Ladies, it’s important that we have our own interests, passions, purpose and LIVES. It makes us more interesting and it attracts a more interesting suitor.
Ladies, whether you've just met, recently married, or have been with him for years: Silence is the key! By non- questioning or acting unconcerned, you will have said a lot! Move in silence!
I think this should be elaborated on. It’s good to be silent if he’s aware you caught him doing something he knows you’re not fond of. But for example, if you’re dating someone and you notice them do something you don’t like, you can express your dislike. Sometimes things are a conversation, especially early on when you’re getting to know each other.
I totally agree 💯 And Tony said it best. When you don’t chase them and don’t be all up they’re A, they will be more interested in your. I had to learn this with my Husband. He gets what he wants from me just by his silence.
Ladies, i know this to be true in my 20's and now I'm 60ish. Ive been married almost 20 years and some of my exes still facebook my mom to send messages, she asked " what did you do to these men"? I told her what my mama told me, never chase a man, and a man going to do what ever you allow him to do. I always kept a wall up in case it didn't work out, i wasn't crumbling all over the place. I was about my buisness, had a house at 22, owned 2 cars and traveled. I was loving and honest and treated a man good and he would fall in love. I had a few no goods but that's life. Some women these days are very different. They pursue men hard! Let a man chase you and not for the wrong reason. Keep sex at bay and learn about each other. My husband now treats me still the same as we dated. He had and still has a lot of chivalry. ❤
Good for you. You had someone early in life give you the knowledge; most of us haven't or never learned; that's why we are here. Blessings and continued healing for all
When I was 15 my friend mom walked in on us and I was crying over a boy, she told me never let a man see you sweat, she was head nurse at her job. I’m now 29 years old and I stand on that. Ladies Never let a man see you sweat.
My mother did this to my dad, so i saw this work..its so true dont ask questions ,cause if you dont he will tell u what u want to know every time..a man can't take it when you don't call and ask 50 questions ...silence IS golden
Tony isn’t lying ladies. When you don’t chase after a man or run up behind him he will run up behind you for the most part. Opposites attract. 💯🔥 You have to have your own life outside of a man and your relationship. That’s the secret.
Please ladies, listen to Mr. Gaskins. Everything he said is TRUE. When you don't smother a man by texting/calling every hour, it causes him to think about you MORE & MORE lol.
I will continue to say, this is the information our brothers, fathers and male cousins should have been telling us. Not for us to play games, but to understand more of a man mindset towards a woman. I am grafetul for Tonys honesty and wisdom. God continue to cover him and his family.
@whewchile8406 ❤️❤️I'm sorry to hear that. But I'm w you, I'm grateful for him too. One who also never fails to Bless me is Pastor RC Blakes. Check him out if you haven't already.
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! I've NEVER chased my previous boyfriends around, by going into their phones, wallets, personal property, incessantly calling/texting them regarding their whereabouts, who they're with and what they're doing -- NEVER! My self-esteem has NEVER been THAT low, where he's going to have MY brain in a tizzy about his life, 24/7. NO SIR! 👎 I figured like this: If you're doing dirt, it'll come out. I may not know what you're into daily, but I'm not going to drive myself into a black whole to find out either. When I see you/talk to you, we're good, unless I either find out or you tell me otherwise. Ladies: If you take this EXACT approach with men, instead of allowing your insecurities to get the best of you, I PROMISE YOU, you'll be in a quite powerful position. You're welcome! 😁
That is so true. That insecurity will do a woman all the way in. A man’s treatment must coincide with how I feel about myself. If a man does not treat me right, no car and no amount of money will keep me. Yep, don’t sweat him sisters. Don’t not forget who the queen is. If you know you’re a queen, he will recognize the queen in you.
@@marya3823 BINGO! 🎯🎰 That is the part missing from this Tony's advice. Sadly, many women will take this, and become _enablers_ to their unfaithful men, in the spirit of not rocking the boat or wanting to seem insecure. F _that._ Using his example, many of the same men who are _not_ being questioned are even more bold (cheating, disrespectful) than those who are. Moreover, don't be fooled into thinking that the man who is now questioning and chasing his woman (example at the end) is being faithful. Many are that suspicious _because they are,_ not simply b/c he's worried about her. Bottom line: *_Home_** is your safe space, it is **_meant_** to be secure. In moments when insecurities surface, take a moment and balance logic with your emotion, but **_by all means SPEAK with your partner. Everything is not a game._** Far too many relationships suffer **_due to the lack of sincere, open, vulnerable_** conversation/communication. And that is not limited to Eros relationships.* *Please use your gift of discernment (or learn & hone in on it if you lack), and use your gift of intuition and expression. These are [meant to be] some of women's **_strengths._** Just [try to] do so with grace, compassion, and warmth... **_also_** our strengths. Silence in the face of questionable discomfort is a betrayal. Betrayal to your **_Self_** (your entire being-- heart, body, mind, spirit, SOUL)...to your **_partner,_** and [thus] to your **_union._* *Silence is absence of sort, and in this case, _suppression._ And for what? Because you're _afraid_ of him cheating _because_ of questions? That means that man is not trustworthy. Consider scripture about timidity, and moving from fear. You can _pretend_ to not care, but then that's farce. _Loads_ of scripture about _that._ Listen... _Ultimate line_ (😅): [To] Communicate is to participate, to share. (Com=with, Uni=Whole, Commune=Support, to empathize; Communicare _imparts,_ and we know ℹ _is a good_ thing.) *Communication **_brings together._** Silence encourages & enables division. Your creator **_does not_** wish you to be divided, right?* Disappointed with this teaching. (Of course this is a PSA of-sort, not directed to you, Mary, who seems to better understand than others here.) Blessed Love, _All._ 🙏🏽🤍☮
Ladiessss Tony is not lying about this. I did this with my husband let me tell you he was going crazy trying to figure out what I’m doing . He thought I was cheating lol
👸never let him see u sweat. u can't make a man cheat or Not cheat. bc he's either programmed for morality or he's not. & playing detective won't change a snake 🐍into a prince😌.
This is so true, I used to be very insecure in the beginning of my relationship , but once I started pouring into myself ,I backed off my boyfriend and started focusing on me ,and stop worrying about him and the tables definitely turned, I had to really start saying to myself I'm the prize every morning . And now he is way more into me and making sure I'm good.I literally stopped giving a u know what..!!
You know what, Sherri? I did that, too, after dating him six months. Guess what happened? He dropped off. He took the walking papers 📜 I gave him. More room for a hero!
It’s crazy and in my opinion very immature that we have to pull back from a man for him to act right. Because I’m not blowing your phone up with texts or calls. I’m like this…..if he ain’t acting right…..I’m done. Not wasting no more of my time.
Tony is correct. Whether people realize it or not. If a guy would still cheat anyhow, even when you give him reasonable space, then he is not for you. Plain and simple. You want a decent man. Don't be a desperado. What did Tony say not too long ago? Some of you are not listening. Learn to listen. Trust God and the allow the process to take it's course. Coming from a women who had well over 20 years of successful marriage and one who allowed her husband to pursue her and who kept him guessing, but in a healthy way. He absolutely loved me and there was never any question about is love for me. And I loved him, very much! May The Heavenly Father rest his precious soul.
Yes, there is no point in checking on someone because if they are the cheating kind and you get that feeling, no sense of him reassuring you will help because it will always creep up and he will be more creative in hiding things.
It's true!! My husband and I have each other's Google location. We both check it but don't say anything to each other usually. But a few times, he's had remarks. Like one time, I was hanging with friends, and my phone died. He tells me he got a little "curious" because my location stopped updating in some neighborhood. I smiled and told him my phone died, but I was thankful I was able to figure my way home from where I was, thankfully without GPS. He then asked who lived in that neighborhood. LOL! This a man who came into the relationship declaring he ain't jealous at all and he doesn't like clingy women.
For me this is total TRUTH. Tried, tested and wear the t-shirt. I'm a retired Registered nurse, widowed after a 36 year gr8t marriage and just remarried a retired Engineer. He says what's most attractive about me is that strength, yet gentleness but no nonsense about me. I too NEVER ask him where he's going or stalk him with unnecessary calls. If people wanna cheat, trust & believe there is NO stopping them. Also true, you MUST be willing and ok with walking away (they also must see & know it too).
So true! Early in life I witnessed peers chasing, flipping out, questioning and begging men. I said, "won't be me!". I mastered the art of indifference. Men dont really know how to take it and I kind of get a kick out of them trying to figure me out. LOL
An ex friend was dating a guy who had a girlfriend out of state. The guy was unable to connect with his girlfriend via phone for a few days and lost it. My ex friend shared that he was crying and stating that his girlfriend was with another man. The audacity, right?!
Tell it Tony! I adopted this way of thinking after seeing my male friends & cousins purposely ignoring calls. And the kicker is they weren't even doing anything wrong, they were just doing it for sport! 😮
I needed this reminder! Love feels so different in my 40s. Never thought I’d be questioning a man - it’s not like me but yet I had been doing this recently. So thank you!
Listennn. Tony, I recently commented on a video where the men were encouraging each other to stop pursuing women. Saying the women should chase the men. I respectfully shared that my experience had been different. I've also talked to thousands of women and the ones who chased the men, chased them away!
I’ve completely taken your words and made them reality. As I’m watching I realize I do this 😂 I really let my man go on about his business. I’ve never blown his phone up or asked him if he was cheating. He also gives me no reason to.
They can compare and go get that.. the world is too small and life is too short for a man to be setting for less. They have options and it's plenty of fish in the sea. It gets to a point where woman need to love and value themselves and not be chasing behind a man who really don't even want them. They should go get the woman they compare woman too.
And I always thought it was so bizarre when I hear stories about women secretly breaking into their boyfriends phone. I would never! That’s so disrespectful and a complete invasion of privacy. If I can’t trust him he will never be my boyfriend let alone my husband.
Tony YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT about checking on your dude because I NEVER did that and they would be blowing me up trying to see what IM doing. Far as I know I NEVER had a man cheat on me because he was too busy trying to see what I was doing. Also Tony you don’t have to ask for forgiveness because God is blessing you with the best. YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU GETTING because you are changing peoples lives especially mine.
It's true.... the more you ignore a man the more confused he is about it.... it's like he expects you to be on him simply bc other women have done it....
He didn’t tell not one lie! This is coming from someone who has lived through this! It’s the absolute truth❤ Tony be dropping gems even tho I don’t agree with everything he say he be dropping knowledge. Ladies Ladies catch the gems ❤❤
I don’t care if he wants to go…go!!! I’ve always been like this if I find that you are not the one I keep it going! My first real boyfriend was always looking! I never chased! My siblings were like he’s out with so and so. I was like how do you cry? Call everyone I know to then walk??? Tony is right I never chased but he still called, but I didn’t want him anymore!! I have a cut off spirit😂!
I’m here Professor Gaskins, Ready to Listen & take Notes 📝 U know that was me and I was just JOKING with you Professor; I forgive you 🤴🏾🤣🤣🤣🤣 Now, let me watch this AGAIN, just in case I miss something 🤪
I'm glad someone said it... just because you're not checking for them doesn't mean they're not going to cheat, like whaaat? Man... this really is instructions on how to catch and keep a predator
@@Wewereneveryoungfacts!!! I feel like this message don’t apply for every man.. some men be glad you don’t call and check on them because they may feel you don’t care about them or what they doing and you ever hear thoes stories about women finding out her man been in a whole other relationship for 10 years and didn’t know.. guess why because she never checked or asked questions.. some men will take you for boo boo the fool and waste your time because they know you not checking.. and like some men just going to cheat regardless of you check or don’t check
Goodnness ladies...this wasn't all encompassing instructions on how to prevent a man from cheating nor the reason why they cheat. It's simply something to be aware of and add to your priorities in addition to your common sense, intution and making your own choices. When your self assured a lot of this comes natural. Do you listen to understand or feel bad about yallselves?
If you’re worried about him cheating, that means you have no options. You need to always look your best so that you’re still receiving attention from other men (not cheating on your man) but being nice to other men. Being confident around them. Smiling. then you won’t worry about being cheated on
When you can’t see a woman sweat, she’s not a sweater. My mom taught me that about a job; never let them see you sweat. If they do, they will mistreat you and dog you out. When it comes to men, I learned from the best. She was not one to sweat men. She didn’t chase my dad and act a fool wanting to fight the other woman, none of that. She taught me, if a man doesn’t want you, let him go. There is NOTHING you can do about it. She said: You can go down the street on your hands with your dress over your head, and it will not make a bit of difference. The only two you let see you sweat is the Almighty God and his son, Jesus Christ. The difference is, they will never mistreat you. If a man doesn’t know how to imitate them in his treatment of a woman, he will walk all over you. Don’t sweat a man, if he wants you, he will do his very best to keep you and will never give you a reason to leave him. IMO, you have to have happiness within yourself. No one can make you happy. You won’t run him down or call him constantly. Besides, if he’s doing anything, it will come out. Don’t make yourself worry about it. Keep living and keep your happiness and be at peace. If anything or anybody is going to destroy that, let it go or remove it or yourself.
I no longer date men. But whew did I have a blast, seeing them crumble with the same bs they tried to pull on me…And nope I don’t feel bad for any of the stuff I did. Built character and taught me, men are men. Women are Goddesses. For many years I acted unbothered, confident etc. and then one day. I became it all. And til this day I can get whatever I want from those men. The best way to be is calculatedly selfish. It’s Because it will force you to put yourself first and when you do that. Your mind is fed, body exercised. Business booming and a man will always need to feel needed so only allow men in, who adjust to fit in your world first. Be confident. Be in love with solitude, be able to stand alone, so that you are able to look any man in the eye and not blink, so that amongst many man, you are a Queen
I know more insecure men and baby it’s a very ugly thing . I’m a married woman and i really don’t try to worry about . What’s for me is for me ! I wouldn’t go out my way to have a man .
It’s also sad to see this in chapter 9:38 still being done it makes me realize that if a man ever did that to me again that I would just stop talking to him cause I’m grown and that’s what they really try to do.. looking at it from a happy single woman perspective
@@nene.portier4034 i learned exactly what he explained 🤷🏽♀️ then I took heed dnt chase, dnt beg, dnt constantly ask etc etc… the hard way lol. And I dnt know any other way to explain what I’m saying lol
Again another methodology used in previous relationships and it works every single time!! One time it worked too good. The guy (a military guy) used his “trained skills” to come looking for me. He said (in a deep voice) “ I’m just checking in and checking on you!” 😂….
Hey! Tony said, even if you have to wear a towel around your neck 😂😂❤. So funny 🙏🏾, teach us, because we be thinking all those things move mountains ⛰️ and they don’t. It just builds a bigger one. And one thing about me, is I want you to hear me 🤷🏾♀️
I know this is a serious topic but it's too funny. I'm still working and can't focus after getting this notification. Tony, you funny as a mug...🤣 lots of truth in this video. And lots of humor...lol.
Ladies, it’s important that we have our own interests, passions, purpose and LIVES. It makes us more interesting and it attracts a more interesting suitor.
Truth.
How Can I Pin This?
@@bakretobi8067Just take a screenshot.
@@bakretobi8067Just take a screenshot.
@@bakretobi8067 I don’t know 🤷🏾♀️
It tickles me when he ask for forgiveness in the beginning of just about every video. 😂😂
Right! And I never know what I'm forgiving him for?! Lol! 🤣🤣
😂😂😂
That’s Tony’s intro. If he doesn’t say it the video feels incomplete lol
😭😂 nah fr
“Yaw gone have to forgimmee”
“Hey hey this is Tony Gaskins y’all gotta forgive me”
Ladies, whether you've just met, recently married, or have been with him for years: Silence is the key! By non- questioning or acting unconcerned, you will have said a lot! Move in silence!
Hard to do but there’s definitely power in it.
This! Main character, unbothered energy always, he will keep you top priority, as it should be✨✨
I think this should be elaborated on. It’s good to be silent if he’s aware you caught him doing something he knows you’re not fond of. But for example, if you’re dating someone and you notice them do something you don’t like, you can express your dislike. Sometimes things are a conversation, especially early on when you’re getting to know each other.
Yep! It’s biblical too! God adores a gentle & quiet spirit!
I totally agree 💯 And Tony said it best. When you don’t chase them and don’t be all up they’re A, they will be more interested in your. I had to learn this with my Husband. He gets what he wants from me just by his silence.
Ladies, i know this to be true in my 20's and now I'm 60ish. Ive been married almost 20 years and some of my exes still facebook my mom to send messages, she asked " what did you do to these men"? I told her what my mama told me, never chase a man, and a man going to do what ever you allow him to do. I always kept a wall up in case it didn't work out, i wasn't crumbling all over the place. I was about my buisness, had a house at 22, owned 2 cars and traveled. I was loving and honest and treated a man good and he would fall in love. I had a few no goods but that's life.
Some women these days are very different. They pursue men hard! Let a man chase you and not for the wrong reason. Keep sex at bay and learn about each other. My husband now treats me still the same as we dated. He had and still has a lot of chivalry. ❤
Oops, I meant to say they facebook my daughter, not my mom
Thank you for staring this testimony! It is so encouraging in this age of ghetto dating. Continued blessings for y’all love! 🥹🫶🏾🙏🏾💞
Wow! You’re a walking testimony!
Good for you. You had someone early in life give you the knowledge; most of us haven't or never learned; that's why we are here. Blessings and continued healing for all
When I was 15 my friend mom walked in on us and I was crying over a boy, she told me never let a man see you sweat, she was head nurse at her job. I’m now 29 years old and I stand on that. Ladies Never let a man see you sweat.
Exactly. Even if I do miss that man, he'll never know.
@@shayemoore Yep.
It’s easier said than done ! Thru trial and error I’ve learned not to sweat ❣️
@@queengweeezy7836 Insecurities keep with that mindset.
@@Darling_YoucancallmeGirl stop lying to yourself. Men see me as confident and strong…hence their unconditional love for me. And you hate ittttttttt 😜
There is zero insecurity when your secure in Jesus Christ. You must first have a real relationship with God and walk in the Holy Spirit!
Amen
facts! The Holy Spirit will give you discernment and wisdom on how to move, while preparing a worthy man for you.
God made all of us “Perfect” before he place us in our mother’s womb❗️ Facts….
Yep…that’s why I’ll never put any man in front of God
@@mjohnson8206 that’s correct. Even putting a man before God is idolatory
Be silent but not blind. Watch and pray.
This will be the best year of my life.
I'm walking in confidence in all areas. All glory to God❤
Amen! ❤
Amen in the name of Jesus✝️🙏
AMEN!!
Amen girl!
amen!!
My mother did this to my dad, so i saw this work..its so true dont ask questions ,cause if you dont he will tell u what u want to know every time..a man can't take it when you don't call and ask 50 questions ...silence IS golden
😂😂😂😂
I’m gone try this thank you
Tony isn’t lying ladies. When you don’t chase after a man or run up behind him he will run up behind you for the most part. Opposites attract. 💯🔥 You have to have your own life outside of a man and your relationship. That’s the secret.
Please ladies, listen to Mr. Gaskins. Everything he said is TRUE. When you don't smother a man by texting/calling every hour, it causes him to think about you MORE & MORE lol.
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I will continue to say, this is the information our brothers, fathers and male cousins should have been telling us. Not for us to play games, but to understand more of a man mindset towards a woman. I am grafetul for Tonys honesty and wisdom. God continue to cover him and his family.
Amen. We should have been taught this by trusted males in our lives. But really, I didn't have many of those either.
Exactly. Then they turn around and say we should've chosen better. Ninjas it is y'alls fault we don't know how y'all think unless you tell us
You said it sis! I %100 agree and stand in agreement on these prayers, in Jesus’ name,amen!🙏🏾🫶🏾💞
@whewchile8406 ❤️❤️I'm sorry to hear that. But I'm w you, I'm grateful for him too. One who also never fails to Bless me is Pastor RC Blakes. Check him out if you haven't already.
My philosophy is that if a man wants to cheat, let him. He's just revealing himself, so, good for me. See ya. I don't ever worry about that anymore.
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!
I've NEVER chased my previous boyfriends around, by going into their phones, wallets, personal property, incessantly calling/texting them regarding their whereabouts, who they're with and what they're doing -- NEVER!
My self-esteem has NEVER been THAT low, where he's going to have MY brain in a tizzy about his life, 24/7.
NO SIR! 👎
I figured like this: If you're doing dirt, it'll come out. I may not know what you're into daily, but I'm not going to drive myself into a black whole to find out either. When I see you/talk to you, we're good, unless I either find out or you tell me otherwise.
Ladies: If you take this EXACT approach with men, instead of allowing your insecurities to get the best of you, I PROMISE YOU, you'll be in a quite powerful position.
You're welcome! 😁
“ if you’re doing dirt, it will come out eventually”
This!
This is REAL! if he ain't doing right, God will expose him, so we need not worry!
That is so true. That insecurity will do a woman all the way in. A man’s treatment must coincide with how I feel about myself. If a man does not treat me right, no car and no amount of money will keep me. Yep, don’t sweat him sisters. Don’t not forget who the queen is. If you know you’re a queen, he will recognize the queen in you.
Right
And if he doesn’t. Move on!
@@marya3823 Mary’s a bit obsessed 😬
Facts. IDC what he got!!
@@marya3823
BINGO! 🎯🎰
That is the part missing from this Tony's advice. Sadly, many women will take this, and become _enablers_ to their unfaithful men, in the spirit of not rocking the boat or wanting to seem insecure. F _that._
Using his example, many of the same men who are _not_ being questioned are even more bold (cheating, disrespectful) than those who are. Moreover, don't be fooled into thinking that the man who is now questioning and chasing his woman (example at the end) is being faithful. Many are that suspicious _because they are,_ not simply b/c he's worried about her.
Bottom line: *_Home_** is your safe space, it is **_meant_** to be secure. In moments when insecurities surface, take a moment and balance logic with your emotion, but **_by all means SPEAK with your partner. Everything is not a game._** Far too many relationships suffer **_due to the lack of sincere, open, vulnerable_** conversation/communication. And that is not limited to Eros relationships.*
*Please use your gift of discernment (or learn & hone in on it if you lack), and use your gift of intuition and expression. These are [meant to be] some of women's **_strengths._** Just [try to] do so with grace, compassion, and warmth... **_also_** our strengths. Silence in the face of questionable discomfort is a betrayal. Betrayal to your **_Self_** (your entire being-- heart, body, mind, spirit, SOUL)...to your **_partner,_** and [thus] to your **_union._*
*Silence is absence of sort, and in this case, _suppression._ And for what? Because you're _afraid_ of him cheating _because_ of questions? That means that man is not trustworthy. Consider scripture about timidity, and moving from fear. You can _pretend_ to not care, but then that's farce. _Loads_ of scripture about _that._
Listen... _Ultimate line_ (😅): [To] Communicate is to participate, to share. (Com=with, Uni=Whole, Commune=Support, to empathize; Communicare _imparts,_ and we know ℹ _is a good_ thing.) *Communication **_brings together._** Silence encourages & enables division. Your creator **_does not_** wish you to be divided, right?*
Disappointed with this teaching.
(Of course this is a PSA of-sort, not directed to you, Mary, who seems to better understand than others here.)
Blessed Love, _All._ 🙏🏽🤍☮
Ladiessss Tony is not lying about this. I did this with my husband let me tell you he was going crazy trying to figure out what I’m doing . He thought I was cheating lol
😂😂😂😂
For someone who's been sheltered most of my life, the information you provide is such a blessing. ❤️ Keep us 1000 steps ahead of the game! 🙌🏾
Y’all trying, that’s for certain 🥺
I like mine a lil obsessive with me it’s the only way it’ll work. I’m the nonchalant one😇😂
My mom always told me to find other things to do and to get a hobby !
That’s what I’m saying!
Very true!
"That man lose his MindTTTTT!" 😂😂😂
I replayed that part over and over😂😂😂
👸never let him see u sweat. u can't make a man cheat or Not cheat. bc he's either programmed for morality or he's not. & playing detective won't change a snake 🐍into a prince😌.
That's real sis. Thank you for the wisdom ❤
This is so true, I used to be very insecure in the beginning of my relationship , but once I started pouring into myself ,I backed off my boyfriend and started focusing on me ,and stop worrying about him and the tables definitely turned, I had to really start saying to myself I'm the prize every morning . And now he is way more into me and making sure I'm good.I literally stopped giving a u know what..!!
Just gave my brother this exact advice yesterday. If you gotta wonder about how someone feels about you just fall back and pay attention!
You know what, Sherri? I did that, too, after dating him six months. Guess what happened? He dropped off. He took the walking papers 📜 I gave him. More room for a hero!
He ain’t lying. I know by experience about being quiet & allowing him to wonder what you’re doing.
He is not lying, I learned this too late in my life, heal your past so you won’t put too much energy into what that man is doing!
It’s crazy and in my opinion very immature that we have to pull back from a man for him to act right. Because I’m not blowing your phone up with texts or calls. I’m like this…..if he ain’t acting right…..I’m done. Not wasting no more of my time.
My ex would question why I wouldn’t be upset/insecure over things. Just observe and move accordingly. Put your peace first!
Tony is correct. Whether people realize it or not. If a guy would still cheat anyhow, even when you give him reasonable space, then he is not for you. Plain and simple. You want a decent man. Don't be a desperado. What did Tony say not too long ago? Some of you are not listening. Learn to listen. Trust God and the allow the process to take it's course. Coming from a women who had well over 20 years of successful marriage and one who allowed her husband to pursue her and who kept him guessing, but in a healthy way. He absolutely loved me and there was never any question about is love for me. And I loved him, very much! May The Heavenly Father rest his precious soul.
Yes, there is no point in checking on someone because if they are the cheating kind and you get that feeling, no sense of him reassuring you will help because it will always creep up and he will be more creative in hiding things.
It's true!! My husband and I have each other's Google location. We both check it but don't say anything to each other usually. But a few times, he's had remarks. Like one time, I was hanging with friends, and my phone died. He tells me he got a little "curious" because my location stopped updating in some neighborhood. I smiled and told him my phone died, but I was thankful I was able to figure my way home from where I was, thankfully without GPS. He then asked who lived in that neighborhood. LOL! This a man who came into the relationship declaring he ain't jealous at all and he doesn't like clingy women.
For me this is total TRUTH. Tried, tested and wear the t-shirt. I'm a retired Registered nurse, widowed after a 36 year gr8t marriage and just remarried a retired Engineer. He says what's most attractive about me is that strength, yet gentleness but no nonsense about me. I too NEVER ask him where he's going or stalk him with unnecessary calls. If people wanna cheat, trust & believe there is NO stopping them. Also true, you MUST be willing and ok with walking away (they also must see & know it too).
I just saved your comment, so I stop worrying if my man will cheat because I can't stop him if he decides to!! Thank you!
So true! Early in life I witnessed peers chasing, flipping out, questioning and begging men. I said, "won't be me!". I mastered the art of indifference. Men dont really know how to take it and I kind of get a kick out of them trying to figure me out. LOL
An ex friend was dating a guy who had a girlfriend out of state. The guy was unable to connect with his girlfriend via phone for a few days and lost it. My ex friend shared that he was crying and stating that his girlfriend was with another man. The audacity, right?!
Tell it Tony! I adopted this way of thinking after seeing my male friends & cousins purposely ignoring calls. And the kicker is they weren't even doing anything wrong, they were just doing it for sport! 😮
I needed this reminder! Love feels so different in my 40s. Never thought I’d be questioning a man - it’s not like me but yet I had been doing this recently. So thank you!
She’s not blowing him up because she knows where his heart and mind is…..❤ she’s safe.
Tony so funny he said do not let him see you sweat even if you got to wear a towel around your neck😂😂😂😂
Listennn. Tony, I recently commented on a video where the men were encouraging each other to stop pursuing women. Saying the women should chase the men. I respectfully shared that my experience had been different. I've also talked to thousands of women and the ones who chased the men, chased them away!
Once again this man is on point, I also think insecure behaviors shows a man you don’t have any other options but him.
I’ve completely taken your words and made them reality. As I’m watching I realize I do this 😂 I really let my man go on about his business. I’ve never blown his phone up or asked him if he was cheating. He also gives me no reason to.
They can compare and go get that.. the world is too small and life is too short for a man to be setting for less. They have options and it's plenty of fish in the sea. It gets to a point where woman need to love and value themselves and not be chasing behind a man who really don't even want them. They should go get the woman they compare woman too.
It be the “y’all got to forgive me” and the “popping in” 🤣🤣 keep doing you Tony let’s nay saying hate. You’re just authentically being you!
And I always thought it was so bizarre when I hear stories about women secretly breaking into their boyfriends phone. I would never! That’s so disrespectful and a complete invasion of privacy. If I can’t trust him he will never be my boyfriend let alone my husband.
TONY IS SPEAKING FACTS TODAY!!!!!!!! Where is the lie 👀
Tony YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT about checking on your dude because I NEVER did that and they would be blowing me up trying to see what IM doing. Far as I know I NEVER had a man cheat on me because he was too busy trying to see what I was doing. Also Tony you don’t have to ask for forgiveness because God is blessing you with the best. YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU GETTING because you are changing peoples lives especially mine.
An insecure man can be a dangerous man!
Right 😬
Not can be. Is. And the most dangerous one too. That's what TG insists.
We rock with you Mr Gaskins
It's true.... the more you ignore a man the more confused he is about it.... it's like he expects you to be on him simply bc other women have done it....
Am I the only one that wants all these videos to be a hour?
😂 no, you are not alone
Nope 😂
@@rosedevereux2391 Cuz GIRL!
@@TolowDolo maybe if we sign a petiton...Li---ke..😅🤣
He got enough of those behave 😂
never let a man see you sweat. even if you have to wear a towel around your neck lol 😆 ❤
He didn’t tell not one lie! This is coming from someone who has lived through this! It’s the absolute truth❤ Tony be dropping gems even tho I don’t agree with everything he say he be dropping knowledge. Ladies Ladies catch the gems ❤❤
I love how Tony keep it a stack ❤ His teachings are not for the WEAK 😂 I appreciate allllllll of it!!
I don’t care if he wants to go…go!!! I’ve always been like this if I find that you are not the one I keep it going! My first real boyfriend was always looking! I never chased! My siblings were like he’s out with so and so. I was like how do you cry? Call everyone I know to then walk??? Tony is right I never chased but he still called, but I didn’t want him anymore!! I have a cut off spirit😂!
Excellent! So, so true. Where were you in my 20s. 😂
Same thing I always wonder
I’m here Professor Gaskins,
Ready to Listen & take Notes 📝
U know that was me and I was just JOKING with you Professor;
I forgive you 🤴🏾🤣🤣🤣🤣
Now, let me watch this AGAIN, just in case I miss something 🤪
I didn't check up on my ex when we were together but he still cheated🤦
I'm glad someone said it... just because you're not checking for them doesn't mean they're not going to cheat, like whaaat? Man... this really is instructions on how to catch and keep a predator
@@Wewereneveryoungfacts!!! I feel like this message don’t apply for every man.. some men be glad you don’t call and check on them because they may feel you don’t care about them or what they doing and you ever hear thoes stories about women finding out her man been in a whole other relationship for 10 years and didn’t know.. guess why because she never checked or asked questions.. some men will take you for boo boo the fool and waste your time because they know you not checking.. and like some men just going to cheat regardless of you check or don’t check
Basically, if they're gonna cheat, then let them cheat in peace. 😓 I give up.
Goodnness ladies...this wasn't all encompassing instructions on how to prevent a man from cheating nor the reason why they cheat. It's simply something to be aware of and add to your priorities in addition to your common sense, intution and making your own choices. When your self assured a lot of this comes natural. Do you listen to understand or feel bad about yallselves?
If you’re worried about him cheating, that means you have no options. You need to always look your best so that you’re still receiving attention from other men (not cheating on your man) but being nice to other men. Being confident around them. Smiling. then you won’t worry about being cheated on
True...I literally just said this to my cousin last night... I said I get more attention, not giving attention
Confidence is the key!!!
My daddy told me this and it worked like a charm. Just leave them alone
I swear your videos show up at the right time and it keeps me calm.
For real! He always keeps me from doing stupid stuff lol
Brother, thank you for telling the unadulterated truth! ❤
Men love a challenge😉
I am a woman ... and Tony what you are saying is absolutely correct
Be blessed 🙏🏾
We women, need to do better choices and put ourselves first.
Mhm when we don't they just say oh you should chose better
I agree! I pray 🙏🏽 for guidance and understanding a lot.
It’s the indirect shade he throws for me 🤣🤣🤣 “so HUSH”
So funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Tony ❤ right on time I needed this 🙏🏼 🙌🏽
Knowing me 😅 Let me get a towel in every color then bc baby🤒 I'm a work in progress
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When you can’t see a woman sweat, she’s not a sweater. My mom taught me that about a job; never let them see you sweat. If they do, they will mistreat you and dog you out. When it comes to men, I learned from the best. She was not one to sweat men. She didn’t chase my dad and act a fool wanting to fight the other woman, none of that. She taught me, if a man doesn’t want you, let him go. There is NOTHING you can do about it. She said: You can go down the street on your hands with your dress over your head, and it will not make a bit of difference.
The only two you let see you sweat is the Almighty God and his son, Jesus Christ. The difference is, they will never mistreat you. If a man doesn’t know how to imitate them in his treatment of a woman, he will walk all over you. Don’t sweat a man, if he wants you, he will do his very best to keep you and will never give you a reason to leave him.
IMO, you have to have happiness within yourself. No one can make you happy. You won’t run him down or call him constantly. Besides, if he’s doing anything, it will come out. Don’t make yourself worry about it. Keep living and keep your happiness and be at peace. If anything or anybody is going to destroy that, let it go or remove it or yourself.
The first 3 minutes is straight comedy, you killing me. Y’all stay out his comments.
Much respect to ya wife “MVP”❤❤❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤
Spot on Tony!
Facts for sure. Thank you Tony!
I no longer date men. But whew did I have a blast, seeing them crumble with the same bs they tried to pull on me…And nope I don’t feel bad for any of the stuff I did. Built character and taught me, men are men. Women are Goddesses. For many years I acted unbothered, confident etc. and then one day. I became it all. And til this day I can get whatever I want from those men. The best way to be is calculatedly selfish. It’s Because it will force you to put yourself first and when you do that. Your mind is fed, body exercised. Business booming and a man will always need to feel needed so only allow men in, who adjust to fit in your world first. Be confident. Be in love with solitude, be able to stand alone, so that you are able to look any man in the eye and not blink, so that amongst many man, you are a Queen
I know more insecure men and baby it’s a very ugly thing . I’m a married woman and i really don’t try to worry about . What’s for me is for me ! I wouldn’t go out my way to have a man .
Jealousy is uglier 😉
@@kris7592 jealous of what exactly ? You just running your mouth and talking out of context .
Mr Gaskins can we please get a course for looks compatibility where you only allow a few in the class and evaluate our expectations pleaseee
It’s also sad to see this in chapter 9:38 still being done it makes me realize that if a man ever did that to me again that I would just stop talking to him cause I’m grown and that’s what they really try to do.. looking at it from a happy single woman perspective
Teach us TG.... Blessing to you and your family. Thanks again
Darn you are so right about the 2 call back to back….its only a “if the reception is bad or dead zone”.
I learned that the hard way. I stopped showing I cared even tho I did, and boom he wandering the hell is going on? Lol
So, how did you learn the hard way? I am confused?
@@nene.portier4034 i learned exactly what he explained 🤷🏽♀️ then I took heed dnt chase, dnt beg, dnt constantly ask etc etc… the hard way lol. And I dnt know any other way to explain what I’m saying lol
Thank you brother!
Thank you Tony!
Thank you Mr Gaskins🙌🙌
Yep …NO LIES WERE TOLD SILENCE IS GOLDEN
To-ny: Amen and hallelujah!
Nobody:
Tony: “y’all got to forgive me” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Keep teaching TG ❤
I’m glad about the 10 min messages. Short and sweet. Thank you.
This was excellent! I’ll be sharing this with friends and younger ladies so they’ll know early on in life.
You are the truth! But we like to hear you drop the knowledge! Thank you!
Again another methodology used in previous relationships and it works every single time!! One time it worked too good. The guy (a military guy) used his “trained skills” to come looking for me. He said (in a deep voice) “ I’m just checking in and checking on you!” 😂….
I’ve been told that men can not read me. And I never understood that.
Thank you for this!
Facts!!! 😂 Tony is right. It works everytime.
This series is the best stuff I've seen from you. It's good stuff.
Hey! Tony said, even if you have to wear a towel around your neck 😂😂❤. So funny 🙏🏾, teach us, because we be thinking all those things move mountains ⛰️ and they don’t. It just builds a bigger one. And one thing about me, is I want you to hear me 🤷🏾♀️
Thank you Uncle Tony!
Got it! Thank you Tony, Imma work on that and stay single for now. I'm staying natural and never openly insecure.
Sometimes you get on my last nerve, but that’s ok ,because I’m Learning to love people. What you said in this video is bible truth ❣️
I know this is a serious topic but it's too funny. I'm still working and can't focus after getting this notification. Tony, you funny as a mug...🤣 lots of truth in this video. And lots of humor...lol.