Yep. The way entirely too many men have reacted to MeToo has been to take Carl Benjamin and Paul Elam as their idols, by retreating into a state of permanent adolescence, including in the way we look out in public. This has just enflammed the moral panic even further
It’s not just what others think of you, but also what you think of yourself! So true! Growing older one has the tendency of being sloppy, ‘who cares’ sort of attitude. But as rightly said by you, if you dress well and treat others with respect, you will certainly be thought of as important. Also, as you grow older, people tend not to notice you wherever you go. But if you are dressed well and with some style, you get acknowledged. I’m taking care of these things and certainly find the difference. Thanks for your inspiring videos. ❤️❤️
Another gem! One of the first things I learned in the military, apart from listening twice as much as speaking, is that if you are on time….you’re LATE! I always strive to be at appointments 10-15 minutes early. Also, as I progressed in the ranks, I could not do my job unless my sailors were doing their jobs. Giving credit and recognition is supremely important. Park the ego and give credit where due.
my wife and i went to a nice waterfront resort this past weekend. when walking in wearing a sportcoat, i was immediately treated better by the staff. the person pouring my scotch was really generous. all this took was wearing a sportcoat and acting decently.
Although maybe not directly connected, maybe maybe not, my rules for air travel: Look nice, smell nice, be nice. Factors that elude many these days, given that fact (social media videos underline this) if you stand out for the right reasons you gain better treatment from cabin crew.
For most of my life I had tried to be as casual as I could get away with. I became interested in dressing better about a year and a half ago and started following your channel and several others. I really wish I had done it sooner-just a slight elevation in style to chinos, polo or button down shirts, and better footwear. I can vouch for your statement that it makes a difference in how people look at me and treat me. I feel good.
Hi from Brisbane Australia - Absolutely love your channel 100%. In my early sixties now but still always take pride in my appearance. I work out, swim regularly, and keep on top of my grooming, and yes dress maturely and masculinely. I'm always staggered by how few of us mature (And even younger) guys take real pride in our appearance, our manners, and our attitudes etc. Recently travelled to England via USA (5 x days in USA, 3 weeks in England) and it's amazing just how well I was treated whilst travelling by sporting a simple pair of dark blue 501's, classic navy blazer, brown chelsea boots, long sleeved ironed white oxford shirt "tucked in", brown belt, and my trusty stainless steel automatic Swiss watch!! My travel bag is a forty-year-old weathered brown leather messenger bag. May I, please, and thank you etc cost nothing to say, yet achieve so very much. "Manners maketh the man" is as relevant now as it was a hundred years ago. I KNOW that I would not have been given the same stellar service by all I met if I was rocking what most guys do, a la t-shirt, shorts, sneakers and sloppy nylon backpack slung over the shoulder. A simple, clean, classic, understated and masculine style will always trump the modern "activewear" casual look each and every single time. Add in good manners, and good grooming you simply can't fail. Please keep up the good work and thank you....
Making my way back from Europe last year, I was dressed rather sharply (I've been following you for awhile now and have incorporated much of what you suggest to elevate my wardrobe/style). I was in the customs line at LAX. The customs agent said, literally, "Are you an actor? You look like an actor." This was in LA!! So yes, you can look a little more "important" by upping your wardrobe a bit.
John! Sometimes your video topics come at the right time in my life.... today was one of those days! Loved it. #legend Professionalism... one thing I stopped doing at the office and with my co workers was cursing WAYYY too much.... it was ignorant and unneeded.
Theres a saying feel healthier on the inside and be healthier outside. Look good on the outside feel good on the inside, it is so correct and to be honest very easy to do. Great video my friend as always, have a great day.
Hi John, you are on target. Your ideas about fashion work. Whenever i dress better and just throw on a sport coat, people go out of their way to help me
I'm married for 32 years now, so I'm long out of the game. Thank God. With that said getting laid or meeting a woman for a relationship was always pretty darn easy. His advice about looking good is 100% true. Also, never wear a smart watch, ever! Buy a grown up watch. More importantly, show some confidence, and don't act desperate or dopy. Let the woman talk. Keep your mouth shut and listen to them. Act the part, be smooth, not too smooth though. Be a man. Simple.
Agree so much about punctuality. In a business setting it demonstrates that you’re organized and you know how to prioritize. In a social setting, it demonstrates the importance of the event and respect for others’ time. I know people who are consistently late for everything and it drives me nuts. Fortunately, my wife is like me, so we’re never on each other about not being ready or running late to some engagement.
Not everyone is a watch expert, but it pays to get a good one. Something you know is reliable. Something like a Hamilton, Seiko, Citizen, or Tissot is a good starting point.
Spot on as always. And can I offer some more? 1. If you’ve got grey hair and are dying it, stop. Your grey signifies that you are someone with experience, someone “old enough” to be “important”. Your age isn’t a liability, middle aged guys, it’s a source of your power, so to speak. Don’t hide it. 2. Work on your fitness. No, you don’t need to be big or jacked. But if you’re in reasonable shape and not overweight, ESPECIALLY as you get older, you’re treated a little differently. By mid last year, my wife and I had got out of shape. Typical dad/mom bods. We got serious, took care of the issue, both dropped back down to what we weighed in high school. Immediate positive difference in how both of us are treated, regardless of how well we are dressed at the moment. And the effect seems multiplied when out together and dressed well.
Great video on this. The goal is to strive to do many of these steps. I just snagged another pair of jeans that are a darker wash, but I now have blue shoes, blue belt, and a blue polo to go with it for a monochrome blue outfit.
Recently, I bought a nice pair of chelsea boots and I wore them to a wellness check-up I had with my doctor the other day. Anyway, the process began when a female medical assistant asked me step-up on some scales and when I did, she said, "I like your boots." I want you to know that, John, because I bought that style of shoe according to your recommendation and you are right; women like chelsea boots even if she thought I was fat. LOL
For me, the idea of dressing well to make people believe that you are important is something misleading, especially for yourself, you are already important just because you are a human being, and you can add value to yourself, developing a good character and good values. Knowing how to "dress well" or learning how to "dress well" only adds a good presentation to your personality.
Another great video, have been attempting to figure out exactly how to social network and have a circle of friends that are like minded or trying to achieve certain goals. Any ideas? How about possibly creating a video on the subject
I tried the low cost high fashion watches and you get what you pay for. I recently purchased omegas worldtimer gmt and let me say when I wear that watch it’s not even close. Downside is the cost of course😂
I'd like to add a pet peeve of mine... Use a handshake, not a fist bump. Unless you're getting into an actual fighting ring/cage/etc with me, you haven't earned a fist bump.
The world was better before the internet. Sure, sharing information and knowledge is a good thing, but the internet also allows sharing of not so nice things. As a child of the 80s, life was better than it is now. If I could go back in time, sorry Tim Berners Lee, but the internet would never have been developed. Great video John.
yee rigth like some one will go and spend 300-400 on watch from a unknow brand that may despaired in 2 years , and 100 buck for a rubber strap !!! are joking !!! and will have no resale value , just like if buy a watch from allyxpress at 20-50 or want good watch just get a seiko , casio orient citizen ,
Recommending punctuality goes against the title of the video. You say, when you are consistently late you are projecting the messaging your time is more important - which is exactly what you would want if you are trying to look more important. :) In my personal experience, it is expected that every meeting with C-level folks - they are always late. Being late, meetings getting cancelled, or moved at the last minute are the normal for the most important people. The less late they are it illustrates how important the other people are. I don't actually recommend purposely being late, but "professionalism" and "importance" are not the same thing.
Very true ! Yrs ago after a long night shift at the Post Office, sat in the train station waiting for the 2am special. Dark green winter parka, wool cap and my greying beard, a bit unkempt. Was approached by officer who asked me to produce my ticket. A good laugh over that one .
True but relevant to culture. In South America if you show up at a girl's house on time they think that means you want to get married they expect you to be 20 minutes late or even an hour late. I have no idea why that is but it is. Perhaps they feel they are the leader and in control and the women look up to that or perhaps then he can be apologetic and smother her with adoration. Perhaps only a sociologist or s psychotherapist can figure this one out.
That kind of attitude is the reason why they’re still behind the rest of the world. Also, I don’t know what country you’re talking about, but that doesn’t apply to Brazil. I dated a couple Brazilian women in the US and they liked it when I was on time, not late.
@@alan30189 In South America outside of Brazil, brazil is seen as a different continent. Also you were not in the context of South America and that affects how they think and act I know this for a fact because I've brought my wife from Ecuador to the US and she changed in the first 2 years.
@@alan30189 Also the reasons for them being behind is very much more complicated than whether you're on time or not. That's a discussion for another time.
dude,you have an 8:57 piece with a 1:50 sponser ad in the middle, plus YT sticks in pre and post ad content as well. i like your stuff, but that SUCKS.
Sort of. Similarly, is it stupid dressing poorly/ wrongly and drive a more than basic car? Many people do. IMO, people put money where they see value, doesn't need to be all at the same level.
Click aura.watch/fashion and get 30% OFF all watches and straps with my code ‘fashion’ at checkout! Thank you AURA Watch for sponsoring today’s video!
My experience has been that the better I dress, the better I’m treated. When people think of you as more important, they treat you better.
This is absolutely true!
💯
Yep. The way entirely too many men have reacted to MeToo has been to take Carl Benjamin and Paul Elam as their idols, by retreating into a state of permanent adolescence, including in the way we look out in public. This has just enflammed the moral panic even further
Have you had it the other way round? Experienced it the other evening out for dinner.
It’s not just what others think of you, but also what you think of yourself! So true! Growing older one has the tendency of being sloppy, ‘who cares’ sort of attitude. But as rightly said by you, if you dress well and treat others with respect, you will certainly be thought of as important. Also, as you grow older, people tend not to notice you wherever you go. But if you are dressed well and with some style, you get acknowledged. I’m taking care of these things and certainly find the difference. Thanks for your inspiring videos. ❤️❤️
My pleasure! Thanks for watching!
Image is important but the attitude is what makes the entire difference.
Great point!
Another gem! One of the first things I learned in the military, apart from listening twice as much as speaking, is that if you are on time….you’re LATE! I always strive to be at appointments 10-15 minutes early. Also, as I progressed in the ranks, I could not do my job unless my sailors were doing their jobs. Giving credit and recognition is supremely important. Park the ego and give credit where due.
Thank you very much!
As a European living in the US , if you dress better you're automatically commanding respect.People treat you differently.
Another great video !
Thank you!
my wife and i went to a nice waterfront resort this past weekend. when walking in wearing a sportcoat, i was immediately treated better by the staff. the person pouring my scotch was really generous. all this took was wearing a sportcoat and acting decently.
Although maybe not directly connected, maybe maybe not, my rules for air travel: Look nice, smell nice, be nice. Factors that elude many these days, given that fact (social media videos underline this) if you stand out for the right reasons you gain better treatment from cabin crew.
For most of my life I had tried to be as casual as I could get away with. I became interested in dressing better about a year and a half ago and started following your channel and several others. I really wish I had done it sooner-just a slight elevation in style to chinos, polo or button down shirts, and better footwear. I can vouch for your statement that it makes a difference in how people look at me and treat me. I feel good.
Thanks for sharing!
Hi from Brisbane Australia - Absolutely love your channel 100%. In my early sixties now but still always take pride in my appearance. I work out, swim regularly, and keep on top of my grooming, and yes dress maturely and masculinely.
I'm always staggered by how few of us mature (And even younger) guys take real pride in our appearance, our manners, and our attitudes etc. Recently travelled to England via USA (5 x days in USA, 3 weeks in England) and it's amazing just how well I was treated whilst travelling by sporting a simple pair of dark blue 501's, classic navy blazer, brown chelsea boots, long sleeved ironed white oxford shirt "tucked in", brown belt, and my trusty stainless steel automatic Swiss watch!! My travel bag is a forty-year-old weathered brown leather messenger bag.
May I, please, and thank you etc cost nothing to say, yet achieve so very much. "Manners maketh the man" is as relevant now as it was a hundred years ago.
I KNOW that I would not have been given the same stellar service by all I met if I was rocking what most guys do, a la t-shirt, shorts, sneakers and sloppy nylon backpack slung over the shoulder.
A simple, clean, classic, understated and masculine style will always trump the modern "activewear" casual look each and every single time. Add in good manners, and good grooming you simply can't fail.
Please keep up the good work and thank you....
Appreciate this! Thank you for sharing!
Making my way back from Europe last year, I was dressed rather sharply (I've been following you for awhile now and have incorporated much of what you suggest to elevate my wardrobe/style). I was in the customs line at LAX. The customs agent said, literally, "Are you an actor? You look like an actor." This was in LA!! So yes, you can look a little more "important" by upping your wardrobe a bit.
Ha! Love that!
John! Sometimes your video topics come at the right time in my life.... today was one of those days! Loved it. #legend Professionalism... one thing I stopped doing at the office and with my co workers was cursing WAYYY too much.... it was ignorant and unneeded.
Thanks Eric!
I like how you condense a subject down to 9 minutes, thank you. 👍
Yup, when you look good you feel good 👌🏻
100%
Another beauty, John! You're killing it, brother!!
#Legend
Thank you!
Yet another killer video. I like that lately, you're not only providing good advice, but things for us to ponder.
Thank you!
Theres a saying feel healthier on the inside and be healthier outside. Look good on the outside feel good on the inside, it is so correct and to be honest very easy to do. Great video my friend as always, have a great day.
Yes! Thank you!
And I ordered a watch. 30% off is a fantastic deal, too. Thanks for making that available.
My pleasure!
Hi John, you are on target. Your ideas about fashion work. Whenever i dress better and just throw on a sport coat, people go out of their way to help me
I'm married for 32 years now, so I'm long out of the game. Thank God. With that said getting laid or meeting a woman for a relationship was always pretty darn easy. His advice about looking good is 100% true. Also, never wear a smart watch, ever! Buy a grown up watch. More importantly, show some confidence, and don't act desperate or dopy. Let the woman talk. Keep your mouth shut and listen to them. Act the part, be smooth, not too smooth though. Be a man. Simple.
Getting laid whilst married or before?
Agree so much about punctuality. In a business setting it demonstrates that you’re organized and you know how to prioritize. In a social setting, it demonstrates the importance of the event and respect for others’ time. I know people who are consistently late for everything and it drives me nuts. Fortunately, my wife is like me, so we’re never on each other about not being ready or running late to some engagement.
Well said!
Thanks John.
I heard a person carries their rank in life with their eyes, so have eyes that says determination and confidence!!
Not everyone is a watch expert, but it pays to get a good one. Something you know is reliable. Something like a Hamilton, Seiko, Citizen, or Tissot is a good starting point.
Absolutely!
Thank you for this !
My pleasure!
Hey, nice bit of modelling on the Aura website! Congrats!
wow....just found your channel. Such great content, brother. Thanks for all of this!
Cheers, brother! Thank you!
Let's not forget humility.
Spot on as always.
And can I offer some more?
1. If you’ve got grey hair and are dying it, stop. Your grey signifies that you are someone with experience, someone “old enough” to be “important”. Your age isn’t a liability, middle aged guys, it’s a source of your power, so to speak. Don’t hide it.
2. Work on your fitness. No, you don’t need to be big or jacked. But if you’re in reasonable shape and not overweight, ESPECIALLY as you get older, you’re treated a little differently.
By mid last year, my wife and I had got out of shape. Typical dad/mom bods. We got serious, took care of the issue, both dropped back down to what we weighed in high school. Immediate positive difference in how both of us are treated, regardless of how well we are dressed at the moment. And the effect seems multiplied when out together and dressed well.
Love the additions! Thank you!
So true….Well groomed men and women always get more respect!
Great video on this. The goal is to strive to do many of these steps. I just snagged another pair of jeans that are a darker wash, but I now have blue shoes, blue belt, and a blue polo to go with it for a monochrome blue outfit.
Thank you John
My pleasure!
Recently, I bought a nice pair of chelsea boots and I wore them to a wellness check-up I had with my doctor the other day. Anyway, the process began when a female medical assistant asked me step-up on some scales and when I did, she said, "I like your boots." I want you to know that, John, because I bought that style of shoe according to your recommendation and you are right; women like chelsea boots even if she thought I was fat. LOL
Haha! Well done!!
Another great video, John; legend
Thank you very much!
For me, the idea of dressing well to make people believe that you are important is something misleading, especially for yourself, you are already important just because you are a human being, and you can add value to yourself, developing a good character and good values. Knowing how to "dress well" or learning how to "dress well" only adds a good presentation to your personality.
Great video John!!! 👊🏻
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!
Another great video, have been attempting to figure out exactly how to social network and have a circle of friends that are like minded or trying to achieve certain goals.
Any ideas? How about possibly creating a video on the subject
Go to places that you enjoy being at... 🎉
@@CoachSteveJandS sure I understand that philosophy however still don't really know anybody let alone thier intentions
Great video Sir, you always deliver.
I appreciate that!
Leather isn't breathable, which is an issue in warm weather. Any suggestions for alternative upper materials?
Love the topic & watches
Thank you very much!
Great video!
Great video! Is like you to check out Original Grain. I purchased a whiskey barrel wood model
As always, great video. Very good ideas. Only those sponsored watches🤨...
I tried the low cost high fashion watches and you get what you pay for. I recently purchased omegas worldtimer gmt and let me say when I wear that watch it’s not even close. Downside is the cost of course😂
hey John, great content, as always - tell us about you augmented bicep tat! - looks way better :)
I'd like to add a pet peeve of mine... Use a handshake, not a fist bump. Unless you're getting into an actual fighting ring/cage/etc with me, you haven't earned a fist bump.
The world was better before the internet. Sure, sharing information and knowledge is a good thing, but the internet also allows sharing of not so nice things. As a child of the 80s, life was better than it is now. If I could go back in time, sorry Tim Berners Lee, but the internet would never have been developed. Great video John.
yee rigth like some one will go and spend 300-400 on watch from a unknow brand that may despaired in 2 years , and 100 buck for a rubber strap !!! are joking !!! and will have no resale value , just like if buy a watch from allyxpress at 20-50 or want good watch just get a seiko , casio orient citizen ,
Recommending punctuality goes against the title of the video. You say, when you are consistently late you are projecting the messaging your time is more important - which is exactly what you would want if you are trying to look more important. :) In my personal experience, it is expected that every meeting with C-level folks - they are always late. Being late, meetings getting cancelled, or moved at the last minute are the normal for the most important people. The less late they are it illustrates how important the other people are. I don't actually recommend purposely being late, but "professionalism" and "importance" are not the same thing.
Good point, but most high-level folks also understand how to prioritize. Being on time and respecting someone else’s time shows them importance.
If you see a guy with a booger dangling or an open fly...do him a solid and inform him.
Better than being dressed like "May be a homeless guy, should we call security?!?"
Very true ! Yrs ago after a long night shift at the Post Office, sat in the train station waiting for the 2am special. Dark green winter parka, wool cap and my greying beard, a bit unkempt. Was approached by officer who asked me to produce my ticket. A good laugh over that one .
uh sometimes being calm when you have been wronged can be a sign of weakness, fear is weapon instill fear in other and they will respect you
😊❤🎉💯!
those guns!!!! 💪
LMAO. Alex.. oh the Try Hard of this young kid.
True but relevant to culture. In South America if you show up at a girl's house on time they think that means you want to get married they expect you to be 20 minutes late or even an hour late. I have no idea why that is but it is. Perhaps they feel they are the leader and in control and the women look up to that or perhaps then he can be apologetic and smother her with adoration. Perhaps only a sociologist or s psychotherapist can figure this one out.
That kind of attitude is the reason why they’re still behind the rest of the world. Also, I don’t know what country you’re talking about, but that doesn’t apply to Brazil. I dated a couple Brazilian women in the US and they liked it when I was on time, not late.
@@alan30189 In South America outside of Brazil, brazil is seen as a different continent. Also you were not in the context of South America and that affects how they think and act I know this for a fact because I've brought my wife from Ecuador to the US and she changed in the first 2 years.
@@alan30189 Also the reasons for them being behind is very much more complicated than whether you're on time or not. That's a discussion for another time.
dude,you have an 8:57 piece with a 1:50 sponser ad in the middle, plus YT sticks in pre and post ad content as well. i like your stuff, but that SUCKS.
I rarely wear watches because I have an unusual small wrist for a guy 🙄😐⌚⌚
There are 38mm watches for men..
Dressing up seems stupid if you can't back it up with the right car and house/appartment.
Sort of.
Similarly, is it stupid dressing poorly/ wrongly and drive a more than basic car? Many people do.
IMO, people put money where they see value, doesn't need to be all at the same level.
LIFE LESSONS in this episode.
oh no. you lost me by peddling those garbage watches
Thou shall not judge. One man’s garbage is another man’s treasure. Why you gotta hate on my man?
Happy Monday all. Be blessed?
Well said John, another great video.
Appearances and image is so important! 👏👏👏👏🦘🦘🦘🦘
Thank you!
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