One of my favorite things about this scene are the fireworks and people having fun in the background. It shows so well that you may be outside having a wonderful time with your family; yet, you don't know that the people 10 feet away from you are experiencing the worst day of their lives.
This movie was very difficult to watch. When your significant other no longer loves you is probably one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to go through.
Especially when you either don't know why or because they themselves can't put it into words why they don't love you anymore. It sucks even more when you have an idea in the back of your mind on why but it's hard for your partner to put it into words because they know if they tell you. It will sound jacked up and paint them in a selfish negative light.
Derek Cianfrance is a master storyteller. The fact he spent 10 years trying to get this film made and ultimately was not paid to make it makes him an absolute legend. It’s not 10 year marketing BS like other directors say. It was 10 hard years of trying to find financing and getting the actors.
This movie is soo great. It teaches a great lesson. Sometimes loving is not enough. Love isn't everything. Sometimes two people may love each other to death but still can't stay happily together. Happiness matters. Whether it's being together or not.
My girl cried and hugged me after this scene. I felt as if I did something wrong even though I didn't and kept on apologizing, we both then cried... Amazing how a movie can make you feel
I understand what you are saying, but this was really hard on Dean whereas Cindy had been finding the courage to end this bad marriage for a while. Dean was very emotional and needed some time to compose himself. It was better for Frankie to stay with Cindy and her father at that very moment.
@@PACHIC; He knew there was a good chance the child wasn't his right from the very start. The scene on the bridge where she tells him she's pregnant, he asks her if it's his and she responds with a "probably not." In this scene he's walking away emotionally broken from the realization his marriage is over and a child he has committed himself to will suffer the same fate as he did, and grow up in a broken home.
The first time I watched this, my heart broke for Dean. Watching it a few years later, I understood Cindy’s reasons for ending the marriage. Although she fell madly in love with him, after years of a dead end job painting houses, becoming an alcoholic (he states he has the luxury of having a job that allows him to drink first thing in the am and throughout the day), and not aspiring to grow together academically and/or financially; she fell out of love with him. The embarrassing scene he causes at her place of employment doesn’t help his cause either. Not to mention, she was basically disgusted at the thought of being intimate with him. Her clenching her fists in disgust was an obvious sign that there was absolutely no love left for him on her part. It was such a sad movie. This movie and “Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” were difficult movies for me to watch after a breakup with someone I truly loved, but had hurt so deeply. I was such a selfish bitch during the relationship. I deserved all the pain that came with them finally having the courage to leave me, all while I realized way too late that I actually really loved them more than I realized. Never take someone for granted. They eventually grow tired of your shit.
I'm in the exact same boat, except it's the complete opposite scenario, he takes me for granted. I worship the ground he walks on, I deal with his quick-trigger temper, I wave off his often hurtful "jokes" with a smile, he'd rather play on my consoles than talk to me, he goes out on the weekend and leaves me behind. He proposed to me last year, and since then it's all just falling apart ... 5 years and I don't think I can be with him much longer. I have a love/hate relationship with this film and ending, because it's so true, everyone's relationship starts off sweet and beautiful but given time those rose tinted glasses come away and you see that person for who they are - and vice versa. It's a sad concept really T-T
I just wanna say it is very heart breaking I’m 33 yrs old my my wife just told me she don’t love me and wants a divorce I’ve been praying and won’t happen but nothing I can do she’s determined 😪 this movie made me ball ..
Man… the daughter’s innocence, not knowing why her father is walking away, but knowing that something is wrong, begging him to stay. Dean walking away in silence as the fireworks go off, that joyful sound is now tainted. Cindy comforting her daughter as she says “I love him” knowing that she did too at one point. It’s all over. This shit is heart breaking. Two people who spent years trying to build a life together, but it all came crashing down. It leaves a bitter sweet taste in your mouth, it’s beautiful at first, and sad at the end, confusing in general.
It's clear he wasn't financially good enough for her and his drinking problems, he could have tried to be better but he didn't had the inspiration. Dean was bad but sandy was selfish too
This movie came out the very year my parents divorced. As soon as the daughter starts crying when she sees her father walk away is when the waterworks just burst for me. I couldn’t even stop thinking of this film for quite a few days after watching it
Crazy I watched this movie back when I was 16 and now I’m 25 and I have 2 year old daughter and this scene kills me every time because this is how my relationship ended almost 2 years ago
Valey are you crazy it's the ugliest part reality that what happens when once the person to whom you head over heels fell in love for doesn't love you anymore.
It amazes me how much controversy this film generates, to me it's obvious that they are both wrong. It's in a woman's nature to seek security, there's nothing wrong with that. I believe that men are more physically attracted to women, and women are more mentally attracted to men. If Dean loves Cindy as much as he claims, then he should try harder to provide her what she needs. If Cindy loves Dean as much as she claims, then she should try to go easier on him and inspire him. They are both too simple-minded and weak to really understand each other and take a correct course of action. I cry rivers every time I see this movie. I fully sympathize them both, although-thank God-I've never had to live something like that.
cindy want some space i think the best decision and the film with open ending is the best. i mean this is could happen to anyone and everyone take diferrent action. no one can blame.
@Gorilla G Rockson well maybe that what happen, ofcourse that the decision for director to make. but i like that ending stop there, cause i have family like cindy they still together but unhappy but afte i grow up i dont know either divorce or keep stay is the best. this is my point of view so its up to you agree or not. but when the last word is cindy need some space . i think that is the best. cause in real life we can't decide other decision . wether they give each other some space and decide to separate or they try to fix it .i think in the real life thats up to them.
Well, physical attraction isn't enough in the long run, both men and women rely on it in the first stages of a relationship/interaction but long term you either get to be mentally attracted to a person or whatever is between you fades away and you don't end up forming a relationship. I think you're kind of underestimating mens' emotional intelligence. A lot of men and women need security wether they end up finding it on family/friends or in a partner. Most relationships between men and women (but also same sex relationships) last long term because of mutual trust, friendship and emotional comparability (+the circumstances being right, for example proximity, work ect). Men desire most of the things women do and they're just as emotionally intelligent.
Gaddamn it - THIS F*cken Scene sets it all up and THEN Grizzly Bear comes through to Decimate EVERYTHING with this amazing song paired Perfectly with pictures from Their beginning.....
I dedicated this song to my ex. When I was in love and I felt like he would hurt me. My heart did crash down because he did cheat. But he was my Alligator ❤️
Wow. Just WOW. What a devastating scene. I've read reviews of this movie, by professional critics and by regular joes, and some said that the couple played by Williams and Gosling aren't all that likable. Well, yes. I mean, they're not supposed to be all that likable; they're on the brink of divorce, after however many years of a shotgun marriage. What makes this movie so good is that, despite their characters not being all that likable, they still manage to break your heart.
I don't understand why everyone is blaming her. Not only did she fall out of love but he didn't make it easy to love him. You can say he tried but not very well. The kind of relationship they had is not something I would want so I dont get why so many people are mad that she left. Would you want that? I wouldn't criticise if that's what you want but I would do the same as Cindy because that's not what I want.
He wasn’t driven as she was. He was drinking. It’s like the saying, “I used to think communication was the key until I realized comprehension is. You can communicate all you want with someone but if they don’t understand you, its silent chaos”
I watched this as a kid and always sided with dean. Rewatching as an adult, I realize that Cindy was the only one who had it in her to end this horrible marriage
You are right, in my opinion. Dean is a nice guy, and a good father. But he has no ambition, he doesn't want anything from life. People blame Cindy, but should she settle for Dean when she wants more from life? They loved each other, but wanted different things from life. It's heart breaking but they had to separate.
It's a perfect ending-a heartbroken child desperately trying to keep her family together. It's not her job, it's not her responsibility, and yet still she tries. It exposes so well the selfishness of most divorces, the utter self-centerdness so many adults exhibit when they destroy their families and ruin their childrens' lives. Very raw, very real movie.
In this case, I think it was best for Frankie in the long run. It wouldn't be healthy to watch your parents hate each other for the next 18 years of life. It's not a good example, and it can cause the child a lot of mental troubles as they develop. It's a lesser of two evils. Also, if they stayed together, the mental health of the parents would just continue to deteriorate and would also negatively affect the upbringing of Frankie. She is definitely better off with her parents' split, based on this fictional but very real situation.
As someone who’s parents stayed in a loveless marriage until I went to college and they now can’t stand each other, I say it’s better for the kids for them to divorce sooner than later
I just can't get behind cindy's character at all her acting like she's living in h.e double hockey sticks for being with a run down husband and a kid who both love her, instead of lifting him up she makes it clear to him that she doesn't love him then she indulges her old flame and gets surprised when he snaps at her talking to the person that beat him up. A guy who wants a simple normal life would clearly go insane under those conditions she makes no effort to be there for the kid she is very selfish, but I don't blame her for the divorce after the hospital freak out
пересмотрел концовку в сотый раз, мне физически больно смотреть на это расставание, потому что все рассказывается слишком правдоподобно, хоть и через одну сцену!
Bu film çok özel.. bı insan, biyolojik babası olmadığı halde bı çocuğu bu kadar sahiplenebilir mi? Deli gibi aşık olduğun halde arkanı dönüp gitmek bu kadar kolay mı? Diyalogların gücü, müziğin kalitesi, flash back'ler vs.. kesinlikle en sevdiğim filmdir
Guys I have a question. I searched blue valentine's cast and Ryan gosling plays as Dean. Isn't Dean the father of Frankie???? It says Dean under the picture of the man she marries at the end of the movie but the description of the movie talks about her marriage with Dean. Which one even is Dean????? The guy who plays the father isn't even showing up on the cast.
@@veronikasandak yes you're right ... but ending the wedding like this saying that she don't love him anymore make me sad 😢 she should have tried sorting out tho
Daily reminder: There's absolutely not a single woman in the world respects a man who respect them Even if she likes him, the moment she realize this man cares about her, she'll lose interest.. Only scums and assholes can get women's love and respect
And this why you’re a lonely fucking loser. You’re wrong dude. You’re a miserable asshole with a bad attitude and that’s why people don’t like you. And it’s not just women believe me.
One of my favorite things about this scene are the fireworks and people having fun in the background. It shows so well that you may be outside having a wonderful time with your family; yet, you don't know that the people 10 feet away from you are experiencing the worst day of their lives.
i guess it also implies that the relationship between dean and cindy is just like fireworks, beautiful but fade out quickly.
Didn't release that
You said a great thing
This comment brought tears into my eyes.
@@T1456-k5i Yea that's a great interpretation
This movie was very difficult to watch. When your significant other no longer loves you is probably one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to go through.
Especially when you either don't know why or because they themselves can't put it into words why they don't love you anymore. It sucks even more when you have an idea in the back of your mind on why but it's hard for your partner to put it into words because they know if they tell you. It will sound jacked up and paint them in a selfish negative light.
"I love him..." kills me💔
😢
Derek Cianfrance is a master storyteller. The fact he spent 10 years trying to get this film made and ultimately was not paid to make it makes him an absolute legend. It’s not 10 year marketing BS like other directors say. It was 10 hard years of trying to find financing and getting the actors.
It's definitely a better film than "Marriage Story"
@@LordGreystoke that’s exactly what I say when people say Marriage Story is a good movie…
This scene is soul crushing.
This movie is soo great. It teaches a great lesson. Sometimes loving is not enough. Love isn't everything. Sometimes two people may love each other to death but still can't stay happily together. Happiness matters. Whether it's being together or not.
My girl cried and hugged me after this scene. I felt as if I did something wrong even though I didn't and kept on apologizing, we both then cried... Amazing how a movie can make you feel
I cried because I understand
That walk man, that god damn walk, i remember every step i took when this happened to me
1:15 is when I cried like a baby. I was crying for almost 3 minutes straight after watching this film, it even stuck with me at work the next day
I totally understand why Dean would leave, but I'd never be able to leave behind my child, especially if they were crying after me.
I understand what you are saying, but this was really hard on Dean whereas Cindy had been finding the courage to end this bad marriage for a while. Dean was very emotional and needed some time to compose himself. It was better for Frankie to stay with Cindy and her father at that very moment.
VenomousMG but she wasnt his child. And maybe thats what his wife told him for him to leave like that
@@PACHIC;
He knew there was a good chance the child wasn't his right from the very start. The scene on the bridge where she tells him she's pregnant, he asks her if it's his and she responds with a "probably not." In this scene he's walking away emotionally broken from the realization his marriage is over and a child he has committed himself to will suffer the same fate as he did, and grow up in a broken home.
You guys she had an abortion right after. Frankie was his child.
Abi Danielson nope, she was change her mind and he tells her “let’s be family together”.. so Frankie wasn’t his child..
Crazy how I've been in the position of Cindy, Dean, and their daughter once at different points in my life
The first time I watched this, my heart broke for Dean. Watching it a few years later, I understood Cindy’s reasons for ending the marriage.
Although she fell madly in love with him, after years of a dead end job painting houses, becoming an alcoholic (he states he has the luxury of having a job that allows him to drink first thing in the am and throughout the day), and not aspiring to grow together academically and/or financially; she fell out of love with him. The embarrassing scene he causes at her place of employment doesn’t help his cause either. Not to mention, she was basically disgusted at the thought of being intimate with him. Her clenching her fists in disgust was an obvious sign that there was absolutely no love left for him on her part. It was such a sad movie. This movie and “Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” were difficult movies for me to watch after a breakup with someone I truly loved, but had hurt so deeply. I was such a selfish bitch during the relationship. I deserved all the pain that came with them finally having the courage to leave me, all while I realized way too late that I actually really loved them more than I realized.
Never take someone for granted. They eventually grow tired of your shit.
I'm in the exact same boat, except it's the complete opposite scenario, he takes me for granted. I worship the ground he walks on, I deal with his quick-trigger temper, I wave off his often hurtful "jokes" with a smile, he'd rather play on my consoles than talk to me, he goes out on the weekend and leaves me behind. He proposed to me last year, and since then it's all just falling apart ... 5 years and I don't think I can be with him much longer. I have a love/hate relationship with this film and ending, because it's so true, everyone's relationship starts off sweet and beautiful but given time those rose tinted glasses come away and you see that person for who they are - and vice versa. It's a sad concept really T-T
Don't waste anymore of your time or your youth - leave ASAP
Michele Lee thank you.
Cory Burns I don't think that end remark is necessary or helpful. Speak truth with grace. Much love.
A year can be a long time or a brief moment. I hope you're in a better place. Best,
Kills me on the inside a little each time because this movie reminds you of “that” relationship
Thank you Blue Valentine...Thats why I stay saying Fuck Love.
The ending broke me so much mostly bc I relate to it so much and it just took me back to the day that happened with my parents
I just wanna say it is very heart breaking I’m 33 yrs old my my wife just told me she don’t love me and wants a divorce I’ve been praying and won’t happen but nothing I can do she’s determined 😪 this movie made me ball ..
TheROB01SS This is late, but I hope you guys got everything straighten out. I hope your love is going strong and this was a bump in the road.
Praying for you 💜
Dear stranger , I hope you are doing well, no matter what happened❤️
Man… the daughter’s innocence, not knowing why her father is walking away, but knowing that something is wrong, begging him to stay.
Dean walking away in silence as the fireworks go off, that joyful sound is now tainted.
Cindy comforting her daughter as she says “I love him” knowing that she did too at one point.
It’s all over. This shit is heart breaking. Two people who spent years trying to build a life together, but it all came crashing down. It leaves a bitter sweet taste in your mouth, it’s beautiful at first, and sad at the end, confusing in general.
This scene absolutely ripped me to shreds.
Hey! This is one of my favorite shots in cinema
What a beautiful movie (in the most heart-reaching of ways)
"You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in you." - Augustine
came here one more time after A Marriage Story
I find this movie WAY sadder than a marriage story
It's clear he wasn't financially good enough for her and his drinking problems, he could have tried to be better but he didn't had the inspiration.
Dean was bad but sandy was selfish too
This was the most heartbreaking scene ever... it just rips your heart.
One of the saddest endings ever. Idk if I've ever felt as bad for a character as I did Ryan's in this.
This movie came out the very year my parents divorced. As soon as the daughter starts crying when she sees her father walk away is when the waterworks just burst for me. I couldn’t even stop thinking of this film for quite a few days after watching it
Crazy I watched this movie back when I was 16 and now I’m 25 and I have 2 year old daughter and this scene kills me every time because this is how my relationship ended almost 2 years ago
Both these actors really delivered on this one of my favorites
It's a beautiful movie but also very touch to watch for those who understand.
Aww
Valey are you crazy it's the ugliest part reality that what happens when once the person to whom you head over heels fell in love for doesn't love you anymore.
It amazes me how much controversy this film generates, to me it's obvious that they are both wrong. It's in a woman's nature to seek security, there's nothing wrong with that. I believe that men are more physically attracted to women, and women are more mentally attracted to men.
If Dean loves Cindy as much as he claims, then he should try harder to provide her what she needs. If Cindy loves Dean as much as she claims, then she should try to go easier on him and inspire him. They are both too simple-minded and weak to really understand each other and take a correct course of action.
I cry rivers every time I see this movie. I fully sympathize them both, although-thank God-I've never had to live something like that.
cindy want some space i think the best decision and the film with open ending is the best. i mean this is could happen to anyone and everyone take diferrent action. no one can blame.
@Gorilla G Rockson well maybe that what happen, ofcourse that the decision for director to make. but i like that ending stop there, cause i have family like cindy they still together but unhappy but afte i grow up i dont know either divorce or keep stay is the best. this is my point of view so its up to you agree or not. but when the last word is cindy need some space . i think that is the best. cause in real life we can't decide other decision . wether they give each other some space and decide to separate or they try to fix it .i think in the real life thats up to them.
i like this movie even iam not yet married i saw that situation as the child.
Well, physical attraction isn't enough in the long run, both men and women rely on it in the first stages of a relationship/interaction but long term you either get to be mentally attracted to a person or whatever is between you fades away and you don't end up forming a relationship. I think you're kind of underestimating mens' emotional intelligence. A lot of men and women need security wether they end up finding it on family/friends or in a partner. Most relationships between men and women (but also same sex relationships) last long term because of mutual trust, friendship and emotional comparability (+the circumstances being right, for example proximity, work ect). Men desire most of the things women do and they're just as emotionally intelligent.
Gaddamn it - THIS F*cken Scene sets it all up and THEN Grizzly Bear comes through to Decimate EVERYTHING with this amazing song paired Perfectly with pictures from Their beginning.....
after that he became a passport bro
This is like the sadder version of Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind
@Gorilla G Rockson I dont think so just for the fact that they got back together at the end
@@johnthe9700 Hence why it's sadder.
I dedicated this song to my ex. When I was in love and I felt like he would hurt me. My heart did crash down because he did cheat. But he was my Alligator ❤️
Hard to watch, but it was a great scene. Feel amazed and painful at the same time
fucking hate this film, too sad for me
Wow. Just WOW. What a devastating scene. I've read reviews of this movie, by professional critics and by regular joes, and some said that the couple played by Williams and Gosling aren't all that likable. Well, yes. I mean, they're not supposed to be all that likable; they're on the brink of divorce, after however many years of a shotgun marriage. What makes this movie so good is that, despite their characters not being all that likable, they still manage to break your heart.
He loved her so much! Whats the matter with her...
Barbora Blazkova because the little girl in her is lost
Barbrora Blazkova because she was completely out of love with him.
I don't understand why everyone is blaming her. Not only did she fall out of love but he didn't make it easy to love him. You can say he tried but not very well. The kind of relationship they had is not something I would want so I dont get why so many people are mad that she left. Would you want that? I wouldn't criticise if that's what you want but I would do the same as Cindy because that's not what I want.
He wasn’t driven as she was. He was drinking. It’s like the saying, “I used to think communication was the key until I realized comprehension is. You can communicate all you want with someone but if they don’t understand you, its silent chaos”
I'ven't cried like this since Schindlers List. 😢
Literally me
The ending is like Apocolypse Now ... but the war is in their hearts . 🖤
That’s like every 90s kid to present.
Dean is me and I am Dean.
Hang in there, brother.
She's the worse wife someone could have....
I watched this as a kid and always sided with dean. Rewatching as an adult, I realize that Cindy was the only one who had it in her to end this horrible marriage
nope
You are right, in my opinion. Dean is a nice guy, and a good father. But he has no ambition, he doesn't want anything from life. People blame Cindy, but should she settle for Dean when she wants more from life? They loved each other, but wanted different things from life. It's heart breaking but they had to separate.
rewatch the fucking movie
She has issues
Brutal
It's a perfect ending-a heartbroken child desperately trying to keep her family together. It's not her job, it's not her responsibility, and yet still she tries. It exposes so well the selfishness of most divorces, the utter self-centerdness so many adults exhibit when they destroy their families and ruin their childrens' lives. Very raw, very real movie.
In this case, I think it was best for Frankie in the long run. It wouldn't be healthy to watch your parents hate each other for the next 18 years of life. It's not a good example, and it can cause the child a lot of mental troubles as they develop. It's a lesser of two evils.
Also, if they stayed together, the mental health of the parents would just continue to deteriorate and would also negatively affect the upbringing of Frankie.
She is definitely better off with her parents' split, based on this fictional but very real situation.
@@carloscruz2918You’re right. It’s not healthy for a child to be around parents who hate each other and spend most of their time arguing.
As someone who’s parents stayed in a loveless marriage until I went to college and they now can’t stand each other, I say it’s better for the kids for them to divorce sooner than later
I feel so bad for all the real life deans. They love women who never deserved their love..
I don't usually sob with movies but this one...
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I just can't get behind cindy's character at all her acting like she's living in h.e double hockey sticks for being with a run down husband and a kid who both love her, instead of lifting him up she makes it clear to him that she doesn't love him then she indulges her old flame and gets surprised when he snaps at her talking to the person that beat him up. A guy who wants a simple normal life would clearly go insane under those conditions she makes no effort to be there for the kid she is very selfish, but I don't blame her for the divorce after the hospital freak out
пересмотрел концовку в сотый раз, мне физически больно смотреть на это расставание, потому что все рассказывается слишком правдоподобно, хоть и через одну сцену!
So powerful
Bu film çok özel.. bı insan, biyolojik babası olmadığı halde bı çocuğu bu kadar sahiplenebilir mi? Deli gibi aşık olduğun halde arkanı dönüp gitmek bu kadar kolay mı? Diyalogların gücü, müziğin kalitesi, flash back'ler vs.. kesinlikle en sevdiğim filmdir
I was married to someone far worse than that
Worse than who? Both of them had their fault in this relationship. They did love each other though. I'm sorry to hear your marriage didn't work out.
I have big toenail
@@ulysses4989 with whom is it the doctor
MELANCHOLY 😥
I wonder if he kicked anyone's fireworks over while he was walking down the sidewalk?
They say it’s up for the viewer to decide whether Dean and Cindy divorce or not. Do you think they divorced?
I hope they worked things out and didn't get a divorce, I've been through a divorce it hurts
One other thing there was no emotion when he was walking away that says alot
he should have left her after she got pregnant. I can't feel bad for a fool.
am I the only one who sees a Jared Goff in dean?
like dam they some twins or something.
De los mejores finales que vi en mi puta vida
Me rompe el corazon
I’ve lived this. Its sucks
Uno dei finali più tristi del cinema
This movie should be banned. Erased from the history of humankind. Cruel heartless and inhumane.
Do you think every movie should be all sunshine and butterflies?
@@alexbrettw maybe not. But this was worse than 100 days of sodom
Another career opportunity.
It's still a knock out film ......and LIFE
Truly fucking heart breaking
Guys I have a question. I searched blue valentine's cast and Ryan gosling plays as Dean. Isn't Dean the father of Frankie???? It says Dean under the picture of the man she marries at the end of the movie but the description of the movie talks about her marriage with Dean. Which one even is Dean????? The guy who plays the father isn't even showing up on the cast.
He isn't Frankie's biological father but he took her as his own child even before she was born
@@veronikasandak yes you're right ... but ending the wedding like this saying that she don't love him anymore make me sad 😢 she should have tried sorting out tho
Did he come back
Nope
Stay together for your kids always xxx Love xxx
That was not the point of the movie
If she'd had that abortion they would still be together living a happy life with two maybe three kids.
Daily reminder: There's absolutely not a single woman in the world respects a man who respect them
Even if she likes him, the moment she realize this man cares about her, she'll lose interest.. Only scums and assholes can get women's love and respect
WRONG!
And this why you’re a lonely fucking loser. You’re wrong dude. You’re a miserable asshole with a bad attitude and that’s why people don’t like you. And it’s not just women believe me.
incel alert
Found the incel.
You are far from Truth. May your God show you the light 🙏