Being in a long-distance relationship is REALLY hard (5 tips it can work)

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  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024

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  • @xoxoakouto
    @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +18

    2 things I forgot to mention in the video!
    1) I know I mentioned mostly about stuff that my BF at the time did but i was the same way with him! It wasn't just him doing stuff all the time! lol!
    2) I'm speaking from a heterosexual/heteronormative relationship perspective because I'm a heterosexual but please know these tips can apply to any type of relationship! :)

  • @simplyshannon19
    @simplyshannon19 9 месяцев назад +15

    30 minutes is a long distance relationship? And you live in LA?😂😂😂 That is not long distance for me. Long distance for me is when it takes you 4 hours to visit the person.

  • @EveD123
    @EveD123 10 месяцев назад +26

    Congratulations love, you're at 21k and counting. Let's get to 50k

  • @justinevan931
    @justinevan931 10 месяцев назад +8

    “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)
    Don't give up friend

  • @CreusasDragRace
    @CreusasDragRace 10 месяцев назад +8

    your skin is looking GORGEOUS!!!

  • @itsPandemonium
    @itsPandemonium 10 месяцев назад +39

    You are mature and very aware for not sharing! The internet can be so rabid these days. People can still be friends even if they don’t work out romantically. Thanks for the fun video!

    • @blenderbanana
      @blenderbanana 10 месяцев назад

      Don't waste yoir life on people who arent there?

    • @divine_simplicity
      @divine_simplicity 9 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah but people see it as the biggest red flag if someone is still friends with their ex..
      Ive seen so many videos about it all with millions of likes and thousands of people commenting to „run“ if he or she is still good friends with their ex.

  • @nouchkam1939
    @nouchkam1939 10 месяцев назад +5

    As someone who once was in a long distance marriage, i agree with everything you said, the only thing I'll say though is if you are gon send explisit pics make sure your face ain't on them ( EVER) cause a sad possibility is if the relationship doesn't end amicably he could leak your nudes online ;(
    Other then that love your content and you look amazing ❤

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +1

      yesss!! great tip! I forgot to mention that!!! Very important!

  • @Анастасия-к5к3х
    @Анастасия-к5к3х 8 месяцев назад +1

    Omg. 30 minutes? I dated a boy who lived 2500 km away from me. If 30 minutes is extra effort for you guys maybe you both should find someone else.

  • @dayanaruniqueexperiences5856
    @dayanaruniqueexperiences5856 10 месяцев назад +7

    I'm in a long distance relationship and he is far far away. I'm from the USA and he is from the Philippines ❤

    • @EnilaGeo
      @EnilaGeo 8 месяцев назад

      With so many beautiful men in the US, blond Hair and with blue eyes, you go looking for a guy from across the world?

    • @dayanaruniqueexperiences5856
      @dayanaruniqueexperiences5856 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@EnilaGeo Yes, because he is rare. I am not looking for a handsome man, I'm looking for a husband.

  • @ShanaJahsintaWalters
    @ShanaJahsintaWalters 10 месяцев назад +6

    I can't do long distance relationships because I will feel like I am single. And most likely will end up cheating.

    • @TheGrowingChristianLady
      @TheGrowingChristianLady 10 месяцев назад +4

      There's no excuse for cheating..it says a lot about your own character

    • @ShanaJahsintaWalters
      @ShanaJahsintaWalters 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@TheGrowingChristianLady I hope you read the part where I clearly said I won't do long distance relationship. All you read was I was a cheater.

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 10 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@TheGrowingChristianLadystop. Long distance is hard as hell. It just is.

  • @acgu
    @acgu 10 месяцев назад +14

    Nice tips and i do them too! From Montréal Canada to Boston, 4 hours drives and still doing that for 5 years! We visited each other every month and a half alterning, stayed for a week-end or a week when I’m in school. Almost broke up during the 9 months not seeing each other of COVID because of uncertainty. Got a period of infidelity with online dating talking to strangers but got through it with therapy. But rebuilding trust now and assuming our mistakes and just got married now after 5 years of long distance relationship and planning to move in together next year in the states!

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +1

      Congrats!!!!! Amazing!!! 🎉🎉🎉

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 10 месяцев назад +1

      Awww. Me and my guy have a 3hr distance between us.

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад

      three hours is far! awweee

  • @chiquig
    @chiquig 10 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for sharing your tips! 🤗I’m currently in a long distance relationship myself and I can relate to this video so much..We’re in 2 different continents(he’s in the US🇺🇸and I’m from the PH🇵🇭) but we are making it work. You’re so on point about communication💯 we talk about almost every time.😅

  • @curlyrat
    @curlyrat 10 месяцев назад +13

    I've been in a long distance relationship for almost three years and it is really difficult emotionally for us both. We were 2 hours away from each other at one point but now we're only an hour away which is a lot better. However, thanks to differing schedules it makes it difficult to plan when to see each other and normally it's only once or twice a month. We make it work though because we are so in love and know that someday we'll be able to build a life together. This will continue to be long distance for the next three years because of my schooling, but we're gonna stay strong! PLEASE don't let go of someone or think that because of distance that it won't work out, it can, although it is not for the faint of heart. It is SO hard not waking up next to him everyday and being able to spend more personal time together, but like I said, if you have that trust and love there it's gonna be ok

    • @annepierre-joseph2713
      @annepierre-joseph2713 10 месяцев назад +4

      Nah sis 1 hour away is not a long distance relationship 🤦‍♀️ something is wrong y’all live 1 hour away but only able to see once or twice a month this is a big joke girl you better dig deeper homeboy probably have a whole family or his not telling you something

    • @smashassinassassin
      @smashassinassassin 10 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@annepierre-joseph2713 bruh, who let you on here to project your insecurities?

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +2

      1hour away is a long distance relationship! its harder to see other!

    • @curlyrat
      @curlyrat 10 месяцев назад

      thank you for replying, girl

    • @CiaobellaAmour
      @CiaobellaAmour 9 месяцев назад +4

      1 hrs or a couple of hrs away isn't long distance to me💁🏽‍♀️

  • @KatMolitor
    @KatMolitor 10 месяцев назад +5

    Loving your channel and excited to see it growing! 🥰 for what it’s worth, I think the lighting you’re using in this and the other recent one are quite harsh for you. The lighting / setup you used in the “I’m a 33 year old…” video was great!

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +1

      Great tips! I will work on it with th next video!

  • @elizabethadejumo712
    @elizabethadejumo712 10 месяцев назад +5

    10/10 video! The maturity from you. One thing of advice would be to lower ur white light either through video editing or putting the light further away or if possible to lower the light output

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад +1

      Love this!!! Thank you for the tip! So helpful!

  • @cukie73
    @cukie73 10 месяцев назад +3

    Assalamualaikum 👋🏿...how's Miss. Maggie? So your trust goes a long way. I went back to the U.S for an entire year. I was away from my husband and it opened alot of boxes for me into who I actually married. (Picture That)! Although NOT in love.. I am learning alot about myself. Since coming back to Africa which is now my home. I can say alot has changed Thank you for another great episode. 💜💜

  • @Nya9091
    @Nya9091 10 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you so much for your advice, I’m so glad I found your channel today
    I’m 33 too and I relate to all your videos AND I’m currently in a long distance relationship too!

  • @theekaa7705
    @theekaa7705 Месяц назад

    My navy ex broke up with me bc I couldn't handle long distance... I was not built for it or to be a military gf

  • @harleyspeedthrust4013
    @harleyspeedthrust4013 10 месяцев назад +3

    tbh i cant do those ldr things. i tried it a few times and it was miserable. at some point i realized that i prefer to have my space - keeping in constant contact with a gf is a lot. maybe some day I'll meet the right gf but at this point relationships are just too much effort, time, and money

  • @Legacyspeaks08
    @Legacyspeaks08 10 месяцев назад +3

    I love your content..you are not pretending to be something that your not.. I love that ❤…keep it up

    • @xoxoakouto
      @xoxoakouto  10 месяцев назад

      THank you! I'm trying!! :D

  • @rachel12127
    @rachel12127 8 месяцев назад +1

    Im in a ldr...ever since we met we've been talking every single evening...even when Sometimes it was dry, we maintained it like this.
    Ldr is not easy! If there isnt trust and consistency its pointless...and of course trying to meet as much as possible...but isnt for everyone and isnt perfect!

  • @thora_animates
    @thora_animates 10 месяцев назад +3

    I’ve been in one for almost 2.5 years, but it’s only a 1-1.5 hour distance. I think the only thing we’re doing wrong is not keeping it spicy. Lol. Thanks for the tips!

  • @JubeiKibagamiFez
    @JubeiKibagamiFez 10 месяцев назад +1

    Long distance is rough... The relationship has to pretty much be rock solid before the distance happens for the relationship to survive.

  • @NamataatiNam_biya
    @NamataatiNam_biya 10 месяцев назад +1

    Which church do you go?why do you not meet a future husband there?

  • @dovehaven4840
    @dovehaven4840 10 месяцев назад +1

    I love the timing of this video because I'm currently dating someone and we just talked about long distance. I'll stress the constant communication and planning when long distance is going to end.
    I'm going to push back on sending spicy photos. Y'all need to protect yourself regardless of how much you think you can trust your boyfriend/girlfriend or your husband/wife. I'd suggest sticking to sexy talk.

  • @NyteRazor
    @NyteRazor 9 месяцев назад

    Made me laugh with the spicy thing but sad it didn't work out for you. Happy you are still enjoying yourself making the best of life even with limited resources. It's all a state of mind. You can even be poor but feel like you're living life like a millionaire. ✌🏽 and ❤always!

  • @djsamaria1731
    @djsamaria1731 10 месяцев назад +1

    please continue to post ❤ love your channel

  • @miri-vu5km
    @miri-vu5km 9 месяцев назад

    i had a 9 month long distance relationship. We made it work, but it didnt only stressed out me the fact that I couldnt see him, but the age gap difference, country difference, us not having a good moment as some people around us suddenly died. I love him so freaking much, and I cant think myself with another man. Nevertheless, for my mental health i think that the best is to stay separated. I try to tell myseld that theres a lot of women, men, non binary ppl out there which can be an excellent partner also. So, in conclusion I think that yes, long distance relationship can work but for me even if i did all of what this video explained, was still very tedious to mantain. If you feel like you can't do it anymore dont hesitate to follow your mental health

  • @destinyzroom
    @destinyzroom 10 месяцев назад

    Saved to watch later! I miss my fiancé so much during this long distance 😢

  • @unique23itiswhatitis
    @unique23itiswhatitis 10 месяцев назад

    I’m in a long distance relationship now and we’re engaged. We are 2.5 years in and it’s hard.

  • @zakariahussein962
    @zakariahussein962 8 месяцев назад

    I am in a long distance now and we talk only once a month as we are both introverts, we can't talk more than 5 minutes at a time. We need to improve our communication skills but that is not easy task.

    • @JANETHEJAWN
      @JANETHEJAWN 8 месяцев назад

      Once a month for 5 minutes?! That’s not a relationship 😭 not even a friendship lol sounds like strangers

  • @daria668
    @daria668 10 месяцев назад

    what a great video 🎉

  • @muhdeyam6281
    @muhdeyam6281 10 месяцев назад

    ❤️

  • @marilynanderson1706
    @marilynanderson1706 10 месяцев назад

    How about a video discussing ways to meet new prospective mates.

  • @arzupajotte1646
    @arzupajotte1646 10 месяцев назад +4

    I’m confused . If your relationship lasted 8 months , that doesn’t really give you grounds to give good advice unles he became your husband , still like your videos

    • @aria521
      @aria521 10 месяцев назад +8

      It was 8 months long distance and then they got married and remained married for 5 years I think

    • @simplyshannon19
      @simplyshannon19 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@aria521No, this wasn’t the husband.

  • @hmmm3622
    @hmmm3622 10 месяцев назад

    woah

  • @hmmm3622
    @hmmm3622 10 месяцев назад