i was so disappointed when i saw that this was played by an actor :( but then i remembered that a person with social anxiety would never agree to be filmed during such a vulnerable moment.
@@iwastubed96 I think they meant it’s not scripted in the sense that the conversation flows more naturally. But she doesn’t have social anxiety and this isn’t a real session.
I hate to have social anxiety. I lose opportunities because I’m too scared to take risks. I’m scare ALL the time if there’s people watching, because I feel like they are judging me. I can’t walk normal in public, I feel that I need to walk some type of way, that all the eyes are on me, and not in a cocky way. I only have three closest friends, and I don’t like to spend a lot of time with other people. I don’t like big groups of people, I don’t feel comfortable. I get nervous when I have to talk in public, my heartbeat raises, my palms get sweaty, I feel like I’m gonna pass out. When I was getting into an online class the teacher asked me something and I knew the answer, but I was too scared to say it and for it to turn out wrong so what I did was to disconnected from the meeting, and later I gave the excuse that my internet failed. I’m not shy, I don’t consider myself shy, but I’m a nervous girl. I don’t want to talk about it with other people because, again, I would feel judge. Because I think they are going to say something like :” it’s okay, don’t be dramatic.” Or “this is normal” but I know me, and this is not “normal” because I feel this way always, I live with fear and I always try not to show it. Hope someone else can relate.
I see what you mean , it´s the exact same with me it´s like no matter where I am there is always that feeling that someone is watching and judging me and when I finally told a person about my Social anxiety disorder they just disregarded it and said that it was "normal" that made me so angry bc being able to speak about it after 3 years of having it and living with it , was really hard in the first place.
I have social anxiety too, i just found out after 30 years of living, im just trying to get outside of my body and concentrate in the objects and people around one by one, stay on them so my mind dont come back to me and start judging
I literally felt like no one understood me for years until I realized what I was living with and dealing with everyday, was a real thing. I felt judged for years sometimes it was so hard I wouldn’t leave my house for weeks. I’ll never forget all the times I would sit in the Walmart parking lot trying to summon the courage to go in and get something I need.. only to sit anxiously in my car for 30 mins and then drive back home. Social anxiety isn’t just being nervous before public events. It’s overthinking every little thing you do in every social interacting Every little conversation you had and what you said and how you said. It’s a battle within your mind every single day that leave you feeling mentally drained
Beautifully said, I know the feeling had to drop out of college because I was to afraid to go to the lectures and tutorials, always felt like I was being watched and people were talking behind my back, ended up spending alot of time in college in my room afraid to talk to anyone
After watching this video, I realized that people don't notice my anxiety that much. Today was my presentation. I was afraid. My heart was racing, but then, I told myself that people can't see the red face and the nervousness when I speak. To confirm this, I recorded my voice 4-5 times to see how my voice sound like when I am anxious. I did so good. Thank you so much!
This thing is so fucking bad it started to happen with no reason, I feel so hopeless, I feel like I'm not in control of my body at those times and I feel like there is no cure, like this is a part of me.
One thing I've realised is that people with social anxiety are very nice, caring, good hearted people and I'd rather know them then some other big headed, loud mouthed people.
I've been considering CBT therapy for social anxiety. Let me preface this by saying that I think social anxiety can totally be improved and worked on and you can really turn things around if you put the work in. It can get better. I think a major trap a lot of people with social anxiety fall into is that they settle for less. They spend all of their time and energy on just getting by. They force themselves to do just enough to survive and for their loved ones to think they're doing okay or at least okay enough (they force themselves to do just enough to be able to pay the bills, do the shopping, and make necessary calls, but there's no energy left for things like meeting new people with similar hobbies, or dating, or going for that job interview). Just doing what you have to do to survive is so EXHAUSTING. It really blows my mind to think about the idea that most people don't think twice about these things. And they aren't miserable the whole time they're doing them. Getting through the day can feel like you're going to battle and possibly to your death. Every day. Sometimes I think, 'Is it supposed to be this HARD?' It really wears you down, but you're so focused on just getting through the moment that you don't realize how tired you are. And then one day ten years has passed and you realize you've spent a decade putting all of your energy into just getting by. Energy that could have gone toward bigger dreams and more fun and feelings that actually feel good. That's really sad and I guess not how life is supposed to be. I guess my point is that I think therapy would probably help a lot, but a lot of people with social anxiety may not consider it because they've been getting by. But life isn't supposed to be miserable the whole time.
CBT is a great tool but there is a simpler solution, just through a better understanding of how the "social anxiety" feeling is created within your own mind, and how your reaction to it is often worse than the feeling itself. I overcame it through this understanding. Happy to converse more about it, if you're curious :)
Lots of truth there, Viva. I have suffered from social anxiety for decades, and other anxiety issues, which have cost me friends, jobs, and two marriages. Thank you for taking the time to write how much it can ruin your life, it might help some to understand.
I have social anxiety disorder, and I hate it! I got promoted in my job and in my new position I have to speak in public and give meetings and the thought of it freaks me out, with my new schedule I have the opportunity to go to college and I had the option of doing it online and I decided to go on campus, now I’ve never been to college so I’m terrified, but I have to fight this ! I’m gonna beat it and it will not control my life anymore!
Hey. I hope you are doing well. Glad to hear that you are fighting well and getting promotions. Don’t worry i know you will rock. But if you need anybody to talk about it do let me know. Stay blessed
Maybe the problem is, everyone is so fake and it feels so forced trying to have conversations with random people that it does make you feel uncomfortable because it’s just not how you role. Some people are born into this world as fake ass MF, others are just real to the core, hard for other to be fake when a real person enters the room, maybe that’s the reason you feel awkward because people have to take their masks off. Keep being you, surround yourself with understanding people and be proud of who you are. So long as you are trying to be the best you can be each day, that’s all you can do. Don’t beat yourself up about your past, live in the moment, learn to die while you are still alive so you can truly live without the fear of death, then you can start to become fearless. Stay strong
i wouldn't say thats the main reason i and many other suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder. i struggle to talk and maintain eye contact even with people that are as real as it gets and have hearts of gold. of course its easier to talk with these people because you both get each other.
It certainly has to do with chemical imbalance that can't easily be controlled, but more minor cases are likelier to benefit from conscious behavioral changes, though not a cure.
@@abstrusepaladin Not proof of a chemical imbalance, you can’t do a test on the brain to prove a chemical imbalance. It’s more likely to be from trauma and social conditioning not don’t correctly
I've had social anxiety my whole life, it's gotten to the point where I can't go to school and talk in front of my classmates, my parents have no idea what's going on, I try my best to hide it, but when it happens I get extremely red, I shake like crazy, I start crying and I can't stop myself. It's really embarrassing and I'd give anything to make it stop. However, in this video it's different when she talks with one person and it's rehearsed, she tried to control herself and they had been talking for a while before so she probably started feeling safe talking with her at least a little. If she was in a group of people or one person, it doesn't matter, I think she would have really had those symptoms, but only if it was more natural so the mind could really think it's in danger (fff response as you all probably know happens).
I’m dealing with the same thing. I hurts to think that teens of my age go to school to communicate and learn and have fun.. however . How are you now? I hope you found your way to reassurance....
It's funny how the psychologist was suggesting that the girl's anxious bodily sensations weren't as obvious to others as she thought and that's its all just in her head, but for me mine is obvious because when you hear people say to you "Hey, are you okay?" after you turned really red, or "are you nervous?" after you try to make conversation, then you resort to just keeping to yourself so you don't have to feel like you're fuckin weird in every social situation, and even with that you can't win because they say to you "you're too quiet".... Then you just get tired of even trying anymore...
Exaaactly, I’ve had way too many people point out the redness (can’t really blame them, I literally got nicknamed Timato by my friends because of how red my face would get). It makes it so much worse then too when people mention it. Working register at a really busy fast food place ruined me with my social anxiety.
I’ve had so many people point out how quiet and anxious/shy that I seem and even someone told me “it’s noticeable somethings wrong with me.” That really hurt my feelings lol cause I can’t help it.
I've had social anxiety for years, now I'm 25 and still in the same situation, I feel useless and stuck in my thoughts all the time, don't have any friends and family doesn't really understand social anxiety and says I will get over it if I just try. My life is just going in circles and the years are going by and I'm just stuck in the same place. Feeling like this just sucks and I don't know what to do.
Check out Bob Proctor born rich seminar here on youtube. It's about 8 hrs long but he will explain to you how the mind works and why you feel how you feel and how to change it to be the person you always wanted to be.
This was really good. I have SAD & could relate to the patient especially her memories of school. I would freak out when the teacher would tell us to get into groups & I had no one to join. You have the most soothing voice!
Many thanks, been searching for "get over social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my partner got cool results with it.
Honestly I'd freak out every classroom I walked in. As a comfort thing I rest my chin on my hand but it got the point where I couldn't move that hand away without panicking. I remember we had to sit in silence and the teacher told us to write an essay or something but I couldn't even bring myself to take the lid off of my pen. I just sat there and when she asked me why I wasn't doing it I went into cold sweats. It's truly awful. The only thing that keeps me going is music and the outdoors. I find performing music live I'm absolutely fine I just can't do social situations without going into an overload
Shouldn't this be made with a real victim of social anxiety. It just feels more relatable and soothing to see a real person in the same situation, rather than an actor. I just related to her for a minute, and then realizing she is an actor from reading the comments, felt kinda lonely again..
It's based off real situations, it's very close to a real life session. A real person suffering from anxiety may find it difficult having their session recorded and being put on youtube for others to watch :) But I do understand what you are saying :)
LOL Think about your comment-Shouldn't this be made with a real victim of social anxiety.----Do you think a victim suffering from this would want their session posted???????
Too many people have laughed at me when I shake. It is impossible for them to understand when such a simple situation can make me shake. I have developed so many strategies to hide my disorder.
When being asked a question by a teacher, my mind sometimes go blank (even being asked about my own name and basic knowledge). So I seem like I don’t know the answer to it or I’m just dumb. But no. It’s because of this :(
My god, now i can see how people might be seing me, and why they instantly get uncomfortable, and how i must change my body language. thank you so much
I'm 58 now and only found out I suffered from this about 10 years ago so I have been suffering all my life just thinking I was shy. It wasn't until I got a job and had to use the phone occasionally that I decided to do some research online about that particular issue. Whilst researching I came across Social Anxiety issues and a list to see if you suffered from any of the symptoms and I ticked most of the boxes. I could have cried when I realised thst I had this condition and that there was a name for it and there were thousands just like me.
Thanks for sharing. In my own way I can relate...raised from a traditional culture...social anxiety doesn’t exist it’s simply shyness or personality. It was tough having the same anxious symptoms and not knowing what was wrong with me. Emotionally painful years in the past.
Did you manage to get out of this situation? Because I'm looking for people who successfully got out of social anxiety to ask them about their experience, like if they went to a clinic, in how much time they "cured" it etc...
@@athy_dostoy hi, I don't think it's something that ever leaves you but I have gotten a lot better as I gave got older and since I found out I have it I push myself out of my comfort zone and the more you do it the easier it gets, seriously, you have to push yourself. As an example, because I have no choice but to use the telephone now I find it fairly easy to make and answer calls. Another thing that seems to have helped me enormously is telling people I suffer from it if I get the opportunity and you'll be amazed when you open up a bit how many people are just like you but they don't realise they have it either. My HR Manager at work suffers from it too but you wouldn't know, it's only because I told her about it that she opened up to me. Be brave, it won't hurt you and when you do something you wouldn't normally do give yourself a pat on the back and do it again and again until it starts to get easier. Good luck.
@@lusiscus Thanks you so much for the advice, I'll try to go out and socialize more (gradually of course). It is true, being honest with people is the best solution!
I'm 54 and after having gotten out of a 20 year "friendzoning" on new years eve, had decided to try improve myself to not fall into a shitty relationship ever again. Tonight after having fallen into bad depression, considered calling the cops on myself because I started feeling suicidal. After a half hour of feeling hollow and despair I calmed enough to get on here by searching loneliness, depression and anxiety, hoping for answers why I am like this. 2 videos and I understand there's a name for what I am. I'd already started in the right direction by deciding to get out there out of my comfort zone and meet new and different people. Now I can ask a doctor who to see about it. I can remember wishing I was anybody but me way back in upper primary school, only getting worse in high school. I've always stewed on things and overthought, self doubting etc. Feel like a major revelation has just taken place and a great load has started lifting off me. Feeling somewhat positive especially after reading many other's comments.
I suffer from social anxiety since i was a child; no friendship, no love, it's not funny. I have many interests, and this makes loneliness more bearable, but I'm sad for all the opportunities I loose, and all the love and good things I could give to others but i don't find the right way. I'm my own prison; i hope i'll find a way to run away someday and start enjoying life.
ThePeaceSeeker Don’t worry. It happens to many people. I can hear you and understand how it feels. If you want to chat sometime do let me know. Stay blessed
I don't like opening up it's even hard on the internet when i watch a video i'm too scared to comment because I feel like I'm being judged. At school I try to be as quiet as possible when the popular girls wave at me I'm very quiet and while I'm saying hi my voice comes out shaky. I feel uncomfortable around people I can't be myself I feel alone all the time and I've had this my whole life I know the teachers are getting concerened but I can't tell them and I'm too scared to tell my mom because I don't know how she will react I feel like everyone hates me all the time
I think one of main reasons of social anxiety is that constant fear that people might judge you or find your insecurities. But let me tell you that ignore those fears and don’t worry about that what if they judge or find your insecurities. You truly know yourself, you know your abilities. You have to believe in yourself.
I’m honestly not sure if I have social anxiety disorder. I love to socialize with friends and family but whenever I’m alone I start looking back on the conversations I’ve had with others no matter whoever they may be, and I start overthinking about the smallest things I do or say in the conversations and I get overwhelmingly anxious. Anxious about if I made someone not like me as much or how do they really feel about me. That anxiousness causes a shit ton of self esteem issues and I start to hate myself for not doing as good. After that although I don’t get anxious or shy really to socialize with other people, my conscious tells me “Yo, you need to do really good or they’ll hate you. If you fuck up they won’t like you anymore. They’ll want to stop hanging around with you.” And it gives me a ton of pressure so then whenever I inevitably make a mistake no matter how small, I start to panic in the back of my mind and it takes everything in me to hold myself back from flat out crying sometimes after making even the smallest mistake in a conversation. I’ve turned to porn, youtube, video games, anime, manga, etc and although they’ve helped me a lot it’s really not enough to keep me from hating myself and worrying an absurd amount about my relationships with friends and family. I’m thinking about seeing a physiatrist but I’m really nervous about the idea of getting my parents and other family involved in my own problems and I don’t wanna worry them any. Wasn’t really expecting to make such a long comment, just wanted to get this off my chest lol.
I don't think you have social Anxiety disorder. A LOT of people have the same thoughts about past conversations like you do and feel bad about that, but that Is NOT social Anxiety disorder, trust me I have been experiencing it for almost 5 years and it's much worse than you think, the lady in the video portrayed it really well.
Hello, I know this comment is a year old and I don't know if you already solved this problem of yours, but I'd still like to say something. I went to my school's counselor after suffering for who-knows-how-long, and she helped me realize that even if you think that your problems aren't related to a condition, it doesn't mean that they are less important and shouldn't be taken care of and looked through. She also taught me that if your problems affect your life and keep you from enjoying "normal" moments then it would be best to ask for help. Don't be afraid to tell it to your parents or guardians, they only want what's best for you and they want you to feel alright. This happened to me just a few months ago, I cried a lot, but in the end not only it helped me get my burdens off of my chest, but it also brought me closer to my family and friends. Now they understand why I act a certain way and they try not to push me around too much. I'm sure your parents will understand too. Just think that this will better your future! The earlier you learn to fight these thoughts and and impulses, the earlier you'll be free from everything that's tearing you down. Good luck! I hope this helped (sorry if it's too long!!).
I am also suffering from social anxiety and eye phobia . I don't have anyone to talk about this struggle iam going through, I can't even able to talk to my parents . I hope we can recover from this and stay healthy ❤stay 💪 strong
I m really glad i watched your videos and i like it very much. Your methods are incredible and i feel relieved even after watching this video. It's like i m looking in the mirror. the patient talks about everything that is happening to me. You are an excellent doctor. Please do a lot more videos.
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Wow!!! I really liked this. The way I’d put it is that you used the “scientific method” to determine whether your clients notions of her behavior and her impact on others was accurate. Overall, I consider this intervention to be SUPET-effective. You moved right into the heart of your clients world-view and challenged her without provoking her defensiveness. Really, really good stuff. I’ll be thinking of this video the next time I’m working with a client who’s got an unrealistically negative view.
For any body suffering with this problem. I have a few tips that might help VITAMINS: b6, b12, are d3 and magnesium are know to reduce sweating and increase mood in the brain and reduce anxiety and fish oil. SEROTONIN: consider taking htp 5 as it's a precursor to Serotonin ( a feel good supplement) that reduces anxiety. TEA: sage ,Chamomile, green tea (decafe), and valerian root are know as natural antiperspirants and calms anxiety EXERCISING: when you exercises it releases natural Serotonin levels as well as an endomorphin chemicals to the brain that creates physical relaxation as well as taking out stress (weight lifting, jogging) you name it. AVOID: sugars, spicy food, definitely caffeine as it's responsible for anxiety sweating. EAT: greens like spinach, or kale. Anything that's green, they are Rich in magnesium Or eat healthy in general. Also eat probiotics, anxiety can be caused by a bloated stomach, so considering adding probiotics to your diet. ANTIPERSPIRANTS: consider buying antiperspirants for the face or other parts that are of concern. Carpe is a really good product that I like to use. Here's the link mycarpe.com/ also no sweat scalp antiperspirant is a good product for those who want results fast hairtape.com/ Difference between both? Carpe reduces pores up to 70% after 4 weeks of consecutive use. as opposed to the other product, it will clogge your pores for 24hrs Both should be applied at night after a shower before bed. I really hope you find these tips useful, and don't give up i wish the very best to all of you people who suffer from the dreaded feeling🙏
great tips, although you should be careful with taking 5htp, especially long term. it can lead to serotonin syndrom (too much serotonin) which can be really damaging. i wouldn't take it without discussing it with a doctor as some people already have normal serotonin levels and taking a supplement as 5htp might lead to getting too much serotonin. if you do have low serotonin i would try to stop using it after a while to decrease the risk of serotonin syndrom :). it's a supplement that doesn't need a prescription (at least where i live) but that doesn't make it harmless. also, Odorex works really really well for anxiety sweating but that might be a European brand.
I absolutely hate my social anxiety. It gives me such a weak filter, which makes my dad look down on me because he doesn't understand what it's like to have a disorder like this. Having Social anxiety prevents me from doing things that I really wanna do. This is the reaosn I hate going to stores by myself. I couldn't speak up even if my life depended on it, and I hate it.. I'm always seen looking down When ever waking anywhere within a huge crowd. Because of this. I was never able to ask my teachers any important questions because I was afraid of looking dumb. Whenever this happens I sweat like crazy and mumble to myself. Even when I just tell someone not to worry about it, that even triggers my nerves even more. I can't help it, it really makes me uncomfortable.
I appreciate all the comments here it’s all very supportive. Mine has been triggered by traumatic life events and all these years has improved gradually but I still suffered from it. I turned to alcohol and that has come to a pint where I’m hitting a bottom while at the same time having a rebirth. I have many alcoholic traits that have brought me to realize that the drinking is itself and addiction now but it has also come from unresolved childhood and youthful wounds. I know that the more I’m zooming in on my healing and the deeper I can look and heal the greater I can be my authentic self. Being comfortable in my own skin is all I’ve ever wanted my whole life. I’ve never had that. I asked God to give me this and lead me to it and I will let go of the alcohol. I can see that he is working this miracle in my life. We can all find healing and a path out of the darkness of anxiety disorders. When I was a teen there was nothing out there to help. Now the internet is full of help and there are so many people talking about it. I prayed for a day when this would happen and I’m grateful to be alive to see it
I had to read an essay in front of the class. When I first started reading it, my voice was shaky and I was sweating and dizzy, and by the end, I was crying. :)
For anime lovers : Komi can’t communicate is an excellent anime who’s show a young girl named Komi whos also have a problem to communicate due to social anxiety. I highly suggest this show to understand this type of anxiety.
That was fun but it doesn't relate to most of our problems. She has a healthy home and basically a guardian angel who just appears in her life and deals with her problems.
lol, the other way around for me: I'm here after watching Komi. I'm not diagnosed with social anxiety, but I feel a lot of the symptoms. High-functioning S.A.D., if you will. Reading the comments here has been helpful. Peace, nice to see others enjoying Komi. Can't wait for a season 3!
I figured she was an actors based on how well her social skills are and how much eye contact she was giving. I figured she was either really comfortable with the other lady or that she was an actor
Yesterday was an extremely embarrassing moment for me, I tried going to a Halloween party and I only knew one person there and 10 minutes in I was freaking out I went outside a couple of times so I can relax away from everyone. When I went back in I was glued to my phone and I wouldn’t make eye contact with anyone, when more people showed up I told my friend that I think I forgot to lock my car door when I know I didn’t and as soon as I got in the car I started busted out crying. Which ruined my Halloween make up meaning I couldn’t go back in even if I wanted to because it looked like I was crying. I was trying to think of an excuse to just leave but I ended up texting her the truth and I haven’t heard from her since I was too embarrassed to tell her in person.
Almost the same thing happened to me yesterday at a halloween party 😂 but i always try remember everyone else is probably too busy worrying that they're not being embarassing themselves to notice what others are doing. Anyone in the same situation would feel uncomfortable, be kind to yourself ❤
@@skootzkadoodles Thank you for your encouraging words it really does mean a lot. It also makes me feel better knowing that I’m not the only one sometimes it feels so hopeless but we can both get through it!! 💕
@@caitlinrichardson8494 That is really not a good friend... She should've make sure that you are comfortable in the first place... and now that she knows, she should've definitely at least call you the next day, talk to you and support you...
I purchased a hidden camera to keep an eye on my children while I’m at work. I’m selling baby birds and forgot the camera was there so when I watched it to check on the kids, I seen how I acted . I cried! I’m here because I’m searching ways to control my anxiety and this was not at all how I acted. I was sweating so bad it was running down my face. Then... I made up stupid excuses as to why I started sweating profusely. The looks on their faces said it all when I left the room to get something. I swear people think I’m on drugs. It looks like I’m on drugs. I can’t control it no matter how hard I try.
I feel like they should have had someone else act that out with her she had never met and hadn’t been comfortable with her doctor , she was obviously comfortable talking with her , and it’s almost like an act . My anxiety happens everyday but In the most random of places and even at home while I’m alone I may get a bad panic attack
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Mine one is a rare social anxiety - I hate my same aged people. Bcoz of that I have literally 0 friends. I find them too much more energetic and active than me. My mind always thinks I won't fit among those boys and end up in failure and they will laugh at me. I hope I could find some boys like those in comment section in my locality who can understand the social anxiety difficulties to befriend with. 😢 Every boys seems like they already engaged in a friendship zone and no extra person they need
I often used to be known as the super quiet and shy kid in class, couldn’t speak to anyone I didn’t know, can hardly socialise, when I got put in group work I hated it and my heart would always race and I’d feel this overwhelming feeling of nervousness, honestly it was more than just shy. I’ve grown up with people telling me you just need to be more confident, you need to speak up more, you’re just shy don’t worry etc. My anxiety isn’t as bad as when I was a kid/teen, but I will definitely not be 100%
I have social anxiety and I learned not to care what other people think even when I come off as weird or nervous but I have too much pride to accept that I'm not comfortable around another human being who is just like me. Eventhough I learned not to care I still get angry when someone sympathizes with me or even worse look down on me. What a shit disorder
I have been dealing with social anxiety since i was small, i think my kinder or first grade. Growing up a mommas boy and always wanting to be with her, getting her approval’ really messed me up. I always had friends, but the more i grew up i became an outkast.. high school was horrible and adulthood even worse. The same exact panic attacks she described is what i get occasionally, if its bad’ i will get red hot, sweat and not be able to breathe. I never been confident and always worried about what people think of me. so im sure that is my biggest issue..i dont plan on getting help with meds, i know my day will come where I beat this anxiety
everything you said including high school relates with me. It really sucks how much rude people can be. No body understands and for me I'm thought of as childish/crazy things that are out of my control. I wish I fully would stop caring and being laughed at. Hopefully things get better for us.
Study and train yourself on self confidence. Fear and confidence can’t dwell at the same time to the same person. Stop focusing on fear, start focusing on confidence. Hope it helps
I'm anxious that people would see me as stupid that's why I tend to be quiet. Everytime I go out I need to have a script incase I need to talk to someone. If something unexpected happens, my mind goes blank and I don't have anything to say. My mind is slow, it really needs time to process every information.
My defense mechanisms in the moment are similar to hers. But when I get home from work, is where the real defense comes in and where the real destruction is. I use porn, masturbation, tv/RUclips, isolation as methods to escape the world and get as far away from the awkward, insecure, social anxiety memories from the week of work. And I spend the weekend running and hiding, dreading Monday. Any suggestions?
11219tt try to focus on the present. I believe there are many cures to social anxiety. You just basically have to fix what you fear. Many people who have social anxiety have different fears.
That's exactly how I cope with my social phobia as well. Everything you just said but I go as far as using drugs as well because I just HAVE to escape. I've been addicted to benzos for a long time, (Xanax, Ativan.) And even do fentanyl. It's sad. I feel so bad for myself and anyone who deals with this on such an extreme level as me.
I think I have social anxiety (and maybe depression)? Ok so I wrote a whole lot before, but it got deleted which is annoying but: I’ve tried to tell my mum about this once, whilst nearly tearing up (it took me a lot of courage to say that), but she literally told me that I’d get over it and I can’t be like that. Like wtf?? And thing is, I’ve been like this since the start of high school (11), so it’s been around 5 years now. So no, I still haven’t gotten over it. I often get nauseous, my heart would thump really fast or experience heart palpitations(?) like really bad. Even the thought of having to talk to someone, gives me the feeling of my heart dropping to my stomach. And it doesn’t even matter if it’s in 4 hours or 2+ days. I’d also often avoid eye contact and use any excuse to look at something else (for example if something dropped), to get my eyes on that instead. When I would be told by the teacher, to talk in front of the class, I sometimes hear sniggering. That just lowered my self esteem a lot. Especially one time, when I heard a teacher telling them off for doing so, I know they mean good, but it made it a lot worse for it just proves how clear the sniggering was. Another time, a teacher told me off really loud because I had another subject’s work on my table (I wasn’t even looking at it, I was looking at the screen) and was shouted at, to put my work on her desk. As I did, people were LITERALLY SNIGGERING SO LOUD and it was the worse day for me. I silently cried during the rest of the lesson, but put effort to not show the tears, as I didn’t want to attract attention or seem selfish. The teacher had anxiety herself, so it was just awful how she did not imagine if she were me in that position, and how anxious I was when walking to her desk and back. (P.S she was also very bad at teaching imo.) All of these type of negative situations literally made my self esteem worse over the years, therefore making me extremely lazy/not being bothered with anything (maybe why I would have symptoms of depression too?) and constantly paranoid about my looks (thinking that people are always looking at me and judging me for my appearance even when they’re probably not), despite not taking care of myself and dressing nicely. There are so many other things I could talk about, but this is just a few things that have bothered me… And btw, I’m able to say this out here because nobody knows my real identity, otherwise I don’t think I would be able to openly say this with anyone. I want to get diagnosed, but I don’t have the courage to tell my parents about SAD and if they were to book an appointment, I don’t know if I could handle talking to a complete stranger about my personal issues, due to obviously, my suspecting Social anxiety. I’d also probably cry which is also embarrassing. 🙁 Can anyone give me advise on how to get this diagnosed of someone please?? I don’t want to keep assuming. I want to get it diagnosed and get the closure I need, also being able to have medical proof to excuse me in certain situations. I apologise for this annoying long comment, but I’ve been bothered about this years. Thank you for reading…
@@fatislimi5145Sure I am glad to help, but it's a long story. I am 40 now but when I was a child I was very shy and avoided other kids, mostly because the kids at school made fun of my accent and weight. I went to counseling and the did exposure therapy with me. First step was asking what situations made me anxious, and why. Like the doctor did in this video.
@@fatislimi5145Next step was to gradually put myself in these anxious situations to get comfortable in them. It took many years (getting older helped too) before I started enjoying being in groups of people. There is no need to lose hope, you absolutely CAN overcome your anxiety. Keep pushing yourself, a bit more every time, and you will improve.
When you're sitting with the therapist u feel less weird less anxious cuz they know u have them. You'll feel comfortable around them. But it's way much worse when you are surrounded by people
Watching this in a bar carpark on my own at 9pm on a cold winters night as I desperately struggle to even move myself knowing how many people are in there
Absolutely true. I have SAD and currently I have myself a lot. I am constantly hearing those 'voices' when I get outside and they keep telling me that I am no worthy, or that I look bad, or that I'm terrible. And the worst thing is that I realize how absurd and unreal that is, but at the same time I can't shut those voices, so I get back to my safe place (my home) where they finally stop. I am trying to fight it now, I analyzed some of the reasons why I have it in the first place - bad memories from my childhood and teenage years, parents kind of neglecting me (not on purpose), I've been mocked, etc... My SAD caused me to gain weight and that is making my self-esteem go even lower. But I try. And I talked about it with my husband and he is very supportive and understanding. I also opened about the problem to my friend and she is also trying to help me.
After years of avoiding people I would like to make the suggestion that you gave it the best you can. I got to the point I was peeing around corners to make sure no one was around and ducking and dodging people. I am now no longer young and wished I dealt with it in my teens.
i realized just now that i have social anxiety/anxiety since i was 6 Years Old, i remember i need to pee but i can't Stand up because i feel like people will care or scold me so i stayed and peed there💀 it's worse now
After seeing this... now I am fully convinced that I don't have social anxiety disorder thanks god. In no way I'd behave like this in public. I wish her the best! Instead being an extroverted introvert....well.. your expectations/imaginations are responsible why things don't go your way.
Well in my opinion, The instant cure for anxiety is to understand the fact that there are infinite amount of possible outcomes in this universe and our brain only thinks of a handful . A bad outcome can become the means of a good outcome in the future. Just like that a good outcome can become the means of a bad outcome. For example, you lost your job (bad thing). But then you got a new job which is better ( bad thing led to a good outcome.) It's an endless cycle. So just go with the flow and don't think about it . 😄 Goodluck.
I dont know if what i am suffering from is shyness or social anxiety .i do look normal and confident when i talk with ppl that i don know and knew i am not gonna meet them after that..i start shaking and looking down in several times :1)at the begging when i meet sb i knew and it has been long time since we last met especially if i do care about hem but i after a while(it depends on the person if he start chatting) i return to act normal 2)when i talk in front of many ppl or if i joined a big talk and it comes my turn to start talking (even if they are my best friends) 3)in the online classes when the teacher ask me to read some thing(although i am a bookworm and ppl do like my reading voice and i shut down the camera so no one is looking at me ) i start shaking all over my body and read very very fast then my voice start fading till i couldn't talk at all
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious men a lot easier ;) Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else? Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
I'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty sure I have depression and social anxiety 1. Going outside, I just have this feeling that if I go outside everything will go wrong and I get more uncomfortable the closer I get to going outside, however when I do go outside I don't feel that bad, for example I had a birthday today that I didn't go to because I am very anxious and uncomfortable thinking of it atm. The other thing would be seeing someone on the street that I know but isn't my friend, those kind of situations are really weird for me and make me very anxious, when I see someone I know but i'm not that comfortable with I just get so fucking uncomfortable, I just try to look at them for a few seconds, say "hi how are you?" and keep walking. 2. Clonazepam, seriously, I want some fucking medication, this shit's horrible, I don't wanna be worrying all the time about everything, I wanna take some pill and be able to feel half as normal as I was 6 years ago.
I never graduated because of my social anxiety. I went to university, having new classmates, it was very uncomfortable around them. I just stop attending class and stop learning. Bought PS2 and go to my uncle house. He was unmarried and loved me so much. I could do everything in his house. My mom just thought I was going to the university regularly. I failed 2nd year. Next year, I repeated doing the same things as last year. Failed again. If I failed for the third time, the university would expel me. I thought I would be going to the class regularly in next year. But I repeated doing same things again for 3 years. When the final exam comes I know nothing what to answer. Coincidentally I got fever and diagnosed with TB in the second day of exam. I have my own excuse to tell other people that I got TB and didnt graduate. But I only know the true reason why I fail not only graduation but also the opportunities of my life.
This is so strange so when I was going through a rough patch About two years ago I though fuck it I’ll have to try CBT, in one of my early appointments the therapist literally copied this exercise word for word, it’s almost given me flashbacks. I kinda feel like I’ve been played or something, like she must have watched this video an just recycled it? I mean I suppose it’s an exercise they are trained to do but thinking back it feels a bit disingenuous. I ended up stopping after about 4-5 sessions, ironically I was to anxious to carry on and tbh the role playing an the “exposure therapy” was a bit degrading. Still suffer to this day but I don’t think I could do it again.
I know right! It does come across as disingenuous completely. I've had many of these CBT and other types of therapists and none of them helped. Infact if any thing it made it WORSE. I would not recommend this to anyone unless you think it's something that could personally help you. It seems strange to me to do therapy like this where the person feels inferior to the therapist and is scared of them. Think about it you are already terrified of social situations right? So what do these therapists recommend? Sitting in an appointment that is going to make you more social anxious, awkward, embarrassed, inferior, etc,etc. How is this going to help? It put me off therapists and doctors for life (and yes I tried many different one's) it only made it worse not better... :-(
@@LisaSimpson2 it’s a type of therapy that exposes the person to alternative methods to make them realize it’s “not that big of a deal”. Which is, your right, disingenuous. Medication really helped my anxiety, but I know I need t be able to make this work.
My problems occur once my relationships fail, I over analysis the whole relationship and question myself what I could have done differently in the relationship then I cannot focus on other things as my mind just constantly runs why me what have I done wrong to not have this relationship not work, My relationship lasted 7 months, it came to an end 3 weeks ago and I’m still going over it all in my mind, I’ve spoken to a few friends and they have said it’s not you it’s them but that doesn’t change my mind set
Hey! I hope you are fine. I understand what you are going through. I also have gone through to same situation and i know its not easy. If you wanna talk about it i am here for you. Maybe I can help you. Stay blessed 🙂
I hate living with social anxiety and just anxiety overall. I hate feeling so nervous and fucking up my speech when i present infront of people. I wasn’t always like this before. I suffered trauma in elementary school because my teachers would pick on me or make me look stupid infront of my classmates and from there i just felt anxious about everything. Seeking help is expensive and not everyone can afford therapy. I dont wanna take medication, i tried cbd oil yet i still feel anxious when i present. Tbh idk what to do anymore. I feel like i can’t seek a career without feeling anxious
i have the same problem 😭😭 it is NOT fun to live with for sure. but the most bothering thing to me is the turning red thing. cause that way it's soo obvious that i feel uncomfortable and people seeing that makes me even more anxious:( pleaseeee if someone knows how to get rid of the redness, i am down for an operation or something like that, anything to heal from this:'( cause i hate it soooo much. makes me cut a conversation at a random point and it's weird:(
I have also anxiety issues. Like before going out I have severe nausea and constipation. I spent half an hour in the washroom before going out. I feel sort of gases in my stomach. And once I am in public I am all well. I am a good speaker, a good presenter and I know all these things but still I have severe anxiety issues.
Thank you for your great videos. However, I'm not sure how realistic it is the recording and interaction with you with a camera in your office, since she's not really in her job setting. So, is this really a good sample to disproof some of her false beliefs? What I mean: She will probably act different in your office than she would in her work setting, since she already feels comfortable with you etc. Thanks for the reply in advance, and keep up with the great work.
Yes thank you! I already commented on this (see above) but I couldn't describe what I meant quite as articulately as you just did! Thank you! The role-playing is a little silly and pointless as like you said, she's obviously not going to act the same way in her therapist's office and at an appointment as she would in her natural work environment out there in the real world! That's the only thing that kinda annoys me about this. Like how is this going to help? The fact that therapists think that this type of thing is just going to cure or even mildly help someone is beyond me. It's like repeatedly throwing someone afraid of fire into a fire and saying after 6 months, "There! Are you cured now?". I don't believe this type of therapy (or any of the current therapies) even works (well not for me at least and I've had this my whole life since a child and had countless therapists/doctors/different types of therapy) and it only made it worse and exacerbated it... if any thing at all. I wish there were more therapeutic options for this debilitating illness. This can't be the only way!
i have severe social anxiety..i have to think deep and come up with good point to participate in conversation...n if i stutter..ohh man its like all focus is on me. I avoid walking to direction where there are known faces.
I worry about that in social situations. Mainly when I am filling out paperwork in front of people whil applying for a job. I get neck and head tremors. It's awful. I can't afford therapy but I need it. I didn't used to be like this. It happened to me I think after I had been through a ton of abuse and bullying.
2 days ago i had to praesent and argue about a topic in a meeting where my whole school was watching me.And in stage i forgot everything that I was about to say and then I couldnt hear anything or see anything I just standed there without doing anything And the only thing i could think was that I ruined my image and they will laugh at me.even rn when i remember it I still think that they will make fun of me And I stress
I can feel you here. One of the things that caused SAD in my case is exactly a speach in front of many people during my teenage years. I started fine and then some stupid assholes started to mock me and that was terrible experience. To be mocked in front of so many people...
Now I know, why I don't have a job up until now, Even though I practice what I would say in an interview. But when I'm actually there and the interviewer is looking at me, I get very nervous that my mind get blank and I can even say properly what I practice.
i was so disappointed when i saw that this was played by an actor :( but then i remembered that a person with social anxiety would never agree to be filmed during such a vulnerable moment.
Lol that's what I was thinking 😂
Maybe thats why it was played by an actor :)))
Honestly, I’d want one on me. My therapist is only one of five or six people I can be comfortable around.
In the description, it says the scene is not scripted.
@@iwastubed96 I think they meant it’s not scripted in the sense that the conversation flows more naturally. But she doesn’t have social anxiety and this isn’t a real session.
I hate to have social anxiety. I lose opportunities because I’m too scared to take risks. I’m scare ALL the time if there’s people watching, because I feel like they are judging me. I can’t walk normal in public, I feel that I need to walk some type of way, that all the eyes are on me, and not in a cocky way. I only have three closest friends, and I don’t like to spend a lot of time with other people. I don’t like big groups of people, I don’t feel comfortable. I get nervous when I have to talk in public, my heartbeat raises, my palms get sweaty, I feel like I’m gonna pass out. When I was getting into an online class the teacher asked me something and I knew the answer, but I was too scared to say it and for it to turn out wrong so what I did was to disconnected from the meeting, and later I gave the excuse that my internet failed.
I’m not shy, I don’t consider myself shy, but I’m a nervous girl. I don’t want to talk about it with other people because, again, I would feel judge. Because I think they are going to say something like :” it’s okay, don’t be dramatic.” Or “this is normal” but I know me, and this is not “normal” because I feel this way always, I live with fear and I always try not to show it. Hope someone else can relate.
Me too .I am so sorry
I see what you mean , it´s the exact same with me it´s like no matter where I am there is always that feeling that someone is watching and judging me and when I finally told a person about my Social anxiety disorder they just disregarded it and said that it was "normal"
that made me so angry bc being able to speak about it after 3 years of having it and living with it , was really hard in the first place.
Everything you described is exactly how I feel
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I have social anxiety too, i just found out after 30 years of living, im just trying to get outside of my body and concentrate in the objects and people around one by one, stay on them so my mind dont come back to me and start judging
I literally felt like no one understood me for years until I realized what I was living with and dealing with everyday, was a real thing. I felt judged for years sometimes it was so hard I wouldn’t leave my house for weeks. I’ll never forget all the times I would sit in the Walmart parking lot trying to summon the courage to go in and get something I need.. only to sit anxiously in my car for 30 mins and then drive back home. Social anxiety isn’t just being nervous before public events. It’s overthinking every little thing you do in every social interacting Every little conversation you had and what you said and how you said. It’s a battle within your mind every single day that leave you feeling mentally drained
Same happen to me. Sometime i think this whole world has problem with me
Beautifully said, I know the feeling had to drop out of college because I was to afraid to go to the lectures and tutorials, always felt like I was being watched and people were talking behind my back, ended up spending alot of time in college in my room afraid to talk to anyone
@@Ranger6483 I dropped out of uni as well, twice because of it. Struggled to make friends on my course and refused to talk to professors.
How are you doing now?☺
This sounds to me you got like this from bullying in the past?
After watching this video, I realized that people don't notice my anxiety that much. Today was my presentation. I was afraid. My heart was racing, but then, I told myself that people can't see the red face and the nervousness when I speak. To confirm this, I recorded my voice 4-5 times to see how my voice sound like when I am anxious. I did so good. Thank you so much!
Same Here But i can't handel my shaking Body
@@Brainwaymotivators same when I hold a paper I legit shake so hard you can hear it
This thing is so fucking bad it started to happen with no reason, I feel so hopeless, I feel like I'm not in control of my body at those times and I feel like there is no cure, like this is a part of me.
But a person having anxiety as well will definitely notice you
@@thinktwice3710 well that’s gonna help😂
My biggest problem is my mind going blank due to being overwhelmed. Every 1 second pause is like 10 seconds in my head
@@gucciplagg5858 if you have a way to manage it I’d be keen to learn how
Same
And I have too a nightmares about loosing my memory.
It's the trauma response and hearing so much judgement and critical in your head
same here😭😭😂 its sad
One thing I've realised is that people with social anxiety are very nice, caring, good hearted people and I'd rather know them then some other big headed, loud mouthed people.
That's a lovely thing to say, but we're not popular.
I've been considering CBT therapy for social anxiety. Let me preface this by saying that I think social anxiety can totally be improved and worked on and you can really turn things around if you put the work in. It can get better. I think a major trap a lot of people with social anxiety fall into is that they settle for less. They spend all of their time and energy on just getting by. They force themselves to do just enough to survive and for their loved ones to think they're doing okay or at least okay enough (they force themselves to do just enough to be able to pay the bills, do the shopping, and make necessary calls, but there's no energy left for things like meeting new people with similar hobbies, or dating, or going for that job interview). Just doing what you have to do to survive is so EXHAUSTING. It really blows my mind to think about the idea that most people don't think twice about these things. And they aren't miserable the whole time they're doing them. Getting through the day can feel like you're going to battle and possibly to your death. Every day. Sometimes I think, 'Is it supposed to be this HARD?' It really wears you down, but you're so focused on just getting through the moment that you don't realize how tired you are. And then one day ten years has passed and you realize you've spent a decade putting all of your energy into just getting by. Energy that could have gone toward bigger dreams and more fun and feelings that actually feel good. That's really sad and I guess not how life is supposed to be. I guess my point is that I think therapy would probably help a lot, but a lot of people with social anxiety may not consider it because they've been getting by. But life isn't supposed to be miserable the whole time.
CBT is a great tool but there is a simpler solution, just through a better understanding of how the "social anxiety" feeling is created within your own mind, and how your reaction to it is often worse than the feeling itself. I overcame it through this understanding. Happy to converse more about it, if you're curious :)
Jesus loves you.
@@davidkaran7602 Lemme know bro
Lots of truth there, Viva. I have suffered from social anxiety for decades, and other anxiety issues, which have cost me friends, jobs, and two marriages.
Thank you for taking the time to write how much it can ruin your life, it might help some to understand.
@@davidkaran7602 can you tell me more how did u got over it plz
Good actor. I felt vicarious anxiety for her before I know she was an actor.
I did as well
An actress? 🤔🤔
Did I misread something in the video or was there a major publication showing the supposed 'fraud' going on here that I missed?
An actress?? Oh. I had a similar experience that lessened my anxiety so I do believe that the method in the video works.
To those suffering right now, I shake in sweaty solidarity. It's horrific and unhinging to experience. We are in this together.
I'm tired of it..
We all are
Same here
Same.. can I not find any solution for free? I can’t afford to go to a doctor..
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Why can't u go to a doctor?
Same
I have social anxiety disorder, and I hate it! I got promoted in my job and in my new position I have to speak in public and give meetings and the thought of it freaks me out, with my new schedule I have the opportunity to go to college and I had the option of doing it online and I decided to go on campus, now I’ve never been to college so I’m terrified, but I have to fight this ! I’m gonna beat it and it will not control my life anymore!
Hey. I hope you are doing well. Glad to hear that you are fighting well and getting promotions. Don’t worry i know you will rock. But if you need anybody to talk about it do let me know. Stay blessed
Maybe the problem is, everyone is so fake and it feels so forced trying to have conversations with random people that it does make you feel uncomfortable because it’s just not how you role. Some people are born into this world as fake ass MF, others are just real to the core, hard for other to be fake when a real person enters the room, maybe that’s the reason you feel awkward because people have to take their masks off. Keep being you, surround yourself with understanding people and be proud of who you are. So long as you are trying to be the best you can be each day, that’s all you can do. Don’t beat yourself up about your past, live in the moment, learn to die while you are still alive so you can truly live without the fear of death, then you can start to become fearless. Stay strong
i wouldn't say thats the main reason i and many other suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder. i struggle to talk and maintain eye contact even with people that are as real as it gets and have hearts of gold. of course its easier to talk with these people because you both get each other.
It certainly has to do with chemical imbalance that can't easily be controlled, but more minor cases are likelier to benefit from conscious behavioral changes, though not a cure.
@@abstrusepaladin Not proof of a chemical imbalance, you can’t do a test on the brain to prove a chemical imbalance. It’s more likely to be from trauma and social conditioning not don’t correctly
Lol preach it
I've had social anxiety my whole life, it's gotten to the point where I can't go to school and talk in front of my classmates, my parents have no idea what's going on, I try my best to hide it, but when it happens I get extremely red, I shake like crazy, I start crying and I can't stop myself. It's really embarrassing and I'd give anything to make it stop. However, in this video it's different when she talks with one person and it's rehearsed, she tried to control herself and they had been talking for a while before so she probably started feeling safe talking with her at least a little. If she was in a group of people or one person, it doesn't matter, I think she would have really had those symptoms, but only if it was more natural so the mind could really think it's in danger (fff response as you all probably know happens).
The Queen You're stronger than you think you are you know
You gotta ask yourself, what’re you actually afraid of?
The girl is an actor who doesn't have social anxiety.
I’m dealing with the same thing. I hurts to think that teens of my age go to school to communicate and learn and have fun.. however . How are you now? I hope you found your way to reassurance....
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It's funny how the psychologist was suggesting that the girl's anxious bodily sensations weren't as obvious to others as she thought and that's its all just in her head, but for me mine is obvious because when you hear people say to you "Hey, are you okay?" after you turned really red, or "are you nervous?" after you try to make conversation, then you resort to just keeping to yourself so you don't have to feel like you're fuckin weird in every social situation, and even with that you can't win because they say to you "you're too quiet".... Then you just get tired of even trying anymore...
Exaaactly, I’ve had way too many people point out the redness (can’t really blame them, I literally got nicknamed Timato by my friends because of how red my face would get). It makes it so much worse then too when people mention it. Working register at a really busy fast food place ruined me with my social anxiety.
Yes agree, when you look like you've seen a ghost, can't talk etc. CBT is not great
I’ve had so many people point out how quiet and anxious/shy that I seem and even someone told me “it’s noticeable somethings wrong with me.” That really hurt my feelings lol cause I can’t help it.
I've had social anxiety for years, now I'm 25 and still in the same situation, I feel useless and stuck in my thoughts all the time, don't have any friends and family doesn't really understand social anxiety and says I will get over it if I just try. My life is just going in circles and the years are going by and I'm just stuck in the same place. Feeling like this just sucks and I don't know what to do.
I hv the same condition...
Exactly me.
Damn me too but I just learned to have confidence and work so you have something to show
Check out Bob Proctor born rich seminar here on youtube. It's about 8 hrs long but he will explain to you how the mind works and why you feel how you feel and how to change it to be the person you always wanted to be.
I've been this way for over 10 years now, you're not alone don't ever forget that.
This was really good. I have SAD & could relate to the patient especially her memories of school. I would freak out when the teacher would tell us to get into groups & I had no one to join. You have the most soothing voice!
+Y.A. Thank you for watching and for your kind feedback! I'm glad you found the video relatable.
+Judith Johnson zing
Me 2 or when the teacher says get into partners
Many thanks, been searching for "get over social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my partner got cool results with it.
Honestly I'd freak out every classroom I walked in. As a comfort thing I rest my chin on my hand but it got the point where I couldn't move that hand away without panicking. I remember we had to sit in silence and the teacher told us to write an essay or something but I couldn't even bring myself to take the lid off of my pen. I just sat there and when she asked me why I wasn't doing it I went into cold sweats. It's truly awful. The only thing that keeps me going is music and the outdoors. I find performing music live I'm absolutely fine I just can't do social situations without going into an overload
Shouldn't this be made with a real victim of social anxiety. It just feels more relatable and soothing to see a real person in the same situation, rather than an actor.
I just related to her for a minute, and then realizing she is an actor from reading the comments, felt kinda lonely again..
Abhinav Jain same
It's based off real situations, it's very close to a real life session. A real person suffering from anxiety may find it difficult having their session recorded and being put on youtube for others to watch :) But I do understand what you are saying :)
LOL Think about your comment-Shouldn't this be made with a real victim of social anxiety.----Do you think a victim suffering from this would want their session posted???????
Abhinav Jain dude, a person with social anxiety wouldn't want to be on camera lmao
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Too many people have laughed at me when I shake. It is impossible for them to understand when such a simple situation can make me shake. I have developed so many strategies to hide my disorder.
I get told, "You've gone all red".
@@genuineperson3540that's the most humiliating part
When being asked a question by a teacher, my mind sometimes go blank (even being asked about my own name and basic knowledge).
So I seem like I don’t know the answer to it or I’m just dumb. But no. It’s because of this :(
Your totally talking about ny whole life😭😭
My god, now i can see how people might be seing me, and why they instantly get uncomfortable, and how i must change my body language.
thank you so much
this video has made me realise I look like that too so now while I'm stressed I'm gonna have to try not show it
I'm 58 now and only found out I suffered from this about 10 years ago so I have been suffering all my life just thinking I was shy. It wasn't until I got a job and had to use the phone occasionally that I decided to do some research online about that particular issue. Whilst researching I came across Social Anxiety issues and a list to see if you suffered from any of the symptoms and I ticked most of the boxes. I could have cried when I realised thst I had this condition and that there was a name for it and there were thousands just like me.
Thanks for sharing. In my own way I can relate...raised from a traditional culture...social anxiety doesn’t exist it’s simply shyness or personality.
It was tough having the same anxious symptoms and not knowing what was wrong with me. Emotionally painful years in the past.
Did you manage to get out of this situation? Because I'm looking for people who successfully got out of social anxiety to ask them about their experience, like if they went to a clinic, in how much time they "cured" it etc...
@@athy_dostoy hi, I don't think it's something that ever leaves you but I have gotten a lot better as I gave got older and since I found out I have it I push myself out of my comfort zone and the more you do it the easier it gets, seriously, you have to push yourself. As an example, because I have no choice but to use the telephone now I find it fairly easy to make and answer calls. Another thing that seems to have helped me enormously is telling people I suffer from it if I get the opportunity and you'll be amazed when you open up a bit how many people are just like you but they don't realise they have it either. My HR Manager at work suffers from it too but you wouldn't know, it's only because I told her about it that she opened up to me. Be brave, it won't hurt you and when you do something you wouldn't normally do give yourself a pat on the back and do it again and again until it starts to get easier. Good luck.
@@lusiscus Thanks you so much for the advice, I'll try to go out and socialize more (gradually of course). It is true, being honest with people is the best solution!
I'm 54 and after having gotten out of a 20 year "friendzoning" on new years eve, had decided to try improve myself to not fall into a shitty relationship ever again. Tonight after having fallen into bad depression, considered calling the cops on myself because I started feeling suicidal. After a half hour of feeling hollow and despair I calmed enough to get on here by searching loneliness, depression and anxiety, hoping for answers why I am like this. 2 videos and I understand there's a name for what I am. I'd already started in the right direction by deciding to get out there out of my comfort zone and meet new and different people. Now I can ask a doctor who to see about it. I can remember wishing I was anybody but me way back in upper primary school, only getting worse in high school. I've always stewed on things and overthought, self doubting etc. Feel like a major revelation has just taken place and a great load has started lifting off me. Feeling somewhat positive especially after reading many other's comments.
I suffer from social anxiety since i was a child; no friendship, no love, it's not funny. I have many interests, and this makes loneliness more bearable, but I'm sad for all the opportunities I loose, and all the love and good things I could give to others but i don't find the right way. I'm my own prison; i hope i'll find a way to run away someday and start enjoying life.
Same here
People go to have a CBT therapy,it helped me, my anxiety hasn't gone completely away but I feel better .What our brain says to us is not always true
ThePeaceSeeker Don’t worry. It happens to many people. I can hear you and understand how it feels. If you want to chat sometime do let me know. Stay blessed
I don't like opening up it's even hard on the internet when i watch a video i'm too scared to comment because I feel like I'm being judged. At school I try to be as quiet as possible when the popular girls wave at me I'm very quiet and while I'm saying hi my voice comes out shaky. I feel uncomfortable around people I can't be myself I feel alone all the time and I've had this my whole life I know the teachers are getting concerened but I can't tell them and I'm too scared to tell my mom because I don't know how she will react I feel like everyone hates me all the time
Dayym I feel ya, but internet is kinda diffrent story for me, also bullying i had in younger age also can be case why I have sympots of social anxiety
I leant a lot from watching this on a condition that I know lots of people suffer from. Thanks for sharing 👍
I think one of main reasons of social anxiety is that constant fear that people might judge you or find your insecurities. But let me tell you that ignore those fears and don’t worry about that what if they judge or find your insecurities. You truly know yourself, you know your abilities. You have to believe in yourself.
you cannot "ignore" mental illness. if people with SAD could just ignore their anxieties, then well we wouldn't have the disorder in the first place !
I’m honestly not sure if I have social anxiety disorder. I love to socialize with friends and family but whenever I’m alone I start looking back on the conversations I’ve had with others no matter whoever they may be, and I start overthinking about the smallest things I do or say in the conversations and I get overwhelmingly anxious. Anxious about if I made someone not like me as much or how do they really feel about me. That anxiousness causes a shit ton of self esteem issues and I start to hate myself for not doing as good. After that although I don’t get anxious or shy really to socialize with other people, my conscious tells me “Yo, you need to do really good or they’ll hate you. If you fuck up they won’t like you anymore. They’ll want to stop hanging around with you.” And it gives me a ton of pressure so then whenever I inevitably make a mistake no matter how small, I start to panic in the back of my mind and it takes everything in me to hold myself back from flat out crying sometimes after making even the smallest mistake in a conversation. I’ve turned to porn, youtube, video games, anime, manga, etc and although they’ve helped me a lot it’s really not enough to keep me from hating myself and worrying an absurd amount about my relationships with friends and family. I’m thinking about seeing a physiatrist but I’m really nervous about the idea of getting my parents and other family involved in my own problems and I don’t wanna worry them any. Wasn’t really expecting to make such a long comment, just wanted to get this off my chest lol.
I don't think you have social Anxiety disorder. A LOT of people have the same thoughts about past conversations like you do and feel bad about that, but that Is NOT social Anxiety disorder, trust me I have been experiencing it for almost 5 years and it's much worse than you think, the lady in the video portrayed it really well.
Mk, thanks for the heads up. Still tho, kinda wish I knew how to get over my problem still
@@somerandomtryhard3605 Im sorry cant help you with that, I strugle with SAD and dont know what to do either... :( hope you get better man
Alright that’s fine, and same to u, you seem to be pretty cool
Hello, I know this comment is a year old and I don't know if you already solved this problem of yours, but I'd still like to say something. I went to my school's counselor after suffering for who-knows-how-long, and she helped me realize that even if you think that your problems aren't related to a condition, it doesn't mean that they are less important and shouldn't be taken care of and looked through. She also taught me that if your problems affect your life and keep you from enjoying "normal" moments then it would be best to ask for help. Don't be afraid to tell it to your parents or guardians, they only want what's best for you and they want you to feel alright. This happened to me just a few months ago, I cried a lot, but in the end not only it helped me get my burdens off of my chest, but it also brought me closer to my family and friends. Now they understand why I act a certain way and they try not to push me around too much. I'm sure your parents will understand too. Just think that this will better your future! The earlier you learn to fight these thoughts and and impulses, the earlier you'll be free from everything that's tearing you down. Good luck! I hope this helped (sorry if it's too long!!).
I've been suffering from social phobia for so long that I eventually developed eye phobia! It's just got worse for me! I'm so tired!
I always look down when i talk with someone
I am also suffering from social anxiety and eye phobia . I don't have anyone to talk about this struggle iam going through, I can't even able to talk to my parents . I hope we can recover from this and stay healthy ❤stay 💪 strong
These are amazing, perhaps I can learn to be a better listener and less judgemental. The therapist in these videos is sooooo lovely.
Shaking and unable to say what I want properly happens to me when it's over a person I like.
Happens to me too. Sometimes they find it endearing , hope that happens with you too
I'm just about to finish my fda in counselling and was looking for an experiment for my cbt assignment. fantastic video has helped me lots.
Thank you for your kind feedback, I'm glad you found the video useful
I m really glad i watched your videos and i like it very much. Your methods are incredible and i feel relieved even after watching this video. It's like i m looking in the mirror. the patient talks about everything that is happening to me. You are an excellent doctor. Please do a lot more videos.
Dear Pete, thank you for watching and for your feedback, I'm so glad to hear you like the videos.
hi there can i talk to you on skype i have severe anxiety i will pay you please help
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Wow!!! I really liked this. The way I’d put it is that you used the “scientific method” to determine whether your clients notions of her behavior and her impact on others was accurate.
Overall, I consider this intervention to be SUPET-effective. You moved right into the heart of your clients world-view and challenged her without provoking her defensiveness.
Really, really good stuff. I’ll be thinking of this video the next time I’m working with a client who’s got an unrealistically negative view.
For any body suffering with this problem. I have a few tips that might help
VITAMINS: b6, b12, are d3 and magnesium are know to reduce sweating and increase mood in the brain and reduce anxiety and fish oil.
SEROTONIN: consider taking htp 5 as it's a precursor to Serotonin ( a feel good supplement) that reduces anxiety.
TEA: sage ,Chamomile, green tea (decafe), and valerian root are know as natural antiperspirants and calms anxiety
EXERCISING: when you exercises it releases natural Serotonin levels as well as an endomorphin chemicals to the brain that creates physical relaxation as well as taking out stress (weight lifting, jogging) you name it.
AVOID: sugars, spicy food, definitely caffeine as it's responsible for anxiety sweating.
EAT: greens like spinach, or kale. Anything that's green, they are Rich in magnesium Or eat healthy in general. Also eat probiotics, anxiety can be caused by a bloated stomach, so considering adding probiotics to your diet.
ANTIPERSPIRANTS: consider buying antiperspirants for the face or other parts that are of concern. Carpe is a really good product that I like to use. Here's the link mycarpe.com/ also no sweat scalp antiperspirant is a good product for those who want results fast hairtape.com/
Difference between both? Carpe reduces pores up to 70% after 4 weeks of consecutive use. as opposed to the other product, it will clogge your pores for 24hrs
Both should be applied at night after a shower before bed.
I really hope you find these tips useful, and don't give up i wish the very best to all of you people who suffer from the dreaded feeling🙏
do u have an email or instagram that I can reach u at
great tips, although you should be careful with taking 5htp, especially long term. it can lead to serotonin syndrom (too much serotonin) which can be really damaging. i wouldn't take it without discussing it with a doctor as some people already have normal serotonin levels and taking a supplement as 5htp might lead to getting too much serotonin. if you do have low serotonin i would try to stop using it after a while to decrease the risk of serotonin syndrom :). it's a supplement that doesn't need a prescription (at least where i live) but that doesn't make it harmless.
also, Odorex works really really well for anxiety sweating but that might be a European brand.
@@nusmith97 did you get my email¿
@@juliolabrador463 if you’re willing to help/support people can you contact me too please?
@@juliolabrador463 no you did not comment it
I want to hug her and make her feel comfortable and to let her know she is loved and accepted
She is an actor
Stop hugging people. Validation only triggers more anxiety.
I absolutely hate my social anxiety. It gives me such a weak filter, which makes my dad look down on me because he doesn't understand what it's like to have a disorder like this. Having Social anxiety prevents me from doing things that I really wanna do. This is the reaosn I hate going to stores by myself. I couldn't speak up even if my life depended on it, and I hate it.. I'm always seen looking down When ever waking anywhere within a huge crowd. Because of this. I was never able to ask my teachers any important questions because I was afraid of looking dumb. Whenever this happens I sweat like crazy and mumble to myself. Even when I just tell someone not to worry about it, that even triggers my nerves even more. I can't help it, it really makes me uncomfortable.
Wow the actress is doing a really good job, especially when you see her behave very differently in other videos
i want to become a clinical psychologist
I appreciate all the comments here it’s all very supportive. Mine has been triggered by traumatic life events and all these years has improved gradually but I still suffered from it. I turned to alcohol and that has come to a pint where I’m hitting a bottom while at the same time having a rebirth. I have many alcoholic traits that have brought me to realize that the drinking is itself and addiction now but it has also come from unresolved childhood and youthful wounds. I know that the more I’m zooming in on my healing and the deeper I can look and heal the greater I can be my authentic self. Being comfortable in my own skin is all I’ve ever wanted my whole life. I’ve never had that. I asked God to give me this and lead me to it and I will let go of the alcohol. I can see that he is working this miracle in my life. We can all find healing and a path out of the darkness of anxiety disorders. When I was a teen there was nothing out there to help. Now the internet is full of help and there are so many people talking about it. I prayed for a day when this would happen and I’m grateful to be alive to see it
I had to read an essay in front of the class. When I first started reading it, my voice was shaky and I was sweating and dizzy, and by the end, I was crying. :)
For anime lovers : Komi can’t communicate is an excellent anime who’s show a young girl named Komi whos also have a problem to communicate due to social anxiety. I highly suggest this show to understand this type of anxiety.
I've seen the first season but couldn't wait for the second so I read the manga. And now season 2 is out. Its really good.
That was fun but it doesn't relate to most of our problems. She has a healthy home and basically a guardian angel who just appears in her life and deals with her problems.
lol, the other way around for me: I'm here after watching Komi. I'm not diagnosed with social anxiety, but I feel a lot of the symptoms. High-functioning S.A.D., if you will. Reading the comments here has been helpful.
Peace, nice to see others enjoying Komi. Can't wait for a season 3!
I figured she was an actors based on how well her social skills are and how much eye contact she was giving. I figured she was either really comfortable with the other lady or that she was an actor
Yesterday was an extremely embarrassing moment for me, I tried going to a Halloween party and I only knew one person there and 10 minutes in I was freaking out I went outside a couple of times so I can relax away from everyone. When I went back in I was glued to my phone and I wouldn’t make eye contact with anyone, when more people showed up I told my friend that I think I forgot to lock my car door when I know I didn’t and as soon as I got in the car I started busted out crying. Which ruined my Halloween make up meaning I couldn’t go back in even if I wanted to because it looked like I was crying. I was trying to think of an excuse to just leave but I ended up texting her the truth and I haven’t heard from her since I was too embarrassed to tell her in person.
Almost the same thing happened to me yesterday at a halloween party 😂 but i always try remember everyone else is probably too busy worrying that they're not being embarassing themselves to notice what others are doing. Anyone in the same situation would feel uncomfortable, be kind to yourself ❤
@@skootzkadoodles Thank you for your encouraging words it really does mean a lot. It also makes me feel better knowing that I’m not the only one sometimes it feels so hopeless but we can both get through it!! 💕
@@caitlinrichardson8494 That is really not a good friend... She should've make sure that you are comfortable in the first place... and now that she knows, she should've definitely at least call you the next day, talk to you and support you...
That's why people tend to isolated themselves. Let's be kind to people
I purchased a hidden camera to keep an eye on my children while I’m at work. I’m selling baby birds and forgot the camera was there so when I watched it to check on the kids, I seen how I acted . I cried! I’m here because I’m searching ways to control my anxiety and this was not at all how I acted. I was sweating so bad it was running down my face. Then... I made up stupid excuses as to why I started sweating profusely. The looks on their faces said it all when I left the room to get something. I swear people think I’m on drugs. It looks like I’m on drugs. I can’t control it no matter how hard I try.
I feel like they should have had someone else act that out with her she had never met and hadn’t been comfortable with her doctor , she was obviously comfortable talking with her , and it’s almost like an act . My anxiety happens everyday but In the most random of places and even at home while I’m alone I may get a bad panic attack
I relate so much to this girl. I've suffered pretty severe social anxiety since adolescence. my name is also Hannah lol
Good on you hannah , you seem really great talking and not shaking or sweating etc , I suffer with social anxiety also.
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Hi judith, i think it is incredible what you are doing with these videos! Keep up the good work
Omg... She can't be an actor. I can't believe my eyes. Everything relates my situation.
Mine one is a rare social anxiety - I hate my same aged people. Bcoz of that I have literally 0 friends. I find them too much more energetic and active than me. My mind always thinks I won't fit among those boys and end up in failure and they will laugh at me. I hope I could find some boys like those in comment section in my locality who can understand the social anxiety difficulties to befriend with. 😢 Every boys seems like they already engaged in a friendship zone and no extra person they need
I often used to be known as the super quiet and shy kid in class, couldn’t speak to anyone I didn’t know, can hardly socialise, when I got put in group work I hated it and my heart would always race and I’d feel this overwhelming feeling of nervousness, honestly it was more than just shy. I’ve grown up with people telling me you just need to be more confident, you need to speak up more, you’re just shy don’t worry etc. My anxiety isn’t as bad as when I was a kid/teen, but I will definitely not be 100%
I have social anxiety and I learned not to care what other people think even when I come off as weird or nervous but I have too much pride to accept that I'm not comfortable around another human being who is just like me. Eventhough I learned not to care I still get angry when someone sympathizes with me or even worse look down on me. What a shit disorder
I have been dealing with social anxiety since i was small, i think my kinder or first grade. Growing up a mommas boy and always wanting to be with her, getting her approval’ really messed me up. I always had friends, but the more i grew up i became an outkast.. high school was horrible and adulthood even worse. The same exact panic attacks she described is what i get occasionally, if its bad’ i will get red hot, sweat and not be able to breathe. I never been confident and always worried about what people think of me. so im sure that is my biggest issue..i dont plan on getting help with meds, i know my day will come where I beat this anxiety
why don't you want meds?
everything you said including high school relates with me. It really sucks how much rude people can be. No body understands and for me I'm thought of as childish/crazy things that are out of my control. I wish I fully would stop caring and being laughed at. Hopefully things get better for us.
Study and train yourself on self confidence. Fear and confidence can’t dwell at the same time to the same person. Stop focusing on fear, start focusing on confidence. Hope it helps
awww bless, she's so pretty and seems like such a nice person
She’s an actor this is not real
I'm anxious that people would see me as stupid that's why I tend to be quiet. Everytime I go out I need to have a script incase I need to talk to someone. If something unexpected happens, my mind goes blank and I don't have anything to say. My mind is slow, it really needs time to process every information.
My defense mechanisms in the moment are similar to hers. But when I get home from work, is where the real defense comes in and where the real destruction is.
I use porn, masturbation, tv/RUclips, isolation as methods to escape the world and get as far away from the awkward, insecure, social anxiety memories from the week of work. And I spend the weekend running and hiding, dreading Monday.
Any suggestions?
11219tt yes
Don’t overthink. Ez pz lemon sqeez
Nathan Higgers how do I do it?
11219tt try to focus on the present. I believe there are many cures to social anxiety. You just basically have to fix what you fear. Many people who have social anxiety have different fears.
That's exactly how I cope with my social phobia as well. Everything you just said but I go as far as using drugs as well because I just HAVE to escape. I've been addicted to benzos for a long time, (Xanax, Ativan.) And even do fentanyl. It's sad. I feel so bad for myself and anyone who deals with this on such an extreme level as me.
I suffer from an anxiety disorder.I never realized that I had terrible social anxiety, it totally makes sense.
Dont worry it happens to many people. I can hear you and understand what it feels like. If you wanna chat sometime do let me know.
I think I have social anxiety (and maybe depression)?
Ok so I wrote a whole lot before, but it got deleted which is annoying but:
I’ve tried to tell my mum about this once, whilst nearly tearing up (it took me a lot of courage to say that), but she literally told me that I’d get over it and I can’t be like that. Like wtf??
And thing is, I’ve been like this since the start of high school (11), so it’s been around 5 years now. So no, I still haven’t gotten over it.
I often get nauseous, my heart would thump really fast or experience heart palpitations(?) like really bad.
Even the thought of having to talk to someone, gives me the feeling of my heart dropping to my stomach.
And it doesn’t even matter if it’s in 4 hours or 2+ days.
I’d also often avoid eye contact and use any excuse to look at something else (for example if something dropped), to get my eyes on that instead.
When I would be told by the teacher, to talk in front of the class, I sometimes hear sniggering. That just lowered my self esteem a lot.
Especially one time, when I heard a teacher telling them off for doing so, I know they mean good, but it made it a lot worse for it just proves how clear the sniggering was.
Another time, a teacher told me off really loud because I had another subject’s work on my table (I wasn’t even looking at it, I was looking at the screen) and was shouted at, to put my work on her desk. As I did, people were LITERALLY SNIGGERING SO LOUD and it was the worse day for me. I silently cried during the rest of the lesson, but put effort to not show the tears, as I didn’t want to attract attention or seem selfish.
The teacher had anxiety herself, so it was just awful how she did not imagine if she were me in that position, and how anxious I was when walking to her desk and back.
(P.S she was also very bad at teaching imo.)
All of these type of negative situations literally made my self esteem worse over the years, therefore making me extremely lazy/not being bothered with anything (maybe why I would have symptoms of depression too?) and constantly paranoid about my looks (thinking that people are always looking at me and judging me for my appearance even when they’re probably not), despite not taking care of myself and dressing nicely.
There are so many other things I could talk about, but this is just a few things that have bothered me…
And btw, I’m able to say this out here because nobody knows my real identity, otherwise I don’t think I would be able to openly say this with anyone.
I want to get diagnosed, but I don’t have the courage to tell my parents about SAD and if they were to book an appointment, I don’t know if I could handle talking to a complete stranger about my personal issues, due to obviously, my suspecting Social anxiety.
I’d also probably cry which is also embarrassing. 🙁
Can anyone give me advise on how to get this diagnosed of someone please??
I don’t want to keep assuming.
I want to get it diagnosed and get the closure I need, also being able to have medical proof to excuse me in certain situations.
I apologise for this annoying long comment, but I’ve been bothered about this years.
Thank you for reading…
CBT helped me so much in overcoming my social anxiety., espescially exposure therapy. Great video, thank you.
can you tell me more abt your experience I kinda started losing hope 🥺
@@fatislimi5145Sure I am glad to help, but it's a long story. I am 40 now but when I was a child I was very shy and avoided other kids, mostly because the kids at school made fun of my accent and weight. I went to counseling and the did exposure therapy with me. First step was asking what situations made me anxious, and why. Like the doctor did in this video.
@@fatislimi5145Next step was to gradually put myself in these anxious situations to get comfortable in them. It took many years (getting older helped too) before I started enjoying being in groups of people. There is no need to lose hope, you absolutely CAN overcome your anxiety. Keep pushing yourself, a bit more every time, and you will improve.
You can really notice she's so nervous I can feel her
aw I feel like giving these people a huge hug
When you're sitting with the therapist u feel less weird less anxious cuz they know u have them. You'll feel comfortable around them. But it's way much worse when you are surrounded by people
Watching this in a bar carpark on my own at 9pm on a cold winters night as I desperately struggle to even move myself knowing how many people are in there
I can feel your pain, because I also suffer from it. It’s very painful
People dont realize that people with social anxiety start to gain self-hatred through time.
Im speaking from experience
Absolutely true. I have SAD and currently I have myself a lot. I am constantly hearing those 'voices' when I get outside and they keep telling me that I am no worthy, or that I look bad, or that I'm terrible. And the worst thing is that I realize how absurd and unreal that is, but at the same time I can't shut those voices, so I get back to my safe place (my home) where they finally stop.
I am trying to fight it now, I analyzed some of the reasons why I have it in the first place - bad memories from my childhood and teenage years, parents kind of neglecting me (not on purpose), I've been mocked, etc... My SAD caused me to gain weight and that is making my self-esteem go even lower.
But I try. And I talked about it with my husband and he is very supportive and understanding. I also opened about the problem to my friend and she is also trying to help me.
After years of avoiding people I would like to make the suggestion that you gave it the best you can. I got to the point I was peeing around corners to make sure no one was around and ducking and dodging people. I am now no longer young and wished I dealt with it in my teens.
So brave for letting us watch! 🤍
i realized just now that i have social anxiety/anxiety since i was 6 Years Old, i remember i need to pee but i can't Stand up because i feel like people will care or scold me so i stayed and peed there💀 it's worse now
Wut da ?
After seeing this... now I am fully convinced that I don't have social anxiety disorder thanks god. In no way I'd behave like this in public. I wish her the best!
Instead being an extroverted introvert....well.. your expectations/imaginations are responsible why things don't go your way.
I'm truly enjoying watching this series of videos. Good job. Very helpful.
Well in my opinion, The instant cure for anxiety is to understand the fact that there are infinite amount of possible outcomes in this universe and our brain only thinks of a handful . A bad outcome can become the means of a good outcome in the future. Just like that a good outcome can become the means of a bad outcome. For example, you lost your job (bad thing). But then you got a new job which is better ( bad thing led to a good outcome.) It's an endless cycle. So just go with the flow and don't think about it . 😄 Goodluck.
I dont know if what i am suffering from is shyness or social anxiety .i do look normal and confident when i talk with ppl that i don know and knew i am not gonna meet them after that..i start shaking and looking down in several times :1)at the begging when i meet sb i knew and it has been long time since we last met especially if i do care about hem but i after a while(it depends on the person if he start chatting) i return to act normal 2)when i talk in front of many ppl or if i joined a big talk and it comes my turn to start talking (even if they are my best friends) 3)in the online classes when the teacher ask me to read some thing(although i am a bookworm and ppl do like my reading voice and i shut down the camera so no one is looking at me ) i start shaking all over my body and read very very fast then my voice start fading till i couldn't talk at all
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious men a lot
easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
I'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty sure I have depression and social anxiety
1. Going outside, I just have this feeling that if I go outside everything will go wrong and I get more uncomfortable the closer I get to going outside, however when I do go outside I don't feel that bad, for example I had a birthday today that I didn't go to because I am very anxious and uncomfortable thinking of it atm. The other thing would be seeing someone on the street that I know but isn't my friend, those kind of situations are really weird for me and make me very anxious, when I see someone I know but i'm not that comfortable with I just get so fucking uncomfortable, I just try to look at them for a few seconds, say "hi how are you?" and keep walking.
2. Clonazepam, seriously, I want some fucking medication, this shit's horrible, I don't wanna be worrying all the time about everything, I wanna take some pill and be able to feel half as normal as I was 6 years ago.
i know this is so off topic, but she’s really pretty.
I never graduated because of my social anxiety. I went to university, having new classmates, it was very uncomfortable around them. I just stop attending class and stop learning. Bought PS2 and go to my uncle house. He was unmarried and loved me so much. I could do everything in his house. My mom just thought I was going to the university regularly. I failed 2nd year. Next year, I repeated doing the same things as last year. Failed again. If I failed for the third time, the university would expel me. I thought I would be going to the class regularly in next year. But I repeated doing same things again for 3 years. When the final exam comes I know nothing what to answer. Coincidentally I got fever and diagnosed with TB in the second day of exam. I have my own excuse to tell other people that I got TB and didnt graduate. But I only know the true reason why I fail not only graduation but also the opportunities of my life.
ı am so sorry to hear that ,ı suffer from exactly same things ,would you like to talk with me
This problem made my life so bad. Feeling I'm not fit for this society
You are an excellent therapist! I wish you were mine!!
Almost thought the girl in the thumbnail was me
Then I got really afraid
Then I realized,,,that ain’t me
it means u have given a interview like her
This is so strange so when I was going through a rough patch About two years ago I though fuck it I’ll have to try CBT, in one of my early appointments the therapist literally copied this exercise word for word, it’s almost given me flashbacks. I kinda feel like I’ve been played or something, like she must have watched this video an just recycled it? I mean I suppose it’s an exercise they are trained to do but thinking back it feels a bit disingenuous. I ended up stopping after about 4-5 sessions, ironically I was to anxious to carry on and tbh the role playing an the “exposure therapy” was a bit degrading. Still suffer to this day but I don’t think I could do it again.
I know right! It does come across as disingenuous completely. I've had many of these CBT and other types of therapists and none of them helped. Infact if any thing it made it WORSE. I would not recommend this to anyone unless you think it's something that could personally help you. It seems strange to me to do therapy like this where the person feels inferior to the therapist and is scared of them. Think about it you are already terrified of social situations right? So what do these therapists recommend? Sitting in an appointment that is going to make you more social anxious, awkward, embarrassed, inferior, etc,etc. How is this going to help? It put me off therapists and doctors for life (and yes I tried many different one's) it only made it worse not better... :-(
@@LisaSimpson2 it’s a type of therapy that exposes the person to alternative methods to make them realize it’s “not that big of a deal”. Which is, your right, disingenuous. Medication really helped my anxiety, but I know I need t be able to make this work.
My problems occur once my relationships fail, I over analysis the whole relationship and question myself what I could have done differently in the relationship then I cannot focus on other things as my mind just constantly runs why me what have I done wrong to not have this relationship not work, My relationship lasted 7 months, it came to an end 3 weeks ago and I’m still going over it all in my mind, I’ve spoken to a few friends and they have said it’s not you it’s them but that doesn’t change my mind set
Hey! I hope you are fine. I understand what you are going through. I also have gone through to same situation and i know its not easy. If you wanna talk about it i am here for you. Maybe I can help you. Stay blessed 🙂
I need someone to talk with about this...
Yeah you should try it. I did too and it really helps ☺
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Psychiatrist is the obvious choice
@mohmd yaz hi gooday to you
@John Diro. I hope you are fine. We can surely talk about it. Do let me know when you want to chat.
1:30 What exactly does it mean "to communicate properly with the people"? I feel there is a key piece of information in the answer.
I hope everyone who had anxiety can manage it.
I hate living with social anxiety and just anxiety overall. I hate feeling so nervous and fucking up my speech when i present infront of people. I wasn’t always like this before. I suffered trauma in elementary school because my teachers would pick on me or make me look stupid infront of my classmates and from there i just felt anxious about everything. Seeking help is expensive and not everyone can afford therapy. I dont wanna take medication, i tried cbd oil yet i still feel anxious when i present. Tbh idk what to do anymore. I feel like i can’t seek a career without feeling anxious
I do felt all from childhood...But now at 43 i found it's social anxiety disorder which is still killing me...
love her acting wow
acting?????
@Glen she is not a actor🙄🙄
@@aktechnical-help4728 she is
@@ichangedmyname5278 noooo she was so natural
@@aktechnical-help4728 yh it says in the description
i have the same problem 😭😭 it is NOT fun to live with for sure. but the most bothering thing to me is the turning red thing. cause that way it's soo obvious that i feel uncomfortable and people seeing that makes me even more anxious:( pleaseeee if someone knows how to get rid of the redness, i am down for an operation or something like that, anything to heal from this:'( cause i hate it soooo much. makes me cut a conversation at a random point and it's weird:(
I have also anxiety issues. Like before going out I have severe nausea and constipation. I spent half an hour in the washroom before going out. I feel sort of gases in my stomach. And once I am in public I am all well. I am a good speaker, a good presenter and I know all these things but still I have severe anxiety issues.
Hannah is a great actress.
Thanks,doc.I'll try this in reality,hope it works.
Am 29 and this is still happening to me
Thank you for your great videos. However, I'm not sure how realistic it is the recording and interaction with you with a camera in your office, since she's not really in her job setting. So, is this really a good sample to disproof some of her false beliefs? What I mean: She will probably act different in your office than she would in her work setting, since she already feels comfortable with you etc. Thanks for the reply in advance, and keep up with the great work.
Yes thank you! I already commented on this (see above) but I couldn't describe what I meant quite as articulately as you just did! Thank you! The role-playing is a little silly and pointless as like you said, she's obviously not going to act the same way in her therapist's office and at an appointment as she would in her natural work environment out there in the real world! That's the only thing that kinda annoys me about this. Like how is this going to help? The fact that therapists think that this type of thing is just going to cure or even mildly help someone is beyond me. It's like repeatedly throwing someone afraid of fire into a fire and saying after 6 months, "There! Are you cured now?". I don't believe this type of therapy (or any of the current therapies) even works (well not for me at least and I've had this my whole life since a child and had countless therapists/doctors/different types of therapy) and it only made it worse and exacerbated it... if any thing at all. I wish there were more therapeutic options for this debilitating illness. This can't be the only way!
If this is something you go through Nicotine Dolls just released a visual EP "Sex, Addiction, & Everyone Else" that talks about it.
i have severe social anxiety..i have to think deep and come up with good point to participate in conversation...n if i stutter..ohh man its like all focus is on me.
I avoid walking to direction where there are known faces.
i was listening not watching and the voice made me sleepy
She is so precious!
I worry about that in social situations. Mainly when I am filling out paperwork in front of people whil applying for a job. I get neck and head tremors. It's awful. I can't afford therapy but I need it. I didn't used to be like this. It happened to me I think after I had been through a ton of abuse and bullying.
2 days ago i had to praesent and argue about a topic in a meeting where my whole school was watching me.And in stage i forgot everything that I was about to say and then I couldnt hear anything or see anything I just standed there without doing anything And the only thing i could think was that I ruined my image and they will laugh at me.even rn when i remember it I still think that they will make fun of me And I stress
I can feel you here. One of the things that caused SAD in my case is exactly a speach in front of many people during my teenage years. I started fine and then some stupid assholes started to mock me and that was terrible experience. To be mocked in front of so many people...
Now I know, why I don't have a job up until now, Even though I practice what I would say in an interview. But when I'm actually there and the interviewer is looking at me, I get very nervous that my mind get blank and I can even say properly what I practice.
I have quite a severe stutter when I'm around more than several people, I'm fine at home with family, going out socially fills me with dread.
for me its usually the opposite, around people i dont know i have less anxiety than when family comes over 😖