Counseling & work on the part of each spouse is critical to a healthy marriage...I'm about to embark upon counseling with my spouse to avoid a divorce...we're both believers in CHRIST & both love each other, & want to save our marriage...we've only been married 8 years. We need lots of prayer. Thank you.
@@Lostboy7087 Yes, absolutely. My marriage now exceedes my expectations. It's amazing what God can do when we back off and hand it to Him. Full surrender.
This was such an awesome explanation of what should be happening rather than divorce. I believe that Christians should separate more, and work through their marriage with the hope that they will reunite one day. Thank you for this!
Those who are mocking this video obviously failed to listen. This advice is intended primarily for couples who profess to follow God, and who are in a situation of marital breakdown, due to abuse either mental or physical. In this situation, the abusee must remove themselves for their own safety, but clearly this is for those who do not want to go down the road of divorce. 1 Corinth 7:5 discusses the issue of seperation "for a time", and can very easily apply to this situation. Read Malachi 2:13-16 The Lord does not take kindly to the man who deals treacherously with the wife of his youth and He hates divorce. The consequences are serious, and so a time of seperation which is devoted to prayer and restoration is absolutely scriptural.
@ Aussie Bush Homestead That abuse stuff is just a bifg demonic LIE made up to allow WIVES to take control and do what they feel. It is now husbands who answer to their wives as if the wife was head over him !! It is pure evil.
Excellent advices, Jimmy. This is exactly what happened in our marriage. We separated due to addiction. We separated, the behaviors changed, we found Marriage Today, went to the XO Conference in 2015, went to counseling, dated, my husband courted me. But most importantly, we put God back in our marriage. We are happier than we've ever been, I love my husband more than I ever thought possible.
Lynn Dugger so nice to hear your testimony and it worked out for the good. I'm in this boat as of now, haven't separated but I feel it coming. I'm scared that if that happens he won't get help and change. we have two children involved and I've been praying for God to change his heart. I'm just exhausted at this point.
This is where I am at as well. I think with addiction this really is helpful because it pushes them to change & not use us as a crutch. He loves us & misses us but I needed my sanity & space. Until he’s ready to really change n come back
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thankyou. Please pray for the Father to supply me with finances and a place to stay in orxer to seperate before divorce. Thankyou for this timely word.
It’s been a long time since you posted this but how are you? I’m at this part where I’m not financially equipped to leave. Pray for God’s guidance and help for this as well.
I sent this to my wife. Pornography and emotional abuse is what killed our marriage, I’ve changed, I want to be accountable. I know what I need to do now on the pornography part, get software on my phone and on my computer and give the password to either my wife or my mother. On the emotional side of things, I have already changed the destructive and insane patterns that I was going through, I have soaked into God’s word and allowed it to permeate me from the inside out. I have very good feelings about this, and I pray that it’s right and I’m right but also I hope and pray that God would speak to my wife. I’m really not sure what to do here but I know I need to seek God’s face
Continue to seek His Name. Grow in your Faith and in His Word. Strive to seek growth in becoming the GODLY man that you promised your wife at the alter, and God wants us to be. Let her see Christ in you, without expectation. Let God work in her. But continue to pray for her...
@@sf808opalaman how did you get to this ? i dont know what is the root issue with my husband but toxic patterns here and im seperating in our house but hes taking it as rejection and that i want to leave him and i dont. i tried telling him i just dont want to live this way in them ore its hurting us im not srue i agree with jimmy on no benefits at all like not being the wife. I dont think that is biblbical and can allow for satan to dig harder. Im praying about discernement on this
@ Dustin Whitesell What a bullshit ! Pornography is what affects goddess woman (who has taken the place of God these days ) so much because women hate being compared to other women. Women are catty towards each other , and jealous to distraction. Now , the female-dominated church is just bowing down to all the evils of women and NEVER make them accountable for their unsubordination towards their husbands. The BIBLE that is NEVER taught anymore by Evans and the rest clearly states that a husband has power over his wife's body and she has NONE 1 Co 7:5 . It says that marital sex is the way to avoid carnal temptations. So my question is : did you take your legitimate right as a husband in your marriage or is it your sinful wife who was always in control as Evans wants it to be ? Pornography is just a fig leaf that hides a very UGLY TRUTH when you dig a little more than Evans and co , something that all the cowards so afraid to offend godess woman will never do . Wives are now encouraged to WITHOLD sex without the consent of their husband , SINNING against God and the husband all the time. 1 Co 7:5 has been wilfully overlooked in order to let females be in control. I can assure you that I'm no liar and that I perfectly know that Evans DOES encourage wives to withhold sex without the consent of their husbands who is told that he has no power anymore. Evans is a WOLF who markets to his female customer , letting them know how wonderful they are , how sinless they are , how blameless they are . Yet , there is nothing MORE EVIL than my own sex. Female-dominated churches are a CURSE . They never speak the truth about women , their duties and the submission they owe their husbands. Married women are now told that they have agency over their bodies , which is a demonic lie rooted in the My body my choice 's impure feminist slogan. Married men don't take the helm anymore . They are ruled over byt their wives in and out of the bedroom and instead of RULING and having sex as they wish , they hide like little boys with some silly smartphones , looking at whores having sex with plenty of "alpha" men . Nothing could be more emasculating than that. Satan wins .
My now ex wife did this to me. She wanted a separation but no divorce. The minute she separated from me she filed for divorce anyway, then the silent treatment followed. Two years have passed now, and I don’t know where she is. Sometimes you just don’t know who you did marry. I was heartbroken and devastated by her decision.
Like the topic sir, I agree with you 100% true and pure accountability has to be acknowledged and present before moving forward. Zero blame and pointing fingers. One more thing, divorce is easy for most people,however for others, it can feel like a death sentence
My marriage is going through it now before watching this video. Took that decision as per the Lord"s guidance bringing the pastor of church as mediator. What this preacher says is right. Good to see this message. It helps me stay strong. Waiting for my husband"s return to his position of true leader/head of my family. Bible says the women received back their dead men alive. And the Lord turned the water to expensive fruit wine... , I trust, He will do the same in my marriage too. Living by that faith.
I’ve been separated from my husband for 3 months now and I’ve only seen minimal change. He still hasn’t taken responsibility for his behavior and doesn’t respect that I don’t want to have sex until we are back together, and I see major change. He won’t let me have my wedding rings until “we aren’t fighting every other week or so” which I don’t agree with. We still have a lot of kinks to work out. Please pray for us.
@@g_desiree still separated. We have our rings back but our relationship has been a roller coaster. He still isn’t taking responsibility and we’re at the point that we don’t know if it will work out. We don’t see how it can, even though we love each other.
I never thought I would follow through and actually separate from a verbally and mentally abusive husband, married 37 years. Hard alcohol triggers deep anger in ways I have rebelled against all these years, and made many efforts to talk, but he has said communication is one person talking to another’s (ie nothing about communing, joining, mutually engaging). He is a self-proclaimed bully, and I have acquiesced. This last incident he was enraged and I put my hands out to keep him back and was thrown to the floor. I acknowledge I need solid counseling to heal my hardened heart and bitterness, and can only do so at the feet of Jesus and allow Him to heal us both. As humans, we need time and space apart to do so. God’s will be done.
Lisa- I am so proud of you for recognizing your value and worth before the Lord and for Trusting Him enough to get away from this destructive behavior. I pray in Jesus Name that you find the counseling, support and friendships you deserve to make a full recovery and a blessed life, with or without your lost husband who needs help. You did the right thing.
@ LisaJaenicke Yeah sure , women are such poor victims who never can do wrong. Where has wifely submission to her husband in everything gone ? Evans NEVER talks about that at all since he wants WOMEN to be in the power position.
Thank you. It's good that I saw this and I'm npw assured that the steps I did are right. I made this decision 11 months ago and I'm praying for change to happen. I know God will work no matter how hard I think things will be.
I wish I had this insight before my divorce. we were at a crossroads. Everyone who was advising me seemed to think divorce was my only option. I have made a life for me and my children. However single parenting is very difficult. Especially with four children one whom had a disability and surrounded by people who have never been in your situation. People can be very judgemental. Also since the divorce he seems to be indifferent to the struggles the kids and I face. All I can focus on is the blessing of having good children.
Jessie Jane first off, listening to people should not have happened. You should of taken it to the pastor and his wife, and got counseling. Divorce is never the answer
Wives , SUBMIT to your husbands in everything is NEVER taught anymore by those wicked churches ran by a devastating feminist spirit of female entitlement. It was not enough that Eve screwed Adam's paradise.
I am glad I found this message! We did take time to find solution and were separated for 8 weeks and came back together my children didn’t have hope that it would be different but I somehow had hope because there were some positive changes but after only three weeks that my wife was back we were in the same level of problems again as before and I think it was worse than before and after 10 months my wife left. Those have been the worse 10 months of my life but today we are divorced and I have no regrets but instead feel free and starting to feel ready to love again. God has been very good to me and the children. I have prayed to God that he would show me what I should do with my future life and he has revealed a lady I shall per-sue so after some time I believe life will be complete and normal again 🙏
I did this to my now ex-husband years ago, I told him I could not live with him anymore and he did not say one word and immediately withheld his paycheck from me and started looking for an apartment and moved out.
So is years of intimate neglect, lying, and lack of communication. Come on.....physical abuse is NOT the only type of abuse. Brethren just keep in mind that YOU are the one living in the situation EVERY day therefore listen to what the Holy Spirit is telling you in YOUR situation.
Tabita Henderson "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
God keeps speaking to me through you guys, I walked up the divorce step today but now I'm considering constructive separation. Divorce isn't worth it, thank you Jesus Christ for intervening. You guys keep preaching the good news.
I remember when my unfaithful wife had suggested a healing separation. What a joke. I believed then, as I still do, all she wanted was a vacation from dealing with the difficulties of her adultery. I saw absolutely no reason to get a separation and instead moved to divorce. You can still date again after divorce, you can still marry each other again after a divorce. You don't have any less options. "But marriage is sacred" yeah, don't tell me, tell her.
Penni Delatorre "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
Thank you for this. I'm very upset I didn't find this before leaving my home while on a brink of signing papers for the divorce. I don't want it and this Friday would be 24 yrs. We've been through so much. Praying for us to still get back together.
My mother died after my father divorce her. She was one of those Christians who thinks that, your husband can abuse you as he want, and you have no right to leave your home because the bible say so. All her family and friends advice her to leave. Even my elder brothers and sisters ,her own children advice her to leave .Finally after waist her time with a man who never love her (my father) she died and leave us with an abusing and irresponsible father. Seven years after her death ,my father is still the same,has divorced 4women after abusing them also, some died .My father is an elder in church, given much money to pastor for the work of God. Preaching and even attended biblical school. JUST TO TELL SOME WOMEN, DON'T BE FOOL BY THE NAME CHRISTIAN. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LEAVE A TOXIC PERSON who ever he is (pastor, bishop, prophet...) IF NOT HE'LL DESTROY YOUR LIFE AND STILL REMAIN THE SAME. Now I know that my mother could have escape that tragic death and us that tragic situation, if she could have taken the wise decision of leaving that man earlier.
I just separated from my spouse again on Thursday, November 16th. It’s very hard.. especially around the holidays. My husband’s name is Jesse. Please join me in prayer that God would soften his heart. My husband struggles with many addictions and mental health issues. The drugs and alcohol is the factor that made me decide to leave. I felt unsafe in the home, not to mention there was so much abuse in every area. Finances are a mess… everything really. Please pray for and with me for my marriage, for my husband Jesse, and for me too my name is Catherine..
I'm going through debilitating abuse, and now the children have been brought into it. I've told him he needs to separate as I don't want to have to go the legal route. He refuses. I'm sick now and can barely function at all.Physically my body has collapsed from the anxiety and trauma.
Verbal abuse, mental and emotional abuse, neglect, and isolation. Theme of my marriage of 4.5 years. I blasted him on FB when I lost my temper and that's all he cares about.
I lived it for 22 years. Post divorce he's still doing it. Just dont post anything. It gives them ammo if you do.. just live your life unto the Lord and have peace
I need prayer for my wife lena Jefferson Wilson and James A Wilson we are going through a Divorce and my 2 children Avy and Samala Wilson thankyou 🙏 James
Not one single scripture was mentioned here. We want to be biblical not just logical. Although there is a truth to separation in scripture. But unfortunately it’s not mentioned here a lot. This is how unintentionally Christians go astray. I dont believe he has wrong intentions in any way but this is how gods people perish because of a lack of knowledge. Maybe not as a whole. But areas in our lives are destroyed and we have no victory simply because an incorrect perspective. Something a thing can sound right but really isn’t. Be vigilant folks. We’re trying to do what’s right not just what seems right. Almost right is not Right. If anyone is going through tough times right now. Seek god with all your heart never lose hope. God can turn the page at any time. We are more than conquerors. We can do all things through Christ. Its not easy but it is possible. By the way when Paul mentions that he can do all things through Christ. Was during hard times also mentioning that he can serve god during the tuff times and good times. How he served god through the good times was the same way he served god through the bad times. No difference. He was able to go through the issues with out having to run away from them. And this was almost his whole life after conversion. Revealing to us that life isn’t about our happiness but our obedience , through tough times and good. Although we always see god come through for us so never lose hope
It sounds like he's talking about instances of abuse. God does not want us to be abused. It's ok to separate for your safety. The abuser should have accountability. No one should be subjected to abuse.
@@lovnber2008 Define abuse . Abuse has become a magic word that allows rebellious females to take over and play victims all the time. You think that God is fooled by females ? Oh yeah Jesus LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVES women so much !! FALSE feminised theology Isaiah 3:12 O my people ruled over by women ! You know , women the poor victim who can never do wrong but who has tons of innocent blood on their hands (abortion) , who file 3 divorces out of 4 when the LORD says that no one should separate what God has joined , who sleep around and lead the hook up culture but who are too "tired" to have sex with their husbands , who yell at men watching pornography but love rape porn litterature such as Fifty Shades of Grey . Women , the most WICKED sex ever is now being bown down to within the church when in the past , men were todl to beware of it and keep control. Women hate God's will. They prefer Satan's will .
I agree to what he says because so many women have suffered Emotional pains and died from domestic violence, separation at first is very key if the marriage is violent, that will give the couples time to really decide and make amendment bcoz if this is not done one person may not be alive to see the nearest future. U will not want to loose a loved one for the sake of marriage, let them go thru counselling and if no positive change then they can separate and both decide further.
Liya Desimhi how about the fact so many men are committing suicide due to the women up a leaving and also taking the children base off perceived abuse like emotional and mental, not talking about physical abuse? I was mentally abuse to the point I almost took my life because my ex wife was undermined my god given authority as the husband and father of the home. She used separation as way to control me. I was the sole breadwinner and provided well for my wife and children. She still was not happy. Now 8 children will grow up without a father due to lies. The only way I could get my family back is I have to replace Jesus as my head with my ex-wife being my head. Instead of focusing on Jesus, I need to focus on her happiness. This so evil what Jimmy is teaching. "Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart." (Ecclesiastes 7:7, KJV)
] Liya Desimhi Yeah sure , women are such helpless victims who can never do wrong ! That Marxist /Feminist vision of marriage and society is DEVASTATING the West. Evans just markets to his FEMALE customers since he knows that it is sinful rebellious females who listen to him , submit to him and NOT to their husbands. Tyrants like Evans have succeeded in taking away the greatest authority after God's , which is the husband's and father's.
After his brothers death for the first time he became physically abusive- I didn’t leave- now 2 yrs later I have dealt with his drunk mean abusive statements and just plain ignoring our needs as a family- he acts like he just lives his life but I have to pay bills, keep kid’s appointments and I work. He will be good 2 weeks then bam he just leaves and acts like he can go camping when he wants and no one is the wiser- I really want to leave.
What if a Christian woman’s husband spends majority of extra money on smoking addiction, alcohol, marijuana, entertainment, eating out everyday (twice/day). Vehicles need fixed, home needs fixed, wife and kid need clothes. The wife accepted a part time job and husband expects her to use the money she earned for fixing vehicles, buying groceries, etc. She has left him for a few days but keeps asking me if it was the “Christian” thing to do. Any thoughts?
What about the person being kicked out of the home? What about the one kicking the other out and says its over and refuses counseling. I wont divorce you but its over. So there's no "I love you but I don't feel safe, or until I see change we wont date. Its just get out its over but I wont divorce you.What you say is good but unfortunately people don't do it they just live separate or divorce when another person comes along.
Rasheeda Siner I suggest that you find a good Christian Counselor in your area. One of the local churches in my area offers free counseling to those who cannot afford it and Focus on The Family has a list of Christian counselors. you can find their info on line.
“Focus on the family” how about focus on YAH! How about follow HIS LAW, statues, commands, etc. focus on the family how about do what Jesus says, HE did say those who love me OBEY my commands
@@marieball1772 Focus on the Family = Focus on SATAN and all the feminists who are serving him , screwing the authority of the husband and replacing it with that of wicked counsellors hiding their misandry behind a mask of godliness.
@@christinetranchell4224 Wrong. God cares more about the institution because God is masculine and his vision is masculine. It is highly effective . Caring about people is feminine vision. It is ineffective and destructive. I used to have that feminine vision since I'm a woman but I understood now why God put everything in the hands of MEN . Women have nothing to say. They are just commanded to submit and do their duties ( Titus 2:4) and shut it up instead of telling insanities. No more marital problems when women submit .
Good morning Mr. Evans! Excellent video! I love your message about trying saving marriages and all the things in between. I was a resident in NJ for over 30 years and married in NJ in 2007. However, my family and I have been in Pennsylvania since November 2018. Due to circumstances and the situation getting worse it is best to get legal separation from my spouse. However, I strongly doubt that my spouse will agree to or sign any papers for this separation. How can I prove that we are separated when if I move out? And if it’s a struggle with my children and I leaving what should I do? Our relationship has become toxic and his behavior is intolerable. He is angry so he will not let me just take our children and move out without an issue. Any suggestions?
I understand his view point, but it can also lead to maniplation, threats of leaving, and we cannot force someone to change, God does the change, our job is to shows Christ sacrificial love.
Marriage counselling is unscriptural. The husband is the HEAD and must rule his household without being told like a kid what he has to do . Men know what they have to do. Men are natural leaders .
Has anyone ever had reconciliation occur when there was a situation where your husband is cheating with prostitutes ( sugar babies ) and spent upwards of 5000 a month on them and also was verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive? Is there any hope in this type of circumstance? I am heartbroken the "Christian" man I thought I married was a complete and total lie. Did God show me this to leave him ? I am so sad and confused so please please please if anyone who is a true Bible believing christian could message/advise me on this topic I would be eternally grateful. How do I break this trauma bond ( I still feel like I love him but maybe its just fear of future? ) I am trying my best to focus on Prophetic/ Sunday thinking but I am really struggling with missing my husband even with how horrible he treated me. How can I fix this? I already see therapist, pray, and read my Bible. Any other pieces of advice?
I met my ex at church. We split up after 14 years of marriage for many reasons, one being he had some girlfriends and wanted out. He had seemed to want out from the start and always seemed to be hiding things. He couldn't hold down a job. I found myself broke, with 2 small children and an husband who I couldn't leave the children with to get a good job because he had some kind of mental issue and couldn't stop playing computer games. Then he got in trouble with the law. It was worse then I am letting on. I couldn't find anyone at our church to stand with me. I had nowhere safe to turn. It was beyond devastating. By the time we split up, the kids were old enough that I could work shiftwork. I housed us in an unfinished basement rental. The problem I have is that I feel like I let the kids down by trusting God in the crisis to help us. They are grown up now and don't believe in God because they think I'm foolish. Guilt for letting the kids down and fear for admitting God let me down. I'm 50 now and I'm still struggling with trusting God now so many years later. I saw a movie called a case for christ a few years ago and saw how things can be different for other people who put they're trust n God. Where did I go wrong? For some reason it all came to my mind in the middle of the night last night and this video was on my youtube homescreen about 5am. Whish I could get past this.
Trusting God doesn’t stop with trusting only for the things we want. Even after this devastating marriage/divorce just know YOU are Gods child & he doesn’t want you hurting. Give him your pain and asks him to heal you darling. HE has better for you, what the enemy meant to destroy you and your children YOU have the power to hold tight to faith and declare a prayer over your family of protection!! That even tho you feel broken one day if you stay faithful and serve the lord he will reveal to you how he can use this for good. I know because of many situations of abuse and toxic relationships that I relied on God and years later it made me turn to social work to help other kids who have been abused and also gave me a heart of compassion. One day your story can be the key to someone else’s prison cell. In Jesus name. ❤️
duckman486fry she doesn’t have to change her behavior according to Jimmy Evans. Jimmy is a wolf in sheep clothing. "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
Why does this sound like a woman leaving a man! What do you do if it’s a woman that is causing hurt and pain. It’s amazing how biased culture has gotten concerning marriage. Truth is BOTH parties need to change. And I love Jimmy Evans but all his advice comes from his perspective as a man being a jerk. But what did his wife do in the marriage? Because it takes 2. JS
His examples tend to be a certain way, but yes, you can fill in the gender's rolls however you want. He tells it that way because from his personal experience, he was the jerk, but he's not saying women can't mess up too.
Am forever grateful to Dr. Gbenga for his counselling and spiritual help that have restore my mum's marriage after 9 years of separation, my Dad is back and we are happy again, thank alot Dr. Gbenga for your help.
I have not seen any change in my husband Byron Andrew Hassell behavior he also has no job he's smoking marijuana drinking alcohol and is being sinful I can't live like this I can't live with being yelled at being called stupid being told I'm never going to change you are nothing so that's why we are separated because I see no progress with my husband no job doing marijuana and alcohol
Does he know his behavior is not acceptable? Has he heard from you that he is an abuser? Have you told him he isn't seeing your value and giving you the respect you deserve? Have you completely blocked him out of your life after saying those things? When he sees your value and that you mean what you say and you're not playing the game anymore he might react to that. Doesn't hurt to try
@@sweettruth4239 Doesn't hurt to try to SUBMIT and stop being one of those rebellious shrews who think they have been given the right to judge their husbands . There is no greater authority than the husband's after God's. Men always see the value in a REAL virtuous woman. Not a feminist in christian guise. Evans loves the feminine . But there is nothing more wicked and more against the LORD than the feminine. Man is the image and glory of God , but the woman is the glory of man. Now , the glory of God is being bashed , scorned , judged , hated , stripped of all his God-given rights (even the right to sex in marriage !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) by all the demonic feminists that hide behind a mask of godliness. Husband are NOT accountable to their wives . Rather , it is wives who are accountable to their husbands .
@ Harnden Actually , it is always women who do way more damage than men because they are in total rebellion. The woman was made FOR and because fo the man but now it is women who have every right and screw everything !!! If wives submitted in everything , all conflicts would go overnight. Shame on women for doing what they are doing . And also shame on men for not controlling women anymore.
i agree with Jimmy on alot of things. but this issue is very complicated stuff. this is where men can end up killing woman because they are just suffering so badly, have bad selfesteem. have insecuritys.. they just feel the need to control evrything so they dont feel the reflection of their own personal suffering. and this is where woman have just had enough of a hellish life because men knows nothing more besides his own pain.. and so he doesent know how to love a partner. some woman have the guts and strenght to stand up to men right here. but here is what makes things complicated. some men that woman should stay far away from in relationships, can be so control freaks that they dont know what to do when woman begins to take control back. mmen can end up freaking out and hurt woman very badly... if not kill her.. simply because they wanna walk away from this suffering that men put them through. this is where men have thrown gaseline over woman and set them on fire.. at gas station. why? because woman wanna divorce and leave very abusive men. so i think this domestic voilence stuff needs to be adressed first before woman are just gonna take control over the situation. because manyh woman if not moste.. woman cant be verbal about this stuff unless they wanna die.
@ jard Sigurd Storvann A wife is commanded to submit to her husband IN EVERYTHING Eph 5:25 Men are not told to kill their wives but to RULE OVER their wives Genesis 3:16 Try again.
@@framboise595 im not saying its right men kill their wifes. very faaaaar from it. im talking about how guys with unstable mentality can make the abselute worst choises that causes somebody else pain, if not death. and it is disgusting. it is all kinds of wrong. and if there is a God after death, these guys will have to respond for their sins.
Unbiblical! Contradicts 1 Corinthians 7:1-16 and 1 Peter 2:18- 3:7. Is the woman the head of the man? My wife is using the court system to usurp my authority as her husband because she feels abused. She will not come home with my children until I submit to her. Jimmy so should I submit to my wife over Jesus?
@Ruth Wunderlin you are anti-Christ. That why you would not encourage my wife to do what is right. "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:" (1 Corinthians 7:10, KJV) "For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church." (1 Corinthians 14:33-35, KJV)
@Ruth Wunderlin "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." (Ephesians 5:33, KJV)
For this to be a message from a Christian program, it was very odd that this sounded more like a worldly philosophy than the word of God. I didn’t hear any mention or reference of scripture to back up what the man was saying.
Very subjective advice. Unless it is limited to physical violence this is just a sanitized way of saying. "I'm leaving you because Im not getting what I want" Actually, the term itself is an oxymoron.
According to you, Jimmy, it is ok to for the woman to deprive her husband of sex base off her feelings and emotions. Once again, Christianity is not biblical. The blind leading the blind. “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” I Corinthians 7:2-5 NKJV
Exactly! If he is not giving authority over his body to her (by acting aggressively or being abusive to her) he also isn’t submitting himself to the Lord thru those actions and the Bible clearly says a woman must submit to her husband but that’s when he is submitting himself to God. God doesn’t ask women to be sacrificial lambs, obviously he’s not saying she can just deprive him of sex if he is meeting her needs In other areas and a good husband but if he’s verbally or emotionally abusive damn right it is that woman’s right to say no to this partnership until you get help. That’s unhealthy. Cuz if we want to go off your biblical argument, the mans actions in this scenario are unbiblical as well by acting on anger or speaking harsh words and not acting in love. She is protecting herself and the children hopefully to spur the man to change his behavior, have a wake up call and work on himself and save the marriage.
@@DrowninGxSmile this is straight BS! "Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence." (1 Timothy 2:11-12, KJV)
@Ruth Wunderlinthe woman was literally created for the man. "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (1 Corinthians 11:8-9, KJV)
@@DrowninGxSmile How many women will spend the eternity with Satan , their favourite one ? The cause of all marital unrest is always the woman. 1 Peter 3 a wife submits no matter what . You are a big liar like Evans .
Hey Jimmy, how do you reconcile this passage with your ungodly advice? 8 black children will now grow up without good father base off the emotions of woman who FEELS abused. “Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints? Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world will be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters? Do you not know that we shall judge angels? How much more, things that pertain to this life? If then you have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge? I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren? But brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers! Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? Why do you not rather let yourselves be cheated? No, you yourselves do wrong and cheat, and you do these things to your brethren!” I Corinthians 6:1-8 NKJV
Even if she "feels" abused there is an issue because "whatever a man (or woman thinks) so he (she) is" If you are insensitive to her feelings and you use the bible to invalidate her emotions. She is most likely feeling abused. I was that woman. I told my ex-husband over and over again. I did the constructive separation but things got so much worse. Very much like you, my ex thought I was trying to use sex against him, even though I never did that in our marriage, ever. I always had his needs in mind. My ex-husband didn't believe he was abusive either. He believed he could treat me any kind of way as long as he didn't "cheat". Emotions are real. If you truly love her you will be patient with her and not want to see her hurt by your actions or words. You will bear all things with her and treat her as a gift from the Lord. Her emotional well being would be important to you. You would want to see her happy and fulfilled. I was extremely loyal for 20 years and then I just got worn down by his abusive behaviors (spiritual, psychological, emotional, and financial). It causes anxiety, depression, and wears on your body. After years of unseen abuse, it can cause sickness and disease. This is the kind of abuse that kills from the inside out. Still, till this day he doesn't see it, even after the Lord warned him in several dreams. He never truly repented. He continues to blame me and falsely accuses me of the things he actually did. I pray the Lord give you insight and love. Divorce is not an easy out, it is hard and painful but I chose life over a very slow death. The bible was not meant to used to control people it was written to get to know the Lord's heart for us and in turn, we fall in love with Him. It's easier to love if you have experienced His love for you. I pray for you to encounter His manifested love in such a way it transforms your life!
Elisabeth Johnson nothing you are saying is biblical. The things you are sayings is hateful. "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:" (1 Corinthians 7:10, KJV) The Lord doesn’t want women to leave their husband.
KGB94 TV What is unbiblical about Ephesians 5:23-30? I don’t know you or your wife but If you love your wife well as Jesus loves us. She most likely wouldn’t want to leave if she is a God fearing woman. God has always been about relationship with his people. But the Lord himself got fed up with the Israelites in Jer. 3:8. The Lord calls the Israelites unfaithfulness of idolatry treacherous . Which is the same word used in Malachi 2:10-16 which is a warning to “Godly men” priests, pastors leaders to not mistreat their wives. For in treating her treacherously he does violence to the one he should protect. God called for repentance from the men using women and them leaving them without covering, protection or resources. God also called for a mass divorce in Ezra because they had sinned in marrying unequally yoked spouses from other countries causing them to commit idolatry. In abusive situations divorce may be necessary if their is no repentance. This is true of men and women alike. A woman who sacrifices and has 8 of your children should be a treasure to you. If she does not feel treasured you are missing the mark in your love toward her. The Lord did not give her to you to use up and then use a few bible verses to justify your actions and then use against her that she can never leave you. We are to consider the whole bible by the Spirit of God and consider context, culture and Greek and Hebrew translation. You will know them by their love not how many bible verses they can throw at you to guilt you into being controlled and manipulated. Satan knows scripture too and used in to try to control and manipulative Jesus into doing his will. If this is what you are doing it is not in love that you operate. biblehub.com/lexicon/malachi/2-16.htm
@@elisabethjohnson6068 I guess God did not LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE Israel enough since Israel turned away from Him more than once ? Stop your wicked manipulation and surrender. We women love manipulating people in order to have our ways. The Bible calls that bitterer than death Ecclesiastes 7:28 The WOMAN was made for the man. So , how come modern day women don't submit to their husbands anymore but always bring that wicked wordly psychology in order to gain power over men ? You woman perfectly knows that we are very good at using psychology and words . We master words and language pretty well. And we take advantage of men who are told to just communicate and talk and "love" but NOT use their God-given authority anymore.
This is absolutely against the Bible! We are not to separate unless by mutual consent. But it orders a woman to be reconciled back to her husband OR SHE MUST REMAIN UNMARRIED UNTIL THAT MAN DIES OR SHE IS AN ADULTEROUS!
@ Kevin Jones All those hucksters who seek to please WOMEN because it is women who listen to them and buy their useless books ( money , money , money) always deny what the LORD says. You cannot please women , the sex of rebellion and transgression and the Holy God. You have to make a choice . For the money , the choice was made a long time ago.
football joe I ca answer that Sir! It is called adhering to, and honoring your marriage vows! 99% of the time separation is an excuse to have adulterous and immoral affairs!
@@stephentimm4417 You have a very judgmental attitude and obviously very little exposure to many relationships where this is the only option besides divorce to protect a spouse and children when there is abuse and addiction involved. At times the separation will allow there to be change without the drastic step of divorce. Honoring marriage vows? Let's discuss being honoring of the essence of marriage itself. To tolerate abuse without any attempt to confront is enabling sin. Endangering self or children while enabling the abuser is also absurd. Constructive separation is not wickedness to the 10th power. If it is used as an excuse to have an affair it is obviously the affair that is sinful,. "Constructive" means it is working toward a positive goal- healing and repentance.
@@angelalall6056 Those poor PERFECT wives who are always "abused" by those wicked men but who never submit as the Bible commands it . Stop women ! Stop your wicked manipulation ! If we submitted to our husbanjds in everything as the Bible says , where would marital issues be ? God would bless our marriages because it is his way. He made the woman FOR the man so the woman s at fault for not conforming to the wishes and desires of her husband. " Endangering self" SELF = female ego and selfishness Modern day women love their own sinful selves more than the Lord or their husbands or children. They are not only useless but HARMFUL. It is MEN who should not tolerate rebellion in their own household and wives should be accountable to their husbands and the church for their unsubordination.
I love my wife. She does sex with her brother. I am happy that she openèd my eyes about love, life and adultary. I am concern about my daughters. I do not know where i have now.
Jimmy, God hates the putting away not divorce. You are advocating the very thing Jesus hates. This simply is not Biblical. Please give us Biblical references to your advice, Jimmy.
Kabeer.. If someone is being verbally or physically abused, or cheated on, the guilty party has already broken the marriage vow to "Love, cherish, and honor, and to forsake all others". The bible says do not "Seek to be loosed", but sometimes people are forced or pushed to be loosed. 1 Corintians 5:11 says: "I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people." Severing ties with close people does happen in life, but like Jimmy is saying, It's an absolute last resort, especially in marriage.
Darin Finley physical abuse is in unacceptable Biblically speaking. I agree a woman should be abused physically. But Jimmy mentioned physical last to emotional, and mental abuse. Those abuse are so abstract that it is hard to prove. Now the woman can play victim and now usurp the husband authority. In my marriage of 16 years my is the one who physically abuse me 3 times. But I guess it is ok for a woman to abuse a man. Lastly she was very contentious towards the end of our marriage due to advices like Jimmy. "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement." (1 Peter 3:1-6, KJV) "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." (Proverbs 21:19, KJV) "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." (Proverbs 21:9, KJV)
@@darinfinley "cheated on" More unscriptural language. The Bible acknowledges that a WIFE can be adulterous and cheat on her husband (Numbers 5) But the opposite is not even mentioned in the Bible because a wife is accountable to her husband , it is not the husband who is accoutable to his wife. This is pure heresy vomited by Evans and plenty of others hucksters that I've watched on YT.
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@@gloriawiens775 Let the woman NOT separate from her husband 1 Co 7:11 What Evans is saying is the exact opposite ! No surprise . A woman has no right to separate from her husband. It is the LORD who commands women to not do that. Women must stay by their men because that's where they belong. It is because women are not where they belong anymore that everything is screwed now. What example do they give the children when they see their mother stand against their own father ? What a shame ! Women today are traitors ! They don't teach children to obey their fathers by submitting themselves to their own husbands. Marriage is done. Satan wins.
This guy likes using the word suffering a lot. He seems to be into this and I am sure his Constructive Separation advice has created suffering all over the place. This term separation means breaking apart that fits the destructive description not constructive, his advice is upside down and if you follow this advice it will be the kiss of death to your relationship. It is as poor advice as suggesting there is a case for constructive wife beating where you physically abuse your wife to get her to conform to your wishes, this is the same kind of thinking only in reverse. Jimmy Evans is condoning abuse ,he needs a constructive kick in the face as a form of therapy to help him move the electrical activity to more functional parts of his brain.
@ John Hue He likes using the word suffering a lot because he focuses on emotions vs reason and biblical truth since he is marketing to his female customers who never open a Bible but are loaden with sins and completely led astray by those men. " you physically abuse your wife to get her conform to your wishes" Why would that be needed since the wife has to SUBMIT to her husband in everything ? If" abuse" (the magic feminist mantra) happens in that case , it is always the fault of the wife who is rebellious and in total unsubordination to the man she is obligated to submit to .
@@debbiekuhn9643 No he's not. He is just another feminist tyrant whose goal is to transfer the authority a husband has been given by the Lord towards the wife who has no authority at all but who must be in submission to him in everything. Evans is just marketing to his female audience because it is all about the DOLLAR. The more dollar he makes , the more satisfied his controlling wife is ...
@ Kevin Jones I once heard that man telling wives that they could say no to sex to their husbands. It is as demonic as could be and gives married women power over their bodies. Evans preaches FEMINISM , the worst ideology of all times rooted in Marxism . Marxism sees women as victims and men as perpetrators. That is NOT God's vision at all. The church has been hijacked by MARXISM .
Hey Jimmy, you also encouraging women to go to the unrighteous judge to usurp the authority of her husband, if she FEELS abused. Men, do not get a marriage license in the future. If a woman pull this move to usurp your authority go ahead convert it to a divorce and NEVER get a marriage license. You don’t need it to be right before the Most High. “But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.” 1 Timothy 2:10-15 KJV
@@revolutionunderground I have AUTHORITY over my women. If not, then they cease from being my woman. Ruling over my woman is not abusive, but loving. 1Co 11:3 (KJV) 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
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Counseling & work on the part of each spouse is critical to a healthy marriage...I'm about to embark upon counseling with my spouse to avoid a divorce...we're both believers in CHRIST & both love each other, & want to save our marriage...we've only been married 8 years. We need lots of prayer. Thank you.
Please pray for me, my husband, and our daughter as well. We are also believers but I do not see my husband as a spiritual leader.
You don't have to work on anything that's a lost cause.
Would love to know if things worked out. Hope they did.
@@aishajackson50 no, things went totally off & unfortunately he passed away. Thank u for asking.
This pastor is solid. I’d trust his feedback on my marriage
I did this, and my marriage is better than I anticipated.
Praise the Lord that He gave you strength ,courage and the love required to be blessed!
May you continuously be enjoying your marriage in the Lord!
Yeah , now you're totally IN CONTROL as Evans wants it.
Praise the Lord !
Did it really work..?
@@Lostboy7087 Yes, absolutely. My marriage now exceedes my expectations. It's amazing what God can do when we back off and hand it to Him. Full surrender.
This was such an awesome explanation of what should be happening rather than divorce. I believe that Christians should separate more, and work through their marriage with the hope that they will reunite one day. Thank you for this!
Those who are mocking this video obviously failed to listen. This advice is intended primarily for couples who profess to follow God, and who are in a situation of marital breakdown, due to abuse either mental or physical. In this situation, the abusee must remove themselves for their own safety, but clearly this is for those who do not want to go down the road of divorce. 1 Corinth 7:5 discusses the issue of seperation "for a time", and can very easily apply to this situation. Read Malachi 2:13-16 The Lord does not take kindly to the man who deals treacherously with the wife of his youth and He hates divorce. The consequences are serious, and so a time of seperation which is devoted to prayer and restoration is absolutely scriptural.
@ Aussie Bush Homestead
That abuse stuff is just a bifg demonic LIE made up to allow WIVES to take control and do what they feel.
It is now husbands who answer to their wives as if the wife was head over him !!
It is pure evil.
Do not let other people decide what is best for your marriage. Keep clergy out of it!
Excellent advices, Jimmy. This is exactly what happened in our marriage. We separated due to addiction. We separated, the behaviors changed, we found Marriage Today, went to the XO Conference in 2015, went to counseling, dated, my husband courted me. But most importantly, we put God back in our marriage. We are happier than we've ever been, I love my husband more than I ever thought possible.
Thank you! My situation is exactly the same. Praying separating brings back together the marriage God has intended.
Lynn Dugger so nice to hear your testimony and it worked out for the good. I'm in this boat as of now, haven't separated but I feel it coming. I'm scared that if that happens he won't get help and change. we have two children involved and I've been praying for God to change his heart. I'm just exhausted at this point.
Lynn Dugger that is beautiful! Loving your husband more than you ever thought possible is amazing
This is where I am at as well. I think with addiction this really is helpful because it pushes them to change & not use us as a crutch. He loves us & misses us but I needed my sanity & space. Until he’s ready to really change n come back
@@missa4026 Update? Did he change?
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thankyou. Please pray for the Father to supply me with finances and a place to stay in orxer to seperate before divorce. Thankyou for this timely word.
It’s been a long time since you posted this but how are you? I’m at this part where I’m not financially equipped to leave. Pray for God’s guidance and help for this as well.
I agree I have a good friend who did this and their marriage is now better than before
I sent this to my wife. Pornography and emotional abuse is what killed our marriage, I’ve changed, I want to be accountable. I know what I need to do now on the pornography part, get software on my phone and on my computer and give the password to either my wife or my mother. On the emotional side of things, I have already changed the destructive and insane patterns that I was going through, I have soaked into God’s word and allowed it to permeate me from the inside out. I have very good feelings about this, and I pray that it’s right and I’m right but also I hope and pray that God would speak to my wife. I’m really not sure what to do here but I know I need to seek God’s face
Continue to seek His Name. Grow in your Faith and in His Word. Strive to seek growth in becoming the GODLY man that you promised your wife at the alter, and God wants us to be. Let her see Christ in you, without expectation. Let God work in her. But continue to pray for her...
@@sf808opalaman how did you get to this ? i dont know what is the root issue with my husband but toxic patterns here and im seperating in our house but hes taking it as rejection and that i want to leave him and i dont. i tried telling him i just dont want to live this way in them ore its hurting us im not srue i agree with jimmy on no benefits at all like not being the wife. I dont think that is biblbical and can allow for satan to dig harder. Im praying about discernement on this
@ Dustin Whitesell
What a bullshit ! Pornography is what affects goddess woman (who has taken the place of God these days ) so much because women hate being compared to other women. Women are catty towards each other , and jealous to distraction.
Now , the female-dominated church is just bowing down to all the evils of women and NEVER make them accountable for their unsubordination towards their husbands.
The BIBLE that is NEVER taught anymore by Evans and the rest clearly states that a husband has power over his wife's body and she has NONE 1 Co 7:5 . It says that marital sex is the way to avoid carnal temptations.
So my question is : did you take your legitimate right as a husband in your marriage or is it your sinful wife who was always in control as Evans wants it to be ?
Pornography is just a fig leaf that hides a very UGLY TRUTH when you dig a little more than Evans and co , something that all the cowards so afraid to offend godess woman will never do . Wives are now encouraged to WITHOLD sex without the consent of their husband , SINNING against God and the husband all the time.
1 Co 7:5 has been wilfully overlooked in order to let females be in control.
I can assure you that I'm no liar and that I perfectly know that Evans DOES encourage wives to withhold sex without the consent of their husbands who is told that he has no power anymore.
Evans is a WOLF who markets to his female customer , letting them know how wonderful they are , how sinless they are , how blameless they are . Yet , there is nothing MORE EVIL than my own sex.
Female-dominated churches are a CURSE . They never speak the truth about women , their duties and the submission they owe their husbands.
Married women are now told that they have agency over their bodies , which is a demonic lie rooted in the My body my choice 's impure feminist slogan.
Married men don't take the helm anymore . They are ruled over byt their wives in and out of the bedroom and instead of RULING and having sex as they wish , they hide like little boys with some silly smartphones , looking at whores having sex with plenty of "alpha" men .
Nothing could be more emasculating than that.
Satan wins .
My now ex wife did this to me. She wanted a separation but no divorce. The minute she separated from me she filed for divorce anyway, then the silent treatment followed. Two years have passed now, and I don’t know where she is. Sometimes you just don’t know who you did marry. I was heartbroken and devastated by her decision.
Hey your comment was 3 years ago but were you reconciled back to your wife by chance?
Maybe she realized how happy she was without you after the separation. That’s my fear that if I’d separate, I’d never want to return.
Thank you for this message. It speaks volumes.
Like the topic sir, I agree with you 100% true and pure accountability has to be acknowledged and present before moving forward.
Zero blame and pointing fingers.
One more thing, divorce is easy for most people,however for others, it can feel like a death sentence
This is what I needed. I don't want a divorce. I live my husband we just need help in our marriage
Unfortunately right after I wrote this my wife separated from me, I pray God uses it and He's bigger then statistics...
Don’t get a marriage license next time. Proverbs 31:3
My marriage is going through it now before watching this video. Took that decision as per the Lord"s guidance bringing the pastor of church as mediator. What this preacher says is right. Good to see this message. It helps me stay strong. Waiting for my husband"s return to his position of true leader/head of my family. Bible says the women received back their dead men alive. And the Lord turned the water to expensive fruit wine... , I trust, He will do the same in my marriage too. Living by that faith.
Rejini who will reinstate your husband as the leader of the house?
I’ve been separated from my husband for 3 months now and I’ve only seen minimal change. He still hasn’t taken responsibility for his behavior and doesn’t respect that I don’t want to have sex until we are back together, and I see major change. He won’t let me have my wedding rings until “we aren’t fighting every other week or so” which I don’t agree with. We still have a lot of kinks to work out. Please pray for us.
How is your marriage going lately?
@@g_desiree still separated. We have our rings back but our relationship has been a roller coaster. He still isn’t taking responsibility and we’re at the point that we don’t know if it will work out. We don’t see how it can, even though we love each other.
This is a very good message.
I never thought I would follow through and actually separate from a verbally and mentally abusive husband, married 37 years. Hard alcohol triggers deep anger in ways I have rebelled against all these years, and made many efforts to talk, but he has said communication is one person talking to another’s (ie nothing about communing, joining, mutually engaging). He is a self-proclaimed bully, and I have acquiesced. This last incident he was enraged and I put my hands out to keep him back and was thrown to the floor. I acknowledge I need solid counseling to heal my hardened heart and bitterness, and can only do so at the feet of Jesus and allow Him to heal us both. As humans, we need time and space apart to do so. God’s will be done.
Lisa- I am so proud of you for recognizing your value and worth before the Lord and for Trusting Him enough to get away from this destructive behavior.
I pray in Jesus Name that you find the counseling, support and friendships you deserve to make a full recovery and a blessed life, with or without your lost husband who needs help.
You did the right thing.
@@Raminakai do you think an abusive relationship can survive?
@ LisaJaenicke
Yeah sure , women are such poor victims who never can do wrong.
Where has wifely submission to her husband in everything gone ?
Evans NEVER talks about that at all since he wants WOMEN to be in the power position.
Thank you. It's good that I saw this and I'm npw assured that the steps I did are right. I made this decision 11 months ago and I'm praying for change to happen. I know God will work no matter how hard I think things will be.
This is a blessing
I wish I had this insight before my divorce. we were at a crossroads. Everyone who was advising me seemed to think divorce was my only option. I have made a life for me and my children. However single parenting is very difficult. Especially with four children one whom had a disability and surrounded by people who have never been in your situation. People can be very judgemental. Also since the divorce he seems to be indifferent to the struggles the kids and I face. All I can focus on is the blessing of having good children.
Jessie Jane first off, listening to people should not have happened. You should of taken it to the pastor and his wife, and got counseling. Divorce is never the answer
Remarry your ex-spouse❗️
Wives , SUBMIT to your husbands in everything is NEVER taught anymore by those wicked churches ran by a devastating feminist spirit of female entitlement.
It was not enough that Eve screwed Adam's paradise.
I am glad I found this message! We did take time to find solution and were separated for 8 weeks and came back together my children didn’t have hope that it would be different but I somehow had hope because there were some positive changes but after only three weeks that my wife was back we were in the same level of problems again as before and I think it was worse than before and after 10 months my wife left. Those have been the worse 10 months of my life but today we are divorced and I have no regrets but instead feel free and starting to feel ready to love again. God has been very good to me and the children. I have prayed to God that he would show me what I should do with my future life and he has revealed a lady I shall per-sue so after some time I believe life will be complete and normal again 🙏
Divorce is hard! I’m going through a lot & honestly don’t want to go that route. There’s always hope!
I did this to my now ex-husband years ago, I told him I could not live with him anymore and he did not say one word and immediately withheld his paycheck from me and started looking for an apartment and moved out.
So is years of intimate neglect, lying, and lack of communication. Come on.....physical abuse is NOT the only type of abuse. Brethren just keep in mind that YOU are the one living in the situation EVERY day therefore listen to what the Holy Spirit is telling you in YOUR situation.
@ Joy Median
Welcome to the fake church of Satan where WOMEN are running the show and are never made accountable for the evil they do anymore.
AND NEVER ALLOW CLERGY, RELIGIOUS PEOPLE, OR THE GOVERNMENT INTO YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS!
YES! Thank you for this
Tabita Henderson "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
God keeps speaking to me through you guys, I walked up the divorce step today but now I'm considering constructive separation.
Divorce isn't worth it, thank you Jesus Christ for intervening.
You guys keep preaching the good news.
I remember when my unfaithful wife had suggested a healing separation. What a joke. I believed then, as I still do, all she wanted was a vacation from dealing with the difficulties of her adultery. I saw absolutely no reason to get a separation and instead moved to divorce. You can still date again after divorce, you can still marry each other again after a divorce. You don't have any less options. "But marriage is sacred" yeah, don't tell me, tell her.
I needed to hear this... Thank you so much.
Penni Delatorre "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
Thank you for this. I'm very upset I didn't find this before leaving my home while on a brink of signing papers for the divorce. I don't want it and this Friday would be 24 yrs. We've been through so much. Praying for us to still get back together.
I pray that your marriage is restored in Jesus name please play for mine as well
You're still waiting after 24 years? I pray God heals your heart so you can move on and find healing and a better relationship
I wish a saw this video before we divorced now is to late but it's good for couples of millions who going through difficult times in they marriages
My mother died after my father divorce her. She was one of those Christians who thinks that, your husband can abuse you as he want, and you have no right to leave your home because the bible say so. All her family and friends advice her to leave. Even my elder brothers and sisters ,her own children advice her to leave .Finally after waist her time with a man who never love her (my father) she died and leave us with an abusing and irresponsible father. Seven years after her death ,my father is still the same,has divorced 4women after abusing them also, some died .My father is an elder in church, given much money to pastor for the work of God. Preaching and even attended biblical school. JUST TO TELL SOME WOMEN, DON'T BE FOOL BY THE NAME CHRISTIAN. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LEAVE A TOXIC PERSON who ever he is (pastor, bishop, prophet...) IF NOT HE'LL DESTROY YOUR LIFE AND STILL REMAIN THE SAME. Now I know that my mother could have escape that tragic death and us that tragic situation, if she could have taken the wise decision of leaving that man earlier.
My heart goes out to you💖🤗
Women are nothing but poor helpless victims who can never do wrong . Sure , that's how the Bible portrays women !!
This is why you keep clergy and government OUT of your personal relationships
I just separated from my spouse again on Thursday, November 16th. It’s very hard.. especially around the holidays.
My husband’s name is Jesse. Please join me in prayer that God would soften his heart. My husband struggles with many addictions and mental health issues. The drugs and alcohol is the factor that made me decide to leave. I felt unsafe in the home, not to mention there was so much abuse in every area. Finances are a mess… everything really.
Please pray for and with me for my marriage, for my husband Jesse, and for me too my name is Catherine..
I'm praying for you and your husband!! Going through separation myself
7 thumbs up!
I'm going through debilitating abuse, and now the children have been brought into it. I've told him he needs to separate as I don't want to have to go the legal route. He refuses. I'm sick now and can barely function at all.Physically my body has collapsed from the anxiety and trauma.
DIVORCE THAT MONSTER!
Verbal abuse, mental and emotional abuse, neglect, and isolation. Theme of my marriage of 4.5 years. I blasted him on FB when I lost my temper and that's all he cares about.
I lived it for 22 years. Post divorce he's still doing it. Just dont post anything. It gives them ammo if you do.. just live your life unto the Lord and have peace
Research narcissistic abuse. That's what most men do nowadays
Thank you. Am not feeling too well. I need help...
If there's any abuse I am out in a lawyer's office gathering divorce paper...
I need prayer for my wife lena Jefferson Wilson and James A Wilson we are going through a Divorce and my 2 children Avy and Samala Wilson thankyou 🙏 James
Pray without ceasing
Where has wifely submission gone ? Replaced with prayers in order to come across as so "spiritual" ?
You think the Lord is fooled ?
Not one single scripture was mentioned here. We want to be biblical not just logical. Although there is a truth to separation in scripture. But unfortunately it’s not mentioned here a lot. This is how unintentionally Christians go astray. I dont believe he has wrong intentions in any way but this is how gods people perish because of a lack of knowledge. Maybe not as a whole. But areas in our lives are destroyed and we have no victory simply because an incorrect perspective. Something a thing can sound right but really isn’t. Be vigilant folks. We’re trying to do what’s right not just what seems right. Almost right is not Right.
If anyone is going through tough times right now. Seek god with all your heart never lose hope. God can turn the page at any time. We are more than conquerors. We can do all things through Christ. Its not easy but it is possible.
By the way when Paul mentions that he can do all things through Christ. Was during hard times also mentioning that he can serve god during the tuff times and good times. How he served god through the good times was the same way he served god through the bad times. No difference. He was able to go through the issues with out having to run away from them. And this was almost his whole life after conversion. Revealing to us that life isn’t about our happiness but our obedience , through tough times and good. Although we always see god come through for us so never lose hope
It sounds like he's talking about instances of abuse. God does not want us to be abused. It's ok to separate for your safety. The abuser should have accountability. No one should be subjected to abuse.
@@lovnber2008
Define abuse .
Abuse has become a magic word that allows rebellious females to take over and play victims all the time.
You think that God is fooled by females ? Oh yeah Jesus LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVES women so much !!
FALSE feminised theology
Isaiah 3:12 O my people ruled over by women !
You know , women the poor victim who can never do wrong but who has tons of innocent blood on their hands (abortion) , who file 3 divorces out of 4 when the LORD says that no one should separate what God has joined , who sleep around and lead the hook up culture but who are too "tired" to have sex with their husbands , who yell at men watching pornography but love rape porn litterature such as Fifty Shades of Grey .
Women , the most WICKED sex ever is now being bown down to within the church when in the past , men were todl to beware of it and keep control.
Women hate God's will. They prefer Satan's will .
Yes it is a way save your marriage 💕👍🙏
I agree to what he says because so many women have suffered Emotional pains and died from domestic violence, separation at first is very key if the marriage is violent, that will give the couples time to really decide and make amendment bcoz if this is not done one person may not be alive to see the nearest future. U will not want to loose a loved one for the sake of marriage, let them go thru counselling and if no positive change then they can separate and both decide further.
Liya Desimhi how about the fact so many men are committing suicide due to the women up a leaving and also taking the children base off perceived abuse like emotional and mental, not talking about physical abuse? I was mentally abuse to the point I almost took my life because my ex wife was undermined my god given authority as the husband and father of the home. She used separation as way to control me. I was the sole breadwinner and provided well for my wife and children. She still was not happy. Now 8 children will grow up without a father due to lies. The only way I could get my family back is I have to replace Jesus as my head with my ex-wife being my head. Instead of focusing on Jesus, I need to focus on her happiness. This so evil what Jimmy is teaching.
"Surely oppression maketh a wise man mad; and a gift destroyeth the heart." (Ecclesiastes 7:7, KJV)
] Liya Desimhi
Yeah sure , women are such helpless victims who can never do wrong !
That Marxist /Feminist vision of marriage and society is DEVASTATING the West.
Evans just markets to his FEMALE customers since he knows that it is sinful rebellious females who listen to him , submit to him and NOT to their husbands.
Tyrants like Evans have succeeded in taking away the greatest authority after God's , which is the husband's and father's.
I started this and let him back in to soon. How to I re-engage a conversation to restart the constructive separation??
After his brothers death for the first time he became physically abusive- I didn’t leave- now 2 yrs later I have dealt with his drunk mean abusive statements and just plain ignoring our needs as a family- he acts like he just lives his life but I have to pay bills, keep kid’s appointments and I work. He will be good 2 weeks then bam he just leaves and acts like he can go camping when he wants and no one is the wiser- I really want to leave.
Run like the wind!! And never look back!! Fuck that!!!
What God has joined together let No one separate
Just because you married somebody doesn't mean God was involved or in it.
@@revolutionunderground then apparently you don't believe in the Bible, that's an exact quote from scripture
What if a Christian woman’s husband spends majority of extra money on smoking addiction, alcohol, marijuana, entertainment, eating out everyday (twice/day). Vehicles need fixed, home needs fixed, wife and kid need clothes. The wife accepted a part time job and husband expects her to use the money she earned for fixing vehicles, buying groceries, etc. She has left him for a few days but keeps asking me if it was the “Christian” thing to do. Any thoughts?
What about the person being kicked out of the home? What about the one kicking the other out and says its over and refuses counseling. I wont divorce you but its over. So there's no "I love you but I don't feel safe, or until I see change we wont date. Its just get out its over but I wont divorce you.What you say is good but unfortunately people don't do it they just live separate or divorce when another person comes along.
Thank you because divorce is not an option.
Rasheeda Siner I suggest that you find a good Christian Counselor in your area. One of the local churches in my area offers free counseling to those who cannot afford it and Focus on The Family has a list of Christian counselors. you can find their info on line.
“Focus on the family” how about focus on YAH! How about follow HIS LAW, statues, commands, etc. focus on the family how about do what Jesus says, HE did say those who love me OBEY my commands
God cares more about the people in the marriage than the institution.
@@marieball1772
Focus on the Family = Focus on SATAN and all the feminists who are serving him , screwing the authority of the husband and replacing it with that of wicked counsellors hiding their misandry behind a mask of godliness.
@@christinetranchell4224
Wrong. God cares more about the institution because God is masculine and his vision is masculine. It is highly effective .
Caring about people is feminine vision. It is ineffective and destructive.
I used to have that feminine vision since I'm a woman but I understood now why God put everything in the hands of MEN .
Women have nothing to say. They are just commanded to submit and do their duties ( Titus 2:4) and shut it up instead of telling insanities.
No more marital problems when women submit .
This is a fast speaking for me, I had always to slow it down to follow up with you
90% of separation ends in divorce.... What God has joined together let no man separate
Actually, I heard from a counselor it is 68% end in divorce
What if the unfaithful ones asking for the temporary separation?
Good morning Mr. Evans! Excellent video! I love your message about trying saving marriages and all the things in between.
I was a resident in NJ for over 30 years and married in NJ in 2007. However, my family and I have been in Pennsylvania since November 2018. Due to circumstances and the situation getting worse it is best to get legal separation from my spouse. However, I strongly doubt that my spouse will agree to or sign any papers for this separation.
How can I prove that we are separated when if I move out? And if it’s a struggle with my children and I leaving what should I do?
Our relationship has become toxic and his behavior is intolerable. He is angry so he will not let me just take our children and move out without an issue. Any suggestions?
My husband blames me for every thing thats why Byron Andrew Hassell not living here at my home
Where has your submission gone ?
I understand his view point, but it can also lead to maniplation, threats of leaving, and we cannot force someone to change, God does the change, our job is to shows Christ sacrificial love.
The very last video on this channel was on divorce... Interesting.
What if my husband Byron Andrew Hassell doesn't want to stay in a marriage after separation and is not willing to take marriage counseling.
Pray God is the real counsellor. Stop looking to yourself God will show you the way
Marriage counselling is unscriptural. The husband is the HEAD and must rule his household without being told like a kid what he has to do .
Men know what they have to do. Men are natural leaders .
Has anyone ever had reconciliation occur when there was a situation where your husband is cheating with prostitutes ( sugar babies ) and spent upwards of 5000 a month on them and also was verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive? Is there any hope in this type of circumstance? I am heartbroken the "Christian" man I thought I married was a complete and total lie. Did God show me this to leave him ? I am so sad and confused so please please please if anyone who is a true Bible believing christian could message/advise me on this topic I would be eternally grateful. How do I break this trauma bond ( I still feel like I love him but maybe its just fear of future? ) I am trying my best to focus on Prophetic/ Sunday thinking but I am really struggling with missing my husband even with how horrible he treated me. How can I fix this? I already see therapist, pray, and read my Bible. Any other pieces of advice?
let them go
Where do you get constructed separation taught in God's word?
What if they just left and refuse to communicate?
That is abandonment & grounds for divorce
Is marriage neccessary for society or the individual himself?
Yes
This is a form of manipulation and control.
I met my ex at church. We split up after 14 years of marriage for many reasons, one being he had some girlfriends and wanted out. He had seemed to want out from the start and always seemed to be hiding things. He couldn't hold down a job. I found myself broke, with 2 small children and an husband who I couldn't leave the children with to get a good job because he had some kind of mental issue and couldn't stop playing computer games. Then he got in trouble with the law. It was worse then I am letting on. I couldn't find anyone at our church to stand with me. I had nowhere safe to turn. It was beyond devastating. By the time we split up, the kids were old enough that I could work shiftwork. I housed us in an unfinished basement rental. The problem I have is that I feel like I let the kids down by trusting God in the crisis to help us. They are grown up now and don't believe in God because they think I'm foolish. Guilt for letting the kids down and fear for admitting God let me down. I'm 50 now and I'm still struggling with trusting God now so many years later. I saw a movie called a case for christ a few years ago and saw how things can be different for other people who put they're trust n God. Where did I go wrong?
For some reason it all came to my mind in the middle of the night last night and this video was on my youtube homescreen about 5am. Whish I could get past this.
Trusting God doesn’t stop with trusting only for the things we want. Even after this devastating marriage/divorce just know YOU are Gods child & he doesn’t want you hurting. Give him your pain and asks him to heal you darling. HE has better for you, what the enemy meant to destroy you and your children YOU have the power to hold tight to faith and declare a prayer over your family of protection!! That even tho you feel broken one day if you stay faithful and serve the lord he will reveal to you how he can use this for good. I know because of many situations of abuse and toxic relationships that I relied on God and years later it made me turn to social work to help other kids who have been abused and also gave me a heart of compassion. One day your story can be the key to someone else’s prison cell. In Jesus name. ❤️
1:04 - So, he's saying to stay in an abusive marriage.
My wife and I separated and I had been getting counseling for a long time unfortunately my wife did not feel necessary to change her behavior
duckman486fry she doesn’t have to change her behavior according to Jimmy Evans. Jimmy is a wolf in sheep clothing.
"For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2Ti 4:3-4, KJV)
2:08
Yes, exactly
Why does this sound like a woman leaving a man! What do you do if it’s a woman that is causing hurt and pain. It’s amazing how biased culture has gotten concerning marriage. Truth is BOTH parties need to change. And I love Jimmy Evans but all his advice comes from his perspective as a man being a jerk. But what did his wife do in the marriage? Because it takes 2. JS
you simply put yourself in the equation he's setting. fill in the blank
His examples tend to be a certain way, but yes, you can fill in the gender's rolls however you want.
He tells it that way because from his personal experience, he was the jerk, but he's not saying women can't mess up too.
Am forever grateful to Dr. Gbenga for his counselling and spiritual help that have restore my mum's marriage after 9 years of separation, my Dad is back and we are happy again, thank alot Dr. Gbenga for your help.
I have not seen any change in my husband Byron Andrew Hassell behavior he also has no job he's smoking marijuana drinking alcohol and is being sinful I can't live like this I can't live with being yelled at being called stupid being told I'm never going to change you are nothing so that's why we are separated because I see no progress with my husband no job doing marijuana and alcohol
Does he know his behavior is not acceptable? Has he heard from you that he is an abuser? Have you told him he isn't seeing your value and giving you the respect you deserve? Have you completely blocked him out of your life after saying those things? When he sees your value and that you mean what you say and you're not playing the game anymore he might react to that. Doesn't hurt to try
@ Adelina Mondragon
Are YOU perfect ? Are you sinless ?
@@sweettruth4239
Doesn't hurt to try to SUBMIT and stop being one of those rebellious shrews who think they have been given the right to judge their husbands .
There is no greater authority than the husband's after God's.
Men always see the value in a REAL virtuous woman. Not a feminist in christian guise.
Evans loves the feminine . But there is nothing more wicked and more against the LORD than the feminine.
Man is the image and glory of God , but the woman is the glory of man.
Now , the glory of God is being bashed , scorned , judged , hated , stripped of all his God-given rights (even the right to sex in marriage !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) by all the demonic feminists that hide behind a mask of godliness.
Husband are NOT accountable to their wives . Rather , it is wives who are accountable to their husbands .
KEEP THE GOVERNMENT OUR OF YOUR MARRIAGE BY NOT ALLOWING THEM INTO IT
Not one scripture used to justify this.
1 Corinthians 7:11.
Why does it always have to be the guy women can do just as much damage as a man
@ Harnden
Actually , it is always women who do way more damage than men because they are in total rebellion.
The woman was made FOR and because fo the man but now it is women who have every right and screw everything !!!
If wives submitted in everything , all conflicts would go overnight.
Shame on women for doing what they are doing . And also shame on men for not controlling women anymore.
i agree with Jimmy on alot of things. but this issue is very complicated stuff. this is where men can end up killing woman because they are just suffering so badly, have bad selfesteem. have insecuritys.. they just feel the need to control evrything so they dont feel the reflection of their own personal suffering. and this is where woman have just had enough of a hellish life because men knows nothing more besides his own pain.. and so he doesent know how to love a partner. some woman have the guts and strenght to stand up to men right here. but here is what makes things complicated. some men that woman should stay far away from in relationships, can be so control freaks that they dont know what to do when woman begins to take control back. mmen can end up freaking out and hurt woman very badly... if not kill her.. simply because they wanna walk away from this suffering that men put them through. this is where men have thrown gaseline over woman and set them on fire.. at gas station. why? because woman wanna divorce and leave very abusive men. so i think this domestic voilence stuff needs to be adressed first before woman are just gonna take control over the situation. because manyh woman if not moste.. woman cant be verbal about this stuff unless they wanna die.
@ jard Sigurd Storvann
A wife is commanded to submit to her husband IN EVERYTHING Eph 5:25
Men are not told to kill their wives but to RULE OVER their wives Genesis 3:16
Try again.
@@framboise595 im not saying its right men kill their wifes. very faaaaar from it. im talking about how guys with unstable mentality can make the abselute worst choises that causes somebody else pain, if not death. and it is disgusting. it is all kinds of wrong. and if there is a God after death, these guys will have to respond for their sins.
Separation = Fucking around.
EX IS ex
Unbiblical! Contradicts 1 Corinthians 7:1-16 and 1 Peter 2:18- 3:7. Is the woman the head of the man? My wife is using the court system to usurp my authority as her husband because she feels abused. She will not come home with my children until I submit to her. Jimmy so should I submit to my wife over Jesus?
Submit one to another Eph 5:21
@Ruth Wunderlin you are anti-Christ. That why you would not encourage my wife to do what is right.
"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:" (1 Corinthians 7:10, KJV)
"For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church." (1 Corinthians 14:33-35, KJV)
@Ruth Wunderlin "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." (Ephesians 5:33, KJV)
@Ruth Wunderlin is Jesus higher than me? Is Jesus better than me?
@Ruth Wunderlin I treat my wife the same way I treat my body?
For this to be a message from a Christian program, it was very odd that this sounded more like a worldly philosophy than the word of God.
I didn’t hear any mention or reference of scripture to back up what the man was saying.
Wow… “10 years after divorce half of all people are still in love with their ex spouse and are still hurting about their divorce.”
This is not acceptable. Pray to God for healing, and do your best to move on.
Very subjective advice. Unless it is limited to physical violence this is just a sanitized way of saying. "I'm leaving you because Im not getting what I want" Actually, the term itself is an oxymoron.
Richard Fliearman lol tell that truth Brother Rich!
You are the problem. Stay out of other people's relationships. Your opinion doesn't matter on what's best for THEM
According to you, Jimmy, it is ok to for the woman to deprive her husband of sex base off her feelings and emotions. Once again, Christianity is not biblical. The blind leading the blind.
“Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
I Corinthians 7:2-5 NKJV
Exactly! If he is not giving authority over his body to her (by acting aggressively or being abusive to her) he also isn’t submitting himself to the Lord thru those actions and the Bible clearly says a woman must submit to her husband but that’s when he is submitting himself to God. God doesn’t ask women to be sacrificial lambs, obviously he’s not saying she can just deprive him of sex if he is meeting her needs In other areas and a good husband but if he’s verbally or emotionally abusive damn right it is that woman’s right to say no to this partnership until you get help. That’s unhealthy. Cuz if we want to go off your biblical argument, the mans actions in this scenario are unbiblical as well by acting on anger or speaking harsh words and not acting in love. She is protecting herself and the children hopefully to spur the man to change his behavior, have a wake up call and work on himself and save the marriage.
@@DrowninGxSmile this is straight BS!
"Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence." (1 Timothy 2:11-12, KJV)
@Ruth Wunderlinthe woman was literally created for the man.
"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (1 Corinthians 11:8-9, KJV)
@@DrowninGxSmile
How many women will spend the eternity with Satan , their favourite one ?
The cause of all marital unrest is always the woman.
1 Peter 3 a wife submits no matter what .
You are a big liar like Evans .
Get your mind out of the gutter and focus on CELEBACY and GOD
Hey Jimmy, how do you reconcile this passage with your ungodly advice? 8 black children will now grow up without good father base off the emotions of woman who FEELS abused.
“Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints? Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world will be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters? Do you not know that we shall judge angels? How much more, things that pertain to this life? If then you have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge? I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren? But brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers! Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? Why do you not rather let yourselves be cheated? No, you yourselves do wrong and cheat, and you do these things to your brethren!”
I Corinthians 6:1-8 NKJV
Even if she "feels" abused there is an issue because "whatever a man (or woman thinks) so he (she) is" If you are insensitive to her feelings and you use the bible to invalidate her emotions. She is most likely feeling abused. I was that woman. I told my ex-husband over and over again. I did the constructive separation but things got so much worse. Very much like you, my ex thought I was trying to use sex against him, even though I never did that in our marriage, ever. I always had his needs in mind. My ex-husband didn't believe he was abusive either. He believed he could treat me any kind of way as long as he didn't "cheat". Emotions are real. If you truly love her you will be patient with her and not want to see her hurt by your actions or words. You will bear all things with her and treat her as a gift from the Lord. Her emotional well being would be important to you. You would want to see her happy and fulfilled. I was extremely loyal for 20 years and then I just got worn down by his abusive behaviors (spiritual, psychological, emotional, and financial). It causes anxiety, depression, and wears on your body. After years of unseen abuse, it can cause sickness and disease. This is the kind of abuse that kills from the inside out. Still, till this day he doesn't see it, even after the Lord warned him in several dreams. He never truly repented. He continues to blame me and falsely accuses me of the things he actually did. I pray the Lord give you insight and love. Divorce is not an easy out, it is hard and painful but I chose life over a very slow death. The bible was not meant to used to control people it was written to get to know the Lord's heart for us and in turn, we fall in love with Him. It's easier to love if you have experienced His love for you. I pray for you to encounter His manifested love in such a way it transforms your life!
Elisabeth Johnson nothing you are saying is biblical. The things you are sayings is hateful.
"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:" (1 Corinthians 7:10, KJV)
The Lord doesn’t want women to leave their husband.
Elisabeth Johnson I replied to you in this video: ruclips.net/video/alcuOPxW_O8/видео.html
KGB94 TV What is unbiblical about Ephesians 5:23-30? I don’t know you or your wife but If you love your wife well as Jesus loves us. She most likely wouldn’t want to leave if she is a God fearing woman. God has always been about relationship with his people. But the Lord himself got fed up with the Israelites in Jer. 3:8. The Lord calls the Israelites unfaithfulness of idolatry treacherous . Which is the same word used in Malachi 2:10-16 which is a warning to “Godly men” priests, pastors leaders to not mistreat their wives. For in treating her treacherously he does violence to the one he should protect. God called for repentance from the men using women and them leaving them without covering, protection or resources. God also called for a mass divorce in Ezra because they had sinned in marrying unequally yoked spouses from other countries causing them to commit idolatry. In abusive situations divorce may be necessary if their is no repentance. This is true of men and women alike. A woman who sacrifices and has 8 of your children should be a treasure to you. If she does not feel treasured you are missing the mark in your love toward her. The Lord did not give her to you to use up and then use a few bible verses to justify your actions and then use against her that she can never leave you. We are to consider the whole bible by the Spirit of God and consider context, culture and Greek and Hebrew translation. You will know them by their love not how many bible verses they can throw at you to guilt you into being controlled and manipulated. Satan knows scripture too and used in to try to control and manipulative Jesus into doing his will. If this is what you are doing it is not in love that you operate. biblehub.com/lexicon/malachi/2-16.htm
@@elisabethjohnson6068
I guess God did not LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE Israel enough since Israel turned away from Him more than once ?
Stop your wicked manipulation and surrender. We women love manipulating people in order to have our ways.
The Bible calls that bitterer than death Ecclesiastes 7:28
The WOMAN was made for the man. So , how come modern day women don't submit to their husbands anymore but always bring that wicked wordly psychology in order to gain power over men ?
You woman perfectly knows that we are very good at using psychology and words . We master words and language pretty well. And we take advantage of men who are told to just communicate and talk and "love" but NOT use their God-given authority anymore.
What if he wants to see other people while separated?
This is absolutely against the Bible! We are not to separate unless by mutual consent. But it orders a woman to be reconciled back to her husband OR SHE MUST REMAIN UNMARRIED UNTIL THAT MAN DIES OR SHE IS AN ADULTEROUS!
@ Kevin Jones
All those hucksters who seek to please WOMEN because it is women who listen to them and buy their useless books ( money , money , money) always deny what the LORD says.
You cannot please women , the sex of rebellion and transgression and the Holy God.
You have to make a choice . For the money , the choice was made a long time ago.
“Constructive separation” WHAT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Find that in the WORD! Anywhere!?!?!? WICKEDNESS to the 10 power!!!!!
Brother Daniel Muir what do you recommend since you appear to be an expert?
football joe I ca answer that Sir! It is called adhering to, and honoring your marriage vows! 99% of the time separation is an excuse to have adulterous and immoral affairs!
Amen, the world is deceived by psychology, think about it psyche = soul
@@stephentimm4417 You have a very judgmental attitude and obviously very little exposure to many relationships where this is the only option besides divorce to protect a spouse and children when there is abuse and addiction involved. At times the separation will allow there to be change without the drastic step of divorce. Honoring marriage vows? Let's discuss being honoring of the essence of marriage itself. To tolerate abuse without any attempt to confront is enabling sin. Endangering self or children while enabling the abuser is also absurd. Constructive separation is not wickedness to the 10th power. If it is used as an excuse to have an affair it is obviously the affair that is sinful,. "Constructive" means it is working toward a positive goal- healing and repentance.
@@angelalall6056
Those poor PERFECT wives who are always "abused" by those wicked men but who never submit as the Bible commands it .
Stop women ! Stop your wicked manipulation !
If we submitted to our husbanjds in everything as the Bible says , where would marital issues be ?
God would bless our marriages because it is his way. He made the woman FOR the man so the woman s at fault for not conforming to the wishes and desires of her husband.
" Endangering self"
SELF = female ego and selfishness
Modern day women love their own sinful selves more than the Lord or their husbands or children.
They are not only useless but HARMFUL.
It is MEN who should not tolerate rebellion in their own household and wives should be accountable to their husbands and the church for their unsubordination.
I love my wife. She does sex with her brother. I am happy that she openèd my eyes about love, life and adultary. I am concern about my daughters. I do not know where i have now.
My marriage needs healing and my wife needs Jesus please pray for us
Meow
Jimmy, God hates the putting away not divorce. You are advocating the very thing Jesus hates. This simply is not Biblical. Please give us Biblical references to your advice, Jimmy.
Brother Muhammed EXACTLY!!!!!
It is better for a man to dwell on the roof of his home than to dwell with a contentious wife
Kabeer.. If someone is being verbally or physically abused, or cheated on, the guilty party has already broken the marriage vow to "Love, cherish, and honor, and to forsake all others". The bible says do not "Seek to be loosed", but sometimes people are forced or pushed to be loosed.
1 Corintians 5:11 says: "I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people."
Severing ties with close people does happen in life, but like Jimmy is saying, It's an absolute last resort, especially in marriage.
Darin Finley physical abuse is in unacceptable Biblically speaking. I agree a woman should be abused physically. But Jimmy mentioned physical last to emotional, and mental abuse. Those abuse are so abstract that it is hard to prove. Now the woman can play victim and now usurp the husband authority. In my marriage of 16 years my is the one who physically abuse me 3 times. But I guess it is ok for a woman to abuse a man. Lastly she was very contentious towards the end of our marriage due to advices like Jimmy.
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement." (1 Peter 3:1-6, KJV)
"It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." (Proverbs 21:19, KJV)
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." (Proverbs 21:9, KJV)
@@darinfinley
"cheated on"
More unscriptural language.
The Bible acknowledges that a WIFE can be adulterous and cheat on her husband (Numbers 5)
But the opposite is not even mentioned in the Bible because a wife is accountable to her husband , it is not the husband who is accoutable to his wife.
This is pure heresy vomited by Evans and plenty of others hucksters that I've watched on YT.
Wow.. nothing biblical about that jimmy!!
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1 Corinthians 7:11
@@gloriawiens775 🙏
@@gloriawiens775
Let the woman NOT separate from her husband 1 Co 7:11
What Evans is saying is the exact opposite ! No surprise .
A woman has no right to separate from her husband. It is the LORD who commands women to not do that.
Women must stay by their men because that's where they belong.
It is because women are not where they belong anymore that everything is screwed now.
What example do they give the children when they see their mother stand against their own father ?
What a shame ! Women today are traitors ! They don't teach children to obey their fathers by submitting themselves to their own husbands.
Marriage is done. Satan wins.
This guy likes using the word suffering a lot. He seems to be into this and I am sure his Constructive Separation advice has created suffering all over the place. This term separation means breaking apart that fits the destructive description not constructive, his advice is upside down and if you follow this advice it will be the kiss of death to your relationship. It is as poor advice as suggesting there is a case for constructive wife beating where you physically abuse your wife to get her to conform to your wishes, this is the same kind of thinking only in reverse. Jimmy Evans is condoning abuse ,he needs a constructive kick in the face as a form of therapy to help him move the electrical activity to more functional parts of his brain.
@ John Hue
He likes using the word suffering a lot because he focuses on emotions vs reason and biblical truth since he is marketing to his female customers who never open a Bible but are loaden with sins and completely led astray by those men.
" you physically abuse your wife to get her conform to your wishes"
Why would that be needed since the wife has to SUBMIT to her husband in everything ?
If" abuse" (the magic feminist mantra) happens in that case , it is always the fault of the wife who is rebellious and in total unsubordination to the man she is obligated to submit to .
I can’t believe he actually could keep a straight face with the amount of unbiblical lies he just vomited on here!
Daniel Muir Halleluyah
Doctor-ins of man! I did not hear one word of God's word in all of this... this is in direct contradicts our creators words!
Jimmy is correct with this message. There are enough examples and verses in the Bible that confirms what he is saying.
Debbie Kuhn Franklin prove it U poor deceived thing!!! Post the verses then!!!
@@debbiekuhn9643
No he's not. He is just another feminist tyrant whose goal is to transfer the authority a husband has been given by the Lord towards the wife who has no authority at all but who must be in submission to him in everything.
Evans is just marketing to his female audience because it is all about the DOLLAR. The more dollar he makes , the more satisfied his controlling wife is ...
This guy is a false teacher
@ Kevin Jones
I once heard that man telling wives that they could say no to sex to their husbands.
It is as demonic as could be and gives married women power over their bodies.
Evans preaches FEMINISM , the worst ideology of all times rooted in Marxism . Marxism sees women as victims and men as perpetrators.
That is NOT God's vision at all.
The church has been hijacked by MARXISM .
Hey Jimmy, you also encouraging women to go to the unrighteous judge to usurp the authority of her husband, if she FEELS abused. Men, do not get a marriage license in the future. If a woman pull this move to usurp your authority go ahead convert it to a divorce and NEVER get a marriage license. You don’t need it to be right before the Most High.
“But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.”
1 Timothy 2:10-15 KJV
You are acting abusive yourself. You HAVE ZERO AUTHORITY OVER ANY WOMAN
@@revolutionunderground I have AUTHORITY over my women. If not, then they cease from being my woman. Ruling over my woman is not abusive, but loving.
1Co 11:3 (KJV)
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Once again, Christianity is not biblical.
Kabeer Gbaja-Biamila Yes Sir! Tell the Truth!!!
1 Corinthians 7 says let the wife NOT depart from her husband. Seems his advice is not only un-biblical. It is ANTI-biblical!
Carlos Montgomery yes Sir!!! Expose this devil!
You are a liar.Separation is not in the Bible.
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