I'm not a religious person, but one thing I noticed in the army. The religious soldiers had a way of keeping the faith that God had a plan. They'd take a breath and then they would say, "everythings gonna be alright" and it was. I call them Paladins. Just not to their face.
yesterday i got sick , i spend too much time tiring myself out , too much work , too much stress. All was avoidable , i went too deep , took way more i can handle. Now im getting better, dont stress too much , dont exhaust yourself @@zombiedanceprod
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
man wow, I am so moved by your words. By no means do I consume much of that self improvement nonesense, which frankly does more damage than good most of the time. From what I have read and watched though, this is some of the most solid and concrete advice. You can act on this stuff almost right away, brilliant. im stunned that I found this level of meaningful depth and practical wisom in a comment. thank you, (I have suffered from depression most my life and only recently have I really been trying to attack why that is rather than just wallowing in my own misery)
You’re from a city somewhere , Men are like him where I’m from. I watch because Im reminded of the men I know. You should find a place where men are like this also my friend.
Brother, just know that having no parents is better than having evil parents. The Holy Father, His Son and the Holy Ghost comforter and helper can fill in the gap miraculously👍 even though alone I have never been alone..
feel you brother. My pops passed away when i was 12 to cancer. Was super close to him and looked up to him. After that life completely changed.. Men definitely need a father in their life.
I really needed to hear this. I just entered into my senior year of college, but my engagement was broken off right before the semester started. Finding out she was cheating on me, calling off the engagement and then having to change my focus toward school and keep up with my grades has been exhausting. I’ve been pushing myself and so this really helped lift my spirits today. Thank you, Dewayne. Edit: I didn’t expect so many kind and supportive comments! Thank you to all of you who have offered encouragement; I know the Lord will use this for His purpose, and I know I’m on a much better road for my own future. God bless all of you!
The revelation of the infidelity could be God working to send you on the path He chose for you. Us dumb humans need to be shown the way sometimes. Stay strong, my friend, there is a light at the end of the darkness, and it's beautiful.
My missus suffered a neurological injury some years ago. Seeing her deteriorate, especially over the last five or six years has not been easy. She finally passed away this afternoon. No more suffering for her. Now she can rest. I hope I get to rest too. It's been difficult.
I’m a 16 year old girl. My father isn’t very present in my life- but whenever I speak with him he has some wisdom to offer me. It’s nice to hear another person give me wisdom whenever I need it when he’s not available.
Here's some actual advice. Protect yourself. Don't volunteer information, and remember that what goes on the Internet will often be there forever, by archivers, scrapers, and creeps. Stay safe.
You're a global treasure, Dewayne. Thank you for your messages and vulnerability - it's making a difference. Enjoy the wedding and your trip, safe travels.
"Don’t wear yourself out to the point that you’re no good to anybody, including yourself." I really needed to hear this. My health took a sudden turn for the worse after many months of high stress. But I am finally taking my rest now. ❤
My partner was talking about wanting a vacation, and I couldn't quite understand what they meant. This clicked and sounds like what they were trying to get across.
Nothing better than driving through the Arizona desert back to California and listening to this man speak. He’s an absolute gem. There’s not that many around anymore so enjoy it while you can.
I learned that I needed a rest. Had a mental break working corrections the last few years. Ended up in a psych ward for a week. I was so damn tired. The last few years hit me like a train. The first day, I just slept. I was putting off my own health. This man is right. Sometimes, we honestly just need to rest and talk to someone. Stay safe everyone.
@DonatedJacob I am. After that week, I was doing a lot better. Ended up leaving the job. If you're still there, good luck man. Hope it goes better here on out.
I hope this guy knows that so many people connect with him because he's a father figure for those who never got the chance to have these moments with their fathers. The advice he gives is pure wisdom and it's super relaxing. Just everything this guy embodies is pure experience and wisdom. I completely understand why he fills that void for so many people.
@@paulswanson1794 I also have the same experience with my grandfather who passed in 2014. I was 13 at the time and never got to really talk to him as an adult which makes me sad. I really want to just talk to him now about how he dealt with stuff and advice he could give me. I often wonder what he’d say about something that I’m going through or what his advice would be. He was always in a good mood, and cracked me and my siblings up when he got the chance. I always try to see the good in everything like he did. It’s just hard sometimes, but he’s always in my heart and when you know someone who was that father figure or mentor to you, you take what they taught you and try to honor their memory by seeing the world how they saw it. At least, that’s what I try to do.
@@paulswanson1794 and I’m not gonna lie, reading that made me tear up a good bit. It’s bittersweet thinking of my grandpa. Only good times with him. He was my world.
I'm not weak, I'm just exhausted. I've been pushing myself way too hard, taking on more than I should. This talk was not the advice I wanted but it's exactly the advice I needed. Thank you and thank God for sending you.
Rest, that’s the word for me. I thought it was depression but now I see. I’m just a human who needs to better realise my limitations. Good word, Rest!.
if youre familiar with Jim Carry, i seen a video of him on depression and he points out to recognized that depressed=deep rest and its your body telling yourself to rest. i thought it was interesting, but watching this video, it kinda clicked for me. i feel your exhaustion though, goodluck through your journey !!
Wow Dwayne, just wow!! Im a 52 year old carpenter that burns the candle at both ends. I recently had severe back problems that laid me up at home in absolute agony. Ive run the gamete between praying for healing to yelling at God for this aweful experience. Ive found very little comfort in several days but this chat from Dwayne certainly made this day a little better and i def needed to hear this. My daughters have told me this very thing although in dif words haha, i believe God speaks to many about many topics, through many people. Thank you Lord and thank you to my favorite cowboy of common sense for speaking these words today, they were strongly needed! God bless you and yours Dwayne and to anyone who reads this.
I can relate 60 years old hit by a car on a motorcycle,, kind of worried I may not be able to weld over head./ may never work again . My day was better from Dwayne’s video and seeing your comment..Stay strong better days ahead
This is for you folks who injured your back. Some background: I’m a personal trainer (32) with background working alongside physical therapists and chiropractors. Now pursuing firefighting full time. Some years ago I injured my knee and back. Bulging and herniated discs in my lumbar. What’s helped me, aside from good nutrition, is the following: • ATG Coaching (by Ben “kneesovertoes” Patrick) • deep tissue massage/myofascial release • (Upper Cervical) Blair Technique practiced by certain chiropractors I would strongly advise seeking these professionals. They’ve helped me tremendously. Will check back with this comment if you have any questions. Happy to provide other resources and give back.
Same dude. Carpenter here too - back went on Sunday night took me 4 days to get back to work. Definitely a warning from the old body. Looking into a bit of morning yoga going forward before something goes snap permanently
Keep the faith...I had severe disabling back pain for years and the doctors had no solution other than pain meds. So I did my own research and found a new experimental surgical procedure. Only 2 doctors in my state would perform the surgery and I had to pay cash ($6K) as my insurance would not cover anything experimental. When I awoke from the surgery, the doctor asked me to stand up, and the pain was gone. Miracles DO happen!
Been dealing with back problems all my life doing physical jobs. Tried everything and have found that the primary cause is emotional stress and anxiety. It’s really weird. When you’re all pent up from stress, at least for me, it manifests physically in the hips and lower back. Worrying about money, relationships, the future. It builds up. Doing basic yoga/ full body stretching, and back stretching twice daily when things flare up pretty much fixes it. Till another bout of stress comes along. Listen to DeWayne. Relax, take care of YOURSELF. Cause you ain’t gonna be no good to nobody if you’re not taking care of yourself. And if other people or circumstances aren’t in line with that? Well…. That’s the problem.
This came at a perfect time. 2023 has been non-stop stress for me; went from stressing about completing my dissertation straight into stressing about living situation, employment, personal finances... lots of stuff still to be sorted out, and I catch myself wondering for how long I need to be "patient". It's really difficult to be "patient" when the stress reaches a level where it prohibits me from being functional. :(
I love this so much! I was an opioid abuser for 10 years, from lorotab to heroin. I was thinking they were helping me get by... But they were actually causing my exhaustion. I'm proud to say I'm 6 months & 14 days clean. Because I rested & recovered for 4 of those months, I've had a smooth rehabilitation since the first month. Spirituality has played a huge part in that. God bless y'all 🙏
I wish I had the time to rest… even after surgery I have to work, do the housework, grind to get ahead at all… no time to quit. And no means to God… some people do not have that organ. I’ll sleep when I die
@@jamesaydelotte8666that’s the scam of life really, some people are born to keep it running while others enjoy themselves, almost like how some animals exist to be a food source, occasionally people break through but most often they break down
Wise words. I am there as we speak. I had to tell someone my well is dry and therefore I have nothing to give at the moment. I am also recovering from a stroke. So I am resting in every way. Thank you for these pearls of wisdom.
Waiting on my wife to go in labor with our first baby and son. Just here listing enjoying the calm before the storm trying to be logical and reasonable thanks Dwayne!
I remember with my first I was scared to death and I wondered how I would ever be a dad. Four years later and another on the way I wouldn’t trade it for anything! Congratulations and best of luck to you!
What a calm, rich, soothing voice you have. And delivering the exact message I needed after more than 36 hours awake because of insomnia. Thank you thank you. I think maybe I can rest now.
Life is hard no matter what you do. Taking a rest is necessary or a person will fall down (like you said). My son encouraged me to “take a sabbath” on Sunday afternoons. I’ve come to love my sundays!
The love of my life has been battling a life threatening medical condition, my best friend of 15 years just died, I moved across the country, I started working an amazing career, my living situation has been flipped entirely upside-down. I am taking 3 weeks off starting the end of this week. NO plans. I just need time to breathe. This video came at the perfect time for me. Thank you.
Wow...my wife is getting a portal for chemotherapy Monday. We've been fighting this for 12 years now. We are just taking it day by day now. It`s hard but we believe in God and his help. What are you doing to help with your situation?
I wish I could've heard this six months or so ago. It is impressive how easy an stranger can shape your worldviews with advice and wisdom. Best wishes to you and your family
It’s autumn too. The days are getting shorter. We are creatures of nature. It has a strong affect on us. Fall and winter are times for introspection and quietness. My sister gets anxious at this time of year. Then some of us are like bears. We need to hibernate and just hang out somewhere and “be”, without all the distractions of being busy and sociable all the time. Rest well my friend! Now go hibernate. 🐻
Simple yet very natural and wise advice. We're complex animals afterall. The problem is that rest isn't popular with employers nor the general society. It's almost a battle to just get to the point of being able to rest. What a web we have woven
Employers won't be around for Long. Give it 5-10 years and we'll all be vagabonds or staying put protecting our homes. The system Is going to snap soon.
I don't believe in fate too often but my RUclips feed is filled with video game things, podcasts, photography channels(I like cameras), and various other things. I've never seen this man or channel in my life, nor has any Wrangler school shown up on my feed. I've been having a hell of a time in life currently with work, my living situation, my spouse, etc. This popped up today randomly in my suggested videos and I decided to check it out. Really nice to listen to some wisdom from someone as I don't have anyone to listen to about it really. So thank you, kind stranger on the internet. Maybe I'll come back to check out your other videos and enjoy your great beard.
I second this. Just popped up today when I am absolutely mentally, emotionally exhausted. Thanks, universe and thanks bearded man with the best voice ever. Imagine a guided meditation to his voice…that’d be transcendental probably.
Working 12 to 16 hours a day, 13 days on with one day off… dealing with engineers, planners, field execution, and everything in between… I feel exactly how you described in this video. I needed this. Thank you, and God bless.
Working in a manufacturing field as well. Overworked, overtired, and more overtime as a Christmas gift, gee thanks... I'm a shop worker doing mostly manual physical labor, struggling to meet the demand of fabricators who all have fancy machines that quadrupled their production limits. No one has to work this job, it pays good for entry-level manufacturing work, but we DO have to rest. Too bad our bosses in the office can't see it and can only ask how much more overtime we can work. 12 hour days here as well.
I am so overwhelmed right now. Like so many of us. I can’t believe I bumped into this. I will forever be thankful to the universe for putting Dewayne in front of my path. Cause I needed to stop. And rest. Thank you sir. And I hope everyone else out there that is in the same position finds time to rest. Vacate.
This was the exact advice I was needing right now. I’ve been super burnt out recently but I wouldn’t allow myself time to rest because I’d be putting so much pressure on myself to do this or that
Sweet soul. Life consists of seasons. God even gave the earth winter so she could collect her thoughts and count the stars...simply look up and let the heavens sing to you a while. Then, come back with new songs in your soul and sing them again on the trail. YOU GOT THIS cowboy! God bless...Xox
I really needed to hear it. I’m exhausted and a nap won’t fix it. I feel like all I’m allowed to do is exhaust myself to please others and I feel guilty to take a minute for myself. I just want to sit on my porch and know it’s okay that I’m just sitting there. Thanks sir.
This year has been constant loss for me. Whether it be loss of people in my life or losing opportunities due to my own weakness. Even as recent as last night. Needless to say, words cannot express how my I appreciate just listening to your wisdom Dewayne. For this video and all the previous ones you've made throughout this year alone. God bless, brother.
28 year big city fire fighter here. I am trying to make it to the end and I needed to hear this. Thank you sir, I’m taking a break. I’m learning it’s ok to rest.
Well, I've never seen this channel before but here you are and boy did God/Spirit/Universe deliver the message! I'm a single mum of 3 primary kids. Worked today for my 42nd birthday with a sore back that made my legs hard to use, and then tried to be present for cake and presents. Boy did those photos show how bone tired i am! I look 82! Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually I'm unable to do more, but there is always more to do. But this afternoon I'm in bed at 5pm after making myself a good dinner. The kids are out for a few hours with their dad so I'll turn my phone off and try not to even talk to God. I'm spirituality tired too. God understands. Thank you ❤
I’ve dealt with trauma and mental illness my entire life. With that comes an exhaustion that’s always theres in the background. And needing 10x more rest than the average person. Its hard to push myself out of bed. I appreciate this video.. makes me know that I need to keep taking a step at a time.
Amen. Sometimes fatigue catches up with us and wrestles us into a state of limbo to where we realize its grip on us and then patiently wait it out until it loosens us back up again. Love this gentleman's insights to what he needs to bring up with so many of us running the race. 😊
Seriously great timing. I appreciate this. I just quit a career I was in for 10 years and have been feeling major anxiety. Im working on my transition to a new career field and took the leap of faith, taking a gamble on myself. I’ve been feeling anxious, not depressed or inadequate but just massive nerves lately. This helped calm me a bit just to focus and breathe. I appreciate you.
Right there with you I'm in the same boat. Easier said than done but I find myself easing up when I remember to stop thinking ahead and start doing now. Take it as it comes and we'll get there together 💪
Congratulations, that’s exciting! Honouring the anxiety is definitely a part of the process, but please keep in mind that the anxiety you are feeling is nada in comparison to the anxiety you’d feel staying in a career that you weren’t passionate about anymore. It’s freedom anxiety, but the key word is freedom!! Do not forget this, you are brave and courageous for your decision making!! Wishing you the best of luck! 🥂🥳
I just had a hard December, decided to take a trip to Idaho with the family (of all places), a long train ride there to really take some time to unwind, read, reflect. It's set me back to neutral, and I now I listen to this. It just confirms, no matter what happens take some time for your self to reassess, and keep on going. It's never going to get easy but use those resting moments and realize that your becoming a better version of yourself, everytime. I'm glad I can come to this channel and have some reassurance. Just rest and then power through.
Fuckin love this man. Been feeling mentally exhausted for a long time. Stumbling. Making mistakes. Been unemployed the past couple weeks, and there’s pressure to get back to working and paying bills, etc. And while exactly what you say is true, you cannot rest for too long, I feel like I’m in a period of needing to rest, and my cousin told me that I should not rush into anything and take my time. And I really appreciated that, and how he just met me where I was at, and encouraged me in that way. I know everyone is on my team even the ones I feel pressure from, including myself in feeling like I’m running out of time and that I have to have shit figured out, which is really just a false pressure imposed by modernity. But it just feels good to see this as well and know that I am the one walking in my shoes and when it feels exhausting you gotta rest.
Still unemployed. Gotta find something soon, been staying up way to late (like 8am late) and I’ve definitely been “just resting” for too long now I guess.
That special feeling you get when you hear advice that you didn't know you really needed hear. Pretty powerful and I really appreciate it. Enjoy your vacation.
Thank you for this video. My father passed away over the summer and I've felt so lost and tired since. I also just started college up again and can't tell you how exhausted I feel after everyday. I try to let myself enjoy the free time I have and not worry about things I have to do the next day, but sometimes it's just too much. These videos help a lot, thanks
Sorry for your loss :( I know how you feel, I’m in graduate school and my mother passed away. It’s tough! Mindfulness works for me, you should try, sometimes I watch stand-up comedy or funny movies too.
all i can say is try and respect yourself. i lost a parent a few years ago but i remember that i let myself feel the pain when it was an appropriate time (not out in public or in the midst of a task, for me) and reminded myself that my parent would want me to find things that i enjoy or appreciate. you're not gonna feel happy, not in the same way and probably not for a little while, but i want you to know that'll come back. you learn to integrate the grief into you. it tells you how much you cared about them and serves as a reminder for such. i like to tell myself that we're built to endure grief because we're built to love people. i'm not sure when the lost feeling goes away. it hasn't really left me but i also think a lot of us feel a bit lost trying to navigate life. hope you can get a little bit of direction; it can be as simple as planning what you'd like to cook or buy to eat for the week
Hey everyone, first of all i want to thank Dwayne for his video, it really struck a chord with me. I've been dealing with a deep-seated fear of talking to people for a while now, a overwhelming anxiety that creeps in every time I have to engage in conversations. In addition to this fear, I took a wrong turn in my early twenties and got involved in crimes, people who didn't deserve it got hurt. It's left me with a heavy heart and a profound sense of guilt. Life in your twenties, fresh out of high school, attending college, can be incredibly confusing, especially when you're lost and unsure of your purpose. I've also suffered significant losses along the way, including some close friends, my girlfriend of six years, and even my beloved grandmother. It feels like life has thrown me into a whirlwind of uncertainty and pain. Today, I'm still on the journey to find some semblance of happiness amidst the struggles. I won't sugarcoat it; I still suffer a lot. I have sleepless nights, barely eat, and find it challenging to enjoy life. But recently, I discovered Dwayne's videos, and they've become a ray of hope for me. When I head to school, instead of being overwhelmed by stress, I tune in to Dwayne's videos, and they work like a soothing balm. His words resonate with me and make a lot of sense. They provide me with a moment of calm in the storm of my daily life. I really wanted to share my experience to let others know that even in the darkest of times, there are sources of inspiration and comfort out there.Thanks to Dwayne and his positive messages, I'm finding the strength to keep moving forward, even when it feels like the world is upside down. So i hope everybody and their family are fine, i hope Dwayne here is fine and his family is alright and wish you all the best. God Bless you all.
I love you, this reached me when I was thinking of having a break, but didn’t want to do it since I would feel guilty. Sometimes you gotta take a step back, and take a break. Truly.
Right!!!! My vacations are never vacations. I had the idea of restoring and then restarting but I get talked out of it. And that's only because they want what they want and I always give in!!! It stops now!!! Thank you ❤
I used to run a small business by myself, just an online store. I’d hand make everything by myself and while I loved it so much, it was utterly exhausting doing that outside of my full time job. After years of dealing with the workload and some truly awful people I decided to take a break. Here I am two years later and have been hesitant to end my “break”, but after watching this I think I’m going to get back on that horse and get back to doing what I enjoy 😊 Thank you for all your wisdom and positivity!
I just turned 47 last month. I'm out of shape, but I've been trying to get on my bike more. This last Saturday, a brisk pace for 30 minutes ended with me nearly dying(so I thought😂). I got home and lay on the bed, expecting to die right there. After about 20 minutes, I shakily got up and showered. I didn't die! It's Monday and here I am battling depression, anxiety, high BP..... Am I going to quit trying to get better? No, I'm going to put my head down, chuck out the fear of death and push myself into the hurricane.
Keep your head up, hopefully there is something exciting to pick you up. Blessings 🙏 Surrender is huge, but can only really do that with faith in source.
Some quotes to help you get through 💪🙏: Friedrich Nietzsche: “To live is to suffer; to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” Frederick Douglass: “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” John Milton: “Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.” Thomas Paine: “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble that can gather strength from distress and grow.”
Thank you sir. I make my living as a paramedic. I tried to be a horseman for a while but, apparently God didn't have that life in store for me. I am also a Volunteer firefighter. I love helping people but, it takes its toll. I have been in Fire/EMS in some form or another since 1994. I have seen alot of people die in alot of different ways. I have helped alot of people live through some of the worst medical and Traumatic emergencies of their lives. Strange thing is, I didn't plan on this life. It was never my dream job to become a paramedic yet here I am. I guess I tell you and those reading this that we all have stress in our work, even what others may view as exceptionally noble or adventurous work. There is a saying, "all that glitters is not gold". The Lord knows that we will have trials in our lives. These trials are part of the fallen world, but they are also the furnace that purifies us. So, just as God rested on the 7th day after creating the world. We need to rest from our work. Thank you, Dwayne, for reminding us all of this. God bless you and yours, sir!
Exactly. Everytime I feel in a funk, Im exhausted. In the past, Id always fight the funk and kept going until I broke. (i wasnt a good father or husband during those times) I never knew I was exhausted (mental and physical and everything inbetween). It took me a couple dacades to get the wisdom to realize I need a rest, and that its not weak to take a rest. Rest is not a boulder in the journey, rest is part of the journey. Love the videos.
One thing I have had to grapple with and gain acceptance in is letting go of the guilt of resting. A lot of people who are hardworking will find a dissonance with rest and the seeming need for productivity. Often, I would find myself feeling less rested than the day before, because I would get so stressed about what I “Should be doing” that I could not just relax and enjoy my day of rest. Since then I have been able to find a healthy balance and this has let me take much more meaningful rest periods that actually leave me feeling good and excited to come back to the journey of life. Thanks for this Dwayne
I felt that too. If I didn't have a hobby or passion I would go crazy and drink and eat myself into a stupor. Now I understand resting and doing nothing is good, it helps your brain to re-organize itself.
Your voice is soo soothing I just played this for my 103yr old client and it made her peaceful 😅.. she's clearly soothed by your voice and story telling ❤
God bless you, Dewayne. Always enjoy your words of wisdom. Praying you rest well in Idaho, and the wedding in Kentucky goes well. It's a beautiful state!
The last time I had a couple of weeks with family and nothing required of me was 2011, and in some areas, I am exhausted. You are absolutely right about there being different types of exhausted, and how you rest needs to suit the kind of exhaust you're feeling. COVID had me at home all day every day with about 30 min total online at home, and believe me, staying home was no help because the stress was mental and emotional. (several people I was in touch with were very agitated all day every day). I see the effects that having a good rest produce in other people, and I think a rest would be very welcome and do a lot of good. Dwayne, you do have that rest. It will help and restore you. What I will do from time to time is "vegetate". Vegetables usually don't look like they're doing anything, they're just sitting there.. but a week later, you can see they did make some progress in what they needed to do. I just sit there all day, or for 2 days, vegetating, and in time, things will start to get done again. Vegetate. Sit and bing-watch a TV series on the PC. Or find a coffee shop that doesn't mind, and sit there and read a book from cover to cover. Go out and sit in the woods.
Thank you Sir. I’ve been blessed to have been raised by parents who’re quite similar to you and Mrs Dewayne. My father grew up in South America and was a ranch vet. But he never sat down, still doesn’t sit down. Thought me and my brother to never sit down. Until I was diagnosed with breastcancer. The cancer has been treated. Two years later I’m still resting. Catching up. Mentally, physically, spiritually. I learn about who I actually am and what my true purpose is, to what service I’m born. Finally there’s silence. I finally allow myself to rest. And in this silence I teach myself to accept, respect and be at service of the Inner Guidance I receive. So I finally learn to sing and perform professionally, after 25 years I study saxophone again, playing in a concert band already. I’ve auditioned for interesting, purposeful roles in films and tv series and always get the parts to my own surprise. It’s the being part of something greater with the goal of creating moments of value, beauty, connection, inspiration, encouragement, consolidation for people who connect with it.
I think that place of rest is always and already present and we can tap into it even when we fill overwhelmed by obligations. I'm certainly not an expert at this, but that feels true to me.
When he talks i just feel like everything is going to be alright
It’s not tho where all fucked the aliens are coming!!!
I'm not a religious person, but one thing I noticed in the army. The religious soldiers had a way of keeping the faith that God had a plan. They'd take a breath and then they would say, "everythings gonna be alright" and it was. I call them Paladins. Just not to their face.
Wait till you get soothed by an Australian psychologist. Now that is comfort
Seriously, me too🥹
Mr Noel, I know you have explained this but I just wonder if what is a good man, and if I’m worthy of becoming one or being one?
Thank you, Arthur Morgan. I owe you my life.
literally in great plains. behind that hill is johns house
Wait is that really Arthur Morgan? 😂 That's why I clicked the video
@@BarbaricRug it’s not, but hell, he might aswell be the Arthur of our universe, if he grew old
😂
when you play way too many games lmao go outside pls.
Two words title, no editing, no music... Pure wisdom from a Real cowboy ❤ that's refreshing
95% wisdom
5% enjoying a smoke
“Don’t weary yourself out, till the point that you’re no good to any body, including yourself “ WOW THANK YOU
Awesome advice, isn't it?
I think that was my favorite part too.
Exactly the advice Ive needed
My father always used to say that, greetings from ireland,
except i did. weary myself out to the point i'm no good to anyone. just learning to not be toxic to myself anymore.
Depression is not a result of weakness. It is the result of having been too strong for too long.
I'm still suffering, on meds and therapy. This phrase means a lot, thank you.
yesterday i got sick , i spend too much time tiring myself out , too much work , too much stress.
All was avoidable , i went too deep , took way more i can handle.
Now im getting better, dont stress too much , dont exhaust yourself @@zombiedanceprod
its a form of
both. its a choice
I was never strong
@kevindee1179 it's a disease
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of:
-Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great
-Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks")
-Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed
-Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it
-Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model.
-Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.
-Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose.
-Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves
-Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor.
-Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it
-Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs.
I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful.
The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going."
Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence.
You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
Wow thank you for posting this message
Good stuff!
Wonderful lessons. I am a girl, but thank you!!
This is beautiful thank you
man wow, I am so moved by your words. By no means do I consume much of that self improvement nonesense, which frankly does more damage than good most of the time. From what I have read and watched though, this is some of the most solid and concrete advice. You can act on this stuff almost right away, brilliant. im stunned that I found this level of meaningful depth and practical wisom in a comment. thank you, (I have suffered from depression most my life and only recently have I really been trying to attack why that is rather than just wallowing in my own misery)
This man radiates authenticity. A treasure in the wasteland.
Wasteland? That's beautiful country. Open space, few humans, peace & quiet. Beats being in some crap city.
@@deadreckoning6288hahahah the wasteland he said, maybe he means in the internet as a subject of the bad stuff about
@@deadreckoning6288
They definitely mean the internet. The internet is quite the landfill for mass produced content.
@@deadreckoning6288 Younguns think cowboys came from the Mojave wasteland in the game Fallout: New Vegas
You’re from a city somewhere , Men are like him where I’m from. I watch because Im reminded of the men I know. You should find a place where men are like this also my friend.
Being a 23 yr old with no parents this rlly helps me, you’re like my dad if he lived long enough 😢
Keep going brother! Everything is going to be okay! 🙏🏻
Brother, just know that having no parents is better than having evil parents. The Holy Father, His Son and the Holy Ghost comforter and helper can fill in the gap miraculously👍 even though alone I have never been alone..
feel you brother. My pops passed away when i was 12 to cancer. Was super close to him and looked up to him. After that life completely changed.. Men definitely need a father in their life.
Aww dear. Believe me you'll the stronger and learn everything before you get old. Love and blessings from a mom of two ❤
God bless you 🇦🇺
Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Thank you Jesus. Glory to God.
🔥🙌🏻
Amein!
Amen
I really needed to hear this. I just entered into my senior year of college, but my engagement was broken off right before the semester started. Finding out she was cheating on me, calling off the engagement and then having to change my focus toward school and keep up with my grades has been exhausting. I’ve been pushing myself and so this really helped lift my spirits today. Thank you, Dewayne.
Edit: I didn’t expect so many kind and supportive comments! Thank you to all of you who have offered encouragement; I know the Lord will use this for His purpose, and I know I’m on a much better road for my own future. God bless all of you!
I wish you much luck, my friend, and things always get better in due time. Time has a funny way of healing a lot of things!😁🙏
You're gonna be alright, bud-keep on keepin' on :)
The revelation of the infidelity could be God working to send you on the path He chose for you. Us dumb humans need to be shown the way sometimes. Stay strong, my friend, there is a light at the end of the darkness, and it's beautiful.
Never stop becoming better❤ you got this brother
Hang in there. Everything works out for the best!
My missus suffered a neurological injury some years ago. Seeing her deteriorate, especially over the last five or six years has not been easy. She finally passed away this afternoon. No more suffering for her. Now she can rest.
I hope I get to rest too. It's been difficult.
Sorry for your lost wishing the best for you in your healing, she had a great person to take care of her that’s rare nowadays.
Thank you both.
Sorry for your loss , hugs .
@@bigmama818 Thank you x.
I love you man, I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you. You’re a very strong individual.
no studio, no mics, no edit, no graphics, no crew, no script.. a million views.
is that a problerm?
@@twfaucet 🤣🤣
real content this man
this is how it should be
wtf u talkin bout? he has a green screen behind him and a mic clipped to his jacket.
I’m a 16 year old girl. My father isn’t very present in my life- but whenever I speak with him he has some wisdom to offer me. It’s nice to hear another person give me wisdom whenever I need it when he’s not available.
Lucky to have a father my father isn’t even in my life
@@kashemvai5025bro don’t be weird, she’s 16!
@@williamGabino-r9xthere are other people, you can talk to them. Ur not alone…
I apologize on behalf of these weird comments 😂😂😂 being 15 myself I can tell that this is weird on a different level 😂😂😂
Here's some actual advice. Protect yourself. Don't volunteer information, and remember that what goes on the Internet will often be there forever, by archivers, scrapers, and creeps. Stay safe.
You're a global treasure, Dewayne. Thank you for your messages and vulnerability - it's making a difference. Enjoy the wedding and your trip, safe travels.
Earth isnt a globe my guy
@@Level_No_Curve You are a fool not worth arguing with or you're a real convincing jokester
@@Level_No_Curve 😂😂🤣🤣
@lacidrainl5192 i didnt know making a statement was now considered arguing
@@lacidrainl5192 just dropping little truth nuggets get over it
"Don’t wear yourself out to the point that you’re no good to anybody, including yourself." I really needed to hear this. My health took a sudden turn for the worse after many months of high stress. But I am finally taking my rest now. ❤
Same
we need to rest, then, stay strong man
'Vacation doesn't mean entertainment" Vacation = Vacate from the stress.
Golden advice!!! 🙌❤️ New subscriber Sir!
Oh God truer words could not have been spoken. 😉
My partner was talking about wanting a vacation, and I couldn't quite understand what they meant. This clicked and sounds like what they were trying to get across.
I'd love to share a bottle of good stuff with this dude.
Would you?
YES I DO@@Rylanor_The_Unyielding_31
@@Rylanor_The_Unyielding_31 yeah. I mean, I believe him don't you? I would too. Maybe a nice Colonel Taylor Bourbon
@@Original-Juiceor the classic Jameson Whiskey
I often wonder what dewaynes take on alcohol is
There is something very comforting about this man's speech.
I need him to read to me when I sleep.
Nothing better than driving through the Arizona desert back to California and listening to this man speak. He’s an absolute gem. There’s not that many around anymore so enjoy it while you can.
Let's become the next
@@FilmsByDan Exactly. I hope I and many others can become good leaders and offer wisdom to those who come after us.
love that drive
Miss Arizona 😢
Hope your windows are down! It's that time of year in AZ!
This man could read the back of shampoo bottles and it would still relax me.
Ok why do I want this now? 😂
lmao, this made me chuckle. but now I need rest.
Yeah, some people need the sound of rain, the ocean, even silence to relax, but yeah his voice and words does it for me.
Truth!
I learned that I needed a rest. Had a mental break working corrections the last few years. Ended up in a psych ward for a week.
I was so damn tired. The last few years hit me like a train. The first day, I just slept.
I was putting off my own health. This man is right. Sometimes, we honestly just need to rest and talk to someone.
Stay safe everyone.
Know that feeling very, very well - Same job and same result - Push on brother
@DonatedJacob I am. After that week, I was doing a lot better. Ended up leaving the job.
If you're still there, good luck man. Hope it goes better here on out.
@@theprussian4616 I got out too bro, 6 years plus 2 SAR, ready for a lifetime living in a jungle here in AUS. Take care and all the best man!
he has the best voice ever.
smooth like a top shelf bourbon.
As a 28 year old woman who has been on her own her entire life, thank you. I needed to hear this in this specific way.
Don't be alone I'm 28 year also and alone
Me too I’m alone since I’m 16
1995 was a great year because the 3 of us were born.
@@TheDennys21we were born in 1666
We got this shit❤
I hope this guy knows that so many people connect with him because he's a father figure for those who never got the chance to have these moments with their fathers. The advice he gives is pure wisdom and it's super relaxing. Just everything this guy embodies is pure experience and wisdom. I completely understand why he fills that void for so many people.
hes like a grandpa for me. i was close to my grandpa but he was long gone before i got old enough for shit to be rough and need that old man wisdom
Your comment is so on point. Thank you 🙏🏼
@@paulswanson1794 I also have the same experience with my grandfather who passed in 2014. I was 13 at the time and never got to really talk to him as an adult which makes me sad. I really want to just talk to him now about how he dealt with stuff and advice he could give me. I often wonder what he’d say about something that I’m going through or what his advice would be. He was always in a good mood, and cracked me and my siblings up when he got the chance. I always try to see the good in everything like he did. It’s just hard sometimes, but he’s always in my heart and when you know someone who was that father figure or mentor to you, you take what they taught you and try to honor their memory by seeing the world how they saw it. At least, that’s what I try to do.
@@paulswanson1794 and I’m not gonna lie, reading that made me tear up a good bit. It’s bittersweet thinking of my grandpa. Only good times with him. He was my world.
I'm not weak, I'm just exhausted. I've been pushing myself way too hard, taking on more than I should. This talk was not the advice I wanted but it's exactly the advice I needed. Thank you and thank God for sending you.
Rest, that’s the word for me. I thought it was depression but now I see. I’m just a human who needs to better realise my limitations. Good word, Rest!.
if youre familiar with Jim Carry, i seen a video of him on depression and he points out to recognized that depressed=deep rest and its your body telling yourself to rest. i thought it was interesting, but watching this video, it kinda clicked for me. i feel your exhaustion though, goodluck through your journey !!
I don't know what constellation of events happened in my live that I need a strangers permission to rest but man, I needed this. Thanks so much.
Be careful on your trip Dewayne. Rest up. Most of us enjoy these talks sir.
Quiggly wants in the video
Wow Dwayne, just wow!! Im a 52 year old carpenter that burns the candle at both ends. I recently had severe back problems that laid me up at home in absolute agony. Ive run the gamete between praying for healing to yelling at God for this aweful experience. Ive found very little comfort in several days but this chat from Dwayne certainly made this day a little better and i def needed to hear this. My daughters have told me this very thing although in dif words haha, i believe God speaks to many about many topics, through many people. Thank you Lord and thank you to my favorite cowboy of common sense for speaking these words today, they were strongly needed! God bless you and yours Dwayne and to anyone who reads this.
I can relate 60 years old hit by a car on a motorcycle,, kind of worried I may not be able to weld over head./ may never work again . My day was better from Dwayne’s video and seeing your comment..Stay strong better days ahead
This is for you folks who injured your back.
Some background: I’m a personal trainer (32) with background working alongside physical therapists and chiropractors. Now pursuing firefighting full time.
Some years ago I injured my knee and back. Bulging and herniated discs in my lumbar.
What’s helped me, aside from good nutrition, is the following:
• ATG Coaching (by Ben “kneesovertoes” Patrick)
• deep tissue massage/myofascial release
• (Upper Cervical) Blair Technique practiced by certain chiropractors
I would strongly advise seeking these professionals. They’ve helped me tremendously.
Will check back with this comment if you have any questions. Happy to provide other resources and give back.
Same dude. Carpenter here too - back went on Sunday night took me 4 days to get back to work. Definitely a warning from the old body. Looking into a bit of morning yoga going forward before something goes snap permanently
Keep the faith...I had severe disabling back pain for years and the doctors had no solution other than pain meds. So I did my own research and found a new experimental surgical procedure. Only 2 doctors in my state would perform the surgery and I had to pay cash ($6K) as my insurance would not cover anything experimental. When I awoke from the surgery, the doctor asked me to stand up, and the pain was gone. Miracles DO happen!
Been dealing with back problems all my life doing physical jobs. Tried everything and have found that the primary cause is emotional stress and anxiety. It’s really weird. When you’re all pent up from stress, at least for me, it manifests physically in the hips and lower back. Worrying about money, relationships, the future. It builds up. Doing basic yoga/ full body stretching, and back stretching twice daily when things flare up pretty much fixes it. Till another bout of stress comes along.
Listen to DeWayne. Relax, take care of YOURSELF. Cause you ain’t gonna be no good to nobody if you’re not taking care of yourself. And if other people or circumstances aren’t in line with that? Well…. That’s the problem.
This came at a perfect time. 2023 has been non-stop stress for me; went from stressing about completing my dissertation straight into stressing about living situation, employment, personal finances... lots of stuff still to be sorted out, and I catch myself wondering for how long I need to be "patient". It's really difficult to be "patient" when the stress reaches a level where it prohibits me from being functional. :(
I love this so much! I was an opioid abuser for 10 years, from lorotab to heroin. I was thinking they were helping me get by... But they were actually causing my exhaustion. I'm proud to say I'm 6 months & 14 days clean.
Because I rested & recovered for 4 of those months, I've had a smooth rehabilitation since the first month. Spirituality has played a huge part in that. God bless y'all 🙏
I wish I had the time to rest… even after surgery I have to work, do the housework, grind to get ahead at all… no time to quit. And no means to God… some people do not have that organ. I’ll sleep when I die
@@jamesaydelotte8666 my brother, sometimes grinding to get ahead means taking a good rest and minimalizing housework to do
@@jamesaydelotte8666that’s the scam of life really, some people are born to keep it running while others enjoy themselves, almost like how some animals exist to be a food source, occasionally people break through but most often they break down
Don't even know ya, but I'm SO damn proud of you! Good shit man. Keep fighting the good fight everyone.
Wishing you a great rest of your life. God bless you, too.
Man, you are like the dad I never had. Appreciate your help.
Wise words. I am there as we speak. I had to tell someone my well is dry and therefore I have nothing to give at the moment. I am also recovering from a stroke. So I am resting in every way. Thank you for these pearls of wisdom.
Waiting on my wife to go in labor with our first baby and son. Just here listing enjoying the calm before the storm trying to be logical and reasonable thanks Dwayne!
god bless
It will be pretty hectic for a couple of years at least, but before long, you won't know how to live without em. Goodluck bro.
Enjoy this new season of life; they will be grown before you know it.
Congratulations!!! Welcome to the best job you’ll ever have.
I remember with my first I was scared to death and I wondered how I would ever be a dad. Four years later and another on the way I wouldn’t trade it for anything! Congratulations and best of luck to you!
You always seem to know exactly what we need to hear, when we need to hear it.
Thanks, once again.
Thank you once again Dwayne
I just took 4 months off of trucking and now I look 20 years younger and I don't hate people anymore. This is the best advice ever!
What a calm, rich, soothing voice you have. And delivering the exact message I needed after more than 36 hours awake because of insomnia. Thank you thank you. I think maybe I can rest now.
Life is hard no matter what you do. Taking a rest is necessary or a person will fall down (like you said). My son encouraged me to “take a sabbath” on Sunday afternoons. I’ve come to love my sundays!
Just when it’s darkest the sun does come up ❤
Lost my parents about a year ago and these videos are helping a lot
The love of my life has been battling a life threatening medical condition, my best friend of 15 years just died, I moved across the country, I started working an amazing career, my living situation has been flipped entirely upside-down.
I am taking 3 weeks off starting the end of this week. NO plans. I just need time to breathe. This video came at the perfect time for me. Thank you.
Wow...my wife is getting a portal for chemotherapy Monday. We've been fighting this for 12 years now. We are just taking it day by day now. It`s hard but we believe in God and his help. What are you doing to help with your situation?
Praying for you both.
"resting does not mean entertainment" thats a good one for me 👍🏻🙋🏻♂️
I wish I could've heard this six months or so ago. It is impressive how easy an stranger can shape your worldviews with advice and wisdom. Best wishes to you and your family
It’s autumn too. The days are getting shorter. We are creatures of nature. It has a strong affect on us. Fall and winter are times for introspection and quietness. My sister gets anxious at this time of year. Then some of us are like bears. We need to hibernate and just hang out somewhere and “be”, without all the distractions of being busy and sociable all the time. Rest well my friend! Now go hibernate. 🐻
As an introvert I think I understand why fall and winter are my favorite seasons. Less pressure and I can just be me 😂
Yeah, I just like to be on my own during winter too but never realized it before...
Simple yet very natural and wise advice. We're complex animals afterall. The problem is that rest isn't popular with employers nor the general society. It's almost a battle to just get to the point of being able to rest. What a web we have woven
Employers won't be around for Long. Give it 5-10 years and we'll all be vagabonds or staying put protecting our homes. The system Is going to snap soon.
❤❤❤
I think the best vacations are spent at homes catching up and resting.
I don't believe in fate too often but my RUclips feed is filled with video game things, podcasts, photography channels(I like cameras), and various other things. I've never seen this man or channel in my life, nor has any Wrangler school shown up on my feed.
I've been having a hell of a time in life currently with work, my living situation, my spouse, etc. This popped up today randomly in my suggested videos and I decided to check it out. Really nice to listen to some wisdom from someone as I don't have anyone to listen to about it really. So thank you, kind stranger on the internet. Maybe I'll come back to check out your other videos and enjoy your great beard.
I second this. Just popped up today when I am absolutely mentally, emotionally exhausted. Thanks, universe and thanks bearded man with the best voice ever. Imagine a guided meditation to his voice…that’d be transcendental probably.
Working 12 to 16 hours a day, 13 days on with one day off… dealing with engineers, planners, field execution, and everything in between… I feel exactly how you described in this video.
I needed this. Thank you, and God bless.
Yeeeeeeeah I just hit the wall good lord I’m DEAD
Working in a manufacturing field as well. Overworked, overtired, and more overtime as a Christmas gift, gee thanks... I'm a shop worker doing mostly manual physical labor, struggling to meet the demand of fabricators who all have fancy machines that quadrupled their production limits. No one has to work this job, it pays good for entry-level manufacturing work, but we DO have to rest. Too bad our bosses in the office can't see it and can only ask how much more overtime we can work. 12 hour days here as well.
Are you a site land surveyor BERT!?
@@joaosousa258 no, I’m supervisor over our pipe and structural drafting and design department.
That’s a fucked schedule
I am so overwhelmed right now. Like so many of us. I can’t believe I bumped into this. I will forever be thankful to the universe for putting Dewayne in front of my path. Cause I needed to stop.
And rest.
Thank you sir.
And I hope everyone else out there that is in the same position finds time to rest. Vacate.
This was the exact advice I was needing right now. I’ve been super burnt out recently but I wouldn’t allow myself time to rest because I’d be putting so much pressure on myself to do this or that
Likewise my friend. You take the time that you need!
Sweet soul. Life consists of seasons. God even gave the earth winter so she could collect her thoughts and count the stars...simply look up and let the heavens sing to you a while. Then, come back with new songs in your soul and sing them again on the trail. YOU GOT THIS cowboy! God bless...Xox
Arthur Morgan your a good man!!!!
I really needed to hear it. I’m exhausted and a nap won’t fix it. I feel like all I’m allowed to do is exhaust myself to please others and I feel guilty to take a minute for myself. I just want to sit on my porch and know it’s okay that I’m just sitting there. Thanks sir.
I feel the same way. I need to learn that it's ok to rest and not feel lazy.
Me too
I love this man, the father I never had
Is he having trouble finding that milk?😂
@@Nick-gh5bii bet he’s having fun with yo mommas milk
@monkeyhandler420 can't blame him. It goes so good with Lucky Charms 😋
@@Nick-gh5biNo one finds you amusing
@@DeletedUser14790 boring 😴
Just a good man. Thank you for the wisdom
This year has been constant loss for me. Whether it be loss of people in my life or losing opportunities due to my own weakness. Even as recent as last night. Needless to say, words cannot express how my I appreciate just listening to your wisdom Dewayne. For this video and all the previous ones you've made throughout this year alone. God bless, brother.
28 year big city fire fighter here. I am trying to make it to the end and I needed to hear this. Thank you sir, I’m taking a break. I’m learning it’s ok to rest.
Well, I've never seen this channel before but here you are and boy did God/Spirit/Universe deliver the message!
I'm a single mum of 3 primary kids. Worked today for my 42nd birthday with a sore back that made my legs hard to use, and then tried to be present for cake and presents. Boy did those photos show how bone tired i am! I look 82! Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually I'm unable to do more, but there is always more to do. But this afternoon I'm in bed at 5pm after making myself a good dinner. The kids are out for a few hours with their dad so I'll turn my phone off and try not to even talk to God. I'm spirituality tired too. God understands.
Thank you ❤
Also rest in the Lord. Definitely needed to hear this. Thank you sir.
I feel like my own grandpa is speaking to me and telling me exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
NICE WORDS OF WISDOM THANK YOU SIR 🙏🏽❤🤠😊
I’ve dealt with trauma and mental illness my entire life. With that comes an exhaustion that’s always theres in the background. And needing 10x more rest than the average person. Its hard to push myself out of bed. I appreciate this video.. makes me know that I need to keep taking a step at a time.
Freeze response from CPTSD
One day at a time, be gentle with yourself
When my mind is fcked up i listen to dwayne thanks dwayne May God bless you more
Amen. Sometimes fatigue catches up with us and wrestles us into a state of limbo to where we realize its grip on us and then patiently wait it out until it loosens us back up again. Love this gentleman's insights to what he needs to bring up with so many of us running the race. 😊
Seriously great timing. I appreciate this. I just quit a career I was in for 10 years and have been feeling major anxiety. Im working on my transition to a new career field and took the leap of faith, taking a gamble on myself. I’ve been feeling anxious, not depressed or inadequate but just massive nerves lately.
This helped calm me a bit just to focus and breathe. I appreciate you.
I’m doing the same thing as you brother. It’s a process and the results will be great at the end of the day.
You can do anything you set your mind too, belive in you.
Deep breaths and you are brave to make such a big transition. God is with you. He will never leave you or forsake you no matter what.
Right there with you I'm in the same boat. Easier said than done but I find myself easing up when I remember to stop thinking ahead and start doing now. Take it as it comes and we'll get there together 💪
Congratulations, that’s exciting! Honouring the anxiety is definitely a part of the process, but please keep in mind that the anxiety you are feeling is nada in comparison to the anxiety you’d feel staying in a career that you weren’t passionate about anymore. It’s freedom anxiety, but the key word is freedom!! Do not forget this, you are brave and courageous for your decision making!! Wishing you the best of luck! 🥂🥳
You ever see a face that you can just tell has an amazing voice before they even speak a word.
This man is a National Treasure 🤙🏾🖤
Not a national , world treasure
@@Algorithm347indeed a world treasure. He is true wisdom. I wish I could meet him in person.
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I completely agree. I think this is why statuatory holiday periods are important, everyone needs rest.
I just had a hard December, decided to take a trip to Idaho with the family (of all places), a long train ride there to really take some time to unwind, read, reflect. It's set me back to neutral, and I now I listen to this. It just confirms, no matter what happens take some time for your self to reassess, and keep on going. It's never going to get easy but use those resting moments and realize that your becoming a better version of yourself, everytime. I'm glad I can come to this channel and have some reassurance. Just rest and then power through.
You are a blessing from God, exactly what I needed to hear
Amen
Fuckin love this man. Been feeling mentally exhausted for a long time. Stumbling. Making mistakes. Been unemployed the past couple weeks, and there’s pressure to get back to working and paying bills, etc. And while exactly what you say is true, you cannot rest for too long, I feel like I’m in a period of needing to rest, and my cousin told me that I should not rush into anything and take my time. And I really appreciated that, and how he just met me where I was at, and encouraged me in that way. I know everyone is on my team even the ones I feel pressure from, including myself in feeling like I’m running out of time and that I have to have shit figured out, which is really just a false pressure imposed by modernity. But it just feels good to see this as well and know that I am the one walking in my shoes and when it feels exhausting you gotta rest.
Still unemployed. Gotta find something soon, been staying up way to late (like 8am late) and I’ve definitely been “just resting” for too long now I guess.
@@MasterNinjaXzYou should exercise if you’re unemployed so at least ur moving 😂
Thank you Dwayne. Been tuning in lately for great truths
Thank you sir for your wisdom and vulnerability!!!
That special feeling you get when you hear advice that you didn't know you really needed hear. Pretty powerful and I really appreciate it. Enjoy your vacation.
I love enjoying my cigar and listening. Especially with coffee. Thank you for your words.
Thank you for this video. My father passed away over the summer and I've felt so lost and tired since. I also just started college up again and can't tell you how exhausted I feel after everyday. I try to let myself enjoy the free time I have and not worry about things I have to do the next day, but sometimes it's just too much. These videos help a lot, thanks
Sorry for your loss :( I know how you feel, I’m in graduate school and my mother passed away. It’s tough! Mindfulness works for me, you should try, sometimes I watch stand-up comedy or funny movies too.
all i can say is try and respect yourself. i lost a parent a few years ago but i remember that i let myself feel the pain when it was an appropriate time (not out in public or in the midst of a task, for me) and reminded myself that my parent would want me to find things that i enjoy or appreciate.
you're not gonna feel happy, not in the same way and probably not for a little while, but i want you to know that'll come back. you learn to integrate the grief into you. it tells you how much you cared about them and serves as a reminder for such. i like to tell myself that we're built to endure grief because we're built to love people.
i'm not sure when the lost feeling goes away. it hasn't really left me but i also think a lot of us feel a bit lost trying to navigate life. hope you can get a little bit of direction; it can be as simple as planning what you'd like to cook or buy to eat for the week
You got this brother. We all are praying for peace of mind.
It's a relief if you are with someone who understands you when you need to have a rest.
It is beneficial for me and for him.
Hey everyone, first of all i want to thank Dwayne for his video, it really struck a chord with me. I've been dealing with a deep-seated fear of talking to people for a while now, a overwhelming anxiety that creeps in every time I have to engage in conversations. In addition to this fear, I took a wrong turn in my early twenties and got involved in crimes, people who didn't deserve it got hurt. It's left me with a heavy heart and a profound sense of guilt. Life in your twenties, fresh out of high school, attending college, can be incredibly confusing, especially when you're lost and unsure of your purpose. I've also suffered significant losses along the way, including some close friends, my girlfriend of six years, and even my beloved grandmother. It feels like life has thrown me into a whirlwind of uncertainty and pain. Today, I'm still on the journey to find some semblance of happiness amidst the struggles. I won't sugarcoat it; I still suffer a lot. I have sleepless nights, barely eat, and find it challenging to enjoy life. But recently, I discovered Dwayne's videos, and they've become a ray of hope for me.
When I head to school, instead of being overwhelmed by stress, I tune in to Dwayne's videos, and they work like a soothing balm. His words resonate with me and make a lot of sense. They provide me with a moment of calm in the storm of my daily life.
I really wanted to share my experience to let others know that even in the darkest of times, there are sources of inspiration and comfort out there.Thanks to Dwayne and his positive messages, I'm finding the strength to keep moving forward, even when it feels like the world is upside down. So i hope everybody and their family are fine, i hope Dwayne here is fine and his family is alright and wish you all the best. God Bless you all.
You are strong you can do it ❤
One step at a time, take it easy on yourself. We all make mistakes and fall down in life, what matters is that you get back up ❤
I believe ❤
God bless you
Thanks for sharing what's happening to you. I know this sentence is said a lot but "strength comes with the darker times". Wish you the best
It’s truly amazing how something will show up when you least expect it and it hits deep in your soul. Thank you sir for sharing wisdom.
I love you, this reached me when I was thinking of having a break, but didn’t want to do it since I would feel guilty. Sometimes you gotta take a step back, and take a break. Truly.
Right!!!! My vacations are never vacations. I had the idea of restoring and then restarting but I get talked out of it. And that's only because they want what they want and I always give in!!! It stops now!!! Thank you ❤
Perfect Timing. I’ve been exhausted for a long time and to hear your message and the depth of meaning, I will begin to REST
I used to run a small business by myself, just an online store. I’d hand make everything by myself and while I loved it so much, it was utterly exhausting doing that outside of my full time job. After years of dealing with the workload and some truly awful people I decided to take a break. Here I am two years later and have been hesitant to end my “break”, but after watching this I think I’m going to get back on that horse and get back to doing what I enjoy 😊 Thank you for all your wisdom and positivity!
I think this one’s Banksy’s quote: “if you tired don’t quit, learn how to rest” read it somewhere years ago and I regularly think about it still.
I just turned 47 last month. I'm out of shape, but I've been trying to get on my bike more. This last Saturday, a brisk pace for 30 minutes ended with me nearly dying(so I thought😂). I got home and lay on the bed, expecting to die right there. After about 20 minutes, I shakily got up and showered. I didn't die! It's Monday and here I am battling depression, anxiety, high BP..... Am I going to quit trying to get better? No, I'm going to put my head down, chuck out the fear of death and push myself into the hurricane.
Keep your head up, hopefully there is something exciting to pick you up. Blessings 🙏 Surrender is huge, but can only really do that with faith in source.
Some quotes to help you get through 💪🙏:
Friedrich Nietzsche: “To live is to suffer; to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.”
Frederick Douglass: “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”
John Milton: “Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”
Thomas Paine: “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble that can gather strength from distress and grow.”
Thank you sir. I make my living as a paramedic. I tried to be a horseman for a while but, apparently God didn't have that life in store for me. I am also a Volunteer firefighter.
I love helping people but, it takes its toll. I have been in Fire/EMS in some form or another since 1994. I have seen alot of people die in alot of different ways. I have helped alot of people live through some of the worst medical and
Traumatic emergencies of their lives. Strange thing is, I didn't plan on this life. It was never my dream job to become a paramedic yet here I am.
I guess I tell you and those reading this that we all have stress in our work, even what others may view as exceptionally noble or adventurous work. There is a saying, "all that glitters is not gold". The Lord knows that we will have trials in our lives. These trials are part of the fallen world, but they are also the furnace that purifies us.
So, just as God rested on the 7th day after creating the world. We need to rest from our work.
Thank you, Dwayne, for reminding us all of this.
God bless you and yours, sir!
You’re doing good work, sir! Thank you!
Exactly. Everytime I feel in a funk, Im exhausted. In the past, Id always fight the funk and kept going until I broke. (i wasnt a good father or husband during those times) I never knew I was exhausted (mental and physical and everything inbetween). It took me a couple dacades to get the wisdom to realize I need a rest, and that its not weak to take a rest. Rest is not a boulder in the journey, rest is part of the journey.
Love the videos.
One thing I have had to grapple with and gain acceptance in is letting go of the guilt of resting. A lot of people who are hardworking will find a dissonance with rest and the seeming need for productivity. Often, I would find myself feeling less rested than the day before, because I would get so stressed about what I “Should be doing” that I could not just relax and enjoy my day of rest.
Since then I have been able to find a healthy balance and this has let me take much more meaningful rest periods that actually leave me feeling good and excited to come back to the journey of life.
Thanks for this Dwayne
I felt that too. If I didn't have a hobby or passion I would go crazy and drink and eat myself into a stupor. Now I understand resting and doing nothing is good, it helps your brain to re-organize itself.
I love watching and listening to this man. He is a goldmine of life - sustaining wisdom ! - Steve G.
Your voice is soo soothing I just played this for my 103yr old client and it made her peaceful 😅.. she's clearly soothed by your voice and story telling ❤
Do try John Butler as well, great voice
God bless you, Dewayne. Always enjoy your words of wisdom. Praying you rest well in Idaho, and the wedding in Kentucky goes well. It's a beautiful state!
Thank You, Love You, God Bless You!
This video couldn't have come at a better time.
Thank you for your wisdom and insight sir.
The last time I had a couple of weeks with family and nothing required of me was 2011, and in some areas, I am exhausted. You are absolutely right about there being different types of exhausted, and how you rest needs to suit the kind of exhaust you're feeling. COVID had me at home all day every day with about 30 min total online at home, and believe me, staying home was no help because the stress was mental and emotional. (several people I was in touch with were very agitated all day every day).
I see the effects that having a good rest produce in other people, and I think a rest would be very welcome and do a lot of good.
Dwayne, you do have that rest. It will help and restore you.
What I will do from time to time is "vegetate". Vegetables usually don't look like they're doing anything, they're just sitting there.. but a week later, you can see they did make some progress in what they needed to do. I just sit there all day, or for 2 days, vegetating, and in time, things will start to get done again. Vegetate. Sit and bing-watch a TV series on the PC. Or find a coffee shop that doesn't mind, and sit there and read a book from cover to cover. Go out and sit in the woods.
You’re like the Dad or Uncle I need and don’t have. Thank you.
Thank you Sir. I’ve been blessed to have been raised by parents who’re quite similar to you and Mrs Dewayne. My father grew up in South America and was a ranch vet. But he never sat down, still doesn’t sit down. Thought me and my brother to never sit down. Until I was diagnosed with breastcancer. The cancer has been treated. Two years later I’m still resting. Catching up. Mentally, physically, spiritually. I learn about who I actually am and what my true purpose is, to what service I’m born. Finally there’s silence. I finally allow myself to rest. And in this silence I teach myself to accept, respect and be at service of the Inner Guidance I receive. So I finally learn to sing and perform professionally, after 25 years I study saxophone again, playing in a concert band already. I’ve auditioned for interesting, purposeful roles in films and tv series and always get the parts to my own surprise. It’s the being part of something greater with the goal of creating moments of value, beauty, connection, inspiration, encouragement, consolidation for people who connect with it.
I think that place of rest is always and already present and we can tap into it even when we fill overwhelmed by obligations. I'm certainly not an expert at this, but that feels true to me.
Great mediation for today. I hope Idaho is treating you well, sir.