If you don’t mind me asking, have you and your other black relatives noticed the pattern and asked questions? Or it doesn’t really bother you as much. @daniellemiller5123
It just feels normalized at this point. I've seen it since I was younger so I felt like they just didn't like black women. They didn't love themselves, and thought is was winning to have white women. You can have conversations amongst each other but I just feel black men are going to do what they please and it ain't reppin us, at least I haven't met any.🤷🏿
I pray that the next level with God has more to offer black women. This world would be nothing without us yet we're treated with the utmost disrespect.
Went to a PWI. It’s a strategy. Those white girls come to university with the intentions of dating some of these nfl prospects. They intentionally place themselves in their proximity by joining clubs, hosting tailgates, doing fundraisers, assisting alumni and booster clubs, etc. These top universities are also apart of the strategy during recruitment and use these white women as a selling point. Some athletes have even admitted their coaches encouraged them to date white women. I think the athletes are infatuated with their money giving them more dating options, while the wives and girlfriends are playing the long game. As for any non athlete, I’m pro dating outside of your race as long as it’s for the right reason which is that person treating you correctly. If you’re dating outside of your race to be spiteful then you’re lost. ETA: Personally I prefer black men but I’m also open to someone of a difference race with similar values and a good upbringing. The way the dating pool is nowadays, women, especially black women shouldn’t limit our options.
I think the majority of it is self loathing on the part of black men. Their moms don’t express their wishes that they would prefer their sons to bring home a woman that looks like them, their sisters, their aunties and cousins. I tell my son if she can’t use your comb don’t bring her home. Because it’s okay to love and bring home and marry a woman that looks like your mom, sisters, aunties and cousins. And I don’t apologize to anyone for it
Tupac, “I think it’s time to heal our women, be real to our women and If not we’ll have a race of babies 👶🏾 that will hate the ladies that make the babies” They damage us, then hate us for being damaged.
Am an African woman born and raised in Africa. All black and we grew up with pride of who we are. Now here in America, my son started struggling with his identity as a black boy from kindergarten when he started learning of black history. I think they should teach our children of black pride first few years before expecting a kindergarten to process slavery .
Talk about it! You gotta be proud of where you come from especially Black people. There's so much the Most High has blessed us with even in hard circumstances He still favours us to flourish even at our lowest. That's where the envy of the other races and their hate comes from. The envy of Jacob (Israel). 🙏🏿
Just the other week I passed a young black guy and white girl in the street. I was minding my own business, but from his reaction, the guy seemed bothered that I didn't react. I was thinking afterwards, 'if she's who you're with, be happy with her and don't worry about upsetting anyone'. I do think that some of these guys are trying to get a reaction. In these cases I think that there's something toxic going on, to do with projecting self-hatred. And the women who are with these types of men feed off of it, like a kind of superiority complex, seeing black men hating on their own kind. On the other hand I've seen black men with women of other races where you can tell that it's natural and organic, and they're not going around trying to get a rise out of people. They're just comfortable together. There's no toxicity. That I have more respect for.
That is definitely something I've experienced as well. When a black man is with a non-black woman and they stare at you waiting for you to react. It's very strange. Especially when you couldn’t care less.
I've noticed that as well, and when you're unbothered and unphased, they seem butt hurt. Look dude, do you... don't nobody care, at least I don't anyway....carry on.
Y'all....I thought it was me. I was in a store Sunday and I felt the same thing. This BM with WW and I didn't care less just going about my way and he kept staring at me from time to time. I ended up in the line behind them and he's grinning at her then kissed her on the cheek. I'm still chill. We leave the store around same time I left them by the baskets I got in the car backing out I look up they walking RIGHT BEHIND MY MOVING CAR, so I stop to not hit them and he looking and smiling. I felt in my spirit that was weird, but again I brushed it off. SMH🙄. I'm single, no kids, no animals not a care in the world. Focusing on Jesus Christ, who a lot of BM don't believe in so I'm not missing out on nothing. Thanks Tony for the videos. I always learn something, hear about God every single video and get a good laugh.🤣 Be blessed everyone.
@@alewis4941 They were probably getting ready to say you tried to hit them because you were jealous. Some people you just feel like saying 'don't worry, be happy'. lol.
@dawnweston9382 I had this experience aswell I was walking with my head up and he tried to give eye contact but I smiled and walked on. The white girl also gave a bad mind look but I ignored both of them.
I believe it’s the case of familiarity breeds contempt. BM think they know all BW through their moms, sisters, aunts, etc. and feel they’re all the same because it’s what they were brought up around. Those women disciplined, yelled, etc. at them. If they were too harsh with it, BM look at other BW all the same, which is a hindrance if they came from a toxic family. Also, The others or “exoticals” are perceived to be like June Clever who was submissive, wore dresses/pearls while cooking and cleaning. WM put their women on a pedestal along with their money, so BM go after these types, which they THINK gives them an image of having arrived; their money and women.
It happens everywhere. I’m Costa Rican and it happens here also. The successful black men here married white hispanic women , not Hispanic black women. I think it comes from programming and racism
There was a quote that a meditation teacher taught me that still resonates with me to this day: "Let go or get dragged." I think black men have allowed black women to be dragged on a global stage and no amount of persuading will convince a black man to be with a black woman if he desires a white woman. You will never be enough for a man that does not want you. I want everyone to find someone that they like and love- regardless of race. We can go back and forth and argue if it is self hate, if it is because "black women are undesirable", or black women bullied them... it does not matter. Let them go. I am a black woman married to a white man- and my marriage is solid at this moment in time. What are my thoughts on this? I don't have any. Let them go and be at peace.
@@kia.203 I understand that… I just want black women to understand that his choices have NOTHING to do with their value- no matter how often they will try to push that narrative. Black women do not need to date/marry out if they do not want to, but at least recognize the energy vampires for what they are and detach. And being single is NOT a bad thing either. Live your best life, girly pops!
I'm at the point in life where I'm detached from how "black men" see us black women.... especially me. I've literally discontinued communicating with men who display preconceived ideas about black women. I'm only interested in intellect. If a person can't look beyond my skin color and actually get to know me on an individual basis then there's no point to proceed.
Same! I’ve been like this the past ten years. Once they go on a little rant about black women etc and it rubs me the wrong way ( especially regarding hair) I am out.
I have a friend who married a WW. When his mother passed away, He was excluded from the inheritance. He spent years trying to get his inheritance, but she left numerous documents stating he was not allowed any money from the family estate, and none of the existent children was allowed to share their inheritance. If it was heard that money was shared their assets woukd be revoked. His parents owned the oldest black owned gas station chain in the country.
The influence of the algorithm is real. The more I rejected those men vs. women videos the less I saw. The internet doesn’t reflect real life. All media doesn’t reflect real life. We all have to be mindful of that!
Having a family member that only dates not only ww but other nationalities he would say he wanted a woman either straight hair and light skinned. He frowned on natural hair or certain hair types that were kinky. I definitely think it comes from self hate and a way to gain! Every female he dated outside blk bought and did for him and still does!
At this point in my life, if you hate yourself and need to date other races because of that, do so. Do what helps you survive this life, but keep all that to yourself and don’t spread it to the rest of our people as a positive or a norm. If you do it because your heart chooses that person do that too. The latter seems more productive. Everyone will learn eventually…
I have 2 black boys and they are not attracted to WW once so ever and dont understand why other black men date them. In this crazy world we live in I am so thankful my boys love their own women, I believe we did a great job raising them to love and respect their own❤️
We don't think anything about it. Our own community has devalued us our entire lives. What black men have to realize is black women have given up on them emotionally. You can't be bitter about a person or people you don't care about and have no feelings for. It's called apathy. I see black men and white men as the same...I don't understand the difference...the only caveat being that white men have treated me slightly better. I'm not talking in terms of pasta and lobster, I mean in terms of treating us like human beings, having humility, being kind. We appreciate your honesty. Unfortunately, the damage is irreparable at this point, some black women aren't interested in understanding the why...
24:07 I really wish more intelligent black women would become more vocal in the community/social media. There are intelligent black women in all socioeconomic categories. The media always magnifies the negative aspects…😩
@@thekimberlynprojectNo, not all of them. And that has nothing to do with what she stated. Be the change you want to see in the world whether people care to hear and follow or not. Playing the down trodden victim is not it.
Went to a D1 school where Black athletes were known to date mostly white girls and grew up in a small town where most of the Black boys were the same. It was like a competition of who could get a White girl. Heard a lot of Black men (even my dad) talk about White women as being less difficult than Black women. But we grew up around a lot of racism, & definitely internalized that racism. Think more of the Kodak Black mentality…I knew of a lot of guys like this. This was 2009-2017 high school through college. Both in the Southeast.
They are, they are great actresses. I say that respectfully. That is their culture, though ( to pretend). They are good at acting until they get what they want. Very open in the bedroom. They don't require much either, because they know they will be secured in marriage. So it's a very submissive relationship with the Man submitting, actually. Whereas BW require the men to lead. WW do not require anything but submission and the mixed children.
My father also marries and preys on YT women lower class ones at that and I feel it’s because he feels more superior & in control because he has more money he really wants to be a middle aged white man
How many black women were at the SAME college that were overlooked??? Educated families had some money etc….? Some of these athletes want to assimilate into the world of America. The one guys Nigerian mother did not look too pleased about the girl sitting beside her.
When I was younger all the black guys I knew dated whyte women to use them. Whyte women flipped the script and are now using them if theyre successful. Whyte women are not too blame for the the tension among black people. I solely hold black men accountable.
I think it’s their business. I’m married to a black man who takes care of our family. My priority is teach my children about Jesus and encouraging my daughter and my son to find someone who also loves and serves the Lord Jesus Christ with their whole heart. Everyone one else can exercise the free will God have them. I’m a flawed individual with enough concerns for today alone lol.
I love these type of comments coming from black women. I needed to hear this bc it would really bother me but it shouldn’t since it’s none of my business ❤
@@habeshasister11 OK sis I’m not gonna leave you out here hanging. I feel the same exact way you do! I’m 58 and I keep saying I need to change, but I’m not there yet!😏
Tony you’re awesome!!!👏 ❤I know the demons are mad at you. You never sugarcoat anything continue serving Jesus and you’re going to have a beautiful mansion in Heaven. Matthew 10:33
Speaking from the other side of the pond, what I have observed in Canada, I worked in the corporate world. Every black man had a white woman and the average man had an overweight white woman. There's a sense of if I am with the white woman I have more respect in certain places I have to go. It felt like a security blanket for some of these men.. It's disappointing as a black woman to watch all the eligible bankers, black men whoearn good money, putting it back to white community, as a black woman who's field im Trying to put it back in my own community. 1, its a come up 2, self hate 3, security Some look like hostages but if you are happy good for you
A lot if times interracial relationships happen because of financial gain, self hate and social media. I know from personal experience a family member of mine is married to a white woman. They've been married for 17 years. She gets along well with the rest of our family.They've been together in sickness and in health. They are alike in a lot of ways. They are a good fit for each other. 🙏🙏🙏
A homeboy mentioned tagging onto one through marriage to keep benefiting financially and with career opportunities. He’s built a life in though his method.
Yep, whatever will “benefit”them the best. I’ve noticed (not all men) they are attracted to what will make them look good in the eyes of society/friends/family. They want to impress. In my experience men have said to me they want “pretty kids/with good hair”. You know what that means..And if they don’t want to go all the way european then closer to european presenting is better. I think they sometimes don’t realize what society has conditioned them to go towards 🤷🏽♀️. I wish we all could just go for who is best for us..who God has chosen for us but ofcourse the worldly ways get in the way.
Up to 33 min so far…. I’d say a lot of what you have said is on point. Speaking on our childhoods and the resources the Whyte girls may have had, the fascination of trying another race, emulating what pookie nem’ was doing (you’re dating a whyte girl, so I will too), etc. A lot of the Black guys I was around that dated whyte girls did so for a season. Some of the whyte girls went back to their racist heritage and they were only there to be a part of the culture for a short season. But, the ones who had children with or married Black men will still never understand or be passionate about Black people as a whole! 🤷🏽♀️ Next generation: When my son was younger I told him to leave the whyte girls alone because we don’t need those problems (in childhood , my whyte friends parents hated Black boys). He never dated a whyte girl but he always had a selection of girls to choose from (both Black & whyte). His wife is Black & so my grandchildren will be.
This been going on since the two decades ago with men uplifting women of other races even in rap videos. I honestly think that’s where it started. And exactly what Tony said about certain races wing willing to date black athletes because they have money. When they go trying to make themselves available to the black athletes the athletes choose them over black women sadly. It’s not really anything to do with social media because this has been going on before social media was popular Black men have black women in their families so they know what black women are like. Black women see how black men are in their families and they still look to date them….black men are exposed to black women outside of social media so that isn’t really true. We still love you though! Men are the pursuers so they are choosing not to pursue black women. Black women are not the pursuers so they end up with the men who pursue them - most men approaching black women are black
It’s even sadder as a working corporate professional. I want to fully comment but I won’t. I’m happily dating - I’m so thankful for Tony. Yet, I know that whether I marry a white man or a black man, etc, my son will still be a black man, and he will be treated as such in society. And so I think about that every day.
Hey Tony, sometimes it depends on where you live in the United States. For example, I currently work at Yale University and have also worked at Yale New Haven Hospital in an administrative capacity to where I have a very close view to the inner works of both and let me tell you, it warms my heart to see so many beautiful black young men and women as doctors, fellows, and administrators as well as law students etc. if your son decides to attend Yale he will undoubtedly see his reflections of himself in a successful capacity. Also want to add, for a few years I lived in West Palm Beach, Florida and Tony it was surprising to me how my black folks interacted with me. Most had never met anyone from up north and sometimes said to me, “I didn’t know there were black people in CT” no lie. This was in 2003-2008. It was also a different experience for me because some were so docile in the workplace and I was more assertive. Anyways, there’s so much more I could share but I’ll leave it here for now.
Please share more. I heard Yale was better than harvard for cultural simulation. Do you think it is a class issue? Wealthier black children gravitate towards other black children? Because sports is aimed at the lower working class. Especially football. Rare to find high academic achievers in sports. That could also explain their "strategic" choice. whereas professionals in medical and tech spaces tend to marry BW. The sports and media industry can not be allowed to be the thermometer for how the culture chooses love. Both industries are only 10% of the working population.
I grew up knowing my dad love white women cheated on my mom with a white women who he married and later cheated on her. This woman would call my mother on the phone and ask her how she deal with my dad when he walk around not speaking? My mother told her that's your problem now and hung up in her ear😂. She and my father later divorced but he dealt with any white woman was for convenience.
Sorry Tony, but the majority of us (black folks) dressed fresh from elementary to high school and had cars by high school. We all came from different "classes," lol. Some of us already had jobs by like 9th grade, so some bought their own cars or matched with the parents. My first two cars in high school were given to me by family. I can say our parents, whether single or married, really made it happen for us, and we worked hard also to get what we wanted.
It is some of all of the things you talked about. It is a very complex dynamic. I’ve never dated outside of my race, but I have felt that white people are smarter, prettier, smaller, have more money , more confident and all that. I am 64 years old and I am just now feeling that I am enough and I know my worth. All of my struggles with self worth weren’t tide to race, but much of it was.
I used to care about BM dating a white woman but now I don't care since I'm married to my Black man. I just hope and pray 🙏🏽 that my Black sisters who are both educated, and well-rounded get great Black men to marry
TG I'm gonna tell you, that the word of GOD don't lie. (The Love of money is the root of All evil). 1 Timothy 6:10, Evidence of this, war, depopulation of a race, suicide, etc. (Think about it)???... 🙏🕊️💟
I feel the ball players aren't usually smart so they may think the yt family will show them how to flip or invest their money. Alot of blacks trust yts with their money before us and they be the ones who end up taking it all. And also they know black women will see their flaws and will shout it to the world and the others will keep their secrets as a beard.
Oh and if they have more european looking/passing children they feel it will be better for the children in the future then what he had to go thru..they don’t want to continue the “struggle” of being black in society. I’ve heard this alot.
Good one Tony! For the most part you hit the nail on the head. It’s a mix of a few things. It’s self hate,ignorance & insecurity. It can be a natural genuine fit… but that’s usually a 1-2% chance of that happening. Ultimately ppl do desperate things in the face of loneliness, isolation & ignorance.
At this point I want more (or all) BM with WW. I think they are one and the same. And that’s all I’m gonna say. I think BW have more peace if they just go.
May as well. Once all the WW married up, they'll just move to another group... long as she ain't AA. It's slick funny... so, you want anybody but who you grew up around??? 🤭
I honestly feel like black women should learn to date outside their race. I don’t just date, black men. There’s more options out there, black women only stick with black men when black men aren’t always choosing us.
I think part of it is the environment. I sent my son to schools where white people were the majority. Not on purpose. I worked at a middle school and brought him with me and then he got accepted into a languages academy. He got accepted to a PWI and got a scholarship. Another thing about my son is that he’s not all about looks. He likes to carry on deep conversations about life, travel, etc. His girlfriends were both Hispanic(he’s fluent in Spanish) and had come from families that were well traveled. These girls gave him the intellectual stimulation he was looking for. I have asked him if he has a preference for them. He told me he has tried. He said the black girl before he met his girlfriend he tried talk to at his college played to many games. And when he wasn’t pushy with her as far as kissing and s*x, she started questioning his sexuality. I am a teacher and some of our black girls need some home training. When I thought about what my son has seen from my and his sisters’ behavior would more align with a white girl 😢. I still praying for a black woman who loves Jesus and not because I’m racist. I want to see our black win in love and relationships.
The worlds only catching upto what BW been knew and more bw are now more open to dating other races. Other races of men genuinely are interested in BW and the way that they love is very protective, mature and refreshing nothing is perfect but it’s better then receiving constant immature low vibrations because the BM doesn’t know how to deal with life and all they can do is have sex talk about sex their boys and money. Men like you Tony are a rare exception and the younger girls that get your sons will be lucky if they remain the beautiful boys that they are ❤️🙏🏾 Also the e.g that you used how some BW act White women are worse, they expect a man to pay for everything & they are very vocal about it. BM choose they because based on colorism even if they choose a BW it’s the closet thing to white.
You nailed it on the head Tony! This is all programming via social media, entertainment, etc. That one BW who had an issue with the Cheese Cake Factory doesn't represent all BW. I love the Cheese Cake Factory. Then look at the TV shows and movies the only BM or BW is typically with a non black partner or homosexual. I grew up in Arizona and experienced the hatred that comes from BM/WW interracial relationships. Most of those relationships were shrouded with hate towards BW. I got tired of all my black cousins putting WW on a pedestal and trashing BW. Interesting thing they've all been married /divorced multiple times and have several babies mamas (all non black). As of today only two of them are married to non BW (3rd wives). You mean to tell me they dated, married and had babies by these WW and got the same results. Who's the common denominator in that situation BM not BW. I haven't seen the same hatred in BW/WM relationships they just date/marry out. All this is by design and is dividing the black community. Why is it okay for Indians, Asians, Native Americans, Latinos to instruct their families to date their own? When black people say that then we are racist or insecure BW blah blah.
I don’t know why successful black men, date outside their race, if it’s organic, I don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t care for the self hate attitude that some black men have for their race specifically women, but black women are strong and resilient, which is why most black women are doing it for themselves, we have to love ourselves, and take care of ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically, and if we want to be married, form a faithful relationship with God, and look to him, to give you the desires of your heart
All people are Gods people. Organic love is what I believe is the key. Genuine love between two people is what matters. I knew my husband RIP, was the right one for me. At first my Mom was not happy about it but she ended up loving him dearly and loved spending time with us. He had been divorced and a few years older than me. Race/Nationality is not important to me at all. The world today is so judgmental. Thank you Tony, great topic. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Money affords us the comfortability to be who we really want to be or to show our true selves. When people come into money/success and run to another race they see that race as a trophy/reward for their success. We should all be teaching all our children pride in self and their race and if they find love in another race it won't be an achievement to be thrown in the face of their race
Lord Have Mercy!! Tony’s dad said “I’m going to kill myself, your wife is going to cheat on you and Tony was going to die”. Tony is low key a comedian. 😂😂😂 Great discussion though. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😅
"Well said!!" My oldest son married a white woman who did not love him. She cheated on him with another black man, got pregnant, had the baby, my son had to raise the child. "I told him he was a damn fool." His exact words, "It's not the baby's fault." He is still with her( he though he divorced her, he is still living with his ex-wife!
Uncle Tony thank you for speaking your real feelings no matter what people opinions are, some stuff I don’t agree with you on but I can honestly say… you be on point 💯. I’ll take your advice over any man’s advice on the internet at this point in time you keep it the realist
I think a lot of the time, it is programming, status symbol, and our black children not getting taught best dating practices. And yes, we can say this has been going on for decades, EXACTLY! It's been decades of programming, etc. Subliminally and not. Tony, you hit the nail on the head of telling your son he needs to just get out of the microcosm of his current environment before he really starts to date. I think a lot of people, especially from certain environments (especially small towns) and certain socioeconomic backgrounds, don't give the time to meet someone. They just gain stereotypes and settle with the 1st or 2nd person that comes along that doesn't meet their negative stereotypes. Lastly, A LOT of Americans, especially Black Americans (I'm Black American and Liberian) think that we're the ONLY Black group of people on the whole planet. A lot don't think outside of the box or have access to knowing that there are SO many nationalities and ethnicities of people around the world that share the same Black genes and commonalities that we don't have to be confined to just dating Black Americans. We have an entire continent of Africans, islands of people of African/Black descent, etc. Knowledge is power.
I think you’re doing right, check it out. Voice your opinion. The other races voice theirs to their children. I was surprised that the white man , going to your dad’s church would say and feel like that. I thought church our common belief in Christ, would bring us more together but hey. I guess. , Idk know if I agree with that one but that sixth grader broke my heart, his essay. Even before you said it., that touched me. That’s definitely something to think about. You have to start early letting bi racial/ all kids know they are good enough.! I wish kids had more education where teachers , definitely parents talk more on this. Self love. I appreciate you Tony.
I'm a black woman in London UK and I could argue that it could be that there isn't many black women in the UK compared to white women but at the same time that's probably an excuse. I would say most black men think white or other women are better than black people and they would prefer to dilute their features (especially if they was to have a female child) and be in a mixed relationship. I would say that's the vast majority of black men. There's another group of black men that just like to try something different.
as a kid my boyfriends were white my dad was not happy but one broke up with me once his sis found out I was black and told the parents. 😂 he still follows me until this day. there were black boys but they dated white girls. it’s like at school was one world but when you got on the bus and all the black ppl was together we became back interested in one another 🤣🤣 ive always had friends of different ethnicities so i would be open to any race but I would prefer if he had some kind of black in him so he could just understand who I am. im Christian and I don’t want to bump heads with the different cultures and beliefs while raising children as well .
I had the same problem. My daughter just turned 18 on our birthday April 5 and she’s finishing her first year at liberty University. straight “A” student all through high school prior to high school she was homeschooled and she has only went to school with mostly white people. I’m not sure if she even is attracted to black boys because most of them in her private Christian HS weren’t high achievers so it was a real turn off. She’s a beautiful girl, and I relate completely because I have the same concerns. 😢
I have a similar experience for my son. He’s been surrounded by white people because of the academy he was in and his love of soccer. He’s at William & Mary. We may have to arrange a date lol.
Only Tony could post a vid titled “What’s Your Thoughts On This”, & get a lot of responses. I wonder if that’s the vid of the black momma that moved his yt gf out the way when she kept hugging on her son on the couch when he got drafted. I think Tony hit all the points…self hate, wanting mixed kids that often grow up confused, validation from yt folks. Sometimes the attitudes of blk women, 1 blk woman stereotype will mess it up for all of us (bonnets in public…loud…ridiculous eye lashes), retaliation. But them yt girls be eyeing the star athletes at a young age. Trained to get them to fall in love before they get that $!
To answer your question - why are black men deliberately choosing white over black women - I think it’s a combination of things. For some, I think it could be a self-hate or Willie Lynch syndrome issue. For others, it’s perceived that white and Hispanic women are “easier” or “gives it up easier” sexually than black women will. I think there’s also a perception that black women don’t take as much stuff as a white woman will. A black woman is quicker to confront a black man about issues than a white woman will. About 15 years ago I had this conversation with one of my black male cousins, who was around 25 or 26 at the time…I was around 32. I asked him why he didn’t date black women. He remarked….cause you black females are too hard, you don’t let nobody get over on y’all. Yeah…he actually said that. So I really think a lot of black men…especially black “boys” think life is easier with a white woman because a white woman is not going to confront him like a black woman will. Then I think there’s a smaller population of black men who went to a predominantly white school, and just feel more comfortable and accepted by the white community. Then for black men who actually “make it” in their careers, being with a white Woman becomes a status symbol. So that’s why I think it’s a combination of reasons.
i believe its definitely self hate and seeing a non black woman as a status symbol. I think these athletes are insecure and are worried about how they will be perceived by their peers if they have made it but their woman is black
You are 100% right on parents not telling their children about relationships! All I was taught growing up was wait till I’m married that was all I knew. I was raised in a two parent household. That’s all I saw. That’s all I knew when I got age and started dating I was dating for marriage. Men were doing the same boy was I wrong! My dad passed away when I was 16 so I don’t have a male teaching me anything about men I think God for your channel!
HEY BROTHER TONY AND COMMUNITY!!! I have been told by some Black Men that most Black Women need to get their attitude in check. Also been told that White Women are .more tame so to speak, easier to deal with Not sure why alot of well off Black Men choose the White Women. That would be a good question to ask them.
An EX BF once told me that my son probably gonna date a "caucasian girl" bc of who I am...and I'm black!🤨 I'm still tryna figure that one OUT! I'm just doing the best I can, from home schooling and co parenting with his Dad. I represent peace and his Dad respects that.
Ok, I have a 15 year old, he plays FB and wants to get a scholarship for college. There are a lot of girls that like him but he says he isn't taking any of them serious right now because he is focused on sports. But one thing he did tell me, he doesn't like that most, if not all the black girls at his school wear wigs, lashes, fake nails and he just isn't attracted to that. And where the girls of the other races have a leg up is that they are natural, mixed girls have the long hair, pretty eyes, long natural lashes etc...Black girls can be the same way, hell his Mommy is one of them, I'm very much into natural beauty and I think that's what he and so many other young men are seeking these days. So sisters.. if you have daughters, teach them to embrace their natural beauty.
What is not talked about is that WW along with other non black ethnicities also wear weaves & fake lashes but they are not ridiculed for it the way BW are. I agree that natural is the best way to represent yourself but it's messed up that way the narrative has been painted negatively towards BW when most of these other non BW do exactly the same thing...just my opinion of course.
Tony I 👏🏾for encourage your sons look to their culture first as I brown mother of a son who is living this out and it breaks my heart to know that my baby sisters may not benefit from the legacy that I will leave.🙏🏾
So where I’m from blacks are more “affluent” have money and cars (in high school) and most of those people were not dating Caucasian people on that level but….the blacks without money definitely were dating outside the race. That’s something to definitely think about.
Hey Tony. IT'S ABOUT STATUS. REMEMBER WHEN CADILACS CAME OUT?, AND ONLY WHITE MEN COULD AFFORD THEM? WELL, WHEN A BLACK MAN WAS ABLE TO GET ONE, IT WAS SOMETHING TO BE CELEBRATED BECAUSE, IT WAS A SIGN OF 1. THE UNATTAINABLE AND 2. IT GAVE THEM THAT "I HAVE ARRIVED" MOMENT. AND 3. IT IS A SELF ESTEEM AND STATUS SYMBOL. IT GIVES THEM THEIR SELF WORTH AND SELF VALUE.
Basically a part of it is just following the trend,part of it is the assumption that different is better,part of it is genuine,part of it is economic gain sometimes for the man sometimes for the women,also other races tend to be raised to marry their own and maybe they can except a top notch ninja,also I think everyone wants a winner and winners get to choose so if they feel like this group is winning then being competitive as men thus is where they go....but wherever you go you taking your self with you
As a black woman who's male family members mostly all date white women, I feel it could be self hate.
If you don’t mind me asking, have you and your other black relatives noticed the pattern and asked questions? Or it doesn’t really bother you as much. @daniellemiller5123
It just feels normalized at this point. I've seen it since I was younger so I felt like they just didn't like black women. They didn't love themselves, and thought is was winning to have white women. You can have conversations amongst each other but I just feel black men are going to do what they please and it ain't reppin us, at least I haven't met any.🤷🏿
Agreed
@@daniellemiller5123 thank you! I understood. You are right they will do what they want to do…
I can definitely see that!
I pray that the next level with God has more to offer black women.
This world would be nothing without us yet we're treated with the utmost disrespect.
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We're so under valued, smh.
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Lord knows this is the truth 🙏🏽
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Went to a PWI. It’s a strategy. Those white girls come to university with the intentions of dating some of these nfl prospects. They intentionally place themselves in their proximity by joining clubs, hosting tailgates, doing fundraisers, assisting alumni and booster clubs, etc. These top universities are also apart of the strategy during recruitment and use these white women as a selling point. Some athletes have even admitted their coaches encouraged them to date white women. I think the athletes are infatuated with their money giving them more dating options, while the wives and girlfriends are playing the long game. As for any non athlete, I’m pro dating outside of your race as long as it’s for the right reason which is that person treating you correctly. If you’re dating outside of your race to be spiteful then you’re lost.
ETA: Personally I prefer black men but I’m also open to someone of a difference race with similar values and a good upbringing. The way the dating pool is nowadays, women, especially black women shouldn’t limit our options.
They have online courses on how to get a Black football player. Its all over tiktok.
Tony, Black Athletes Dating White Women isn't becoming a THING, it's been a THING for years.
"I always been a golddigger" I'm screaminggggg 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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When I tell y'all I fell tf out 😂😂😂
😂😂😂well they stole from us for centuries to this day, so Tony might as well steal it back❗❗❗😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅Yes Sir Gaskins ❗❗❗😁😁😁Boss 🤜🏿🤛🏿👊🏿
I think the majority of it is self loathing on the part of black men. Their moms don’t express their wishes that they would prefer their sons to bring home a woman that looks like them, their sisters, their aunties and cousins. I tell my son if she can’t use your comb don’t bring her home. Because it’s okay to love and bring home and marry a woman that looks like your mom, sisters, aunties and cousins. And I don’t apologize to anyone for it
They get w who lets them cheat in peace 🤭
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BW definitely not known for that😂😂😂😂
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😂😂 yup, she's so submissive lol
Tupac, “I think it’s time to heal our women, be real to our women and If not we’ll have a race of babies 👶🏾 that will hate the ladies that make the babies” They damage us, then hate us for being damaged.
Am an African woman born and raised in Africa. All black and we grew up with pride of who we are. Now here in America, my son started struggling with his identity as a black boy from kindergarten when he started learning of black history. I think they should teach our children of black pride first few years before expecting a kindergarten to process slavery .
Wow they talking about slavery in kidnergarten?
That's the parents responsibility.
@@TYP1970But it’s the schools responsibility to teach slavery?
@@dreadreya what do you think? I learned it in middle and upper also university level. I watched Kuta Kinta at home while in elementary so it depends.
Talk about it! You gotta be proud of where you come from especially Black people. There's so much the Most High has blessed us with even in hard circumstances He still favours us to flourish even at our lowest. That's where the envy of the other races and their hate comes from. The envy of Jacob (Israel). 🙏🏿
I'm at the point in my life, idc. I mind the business that pays me. Life is for the living, not worrying about who dates who. Be blessed 💫
💯 I feel the same way. Live and let live. 🙏🏾
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@@teejay504 exactly! Life is complicated enough lol
Just the other week I passed a young black guy and white girl in the street. I was minding my own business, but from his reaction, the guy seemed bothered that I didn't react. I was thinking afterwards, 'if she's who you're with, be happy with her and don't worry about upsetting anyone'. I do think that some of these guys are trying to get a reaction. In these cases I think that there's something toxic going on, to do with projecting self-hatred. And the women who are with these types of men feed off of it, like a kind of superiority complex, seeing black men hating on their own kind. On the other hand I've seen black men with women of other races where you can tell that it's natural and organic, and they're not going around trying to get a rise out of people. They're just comfortable together. There's no toxicity. That I have more respect for.
That is definitely something I've experienced as well. When a black man is with a non-black woman and they stare at you waiting for you to react. It's very strange. Especially when you couldn’t care less.
I've noticed that as well, and when you're unbothered and unphased, they seem butt hurt. Look dude, do you... don't nobody care, at least I don't anyway....carry on.
Y'all....I thought it was me. I was in a store Sunday and I felt the same thing. This BM with WW and I didn't care less just going about my way and he kept staring at me from time to time. I ended up in the line behind them and he's grinning at her then kissed her on the cheek. I'm still chill. We leave the store around same time I left them by the baskets I got in the car backing out I look up they walking RIGHT BEHIND MY MOVING CAR, so I stop to not hit them and he looking and smiling. I felt in my spirit that was weird, but again I brushed it off. SMH🙄. I'm single, no kids, no animals not a care in the world. Focusing on Jesus Christ, who a lot of BM don't believe in so I'm not missing out on nothing. Thanks Tony for the videos. I always learn something, hear about God every single video and get a good laugh.🤣 Be blessed everyone.
@@alewis4941 They were probably getting ready to say you tried to hit them because you were jealous. Some people you just feel like saying 'don't worry, be happy'. lol.
@dawnweston9382 I had this experience aswell I was walking with my head up and he tried to give eye contact but I smiled and walked on. The white girl also gave a bad mind look but I ignored both of them.
“I saw her hit the blunt and I said this ah ole BOLLYWOP. What in thee WERL”😂😂😂🤣😂🤣
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@@LadyAngela678 😂🤣😂🤣Girl I was in here Hollering!
@@tmac1713 Tony throwed off!!
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I believe it’s the case of familiarity breeds contempt. BM think they know all BW through their moms, sisters, aunts, etc. and feel they’re all the same because it’s what they were brought up around. Those women disciplined, yelled, etc. at them. If they were too harsh with it, BM look at other BW all the same, which is a hindrance if they came from a toxic family.
Also, The others or “exoticals” are perceived to be like June Clever who was submissive, wore dresses/pearls while cooking and cleaning. WM put their women on a pedestal along with their money, so BM go after these types, which they THINK gives them an image of having arrived; their money and women.
It happens everywhere. I’m Costa Rican and it happens here also. The successful black men here married white hispanic women , not Hispanic black women. I think it comes from programming and racism
There was a quote that a meditation teacher taught me that still resonates with me to this day: "Let go or get dragged." I think black men have allowed black women to be dragged on a global stage and no amount of persuading will convince a black man to be with a black woman if he desires a white woman. You will never be enough for a man that does not want you. I want everyone to find someone that they like and love- regardless of race. We can go back and forth and argue if it is self hate, if it is because "black women are undesirable", or black women bullied them... it does not matter. Let them go. I am a black woman married to a white man- and my marriage is solid at this moment in time. What are my thoughts on this? I don't have any. Let them go and be at peace.
“You will never be enough for a man who does not want you.” Whew!
Let them Go!!
You preached a word 🙌🏽. I don't think BW, as a whole, is ready to make that move unfortunately.
@@kia.203 I understand that… I just want black women to understand that his choices have NOTHING to do with their value- no matter how often they will try to push that narrative. Black women do not need to date/marry out if they do not want to, but at least recognize the energy vampires for what they are and detach. And being single is NOT a bad thing either. Live your best life, girly pops!
@@PawsitiveYogaWell said!
@@PawsitiveYoga I completely agree, because that's how I feel!
I'm at the point in life where I'm detached from how "black men" see us black women.... especially me. I've literally discontinued communicating with men who display preconceived ideas about black women. I'm only interested in intellect. If a person can't look beyond my skin color and actually get to know me on an individual basis then there's no point to proceed.
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Same! I’ve been like this the past ten years. Once they go on a little rant about black women etc and it rubs me the wrong way ( especially regarding hair) I am out.
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I an't pressed about it, I been rejected all my life from black men. I'm enjoying this video and my peace❤
They say rejection can be protection..a lot of BW care, I just don't 😂 what's meant for me will be mine period, and no one will stop it.
Wys!! And they wonder why...
Tony Gaskin's transparency and honesty is one of many reasons God blesses his businesses and family.
Yes Indeed 💜
I have never seen a black woman with a WHITE athlete when he going pro. Why is that?
Great observation 😊
I have a friend who married a WW. When his mother passed away, He was excluded from the inheritance. He spent years trying to get his inheritance, but she left numerous documents stating he was not allowed any money from the family estate, and none of the existent children was allowed to share their inheritance. If it was heard that money was shared their assets woukd be revoked. His parents owned the oldest black owned gas station chain in the country.
😮🫢it’s that serious.
Well she will be judged for her demonic actions 🔥🔥😂
I agree with the mother. It was her money
That's Generational Wealth that should be shared with that family in that race
I think she didn't want the WW to get awarded her money or property during a divorce. 🤷🏾
I’m over it🤷🏾♀️….what can I say at this point. They love em, and ain’t nothing we can do about it. Becky’s “it” I guess.
Ikr.. they can have them and their baggage and trauma
The influence of the algorithm is real.
The more I rejected those men vs. women videos the less I saw. The internet doesn’t reflect real life. All media doesn’t reflect real life. We all have to be mindful of that!
That isn't what the younger generation thinks. They are caught in what the social media says.
@@millieconsultancyya, these men know the difference. It is just sewlfhate yall
Having a family member that only dates not only ww but other nationalities he would say he wanted a woman either straight hair and light skinned. He frowned on natural hair or certain hair types that were kinky. I definitely think it comes from self hate and a way to gain! Every female he dated outside blk bought and did for him and still does!
Tupac cleared this up for everybody: "... the blacker the berry..."
Sweeter the juice 💯
Tupac dated Madonna
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That was around way before Tupac was born ❤
At this point in my life, if you hate yourself and need to date other races because of that, do so. Do what helps you survive this life, but keep all that to yourself and don’t spread it to the rest of our people as a positive or a norm. If you do it because your heart chooses that person do that too. The latter seems more productive. Everyone will learn eventually…
Amen to that❗❗❗💯
I have 2 black boys and they are not attracted to WW once so ever and dont understand why other black men date them. In this crazy world we live in I am so thankful my boys love their own women, I believe we did a great job raising them to love and respect their own❤️
We don't think anything about it. Our own community has devalued us our entire lives. What black men have to realize is black women have given up on them emotionally. You can't be bitter about a person or people you don't care about and have no feelings for. It's called apathy. I see black men and white men as the same...I don't understand the difference...the only caveat being that white men have treated me slightly better. I'm not talking in terms of pasta and lobster, I mean in terms of treating us like human beings, having humility, being kind. We appreciate your honesty. Unfortunately, the damage is irreparable at this point, some black women aren't interested in understanding the why...
You explained that so perfectly! That's where I'm at.
24:07 I really wish more intelligent black women would become more vocal in the community/social media. There are intelligent black women in all socioeconomic categories. The media always magnifies the negative aspects…😩
Exactly. That’s because drama gets the most clicks and views.
This is sad 😞 but true!
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@@thekimberlynprojectNo, not all of them. And that has nothing to do with what she stated. Be the change you want to see in the world whether people care to hear and follow or not. Playing the down trodden victim is not it.
White women look for athletes, trying to come up.
Went to a D1 school where Black athletes were known to date mostly white girls and grew up in a small town where most of the Black boys were the same. It was like a competition of who could get a White girl. Heard a lot of Black men (even my dad) talk about White women as being less difficult than Black women. But we grew up around a lot of racism, & definitely internalized that racism. Think more of the Kodak Black mentality…I knew of a lot of guys like this. This was 2009-2017 high school through college. Both in the Southeast.
They are, they are great actresses. I say that respectfully. That is their culture, though ( to pretend). They are good at acting until they get what they want. Very open in the bedroom. They don't require much either, because they know they will be secured in marriage. So it's a very submissive relationship with the Man submitting, actually. Whereas BW require the men to lead. WW do not require anything but submission and the mixed children.
My father also marries and preys on YT women lower class ones at that and I feel it’s because he feels more superior & in control because he has more money he really wants to be a middle aged white man
How many black women were at the SAME college that were overlooked??? Educated families had some money etc….? Some of these athletes want to assimilate into the world of America. The one guys Nigerian mother did not look too pleased about the girl sitting beside her.
When I was younger all the black guys I knew dated whyte women to use them. Whyte women flipped the script and are now using them if theyre successful. Whyte women are not too blame for the the tension among black people. I solely hold black men accountable.
I think it’s their business. I’m married to a black man who takes care of our family. My priority is teach my children about Jesus and encouraging my daughter and my son to find someone who also loves and serves the Lord Jesus Christ with their whole heart. Everyone one else can exercise the free will God have them.
I’m a flawed individual with enough concerns for today alone lol.
Amen!
This! I’m raising my kids up to fear and worship the Lord. I want them to find someone who has the same values.
Amen!
I love these type of comments coming from black women. I needed to hear this bc it would really bother me but it shouldn’t since it’s none of my business ❤
@@habeshasister11 OK sis I’m not gonna leave you out here hanging. I feel the same exact way you do! I’m 58 and I keep saying I need to change, but I’m not there yet!😏
It’s just the “New Jim Crow” unfortunately
Tony you’re awesome!!!👏 ❤I know the demons are mad at you. You never sugarcoat anything continue serving Jesus and you’re going to have a beautiful mansion in Heaven. Matthew 10:33
Speaking from the other side of the pond, what I have observed in Canada, I worked in the corporate world. Every black man had a white woman and the average man had an overweight white woman. There's a sense of if I am with the white woman I have more respect in certain places I have to go. It felt like a security blanket for some of these men.. It's disappointing as a black woman to watch all the eligible bankers, black men whoearn good money, putting it back to white community, as a black woman who's field im Trying to put it back in my own community.
1, its a come up
2, self hate
3, security
Some look like hostages but if you are happy good for you
A lot if times interracial relationships happen because of financial gain, self hate and social media. I know from personal experience a family member of mine is married to a white woman. They've been married for 17 years. She gets along well with the rest of our family.They've been together in sickness and in health. They are alike in a lot of ways. They are a good fit for each other. 🙏🙏🙏
A homeboy mentioned tagging onto one through marriage to keep benefiting financially and with career opportunities. He’s built a life in though his method.
it's uncomfortable conversation but it's necessary to point out negative social programming and how it affects men of color to this day..
Yep, whatever will “benefit”them the best. I’ve noticed (not all men) they are attracted to what will make them look good in the eyes of society/friends/family. They want to impress. In my experience men have said to me they want “pretty kids/with good hair”. You know what that means..And if they don’t want to go all the way european then closer to european presenting is better. I think they sometimes don’t realize what society has conditioned them to go towards 🤷🏽♀️. I wish we all could just go for who is best for us..who God has chosen for us but ofcourse the worldly ways get in the way.
Up to 33 min so far…. I’d say a lot of what you have said is on point. Speaking on our childhoods and the resources the Whyte girls may have had, the fascination of trying another race, emulating what pookie nem’ was doing (you’re dating a whyte girl, so I will too), etc. A lot of the Black guys I was around that dated whyte girls did so for a season. Some of the whyte girls went back to their racist heritage and they were only there to be a part of the culture for a short season. But, the ones who had children with or married Black men will still never understand or be passionate about Black people as a whole! 🤷🏽♀️
Next generation:
When my son was younger I told him to leave the whyte girls alone because we don’t need those problems (in childhood , my whyte friends parents hated Black boys). He never dated a whyte girl but he always had a selection of girls to choose from (both Black & whyte). His wife is Black & so my grandchildren will be.
Chocolate 12:01 A.M.😂
This been going on since the two decades ago with men uplifting women of other races even in rap videos. I honestly think that’s where it started. And exactly what Tony said about certain races wing willing to date black athletes because they have money. When they go trying to make themselves available to the black athletes the athletes choose them over black women sadly.
It’s not really anything to do with social media because this has been going on before social media was popular
Black men have black women in their families so they know what black women are like. Black women see how black men are in their families and they still look to date them….black men are exposed to black women outside of social media so that isn’t really true. We still love you though!
Men are the pursuers so they are choosing not to pursue black women. Black women are not the pursuers so they end up with the men who pursue them - most men approaching black women are black
It’s even sadder as a working corporate professional. I want to fully comment but I won’t. I’m happily dating - I’m so thankful for Tony. Yet, I know that whether I marry a white man or a black man, etc, my son will still be a black man, and he will be treated as such in society. And so I think about that every day.
Hey Tony, sometimes it depends on where you live in the United States. For example, I currently work at Yale University and have also worked at Yale New Haven Hospital in an administrative capacity to where I have a very close view to the inner works of both and let me tell you, it warms my heart to see so many beautiful black young men and women as doctors, fellows, and administrators as well as law students etc. if your son decides to attend Yale he will undoubtedly see his reflections of himself in a successful capacity. Also want to add, for a few years I lived in West Palm Beach, Florida and Tony it was surprising to me how my black folks interacted with me. Most had never met anyone from up north and sometimes said to me, “I didn’t know there were black people in CT” no lie. This was in 2003-2008. It was also a different experience for me because some were so docile in the workplace and I was more assertive. Anyways, there’s so much more I could share but I’ll leave it here for now.
Please share more. I heard Yale was better than harvard for cultural simulation. Do you think it is a class issue? Wealthier black children gravitate towards other black children? Because sports is aimed at the lower working class. Especially football. Rare to find high academic achievers in sports. That could also explain their "strategic" choice. whereas professionals in medical and tech spaces tend to marry BW. The sports and media industry can not be allowed to be the thermometer for how the culture chooses love. Both industries are only 10% of the working population.
I grew up knowing my dad love white women cheated on my mom with a white women who he married and later cheated on her. This woman would call my mother on the phone and ask her how she deal with my dad when he walk around not speaking? My mother told her that's your problem now and hung up in her ear😂. She and my father later divorced but he dealt with any white woman was for convenience.
They want dormants that let them do whatever they want without putting up a fuss
Sorry Tony, but the majority of us (black folks) dressed fresh from elementary to high school and had cars by high school. We all came from different "classes," lol. Some of us already had jobs by like 9th grade, so some bought their own cars or matched with the parents. My first two cars in high school were given to me by family. I can say our parents, whether single or married, really made it happen for us, and we worked hard also to get what we wanted.
Not where he is from
Facts. My mom gave all three of us a car after high school lol I had my first job at 16.
Yep, I worked and kept good grades... and had what I needed!
It is some of all of the things you talked about. It is a very complex dynamic. I’ve never dated outside of my race, but I have felt that white people are smarter, prettier, smaller, have more money , more confident and all that. I am 64 years old and I am just now feeling that I am enough and I know my worth. All of my struggles with self worth weren’t tide to race, but much of it was.
Blessings Mr Tony🙏🏾💕. I’m only three minutes in on this question and my answer has always and will always be “INSECURITY”, until I see differently
I used to care about BM dating a white woman but now I don't care since I'm married to my Black man. I just hope and pray 🙏🏽 that my Black sisters who are both educated, and well-rounded get great Black men to marry
Amen
TG I'm gonna tell you, that the word of GOD don't lie.
(The Love of money is the root of All evil). 1 Timothy 6:10,
Evidence of this, war, depopulation of a race, suicide, etc. (Think about it)???... 🙏🕊️💟
I feel the ball players aren't usually smart so they may think the yt family will show them how to flip or invest their money. Alot of blacks trust yts with their money before us and they be the ones who end up taking it all. And also they know black women will see their flaws and will shout it to the world and the others will keep their secrets as a beard.
The Black women at a catch 22. She doesn't get picked when she has nothing then wheh she gets educated and has stuff. She still gets overlooked
Oh and if they have more european looking/passing children they feel it will be better for the children in the future then what he had to go thru..they don’t want to continue the “struggle” of being black in society. I’ve heard this alot.
Good one Tony! For the most part you hit the nail on the head. It’s a mix of a few things. It’s self hate,ignorance & insecurity. It can be a natural genuine fit… but that’s usually a 1-2% chance of that happening. Ultimately ppl do desperate things in the face of loneliness, isolation & ignorance.
I feel it's all about proximity. Most of those athletes who get drafted go to big predominantly white universities.
Nah
I know too many bw that still Dont date white and they grew up in white neighborhoods
At this point I want more (or all) BM with WW. I think they are one and the same. And that’s all I’m gonna say. I think BW have more peace if they just go.
Miss, you're a force to be reckoned with, I believe I concur. 😊 wow!
May as well. Once all the WW married up, they'll just move to another group... long as she ain't AA. It's slick funny... so, you want anybody but who you grew up around??? 🤭
I honestly feel like black women should learn to date outside their race. I don’t just date, black men. There’s more options out there, black women only stick with black men when black men aren’t always choosing us.
Real love is heart to heart. Fake love is just playing a part.
My thoughts from Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹
I think part of it is the environment. I sent my son to schools where white people were the majority. Not on purpose. I worked at a middle school and brought him with me and then he got accepted into a languages academy. He got accepted to a PWI and got a scholarship. Another thing about my son is that he’s not all about looks. He likes to carry on deep conversations about life, travel, etc. His girlfriends were both Hispanic(he’s fluent in Spanish) and had come from families that were well traveled. These girls gave him the intellectual stimulation he was looking for. I have asked him if he has a preference for them. He told me he has tried. He said the black girl before he met his girlfriend he tried talk to at his college played to many games. And when he wasn’t pushy with her as far as kissing and s*x, she started questioning his sexuality. I am a teacher and some of our black girls need some home training. When I thought about what my son has seen from my and his sisters’ behavior would more align with a white girl 😢. I still praying for a black woman who loves Jesus and not because I’m racist. I want to see our black win in love and relationships.
Excuse my lack of commas and typos. It’s hard typing in these little boxes. 😂
Great comment. Hits at the source: under-training of black young girls to be Queens in their own natural selves so they can act accordingly
The worlds only catching upto what BW been knew and more bw are now more open to dating other races. Other races of men genuinely are interested in BW and the way that they love is very protective, mature and refreshing nothing is perfect but it’s better then receiving constant immature low vibrations because the BM doesn’t know how to deal with life and all they can do is have sex talk about sex their boys and money. Men like you Tony are a rare exception and the younger girls that get your sons will be lucky if they remain the beautiful boys that they are ❤️🙏🏾 Also the e.g that you used how some BW act White women are worse, they expect a man to pay for everything & they are very vocal about it. BM choose they because based on colorism even if they choose a BW it’s the closet thing to white.
You nailed it on the head Tony! This is all programming via social media, entertainment, etc. That one BW who had an issue with the Cheese Cake Factory doesn't represent all BW. I love the Cheese Cake Factory. Then look at the TV shows and movies the only BM or BW is typically with a non black partner or homosexual. I grew up in Arizona and experienced the hatred that comes from BM/WW interracial relationships. Most of those relationships were shrouded with hate towards BW. I got tired of all my black cousins putting WW on a pedestal and trashing BW. Interesting thing they've all been married /divorced multiple times and have several babies mamas (all non black). As of today only two of them are married to non BW (3rd wives). You mean to tell me they dated, married and had babies by these WW and got the same results. Who's the common denominator in that situation BM not BW. I haven't seen the same hatred in BW/WM relationships they just date/marry out. All this is by design and is dividing the black community. Why is it okay for Indians, Asians, Native Americans, Latinos to instruct their families to date their own? When black people say that then we are racist or insecure BW blah blah.
This is very true! What I've found is anything pushed in the media, is usually against the word of God.
I don’t know why successful black men, date outside their race, if it’s organic, I don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t care for the self hate attitude that some black men have for their race specifically women, but black women are strong and resilient, which is why most black women are doing it for themselves, we have to love ourselves, and take care of ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically, and if we want to be married, form a faithful relationship with God, and look to him, to give you the desires of your heart
All people are Gods people. Organic love is what I believe is the key. Genuine love between two people is what matters. I knew my husband RIP, was the right one for me. At first my Mom was not happy about it but she ended up loving him dearly and loved spending time with us. He had been divorced and a few years older than me. Race/Nationality is not important to me at all. The world today is so judgmental. Thank you Tony, great topic. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Money affords us the comfortability to be who we really want to be or to show our true selves. When people come into money/success and run to another race they see that race as a trophy/reward for their success. We should all be teaching all our children pride in self and their race and if they find love in another race it won't be an achievement to be thrown in the face of their race
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Lord Have Mercy!! Tony’s dad said “I’m going to kill myself, your wife is going to cheat on you and Tony was going to die”. Tony is low key a comedian. 😂😂😂 Great discussion though. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😅
"Well said!!" My oldest son married a white woman who did not love him. She cheated on him with another black man, got pregnant, had the baby, my son had to raise the child. "I told him he was a damn fool." His exact words, "It's not the baby's fault." He is still with her( he though he divorced her, he is still living with his ex-wife!
What a shame
Madness
Smh, they shine those trophies by excusing any negative behavior. Yet, we're judged at ever turn. It's absolutely insane.
@@thekimberlynproject💯🎯 I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees this.
Uncle Tony thank you for speaking your real feelings no matter what people opinions are, some stuff I don’t agree with you on but I can honestly say… you be on point 💯. I’ll take your advice over any man’s advice on the internet at this point in time you keep it the realist
I think a lot of the time, it is programming, status symbol, and our black children not getting taught best dating practices. And yes, we can say this has been going on for decades, EXACTLY! It's been decades of programming, etc. Subliminally and not.
Tony, you hit the nail on the head of telling your son he needs to just get out of the microcosm of his current environment before he really starts to date. I think a lot of people, especially from certain environments (especially small towns) and certain socioeconomic backgrounds, don't give the time to meet someone. They just gain stereotypes and settle with the 1st or 2nd person that comes along that doesn't meet their negative stereotypes.
Lastly, A LOT of Americans, especially Black Americans (I'm Black American and Liberian) think that we're the ONLY Black group of people on the whole planet. A lot don't think outside of the box or have access to knowing that there are SO many nationalities and ethnicities of people around the world that share the same Black genes and commonalities that we don't have to be confined to just dating Black Americans. We have an entire continent of Africans, islands of people of African/Black descent, etc. Knowledge is power.
I just seen a TikTok post from a former football player he said it’s systematically plan would love your take on it.
I think you’re doing right, check it out. Voice your opinion. The other races voice theirs to their children. I was surprised that the white man , going to your dad’s church would say and feel like that. I thought church our common belief in Christ, would bring us more together but hey. I guess. , Idk know if I agree with that one but that sixth grader broke my heart, his essay. Even before you said it., that touched me. That’s definitely something to think about. You have to start early letting bi racial/ all kids know they are good enough.! I wish kids had more education where teachers , definitely parents talk more on this. Self love. I appreciate you Tony.
I think its environmental but also they are relentless. They set their sights on a man and don't let up on the gas!
I'm a black woman in London UK and I could argue that it could be that there isn't many black women in the UK compared to white women but at the same time that's probably an excuse. I would say most black men think white or other women are better than black people and they would prefer to dilute their features (especially if they was to have a female child) and be in a mixed relationship. I would say that's the vast majority of black men. There's another group of black men that just like to try something different.
They are too young to know the OJ Simpson story!!! 😢
“I'll kill myself” is extreme 😭
I don’t know but a lot of black men have been not liking us. Hence the generations of beating and cheating. 🤷🏽♀️
as a kid my boyfriends were white my dad was not happy but one broke up with me once his sis found out I was black and told the parents. 😂 he still follows me until this day. there were black boys but they dated white girls. it’s like at school was one world but when you got on the bus and all the black ppl was together we became back interested in one another 🤣🤣 ive always had friends of different ethnicities so i would be open to any race but I would prefer if he had some kind of black in him so he could just understand who I am. im Christian and I don’t want to bump heads with the different cultures and beliefs while raising children as well .
I had the same problem. My daughter just turned 18 on our birthday April 5 and she’s finishing her first year at liberty University. straight “A” student all through high school prior to high school she was homeschooled and she has only went to school with mostly white people. I’m not sure if she even is attracted to black boys because most of them in her private Christian HS weren’t high achievers so it was a real turn off. She’s a beautiful girl, and I relate completely because I have the same concerns. 😢
I have a similar experience for my son. He’s been surrounded by white people because of the academy he was in and his love of soccer. He’s at William & Mary. We may have to arrange a date lol.
My dad (he passed away) and I had the same birthday April 2! Happy belated to us all From Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹
Only Tony could post a vid titled “What’s Your Thoughts On This”, & get a lot of responses. I wonder if that’s the vid of the black momma that moved his yt gf out the way when she kept hugging on her son on the couch when he got drafted. I think Tony hit all the points…self hate, wanting mixed kids that often grow up confused, validation from yt folks. Sometimes the attitudes of blk women, 1 blk woman stereotype will mess it up for all of us (bonnets in public…loud…ridiculous eye lashes), retaliation. But them yt girls be eyeing the star athletes at a young age. Trained to get them to fall in love before they get that $!
To answer your question - why are black men deliberately choosing white over black women - I think it’s a combination of things. For some, I think it could be a self-hate or Willie Lynch syndrome issue. For others, it’s perceived that white and Hispanic women are “easier” or “gives it up easier” sexually than black women will. I think there’s also a perception that black women don’t take as much stuff as a white woman will. A black woman is quicker to confront a black man about issues than a white woman will. About 15 years ago I had this conversation with one of my black male cousins, who was around 25 or 26 at the time…I was around 32. I asked him why he didn’t date black women. He remarked….cause you black females are too hard, you don’t let nobody get over on y’all. Yeah…he actually said that. So I really think a lot of black men…especially black “boys” think life is easier with a white woman because a white woman is not going to confront him like a black woman will. Then I think there’s a smaller population of black men who went to a predominantly white school, and just feel more comfortable and accepted by the white community. Then for black men who actually “make it” in their careers, being with a white Woman becomes a status symbol. So that’s why I think it’s a combination of reasons.
i believe its definitely self hate and seeing a non black woman as a status symbol. I think these athletes are insecure and are worried about how they will be perceived by their peers if they have made it but their woman is black
I don't see color lines. I'm biracial. However, PURE LOVE don't see color, we MUST use Wisdom. I personally 💕 a God fearing Black Man.
You are 100% right on parents not telling their children about relationships! All I was taught growing up was wait till I’m married that was all I knew. I was raised in a two parent household. That’s all I saw. That’s all I knew when I got age and started dating I was dating for marriage. Men were doing the same boy was I wrong! My dad passed away when I was 16 so I don’t have a male teaching me anything about men I think God for your channel!
They really abandoned us 😢
Also a lot of those white girls had daddies with a job and a li' money.
I'm so glad you admitted to being a gold digger, because this new narrative that men aren't interested in a woman's money is a lie!
Bro Tony is HILARIOUS!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂Yes!!
Mr. Gaskins, Social workers are not "broke" They are paid in full! Some are in private practice making millions!
Good to know. Not everywhere tho
HEY BROTHER TONY AND COMMUNITY!!!
I have been told by some Black Men that most Black Women need to get their attitude in check. Also been told that White Women are .more tame so to speak, easier to deal with
Not sure why alot of well off Black Men choose the White Women. That would be a good question to ask them.
This a ole bolly wop!😂😂😂
there are white hispanics too lol its funny to me
Gringos and gringas😂
An EX BF once told me that my son probably gonna date a "caucasian girl" bc of who I am...and I'm black!🤨 I'm still tryna figure that one OUT! I'm just doing the best I can, from home schooling and co parenting with his Dad. I represent peace and his Dad respects that.
Ok, I have a 15 year old, he plays FB and wants to get a scholarship for college. There are a lot of girls that like him but he says he isn't taking any of them serious right now because he is focused on sports. But one thing he did tell me, he doesn't like that most, if not all the black girls at his school wear wigs, lashes, fake nails and he just isn't attracted to that. And where the girls of the other races have a leg up is that they are natural, mixed girls have the long hair, pretty eyes, long natural lashes etc...Black girls can be the same way, hell his Mommy is one of them, I'm very much into natural beauty and I think that's what he and so many other young men are seeking these days. So sisters.. if you have daughters, teach them to embrace their natural beauty.
What is not talked about is that WW along with other non black ethnicities also wear weaves & fake lashes but they are not ridiculed for it the way BW are. I agree that natural is the best way to represent yourself but it's messed up that way the narrative has been painted negatively towards BW when most of these other non BW do exactly the same thing...just my opinion of course.
Tony I 👏🏾for encourage your sons look to their culture first as I brown mother of a son who is living this out and it breaks my heart to know that my baby sisters may not benefit from the legacy that I will leave.🙏🏾
Tony be taking me smooth OUT!!!!! I be screaming laughing in my house!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So where I’m from blacks are more “affluent” have money and cars (in high school) and most of those people were not dating Caucasian people on that level but….the blacks without money definitely were dating outside the race. That’s something to definitely think about.
Tony Gaskins imitating the white girl🤣🤣🤣
Hey Tony. IT'S ABOUT STATUS. REMEMBER WHEN CADILACS CAME OUT?, AND ONLY WHITE MEN COULD AFFORD THEM? WELL, WHEN A BLACK MAN WAS ABLE TO GET ONE, IT WAS SOMETHING TO BE CELEBRATED BECAUSE, IT WAS A SIGN OF 1. THE UNATTAINABLE AND 2. IT GAVE THEM THAT "I HAVE ARRIVED" MOMENT. AND 3. IT IS A SELF ESTEEM AND STATUS SYMBOL. IT GIVES THEM THEIR SELF WORTH AND SELF VALUE.
Basically a part of it is just following the trend,part of it is the assumption that different is better,part of it is genuine,part of it is economic gain sometimes for the man sometimes for the women,also other races tend to be raised to marry their own and maybe they can except a top notch ninja,also I think everyone wants a winner and winners get to choose so if they feel like this group is winning then being competitive as men thus is where they go....but wherever you go you taking your self with you
It’s all about the future money .😳