I watched your “I don’t like being a mom” video and then binged all your mommy videos and they have really helped me realize I am not alone with how I feel! Thank you for making these videos! They help me feel less crazy! LOL
I'm a mom of a 10 year old and I had severe PPD. It took a year for me to get the *right* help I needed and almost 5 years to get back most of my personality. I still struggle with self doubt but every day gets better. Jessica, you have no idea what a servic you are doing for others. I don't even have a newborn, but listening to you speak about your experience helps me gain some perspective on my own. My best advice to anyone really struggling is to reach out for help. The person you reach out to may not be equipped to help, so try again, don't stop reaching for a lifeline, you will eventually find the help you need. I went through many doctors/counsellors/meds until I found what worked. Thank you, jessica for being brave enough to share your experience with the world. You will be helping many, many people.
I can so completely relate with everything in this video. I’m very introverted, so it’s hard for me to connect with other moms. Also, sometimes the thought of hanging out with other moms would just give me more stress. So I would get caught in this cycle of needing friends and connection but also not wanting it all at the same time. Your videos are important and very needed. Thank you for your bravery and kind heart.
Cynthia Calleros i totally get it. Some days i wishhhh i had someone to hang out with but then nothing in me wants to reach out to the people i have in my life to reach out to. It’s frustrating sometimes. Anyway you’re not crazy. It’s all normal i think. But for sure we need people around us. It’s healthy. 💛💛
I'm 3mo pregnant and I've struggled with depression for months and months. Moving across country, losing friends, struggling to start up my business.... thr list goes on. Your vids are so relatable and thoughtful, thank YOU.
I can’t thank you enough. I’m 8 months pregnant and struggle with depression. I sincerely appreciate your raw and authentic self. Your videos encourage me and make me feel like I’m not alone on those tough days. Thank you, please don’t stop making videos. ❤️
Kaylene Painter thank you this comment is so encouraging for me. Im sorry you struggle but Im so thankful i can be a support for you. I struggle to. :) we aren’t alone.
I’m due in a little less than 4 weeks and have struggled off and on with depression for the last 4 years and I’m worried about postpartum, going to try and take care of myself better until then and pray I don’t slip into it again.. But good to know we aren’t alone❤️
I had my first four years ago. I was depressed while pregnant and afterwards too. I’m pregnant now and things are different but my best advice is find joy in the small things and trust in God. I felt like my life was over when I had my son. It was far from over. I thought I was chained to a baby. I felt like I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything. I would tell my elders and they would laugh at me and say yeah your life is over. It wasn’t! It was far from over! I miss those moments of holding him close at night even though I was exhausted. I miss having in my arms with out him squirming and wanting to run around. My advice is to enjoy the small moments and the season of life you are in. It may feel like your chained to baby but that is your baby and you will want that chain back on in a few years. Plus you will have plenty of time to go out when they are a little older but you will wish you could hold them as babies again. Nothing is more rewarding than seeing your kids smile and knowing how much they love you! Trust in God and His plan. Read Jeremiah 29:11. Ask God what those plans are. God bless y’all and your babies!
I'm only 2 months pregnant but been having anxiety about having my child. Thank you so much for this video. I admire you're ability to be real. It helps a lot to hear truth from a mom.
Making these videos for new moms is incredibly helpful. I love how you are normalizing mom feelings and helping other moms feel like what they are feeling or thinking is normal. I am new doula and I plan to share your videos with my clients because the content is spot on to what every new mom should hear. Thanks for being you and feeling like a real friend. xoxox
Its so helpful to listen to other moms dealing with similar emotions after having babies. We tried so hard to have both my son and now our daughter. I feel like I should be so constantly overjoyed. But lately I feel like I’m so overwhelmed and anxious.
Im so glad you were able to have your babies. I know it’s rough sometimes and you’re so not alone in that. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and to love your babies at the same time. It’s possible to be grateful for them and also feel anxious. I wish it was easier to stay positive all the time but it seems like life is a tension of both good and bad happening all together. Thank you so much for watching. You’re doing great.
Hi new mom here! My baby is 2 months and my biggest thing is being lonely. Amazing how many moms I know on facebook and I dont even try to reach out to them. I'm new to your channel, but I'm really happy that I found you. Your honesty is what I love. No one tells me the bad stuff about newborns. Thank you for that.
Thank you so much. It’s day 6 to have my new baby girl as a first time mom. It’s tough to be so far away from my family and friends back home in the other side of the world , plus the COVID situation, it just made thing worse to be isolated and stay away from people. I also lost my job I loved so much to COVID so I have nothing to look forward to to go back to the original me. I feel so related to your video and it just makes me cry out which I guess it’s good as I’m releasing my emotion. Thank you for again sharing your experience and emotion with us, it makes me feel less lonely on this new journey.
Oh, sweetie. There is nothing to be sorry about. Life gets tough and people come and go. There is nothing you can do. My son is my blessing though and I know that everything that happens will be for a reason. Thank you so much though. Your videos are a true help! I love them and share them on my page all the time!
This is such a breath of fresh air! I keep saving them to my mommy watch later library on here for when baby arrives.. but just watching these is giving me less anxiety about being a new mom.. if that makes any sense lol
My little guy will be 2 months old on the 7th and it has been haaaard, his dad works out of town and I live hundreds of miles from my family. Thank you for your videos, you are the most relatable RUclipsr I have come across!
I love your videos a lot. I struggled as well with depression during pregnancy and when my son was born until he was 1 year old I felt I made the worst mistake of my life. I lost some friends but gained new. That was such a horrible and confusing time in a way that I still feel the pain when I think about it. Now life has become much better, he turned 2 this year and we have a great bond now. It was hard work, doing 3 times sport a week, buying clothes for myself and some lovely make up, meeting friends and most important we traveled three times to Canadian Island and that has helped me a lot. The weather and childfriendly people made life much easier. So I really recommend if you have a lovely friend somewhere in a country with beaches just go there and visit! 😊
Beautiful Jessica, You're doing AMAZING ❤️ every time I watch your videos there is such a pleasure of the Lord over you. You're doing more and making more impact than you realize and you should be SO PROUD of all you're doing and how much people feel the Love of the Father through you! YOU GOT THIS mama!
Your videos are so helpful! Your voice is so calm and relaxing so when I’m feeling stressed and anxious I go to your videos now. Everything your expressing is how I feel and it feels so good not to be alone
Love watching your videos! I’m only 30 weeks pregnant but definitely am absorbing your advise and love the way you let us ladies feel ok to feel not ok. Glad I found your channel! Will stay tuned! I’m in China without family or fellow mums and will try to do this crazy thing in this crazy country! Blessed that my mum has moved here to help when my little girl arrives but so thankful for vloggers that just “get” it! Keep posting! ❤️
Your videos are so real and insightful. I am four days past due with baby #6 and I wish I would have heard some of these things with my first few babies. The pressure can be so overwhelming to “do it all” and the mom guilt for taking time for yourself is crazy. But you are spot on and so inspiring! 🧡
Love your videos Jessica! Definitely feel very alone rn - My son is 2 months old and our first baby.. I am 24 and the first one in my friend group to have kids or be married even .. I live in the suburbs and I feel so different most moms around here as they are so much older than me and all seem to have their established groups already.. I am scared moms will not like me bc i am so much younger than them and definitely don’t have my life sorted out.. I have been nervous to go to one of these baby groups but this encourages me that sometimes it’s okay to only have that one thing in common so I might go! I found another mom in one of my night classes I’m taking that has a daughter two days younger than my son and it’s so refreshing to talk about it with her! Thank you for this! I wish you lived on the east coast so we could be friends. Come to NYC! 💙 xoxox
This is so helpful. I'm 26 weeks pregnant and not working and I feel really lost. For me seeking therapy especially from a therapist who's a mom is so helpful. My therapist is a mom to 16 month old twins and I appreciate how much she understands. I think more videos like this would be helpful. Your kind non judgmental voice just soothes me and helps me. Id love more videos about pregnancy and the uncertainty that comes with that
I love how real and honest you are!! I have an almost 4 year old and a 3 month old too! I can relate so much! Motherhood is just so much somtimes! So many emotions, worries and ups and downs. Loved your "don't like being a mom" video. I like and do not like the same things about it. It was so refreshing to hear another mom say those things out loud! I know we all think them at times! I love my kids but don't always like everything that comes along with being a mom. So true!
My problem is when I finally do get my newborn son down for a nap I prioritize my to do list, the house and others over myself. I think of all the things I need to get done and push my own self on the back burner. Thank you for this video, I just finished it and it inspired me to grab one of my old favorite books and my journal so I can start processing the mental load of becoming a new mom! I’m grateful for your positive presence on RUclips💛
I looooooooove you!!! Thank you so much!! I’m obsessed with your channel and spirit and the encouragement you give in every video. I’d love to see your tips on handling two kids- day to day life, any sleep advice if you find something that works, and just any other video! I’ll watch anything you do haha
Hang in there Jessica, being a mom is super challenging and there’s no “right way” of doing things. Whatever works for you and your family doesn’t always work for others. Do you work out? Working out even if it’s 30 mins a day is always helpful, maybe when the babies are napping. Continue drinking your coffee!! Im 38 weeks pregnant with my second child and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with my 3 year old. He acts up and the baby hasn’t even arrived yet. I’m not exactly sure how I will manage. But I do predict me locking myself in the bathroom and crying in the near future 😘
I am so grateful for your down to earth and honest videos. Helps me feel normal and connected. I live in a very rural area and not originally from here so others are not as open to reach out to lonely mom life is real.
Another great video! Appreciate these insights. They are so comforting and full of light. I’d love to see a video on ways fathers can support moms after a newborn 😊
I would love love love if you started a mom facebook group for your followers! I think that would be a great way for us to all support each other and then all the work doesn't just fall on you! We can all work to support each other!
You are such a lovely genuine person. I am 20 years old, I don’t have a baby, but I love watching your videos they’re so interesting and your voice is so soothing ❤️
what would help me is knowing my dreams and goals can still come true regardless of having a child. And I've seen some very discouraging videos with moms saying that you won't be able to clean anymore, you won't have a life anymore, etc. And I just don't choose to believe that.
Patricia Bazzani I have a four year old and I’m seven and a half months pregnant. I am 26. I am in college and writing a book. I have great plans and you know what, I actually didn’t have these dreams and plans before having a kid. My son doesn’t slow me down. He works on his letters, plays abc mouse, or plays with kenetic sand while I work on achieving my dreams by writing and doing homework. Being a mom doesn’t mean your dreams can’t come true! Sometimes it actually makes you work harder for them because you know someone who looks up to you is watching. I might not work as hard on achieving them when my daughter is born because I will be exhausted for a few months. Those months will pass and I will be working hard on them again. Kids are not dream killers. You can do whatever you set you mind too! Don’t give up or get down! You can reach your dreams!! Keep refusing to believe that you can’t achieve them because of being a mom. Us moms are awesome! We grow a living being inside of us, nurse it, love it, take care of it for 18+ years and also achieve goals!
Your videos are just so uplifting and inspiring. Two weeks ago I bought myself a Bullet Journal and took that up once again. That turned into doodling/sketching in it, which in turn made me desire to paint - so I bought some watercolours and paper (eagerly waiting on them to be delivered - thank you Amazon Prime). I've never really viewed myself as an artsy/creative person, although others have. So when you mentioned about making art, I felt you normalized what I'm doing. Not just me doing it to 'escape' for half an hour before my bedtime once our daughter is asleep. THANK YOU.
Wanted to add that one evening was especially hard and confusing for me, so I made a "mum guilt: the thoughts" spread in my Bullet Journal. It helped SO much to get all those thoughts out of my head. I actually let my husband read it so he understands more of where I'm coming from in our new life with a baby. 💖
I am a first time expecting mother, and I watch a lot of your videos - I watched the "I don't like being a mom" and this one as well as was like ...o boy these will be scary videos... BUT I APPRECIATE THESE VIDEOS...b/c it's helping me already to be very INTENTIONAL about "not losing myself" if you will. and also that it is ok to feel a bit overwhelmed at times and that i will just need to pray and even get some alone time. I love your rawness and transparency on these harder topics. I believe most moms just want to be the best they can and sometimes may set unrealistic expectations on themselves - these videos help create that beautiful balance. I look forward to motherhood and also to implementing some of these ideas
I shared on my mom group bc your videos seriously helped me realize your mom style is the style i wanted to be 😬 relaaaaxed idk much of what I’m doing but I’m doing good lol
I didnt even see this video but already shared one of your videos when I came out lol... oh well hahaha. Made me laugh and I think it made others laugh when I shared it :)
I'm not going to enter your giveaway because I'm lazy lol but I wanted you to know that I already shared the video about getting your body back on FB because I found it funny, and honest. I hope you get passed this phase quickly and that you feel more like yourself again. Also, how you're holding your baby....is killing me! lmao I can't stop laughing about it.
I highly recommend reading the book "12 hours by 12 weeks" -- it's life-changing. Helps to ensure your baby will be sleeping well so you can focus on your own sleep and mental wellbeing! ❤️
Can you make a video about transitioning to caring for a baby girl VS a baby boy? I’m terrified to care for my baby boy who is due on Jan and I have a 5 year old girl.
Just had my baby 3 weeks ago today... it has felt so long because I am breast feeding so I feel lost these days, constantly being needed. (wasn't prepared for zero breaks away from my baby)
I always want help but for some reason once someone actually comes over to help, I feel like i need to take this time to clean and or host. Like I can't seem to relax and nap. I hear my baby cry and automatically feel like what he needs is me. My mother in law occasionally cones to watch him while we go to get groceries but that also becomes stressful. "Don't give him a pacifier. I'm serious." .."he spits his milk out because of the pacifier" ..."he has trapped gas and constipation because of the pacifier" .." He can't sleep because he's used to a Pacifier" This is her main complaint toward me amongst many others...like how I should be giving him water and laying him on his side or just putting/ leaving him in the carseat for long periods of time vs using the strap carrier. Baby is only 6 weeks old and my pediatrician seems to have opposing advice so I'll listen to the pro. Ugh sorry I really needed to vent haha. I am a first time mom and having a hard time as it is. Was not able to breast feed my baby and it's taken a huge toll on me...sounds dramatic but it is a horrible feeling.
You should do a mommy FB group where moms can ask questions that hopefully get answered and also just a place for moms to vent about their bad days and boast about their good days! 😊😊
Thrush tip: grab the cream version of yeast infection cream and put it on clean dry nipples (wash first or rinse with water air dry) use between feeds then gently wash before feeding. That kills the yeast quickly. Evening colic tip: I NEED coffee in morning to make it thru but, don’t exceed that first morning cup. Here’s why. Diary and foods aren’t only thing that effect baby. Coffee can make baby feel just like u do when you’re over caffeinated. They can be up more struggle to get to sleep act agitated. I noticed once I put two and two together my baby slept better which meant I slept better!
I have a toddler and am 35 weeks pregnant and I STILL FEEL LOST😭😭😭 Omgosh I’m already worry about how to deal with newborn and still take care of me... I gotta find mom friends soon!!!
Omg let me share something I've just discovered that has changed my housekeeping game: Tody!!! It's an app. I love it, and it makes keeping tidy so much more manageable for me. GIve it a try if you want, it's helped me be way more productive. The Kondo method definitely has it's merit, but I don't thank my items. They're not sentient and I don't owe them anything. Plus as a Christian it feels inappropriate to me, like idolatry...but that's just from one Christian sister to another. Tons of love, you're an awesome mama!
Read "Happiest Baby on the Block." Babies cry a lot but shouldn't cry for hours! There are ways to soothe them and meet their needs and not suffer through endless crying. Hope this helps and congrats on your new baby!
karina peters are you a Christian because I know a few verses that have helped me out in the past... Proverbs 12:25 Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future. I hope that helps... Stick in there! Being a mom can be hard. Babies crying can be very challenging. It will pass and you are doing a good job! You can do this! You can all things through Christ who strengthens you! You were made for this and you are not alone either!! All of us moms have had those nights and times when our babies just cried forever and we have all felt like the worst parents in the world in that moment. You are not! You are doing a good job! Your baby is lucky to have you!
I am a new mom and totally relate to all the struggles that you mentioned. My son is 7 weeks old and I have never felt more exhausted and out of sorts in my life. I do prioritize his needs every day, and should look a bit more after myself.. as you also said, but it constantly feels like the hours just slip away and when I do get some alone time I just sleep or do stuff around the house that I usually did before baby. Just to get some comfort from the old stress-free routines I had. I also feel very isolated but hearing other moms having similar issues does help, so thank you for your videos! Love the content and let us all moms stay happy, healthy and positive together! 😁😎 Greetings from Romania!
Hey love! I don't know why I'm commenting. You probably wont see this anyway. Just something inside is compelling me to message you. If you ever need a friend to chat with we can exchange ideas. We definitely come from different pasts and views/beliefs, but I have grace for you.
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I watched your “I don’t like being a mom” video and then binged all your mommy videos and they have really helped me realize I am not alone with how I feel! Thank you for making these videos! They help me feel less crazy! LOL
Maria Nicole thank you so much!! ❤️❤️❤️
@@jess_hover love ur video x really helpful beautiful baby
I'm a mom of a 10 year old and I had severe PPD. It took a year for me to get the *right* help I needed and almost 5 years to get back most of my personality. I still struggle with self doubt but every day gets better. Jessica, you have no idea what a servic you are doing for others. I don't even have a newborn, but listening to you speak about your experience helps me gain some perspective on my own. My best advice to anyone really struggling is to reach out for help. The person you reach out to may not be equipped to help, so try again, don't stop reaching for a lifeline, you will eventually find the help you need. I went through many doctors/counsellors/meds until I found what worked. Thank you, jessica for being brave enough to share your experience with the world. You will be helping many, many people.
I’m not a mom but someday I’d like to be, and this helps me understand how lonely and confusing motherhood can be and that makes it better a little
I can so completely relate with everything in this video. I’m very introverted, so it’s hard for me to connect with other moms. Also, sometimes the thought of hanging out with other moms would just give me more stress. So I would get caught in this cycle of needing friends and connection but also not wanting it all at the same time. Your videos are important and very needed. Thank you for your bravery and kind heart.
Cynthia Calleros i totally get it. Some days i wishhhh i had someone to hang out with but then nothing in me wants to reach out to the people i have in my life to reach out to. It’s frustrating sometimes. Anyway you’re not crazy. It’s all normal i think. But for sure we need people around us. It’s healthy. 💛💛
I'm 3mo pregnant and I've struggled with depression for months and months. Moving across country, losing friends, struggling to start up my business.... thr list goes on. Your vids are so relatable and thoughtful, thank YOU.
I can’t thank you enough. I’m 8 months pregnant and struggle with depression. I sincerely appreciate your raw and authentic self. Your videos encourage me and make me feel like I’m not alone on those tough days. Thank you, please don’t stop making videos. ❤️
Kaylene Painter thank you this comment is so encouraging for me. Im sorry you struggle but Im so thankful i can be a support for you. I struggle to. :) we aren’t alone.
I’m due in a little less than 4 weeks and have struggled off and on with depression for the last 4 years and I’m worried about postpartum, going to try and take care of myself better until then and pray I don’t slip into it again.. But good to know we aren’t alone❤️
I had my first four years ago. I was depressed while pregnant and afterwards too. I’m pregnant now and things are different but my best advice is find joy in the small things and trust in God. I felt like my life was over when I had my son. It was far from over. I thought I was chained to a baby. I felt like I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything. I would tell my elders and they would laugh at me and say yeah your life is over. It wasn’t! It was far from over! I miss those moments of holding him close at night even though I was exhausted. I miss having in my arms with out him squirming and wanting to run around. My advice is to enjoy the small moments and the season of life you are in. It may feel like your chained to baby but that is your baby and you will want that chain back on in a few years. Plus you will have plenty of time to go out when they are a little older but you will wish you could hold them as babies again. Nothing is more rewarding than seeing your kids smile and knowing how much they love you! Trust in God and His plan. Read Jeremiah 29:11. Ask God what those plans are. God bless y’all and your babies!
Kaylene Painter how’s it going? Feeling better?
I'm only 2 months pregnant but been having anxiety about having my child. Thank you so much for this video. I admire you're ability to be real. It helps a lot to hear truth from a mom.
Making these videos for new moms is incredibly helpful. I love how you are normalizing mom feelings and helping other moms feel like what they are feeling or thinking is normal. I am new doula and I plan to share your videos with my clients because the content is spot on to what every new mom should hear. Thanks for being you and feeling like a real friend. xoxox
Its so helpful to listen to other moms dealing with similar emotions after having babies. We tried so hard to have both my son and now our daughter. I feel like I should be so constantly overjoyed. But lately I feel like I’m so overwhelmed and anxious.
Im so glad you were able to have your babies. I know it’s rough sometimes and you’re so not alone in that. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and to love your babies at the same time. It’s possible to be grateful for them and also feel anxious. I wish it was easier to stay positive all the time but it seems like life is a tension of both good and bad happening all together. Thank you so much for watching. You’re doing great.
Oh my gosh. Me too! I love my babies and glad they're here, but I'm so tired and overwhelmed all the time that I can't enjoy them.
Hi new mom here! My baby is 2 months and my biggest thing is being lonely. Amazing how many moms I know on facebook and I dont even try to reach out to them. I'm new to your channel, but I'm really happy that I found you. Your honesty is what I love. No one tells me the bad stuff about newborns. Thank you for that.
Thank you so much. It’s day 6 to have my new baby girl as a first time mom. It’s tough to be so far away from my family and friends back home in the other side of the world , plus the COVID situation, it just made thing worse to be isolated and stay away from people. I also lost my job I loved so much to COVID so I have nothing to look forward to to go back to the original me. I feel so related to your video and it just makes me cry out which I guess it’s good as I’m releasing my emotion. Thank you for again sharing your experience and emotion with us, it makes me feel less lonely on this new journey.
He is growing so fast! I really appreciate this video. As a soon to be single mother fighting depression, this was HIGHLY needed! So thank you!
Brittany Belka YOU ARE AMAZING. Im sorry you’ve been fighting depression. I wish there was more i could do to help you. Single moms deserve crowns. 👑
Oh, sweetie. There is nothing to be sorry about. Life gets tough and people come and go. There is nothing you can do. My son is my blessing though and I know that everything that happens will be for a reason. Thank you so much though. Your videos are a true help! I love them and share them on my page all the time!
Currently 6 months pregnant, you are so calming and peaceful but still so relatable. Thank you for this video
This is such a breath of fresh air! I keep saving them to my mommy watch later library on here for when baby arrives.. but just watching these is giving me less anxiety about being a new mom.. if that makes any sense lol
My little guy will be 2 months old on the 7th and it has been haaaard, his dad works out of town and I live hundreds of miles from my family. Thank you for your videos, you are the most relatable RUclipsr I have come across!
So same i am in same Situation
I am 15 weeks pregnant and your videos are amazing me and my husband have been watching them because we will be 1st time parents. You do amazing job
I love your videos a lot. I struggled as well with depression during pregnancy and when my son was born until he was 1 year old I felt I made the worst mistake of my life. I lost some friends but gained new. That was such a horrible and confusing time in a way that I still feel the pain when I think about it. Now life has become much better, he turned 2 this year and we have a great bond now. It was hard work, doing 3 times sport a week, buying clothes for myself and some lovely make up, meeting friends and most important we traveled three times to Canadian Island and that has helped me a lot. The weather and childfriendly people made life much easier. So I really recommend if you have a lovely friend somewhere in a country with beaches just go there and visit! 😊
Beautiful Jessica,
You're doing AMAZING ❤️ every time I watch your videos there is such a pleasure of the Lord over you. You're doing more and making more impact than you realize and you should be SO PROUD of all you're doing and how much people feel the Love of the Father through you! YOU GOT THIS mama!
Your videos are so helpful! Your voice is so calm and relaxing so when I’m feeling stressed and anxious I go to your videos now. Everything your expressing is how I feel and it feels so good not to be alone
i thought the title said "new baby giveaway"
Me too! 🤣🤣
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I will take one. Give him or her back after age 7. That's when they get annoying.
Love watching your videos! I’m only 30 weeks pregnant but definitely am absorbing your advise and love the way you let us ladies feel ok to feel not ok. Glad I found your channel! Will stay tuned! I’m in China without family or fellow mums and will try to do this crazy thing in this crazy country! Blessed that my mum has moved here to help when my little girl arrives but so thankful for vloggers that just “get” it! Keep posting! ❤️
Your videos are so real and insightful. I am four days past due with baby #6 and I wish I would have heard some of these things with my first few babies. The pressure can be so overwhelming to “do it all” and the mom guilt for taking time for yourself is crazy. But you are spot on and so inspiring! 🧡
Kelley Mortier 6 babies!! I want to learn from YOU!! Congratulations!!
Love your videos Jessica! Definitely feel very alone rn - My son is 2 months old and our first baby.. I am 24 and the first one in my friend group to have kids or be married even .. I live in the suburbs and I feel so different most moms around here as they are so much older than me and all seem to have their established groups already.. I am scared moms will not like me bc i am so much younger than them and definitely don’t have my life sorted out.. I have been nervous to go to one of these baby groups but this encourages me that sometimes it’s okay to only have that one thing in common so I might go! I found another mom in one of my night classes I’m taking that has a daughter two days younger than my son and it’s so refreshing to talk about it with her! Thank you for this! I wish you lived on the east coast so we could be friends. Come to NYC! 💙 xoxox
This is so helpful. I'm 26 weeks pregnant and not working and I feel really lost. For me seeking therapy especially from a therapist who's a mom is so helpful. My therapist is a mom to 16 month old twins and I appreciate how much she understands. I think more videos like this would be helpful. Your kind non judgmental voice just soothes me and helps me. Id love more videos about pregnancy and the uncertainty that comes with that
As a new mom I totally needed to hear this. You’re amazing, thanks for all that you do!
I love how honest you are!! Thanks for always sharing the best videos!
I love how real and honest you are!! I have an almost 4 year old and a 3 month old too! I can relate so much! Motherhood is just so much somtimes! So many emotions, worries and ups and downs. Loved your "don't like being a mom" video. I like and do not like the same things about it. It was so refreshing to hear another mom say those things out loud! I know we all think them at times! I love my kids but don't always like everything that comes along with being a mom. So true!
Your videos always make me feel so refreshed and warm inside, thanks for everything you do!
My problem is when I finally do get my newborn son down for a nap I prioritize my to do list, the house and others over myself. I think of all the things I need to get done and push my own self on the back burner. Thank you for this video, I just finished it and it inspired me to grab one of my old favorite books and my journal so I can start processing the mental load of becoming a new mom! I’m grateful for your positive presence on RUclips💛
I looooooooove you!!! Thank you so much!! I’m obsessed with your channel and spirit and the encouragement you give in every video. I’d love to see your tips on handling two kids- day to day life, any sleep advice if you find something that works, and just any other video! I’ll watch anything you do haha
Hang in there Jessica, being a mom is super challenging and there’s no “right way” of doing things. Whatever works for you and your family doesn’t always work for others. Do you work out? Working out even if it’s 30 mins a day is always helpful, maybe when the babies are napping. Continue drinking your coffee!! Im 38 weeks pregnant with my second child and sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with my 3 year old. He acts up and the baby hasn’t even arrived yet. I’m not exactly sure how I will manage. But I do predict me locking myself in the bathroom and crying in the near future 😘
I am so grateful for your down to earth and honest videos. Helps me feel normal and connected. I live in a very rural area and not originally from here so others are not as open to reach out to lonely mom life is real.
Hahaha I actually cannot get enough of you. Thank you for these videos.
The two month postpartum Canadian Jess
Another great video! Appreciate these insights. They are so comforting and full of light. I’d love to see a video on ways fathers can support moms after a newborn 😊
Buddy Bernor great idea!! Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️ you’re awesome for asking that.
I would love love love if you started a mom facebook group for your followers! I think that would be a great way for us to all support each other and then all the work doesn't just fall on you! We can all work to support each other!
You are such a lovely genuine person. I am 20 years old, I don’t have a baby, but I love watching your videos they’re so interesting and your voice is so soothing ❤️
what would help me is knowing my dreams and goals can still come true regardless of having a child. And I've seen some very discouraging videos with moms saying that you won't be able to clean anymore, you won't have a life anymore, etc. And I just don't choose to believe that.
Patricia Bazzani id love to make a video about this 💛 thank you!
Patricia Bazzani I have a four year old and I’m seven and a half months pregnant. I am 26. I am in college and writing a book. I have great plans and you know what, I actually didn’t have these dreams and plans before having a kid. My son doesn’t slow me down. He works on his letters, plays abc mouse, or plays with kenetic sand while I work on achieving my dreams by writing and doing homework. Being a mom doesn’t mean your dreams can’t come true! Sometimes it actually makes you work harder for them because you know someone who looks up to you is watching. I might not work as hard on achieving them when my daughter is born because I will be exhausted for a few months. Those months will pass and I will be working hard on them again. Kids are not dream killers. You can do whatever you set you mind too! Don’t give up or get down! You can reach your dreams!! Keep refusing to believe that you can’t achieve them because of being a mom. Us moms are awesome! We grow a living being inside of us, nurse it, love it, take care of it for 18+ years and also achieve goals!
@@carson551 wow thank you so much. You dont know what that means to me. Bless u!
Your videos are just so uplifting and inspiring. Two weeks ago I bought myself a Bullet Journal and took that up once again. That turned into doodling/sketching in it, which in turn made me desire to paint - so I bought some watercolours and paper (eagerly waiting on them to be delivered - thank you Amazon Prime). I've never really viewed myself as an artsy/creative person, although others have. So when you mentioned about making art, I felt you normalized what I'm doing. Not just me doing it to 'escape' for half an hour before my bedtime once our daughter is asleep. THANK YOU.
Wanted to add that one evening was especially hard and confusing for me, so I made a "mum guilt: the thoughts" spread in my Bullet Journal. It helped SO much to get all those thoughts out of my head. I actually let my husband read it so he understands more of where I'm coming from in our new life with a baby. 💖
Thank you so much! I needed this! I Love you!💝💝💝👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I am a first time expecting mother, and I watch a lot of your videos - I watched the "I don't like being a mom" and this one as well as was like ...o boy these will be scary videos... BUT I APPRECIATE THESE VIDEOS...b/c it's helping me already to be very INTENTIONAL about "not losing myself" if you will. and also that it is ok to feel a bit overwhelmed at times and that i will just need to pray and even get some alone time. I love your rawness and transparency on these harder topics. I believe most moms just want to be the best they can and sometimes may set unrealistic expectations on themselves - these videos help create that beautiful balance. I look forward to motherhood and also to implementing some of these ideas
Gosh. This was so helpful. So glad yt suggested this video for me to watch!!! Thank you!
Love all of your videos 💕 currently 7 mos pregnant. Do you have any favorite podcasts?
having other moms to talk to would be everything. especially moms of newborns and first time moms.
I need you to move to Maine!!! Lol. I'm 6 months pregnant and will be moving to Maine at around 8 months pregnant. I'll need a mommy friend!
I shared on my mom group bc your videos seriously helped me realize your mom style is the style i wanted to be 😬 relaaaaxed idk much of what I’m doing but I’m doing good lol
i found out a few weeks ago that i’m pregnant. i have my first ultrasound tomorrow. you’ve brought me great comfort as i’ve very quickly lost my mind
leannahello haha i laughed out loud at this comment. You’re awesome and you’re going to love your baby like crazy. So exciting.
I love all of your videos! Thank you thank you!
Love this - expecting a boy in November so this all useful
I didnt even see this video but already shared one of your videos when I came out lol... oh well hahaha. Made me laugh and I think it made others laugh when I shared it :)
@Jessica Hover your son is so adorable.
I'm not going to enter your giveaway because I'm lazy lol but I wanted you to know that I already shared the video about getting your body back on FB because I found it funny, and honest. I hope you get passed this phase quickly and that you feel more like yourself again.
Also, how you're holding your baby....is killing me! lmao I can't stop laughing about it.
MadMo you’re awesome thank you sooo much!!
I highly recommend reading the book "12 hours by 12 weeks" -- it's life-changing. Helps to ensure your baby will be sleeping well so you can focus on your own sleep and mental wellbeing! ❤️
I'm so happy I found your channel.
The list was helpful, but how do you find time for the things on this list?
Thanks for this! I’ll be sure to come back when my little gal is here 5mos from now 😍
This very realistic, thank you 🙏🏻
Can you make a video about transitioning to caring for a baby girl VS a baby boy? I’m terrified to care for my baby boy who is due on Jan and I have a 5 year old girl.
First off, love this! Such a good video to help validate others feelings. Second, where is your headboard from? I’m in love!
Elizabeth Mathews my brother in law made it! It’s gorgeous! But actually Im selling it because we need the dollar dollar bills. :)
Just had my baby 3 weeks ago today... it has felt so long because I am breast feeding so I feel lost these days, constantly being needed.
(wasn't prepared for zero breaks away from my baby)
I always want help but for some reason once someone actually comes over to help, I feel like i need to take this time to clean and or host. Like I can't seem to relax and nap. I hear my baby cry and automatically feel like what he needs is me. My mother in law occasionally cones to watch him while we go to get groceries but that also becomes stressful. "Don't give him a pacifier. I'm serious." .."he spits his milk out because of the pacifier" ..."he has trapped gas and constipation because of the pacifier" .." He can't sleep because he's used to a Pacifier" This is her main complaint toward me amongst many others...like how I should be giving him water and laying him on his side or just putting/ leaving him in the carseat for long periods of time vs using the strap carrier. Baby is only 6 weeks old and my pediatrician seems to have opposing advice so I'll listen to the pro. Ugh sorry I really needed to vent haha. I am a first time mom and having a hard time as it is. Was not able to breast feed my baby and it's taken a huge toll on me...sounds dramatic but it is a horrible feeling.
You should do a mommy FB group where moms can ask questions that hopefully get answered and also just a place for moms to vent about their bad days and boast about their good days! 😊😊
Thank you!!! 🙏🏼💗✨
He is growing so fast!
Thrush tip: grab the cream version of yeast infection cream and put it on clean dry nipples (wash first or rinse with water air dry) use between feeds then gently wash before feeding. That kills the yeast quickly.
Evening colic tip: I NEED coffee in morning to make it thru but, don’t exceed that first morning cup. Here’s why. Diary and foods aren’t only thing that effect baby. Coffee can make baby feel just like u do when you’re over caffeinated. They can be up more struggle to get to sleep act agitated. I noticed once I put two and two together my baby slept better which meant I slept better!
I have a toddler and am 35 weeks pregnant and I STILL FEEL LOST😭😭😭 Omgosh I’m already worry about how to deal with newborn and still take care of me... I gotta find mom friends soon!!!
Omg let me share something I've just discovered that has changed my housekeeping game: Tody!!! It's an app. I love it, and it makes keeping tidy so much more manageable for me. GIve it a try if you want, it's helped me be way more productive.
The Kondo method definitely has it's merit, but I don't thank my items. They're not sentient and I don't owe them anything. Plus as a Christian it feels inappropriate to me, like idolatry...but that's just from one Christian sister to another. Tons of love, you're an awesome mama!
“I love coffee...” 🤣😂 Drink as much coffee as you want. Speaking from experience, it can be pure happiness ☕️ and that’s ok!
I hope your channel grows and you do meet ups with subscribers and I meet you
I am having a baby in 4 weeks. How do you handle a crying baby for hours?
Read "Happiest Baby on the Block." Babies cry a lot but shouldn't cry for hours! There are ways to soothe them and meet their needs and not suffer through endless crying. Hope this helps and congrats on your new baby!
@@CCela1608,
Thank you so much! ❤💙🧡💛💚
You are soo funny. Thank you making me laugh. I have a newborn. Need some selfcare :o
I absolutely love you
I don’t have fb or instagram 😢
Can you do more Q&As with different themes?
I am a new mom of a two month old, my baby cries a lot too ;)
como ha crecido!! 😍😍
I read this as "self-care, and new baby giveaway!"
I need help shh shush and comforting and rocking for my baby girl
OMG I RELATE!
I bean having truble with my baby she won't stop crying i do shh shush her but its not working
Hi Jessica! Love the videos. Do you have a PO Box? I'd like to send you something. Have a good week!
Magdalena Espinoza thank you!!
11141 Osborne Street
Sylmar, Ca 91040 is our mailbox :)
Hi Jessica, I went to post office, but they said the address was wrong, is the zip correct? I don't know how to privately message you on youtube.
This video explains how am I 🤭
makeup routine please 🥰
I need help with my anxiety and depression
karina peters are you a Christian because I know a few verses that have helped me out in the past...
Proverbs 12:25 Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.
I hope that helps... Stick in there! Being a mom can be hard. Babies crying can be very challenging. It will pass and you are doing a good job! You can do this! You can all things through Christ who strengthens you! You were made for this and you are not alone either!! All of us moms have had those nights and times when our babies just cried forever and we have all felt like the worst parents in the world in that moment. You are not! You are doing a good job! Your baby is lucky to have you!
I’m up for the NEW BABY GIVEAWAY!!! I need to fly out again VERY SOON!!!! Help is in the way honey!!!💖🙏🙏🙏🙏💖
I am a new mom and totally relate to all the struggles that you mentioned. My son is 7 weeks old and I have never felt more exhausted and out of sorts in my life. I do prioritize his needs every day, and should look a bit more after myself.. as you also said, but it constantly feels like the hours just slip away and when I do get some alone time I just sleep or do stuff around the house that I usually did before baby. Just to get some comfort from the old stress-free routines I had. I also feel very isolated but hearing other moms having similar issues does help, so thank you for your videos! Love the content and let us all moms stay happy, healthy and positive together! 😁😎 Greetings from Romania!
Hahaha I can tell u consume a lot of coffee your talking 100 miles an hr love ya I want a kid one day but terrified
Sleep and crying
Talk talk
Hey love! I don't know why I'm commenting. You probably wont see this anyway. Just something inside is compelling me to message you. If you ever need a friend to chat with we can exchange ideas. We definitely come from different pasts and views/beliefs, but I have grace for you.
Girl, if you wanna drink coffee DO IT. Fuck the haters. Coffee is awesome and you could be doing heroine or some ish.