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- Dad Crushes My Dreams to Protect Golden Child, & Refuses to Pay for My Tuition Fee Later on I Get My Sweet Revenge.
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The Aunt saving up the money despite not being as well off is the kind of sacrifice family does, she is the real fam.
She also wanted her nephew to keep the peace between him and his father and brother, not for their sake but for him, she clearly didn't want him having continued strife in his life.
That said, they dug their own grave, showing no love or support for him and then trying to mooch off his success, they can both go rot.
Seriously? There are families actually like that out there? Not just strangers that get together at gatherings on the holidays??
Not everyone gets a good family is that so surprising for you ?@@nattylite9220
@@nattylite9220 Yes, there are families like that out there; I should know since my family is similar.
I think he is not his bio dad and they refuse to tell him.
The fact that his dad wanted op to have a dead end life and his brother to have a successful one ended up the complete opposite is perfect karma.
always ends up like that, the golden child get's spoiled rotten, isn't held accountable, and get's their roadblocks cleared if possible
Frr
@@shadowmaster335true
not even, he wanted his son to be WORSE than his brother so he could be proud to be average
@@shadowmaster335which makes the spoiled brat to be unable to clear the roadblock himself
I'm not well versed in US law specifically, but I'd guess that texting "I will stop lying about your business as soon as you give me my demanded position within it" means you just admitted to tortious interference and created evidence of blackmail simultaneously.
yes its an admission.
and i am definitely sure hes gonna use that in court if they keep persisting being a dumb pair of "men"
The council of men has disavowed this pair of....excuses, their memberships have been forcibly revoked and their names stricken from the great book
That's admission to blackmail, a crime that can lead them to a year in federal prison or a 6 figure ($100,000 USD) fine.
exactly what i though.
Dad: “be like your brother and man up!”
*Gordan Ramsay has entered the chat*
😂😂
Along with Justin Wilson, Julia Child, Paul Prudhomme, Martin Yan, Jacques Pépin, and Cowboy Kent Rollins.
I just hope op won't end up screaming: "You idiot baguette!"
"chef rush" 💀
@@majormahir oh the father done messed up
When you bet all your money on the wrong horse and then demand refund
😂😅😊
😂😂😂😂
Yep. It happens so often too.
You'd think people would be able to see that, but...
I'm starting to see a pattern
Now I'm imagining the "Chad Horse" meme going "Neigh, motherf***er"
I really love how in toxic families where you literally have to physically get away from them because of their bullshit they always tell you that YOU should burry the axe of war
_Because fAMiLy....._
“Be ThE bIgGeR pErSoN!”
I’m not going to be the one to burry the axe because I’m not the one who first wielded it. FaMaiLy doesn’t mean shit
That's when I would be telling them, "Oh, I'll bury the hatchet, alright. I'll bury it where the sun doesn't shine."
"Bury the axe? How about I bury it where the sun don't shine?"
Here's a cold line for you, OP:
"I'm glad she is gone, so she doesn't have to see the bastard you became."
Nice
DAAAAYYUUUM!
@@BeltmewitacrowbarFR
Perfect line
That was amazing you deserve an
AWARD for that line 👏🏼
Wow! The nerve of thinking you can weasel your way into your brother's business as a partner when you have done nothing to deserve it! I mean, the guy isn't even qualified! That's some next level entitlement there!
Although, I would have had the father and brother in a "do not admit" list because I know entitled people always want to claim credit for your success when they did little to nothing to deserve it.
157 likes and no comments? Lenme fix that
Should have told his dad and brother to "man up."
Would have definitely been the icing on the cake
That was a missed opportunity
Would have been glorious.
Ohmygosh! Yes! *Chef's Kiss, brilliant!
I live how two responses in this section are literar cooking references
This young man took all that anger and heart ache and turned it into pure drive to get to his goal nothing but respect from me for him
Yeah, try telling someone like Gordon Ramsay or Marco Pierre White that cooking is effeminate. See how that works out for you.
Yeah, I don't really get that either. Aren't most professional chefs male??
Nothing feminine about shouting ITS FUCKING RAAAAW
@@dualmo7185 Yeah, some of the best chefs are men. I think in the dads mindset he considers it Feminine due to the old stereotypes that women would stay home and cook.
@@dualmo7185yeah, actually I've heard it's really hard for most women to get into chef work because of workplace bias so the old man is just completely wrong.
@@elizabethbarajas4863 Kinda of ironic.
Women are told "Women's place is in the kitchen", but most Chefs tend to be male.It's almost as if women aren't allowed to even be in positions of power, so even if "their place is in the kitchen", a man is still considered a better option for a "master of the kitchen" than a woman is...and men don't know why women created feminism to fight for their rights, yeah right...
Why was he surprised he didn't help with the tuition he legit admitted he hated him
"Never really loved" and "hated" are pretty different things. And if his father saw him as some sort of burden or a nuisance - it would probably be reasonable for him to pay the tuition just so OP would leave to France, get his degree and a job and would dissappear from his dad's life. Or maybe do it in his wife's name. OP didn't explain the relationship between his parents at all, but I don't think they were hostile towards each other, so it isn't too far fetched to expect OP's dad to take care of his and his wife's kid, even if he personally doesn't like him.
Well The father made him only fair he pay for It ngl
@Echo_9 the whole story sounds fishy as hell.
Ikr as soon as I saw that he said his father admitted that he hated him it was like why tf you surprised he wouldn’t give you a cent for tuition also he made it clear long before then that he didn’t like his son doing “feminine” things like cooking even though most chefs that are well known are men
@@XxXAlexAutopsyXxXfacts like is he calling chef ramsay feminine? He's a scum so is his golden child, both deserve to rott in hell.
I’d sue the dad and the brother for harassment, slander, and extortion. At the very least, take out a restraining order against them.
Well I'm glad that OP isn't being a doormat and isn't going to forgive/forget both his dad and brother. He's giving them what they deserved. The mom would have been definitely disappointed with both her husband and younger son for treating OP like shit. OP really should have gone to live with his aunt sooner as she just helped him right off the bat to get him to the school he wanted. She's his real family. I wish him success to his restaurant business and getting rid of his pos dad and brother.
That aunt is a huge W
Whale?! That’s a terrible thing to call that kind woman!! Shame on you! Shamey shame shame!!!!
What W mean ? Win ?
@@sorban5352 Yes
@@sorban5352Nah it means walter white
Didn't know the aunt was walter white
Awwww i bet this guy's mom would be so proud her son named a restaurant after her :)
I bet mom should’ve put a stop to how his father treated him. She was vile too.
She was dead????????@@dcg590
@@dcg590"she was vile too"
You know she was already dead at that point, right? It was explained during the beginning of the story that she died from cancer, which was when the abuse first started from the father, how was she suppose to stop him if she wasn't even alive?
@@dcg590bro how is a dead person supposed to stop somebody’s act
Every time I hear cooking is unmanly by anyone, I cringe inside. Like anyone who says that then buys a grill to use, is that really any different or is it because it is outside and no pots and pans? Especially if a single man says that I have to ask if all they do is eat out. I know I couldn't do it.
Especially since being able to cook has helped me to pull women who were WAAAAY out of my league 😂
Eating food is considered manly but don't you dare touch it or throw some spice on else you got a bussy.
@@liamfairbairn3374 LOL, shit I thought it was unmanly not having a good spice rack growing up. My grandpa would do a lot of the cooking in the house growing up and that dude always made sure he had what he needed. His venison chili could bring a mfer to tears and nothing would get left by day two, and that only after others would stop by just to eat.
@@giantmess4335 if anything there's nothing manlier than cooking. Men love food. Why not be *more* involved with it?. If you want gains, the gal ain't going to know what you need better than yourself.
Some guys think that cooking involves wearing a skirt and prancing around the kitchen. Not where I come from. You mess that dish up a few times or take too long on shit and ima rip you a new one (and that's a manly trait)
@@liamfairbairn3374 If I still drank, I would have had a shot to that.
Man I hope you NEVER fail. I hope you open nationwide branches!
This story is probaby fake
Golden child brother says "cruelest thing anyone's ever done", really? The older brother got the same treatment and the golden child is surprised???
Cruelest to him
That brother is not even allowed to be in a job position, he blackmailed the narrator for a job, which is 6 months of jail time, and attempted battery is a year at least. So not only can he not have the job, he is spending 1.5 years in jail and the dad is spending like 3 months for harbouring fugitives
On top of all that brother can be charged with assault and they both could be sued for harassment
When the dad brought up the mother, that was the perfect chance to tell him, “No, my mother would be disappointed in you and your other son.”
Okay, if I ever become a dad in the future... one of several things I should take account is not pick favorites in an entitled matter. As well as work to treat and care for any future children.
So as I watch this video, I think that stories like these that maintaining relationships is important.
The reality is you Will have a favorite now with that being Said u as a dad should be able to love Ur 2nd child and be the dad possible to him
Same, I won't play favorites with my future kids.
@@reiudfgq3vrh34ur Yeah, cuz regardless if you do have a favorite child or not, you gotta have to love them equally.
Also really important: Don't be in a made-up reddit story. People, especially the protagonist's family, seem to be really polarizing in those
@@IndestructibleMandelbrot y u p
I always think it is funny how people think treating others like crap somehow means they deserve the good life.
I laughed at the audacity of the father to say that op's mother won't like what he is doing. Considering what he did, op will be the last person she would be disappointed in.
And they didn't even apologize! That's the worst part! How the hell do you except someone to forgive you when you don't even ask for it!
My dad was an ex soldier so he liked my brother who was into sports like football and baseball... I was more academic into reading... This caused problems until I was forced into boxing... That's how people learned "don't f*** with the quiet kid" few years later I joined hockey as a "goon" and still went to college so it worked out kinda
My Granddad was an ex soldier.
A parachute regiment chef.
He encouraged me to do what I wanted to do, not what others wanted me to do.
I tried to join up, but medical problems got in the way, so instead I became a chef. Didn't like the hours after a few years, so I went into landscaping, got messed about by the contractors I worked for, now I'm damn close to finishing my non destructive testing training.
All because of an ex para.
I didn't know boxers used backpacks for training
@@Zellonous maybe he was refering about Hockey training
Honestly though, depending on how you read it, seems like this father is all right as he made sure his meeker son can at least defend himself.
Wow a jock being an abusive loser, that never happens 😂😂😂😂😂
reddit is a place when truth is often told, this defiitly happened everyone clapped
@@justawarlord this shit fake as fuck
@@justawarlordBro the Reddit stories are poor made, the chances of you getting an entitled father, being abused by him and his golden boy, then move to your aunt's house, and get a tuition for your favorite career, they show up, and you have instantly an idea for getting revenge, then they frame and almost (want to) sue you are zero, we need to consider the death of the mother caused possibly depression to OP, most people could have kys themselves, and ik, there are some resilient people who can pass this, but, as I said, chances lf it are null
@@TroleosJuanWith something that changes infinitely (i.e. the human population) anything is possible
also woooosh, to me and to you
@@ScuttleBugReal r/ihavereddit
I dont remember what I said ages ago, my comment isnt appearing for me
Son: *decides to cook
Dad: "You're fucking disappointment."
He disowned you. Stop thinking he loves you.
Yup, that relationship was dead and unfixable a decade ago. There's no point in even trying. Even if the father and brother had apologized, and meant it, it was never going to work. Sometimes there's just too much damage. OP has too many open wounds that will never heal, too much resentment, because of how he was treated by his nasty narcissist dad and brat of a brother. I'm glad OP finally put his foot down and dropped the threat of litigation. That sort of seals it, now al of them know there's no coming back, and that's for the best.
How is being a chef not a masculine profession ? Most chefs are men anyways
I'm guessing people assume it is cause wives are usually the one that tend to cook at home for the family
Doesn't mean I agree with it being feminine of course, cause as you said, most chefs in restaurants usually consist of men
I literally cook everyday for my family for dinners and enjoy it. It’s just not a gender aligned profession. Anyone can do it.
Revenge is a dish best served cold
0:30 The wild thing about "typically feminine things" is that they haven't really been typically feminine.
Cooking - In a home, this is typically the woman's job. In a restaurant, all of your most well-respected chefs have been men, and the restaurant industry is a heavily male-dominated place. The "womanly" thing here is in serving a partner, not the cooking.
Sewing - In a home, this is typically the woman's job. Historically, seamsters were men, much of the time (maybe 70/30), and all of today's major fashion outlets were founded by men, with men holding executive positions pretty much across the board. Again, the "womanly" thing is acting in service of the partner/family.
Reading books - I have no idea what about this is feminine. If you were to write down a list of the 100 most celebrated authors, maybe 10 women would appear on that list. Women and men have about an equal rate of reading, the only difference comes in the material that they read... but even then, most of the things women read are written by men.
Singing - Female singers have only been common frontrunners since about the end of the 18th century. Prior to that, men were the dominant performers in theater and song. As far as I can tell, the "womanly" thing about singing comes more from an issue that the "macho" crowd has with gay people in entertainment, but this thought process has only really existed since the 70s. (Frank Sinatra and Elvis Presley were regarded as incredibly manly, and I can't really point to any outwardly "feminine" men in the entertainment industry until much later, but I think the sentiment of feminization in liberal media started in the 70s.)
This thought process is what people are talking about when referring to "toxic masculinity". The notion that being manly is limited to being an idle-minded, blue collar jock with no academic interest is toxic to the point of being abusive, and it doesn't even represent masculinity, nor the values that masculine men hold. (Like, imagine describing John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, or Harrison Ford as feminine because they read scripts and play dress-up to entertain people.)
Thank you for this.
Good points all around. I would just add that in the past it was reading novels/fiction that was considered feminine. It was perfectly acceptable for men to read nonfiction literature. Novels were a waste of time and a frivolity, which had no place in a MAN’S mind!!!! HARRRUMP!!!(
Cooking and sewing are skills anyone regardless of gender should know.
The same goes for plumbing, electricity and repairing things.
It's just practical things that makes life easier and reduce costs
@@sergioochoa913 This is the correct take - all adults should know how to survive on their own as adults.
Your thought process is inheritely wrong. It's not those specific activities that are associated with being feminine.
It's the idea of performing activities meant to TAKE CARE of the family/spouse while he takes care of funding the household.
Performing cooking as a chef is different then cooking for your family. In one instance, it is a career used to obtain money and recognition for his skills, the other is purely to take care of the family.
Being a tailor as a job, and patching up your childrens clothing are two different things. One has you potentially at the forefront of style and design, the other is so your kids have functional clothing.
Everything about your thought process is incorrect, I'm not sure how to describe it properly.
The husband takes care of finances and connections, businesses etc. The wife takes care of the household, community etc.
Even if they overlap on what they're doing, the reason why they're doing it is what determines how it's perceived.
So yes, cooking is perceived as feminine because women are expected to cook for the family. However, no one would call a chef feminine because being a chef is an actual career and is vastly different from being a homecook.
OP missed the perfect opportunity to tell his dad to "Man up" and take accountability. That's what a real man would do
Only reason why i disagree with what op did at the restraunt is because it could have screwed over his business partners before the place even opened. They deserved to be shamed but its an awful idea to mix business and personal life for this exact reason
Sounds like it cause ya soft tbf , wouldnt do anything with close friends and fan around when they kinda already know ur dads shit 🤷♂️ you realize ppl have done this millions of times right? Like this isnt a new thing 🤣
@@Siberianlumber you arent very smart, are you? Talking shit when you dont even know if your business will be successful is dumb as fuck. This couldve easily gotten out of hand, bad PR before you even open is how you lose your business. He just got lucky he didn't screw himself and his partners over with this little stunt. Its not like they are a major coorperation and can manage the backlash. Their small business is literally a start up
@@Siberianlumber He didn't tell the partners what he was planning and didn't go to a lawyer to protect the business from the fallout. Those are the reasons the guy is the AH not him humiliating them with their own hypocrisy.
Not only is OP’s mother’s name also for OP to use, it’s for anyone to use. Literally anyone could use it for their restaurant. Personal names aren’t subject to trademark or something, only if you’d try to impersonate someone would the law be concerned.
I like a good underdog story. However, I think op should have recorded the confrontation knowing that his brother and his dad would resort to petty retaliation and blackmail. Honestly I would tell someone like op never meet with people like the dad or brother without a camera around to record everything.
First off cooking is not Just for women. Just look at Gordon Ramsay and all of them famous chefs. And it sucks just having a golden child sibling.
After watching and reading these posts I am really grateful fir my parents who love me and my brother equally and don’t play favourites
i dont get why boomers and genx'ers love to be so basic. My grandpa was like that. His father( my great-grandfather, died when i was 15, part of The Silent Generation) was an amazing artist and yet if i tried that, he would tell me how stupid it was. It was all sports, gym stuff, hiking, running, beer and getting shit faced, and office work. everything else was stupid. Emotions were stupid, anything feminine was stupid. Hell working on cars or working outside in the dirt was stupid, he would always just say " hire someone to fix it or clean the yard up" when i like to work on my own cars and plant plants outside. He hated my fish tanks, jungle plants, snakes and other reptiles i had.
Meanwhile i never liked sports, always thought it was stupid. I played a few because of him. Could never in my life take people seriously during football for example because i realized how frivolous it was. Like its just fuking football, stop acting like this is a police or military drill. Relax. He died hating me because of that, died thinking i was an antisocial idiot because i didn't partake in his style social circles, my social circles were full of stupid people according to him. mind you i was 28 when he died and still thought that. I would rather have an art night vs a sports game night. Also, he was a federal judge. He was a very smart man, passed the bar more than once in California( one of the hardest to pass). but was very thick in the head when it came to things like social issues. Im guy if that helps paint the picture.
My mom is the same. Hates basic shit and would rather smoke a joint with you and look at Alex Grey art vs hosting a superbowl party or doing LIVE LAUGH LOVE shit. He hated her too.
Gen x is NOT like that
@@dcg590 most have been, in my experience.
Just a few minutes in and, maybe it's just the environment I grew up in (the South), but I have never met a man in my life who would call cooking and knowing how to cook 'feminine'. Hell, my dad was always the one to cook for the family, and he's one of the most masculine people I've ever known. Same with reading. I know plenty of people who don't like to read, but I can't recall a single adult ever who actively derided it like that. It's one of the first stories I've heard on this channel that just sounds either blatantly made up, or horrendously misrepresented.
When it comes to cooking its probably connected to taking care of home, which was the main responsibility of women throughout the history - cleaning, taking care of children and providing a meal for their husbands, hence the "woman" connotation. As to reading, idk either, but maybe it was just a hobby that couldn't be called "obviously masculine", so in a simple guy's mind, it immediately took an opposite side: a feminine characteristics.
@@nevereatsoggywaffles4996 I get where the idea of cooking being a feminine thing comes from, it's just not an attitude I generally see expressed anymore, even by people with more traditional and conservative beliefs, which is what makes it so weird to me. If a guy came up to me and told me he doesn't cook for himself because it's a woman thing, I'd honest-to-God think he was retarded.
Definitely the environment you grew up in. You think that isn't an actual possibility that men like that father exist? In the south of all places where religion and junk is rampant.
@@nimoph I'm sure men like that do exist, just that I've never known one brave enough to admit it because everyone I've ever known, religious or not, conservative or not, would likely ridicule the fuck out of them for being stupid as hell. And that's coming from someone who was raised religious and conservative, and who still is decently religious and highly conservative, but nice attempt at a strawman there, you _almost_ had something.
If i were op i would've told the teary eyed brother “man the f up“ in front of dad.
Yeah. Me and my brother love sports, have the same religion and political beliefs as my dad, but unlike him growing up. Me and my brother were/are so unathletic. I always found it amusing and felt bad for my old man because of that
TL;DR: OOP's family got served.
The aunt's a real one
Even if these stories are fake, their good for listening and eating snacks to.
I don’t get it, If the mother passed away who I assume did all the cooking. And the dad hated the son picking up the mantle….what did they even eat every night?
takeaway, i reckon, remember he said that the dad was well off
It is a fake story
I think it’s fake too
Calls her son an @sshole for bringing up her past mistakes, but proceeds to continue to make the same mistakes 😂
"her"... Damn, he was talking about his father 💀, was his dad a trans woman and never came out and only you know this information or you just mistaken?
@@vl5794probably called the father her because he and his golden act and behave like feminine and whines like a pack of b**ches
@@vl5794 yo, so I actually have a Playlist going and posted this on the wrong video 😂 I guess one video ended , and another started without me realizing.
@@robertfaulkner6104 It happened with me one time, anyways i understand that, sometimes happens lol 😂.
Sanji?
He should of went to the aunt sooner so he wouldn’t be as damaged as he is but I could understand why he be scared or hesitant. That aunt was his true family
Bro is Sanji lmaoo
So true
@@samlenz8300 like I definitely don’t believe the story, but I enjoyed it lol
I was thinking the same thing lol
Looool, I can't unsee it now
They say the best revenge is a life well lived, so the fact that OP (the black sheep) managed to become a succeful chef with his own restaurant while the brother (the golden child) is a bum who works as a bartender has got to be the best form of revenge anyone could muster, all OP did was rub sault in the wound when his excuse for a father decided "your brother can't be a looser while you're successful, make him a partner" to which OP responded with "If you're not gonna be part of my struggle, then don't expect to enjoy my success."
Opening a restaurant in your hometown just because you want to rub it against your spiteful family is a BAD business decision. Dealing with the smear campaign they will be regularly launching (which is NASTY in the FnB industry) is just not worth it. Like it or not, the "unnecessary drama" will always haunt him while he's there.
Judging by the ending it's safe to assume he's fine now, as he said his business is doing well and plans on expanding + he already threatened his brother with legal action due to said smear campaign, which seems to have gotten him to back off
Some people just don't deserve kids
Desperately need to know what restaurant this is so I can try it in the future
Op, your mother was not a good mother. She allowed it until she passed. As a mother myself, I would not put up with that for one day. I’m sorry this happened to you op. Wishing you well
*Not a ‘manly’ profession*
*Gordon Ramsay, Bobby Flay, Emeril, etc., have entered the chat*
Does anyone know this dudes restaurant? I wanna say its Victorias, which I think is only popular in Wisconsin that I personally love. Very good Italian restaurant and it could be a womens name. I could be very wrong though.
11:25 No fucking way that was an AITA post. Those posts have a 3000 character limit and the dude wrote an entire novel.
The father can't admit he effed up. That his golden child is a loser. Also op has some rose colored glasses on because the way he talks about his mom shows she didn't really defend him. But she was the only parent who seemed to care.
Also the way op talks about his mom, sounds like she was abused by the dad and family. That she could never do what she wanted to do.
It's sad the dad and brother have never seen op as family. I question why the aunt was trying so hard for the op to forgive the family. There are some that will say family is family. But even after all that she still kept pushing for it. I wonder if aunt feels bad for the brother with how self-destructive he is. That she was hopping that op would save him.
Also making brother partner is so dumb. Because there are two other partners. What did the father think would happen. It's like all he heard was one son owns a restaurant. Also you know if brother would be made partner he would never do anything, take all his friends there eat for free then leave. Also dad would say that the brother saved the restaurant and how his other son would have lost everything without his help. Narcissist never change
The funny thing is, according to all the chefs I know, cooking is NOT a dainty and effeminate job. It's hard, loud, frenzied and filled with burning hot equipment and razor sharp knives. Chefs have to be made of hard stuff.
What a way to end my day! New video 😁
Also op should have them prosecuted for extortion and blackmail.
If this is real, then I want the name of the restaurant to visit for a vacation in the U.S
Same
is this footage mirrored? i swear this map is played the opposite way
Just because you share DNA with soneone it doesn't mean you are automatically opted for partnership/shareholder in your relatives company without even lifting a finger. I'm glad OP didn't even budge on that and I think his Mum would be extremely proud of her son. It stinks of generational ignorance when someone deems certain tasks as feminine or masculine jobs. Well tell that to many of the famous and great male chefs out there (you may have to shout though over the ring of tills)😂💰💰
I feel for the guy; it definitely sucks being the black sheep of the family. Being ostracized for no good reason by the people who should love and care for you unconditionally hurts in a way that most people can’t even imagine.
On the other hand the constant griping about his dad not paying for his tuition at a presumably high end college in a foreign country was unbearably annoying to me. Just the assumption that your parents should foot the bill for something like that when loans and scholarships exist is crazy and entitled.
I had written an even longer comment detailing the male/female ratio of three-star chefs in the United States and some other countries. Long story short, my internet connection failed right then and there, so I’ll provide you with the gist: The *United States* 🇺🇸 have 13 three-star restaurants, most of them co-headed, so there are 22 chefs total, and 1 among them is a woman: Dominique Crenn who heads the _Atelier Crenn._
*Slovenia* 🇸🇮 has the highest proportion of women among chefs heading three-star restaurants: 100% by the fact that Slovenia has only 1 three-star restaurant, the _Hiša Franko_ headed by _Ana Roš._
The full list:
*Japan* 🇯🇵, *Germany* 🇩🇪, *Switzerland* 🇨🇭, *Belgium* 🇧🇪, *Denmark* 🇩🇰, *Austria* 🇦🇹, the *Netherlands* 🇳🇱, *Norway* 🇳🇴, *Sweden* 🇸🇪, and *South Korea* 🇰🇷 have 21, 9, 4, 2, 2, and 5×1 three-star restaurants respectively. All these 43 restaurants are headed by a single chef, all of which are men.
*France* 🇫🇷 and *Monaco* 🇲🇨 have 30 three-star restaurants combined, 3 of them co-headed, totaling 33 chefs. Two of them are women: Anne-Sophie Pic heads the _Pic_ and Dominique Lory who co-heads _Le Louis XV_ with Emmanuel Pilon.
*Spain* 🇪🇸 has 15 three-star restaurants. Some of them are co-headed (one triple-headed), in total there are 20 chefs. Only one of them is a woman: Elena Arzak who co-heads the eponymous _Arzak_ with her father Juan Mari Arzak.
*Italy* 🇮🇹 has 13 three-star restaurants, all but one headed by a singe chef. There are 15 chefs total, of which there are 2 women: One is Annie Féolde, the first three-star-rated woman chef in Italy, who co-heads the_Enoteca Pinchiorri_ together with Italo Bassi and Riccardo Monco. The other is Nadia Santini who heads _Dal Pescatore._
*Hong Kong* 🇭🇰 and *Macau* 🇲🇴 have 10 three-star restaurants combined, one of which is headed by 2 chefs, totaling 11 chefs. For one of them, Cheung Tan-leung, I found no information about the name of the person. All others are men.
The *United Kingdom* 🇬🇧 has 9 three-star restaurants, one of which is the co-headed _Gordon Ramsay_ (co-headed with Matt Abé) so 10 chefs total. Of them, 2 are women chefs: Clare Smyth who heads the _Core,_ and Hélène Darroze who heads _The Connaught._
For communist *China* 🇨🇳 I could only determine that 3 of 5 restaurants (each headed by a single chef) are men; the 2 remaining I could not find: The restaurants are the _Xin Rong Ji_ (founded by Zhang Yong) and _Chao Shang Chao_ headed by Zhang Yifeng.
The *Republic of China* on Taiwan 🇹🇼 has 3 three-star restaurants, one of them co-headed, so 4 chefs in total. They’re all men.
*Singapore* 🇸🇬 has 3 three-star restaurants headed by men. It’s noteworthy that all have European names
Source: _List of Michelin 3-star restaurants_ on Wikipedia.
Methodology: Some names are clearly male or female names. (I know English, German, Italian, Spanish, and French name patterns, so, no, I’m not fooled by Andrea or Simone.) Some chefs have articles which refer to them as “he” or “she”. Some names (especially Japanese ones) I had to look up and those turned out to be unambiguously male names with one exception, where I found the person. Some chefs have photos of them on the web and look unambiguously male or female.
Chef is probably one of the manliest profession ever in my opinion.
idk male prositute is also pretty manly
Well yes, but I hear somewhere that most women's jobs are for women until you got really good at it. Then it became a man jobs.
Like food or clothes related job that are mostly seen as women's jobs, but strangely most of big peoples know in the industry are men.
I'll never understand straight men and their weird obsession with cooking being seen as "feminine", like, you need food to survive. How is preparing food feminine? Like that's just so dumb! I'm curious what they ate when he banned OP from the kitchen... like did they order take out and eat greasy food all the time?!
I'm glad op got his revenge! The story somewhat reminded me of me, as I had an emotionally abusive dad who didn't like I was closer to my mom and liked more feminine things (I'm also gay, so that's a bit different). Where as he's much closer to my brother, and I don't really talk to my dad.
Expand but have the 2nd location named after the father and tell them you'll match what they put in for 50% ownership, with the claws "OP gets paid out first if the business fails." However they keep 100% of the profits for the first year. (😂profits in the first year) Have them sit down with a lawyer to write a counter offer. Willing to bet any lawyer will find out just enough to drop them as clients OR bill your father and brother thousands till they get it.
Does anyone know these types of maps on Minecraft specifically on bedrock. (Also I know it looks good because of shaders and mod packs, I just want to play them.)
I'll be honest, NTA, but I dont feel great about it. Might just be my personal worldview or sensibilities, but I do think he shoulda just told them to fuck off and left it at that. Knowing that they werent even worth bothering with would have been good enough, but now they have a bone to pick and are making trouble,. and its clearly only going to escalate. I think he shouldve just been curt and said that he had no family aside from his aunt and asked them to leave, plain simple and effective.
Why does the younger brother feel insecure. Real men don’t feel insecure. Insecurity is weakness and weakness it emotion and emotion is just for girls I guess.
Tell Gordon Ramsay, Robert Irvine or Marco Pierre White to get out of the kitchen and do something more manly... See how that works out for you.
Being masculine is one thing
But achive your goal build a career is diffrent
The Dad dont know as a Father pushing your son to achive his goals is first Masculine priority
Masculinty is not selective
I wouldn't give the brother a job as a bartender.
He isnt trustworthy.
Thank God he specified his brother and dad were male....
What his father failed to see is OP is begging for his life for that tuition, when the father literally could afford it. He could have 2 successful sons but no he just choose the one who manly enough.
14:20 Why did he even let then into his house?
I feel a little bad, because I think a lot of the dad and younger brothers initial issues are from refusing to properly grieve the mom.
At this point, Golden children should be branded pyrite children.
Which hallmark movie is this?
Ah yes the masculine men keeping money away not to feel insecure.
Real tought boys
That might be the stupidest reason that a father would not give his son a tuition. WTF is wrong with that dad
Dang now I want to know what restaurant this is so I can go and give the owner my appreciation for the strength to fulfill his dream.
I’m still confused, HOW TF IS COOKING FEMININE?! I LOVE COOKING, it’s fun and relives stress to me, and seeing my family eat what i made with happiness makes me happy
We calling reading books feminine????
The father and younger brother remind me of my own father and entitled older sister; the main character almost feels like me, except that my story took another route.
What route was that?
@@Wedge_Khan My mother was the one I was close to; my older sister was the tomboy (which my father liked), while I was the bookish one (which he considered worthless). My older sister relished her "PERFECT GIRL" image, which she and my father, along with our other relatives loved to rub in my face. My mother loved us equally, although I could see she wasn't that fond of my self absorbed pretender sister; my sister clearly thrived when my mother died because my father never stopped her from going completely wild. My father saved 15k for her college tuition, but didn't bother saving anything for me. When I was already working, both my father and sister kept on bugging me for money even if they had their own; my father kept on telling me to quit my job so I could be his caretaker, which I refused to do. After he died, my sister kept on saying I should quit my job so I could look after her kids for her - which I also refused to do.
His mum's name? Wendy.
LOL. That was great!
op is Sanji
Yay!! One of those stories where it has a happy and very satisfying ending :))
Omg you have got to watch “My Golden Child Sister Tried Walking Down The Aisle At My Wedding,” it’s the best most satisfying Reddit story ever!
Naming the restaurant after the mother made me tear up
I pity both him and his brother, they are both victims of their father's vile nature
I believed this story up until he asked if he was the AH and posted in AITA. Thats when i was realized this story is possibly fake. Still a great one but i wonder how OP's dad and brother found him (probably thru Facebook 🤡 or other social media but still). Also love the fact that neither of them changed after OP left home. Great story but it lost all credibility when he asked if he was the AH.
Nah its real
I wonder what the restaurant is
Tbh, I think the brother is kind of an unnecessary casualty in this. He had a shit father who encouraged his behaviour. Children do what they're taught. Kinda unfortunate for him, since he just needed a job. Maybe it would have gone better if he had asked for a job himself, instead of using his father for it. Unfortunate, I guess.
The thing is that he had a job. He was working as a bartender just fine. He just wanted a more respected position and decided that obviously he could nepotism his way into his brother's restaurant. I have no doubt that the father spurred it on, but he's a grown man and at that point you just can't blame the parents anymore and the child itself needs to be held accountable. If he had a shred of sympathy, empathy understanding or self-respect, he would not have gone along with his dad trying to land him that job, or at the very least realise that he is in no way entitled to it.
Being the youngest son out of four that chose video games and basketball instead of football, cars and fishing this story hit a little too close to home
Never let thm leech
The op’s aunt is awesome for paying for his tutition
Restaurant name ?
You mean after your Bro steals $7,000 from Pop's drawer, then FINDS IT a month after 10 others searched the drawers and whole house? And he already had guilted him into paying off has credit cards, and his buying an old 18 wheeler truck and Pop paying it off for him after he refused to keep it running or working?
OPs mum would be so so proud of him if she was still alive but safe to say she’d be ashamed of her husband and other son😅 so the dad saying otherwise is ridiculous.