All the narcissist bizarre sexual behaviors can be explained by one core trait they all have. The only thing they actually get off on is violating another person's boundaries.
Absolutely! My husband fought with me over the fact I refused to do anal or oral. I never led him on-I told him from the start I was never going to do these things and he was always angry about it
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we have had so many problems that there have been several times that I’ve i unfortunately have had thoughts of him not being gay but liking men and women because he likes sex from how do I say “ the behind or anal sex “ he’s the only person I’ve ever dated who has liked sex like this . I don’t and I won’t go that route he still tries. I tell him that when he continues doing this he has been cheating and we have had continuous problems Not just with sex With other things There has never been one week where everything has been great I’ve caught him keeping his old ex girlfriend’ s around this was a few years back Let’s just say since day one this guy warrants similarities of a a Narcissistic person he has never been diagnosed so I can’t say! But it scares me
I went through my narc ex-boyfriend's phone and found him on Grindr. He denied any wrongdoing and said he was just curious about the lifestyle. Looking back, I can't believe some of the things I tolerated.
After watching this and seeing yall comments I found my Ex Narc on there last night.,I’m disgusted inside have to journal about this I’m disturbed and my heart is racing‼️
@@vanessagovender7014 Exactly! Before the divorce, I asked my narcissistic ex-husband, who do you love the most in the world? Without any hesitation, he answered “Myself, of course.”😂
My ex-husband started saying he hates my smell and withholds intimacy, he also asked me to put on weight. Thank God set me free! Danish, you speak my mind, you are an angel!
I have experienced this twice. Once with my overt narc exhusband and then 12 years later; with a covert narc. I am highly sensitive to their energy. I didn’t understand what was happening in my first marriage…then I started to learn about narcissism. However, I did not know covert narcs existed, so I found myself in another similar feeling to the first marriage. Sometimes when he would come home from “work” he would have an energy pouring off of him that made me almost sick. I couldn’t even be next to him sometimes. I realized this was his extreme guilt from the sexual activities he had been engaged in. All the other signs began to show and I quickly exited the relationship. And although I still have a trauma bond to him, I know he was and is not safe for me to be around. My body rejected him before my mind. That’s how you know. Trust your instincts and general vibrations.
Spot on. I've been questioning my husband of 30 years about his mannerisms and attire on and off. When he abandoned the marriage abruptly, blaming me, of course, he disappeared. He posted a picture of him kissing his business partner on the cheek, explained it as "partner appreciation" at a conference. Never any affection like that towards me. Told me he left bc he had to "untangle this knot" he had inside, which I've heard is indicative of a cheating "gay" narc as he avoids any physical contact with me. He spends a lot of time with male friends and colleagues and swoons if they give him any attention and sympathy after the smear campaign he launched about me. Would have left years ago, but 2 kids to raise and financially tied. Interesting to me is that he fled directly after is mother passed and left him an inheritance. To add to the matter he is in his mid 60's which apparently is when they are known to come out. A support group would be so helpful if you can provide one or know of one. All of this is mind blowing and extremely hurtful.
@elenastathis8675 Please try not to be hurt. I'm willing to bet that for the sake of your children you tried everything in the book to make it work. There is NOTHING you could have done to make it better. When I finally realized that knowing that I gave it my best shot a lot of the hurt stopped. The thing I realized also is that it's not even personal! The same thing would have happened to anyone else on the planet. You were never his wife in the true sense of the word. I think they call it married single. Don't look back! Don't think about the hurt. Be glad for your deliverance, he left. You're blessed. I've been studying this for a long time and I've noticed that for some reason those people seem to live into their late 80s and 90s. They are truly vampires. Many of them never leave their supply. Enjoy your freedom, look up and look forward. And remove from your life anyone who tries to put the blame on you. IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT. I wish you well. 🙂👍👍
WOW! Sorry for your situation. That's terrible! I know it's rough, but he forced you to be on your own, and soon you will have your peace. I have mine now. It was after leaving my fiance, cause he was cheating, and he had a weird, incestuous type of relationship with his MOM! 🤮 I suspected him of being Bi as well. I dodged a bullet! Everything will work out for you. It's worth it to work a bit harder, to be on your own, than to live with a narc! Living with a narc is a prison sentence!
I am so Angry for you! I hate these coward ass demons! But please know this. GOD is NOT mocked. Whatever a man soweth he shall also reap. GOD is sparing your mental physical & spiritual health. Proudly know you & your family is loved & protected by GOD.🙏🏾❤️
Thank you, Danish, for exposing the cowards. You're so right about this. The freaking narcissist that I know is now sick of prostate cancer. Karma is working well. He destroyed all members of his family. Now, he's alone.
I appreciate the resentment for your ex if they mistreated you. I experienced some dark shit from my ex that I'm still reeling for. But taking pleasure from their ill health and impending death is not good. If you're looking for karma as a form of justice then the punishment doesn't fit the crime. Karma exists to enlighten people, not wack them. I wanted revenge on my narcissist ex, but I couldn't come up with anything worse than what she must have experienced through her formative years to end up the way she was. It has to be real fucked up for someone to to actually take pleasure from plotting and executing your demise. If you really want revenge, the most damaging and humiliating thing you can give a narcissist is your pity.
This man is a gift to those of us who have been through these experiences, he understands because unfortunately he has been through it as well. I couldn't have imagined that people like this exist until I experienced this in a boyfriend relationship. Saint Danish I call him has helped me beyond measure when I thought I would never be normal again. My heart is forever grateful because your words allow me to feel validated😪
The ex narc always had that one “buddy”. People would actually joke about their “friendship” and call it bromance lol. IDK. I’m just having to choke down the fact that the narc destroyed our family. We have two boys together and two granddaughters who I love very much. However the ex narc poisoned one of our kids mind against me; the one who gave us granddaughters; and now my son won’t talk to me or let me see my granddaughters. I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do but keep moving on with what’s left of my life. How people as evil as a narc can having everything in the world and people like you and me who never hurt anyone end up with nothing absolutely blows my mind.
I'm sorry that happened to you. It breaks my heart. I went through a horrendeous time over 30 years ago before YT was a thing. I now know in my heart that God taught me things about how to deal with my situation. I know he wants to help you. He helped me, actually he tried to warn me before I got involved with the narc but I didn't listen. When I was ready to turn to him for help he was right there waiting and he helped us. My children are fine and the three of us are close. Have faith in him and ask him for help. I wish you well.
You didn't end up with nothing. You ended up with what you need. Your granddaughters may come around as they grow. Until then stay healthy, stay healing, and ❤ yourself with all you've got because in the end you direct the quality of life you experience.
about granddaughters - try and think strategically - Don’t give up hope, don’t be silent.. speak the truth to any and all who will listen. I am going to through a similar thing- I go through all sorts of hoops to see my grandson for an hour or two once a week… and every single time that I see him I tell him that I love him and to make his own decisions… and he always says some variation of “ I know - grandpa/ mom are crazy/ difficult… it’s just the way they are … I wish it was different..”… and then we carry on . I don’t say mean things..BUT I don’t allow the narcissists lies either. I tell the truth- at an age appropriate , simple way … think strategically! less emotion and more scheming ( on your part part )… Pray hard ! And rebuke that demon inside the narcissist every chance you get ! the demon might flee for a little bit and give you an opportunity to see / communicate with granddaughters ..
Wow!!!! 😂😂😂 My ex-husband was a closet! He was fluid in his sexual desires. He denied it though but some of the things he'd say, and want to do made me wonder. And I was correct he's closeted. My mother!!! Same thing! As a child, I was exposed to vicious rumors about her and her female "best friend". There are other situations as well that point toward that fluidity. You are correct it has nothing to do with being lesbian or gay it has to do with their insatiable evil to be praised by others. It's all supply. They destroy people not love people. They need thrills, they need to believe that everyone wants them. It's disgusting. So they are always on the hunt for supply and they will use sex to get it. They are truly gross.
Living with a narcissist made me understand so many things about life that i didn't know until now. I was in a loving relationship with my (ex) for 4 years until i found out he's been with a lady two years into our marriage,he would spend hours texting her in the bathroom and always comes home late after work with one excuse or the other. I never had access to his phone or tablet because it was always under some kind of security and anytime I got the chance to hold his cell phone,he would beat me up,starve me,abuse me and lock me up in our empty room,someone on here shared a link to a tech engineer,i engaged the services of the tech engineer to recover all my narcissist husband phone text messages including deleted messages and picture attachments,i used the results to prove to the families that I'm nyot lying against him and I'm not the crazy one here,with the help of these,i regained my sanity and my self esteem,these results made me stronger,i believe there are other women out there,feeling their spouse is cheating,i hope you all find out with proof and move on with your lives.Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you anyway,contact the tech engineer on Facebook 👉woodzhack
Thank you Danish! Everything you mentioned is accurate! Once your partner (Narc); is in a committed relationship with you, you think they're only going to be monogamous to just you. Your intuition starts hinting to you something seems off. You noticed there's always an excuse why your partner stops spending time and being intimate with you. You noticed they have more enjoyment in spending time with their coworkers and male friends. Then out the blue your partner expresses to you, that one of his close male friend who's married told him, "You're not gay your just in the way". Once you start having concerns and you bring it to your partner attention ; your partner flips your reality starts to project, gaslights you, ghost you, manipulate you, verbally and mentally abuse you. Your relationship turns in to a Manipulationship and the smear campaign starts shortly after. Your partner starts treating you like an enemy and you become the villian in their eyes, their family eyes and their friends eyes; all the while they're controlling the narrative and keeping themselves labeled as the victim to protect their image. You find yourself taking the blame, for the things that are going wrong in your relationship just to keep the peace. When you go too social events with your partner you start to feel like the elephant in the room, because of the smear campaign. Your partner continues to reject you and withhold love & affection from you, becomes hot & cold and indifferent towards you. They start to disrespect you and tell you they don't touch you because you're insecure. Any other concerns you mentioned to your partner or any suggestions you mentioned to get things back on track, you're met with rage because you reacted to their actions and bad treatment towards you. Your concerns are continously swept under the rug, and your partner says they will do better by you; only to be neglected again and the cycle repeats itself.
@@sinjinmonsoon9055 that’s sad to hear. My idea of marriage is once you have the rings on your fingers it means you are committed to only that one special person. I’m sorry it happened to you
My Narc will argue with me if I say a man not ugly he will be like he’s ugly or think he can tell me what men are handsome like wtf why we even discussing this 😮lol like come out already lol
This is 100% true. I have a covert narc husband and this video describes his sexual behavior perfectly. He uses me as a smoke screen to hide all of his horrible behavior.
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
I'm sorry for what you had to endure. It's a terrible way to devalue a partner. There are sometimes other reasons for it that are not so sinister. My oldest friend is a grandiose narcissist who I have been calling out on his traits for years but only recently found out it was narcissism. He married a woman who is clearly more sexual than he is. In fact I've suspected he was a closet gay forever. She is forced to live as a vegan which was not her choosing. She was led to believe they both wanted children when he never did. And she is being denied sex and told off for being inappropriate whenever she talks about sex, which I could imagine people would talk about a lot if they aren't getting it. She was told off for telling sexual jokes or expressing her sexuality. But he was more than happy for her to wear provocative clothing that made him look good to his peers, just so long as the clothes didn't reveal anything too intimate. It's blatantly an attempt to control and own. Don't waste your time and money on a private detective. If you have to hire one, it's because trust has gone. The relationship is already over by then and even if a detective comes back with no evidence of an affair , it doesn't restore trust or make the curious partner feel any more secure. To be honest I think society really needs to change it's attitude towards the idea of marriage and stop falsely idolising it in some Disney fantasy light. Too many people get trapped in a loveless or abusive marriage while those around spur them on. But then when thing get bad and people try to get out of the marriage, those around try to discourage them, when they should have maybe been listening to the priest when they ask "anyone who knows a reason why they may not be married etc etc", and actually say something.
Exactly same happened with me. I gave him all the best. But I was married a mental illness man but super manipulator. He was gay, but we have two sons, also very interesting with immoral wild young women, over confident, no friends, marriage without sex. Seem religious from outside. True devil.
I saw this exact comment on another post.I thought I was losing my mind but when I checked the time this was posted I realized I'm not losing my mind.This is the exact comment 😮
So sorry. This is what I lived too luckily I wasn't married to him but I stayed for years because other than sex he was affectionate. I know he was addicted to porn but I always got the blame for his low sex drive.. I didn't initiate enough, I didn't look sexy for him, I was always trying to argue with him etc etc. I finally told him let's just live as roommates and he happily agreed.
my ex cheated on me a lot. he accused me of cheating even though i never did. there was one time he asked how i'd feel about having a threesome with another girl. i said no. he asked why so i asked him how he'd feel about having a threesome with another guy. he didn't like that idea because he said he didn't want to share me with another guy. i said that was my point when it came to us with another girl. he said it was different because the girl would be there for my pleasure and he wouldn't do anything with her. i said i didn't believe him and told him that the only way i would agree to it is if we had a threesome with another guy first. i had no one in mind to do it with because i had and still have no interest in ever having a threesome. thankfully he never brought it up again. i have no doubts that he had a girl in mind and that he most certainly would have done things with her if i'd agreed. i also have no doubts that he cheated on me with her anyway.
Girl you need to go and go now! 😳💯 They once told me that and I got sick of it. So, I said one day, "sure, let me pick my male and make sure his penis is extra oversized. And I want to see him do you first like how you want me to engage." I have male friends and some are different, yes. Welp, that shut their gums like gorilla glue. 😂
I sensed it in my ex.whilst he was so loveless and emotionally unattached towards me he was friends with one.whenever I mentioned or said something about his "friend" he defended him or warned me he will report me to him. Thank God I am loose from that crazy demonic narc
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
My ex used to say he was homophobic in the past then one day he out of the blue asked me if I thought a gay guy that he worked with was a top or a bottom. He then befriended this gay guy and told me that he was proud of himself for finally being able to be around gay people without being judgmental.
I had it both ways. My exhusband completely lost interest in sex after only two years of marriage, saying he was just not in the mood. He always was out with his friends while i took care of our babies. After that he told me he is impotent because of a nerve that was damaged. I always wondered if he cheated on me but never found any proof. I started feeling asexual and completely unattractive. I lost every interest in sex. Fast forward..years after our seperation i dated a guy who turned out to be married and has 4 kids. He said he lost interest in his wife because she smells bad, became fat and unattractive. By coincidence i once saw a picture of her on his phone and she was a georgeos woman,looking like Kim Kardashian..not fat at all. He just got bored of her and she didnt give him a lot of attention since they had a baby. So he was seeking for attention and sex from me.. By the way some time ago I found proof that my ex hubby went to prostitutes, side chicks, and I found some really gay looking guys in his contacts on the phone..
No! That's exactly what they want. It makes them feel happy to know they have caused destruction. Show them the exact opposite. Show them you are thriving and doing better than ever. Never show them they have caused pain and suffering. That's their goal, and they will see you as a forever target.
You are so correct! The criticism was non stop, esp things you cannot change physically, even if they have to make it up! He was obsessed with his long term friend, a married guy who literally hated me for no reason. Great video.
Being with him, i became sick myself. Something on the lines of masochistic personality disorder. To stay in the marriage, I convinced myself that i am ugly. Yes, that is how sick I became. That badly I wanted to stay married.
I’m so happy that you covered this! At the end of my relationship with the ex narcissist, I found out that he enjoyed watching men on men porn and I was deeply confused by it. I didnt know if it was just a one time thing but it continued and he starting talking about it while being intimate with me! He already destroyed my self esteem and made me feel threatened by other women and now I had to worry about both women AND men? lol nope I was out but from time to time I still wonder if that’s where his rage, anger and shame come from. Maybe he’s closseted? He would always try and be so alpha and would call everyone and everything “gay” so this all makes so much sense! Thank you for making sense of it all!
Thanks Danish! You are the very professional who I have heard who has addressed this topic. I have also seen this situation many times - and also experienced it myself in a past relationship - in which an apparently heterosexual man seems to cling to constant companionship with his buddies, while hardly having any time at all for his woman. It can be like hanging out in a bar, a sports team, a music band, or even an all-male prayer group. Don't get me wrong - I don't begrudge someone who is honestly part of such a group. What I'm referring to is an excessive need for constant all-male companionship. I've heard it described as "emotional homosexuality." On the other hand, I have heard of cases where female narcissist "gold diggers" will also constantly surround themselves with their circle of girlfriends in order to avoid time alone with their husband who they are only using for money.
My EX narcissistic had a SEVERE porn addiction! It was an every day ongoing issue . A few times it did seem like he was slightly flirting with another man at one point , however I tried to justify it . He showed me he’s disgusting ways . I loved him so much and I saw the true identity behind that mask .
You just confirmed what I've always thought. It's just a dangerous situation I'm in. I have to make a decision to leave, and fast!! I'm always in the room with him and he's busy on his phone talking a friend from the gym. It's disturbing. I've seen red hearts in the chat. He's definitely a flirt. He's really muscular too. That's his way of proving to himself he's a man. Obsessed with men's muscular physics. And women.. but this right here?? This eye-opening folks! Thank you, Danish, for speaking up about this and helping us. I know God is with me!
Had a "husband" for 20 years who cheated constantly. I had a nonexistant sex life with him. I NEVER cheated. I was sex starved. He told everyone after the divorce that I refused to have sex with him.🤣🤣 I wondered many times and asked him if he was gay and asked that very respectfully, not in a mean way.
I had an ex that cheated on me several times, he blamed me for every problem. He never communicated to me and when I bring it up to him he blames me and make me feel like it’s always my fault
I went through the same thing with a female she tried to hide the cheating so bad she swore to God on her dead mother's grave that she wasn't even though I heard from the horse's mouth one of the horse's mouths that it had been taking place for years and he wasn't the only 1.
@ I’m sorry you had to experience that. Nobody deserves to be cheated on and to be treated like they are nothing. I am gonna pray everyone here gets gods love whenever they need it.
I'm glad someone is finally talking about this subject matter. I am a FTM(female to male) trans man but have lived as a "woman" for over 40 yrs. I started transition 5 yrs ago. As a woman many of the men I dated who presented themselves as heterosexual, but would be more than willing to "play gay" with me and would often say that because I was biologically a female that it did not count. I don't understand how a man can judge other men for sexual acts that they themselves engage in, but remove the stigma by placing the blame on the other person. I have had many experiences like this. I now identify as a man and I could never act in good conscious to behave in such a way. I love and respect people (especially women) in such a way that this behavior is abhorrent to me.
Good evening Danish! I totally believe you . I was with a narcissist and he wanted me to do things sexually that was SO disgraceful and disrespectful. I’m very creative sexually, however the requests he was asking were not of normalcy.
Unfortunately I didn't grasp how sick and twisted. these things he started doing TO ME were.(yes I said to me not with me.) I felt like a piece of wood or a object. But never realizing in his mind it was the ultimate level up. Because at this point I thought no reaction would add to my value. NO IT Decreased MY VALIE IN HIS EYES devaluation increased covert destruction if my property my whole world and reality and identity i am niw questioning a few weeks after he started doing these things.. I blocked his number. Now I'm being gang stalked. Someone is coming in my house moving things around.. 20/to 30 random calls a day. Phone internet messed with. When does it stop. 😢
I worked with someone who I believe had these issues. He had to hide his behaviors, they would not have been accepted by his church. I was targeted by him at work, but found out later this was a pattern for him. It has taken me years to be able to see him with eyes of compassion, in that he must be a very unhappy, lonely, empty person within himself. He has one son who is profoundly disabled, and I know that is a terrible sorrow for his family. He also has two other adopted sons, now grown, and that gave me a bad feeling. I do not know how old they were when the family adopted them, but the age issue certainly could be a factor within the context of this video subject matter. I once accidentally saw him watching inappropriate videos at work, of young men. I believe that vicarious, voyeuristic stimulation is common with narcissists too, I have noticed others with this trait and it can be taken to the extreme. It's even easier to objectify an image than a flesh and blood human being.
Thank you for this video. I've always suspected. He was a cheater but to my knowledge it was always women but that other suspicion just never went away. I always wondered when he went "hunting" and never came back with anything. He was such a sissy too, a couple of times there were noises in the house at night and he never got out of the bed to look. I did. Anyway, after 16 years and two lovely kids I left got the house and the kids. we're doing great and he went to jail. This was more than 30 years ago before YT was a thing. God taught me things I'm now seeing videos about. It's amazing.
Living with a narcissist made me understand so many things about life that i didn't know until now. I was in a loving relationship with my (ex) for 4 years until i found out he's been with a lady two years into our marriage,he would spend hours texting her in the bathroom and always comes home late after work with one excuse or the other. I never had access to his phone or tablet because it was always under some kind of security and anytime I got the chance to hold his cell phone,he would beat me up,starve me,abuse me and lock me up in our empty room,someone on here shared a link to a tech engineer,i engaged the services of the tech engineer to recover all my narcissist husband phone text messages including deleted messages and picture attachments,i used the results to prove to the families that I'm nyot lying against him and I'm not the crazy one here,with the help of these,i regained my sanity and my self esteem,these results made me stronger,i believe there are other women out there,feeling their spouse is cheating,i hope you all find out with proof and move on with your lives.Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you anyway,contact the tech engineer on Facebook 👉woodzhack
@@NINA10117 He has. I’ve been saved all my life. If I didn’t have a relationship with the father, I might have lost it by now but I’m stronger than ever. Just waiting for God to open the doors financially. Glad you finally freed yourself ❤️
I also can not understand how can a person want to see their partner to have sex with the other person. My narcissist ex was like this too. It was a horrible experience. Danish thank you very much for telling the truth! Your work is angel’s work!
So interesting you used the word “opportunity,” bc my narc ex used to refer to other women as “opportunities” right to my face. But I do think he also messed around with men due to some stories he told me that seemed elusive. I was always a little suspicious of him in that way.
Many decades ago, I had a roommate who's boyfriend was constantly hanging around with his best buddy, day and night, just a twosome. I knew that his buddy was indeed interested in women, seemingly completely heterosexual. But these two men - who had been friends since early childhood - seemed to have a pseudo-relationship with each other and could not deal with being apart for a day to be with their women. This was very confusing and disruptive to their partners. I was only an outside observer, but saw this going on for years.
I know for fact that the narcissists I have known were active with men women and even children. They were just sickening people on every level and now they have evil spawns to carry on their evil legacy
Thank you so very much for doing this video. They make you feel crazy. Even after you leave the relationship. It was such brain fookery. Sensitive topic. Saddening to realize, im not crazy, wasnt imagining this stuff, and i picked up and drew the right conclusions. There wasn't anything in this video that wasn't on point and said very well. I couldn't get past this part(topic) until your video. God bless you.
I met a woman who described herself as Androgynous, she didn't care about the sex of the other person. Now a riddle: what entity can transfigure itself, show black eyes of hatred and malice, is envious or, is a liar, deceitful, loves power, is a sadist, and is ANDROGYNOUS?? Clue two: she is usually represented with bat or dragon wings... or sometimes goat or snake legs???
Which is one of the reasons why bisexuality has always been extremely off-putting to me, it come off as highly selfish and narcissistic and it just feels very unsettling, I had this conversation before with someone who was trying to convince me it was ok and I told them absolutely not that is a hard no for me, I would never date a bisexual person, and typically they had a huge fit and bombarded me with insults calling me homophobic bigot etc, it might hurt some people's feelings but I have a right to my feelings and opinion and I have a right to date who I want and to try to Villainize me or anyone else who has those limits is Narcissistic, I'm glad I followed my instincts on that.
@darkthrone7201 What people don't realize is that everytime someone sleeps with a person they actually join their souls together. Then they leave a little piece of themselves behind and join with another person and leave a bit behind there too. Soul ties haunt people for years. It's a very serious thing so while you may not know exactly why you think that way you are right.
You absolutely do have a right to your feelings. But you also need to understand why you get those feelings in the first place and what they actually mean. That's your right and also your responsibility. There is a reason why you feel uncomfortable with bisexuality and I don't look at it as homophobia. Some wokes might go straight to homophobia. But too many wokes just cannot read between the lines and see the context. The virtue signalling ones will prefer to establish and call out bigotry. Bollocks to them! Nevertheless it's not enough to say that you just feel uncomfortable with bi men, you have to know the reason for whay you feel this if you wish to validate the feeling. I don't know your reasoning, but there are a couple of very common reasons for why some people take issue with bisexual partners. They cannot feel assured that the partner won't leave them for a friend of the same sex. Normally this fear is also the reasonn for people who insist you cannot be friends with people of the opposite sex. It's a simpe fear of being abandoned which was probably learnt after a personal bad experience, but there's no reason to bring that fear and mistrust into a new relationship with an innocent partner, unless you always date the same kinds of guy with the same tendency for cheating. The other popular reason is due to personal feelings on gender and stereotypes, including the relationship dynamic that you have a preference to i.e. dom vs sub. I know some women who want their men to be men, by that I mean dominant and assertive and maybe also alpha. So then the image they get of their big strong man suddenly wearing leather chaps and bent over a table and being fucked by an even bigger stronger man completely shatters their fantasy and they cannot continue. It's not that dissimilar to the Madonna Whore complex that some men experience once their wives give birth to their child and suddenly they are unable to think of their wife/girlfriend as a sexual being that likes to be fucked. They are too divine to fuck, and can only "make love". These are two particularly common conditions, but they are conditioned into us by society, our family and friends and influencers, our culture, Disney movies etc. We can uncondition our minds if we want.
P.s. if you and a bisexual partner enter into a monogamous relationship, then regardless of their bisexuality, they will honour the commitment they have made to monogamy. If not then they weren't the right match to begin with.
Mine was a very accomplished man. He was also handsome. All people were drawn to him whatever he did, he did well, people were in awe of him. He never bragged, he didn't have to. It took me years after the divorce to realize he was homosexual. How stupid could I have been? Thank you Danish.
I appreciate your frankness, we need to hear it. You have been a great support to me, I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to get your invaluable information.
This is a facet of narcissism that few people know about or talk about. So many people asked me if my ex was gay. At the time this upset me, but now I understand that he would’ve done a doughnut. Anyone who gave him more than five minutes of attention was a sex object to him, including little girls, little boys, older women, men, anyone. Once we understand this, it actually makes things better because it helps us understand that the emotional and sexual dysfunction in our relationships had nothing to do with us. Sam Vaknin has some fascinating talks about this on his channel speaking to the fact that the Narcissist has no true sexuality so they use sex as a weapon to get supply and to hurt their partners. He is of the belief that the true narcissist is, in fact, asexual.
I know my cousin married a guy- had three children, and he always dressed so perfect and acted like he was totally in love with her, but he took great care of his appearance more than she did and then one day he just came out and said I’m coming out of the closet this is my lover and Didn’t care about her feelings at all I have good discernment and I know of two guys that are obviously very gay and their wives are oblivious to it. They’re just using them as what they call a beard which is a shield because they’re afraid to come out to their families so they’re just probably bringing home STDs to their wives. I don’t understand how the wives can’t see it though .
This is what happened to me. This is why he married me, to cover up his desire to be with men, and I didn't not find it out until years later, but I think his family knew all along what I was marrying... Nasty work..
Everyone except psychopaths is a living being who deserves love. It makes me angry that narcissists can’t offer anything especially love. They’re all over the place with their orientation. When they sleep with you they’re aroused by the thought that their appearance turns you on. They’re empty and vi!e in every way.
My ex husband once said "you're lucky I'm still sexually attracted to you" 😢😢. I calmly reslonded: "You know it's not a favour, right?" and he was in such shock,up until today I still don't know why he was that shocked.
I believe this so much because of personal experience . After the break up the narc confessed to me “do you want to know how I was about to get $1,500 to move out?” “I went in dates for money “ he’s not attractive at all, doesn’t have charisma, doesn’t have the height or appearance for women to pay him for dates. I believe he engaged in men relationship.
News flash. They don't look the way they did either. I guess the mirror doesn't work for them. Wouldn't speak it if I hadn't lived it. When they start to insist you watch phonography and then tell you how you're supposed to feel about it and how you're supposed to visualize it. That's huge red flag. Not talking about couples that incorporate it together. Whenever someone starts to tell you how are supposed to feel, then there's something really wrong.
ALSO I learned that if u are ensnared in the web of a narc ("relationship"). That means to them that u are what they Use when and If they can't find someone to boink. So basically their back-up boink
This was a great video man thanks alot tn for this really helped me bounce back in faith on how to forgive for myself and not take everything so personally even if i do
Thanks Danish. It's my late aunt who talked all the time about rapes and sex and what "those filthy men" could do with me if I were not cautious all the time when I was just a little child. When I grew up she fantasized about my breast like it's not big enough and like I should eat more, otherwise purportedly nobody will ever marry me. I felt awkward like she herself was using my body for her fantasies but I was brainwashed that she was a "saint", gave up all her private life for me, though nobody asked her, and on the contrary I just felt her slave and doll. Then she bought me sexual underwear, especially transparent bras like it was such a fashion at that time. I didn't even know what to think or say! And when I was going to marry soon my first psychopathic husband just to escape her grip on me and deal with a "real man" as I thought him, she started telling me that she saw us after rain and as if my nipples in the transparent bras were more distinguishable under my thick t-shirt though it was all nonsense, and she started to moan. I was terrified what's going on and she just told me that she showed me what my fiance as if were doing looking at my bust. It was one on the most disgusting moments of my life. And she pretended to be a straight "normal woman" who just chose not to have any private life and dedicate herself to her sister's daughter as she couldn't have children of her own...
Isn't this a symptom of the modern world nowadays though? This trend towards easy-come-easy-go, constant supply of multiple sexual encounters? I've always noticed that people who are sexually promiscuous have a problem with bonding. They just need to constantly "score" to feel desirable.
My parents showed me a picture in which he looked like a homosexual. I REFUSED TO BELIEVE IT. I went breathless. Then, towards the course of my stay, he used to squirm like woman. His smile and the way eyes went big was like a woman. SINCE I had a macho image of him, I thought he was being ultra sensitive, to make me feel safe. He will giggle like a woman and remain coy to be alluring. Let m rest. This is the first time I am saying this aloud. 20 years back his friends alluded to the fact that he was gay when he asked them to talk to me. They could tell he was not interested in me himself and that didn't motivate them to talk to me so they said he was never attracted to woman and would never get excited by woman how did he propose to u. His mother came to rescue , let me correct myself, his mother protected her daughter's and granddaughters survival by saying he is a family type guy who won't go gaga over woman
Mine was always with male friends. They were straight. He was so feminine always hiding behind them. He used to sweat like a pig when i am around out of nervousness. His cousin clarifies by saying he is afraid of ingrained attitudes as he came from a poor family and I am from influential when in reality it was his sexual preference. He chose me because people from influential class protect vulnerable people
I had only couple of girls as friends. They are professionals who know to talk decently without coming onto people. They know to talk well without showing interest. He used to run and hide when they visited. He hated the presence of woman. I thought it was one of those isolation tactics.
You are the only specialist that has addressed this and I have some answers for you. I'm an experienced in narcissists 😊from birth and was married to one for 26 yrs. The watching you have sex with another while he watches...well that one is so they have one over you. So that they can tell your kids or church friends what you did. Luckily I did not engage in that one. And this same narcissistic man would 😅say..your not gay unless you kiss him. He talked about and was obsessed with the gay male couples that came into our bed store and during this time seemed to work many hours more and would not answer his phone during after hours when not home. He gave me sexually trans disease then called me names. I did not ever cheat on him so i was 100% sure was not me. He made me live his lie, gaslighting me telling me im mental and need medication. Their minds are warped and controlled by Satan! Thats the truth..pure Goofery, cleary one must be leary! ❤
Hi 👋. I was wondering if anyone else had experienced the whole older ladies thing. There were so many of them. Always the same excuses, they needed help in the house, garden,with shopping. I think I always knew what was going on, but I didn't want to admit it .I hope you're feeling better now. 🙏🏴
@elainesmith1200 when he was working in their town he was staying with them in their homes, so had free hotel and food...He said- they are treating me like family... 😂
My daughter seemed to enjoy telling me about her sex life, which always made me cringe. She sent me a picture of her at the bottom of the Grand canyon wearing nothing but a life jacket and told me that she had been with some of the guys from this group trip but not the one that paid her way. Another time she told me she had a 3 way and was paid $1000, and that when she was a paddle board guide she was with most of the other guides, sleeping in several different tents over the summer. She also said she was having violent sex with one of her ex's who is a competitive gymnast. I have gone no contact with her recently
😢my narc is a vulnerable covert narc. He's violently angry. He turned on me and the mask slipped when I caught his severe porn addiction. He likes being pegged... I've wondered if he's been cheating, odd location data. Abusive asshole (pun not intended) absolutely cannot care any less about how much he's damaged me. I'm so broken. And yes, I've been concerned about CP and also hidden homosexuality.
I have had these thoughts for many years. He liked to do strange things. 0:02 4 months ago I left my husband of 32 years. He has someone in a city more than an hour away and I have had the nagging feeling that it is a man. I could be wrong but he is having a sexual relationship with someone there. This is spot on. Thank you
Oh wow this makes so much sense! The number of times he told me he was an alpha male. He has one gay friend and he told me over and over this man had a crush on him and he would flirt with this man all the time but then behind his back he would use gay slurs about his friend. Then he would tell me I was lesbian and that was why he didn’t want to have s* x with me. When I would tell him I wasn’t interested in women he would tell me I wasn’t facing facts about myself. Projection!?!
All the narcissist bizarre sexual behaviors can be explained by one core trait they all have. The only thing they actually get off on is violating another person's boundaries.
Absolutely! My husband fought with me over the fact I refused to do anal or oral. I never led him on-I told him from the start I was never going to do these things and he was always angry about it
That's the absolute truth
OMG You got that right!🥹
Boy isn't that the truth?!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we have had so many problems that there have been several times that I’ve i unfortunately have had thoughts of him not being gay but liking men and women because he likes sex from how do I say “ the behind or anal sex “ he’s the only person I’ve ever dated who has liked sex like this .
I don’t and I won’t go that route he still tries.
I tell him that when he continues doing this he has been cheating and we have had continuous problems
Not just with sex
With other things
There has never been one week where everything has been great
I’ve caught him keeping his old ex girlfriend’ s around this was a few years back
Let’s just say since day one this guy warrants similarities of a a Narcissistic person he has never been diagnosed so I can’t say!
But it scares me
I have been there. It’s horrible. If you are lucky enough to get out, don’t look back.
Been out four months now, life is amazing. Zero panick attacks
Feeling free at last😊
They are covering their disdain for themselves with abuse to others. Thanks for being here for us, Danish Bashir.
This
I went through my narc ex-boyfriend's phone and found him on Grindr. He denied any wrongdoing and said he was just curious about the lifestyle. Looking back, I can't believe some of the things I tolerated.
Take care.
I found my ex narc was also on Grindr. I never told him I know. I’m saving those receipts.
Yes me too
Omg me too but it was gay Craigslist
After watching this and seeing yall comments I found my Ex Narc on there last night.,I’m disgusted inside have to journal about this I’m disturbed and my heart is racing‼️
It's obvious they have no feelings for the ones they love...
They don't even love themselves...
They are just dead wood....
Narcs never love at all but just expect!
excacly!
@@vanessagovender7014 Exactly! Before the divorce, I asked my narcissistic ex-husband, who do you love the most in the world? Without any hesitation, he answered “Myself, of course.”😂
@vanessagovender7014 can't even love there own children use them against the wife sic
@@Shirley-t9bthat is what my ex husband has done
My ex-husband started saying he hates my smell and withholds intimacy, he also asked me to put on weight. Thank God set me free! Danish, you speak my mind, you are an angel!
He's probably in clossett
@ Yea, the way he always says, “I'm the most macho man in the town,” fits Danish’s closet man description 100%
Did you check your own smell? Was there an infection? Or was he just being controlling? I am sorry you went through all that. @@katemizu
Wow was his name tony
Spot on Danish..Thank you for giving me the courage to leave my abusive marriage ..
I have experienced this twice. Once with my overt narc exhusband and then 12 years later; with a covert narc. I am highly sensitive to their energy. I didn’t understand what was happening in my first marriage…then I started to learn about narcissism. However, I did not know covert narcs existed, so I found myself in another similar feeling to the first marriage. Sometimes when he would come home from “work” he would have an energy pouring off of him that made me almost sick. I couldn’t even be next to him sometimes. I realized this was his extreme guilt from the sexual activities he had been engaged in. All the other signs began to show and I quickly exited the relationship. And although I still have a trauma bond to him, I know he was and is not safe for me to be around. My body rejected him before my mind. That’s how you know. Trust your instincts and general vibrations.
Spot on. I've been questioning my husband of 30 years about his mannerisms and attire on and off. When he abandoned the marriage abruptly, blaming me, of course, he disappeared. He posted a picture of him kissing his business partner on the cheek, explained it as "partner appreciation" at a conference. Never any affection like that towards me. Told me he left bc he had to "untangle this knot" he had inside, which I've heard is indicative of a cheating "gay" narc as he avoids any physical contact with me. He spends a lot of time with male friends and colleagues and swoons if they give him any attention and sympathy after the smear campaign he launched about me. Would have left years ago, but 2 kids to raise and financially tied. Interesting to me is that he fled directly after is mother passed and left him an inheritance. To add to the matter he is in his mid 60's which apparently is when they are known to come out. A support group would be so helpful if you can provide one or know of one. All of this is mind blowing and extremely hurtful.
@elenastathis8675 Please try not to be hurt. I'm willing to bet that for the sake of your children you tried everything in the book to make it work. There is NOTHING you could have done to make it better. When I finally realized that knowing that I gave it my best shot a lot of the hurt stopped. The thing I realized also is that it's not even personal! The same thing would have happened to anyone else on the planet. You were never his wife in the true sense of the word. I think they call it married single. Don't look back! Don't think about the hurt. Be glad for your deliverance, he left. You're blessed. I've been studying this for a long time and I've noticed that for some reason those people seem to live into their late 80s and 90s. They are truly vampires. Many of them never leave their supply. Enjoy your freedom, look up and look forward. And remove from your life anyone who tries to put the blame on you. IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT. I wish you well. 🙂👍👍
WOW! Sorry for your situation. That's terrible! I know it's rough, but he forced you to be on your own, and soon you will have your peace. I have mine now. It was after leaving my fiance, cause he was cheating, and he had a weird, incestuous type of relationship with his MOM! 🤮
I suspected him of being Bi as well. I dodged a bullet! Everything will work out for you. It's worth it to work a bit harder, to be on your own, than to live with a narc! Living with a narc is a prison sentence!
Gosh I am so sorry, girl. Sending you love. Plz hang in there your obviously one tough cookie but still do plz take care of yourself!❤❤❤
@@Pinkythepainter777ew I feel like my baby’s father has a weird relationship like how you said with his mom too…
I am so Angry for you! I hate these coward ass demons! But please know this. GOD is NOT mocked. Whatever a man soweth he shall also reap. GOD is sparing your mental physical & spiritual health. Proudly know you & your family is loved & protected by GOD.🙏🏾❤️
Thank you, Danish, for exposing the cowards. You're so right about this. The freaking narcissist that I know is now sick of prostate cancer. Karma is working well. He destroyed all members of his family. Now, he's alone.
😂 mine is having prostrate problems too.😂
How do you know they’re having prostrate problems?
😂😂 yooh
I appreciate the resentment for your ex if they mistreated you. I experienced some dark shit from my ex that I'm still reeling for. But taking pleasure from their ill health and impending death is not good. If you're looking for karma as a form of justice then the punishment doesn't fit the crime. Karma exists to enlighten people, not wack them. I wanted revenge on my narcissist ex, but I couldn't come up with anything worse than what she must have experienced through her formative years to end up the way she was. It has to be real fucked up for someone to to actually take pleasure from plotting and executing your demise. If you really want revenge, the most damaging and humiliating thing you can give a narcissist is your pity.
This man is a gift to those of us who have been through these experiences, he understands because unfortunately he has been through it as well. I couldn't have imagined that people like this exist until I experienced this in a boyfriend relationship. Saint Danish I call him has helped me beyond measure when I thought I would never be normal again. My heart is forever grateful because your words allow me to feel validated😪
I don't even know where I'd be without Dinesh. There's a few other people but he's one of the top five for me
100% agree. He is a gift.
WOW!! I also have noticed that withs "narc's"! extreme fluidity around sexuality!
Truth. They are very confused about who they are, and hide their weird sexual behaviors. Ick.
The ex narc always had that one “buddy”. People would actually joke about their “friendship” and call it bromance lol. IDK. I’m just having to choke down the fact that the narc destroyed our family. We have two boys together and two granddaughters who I love very much. However the ex narc poisoned one of our kids mind against me; the one who gave us granddaughters; and now my son won’t talk to me or let me see my granddaughters. I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do but keep moving on with what’s left of my life. How people as evil as a narc can having everything in the world and people like you and me who never hurt anyone end up with nothing absolutely blows my mind.
I'm sorry that happened to you. It breaks my heart. I went through a horrendeous time over 30 years ago before YT was a thing. I now know in my heart that God taught me things about how to deal with my situation. I know he wants to help you. He helped me, actually he tried to warn me before I got involved with the narc but I didn't listen. When I was ready to turn to him for help he was right there waiting and he helped us. My children are fine and the three of us are close. Have faith in him and ask him for help. I wish you well.
You didn't end up with nothing. You ended up with what you need. Your granddaughters may come around as they grow. Until then stay healthy, stay healing, and ❤ yourself with all you've got because in the end you direct the quality of life you experience.
about granddaughters - try and think strategically - Don’t give up hope, don’t be silent.. speak the truth to any and all who will listen. I am going to through a similar thing- I go through all sorts of hoops to see my grandson for an hour or two once a week… and every single time that I see him I tell him that I love him and to make his own decisions… and he always says some variation of “ I know - grandpa/ mom are crazy/ difficult… it’s just the way they are … I wish it was different..”… and then we carry on . I don’t say mean things..BUT I don’t allow the narcissists lies either. I tell the truth- at an age appropriate , simple way … think strategically! less emotion and more scheming ( on your part part )… Pray hard ! And rebuke that demon inside the narcissist every chance you get ! the demon might flee for a little bit and give you an opportunity to see / communicate with granddaughters ..
Wow!!!! 😂😂😂 My ex-husband was a closet! He was fluid in his sexual desires. He denied it though but some of the things he'd say, and want to do made me wonder. And I was correct he's closeted.
My mother!!! Same thing! As a child, I was exposed to vicious rumors about her and her female "best friend".
There are other situations as well that point toward that fluidity.
You are correct it has nothing to do with being lesbian or gay it has to do with their insatiable evil to be praised by others. It's all supply. They destroy people not love people. They need thrills, they need to believe that everyone wants them. It's disgusting.
So they are always on the hunt for supply and they will use sex to get it. They are truly gross.
I'm pretty sure both my dead dad and my brother are closeted
Mine likes women. But any woman. He has no scruples
Living with a narcissist made me understand so many things about life that i didn't know until now.
I was in a loving relationship with my (ex) for 4 years until i found out he's been with a lady two years into our marriage,he would spend hours texting her in the bathroom and always comes home late after work with one excuse or the other.
I never had access to his phone or tablet because it was always under some kind of security and anytime I got the chance to hold his cell phone,he would beat me up,starve me,abuse me and lock me up in our empty room,someone on here shared a link to a tech engineer,i engaged the services of the tech engineer to recover all my narcissist husband phone text messages including deleted messages and picture attachments,i used the results to prove to the families that I'm nyot lying against him and I'm not the crazy one here,with the help of these,i regained my sanity and my self esteem,these results made me stronger,i believe there are other women out there,feeling their spouse is cheating,i hope you all find out with proof and move on with your lives.Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you anyway,contact the tech engineer on Facebook 👉woodzhack
@@laneneal3510 Did he see much of his mother when growing up? Or too much?
Thank you Danish! Everything you mentioned is accurate! Once your partner (Narc); is in a committed relationship with you, you think they're only going to be monogamous to just you. Your intuition starts hinting to you something seems off. You noticed there's always an excuse why your partner stops spending time and being intimate with you. You noticed they have more enjoyment in spending time with their coworkers and male friends. Then out the blue your partner expresses to you, that one of his close male friend who's married told him, "You're not gay your just in the way".
Once you start having concerns and you bring it to your partner attention ; your partner flips your reality starts to project, gaslights you, ghost you, manipulate you, verbally and mentally abuse you. Your relationship turns in to a Manipulationship and the smear campaign starts shortly after. Your partner starts treating you like an enemy and you become the villian in their eyes, their family eyes and their friends eyes; all the while they're controlling the narrative and keeping themselves labeled as the victim to protect their image. You find yourself taking the blame, for the things that are going wrong in your relationship just to keep the peace. When you go too social events with your partner you start to feel like the elephant in the room, because of the smear campaign.
Your partner continues to reject you and withhold love & affection from you, becomes hot & cold and indifferent towards you. They start to disrespect you and tell you they don't touch you because you're insecure. Any other concerns you mentioned to your partner or any suggestions you mentioned to get things back on track, you're met with rage because you reacted to their actions and bad treatment towards you. Your concerns are continously swept under the rug, and your partner says they will do better by you; only to be neglected again and the cycle repeats itself.
We will never know the full extent of our narcs shenanigans while he was alive.
I pray you have the money and the strength to leave.
My narc husband always had a blue eyed blonde guy around. Always. When it finally hit me what he was doing it hit me like a giant wave.
@@sinjinmonsoon9055 that’s sad to hear. My idea of marriage is once you have the rings on your fingers it means you are committed to only that one special person. I’m sorry it happened to you
@@Wendell-vc5lfJust make sure it don’t happen to you with that thinking
My Narc will argue with me if I say a man not ugly he will be like he’s ugly or think he can tell me what men are handsome like wtf why we even discussing this 😮lol like come out already lol
As cold as ice!!!
My narc is autosexual and probably bi. He has a porn addiction, too. I'm NOTHING to that fiend. He stole my life and my identity.
@tammyhollis1519 You can take it back! It takes some work but the real you is still inside you. You can do it! I did. I wish you well.
This is my life 😢
@@rosiesview1060 It's such a sad existence. We deserve so much better.
@@NINA10117 Thank you. If you're a praying person, PLEASE pray for me. I'm so happy for you!
@tammyhollis1519 I agree 100%
This is 100% true. I have a covert narc husband and this video describes his sexual behavior perfectly. He uses me as a smoke screen to hide all of his horrible behavior.
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
I'm sorry for what you had to endure. It's a terrible way to devalue a partner. There are sometimes other reasons for it that are not so sinister. My oldest friend is a grandiose narcissist who I have been calling out on his traits for years but only recently found out it was narcissism. He married a woman who is clearly more sexual than he is. In fact I've suspected he was a closet gay forever. She is forced to live as a vegan which was not her choosing. She was led to believe they both wanted children when he never did. And she is being denied sex and told off for being inappropriate whenever she talks about sex, which I could imagine people would talk about a lot if they aren't getting it. She was told off for telling sexual jokes or expressing her sexuality. But he was more than happy for her to wear provocative clothing that made him look good to his peers, just so long as the clothes didn't reveal anything too intimate. It's blatantly an attempt to control and own.
Don't waste your time and money on a private detective. If you have to hire one, it's because trust has gone. The relationship is already over by then and even if a detective comes back with no evidence of an affair , it doesn't restore trust or make the curious partner feel any more secure. To be honest I think society really needs to change it's attitude towards the idea of marriage and stop falsely idolising it in some Disney fantasy light. Too many people get trapped in a loveless or abusive marriage while those around spur them on. But then when thing get bad and people try to get out of the marriage, those around try to discourage them, when they should have maybe been listening to the priest when they ask "anyone who knows a reason why they may not be married etc etc", and actually say something.
Exactly same happened with me. I gave him all the best. But I was married a mental illness man but super manipulator.
He was gay, but we have two sons, also very interesting with immoral wild young women, over confident, no friends, marriage without sex. Seem religious from outside. True devil.
I saw this exact comment on another post.I thought I was losing my mind but when I checked the time this was posted I realized I'm not losing my mind.This is the exact comment 😮
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So sorry. This is what I lived too luckily I wasn't married to him but I stayed for years because other than sex he was affectionate. I know he was addicted to porn but I always got the blame for his low sex drive.. I didn't initiate enough, I didn't look sexy for him, I was always trying to argue with him etc etc. I finally told him let's just live as roommates and he happily agreed.
my ex cheated on me a lot. he accused me of cheating even though i never did. there was one time he asked how i'd feel about having a threesome with another girl. i said no. he asked why so i asked him how he'd feel about having a threesome with another guy. he didn't like that idea because he said he didn't want to share me with another guy. i said that was my point when it came to us with another girl. he said it was different because the girl would be there for my pleasure and he wouldn't do anything with her. i said i didn't believe him and told him that the only way i would agree to it is if we had a threesome with another guy first. i had no one in mind to do it with because i had and still have no interest in ever having a threesome.
thankfully he never brought it up again. i have no doubts that he had a girl in mind and that he most certainly would have done things with her if i'd agreed. i also have no doubts that he cheated on me with her anyway.
Girl you need to go and go now! 😳💯
They once told me that and I got sick of it. So, I said one day, "sure, let me pick my male and make sure his penis is extra oversized. And I want to see him do you first like how you want me to engage."
I have male friends and some are different, yes.
Welp, that shut their gums like gorilla glue. 😂
Thought I was reading one of my older posts. Almost exact same situation for me.
Just tears rolling......very true 😢
I sensed it in my ex.whilst he was so loveless and emotionally unattached towards me he was friends with one.whenever I mentioned or said something about his "friend" he defended him or warned me he will report me to him.
Thank God I am loose from that crazy demonic narc
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, sister. after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
My ex used to say he was homophobic in the past then one day he out of the blue asked me if I thought a gay guy that he worked with was a top or a bottom. He then befriended this gay guy and told me that he was proud of himself for finally being able to be around gay people without being judgmental.
you know they were already doing it before he asked you, right ?
Describes Diddy and a lot of male celebrities
Pure evil 😮😮
I had it both ways.
My exhusband completely lost interest in sex after only two years of marriage, saying he was just not in the mood. He always was out with his friends while i took care of our babies. After that he told me he is impotent because of a nerve that was damaged. I always wondered if he cheated on me but never found any proof. I started feeling asexual and completely unattractive. I lost every interest in sex.
Fast forward..years after our seperation i dated a guy who turned out to be married and has 4 kids. He said he lost interest in his wife because she smells bad, became fat and unattractive. By coincidence i once saw a picture of her on his phone and she was a georgeos woman,looking like Kim Kardashian..not fat at all. He just got bored of her and she didnt give him a lot of attention since they had a baby. So he was seeking for attention and sex from me..
By the way some time ago I found proof that my ex hubby went to prostitutes, side chicks, and I found some really gay looking guys in his contacts on the phone..
Amen… So disappointing,Wish they could see the destruction they cause.You have comforted us regarding these odd humans.
They know. It works for their purposes.
They do see it...They LOVE it!!! They thrive on the human destruction that they know and see they are causing.
@ Yes correct,but wish it weren’t so.
No! That's exactly what they want. It makes them feel happy to know they have caused destruction.
Show them the exact opposite. Show them you are thriving and doing better than ever. Never show them they have caused pain and suffering. That's their goal, and they will see you as a forever target.
😂 I wish I could unknow what I know about this subject... thank you.
Oh my. This is exactly what happened to me. Thank you Danish.
You are so correct! The criticism was non stop, esp things you cannot change physically, even if they have to make it up! He was obsessed with his long term friend, a married guy who literally hated me for no reason.
Great video.
Being with him, i became sick myself. Something on the lines of masochistic personality disorder. To stay in the marriage, I convinced myself that i am ugly. Yes, that is how sick I became. That badly I wanted to stay married.
I’m so happy that you covered this! At the end of my relationship with the ex narcissist, I found out that he enjoyed watching men on men porn and I was deeply confused by it. I didnt know if it was just a one time thing but it continued and he starting talking about it while being intimate with me! He already destroyed my self esteem and made me feel threatened by other women and now I had to worry about both women AND men? lol nope I was out but from time to time I still wonder if that’s where his rage, anger and shame come from. Maybe he’s closseted? He would always try and be so alpha and would call everyone and everything “gay” so this all makes so much sense! Thank you for making sense of it all!
Thanks Danish! You are the very professional who I have heard who has addressed this topic.
I have also seen this situation many times - and also experienced it myself in a past relationship - in which an apparently heterosexual man seems to cling to constant companionship with his buddies, while hardly having any time at all for his woman. It can be like hanging out in a bar, a sports team, a music band, or even an all-male prayer group. Don't get me wrong - I don't begrudge someone who is honestly part of such a group. What I'm referring to is an excessive need for constant all-male companionship.
I've heard it described as "emotional homosexuality."
On the other hand, I have heard of cases where female narcissist "gold diggers" will also constantly surround themselves with their circle of girlfriends in order to avoid time alone with their husband who they are only using for money.
Very poignant this one your descriptions are spot on , thank you Danish for talking about this very necessary dark taboo. So refreshing.
My EX narcissistic had a SEVERE porn addiction! It was an every day ongoing issue . A few times it did seem like he was slightly flirting with another man at one point , however I tried to justify it . He showed me he’s disgusting ways . I loved him so much and I saw the true identity behind that mask .
Thank you for sharing very good information to know
You just confirmed what I've always thought. It's just a dangerous situation I'm in. I have to make a decision to leave, and fast!! I'm always in the room with him and he's busy on his phone talking a friend from the gym. It's disturbing. I've seen red hearts in the chat. He's definitely a flirt. He's really muscular too. That's his way of proving to himself he's a man. Obsessed with men's muscular physics. And women.. but this right here?? This eye-opening folks! Thank you, Danish, for speaking up about this and helping us. I know God is with me!
This really clears up a lot. This is do true. Both men and women. Narcissist does this
Had a "husband" for 20 years who cheated constantly. I had a nonexistant sex life with him. I NEVER cheated. I was sex starved. He told everyone after the divorce that I refused to have sex with him.🤣🤣
I wondered many times and asked him if he was gay and asked that very respectfully, not in a mean way.
I had an ex that cheated on me several times, he blamed me for every problem. He never communicated to me and when I bring it up to him he blames me and make me feel like it’s always my fault
I went through the same thing with a female she tried to hide the cheating so bad she swore to God on her dead mother's grave that she wasn't even though I heard from the horse's mouth one of the horse's mouths that it had been taking place for years and he wasn't the only 1.
@ I’m sorry you had to experience that. Nobody deserves to be cheated on and to be treated like they are nothing. I am gonna pray everyone here gets gods love whenever they need it.
Be you, be kind to you. We are nothing of what they say we are.
They are the same thing. Very horrible ppl. They can sleep with anything just to get what they want
100% accurate
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I'm glad someone is finally talking about this subject matter. I am a FTM(female to male) trans man but have lived as a "woman" for over 40 yrs. I started transition 5 yrs ago. As a woman many of the men I dated who presented themselves as heterosexual, but would be more than willing to "play gay" with me and would often say that because I was biologically a female that it did not count. I don't understand how a man can judge other men for sexual acts that they themselves engage in, but remove the stigma by placing the blame on the other person. I have had many experiences like this. I now identify as a man and I could never act in good conscious to behave in such a way. I love and respect people (especially women) in such a way that this behavior is abhorrent to me.
You hit the nail on the head with this! You are 💯 right on. KEEP IT UP SPREADING THIS TRUTH.
Good evening Danish! I totally believe you . I was with a narcissist and he wanted me to do things sexually that was SO disgraceful and disrespectful. I’m very creative sexually, however the requests he was asking were not of normalcy.
Unfortunately I didn't grasp how sick and twisted. these things he started doing TO ME were.(yes I said to me not with me.) I felt like a piece of wood or a object. But never realizing in his mind it was the ultimate level up. Because at this point I thought no reaction would add to my value. NO IT Decreased MY VALIE IN HIS EYES devaluation increased covert destruction if my property my whole world and reality and identity i am niw questioning a few weeks after he started doing these things.. I blocked his number. Now I'm being gang stalked. Someone is coming in my house moving things around.. 20/to 30 random calls a day. Phone internet messed with. When does it stop. 😢
I worked with someone who I believe had these issues. He had to hide his behaviors, they would not have been accepted by his church. I was targeted by him at work, but found out later this was a pattern for him. It has taken me years to be able to see him with eyes of compassion, in that he must be a very unhappy, lonely, empty person within himself. He has one son who is profoundly disabled, and I know that is a terrible sorrow for his family. He also has two other adopted sons, now grown, and that gave me a bad feeling. I do not know how old they were when the family adopted them, but the age issue certainly could be a factor within the context of this video subject matter. I once accidentally saw him watching inappropriate videos at work, of young men. I believe that vicarious, voyeuristic stimulation is common with narcissists too, I have noticed others with this trait and it can be taken to the extreme. It's even easier to objectify an image than a flesh and blood human being.
Thank you for this video. I've always suspected. He was a cheater but to my knowledge it was always women but that other suspicion just never went away. I always wondered when he went "hunting" and never came back with anything. He was such a sissy too, a couple of times there were noises in the house at night and he never got out of the bed to look. I did. Anyway, after 16 years and two lovely kids I left got the house and the kids. we're doing great and he went to jail. This was more than 30 years ago before YT was a thing. God taught me things I'm now seeing videos about. It's amazing.
Thanks wild. I’m the one to get out of bed too when we hear a noise in the house
Living with a narcissist made me understand so many things about life that i didn't know until now.
I was in a loving relationship with my (ex) for 4 years until i found out he's been with a lady two years into our marriage,he would spend hours texting her in the bathroom and always comes home late after work with one excuse or the other.
I never had access to his phone or tablet because it was always under some kind of security and anytime I got the chance to hold his cell phone,he would beat me up,starve me,abuse me and lock me up in our empty room,someone on here shared a link to a tech engineer,i engaged the services of the tech engineer to recover all my narcissist husband phone text messages including deleted messages and picture attachments,i used the results to prove to the families that I'm nyot lying against him and I'm not the crazy one here,with the help of these,i regained my sanity and my self esteem,these results made me stronger,i believe there are other women out there,feeling their spouse is cheating,i hope you all find out with proof and move on with your lives.Don't let your narcissistic partner abuse you anyway,contact the tech engineer on Facebook 👉woodzhack
@@MsRapture10 Trust God, He's with you. Protect your mind - Romans 12:2.
@@NINA10117 He has. I’ve been saved all my life. If I didn’t have a relationship with the father, I might have lost it by now but I’m stronger than ever. Just waiting for God to open the doors financially. Glad you finally freed yourself ❤️
@@MsRapture10 So glad to hear that! You're going to recovery and be better than ever. I wish you well.
I also can not understand how can a person want to see their partner to have sex with the other person. My narcissist ex was like this too. It was a horrible experience. Danish thank you very much for telling the truth! Your work is angel’s work!
So interesting you used the word “opportunity,” bc my narc ex used to refer to other women as “opportunities” right to my face. But I do think he also messed around with men due to some stories he told me that seemed elusive. I was always a little suspicious of him in that way.
I agree and am experiencing this completely. Thank you for discussing this
Many people dont want to hear this . Good job approaching a possibly sensitive topic for some.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yep! Both narcs I know were into both women and men. One was more open about it, the other still denies it and is extremely homophobic.
“Would like to watch it happen”. TRUE
Many decades ago, I had a roommate who's boyfriend was constantly hanging around with his best buddy, day and night, just a twosome. I knew that his buddy was indeed interested in women, seemingly completely heterosexual. But these two men - who had been friends since early childhood - seemed to have a pseudo-relationship with each other and could not deal with being apart for a day to be with their women. This was very confusing and disruptive to their partners.
I was only an outside observer, but saw this going on for years.
I know for fact that the narcissists I have known were active with men women and even children. They were just sickening people on every level and now they have evil spawns to carry on their evil legacy
Thank you for bringing this subject
Thank you so very much for doing this video. They make you feel crazy. Even after you leave the relationship. It was such brain fookery. Sensitive topic. Saddening to realize, im not crazy, wasnt imagining this stuff, and i picked up and drew the right conclusions. There wasn't anything in this video that wasn't on point and said very well. I couldn't get past this part(topic) until your video. God bless you.
I met a woman who described herself as Androgynous, she didn't care about the sex of the other person. Now a riddle: what entity can transfigure itself, show black eyes of hatred and malice, is envious
or, is a liar, deceitful, loves power, is a sadist, and is ANDROGYNOUS?? Clue two: she is usually represented with bat or dragon wings... or sometimes goat or snake legs???
❤❤ DANISH, I'M SO BLESSED TO OF FOUND YOU 4 YEARS AGO. YOU HAVE GIVEN ME MY NAME BACK. YOUR THE BEST 😊😊😊
This is a fact. Many coverts have LGB hook up apps on their phone.
Which is one of the reasons why bisexuality has always been extremely off-putting to me, it come off as highly selfish and narcissistic and it just feels very unsettling, I had this conversation before with someone who was trying to convince me it was ok and I told them absolutely not that is a hard no for me, I would never date a bisexual person, and typically they had a huge fit and bombarded me with insults calling me homophobic bigot etc, it might hurt some people's feelings but I have a right to my feelings and opinion and I have a right to date who I want and to try to Villainize me or anyone else who has those limits is Narcissistic, I'm glad I followed my instincts on that.
Well there is nothing wrong with bi sexual people, what is worrying is if it’s just for sexual hit cos there is a sex addiction going on!!!
@darkthrone7201 What people don't realize is that everytime someone sleeps with a person they actually join their souls together. Then they leave a little piece of themselves behind and join with another person and leave a bit behind there too. Soul ties haunt people for years. It's a very serious thing so while you may not know exactly why you think that way you are right.
You are absolutely Right
If You Don't Want To Accept a bi- partner it's up to you. Less to Worry about
You absolutely do have a right to your feelings. But you also need to understand why you get those feelings in the first place and what they actually mean. That's your right and also your responsibility. There is a reason why you feel uncomfortable with bisexuality and I don't look at it as homophobia. Some wokes might go straight to homophobia. But too many wokes just cannot read between the lines and see the context. The virtue signalling ones will prefer to establish and call out bigotry. Bollocks to them!
Nevertheless it's not enough to say that you just feel uncomfortable with bi men, you have to know the reason for whay you feel this if you wish to validate the feeling. I don't know your reasoning, but there are a couple of very common reasons for why some people take issue with bisexual partners. They cannot feel assured that the partner won't leave them for a friend of the same sex. Normally this fear is also the reasonn for people who insist you cannot be friends with people of the opposite sex. It's a simpe fear of being abandoned which was probably learnt after a personal bad experience, but there's no reason to bring that fear and mistrust into a new relationship with an innocent partner, unless you always date the same kinds of guy with the same tendency for cheating.
The other popular reason is due to personal feelings on gender and stereotypes, including the relationship dynamic that you have a preference to i.e. dom vs sub. I know some women who want their men to be men, by that I mean dominant and assertive and maybe also alpha. So then the image they get of their big strong man suddenly wearing leather chaps and bent over a table and being fucked by an even bigger stronger man completely shatters their fantasy and they cannot continue. It's not that dissimilar to the Madonna Whore complex that some men experience once their wives give birth to their child and suddenly they are unable to think of their wife/girlfriend as a sexual being that likes to be fucked. They are too divine to fuck, and can only "make love". These are two particularly common conditions, but they are conditioned into us by society, our family and friends and influencers, our culture, Disney movies etc. We can uncondition our minds if we want.
P.s. if you and a bisexual partner enter into a monogamous relationship, then regardless of their bisexuality, they will honour the commitment they have made to monogamy. If not then they weren't the right match to begin with.
Mine was a very accomplished man. He was also handsome. All people were drawn to him whatever he did, he did well, people were in awe of him. He never bragged, he didn't have to. It took me years after the divorce to realize he was homosexual. How stupid could I have been?
Thank you Danish.
I appreciate your frankness, we need to hear it. You have been a great support to me, I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to get your invaluable information.
Yes, experienced it first hand for 15 long years
This is a facet of narcissism that few people know about or talk about. So many people asked me if my ex was gay. At the time this upset me, but now I understand that he would’ve done a doughnut. Anyone who gave him more than five minutes of attention was a sex object to him, including little girls, little boys, older women, men, anyone. Once we understand this, it actually makes things better because it helps us understand that the emotional and sexual dysfunction in our relationships had nothing to do with us. Sam Vaknin has some fascinating talks about this on his channel speaking to the fact that the Narcissist has no true sexuality so they use sex as a weapon to get supply and to hurt their partners. He is of the belief that the true narcissist is, in fact, asexual.
Spot on danish! My ex became a lesbian to triangulate me, her new supply is agreeable and has become a pawn in this sick game!!!
I know my cousin married a guy- had three children, and he always dressed so perfect and acted like he was totally in love with her, but he took great care of his appearance more than she did and then one day he just came out and said I’m coming out of the closet this is my lover and Didn’t care about her feelings at all
I have good discernment and I know of two guys that are obviously very gay and their wives are oblivious to it. They’re just using them as what they call a beard which is a shield because they’re afraid to come out to their families so they’re just probably bringing home STDs to their wives. I don’t understand how the wives can’t see it though .
New hairstyle 👌 Danish
This is what happened to me. This is why he married me, to cover up his desire to be with men, and I didn't not find it out until years later, but I think his family knew all along what I was marrying... Nasty work..
Correct 💯%
Everyone except psychopaths is a living being who deserves love. It makes me angry that narcissists can’t offer anything especially love. They’re all over the place with their orientation. When they sleep with you they’re aroused by the thought that their appearance turns you on. They’re empty and vi!e in every way.
My ex husband once said "you're lucky I'm still sexually attracted to you" 😢😢. I calmly reslonded: "You know it's not a favour, right?" and he was in such shock,up until today I still don't know why he was that shocked.
I believe this so much because of personal experience . After the break up the narc confessed to me “do you want to know how I was about to get $1,500 to move out?” “I went in dates for money “ he’s not attractive at all, doesn’t have charisma, doesn’t have the height or appearance for women to pay him for dates. I believe he engaged in men relationship.
Thank you for being so direct .
News flash. They don't look the way they did either. I guess the mirror doesn't work for them. Wouldn't speak it if I hadn't lived it. When they start to insist you watch phonography and then tell you how you're supposed to feel about it and how you're supposed to visualize it. That's huge red flag. Not talking about couples that incorporate it together. Whenever someone starts to tell you how are supposed to feel, then there's something really wrong.
Time after time I have experienced this. Now I have facts that match my own findings. Thanks
My story word to word. And boy, till to date I am in denial
ALSO I learned that if u are ensnared in the web of a narc ("relationship"). That means to them that u are what they Use when and If they can't find someone to boink. So basically their back-up boink
This was a great video man thanks alot tn for this really helped me bounce back in faith on how to forgive for myself and not take everything so personally even if i do
Thanks Danish. It's my late aunt who talked all the time about rapes and sex and what "those filthy men" could do with me if I were not cautious all the time when I was just a little child. When I grew up she fantasized about my breast like it's not big enough and like I should eat more, otherwise purportedly nobody will ever marry me. I felt awkward like she herself was using my body for her fantasies but I was brainwashed that she was a "saint", gave up all her private life for me, though nobody asked her, and on the contrary I just felt her slave and doll. Then she bought me sexual underwear, especially transparent bras like it was such a fashion at that time. I didn't even know what to think or say! And when I was going to marry soon my first psychopathic husband just to escape her grip on me and deal with a "real man" as I thought him, she started telling me that she saw us after rain and as if my nipples in the transparent bras were more distinguishable under my thick t-shirt though it was all nonsense, and she started to moan. I was terrified what's going on and she just told me that she showed me what my fiance as if were doing looking at my bust. It was one on the most disgusting moments of my life. And she pretended to be a straight "normal woman" who just chose not to have any private life and dedicate herself to her sister's daughter as she couldn't have children of her own...
Sorry, just effing EWW. My mother also exploited me. 😢
This is exactly what I had to deal with. Closeted homosexual ‘alpha male’ narcissist who tried to groom me.
I shut it down real quick and swiftly ghosted him. Very creepy.
Isn't this a symptom of the modern world nowadays though? This trend towards easy-come-easy-go, constant supply of multiple sexual encounters? I've always noticed that people who are sexually promiscuous have a problem with bonding. They just need to constantly "score" to feel desirable.
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My parents showed me a picture in which he looked like a homosexual. I REFUSED TO BELIEVE IT. I went breathless. Then, towards the course of my stay, he used to squirm like woman. His smile and the way eyes went big was like a woman. SINCE I had a macho image of him, I thought he was being ultra sensitive, to make me feel safe. He will giggle like a woman and remain coy to be alluring. Let m rest. This is the first time I am saying this aloud. 20 years back his friends alluded to the fact that he was gay when he asked them to talk to me. They could tell he was not interested in me himself and that didn't motivate them to talk to me so they said he was never attracted to woman and would never get excited by woman how did he propose to u. His mother came to rescue , let me correct myself, his mother protected her daughter's and granddaughters survival by saying he is a family type guy who won't go gaga over woman
You are spot on Danish
I totally agree because i experienced this with my X narcissistic husband
Mine was always with male friends. They were straight. He was so feminine always hiding behind them. He used to sweat like a pig when i am around out of nervousness. His cousin clarifies by saying he is afraid of ingrained attitudes as he came from a poor family and I am from influential when in reality it was his sexual preference. He chose me because people from influential class protect vulnerable people
I had only couple of girls as friends. They are professionals who know to talk decently without coming onto people. They know to talk well without showing interest. He used to run and hide when they visited. He hated the presence of woman. I thought it was one of those isolation tactics.
Yep , I think you have a point .
Straight to the point 👍
Thanks for this information
You are the only specialist that has addressed this and I have some answers for you. I'm an experienced in narcissists 😊from birth and was married to one for 26 yrs. The watching you have sex with another while he watches...well that one is so they have one over you. So that they can tell your kids or church friends what you did. Luckily I did not engage in that one. And this same narcissistic man would 😅say..your not gay unless you kiss him. He talked about and was obsessed with the gay male couples that came into our bed store and during this time seemed to work many hours more and would not answer his phone during after hours when not home. He gave me sexually trans disease then called me names. I did not ever cheat on him so i was 100% sure was not me. He made me live his lie, gaslighting me telling me im mental and need medication. Their minds are warped and controlled by Satan! Thats the truth..pure Goofery, cleary one must be leary! ❤
Brother Danish please share your knowledge about a Narc being secretly involved in incest fantasies and activities
yes, my narc is bi. He also has elderly, retired woman "friends"
Hi 👋. I was wondering if anyone else had experienced the whole older ladies thing. There were so many of them. Always the same excuses, they needed help in the house, garden,with shopping. I think I always knew what was going on, but I didn't want to admit it .I hope you're feeling better now. 🙏🏴
@elainesmith1200 when he was working in their town he was staying with them in their homes, so had free hotel and food...He said- they are treating me like family... 😂
@@MoniaLisa22 yes,my ex said that too."family " indeed, lol.while his actual family was sitting at home worried and upset.
@@MoniaLisa22yup !
This shit is wild because my brain is your half sister! I have thought about this so many times! It’s all true!
My daughter seemed to enjoy telling me about her sex life, which always made me cringe. She sent me a picture of her at the bottom of the Grand canyon wearing nothing but a life jacket and told me that she had been with some of the guys from this group trip but not the one that paid her way. Another time she told me she had a 3 way and was paid $1000, and that when she was a paddle board guide she was with most of the other guides, sleeping in several different tents over the summer. She also said she was having violent sex with one of her ex's who is a competitive gymnast. I have gone no contact with her recently
I can relate. Save yourself 😔
😢my narc is a vulnerable covert narc. He's violently angry. He turned on me and the mask slipped when I caught his severe porn addiction. He likes being pegged... I've wondered if he's been cheating, odd location data. Abusive asshole (pun not intended) absolutely cannot care any less about how much he's damaged me.
I'm so broken. And yes, I've been concerned about CP and also hidden homosexuality.
I have had these thoughts for many years. He liked to do strange things. 0:02 4 months ago I left my husband of 32 years. He has someone in a city more than an hour away and I have had the nagging feeling that it is a man. I could be wrong but he is having a sexual relationship with someone there. This is spot on. Thank you
Oh wow this makes so much sense! The number of times he told me he was an alpha male. He has one gay friend and he told me over and over this man had a crush on him and he would flirt with this man all the time but then behind his back he would use gay slurs about his friend.
Then he would tell me I was lesbian and that was why he didn’t want to have s* x with me. When I would tell him I wasn’t interested in women he would tell me I wasn’t facing facts about myself. Projection!?!
Thank you Danish. I so appreciate you !