Great video on this subject John. I agree 100% regarding treating other people well, especially wait staff, bartenders, etc. It sets off red flags on both sides, if men or women treat the wait staff poorly, it's an instant no-go for me.
I just ordered a pair of Duke’s from Thursday. This past 14 months or so, I’ve completely changed my wardrobe, and it has made a difference; most notably, my confidence. I appreciate your contribution to men!
I started viewing your video a while ago, but I have to say, this is possibly the best video I've liked of yours because it's more of a personal relationship giving. I find that I'm in tune with most of all your presentation, Gracias Amigo.
Excellent content and concise. I can work with this. Mindset is the separator. When you've got your stuff together and head screwed on straight you've got a lot of good things going on in a very big way. You're like a magnet, look around not down.
John, Women in my office constantly comment on my shoes, boots, or clothing. I made the mistake a few years ago, in telling my wife that I made a young Walmart cashier blush. A few times since then, my wife will mention that she isnt sure about the way I dress for the office. I am 58, and very much love and appreciate my wife. I am not trying to pick up women, but it's nice to know women notice and comment on my style choices. I've also had a young male greeter acknowledge my sharp appearance. People "do" notice. James
Hi. The first boot you showed in 2 tone, i have in Oxblood red, they are the smartest pair of boots i have and i love to wear them when i can, ive even seen men stare at them.
Random woman tried a cheesy chatup line on me a few months ago, I was wearing my best stuff at a cocktail bar. Was totally unexpected & didn’t know how to respond. Reckon my double monkstrap shoes did the trick.
Legend: you're so right John! Everything you say is true 😳I'm an old guy, dress nice, polite manors! Make the girls(women) laugh! At the right time 😁keep trying! Always learning something New😬Thanks again, Sir! ❤️
8:08 don't go overboard with making all the decisions. That's going to kill off a lot of relationships if you take it too far on the boldness. As a woman, this guy has a lot of good ideas. But really, start talking to women, not to men, and you'll find there's a bigger range of wants than he's presenting. Communicating with her well is going to be the key anyway.
I bought a couple of nice analog watches with metal wrist bands at WalMart for around $10 each. They look fantastic and you'd never guess that they aren't expensive. An easy, fast and inexpensive way to look more classy than most of your competition. I wear them mostly on dates and for special occasions.
A granny about 25 years my senior tried to pick me up at a supermarket recently. I wish younger women would come up to me like that. I'm just too shy to approach people.
Multiple post, sorry: Just hit the “be a decision maker” beat. This is critical to be seen as a masculine gentleman. Shows confidence. She’ll feel safe with you. 100% of the women I’ve spoken to have agreed it’s a primitive need/want they have from the men they *respect.*
About dressing nicely: that’s how Ive always been, but I’ve been having to spend a lot of time in a lower-low middle class town/city and I get compliments…. After the fact and second hand. Why, I asked. The girl said bc women here see you as beyond their level. Silly, I say! I’m most down to earth person around. But they don’t know that. Just found it interesting to hear that. But I won’t dress sloppy to pander. I guess I’ll just have to be more forward if I want to talk to someone (which I’ve always been timid to do.).
I will say he is right on everything he has said. I'm older now but guys if your like WOW!! at a girl you have to not let that show. Must be like "if this doesn't work, next!" Set your morels and what you will not put up with in a women. Must know not one person is perfect not even you. I've walked into a sports bar or nice club and he is right the ladies stop and look but you have to know how to pull this off so you don't step over into putting off arrogance. You come in with confidence, own it, even when the other men give you the stink eye because you look the part and out smarted them by taking care of yourself. If you've been seeing a girl for some time and now she want to make it with you, pull back control yourself say no not yet. Blow her mind, she probably never had a man turn her down before. You have to make yourself stand out from the thousand other guys she has had hit on her. Good luck men and know this something like 2 out of 10 girls are looking for someone, the others have boyfriends or are into a host of other things so never and I mean never let a turn down be personal. That's fine, i understand have a great night or if you can pull it off like fine but I think we may have been something special and turn around and walk away.
Lol. "You have to get that under control man!" So funny and so true. Love your content. Quick question, dress shoes with white soles, yeah or neah? Going out of style soon? Interested in your thoughts.
I link your videos on a Male victim narcissist page. I believe men these are so broken that they have given up.. I try to temper my support having gone through it myself with some reality that you post. Getting in bit of shape and dressing neat has definitely helped me out immensely.
I usually fly off the handle in the morning when nobody is looking.. Coffee grounds spill on the counter? Work Laptop giving me grief? Dammit! Great video even for us not looking for love.
Just a thought about this video, John: I think that, especially since you are talking to an older demographic, you might want to highlight more high-end companies than Thursday boots. Personally I have quite a few pairs of shoes and boots much nicer than Thursday, and I really feel great wearing them and they've lasted me a long time. I think a lot of people might be interested in those as well.
Weird that you mention having on nice boots because just the other day I was doing my grocery shopping at one of the big box stores, which shall remain nameless this lady came up to me as I was making my way to go up the next isle and calls out to me and actually says "I really like your boots they look very nice" and of course, I said thank you, but as men sometimes we really underestimate how dressing well can give us a leg up especially if we are you to be a part of the dating scene!
Great video - and remember guys, enjoy her, but don’t move her in or wed her, cos women our age are just looking for a retirement plan and a severance payment if they leave.
You are always on the money1 i''m an older married guy, but find women much younger than me are fascinated by who I am. Why? i am a citizen of the world, speak many languages and have achieved incredible things in my life, but also love to dress a bit different. Living in Italy, I have learnt how to dress and look good, which is easier when you are in great shape. . You are actually educating America!!
I was trying a very well suited sport jacket the other day in a target style store .....I was trying it on ..and a girl stop beside me saw me and just after she got her hasband further away so he could buy a sport jacket.. 😂
John! Dig this one my man. You nailed this one.... somehow women have this amazing ability to size a guy up in 3 seconds... head to toe. Everyone needs to understand that. #legend
All this dude’s fashion advice is spot on. Almost NONE of his dating advice is correct, untess you want a woman to get up and leave a date. 1. ALWAYS ask a woman what she wants, or what she prefers. You NEVER choose for her, or tell her what she wants, or what you are both going to do. This behavior is controlling and can be seen as red flag behavior of a controlling narcissist or misogynist. Be respectful and considerate. 2. NEVER give the impression that you always have women in the background that you could date instead of her, or give the impression that she is in competition for your affections. You will be painting yourself as an arrogant, conceited A-hole, and she will tell you to go right on ahead and date one of those randoms you hinted are waiting on the sidelines - you won’t be dating her. It is also a very infantile and immature attitude to take with an adult woman. Women start seeing this type of attitude from men when they are in their TEENS. Also, no woman wants to meet a man, and the first thing that man lets her know is the amount of OTHER women they are dealing with. NO woman want to deal with that egotistical B.S. That sh*t about blaming other people IS true. No woman wants to hear that.
Guys take johns advice groom well and look and feel good and remember COCO CHANEL’S famous words “fashion comes and goes style never changes”dress well
It shouldn’t matter if a woman is sexy, intelligent, fun, interesting, adventurous, a teammate etc… …Said no man ever. Hence, two way street. Dig your POV, John. Find myself agreeing 99.99% of the time.
Shoes?? As a woman, I've never noticed a man's shoes unless we are sitting casually with feet up. So it's really not all women. 🤷♀️ Probably check with a woman in your target market. 😂 But it's not like nice shoes will hurt. Unless they're over the top expensive and your with a practical lady. That'll be a total turn off and a deal breaker for some of us.
I stopped buying anything with a logo/branding. I own one pair of Thursday sneakers...great, esp for the money. If you really want to go all in on Heritage boots, look at Truman, Parkhurst, Grant Stone and Viberg. We are all responsible OUR SIDE OF THE STREET. Not her's or someone else. Integrity, decency and character actually matter - they are not just words. It takes work. Get into action and get uncomfortable. There are millions of incels running around. Terrible. Esteemible acts will eventually generate confidence. Confidence changes everything.
this is usefull advice for basic hygene, but as for dating, Chad gets a pass while you put in all the effort, so just do it for yourself and have no espectations
Love your channel but have unsubscribed due to RUclips slowing down the video of users using ad blocker. I disabled my ad blocker and still 5 minutes of ads that can't be skipped before your video begins. RUclips is going to destroy good content creators like yourself.
Hey, Watch some classic movies and see how the men acted .. Cary Grant, et al use that cool and approach and wear some dress pants! not the usual weekend pants Sportcoats look great!
Ask yourself the question when looking in the mirror: would I do me???? If the answer is no! Then work out what needs to change, and change these things!
Not into tucking shirts in Look like a square Untucked reigns supreme but must be the strait all the way round and the shirt mustn't be longer than the jacket
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Great video on this subject John. I agree 100% regarding treating other people well, especially wait staff, bartenders, etc. It sets off red flags on both sides, if men or women treat the wait staff poorly, it's an instant no-go for me.
Absolutely!
I just ordered a pair of Duke’s from Thursday. This past 14 months or so, I’ve completely changed my wardrobe, and it has made a difference; most notably, my confidence. I appreciate your contribution to men!
Thank you very much!
Great video!
Thanks John you hit it out of the park with this one.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
Thanks John. I really needed to hear this today. Nicely done!
My pleasure!
I started viewing your video a while ago, but I have to say, this is possibly the best video I've liked of yours because it's more of a personal relationship giving.
I find that I'm in tune with most of all your presentation, Gracias Amigo.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
Excellent content and concise. I can work with this. Mindset is the separator. When you've got your stuff together and head screwed on straight you've got a lot of good things going on in a very big way. You're like a magnet, look around not down.
Well said!
Awesome! Thank you for the advice.
Glad it was helpful!
Wow, You are experienced, so true! Another great video.
Thank you!
Thank you.
My pleasure!
Love it! Always keeping the content pertinent! Thanks Legend!
Always! Thanks for watching!
That "sports jacket" advice is "Gold". Thanks John 😊❤🎉💯🙏.
You bet! Thanks for watching!
John, your channel popped up during covid. I've been following you ever since. Thanks for your content.
I appreciate that! Thanks for watching!
Spreading that self confidence! 👌🏻
Yes! Trying!
Very nice video John!!! Hom run!!!
Thank you very much!
I decided to comeback to your content..maan you got me with the 2 I've already watched..Good content as always
Appreciate you! Thanks for watching!
Good video John, really enjoyable.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks, interesting and informative video 👍
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great video John 👍
This video hits home and everything you said is gold.
Be confident and dress well/ smell good….
Keep it up….
Pete from Australia 🦘🦘
I appreciate that!
Great video John!!!
Thank you very much!
Oozing with wisdom this one
Thank you!
Good stuff John, thanks!
You’re welcome!
Excellent advice.
Thanks for watching!
9:00 amen to that- plenty of fish in the sea
John,
Women in my office constantly comment on my shoes, boots, or clothing. I made the mistake a few years ago, in telling my wife that I made a young Walmart cashier blush. A few times since then, my wife will mention that she isnt sure about the way I dress for the office. I am 58, and very much love and appreciate my wife. I am not trying to pick up women, but it's nice to know women notice and comment on my style choices.
I've also had a young male greeter acknowledge my sharp appearance.
People "do" notice.
James
Yes they do!
Let’s your wife know you have options. Women like a guy that other women want. Keep up the good work.
Another dose of truth and sound advice, John.
Hey, when are you coming to Ireland? Road trip... 🙂
Ha! That’s a big road trip!
@@40OverFashion Ha! Don't worry - the place is tiny. ;-)
Hi. The first boot you showed in 2 tone, i have in Oxblood red, they are the smartest pair of boots i have and i love to wear them when i can, ive even seen men stare at them.
Good advice
Thank you!
Good choice of thumbnail John, legend!
Thank you!
Random woman tried a cheesy chatup line on me a few months ago, I was wearing my best stuff at a cocktail bar. Was totally unexpected & didn’t know how to respond. Reckon my double monkstrap shoes did the trick.
Love it! Yeah, sometimes it does catch us off guard. :)
Legend: you're so right John! Everything you say is true 😳I'm an old guy, dress nice, polite manors! Make the girls(women) laugh! At the right time 😁keep trying! Always learning something New😬Thanks again, Sir! ❤️
My pleasure! Thanks for watching!
My Man 🎉! Thanx. Always classy
My pleasure!!
This is wild, I have on those exact same boots.
Nice!
8:08 don't go overboard with making all the decisions. That's going to kill off a lot of relationships if you take it too far on the boldness. As a woman, this guy has a lot of good ideas. But really, start talking to women, not to men, and you'll find there's a bigger range of wants than he's presenting. Communicating with her well is going to be the key anyway.
"I know that everyone within the sound of my voice, has the potential to do amazing things." You couldn't have said it better.
Thank you!
I bought a couple of nice analog watches with metal wrist bands at WalMart for around $10 each. They look fantastic and you'd never guess that they aren't expensive. An easy, fast and inexpensive way to look more classy than most of your competition. I wear them mostly on dates and for special occasions.
Great tip!
Have you heard of RM Williams boots from Australia ?
John, again with the incredible woman at around 26 seconds in! She is drop dead stunning! The kind of woman that is worth dying for!
Ha! Glad you approve!
awesome video fella, you are solid mentor :)
Much appreciated!
Everything John is telling us here is the truth, period. It doesn’t matter what you think, it’s the truth. Cheers John.
Cheers!!
A granny about 25 years my senior tried to pick me up at a supermarket recently. I wish younger women would come up to me like that. I'm just too shy to approach people.
Big Jooohhn!!
Multiple post, sorry: Just hit the “be a decision maker” beat. This is critical to be seen as a masculine gentleman. Shows confidence. She’ll feel safe with you. 100% of the women I’ve spoken to have agreed it’s a primitive need/want they have from the men they *respect.*
About dressing nicely: that’s how Ive always been, but I’ve been having to spend a lot of time in a lower-low middle class town/city and I get compliments…. After the fact and second hand. Why, I asked. The girl said bc women here see you as beyond their level. Silly, I say! I’m most down to earth person around. But they don’t know that.
Just found it interesting to hear that. But I won’t dress sloppy to pander. I guess I’ll just have to be more forward if I want to talk to someone (which I’ve always been timid to do.).
Great content..completely nailed it in this video! It’s masculine energy to lead in a relationship, feminine energy doesn’t want control.
Absolutely!!
Who makes your shirts and model
I will say he is right on everything he has said. I'm older now but guys if your like WOW!! at a girl you have to not let that show. Must be like "if this doesn't work, next!" Set your morels and what you will not put up with in a women. Must know not one person is perfect not even you. I've walked into a sports bar or nice club and he is right the ladies stop and look but you have to know how to pull this off so you don't step over into putting off arrogance. You come in with confidence, own it, even when the other men give you the stink eye because you look the part and out smarted them by taking care of yourself. If you've been seeing a girl for some time and now she want to make it with you, pull back control yourself say no not yet. Blow her mind, she probably never had a man turn her down before. You have to make yourself stand out from the thousand other guys she has had hit on her. Good luck men and know this something like 2 out of 10 girls are looking for someone, the others have boyfriends or are into a host of other things so never and I mean never let a turn down be personal. That's fine, i understand have a great night or if you can pull it off like fine but I think we may have been something special and turn around and walk away.
Well said sir!
John, love your videos. Can I ask what that blue shirt is that you are wearing?
It’s from Collars & Co.
Lol. "You have to get that under control man!" So funny and so true. Love your content. Quick question, dress shoes with white soles, yeah or neah? Going out of style soon? Interested in your thoughts.
I see them, and I understand them, but it’s just not for me.
"Stop complaining and making excuses..." THIS! This is the best advice any of us will get this week.
Thank you!
I link your videos on a Male victim narcissist page. I believe men these are so broken that they have given up.. I try to temper my support having gone through it myself with some reality that you post. Getting in bit of shape and dressing neat has definitely helped me out immensely.
I usually fly off the handle in the morning when nobody is looking.. Coffee grounds spill on the counter? Work Laptop giving me grief? Dammit! Great video even for us not looking for love.
I hate spilling coffee grounds!
Living in Abundance v. Scarcity Mindset ;)
Absolutely! Love it!
Just a thought about this video, John: I think that, especially since you are talking to an older demographic, you might want to highlight more high-end companies than Thursday boots. Personally I have quite a few pairs of shoes and boots much nicer than Thursday, and I really feel great wearing them and they've lasted me a long time. I think a lot of people might be interested in those as well.
Thanks for the feedback!
I will wear what i want😂😂😂😂 Thanks for clearing that up before they come here and drop nasty and unhelpful comments.
I quit dating over 10 years ago because I came to the realization that the juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
Weird that you mention having on nice boots because just the other day I was doing my grocery shopping at one of the big box stores, which shall remain nameless this lady came up to me as I was making my way to go up the next isle and calls out to me and actually says "I really like your boots they look very nice" and of course, I said thank you, but as men sometimes we really underestimate how dressing well can give us a leg up especially if we are you to be a part of the dating scene!
Love that! Thanks for sharing!
Best video I've seen in a while. IMO, 40 Over Fashion and The Style O.G. are indispensable for men.
Thank you!
Great video - and remember guys, enjoy her, but don’t move her in or wed her, cos women our age are just looking for a retirement plan and a severance payment if they leave.
You are always on the money1 i''m an older married guy, but find women much younger than me are fascinated by who I am. Why? i am a citizen of the world, speak many languages and have achieved incredible things in my life, but also love to dress a bit different. Living in Italy, I have learnt how to dress and look good, which is easier when you are in great shape. . You are actually educating America!!
Ha! Thank you very much!
I was trying a very well suited sport jacket the other day in a target style store .....I was trying it on ..and a girl stop beside me saw me and just after she got her hasband further away so he could buy a sport jacket.. 😂
John! Dig this one my man. You nailed this one.... somehow women have this amazing ability to size a guy up in 3 seconds... head to toe. Everyone needs to understand that. #legend
Thanks Eric!!
What do you think is an appropriate age difference to date ?
Depends on both individuals and what they feel is comfortable. Generally speaking, 10 to 15 year difference seems to be normal & acceptable.
The best thing to do is to stop simping. If she wants you, it will be very easy. Otherwise, it's not worth it.
All this dude’s fashion advice is spot on. Almost NONE of his dating advice is correct, untess you want a woman to get up and leave a date.
1. ALWAYS ask a woman what she wants, or what she prefers. You NEVER choose for her, or tell her what she wants, or what you are both going to do. This behavior is controlling and can be seen as red flag behavior of a controlling narcissist or misogynist. Be respectful and considerate.
2. NEVER give the impression that you always have women in the background that you could date instead of her, or give the impression that she is in competition for your affections. You will be painting yourself as an arrogant, conceited A-hole, and she will tell you to go right on ahead and date one of those randoms you hinted are waiting on the sidelines - you won’t be dating her. It is also a very infantile and immature attitude to take with an adult woman. Women start seeing this type of attitude from men when they are in their TEENS. Also, no woman wants to meet a man, and the first thing that man lets her know is the amount of OTHER women they are dealing with. NO woman want to deal with that egotistical B.S.
That sh*t about blaming other people IS true. No woman wants to hear that.
Guys take johns advice groom well and look and feel good and remember COCO CHANEL’S famous words “fashion comes and goes style never changes”dress well
It shouldn’t matter if a woman is sexy, intelligent, fun, interesting, adventurous, a teammate etc…
…Said no man ever. Hence, two way street. Dig your POV, John. Find myself agreeing 99.99% of the time.
Thank you!
Shoes?? As a woman, I've never noticed a man's shoes unless we are sitting casually with feet up. So it's really not all women. 🤷♀️ Probably check with a woman in your target market. 😂 But it's not like nice shoes will hurt. Unless they're over the top expensive and your with a practical lady. That'll be a total turn off and a deal breaker for some of us.
True!
Usually told I’m intimidating & unapproachable.
The title?
Fixed. :)
First like and comment
Your title is grammatical bananas lol
Haha, oops. Last minute title change :) Fixed.
I stopped buying anything with a logo/branding. I own one pair of Thursday sneakers...great, esp for the money. If you really want to go all in on Heritage boots, look at Truman, Parkhurst, Grant Stone and Viberg. We are all responsible OUR SIDE OF THE STREET. Not her's or someone else. Integrity, decency and character actually matter - they are not just words. It takes work. Get into action and get uncomfortable. There are millions of incels running around. Terrible. Esteemible acts will eventually generate confidence. Confidence changes everything.
My wifes 16 years younger than I am so im set 😂
Dont change yourself fundamentally. Dress nicer groom yourself but dont stuff yourself in some box to get a woman
"Walk in, wearing that sports jacket and Chelsea boots"... oh yeah John, 'nuff said.
this is usefull advice for basic hygene, but as for dating, Chad gets a pass while you put in all the effort, so just do it for yourself and have no espectations
I've noticed I get more attention from another men. I have zero issue with that but it's very curious.
Love your channel but have unsubscribed due to RUclips slowing down the video of users using ad blocker. I disabled my ad blocker and still 5 minutes of ads that can't be skipped before your video begins. RUclips is going to destroy good content creators like yourself.
Thanks for the feedback.
Stay single. Stay sane.
I DON'T like boots.
ESPECIALLY with pointed toes, I always think Robin Hood or Tinker bell, that word "beautiful" again average one's are okay I think
The women are checking to see if you're wearing Crock's.
I would shave off the scabby beard and get a healthy tan.
Hey, Watch some classic movies and see how the men acted .. Cary Grant, et al use that cool and approach and wear some dress pants! not the usual weekend pants Sportcoats look great!
Women generally dont like unkept looking men tbh.I learned that years ago.Great video.
Ask yourself the question when looking in the mirror: would I do me???? If the answer is no! Then work out what needs to change, and change these things!
Well said!
Guys don't be afraid of getting a manicure. Having nice looking nails will show that you take care of your overall appearance.
Not into tucking shirts in
Look like a square
Untucked reigns supreme but must be the strait all the way round and the shirt mustn't be longer than the jacket
You're not a f'in child - NEVER wear a Smart watch - period.
Lol i wear my Apple Watch Ultra hardly childish
Chelsea boots show that you can’t tie your shoes or your old/out of shape and need slip on’s. Get real boots!
Good grief..
@@40OverFashion love your channel. You’re doing great work!
Dating market is in shambles? Since when?
Since quarantine.
RM Williams Chelsea boots. The very best. Accept no substitutes.