As someone who has dated online, it’s NEVER been a good experience for me. I always create a profile and delete within a month because the quality of men is usually trash. Then, if you’re a beautiful woman, the men are shocked that you’re actually online dating 😂😂 they’ll be like, “why are you on this app?? You don’t look like you’d have trouble meeting someone”. That told me that I don’t need to be online dating lol.
Thanks Tony I tried it for 3 months before I came to the conclusion it was all mostly full of male sociopaths and perverts and insecure men who hold the spirit of Jezebel inside of them. Thereafter I stopped completly. I will never go there again. I'm far happier celibate for now. I believe it's my season to be so under divine order. I truly appreciate all the wisdom you share with us all. I escaped a marriage of 25 plus years of domestic abuse and I'll never put myself in that situation ever again.
This is so true! I met a scammer once, a complete poser! Sadly, my cousin was drugged, raped and ended up pregnant by someone she met once off a dating app!!!! It’s horrific out here!!!!Ladies take heed please!!! Be careful and prayerful ‼️
I asked my partner if he tried online dating, and he said "no because people on there are not serious". For a man to say that had me stand back. TG is sharing this wisdom to save your spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical well-being!
Either that, or they’re mad at their ex and need a body to get over her while he waits for her to possibly want him back. He might hate you but still date you
I don't like dating at all. I've been with my husband for 18 yrs and if God forbid I ever found myself single again, I am NOT dating. I will stay married to the Lord.
Tony is the only one out here saying this. Now what does that say about our society? Online dating is horrible. All people do is lie, lust and misrepresent themselves. Thanks Tony!
I met my girlfriend online and we recently finished a marriage class at church in which most of the engaged couples (about 7 or 8) out of 12 met online. It’s definitely possible, and I don’t think it’s fair to paint everyone on the apps with one brush.
I agree. I met my husband online. Him and his family are wonderful ppl. He said a friend told him he should try it. He didn't believe in it, nor did he want to do it lol. He thought I was catfish bc I was "too good to be true online" but like I told him, I moved to a new state and didn't know anyone so I would go to meetup events etc and said "hey why not try online dating"🤷🏾♀️
I 100% agree with you, you can’t tar every man on those apps as all being crazy. You can meet crazy men in real life. I like TG but there’s a lot of scaremongering with these videos. Online dating isn’t for everyone but it’s not fair to judge people who use it either.
@kimiko_111 True!!! Tina Turner didn't meet Ike Turner online. Keke Palmer didn't meet Darius Jackson online. Let's be real, before online dating every crazy person was met in person lol
@@LoLoL095 facts we can meet crazy In person and they bs in person too. It's about using good judgement across the board and background checks with everyone you meet too.
I’m done with online dating! I’ve encountered narcissist after narcissist on dating apps 💔 Trusting God to send me my husband organically. Keep preaching Tony ❤️🙏🏻
Thank You Tony, straight to the root cause of who created online dating 30:30 People male and females think they got more options than they really do because of FB, IG, and online dating apps, etc...Social media, society need to be flooded like Noah Ark, and reset to its default settings. I'm saying this as a person who is good at technology and went to school for it. It needs to be unplugged, rebooted, and redirected.
You are EXACTLY right about the “supposed” options!🤦🏽♀️ Statistics show that most of us will mate with someone within 30 miles of where we live. People really do be thinking that guy or girl three states over is a viable option.😑 AND because of all the “so called” options, we are LESS likely to make any choice at all. I believe this is why there are SO MANY SINGLE PEOPLE now.😢
You right but men don't talk to women out here anymore I be looking good as I can I would barely get a hello it sometimes makes me feel like everybody's married or gay don't the Bible say a man that find a wife find a good thing they all looking on line I say hiding behind the computer the don't speak to you in person iam not the type to try to flert with a man first he has to show some intrest
@@NikkiYourTallBestie Yes, our society is like 40% outdoors real life living and 60% online fronting for IG FB likes its sad to see it go down like this daily
@@BetterLoveMovement Yes, the "I got options" is something else. You ever notice that most of those online likes, comments DM pictures relationship never workout? PPL are fronting and destroying friendships, relationships, marriages with folks they went to elementary, middle, high school with over some online piped fantasy.
Agreed! I always said that I won't meet my husband online! You are absolutely right! Successful marriages from online dating is the exception for some people, not the rule! My best friend/sister met her husband online and theey are now married with a child and I am happy for them! Does that mean that the same will happen for me? No. Getting married to a GODLY husband, yes! Meeting him online.....heck no! Online dating does make you look desperate though.
Its so weird online dating today. I have finally quit all my dating apps for good. All I was getting was liars, weirdos, crazies and married men. Seriously over it. I'm not going back. Tony your words are golden and important ❤❤
Tony all this is true. I tried online dating when I was a Probation Officer. When I got on, I started to see a lot of the offenders that would come to my office. I got off so quick it was not funny! This knowledge you giving is real!
Tony has warned time after time about online dating, and I totally agree. My sister used to online date and it always went wrong, it’s dangerous. Thank God she came to her senses.
I’ve heard Tony say this more than one time. This message came right on time to confirm what I’ve already been feeling. I tried for a few days & it definitely was kinda awkward and just didn’t sit right talking to a stranger online. && it’s too many pre cautions you have to do to ensure your safety. I’ll just wait on god & enjoy my single season. Thanks Tony! 😊
Yep it’s been a horrible experience. Met the gay guy, low self esteem and the bum. I got off and never looked back. Not even on dating sites only, also Facebook and Instagram.
I am sooooo greatful for your teachings Tony. I am listening. You have COMPLETELY changed the way I deal with men. Thank you for all that you do to help women! Black women, specifically. We need it! ☺
I have always said “I will never do online dating because that so below me and I am not that desperate and I will not want a guy who is online dating because i don’t want someone who’s that desperate either” so thank you for confirming my reasoning!! Online dating gives me the ick and it’s so common it’s sad
My husband says the same thing….that “men online see women as desperate and they looking for easy sex and/or a come up…some money or a place to stay.” I thank God we met at a work event and I STILL prayed earnestly for God’s wisdom and discernment! 🙏🏾 By God’s grace ….going on 16 years of marriage and going strong.
Tony is spot on about this topic! I’ve heard horror stories about online dating including being robbed, car theft, purse snatching, mental illness males,std’s and the list goes on!
TG I know this ain’t no laughing matter, but this episode had me rolling! But in all seriousness, I tried online dating a long time ago, but I can’t bring myself to do it now. I have friends that have tried to convince me to try online dating again, but every time I think about it I began to feel physically tired, because I can’t deal with no more drama in my life. And that’s all I see with online dating. Thank you once again for letting God use you by telling us ladies the truth. Stay blessed!
You are right, and Tony is right. nothing but losers, sociopaths, psychopaths etc., etc.,, the bottom of the barrel are on online dating websites, and it puts a (woman) in a vulnerable position.
I met a man on line recently. We have been talking and vibing . I was so excited like I think I found the one. Then yesterday he told me a he murdered two men when he was 17 because they shot at him . One of those man he killed with his bear hands. He went to prison for 20 years and he is now reformed . I blocked his ass so fast omg. I’m not trying to judge but what can I do with a x convict with murder on his record. And what if he not reformed and he get mad at me. I can’t take the chances of finding out. I do however feel bad , these ppl do their time then when they are done society do not except them back. 😅
I agree, I've never cared for this way, or type of dating. Nothing is perfect, but online anything is too much going on. I always felt that online said desperate, and I was called "old fashioned". And I said, thank you very much, and I'll stay old fashioned...
I watched your interview on the Hardly Initiated podcast Tony yesterday evening, and I will continue to support your platform /projects wholeheartedly. The message you bring is much needed in a world of dysfunction and confusion. May God continue to bless you and your family🙏🏾
Everytime I tried online dating (for the right reasons), it never worked. Men are too perverted and they are out there to use as many women as they can. Getting a lot of profit for as little as possible investment. Since I started listening to Tony and RC Blakes my life and posture dramatically changed. And for the best too. Thank you, Tony.
Every single time Tony uses the word “ desperate “ in ANY video, I holler! I hear his voice any time i have the urge to download an app or act excited over a man .
I did meet my amazing husband online dating, i was single for 2 years and men just dont approach beautiful friendly women like they used to. I know i am an exception to the online dating world. I trust in God and feel blessed❤
T.G. be staring at that camera like, don't be stoopid and see what you gonna git cause I dun told ya'll to stay off them dating apps. I am hollering over here every time he just stares at the camera like for 5 seconds to emphasize his point. This is my brother for sure and praise Yah for putting this message in him for us. Halleluyah! HalleluYah! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
I saw a woman in the comments say she asked her partner has he ever tried it and he said “no because people (online dating) aren’t serious.” Another woman said all you will find is shenanigans AT BEST. These two comments sum up my online dating experiences. I’ve tried one or two sites briefly. Not for me. And those are best case scenarios. The horror stories are way too common. I’ll pass. Thanks TG for this message.
Ladies, please, PLEASE listen to what this man is trying to tell us. From personal experience I can attest that online dating is shenanigans at best. I've personally been stalked, threatened, had to obtain an ex parte, this person tried opening cards in my name, the FBI got involved... it was a complete mess and I'm still trying to bounce back financially from the tens of thousands of dollars this person stole from me and the emotional distress. I still look over my shoulder from time to time. Do yourselves a favor: listen to Tony. Stop being desperate like I was, learn to love yourself, work on yourself and steer as far from online dating as you possibly can!
Morale of the story. She shouldn't have invited a man to her crib on the first date. Weather online or Home Depot be careful ladies. You have to vet everyone!
18:14 lol 😂 I’m screaming lol “Do you like laptops? How about you put your lap on my top?” lol 🤣🤣 This is good though, TG! Sharing this video with all my girlfriends. I need them to wake up and get off these dating apps!
This was too crazy!! I guess you do meet weirdos in real life cause if a man says this to me(to my face) I would have thrown the laptop(like a drink) and ran🏃🏾♀️😆😆
Good talk here brother Tony, will admit - I've used online dating at one point. Was in a small population college town and once i moved to ATL, kept using it to see who's available in the major part of ATL. Issue with the apps is, I'm a traditional man who prefers approaching women in person and have had better success doing so- the app came from boredom and impatience. Appreciate the talk - staying off the apps and will continue looking for my wife in person 👍🏿
Hi Tony. I want to say I appreciate your videos. I feel into a depression after being rejected yet again and your videos give me hope. I was just about to get on the dating apps and see this as a sign from the lord not too. Thank you God and thank you Tony for your word
Online dating is like going to Primark expecting to find a Chanel bag. Is not totally impossible, but the chances are slim to none. But people keep going because there is so much stuff there so they keep their hopes up. But instead of finding the Chanel bag they only find cheap bags that fall apart after a few weeks. So no online dating is a waste of time and energy and can really drag a woman down and create frustration and negativity that will stay with her and repel good men in real life. Better to stay away from those apps.
I’ve been on and off those sites and I knew it wasn’t for me each time. Men would always ask why would a girl like you be on here? I was like, I thought it was the same reason you were…. NOPE 🤦🏽♀️😂
Married people and singles live in two opposite worlds. We really do. If you have the Holy Spirit, you have discernment. Out of the issues of the heart, the mouth speaks. Vett your OL interest. Ask questions, and verify. Talk, talk, ask pointed questions. Stand on your standards. Live your doggone life in Faith, not Fear
God is truly working through you and I am so grateful! The way i’m able to laugh but most importantly take heed to these pivotal lessons😮💨, to God be the glory!
You are 💯 perfect correct about online dating. I used my discernment to feel my way through. I decided I’m never doing online dating because it’s true it’s a certain type of man that be on there. My daughter said to me mom didn’t you hear what Mr. Gaskins said. I finally got it.
i agree, stay off those dating apps. make sure you all are doing a background check on the people you are dating as well. I found the story TG is talking about and apparently the guy was charged with murder in 2020 and the charges were dropped & he was charged in 2022 for having a shank in jail.
Brother I love you very much for your integrity!!! A 4 million dollar deal is not easy to walk away from in these times! God bless him triple and in a way no man can take credit for. 🙏🏽
I just looked this up and both of those people involved looked frightening. The news from Houston said that the person who got their throat slit was a trans woman
Tony, this was golden! You’re like the brother I wish I had. So many gems being dropped!! The one thing that stood out to me was “The faster you go, the slower you go!” I’ve lived it!!
I agree. Getting into relationships are not different because now is a modern world or we are in a whole new era. The principles on how God wants us to move and live our lives must be followed. That's how we achieve healthy relationships. That's why many relationships today are doomed and out of order because many people did not follow God's order. They are doing their own thing with dating apps, one night stands, hook up culture because it's modern now and should be different. No. Try God's way and you'll get the desires of your heart. Patience is required because His timing is the perfect schedule. Many people are forcing it with apps then regret it at the end. Thank you Sir Tony.
Now he just said a word. I had a cousin that did not get male attention, and married a closeted homosexual. She met him at church. They started out as friends. Crazy part is dang near everybody that saw him or the wedding picture KNEW immediately that he was gay. Used my cousin as a beard.
😂😂😂Can I put your lap on my top!!! What the heck?? 😂😂😂 No but what had me cracking up was when he said idk if you have to go to the mall and walk the mall all day until a man appoaches you😅😂😂okay Tony I’m going to the mall today!!!
Tony for President 💯Everything you said is true. The last person I met online was very open about his freaky tendencies. I ran so fast. the other man worked in Miami but lived in North Carolina, like you said, Only God knows what that man is doing between state. You also mentioned that they claim their FaceTime don’t work and they always have multiple phones and devices with multiple accounts. So sickening 🤮
This video was INCREDIBLE!!!!!! Immense wisdom and I also couldn’t stop laughing! “One of ya’ll got a psychopath… one of ya’ll got a pervert….” 🤣🤣🤣 honestly… one of the best videos I’ve ever seen of Tony’s!!!! And please Tony please run for president!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
Yes it’s perverts offline and online. But your defense is up in person. Your discernment will kick in person better. All your senses will be up in person.
I totally agree with this. I don't trust online dating anymore. I want to meet my future husband the old-fashioned/traditional way (in person) because dating men online; you truly don't know everything about a man and you'll be questioning if you truly know them/who they are. it's hard to truly know a man from dating online. I don't believe in online dating from dating apps or social media anymore. I'm trusting in God, this time.
This was a lesson that was painful to hear but worth it. I believe a message that saved my life. I believe in me and know if I work on myself I can meet someone the old fashioned way. Deleted my last dating app and not going back. More so thought about my kids too. I'm not putting them in harms way, endangering their lives or traumatizing them either.
The truth & the fact is, online or not online dating, be in a public place to be safe. NEVER let a man go to your home! Dating is “gathering data” only so why bring a man in your private nest? WISDOM is the key!!! Women, be responsible & discerning!
Burn 1000 calories 😂😂😂...Tony a mess. But he's right. I stopped online dating for that reason it's too risky. I hope people caught the lottery analogy because it was spot on.
Thank you Tony again for this serious Truth! I agree wholeheartedly with this message. I never got with the online dating craze.... it's always been dangerous imo. No thanks. This is a powerful message to women. It's not worth the risks. Online dating is a male predators playground.
👏👏👏 Tell them the truth Tony! They need to hear it, especially the women. It's very easy for them to get caught up and ensared because the world is a lot more dangerous for us.
😂no more neck up pictures. Tony is funny and true. "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY HUSBAND SITTIN ON OR SPINNING ON".😂 ONLINE DATING SHOULD BE BANDED. I agree 💯% Tony. I always thought and knew it was wrong, strip clubs and all.
I had mixed feelings about online dating, because I know a lot of friends and pastoral staff from church who met their husband and wife online. But after hearing you Tony, and being that you know men, I am rethinking the online. When I am ready to date, in the wise words of Tony Gaskins, I’ll stop being lazy and get out there 😂. Lesson received. Don’t want a surprise 3-5 years down the line.
The last time I met someone while online dating, I promise you he looked like the Leprechaun 😂😂😂 He was very triggering after I got home, and I knew that online dating was NOT for me lol
TG is right!!! I online dated in the past, and the few guys I met were either grown boys, lied about the number of kids they had, or omitted the fact that they were divorced. Take your chances online if you want to, but I'm not.
I believe you Tony! I’m staying off of online dating apps. I value direct communication too much to try online again. It was creepy to me, and it made my loved ones nervous for me to be on there. It wasn’t worth it. I tried it for about 30 days. I believe Tony… I won’t do it again.
If this is the same case, it was here in Houston. The young lady also shared she was transgender which she told the man when they first began speaking. So, he still met up with her knowing all of the information, based upon the messages, with the intentions of slitting her throat. In my professional opinion, he was trying to disassociate himself with the part of him that is actually his truth. Your points are spot on!!
Walk round that mall all day 😂😂😂😂😂 forget 10,000 steps get 20-30k steps.... stay online you gonna wake up dead 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣🤭😂Brother Tony we love you in the Tribe..... stay 100 ❤
Tonaaaay! This video was spot on. You nailed it. I was learning and laughing. For me, it was when u said u was about to take the deal with Christian Mingle. When u said, "WHAT" like that, your facial expression had me on the ground. I think I rolled it back like 20 times. TG you are so animated. 😂🤣 Ladies, Tony ain't never lied. Online dating is the worst, this comes from much experience. I met up with one dude at Burger King for a quick meet&greet the dude said, "you look so cute and clean that I wanna lick your toes." I was like the roadrunner..Meep-meep! I got plenty of stories but that's just one. Thanks Tony! 🙌🏽
Hey I been dealing with not doing that anymore. I know that I needed to hear this. I meet some decent guys but at the same time it didn't go any further. Yes I am going to stop doing that. You are absolutely right it is like a lottery you might win or not.
You have to be careful wherever you meet someone;. the same ones you meet in person at starbucks, at the mall, at church, at the social events they can also be on online dating sites. I know this for a fact.
“Uniquely designed..fearfully and wonderfully made in the eyes of the Lord” 😂
i screamed at that part 😂😂😂😂
I about dieddddd lmaooo he is hilarious☠️☠️☠️
It’s Tony saying it with a straight face for me! 😂😂😂😂😅
Tony be wilding!😂😂
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Never tell strangers where you live, never get into a strangers car...Be careful men and women.
As someone who has dated online, it’s NEVER been a good experience for me. I always create a profile and delete within a month because the quality of men is usually trash. Then, if you’re a beautiful woman, the men are shocked that you’re actually online dating 😂😂 they’ll be like, “why are you on this app?? You don’t look like you’d have trouble meeting someone”. That told me that I don’t need to be online dating lol.
Yep I’ve been told that as well I should have took that has a sign
Thanks Tony
I tried it for 3 months before I came to the conclusion it was all mostly full of male sociopaths and perverts and insecure men who hold the spirit of Jezebel inside of them. Thereafter I stopped completly. I will never go there again. I'm far happier celibate for now. I believe it's my season to be so under divine order. I truly appreciate all the wisdom you share with us all. I escaped a marriage of 25 plus years of domestic abuse and I'll never put myself in that situation ever again.
This is so true! I met a scammer once, a complete poser! Sadly, my cousin was drugged, raped and ended up pregnant by someone she met once off a dating app!!!! It’s horrific out here!!!!Ladies take heed please!!! Be careful and prayerful ‼️
Jesus. Lord have mercy 🙏🏽
I asked my partner if he tried online dating, and he said "no because people on there are not serious". For a man to say that had me stand back. TG is sharing this wisdom to save your spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical well-being!
Most dudes will tell you that. people are on online dating for attention
@@evansjustin2459 interesting
Either that, or they’re mad at their ex and need a body to get over her while he waits for her to possibly want him back. He might hate you but still date you
Amen and Amen same here 🙌 🙏 👏 😌 ❤ ♥ 😊
I thought it was just me, I don't like online dating
Naw, you not alone…
Same
I don't like dating at all. I've been with my husband for 18 yrs and if God forbid I ever found myself single again, I am NOT dating. I will stay married to the Lord.
I’m not with it either
Me either
Tony is the only one out here saying this. Now what does that say about our society? Online dating is horrible. All people do is lie, lust and misrepresent themselves. Thanks Tony!
Exactly, Tony is on the unpopular side when it comes to online dating. The truth hurts.
Tony is hilarious and educational at the same time. I love it here 🎉❤
Right I'm literally cracking up 😂😂😂
He said "calves strong, ya thighs strong, ya knees strong, ankles strong..." 😂😂😂
I met my girlfriend online and we recently finished a marriage class at church in which most of the engaged couples (about 7 or 8) out of 12 met online. It’s definitely possible, and I don’t think it’s fair to paint everyone on the apps with one brush.
@@LA-wv7gfyou are misinformed and speaking from fear, online dating is where your husband is at.
I agree. I met my husband online. Him and his family are wonderful ppl.
He said a friend told him he should try it. He didn't believe in it, nor did he want to do it lol.
He thought I was catfish bc I was "too good to be true online" but like I told him, I moved to a new state and didn't know anyone so I would go to meetup events etc and said "hey why not try online dating"🤷🏾♀️
I 100% agree with you, you can’t tar every man on those apps as all being crazy. You can meet crazy men in real life. I like TG but there’s a lot of scaremongering with these videos. Online dating isn’t for everyone but it’s not fair to judge people who use it either.
@kimiko_111 True!!! Tina Turner didn't meet Ike Turner online. Keke Palmer didn't meet Darius Jackson online.
Let's be real, before online dating every crazy person was met in person lol
@@LoLoL095 facts we can meet crazy
In person and they bs in person too. It's about using good judgement across the board and background checks with everyone you meet too.
I’m done with online dating! I’ve encountered narcissist after narcissist on dating apps 💔 Trusting God to send me my husband organically. Keep preaching Tony ❤️🙏🏻
Thank You Tony, straight to the root cause of who created online dating 30:30 People male and females think they got more options than they really do because of FB, IG, and online dating apps, etc...Social media, society need to be flooded like Noah Ark, and reset to its default settings. I'm saying this as a person who is good at technology and went to school for it. It needs to be unplugged, rebooted, and redirected.
Same!! I am in Tech and completely agree!! Throw it ALL away as it’s vastly killing our society!!
You are EXACTLY right about the “supposed” options!🤦🏽♀️ Statistics show that most of us will mate with someone within 30 miles of where we live. People really do be thinking that guy or girl three states over is a viable option.😑 AND because of all the “so called” options, we are LESS likely to make any choice at all. I believe this is why there are SO MANY SINGLE PEOPLE now.😢
You right but men don't talk to women out here anymore I be looking good as I can I would barely get a hello it sometimes makes me feel like everybody's married or gay don't the Bible say a man that find a wife find a good thing they all looking on line I say hiding behind the computer the don't speak to you in person iam not the type to try to flert with a man first he has to show some intrest
@@NikkiYourTallBestie Yes, our society is like 40% outdoors real life living and 60% online fronting for IG FB likes its sad to see it go down like this daily
@@BetterLoveMovement Yes, the "I got options" is something else. You ever notice that most of those online likes, comments DM pictures relationship never workout? PPL are fronting and destroying friendships, relationships, marriages with folks they went to elementary, middle, high school with over some online piped fantasy.
The mistake wasn't online dating....the problem was letting someone come to your house that you don't know.
Agreed! I always said that I won't meet my husband online!
You are absolutely right! Successful marriages from online dating is the exception for some people, not the rule! My best friend/sister met her husband online and theey are now married with a child and I am happy for them! Does that mean that the same will happen for me? No. Getting married to a GODLY husband, yes! Meeting him online.....heck no! Online dating does make you look desperate though.
Yes, these days it’s worse than trying to meet a husband at the club.
Its so weird online dating today. I have finally quit all my dating apps for good. All I was getting was liars, weirdos, crazies and married men. Seriously over it. I'm not going back. Tony your words are golden and important ❤❤
Tony all this is true. I tried online dating when I was a Probation Officer. When I got on, I started to see a lot of the offenders that would come to my office. I got off so quick it was not funny! This knowledge you giving is real!
Tony please pin this comment! This could save lives!
Yikes!!!
Tony has warned time after time about online dating, and I totally agree. My sister used to online date and it always went wrong, it’s dangerous. Thank God she came to her senses.
I’ve heard Tony say this more than one time. This message came right on time to confirm what I’ve already been feeling. I tried for a few days & it definitely was kinda awkward and just didn’t sit right talking to a stranger online. && it’s too many pre cautions you have to do to ensure your safety. I’ll just wait on god & enjoy my single season. Thanks Tony! 😊
Tony needs a TV show bc the comedy be as real as the advice 😂 Appreciate you for being authentic
Yep it’s been a horrible experience. Met the gay guy, low self esteem and the bum. I got off and never looked back. Not even on dating sites only, also Facebook and Instagram.
"Get out the house...Stop being lazy! That's how you gonna wake up dead!" Message received! I don't do online dating but I can go outside more!
I am sooooo greatful for your teachings Tony. I am listening. You have COMPLETELY changed the way I deal with men. Thank you for all that you do to help women! Black women, specifically. We need it! ☺
👸bingo! well stated "esp. blac w."👏👏👏
You have helped me a lot, concerning men and dating. I praise God for you!!!
@@ap4914 you’re referring to Tony Gaskins right sweetheart? Lol
I have always said “I will never do online dating because that so below me and I am not that desperate and I will not want a guy who is online dating because i don’t want someone who’s that desperate either” so thank you for confirming my reasoning!! Online dating gives me the ick and it’s so common it’s sad
I am just curious.. where do u meet men than ?
@@Tisha-oi5yn work… school… through people I know… when I go out with my friends
ITS NOT DESPERATE ITS CONVIENT
@@kenyettasmall3it’s not organic :/
@kenyettasmall3 it's both.
My husband says the same thing….that “men online see women as desperate and they looking for easy sex and/or a come up…some money or a place to stay.”
I thank God we met at a work event and I STILL prayed earnestly for God’s wisdom and discernment! 🙏🏾
By God’s grace ….going on 16 years of marriage and going strong.
Tony is spot on about this topic! I’ve heard horror stories about online dating including being robbed, car theft, purse snatching, mental illness males,std’s and the list goes on!
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I thought I was the only one that thought online dating was a waste of time. Is like you searching for evil to harm you.
TG I know this ain’t no laughing matter, but this episode had me rolling! But in all seriousness, I tried online dating a long time ago, but I can’t bring myself to do it now. I have friends that have tried to convince me to try online dating again, but every time I think about it I began to feel physically tired, because I can’t deal with no more drama in my life. And that’s all I see with online dating. Thank you once again for letting God use you by telling us ladies the truth. Stay blessed!
Same! I was rooolllliiinngggg!!! 🤣
You are right, and Tony is right. nothing but losers, sociopaths, psychopaths etc., etc.,, the bottom of the barrel are on online dating websites, and it puts a (woman) in a vulnerable position.
Tony I'm so glad that you did not sell out for money.
Right and it's crazy because people think he speaks out about single relationship coaches because they're taking all his money 😂🤦🏾♀️
I met a man on line recently. We have been talking and vibing . I was so excited like I think I found the one. Then yesterday he told me a he murdered two men when he was 17 because they shot at him . One of those man he killed with his bear hands. He went to prison for 20 years and he is now reformed . I blocked his ass so fast omg. I’m not trying to judge but what can I do with a x convict with murder on his record. And what if he not reformed and he get mad at me. I can’t take the chances of finding out. I do however feel bad , these ppl do their time then when they are done society do not except them back. 😅
I agree, I've never cared for this way, or type of dating. Nothing is perfect, but online anything is too much going on. I always felt that online said desperate, and I was called "old fashioned". And I said, thank you very much, and I'll stay old fashioned...
I watched your interview on the Hardly Initiated podcast Tony yesterday evening, and I will continue to support your platform /projects wholeheartedly. The message you bring is much needed in a world of dysfunction and confusion. May God continue to bless you and your family🙏🏾
Everytime I tried online dating (for the right reasons), it never worked. Men are too perverted and they are out there to use as many women as they can. Getting a lot of profit for as little as possible investment. Since I started listening to Tony and RC Blakes my life and posture dramatically changed. And for the best too. Thank you, Tony.
Every single time Tony uses the word “ desperate “ in ANY video, I holler! I hear his voice any time i have the urge to download an app or act excited over a man .
Accurate 😄👍
Tony Gaskins for president! 🎊 🎉
I did meet my amazing husband online dating, i was single for 2 years and men just dont approach beautiful friendly women like they used to. I know i am an exception to the online dating world. I trust in God and feel blessed❤
Yet here you are watching this video😂😂😂😂😂
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T.G. be staring at that camera like, don't be stoopid and see what you gonna git cause I dun told ya'll to stay off them dating apps. I am hollering over here every time he just stares at the camera like for 5 seconds to emphasize his point. This is my brother for sure and praise Yah for putting this message in him for us. Halleluyah! HalleluYah! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
I saw a woman in the comments say she asked her partner has he ever tried it and he said “no because people (online dating) aren’t serious.” Another woman said all you will find is shenanigans AT BEST. These two comments sum up my online dating experiences. I’ve tried one or two sites briefly. Not for me. And those are best case scenarios. The horror stories are way too common. I’ll pass. Thanks TG for this message.
Ladies, please, PLEASE listen to what this man is trying to tell us. From personal experience I can attest that online dating is shenanigans at best. I've personally been stalked, threatened, had to obtain an ex parte, this person tried opening cards in my name, the FBI got involved... it was a complete mess and I'm still trying to bounce back financially from the tens of thousands of dollars this person stole from me and the emotional distress. I still look over my shoulder from time to time. Do yourselves a favor: listen to Tony. Stop being desperate like I was, learn to love yourself, work on yourself and steer as far from online dating as you possibly can!
😮 wow!
Wtf
Sad but true story. TG is telling the truth. Just don't do it.
😮yikes
Yep. My experience wasn't CRIMINAL, but, it was still a COMPLETE waste of time (my fault) that I can't get back.
Yeah, NOT worth it!
Morale of the story. She shouldn't have invited a man to her crib on the first date. Weather online or Home Depot be careful ladies. You have to vet everyone!
You can't vet someone online. You gotta meet them in person, and by then, it could be too late. Stay safe. 🙏🏽
18:14 lol 😂 I’m screaming lol “Do you like laptops? How about you put your lap on my top?” lol 🤣🤣 This is good though, TG! Sharing this video with all my girlfriends. I need them to wake up and get off these dating apps!
i was hollerin when he said that😂
This was too crazy!! I guess you do meet weirdos in real life cause if a man says this to me(to my face) I would have thrown the laptop(like a drink) and ran🏃🏾♀️😆😆
Good talk here brother Tony, will admit - I've used online dating at one point. Was in a small population college town and once i moved to ATL, kept using it to see who's available in the major part of ATL. Issue with the apps is, I'm a traditional man who prefers approaching women in person and have had better success doing so- the app came from boredom and impatience. Appreciate the talk - staying off the apps and will continue looking for my wife in person 👍🏿
So glad that I have always been a prude when it came to online dating😂! Intuitively I knew this🙌🏾! Thank you 🙏🏾! God bless you for this message.
“When you wake up with your throat slit” 😢😂😂😂😂😂😂 Tony is too funny.
⚠️Dont invite strangers to your home🙏🏽❣️
Hi Tony. I want to say I appreciate your videos. I feel into a depression after being rejected yet again and your videos give me hope. I was just about to get on the dating apps and see this as a sign from the lord not too. Thank you God and thank you Tony for your word
It's the pickup line and the role play lol. I truly enjoy your message every time!
Online dating apps are trash. I completely agree with this video .
Listen to Tony. Online dating is a NO. The men think you are online to hookup unfortunately smh
Online dating is like going to Primark expecting to find a Chanel bag. Is not totally impossible, but the chances are slim to none. But people keep going because there is so much stuff there so they keep their hopes up. But instead of finding the Chanel bag they only find cheap bags that fall apart after a few weeks. So no online dating is a waste of time and energy and can really drag a woman down and create frustration and negativity that will stay with her and repel good men in real life. Better to stay away from those apps.
I’ve been single 13 years and you are NOT wrong Tony
I’ve been on and off those sites and I knew it wasn’t for me each time. Men would always ask why would a girl like you be on here? I was like, I thought it was the same reason you were…. NOPE 🤦🏽♀️😂
@kendra4411 AT ALL!! 😆
Wow!
Married people and singles live in two opposite worlds. We really do. If you have the Holy Spirit, you have discernment. Out of the issues of the heart, the mouth speaks. Vett your OL interest. Ask questions, and verify. Talk, talk, ask pointed questions. Stand on your standards. Live your doggone life in Faith, not Fear
Exactly!
“Are you a astronaut” man I hollered 😂 he look just like one
God is truly working through you and I am so grateful! The way i’m able to laugh but most importantly take heed to these pivotal lessons😮💨, to God be the glory!
You are 💯 perfect correct about online dating. I used my discernment to feel my way through. I decided I’m never doing online dating because it’s true it’s a certain type of man that be on there. My daughter said to me mom didn’t you hear what Mr. Gaskins said. I finally got it.
Many times I thought of online dating when I was single, for some reason I never got to it. I me my husband at work.
i agree, stay off those dating apps. make sure you all are doing a background check on the people you are dating as well. I found the story TG is talking about and apparently the guy was charged with murder in 2020 and the charges were dropped & he was charged in 2022 for having a shank in jail.
Can you share the link to this story?
@@hello-sn2em it happened in houston, tx last month. search google for tayla smith and kordel stewart. it won’t let me share the link
Thanks for this discussion. This is how my husband spoke knowledge to my daughters
Brother I love you very much for your integrity!!! A 4 million dollar deal is not easy to walk away from in these times! God bless him triple and in a way no man can take credit for. 🙏🏽
I just looked this up and both of those people involved looked frightening. The news from Houston said that the person who got their throat slit was a trans woman
Tony, this was golden! You’re like the brother I wish I had. So many gems being dropped!! The one thing that stood out to me was “The faster you go, the slower you go!” I’ve lived it!!
I almost lost my life to a guy from online who was the combined combo of types #2 and #3. Ladies, listen to Tony. Is he correct.
I agree. Getting into relationships are not different because now is a modern world or we are in a whole new era. The principles on how God wants us to move and live our lives must be followed. That's how we achieve healthy relationships. That's why many relationships today are doomed and out of order because many people did not follow God's order. They are doing their own thing with dating apps, one night stands, hook up culture because it's modern now and should be different. No. Try God's way and you'll get the desires of your heart. Patience is required because His timing is the perfect schedule. Many people are forcing it with apps then regret it at the end. Thank you Sir Tony.
Now he just said a word. I had a cousin that did not get male attention, and married a closeted homosexual. She met him at church. They started out as friends. Crazy part is dang near everybody that saw him or the wedding picture KNEW immediately that he was gay. Used my cousin as a beard.
I appreciate the practical examples. I definitely feel like meeting online is throwing myself into the lions den. It’s unnecessary.
😂😂😂Can I put your lap on my top!!! What the heck?? 😂😂😂 No but what had me cracking up was when he said idk if you have to go to the mall and walk the mall all day until a man appoaches you😅😂😂okay Tony I’m going to the mall today!!!
Tony for President 💯Everything you said is true. The last person I met online was very open about his freaky tendencies. I ran so fast. the other man worked in Miami but lived in North Carolina, like you said, Only God knows what that man is doing between state. You also mentioned that they claim their FaceTime don’t work and they always have multiple phones and devices with multiple accounts. So sickening 🤮
This video was INCREDIBLE!!!!!! Immense wisdom and I also couldn’t stop laughing! “One of ya’ll got a psychopath… one of ya’ll got a pervert….” 🤣🤣🤣 honestly… one of the best videos I’ve ever seen of Tony’s!!!! And please Tony please run for president!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
Yes it’s perverts offline and online. But your defense is up in person. Your discernment will kick in person better. All your senses will be up in person.
I totally agree with this. I don't trust online dating anymore. I want to meet my future husband the old-fashioned/traditional way (in person) because dating men online; you truly don't know everything about a man and you'll be questioning if you truly know them/who they are. it's hard to truly know a man from dating online. I don't believe in online dating from dating apps or social media anymore. I'm trusting in God, this time.
Tony, I’ve finally accepted this and I’m trying a new approach in 2024 ❤
This was a lesson that was painful to hear but worth it. I believe a message that saved my life. I believe in me and know if I work on myself I can meet someone the old fashioned way. Deleted my last dating app and not going back. More so thought about my kids too. I'm not putting them in harms way, endangering their lives or traumatizing them either.
The truth & the fact is, online or not online dating, be in a public place to be safe. NEVER let a man go to your home! Dating is “gathering data” only so why bring a man in your private nest? WISDOM is the key!!! Women, be responsible & discerning!
Tony started cutting up in less than 2 minutes…uniquely designed 😂😂
😂😂😂 not the corny line. I met a guy picking up food. He said ur tall, you play sports. 😂😂,
Glad to see Tony is back with his regular talks! I prefer these types of videos
Burn 1000 calories 😂😂😂...Tony a mess. But he's right. I stopped online dating for that reason it's too risky. I hope people caught the lottery analogy because it was spot on.
Thank you Tony again for this serious Truth! I agree wholeheartedly with this message. I never got with the online dating craze.... it's always been dangerous imo. No thanks. This is a powerful message to women. It's not worth the risks. Online dating is a male predators playground.
Please 🙏🏽 do a online dating horror series. Thank you TG
👏👏👏 Tell them the truth Tony! They need to hear it, especially the women. It's very easy for them to get caught up and ensared because the world is a lot more dangerous for us.
😂no more neck up pictures. Tony is funny and true. "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY HUSBAND SITTIN ON OR SPINNING ON".😂 ONLINE DATING SHOULD BE BANDED. I agree 💯% Tony. I always thought and knew it was wrong, strip clubs and all.
Not "banded"....😂😂😂😂😂
Talk to em Tony.💯 A guy I dated once told me that men only use online dating apps for sex. I didn't listen at the time so I had to learn the hard way.
I had mixed feelings about online dating, because I know a lot of friends and pastoral staff from church who met their husband and wife online. But after hearing you Tony, and being that you know men, I am rethinking the online. When I am ready to date, in the wise words of Tony Gaskins, I’ll stop being lazy and get out there 😂. Lesson received. Don’t want a surprise 3-5 years down the line.
The last time I met someone while online dating, I promise you he looked like the Leprechaun 😂😂😂 He was very triggering after I got home, and I knew that online dating was NOT for me lol
I’m trippingggg
TG is right!!! I online dated in the past, and the few guys I met were either grown boys, lied about the number of kids they had, or omitted the fact that they were divorced. Take your chances online if you want to, but I'm not.
I believe you Tony! I’m staying off of online dating apps. I value direct communication too much to try online again. It was creepy to me, and it made my loved ones nervous for me to be on there. It wasn’t worth it. I tried it for about 30 days. I believe Tony… I won’t do it again.
Good for you!
@@1racethehumanrace946 thank you!
I tried online dating because I wasn’t going outside being lazy … it was short lived I couldn’t do it … I prefer to meet people organically
If this is the same case, it was here in Houston. The young lady also shared she was transgender which she told the man when they first began speaking. So, he still met up with her knowing all of the information, based upon the messages, with the intentions of slitting her throat. In my professional opinion, he was trying to disassociate himself with the part of him that is actually his truth. Your points are spot on!!
“Dat THOAT got slit” 😭😭😭😭 he don’t even be TRYINGGG to be funny
Im rollin 🤣🤣
😂😂😂... It's not even funny but it's the way he said it,smh
Walk round that mall all day 😂😂😂😂😂 forget 10,000 steps get 20-30k steps.... stay online you gonna wake up dead 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣🤭😂Brother Tony we love you in the Tribe..... stay 100 ❤
Tonaaaay! This video was spot on. You nailed it. I was learning and laughing. For me, it was when u said u was about to take the deal with Christian Mingle. When u said, "WHAT" like that, your facial expression had me on the ground. I think I rolled it back like 20 times. TG you are so animated. 😂🤣 Ladies, Tony ain't never lied. Online dating is the worst, this comes from much experience. I met up with one dude at Burger King for a quick meet&greet the dude said, "you look so cute and clean that I wanna lick your toes." I was like the roadrunner..Meep-meep! I got plenty of stories but that's just one. Thanks Tony! 🙌🏽
I agree with Tony. There’s a lot of sick and crazy people online.
I know I’m scary 😂I will never do online dating ❤❤❤ great teaching for those that do online dating 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Tony said ..stop being lazy .. that’s how you wake up dead . 😂😂😂
I hear the message , thanks.. but I’m crackin up 😂😂😂
Hey I been dealing with not doing that anymore. I know that I needed to hear this. I meet some decent guys but at the same time it didn't go any further. Yes I am going to stop doing that. You are absolutely right it is like a lottery you might win or not.
28:45 BEST part of this post. PLEASE follow through with that one. Our country will start healing with TG for President!
Not Timber!!😭😭😂🤣🤣
Thank you brethren! Online dating is NOT a natural thing!
You have to be careful wherever you meet someone;. the same ones you meet in person at starbucks, at the mall, at church, at the social events they can also be on online dating sites. I know this for a fact.
This comment should be pinned!
That’s why it’s important to ask questions and vet people out! “How active are you on social media”
Tony do not play about women an online dating he is not for it at all😂😂😂