Tsis Muaj Yam Dab Tsi Ntshai Tshaj Lub Tsev Laus. 3/10/2023
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As a daughter. I’ll never come and complain about my brothers or their wives. I’ll do anything and pay any amount of money to save my parents. I would fight to save them from any fear, hurt, or disappointment. Whether it be god, ancestors, or tradition. Anything that hurts or prevent me from loving my parent is bad and no longer need to be follow. If this means getting rid of the tradition, that’s what it takes, if it means paying extra amount of money. I’ll never forget the love that they show me. Nothing or no tradition or stupid believe will prevent me as a daughter from helping my parent. In your case, I’ll assure them that they will never be in a senior home care even if they refuse help from a daughter because of their pride. They can yell and hate me later. Long as I know I did everything in my power to help them.
Agreed with you. My parents pass when I was too young. I wish to this day, I have my parents and get to care for them😂
Amen sister! I most definitely have disagreements with my brothers but love them enough to never butt in too much or to bash them and rock their marriage. I know that whatever burden they carry, my husband carries as well. Nuff said
Agreed! I'm not going to butt into my brother's lives and ask why they're not taking care of my mom.
I plan to take care of my mom if my brothers don't. I will fight them but I won't let them send her to a senior housing or nursing home.
There is no need to. We're all children of our parents. No one is obligated to do anything. If you have a heart and have love you should already know what is right from wrong.
That's is what I say you will do anything to help your parents but not your husband parents,I am not mean is you but in general
I am one of the people who have decided not to burden my kids when older.. if I can't care for myself anymore, nursing home is where I'll be going. I'm not pulling my kids down. I, myself, care for my in-laws, and I see my brother ans sister in law care for my parents til they all passed and it's enough.
I think this generation is thinking more and more like that. I am 47, wasn't born in the USA but came here when I was 3. I took care of my mother in law too. Watching an elder is no joke. Its hard work. I would not put that burden on my own kids.
I tell my kids. When I can't take care of myself anymore, just give me a cell phone and iPad and send me off to the nursing home. I'll be happy with that. Lol
I agree with you. I would not burden or curse my kids bc they can’t take care of me. Nursing home is where I’ll go.
Your generation is deferent, you know the language and know how everything works, these old people don’t know how to deal with this new country some can’t even turn on tv
Amen! Some in-laws are evil too…and expect their son and daughter-in-law take care them when they’re on their deathbed 🤨
@Gaosay Vu they came here for the American dream, correct me if I'm wrong
Nursing home is where I’ll be going! I am not going to babysit those badass grandchildren when I’m old.
My oldest brother took my dad into nursing home, and he was on hospice. I took my dad in even though my wife disapproved even if it meant divorce. Doctors gave him less than 6m but he end up living with me for little over 1y. My kids got to know and spend thier days with grandpa. Best decision ever.
Please understand that if take care someone and get hurt we can’t get apply for worker’s compensation but if they are in a nursing home those workers can. Please be happy to see your children have a good life. For the owner of this story, you have your own turn with your in laws.
Hmong always been known to take care of parents especially the sons. Back in the days living in the mountains could be easier to keep that tradition alive. But our generation now, we work all day to make ends meet, so to have to take care of anyone every single day is very difficult. As a daughter, I would not put my brothers and my nyab's as the sole care taker of my parents. I think it's everyone's responsibility because they love us all equally. There's programs and options think about too. If by all means our parents have to be put in a senior care facility we all can still go see them and can still cook for them. It doesn't mean we don't love them. We do love our parents, but it's not easy anymore especially when you have a very challenging elder. We have to understand our children have their own family to take care of, and worries too. I know it will not be easy, but I would not put all that burden to my children.
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If you look at Indian and Filipino people no matter how successful they are, they still care for and respect their parents and grandparents. You rarely see these people in senior homes. I don’t believe it’s cultural clash or conflict bc these people have been in this country for many generations and still keep their traditions alive and very family-oriented. Most of the stories we hear nowadays are first generation Hmong. I’m a first generation here in the US and I hope to take good care of my mom someday even if my brothers and sister-in-laws cannot. It saddens me that many older Hmong parents are going through this and it really breaks my heart. I believe however you treat your parents is how your kids will treat you.
I feel for the elderly, I do, because I have aging parents as well. But per my usual complaint, why is it always you sisters that do the whining and complaining and victimizing. You're not listening to yourself because you contradict yourself. Our elderly parents brought us to this country for opportunities, for a better life, "tuaj nrhiav kev vam meej" as your dad said. But did you know that part of that revolutionizing change is a blending of 2 cultures? You can't expect to just reap certain things from this country and not absorb any other culture shock. There's give and take. Westerners don't expect their kids to prioritize them in old age as hmong people do. Hmong people set up their mentality and life purpose wrong from the start to begin with, such as "ntshaw2 thiab vam2 tub xwb" and solely having kids to guarantee care takers in old age. That's not why westerners have kids, and you live here in America. See where I'm going with this, it's that "kev vam meej" we're all seeking for. In addition, to all the sisters that cry and curse their brothers, if you're that passionate about your parents having "ib lub chaw tuag", be the change you want to see. Be the man you expect your brothers to be. Again, we're in America. There's nothing stopping you from taking your parents in, from loving them and taking care of them. If you truly love your parents like you say you do, do the work, do the heavy lifting, do it out of your own good heart without blame. Cov muam twg uas nrhiav2 teeb meem rau nws tog neejtsa mas ntxim ntxub tshaj. Yuav nqis tes ua kuj tsis ua, yuav ua niam hlo kuj tsis ua, pheej sawv ib sab ntsia thiab tshum tej nyab nus tas zog kom ua li nws txoj kev xav xwb. OMG, focus on your own life and inlaws
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You are right about that but our parents generation still believe that daughters are outsiders and it’s the son’s responsibility to care for them. We also know that most parents give and leave their important possessions to their sons. Parents don’t want to live and die in their daughters’ homes. I am a daughter and this is how my parents are. Even though I want them to live with me so I can take care of them, they wouldn’t. I am hopeful that after our parents’ generation, we will change. I’m seeing more parents these days treating both sons and daughters equally, it’s a good start.
@@ShouaTojsiab I absolutely agree, parents don't want to culturally burden their daughters because that hasn't been our way historically. They expect to live with their sons, yet they tell their dtrs all these secrets about their sons and DIL. 75% of which we know is heavily exaggerated. you can't bash on someone and then expect to live happily with them. I think as dtrs it would also be right of us to educate our parents and help them see the glass half full
@@ms.cherry.blossom sisters are so triggered because we're the ones who leave our parents. I get it, I'm one. But most evil sisters have no love for their brothers, thus no love for their husbands because if they did they would understand the burden of what it means to take in the elderly, since a sister is also a nyab, if not now, someday. She's probably doing the bare minimum for her inlaws and expecting her nyabs to treat her parents like gods
This 💯!!!
Bless your father’s heart for loving and protecting your mother. Time is changing and as our parents’ generation ends, ours will be different. We will need to be at assisted living facilities and nursing homes etc. when we are no longer able to care for ourselves. In the meantime, our parents’ generation still expects us to care and have them be at home. We can do this with help from home care. I’m in my 50s and would have a hard time when i can no longer be in my own home.😢
May your parents rest in peace.
Would love to hear the daughter-in-laws and sons side of the story. I’m a nyab too and the in-law usually have issues with their nyab….especially being the oldest one. Some in-law sometimes think they own us 😂
😅 some inlaws only wanna reap
I agree with you too I need to listen to the daughter in law side because I have some issues too!😢 people only see their side but let wait for the other side. If you have not lived and took care of the elderly in law you will not know how hard we have been through 😢
Some do. It's all about control. I always thought my mil loved me as a daughter. But the moment she repeatedly questions about my whereabouts and bringing up other nyabs cheating, I realized in her eyes, i'll always be the guest who will cheat on her son the second I leave home. No need to try to be a good nyab anymore
Thats so true...when my mil was bedridden, the sil was always talking shit and gossiping about me to others, while she only visited her mom once every 1 to 2 weeks and dont even know how her own mom is doing smh
Maly ua ib tus Nyab ces yeej swb 100% xwb. No matter how hard you try, how good your intentions are, it’s always a lose-lose situation. I just keep my door closed and phone blocked now.
Ideally, we all want to live with our kids or loved ones, but realistically, it's not possible given that people need to work to feed their families. Don't expect your children to take care of you and you'll not have regrets.
Let’s hear from the bros and their wives too…I feel there’s more to the story than what meets the ear.
This story saddens my heart. May your parents rest in peace. No matter what people comments on here, you and your brothers really know what happened. Eventually the future will tell. I hope that your brother and SIL sleep well at night waiting for their future to happen. Everyone always say as a daughter you CAN still step up and do this and that but it’s easier said than done. You should be happy that your dad was able to defend your mother and speak up during her funeral.
The parents love their daughters like their sons. Don't expect the outsider to do your job, they didn't receive the love and support from your parents like you did.
Yog kawg
Here's how I see it, I try to treat my in laws and love them how I would like for my nyabs to love my parents. So when the day comes and I have to speak up, no one can tell me, I don't even love or care for my in laws, so I shouldn't expect the same from them. Also, by loving my husband's parents, it allows for me to love my parents too. So my husband can't come back and tell me I can't love my parents when I can't love his.
Cas lub neej no yuav tsaus tu siab heev li os
I dislike how people compare taking care of an elderly person to taking care of a newborn or a toddler. It is not the same
Cas yuav nkim tag nro koj niam koj txiv txoj kev hlub pab niag txiv dev no yuav npam lawv li koj txiv tau hais tseg lawv mas tseem yuav txom nyem tshaj koj niam koj txiv nkawm
This day in age, the daughter should take responsibility caring for her parents, too. It shouldn’t be all put on the brothers.
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Ntuj aw niam ntsuab teev ua li cas cov dab neeg no yuav mus tu siab ua luaj na
Tu siab tshaj li niam lau
Txhob tu siab os koj niam koj txiv nyob tsev laus hnub no lo nkawv yeej tseg tag kis rau cov tub nyab mus nyob thiab os...txoj kev laus ces yeej dhia tsis dhau
Now and day, if you don't have daughter you should regret. Son or daughter, it's a blessing but more blessing with a daughter 😊
Nah. MIL and daughters gossip too much crap.
Cas lub neej nyob teb chaws meskas es txaus ntshai ua luaj li os
Sometimes because they're your parents you don't see nor experience their bad side. Whereas a nyab does because she's an outsider. If all 3 nyab's agree your parents are bad...they may not be 100% correct but they're probably at least 50% correct. As a daughter, it's normal to have your parents backs and see pass their bad side, and vice versa. I say this because my own mom plays victim alot of time but I know her too well. Also keeping an open mind and put yourself in your sister in laws shoes. Being that none of your brothers took in your parents makes me wonder their side of the story. Last but not least, you being a "Daughter" is no excuse for you to not have stepped up and do your role as a child of your parents, traditions would have been out the window if your love for your parents was indeed greater than your brothers, therefore you are just as guilty.
So true…… daughter or not you could of take in your parents!
Oh yau zoo rau peb cov no tsi muaj tub los ntshe yuav tsi muaj kev tu siab os
Hais tau tag kev Cia siab kawg li os lawv aws
Sister aws tu siab kawg li os ca you mu ua nyab es you twb hlub2 you cov niam pog kawg tab si ca you cov nyab ho tsi xav hlub you niam you txiv es you nim tu2 siab kawg li os😭😭
Sister aws, Ua tsaug uas koj tseem sau koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv lub neej tu siab tuaj rau may hais rau peb mloog ua Kev kawm thiab nawb mog thov kom yawm saub pov puag koj thiab koj tsev neeg kom noj qab nyob zoo.
Thov kom lwm hnub koj ho sau part 2 txog ntawm cov nus Los yog cov me nyuam tsis hlub koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv lub neej tuaj share rau peb tau mloog thiab kawm nawb. Ua tsaug.
It's a blessing u still have ur parent to live with u n u have to take care them, it's a blessing they want to live with u n still let u take care of them....I have lost my dad my grandpa n grandma but I still have my mom here with me I realize that I need to do everything for my mom love her give her anything she like take care of her as much as I can so I won't regret when she not here one day
Koj cov nus mas yeej tsis tsim nyog koj niam koj txiv yug kiag li lod! Koj cov nus yeej muaj lawv thib os, txhob tu siab. Lawv ua li cas rau niam thiab txiv ces lawv yeej taug tib txoj kev xwb os. Nrog koj tu siab os viv ncaus aw.
Yog kawg os mog
If there is a will, there’s always a way to love and care for your parents…As children you should avoid your parents curse at all costs…your parents’ tears are the heaviest of all…😩🤠!!!
Thats why good parents should never curse their children
@@hersins good kids will never abandon their parents…
Right, why curse your own children. They didn’t choose to be born. You choose to have them. If the plan is to curse them, don’t have them to begin with. If your goal of having children to to care for you when you are old, just make a lot of money and paid for care takers.
@@ThePrincessWorrior good children will always love and care for their parents when they needed them. This is always the righteous path…furthermore, no children will ever die to save their parents, but only parents will die to save their kids…
@Kao Xiong there's the saying, we only see what we want to see. Some kids will do their best, but it's not their parents way, that's not abandonment, that's perception
This story just hits in so many emotions. 😔
Eb… mloog zaj no ces yus nim tu tu siab. Ntshe txog yus los Ntshe yuav zoo li no li thiab. Tu siab ua luaj
koj txiv haig yog kawg tsw muaj ib tug log tsw txhob tu2 siab muaj ib mab log phem npaum kom
Tsi hlub niam thiab txiv tsam ho tshuav kev npam rau yus nawb...Tu siab kawg li lawv aw.
Yog li yog nawj
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daim tawm laus ces ib leeg yeej yuav tau nous ib zaug is mog
Txaus tu siab tiag tiag li os lawv
Lub teb chaw no ces txhob vam me nyuam hlub tej laus lawm os mog
I DO NOT CARE!!…Now I’m retired and I’m enjoying my $$$$$ and ❤ myself….Don’t wait until you’re 65-70? Most of our Hmong are diet young? 👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏
I'm so sorry that your parents have to go through such tragic. I understand that your brothers and their wives have work but there is always a way out. Different brothers taking different shifts and days to care for them. My sisters and I took care of my grandma and grandpas while my parents work. Your parents love each other sooo much and their dying desire and last wish is to spend their lasting days together. Their last wishes should have been met!
What a sad and heartbroken story!! My tears and heart go out to your parents. May they rest in peace!!!
Txhob tu siab vim muaj tib co nus tsis muaj noob qes hnav tiav xwb...
Wow! Nrog koj tu siab os tus viv ncaus aw😢. Mam cia lub ntuj saib koj cov me nus lawv ua lub neej seb ho yuav ntsa iab mus txog thaum twg mog.
I think that parents shouldn’t expect so much from their kids these days. I’m only leaving my money and assets to the one who loves me. So I’m gonna wait and see.
Now as day, why many Hmong people put their parents in senior center. They don’t realize what you did to your parents your kids will even do worst. Your parents love you so much, trying to kept you a live, but you treated them like that. Just remembered, we as Hmong always had that curse and plus your parents came only once in a life time. Love and cherish them cause won’t able be together next life.
Tos cov tub thiab nyab tsis kam yuav los cov laus yeej ua tau meej txom kawg. Cov neeg siab tsis ntev tes yeej yuav tsis tau cov laus li os. Tsis hais kuv, hais koj li. Cov hluas pauj mus coj li meka ho cov laus tseem coj li hmoob 75 tes yeej nyob tsis tau ua kev li. Kuv txiv yug kiag los yeej meej txom kuv kawg li. Kuv mas nyob nyuab kawg. Yus yeej hlub, xav ua zoo rau lawv kawg los yeej tsis haus lawv siab tes yus siab tsis ntev txaus🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
I don’t understand why you didn’t take your parents to live with you. I have 7 sisters and 1 brother. My mom live with my younger sister after my dad passed. You know that a outsider will never love your parents
Koj cov me dablaug ces koj txiv tuag tag ces koj cov nus lawv lub neej ces rhov kuag nra qab ha...tsuas muaj pluag zus..neej tawg tag..
😢 remember Peb yeej txawj laus thiab, thov hlub cov laus. Lawv kus kes npaum cas los thov Txhob siab me, Peb ua nyab, Peb twb los yuav Peb tus txiv los nrog Nws hlub Nws niam Nws txiv…
I am a nyab of 20 years. My parents finally came to live w me, but they never needed to live w us because we don’t have kids, but I’m so thankful they decided they want to come stay with us now.
I look at them and love them so much because, my husband is so worried that I wouldn’t actually approve because of our freedom of not having them….
I’ll never trade this living situation because I’ll love my parents til their last breath and I won’t be afraid to change their diapers or hand feed them.
They gave birth to the man I love and who protects me… at least I can show and act on the love I have for them.
Best wishes to the ones who are learning how to love their parents… be their friend… you’ll be surprised how much fun they are!!
Love you parents ♥️
Nowadays, a daughter can do just as much as a son. I'm sorry that your parents had to suffer before they left this earth.
Yes girls can do just as much. Stop yapping to the nyabs and take the lead if nothing Nyab does is good enough.
I don’t know what to say about the elderly they expected a lot from their children. I understand what they were going through but please don’t push too much pressure on their children too. I lived and cared for my in-laws until they died in home too. I can’t let them unhappy dying. Now we have my husband auntie living with us and she’s in nursing home due to broken hip and unable to walk and care for herself and we can’t care for her 24/7. I feel bad but I really can’t care for her beside that my husband recently got himself #2 wife so I am sad and don’t want to do it anymore.
We should not put the burden of caring for us on our kids. Be open mind to other options like nursing homes and group homes for the elderly
Listen, most are not professional care givers, and there will be a time when it is needed for the best care of our aging parents. It is all a part of respect, care, and compassion. And, it is unethical to hold any life hostage due to some traditional obligation that is not needed anymore. The decency of taking care of the elderlies are widely available now. We have got to understand and change cultural beliefs. Our passing parents are not literally in pain and suffering unattended anymore in some shack. In fact, if they are at home, they might be suffering more. The understanding that is needed is that loving is the same at home or in a facility dedicated to the care of. Get with the times.
This is a great picture of you guys May.
Kuv xav tias vim koj txiv tsi hlub koj yawg yog li koj yawg twb foom koj txiv lawm yog li ntawv koj cov nus thiaj tsi hlub koj txiv nkawv os
Txhob noog cov tub,rov mus noog nej cov ntxhais tias vim li cas mus ua luag nyab ib zaug es yus xav Kom luag hlub yus niam yus txiv tab sis luag niam luag txiv ces zoo li no tiag...poj niam yuav tau mus kho thiab hloov siab Kom haum rau luag thiab
1. Tsis hais ntxhasi los tub nej sawv daws twb yog nkawv me nyuam. Los koj twb hos tsis pab tu los yog coj mus nrog koj nyob. Yog yuav npam ces yeej npam koj nrog thiab Mas.
2. Tu siab heev vim 1 leej niam 1 leej txiv twb tu tau 10 leej me nyuam ho 10 leej me nyuam ho tsis muaj ib tus yuav tau lawv niam thiab txiv.
Ntsuab teev laus lawm yuav caum xaiv tsu tua neeg qab lau,
Tsis yog li ntawd os Hmong es , thaum tuag los sawv daws mus ib qhov chaw xwb os !
I understand where you’re coming from , but listen to your own story - your dad left his dad so why didn’t he listen to his dad and stay with him to help him and take care of him. So your brothers did what your dad did right to take care of their wife and children… the hypocrisy of these stories! Make it make sense! I’m tired of these parents thinking only what they did is right- which is taking care of their wife and children first but expect the kids to take care of them first and for the sons to just leave his wife and kids… you said it yourself your dad said at the end all he will have is his wife and kids - so the same goes with his own sons! People need to talk about the facts . So if I were you when your mom and dad was alive I would’ve explained that to them.. maybe they would look at it differently.. the way he left is own father for a better life for his children and family.
Good point!
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Again, why do the sisters always try to get involved and manipulate thieir brothers into doing things that the sisters themselves wont even do for their own parents and then when the brothers are not willing to do it, they bash their brothers along with the sil. To the sisters, step it up or shut up. If you love your parents that much like you claim, do your fair share to take care of them. You claim that you're an outsider now yet you dont have a problem getting yourself involved in family matters when its not your business. You're just as much responsible for your parents as your brothers.
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Thaum ub koj yawg cheem koj txiv npaum li cas los koj txiv twb yuav caum nej cov me nyuam yuav caum koj niam xwb tsam no nws cov tub ces yeej ua raws nraim li koj txiv ua los mas. Yus yog tej muam txhob cem cem tej nyab tej nus txog thaum lawv ua tsis tau lawm muaj tsev laus rau peb cov niag laus no nyob, peb twb tsis nyob nplog teb lawm peb nyob America lawm na pheej ntshai tsev laus ua dab tsi naw.
Koj zaj neej neeg no ces yog kiag kuv tus yawg laus xaiv ntaj vwj uas xaiv tsu dab tso thab ham mus muab tua tuag tag ua rau nws cov me nyuam ua tsuag neej puas tag
It’s hard to judge until you have an older parent you have to care for. My MIL is super old, has dementia, doesn’t listen to anything we say and can’t care for herself. She refuses to bathe for several days even if she soils herself. Insists on using the stove, then forgets to turn it off, so she needs to be watched all hours of the day. It’s a never ending job and yes, it gets very exhausting. We have to force her into the shower every 2 days, and she fights and spits and hits us, but if we don’t do this, the relatives will say we aren’t properly caring for her. So I understand that it’s a double edged sword. It’s so mentally draining to care for an elder. It takes a toll on all the children also.
Ntshe peb txhua tus yuav taug ib txoj kev li os mog
This is a one sided story. We would need to hear the other sides. Sorry to say, but I have an evil MIL. She pits her children against each other, she tries to pit her children against their spouses, doesn't get along with any of her Nyab. My MIL suffered a stroke several years ago and even that didn't slow her down from her evilness. She stayed with one son and started problems there. The older muam said none of her brothers loved their mother and she would take in her mother because she's the only one who really loves her. Well, that didn't last more than a year or two. Then the youngest muam wanted to save their mother. She only made it there for a little over a year. She lied that her daughter kicked her out, so she could manipulate her favorite son to take her in. He took her in and she wanted her son all to herself. She constantly did devious things around the house to start fights with her nyab, she didn't like when her son put his children as priority over her, planting seed for her son to divorce his wife. Less than a year later and she left to go live with her brother. One minute she tells everyone her children doesn't love her. To her children she says she wants to go follow her relatives. She could've lived with the oldest muam again, but even she didn't want her anymore. The same person who said her brothers didn't love their mother because my husband suggested putting their mother in an assisted living facility. Now, it was okay for her to suggest putting her mother in an assisted living facility because she realized she couldn't handle her mother's evilness either. Hypocrite much? Their mother created so many issues. After only living there for a few months she flew back here, to live with the first son she lived with. That's pretty much the last straw before she really goes into an assisted living situation. In 4 years, she has moved 6-7 times between her sons, daughters, and brothers houses. She's not allowed to ever live in our home. We refuse to put our children in a home environment with that toxicity and hostility.
This sister, in this story, could've done more, instead of complaining and only showing up when she felt like she was rescuing her parents. Daughters can do just as much for their parents as the sons. Don't use the daughter card like my muam and talk crap about all her brothers and nyabs, while barely doing anything to help the situation.
“Your children are NOT your retirement”!!!!
What does old people not understand. The sister needs to stay out of it. The sooner the old hags passes, the better.
Very sad story.
Sister aw…. Koj txiv koj niam twb khiav ntawm koj pog koj yawg es koj yawg twb tu2 siab koj txiv twb los hlub koj niam nej xwb ces niam no koj txiv cov tub ho ua rau koj txiv koj niam xwb… ces Lwm hnub koj cov nus cov me nyuam ho ua rau koj cov nus xwb mas Tsi nyuaj li os txoj kev no na
Ntuj aw ua ntsuas npem heev lau hlub tej laus mas.
Thov hais rau koj tus ua niam tsev kos txhob tuaj hais hais li kos rau peb hnov os lov yog koj hlub npaum li koj hais kos ces twb koj niam koj txiv koj kuj coj mu tus peb ua tib neeg nyob no nyiam muaj nyais kev xav nawb lov koj los yeej muaj menyuam thiab os lov cia saib koj cov puas yuav hlub koj nawb lov peb yeej tsi qhua koj li os lov vim hnov koj hais xwb yog koj cov nug tuaj hais ces koj cov nus hais tias koj yog tus phem thiab xwb nej ces zoo ib yam phem ib yam xwb os lov thiaj li tsi kam muaj tus lav mu tus os
Taking care of elders now days all depends on the situation of the family. If both husband and wife cant afford to lose their jobs then it should be understandable. Just dont make it sound so evil and go visit them cause they need all the comfort that you can give. If your able to stay home and care for them then its great too. Some of these elderly stories can be misleading
Koj niam koj txiv yug tau ib pab tub dev xwb os mi muam.
cuag li cov nus lawv tsi txawj lau li los ca yuav ua siab phem ua luaj rau ntej lau koj cov nus xav tia nyob2 e cov tub ci li loj ntawm plaws los xwb los ca ne luag mob plab thiaj yug tau koj cov nus ntawm los nas siab phem li koj cov nus hnub twg koj niam koj txiv mu lawm ce koj cov nus yuav los pw niam lub lav mob yuav ntxom yem tshaj koj niam koj os tu viv ncaus😭😭😭😭💔
Nyiaj yug muaj nyiaj ib co lwm hnub lawv cov mam ua rau lawv
May you guys pour love on your father. He doesn't have long to live. They only want our love. But I don't plan to be a burden to my children. Well be going to the old home when I'm old.
It ok.. I feel u sister peb ua neej nyob ces Thaum txog nyiag thiab paub xwb os. Koj cov brothers ua li rau koj parents los muaj in hnub twg txog lawv lawv mam paub txoj kev ntawm koj niam thiab koj txiv txoj kev hlub os. Txhob tu siab yus txhob ua li yus tej nyab lawv ua rau yus niam thiab yus txiv xwb mas ces zoo lawm os.
That’s my fear!! My parent is my strength I’ll do anything to protect my parent! If I was in this case I’ll take my parent! Even tho if I’m married!
Yog koj hlub npaum li koj cas koj ho tsis coj mus nrog koj nyob mas yog koj twb tsis coj mus nrog koj nyob ces tsis txhob tuaj rhuav rhuav koj tej nyab tej nws nawb
Tsis yog koj cov nyab nws phem ho tus phem yog koj ntag.
When you are saved by Grace you will not have to go live with pog nplas and yawg npas. That’s why Chrst came to die on the cross for. To save the unloved and unwanted from this world.
I’m sorry but these older people needs to learn to plan for those days. They rely too much on the kids like the olden days and life isn’t like that anymore. We become a burden to our children and we ruin their happy life putting all those burden on them. My parents are in the same boat, old with no homes. Bad planning
Xyov li os tsis paub hais li os cas peb mus ua nyab es peb muab peb niam peb txiv tso ua tus ob es peb mus hlub lawv niam lawv txiv lawm tab sis yog vim li cas peb cov nyab ho tsis hlub peb niam peb txiv li es xyov ntshe yog peb cov nus yeej tsis hlub es lawv los lawv thiaj li tsis hlub lawm ho....
Sad story. All the son are too American, their time will come one day. Grown Hmong men should know better. Everyone grows old.
I feel your pain. I'm a daughter and a nyab. Yog yus tsi tau ua phem rau tej laus ces tsi txhawj dabtsi. Tiamsis yog yus ua rau yus niam yus txiv poob lub kua muag ces.....
My husband and I have decided that nursing home will be our home when we are not capable of taking care of ourselves.
Tsis paub seb koj niam nkawv puas hlub koj pog koj yawg lawv es nkawv cov me nyuam thiaj tsis hlub nkawv.
That is why save all your money for your own retirement and let tge children pay for their own wedding!!!
I feel so sad for your dad. I can’t ever see myself do that to my parents no matter what. Even if my brothers won’t take them in, I will as a daughter. Nowadays it doesn’t matter whether you’re the son or daughter. My parents gave me life and I will never let them be in senior homes. That’s too sad to see. I don’t know the full story of your life but it’s ok. I believe you did what you could. Take care.
Zaj no mas thiaj txaus tu siab neb tuag lawm txhob foom koob hmoov rau
Wow cov minyuam los yog cov tub nyab no mas yuav tsis tau lub neej zoo rau yav laus ib yam nkaus lawv niam lawv txiv hlo li thiab ntag os vim koob hmoov lawv yeej tsis tau txais ib qho kiag li thiab os
To victimizing parents and daughter's. Please understand that children do not owe anyone anything. Sons were not asked to be born. Do you think that if someone was given this list of expectations they would willingly agree to be born? I'm not saying kids should be entitled brats and mistreat their parents, I'm saying stop saying I gave brith to you, I sacrificed for you and you can't even sacrifice your marriage, family, and livelihood for me? That's not asking for reciprication of love, thats pure selfishness
Yog koj txawj2 tu siab uas koj niam koj txiv tsis tau kev hlub ntawm nyab nus tabsis yog li koj ho puss hlub koj niam pog txiv yawg thiab ma? Peb ua neej nyob mas yog yus xav kom nus thiab nyab hlub yus niam yus txiv uas kus2 kes tas zog tabsis yus niam pog txiv yawg yus ho tsis hlub mas ua plaub tas zog rau 2 tug laus thiab. Peb hmoob yeej phem os yog yus yeej hlub2 yus niam yus txiv mas yus thiaj hais lawv. Kuv tus nyab mas nws tsim2 kuv niam kuv txiv tabsis nws niam tais yawm txiv mas phem npaum twg los nws ho yuav kom nws tej nus thiab nyab hlub nws niam nws txiv tsis pub ua dab tsi kiag li
save your money for retirement and take care of yourself. dont help them kids with every penny you had and expect them to take care of you when your to old. let them work for what they want even paying for collegewhen they are old enough to work.
Lawv nyab dab tsi cas yuav phem ua luaj. Ntse yuav tsi txawj laus ntse yuav plhis pob lawv. Nej muaj niam pog txiv yawg cas tsi hlub os lawv. Sim neej no peb tsi muaj peb muab luag niam luag txiv Los ua peb niam peb txiv xwb luag twb tsi hlub peb os lawv.
Xyov ua cas es peb cov poj niam no pheej muaj ib co yuav siab phem ua luaj li thiab tiag peb twb Xav Kom peb cov nyab nus hlub peb niam peb txiv tab sis ua cas peb ho tsis hlub peb. NiAM pog txiv yawg li thiab tiag thov Kom peb cov poj niam 'no hloov siab hloov ntsws tiag tiag li nawv tsis li ces ntshe yuav npaum KO tas cov poj niam phem li os lawv aw thov thiab lauj cov nyab phem aw
Yog tias tsa tus nyab yim es txog thaum kawg tsis tau chaw nyob ces tsis tas tsa lawv yim li os. Cia tus tub mus ua nyab rau tom neej tsa zoo dua os.
Ca nej hmoob mes kas nej nyiam g huv nyiam g zoo cuag li nej tsi txawj laus tsi txawj mob cuag li yuav plis xwb