I don't mean to be rude in any way and I hope you can receive what I'm about to say but we have to stop relying on what we feel as oppose to what God says. The other person can't control the jealous emotions their spouse feels and they shouldn't try to. It's really up to the person feeling jealous to process that emotion and understand it and also find positive ways to relay those feelings to their partner in a way he/she can understand and empathize with.
Debra Colter that’s complete unawareness... you have little control of how another person feels!! You have to factor in childhood wounds, attachment styles and many other realms. Some never become jealous no matter what you do...some become jealous even if you are completely upstanding... it’s a reflection of their own internal issues and perspective distortion.
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Real man... you are doomed plus that man as well. It’s a matter of time. It’s only a man who no longer lives but Christ, who will act as Jesus, a dead man. Talking of a real man... is carnal thinking, already a failed project.
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I hope you see this, Pastor Evans. I have a series, that I would love for you to teach on. And that is adultery in the form of porn, etc. That one doesn't get touched or preached. It damages a marriage just as much as physically acting it out.
Completely agree. Look up Dr. Doug Weiss. He tackles that subject A LOT. He has a ministry in Colorado springs called Heart to Heart Ministries. Also, there is a DVD series called Conquer Series for men who are addicted. Not enough churches have this started up but there are some. You can find Dr. Doug Weiss on RUclips. There's a great video called helping her heal. It's an interview series with him with Bob and Audrey Meiser.
This is very good advice and I really appreciate this ministry. I see many sinful patterns we all get into in marriage. I am, however, a one-strike-you’re-out person. By God’s Grace, I will not commit adultery (and I never allow myself opportunity for it), but if my husband was unfaithful and repented, I’d forgive him but he’d become only as a brother and not a husband. Divorce is definitely permissible in cases of adultery.
My wife had an affair with a coworker - we are bothering Christians she is a church school teacher and the shock is unbearable - it was with a dovorved man - it’s horrible and I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy - it’s so painful - I’m just trying to save our family with love I’m loving her and trying to save my fsmily
Herakles I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Try not to grovel and maintain your composure before her. Cry out to the Lord in the difficult times but don’t show her your hurts. Be rational about your family situation, that you want it to work out. If she persists, let the unbeliever leave. You aren’t under obligation to stay in the marriage if her heart is hardened in unbelief and sin and will not repent.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. While you do have biblical grounds for divorce, the fact that both of you are Christian there is responsibility to cooperate and negotiate and seek the lord in all of it and forgive one another! Don’t listen to these people who tell you not to try. But that’s all you can do is try. ❤ Jesus be with you my friend.
God does say you can divorce if there is infidelity… either way you’ll have your family you shouldn’t have to deal with that and be with someone who don’t deserve you. In the end you’ll never get it out ur head it’s best to let go and let god
If God is first in our lives, then we will put Gods values and words over our lives and our relationships. Knowing we are accountable to God first, then our spouse. Spouses that have a relationship with God will want to be pleasing to God and will think twice before committing adultery. A spouse that commits adultery most likely has a poor or weak relationship with God.
Marriage is a covenant between a husband, wife, and God. Another reason we have to ask if our decisions or actions are pleasing to God. We will all have to answer to him for our actions.
You know what? A man masturbating also is in a way committing adultery if he is dispersing his attention and substance away from his wife when she should have it. Also, respectfully, I'm not sure it's true that a woman is more likely to forgive adultery than her husband. I actually believe the opposite may be true.
Masturbation is not adultery. Lusting or covering another man’s wife is adultery. A agree if you masturbate while lusting after another man’s wife does equal adultery in his heart. (Matthew 5:28) For a woman adultery is when a married woman sleeps with a man other than her husband.
What if your wife doesnt want to be intimate in marriage? And the man looks at pornagraphy for sexual release, why is it adultery if she didnt refuse her husband, it wouldnt have happened in the first place. I know what the bible says but if there is no communication and come in agreement, then what is a person to do?
It would be great if someone could do a sermon on how an enmeshed relationship with a parent putting the parent child relationship before the spouse relationship is a form of psychological adultery
I feel jealous when my husband looks at other women and he thinks I dont see it. He gets angry if I feel jealousy. I pray God love fills me & because my husband does not care about my feelings, I will not dwell on his anger and not willing to communicate with my insecurity. I just let him have his way and if he keeps pretending he is not looking, hopefully the Holy Spirit will help him.
I know exactly what your going thru in my case he says it never happened I'm seeing things. And will no longer go places with me due to Me calling him out on staring at women's behind or following them with his eyes as much as possible with no consideration to his wife. He now has gotten into masturbation on the computer, I found out while I was at work, this went on. We are currently sleeping in separate rooms and just merrily live together as roommates. Possible divorce.
annette wilshusen Prayers for us!! I would say do not give up because once you realize that nothing in this world makes sense but Jesus. He is enough. I pray for our husband's convictions and for Jesus to take over their heart. It is possible and waiting on the Lord is commanded. I prayed for separation; but Jesus makes more sense to me. I choose to love and have joy in Him. Prayers for you dear sister in Christ. Be in deep prayer before divorce. Have a beautoful day on Jesus ♡
Pure1278 wow .. Jesus I pray you show him Today . In JESUS NAME.. I pray bam Revelation.. so hard come down he weeps in true repentance. In JESUS NAME AMEN ..
annette wilshusen I pray that Iam not too late to be used for the Glory of our Savior. Sister, the enemy we have is that which is of hell... we are not our Husband's enemy & they are not ours. Satan is truly at work but there is Hope! Pray for your Husband, relentlessly. Have mercy & compassion for him just as Christ has granted you when you have fallen short. There's a chance that this battle was his long before he laid eyes on you & desired Marriage but due to shame, pride & fear... he wasn't honest with you & willing to seek your help as his helpmate. Do not condemn him, he isn't alone. You have no idea how many males are attacked in this way while they are just starting puberty & suffer in silence well into Adulthood with no counsel, guidance to be free from such bondage of lust & perversion. GOD HAS A PLAN, TRUST IN HIM. As Scripture instructs the Believer to do so: Pray one for another, examine ourselves & MEDITATE ON ALL THINGS GOOD. Guard your Mind, satan enjoys mentioning your Husband's flaw to you & encouraging you to go on the hunt for anything to incriminate him. We are ALL flawed individuals! Forgive him as you desire to be Forgiven by our Heavenly Father & cry out to God on behalf your Union but you must have Faith that God will see you guys through this trial. God bless you. ❤
I been in a relationship with someone for a year man of God minister he is, we're best friends in a companionship and it tears my spirit apart when he talks to another, I feel what Jimmy says how would it feel if I was doing that broke because it's not right he'd feel disrespected even if it's just talking. Still it's wrong
I enjoyed this video you should talk more about this to young people let them know what marriage is why when they get married they take each other for better and worse.may god bless you and may he watch over you and you're family. and when they take there vows they should really be sure what the words really means an what marriage is really about. there is a lot of people I think don't know what marriage is about. they need to know more about each before they go an take the big step.
I'm married to the same kind of man...I pieced it together when she showed up at our front door with a gift for him, after going on a cruise. She was widowed and he used the excuses of that he was checking up on her. It's been over a year since I caught on, and I don't know if it ended or they just got smarter about it. I feel defeated by it all. I'd leave him but for the special needs child of ours, who will always need constant care.
@@gdhhayes2129 How's it going? If you think it's still going on, leave. You don't have to take that nonsense, especially not knowing! If you would leave, then do it. There's surely another way to help care for your child. If there's a will there's a way. You need to design your life how you want. Life is too short, you can't suffer like that.
What if they cheat at 6 years into the marriage and you find out they sleep with someone. so you stay and you almost went down that road but didn’t but was honest. So you stay together on only to find out he sleep with someone someone prior to the one you knew about.we were separated and I asked and lied to my face. I felt imprisoned and raped and cheated on.
My husband has been unfaithful few times. First was sexually and the others have been emotional affairs. He has never repented. He has always been defensive, always blamed me for his infidelities, never really wanted to talk about them. March of 2020 I found out he was having an emotional affair with a coworker, buying her expensive gifts and taking her out to eat. He says they didn’t hace sex. He told me he’d stop talking to her, he wanted to work things out with me, we renewed our vows on April 30th, our kids were so happy and so was I, I gave him a second chance to go back to his job but to a different shift, where they wouldn’t have contact supposedly. This February 5th I found out he still is talking to her. And they kept seeing each other. Instead of telling me the truth he told me he was tired of the same crap. And that I could divorce him if I wish. I have no words and really don’t even know how to feel about this.
What do you mean you don't know how to feel? It's clear as day, Berenice: END IT!!! It makes no sense to stay in that shitty situation, do you know how many men would actually respect you?! You need to wake up and find a good one! He clearly doesn't repsect you, and that shouldn't be tolerated. Your spouse shouldn't feel like they have you wraped around their finger. You made a mistake by not having systems in place. You gotta think about these things BEFORE they happen. Thinking is the key to everything. But you can't stay, if you stay, you're stupid. What you're doing makes no sense. Leave. Life is too short. Go, and find a better one. A good man will take you rather than all the women in the world combined, you just have to find one with a heart of gold, not a heart of stone!
It is right for my husband who says he is a Christian left me because of I made him unhappy happy I am not say I was perfect in the relationship I did something that was wrong but I never was unfaithful to him while we were married and now he is with other woman he knows what he is doing is wrong but he doesn't care because that woman he is with makes him happy
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Natasha Goolagong I hope you’re a bit better now. Affairs are more difficult than death of a loved one. Keep in mind that no one is perfect so he will find flaws in her as well and move in to someone else in due time. You keep super close to God and He will comfort you and pull you thru this extremely difficult time. Trust Him
Forgivness and reconciliation are not the same thing. Forgiveness and trust are not the same thing. Forgiveness can be freely given. But trust must be earned." Jesus forgave the theif on the cross, but He also left him there, in the consequences of his sin. And the prodigal so who came back wasted his entire inheritance- he had nothing left because he wasted it on wild living and prostitutes (Lk 15:30-31). Pornography is prostitution (people getting paid to have sex), just on film.
What if your husband gets jealous because you do not give him 100% and I mean total 100% of your attention. You cannot have lunch with your mother or a girlfriend once a week or less without him getting jealous and saying things that make you feel guilty and that you are doing wrong. How do you deal with that? You cannot do something you want to do because it would take a couple hours from a day and he says that you don't want to be with him and that you have more important things to do or that you are looking for another man or that you should look for another man that would satisfy you better. I pray on this daily. I feel like a bird in a cage. I am not wanting to do anything that would hurt our marriage in any way or disrespect him in any way.
Lisa. From your comment, it ultimately sounds like your husband doesnt actually trust that you are going to have lunch with your mother or one of your girlfriends, hence why he is being controlling. Have you given him a good reason to not trust you? If you havent then I am sorry for what is occurring and I pray it gets better. But if you havent given your husband a reason to trust you then you cannot expect to make demands about doing things that you do not want your husband involved in and then complain that he doesnt feel comfortable about you doing them. Just my two cents
I’ve been in a marriage for 17 years with a husband who gets jealous of everyone or everything. I’m not allowed to enjoy my life if it doesn’t include him. When my momma was alive I couldn’t even go visit her because he’d call the whole time I was with her and would accuse me of being somewhere else even when I’d put him on speaker so he could hear my momma. He’s jealous of my sons friends that are in high school and even my son in laws, it’s been 17 years of total misery and feeling like I’m in a bubble and I’ve never given him a reason to be this way. I was warned by his exes but since he told me they had cheated on him I thought those were his reasons for being so jealous and I thought once he saw I was a good woman that he would trust me and stop but 17 years later he still continues. I’m praying for God to give me strength to leave him and file for a divorce so that I can have my life back.
It sounds like he has some serious childhood wounds and attachment style that is likely of the anxious sort... of not healed it will continue to cause issues and unhealthy realms in your relationship. No one deserves that kind of control. I follow Personal Development School on RUclips and she has transformed my life. It helps so much to know the wounds that created this behavior etc.. ways to heal and connect healthily. Do be aware of things like narcissism though, that can be very tricky and toxic. Blessings🌸
I never lied to my husband - I told him and left - bad decision. We’re still in recovery (28 years of marriage). Pastor Evans sermons have saved me from despair.
Do you know this? Marriage is between a man and a woman. Marriage is for better and for worse until death separates (Matthew 19:3-6). ‘Wherefore they are no more two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man put asunder (separate)’. Cheating on your wife or husband is sin. Proverbs 28: 13 says, ‘‘He that covers his sins shall not prosper...You must repent of them, confess and forsake them (1 John 1:9). Are you into worldliness? Don’t you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? (James 4:4; II John2:15-17). So, you must stop bleaching your body or painting your mouth, eyes, hands and legs or fixing attachments, weave-on, earrings (Genesis 35:2-4), bangles, chains and frying or perming your hair. Tattooing your body is satanic. Are you one of those that put on nude dresses, short skirts, transparent dresses to seduce men or women (a Seducer or a Promoter of lust is a Sinner - Mathew 5:28) Perhaps you wear trousers as a woman? (Read Deuteronomy 22:5), that is an abomination (Revelation 21:8, 27). Therefore, make up your mind, repent and give your life to Jesus Christ. Are you spoilt? Jeremiah 4:30 says, ‘‘And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee. They will seek thy life’’. (2 Kings 9:30; Hosea 2:13; Exodus 33:1-6) A Christian is not a Sinner and a Sinner is not a Christian (I John 3:9). If you must be a blessed child of God, then you must repent of your sins and give your life to Jesus Christ. If you believe Jesus Christ today, righteousness of God will come into your life and abundant life will be your portion (1 John 11-12). If you neglect this call to repentance and salvation and die, you will not escape fire of Hell (Hebrews 2:3). It is foolishness and sin to say or think that there is no God (Psalm 14:1; 9:17). Luke 13:3, Jesus said, ‘I tell you, Nay: but except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish’. Cut off every besetting sin (Hebrew 12:1-2; Mark 9:43-48). If you have decided now (2 Corinthians 6:2) to give your life to Jesus Christ and to forsake your sinful lifestyle, please say this prayer: Almighty God, I come unto you in the name of Jesus. Father I confess that I am a sinner. All my sins I confess to you. I am very sorry for all my sins (mention those you can remember). Lord I promise you that from today I will never continue in them anymore. I believe that Jesus Christ died and rose again on the third day for my justification. Almighty God, use the blood of Jesus to wash my sins away. Lord Jesus, come into my heart, be my Lord and personal Saviour. I surrender my life to you. Cancel my name from the books of death and write it in the book of life. Give me power to sin no more. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!! 'THE LORD'S CHOSEN CHARISMATIC REVIVAL MOVEMENT'. www.tlccrm.org OR www.tlccrm.org/chosentv ruclips.net/user/IamaChosen1 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Hell is a place of torment forever...continuous burning by fire. The fire is never quenched, with crying and weeping forever (Mark 9:43-48; Psalm 9:17; Mathew 25:41). It was originally prepared for satan and his demons, but anybody that obeys the devil in committing sin and refuse to repent and accept Jesus Christ, if the person dies in sins, he or she will be thrown into Hell. You still have the opportunity to repent now, amend your ways, live and spend eternity in heaven. Go to www.tlccrm.org You may be asking; how do I stop all these sins? Simply take the first step of repentance and have inner hatred for those sins, then ask Jesus to forgive you and come into your life to be your Lord and personal Saviour. In John 1:12, there is power that will be given to you, and in Mathew 11:28, if you receive Jesus into your life, He will deliver you and give you victory over those sins; then you will need to cut off from the source of those sins in your life (may be sinful friends; stop the evil relationship. This gospel is not to condemn you, but for you to be convicted so that you will repent and give your life to Jesus Christ who loves you and really wants you to make it to heaven at the end of your life here on earth
I am going through this with my husband now. I need prayer because I don't know what to do. I need clarity.I have been married for 47 years and this isnt the first time I have gone through this with him.
So if a woman refuses to meet her husbands needs, and he looks elsewhere, how is that only the mans fault, and she shares no responsibility? Does that mean when a man ignores his wife's needs and she looks elsewhere he has no blame?
Mrdubomb I don't think he's saying that it's right to neglect a spouse (whether you're a man OR a woman who's doing the neglecting). It sounds like he's saying that the spouse who *chooses* to cheat in response to that neglect needs to take responsibility for his/her response -- specifically, to take responsibility for the choice to cheat. If a wife -- or a husband -- *refuses* to meet her husband's (or he his wife's) needs, the refusing spouse is responsible for the refusal, not for the cheating. The cheating is the other spouse's choice of responding with the refusal and, therefore, his/her own responsibility. It all comes down to the old adage: two wrongs don't make a right. Neglect can become a form of abuse. That's that one person's sin. You don't add fuel to the fire by adding your own sin into the mix or you go from one person neglecting/abusing/sinnning to TWO people neglecting/abusing/sinning. Responding sin for sin becomes the issue. There's no part of the Scriptures that justifies people when answering evil with evil, retaliating. Vengeance is the Lord's, *He* will repay. Let the sin remain in the other person and let God settle accounts with that person. He's much better equipped for the job. Otherwise, it turns into a free-for-all, "Let's see who can top the other's sin" and hurt the other person the most; because, when it comes down to it, there's no way to hurt another person without hurting yourself in the process. God's trying to save us from more pain by saying, "Don't make things even worse than they already are/might be." The natural man in each of us may want to draw blood in response to the hurt, but the spiritual man, the friend of God in us, needs to deny oneself of all ungodliness. That's what we're called to do and God knows what He's talking about when He asks us to do (or not do) something.
I agree. The situation is a little more complicated imho. Sicknesses aside, a woman can very much influence the attraction of her man. Do you really try to be the most beautiful and sexy thing for your husband you can be? Making his fantasies come true? Or did you stop caring 3 years into the marriage? Yes ultimately it's often the man that commits adultery but in almost all cases it's NOT his fault alone.
Immodest as our culture has become wives need to be aware of the differences between men and women and rather than chastise husbands for passing glances at certain women, speak lovingly about their concern over it and ask to pray with them in the man's struggle with it. It is a struggle that is enabled by our sex saturated society.
if a spouse cheated as direct result of being neglected by his/her spouse for no understandable reason....yes, in the eye of God, he/she is guilty...but shouldn't be in the eyes of anyone else. because spouses have an obligation to meet certain needs of their spouse. it is easier for women to forgive their after an affair because often times they are the cause for the such act. most men only want three things from their spouse. respect, sex, and food. women on the other hand, they don't even know what they really want.
Wow...apparently we Christians are looking for loopholes and excuses to sin. What about keeping yourself pure out of our LOVE FOR GOD? These comments really...
Black Bless Apparently you are so far out in left field, stuck in a myopic tunnel of distorted beliefs. Not only are you deeply underselling men and their needs...you apparently are so disconnected from yourself to even believe that for a nanosecond. Men do need love, respect, acceptance...and yes, sex is sometimes that realm that they get those needs met. Challenge your false paradigms...some have been spoon fed to you through warped society too. As for women, women need to feel valued, cherished, deeply understood and accepted. They get that through emotional connection and authentic communication, most of the time. So...men need sex to feel connected... and women need connection to want sex. Not an always rule...but often. Also...to deride the other sex for their wiring, is in essence mocking god for how they were created. If you can appreciate a woman’s outward differences, than know there are plenty of internal differences too...some you can actually learn and grow from. Differences aren’t worse, just different. Just because you can’t understand it doesn’t mean it’s not valid.. I hope a switch flips in you soon...that you actually get it...and learn to value women in the way you would hope to be valued, if you were born a woman. And I mean the way a woman actually thinks...not your projected fallacies.
God is jealous. What more proof in black and white that religion is just sad? You deserve such a deity if you seriously believe that statement is not very worrying.
I feel that a real man or women would never let the other feel jealous
Debra Colter AMEN AMEN AMEN
“A man makes other women jealous of his woman.”
I don't mean to be rude in any way and I hope you can receive what I'm about to say but we have to stop relying on what we feel as oppose to what God says. The other person can't control the jealous emotions their spouse feels and they shouldn't try to. It's really up to the person feeling jealous to process that emotion and understand it and also find positive ways to relay those feelings to their partner in a way he/she can understand and empathize with.
Debra Colter that’s complete unawareness... you have little control of how another person feels!! You have to factor in childhood wounds, attachment styles and many other realms. Some never become jealous no matter what you do...some become jealous even if you are completely upstanding... it’s a reflection of their own internal issues and perspective distortion.
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Real man... you are doomed plus that man as well. It’s a matter of time. It’s only a man who no longer lives but Christ, who will act as Jesus, a dead man. Talking of a real man... is carnal thinking, already a failed project.
Praying for my wife to forgive and fight for our marriage
Hi Thom. I will pray for you as much I need the same prayer.
Update?
Social media is a 2 edge sword. Unknown to me, My wife was searching and chatting for old boy friends and co workers from 40 years ago. Upon counseling we discovered she felt a female can talk with old male flames, but that was not ok for men. It has drfineteky put a strain on my trust of her.
Thank you for that word about adultery is tolerated.
I hope you see this, Pastor Evans. I have a series, that I would love for you to teach on. And that is adultery in the form of porn, etc. That one doesn't get touched or preached. It damages a marriage just as much as physically acting it out.
Completely agree. Look up Dr. Doug Weiss. He tackles that subject A LOT. He has a ministry in Colorado springs called Heart to Heart Ministries. Also, there is a DVD series called Conquer Series for men who are addicted. Not enough churches have this started up but there are some. You can find Dr. Doug Weiss on RUclips. There's a great video called helping her heal. It's an interview series with him with Bob and Audrey Meiser.
@@rachaelireland9467 thanks. Wasn't notified of this response by RUclips. Happen to come across the video again lol
Thanks again
You're so right. It really gives under the radar. The church needs to tackle this.
He has spoken very negatively about pornography in other sermons.
Affairs can and do occur in good marriages too
I needed to hear this, he was able to put my feelings into words. Thank you.
This is very good advice and I really appreciate this ministry.
I see many sinful patterns we all get into in marriage. I am, however, a one-strike-you’re-out person. By God’s Grace, I will not commit adultery (and I never allow myself opportunity for it), but if my husband was unfaithful and repented, I’d forgive him but he’d become only as a brother and not a husband. Divorce is definitely permissible in cases of adultery.
My wife had an affair with a coworker - we are bothering Christians she is a church school teacher and the shock is unbearable - it was with a dovorved man - it’s horrible and I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy - it’s so painful - I’m just trying to save our family with love I’m loving her and trying to save my fsmily
AestheticEmotionGHL thank you so much. It’s unbelievable I’m actually pleading for her to not do such a thing
Herakles I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Try not to grovel and maintain your composure before her. Cry out to the Lord in the difficult times but don’t show her your hurts. Be rational about your family situation, that you want it to work out. If she persists, let the unbeliever leave. You aren’t under obligation to stay in the marriage if her heart is hardened in unbelief and sin and will not repent.
Brother. You should not try to save her. I am sorry. You will suffer greatly...
I’m so sorry this happened to you. While you do have biblical grounds for divorce, the fact that both of you are Christian there is responsibility to cooperate and negotiate and seek the lord in all of it and forgive one another!
Don’t listen to these people who tell you not to try. But that’s all you can do is try. ❤ Jesus be with you my friend.
God does say you can divorce if there is infidelity… either way you’ll have your family you shouldn’t have to deal with that and be with someone who don’t deserve you. In the end you’ll never get it out ur head it’s best to let go and let god
I agree. The wisdom is amazing
Absolutely, so very true
Thank you for your message....your interactive speech has clearly opened my mind to change for the better
How about Putting GOD FIRST! None of this would be happening if people did that.
He literally said that.
True
If God is first in our lives, then we will put Gods values and words over our lives and our relationships. Knowing we are accountable to God first, then our spouse. Spouses that have a relationship with God will want to be pleasing to God and will think twice before committing adultery. A spouse that commits adultery most likely has a poor or weak relationship with God.
Marriage is a covenant between a husband, wife, and God. Another reason we have to ask if our decisions or actions are pleasing to God. We will all have to answer to him for our actions.
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Amen
You know what? A man masturbating also is in a way committing adultery if he is dispersing his attention and substance away from his wife when she should have it. Also, respectfully, I'm not sure it's true that a woman is more likely to forgive adultery than her husband. I actually believe the opposite may be true.
Masturbation is not adultery. Lusting or covering another man’s wife is adultery. A agree if you masturbate while lusting after another man’s wife does equal adultery in his heart. (Matthew 5:28) For a woman adultery is when a married woman sleeps with a man other than her husband.
What if your wife doesnt want to be intimate in marriage? And the man looks at pornagraphy for sexual release, why is it adultery if she didnt refuse her husband, it wouldnt have happened in the first place. I know what the bible says but if there is no communication and come in agreement, then what is a person to do?
Amen i look forward to my future courtship kingdom marriages are the best.
I agree
Thank you for sharing
So great surmon...thank you pastor...man need courage to say to his spouse ..nice...true love always forgives..
It would be great if someone could do a sermon on how an enmeshed relationship with a parent putting the parent child relationship before the spouse relationship is a form of psychological adultery
Seriously a true issue that i see even more with remarriage. Called the mini wife or mini husband syndrome.
I feel jealous when my husband looks at other women and he thinks I dont see it. He gets angry if I feel jealousy. I pray God love fills me & because my husband does not care about my feelings, I will not dwell on his anger and not willing to communicate with my insecurity. I just let him have his way and if he keeps pretending he is not looking, hopefully the Holy Spirit will help him.
I know exactly what your going thru in my case he says it never happened I'm seeing things. And will no longer go places with me due to Me calling him out on staring at women's behind or following them with his eyes as much as possible with no consideration to his wife. He now has gotten into masturbation on the computer, I found out while I was at work, this went on. We are currently sleeping in separate rooms and just merrily live together as roommates. Possible divorce.
annette wilshusen Prayers for us!! I would say do not give up because once you realize that nothing in this world makes sense but Jesus. He is enough. I pray for our husband's convictions and for Jesus to take over their heart. It is possible and waiting on the Lord is commanded. I prayed for separation; but Jesus makes more sense to me. I choose to love and have joy in Him. Prayers for you dear sister in Christ. Be in deep prayer before divorce. Have a beautoful day on Jesus ♡
Pure1278 wow .. Jesus I pray you show him Today
. In JESUS NAME.. I pray bam Revelation.. so hard come down he weeps in true repentance. In JESUS NAME AMEN ..
I am praying for you sister. The struggle is real
annette wilshusen I pray that Iam not too late to be used for the Glory of our Savior. Sister, the enemy we have is that which is of hell... we are not our Husband's enemy & they are not ours. Satan is truly at work but there is Hope!
Pray for your Husband, relentlessly. Have mercy & compassion for him just as Christ has granted you when you have fallen short. There's a chance that this battle was his long before he laid eyes on you & desired Marriage but due to shame, pride & fear... he wasn't honest with you & willing to seek your help as his helpmate.
Do not condemn him, he isn't alone. You have no idea how many males are attacked in this way while they are just starting puberty & suffer in silence well into Adulthood with no counsel, guidance to be free from such bondage of lust & perversion.
GOD HAS A PLAN, TRUST IN HIM. As Scripture instructs the Believer to do so: Pray one for another, examine ourselves & MEDITATE ON ALL THINGS GOOD. Guard your Mind, satan enjoys mentioning your Husband's flaw to you & encouraging you to go on the hunt for anything to incriminate him. We are ALL flawed individuals!
Forgive him as you desire to be Forgiven by our Heavenly Father & cry out to God on behalf your Union but you must have Faith that God will see you guys through this trial. God bless you. ❤
I been in a relationship with someone for a year man of God minister he is, we're best friends in a companionship and it tears my spirit apart when he talks to another, I feel what Jimmy says how would it feel if I was doing that broke because it's not right he'd feel disrespected even if it's just talking. Still it's wrong
This video really hits home
I agree.
Thank you sir
I enjoyed this video you should talk more about this to young people let them know what marriage is why when they get married they take each other for better and worse.may god bless you and may he watch over you and you're family. and when they take there vows they should really be sure what the words really means an what marriage is really about. there is a lot of people I think don't know what marriage is about. they need to know more about each before they go an take the big step.
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These talks are wonderful.we thank both of you equally..
Beautiful said! 🙏📖😇
Man of God. Thank YOU!!!!!
AMEN THATS RIGHT. PERIOD.
everything you say is true. when a person cheat the lie
How can I advise a couple, where the spouse continuasly flirts w the opposite sex. This disrupts their bond and is causing a rift.
He doesn't love her. Point blank. No respect and no love. A man or woman who TRULY loves their spouse WOULD NOT do that.
Excellent work
What if you’re being falsely accused of adultry and your spouse refuses to believe you?
Proverbs 30:20 "This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
Numbers Chapter 5: 11-30
@@mysty0 thats called being EMPOWERED in feminism.
No guilt, only a justification of emotions in today's society.
Brillant.
Praise God
Honesty saves TIME but GOD helps us to keep our kool and not fear anything because fear is a path to the dark side
Where’s the full sermon for this one?
Well I know ill be waiting forever for a confession he will never tell me the only way I would find out it would take God cause he covers every rock
Endy M if he is...pray for him. The power of a praying wife!!
I'm married to the same kind of man...I pieced it together when she showed up at our front door with a gift for him, after going on a cruise. She was widowed and he used the excuses of that he was checking up on her. It's been over a year since I caught on, and I don't know if it ended or they just got smarter about it. I feel defeated by it all. I'd leave him but for the special needs child of ours, who will always need constant care.
@@gdhhayes2129 How's it going? If you think it's still going on, leave. You don't have to take that nonsense, especially not knowing! If you would leave, then do it. There's surely another way to help care for your child. If there's a will there's a way. You need to design your life how you want. Life is too short, you can't suffer like that.
fast and pray the word of God
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My husband has put me on the very last list he has , i I’m not even important enough to call and check on me during the day !
To pray my husband don't hurt or chest on me on more
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What if they cheat at 6 years into the marriage and you find out they sleep with someone. so you stay and you almost went down that road but didn’t but was honest. So you stay together on only to find out he sleep with someone someone prior to the one you knew about.we were separated and I asked and lied to my face. I felt imprisoned and raped and cheated on.
if GOD our Jesus Christ doesn't find your spouse you will be in misery have GOD forgive you of this sin and start with JESUS CHRIST
What's wrong with DIVIORCE
My husband has been unfaithful few times. First was sexually and the others have been emotional affairs. He has never repented. He has always been defensive, always blamed me for his infidelities, never really wanted to talk about them. March of 2020 I found out he was having an emotional affair with a coworker, buying her expensive gifts and taking her out to eat. He says they didn’t hace sex. He told me he’d stop talking to her, he wanted to work things out with me, we renewed our vows on April 30th, our kids were so happy and so was I, I gave him a second chance to go back to his job but to a different shift, where they wouldn’t have contact supposedly. This February 5th I found out he still is talking to her. And they kept seeing each other. Instead of telling me the truth he told me he was tired of the same crap. And that I could divorce him if I wish. I have no words and really don’t even know how to feel about this.
What do you mean you don't know how to feel? It's clear as day, Berenice: END IT!!! It makes no sense to stay in that shitty situation, do you know how many men would actually respect you?! You need to wake up and find a good one! He clearly doesn't repsect you, and that shouldn't be tolerated. Your spouse shouldn't feel like they have you wraped around their finger. You made a mistake by not having systems in place. You gotta think about these things BEFORE they happen. Thinking is the key to everything. But you can't stay, if you stay, you're stupid. What you're doing makes no sense. Leave. Life is too short. Go, and find a better one. A good man will take you rather than all the women in the world combined, you just have to find one with a heart of gold, not a heart of stone!
It is right for my husband who says he is a Christian left me because of I made him unhappy happy I am not say I was perfect in the relationship I did something that was wrong but I never was unfaithful to him while we were married and now he is with other woman he knows what he is doing is wrong but he doesn't care because that woman he is with makes him happy
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Natasha Goolagong I hope you’re a bit better now. Affairs are more difficult than death of a loved one. Keep in mind that no one is perfect so he will find flaws in her as well and move in to someone else in due time. You keep super close to God and He will comfort you and pull you thru this extremely difficult time. Trust Him
You can comfort uourself knowing he divorced you for UNbiblical reason.
Forgivness and reconciliation are not the same thing.
Forgiveness and trust are not the same thing. Forgiveness can be freely given. But trust must be earned."
Jesus forgave the theif on the cross, but He also left him there, in the consequences of his sin.
And the prodigal so who came back wasted his entire inheritance- he had nothing left because he wasted it on wild living and prostitutes (Lk 15:30-31). Pornography is prostitution (people getting paid to have sex), just on film.
What if your husband gets jealous because you do not give him 100% and I mean total 100% of your attention. You cannot have lunch with your mother or a girlfriend once a week or less without him getting jealous and saying things that make you feel guilty and that you are doing wrong. How do you deal with that? You cannot do something you want to do because it would take a couple hours from a day and he says that you don't want to be with him and that you have more important things to do or that you are looking for another man or that you should look for another man that would satisfy you better. I pray on this daily. I feel like a bird in a cage. I am not wanting to do anything that would hurt our marriage in any way or disrespect him in any way.
Lisa. From your comment, it ultimately sounds like your husband doesnt actually trust that you are going to have lunch with your mother or one of your girlfriends, hence why he is being controlling. Have you given him a good reason to not trust you? If you havent then I am sorry for what is occurring and I pray it gets better. But if you havent given your husband a reason to trust you then you cannot expect to make demands about doing things that you do not want your husband involved in and then complain that he doesnt feel comfortable about you doing them. Just my two cents
I’ve been in a marriage for 17 years with a husband who gets jealous of everyone or everything. I’m not allowed to enjoy my life if it doesn’t include him. When my momma was alive I couldn’t even go visit her because he’d call the whole time I was with her and would accuse me of being somewhere else even when I’d put him on speaker so he could hear my momma. He’s jealous of my sons friends that are in high school and even my son in laws, it’s been 17 years of total misery and feeling like I’m in a bubble and I’ve never given him a reason to be this way. I was warned by his exes but since he told me they had cheated on him I thought those were his reasons for being so jealous and I thought once he saw I was a good woman that he would trust me and stop but 17 years later he still continues. I’m praying for God to give me strength to leave him and file for a divorce so that I can have my life back.
It sounds like he has some serious childhood wounds and attachment style that is likely of the anxious sort... of not healed it will continue to cause issues and unhealthy realms in your relationship. No one deserves that kind of control.
I follow Personal Development School on RUclips and she has transformed my life. It helps so much to know the wounds that created this behavior etc.. ways to heal and connect healthily.
Do be aware of things like narcissism though, that can be very tricky and toxic.
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Imagine affairs do happen in The Church
I never lied to my husband - I told him and left - bad decision. We’re still in recovery (28 years of marriage). Pastor Evans sermons have saved me from despair.
Proverbs 30:20 "This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'
Me too!
Do you know this? Marriage is between a man and a woman. Marriage is for better and for worse until death separates (Matthew 19:3-6). ‘Wherefore they are no more two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man put asunder (separate)’. Cheating on your wife or husband is sin. Proverbs 28: 13 says, ‘‘He that covers his sins shall not prosper...You must repent of them, confess and forsake them (1 John 1:9).
Are you into worldliness? Don’t you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? (James 4:4; II John2:15-17). So, you must stop bleaching your body or painting your mouth, eyes, hands and legs or fixing attachments, weave-on, earrings (Genesis 35:2-4), bangles, chains and frying or perming your hair. Tattooing your body is satanic. Are you one of those that put on nude dresses, short skirts, transparent dresses to seduce men or women (a Seducer or a Promoter of lust is a Sinner - Mathew 5:28)
Perhaps you wear trousers as a woman? (Read Deuteronomy 22:5), that is an abomination (Revelation 21:8, 27). Therefore, make up your mind, repent and give your life to Jesus Christ. Are you spoilt? Jeremiah 4:30 says, ‘‘And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee. They will seek thy life’’. (2 Kings 9:30; Hosea 2:13; Exodus 33:1-6)
A Christian is not a Sinner and a Sinner is not a Christian (I John 3:9). If you must be a blessed child of God, then you must repent of your sins and give your life to Jesus Christ. If you believe Jesus Christ today, righteousness of God will come into your life and abundant life will be your portion (1 John 11-12). If you neglect this call to repentance and salvation and die, you will not escape fire of Hell (Hebrews 2:3). It is foolishness and sin to say or think that there is no God (Psalm 14:1; 9:17). Luke 13:3, Jesus said, ‘I tell you, Nay: but except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish’. Cut off every besetting sin (Hebrew 12:1-2; Mark 9:43-48).
If you have decided now (2 Corinthians 6:2) to give your life to Jesus Christ and to forsake your sinful lifestyle, please say this prayer:
Almighty God, I come unto you in the name of Jesus. Father I confess that I am a sinner. All my sins I confess to you.
I am very sorry for all my sins (mention those you can remember). Lord I promise you that from today I will never continue in them anymore. I believe that Jesus Christ died and rose again on the third day for my justification.
Almighty God, use the blood of Jesus to wash my sins away. Lord Jesus, come into my heart, be my Lord and personal Saviour. I surrender my life to you. Cancel my name from the books of death and write it in the book of life. Give me power to sin no more. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!!
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1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Hell is a place of torment forever...continuous burning by fire. The fire is never quenched, with crying and weeping forever (Mark 9:43-48; Psalm 9:17; Mathew 25:41). It was originally prepared for satan and his demons, but anybody that obeys the devil in committing sin and refuse to repent and accept Jesus Christ, if the person dies in sins, he or she will be thrown into Hell. You still have the opportunity to repent now, amend your ways, live and spend eternity in heaven. Go to www.tlccrm.org
You may be asking; how do I stop all these sins? Simply take the first step of repentance and have inner hatred for those sins, then ask Jesus to forgive you and come into your life to be your Lord and personal Saviour. In John 1:12, there is power that will be given to you, and in Mathew 11:28, if you receive Jesus into your life, He will deliver you and give you victory over those sins; then you will need to cut off from the source of those sins in your life (may be sinful friends; stop the evil relationship.
This gospel is not to condemn you, but for you to be convicted so that you will repent and give your life to Jesus Christ who loves you and really wants you to make it to heaven at the end of your life here on earth
I am going through this with my husband now.
I need prayer because I don't know what to do.
I need clarity.I have been married for 47 years and this isnt the first time I have gone through this with him.
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So if a woman refuses to meet her husbands needs, and he looks elsewhere, how is that only the mans fault, and she shares no responsibility?
Does that mean when a man ignores his wife's needs and she looks elsewhere he has no blame?
sounds like a double standard to me...
Mrdubomb I don't think he's saying that it's right to neglect a spouse (whether you're a man OR a woman who's doing the neglecting).
It sounds like he's saying that the spouse who *chooses* to cheat in response to that neglect needs to take responsibility for his/her response -- specifically, to take responsibility for the choice to cheat.
If a wife -- or a husband -- *refuses* to meet her husband's (or he his wife's) needs, the refusing spouse is responsible for the refusal, not for the cheating. The cheating is the other spouse's choice of responding with the refusal and, therefore, his/her own responsibility.
It all comes down to the old adage: two wrongs don't make a right.
Neglect can become a form of abuse. That's that one person's sin.
You don't add fuel to the fire by adding your own sin into the mix or you go from one person neglecting/abusing/sinnning to TWO people neglecting/abusing/sinning.
Responding sin for sin becomes the issue.
There's no part of the Scriptures that justifies people when answering evil with evil, retaliating.
Vengeance is the Lord's, *He* will repay.
Let the sin remain in the other person and let God settle accounts with that person. He's much better equipped for the job.
Otherwise, it turns into a free-for-all, "Let's see who can top the other's sin" and hurt the other person the most; because, when it comes down to it, there's no way to hurt another person without hurting yourself in the process.
God's trying to save us from more pain by saying, "Don't make things even worse than they already are/might be."
The natural man in each of us may want to draw blood in response to the hurt, but the spiritual man, the friend of God in us, needs to deny oneself of all ungodliness. That's what we're called to do and God knows what He's talking about when He asks us to do (or not do) something.
Queen Es Reina where's the love button?! Great explanation
Refuses to meet his needs??
I agree. The situation is a little more complicated imho. Sicknesses aside, a woman can very much influence the attraction of her man. Do you really try to be the most beautiful and sexy thing for your husband you can be? Making his fantasies come true? Or did you stop caring 3 years into the marriage? Yes ultimately it's often the man that commits adultery but in almost all cases it's NOT his fault alone.
Immodest as our culture has become wives need to be aware of the differences between men and women and rather than chastise husbands for passing glances at certain women, speak lovingly about their concern over it and ask to pray with them in the man's struggle with it. It is a struggle that is enabled by our sex saturated society.
Christ Crucified...."Jimmy, my what small hands you have.
if a spouse cheated as direct result of being neglected by his/her spouse for no understandable reason....yes, in the eye of God, he/she is guilty...but shouldn't be in the eyes of anyone else. because spouses have an obligation to meet certain needs of their spouse. it is easier for women to forgive their after an affair because often times they are the cause for the such act. most men only want three things from their spouse. respect, sex, and food. women on the other hand, they don't even know what they really want.
Black Bless there is NEVER an excuse for an affair or adultery. Sorry.
If you are not happy, discuss it or leave the marriage. Cheating doesn't solve the problem.
wow just wow this is so far from the truth #it is apparent you do not know the nature of women#smh
Wow...apparently we Christians are looking for loopholes and excuses to sin. What about keeping yourself pure out of our LOVE FOR GOD? These comments really...
Black Bless
Apparently you are so far out in left field, stuck in a myopic tunnel of distorted beliefs.
Not only are you deeply underselling men and their needs...you apparently are so disconnected from yourself to even believe that for a nanosecond.
Men do need love, respect, acceptance...and yes, sex is sometimes that realm that they get those needs met. Challenge your false paradigms...some have been spoon fed to you through warped society too.
As for women, women need to feel valued, cherished, deeply understood and accepted. They get that through emotional connection and authentic communication, most of the time.
So...men need sex to feel connected... and women need connection to want sex.
Not an always rule...but often.
Also...to deride the other sex for their wiring, is in essence mocking god for how they were created. If you can appreciate a woman’s outward differences, than know there are plenty of internal differences too...some you can actually learn and grow from. Differences aren’t worse, just different. Just because you can’t understand it doesn’t mean it’s not valid..
I hope a switch flips in you soon...that you actually get it...and learn to value women in the way you would hope to be valued, if you were born a woman. And I mean the way a woman actually thinks...not your projected fallacies.
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What crap, the main reason unless the spouse is a lecherous person, is the church never stood up and became overcome by feminism. Like this guy
Yet another preacher who doesn't know what adultery is. What a shame
God is jealous. What more proof in black and white that religion is just sad? You deserve such a deity if you seriously believe that statement is not very worrying.