In the case of accidents there is a good possibility that you were at least a little careless when causing them, so the guilt could work as a reinforcement to be more careful in similar situations.
Some people feel guilty because they set a moral compass for themselves and regret stepping out of those bounds. No matter the scenario. Ethics are sometimes the only motivation needed.
But the scenarios specifically exclude that - she even says she doesn't understand feeling guilty if something happened by accident, which implies she does understand feeling guilt fot doing something on purpose
Yes.. but sometimes a person's ethics includes doing everything possible to prevent accidents in the first place. Which could be why they feel guilty when they happen.
Some of these were actually really nice to hear from someone else. My own trauma responses often make me feel guilty for things outside of my control, and you stating matter of factly that it doesn't make sense is actually sort of comforting. Thank you
Regarding #3, our capitalistic society has created a dynamic in which there are many situations in which “having something” (a better-paying job, bigger house, properties that you rent out, etc.) really does come at the expense of the people in lower tax brackets than you. So I can see why people say that.
We have different emotional needs, and we might feel guilty about having them when our partner is unable to fulfill them without them sacrificing something for it.
That’s totally the opposite of these kind of people, they don’t feel guilt cause they don’t really care. Also I think you do have a choice, you’re just not willing to make the decision because idk of what.
You make a lot of sense. I guess we’re all a twisted. Food for thought 🤔. I think many of us had that irrational guilt installed by manipulating selfish parents. This video helped, to hear it said like that Thank you ❤.
There was a fine line between frustration and abusive anger where my parents were concerned. I did not, no matter the circumstances, spill the juice. I'd have been laughing on the other side of my face for being 'so disrespectfully wasteful.' I learned the hard way, once.
I agree with everything you said, but this has little to do with Narcissism nearer the damaging effect a Narcissist can have on other people-- the self-serving covert manipulation, the sadistic pleasure they derive from exploitation and most off balance is their lack of empathy.
Well, it does have something to do with it, because most people who aren't antisocial would at least understand feeling guilty in most of those situations. Her list also specifically excludes guilt about doing things on purpose, so she gets that
I like hearing your perspective, it gives me a lot of incite into narcissism and what its like from your side, u also make a lot of valid and very interesting points that I've never thought about. Thank you for sharing with us. 😊
Hm... about accidents, even though you don't _intend_ to do it, you can _intend_ to not do it. You get what I mean? The guilt is meant to prompt you to find a way to be more careful, prepared or quick to react next time and not hurt the other person (or yourself)
You should just stick with: I dont understand guilt at all. If it benefits me, it's good. Guilt to me means I got caught or called out, so it doesn't benefit me and I feel regret, for it effecting me negatively.
That seems normal. I wouldn't feel guilt or shame in any of those situations either. Maybe embarrassed if you spilled a drink on someone but I wouldn't feel bad about it.
I am not ASPD but I definitely get not feeling guilty for accident. I still feel guilty when I mess up but it isn't' something I feel someone SHOULD feel guilty about
I have all of those fears. I know those are irrational. And I know where they come from : i was conditioned to feel them. Quite precisely by narcissists, and psychopaths. I assume the reason for them doing to was to project their own trauma into me and then discard me as a means to get rid of their trauma. It is clear as day after the fact. At the moment it seemed like weird confusing mixed messages. I think the narca and psychopaths i was exposed to did it for a reason. They do have all those parts that would feel guilty (like for acts of unjustified violent crime) but they are not really aware they do. Still, "something" annoys them. And projecting their shame and guilt onto the weakest members of society (the disabled, mentally or physically ill, low iq, disfigured ppl., minorities etc.) and discarding them using various methods like creating financial scarcity, homelessness, institutionalization or outright making them sick with physical means etc. Alk of that , In Order for them to not complain or actually end up in the cemetery seems to be the next step. One reason being that all rge projecting includes very wide tailed accounts of their deeds including crimes. So ppl. Like me better not talk. And they are good at making ppl. Not talk.
Thank you for your perspective, Delta. I have been diagnosed with BPD and have what I would describe as "glitchy" prosocial emotions, including moments of intense empathy. Visceral empathy. I also have very blunted emotion, like instinctive grey rocking, when I feel like I'm being manipulated by someone really dangerous. My affect changes, and may appear very odd to a neurotypical. I think to a predator, they realize I'm not an easy mark after all and f*ck off. I also have issues with dissociation and rage. Fun times 🙄 Anyway, along with intensive DBT and other therapy, I browse channels like yours to get perspective. I know there may be some masking or subconscious manipulation. I also know we do the best we can with the awareness we have and, hopefully, intentions to heal and not hurt ourselves or others.
@@Amberguymerhosking The “guilt” examples Delta mentions are minuscule, at best. Do NOT be deceived by her inability to actually feel guilt for HER wrongs towards others or, her inability to feel compassion or sympathy towards someone else’s plight(s). Delta LACKS empathy… she was born without this characteristic! Delta is gaslighting everyone in this video by trying to reduce the severity of her ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’!! A lot of you need to research this vile disorder from a “Book” source, instead of listening to actual narcissists on RUclips that’ll distort their behaviors/diagnosis any chance they get.
@@Amberguymerhosking RUclips deleted my reply to you. I don’t know their reasons but, I screen shot comment before sending it to you. RUclips, proof is being gathered!!
Guilty pleasures is a misnomer, they are shameful pleasures, or cringey pleasures to be precise. Y'know, you enjoy watching that cringy show on TV when noone is around, and you yourself find it silly, but you enjoy it. Or it could refer to eating chocolate (for example) even though you know it is gonna make you fat (for example)
Guilt is not initially about pure logic & can be very useful... a feeling or spectrum of feelings that can encourage introspection and allow one to replay the past, to learn and hopefully move on to a more positive future with less personal selfish/stupid mistakes that cause harm to self & others. No logical point after that of continuing to feel guilty as this often makes more problems occur.
I've seen a meme in a mental health group with this text: "My depressed ass trying to enjoy the things I bought when I was manic." It would be hard to believe it being just accident, when someone is making the same mistakes and making stupid excuses about it. Would hate to have it on my expense. I guess I shouldn't talk about how guilt could be related to eating habits.
These are situations where it is obvious that you should not feel guilty. It's when you don't feel guilty when you should. So that's not saying how she would feel in those situations.
This may shed some light on why you feel guilt about your past see when you're young your mind is unguarded there's no defenses built yet the brain is like a sponge taking everything in with no filter so when something bad happens you can have feelings that contradict what the facts are like thinking you did something wrong see as a child these kinds of questions are harmful if not answered quickly because these thoughts and feelings imprint themselves in your mind without any control but as adults we can figure things out more logically and if our defense is strong then we have more control now the reason adults can go through this same thing is the same as children adults can experience sense of guilt from SA or something else but the difference is it's not imprinted it can be dealt with given time because adults have more control over their thoughts and feelings it's still difficult but far less traumatic than if it happened earlier in life the sponge like qualities of the human mind are more diminished as we age which in itself is a protection unfortunately as children we don't have that ability so our minds are very open to everything
Where things are, how many of things are, and why things are, are pretty substantive as to why values come to be. Value is usually established after generations of practice. Guilt is a trip.
You are 💯% correct!!! Delta is using these minuscule “guilt” examples as a way of shielding her lack of empathy in minor and MAJOR areas. This is a classic ‘gaslighting’ technique. Sadly, many in her Comment Section don’t understand how dangerous ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’ is. That’s the reason they’re defending her or, following along with her downplay of the ‘Guilt Emotion’.
Yeah, I know, didn't ask for advice, But: People feel guilt in those situations of the first half of your vid as a generic way to empathize or sympathize with their suffering, even if it's as small as soda on your dress. Agreed though, I don't need to feel bad to care about and motivate myself to help someone clean up the drink they spilled on themselves.
That's interesting - I'm pretty sure I'm not a sociopath but those things make no sense to me either (apart from the car one - but probably 'cos I would've accidentally got distracted or done something I'd feel I could've prevented)
Important video topic and as someone who isn't diagnosed with anything I agree with all of it Btw you very rarely blink Is there any connection to your diagnosis?
@@nernatbentley3778 interesting It just makes me wonder because blinking isn't just the movement intelf like mannerisms but it actually serves the purpose of lubricating the eye.. So how does that work? Do her eyes needs less lubrication? Do they lubricate better without blinking? Because I have noticed this in other people and it always gives off creepy vibes, especially because I cant stop thinking about how they deal with dry eyes or why their eyes don't need that much blinking..
@@waituntil Well, I can’t speak on others “non-blinking” moments you’ve encountered but, with Delta, it has a lot to do with her Sociopathy. You’ll can learn more about this by researching ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’.
Most people are religious TO SOME EXTENT... Even if they don't go to church or don't read the Bible or the Quran (the 2nd largest religion is Islam so I'm including them too) they still feel bad for doing things that are considered "sinful".. even if you ask them "are you religious" they might try and deny it but we've all been fed that stuff down our throats since we were babies, so... On some level it impacts us. Guilty pleasure kind of stems from that, as well. But also people feel guilty for disappointing themselves because they have such high expectations.. for example if they believe in healthy eating 99% will feel a bit guilty for eating a whole bag of chips, even if it's just something they very rarely do and doesn't even matter in the long run. Does this make any sense?
Hello. My father has the same diagnosis and although I completely understand that it's a spectrum thing and no two people are alike, I still want to ask. My father did not feel any kind of obligation towards others. Way back, one of my teachers said in a parent conference something like, "I believe we owe it to our children to make their education as thorough as possible, even if it requires going above and beyond." Like the idea being, we chose to make kids, so we're not just compelled by love, it's also a moral requirement to be considered a good person, and if you intentionally refuse to do that, you're objectively not a good person. My dad mumbled something appropriate but then in the car on the way home he said, "let me get something clear with you, I don't _owe_ you jack. I'm not in some kind of debt to you. Don't think you're ever getting a freebie from me just because you're my kid." I can't honestly remember him ever saying things casually like he owed a person a favor, or ever said an action of his was done in return for something else someone did that he was compelled internally to repay. Otoh he was all about keeping a running tab for us about how much we owed him. I get what you've said so far about being low on prosocial emotions, but what about prosocial motivations? Do you have a drive inside to keep things fair and even between yourself and others? Do you actively seek ways to do people favors in return, and does it feel urgent and necessary or you get uncomfortable? I'm imagining so, and I think my dad was just really triggered or impaired around that concept, but I would like to know if you have heard or experienced that it's a common thing with NPD/ASPD.
Transactional thing are part of the NPD power dynamics. They hateto have debt to someone they don't like and prefer to put others in debt. It's more likely when they care to manage those relations, not afraid of them and can be abusive with them. It's naive of you to think the opposite. You haven't learned much about these disorders.
@Mystika777 oh, undoubtedly. I have heard about some of it. The rest I actually probably know as well based on things that happened to me. That stuff doesn't just get normalized out of nowhere. I know he didn't get that way on his own. He wasn't born that way, he was absolutely made that way, and I despite how much I despise him for his choices regarding his wife and kids, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. These people 100% suffer. At age 87, my father will never change and is presently fading away in a VA psych unit because he's medication non-compliant for bipolar on top of having zero reason to curb his criminal versatility. He gets bored and messing with people is entertaining. It's a pretty pathetic way to end up. He has never met his grandchildren, has no friends still alive, and the staff there taking care of him have all tased him at least once. I can't forgive him for the offenses he committed against me, his abuse and neglect, leaving me to look to the world like I had a normal dad and a normal life but having neither, having to find my way on my own from very young. But I also can't fully blame him for the trauma and distorted thinking that was the background reason for his choices. I'm left with a strong interest to understand, and I know he could never explain it to me.
No of course you don't feel guilty if theirs no bad intention if you are having sex behind your partners back you should feel guilty its called contex on the other hand if you're partner has cheated on you first for years again no you shouldn't feel guilty but you might because you are guilty of cheating lying and causing stress intentionly , should feel guilty killing someone who Hitler or a angel , contex , but if you are responsible your guilty doesn't mean you must feel guilty but that's subjective to what's going on in your consciousness, if I see you stabbing a person I might feel guilty I didn't stop you it does have something to do with me if I'm close enough to help or hinder its not difficult clearly it is for some💓😇🙏
That's some of the stupidest stuff i've heard. Well no kidding Accidents are one thing but I didn't hear you Say one. Thing that you did on purpose and felt no guilt for it.This is human nature. Save, for instance, if your spouse is faithful to you and you are cheating on them.Or you're seeing more than one guy and you have no guilt.... Now this will be messed up mentality
WHETHER YOU FEEL IT OR NOT WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT YOU KNOW WHAT RIGHT AND WRONG ARE SO IT'S NOT A MATTER OF YOUR PERSONALITY IT'S A MATTER OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF
@@angelicreinforcement3373 No it's true, animals have no guilt, guilt is a societal construct, it's not natural and not real, and it's constructed only for control purposes. Even your own parents incepted guilt in you just to control you, and they do it to the present day) Your whole life is running by a guilt, you're like a puppet. A person without guilt is much more free and independent than the average person with it, especially in modern society. Do you think those who control have any guilt? Leaders, successful businessman, etc? Do you think your own parents felt guilt for incepting in you such destructive psychic mechanism that will bond you to the end of your life? Sociopathy and psychopathy is not a mistake or illness, these are simply evolutionary traits that develop in modern humans under the influence of modern society and culture
@@angelicreinforcement3373 Animals do not experience guilt, as it is a societal construct created for control purposes. Even parents instill guilt in their children to control them throughout their lives. Living without guilt allows for more freedom and independence, especially in modern society. Leaders and successful individuals often lack guilt. Sociopathy and psychopathy are evolutionary traits influenced by modern society, enabling greater social success. Empathy, guilt, and shame are considered atavisms, particularly among modern youth.
@@anti9945 False. Even a dog can feel guilt - so do other ape species. Completely absurd to think society can just come up with an emotion and instill it in you. As to this claim of "Empathy, guilt, and shame are considered atavisms, particularly among modern youth" - I'd say we are literally trending the other way, making sure we affirm each other's identities and don't insult one another based on traits we can't control. I also don't think many of our youth would feel comfortable bossing a literal slave around, which would have been okay a few hundred years ago
@@angelicreinforcement3373 How the hell you know what dog can feel? You can know only what you feel, everything other is just an assumption and projection. How you're so sure that others can feel something at all? Anyways, you can teach a dog to feel anything, it’s called a conditioned reflex, a person in this regard is no different from a dog, and guilt and shame are just instilled conditioned reflexes. "We are literally trending the other way" who the hell those "we are"? If you mean Americans, then we in Russia consider you a decadent, degraded civilization on the verge of collapse, with all your decadent rhetoric regarding sexual deviants, kissing the feet of marginalized blacks, and so on. What about slaves? Well, the whole capitalistic system is all about slavery in disguise. Oh, my fucking god, you're just a npc that understand nothing about things really are here. Your level of understanding is so surface about every aspect of society, psychology and so on, so I’m even disgusted to give you such a detailed answer
Interesting. For the first few, you seem to assign intent to justifying the feeling of guilt. Intent isn't the root of feelings of guilt. In fact, if someone intended to do something harmful to someone else in whatever capacity, it's LESS likely for them to feel guilt. If they intended to inflict harm, the only reason I can think of for them to feel guilt is if the intentional harmful act was perpetrated during a moment of weakness, when someone was pushed to their limit (like reactive abuse for a victim of a narcissist) and is outside the boundaries of their normal behavior. If you accidentally hit someone with your car, or spill a drink, miss a wedding, you'll feel guilt because you let someone down, ruined their shirt, or mangled their body and paralyzed or killed them. Doesn't matter that it was an accident, it still happened, it was a result of your carelessness, and it negatively impacted someone else. A person with a healthy emotional pallet with feel guilt for causing others harm, or even inconvenience, because we can put ourselves in the position of the person we harmed and empathize with how it would feel. As for feeling guilty when spending money, people may feel that when they spent money frivolously and carelessly on useless things, when they should have allocated that money to something more important. Maybe they justified to reckless spending in the moment, but after some time passes and they see that whatever new possessions they purchased didn't bring them any happiness, utility or real feelings of fulfillment, they feel guilt over having wasted that money. Guilty pleasures is sort of a ritualized phrase and doesn't always necessarily denote feelings of guilt in the context that you're talking about here. It's kind of a tongue in cheek way of acknowledging that something is stupid, low quality, or unhealthy. For example, I'm a heavy metal musician, and in the subculture of heavy metal, listening to pop music is often frowned upon or made fun of. So, if I start bumping a Taylor Swift song in front of my band mates, I'll identify it as a "guilty pleasure", something that I like but I know that it's bad. Make sense?
You are confusing guilt whith compassion. And note things could be said about your missconceptions on "accidents", related to recklessnes and fraud. But that takes accountability, you know.
All of those scenarios can definitely instill a feeling of guilt, not just compassion. Recklessness is a nuance she didn't touch on, true, but even if that didn't factor in for her, it's still great she told us about it, right?
If a MAP feels guilt for their "needs" when it's universally agreed that is never was and is never going to be an okay "need" then I can understand why someone would feel guilt for their needs.
I think RUclips should feel guilty for pulling my original comment to this video of yours, but they have the power to do so, and they basically know there ISN'T a DAMN thing I can do about it, and no doubt RUclips will NOT feel guilty about it in the least.... In fact they will probably pull this one too, and I WILL feel guilty for pissing away time/effort OF MY OWN, and NOT because I was ashamed or felt guilty about what I wrote
@JebidiahKrackedyetagain: Once you’re on RUclips’s “sh!t list” (even if you’ve done NOTHING wrong), they’ll follow you and delete/hide your comments… regardless of the topics/videos you respond to. RUclips will leave your “rant” comments about their abuse towards you, in an effort to make you look crazy to others because, the “rant” comment will CLEARLY be seen by everyone. Just know this… you’re NOT crazy!!! I’m on their “sh!t list” as well. 😂 My favorite game play from RUclips is, when they add one “Like” to a comment I’ve made but, when I check the ‘Notifications’… they’ve actually REMOVED the one “Like” that notified me 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣!! Someone people that work at be RUclips are🤪🤪🤪🤪!! 😂
LOL. RUclips JUST removed my response to your comment about them removing your comment to this video. I’m NOT being sarcastic, either. I wrote a longer post to you, explaining what RUclips does to certain peoples post…. including mine. Then, that response to you “magically disappeared.” 😂
From now on, screen shot your comments BEFORE posting them. Myself and others are about to bring to light the behaviors of this platform. Since they’ve decided to PUBLICLY offend certain people’s ‘First Amendment Rights’ without valid probable cause, we think it’s time to go PUBLIC to news outlets (Mainstream Media) with PROOF of their abuse!! Please… screen shot your comments before posting. If you don’t, they’ll immediately delete or hide the comment from viewers. It’s really sad it’s come to this on RUclips.
It's most likely language filter and auto moderator. You could write your comment in a notepad before posting to make sure you don't lose what you post without being able to recover it.
@@Hizsoo WOW!! I honestly didn't even think of that!! Brilliant in its simplicity 😳🫡😃 One problem with that solution is that even though I have what I originally said on paper, typing long comments out using a CELL phone keypad is a SERIOUS pain in the ass, so serious in fact that I would have to question whether it's worth it. 😶
You wouldn't necessarily have to be unempathetic not to feel suvivor's guilt or being in a better position than other people. Certainly not for spending money
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In the case of accidents there is a good possibility that you were at least a little careless when causing them, so the guilt could work as a reinforcement to be more careful in similar situations.
Good point
Some people feel guilty because they set a moral compass for themselves and regret stepping out of those bounds. No matter the scenario. Ethics are sometimes the only motivation needed.
But the scenarios specifically exclude that - she even says she doesn't understand feeling guilty if something happened by accident, which implies she does understand feeling guilt fot doing something on purpose
Yes.. but sometimes a person's ethics includes doing everything possible to prevent accidents in the first place. Which could be why they feel guilty when they happen.
Self delusion regardless.
No moral foundation. Just the sold delusion of such.
I wouldn't feel guilty about any of those things either. Seems all pretty normal/mentally healthy to me.
Some of these were actually really nice to hear from someone else. My own trauma responses often make me feel guilty for things outside of my control, and you stating matter of factly that it doesn't make sense is actually sort of comforting. Thank you
Regarding #3, our capitalistic society has created a dynamic in which there are many situations in which “having something” (a better-paying job, bigger house, properties that you rent out, etc.) really does come at the expense of the people in lower tax brackets than you.
So I can see why people say that.
We have different emotional needs, and we might feel guilty about having them when our partner is unable to fulfill them without them sacrificing something for it.
I wish I had a choice lol, lives in a constant state of guilt
That’s totally the opposite of these kind of people, they don’t feel guilt cause they don’t really care. Also I think you do have a choice, you’re just not willing to make the decision because idk of what.
You make a lot of sense. I guess we’re all a twisted. Food for thought 🤔. I think many of us had that irrational guilt installed by manipulating selfish parents. This video helped, to hear it said like that Thank you ❤.
There was a fine line between frustration and abusive anger where my parents were concerned. I did not, no matter the circumstances, spill the juice. I'd have been laughing on the other side of my face for being 'so disrespectfully wasteful.' I learned the hard way, once.
I think “guilty pleasures” are things people are embarrassed to admit they like lol
I agree with everything you said, but this has little to do with Narcissism nearer the damaging effect a Narcissist can have on other people-- the self-serving
covert manipulation, the sadistic pleasure they derive from exploitation and most off balance is their lack of empathy.
Well, it does have something to do with it, because most people who aren't antisocial would at least understand feeling guilty in most of those situations. Her list also specifically excludes guilt about doing things on purpose, so she gets that
Most of these examples you speak of is because most people have empathy.
I like hearing your perspective, it gives me a lot of incite into narcissism and what its like from your side, u also make a lot of valid and very interesting points that I've never thought about. Thank you for sharing with us. 😊
Hm... about accidents, even though you don't _intend_ to do it, you can _intend_ to not do it.
You get what I mean?
The guilt is meant to prompt you to find a way to be more careful, prepared or quick to react next time and not hurt the other person (or yourself)
I don’t see anything bad here. And I’m a neurotypical
You should just stick with: I dont understand guilt at all. If it benefits me, it's good. Guilt to me means I got caught or called out, so it doesn't benefit me and I feel regret, for it effecting me negatively.
That seems normal. I wouldn't feel guilt or shame in any of those situations either. Maybe embarrassed if you spilled a drink on someone but I wouldn't feel bad about it.
Dad is that you?
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I am not ASPD but I definitely get not feeling guilty for accident. I still feel guilty when I mess up but it isn't' something I feel someone SHOULD feel guilty about
That's not guilt! That's stupidity!! The world is moronic, not guilty
I have all of those fears. I know those are irrational. And I know where they come from : i was conditioned to feel them. Quite precisely by narcissists, and psychopaths. I assume the reason for them doing to was to project their own trauma into me and then discard me as a means to get rid of their trauma. It is clear as day after the fact. At the moment it seemed like weird confusing mixed messages. I think the narca and psychopaths i was exposed to did it for a reason. They do have all those parts that would feel guilty (like for acts of unjustified violent crime) but they are not really aware they do. Still, "something" annoys them. And projecting their shame and guilt onto the weakest members of society (the disabled, mentally or physically ill, low iq, disfigured ppl., minorities etc.) and discarding them using various methods like creating financial scarcity, homelessness, institutionalization or outright making them sick with physical means etc. Alk of that , In Order for them to not complain or actually end up in the cemetery seems to be the next step. One reason being that all rge projecting includes very wide tailed accounts of their deeds including crimes. So ppl. Like me better not talk. And they are good at making ppl. Not talk.
It never blinks
No brain / no pain.
The eyes chico, they never lie.
Thank you for your perspective, Delta. I have been diagnosed with BPD and have what I would describe as "glitchy" prosocial emotions, including moments of intense empathy. Visceral empathy. I also have very blunted emotion, like instinctive grey rocking, when I feel like I'm being manipulated by someone really dangerous. My affect changes, and may appear very odd to a neurotypical. I think to a predator, they realize I'm not an easy mark after all and f*ck off. I also have issues with dissociation and rage. Fun times 🙄
Anyway, along with intensive DBT and other therapy, I browse channels like yours to get perspective. I know there may be some masking or subconscious manipulation. I also know we do the best we can with the awareness we have and, hopefully, intentions to heal and not hurt ourselves or others.
Thanks for being so open! I'm learning a lot
You are not a narcissist
I was going to say the exact same thing. She isn’t xxx
@@Amberguymerhosking The “guilt” examples Delta mentions are minuscule, at best. Do NOT be deceived by her inability to actually feel guilt for HER wrongs towards others or, her inability to feel compassion or sympathy towards someone else’s plight(s). Delta LACKS empathy… she was born without this characteristic! Delta is gaslighting everyone in this video by trying to reduce the severity of her ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’!! A lot of you need to research this vile disorder from a “Book” source, instead of listening to actual narcissists on RUclips that’ll distort their behaviors/diagnosis any chance they get.
@@Amberguymerhosking RUclips deleted my reply to you. I don’t know their reasons but, I screen shot comment before sending it to you. RUclips, proof is being gathered!!
How do you know that?
Guilty pleasures is a misnomer, they are shameful pleasures, or cringey pleasures to be precise. Y'know, you enjoy watching that cringy show on TV when noone is around, and you yourself find it silly, but you enjoy it. Or it could refer to eating chocolate (for example) even though you know it is gonna make you fat (for example)
Guilt is not initially about pure logic & can be very useful... a feeling or spectrum of feelings that can encourage introspection and allow one to replay the past, to learn and hopefully move on to a more positive future with less personal selfish/stupid mistakes that cause harm to self & others. No logical point after that of continuing to feel guilty as this often makes more problems occur.
I've seen a meme in a mental health group with this text:
"My depressed ass trying to enjoy the things I bought when I was manic."
It would be hard to believe it being just accident, when someone is making the same mistakes and making stupid excuses about it. Would hate to have it on my expense.
I guess I shouldn't talk about how guilt could be related to eating habits.
What you say is very sane! Thanks for sharing
These are situations where it is obvious that you should not feel guilty. It's when you don't feel guilty when you should. So that's not saying how she would feel in those situations.
This may shed some light on why you feel guilt about your past see when you're young your mind is unguarded there's no defenses built yet the brain is like a sponge taking everything in with no filter so when something bad happens you can have feelings that contradict what the facts are like thinking you did something wrong see as a child these kinds of questions are harmful if not answered quickly because these thoughts and feelings imprint themselves in your mind without any control but as adults we can figure things out more logically and if our defense is strong then we have more control now the reason adults can go through this same thing is the same as children adults can experience sense of guilt from SA or something else but the difference is it's not imprinted it can be dealt with given time because adults have more control over their thoughts and feelings it's still difficult but far less traumatic than if it happened earlier in life the sponge like qualities of the human mind are more diminished as we age which in itself is a protection unfortunately as children we don't have that ability so our minds are very open to everything
Where things are, how many of things are, and why things are, are pretty substantive as to why values come to be. Value is usually established after generations of practice. Guilt is a trip.
I actually agree with her on all of these. But, i still feel guilt with many of her examples.
lets be honest, you don't ever feel guilt
You are 💯% correct!!! Delta is using these minuscule “guilt” examples as a way of shielding her lack of empathy in minor and MAJOR areas. This is a classic ‘gaslighting’ technique. Sadly, many in her Comment Section don’t understand how dangerous ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’ is. That’s the reason they’re defending her or, following along with her downplay of the ‘Guilt Emotion’.
Yeah, I know, didn't ask for advice, But:
People feel guilt in those situations of the first half of your vid as a generic way to empathize or sympathize with their suffering, even if it's as small as soda on your dress.
Agreed though, I don't need to feel bad to care about and motivate myself to help someone clean up the drink they spilled on themselves.
That's interesting - I'm pretty sure I'm not a sociopath but those things make no sense to me either (apart from the car one - but probably 'cos I would've accidentally got distracted or done something I'd feel I could've prevented)
Important video topic and as someone who isn't diagnosed with anything I agree with all of it
Btw you very rarely blink
Is there any connection to your diagnosis?
“Is there any connection to your diagnosis?”- @waituntil
Absolutely!!!
@@nernatbentley3778 interesting
It just makes me wonder because blinking isn't just the movement intelf like mannerisms but it actually serves the purpose of lubricating the eye.. So how does that work? Do her eyes needs less lubrication? Do they lubricate better without blinking? Because I have noticed this in other people and it always gives off creepy vibes, especially because I cant stop thinking about how they deal with dry eyes or why their eyes don't need that much blinking..
@@waituntil Well, I can’t speak on others “non-blinking” moments you’ve encountered but, with Delta, it has a lot to do with her Sociopathy. You’ll can learn more about this by researching ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’.
@@nernatbentley3778 well ok, thank you
@@waituntil You’re welcome. 😊
Makes sense..!
I’m Satan. And I took your soul. That’s why you can’t really feel anything.. pity.
Most people are religious TO SOME EXTENT... Even if they don't go to church or don't read the Bible or the Quran (the 2nd largest religion is Islam so I'm including them too) they still feel bad for doing things that are considered "sinful".. even if you ask them "are you religious" they might try and deny it but we've all been fed that stuff down our throats since we were babies, so... On some level it impacts us. Guilty pleasure kind of stems from that, as well. But also people feel guilty for disappointing themselves because they have such high expectations.. for example if they believe in healthy eating 99% will feel a bit guilty for eating a whole bag of chips, even if it's just something they very rarely do and doesn't even matter in the long run.
Does this make any sense?
Turn on your ceiling fan ... and feel better.
Hello. My father has the same diagnosis and although I completely understand that it's a spectrum thing and no two people are alike, I still want to ask. My father did not feel any kind of obligation towards others. Way back, one of my teachers said in a parent conference something like, "I believe we owe it to our children to make their education as thorough as possible, even if it requires going above and beyond." Like the idea being, we chose to make kids, so we're not just compelled by love, it's also a moral requirement to be considered a good person, and if you intentionally refuse to do that, you're objectively not a good person. My dad mumbled something appropriate but then in the car on the way home he said, "let me get something clear with you, I don't _owe_ you jack. I'm not in some kind of debt to you. Don't think you're ever getting a freebie from me just because you're my kid." I can't honestly remember him ever saying things casually like he owed a person a favor, or ever said an action of his was done in return for something else someone did that he was compelled internally to repay. Otoh he was all about keeping a running tab for us about how much we owed him. I get what you've said so far about being low on prosocial emotions, but what about prosocial motivations? Do you have a drive inside to keep things fair and even between yourself and others? Do you actively seek ways to do people favors in return, and does it feel urgent and necessary or you get uncomfortable? I'm imagining so, and I think my dad was just really triggered or impaired around that concept, but I would like to know if you have heard or experienced that it's a common thing with NPD/ASPD.
Transactional thing are part of the NPD power dynamics. They hateto have debt to someone they don't like and prefer to put others in debt. It's more likely when they care to manage those relations, not afraid of them and can be abusive with them.
It's naive of you to think the opposite. You haven't learned much about these disorders.
@@Hizsoo I was asking Delta.
I wonder how many people took advantage of your father when he was a child.
@Mystika777 oh, undoubtedly. I have heard about some of it. The rest I actually probably know as well based on things that happened to me. That stuff doesn't just get normalized out of nowhere. I know he didn't get that way on his own. He wasn't born that way, he was absolutely made that way, and I despite how much I despise him for his choices regarding his wife and kids, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. These people 100% suffer. At age 87, my father will never change and is presently fading away in a VA psych unit because he's medication non-compliant for bipolar on top of having zero reason to curb his criminal versatility. He gets bored and messing with people is entertaining. It's a pretty pathetic way to end up. He has never met his grandchildren, has no friends still alive, and the staff there taking care of him have all tased him at least once. I can't forgive him for the offenses he committed against me, his abuse and neglect, leaving me to look to the world like I had a normal dad and a normal life but having neither, having to find my way on my own from very young. But I also can't fully blame him for the trauma and distorted thinking that was the background reason for his choices. I'm left with a strong interest to understand, and I know he could never explain it to me.
No of course you don't feel guilty if theirs no bad intention if you are having sex behind your partners back you should feel guilty its called contex on the other hand if you're partner has cheated on you first for years again no you shouldn't feel guilty but you might because you are guilty of cheating lying and causing stress intentionly , should feel guilty killing someone who Hitler or a angel , contex , but if you are responsible your guilty doesn't mean you must feel guilty but that's subjective to what's going on in your consciousness, if I see you stabbing a person I might feel guilty I didn't stop you it does have something to do with me if I'm close enough to help or hinder its not difficult clearly it is for some💓😇🙏
That's some of the stupidest stuff i've heard. Well no kidding Accidents are one thing but I didn't hear you Say one.
Thing that you did on purpose and felt no guilt for it.This is human nature. Save, for instance, if your spouse is faithful to you and you are cheating on them.Or you're seeing more than one guy and you have no guilt.... Now this will be messed up mentality
Ok, you did a great job,
Can you use movie clip and it down for us.
We need examples.
Please don’t be offended only an idea .
Great video 😊
WHETHER YOU FEEL IT OR NOT WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT YOU KNOW WHAT RIGHT AND WRONG ARE SO IT'S NOT A MATTER OF YOUR PERSONALITY IT'S A MATTER OF BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF
Stop screaming at people
@@Mystika777
NOBODY'S SCREAMING IT'S CALLED TYPING IF YOU CAN HEAR MY VOICE YOU NEED A PSYCHIATRIST OTHERWISE QUIT PROJECTING AND BULLYING
@@nazarightproductions😂😂😂
I agree witht the first one 😅
guilt is not real, it's created and incepted in us for purpose to control us
That's so not true. We're group animals by nature, and with that comes a potential for feeling guilt
@@angelicreinforcement3373 No it's true, animals have no guilt, guilt is a societal construct, it's not natural and not real, and it's constructed only for control purposes. Even your own parents incepted guilt in you just to control you, and they do it to the present day) Your whole life is running by a guilt, you're like a puppet. A person without guilt is much more free and independent than the average person with it, especially in modern society. Do you think those who control have any guilt? Leaders, successful businessman, etc? Do you think your own parents felt guilt for incepting in you such destructive psychic mechanism that will bond you to the end of your life? Sociopathy and psychopathy is not a mistake or illness, these are simply evolutionary traits that develop in modern humans under the influence of modern society and culture
@@angelicreinforcement3373 Animals do not experience guilt, as it is a societal construct created for control purposes. Even parents instill guilt in their children to control them throughout their lives. Living without guilt allows for more freedom and independence, especially in modern society. Leaders and successful individuals often lack guilt. Sociopathy and psychopathy are evolutionary traits influenced by modern society, enabling greater social success. Empathy, guilt, and shame are considered atavisms, particularly among modern youth.
@@anti9945 False. Even a dog can feel guilt - so do other ape species. Completely absurd to think society can just come up with an emotion and instill it in you. As to this claim of "Empathy, guilt, and shame are considered atavisms, particularly among modern youth" - I'd say we are literally trending the other way, making sure we affirm each other's identities and don't insult one another based on traits we can't control. I also don't think many of our youth would feel comfortable bossing a literal slave around, which would have been okay a few hundred years ago
@@angelicreinforcement3373 How the hell you know what dog can feel? You can know only what you feel, everything other is just an assumption and projection. How you're so sure that others can feel something at all? Anyways, you can teach a dog to feel anything, it’s called a conditioned reflex, a person in this regard is no different from a dog, and guilt and shame are just instilled conditioned reflexes. "We are literally trending the other way" who the hell those "we are"? If you mean Americans, then we in Russia consider you a decadent, degraded civilization on the verge of collapse, with all your decadent rhetoric regarding sexual deviants, kissing the feet of marginalized blacks, and so on. What about slaves? Well, the whole capitalistic system is all about slavery in disguise. Oh, my fucking god, you're just a npc that understand nothing about things really are here. Your level of understanding is so surface about every aspect of society, psychology and so on, so I’m even disgusted to give you such a detailed answer
Hello Delta
Why do you call yourself Delta?
Boruto - Karma group maybe.
Interesting. For the first few, you seem to assign intent to justifying the feeling of guilt. Intent isn't the root of feelings of guilt. In fact, if someone intended to do something harmful to someone else in whatever capacity, it's LESS likely for them to feel guilt. If they intended to inflict harm, the only reason I can think of for them to feel guilt is if the intentional harmful act was perpetrated during a moment of weakness, when someone was pushed to their limit (like reactive abuse for a victim of a narcissist) and is outside the boundaries of their normal behavior. If you accidentally hit someone with your car, or spill a drink, miss a wedding, you'll feel guilt because you let someone down, ruined their shirt, or mangled their body and paralyzed or killed them. Doesn't matter that it was an accident, it still happened, it was a result of your carelessness, and it negatively impacted someone else. A person with a healthy emotional pallet with feel guilt for causing others harm, or even inconvenience, because we can put ourselves in the position of the person we harmed and empathize with how it would feel.
As for feeling guilty when spending money, people may feel that when they spent money frivolously and carelessly on useless things, when they should have allocated that money to something more important. Maybe they justified to reckless spending in the moment, but after some time passes and they see that whatever new possessions they purchased didn't bring them any happiness, utility or real feelings of fulfillment, they feel guilt over having wasted that money.
Guilty pleasures is sort of a ritualized phrase and doesn't always necessarily denote feelings of guilt in the context that you're talking about here. It's kind of a tongue in cheek way of acknowledging that something is stupid, low quality, or unhealthy. For example, I'm a heavy metal musician, and in the subculture of heavy metal, listening to pop music is often frowned upon or made fun of. So, if I start bumping a Taylor Swift song in front of my band mates, I'll identify it as a "guilty pleasure", something that I like but I know that it's bad. Make sense?
Im not sure people feel GUILT over those thigs.. I think in some of those sceraios were sayin sorry, becuase it happened, not because we caused it.
No, people absolutely feel guilt in all of those scenarios
You are confusing guilt whith compassion. And note things could be said about your missconceptions on "accidents", related to recklessnes and fraud. But that takes accountability, you know.
All of those scenarios can definitely instill a feeling of guilt, not just compassion. Recklessness is a nuance she didn't touch on, true, but even if that didn't factor in for her, it's still great she told us about it, right?
Yeh nah, you are definitely not well and should be locked up
If a MAP feels guilt for their "needs" when it's universally agreed that is never was and is never going to be an okay "need" then I can understand why someone would feel guilt for their needs.
I think RUclips should feel guilty for pulling my original comment to this video of yours, but they have the power to do so, and they basically know there ISN'T a DAMN thing I can do about it, and no doubt RUclips will NOT feel guilty about it in the least.... In fact they will probably pull this one too, and I WILL feel guilty for pissing away time/effort OF MY OWN, and NOT because I was ashamed or felt guilty about what I wrote
@JebidiahKrackedyetagain: Once you’re on RUclips’s “sh!t list” (even if you’ve done NOTHING wrong), they’ll follow you and delete/hide your comments… regardless of the topics/videos you respond to. RUclips will leave your “rant” comments about their abuse towards you, in an effort to make you look crazy to others because, the “rant” comment will CLEARLY be seen by everyone. Just know this… you’re NOT crazy!!! I’m on their “sh!t list” as well. 😂
My favorite game play from RUclips is, when they add one “Like” to a comment I’ve made but, when I check the ‘Notifications’… they’ve actually REMOVED the one “Like” that notified me 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣!! Someone people that work at be RUclips are🤪🤪🤪🤪!! 😂
LOL. RUclips JUST removed my response to your comment about them removing your comment to this video. I’m NOT being sarcastic, either. I wrote a longer post to you, explaining what RUclips does to certain peoples post…. including mine. Then, that response to you “magically disappeared.” 😂
From now on, screen shot your comments BEFORE posting them. Myself and others are about to bring to light the behaviors of this platform. Since they’ve decided to PUBLICLY offend certain people’s ‘First Amendment Rights’ without valid probable cause, we think it’s time to go PUBLIC to news outlets (Mainstream Media) with PROOF of their abuse!! Please… screen shot your comments before posting. If you don’t, they’ll immediately delete or hide the comment from viewers. It’s really sad it’s come to this on RUclips.
It's most likely language filter and auto moderator. You could write your comment in a notepad before posting to make sure you don't lose what you post without being able to recover it.
@@Hizsoo WOW!! I honestly didn't even think of that!! Brilliant in its simplicity 😳🫡😃
One problem with that solution is that even though I have what I originally said on paper, typing long comments out using a CELL phone keypad is a SERIOUS pain in the ass, so serious in fact that I would have to question whether it's worth it. 😶
Nobody cares delta.. boring 🥱
It's called empathy for others basically. And also about our own moral reputation and I'm sure you try to look nice here.
You wouldn't necessarily have to be unempathetic not to feel suvivor's guilt or being in a better position than other people. Certainly not for spending money
Take your meds baby.