7 Downsides to Being a Well-Dressed Man
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Dressing well also makes you realize how ugly the world around us has become, I will always choose beauty and elegance over repulsiveness !
This is so true, especially when you see the fellow man. It's refreshing to see another well dressed gentleman and I'm never afraid to give a compliment when it's due. However, the average man seems to look like they were dressed by their mother or they simply can't be bothered. Either way is wrong, in my opinion. Self respect is pivotal for a gentleman.
THIS is what you call, “being a pompous ass”. I mean, I wouldn’t call you that, because I’m sure you’ve got some way to rationalize away what I’m saying, even though I’m “one of the beautiful ones”. Certainly 99% of the world would tell you to pull your head out of your ascot.
Spot on.
Agreed. I think comic book man in The Simpsons is what too many middle aged men look like. I'll go for the Frank Sinatra look.
@@davidk2906
💯 🎯.
I once heard someone say: “if you are overdressed you might feel ridiculous, but if you are underdressed you are ridiculous.”
Love that quote.
and Leo Buscaglia's quote too, (from advice from his mom) Always better to risk on the side of being overdressed, than too casual. If you wear a jacket & tie, you can simply take it off, but if you were too casual, you can't magically just materialize it
I mean, sure--but one could really swap the two around and it's just as snappy, just as logical-sounding. Never really got the point of these kinds of quotes.
@@eh86055 i don't think these are swappable. If you are under-dressed at an event you can't magically dress up.
@@michaelpoplawski2998--unless you want to be seen in an undershirt, I don't think it's particularly easy to dress down either. And where would you store the clothes you remove?
It was just a thought at any rate, nothing serious.
EVEN WHEN I GO RUN ERRANDS I AM DRESSED LIKE A QUEEN. IDGAF ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS.
One of my favorite quotes is from Tom Ford "Dressing well is a form of good manners."
Of course Tom Ford would say that 😂
In all seriousness it’s a good thing to do
Who has good manners nowadays?
Tom Ford is so pedestrian.
@@sitbone3 I had to search that shit up. Tom ford is hella expensive from what I saw of it years ago. I think I’ll stick to my limited edition wranglers 🤣
@@johnsmithwesson9996Mr Ford I can't afford 🤣
"Dressing well is a form of self-respect"
Especially if you lack confidence from other sources.
I agree, aspiring to achieve Masculine excellence is something that takes work and should garner respect not hate or envy.
Cheers
Very tru all , over dressed for normal life can put you in an odd space also.
Dressing well is about respect. It is respecting yourself and others.
Well said
@@Gent.Z However, I don’t see why people cannot continue to wear decent jeans, decent t-shirts (in warm weather) or other casual comfortable clothes based on their own personal tastes in recreational places, shopping malls, amusement parks, sporting events, concerts or just going outside without looking boorish or sloppy. I just want men to be able to dress that way in places where some of the women are dressed in a similar way since I support gender equality; otherwise this is gender discrimination which isn’t socially acceptable. I don’t want anything forced upon us like a dictatorship which would be restrictive and oppressive. Most people don’t want to be like the ultra conservatives either
@@cliffcaverley2377They can. Don't let these guys on here with their elitist attitude tell you otherwise. It's a reason why people can't stand these type of guys.
ZZ Top said it best, “all the girls go crazy over a sharp-dressed man!”
Every*
Not in america
You didn't even get the quote right. LOSER!!!!
Face is law.
They’re looking at your bank account, not you. I’m sure that’s fine for some guys but having a nice face and smile is much cheaper and more successful.
The worst thing about wearing a suit in public is when people assume you're staff. "I'm so sorry, I thought you were the manager". "I appreciate that ma'am, but this is a hardware store".
I wore my tuxedo to a play and during the intermission I was asked if I was the conductor.
OMFG ... LOL ... been there myself !
Sure enough every time I go to the symphony if I stand anywhere near the entrance to the section I'll be asked to locate people's seats. I'm tempted to send them on a journey.
@@mikeymik2maybe you should adjust the way you present yourself to not look like waitstaff instead 😅
@@dva5610 But it's fun to hand out programs and put everyone in the wrong seats.
I was interested in a girl, I ran into her at a coffee shop, and sat with other people. I had a fresh hair cut, trimmed mustache, a blue polo shirt, and one of my best watches..a new pair of jeans, and one of my best shoes for going out..shined to perfection. If I wasn't in work clothes, I always dress nice and casual.
She said in front of me that I was too well groomed, dressed too nice..if she wasn't interested, she could have been more mature but she decided to go low when I went high. I stopped seeing her that night.
My ex wife had a similar problem... picking apart my outfits but I ignored her.
Gentlemen, I believe that part of dressing nice is being with someone who doesn't try to dim your shining light...let her if she does that.
See what happens when you try to do them a favor. The fates probably did one for you.
Society all but tells men,”it’s not necessary to be the best version of yourself.” When it comes to the practice of dressing well, I use a sports analogy. It’s something coaching can’t teach.”
You were possibly too well dressed for the occasion and the person. She may have been a nice person but if she showed up casual and you showed up smart then she may have felt under dressed and a lady would not like that. Did she know that you are a a well dressed person as so many are not?
Her loss. You keep on being you. Most women have no fashion sense these days. Few men, either, sadly.
Her belief was you outshone her with your your style. Men should dress with subtle style.
I’m 23 and the only downside for me is I’m a mechanic and work on classic cars, so I only wear suits on the weekend’s. Though I still try to look nice by wearing a pair of classic brown overalls and a watch. I’ve ruined a couple of good shirts with oil stains because I always end up working on my own cars at the weekend 😂
Wear classic functional men's wear when you're working on something. Well dressed doesn't mean suits (or blazer and slacks) only or exclusively. Invest in anything you wear to get altered. New coveralls for work? Buy them off the rack, and then have them tailored for a awesome fit. Or, buy them oversized online and have them adjusted and taken in. On the flip, quality old school jackets, slacks and suits from the thrift store. My suggestion and 2 cents.
@@luckyrockwood4026 I never thought of getting coveralls altered, that’s a really good idea. I also must invest in more cheap good looking workwear.
To be fair the only time’s I’ve been caught wearing a suit in the garage is when at a friends house on a Sunday and we end up pulling an engine out just out of boredom. I’ll definitely look into getting coveralls altered. Thank you for the advice 🙏
Caractacus Potts👍
It's great to wear good clothes in your own time when you have a dirty physical occupation. I enjoy the contrast between being scruffy and messy when doing work or exercise, then changing into my good clothes.
@@iandougall7169 I actually quite like the messy hair and oily hands and face look and smelling of diesel just as much as wearing a suit and having a slick pompadour. Kind of makes me feel more masculine🤣
My job is not to intimidate the poorly dressed. My job is to encourage them to up their game:)
Exactly 💯
I feel the same. The other day, my boss actually told me that I have inspired him to want to dress better. He started asking me questions about my clothes.
I like the message. Keep putting in work!
That's the proper way to look at it! You don't cast an air of superiority. You inspire others.
Unfortunately, modern culture has grown men dressing like little boys.
I would like to add, it's never been easier to achieve masculine excellence.
Hit the gym, stay on top of your grooming, and dress well at all times.
Do those three things and see how exceptional you become and are percieved. To hell with the haters!
However, I believe there’s no need to dress finer in normal casual places such as amusement parks, recreational places, shopping malls, music concerts, sporting events or just walking outside as long as people aren’t dressed in a boorish or sloppy way. There are nice ways people can wear jeans, t-shirts (in warm weather) and other comfortable clothes where others including women are dressed the same.
I found a treasure yesterday in a second hand shop; a men’s made in England wool three piece suit in navy blue, never worn! I paid 40€. I am taking it to my tailor for adjustments. It is gorgeous, I am really thrilled!
Good for you. I’ve never had luck in second hand shops but I recently bought a suit on eBay for the first time. I’ll be making a video about the result
I’ve had luck on three occasions with Canali of Milan suits I got off eBay. The first was a navy blue two piece in superb condition that fitted as if it were made for me. It always got compliments. One time, as I walked into a lounge bar, a woman on her way out, bumped into a pillar because she couldn’t take her eyes off me 😂😂😂. I also found I got better service when I wore it. I only paid £40 for it! Best luck I’ve had with a suit. The other two were a double breasted light tan suit in Madagascar wool (as it said on the label) which I still have, and I wear the wide legged slacks with my navy blazer. The third was a double breasted grey sharkskin which also turned heads. I love being dressed in lovely clothes. My current favourite is a black made-to-measure overcoat of 80% wool 20% Alpaca, which is really heavy and looks so expensive. I don’t have a lot of money and shop as carefully as I can. If people don’t like it, it’s their problem.
@@jazzman1626 I so agree! Every wardrobe piece I have is carefully scrutinised and selected. I buy when I have budget and the best quality I can afford. I am very proud of my clothing and shoes. My motto is less is more. Well done on the Canali suits. Canali is really superb in terms of quality and style. Well done you!!!!
P.s. You have NO idea how much, we women LOVE a well dressed curated man. It makes such a difference, especially nowadays when the majority of men seem to not to care and are very content walking around like slobs.
@@vanessaeriksson1212
Thank you for your kind words. One time, I was chatted up by a good looking older woman. I only turned her down because I’m married, but it was very flattering and gave me a much needed boost at the time.😁
@@jazzman1626 I promise you, good etiquette and grooming and women are thrilled. Such gentlemen are scarce in any class segment. Keep up the good work 👍🏻 Women are appreciative.
Looking good is a polite way of putting the world around yourself On Notice, that you Expect Better.
Sure, it also tells everyone that you think you're better which is why most guys dressed up get negative treatment. There's one guy in our office that dress up everyday, even on casual Friday and he's hated by everyone. Mainly because he's an asshole.
"Being well-dressed doesn't mean being overdressed." 👏It's always good to see another style video from you!
Thanks Jeremiah. Will have another one coming next week
I agree. I get confused when well dressed is use to mean formally dressed. in that sense even a visit to your kid's school will require you to suit up
A downside for dads of small children is keeping them from wiping their faces and hands all over your clothes 😂
Just had my first and I am beginning to realize this.
Being a (well-dressed) dad and now a grandad - I can tell you from personal experience (including yesterday with my 5 month old granddaughter!) that your Clothes can always be dry cleaned or washed or you may decide to replace that garment, but children go through these stages quickly, so appreciate it all!
Always a timely wisdom.
That's why you have a handkerchief in your jacket 😉😜
Literally a reoccurring nightmare!!! Drives me nuts
Great topic Gent Z... the only 'downside' would be if you are too self-conscious about dressing well it will be too obvious to others. Also, when you encounter another gentleman with impeccable style, sincerely compliment him (brevity is best here) as he is not your competition but rather, your sartorial ally. Salut!
Handsome men are usually hated in public spaces. You will receive positive attention at first, but people will always look for a reason to spit venom and discredit you if you stand out.
Smh this has been my experience as well. Also if you use proper English around people who speak urban they get insecure.
@@seanp1776ive experienced both. I always say “hey English is my first, and only language its easy to be good at it “. They almost always hate me more, but i don’t care that much.
no they are not , what the hell are you talking about?
@@9tz768 hard to wrap your head around, I get it. This has been my anecdotal experience as an over all 8.
Instead of taking my word for it, look up videos on “handsome men’s game” and other videos of why handsome men will receive hate and be received with malice by some women (especially by women with sizeable body counts).
@9tz768 it's true, I get mean mugged by men walking with their partners all the time. Most times their girls are looking at me and not the other way around so it inspires jealousy. Trust me, if you've never had it happen to you, you'll never understand. I never understood it until I lost over 100 pounds and started dressing extremely sharply.
Being a well dressed man involves “owning the look” meaning if you are not confident or comfortable how can you make others comfortable around you.
That’s true, but it must be a look worth owning
James Bond is a perfect example .
@@josephforest7605a fictional character in a simulated environment of a movie script/set is not a perfect example of anything relating to the real world.
I always respect someone who took the time to put themselves together well, men and women. I am trying to be better. I wish i had a friend group that also was well dressed
Mate, I feel you on this. I dress like a British Mod circa 1964 and I’m shocked how many people wearing greasy Walmart clobber have the temerity to be hostile towards me due to my manner of dress. Keep the faith!
A "British Mod circa 1964" 🤔
What does that look like my friend?
Pete Townsend and Roger Daltrey?
I have been binging the Harry Palmer movies and television show. Does the esthetic lean more in that direction?
Herman's Hermits?
@@sammajor2075oiiii Smart Suits, Skinny Ties, Fred Perry Polos, Ben Sherman button-downs, Sweaters, Fishtail Parkas, Brogues, Oxfords, etc.
Mostly inspired by American Ivy League, The Beatles, The Who and similar British Invasion bands of the era. All about attention to detail mate. 🇬🇧
@@mikeymik2yes, not dissimilar.
@@charliewild4136
Thank you. 👍 👍 👍
I work around a bunch of hillbillies. Every time I come to a staff meeting I’m well-dressed (not at all fancy, as been suggested - which tells me a lot about them), I’m overly complimented on my attire. I’m like, REALLY?? - I’ve got jeans and a button-down linen shirt on. Wtf??
Lol same! My nickname at my office is GQ but I don't think I even dress that well
Just take the compliment 😄
@@user-kk8sh4xd6z yeah happily 😂
It does take more effort and planning, since per se, everything that you do is intentional. Having started down this path, I found that I have to take better of my clothes and allot more time to get ready. Before, whatever I was wearing at the time was “good enough” for the next activity. The clothes now are not necessarily fancier or more expensive. They are more appropriate. If I don’t ensure each day that items are ready to wear, then I have limited my choices. Before, I let availability make the decision. That time has to come from somewhere. It was there in the huge stack of wasted time.
Biggest downside when dressing sharp is the fact that every time before you leave your home you get the feeling of always having to prepare yourself to put up more of a shield or guard to protect yourself from the possible malicious behavior you might encounter from public society (Southern California). Thankfully, my slim kind of muscular look helps give me the confidence to protect myself both physically and mentally.
Dressing well is our personal signature we sign onto the world!
but what's dressing well. Formal wear?
Since I started dressing better, I've gotten a lot of compliments and even total strangers asking me what I do or sparking up a conversation with me because I seem more interesting.
Having said that, I do see many of the same negative comments, jokes and eye-rolls coming from people close me as when I started taking exercise and going to the gym more seriously. People are very uncomfortable when you try and improve yourself. They oftentimes want you to be 'the same' person, not take risks, and stay stagnant to make themselves feel better. Sometimes this comes from a place of love. Sometimes it's people just being petty.
I think dressing well is a great value, and people who dismiss it are often just insecure.
Yeah, I have stopped making any comments about going to the gym or weight loss that I've done because Of the sour looks that other people(especially overweight people) make if I mentioned it when I accidentally realized that the cloths I'm wearing are too big
These so called friends of yours do not like you changing the status quo. They are jealous and can't envision change
do not let others failure ruin your success
Sizing is a big part of this. To look great, clothes must fit the wearer.
When I was younger, I felt and acted nervous around attractive women. Now that I'm older and successful, it's fun to see them get visibly flustered around me when I wear a suit.
Well wearing a suit basically does that to women.
@@antonhallergren588 Hey, i'm not a women, and still does to me 💀
@@SuitedSkaterLion
In the way of the eye appreciating the lines and symmetry of a proper suit yeah that's normal
In a sexual way... You are gay
Two downsides, I have experienced, are the poking fun at me for dressing better than them. The other is that it is hard to do when it is warmer outside and you want to dress in a suit or sport coat. Linen is nice, but summers, here, are hot and humid. I look forward to falls and winters.
I would say that it's more important what people who can appreciate a good outfit think than what those who can't. I know a girl who's not exceptionally attractive, but her style, outfits and makeup are always top notch for the occasion, make her stand out every time
kletts42- I'm the same. I'm interested in trying out pleated shorts with side buckles. I've seen pictures of people wearing them with suede loafers & polo's that looked pretty classy
Downside is in the summer dressing well often leads to sweaty situations
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Regarding #5, I am currently living in New Mexico, not exactly a hotbed of style. However, the other day I was at my favorite coffee shop (yes, there are coffee shops in the high desert) wearing blue jeans, an olive green shirt, and a blue handkerchief around my neck. I encountered a woman I know who was there with a female friend. Later, she sent me a text complementing me on my look and telling me her friend was "wowed" by my style. Women notice well-dressed men regardless of where you are - and as you stated, they like it.
"Land of Enchantment" 👍
I personally think women pay a lot less attention to a well dressed man than what is generally propagated.
@@sammajor2075 And boots and trucks. :)
That's because you dressed according to the area..I wouldn't wear a business casual outfit there either unless I was in the big city or a nice restaurant..
@@ernestturner915 It was the handkerchief around my neck that really did it. Plus the care I took in color choices. The climate here is very harsh which influences what people wear however, that doesn't mean you can't make the best of it and add style to your life.
There is zero downside to being a well dressed man 👌
I whole heartedly agree with you.
laundering garments is a pretty big downside when you don't have the money or time to do so with sufficient regularity, I'll be honest.
It's bloody hot here in Australia so we literally can't dress like this haha
@@electroraptor71
linen, good chap. it's a good start.
there are hot weather fabrics that make it plenty bearable, if you look hard enough.
@@capt.raptor4650 yeah
I like to dress nicely but it is uncomfortable when I do so around mine and my wife’s family, who dress in gym clothes, sweatpants and cargo shorts. However, I choose to stand out and enjoy how I look.
One downside for me is I can't just leave the house for an errand like slobs do, but have to go through wardrobes to see what I'll wear.
Stop calling people slobs who choose not to look like they are going to a funeral everyday. You're the one bound by some unnecessary style rules you've placed on yourself. Everyone else is free and living their lives.
Pls do a video on gentlemen’s lounge/ comfort wear and alternatives to sweatpants
Gentlemen gazette made a video about it , check it out
My everyday clothing in my wardrobe are trousers, dress shoes, knitted polos shirts. I also wear suits because of my job; after all, I'm a bespoke tailor.
Very well said…as a 26 year old from Singapore 🇸🇬…even if I dress casually from a sartorial point of view in appropriate scenarios, I’m still perceived as “too formal” for everyone. Even though deep down I know I’m dressing causally, everyone still perceived that I always at work…
I am on the old end of Gen Z. I have completely built my wardrobe secondhand, while also learning how to sew and do some tailoring in the process. It taught me how to understand the different cuts, what is flattering for my body, and how to be critical of construction and fabrics, but the latter being a credit to my wife who is a handweaver.
While the suits and sportscoats are nice and all, also pay great attention to the supporting roles; dress shirts, ties, slacks, belts, shoes etc. They all have a huge impact on the flexibility and success of your wardrobe and are more common than finding a goldilocks suit or sportscoat. It was difficult to comprehend this when I first started, but personal style is a process that takes years to evaluate and grow into.
I started dressing better after getting admitted to professional school,and being inspired by the first season of the television show "Ray Donovan".
The negative feedback I received from co-workers,truly got me off-guard. But I knew I was dressing for where I was going,not for where I already was.
I live in Japan, where people mostly dress well already. It’s harder to compete and stand out. Here the oversized look has been trending, so I have to look harder for clothes, often online, to get the fitted look. Still it really sharpens my style being here.
Yeah, while I prefer a fitted look I have found that I can wear oversized cloths if their black, because black makes everything look smaller
@@seansimmons73 True, maybe I’ll try that. Uniqlo has some baggy black linen pants that might work well this summer. haha
When I dress well, some people think that I am showing off and just trying to draw attention to myself, but, really, I dress well out of respect for my fellow humans and to, maybe, inspire other men to up their game, and, well, it just feels good to be well dressed
How you dress will have no affect on myself and most guys. I've always dressed how I choose and while I do put effort into what I wear, I couldn't care less about how some other chap choose to dress. All of the guys at my work dress in business casual. We have one guy that dress as you describe and none of us are inspired to change the way we dress. He actually comes off as stuffy and overdressed.
The insouciant disregard most men have for their appearance is of no mind to me. Why would I need a comparison? A college student ask me, the professor, why I always get "dressed up"---when apparently none of his other professors seem to care. I replied I do it for them, to honor a shared commitment to dignify the work and to encourage them to up their game, in fact every bit of the game they are playing. If clothes are understood to be superficial, frivolous, and un-masculine, show people the opposite. Instead of comparisons and expectations, I try to meet them with examples and opportunities.
The current chair of the History Department at Southern Arkansas University Dr. Paul Babbit always dressed very dapper and gave some impromptu comments in class that started my stylish menswear journey in 2015..
You are trying to change the world for the better by personal example. That's very noble, and it matters.
To me, "dressing well" means dressing appropriately for the occasion. It does not mean looking like you just stepped out of a haberdashery or overdressing for an event or place. I am a 75 y.o. retired lawyer and have had nice clothes my entire life. Whether you are dressing for work, a casual occasion, vacation, church or dinner in a restaurant, my advice is to stick to classic understated and tasteful choices rather than in the latest fashion. If you do that you will never fail. Frankly, I wouldn't be caught dead wearing some of the clothes you see in men's fashion magazines. And don't forget about shoes. Nothing looks worse than a dressed up guy wearing a cheap pair of shoes or shoes badly in need of polishing. I don't see any downside to dressing well as long as you are not being pretentious or trying to impress someone.
I want to add something after seeing many male influencers on instagram. PLEASE DON'T PUT DOWN OTHER MEN. Just because another guy likes to wear a baggy t shirt and shorts and wears sneakers instead of leather shoes, doesn't mean they should be put down or mocked. Wear your suit, don't mock other men and live with a positive and open minded attitude. Life is short, help other men, uplift them and support them.
Exactly, a lot these guys in the comments sound like snobs
Dressing well is a matter of self respect, because you should always do it for yourself.
do you mean being formally dressed ?
@@maxk5831 no not necessarily. I mean most times- grocery shopping, going to the dentist, getting your hair cut. Unless you’re painting a shed or up in a tree pruning doing yard work, that’s a little different. Usually if I get in the car, I’m dressed for the occasion. If I’m in the middle of gardening and need to run to the nursery then I’m not worried about wearing my gardening clothes to the nursery. I am somewhat uncomfortable though doing that. And I never wear sweat pants out of the house. I rarely wear them in the house. Now if I’m going out to dinner or to lunch or brunch I’m gonna dress man. Maybe or maybe not formal, but I’m going to be dressed and groomed to look sharp. As ZZ Top says- every girl crazy bout a sharp dressed man. So I sorta have my own rules and standards. So when I see someone in dirty clothes at Home Depot or at the rockery, I think that’s ok, but if your at the doctors office or doing your weekly grocery shopping then dress a little, look good, have a sense of respect for yourself. If you don’t, then don’t expect to get respect, or have a member of the opposite sex look your way, I mean, come on!
I was with friends on a holiday in Italy and we were getting ready for dinner out. I was wearing a button down and blazer while they put on a t-shirt. They got angry at me for making them look bad so I told them to instead come up to my level and put a nice bottom down. It worked.
Even just well fitting pants and a sport coat with nice shoes would look 100× better than the stuff people usually wear
To address the second point you made about clothes shopping being expensive, I have taken your advice and started shopping at thrift stores and have really gotten into it. My wardrobe has expanded greatly with stylish new pieces. Now, the biggest problem I have is getting that darn Macklemore song out of my head.
If you dress to feel good about yourself then someone else's insecurity or lack of self esteem should not be your concern. Society nowadays is lowering itself to the lowest common denominator. If a slob feels bad about his dress that's his problem not yours. He should raise his style not cause you to lower yours.
Right but standards have been lowered so much that dressing well is seen as bizarre or even anti-social.
@@randall8379 It's really tough. It's almost like a battle.
That’s the way I feel about dressing well. I also like to pay attention to every detail, like the knot on my tie which I make sure it is perfectly symmetrical and not showing the top of the shirt where it buttons. I don’t wear a flower in my buttonhole and only a straight white hankie in my breast pocket. Shoes are always mirror shined.
@@jazzman1626 Agreed but it's depressing to see how men and women dress nowadays. How can you feel good when you're well dressed and the people around you are slobs? It ruins the occasion.
@@randall8379
I feel that in those occasions, my suit looks even sharper because of the contrast.
Buying high quality clothes but fewer, carefully chosen, that will last and go out of style slowly if at all, will cost no more and maybe less that constant impulse buying of cheap clothes. A friend of mine as an undergraduate in the ‘80s, when reproached for wearing shirts with collars, replied, “My ten real shirts cost less than your drawers stuffed full of T-shirts.” A priest I know who grew up in dire poverty, said, “Poor people can’t afford cheap shoes.”
While that’s true in theory, in practice I buy more high quality stuff because it’s nice than I did when I just had crap for clothes.
No it's not, and we all know that. But it was said so many times, it would be a bit "bad" to suddenly change mind about that. I bought 10 pairs of "not so great" quality dress trousers (wool blends with polyester, viscose etc) for cheaper than one pair from Suit Supply. I have various colors and styles, and if i accidently damage one of them, i won't be crying because i just ruined 500$ or more. Same with shoes. Sure it would be nice to have Berwicks or Allen Edmonds, but i can buy 3 pairs of "worse" shoes and replace them, when damaged, and still spend less money.
I am constantly amazed at the lack of comprehension of most men who cannot discerne "black tie", "business casual", etc. T-shirts and jeans don't cut it!!😉😁
Most men dont need to worry about 'black tie'.
I just started my first job, which is a hosting position at probably the nicest restaurant in town, and the uniform is a black waistcoat provided by the establishment, as well as black pants, white button up shirt and black shoes. I regularly wear three piece suits with a pocket watch, ties, etc. so I feel very 'dressed down' in my work clothes, whereas I'm sure my coworkers feel almost as though they're dressed in the pinnacle of fashion
Congratulations on the new job.
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@@sammajor2075 Thanks boss 🫵👍
I have a lot of suits and its my uniform of choice for everyday wear. Even on the rare occasion when I go to a fast food restaurant. One time I was at a pizza place in Seattle and the cook comped my meal. I was very thankful and curious about the gesture. When I asked him for the reason of his act of kindness; he replied; "I figured you were someone famous or important because I have never seen anyone dress in a suit like that in a joint like this." It was extremely flattering.
Now that's a compliment.
I am influenced by the message of:
Pay attention to what you are doing. Do not rush, don’t get excited about the novel, enjoy the self-care.
Working out, writing using a pen, studying topics that are worthwhile, be considerate and help others.
Be who you want to be, not what others tell you what you should be like.
Love the mood and content of your videos. You are a positive influence and for this, I thank you!
Excellent video! You make excellent points. Yes, you will be either praised or ridiculed for your dress, especially if you live in parts of the country where causal dress is the rule. For young men, I recommend building your wardrobe over time, and dont worry about being over dressed! Be a trend setter! I find all lot of men would rather get a root canel than wear nice dress clothes, shoes and a tie. Its having a mind set on dressing like a gentleman.
When the world is hectic or sad, I find myself going to your channel. And I'm female! It reminds me of days gone by and several of the gentlemen who were my colleagues and friends. Alas, many have gone to the old Brooks Brothers in the sky. Brings a smile to my face and soul. Thank you. -Retired in New Mexico.
I reside in a small community in the Midwest. Even so, I've been amazed by the quality clothes I've found at a secondhand store, here. I've bought several overcoats (including wool ones), that are in mint condition. Bought some suits (including a very nice pinstripe), and a pair of Florsheim Imperial wingtip shoes. Again, all in mint condition.
where do you usually go in them?
I love your authenticity gentleman. Never stop the good work!
James, your heart is definitely in the right place. I am a lady of some years and I would never reject the sight of a well dressed gentleman as there are so few these days. Thanks for being a shining beacon to men who really, really need a clue!
Vibe of the video 😂
“Look at that subtle off-white coloring. The tasteful thickness of it. Oh my God it even has a watermark.”
It's important to remember that style is a personal expression and finding a balance that feels authentic and comfortable can mitigate some of these challenges. 👌
I have an idea, find an average guy, dress him up in a fine suit, like a Brooks Brothers, Tom Ford or whatever, teach him about style and etiquette, set him up with all the right people, that would make an interesting video!
You could call it “My Fair Gentleman” lol.
@@hoozat007 That's a good idea!
Tom ford did a video like that.
As a retired prosecutor, my usual office wear is Brooks Brothers suit, highly polished shoes, starched and pressed dress shirt ajd pressed Brooks Brothers tie, tied with a proper dimple on a 4 in hand knot, and braces. I've got to look like The Man. What is interesting is even when I am out of court and going to lunch in town, people will usually step out of my way, or let me through the door first, or get served by the waitstaff. You create an aura. You present an image of a serious professional. You get noticed as someone who dont suffer fools gladly.
In the 1970s John T. Molloy wrote a book titled Dress for Success. In the book, he examined the effects of good serious clothing and the attributes it can elicit. He advises on how to dress conservatively but well, rather than dressing fashionably. He concludes that dressing well elicits good positive attributes and higher respect.
Dressing well has the twin effect of generating:
1. positive compliments
2. negative compliments
It is a litmus test separating the people who care for your success and welbeing, versus those who do not.
You have to also take a look in the mirror. Perhaps you dressing better is making you think you're better and is showing up in your attitude. This happened to me when I lost weight and started taking more pride in how I look. I was starting feel like I was better and I don't ever want to be that person. I quickly changed my attitude.
No.2 is a good point but I personally shop at goodwill and antique store, “why goodwill?” You may ask, well, they have hidden gems and high quality vintage pieces. I found a 2 piece double breasted navy suit that fits me well at a goodwill for 20$. I found my trench coat at goodwill for 5$. All my ties and shirts are from goodwill and they fit me perfectly, but I would recommend washing them before putting them on.
Right on!..I found a long..cashmere dress coat at S A..and i always turn heads when I wear it..
Think it was $30!..Also..they USED to have all clothes are $0.99 on certain holidays…I grabbed an amazing 2 piece suit for..$0.99!..Looks like a $500 or more suit!
I think you are missing a huge con: homeless people are more likely to approach you for money.
I actualy had someone passing a very busy street just to follow me and stalk me and beg me money, it was so hard to escape those situations, especialy when they look super weird, and you don't know how many are or what is the person going to do.
Never thought I'd find this sort of content so interesting. Keep on, lad!
Being a 23 year old man that enjoys dressing well everyday I cannot describe how precisely true this video is.
However, I often feel like I intimidate people when I meet them for the first time.
Some people will remain unshaken (mostly outside of the professional world), but I've found that the simple fact of wearing a jacket puts a gap in people's mind and I feel like it's now harder for me to make people comfortable around me and have them open up.
Do some of you experience the same thing or is it just me?
Refreshing that a young man cares about his personal presentation & appearance.
I don’t think it’s your job to make anyone feel comfortable. If they’re uncomfortable, it’s a reflection of their personal confidence.
I met some friends for dinner recently at an upscale restaurant. My friend prompted us to be "well dressed" so to avoid disappointing him I went full 3 piece suit, tie, camel overcoat and dress fedora. Bit OTT but man did I feel good being dressed to the nines, shiny shoes and as I was complimented by maybe 7 people apart from my 3 associates for making an effort, funnily it was easier to be well dressed than to be underdressed.
Nice video. These are the common issues that I experience also, and you stated them well
Amazing video, amazing tips, amazing clothes.
For decades suit and tie was my daily office-wear. Now that I'm retired, I still have several suits and a whole collection of ties in my wardrobe, but no occasion to wear them. Even when I occasionally dress up to go to a wedding, I'm just one of two or three funny-duddies wearing suit and tie. I'm glad I can wear jeans and T-shirts, but I really miss dressing up from time to time. But then I don't like standing out in a crowd or being judged as feeling superior.
I have tried out buying used clothing from eBay and have been happy with the results. I got a pair of dress shoes that are quite good and I found a Brooks Brothers sports jacket for $40 US that I thought was a great bargain.
The biggest problems are:
1. It is expensive
2. It is too hot to wear this where I live
#2 Maybe. Branded clothes that don't last cost more than something that lasts in style and condition. A shirt looks good for longer than a t-shirt even when both made from cotton.
Goodwill and Salvation Army has some amazing clothes sometimes!..NOS from Italy etc…tags still attached…Also…Burlington has clothes for around 1/3rd the price of Target..Kohls etc….and..they sell quite a bit of 100% cotton clothes,,which is getting very hard to get!….All their clothes are brand new…..
Excellent Video 🥃🔥
1. Sometimes I dress down too
2. I dress semi-formal
3. Yes, I do get anger at me but being 6 Foot 5 Inches tall, no one is messing with me 🤣
4. To the Occasion is Correct ✅
5. Sometimes dark jeans with a suit jacket feels nice 😊
It is simply a personal choice in how I dress. My wife loves the way I look when we go out. We both try to compliment each other. You have really good comments on style. I have gained some tips from what you talk about, thank you for your insight.
Thank you for this video James. I’d love to see a series of videos about second-hand shopping and what to look for. I’ve bought a few sports jackets, trousers, and accessories from sites like Mercari and EBay in the US. I think it’d be a great help for those of us on a budget and are just getting started or want to try something new without breaking the bank. Thanks
Very true, every point.
In regards to the second hand garments, I did some quick math and my wardrobe has a retail value of approximately $40-50,000. I have built it over the last five years for roughly $5000. Almost everything is Brooks Brothers, Canali, Zegna, Eton, goodyear welted shoes, etc. All 100% natural materials, wool, linen, cashmere... Literally pennies on the dollar. This isn't to brag on the clothes just my frugality and that second hand is a great option. Maintaining it all is therapy for me. I genuinely enjoy doing it.
A little vignette regarding dressing like an adult... I'm a retired teacher of over 30 years experience. I attended teachers' college in the late 60's and at that time teachers were expected to dress properly, to show the world that you meant business and to provide a good example for your students. Men wore a shirt and tie dress pants and polished shoes. As time marched on expectations of dress seemed to dissolve. But I continued to dress in a professional manor and thought nothing of it.
Towards the end of my teaching career, I was assigned a new school. I went to introduce myself to the principal. She was very welcoming and commented on how well put together I was, or some such thing. While we were chatting a very young man approached dressed in blue jeans and a bowling shirt. I was surprised when my new principal introduced me to the young man as one of the staff members! No sooner did we shake hands, when he remarked, "I hope you're not gonna come to work dressed like that every day!" Can you imagine ?! Our principal was standing there with a shocked look on her face, not knowing how to back pedal the young man's rude intro. I looked him up and down, then, looking directly at him, I said, " Well son, if you can show up looking like THAT, i can arrive for work looking like THIS!" He was non-plussed.
Our principal looked at him and said, "Well, I guess he told YOU!".
That's not only a commentary on the deterioration of proper dress in a public place, but the decline in decorum and basic civility.
It's a shame how standards have slipped both in dress and manners. I suspect they are related in their decline.
Video on going to a cigar lounge please. Intimidating to go in first time. Thanks
On the "spending more" part, oh boy... I definitely agree with that one. I keep trying to cut on my clothes spending, but I always find something to want :)). At the very least, I don't have a big wardrobe and I hate clutter, so that keeps me mostly in check.
I'm the same but I also am a gym rat, so my weight can vary greatly, depending on if I'm bulking or cutting. This means I have to change fashion styles, like switching to darker colored bigger clothes & wearing suit vest to hide my blubber, really upping my wardrobe budget
Note: I've purchased many "new" items on eBay. So eBay does not necessarily mean "used" - typically however it means less costly. Good vid. Keep at it!
+1 for the Ebay shopping video!
Wow you absolutely took the bathroom incident the wrong way. For me ,whenever I see another well-dressed person, it makes me happier, especially if they are dressed far better than me. I draw inspiration from them and it also lets me know that I am not alone in my sartorial journey
Always dress very well for the occasion. Never overdress. Make it look like you are effortless, however, it is clear you have it all together. Don't be flashy or stand out.
I can wear a blue blazer, nice jeans, an oxford shirt, a Rolex Submariner watch, high quality penny loafers or tassel loafer to nearly any occasion possible. And look sharp doing it.
It must be a location thing because jeans as formal wear is a no go here 😂
When I dress well and put some time on it I feel better and confident. Great video. Cheers.
I deeply appreciate the Bauhaus posters in the background
Dressing well has caused me to be targeted by a narcissist.
When I started dressing significantly better, especially for work and work travel, I've faced with some weird reactions from my colleagues (poorly dressed, I should note). One said, half-jokingly, that I'm probably having my mid-life crisis (I was about 39 back then, 40 now).
What do I think of that? I cut such people from my circles and don't spend time with them.
Wow, you cut people out of your life just because they made comments about how you dressed? Don't sound like you ever cared much for them to begin with. I've had friend to say many stupid things but I love them too much to cut them out of my life for being stupid here or there. You must admit, dressing in suits everyday is not common at it will always look weird because it's very old fashioned and stuffy.
I enjoy your channel. I have had some big wins buying on eBay, and have also made some mistakes. That said, some of my favorite pieces are sourced from eBay either new/old stock or previously owned. The best thing you can do for eBay buying is KNOW YOUR MEASUREMENTS. Cannot be overstated.
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For me the downside is that sometimes I don’t have the emotional bandwidth to properly engage with people when they want to speak with me and I have to wrestle my gentlemen’s demeanor with my inner fatigue.
Stand your ground. Decorum, beauty and elegance are worth fighting to preserve. Never doubt that the higher standard is the better standard. Lead, unapologetically, by example and others will follow.
Well said! Since when did style and glamour become bad things? I stand with you in your fight ❤
I am a watch guy, and this ethos applies to the watch world as well. When you first start out, a shiny Casio or inexpensive Seiko is like a pot of gold. But as you delve deeper into horology, and you experience better, higher end watches like Omega, Rolex, Longines, Breitling, you see the meticulous craft of the movement, the polish, the finishing, and suddenly a cheap $2~300 watch with a Miyota movement seems more like a fake glass compared to an actual gemstone. Except G-Shock. G-shocks are always cool. But it's the same with dressing well. Once you have a tailored jacket, proper fitted shoes and pants, it really brings out how bland "regular" clothing can be. Nobody NEEDS a $5,500 Omega, any more than you NEED a $1,800 tailored suit. But nothing replaces that sense of appreciation it brings, and the self confidence and self image. It truly exemplifies the saying, "Dress well, feel well." I honestly believe this is one of the things plaguing global society right now. People go out dressed in sweat pants and crocs, and nobody cares about their appearance, in general society, I mean. Also, I want to stress I'm 48, and am not a handsome guy. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. But I still appreciate and feel more confident dressing well.
When I was a kid in this far off, distant land called "The 80's", we still got dressed up to go out to dinner. It was a special occasion, and we, as a society, typically had self respect and awareness. Women dressed in nice dresses or blouses and pants, men and boys dressed in jackets and dress shirts, if not ties. Dinner and a movie for the family was special and demanded the proper attire. Nowadays nobody seems to have that self respect, and when you dress poorly, it reflects in your psyche. I'm a professional driver, and I have rare opportunities to wear fancy clothing, but it makes the occasion all the more special, and when I and my friends are dressed well and sit down in a restaurant filled with slobs in wife beaters, fanny packs and $8 wal mart shoes, I don't give a shit what they think or how they feel. It's rare I get fancied up, but when I do, it feels nice. Maybe if some younger person sees people dressing nice it will inspire them to do so as well. "Influencers" should keep that in mind.
I'd love to see a video about that eBay suit you're buying... could help a lot with budget shopping
One of the things I’m still most proud of is several years ago I was working in a furniture store and the manager voted me the best dressed salesperson. That did wonders for my confidence and I went on to become a top performer.
I can resonates with some of these. Good quality clothing does cost more but is worth it because it lasts longer and you need less garments overall. Plus I have saved a ton of money on ebay. I just bought a newsboy cap for half of what the upscale hat stores charge. You also stand out more now then you would decades ago. I am usually the best dressed person in the room. I have received numerous compliments however, usually from women.
Followed for the Bauhaus posters.
I'm 68 years old now, but 44 years ago (1980) when I was single, I worked at an office where I wore nice suits and of course nice ties. I was dating a young lady who was still in college and I would often meet her after work at her college while still wearing my suit and tie. The looks I would get from her fellow American college friends was pure evil. Even though it was mentioned that I was coming from work, the comments that were later passed on to me by my girlfriend, were things like, "He's a real conformist." "Who wears a tie these days?" My girlfriend confessed that I embarrassed her by the way I dressed. Going inside the "bubble" of the American college campus while well-dressed, is like adding oil to water.
it's no different now
"Who wears ties these days?". Good question. I do, and I'm a minority. So when I do what very few others do, I'm a conformist? Where's the logic there? Do those girls really attend college, where you should know about logical thinking?
Not wearing a tie is conformist, while wearing one is rebellious.