Overcome Social Anxiety | Medication and Therapy Options With Dr. Tracey Marks
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- Опубликовано: 6 июл 2022
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Social anxiety can be paralyzing, you may overthink everything you say or worry that everyone is judging you. Social anxiety can lead to avoidance of important events and social isolation which can lead to other problems in your employment or relationships.
In this video, I've invited Dr. Tracy Marks to share her top tips for dealing with social anxiety. She'll teach you two medication options for treating social anxiety and one powerful therapy option to retrain your brain to manage social anxiety differently - how to use an exposure hierarchy and gradual exposure to get better and better at facing social situations.
Social anxiety doesn't have to be permanently disabling. With these tools you can learn to overcome social anxiety and take your life back.
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I work a suicide prevention hotline. No one calling me can afford therapy so the two recommendations I make to my callers is Therapy in a Nutshell and Dr. Tracey Marks. (Last rec is ACT therapy)
I can’t believe the two of you paired up. I promise you, over here in Kentucky, your free info is actively saving lives! Thank you both.
God bless you for your work. ❤️
God bless you for caring wish I could talk to you but I understand 🤗❤️🙏
". No one calling me can afford therapy so the two recommendations I make to my callers is Therapy in a Nutshell and Dr. Tracey Marks"
And Dr is instructing them to spend money on drugs. How can drugs help?
@@ranc1977 some people are treatment resistant. A prescription may help lower the barrier so the person can start working on these things with a therapist. You may not need a prescription or a therapist but here are the tools they use in therapy to help people.
@@Fiox789 Some people do not want to get better. Some people are misdiagnosed.
We can rationalize drug pusher culture and pharma mafia with any reason, valid or not.
The fact is that social anxiety is broad term and that medical community is making it muddled and making money out of it.
Socially anxious are victims of narcissists in authority.
Social anxiety used to cripple me… I’ve managed to get to a point where I can not only be confident in social settings but also just meet and speak to random people on the street, it’s all a muscle that we need to do the reps with…. Over time it’s gotten easier for me to do this with practice… admittedly after I worked on my inner insecurities
Yes, working on yourself is imperative in this journey. Kudos to you for improving on yourself!
@@nonodlamini thanyou very much!! I appreciate it
As someone currently trying to claw my way out of crippling social anxiety, that is such a relief to hear. You hear so much about 'managing' anxiety, and in my darker moments i think it is not worth it if I'm constantly going to have to fight myself anyway. Thanks for sharing and good job!
@@JackyValentine129 there can definitely be an end… honestly it was awful for me, but I eventually got rid of it, it wasn’t overnight or the easiest task, I had to face a lot of shit head on but it was well worth it 🙏🏽❤️
@@Maxhindle - I used to have all those problems too, I think I was initially just shy, then it turned into panic attacks, and then full blown agoraphobia. One of the things I think may be helpful to others is that if you suffer in this way, most likely you are focusing in on yourself too much.
I don't mean you're a selfish or narcissistic person, to the contrary you're probably a very kind, compassionate person. What I mean is you're in your own head too much. You're constantly analyzing yourself and how you feel and how your thought processes are working and creating mental movies of how things could go wrong, or ruminating on how you said something wrong, etc.
It took me a while to come up with something that really helped me. And basically it was to get out of my head and take all of that energy and perception and turn it outward on the world. One of the observations I've had over the years is that I seriously can't think of one person who I've got to know who isn't defective in some way. Everyone has their own little personality quirk, phobia, mental problem, insecurity, etc. And I do mean everyone! Again, I've NEVER met anyone that once I got to know them I couldn't learn something about them that was damaged or not quite normal. So, just knowing this, can be kind of helpful. When you know the people who seem so confident on the outside, might not be so on the inside it kind of takes the power you think they have over you down a bit- or even a lot. As a matter of fact, some of the people who seem the most confident can be the most messed up on the inside. I look at a room full of executives dressed in their impressive business attire and see a room full of people who are children on the inside, most adults are when you get right down to it.
Once you really understand what I'm talking about above, it can be very empowering and even liberating. Seriously, start to turn all of that inner concentration outward and really watch other people, how they say things, what are their facial expressions, when they talk are they trying to impress, are they deflecting, projecting, just pay attention to it all, body language and so on. Over time you may find that by doing this you've actually managed to overcome your social anxiety, believe it or not, you may be totally comfortable walking into a room full of people. And since you've made it a habit of observing others, you aren't worried about whether you impress them or not - you're just there to observe. The mere fact that you aren't trying to impress and are observing will actually attract people.
What does it mean if you cannot talk to people (besides family) because your mind goes completely blank? You can’t think of a single thing to say. You can barely respond to questions and just answering the questions floods you with stress and you keep your answers very short and then the conversation stops because you’re not holding up your end at all…? And this happens in every setting across the board except when you’re alone with family? Is that social anxiety or something else?
Finally combo of gems together,I genuinely loves both your videos I am a polar warrior and I am fighting with this illness with both of your support.Tons of love and blessings from me and my family.
Omg you two are the therapists that I watch ALL the time to self help my new anxiety at 45 yrs old. I was sooooo excited to see that you two know each other! 🥰🥰 You both help me so very much. I love you guys!!
I'm SO grateful!
I believe that You and Dr. Tracy saved my life when I was in a pit of despair after my career and marriage burned down due to failed spinal surgery and pain med addiction. I'm forever grateful to both of you for providing lifesaving advice to those of us who've lost our incomes and families.
THANK YOU!
2 of my favorites together!!! Yall have helped me SO much, I can't thank yall enough for being so indepth with the knowledge and examples. THANK YOU X A MILLION!!
Top ten crossovers you didn´t know you needed. Jokes aside, I´ve been subscribed to both of you for a while, it makes me happy to see you two collab.
It was a true pleasure! 😊❤️
I really like how she’s direct and doesn’t sugar coat anything
You and Dr Marks are the two mental health experts I always look to on You Tube, so I am excited to see you working together. I appreciate the practical, evidence-based advice that you both give, as well as the caring attitude you both embody
So cool to see you 2 collaborate. I watched both of your channels for some years now and it helped a lot with my generalized anxiety and depression! Also referred your channels to my therapist (here in Romania) and to all my friends. Great job, thank you! And congratulations, Emma! 😊
2 of my FAVORITE mental health advocates in one video…AWESOME💖🙏much love and thank you for all your help and professionalism 👍
Just wanted to say hello Emma and congratulations on your new baby! Blessings to you and your family!
I deal with this a lot, but I'm a bit apprehensive about medication. I don't want to rely on meds, though I know it works for some people. I'm hoping to get therapy soon. Thank you two for delving into these topics and helping guide us through these feelings and metal health issues.
I learn a lot from both of your channels, I was excited to see you two collaborate. I hope to see more collabs in the future. Also, congrats on your baby being born!
Of all the people to fill in for you, the got the Queen. I love Tracey Marks.
Congrats on the little one.
I'm so happy to see them team up
Dr. Marks is amazing. I used to listen to her while trying to do exposure therapy. She explains things so well. I wish she was local to me. Great to see you both together ❤
It’s so wonderful & inspiring to see the village of wise & compassionate souls rallying to support you, while you soak up life with the new baby. 🥰
Wishing all of ya’ll an abundance in blessings in all areas of life, always! 🤗🕯🖤✨
I'm an extrovert and I've been diagnosed with social anxiety by a phycologist. I couldn't believe it at the first place, but when I learned more about this, it becomes more relatable. I have neurological issue before, so no wonder why this happened to me. Anyway thank you for this content!
Ohh,that's astonishing. Even extrovert can have social anxiety!!
I love and follow both these Mental Health QUEENS!!
I LOVE this unexpected crossover, I’ve learned a lot with both of your channels 💕
It’s really nice to see you two collaborating. I learn a lot with both of you ❤️
I'm so happy to see how your channel has grown, Emma!
I watch both of you so I got excited to see you collaborating on this. Congrats on the new baby!
My psychiatrist is causing me anxiety..first he prescribed anti depressants without lab tests first..then the clinic gave me his number so in any case of concerns i can call or message him.he's not answering.now im anxious about my tests results if he already had them.your videos became my savior really.thank you so much!
WOW! The best video I've seen so far about overcoming social anxiety. Thank you ❤️
Love to see two of my favourite mental health professionals collaborating. Yay.
When I saw the thumbnail I had to do a double take, my two favorite doctors in one video. Congrats Emma on your new baby. And Tracey I'm already a big fan of yours too! Thanks for filling in this week.
Gracias! Las sigo a las dos y me encantó saber que se aprecian y respetan💕Congrats to mum & newborn♡♡♡
Two of my favorite therapists yay!
Probably you are the first person to tell, people are even anxious to work through the therapy session since our anxiety in a situation where we want to first temporarily fix it before working on a session..Kudos.. Thank you.
It’s lovely to see a collaboration of two RUclips greats.
Thanks Lewis Psychology! I enjoy being in the space with Emma!
Therapy and medication do take time. Working thru my issues successfully. Thank you.
Two of my favorite content creators working together ❤️❤️😄 Feeling blessed🌸
That’s awesome ❤️
Great to see Dr. Tracy on your channel, can’t wait to read her book! That Fear Ladder tool also seems really helpful
Thanks so much Nono! 🙏🏽
Haven’t watched the video yet, but had to go ahead and like it since I love both of you. Glad to see the team up!
I love this collaboration!!!!
Thank you so much for sharing your content. You are really helping me face a difficult moment in my life. I am seeing a psychotherapist as well but I use
your advice regularly! Bless You!!
I love both of your videos! This is such a great combo xo
the collab I needed
Fantastic! I always thought it would be wonderful to have you and Dr. Tracey Marks collaborate on a topic.
My two favorite RUclips mental health helpers. I suggest both of your videos to my own clients.
I love Dr Tracey Marks. She's amazing and so are you ☺️
Wishing you and your new baby a safe birth and a happy post-natal recovery. ☺️
The ultimate youtube mental health duo! Awesome video 🙏
I LOVE DR.TRACY MARKS...I have been following her for years and she helped me recognise symptoms of PMDD. After that my life has been a hell lot better. I am not crazy person. I love her explanations of various psychiatric disorders symptoms and treatment options. She is cleat and I am always learning from her. Then after a while I meet you, Therapy in a Nutshell... so much positivity and enthusiasm. Love you both.
Thanks so much Nur-e-Dipha so glad to see you here and I’m so glad Emma and I both have been able to help you along your journey
These two together might actually heal l
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Same here. I follow both these two on YT. They are both amazing. Thank you both. I just had to immediately watch this video when I saw both!
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She was very rude to me when I said that CBT doesn't work.
She refused to explain why when I listed my reasons what doesn't work with CBT.
So, it seems to me that doctors who have no tolerance for feedback and then prescribe drugs are not good doctors.
I used to talk to customers 7-8 hours a day in my job. But ever since I got covid in 3/2020 & long covid from that, I have a covid aerosols phobia. I think I have social anxiety when I go out rarely when covid cases are down since I think people I talked to were judging me for wearing a face mask & eye protection when a lot of people aren’t wearing them anymore. I’m looking forward to seeing this video later.
I've watched several therapy in a nutshell videos now, have had mental health problems for over 20 years, have been on various medications and have about 30 self help books from Tony Robbins, Susan Jeffers, Les brown, Wayne dyer. I always learn stuff from these videos, very insightful
I pressed the like button before I even watched the video because I LOVE both of you guys and I already know this is going to be excellent.
Awww wow, my mind is blown! You two are my favourite mental health professional RUclipsrs, both such excellent communicators with kind hearts and generosity of spirit. Thank you for this :)
So what you are saying, you basically do not want to get well.
You enjoy having mental issues?
GOD bless you and your entire family, and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Two of my favorite youtubers!
Wow! I've waited for this collab! 😍
Yay! Adore you both!
Also watching Dr.'s video about social anxiety. Good one!
Now this is the dream team!!!! ❤️❤️
At 11:50 when you said "instead of TRYING to use fear.." I really liked how you used the word trying because it's not like i even knew what i was doing so it's validating instead of being made to feel like it's what i want to do.
My two favorite youtube therapists!
Best to you Emma and your growing family 😊
My 2 favorite people in the same video ❤️❤️ what a fantastic collab
I love your series of videos they have really helped me with dealing with Anxiety and Panic. The one thing I can't find much help on is implementing all these wonderful techniques and schools of though while tapering off of medication. I have learned from experience over the past 30 plus years that medication changes everything. You might tell me to go to my Doctor or Therapist and unfortunately they all say I MUST stay on the Anti-depressant and the Benzodiazepine for the rest of my life. I did my research and I decided to get off the meds on my own since nobody is willing to help me. I CT'd the Anti-depressant with not much of a problem 5 years ago. I have been trying to get off the Benzos via the dry-cut and scale method and the Ashton Manual for 10 years now. I have successful gone down from 30mgs of V to 4.9mgs. Now here's the thing. I have tried some of the exposure therapies that you outline in your videos while tapering and guess what the techniques do NOT work. I use the paradoxical intention I have gone in with a positive attitude and when Acute Anxiety strikes I tell my brain to bare it and increase it and when it's all said and done I am emotional, psychologically and just as importantly Physically wounded. It might take me as much as a month or 2 to get back to where I was. I literally don't want to move for fear that my body will crush me neurologically. I have hit a wall, any advice you could offer would be much appreciated.
My two favorite people in one place.
Definitely getting that book!
Thank you.
thank you for this collab! you both are who i recommend the most to my loved ones who are interested in informative mental health content :)
Thanks so much Ava! 😊❤️
Amazing!!! The Dream Team!!! 2 of my favorites! Thank you both for all the help you give!!! 😊👍
Thanks a lot Asalazlll23! 🙏🏽
This came at the right time since I’m starting out on a new med
Congrats lovely!!
I’m taking propranolol when needed, really helped me!
Thank you Emma for allowing Dr. Marks to share on your channel. I was not aware of her before this and will be checking out her channel as well. I hope you are enjoying your new bundle of joy and getting much needed rest too!
oh shoot my two favorite RUclips therapist together 🔥🔥🔥 Glad i found this!
So cool you two collaborated !
You are both great.
Congratulations Emma enjoy your new baby 🥰🤗❤️
I thought it was just me with these issues I use to think what was wrong with me till I learnt about the term social anxiety it’s comforting to know from comment section that I’m not the only person with these issues
My two faves! 🥰
I always have subscribed to the "run towards fear" philosophy in my own life. For example, I HATE seeing myself on video, but I'm committed myself to filming two videos per week for a year, and I'm almost done, though it terrified me at first.
Omg I can't wait to watch this later. You are my 2 favorite mental health experts on RUclips. ❤️
best collab!!
Noticing other people notice my anxiety kinda helps with my anxiety in a way. When I see their eyes move to my anxious behaviors like foot tapping or lip biting, I all of a sudden am able to realize that I’m being anxious and call it out. And in turn work through it.
That is not social anxiety.
Social anxiety is fear of criticism and negative evaluation.
This means, it is part of triggers and flashbacks from the original trauma - being in situation where you cannot leave and you are being criticized and invalidated and being exposed to narcissistic abuse.
Social anxiety is fear of being screamed at, yelled at, fear of other person's mood swings, their temper tantrums, their relentless criticism of your natural mistakes, flaws and ignorance - where they demand perfection from you.
Shyness is being preoccupied how you are dressed and how you appear.
@@ranc1977 cool. Experienced that as well
@@17Knasty It's more than experience.
It is internalized inside you.
You live everyday afraid someone will yell and scream at you. For your mistakes, for you existing.
That is social anxiety.
it is complex PTSD
Ah, my favorites collaborate!
Wonderful crossover
Great video. I take St. John's wort now, weaned myself off Prozac. I had no access to a new prescription and this was 2019. I allowed 9 months for weaning myself off Prozac. Took SJW all that time, to get used to it. My therapist quit the clinic in 2019...
I struggle with social anxiety today however I don’t struggle with the small steps up to 8 is when I do approaching a group setting. I talked to my counselor about this and she said maybe your socializing with the wrong ppl. Bars, clubs and negative ppl you don’t want to associate with anymore. Maybe just changing your circle is what is needed. Hopefully this helps someone bc I started to believe my anxiety would never change. I am interested in taking something to help bc I’m now terrified to tried new things and meet new ppl due to the ones I use to surround myself with. Anyone else struggle with this?
My social anxiety is so major that i feel anxious in a alone room now because of lots of rejection formed in past events. I think i will try these steps. I hope it will help.
I blush severely, but I have to say that the biggest way that social anxiety has affected me is my inability to drive. I was so nervous during my driving test that I failed twice, it also didn't help that my driving teacher told me that in his 20+ years of teaching teens to drive I was the first to fail, much less twice. I finally did pass on the third try but I considered those experiences so traumatic, that I never drove again. I keep remembering how humiliating it was to arrive back at the testing site with a bunch of teenagers standing there watching me get told that I didn't pass...twice. The deafening silence on my way back home with my dad being so disappointed in me. I'm now in my 30s and I live in a place where a car is a necessity so unfortunately my father drives me everywhere. But he won't last me my whole life so I need to get over this fear.
Hi, my daughter is 18 and she is highly sensitive and anxious. Every time she came back from driving lesson, she cried and refuse to take lesson again . She gives various reasons like the teacher talking on the phone constantly ,not paying enough attention, shouting and many more.but then I decided to teach her as i know that she has basic driving skills. I started teaching her with my old car in afternoon times on the intrernal streets for 15 or so days then after being confident to drive in. Street i take her on internal roads explaining each and every small points then roads with little more traffic and so on .an on her test day as she was very anxious about the result me and my husband told her that she has to go to test to get basic idea how the test happens to make her comfortable. Long story short now she is going short distance by herself. So i know if she can definitely can .mantra is when you practice on same road until become full confident for that road .then move forward. All the Best
Damn man sorry to hear this driving is not that bad once you start doing it been driving since 2009 it took I guess a couple of months and bam I was comfortable
Do you have an episode on ocd? Or can you please do one, even you can?Congrats on your new bundle of joy😊
Hello Dr.Marks, your video was very interesting. I was wondering what is the daily maximum dose of escitalopram for general anxiety. In french they called this TAG (trouble d'anxiété généralisé). Thank you for your video, I am happy that you are part of therapy in a nut shell. I will surely watch your next videos. Have a great week-end 🌻
Sometimes I wonder why I have to struggle to teach myself these things like a toddler learning to walk while it comes so naturally to other people. I’m so tired of living in the shadows.
Omg I watched both videos abs now yiy two have video toghter 😍😍🥰🥰🥰
Great video. I’ve been using propanolol for almost five years now. I only use them when i have to do a presentation or talk in a larger group of co-workers (probably 8+ people). This means once or twice a week, sometimes 40mg, 20 or 10 depending on how I feel about the meeting. It works but it also makes me feel worse about myself, that i need to take a pil, to get through. Without it, however it’s nerve wrecking and I’m just not thinking straight. I’ve been to several therapists but the anxiety is still there. Main thought is that I will fail, that I blackout (really happened twice), and because of that I will lose my job. What can I do to overcome this?
Social anxiety cripples me still lol
Hello - interesting video and content on Social Anxiety - it's good to hear the various treatment options, as this will help many people! There is help for those with Social Anxiety - hopefully, your video will prompt those struggling with social anxiety to seek help!
Hello Emma, your videos are soooo helpful for me I want to thank you for what you doin 💗 could you make video about toilet anxiety? I think many ppl struggles with it
Hello Emma! I’ve been going through a rough time lately but your videos have truly helped. I started therapy and I’m doing better but I’m currently still struggling with existential thoughts & was wondering if you can make a video on it? Sometimes I feel like I’m not real or that the moment is happening too fast, I kind of feel lost even though I know I will be okay. This almost always happens when I’m anxious or sometimes when I’m alone. It would be really helpful if you can make a video or reply to this comment! much love to you and your little one 💕
sorry for the spam! I commented on your last video as well 🥲
Propranolol is a god sent. It helped me soo much.
My doctor has me on seroquel for my social anxiety and mood. I don’t feel like it’s the best option for me it doesn’t help me feel more confident but it does greatly reduces my negative thoughts
For some of us there's no way to overcome anxiety, it just a never-ending struggle
Nothing is impossible
As someone who suffers from social anxiety I think I have a different perspective altogether. I often find people agenda driven, self centred and unpredictable and I just don’t want to be around these kind of people for long for that reason. My anxiety is simply a natural reaction to dealing with these types of people. I just can’t relate to these type of toxic people and try to avoid them. You suggested it is me who has the problem where I feel the issue is with most people in general and my unwillingness to interact with them as a result. I don’t have a disorder that needs medication I simply need to be around people who are not toxic which sadly is a small minority of the population. My anxiety is merely a symptom of being around these types of people. Your description is victim blaming.
I was unfortunately put on lorazapam alongside a antidepressant only meant to be for 2-4 weeks 9 weeks in still on them they frighten me. I tried propranolol but made me feel odd. I recently tried coming off my current meds as they weren't working and higher dose made me more agitated. As I was coming off the AD slowly my body reacted badly. Psychiatrist has now put me on Sertraline 50mg but as my anxiety is so bad he has recommended take 0.5mg three times a,day worried about addiction how do you eventually get off them. I feel now I was given an unnecessary drug in my need of help. It was because I was hospitalised for a breakdown
Anxiety is not natural. When someone is nasty, they are only acting according to their limited knowledge and capability. There is no need to blame or judge them, a rude person is basically confessing that they have a mental disability. So there is no need for you to be affected, if anything you should be happy that you are not toxic. Don't put a rude person in control of your emotions, that makes you their slave. As the toxic person is really a victim of his lack of proper upbringing, there is no need to hate or be angry with them - if anything they deserve pity and compassion for their condition.
"Your description is victim blaming."
Yesss!
I confronted her on another video about it and she refused to even consider to listen people who have social anxiety.
This means she does not care about survivors of trauma, she only want to sell her products and CBT therapy which is based on lobotomy.
There are many origins of SA. I noticed I have it in kindergarten, where children started bully me. I am also very sensitive for a man. I felt that other people are the problem and they are. I can't have friends because everyone I meet eventually show signs of toxic behavior. If you feel you are different, you probably are and there is nothing wrong with you. I made my personal mission to speak with them and show them that their behavior can be hurtful. For example every time someone at work jokingly talk about stereotypes or hurtful things, I tell them that it's not true or not nice to say that about people. Many of them have low self-esteem and use it as their defense mechanism and a way to fit in the group. When I started to read about psychology, it helped me understand others motivations. But if you feel that you hate others, it's ok, you can function alone and don't need to like others and them like you, so fuck them :)
@@saladine check out Sadhguru a yogi on RUclips. He says we create our own anxiety. No matter what anyone says, they're only word's, often stupid words - so why let dumb words control you? It's your choice how you react. Don't put a bully in control of how you feel, that makes you their slave. Don't hate bullies as they can't help it, instead pity them as they are usually insecure and immature. When someone is nasty, just be glad that you are not like this - and don't act like them, by being angry and saying fuck them. Happiness is your responsibility don't blame your anxiety on others.
i suffer from mild social anxiety i am okay in the group of people surely by saying Mild SAD it doesnt mean im confident enough to perform on the stage or having a face to face meeting with a person of authority i can say my SAD have allowed me to perform a basic function in life for sure it has stoped me to use my full potential and all the oppertunited i had in my life to avail them but I managed to come on terms with it but my worry is more i age its getting intense now due to my SAD i have very limited freinds and the final blow my SAD is creeping up among my best freind and one of my sibling the feeling is debilitating I have refused on medication but I have decided to go on meds so hoping for the best
Guys practice makes perfect