That is what I grew up with. What bothered me was they could literally watch something happen, and yet, they would come up with some alterative story I had to tell for the event even when it made no sense. Looking back, everything was set up to punish me by making me do chores as a punishment, for stuff that wasn't even real, so that they didn't have to give me an allowance for doing work around home.
My ex used to leave messses all the time. He'd shave his beard with the electric trimmer and just leave the mess in the bathroom sink. He'd also make himself breakfast before going to work and leave the mess. Yet, he'd give me the silent treatment or get moody if the dishes weren't done or the laundry wasn't put away when he got home. (Which wasn't very often - because I always tried to have it done to avoid problems) None of that was his job - not even cleaning up after himself, because "He worked." Never mind that I was caring for our child at home all day - that's not a job I guess. 😕 It's strange. I was so much lonelier when I was with him that I am now - and I've been single for the last 5 years.
I am going through similar stuff and it's funny you say you where lonelier with him. I find myself saying I never felt so lonely in my life and that is when I am with my girlfriend.
My narc spouse does the shave thing..leaves his nasty *ss hair and beard hair all over the bathroom sink, faucets, and counter. Or at least he used to! Once it was just 2 of us living in the house I designated myself the hall bathroom and stopped using the master bathroom. Took about 2 months before he realized I wasn't gonna use, touch, or clean the master bathroom 😊
To everybody who left a comment here: if you can, leave. You deserve better. Don't waste years of your life like I did. My life isn't perfect but I am so much more content. I finally have peace. Join me over here on the other side. The water is fine! I promise. ♥️
Ha!! On the contrary.... He would walk around the house and onside my door with his heaviest footsteps Ever. WHEN!?! I had a 6 am shift. Every morning. And "Cough, cough, cough....Growl, growl growl" One way or another he would make me lose sleep.... I. Am. SO (SO) Glad. I'm Gone. ----- Sigh (Of relief) ----- In retrospect, I shake my head.... The experience with him was SO weird. ----- Thank you, God, for delivering me from that stronghold. I love you.
@@lesliekupchanko5001 That was my dad. Up until midnight making noise so that no one could sleep. He then got up at 2 - 3 AM to load the fireplace as loudly as he could, then had everyone up at 6 because that's when he started his day. According to him, no one needs more than 5 hours of sleep a day because that is what he operated on. (We all knew he slept at work/before coming home from work.)
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 My BIL is that way with food. He pretends to eat like a bird. And, he shames my sister -who is also a narcissist - and I for eating normally as if we were a couple of pigs. Then, before you know it, he eats so much he pukes his guts out.
So many times I would be startled because he would seemingly appear out of nowhere. Or just standing in a dark room waiting for me to enter. Kind of creepy at times.
I ended up talking to myself because i couldn't ever have any conversation with him even serious one's he wouldn't sit and have a conversation about anything everytime i tried to tell him he was hurting me he would run off go to bed but the tv on full blast so he can avoid all conversations he literally drove me crazy and then he would make a video of me and send it to his enablers to prove i was crazy
Danish please make a video about how narcissists talk/mumble to themselves and even loudly plan attacking others all the while thinking there's no one around. It's witchcraft.
Yes!! I couldn't stand the creeping! Open my bedroom door and BAM! there he is!! Waking me up at 3 am with a bright ass headlight on because he "knows I have a trap door under my mattress letting people in and out!"
Truth. I got away from a stalker. I had to change everything. I know it's just a comment. I just want others to know it's possible to make it. Sometimes the one's you trust the most are the one's you shouldn't trust at all. Blessings 🙌
Lecturing for hours.... about their greatness,, how people try to destroy them(victimhood), their struggles, imaginary victories, and blah,blah,blah.... total rubbish .......🙏🏻
As the master manipulator, Covert malignant narcissists are really good at pretending. That's why they are called "covert". They can pretend all the time - for years - that they care about you and love you. That's why when you see her "happy" you like her, and forget all about how she ignored you before, and then you start believing that she likes you too. And then after a few days she gets tired and bored, and does the same thing again. The cycle continues. So they're very good at masking themselves, and pretending to be good, and playing the part of nice and kind. Then they get tired, and they get tired of pretending to care about people, so they go off and isolate themselves like your family member does, because of the drain of pretending to be nice all the time.
Amazingly they can walk super quiet when spying on you. But at 5 in the morning if they are up. So are you, they walk so loud, cough or snort whatever to make sure you are up..
No kidding! Once Saturday I actually was able to "sleep in" because as a single mother, that never happens! Just before 8am he comes into the bedroom, opens the blinds and says oh were you still sleeping? Sorry I thought you don't sleep in. What a peaceful way to wake up...oye
What always bugged me growing up was how my dad had to keep some of his stuff in my room so that he had an excuse to come in and go though my stuff at any time. They had a huge walk-in closet with file cabinets and everything in their room, yet he always had to have a few things in my closet and desk anyway.
👑Hi Danish. I am so happy to be away from my ex, who wouldn't let me sleep by verbal & physical abuse. Now that I'm divorced, I have peace & live my life free from harassment. I love your channel & will definitely keep letting the healing continue, perfectly said. See you on the next video, love, Miss Janine🌴🧸💐🦄🍇🫐🍉❤️
My brother Danish, thank you for your insight and experience and truth. Currently dealing with 50 percent of my immediate family full blown Narcys. its been over a decade of hell and only getting worse. im beginning to feel there is no cure.
I am experiencing all of them…But unable to help myself out of this situation: Thank you for all insights…. At least it is helping me to understand my situation.Thanks a ton….
My narcissist neighbor loomes just around the corner of my apartment to ease drop all the time claiming she's hard of hearing. She tells on herself without realizing it, because saying things I have said to someone else without her being "present "
So true.. Family members hide around corners to listen. So does my husband.. He requires an accounting of my day.. Who's houses I cleaned, what time I was done, what time I got home, what I did when I got home and how long it took.. Like I'm not allowed free time..
yes, he would always sneak around with the lightest of foot steps. He would scare us as he came around the corner bc we never knew he was there. Also did a half-assed job doing anything thing around the house. Always cut corners, and took pride in saving money and not being ripped off in his mind. I hated to ask for help bc it was never complete.
Yes, hours upon hours of yelling, rages, door slamming and silent treatments. Over the years, it gets worse, until it becomes almost daily. He would constantly throw fits if something broke, or needed to be taken care of. I would take care of it all just to not to have to deal with horrible anxiety rages would cause. I even assembled a gas grill myself, that I gave as a gift, because of the fit! Your world becomes making sure nothing sets the narc off, which is everything. Intentional.
One thing I noticed in my narcissistic mother's eyes turn black and in a constant search for something it's a mixture of this and plus planning something wicked something horrifying you get the vibes through the eyes , as they say eyes are window to the soul and jaw stifens and it sucks the air from the room it is so powerful and silent you cant explain so eeery , my ear turns red and makes you so so uncomfortable, i can't pin point, and i can't tell a chain story one by one , I can't mimic. People don't understand the true horrors , breakfast and dinners are totally opposite the normal people used to.. so dark , you feel depth of darkness, you feel like lawaris ( you feel like you have been abandoned in an alien land where you can sense ghost presence petrified alone but know something sinister is watching you with predatory eyes ... Anyone who related pls drop comments and tell your experiences to validate me and others , because many times I lack words and vibe to explain..
@@shadesofinterests8075 Yes, I felt the Holy Spirit telling me he was plotting to kill me. He’d been an ex cop and euthanized animals by taking them to a dumb & shooting them in the 90’s. He cried about how he hated that job when I first met him. Got married and he worked, so we borrowed all equity out of my home to pay off his debt. Now I complained as he spent to the point that we couldn’t make the mortgage that was double. He’d been getting high, then was on meth. I asked him why shovels in garage full of mud??? Lime he put on his retired narcotics dog’s poop was gone. I asked why? He went into a 😡 rage saying his plan in the woods along Hwy. He had a hole dug for me. His name in my home & life insurance $100,000. Yes, his eyes fully BLACK when he turned Around! Had to run for my life. It was evil as hell. He left. I didn’t dare fight it. Sold home for no profit auctioned all I had while staying in a safe place. Horrible experience.
My DIL is a Past Master at Eavesdropping. My son is getting like her, harassing me and repeating the same thing over and over. I told him that I knew how she was because she was just like my ex -only worse. I told him that I couldn't eat at home because I get sick every time. She waits until the food is rotten, then puts it in the freezer or fridge to cook later. Disgusting! I get sick every time I eat something from the refrigerator even if it's take out, so I think that she is poisoning my food.
My narc relatives on my dad's side like to project eavesdropping onto their victims. They will deliberately put you down while you are nearby in a voice you couldn't possibly help but overhear. And, if you DARE to defend yourself, you are the "bad guy" for "eavesdropping".
When I was a child I had a strange fantasy that my father and his father and mother always made some plan against me in the night when I slept. Plan like handwritten plan on some paper. Then I asked myself why this strange feeling that there's some conspiracy, that they are together against me intentionally. So it matches perfectly with the third behavior
One of my narc bro lectured me from around 9pm to 3 am at his house when my wife n i visited him overseas. We had drinks. He wouldn't let me get up. Numerous times i tried to get up and leave. He blocked me and said you sleep in later. His wife came down at 1am and said you guys are disturbing our sleep. I told her in his presence that he wasn't letting me get up and leave and that he himself is talking only. He still went on lecturing me on my intended Business Endeavour . He was repeating the same thing over and over. And was still drinking. At 3am i forced my way out of the lounge to bed.
This is what I noticed about my narc brother-in-law. He will creep up the stairs or down the stairs so that you can't hear him until you see him. They want to catch you doing something or talking about something that they think you are doing while they are not around.
My narc BIL will creepily stare at me coming down the stairs, and he keeps coming up with weird, nonsensical reasons for it. He doesn't say anything. He just watches me like a predator watching it's prey. And, it gives me the creeps.
Yeah it is weird and unnerving but I have momma ears and usually know little does he know. Either that or he knows I am going to head downstairs and there he is at the bottom of the stairs just looking up at me. Gives me chills.
My evil narcissistic demon daughter would rush in the room and say I know you're talking about me when my friend and I were having a conservation about anything but her." I just started replying, Yes, you're so important, and we have nothing better to talk about besides you. My friend and I both rolled our eyes and just laughed. Wasn't the best thing to do because it would piss her off, and I paid for it later. This was all before I knew about narcissism.
Ah ha! That's what my mother always did, arguing in six-hour marathons! She would start all over at the beginning, circle around a repeat the first premise again as though it hadn't been clarified. And on and on and on!
He told me that I'm not trusted ! On his behalf I'm not I'm a threat to him I'm threatened by him I was blinded he makes it seems like I'm the one that is causing issues he is sick
They live to press your buttons they get such a kick out of the impact they’re having on you. I’ve experienced people in neighbourhood all commenting on my movements, clothing extra. They think this is perfectly normal & you are the weirdo that deserves to be made fun of & outcast. Whoever let these demons out of hell needs to face the consequences.lol.
Ohh . Ex father and mother in law was ears dropping and I coughed in red handed few times and mother in law always used to appreciate other girls face and body becoz she knows I was struggling with acne face and weight. few times I said her I’m gonna start a small business. Each times she stated to pour negativity in to my mind and father in law alway and my husband always act a flying monkeys . Narcissistic group leader is mother in law. 😅 Danish when I’m listening to you feel more more positive. Thank you danish. You save people life. God bless you
Yes living all those situations don’t let them know who your friends are don’t tell them anything and most of all don’t say anything to any member of your family also if they live near by don’t talk to people you think they might know
Don't ever underestimate narc parents. The nac parents helped our abuser find us everywhere we moved or were moved to, even in another state by stakking us for over a decade. Tried to kidnap their grandchildren to deliver the kids to our abuser. BTW, narc parents only met abuser twice. Theyve successfully ruined every important moment & terrified me when I've needed them most. Cut ties for obvious reasons.
The strange part of NARCS is . If we don't feel the connection between our health issues and their presence. They will point it out themselves. Mine said "Don't you feel you always fall sick whenever we get intimate"?? 😂 Well I knew why. Coz after breakup people recall their exes and cry. And here I was. Feeling sick in the stomach and I would vomit everytime I thought of him. Or heard his voice. I was sick bcoz he disgusted me to the core. His sleep was such that he would roll close to my ears and start grinding his teeth . I broke up with him for this same. I felt he will eat me that night. I held his face with my palms and pushed him away .as hard as I could . In 2 mins he began that rolling back. I took water bottle and emptied on his face. Asked him to pick his luggage and leave my home right away. It was 4.30 am. Raining. He asked me to arrange for a cab. I said . The way you came in-same way find ur own way out. He had put me under loan of 9 lacs in 1 year. Didn't ever go away. So after that. My police officer cousin insisted me to show on social media that I dated an officer and had moved on. It actually worked when this ex suddenly arrives at home. My cousin is in intellingence. He was here at my place and he came in calling me baby. Am home. 😅
Yes my grandma was super stealthy and listened to everyone's conversations but was adamant that she was going deaf! Ha My ex mother in law was bad about ranting and talking to herself when my ex & her would get into it..., So nosey too. It's all about control. I have been ganged stalked as well by my family my so called "friends" ie my family's flying monkeys my whole life so over it....
They don’t mind losing us than being honest with us. Let them go. We are ready to accept their flaws. They are not ready to accept their flaws. Let us wish them well and let them go. Let them use their intelligence to swindle more people. More power to intelligence. Clever is a measure of intelligence.
WOW, this is one of the best videos explaining a narcissist. This is just a part of my long nightmare. My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, For years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 8 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen, but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well-rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells, she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex-husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So, of course, we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old. She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. We asked her to start paying her own way because if she didn't we would end up homeless. That pissed her off, and she really got bad. She finally found a nieve 24 year old guy, 6 years younger than her, Within 3 months, she manipulated and lied to him and they moved in together. Then she trapped him by getting pregnant. My husband I ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads using our grandson against us. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that with her lies.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one who is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I can not heal . It hurts so much. I'm so tired of trying. I just want to die.
Of the sound so much like my story my daughter is 35 she ended up having a child with malignant covert narcissist who went to prison when she was 4 months pregnant I got custody of my grandson when he was almost two raised him till 7:00. They let him out of prison he flew my daughter from Vegas he was out there stripping. Served me after 2 years in court almost he got full custody in the meantime while we were fighting he was getting my daughter addicted to methamphetamine within 7 Minutes of custody she had no rights he threw her out she's homeless I haven't seen my grandson 5 years in february.. it's a nightmare and it's morning somebody that's alive but don't you say you don't want to live then they win. Take care of yourself and don't get me wrong I've been a Hermit I've been reclusive I've been going through it but there ain't no way I'm giving up I'm staying healthy I'm staying strong and I'm going to be here with my grandson needs me create and your grandbabies going to need you and seek you out I promise. And I don't know if it's your only child but you can't blame yourself I've done it for years mine was my only child she was a Sweet Child I was a PTA moms field trip mom volunteer mom elaborate birthday parties the best of everything ski trips private Suite in Key West I thought it would make her aspire to have nice things I didn't know it would make her aspire to have other people buy them for her AKA men. There's a lot of us out here. And this is some more than PTSD this is chronic cuz it's ongoing over and over and over for years and years and years mine's 35 I don't know if I mentioned that above I don't know how old your daughter is. But it boils down to this we all have a story we all have a past and when we become adults we have to take accountability. Not that it doesn't break my heart and I don't want my daughter to get well but I won't have a drug addict here. And she's the reason I can't see my grandson there's some resentment in there sitting across the table with that criminal he did a violent home invasion where there was a stabbing he was supposed to do 20 years in prison he did six. The Florida has no grandparents right and they all want to reunification reunification and when he had visits I was just watching the light go out of my babies eyes and I cry and I Cry. But I have not let them win I put signs out balloons painted rocks 200 on his last birthday don't sit down don't give up. God has the final say. And the righteous will win. God bless you I wish more of these sites would focus on the adult children and the grandparents pain but it's all relationship-based. I hope you're in a stable place I'm in Florida I don't know where you are but God bless you
My dear woman, I believe every word you have written. I personally have not gone through this behavior but a friend of mine did with her daughter. I knew this child from the time she was four years old. She turned into a nightmare. My whole heart and prayers are with you. ❤❤❤
Don't give up, Satan wants to destroy you, and he is using your daughter, because that's the most effective way to destroy you. God is able to help you through, it's just sad that it's got to this point, and you feel so down. You already recognize the fact you can't change her, but with God's help you can make choices that help you. If you go through hard things, when you come out on the other side, you are able to help others make it through hard times as well. 🙏 For you!
@paulettelamontagne6992 🫂 thank you. I'm sorry you're going through the same. Oh, How hard I tried not to let the devil win. 😣 I'm just so exhausted. After being knocked down for so long, and im pretty sure my grandson has been brainedwashed to hate me, I have lost all hope. I don't understand this world. I keep praying 🙏, My prayers are falling on deaf ears. All I want is to go home and be with my husband.
Hi, I have just found your channel and feel like you are my brother (but not the golden child in my family) my brother got everything he wanted and I wanted just I notebook to creative writing and journaling) I hid it from my mother because I put it under my mattress and she would take red pen and copy and correct my secret journal. I started to hide it everywhere in my bedroom and she kept finding it. I even put it in the freezer and the same. I was 7yo and it really started getting worse….you can understand me, I know 😢
Do you have a video where you talk about them trying to break your soul. My X tried to make me get rid of my books, my dog, and he said he'd call CPS on me to take our son. He wanted me to change my spiritual beliefs for his mother's beliefs. Without doing it, I wanted to die (which made him smile). Imagine if I had listened to him.
Yes i have face these behaviors of my bhabhi's Mami Kavita Sinha she was continuously harassing me while having fun with my husband Narendra,taking driving lesson with him, and telling me we are coming,but u don't create problems,she was creating problems all the time,she ate in my home,still bullying me,then i sat in their car, still she was saying,wake up sleepy head,then she says,"she smokes" for her information i don't even know how to smoke,she wants me to cook food for,but not cone car with them, white she is having fun with my husband, jealous witch 😢last time she came her was opening all soda cans,her son ate sourcream,,her daughter's drank cranberry juice,but i went their home,she didn't give anything to my daughter,son😢
If i went to bed he would put the tv voulume up so loud, snore eat really loud whilst i was trying to go to sleep he literally got me depressed severely ill he told me my job is to cook,clean laundry ironing look after our son even though he knew i was on medication that i was constantly tired fatigued
As for the feeling caught or cornered with them, of course. It is like walking in the jungle and all birds are quiet before the ambush. What they seem to offer "innocently", ie a drink, a walk, a dinner, especially with their own people there and not yours, naturally should make anyone in the guts feel weird. But you cannot tell until the ambush is unleashed but you can see some kind of structure or construction being built with words, a portrayal of themselves, where you are actually vulnerable and without construction yourself, save maybe for your "angels" giving some delays for you to figure it out, hopefully, as a devil test game to pass like Job. And they hate your spirituality for that reason. They do not want delays and want immediate answers like in these scam advertisements.
Can someone explain to me how does someone become a narcissist if you're parents aren't narcissists? Because usually a narcissist gotta have a narcissistic role model. Isn't it like that?
My paternal Grandparents were really sweet people. But, my dad, some of his siblings and other people in the family are malignantly narcissistic. Because of the well-controlled, two-faced nature of it, the agendas of wanting to destroy and damage others for the sake of doing so, and the fact that my dad and sister aren't above using morality and spiritually as a weapon, I believe that malignant narcs have rebellious or damned souls. I believe there can be many other reasons that a person can show narcissistic traits other than being morally lost or bankrupt. But, when someone shows a pattern of deliberate hate for the sake of hating, I'm thinking it's probably spiritual atrophy. Scott M. Peck wrote a book about this called "The People of the Lie" if you want to read it.
I was living with a spy . Honest. I found out he is a top tier gamer , a computer wiz,/ hacker , has ties in India , and most Slovic countries . and maybe Centeral America. I knew somehow from the begining to guard my info . X wanted to get " Insurance" , Cool thats great . The phone call came at 9pm which I commented on then he wanted me to give this guy with a accent my info , Actually my X started to give this person my info . I threw a fit "No stop don't give him my info" "Well dontv you want to be the benefactor " he asked with a stupid look on his face No , no i dont . Got a bad vibe. I would lovevto bump my head and have amnesia so all these incidents would he moot and I wouldnt keep runni g this sad B movie in my head
my covert narcissist biofather, after rejecting and denying me as his son, did a bad smear campaign about me and later many of his family gang stalked and bullied me verbally. They are not humans; they are legions of demons, How come we share same DNA and blood?
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Absolutely true
No privacy at all...
Constantly being watched by their beady eyes....
Your mental state is always being altered.
Soooo true. 😢
That is what I grew up with. What bothered me was they could literally watch something happen, and yet, they would come up with some alterative story I had to tell for the event even when it made no sense.
Looking back, everything was set up to punish me by making me do chores as a punishment, for stuff that wasn't even real, so that they didn't have to give me an allowance for doing work around home.
My ex used to leave messses all the time. He'd shave his beard with the electric trimmer and just leave the mess in the bathroom sink. He'd also make himself breakfast before going to work and leave the mess. Yet, he'd give me the silent treatment or get moody if the dishes weren't done or the laundry wasn't put away when he got home. (Which wasn't very often - because I always tried to have it done to avoid problems) None of that was his job - not even cleaning up after himself, because "He worked." Never mind that I was caring for our child at home all day - that's not a job I guess. 😕
It's strange. I was so much lonelier when I was with him that I am now - and I've been single for the last 5 years.
It is an intense type of loneliness because they steal your peace. There's such a contentment when they're no longer around.
I am going through similar stuff and it's funny you say you where lonelier with him. I find myself saying I never felt so lonely in my life and that is when I am with my girlfriend.
They like to preach yet can't practice.
My narc spouse does the shave thing..leaves his nasty *ss hair and beard hair all over the bathroom sink, faucets, and counter. Or at least he used to! Once it was just 2 of us living in the house I designated myself the hall bathroom and stopped using the master bathroom. Took about 2 months before he realized I wasn't gonna use, touch, or clean the master bathroom 😊
To everybody who left a comment here: if you can, leave. You deserve better. Don't waste years of your life like I did. My life isn't perfect but I am so much more content. I finally have peace. Join me over here on the other side. The water is fine! I promise. ♥️
It is so true that you are not at home in your own house or flat if there's a narcissist. I had this weird feeling every evening returning home
they'll be listening to conversations, pretending they're not, & later repeating everything They saw & heard. 🙄
You're so right about walking without making any noise they really did it
Ha!!
On the contrary....
He would walk around the house and onside my door with his heaviest footsteps Ever.
WHEN!?!
I had a 6 am shift.
Every morning.
And
"Cough, cough, cough....Growl, growl growl"
One way or another he would make me lose sleep....
I.
Am.
SO (SO)
Glad.
I'm
Gone.
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Sigh
(Of relief)
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In retrospect, I shake my head....
The experience with him was SO weird.
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Thank you, God, for delivering me from that stronghold.
I love you.
@@lesliekupchanko5001 That was my dad. Up until midnight making noise so that no one could sleep. He then got up at 2 - 3 AM to load the fireplace as loudly as he could, then had everyone up at 6 because that's when he started his day.
According to him, no one needs more than 5 hours of sleep a day because that is what he operated on. (We all knew he slept at work/before coming home from work.)
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 My BIL is that way with food. He pretends to eat like a bird. And, he shames my sister -who is also a narcissist - and I for eating normally as if we were a couple of pigs. Then, before you know it, he eats so much he pukes his guts out.
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We shake our heads.
It's hard to comprehend.
Dr Phil says it's a compliment that we don't think like them.
So many times I would be startled because he would seemingly appear out of nowhere. Or just standing in a dark room waiting for me to enter. Kind of creepy at times.
I ended up talking to myself because i couldn't ever have any conversation with him even serious one's he wouldn't sit and have a conversation about anything everytime i tried to tell him he was hurting me he would run off go to bed but the tv on full blast so he can avoid all conversations he literally drove me crazy and then he would make a video of me and send it to his enablers to prove i was crazy
Arguments and fights for hours even alone.
That constant feeling of impending danger from being intruded.
Dirty job at helping.
Danish please make a video about how narcissists talk/mumble to themselves and even loudly plan attacking others all the while thinking there's no one around. It's witchcraft.
My grandfather did all the time
My ex always walked from room to room talking to himself too. Weird
Yes!! I couldn't stand the creeping! Open my bedroom door and BAM! there he is!! Waking me up at 3 am with a bright ass headlight on because he "knows I have a trap door under my mattress letting people in and out!"
.......get out. Simply get out.
Nah, that sounds like he has something a little more than just narcissism going on 😳
Narcisscissts thrive on provoking reactions only fir the person to react and explode and the Narc to completeoy deny the behavior.@Kryssi709
No, that's something far worse! That's paranoid schizophrenia! GET OUT, FAST!!!
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Truth. I got away from a stalker. I had to change everything. I know it's just a comment. I just want others to know it's possible to make it. Sometimes the one's you trust the most are the one's you shouldn't trust at all. Blessings 🙌
Thank you🙏
They also secretly have cameras in the home, cars, everything and anything. Mine has a “secret” tracker on the car that he thinks I don’t know about.
Mine does too - I can feel it. But how do I find them?
Lecturing for hours.... about their greatness,, how people try to destroy them(victimhood), their struggles, imaginary victories, and blah,blah,blah.... total rubbish .......🙏🏻
As the master manipulator, Covert malignant narcissists are really good at pretending. That's why they are called "covert". They can pretend all the time - for years - that they care about you and love you.
That's why when you see her "happy" you like her, and forget all about how she ignored you before, and then you start believing that she likes you too. And then after a few days she gets tired and bored, and does the same thing again. The cycle continues.
So they're very good at masking themselves, and pretending to be good, and playing the part of nice and kind.
Then they get tired, and they get tired of pretending to care about people, so they go off and isolate themselves like your family member does, because of the drain of pretending to be nice all the time.
I can relate to this 100%
For 20 years, I suffered through the lengthy lectures from my ex husband. He could go for hours on end when I needed to sleep. It was terrible.
Gang stalking is prominent at work place. It was in my narc family also.
Hit the nail on the head again!! Feigned ignorance was a key strategy he used! YES! YES! YES!
Yes !! they always do so with no empathy 😢
Amazingly they can walk super quiet when spying on you. But at 5 in the morning if they are up. So are you, they walk so loud, cough or snort whatever to make sure you are up..
No kidding! Once Saturday I actually was able to "sleep in" because as a single mother, that never happens! Just before 8am he comes into the bedroom, opens the blinds and says oh were you still sleeping? Sorry I thought you don't sleep in. What a peaceful way to wake up...oye
What always bugged me growing up was how my dad had to keep some of his stuff in my room so that he had an excuse to come in and go though my stuff at any time.
They had a huge walk-in closet with file cabinets and everything in their room, yet he always had to have a few things in my closet and desk anyway.
That creepy AF. It was certainly a way to invade your space.
@@Notawesomeatall7 As a kid I never thought much about it, but as an adult it's just one of many huge red flags on so many levels.
👑Hi Danish. I am so happy to be away from my ex, who wouldn't let me sleep by verbal & physical abuse. Now that I'm divorced, I have peace & live my life free from harassment. I love your channel & will definitely keep letting the healing continue, perfectly said. See you on the next video, love, Miss Janine🌴🧸💐🦄🍇🫐🍉❤️
My brother Danish, thank you for your insight and experience and truth. Currently dealing with 50 percent of my immediate family full blown Narcys. its been over a decade of hell and only getting worse. im beginning to feel there is no cure.
Oh Jesus, I surrender myself to You, take care of everything!
God 🙏 never fails us🎉
Aap ko bahut bahut dhanyavad .aap bahut accha kaam ker rahe hai
I am experiencing all of them…But unable to help myself out of this situation: Thank you for all insights…. At least it is helping me to understand my situation.Thanks a ton….
I love your voice. Dude, how did you survive all that?
My narcissist neighbor loomes just around the corner of my apartment to ease drop all the time claiming she's hard of hearing. She tells on herself without realizing it, because saying things I have said to someone else without her being "present "
Mine hide behind the fence...
So true.. Family members hide around corners to listen. So does my husband.. He requires an accounting of my day.. Who's houses I cleaned, what time I was done, what time I got home, what I did when I got home and how long it took.. Like I'm not allowed free time..
No empathy paranoia going thru everything of yours having sexual and emotional affairs and blaming you for what they do is classic Narc qualities!
yes, he would always sneak around with the lightest of foot steps. He would scare us as he came around the corner bc we never knew he was there. Also did a half-assed job doing anything thing around the house. Always cut corners, and took pride in saving money and not being ripped off in his mind. I hated to ask for help bc it was never complete.
Yes, hours upon hours of yelling, rages, door slamming and silent treatments. Over the years, it gets worse, until it becomes almost daily. He would constantly throw fits if something broke, or needed to be taken care of. I would take care of it all just to not to have to deal with horrible anxiety rages would cause. I even assembled a gas grill myself, that I gave as a gift, because of the fit! Your world becomes making sure nothing sets the narc off, which is everything. Intentional.
Yessss and he says I talk too much
Good evening Danish! I hope you are having a nice night. I always look forward to your channel . Your so appreciated always 🙏
Your videos are extremely enlightening. My find of the day.
One thing I noticed in my narcissistic mother's eyes turn black and in a constant search for something it's a mixture of this and plus planning something wicked something horrifying you get the vibes through the eyes , as they say eyes are window to the soul and jaw stifens and it sucks the air from the room it is so powerful and silent you cant explain so eeery , my ear turns red and makes you so so uncomfortable, i can't pin point, and i can't tell a chain story one by one , I can't mimic. People don't understand the true horrors , breakfast and dinners are totally opposite the normal people used to.. so dark , you feel depth of darkness, you feel like lawaris ( you feel like you have been abandoned in an alien land where you can sense ghost presence petrified alone but know something sinister is watching you with predatory eyes ... Anyone who related pls drop comments and tell your experiences to validate me and others , because many times I lack words and vibe to explain..
@@shadesofinterests8075 Yes, I felt the Holy Spirit telling me he was plotting to kill me. He’d been an ex cop and euthanized animals by taking them to a dumb & shooting them in the 90’s. He cried about how he hated that job when I first met him. Got married and he worked, so we borrowed all equity out of my home to pay off his debt. Now I complained as he spent to the point that we couldn’t make the mortgage that was double. He’d been getting high, then was on meth. I asked him why shovels in garage full of mud??? Lime he put on his retired narcotics dog’s poop was gone. I asked why? He went into a 😡 rage saying his plan in the woods along Hwy. He had a hole dug for me. His name in my home & life insurance $100,000. Yes, his eyes fully BLACK when he turned
Around! Had to run for my life. It was evil as hell. He left. I didn’t dare fight it. Sold home for no profit
auctioned all I had while staying in a safe place. Horrible experience.
He was following me everywhere in his house, even in the bathroom, I had not an once of Privacy. He was constantly checking what I was doing.
My DIL is a Past Master at Eavesdropping. My son is getting like her, harassing me and repeating the same thing over and over. I told him that I knew how she was because she was just like my ex -only worse. I told him that I couldn't eat at home because I get sick every time. She waits until the food is rotten, then puts it in the freezer or fridge to cook later. Disgusting!
I get sick every time I eat something from the refrigerator even if it's take out, so I think that she is poisoning my food.
hmmm lots of red flags. you live with you son? how are they harassing you?
My narc relatives on my dad's side like to project eavesdropping onto their victims.
They will deliberately put you down while you are nearby in a voice you couldn't possibly help but overhear.
And, if you DARE to defend yourself, you are the "bad guy" for "eavesdropping".
When I was a child I had a strange fantasy that my father and his father and mother always made some plan against me in the night when I slept. Plan like handwritten plan on some paper. Then I asked myself why this strange feeling that there's some conspiracy, that they are together against me intentionally. So it matches perfectly with the third behavior
One of my narc bro lectured me from around 9pm to 3 am at his house when my wife n i visited him overseas. We had drinks. He wouldn't let me get up. Numerous times i tried to get up and leave. He blocked me and said you sleep in later. His wife came down at 1am and said you guys are disturbing our sleep. I told her in his presence that he wasn't letting me get up and leave and that he himself is talking only. He still went on lecturing me on my intended Business Endeavour . He was repeating the same thing over and over. And was still drinking.
At 3am i forced my way out of the lounge to bed.
Most of them.
Very true!! Great analysis! Happy to know I’m not crazy!
This is what I noticed about my narc brother-in-law. He will creep up the stairs or down the stairs so that you can't hear him until you see him. They want to catch you doing something or talking about something that they think you are doing while they are not around.
My narc BIL will creepily stare at me coming down the stairs, and he keeps coming up with weird, nonsensical reasons for it.
He doesn't say anything. He just watches me like a predator watching it's prey. And, it gives me the creeps.
Yeah it is weird and unnerving but I have momma ears and usually know little does he know. Either that or he knows I am going to head downstairs and there he is at the bottom of the stairs just looking up at me. Gives me chills.
Thts super weird n funny creepy like a small child
My evil narcissistic demon daughter would rush in the room and say I know you're talking about me when my friend and I were having a conservation about anything but her." I just started replying, Yes, you're so important, and we have nothing better to talk about besides you. My friend and I both rolled our eyes and just laughed. Wasn't the best thing to do because it would piss her off, and I paid for it later. This was all before I knew about narcissism.
Ah ha! That's what my mother always did, arguing in six-hour marathons! She would start all over at the beginning, circle around a repeat the first premise again as though it hadn't been clarified. And on and on and on!
Ps at 1.5 yo my dad said he was done. She was crazy and I asked him why he didn’t come back for me and he said I didn’t know what to do 😢❤
He told me that I'm not trusted ! On his behalf I'm not I'm a threat to him I'm threatened by him I was blinded he makes it seems like I'm the one that is causing issues he is sick
They live to press your buttons they get such a kick out of the impact they’re having on you. I’ve experienced people in neighbourhood all commenting on my movements, clothing extra. They think this is perfectly normal & you are the weirdo that deserves to be made fun of & outcast. Whoever let these demons out of hell needs to face the consequences.lol.
Ohh . Ex father and mother in law was ears dropping and I coughed in red handed few times and mother in law always used to appreciate other girls face and body becoz she knows I was struggling with acne face and weight. few times I said her I’m gonna start a small business. Each times she stated to pour negativity in to my mind and father in law alway and my husband always act a flying monkeys . Narcissistic group leader is mother in law. 😅 Danish when I’m listening to you feel more more positive. Thank you danish. You save people life. God bless you
You are always on point Dan, thanks. Though I experienced all of it
A cause of autoimmune disease.
😮 is that why i got rashes?
All of them. At work and in my narc family . And off course in my married life also.
Yes living all those situations don’t let them know who your friends are don’t tell them anything and most of all don’t say anything to any member of your family also if they live near by don’t talk to people you think they might know
Don't ever underestimate narc parents.
The nac parents helped our abuser find us everywhere we moved or were moved to, even in another state by stakking us for over a decade. Tried to kidnap their grandchildren to deliver the kids to our abuser. BTW, narc parents only met abuser twice.
Theyve successfully ruined every important moment & terrified me when I've needed them most.
Cut ties for obvious reasons.
My house was full of hidden cameras..after 40 years i am out and free
My Xs family would create rivals. A cousin I had never met had a baby before me. They kept comparing how perfect that kid was compared to mine.
All true!!!
The strange part of NARCS is . If we don't feel the connection between our health issues and their presence. They will point it out themselves. Mine said "Don't you feel you always fall sick whenever we get intimate"?? 😂 Well I knew why. Coz after breakup people recall their exes and cry. And here I was. Feeling sick in the stomach and I would vomit everytime I thought of him. Or heard his voice. I was sick bcoz he disgusted me to the core. His sleep was such that he would roll close to my ears and start grinding his teeth . I broke up with him for this same. I felt he will eat me that night. I held his face with my palms and pushed him away .as hard as I could . In 2 mins he began that rolling back. I took water bottle and emptied on his face. Asked him to pick his luggage and leave my home right away. It was 4.30 am. Raining. He asked me to arrange for a cab. I said . The way you came in-same way find ur own way out. He had put me under loan of 9 lacs in 1 year. Didn't ever go away. So after that. My police officer cousin insisted me to show on social media that I dated an officer and had moved on. It actually worked when this ex suddenly arrives at home. My cousin is in intellingence. He was here at my place and he came in calling me baby. Am home. 😅
Oh I know I'm not crazy his family and friends are narcissis yes I know he told me alot of what supposedly illegal stuff
All behaviour/ abuse I received!
Yes my grandma was super stealthy and listened to everyone's conversations but was adamant that she was going deaf! Ha
My ex mother in law was bad about ranting and talking to herself when my ex & her would get into it...,
So nosey too. It's all about control. I have been ganged stalked as well by my family my so called "friends" ie my family's flying monkeys my whole life so over it....
Yes Danish
I have experienced all these things 😢
They don’t mind losing us than being honest with us. Let them go. We are ready to accept their flaws. They are not ready to accept their flaws. Let us wish them well and let them go. Let them use their intelligence to swindle more people. More power to intelligence. Clever is a measure of intelligence.
Yes I've experience dis!
My narc used to say why do u say I am taunting you.
Absolutely!
WOW, this is one of the best videos explaining a narcissist. This is just a part of my long nightmare. My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, For years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 8 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen, but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well-rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells, she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex-husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So, of course, we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old.
She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. We asked her to start paying her own way because if she didn't we would end up homeless. That pissed her off, and she really got bad. She finally found a nieve 24 year old guy, 6 years younger than her, Within 3 months, she manipulated and lied to him and they moved in together. Then she trapped him by getting pregnant. My husband I ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads using our grandson against us. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that with her lies.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one who is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I can not heal . It hurts so much. I'm so tired of trying. I just want to die.
Of the sound so much like my story my daughter is 35 she ended up having a child with malignant covert narcissist who went to prison when she was 4 months pregnant I got custody of my grandson when he was almost two raised him till 7:00. They let him out of prison he flew my daughter from Vegas he was out there stripping. Served me after 2 years in court almost he got full custody in the meantime while we were fighting he was getting my daughter addicted to methamphetamine within 7 Minutes of custody she had no rights he threw her out she's homeless I haven't seen my grandson 5 years in february.. it's a nightmare and it's morning somebody that's alive but don't you say you don't want to live then they win. Take care of yourself and don't get me wrong I've been a Hermit I've been reclusive I've been going through it but there ain't no way I'm giving up I'm staying healthy I'm staying strong and I'm going to be here with my grandson needs me create and your grandbabies going to need you and seek you out I promise. And I don't know if it's your only child but you can't blame yourself I've done it for years mine was my only child she was a Sweet Child I was a PTA moms field trip mom volunteer mom elaborate birthday parties the best of everything ski trips private Suite in Key West I thought it would make her aspire to have nice things I didn't know it would make her aspire to have other people buy them for her AKA men. There's a lot of us out here. And this is some more than PTSD this is chronic cuz it's ongoing over and over and over for years and years and years mine's 35 I don't know if I mentioned that above I don't know how old your daughter is. But it boils down to this we all have a story we all have a past and when we become adults we have to take accountability. Not that it doesn't break my heart and I don't want my daughter to get well but I won't have a drug addict here. And she's the reason I can't see my grandson there's some resentment in there sitting across the table with that criminal he did a violent home invasion where there was a stabbing he was supposed to do 20 years in prison he did six. The Florida has no grandparents right and they all want to reunification reunification and when he had visits I was just watching the light go out of my babies eyes and I cry and I Cry. But I have not let them win I put signs out balloons painted rocks 200 on his last birthday don't sit down don't give up. God has the final say. And the righteous will win. God bless you I wish more of these sites would focus on the adult children and the grandparents pain but it's all relationship-based. I hope you're in a stable place I'm in Florida I don't know where you are but God bless you
My dear woman, I believe every word you have written. I personally have not gone through this behavior but a friend of mine did with her daughter. I knew this child from the time she was four years old. She turned into a nightmare. My whole heart and prayers are with you. ❤❤❤
Don't give up, Satan wants to destroy you, and he is using your daughter, because that's the most effective way to destroy you. God is able to help you through, it's just sad that it's got to this point, and you feel so down. You already recognize the fact you can't change her, but with God's help you can make choices that help you. If you go through hard things, when you come out on the other side, you are able to help others make it through hard times as well. 🙏 For you!
@paulettelamontagne6992 🫂 thank you. I'm sorry you're going through the same. Oh, How hard I tried not to let the devil win. 😣
I'm just so exhausted. After being knocked down for so long, and im pretty sure my grandson has been brainedwashed to hate me,
I have lost all hope. I don't understand this world. I keep praying 🙏, My prayers are falling on deaf ears. All I want is to go home and be with my husband.
@susanwarford4221 🫂 Thank you. It's so hard to get people to believe how evil someone can be.
Hi, I have just found your channel and feel like you are my brother (but not the golden child in my family) my brother got everything he wanted and I wanted just I notebook to creative writing and journaling) I hid it from my mother because I put it under my mattress and she would take red pen and copy and correct my secret journal. I started to hide it everywhere in my bedroom and she kept finding it. I even put it in the freezer and the same. I was 7yo and it really started getting worse….you can understand me, I know 😢
My elderly nmother has to know all I do and I'm 70 . I'm actually rather boring. It blows my mind all the information she comes up with.
Hi danish could you explain about “ Jocasta complex” specifically how a woman behave after 65 years? Thank you.💐
Do you have a video where you talk about them trying to break your soul. My X tried to make me get rid of my books, my dog, and he said he'd call CPS on me to take our son. He wanted me to change my spiritual beliefs for his mother's beliefs. Without doing it, I wanted to die (which made him smile). Imagine if I had listened to him.
I used to call him creeping Jesus he was always snooping behind me and even under open windows listening🤪
You're not alone. My narcissistic spouse creeps around and tries to listen in and monitor everything me and my son do.
Yes i have face these behaviors of my bhabhi's Mami Kavita Sinha she was continuously harassing me while having fun with my husband Narendra,taking driving lesson with him, and telling me we are coming,but u don't create problems,she was creating problems all the time,she ate in my home,still bullying me,then i sat in their car, still she was saying,wake up sleepy head,then she says,"she smokes" for her information i don't even know how to smoke,she wants me to cook food for,but not cone car with them, white she is having fun with my husband, jealous witch 😢last time she came her was opening all soda cans,her son ate sourcream,,her daughter's drank cranberry juice,but i went their home,she didn't give anything to my daughter,son😢
If i went to bed he would put the tv voulume up so loud, snore eat really loud whilst i was trying to go to sleep he literally got me depressed severely ill he told me my job is to cook,clean laundry ironing look after our son even though he knew i was on medication that i was constantly tired fatigued
All!!
As for the feeling caught or cornered with them, of course. It is like walking in the jungle and all birds are quiet before the ambush. What they seem to offer "innocently", ie a drink, a walk, a dinner, especially with their own people there and not yours, naturally should make anyone in the guts feel weird. But you cannot tell until the ambush is unleashed but you can see some kind of structure or construction being built with words, a portrayal of themselves, where you are actually vulnerable and without construction yourself, save maybe for your "angels" giving some delays for you to figure it out, hopefully, as a devil test game to pass like Job. And they hate your spirituality for that reason. They do not want delays and want immediate answers like in these scam advertisements.
Can someone explain to me how does someone become a narcissist if you're parents aren't narcissists? Because usually a narcissist gotta have a narcissistic role model. Isn't it like that?
My paternal Grandparents were really sweet people. But, my dad, some of his siblings and other people in the family are malignantly narcissistic.
Because of the well-controlled, two-faced nature of it, the agendas of wanting to destroy and damage others for the sake of doing so, and the fact that my dad and sister aren't above using morality and spiritually as a weapon, I believe that malignant narcs have rebellious or damned souls.
I believe there can be many other reasons that a person can show narcissistic traits other than being morally lost or bankrupt. But, when someone shows a pattern of deliberate hate for the sake of hating, I'm thinking it's probably spiritual atrophy.
Scott M. Peck wrote a book about this called "The People of the Lie" if you want to read it.
Oh my god. it sounds like you're talking about my family.
Did anyone notice the small bright object moving across the video? 3:00
Yep I seen it. That’s an orb for sure.
Yep! Take note right when he says "a weird behavior."
I was living with a spy . Honest. I found out he is a top tier gamer , a computer wiz,/ hacker , has ties in India , and most Slovic countries . and maybe Centeral America. I knew somehow from the begining to guard my info . X wanted to get " Insurance" , Cool thats great . The phone call came at 9pm which I commented on then he wanted me to give this guy with a accent my info , Actually my X started to give this person my info . I threw a fit "No stop don't give him my info" "Well dontv you want to be the benefactor " he asked with a stupid look on his face No , no i dont . Got a bad vibe. I would lovevto bump my head and have amnesia so all these incidents would he moot and I wouldnt keep runni g this sad B movie in my head
My narcissist partner always says I believe in karma I do good acts as polite person ...why?
Do not talk about me to anyone.
Yes ...how do they talk that much...
My moms whole children are gang stacks
Vampires 😊
Bhai jitna ap bolta ho itna ma hm unko khtm krda ,.
my covert narcissist biofather, after rejecting and denying me as his son, did a bad smear campaign about me and later many of his family gang stalked and bullied me verbally. They are not humans; they are legions of demons, How come we share same DNA and blood?