SOCIAL ANXIETY EXPLAINED: anxiety triggers
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"Starting a conversation first. If you have social anxiety, you pretty much never do it"
Is it just me that gets a sudden burst of confidence to lead a conversation when I'm around shy/quiet people?
I'm like that too... Then I think that maybe I'm getting better and I can talk to not-shy people too but nah... it's just like that when I'm around people like me...
@@cerengurcan5538 Same 😖
No you r not alone. It's also happened with Me
@@cerengurcan5538 same things happened with me
Same. I wonder why.
I prefer to be alone but when I isolate myself my depression and anxiety increase.
I do the same thing it's a really bad cycle which caused me to loose a lot of friends.
same, you end up feeling like all of your friends hate you, even the ones who attempt to keep in touch with you
yeah i just feel like they're doing it out of pity
I would keep making new friends almost every year. Discarding the last years friends because I wanted to leave them instead for them leaving me. And now I just gave up all together with friendships. And yeah now my anxiety is getting worse. Any ways I’m glade I’m not the only one.
i dont even have much friends anymore. People don't even approach me tbh. I constantly feel like something is putting people of me. They avoid me like the plague
Dont forget about walking...
Yes, I can’t walk outside of my home, especially in the malls.
vodkaneitor YES OMG IM NOT THE ONLY ONEEEEE
I really thought I was the only one
@@oj8272 no. You're not. Me too. I don't know how to behave while walking down the street... Where to put my hands and so on... Terrible...
@@theforeigner6988 the absolute worst for me is when a driver stops to let you pass. I feel like im on a catwalk at that moment.
Phone calls are my weakness. I hate them so much. 😤
me too
Eliška Pokludová dochodzi do tego ze nie odbieram od ZNAJOMYCH
Your not alone.
Don't we all ?
Same
I can relate to almost every situation you mentioned.. one that I can add is when ever I pass a group of people and I hear them laughing I always feel like it’s about me .. Although I know it’s not ! But still that damn voice in my head ...
I wish I could be professionally diagnosed but in where I live mental issues isn’t taken seriously 💔
Oh yes, I had that one to! Thank you for bringing that up!
Ana Sorescu when I get a job and can afford it I will definitely take my self to a therapist.. we can’t really depend on those around us for it unfortunately 💔
I totally can relate. Stay strong :)
YESSSSSS
stay strong !! 💖💖
Social anxiety straight out sucks. I’ve tried to repress it for so long and I never admitted/talked to others about it because I’m so ashamed of it and I feel like a burden. I feel like everyone around me is moving forward in their lives and I’m just stuck in the same spot I was since I was little. I crave to socialize but it’s so hard. I wish I was outgoing, I feel like I missed out on so many opportunities because my social anxiety holds me back :(
feel you..
Super relatable. It almost feels like you wasn't even meant to be alive in the first place.
Glad to know I'm not the only one.
I feel this
Look, you can't imagine how much I relate to this
Have you ever noticed a lack of humor? Personally this usally happens also with my friends. I simply feel like i don't know how to be funny
Francesco Rotolo I feel the same way. I have 3 friends at school that I’ve known for years but for some reason i still get nervous around them. I sit with them lunch but I rarely talk to them at our table. They know I’m like that sometimes so they don’t really bother me and they just have their own conversations... but then when I actually have the courage to talk to my friends and tell them joke, I end up getting nervous because they’re all looking at me and then the joke isn’t funny any more because i was just stuttering the whole time :(
Yesi T I understand you a lot... it's really frustrating when social anxiety affects also our friendships... until recently I felt spontaneous with them... i didn't worry about have nothing to say... but now s.a. has completely changed me
I'm like this but I think it depends on who I'm around also. A lot of my old friends would make jokes I found bad or never laughed at and I would feel uncomfortable. But I have other close friends and my siblings who I laugh a lot with.
Yesi T try having my friends who mock you every time you stutter
sameee, until im really comfortable with someone (then i can be witty and think of jokes on the spot)
am I the only one that can't stand eye contacts with teachers like whenever my teacher and I make eye contact my whole body feels like its on fire.
x X same😑
Same
I know just a few people with i can keep eye contact. Most of the time I look on their lip, even when I am watching a video, movie.
Yeah me too especially males and I hate being in small crowds I feel like I'm being watched and talked about
no you not for me even with my relatives i can't and guys i just met
Yesss I relate to 90% of these. Some of my biggest triggers are: entering the workplace late, going to the bathrooms unless it’s completely empty, asking for help at a store/ walking into a store which is empty (I prefer big stores that have a lot of customers, because sales assistants don’t come up to you)
What's with the rest?
So if you really had to pee u would just hold it? 😫😱
yeah :(
Your list of triggers is very accurate, I can relate to almost all of them. Some other triggers I have noticed in my case are: seeing someone you know on the street, passing by little stores whose owners know you, sitting in the front rows of a classroom (i feel like everybody behind me judges the way i sit or move), people asking for your opinion in a big group (basically speaking in front of many people), speaking to the delivery guy. Those are just things I have noticed in my social anxiety. Loved your video, as always! Keep posting and making the world a better place :)
I'm getting sick to my stomach just listening to the examples. I started to remember all the similar situations I was in and I'm just so bothered right now, I'm fidgety. It really sucks...
you are not alone!
Whenever I have what I deem a "successful" conversation or social interaction I get rlly proud of myself lol
Same here ahhh
I remember having a proper conversation once with this person many years ago. I always used to feel normal for a short while after spending a few days at home only with family. The person I talked to was so impressed by me, she kept telling others how I was and that she wished to meet me again, but I purposely avoided her cz I knew I wouldn't be able to be like that again. This happened quite a few times with me. Many years later, she still remembered me, and specially travelled to one of my friend's house to meet me, I wasn't prepared, and she must have thought what she saw in me. 😅
It is so weird, those small conversations of normalcy made me realize how people can bring so much happiness to your life, how surprises work, how support works, something that must be so normal for others.
I used to have a polar opposite personality, I could really pull people in with one and with the other just disappear. I guess I had to break with that, only one of me could remain. The last time I had a proper conversation would be when I was 16, now I am 24. It is just getting worse.
this is absolutely accurate. i go through to the same situation where i chose to walk a long path back home that took me an 30 to 40 minutes walk rather than just take the short path because there were a bunch of people from my neighborhood, mostly males,. around the area that I'm supposed to walk and afraid they might judge or stare at me eventhough it could possibly not going to happen and the anxiety took me a very long minutes to reach home just to avoid meeting up with those people and avoid the entire situation of having to be seen by them (eventhough they are not strangers because those people know me and i know them for years)
Omg me too :(
Frequently I choose to take the stairs because I want to avoid people in the elevator... :(
Also, mentally repeat the word 'present' or 'here' when the teacher is checking for assistance, until your turn comes.
Is it just me?
Edit: and after that, you overanalyze how your voice sounded...
I do that too omgg
nope. me too.
Omg same
Same, and then my heart rate goes exponentially higher while I start worrying how shaky my voice will be saying one word or if I will even be able to say it right. When they ask me something without preparation, no problem. If the answer isn't too long at least.
oh and if the teacher didn't hear it the first time and u have to say it again. that kills
phone calls are so bad. i don't answer them and wait about 15 minutes to text the person "sorry, what's up?". also; talking about your interests, i always think nobody wants to hear about them. another thing that upsets me so much- my friends always tell me that i'm lazy because i don't go out with them almost at all. it really hurts me, but i don't want to tell them about my social anxiety, i'm almost 100% sure they wouldn't understand and think i'm overreacting because i'm not diagnosed. my parents always say that too, but if i told them how do i feel, they wouldn't believe me.
Magda yikes. I relate *so* much to that part with your friends.
same
i'm one of those people who can't even interact with people online and anonimous. I rarely post or say anything online but when i do i usually end up thinking about it for hours or even days. In some cases i have to return and delete my messages.
OMG, I can totally relate to that. And I used to think I was the only one.
It's the same for me
To go to a party or night club I have to get drunk. and also when drunk is the only time I comment and post in facebook but next day I delete everything. That was only 1 symtom
i don’t know if i have anxiety but i totally relate to that
especially in french and spanish because i have to say that in the language
YESSSS!!!!!
_When you have almost all of the triggers that she is listing and remember the memories as the list goes on..._
I was an extremely extrovert when I was a kid. Due to experiences I've become an introvert. I was "popular" at school and didn't had any fears of public speaking, failing, bad grades and so on.
What made me an introvert?
Probably the fact that I lost all my closest friends. This gave me "trust issues" and I've spent most of the time at home and due to the fact that I didn't had my friends anymore... I enjoyed my time more and more on my own and that's how I've become an introvert.
Your situation is different. I don’t think it has anything to do with introversion. You lost all your close friends - it was not a choice or a preference. Introverts actually have a close group of friends, most times, and they enjoy seeing them. But only for a limited amount of time, until they refuel. I think what happened to you was not a switch from extrovert to introvert. You just lost faith in people and, as you’ve said it yourself, developed trust issues. I think that if someone solved these and you met a group of people worth your time and trust, you would’ve gone back to being outgoing. But what do I know. I’m theorizing about a random person on the Internet.
This is so me it's scary
I've had 'trust issues' since i was a child. From being introvert to having a social anxiety.
Thats excatly what happened to me too, then others experiences added on that developed my social anxiety , depression... There was a time posting a comment like this was a struggle, my heart would race,sweaty palms, second thoughts..etc but now im fine due to practice. But anxiety is still there.
i am diagnosed with social anxiety but i have a completely different experience than you do. when i’m confronted with a social situation i get so anxious that i act like an extrovert. i can never be myself and i often get extremely tired because of this. when i can be myself i do recognise a lot of your triggers. i think i just respond to them differently.
i love your videos and they’ve helped me so much.
thank you
I think I know what you mean. Even if I relate to most of what she said I also deal with some situations with what I like to call 'fake confidence'. I feel like it's a method I've accidentally tried and seen that works so now I always do this in some situations. For example if I have to be in a room full of people (class, course, meeting or just a group of people chatting) I believe that being quite and hiding in the corner makes me stand out more and makes me feel more awkward, and it's like there's a big sign over my head that says 'I am anti-social'. So what I do is I start making jokes and chatting so that if people laugh with me they accept me and I don't stand out, even if I probably do by talking. It doesn't make sense but it's how I've always dealt with this.
omfg same
@@silv3rxo same ....
Same....
Omg same, and when I act like myself people tend to think that I am being rude all of a sudden.
I have noticed recently that people avoid me like the plague.
I have given up trying.
Im safe when i'm home, all alone.
I have a friend who I’m so freaking grateful for because she helps me through the hard times of social anxiety and she won’t run away from me no matter what. I’m so grateful for her that I’m actually crying because I’m so glad she’s in my life.
Being late for class and then actually going in, is particularly dreadful when you have social anxiety. Then you realize you have gone deer in the headlights look and all the seats seem full, cause you want to sit down as quickly as you can. Also, as you are going through the college cafeteria to find a place to sit you feel uncomfortable. The simple act of walking can feel uncomfortable when there are other people nearby. Then the seat you choose is the farthest one from anyone else, at an empty table. Yah, that is me over there, the guy with the social anxiety. The things you remember when you had social anxiety. There is another situation, dating. The trouble with dating women when you have social anxiety is, that you can't ask them out in the first place. Even if I could approach someone I liked in the first place, I couldn't spit out a sentence to save my life if I tried. Sometimes I wonder if any of my crushes ever suspected that I liked them?
I'm 20 years old, I'm having a gap year and I'm terribly afraid to apply for any job. I'm known as a clumsy and awkward person so I'm afraid that I might disappoint someone or make a really idiotic mistake and thus be a problem for someone. It's paralyzing and I don't know what to do.
Siray honestly same here, im about to be 20 and all my friends have jobs and everyones is expected to have a job at this age. I truly want a job but the idea of having one makes me anxious.
plus im afraid I wont even get a job to begin with because im awkward with people and I dont have that "bubbly" and outgoing personality that most jobs are looking for
Your voice is just so soothing
Search up asmr on youtube
I don`t know if I have a social anxiety as I`ve never seen a therapist. Every time I think about checking with a professional, I`m afraid that my attempts at understanding what`s wrong with me is just me looking for a kind of a `scapegoat` for my shortcomings.
'Do I have a real and curable problem or am I just looking for a justification of my own mistakes' - that`s a constant thought that never goes away
there's one more thing thats triggers me with anxiousness and anxiety; when i need to pay at the cashier, am so sure i would mostly look like someone who's lost or i stole some thing or someone who just found out that they forgot their wallet, cuz my hands would start shaking and nervousness would show on my face(i once gave the cashier my id instead of my credit card lol)..
i hate to show that side when i go shopping with friends since i dnt mention my anxiety much
I'm the same way. Going to the grocery / shops is very distressing.
Its bad when the person u went shopping with notices ur nervousness and mocks or brings it up nonchalantly and laughs.
I have never been to a therapist also because I am scared, but I think that I do have (almost 100% sure) social anxiety or general anxiety, because apart from many other things I have lost so many good opportunities in my life because I was too scared of everything. It haunts me and it does actually make me physically sick. I am trying meditation to see how it goes, fingers crossed!
That's the hard part when u have social anxiety, I don't feel comfortable with anyone, even with my own mother sometimes. So how am I suppose to find a therapist I am comfortable with...
@@sibydrowns5756 you cant know which therapist is comfortable with you unless you try one! My mom wont understand me, but i know something is wrong with me. So I collected money for a year and just- try a therapist in famous hospital. Never regretted my shotgun choices.
Same for me, I'm 17 and I feel like my social anxiety is getting worse the older I'm getting. So I'm planning to talk to a school counselor once school starts. ( I'm saying this now, but I can predict that I won't have the courage to do this yikess)
@@najmahssn hey, you can do it! Better treat it earlier than later like me hiks. I hope you'll think the benefit to talk about it is much much bigger than the scariness you felt when you in front of the consultant's door.
I lost all my friends due to depression and social anxiety
Same thing unfortunately happened to me too...I feel like most of the people here still do mention some friends, whereas I know I don't even have them anymore.
same i lost all of them ...
Same I just stopped taking to them bc I couldn’t join in the conversation and they would always hang out without me
It sucks
Have you ever experienced anxiety flushing? Like redness in the face?
For me it’s not an embarrassment thing, it just happens and I can’t help it. I get red/warmth on the sides of my face and sometimes on my chest. I get redness around my mouth and sides of my nose(as if I was wearing sunglasses and have sunburn) it goes away after I calm down and stuff but I hate it! 😩
I also get redness in my face when I eat or smile or laugh or even talk, anything that requires moving my mouth. It’s like the skin stretches and creates redness. I hate it.
UnDeR tHe StArS oVeR ThE mOoN YES. This happens to me too and it’s so irritating cause I feel like my anxiety is on display for the world...
Exactly: looks fine to others from the outside when you are literally boiling in the inside
Exactly how i feel
For me it is PE class. During the class I just shake and my mind goes blank. So I really have no control over my body and look so stupid. I am scared to run and move because I feel like everyone is watching me. And gonna make fun of me. Also speeking in front of a group is a drama.
Same, I always got a feeling of dread when gym class would come around
Nienke Tromp ikr when i speak for a group my voice starts to shake and i feel very anxious when the teacher calls on me
i sit out on pe lol
@@cynosa5982 not just you lol
When someone knoks on the door. Anyone. Stranger, courier, friend. Even if you expecting so.
I haven't seen anyone explain social anxiety so clearly than you. You really explain social anxiety from every situation that would make us feel nervous. I myself im working on overcoming social anxiety.
Thanks ❤️ this makes me feel like im not alone
Isabella Brunello you're not alone. we're in the battlefield together 😊
You're definitely not alone! I also feel reliefed when I realize so many people struggle to get through such ˜simple things˜.
Mine:
- calling people on the phone
- answering the phone
- talking on the phone
- facetiming people
- eating in front of people
- going outside and locking my door (I always feels like people are watching me)
- sitting in a classroom (I feel like teachers are judging me or about to pick on me)
- when im at work im so scared to make a mistake
- going to parties
- going to family events
- people touching me
- people looking at me
- going shopping
- going to try things on in a fitting room
- booking appointments
- meeting new people
- dates
- gym
- answering the register
- knocking on someone's door
- someone knocking on my door
- answering the door
- going for a run
- touching people like patting them on the back or leaning on them
- typing in front of people
- playing sports with people
- walking past a group of people
- getting changed in front of people
- writing in front of people
- walking into a room off people
- asking a question to an authority figure
- asking a question in front of people
- standing up in a room
- asking for help / telling someone you are ill/need help
- responding to unexpected questions
- when you are meeting someone and see them for the first time and have to greet them
- asking for things at cafes/restuarants
- being honest about whether you like something/don't like something
- joining in a conversation already taking place
- talking about myself (what I got for xmas, or plans for xmas)
- reading out loud in class
- making eye contact
- what clothes im wearing around people
so we have some in common, i'm glad you are doing better, and I wish the same for everybody watching x
In conclusion, everything.
please do asmr .. with that voice omg 😍😪😪😪
amr aboutaleb True True 😁
amr aboutaleb she shared on her insta that she is planning on making an asmr video some time in the future :)
The only way I’ve gotten over these things is actually forcing myself into these situations
After watching just two out of the six videos in this series, I have realized that I don’t have social anxiety, as I have self-proclaimed for years, and rather I’m just extremely shy. Thank you for this! Now I can work at curing my shyness without having an excuse to hide behind- which will be hard, but for the better.
Thank you so much for this video and this series as well. I suffered from social anxiety for many years without understanding much about it, and when I did begin to realise I had people left and right telling me how I don't have it that bad or that my anxiety isn't that severe. A lot of the triggers you talked about opened my eyes to how I behave in those situations as well, and I realised that my triggers are a lot more than I initially thought. I hope you continue talking about your experience with social anxiety since I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels very validated by your videos!!
Goddam you make me cry after every this type of video because of how much i relate to it.... And i feel like im so alone in this because outside online world, in my personal real life even my parents say im just trying to make an excuse to call myself disabled...
After 2 years of finding the right doctor, i finally got diagnozed with right illness. I dont have borderline( i once posted to you telling i have it, and if you might make a video about it), i dont have OCD and avoidant personality disorder (avoid social interactions and people at all costs, dont care about people in emotional level), but i am autistic.. actually have aspergers sindrome, subtype of autism, which makes me have complete lack of understanding normal social interactions, social ques and i take everything literally, like, for example, a friend jokingly says "get out of heeeeere" and i take it seriously and inside i feel im not wanted. And i CONSTANTLY keep my problems and sorrow inside because i dont want to be a burden... even to my best friend who has stayed and listened to me for 4 years and DO NOT care how many times i repeat my issue (shes literally the best friend, yet still im scared..).. And the alone thing... so true, i feel i rather am happy alone, but loneliness cloud comes over very quickly after some time.. So aspergers really connects with social anxiety, and everything you said so far is completely correct as to how i feel it. I dont want to be a burden, i rather stay quiet than speak up just to not make a fool of myself (online i ALWAYS keep anonymous if i want to speak out, just in case i fuck up, so at least they wont know who i am), i need to organize my day before i leave the house so i dont panic... And whats most painful, is that i want to make music and be a singer, muscisian, yet im even scared to practice or make any sound just to not get laughed at even when no one would....
Plus im gonna mention, aspies, unlike SAD, tend to explain one thing in lots of detail, especially if its something theyre passionate about just so people dont misunderstand their point or view, so... Guess you can sense that from how long my comment is 😅
So far to me you are spot on with this, and i love your work. I cant wait for next videos to come
I can really relate to you..I also have social anxiety and even they say be confident and don't be shy fake it till you make it...it still here inside me.
No words of gratitude will ever be enough for this video. Finally someone who understands. Thank you.
I've reached a point now where I can't imagine my life without social anxiety...I know I hate it..but it has just become so attached to me like seriously.....in this one life..am I to live with this?😔
This is so accurate, I have social anxiety too and starting or holding down a conversation is very difficult for me and it takes ages for me to get used to or start speaking more around ppl.I always have to plan a conversation in my head before speaking with anyone. The part where you said it’s easier to speak more online is also accurate, because I tend to feel more comfortable speaking more on social media but when it comes to human interaction I shut down...and ppl always wonder 😩
Never felt so identified in my life. Thank you so much for making such great videos.
Thank you so much. you have no idea how much this series has helped me. thank you.
I absolutely love your channel! You have saved me in so many ways ❤️ your voice itself is self soothing, I wish more people could be this open minded.
Thank you for the video. I can't tell you how much comfort it brings me just to hear the experiences of someone that goes through the same daily anxieties as myself. Hopefully we can all overcome this and be our best selves, and not always on guard.
Ur voice is so calming
thank you for doing these videos, you really can help someone to know a little bit more about this because there are adult people who think that us, young people, go through things that doesn’t matter and is so annoying to hear someone talking about depression or anxiety as if it is something easy. Mental health is one of the most important things in life. 💚
Thanks for all these videos. Now I understand what my friend is going through ❤️
This is bad. I probably have social anxiety, but sometimes it feels just like shyness and introvertness. Can I have everything together? 🤔😩
Please watch the first video.
I know people who are introverts, are shy AND have social anxiety, so it is possible...
Yeah man. I'm all 3
This is spot on! This helped sooo much for me to get it straight in my head. Even though I am beginning to feel better. But Thank you. I don’t feel like the only one X
This is unbelievable. I experience exactly what you described in almost every situation (except 2 maybe).
I have been diagnosed with social anxiety in the past but wasn't really able to relate or understand it properly until watching this.
The older I get the more I realise just how negatively it affects my life in so many respects. It's like an unseen presence, another cold part of myself that holds me back, puts me down and tells me I'm not good enough.
Even while writing this now I'm analysing the thoughts of what others are going to think, how I must be so weak in their eyes, annoying even. My assumptions that I'll be ridiculed turn into the belief that in same way I deserve it.
Thank you for putting yourself and this out there. I started making videos on RUclips for a similar reason, to try and get over my fear of speaking in front of people. But even now I often think of what I've posted and want to go back and delete them from the shame of me being me.
I haven't watched the third video yet, but I have a feeling I need to take this a little more seriously and seek a specialist again. Hopefully I can find someone who can actually help and doesn't just want to chat, as I've had in the past.
Your voice is so calm it makes me feel really relaxed thanks 💕💕
I love your voice Kat, I find it so soothing
I love your videos so much
Thank you very much. You made it clear mow that i have social anxiety because i feel anxious in all the situations you said. ☹
First of all I want to thank you for the work you put here online, you're always a huge inspiration.
Particularly, I wanted to let you know that thanks to the previous video you convinced me to seek for therapy.
I've never taken too seriously my "shyness", until I started and eventually left university. I lasted 5 months like that: I was so terrified to take that train everyday I gave up the entire thing due to exhaustion, among other reasons.
I may be wrong of course, until I don't have a proper diagnosis I can't tell, but just listening to those words made me feel so understood. Now I surely have more chances to know the truth about my anxiety.
So thank you for that.
Also, I'm the one who can't post online. I try so hard since I'd love to share more about my work, but it's so scary for me... I gave up several pages online before they could even start, just because of that. I hope it will get better...
Meanwhile, thanks again. Sorry for the huge message. I love what you do, keep it up, it's amazing :) ❤
Your voice is so calm, love it
I agree with you... We can't tell how others feel or how severe their problems are. I even think that for the person it might be the worst case even if others would feel less stressed about a situation or a problem.
I'm not saying I have social anxiety (one thing for sure I'm an introvert) but it would make a lot of sense... But in my case it would be strange. Because some of the things you listed (and I know you said you don't necessarily have to have these problems) but most of them I do anyway. Regardless of what I feel. I tell myself I can do things and I do... but I really feel miserable during or afterward. Sometimes I can't even bring myself to do it at all. And others don't really understand why I act the way (or don't act the way I'm supposed to act). Even now I can't really describe it.
I know what you mean by living/ expressing yourself online is different. If you think about it, it makes a lot of sense.
But I think what helped me is my belief. I still struggle every day, it's still there - but at the same time it's much better now.
P.S. Thank you for making this kind of videos.
Another great video. Thank you for making these.
Gosh just about all those applied to me. Thanks for your effort i really like these videos, they help me explain this struggle to certain people.
And your voice is lovely very soothing and relaxing
Yes alot if not almost all of those situations you listed I have and still suffer through. Your a hero to me because you had severe anxiety like I have and here you are making you tube videos. You overcame impossible odds. I wish i had the strength you have but I have none left because of my anxiety disorder and bi polar has drained the life right out of me. Great video though.
Thank you for this accurate video. You are the best. And not alone.
i love your voice, your accent and the way you explain stuff. like!!! 👍
That last part there, PREACH! And I just wanna say, you are such an adorable soul
THANK YOUUUUUU SO MUCH YOU SAVED MY LIFE I REALLY MEAN IT
You have such calming voice, it feels almost like asmr session
jaki piękny akcent 🥺
Uwielbiam twoje filmy, widać że podchodzisz do tematu na poważnie i profesjonalnie:)
W sumie, gdyby nie ty, nigdy nie pomyślałabym o odwiedzeniu specjalisty, bo wcześniej nie słyszałam pojęcia 'lęk społeczny'. :)
"mental health is not an auction" 👏 well said
love your videos!
I always struggling to do something that probably will make people think me as a stupid and laugh on me. And most of times, lately, i force myself to keep going. But after doing that, and my fear of to do something stupid happened, i really regretted it and it stressed me a lot.
Is there anyone who ever experienced that way?
I actually want to get this fear out from me, but maybe i need more practice and become more braver..
that's the vast majority of my thought process, 'people will think I'm stupid' or 'people will laugh at me' I totally get what you are saying
I can relate, for sure.
My anxiety is triggered in EVERY social situation. Everywhere strangers are involved. For example when I'm sitting or standing in a bus I don't know how to act, move, where to look, I wonder how my expression looks, whether it gives away my thoughts and fears. I feel like everybody is staring at me and analyzing me and waiting for me to make a mistake and laugh at me. It's terrifying. Luckily, as soon as my friends are there with me, I completely shift and am my confident self again. It's so weird.
Annetta Waiz same but without laughter - i just fear their judgement
9:28 and further- this is so relatable. when i first found out, that i suffer from sad, i just started crying. but at the same time, i felt this weird kind of relief(?), because i found people who were dealing with the exactly same stuff and was able to finally properly identify where all of my everyday struggles come from. i always thought i just overthink too much and i'm a very introverted person (which was also pretty confusing then, because at the same time, i wanted to go out and make new friends so badly). and i also thought this is the same for everyone. that they're just better and hiding/handling it. now i just really hope it'll get better and i'll be able to live quite normally
You're amazing! Thank you I can really relate to you. I hope everyone with social anxiety can overcome it because it really does suck. It's funny because I even find it so hard to post comments... because of my social anxiety.
I feel for you Kat, this describes me in most things mentioned in the video
really helpful series :) ! I hope you will make one video about anxiety's origins
9:24
Same here. Before, I didn't know that this thing has a name, I thought I was just too shy. And it was a relief when I found out that it is a real issue.
Jestem pod ogromnym wrażeniem jak się zmieniasz. Na ogrooomny plus. Kobieto, uwielbiam twoje wypowiedzi coraz bardziej ❤️ Podoba mi się twój sposób "walki" o wiele spraw. Kiedyś reagowałaś mocno emocjonalnie. Teraz masz o wiele mocniej merytoryczne podejście. Bierzesz sprawy już tak na chłodno. Masz świetne argumenty, mówisz ze spokojem i po prostu bije z tego mądrość (jak głupio by to nie brzmiało). Podoba mi się twoje podejście do wielu rzeczy. Zresztą to dzięki tobie dojrzałam w wielu swoich poglądach i w nicnienarzucający sposób przedstawiłaś mi wiele spraw. Nie ma między nami wielkiej różnicy wieku, ja mam 22 lata, ale jesteś dla mnie pod pewnymi względami autorytetm i zależy mi żebyś dobrze o sobie myślała. Naprawdę fajny z ciebie człowiek, który widać jak dojrzewa i rozwija się z czasem, a przy tym potrafi przyznać się do błędów. Hands down people i przesyłam masę buziaków dla twojej uroczej osoby 😊 Potrzebuję jakiejś koszulki z dobrym hasłem i przekazem od ciebie, kurczę, może jakieś limited edition w Midnight? 😀
Dziekuje bardzo, cieszę sie ze to widac!! Moja emocjonalna argumentacja to chyba była jedna z moich największych wad, plus branie wszystkiego do siebie. Kiedyś nie chciałam słuchać gdy ludzie mi to wytykali, ale jednak mieli racje. :D Staram sie to zmieniac, także cieszę sie ze jest lepiej, chociaż czasem i tak mnie poniesie. 🙈
Koszulki sie wymyśli, dokładnie o czymś takim myślałam, ale jeszcze trochę mądrości muszę zdobyć żeby mieć cokolwiek wartego umieszczenia na tshircie hehe. :D
Kat Napiorkowska Wszyscy jesteśmy tylko ludźmi, a emocje ponoszą każdego. To nas czyni bardziej autentycznymi. Gdyby nie to, bylibyśmy trochę jak bezuczuciowe zombie :D Moim zdaniem idzie ci genialnie, bo nie walczysz z wiatrakami (niektórzy rzadko używają rozumu, nic z tym nie zrobisz), a sama działasz swoją postawą, wypowiedziami i poglądami.
Na koszulki czekam, bo znając styl z d.ssolved, to będzie coś rozkosznie podjeżdżającego 90's :D
I'm happy I found your channel. I've been trying to convince myself to see someone about this for years, and I recently took the first step. But now I'm afraid that the psychiatrist/therapist won't really care about my issues and that going will end up making me feel worse. I am still going to push myself to make the appointment though.
Hey Kat, its been like 2 days since i realized that these past 20 years weren't of me being a shy introvert, but as someone with social anxiety. From the last video to this one, a lot has resonated within me. For me, I had been bullied for being the only Asian in my preschool. I remember there were these twins with blonde hair, blue eyes that were worshipped in my preschool. Two classes were always paired together for snack time, and that was when the twins would reunite in my classroom and all the girl would go flocking to them. I always wanted to be friends with them since I didn't have friends, so I would try to share toys or brings dolls to school to show them. Or if they didn't know how to play with a certain puzzle in class, I would show them. But they would always pretend I wasn't there and walk off. This continued for a while until one day, I walked up to the two girls while they were sitting down (the rest of the girls were surrounding them) and when I tried to talk over the girls surrounding them. They all got quiet and just stared at me. It felt like the movie "Get Out" almost. I think it was around that time that I started developing social anxiety. I was probably 3 at the time, but I can't still remember feeling as if they were towering over me and looking down on me. From then on, I got this fear of talking to people who weren't Asian and especially fear white females (I know that it is an irrational fear of course, but I can't help but feel so anxious and I really don't want to. Ive had amazing church leaders, school friends, and strangers that turned into friends that are white females.) But since I had such a large fear of them as a kid, it affected other aspects of my life as when I started dancing, all the older dancers would come into our classrooms during breaks to pick out a kid to treat to ice cream or candy as they viewed it as being a big sister. But I would get so scared and I wouldn't be able to talk to them and throughout my dancing period of my life, I had very little friends, while those friends I had all had many more than me. It became a cycle that kept cementing this idea that I wasn't "white" enough and that eventually tied to everything else in social situations. It stopped just being that I wasn't "white" enough. It was also that I wasn't "cool" enough to speak or that I my response wasn't "funny" enough to contribute. I am afraid of sounding stupid and that has led me to believe that I actually am stupid. So now, its only with very few people that I can be myself truly. I always thought I was shy and that I needed to just "get over it". Watching you talk about these things has led me to my point of relief and happiness that as you said, comes from "giving it a name". Even now as I'm writing this, I'm terrified of posting this actual comment because I'm afraid I'll come of as fake or trying to get attention or pretending I have social anxiety. Or that this is way too many words and that I'm being a nuisance. But I really want to get better, which is why I've been trying to put myself out there more and making myself realize that no one is watching me and waiting for me to make a mistake. Even if I get hateful replies or something like that on this post, I want to be more brave. Also, I really don't mean offense to any race in this comment. It was an association I made when I was 3 and that was the first time I became aware of race and how it alienated me and so it became a big part of my life. I understand that beneath our skin color, we are all people. I really hope I didn't offend anyone.
I just watched your 3rd video and you said that putting myself in uncomfortable situations can make things actually worse for me. That does sound somewhat terrifying. hahah. Maybe I should watch through all these videos before I make too many comments in order to understand what steps I should be taking.
You're amazing ❤❤
Your videos are so good
Sis goes off at the end yes queen. I am so thankful I found you on here so I feel more "normal" if ya know what I mean. Like i feel like the IS people like me and I'm not suffering alone
i 90% feel like i have social anxiety. i want to see a therapist but i want to make sure my doctor knows first. i don’t want to be so straight up and say “ i have social anxiety could i get a therapist?” because it would sound like i’m self diagnosing myself and thats not what i want. i just don’t know
rctchel 😣 Any success?
I don't think I suffer from social anxiety, though I have few situations, or I used to in the past, when I get extremely anxious, but this series on social anxiety is really interesting and useful. Thank you for your time! It might help someone, even just feel less lost and lonely, it might help me in case I ever get to meet someone who suffers from it, or maybe I already have and never realised.
Nice editing by the way, I love the music in the background, it's cosy and dreamy.
I LOVE THE WAY YOU SPEAK😍 just saying. Thanks for such informative videos.
She's looking into my soul 😯
Omg how much is see myself in these situations.. thank you for explaining 🥰
Since I started uni , I felt that i swtched to introvert or maybe im socially anxious, i just decided to not go anymore to lectures cuz it gets unbearable , everytime I go an accident happens and I feel quite uncomfourtable .At school i used to be extrovert,start conversation but now I get scared and stressed everytime i find out that "oh this day I have to meet new people' which is everyday because we are many many many students in a lecture theatre
Anta Kebe I can relate to this 100%
Daja Sweetheart it sucks so much because everytime i find excuses to not meet anyone while i crave meeting my friends but also staying alone
Thank you for doing this.
I feel like this is a great idea to point out specific situation that can make one anxious, but to make more sense for someone that doesn’t understand the case, I think I can name the main cause of anxiety in all of those scenarios: for me, it’s absolutely catastrophic to seem like a needy person. This just cuts it. I won’t ask someone to move, even if I’m about to faint, because I don’t want to sound rude and how can someone know I’m not faking? It would be terrible if someone thought I’m using my health as an excuse. I won’t ask for an extra towel in a hotel room even if I already used mine but left a bit of menstrual blood on it, because the stuff knows how many towels a normal human being needs during their stay, they freaking work there. I wouldn’t tell a bartender to put extra lemon in my drink because I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to double their work or gain something without paying extra (I highly doubt anyone would mind or ask me to pay for an extra slice, but then even if they don’t, they MIGHT talk about me on a cigarette break). Great job as always, Kasia, can’t wait to see the whole thing! 🌟
Zastanawiałam się skąd pochodzisz, a teraz widzę z komentarza, że jesteś Polką :) masz świetny akcent! Bardzo dobry angielski! Co do tej długiej listy, wiele z tych sytuacji poznałam na własnej skórze. Mieszkam w Londynie i niedługo zostanę skierowana na counselling z powodu przemocy domowej, to inna historia ale może będę mogła omówić social anxiety. Dziękuję za pomoc i uświadomienie, że fobię społeczną można wyleczyć :) jest subskrypcja bo fajnie się Ciebie słucha. Dobra robota!
"Health is not an auction".
Thank you, dear lady. 👍
Hi Kat! Pozdrowienia from Canada! > It is not surprising that this all resulted in developing SA.
This video is helpful as it allows me to see what I have achieved as well as what I would like to work on in a clear format. I like to pair it with its visual counterpart "LIVING WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY" mini film.
That final message you said was well said. It is really important to not compare others to yourself or vice versa. It's unhelpful and unfair. Unfortunately, when someone in your past has done it to you for many years you've learned how to do it yourself. It is a very difficult habit to shake off, but it isn't impossible!
Thank you for sharing this video, wishing you all the best!
im even anxious about how i move my arms when walking or what im doing with my hands and if they are red and stuff and i really hate to think about it all the time but i cant even breathe without thinking: ,,does this looks weird?"