SOCIAL ANXIETY EXPLAINED: therapy
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1:23 *your therapist AND your psychiatrist will decide whether you go on meds or not.
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everyone ive ever known who went on benzos if they didnt get off them fast pretty much ended up losing there mind in the long run. And when you do stop your anxiety will be at a all time high like you never imagined
You're so gorgeous and sweet love you kat !
Whoa, we should collaborate!
Hello! I'm from Spain, I talk Spanish but also English and I would like to translate this videos, cause I suffer for social anxiety too and I love your work on this. How can I do it?
Kat, I'm English: trust me, your pronunciation and grammar are incredibly good. In fact, they're better than many English people!
Yep, i'm american and i can confirm that
Yep I'm French I can also confirm that
I’m American je parle un petit peu de français and I can confirm also
I am a Pole and I have to say that in my dreams my English is not so perfect as yours. In fact I understand you. I am a social phobic too (with panic attacks). I remember that when I got an interview in English (now it's my nightmare) it makes me so stress that I forgot very simple words. Well in fact all kind of interview or simple speaking makes me so nervous, so that I forget simple words in my origin language (Polish).
Undoubtedly yes!
I got anxiety even thinking about therapy. The whole thing makes me so afraid..
K8ce I was afraid too, seemed to clinical cold and judgemental to me. It's the opposite though. Remember it's for you not for them so if you don't like your therapist find a better one for you. I've stopped seeing school counselor after 2 sessions because she was really unprofessional and found myself a good expert.
I was aswell. I was 11 when I got diagnosed for severe anxiety disorder and depression. I was referred to counselling and I was surprised how it actually made me feel better. I wasn't forced, I told everyone I wasn't ready yet. So I kept asking myself "Am I ready to help myself get better?" And After some time I said "yes". Do it when you are ready to do so, it's not bad as you think :)
I really wanna go to a therapist, but i wanna be alone. My parents obviously will go. But i wanna do it on my own. I guess i'll wait a couple of years more.
midnight_ cryings same here. Even if I could go alone, I have no way of driving myself because I don't have a license, so I would still need to ask one of my parents to drive me. I just don't want them to be a part of this because they are the cause of it. I don't like saying "they wouldn't understand..." because other people would think otherwise, but they really DON'T understand.
I did too, and I still do to be fair. Trust me, I know exactly how you're feeling, but it could help a lot. I've been struggling with this for years, but 6 weeks ago I finally managed to go for the first time. I still think it's scary going there every time I go, but I keep telling myself it will be worth it in the end. I'm sure you can do it too!
You know when your extrovert friend wants to relate to EVERY thing you say and when you need someone to talk to and tell them you are depressed and they be like "yeah me tooo i havent been out for two days im soo lonely omg"
Sara this is ahhhhh I have an online friend who says “mood” and “same” when I attempt opening up. I’ve given up.
I fucking hate that. That's why i just lie and say im fine and let them continue on talking
completely. I feel like this is my life as for some reason my (very few) friends are all very extroverted. this happened this afternoon to me in fact. whenever I try to open up about feeling depressed or having social anxiety or generally about having a difficult time (which takes a lot of courage to do) she makes an understanding face and talks about how she has a hard time talking to everyone at parties. She, like my other friend I have opened up to, switched my personal feelings completely to her own experiences and ended by saying how she overcame these stressful feelings by simply "trying hard to get out of her comfort zone" which of course feels patronising as hell and makes me feel pathetic like I am just not trying hard enough. I know she means well but to be honest she just isn't listening or trying to actually understand me.
You know when you accidentally get too friendly with someone and talk too much about yourself, then can never face that person again? ...At least, I hope not
I feel that expessially when you realize you never said anything 'wrong' per say but you feel like you've told them too much of your life and now they may hold you accountable in your life and your actions
@@uneven_glue9906 this resonates
Your voice always calms me down when I’m anxious ❤️
I'm always so happy to read these comments. I used to hate my voice, I'm glad it has a calming effect. :)
Kat Napiorkowska But why you never blink your eyes... It's kind of creepy 😅
When I used to blink my eyes people would say I blink too much. Now you say I don’t blink often enough. That proves I might as well do whatever the fuck I want because no matter what, someone will show up and get bothered by something.
Kat Napiorkowska Do what you want... It's was not a criticize...
I really don't know what your problem is. I blink multiple times throughout the video. This is the most ridiculous conversation I've had in a long time. :D
You are really good at English,don’t worry about that.I’m in love with your accent
Thanks! I feel okay when I talk to the camera but during a real life conversation I get a bit panicky. :D
What is her accent? I love it too
I think it’s a strange mix of american and english („british”). :P
Ikr. I even tried to speak with that accent and it's interesting!
@@KatAmarie I honestly thought that you were British :D
I am not going to live with social anxiety for the rest of my life.
"noone can help you, except you" is the most depressing thing I ever heard.
If I could... trust me I would never seek for help. I tried... I'm still trying...just trying.
i’m almost certain i have social anxiety but i haven’t been diagnosed yet, i can relate to every situation that triggers it. but idk why whenever i’m with my friends i feel a bit more self confident and i’m able to do things i wouldn’t have been able to do if i were alone or with family. for example, i went shopping with my friends and i didn’t hesitate at all to ask the employee for my size but when i go alone i never ask. can anyone else relate? is this just me?
yes definitely, i feel that i am a very different person around someone i trust
I can relate so much
Do you have some advice how to tell our parents what social anxiety is? And how to tell them that we wanna go to a psychologist?
This is terrible that my parents call me anti-sosial because I barely go outside. I tried to tell them that I have social anxiety since I was in elementary school. But they instead told me that I just need to go outside more often and make friends :/
Yes. Google science based articles. Show them a list od symptoms. First of all - you need to prove it’s an actual illness, not just shyness. Then, you can show my video about SAD to help them understand what’s it like. And then, explain what CBT is and tell them you think it would help. Keep your talk as serious and science based as it can be.
Kat Napiorkowska thank you so much.. I will try that and hopefully they will understand
I've been through this as well but after I was diagnosed they started believing me... anyways, what I want to say is that people who don't know what it feels like might never understand and we shouldn't blame them or get angry/annoyed with them, we should be glad they haven't experienced these horrible feeling before and still seek help but someplace else (hope this helps)
Same, I don't know what to do, they say that I should talk to others and make friends,and I'm afraid to say them something or show em' your videos about social anxiety,I really think I need therapy,and I don't know how to tell them,what can I do?
PS:your videos taught me so much Kat!
Same! They're like "nooo! you are just a bit shy darling. it'll be fine. you just have to go outside more and talk to people more often!" they don't even take social anxiety seriously. They think it's the same thing as being shy which is totally not true.
Thanks for helping us❤️
The way you look at the camera is so mesmerizing and charming!
I tought u were an English speaker!
Ur English is really perfect!!
your voice is soothing :) and thank you so much again for sharing us this information and insights about social anxiety.
You helped me so much with your videos!! I've always been told, that I have to speak more, be more confident, just have to get of my comfort zone,...and that it gets better then. But it never got better and I thought I have to live with it for the rest of my life. Then I discovered your channel through your short film about social anxiety. You're the reason I decided to do therapie and I'm so incredibly grateful for that! Thank you so, so much!🙏
I am so happy you've been making these videos! It's really good to hear how the whole process has been for you and your perspective of it. Thanks a lot for sharing
this video series is so good, thank you for using your voice and your experiences to educate and help others, I wish I had the same level as confidence as you to talk out about my personal experiences, keep going you’re doing so well ✨
So, so appreciate your series. Thank you.
I am a 22 year old guy and i suffer from social anxiethy since i was 14.
Of course it is ruining my life (even writing this comment is a big thing for me) so i was thinking about go to a therapist to try to improve myself.
But, once again, here it comes.. It’s been a week and i didn’t send the mail because i’m to afraid to fail and to feel like an idiot, so i just tipe “social anxiethy” on RUclips and saw your videos about this topic and finally i found the courage to send the mail to take an appointment .
So thank you to sharing your expirience, it helpes a lot.
I will try my best to make it through 🤞
I am from the uk, who lives in France and was diagnosed with social anxiety by my psychiatrist.
It is so bad, that I cannot go out on my own and even my husband accompanies me to meetings.
I cannot search out for a therapist that suits me, because this is free of charge and I was blessed to get an appointment.
My husband says I understand more French than I think I do, but do the extreme anxiety when the person is talking to me, I cannot understand what he is saying and that is so embarrassing.
Oh boy, I would love to be free of social anxiety and anxiety on its own. It is so shameful that at 49, I am like a child and what you said with the choices of suffering for life with anxiety or going through the pain of therapy made a huge impact on me, but sadly, I am stuck. However, I do have a faith and it is my faith that helps me from not sinking.
i love all of your videos. you are inspiring. please dont stop doing you, kat. all love x
I only recently found your social anxiety videos. I love them so much. Not only do they make me feel like im not alone in this but your voice is very calming as well haha
You speak English so beautifully and so eloquently. I find your voice extremely soothing and these videos are very therapeutic to me. Also, I find these videos so helpful. I'm really grateful that you have taken the time to really break down and explain how social anxiety works in a way that is so relatable and yet so well informed, unlike most other social anxiety video I have seen. I found this episode particularly useful as I have always wondered exactly what therapy for social anxiety entails, this has actually encouraged me to seek therapy for myself. I can't wait for the next one. Thank you so much!
I'm re-watching these videos just to hear you speak. So soothing. So, crisp and clear.
I absolutely love your accent and your voice, it makes me so relaxed. Thank you for explaining social anxiety and how it should really be treated. I have been struggling from social anxiety as long as I can remember. I always thought that I was extremely shy and I would blame myself for it. Now that I'm 18, I felt that something wasn't right and that I needed help. I started going to therapy two months ago and I'm trying to overcome my social anxiety by making small steps. I'm glad to know that what I've had all my life and tried to hide at all costs from everyone because it made me so uncomfortable, finally has a name and it's a real mental issue. I'm not blaming me anymore for being "too shy" and appearing too serious and rude to people, because now I know that I can change that. It's a shame that I have never listened anyone talk about mental issues and how it can affect people.
Greetings from a spanish girl.
I'm really glad that you're doing those videos, they are a great way to teach people about mental health issues and to show all the people struggling with any mental health problem, that they aren't alone, they aren't worse and they deserve all the help they need. -I'm fighting with myself to finally see a psychologist, your videos are giving me some kind of strength and courage, hopefully I'll be able to use it-
I love this series so much. Thankyou for sharing your experience and talking so openly about social anxiety it is really helpful.
Kat, you've encouraged me to start making my list! My goal is to take it to a therapist by this upcoming year to get myself back on track. Thank you
I can’t say how much I appreciate you making this video. I’ve been suffering for so long and haven’t known where to start💕
You have such a calming voice and I love love your accent 😩❤️
Omg your voice is so calming, you definitely should make a podcast 😍
thank you for this video.just wake up in the middle of the night and it's raining and it's a perfect weather to start watching this series again :)
Fantastic videos. Your speaking voice and presentations are so good. Thank you for making these. Wish I could get my friends and family and acquaintances to watch and really focus on these.
I had crippling social anxiety from my early teens to late 20s. Medication and therapy and a desire to break free and enjoy and feel the things that others do are ultimately what helped me get out. The job I ended up at, while extremely stressful for me and still stressful to this day, has been and is good for me overall.
My next biggest challenge to get past, I think, is allowing myself to get close to others. I don't believe you've touched on this yet (forgive me if you have), but for me the biggest challenge is appearance and being confident regarding that. Things like acne, hair style (or lack of one, haha), body type, etc. I'm very self-conscious of that stuff and cannot allow myself to get close to others. Particularly an issue when it comes to dating! In turn, this all leads to negative thought loops and makes me quite depressed. Keeping at it, though, and working on improving these parts of myself.
Looking forward to future videos! Thanks again.
Am loving this series! Please do more
Hello Kat! This video was definetly the best i saw around the theme "social anxiety". Not only this video, the whole series is absolutely the best. It helped me so much and Im finally brave enough to search for a good therapist. Thank you so much.
the quality of these videos are great. perfect blend with the music she picks out, the warm and fuzzy color grade, the room and the way she presents herself and tonality. Very pleasing to watch as well as a bunch of awesome content. keep up the good work Kat.... can we still call you kat?
This soothing voice just makes me so calm, could listen to you all day 🌻
Thank you for your kindness. Thank you for vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you for voicing the wordless.
Thank you so much for this series. These videos gave me enough motivation to go to the therapist, or at least try to go !
I love your videos, thank you for posting them! You're so cool.
YAAASS FINALY! I've waited for ur video
Thanks so much for these series ,helped a lot
13:39
Best part. That's what I always wanted to say.
Thank you for bringing that up, Kat. ☺️
What you're doing with this videos is very important; you're creating awareness for those who are ready to begin to change they're life situation. Identifying the kind of parents one has/have had, is key to understand oneself. Therapy may help us create a strong side of us that would be replacing the lost guidance our parents failed or weren't able to give us in our childhood. But, in my experience, identifying the traumatic moments back then brings true healing, because it transforms the information stored in us, it releases those part of us that got stuck with the totality of us. Those parts take over our lives until we recognize that those parts teach us what needs to be seen in order to be free from those inherited burdens.
It's true the first therapist couldn't help me at all! But the one I have now is really good and it was like the old one didn't really get my real problems. We go back in time, but I still don't know 100% how I developed my social anxiety. Thank you for your videos, it feels so good to know you're not the only one :)
Seriously could just listen to your voice all day and never get bored. Love this vid 💙
Ale ty jesteś kochana, ratujesz ludzkie życia
You've motivated me to seek out therapy for my social anxiety. Thank you. :)
I just found your beautiful channel, I love your explanations! Your voice is calming and your English is wonderful:) I use to go to therapy when the cost was covered.. it's been 4 years or so now. I'm considering if it is worth the money going back and this helped alot. Thank you !
I love your smile, thanks for helping us!
I really appreciate the effort you've put into this.
I LOVE YOURE VOICE SO MUCH
Your voice is so soothing, sometimes I just listen to you when I'm about to sleep
Your videos are really helping me through my work-related anxiety attacks, though I don't have social anxiety (only anxiety). Thank you for everything *
Dear Kat just found your videos not long time ago, and I have to say you got a gift for topic explanation, it still feels your past struggle but that just a benefit for you, and makes better understandable when you adding authenticity, I'm agree 10:20 regarding don't force with self help, understanding it self will cures subconsciously, a year ago I've been diagnosed ASD and coping the way you've described,
Regarding your language many natives can be just jealous 🌟
Thank you
I've finally told my parents that i want to see a professional and I have to thank you because your video was the thing that made me do it. Thank you so much
Nice, I'm gonna ask my dad tonight. I defenitly am nervous but it's better than staying like this forever. I'm only afraid that my classmates in college will find oit because I'm still pretty emberassed about it
Your voice is really absorbing to the story. Thank you for making this precious video! :-)
Jesteś wspaniała :)
Thanks for sharing, very good points made in your video and examples too. the fact this is something many, including myself struggle with, even when getting help from a psychiatrist. Everyone is different and responds differently, there is no 1 size fits all. Would greatly encourage you to do more on this series =)
Your voice is so relaxing. I was so annoyed and angry before I played this video but the moment I heard your voice I was so relaxed. Thank you :)
Continue your work!😘
Your voice is so calming 💕✨
I can't go to therapy because my parents don't want to pay for it.
Yeah well not everyone can afford it. That’s why I’m making this series. To help those who can’t. Will be talking about this in the 4th and 5th video.
Thats fine. At least your parents bother to listen to you. A great majority of us cannot even have this conversation with our parents. I think your parents deserve a high five! And dont worry. I am close to forty, raising kids, own a home, and hmguess what? I cannot afford a therapist either. But make use of the internet and buy yourself a workbook. Consider medication and hang in there.
@@KatAmarie When will the other parts come out?
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@@KatAmarie Well you said that there will be tips for people who cant afford that in the 4th and 5th video.But there isnt any 4th and 5th video
Thank you so much for doing this videos, really really thank you
Omg soo true about other videos on RUclips! Thanks for making these videos
Thanks for the warning. I was about to expose myself in anxiety situations before I watched this thinking I could adapt to the mental stress.
After being able to completely understand and relate to everything you have said about your social anxiety experiences, I’m pretty sure I have social anxiety.
I physically can’t get words out my mouth and I will over plan everything, like little conversations in my head and I’m so so self conscious, that even getting paper from across the classroom freaks me out.
My parents tell me to get over it, they say set yourself targets to talk to people and initiate conversations. I tell them it’s not that easy, I just need professional help and I can’t get it because my parents don’t understand
I know this doesn't help at all because when people reassure me about the things I'm anxious about I never believe them and am still anxious about them, but your english is pretty perfect I love the way you speak!
You might not read this but: When you said "I know some of you can't afford therapy" it made me cry, I want to get diagnosed but my mum probably can't afford a psychologist (and the thought of asking her to book me an appointment with a psychologist absolutely terrifies me) thank you though, I haven't been able to cry in months so it's good to let some emotion out. Your voice is so soothing:) I suspect I have PTSD, General Anxiety Disorder and I don't know what to do (I'm 13) I feel like I grew up suicidal and depressed, I feel like there's no hope I know it'll get better but my patience is running out. I just hope I'm not co-dependant and won't ruin my chances of having romantic relationships in the future. Thank you for making me feel comfortable to share my feelings with you💞💖
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, just know you are not alone!!
As a parent to a 13 year old daughter my self please try talking to your mom. Maybe she can look into assistance for the therapy for you. We as parents only want to help our kids, which is exactly why I’m here.
I’m trying to understand my daughters feelings and don’t know how to help. She doesn’t talk to me but I know she’s going through something and maybe that’s why she doesn’t talk about her feelings ? I desperately want to help her but don’t wanna be too pushy. Any suggestions?
Love your youtube videos! 😍
I wish I had seen this earlier. :( I was always told to just do the things that make me anxious. So I tried a few times. Always ended up in my room not talking to anyone for days, I always felt like it made everything worse, so I stopped. I will look into therapy.
How are you doing nowadays? 🍀
Kat i luv ur videos and u...u are very brave making these videos which im sure can help many people...
HER VOICE IS AMAZING
Thank you that you are ❤
Hi, Shy, Introvert and S.A.D. italian guy here, I think you get this series in the right way. I trying to help me by knowing as much as possible about social skills, with practice social interactions and open more with friends and this help me alot. I'm waiting for your next video, thanks alot. I think I would enjoy to know you because you will understand me, by the way I feel you looks really smart, sensible, sophisticated and beautiful woman! Really attractive to an introvert.
Your voice is soo soothing
Your voice is so nice and calm I love it
Your english is so good! It's a pleasure to listen to you :)
thank you for these videos :)
Thank you so.
You made difference in my life.
Felipe Rafael Motta Cardoso.
Brazil.
Therapies are so expensive here... I went once, then my mother started to complain about the money and now I can't go...
Cześć :)
Bardzo dobry film, każdym kolejnym odrobinę pomagasz.
Oglądałam również twoje filmy o chorobach psychicznych, mocne i piękne.
Ostatnio bardzo cierpię na bezsenność, czy doświadczyłaś jej kiedyś? Z ciekawości szukałam wyjątkowych filmów w tej tematyce, ale nie znalazłam niczego dobrego. Pomyślałam wtedy, że cudownie byłoby zobaczyć film o takiej tematyce w twoim wykonaniu. Taki nocny koszmar. Domyślam się, że stworzenie takiej pracy nie jest łatwe, szybkie i zabawne, ale gdybyś szukała inspiracji na tego typu filmiki, to myślę że ten temat jest genialny :)
These videos are really helping me!!
Thank you so much
Your voice is so relax i love it and also makes me want to sleep, soothing voice 😂😂
I remember watching this video long ago and said I would go to therapy, but it never happened. I keep thinking it's fine, i can live with it, it's not that much. But it is that much, it's ruining my life, it's stopping me from doing everything. I'm starting college in a year and I am already nervous about it now. I should really get a therapist before then.
thank you so much :) and your english is amazing!!
Great trilogy, Kat. Very insightful.
Something about your demeanour and voice is very soothing. This might be a stupid question, given the subject matter, but have you ever thought about public speaking?
I could listen to you talk all day Kat xo.
id love to meet u someday and have a conversation ..ur perspectives & the way u see things r so very interesting
You know what scares me most?
e y e c o n t a c t
Not related to the video but your voice is so calming
luv you!
Are you struggling with constantly thinking about what others think about you? Does it stop you to do things you want to do?
Thank you for your videos. It's so great to know that there are others with similar problems.
I loved, it will help me a lot , thanks
CBT is the usual go to type of therapy but it isn't the only one. After years of CBT on and off I am now undergoing a mix of emotion based/exposure and ACT (acceptance and comitment therapy). Note that I have GAD (Generalized anxiety so a bit more abstrsct than social anxiety)
Totally agree. Although, when I researched this, I've read a bunch of articles over at ncbi nlm nih gov and CBT is pretty much always the go-to in terms of social anxiety.
Also, I went through CBT and I'd like to base this on my experience. :)
This is helping me alot/this is just therapy
Just watching you is the best Therapy
then you may have missunderstood what she said ... =/
My psychologist told me to just put myself out there and expose myself to my fears. It really does not help and he is supposed to be a professional? What should i do?
Change your therapist. Exposing yourself to stressful situations is a part of therapy but it should come with the cognitive part. There’s a lot more to it than just mindlessly going out of your comfort zone.
Are you long in therapy? Mayby think about changing your therapist. Therapists are only humans. Even If they studied the human mind, most of them have their own perspectives on many subjects. Most of them woud recomand mayby the same things and it works for a bunch of people. But if it doesn't work with you you may need to change your stratigy.
@Kat Napiorkowska perfect point !!
Mine said the same thing. And guess what? I stopped going to therapy. At the moment I am practicing visualization. And I am also trying to act a little more outgoing with people I feel more comfortable with. I'm gently pushing my comfort zone, however I am not ready to talk to my boss or have small chat with strangers, and thats okay. I am considering medication, setraline vs cbd? I still haven't decided. In my opinion a psychologist or psychiatrist that says to "go face your fears" is just a moron. Rule #1 stay away from morons. Social anxiety is real and if it was so simple as to face your fears, then obviously we would have done that years ago, we go to therapy because the anxiety is a lot more complicated to overcome.
That’s what my mum always says to me lol
I have severe social anxiety ( diagnosed by my therapist ) and i will say therapy will not cure your anxiety you must be open to changing it yourself. My therapist taught me a number of ways to cope and make it less extreme but the heavy work you must do yourself in your own mind
What's the work?
Any suggestions? How can I help my daughter?