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After getting divorced last year, I took the opportunity to improve all areas of my life. This channel has helped me to push myself in so many ways. I lost 95 lbs and have used John's videos to help me rebuild a new, better looking and much better fitting wardrobe. I now look at old pictures of myself and just shake my head. The knowledge I've gained from this channel has changed my life. Thanks, John!
It's natural to wonder if different choices earlier in life could have prevented a divorce. It's often the case that we only make significant changes after experiencing adversity. For myself, I made some major changes in my fifties that had a positive impact on my life and inadvertently inspired my wife to do the same. We look and feel better than ever and have a great relationship. I have to give credit to John, who encouraged many of these changes without even realizing it.
I'm a full time caregiver for my wife with Alzheimer's and I make a point of dressing both of us nice. It would be easy to spend the day in pajamas but I feel better and making her look nice also makes me feel better. Earlier this year she had home health coming and the physical therapist told us that we were some of the best dressed people he visited.
Its not about anyone else . Its about SELF RESPECT . As you get older ,your tastes may have to change , but you never ever give up . If you dress well and take care of yourself , chances are you will be more positive and live longer . I dont do it for compliments , I do it for me . I have a beautiful wife and 2 beautiful daughters , I dont want them looking at me , and thinking " the old man ,has given up " 😂
P.s ...its absolutely nothing to do with having large amounts of money . I dont wear designer clothes ...at all , most of it is bs . 1 - find your style 2 - find colours that suit you , and you are comfortable in All the rest is the boring stuff ...health , sleep , excercise , diet . Oh and listening and taking tips from men over 40 👍
This was absolutely brilliant! I am a woman, and I am always so impressed when I see a man dressed like he cares. When he is dressed, and looks put together. If a guy is a five, he immediately goes to an eight if he looks like he has style and cares.
Perfect timing for this video. I was looking at my closet a couple of days ago and thought "I really need to step it up and grow up". I'm one of those guys who says that I don't care what other people think, but now is the time to do it for my own self-respect and confidence.
Thank you for this! I'm a woman who has been living in t shirts and yoga pants. Today I wore an actual shirt and pants and felt like a confident new person! I know you're geared towards men, but your advice is helpful for everyone!
It definitely helps you feel more confident, but it also just helps in so many subtle ways without being “what other people think of me.” Every time you walk into a hotel lobby or ask where the bathroom is you’re giving yourself just that extra little edge of charisma that opens doors and puts people around you at ease. It’s also just nicer for everyone else, and given how slobby so many people are, even a middling effort gives you an advantage.
I don't care what other people think about me. But I do care that other people understand what I think about myself. The way we present ourselves plays such a huge part in that. Simple things like posture, grooming, and clothing can speak so much louder than words.
I’ve found that dressing nice-even put-together causal-makes me feel more confident. And it’s also a fun way to reinvent yourself in a small way each day as I put together outfits. One day I lean dapper, another day I lean street. I enjoy it!
Hi John, after my divorce, I really work on myself. One way was to present myself in a more confident manner. I am often told that I’m “ too dressed up” when all that I have on is an Oxford and chinos. Either way, it makes me feel better about myself and it gives me more confidence to dress better.
I love dressing up and looking presentable. Yesterday I was at an art gallery and was approached by 2 women and we spoke for a bit. I'm sure it had to do mostly with the fact that I was dressed nicely.
great video. I have been “dressing better” for years now. I often receive compliments at work on my clothing- even women saying “ I wish my husband dressed better. Unfortunately, (or fortunately) it’s easy to dress better then most men and stand out because most folks just don’t seem to care that much about their appearance. My brother uses the “ I don’t care what other people think of me” line often. I will continue to be mindful of my appearance because I have experienced first hand the difference in how people interact with you when you are well dressed.
Once again well said John. Dress for yourself and not for others….part of self confidence comes from looking good in what you’re wearing. If you look good you feel good. It comes through that way in others eyes as well. Have a great summer! Peace, health and happiness to you!
I dress well for MYSELF. It just makes me feel great and boosts my mood. When dressing well, I never have to worry about feeling poorly about how I look if I should meet someone whilst I’m out and about. Rightly or wrongly, people’s initial perceptions are formed in the first 30-45 seconds of meeting. It takes further time to listen to peel back the layers. Dressing looking like one just rolled out of bed or ready to scrub the kitchen floor doesn’t send a positive message does it. 🤔 #Legend
Man I’m so happy that you dropped this! I was dressed in one of my best and I paid attention to the reaction of people. It was definitely worth looking better than the general public! Love you! Thanks again for the content!
I have taken this advice to heart and noticed how it changes things. I see many men dressed as overgrown teenagers where I live on the weekends especially. I think the taking it up a notch combined with a healthy mental attitude makes a huge impression. Even a t-shirt and jeans combination can work, especially with good looking shoes or boots, situational awareness being key. Not a fan of Jordan but he makes an excellent point here. Thanks again John for all you do here.
Yes I still prefer to wear decent jeans, t-shirts (in warm weather) or other comfortable clothes to some extent according to my own personal tastes and preferences as long as they’re not boorish or too childish regardless of my age. I mainly like to dress like that in public places where others are dressed the same so I won’t feel left out
That senator from Pennsylvania is a walking example of the devolution of American men. Meets the president of the us in clothes you would mow the lawn in..ridiculous
Men, we should make an effort! I see too many people, including myself at times, and we have gotten lazy! We are happy looking sloppy! Dress well, catch the eye of someone, and who knows what the future might be!!! Great video John!
I agree to some extent. I wish there were nicer jeans and t-shirts made for men like the ones made for women without men looking overtly feminine. I want to dress that way according to my own personal tastes in places where others including women are dressed the same
Excellent video John! Legendary even. We should most definitely dress better for ourselves first and foremost. If we don’t care how we look, no one else will either.
I’m 37 this year and beginning to realize the importance of dressing up as a more mature man and going more smart casual. I’ve always admired Jordan Peterson’s fashion sense. I aspire to be as sophisticated as him.
I need to give you a big thanks, I've been following you for around a year or so now and really took big steps to improve my wardrobe and how i look at all times (I also have more shoes/boots than my wife now LOL). People definitely notice and my confidence (even though I'm happily married) has grown immensely b/c I know i look good and feel good....thank you!
Up until this day i still remember this saying a friend of mine from hs told me "dress your age not your shoe size". For some reason that has always stuck until this day and totally makes sense.
Legend!! Thanks for these tips John!! Growing up in the U.K., business type school uniforms with blazers and ties for the boys were the mandatory national standard...even in public schools back in the 80s. It taught us as kids back then how to dress professionally for the professional world once we graduated. Still wear business suits to the office here in South Florida as I work in the courthouse. I'm not a lawyer so I don't have to wear a suit, but I do for myself and my self respect. It's not to impress anyone.. it's just how I was raised and yet I still get the respect from men and admiration from women....because they don't know WHO they are greeting when they greet me!! It also makes you feel better about yourself!! Even on "casual Fridays" I up my game on my causal dress!! Someone once said "How you dress is how you want to be addressed" and that's so true!! 👍
I think a T-shirt is OK if it is a solid color, fits correctly, and is paired with a denim jacket, or nice chore coat. Just make sure it is appropriate for the occasion.
Absolutely agree John. If you dress well, it’s a statement of how you feel about yourself. The only issue I have are shoes. Recently had bunion surgery and my feet are messed up from work in 31 years at UPS. I have some great casual, but classy, looking loafers that I can’t wear. 😢
Good video, you hooked me some time back. Your content goes farther than just 40+ men, I'm 64 and it's helped me tremendously. I've also found that it's really not that expensive to maintain what I call a stylish, "healthy" looking wardrobe for every day casual and dress occasion wear. Thanks.
Those polo shirts that feature a 4 bottom placket, open sleeves, and pointed collar are the golf shirts of the '70's & '80's. Two of the most popular brands were Pickering, and Hathaway.
The one thing I dislike about Collars & Co is the somewhat shiny fabric. I much prefer the elegant and timeless polo made with cotton pique weave fabric as it's much more classy. Cotton pique drapes much nicer than these. Just my humble opinion. If C&C can make a pique cotton polo with a better collar, I'm in.
I just don't like those collars, and prefer the classic polo collars. They're great if you wear a polo with a sports coat or suit, but I don't do this.
It first hit me when I was about 34 and my dress sense was still roughly the same from my student days and I didn't really care about how I looked, until 2 guys got on the same train carriage going home from work, both late 40's possibly early 50's. One dressed very well (For example, Brown Brogues, dress jeans, blue shirt, nice watch and a Tweed Sports coat) while the other resembled Steve Buscemi from the "How do you do Fellow Kids" Meme, cap and all. One looked great, the other was the butt of jokes by other travellers on the carriage long after they left. The well dressed guy, a little over 10 years on is still among the first people I think of on how a older gent should dress and the template I hold myself against and the other guy, a cautionary tale, for trying to recapture long gone youth or those days when I don't feel like making the minimum effort when I step outside
For me it’s not about other people’s perceptions although I agree that’s reality. It’s about being multidimensional and appreciating the esthetics of color, fit and fabrics. Look at photos from the 1950-60s - suits and dresses. I like todays open rules but a nice suit that you chose, or shoes, allow you to transform on the spot. They’re conversation starters. Casual dress is great, but so is taking it to the next level.
Yeah, I feel the same way, when I want to be in an environment where I want to dress a little more elevated, I will do my best to do so, but if I'm going to the corner store or Walmart, why should I care about how l look.
Absolutely. Going to Walmart isn’t the same as going to a concert or dance party. Its not safe to dress nicely in poverty stricken areas anyhow which there are more now
Been wearing casual long/short sleeve linen shirts instead of athletic shirts for a while. They're casual and they look good (and comfortable). You also won't go poor buying them.
I like dressing up for a reason like a wedding, graduation, etc. Other wise, I’m a biker. Denim and black leather. Now that I think about it, I just wore the leather to a wedding‼️
Thank you so very much for posting. I live in New York and it's currently a or perhaps was always a oxymoron of men's fashion practicality. Once the fashion capital of the east coast at least with a throbbing garment district with all the ancillary industries and communities feeding it, it's changed quite a bit. I was once an athleisure body boy BEFORE it was a trend, so many years ago, when most men across the board were dressing up, regardless of what anyone thought, it was the norm. But I've always known the importance of how in my youth how my clothing impacted my OWN experience and in turn how others responded to me. I'm a suit wearer. Summer suit, winter suit, I always have an ensemble of some sort at the ready. And yes, the summer scorchers put me squarely in the air conditioning 😅. I noticed and envied, especially since I've aged, how women NO MATTER the day or occasion are ALWAYS on another level when it comes to their presentation to the world. I admired that and wanted them to have something good to look at too, so I immediately changed my groove. Loafers are great. The Alden suede/ leather tassel version is beautiful/ sturdy. Again, thank you for your the sharing of your experiences and expertise.
Great, practical advice on how to present yourself well. I think self respect has a lot to do with it. It takes real courage to make an effort and stand out from the crowd. However, the extra effort is so worth it. I like the saying " Am I extra, or are you just BASIC? Says it all. Legend!
Same with me. I dress according to my own personal tastes wearing decent jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) without looking boorish or obscene so I can feel free and liberated in places where others including women are dressed the same regardless of my age
For me , I first notice this a few years ago. I walked into a Staples store in shorts and a tee shirt and no one looked at me. A few days later, I walked in to the same store, only this time I was wearing slacks and a polo shirt. Store employees that didn't even look up , where waiting on me hand and foot. Having said that, I dress nice for my own pleasure.
This message is so needed! At least clean/polish your shoes! I did a series of interviews with men who appeared to be over 55 years old at the mall. (My age group.) I asked, "What's wrong with young men today?" Over 80% commented on how they dressed - baggy pants, hanging low and ill-fitting pants and shirts, underwear showing, sloppy appearance. Then I started to point out men of our age and how they looked. They suddenly had excuses for their sloppy appearance - pants low because of weight, underwear showing because of the lack of a belt, sloppy t-shirts and pants for mobility issues, etc. The bottom line, it was OK for their age group to dress like that, but young men had to dress better. 🫣
I have found one major downside to dressing well, I’m a working musician and when I dress well at my solo gigs I tend to not sell any merch, it’s like people look at me and think “I’m not giving him any money, he’s clearly got plenty of his own” I’m sell way more stuff when I go with just jeans and a T shirt.
discovered the videos by accident earlier today and I'm glad I did. Picked out 10 random videos, some new and some a little older, and I liked what I saw. very cool and useful tips you present. they are not advanced either, on the contrary quite simple some of them, but still brilliant. Will get through all the videos eventually and I'm sure I'll be using many of your tips. thank you very much John. this was brilliant
If in a relationship or not.... I like to be seen as an attractive man for my own pleasure. I don't care if other men think differently.... I like the positive feedbacks from women
Right on point as usual John. I find it difficult to believe that grown man honestly doesn't feel better about themself when their dress is "elevated". Come on, I would be hard-pressed to be convinced that a man in sloppy sweatpants and t-shirt doesn't feel better even a pair of jeans and better shirt choice so long as those clothes fit appropriately. Now if the same individual hasn't bought any new clothes and their old better clothing choices are too tight and they simply refuse to go shopping that's an entirely different story and question. You need to respect yourself enough to care.
This is provided men can find decent t-shirts (in warm weather) and jeans in stores which are difficult. I like to dress that way in places where plenty of others including women are dressed like that for my own pleasure and comfort. I understand about not looking boorish or hip hop
Thanks to this channel, I now won't leave the house without a collar unless I'm exercising. If I'm wearing trainers, that's because I'm exercising. I absolutely love polo shirts but I treat these as my minimum standards.. 😊
Great content, John. There seems to be a trend - for summertime at any rate - towards men wearing shoes without socks. For a young guy, maybe, but I don't think it is a good look for those of us over 40. What do the viewers of this channel think?
I agree. I’m in my 60’s. I’ll wear no-show socks with shorts but not with pants. And yes, I wear shorts in the summer. I live in Las Vegas and summer afternoons are often 100 - 105 degrees.
Hi Legend, I need a sock tutorial. When I was a kid, mowing the lawn in black socks was out. Now casual socks are all black. When can I were ankle socks, when can I wear no-shows? I’m lost, please help!
You know the old saying, “ Look good. Feel good.”? Sometime in my late 30s, my confidence reached a new level. I concluded that my wardrobe had to match the state of mind I was in. My thought became, “Feel good. Look good.” Now, I find dressing down a little challenging.
My pet peeve for middle-aged men - backwards baseball caps. 😬 I ditched my flip flops years ago and all my baseball caps. T-shirts with logos about 4 years ago thanks to John and other fashion channels. #legend
I like to wear decent jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather only) according to my own personal preferences in places where others are dressed the same including women. However, it’s more difficult to find decent ones for men in stores
I enjoy your channel so much. I have seen a big change since the pandemic where grown men are dressing down ALL the time. I am even disappointed in the NBA where known well dressed coaches are now wearing sweatshirts on the sidelines. Even my well dressed pastor no longer wear ties during his Sunday sermons. ☹️.
I think that " i dont care what people think of me" is entirely the point. We should care what people think of us. The only people that dont care are the people that know what others think of them, and those are usually losers
There are those that complain that, "Dressing like your children is unadult", while I say dressing in a suit on a hot day at Disneyland with your children is asinine... Dressing well has it's place, but dressing practical does as well... 🤔
I believe adults can wear jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) in places where lots of others including women are allowed to dress the same regardless of age based on their own personal preferences
Thank you! I have been repulsed by the slovenliness that has taken over American men. A few weeks ago I checked into the Shelbourne in Dublin (only 5 star hotel in Ireland) with my 90 year old mother who lives in the Florida Keys. She said out of the blue how good it was to see men dressed well and well groomed!. She then went on to say how good it is to seen men in white shirts with ties. I agreed and remarked there were no rediculous haircuts. These were men of different ethnities. All of them were clean shaven. Wha a relief that at least some men understand. I wish it would catch on. I used to like beards. Now, men don't shave heir necks and it looks terrible. And, that diabolical looking soul goatee is worn out. I have seen only one man that looked good with it. Please keep up the good work!
fashion depends in which part of the world you're at. You wouldn't be rocking a suit in a tropical country, i.e. the Philippines or during a hot summer. Choose your clothes accordingly and, obviously, do not wear flip flops unless you're walking to the beach.
First, as a guy who wears sweaters whenever the weather permits; I really love yours, great choice. Second, there is a neurological reason for the feelings you describe by doing it for yourself, and Jordan Peterson can explain that way better than I can. Basically, being the best dressed individual in the group makes your brain release hormones that assist you in becoming the leader of that group. All else being equal, the best dressed wins. It is why male peacocks have tails.
Let’s not over-look the fun factor, think of getting dressed as a form of art if you put in the w effort you get better results like any form of art. There is nothing wrong about trying on or holding up every button down you own with a pair of pants and finding the best match.
Spot on. My wife and I always notice, in Vegas, in particular, couples that are at dinner or whatever and the woman is nicely dressed with a dress on and nice shoes, and the dude has his best Ed Hardy t-shirt and Rainbow sandals on, often accessorized with baseball cap. WTF?
I dress accordingly in places where others are dressed the same. However, I like to wear jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) according to my own personal tastes in public places such as amusement places where plenty of other people are dressed the same way regardless of my age so I won’t be discriminated against.
In these days of MGTOW and men walking off into this solitary lifestyle. We need to do things to make ourselves feel better. I love casual yet "grown up" clothing on the weekend because I am a grown man and I am not a child anymore. I love wearing a suit some days because I look amazing in it. But I also love a good polo when necessary or button down shirt or even a henley. I'm also a big fan of these minimal colors and wearing actual watches and not digital watches. It makes me feel good to be a man. I have the grey hairs to prove it and it makes me excited for what's next.
The advantage of people out there wearing pajamas and sweats is...that even when I'm dressed down (say sneakers, jeans and a tee shirt) I look better than them.
Western world is a world of adolescence Ive noticed in my life Beauty in woman is in the hair and makeup and men is in the clothes they wear Personally im over wearing black aside from maybe jox n sox as its the colour of death Blue suits remind me of authority and there out too Greens are too much army So i find greys are great
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After getting divorced last year, I took the opportunity to improve all areas of my life. This channel has helped me to push myself in so many ways. I lost 95 lbs and have used John's videos to help me rebuild a new, better looking and much better fitting wardrobe. I now look at old pictures of myself and just shake my head. The knowledge I've gained from this channel has changed my life. Thanks, John!
You’re very welcome!
It's amazing how much better our lives get for us after divorce.
It's natural to wonder if different choices earlier in life could have prevented a divorce. It's often the case that we only make significant changes after experiencing adversity. For myself, I made some major changes in my fifties that had a positive impact on my life and inadvertently inspired my wife to do the same. We look and feel better than ever and have a great relationship. I have to give credit to John, who encouraged many of these changes without even realizing it.
I'm a full time caregiver for my wife with Alzheimer's and I make a point of dressing both of us nice. It would be easy to spend the day in pajamas but I feel better and making her look nice also makes me feel better. Earlier this year she had home health coming and the physical therapist told us that we were some of the best dressed people he visited.
That's beautiful ❤❤❤
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I salute you. My father is a full time care giver for my mother back home who is bed ridden. And that's amazing that you both dress nice. Respect 🙏
🙌🙏inspired
You are a GREAT man. Youve given me more motivation to respect myself. God Bless
Its not about anyone else .
Its about SELF RESPECT .
As you get older ,your tastes may have to change , but you never ever give up .
If you dress well and take care of yourself , chances are you will be more positive and live longer .
I dont do it for compliments , I do it for me .
I have a beautiful wife and 2 beautiful daughters , I dont want them looking at me , and thinking " the old man ,has given up " 😂
Very well said!
P.s ...its absolutely nothing to do with having large amounts of money .
I dont wear designer clothes ...at all , most of it is bs .
1 - find your style
2 - find colours that suit you , and you are comfortable in
All the rest is the boring stuff ...health , sleep , excercise , diet .
Oh and listening and taking tips from men over 40 👍
This was absolutely brilliant! I am a woman, and I am always so impressed when I see a man dressed like he cares. When he is dressed, and looks put together. If a guy is a five, he immediately goes to an eight if he looks like he has style and cares.
Perfect timing for this video. I was looking at my closet a couple of days ago and thought "I really need to step it up and grow up". I'm one of those guys who says that I don't care what other people think, but now is the time to do it for my own self-respect and confidence.
Love it!
Thank you for this! I'm a woman who has been living in t shirts and yoga pants. Today I wore an actual shirt and pants and felt like a confident new person! I know you're geared towards men, but your advice is helpful for everyone!
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing!
Good luck, Starlett. I’m really dealing with financial problems, but I’ll be trying too, soon I hope.
My father use to tell me, they threat you like they see you. Always dress Nice. Excellent Chanel, great help for over 40s like me. Apreciate it
It definitely helps you feel more confident, but it also just helps in so many subtle ways without being “what other people think of me.” Every time you walk into a hotel lobby or ask where the bathroom is you’re giving yourself just that extra little edge of charisma that opens doors and puts people around you at ease. It’s also just nicer for everyone else, and given how slobby so many people are, even a middling effort gives you an advantage.
100% correct! Thanks for commenting!
I don't care what other people think about me.
But I do care that other people understand what I think about myself.
The way we present ourselves plays such a huge part in that. Simple things like posture, grooming, and clothing can speak so much louder than words.
I’ve found that dressing nice-even put-together causal-makes me feel more confident. And it’s also a fun way to reinvent yourself in a small way each day as I put together outfits. One day I lean dapper, another day I lean street. I enjoy it!
So true!
Hi John, after my divorce, I really work on myself. One way was to present myself in a more confident manner. I am often told that I’m “ too dressed up” when all that I have on is an Oxford and chinos. Either way, it makes me feel better about myself and it gives me more confidence to dress better.
I love dressing up and looking presentable.
Yesterday I was at an art gallery and was approached by 2 women and we spoke for a bit. I'm sure it had to do mostly with the fact that I was dressed nicely.
Love it!
great video. I have been “dressing better” for years now. I often receive compliments at work on my clothing- even women saying “ I wish my husband dressed better. Unfortunately, (or fortunately) it’s easy to dress better then most men and stand out because most folks just don’t seem to care that much about their appearance. My brother uses the “ I don’t care what other people think of me” line often. I will continue to be mindful of my appearance because I have experienced first hand the difference in how people interact with you when you are well dressed.
Two words: Self Pride...and OWN IT!
Once again well said John. Dress for yourself and not for others….part of self confidence comes from looking good in what you’re wearing. If you look good you feel good. It comes through that way in others eyes as well. Have a great summer! Peace, health and happiness to you!
Thank you very much!
I dress well for MYSELF. It just makes me feel great and boosts my mood. When dressing well, I never have to worry about feeling poorly about how I look if I should meet someone whilst I’m out and about. Rightly or wrongly, people’s initial perceptions are formed in the first 30-45 seconds of meeting. It takes further time to listen to peel back the layers. Dressing looking like one just rolled out of bed or ready to scrub the kitchen floor doesn’t send a positive message does it. 🤔 #Legend
Man I’m so happy that you dropped this! I was dressed in one of my best and I paid attention to the reaction of people. It was definitely worth looking better than the general public! Love you! Thanks again for the content!
I have taken this advice to heart and noticed how it changes things. I see many men dressed as overgrown teenagers where I live on the weekends especially. I think the taking it up a notch combined with a healthy mental attitude makes a huge impression. Even a t-shirt and jeans combination can work, especially with good looking shoes or boots, situational awareness being key. Not a fan of Jordan but he makes an excellent point here. Thanks again John for all you do here.
Yes I still prefer to wear decent jeans, t-shirts (in warm weather) or other comfortable clothes to some extent according to my own personal tastes and preferences as long as they’re not boorish or too childish regardless of my age. I mainly like to dress like that in public places where others are dressed the same so I won’t feel left out
That senator from Pennsylvania is a walking example of the devolution of American men. Meets the president of the us in clothes you would mow the lawn in..ridiculous
Men, we should make an effort! I see too many people, including myself at times, and we have gotten lazy! We are happy looking sloppy! Dress well, catch the eye of someone, and who knows what the future might be!!! Great video John!
Thank you very much!
I agree to some extent. I wish there were nicer jeans and t-shirts made for men like the ones made for women without men looking overtly feminine. I want to dress that way according to my own personal tastes in places where others including women are dressed the same
Excellent video John! Legendary even. We should most definitely dress better for ourselves first and foremost. If we don’t care how we look, no one else will either.
I’m 37 this year and beginning to realize the importance of dressing up as a more mature man and going more smart casual. I’ve always admired Jordan Peterson’s fashion sense. I aspire to be as sophisticated as him.
I need to give you a big thanks, I've been following you for around a year or so now and really took big steps to improve my wardrobe and how i look at all times (I also have more shoes/boots than my wife now LOL). People definitely notice and my confidence (even though I'm happily married) has grown immensely b/c I know i look good and feel good....thank you!
Great to hear this! You’re very welcome!
Up until this day i still remember this saying a friend of mine from hs told me "dress your age not your shoe size". For some reason that has always stuck until this day and totally makes sense.
Thanks again John and the comment section. Respect ourselves and others will follow suit. I always feel great when I step out looking my best.
Absolutely!
Legend!! Thanks for these tips John!! Growing up in the U.K., business type school uniforms with blazers and ties for the boys were the mandatory national standard...even in public schools back in the 80s. It taught us as kids back then how to dress professionally for the professional world once we graduated. Still wear business suits to the office here in South Florida as I work in the courthouse. I'm not a lawyer so I don't have to wear a suit, but I do for myself and my self respect. It's not to impress anyone.. it's just how I was raised and yet I still get the respect from men and admiration from women....because they don't know WHO they are greeting when they greet me!! It also makes you feel better about yourself!! Even on "casual Fridays" I up my game on my causal dress!! Someone once said "How you dress is how you want to be addressed" and that's so true!! 👍
I think Mick Jagger has nice old school style.
Take pride in yourself that sums it up
I absolutley feel better about myself when I am dialed in with my clothes. Its just a great way to increase confidence and self esteem.
So true!
I think a T-shirt is OK if it is a solid color, fits correctly, and is paired with a denim jacket, or nice chore coat. Just make sure it is appropriate for the occasion.
Absolutely agree John. If you dress well, it’s a statement of how you feel about yourself.
The only issue I have are shoes. Recently had bunion surgery and my feet are messed up from work in 31 years at UPS. I have some great casual, but classy, looking loafers that I can’t wear. 😢
Thank you John.
When you dress good, you feel good.
Sincerest thanks for some of your insights, John. Wishing you the best on your journey.
Thank you! Same to you!
Good video, you hooked me some time back. Your content goes farther than just 40+ men, I'm 64 and it's helped me tremendously. I've also found that it's really not that expensive to maintain what I call a stylish, "healthy" looking wardrobe for every day casual and dress occasion wear. Thanks.
Love it! Thank you!
I say that all the time. I can tell what era you peaked in by the way you dress… you still can’t let it go!
Exactly!
Those polo shirts that feature a 4 bottom placket, open sleeves, and pointed collar are the golf shirts of the '70's & '80's. Two of the most popular brands were Pickering, and Hathaway.
The one thing I dislike about Collars & Co is the somewhat shiny fabric. I much prefer the elegant and timeless polo made with cotton pique weave fabric as it's much more classy. Cotton pique drapes much nicer than these. Just my humble opinion. If C&C can make a pique cotton polo with a better collar, I'm in.
I just don't like those collars, and prefer the classic polo collars. They're great if you wear a polo with a sports coat or suit, but I don't do this.
Valuable tips for life. Thanks, John!
Any time!
It first hit me when I was about 34 and my dress sense was still roughly the same from my student days and I didn't really care about how I looked, until 2 guys got on the same train carriage going home from work, both late 40's possibly early 50's. One dressed very well (For example, Brown Brogues, dress jeans, blue shirt, nice watch and a Tweed Sports coat) while the other resembled Steve Buscemi from the "How do you do Fellow Kids" Meme, cap and all. One looked great, the other was the butt of jokes by other travellers on the carriage long after they left. The well dressed guy, a little over 10 years on is still among the first people I think of on how a older gent should dress and the template I hold myself against and the other guy, a cautionary tale, for trying to recapture long gone youth or those days when I don't feel like making the minimum effort when I step outside
Great story!
Self respect, confidence and self esteem all improve when you dress better, people treat you better as well...and women really do notice!
Absolutely true!
Great video John! I bought Collars and Co thanks to you your recommendation. I am really impressed! Cheers!
Cheers Chris!
For me it’s not about other people’s perceptions although I agree that’s reality. It’s about being multidimensional and appreciating the esthetics of color, fit and fabrics. Look at photos from the 1950-60s - suits and dresses. I like todays open rules but a nice suit that you chose, or shoes, allow you to transform on the spot. They’re conversation starters. Casual dress is great, but so is taking it to the next level.
Yeah, I feel the same way, when I want to be in an environment where I want to dress a little more elevated, I will do my best to do so, but if I'm going to the corner store or Walmart, why should I care about how l look.
Absolutely. Going to Walmart isn’t the same as going to a concert or dance party. Its not safe to dress nicely in poverty stricken areas anyhow which there are more now
Been wearing casual long/short sleeve linen shirts instead of athletic shirts for a while. They're casual and they look good (and comfortable). You also won't go poor buying them.
I agree. You don’t need a suit. Elevated basics are enough. ❤
I like dressing up for a reason like a wedding, graduation, etc. Other wise, I’m a biker. Denim and black leather. Now that I think about it, I just wore the leather to a wedding‼️
I disagree to the statement there is no downside. The downside is the cost. Not all of us are rich millionaires.
It’s not safe here in North America to dress elegantly in public places where there’s lots of poverty which is increasing in major Canadian cities
Thank you so very much for posting.
I live in New York and it's currently a or perhaps was always a oxymoron of men's fashion practicality.
Once the fashion capital of the east coast at least with a throbbing garment district with all the ancillary industries and communities feeding it, it's changed quite a bit.
I was once an athleisure body boy BEFORE it was a trend, so many years ago, when most men across the board were dressing up, regardless of what anyone thought, it was the norm.
But I've always known the importance of how in my youth how my clothing impacted my OWN experience and in turn how others responded to me.
I'm a suit wearer. Summer suit, winter suit, I always have an ensemble of some sort at the ready. And yes, the summer scorchers put me squarely in the air conditioning 😅.
I noticed and envied, especially since I've aged, how women NO MATTER the day or occasion are ALWAYS on another level when it comes to their presentation to the world.
I admired that and wanted them to have something good to look at too, so I immediately changed my groove.
Loafers are great. The Alden suede/ leather tassel version is beautiful/ sturdy.
Again, thank you for your the sharing of your experiences and expertise.
Great, practical advice on how to present yourself well. I think self respect has a lot to do with it. It takes real courage to make an effort and stand out from the crowd. However, the extra effort is so worth it. I like the saying " Am I extra, or are you just BASIC? Says it all. Legend!
Well said!
I retired from the military last week, and I can confirm the mental boost you get from wearing that uniform!
Thank you for your service!
@@40OverFashion Thank YOU Sir. If I wear the loafers at 6:53 w/jeans and a buttoned shirt, do I wear socks?
I dress for myself not please other people .if I get a compliment that's icing on the cake . But I do it to please myself
I try to dress nice I leave lounge wear at home
I love your videos
Same with me. I dress according to my own personal tastes wearing decent jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) without looking boorish or obscene so I can feel free and liberated in places where others including women are dressed the same regardless of my age
For me , I first notice this a few years ago. I walked into a Staples store in shorts and a tee shirt and no one looked at me. A few days later, I walked in to the same store, only this time I was wearing slacks and a polo shirt. Store employees that didn't even look up , where waiting on me hand and foot. Having said that, I dress nice for my own pleasure.
Thanks again John as always!
My pleasure!
Agreed Again!!
This message is so needed! At least clean/polish your shoes!
I did a series of interviews with men who appeared to be over 55 years old at the mall. (My age group.) I asked, "What's wrong with young men today?" Over 80% commented on how they dressed - baggy pants, hanging low and ill-fitting pants and shirts, underwear showing, sloppy appearance.
Then I started to point out men of our age and how they looked. They suddenly had excuses for their sloppy appearance - pants low because of weight, underwear showing because of the lack of a belt, sloppy t-shirts and pants for mobility issues, etc. The bottom line, it was OK for their age group to dress like that, but young men had to dress better. 🫣
Very interesting!
I have found one major downside to dressing well, I’m a working musician and when I dress well at my solo gigs I tend to not sell any merch, it’s like people look at me and think “I’m not giving him any money, he’s clearly got plenty of his own”
I’m sell way more stuff when I go with just jeans and a T shirt.
discovered the videos by accident earlier today and I'm glad I did. Picked out 10 random videos, some new and some a little older, and I liked what I saw. very cool and useful tips you present. they are not advanced either, on the contrary quite simple some of them, but still brilliant. Will get through all the videos eventually and I'm sure I'll be using many of your tips. thank you very much John. this was brilliant
Thank you Roger!
love the white cardigan
Thank you! It’s from Weston Jon Boucher. Local San Diego guy. Nice dude.
Legendary, John. Thanks for including the thoughtful comments of Jordan Peterson too. Eye-opening.
My pleasure Tony! Thanks for watching!
If in a relationship or not.... I like to be seen as an attractive man for my own pleasure.
I don't care if other men think differently.... I like the positive feedbacks from women
100%
Self respect dude. It took me years to understand that. I dress decently, or at least try to not for anyone else but for me!
Great video John, thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Right on point as usual John. I find it difficult to believe that grown man honestly doesn't feel better about themself when their dress is "elevated". Come on, I would be hard-pressed to be convinced that a man in sloppy sweatpants and t-shirt doesn't feel better even a pair of jeans and better shirt choice so long as those clothes fit appropriately. Now if the same individual hasn't bought any new clothes and their old better clothing choices are too tight and they simply refuse to go shopping that's an entirely different story and question. You need to respect yourself enough to care.
This is provided men can find decent t-shirts (in warm weather) and jeans in stores which are difficult. I like to dress that way in places where plenty of others including women are dressed like that for my own pleasure and comfort. I understand about not looking boorish or hip hop
Damn! Your killer videos just keep coming! Love it. Thanks John.
Thanks Alan!
Nice Jordan P. excerpt.
Thanks!
Loving that this is broken into chapters ❤
Good personal hygiene, dressing well and essentially making an effort every day is good for your physical and mental wellbeing.
Thanks to this channel, I now won't leave the house without a collar unless I'm exercising.
If I'm wearing trainers, that's because I'm exercising.
I absolutely love polo shirts but I treat these as my minimum standards.. 😊
And funny thing is that polo's ain't expensive but looks cool.
Great content John.
Thank you!
Personally, I prefer v necks over t shirts. Looks a thousand times better
I have broad shoulders and crew necks grab my neck too tight. Vnecks are a god send
@@MRindependentTHINK same except for the neck part. V necks do a wonderful job in highlighting the torso.
Great content, John. There seems to be a trend - for summertime at any rate - towards men wearing shoes without socks. For a young guy, maybe, but I don't think it is a good look for those of us over 40. What do the viewers of this channel think?
Personally, I like the look, and I wear no-show socks, quite a bit in the warm weather. I live in a warm climate and no-show socks are a game changer.
@@40OverFashion In my area, no socks puts my bare ankles at easy mosquito reach.
I agree. I’m in my 60’s. I’ll wear no-show socks with shorts but not with pants. And yes, I wear shorts in the summer. I live in Las Vegas and summer afternoons are often 100 - 105 degrees.
Hi Legend, I need a sock tutorial. When I was a kid, mowing the lawn in black socks was out. Now casual socks are all black. When can I were ankle socks, when can I wear no-shows? I’m lost, please help!
Why not a suit? Especially in colder weather, it's so easy suit and white shirt. Works everyday.
Good info-thanks!
Thanks for watching Steve!
You know the old saying, “ Look good. Feel good.”? Sometime in my late 30s, my confidence reached a new level. I concluded that my wardrobe had to match the state of mind I was in. My thought became, “Feel good. Look good.” Now, I find dressing down a little challenging.
Hi. Your white top, What is it & where did you get it from please.
It’s a cardigan from Weston Bouchér. Love it!
My pet peeve for middle-aged men - backwards baseball caps. 😬
I ditched my flip flops years ago and all my baseball caps. T-shirts with logos about 4 years ago thanks to John and other fashion channels.
#legend
Legend!
@@40OverFashion remove tattoos too
Especially EXCESSIVE
Great channel. I wear t-shirts all the time, but they have to be good quality with depth of color. I wear St Croix Collection.
I like to wear decent jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather only) according to my own personal preferences in places where others are dressed the same including women. However, it’s more difficult to find decent ones for men in stores
Hi I was just wondering does this simple dress code apply to men in their sixth
you gotta love Dr Peterson's sense of style!
How do you dress up on a super hot day? Good clothes and shoes look awful when you’re constantly sweating.
If you look good you feel good !
Absolutely!
I enjoy your channel so much. I have seen a big change since the pandemic where grown men are dressing down ALL the time. I am even disappointed in the NBA where known well dressed coaches are now wearing sweatshirts on the sidelines. Even my well dressed pastor no longer wear ties during his Sunday sermons. ☹️.
How about shorts? Golf shorts vs denim shorts? Can a polo shirt go with denim shorts? 🤔
If Peterson said it, I am all in. I actually have heard this speech by Jordan many times - "cause they are sick of dressing like kids"!!!!
I think that " i dont care what people think of me" is entirely the point. We should care what people think of us. The only people that dont care are the people that know what others think of them, and those are usually losers
There are those that complain that, "Dressing like your children is unadult", while I say dressing in a suit on a hot day at Disneyland with your children is asinine... Dressing well has it's place, but dressing practical does as well... 🤔
I believe adults can wear jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) in places where lots of others including women are allowed to dress the same regardless of age based on their own personal preferences
Thank you! I have been repulsed by the slovenliness that has taken over American men. A few weeks ago I checked into the Shelbourne in Dublin (only 5 star hotel in Ireland) with my 90 year old mother who lives in the Florida Keys. She said out of the blue how good it was to see men dressed well and well groomed!. She then went on to say how good it is to seen men in white shirts with ties. I agreed and remarked there were no rediculous haircuts. These were men of different ethnities. All of them were clean shaven. Wha a relief that at least some men understand. I wish it would catch on. I used to like beards. Now, men don't shave heir necks and it looks terrible. And, that diabolical looking soul goatee is worn out. I have seen only one man that looked good with it. Please keep up the good work!
Thank you! Will do!
fashion depends in which part of the world you're at. You wouldn't be rocking a suit in a tropical country, i.e. the Philippines or during a hot summer. Choose your clothes accordingly and, obviously, do not wear flip flops unless you're walking to the beach.
First, as a guy who wears sweaters whenever the weather permits; I really love yours, great choice. Second, there is a neurological reason for the feelings you describe by doing it for yourself, and Jordan Peterson can explain that way better than I can. Basically, being the best dressed individual in the group makes your brain release hormones that assist you in becoming the leader of that group. All else being equal, the best dressed wins. It is why male peacocks have tails.
Great point! Thanks Ron!
Love this vid 👍👍👍
Legend
Let’s not over-look the fun factor, think of getting dressed as a form of art if you put in the w
effort you get better results like any form of art.
There is nothing wrong about trying on or holding up every button down you own with a pair of pants and finding the best match.
Spot on. My wife and I always notice, in Vegas, in particular, couples that are at dinner or whatever and the woman is nicely dressed with a dress on and nice shoes, and the dude has his best Ed Hardy t-shirt and Rainbow sandals on, often accessorized with baseball cap. WTF?
Exactly.
I dress accordingly in places where others are dressed the same. However, I like to wear jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) according to my own personal tastes in public places such as amusement places where plenty of other people are dressed the same way regardless of my age so I won’t be discriminated against.
In these days of MGTOW and men walking off into this solitary lifestyle. We need to do things to make ourselves feel better. I love casual yet "grown up" clothing on the weekend because I am a grown man and I am not a child anymore. I love wearing a suit some days because I look amazing in it. But I also love a good polo when necessary or button down shirt or even a henley. I'm also a big fan of these minimal colors and wearing actual watches and not digital watches. It makes me feel good to be a man. I have the grey hairs to prove it and it makes me excited for what's next.
Well said! Thank you for commenting!
The advantage of people out there wearing pajamas and sweats is...that even when I'm dressed down (say sneakers, jeans and a tee shirt) I look better than them.
I like to wear decent jeans and t-shirts (in warm weather) in places where others including women are dressed the same
Your style separates the men from the boys. End of story. #legend BTW the 'Staying Alive John Travolta drop was absolute gold.
Ha! Exactly!
I think to that extent, though, making the decision to dress better _does_ change who you are. For the better.
Western world is a world of adolescence
Ive noticed in my life
Beauty in woman is in the hair and makeup and men is in the clothes they wear
Personally im over wearing black aside from maybe jox n sox as its the colour of death
Blue suits remind me of authority and there out too
Greens are too much army
So i find greys are great
sir, i like your videos. good content. my personal take on j peterson is avoid. i wish you the best.