some people, having breasts *does* make them feel less masculine because of the fact that breasts are typically viewed as a feminine trait by the majority of society. Whether an individual's discomfort with breasts (or any other secondary sexual characteristics) has to do with others' perceptions of them or their own perceptions of themselves, it's important to acknowledge, validate, and respect their feelings without dismissing or minimizing them.

    • @ellieirene4388
      @ellieirene4388 8 лет назад

      milo lugo because thats how I fucking feel. why must masculinity must come with breasts to you? because thats how you fucking feel. now leave me the hell alone.

    • @ellieirene4388
      @ellieirene4388 8 лет назад

      Carly T thank you

  • @Kai.XIII.425
    @Kai.XIII.425 3 года назад

    In my opinion non binary is off the spectrum

  • @charlene2459
    @charlene2459 4 года назад

    You cannot transition

  • @wcsxwcsx
    @wcsxwcsx 9 лет назад

    Maybe some day in the far future we'll look back and laugh at all these ever-changing descriptions.

  • @circleofsorrow4583
    @circleofsorrow4583 8 лет назад

    Search for "non binary" and guess what each of the uploaders are and leave your answer in the comments. Best game I ever thought of while on the can.

  • @captnjackboot7770
    @captnjackboot7770 10 лет назад

    sex changes don't fix the problems in the head of 'transgender' ppl. This is widely documented but something that ppl in this video either choose to ignore or are clueless about.

  • @nothere6991
    @nothere6991 8 лет назад +3

    this own community can't even define there own stereotype words cuz they created so many.....

  • @Gedankenwald
    @Gedankenwald 9 лет назад +1

    In Germany nobody gives a fuck about the standards of care so everybody pretends to use them ...

    • @marieweil3679
      @marieweil3679 8 лет назад

      ahh good old fatherland. It sometimes pisses me off