This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.
@@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.
Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.
@@redrain-f6pmoment by moment. What can you do? What next action can you take, to see a bigger view, more spacious perspective on your life? Our brains lie sometimes. Not to minimize what you are going through…however to say, that we can make it through extraordinary circumstances. I have. I have come out on the other side many times and some of the worst times, propelled me towards my greatest purpose. You have a purpose…maybe you just can’t see it clearly yet. Can you contact anyone that can help? I wish you well 💫
@@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….
Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.
I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.
wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.
Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.
wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school
Man, that is the proof we all need to continue even when we are at the verge of despair. May God guide and bless you, kiddo! ❤ keep seeking the light, wonderful one!
"Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.
I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.
You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.
Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.
for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by @@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.
I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better
me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.
@Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.
Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir
Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..
Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.
Word! My so called father threw me out like garbage when I was quite young. I would have given anything to have a dad like Dewayne. No grandpa or grandma either. Those are huge holes in my life, and another devastating issue that comes along with all this is that my family just doesn’t understand how it has affected my life. It’s extremely hard to talk about so I just bury my feelings and try to learn from folks like Dewayne. Thanks man!
I'm struggling so hard to forgive myself. I felt emotionally hurt by my partner and so I emotionally hurt him, not on purpose, but as a result of my being upset-- that hurt him. And he broke up with me because of it. And I can't forgive myself. I wasn't loving enough, I wasn't caring enough, and I didn't realize how much I was lacking until he showed me the door. And I begged for him to let me prove to him how much I really understood now, what I needed to do. But he said it was too late. And I can't forgive myself for losing someone that was so precious to me. He was my entire world. People keep saying that I will meet someone else but I don't want anyone else, I just want him.
I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.
Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.
You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak. I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family. You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling. I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet. Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.
Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏
i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time
Me too. In the past, I let My anger take everything away from me cuz I lack control and I’m not a bad person. But I became prideful and completely lost my identity
I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault. I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that. Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.
I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this. Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.
My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.
Watching this from Russia. Kinda tough times we have here. These videos make me feel alive. Thank you, grandpa Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.
I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.
Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.
I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.
Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.
I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents
Hey man, I'm the same age same problem. About 7 months ago I missed work because I was still drunk and drinking the next morning. Puking. That was my moment for me, on my mom's floor, in my own throwup at 6am calling my boss. Now I tell you this, because 7 months later I don't drink, even when I crack a beer to enjoy with my meal. I can't finish it. Because, now I live on my own. Have a girlfriend who loves me, and a goof job making 8$ an hour more than I was before. I'm in control of my desires. It took a really tough spot to show me that I needed to stop. I hope seeing someone the same age come through it on top shows you that you can do it before a tragedy shows you you have to change. I believe in you brother. You got this
I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.
My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!
im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.
Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤
Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.
It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you
Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.
Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.
i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!
I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne
Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.
Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.
Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.
@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.
@@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.
How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!
I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic. I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed). I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.
Hi Dewayne, Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!
I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.
Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!
Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤
I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.
Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again
Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏
This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!
Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life. You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass. God loves you.
convinced me to get out and run. ran wayy more than I ever have before, 2.7 miles at a 10 min pace. Its not great but im so very proud of myself, I attribute a lot of it to your words.
I’m listening to your videos everyday now, they’ve helped me. I got on my knees and prayed to god to give me guidance , and you were the one he sent to me. Thank you for everything you do.
I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.
11:14 Gold! You're hurting and grieving, DeWayne, but you're "manning up" and moving on. I lost my father a bit over a year ago. I'll never be the man he (James "Jim" Lucas) was. He was my hero and I miss him dearly. Your wisdom and good nature is father like to me and much appreciated. I'm an adult but still learning and growing. I wish you and your family peace and all the best in this tough time. Your Dad must have been one awesome cowboy I'll bet!
Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.
As a woman, watching your videos helps me learn to be a better woman and helps me learn that a man is capable of being truthful, faithful, and strong in God. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to make these. You’re truly a blessing. ❤
There's plenty of men like Dwayne. They are humble humble and don't boast. Just keep on living the life. That's why many men young and old listen. A reminder of what's right
“Apologize to yourself” Damnit Dwayne you got me tearing up. I was an awful drunk and “apologized” so many times. But I had to get sober.. not just booze but my anger issues to. Taken me a long long time to apologize to myself.. it’s a good feeling I won’t lie. These days I really cherish every moment I have with my loved especially, especially my wife and daughter. Thanks again sir.
Dewayne…I needed this today. Thank you. My condolences for the lost of your father. You and your family will be in my prayers. Thank you for the encouraging words. This video was right on time.
Thank you. This saved me and really cleared my thoughts. Messed up. Admitted and after that she left me. I have been recovering since, it's been 6 months. Hardest times of my life so far. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. I'm taking it one day at a time. Trying to be a better man. Thanks again. Greetings from Finland.
And how are you doing now? It's been about 10 months at this point, yes? I hope you're healing, and I hope that you get a second chance with her one day.
One of the most helpful talks I've heard in my life. I've carried out owning my mistake to become a better, new self. I am never doing what I did again. I changed for me, and for everyone I care for. Forgiving myself and moving forward. God bless you. You've done so many of us a great service with your generous advice.
My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!
I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!
Hey Dwane. Your videos have made me into a better man and has helped me grow up. I’m sorry for your loss. No matter how strong a man is, the loss of a father brings anyone to tears
I’ve made my mistake, a moment of blindness n ignorance in the midst of grief and mess. No excuse I triggered somebody I love into not wanting me - understandably. I don’t know how to release that and move on, and forgive myself. I know it was a gross oversight on my part, I’m trying so hard to be a good person. Idk how to shake this weight. I’ve made my amends, I know I’m changing and I will learn this lesson. Thank you for this video. Thank you
I am 31 years old and I constantly messed up. I have lied about things I haven’t done to prove that I am a bad ass when I am not. I have done things I am definitely not proud of. I hate myself for being this way. I have tried plenty of times to change and go a different route but I always fall back into the same shti. I pray for forgiveness and guidance but I sometimes feel is not working. Anyways I have deleted all social media. I’m going to give myself 30 days. I’ll continue to work on forgiving myself and just do better. Hope for everyone’s success and happiness.
I know the feeling of what you’re going through. I’m in the same boat with not being honest to be something different or to be afraid of rejection. It’s a daily battle of forgiving yourself and to be a better person for yourself. Will pray for your journey and may God bring you through it. I lost the love of my life due to my lies. So I’m going to make it right with myself and be a better man and hopefully she can forgive me and hopefully we can get back together. If not then I know what I need to do moving forward for now on.
Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on. Much love brother, Johnny & Lauren
My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.
As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless
Got my first DWI, Im terrified, ashamed, and cant even begin to forgive myself. It was a terrible mistake and I thank God no one was hurt. I really needed this, thank you.
I really needed this right now… I think I ruined my marriage. My wife and I are talking about it later today. She’s my wife, my best friend, my everything and I hurt her. I hope we can settle it and move forward, but I’ll find out soon.. wish us luck everyone…
Hey man. I lost my girl of 5+ years last month because of hurtful things I’ve done in the distant past along with my refusal to change and improve my communication skills and listening. it’s been a lot of guilt, remorse, and sadness on my end. I feel as if I lost my soulmate and my best friend as well. I hope that conversation went well with your wife. Praying you guys figure it out
@@ggbooliano I'm on the same wave as you my friend, i'm praying for yous all! just know this isn't the end brothers, what's meant to be will be. GodBless
@@ggboolianoI'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
Dewayne, it means the world to have you back. I sure did miss these chats which enlighten, strengthen, and embolden me and probably many other viewers. You’re a much needed voice in this crazy world. Since I’ve starting watching your videos two years ago I’ve really undergone a great change in my morals, values and beliefs, making me prouder of the man I am today. But there’s room for improvement, pieces to be mended. Thanks for being the catalyst for this journey. I’ll keep you forever in my prayers. Nonetheless, as much as you help out us and others, always know that we’ll be waiting whenever you need to take some time off. I hope that as this channel grows, a feeling of “responsibility” for your viewers won’t overwhelm nor overshadow the importance of your very own life. Wishing you the best Dwayne! Cheers!
Hi Dewayne, I'm Ron. I feel like you're doing great things with your channel by offering up your wisdom for people. It's like you're giving people someone to talk to, which is a big deal. Anyways, I appreciate what you do. And I'm sorry for your loss. Take care. 👊🏻
you aren’t alone. I have made many mistakes in my relationship and one in the past. what matters is coming clean with honesty to those that we have affected with our mistakes. if we can’t be honest with others we can’t be honest with ourselves. I believe in you, You can do this! What matters is that you have your dignity and can hold your head high knowing you tried your hardest to make it right. that’s all we can do is try. I’m here if ya need anything, fr.
You’re not alone. Messed up in my last relationship, and now that I’ve gotten myself together, it’s too late to fix what was broken. That’s the hardest part. It could have been in my grasp if only I’d been a real man. But all things work together for the good of those who believe in Him. I needed a lesson. The chastisement is painful, but I know it’s needed. Thank God for the progression towards manhood.
So sorry to hear about your Pa, DeWayne. It’s never an easy time for even the most enlightened folks when loved ones move on. Please accept my sincerest prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. The bits I’ve learned about you leave no doubt that he was a fine man. 👊🏻
I didn't realize that this video was gonna start out like this, I lost my grandmother at 91 on the 28th. It's crazy how small the world is. Hopefully, I can learn something today when I get to watch this fully, but right now, life is busy, and now I'm missing my Nana. Appreciate all you do.
I've only watched a handful of your videos, and I know this might be late in saying this, and I do not know if you'll ever see or read this comment, but I sincerely wanted to say thank you for taking the time out of your day, especially with loss that had experienced to you shortly before making this, of which you have my deep condolences for; because you gave me a lot of perspective on things I have been dealing with. The way you approached it, and how you said it, resonated with me, for that, I truly thank you, and simply wish to express gratitude. By the way, a cigar highly reccomend is Perdomo, if you've never tried one, it's the first cigar I ever tried, and out of all the ones I've tried since then, it's my all time favorite. Keep on truckin', and God bless.
Hello from Brazil Dewayne... you have been helping me a lot with your videos. I'm 28 and about to get married and I have a lot of things to improve in order to become a better men. I've never had a strong family to guide me through this thing called "life" as a men. But to my future wife and kids I know that they will need a good men with them so thank you so much! Your advices are the best things to have and it is so easy to understand and only someone with such life experience can pass to generation to generation. Keep in mind that many things that you say here I will pass along to my children in the future. And to prove that you are a blessing for me its that since i've started to follow some of your advices my life keeps getting better and I am more confident with myself. My condolences to you regarding you father's passing. Thank you again!
Thank you, brother. I've been torturing myself for years over the past. I felt like I couldn't move on anymore. I was unforgivable. Your words gave me what I needed. I can't change it, but I CAN move on. That's what'll help me survive to see a better tomorrow. Will it be a better tomorrow? I used to think not, but with the past behind me, all I see is hope in my future, finally. Bless you, my friend. May God watch over you during this really tough time. Stay strong. You're needed in this world, brother 🙏
I'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.
So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)
You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.
I made too many mistakes and I lost her... forever. I then made even more mistakes that pushed her away. I sabotaged a 12-year relationship and although she's moved on, and I've 'moved on' from her as it's been almost 5 months, I am having a hard time forgiving myself. I realize if I do kill myself, the only ones I'm hurting are my family, while she may be sad, she'll move on as she has done. She's no longer her... and it was all my fault, i feel like i 'murdered' my wife. NEVER EVER LISTEN TO FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS. YOU AND HER ONLY.
I just saw a screenshot of this video on an IG page and wanted to watch the full version, and here I am. I'm sincerely sorry for your loss and I really liked your words about your father. I hope I have a child like you that will say those great words when I passed away. I've to say that your father is a very very lucky man to have a kid like you, sir. I can't even imagine how proud he is of your words... And the whole video impressed me a lot, I was in a tough period in my life, you encouraged me in a very best time. Greetings from Turkey, I hope all the beauties find you :)
Thank you for this. I tried to justify hiding cheating and finally did the right thing and told her. We are no longer together and that is the best thing for both of us. If you're in my situation, I'd recommend owning it and taking it as a sign to be better. I'm working on not dwelling on memories and good times because that's unnecessary pain. Its my fault, but I don't want to make myself suffer further. Time will heal and being honest allowed that process to start. Hope you all are well too.
@@gageparent9189 it's been about 2 weeks now and being secure and focused while feeling alone at times is getting more consistent for me. Handling the feeling and settling back into the groove of truly focusing on myself, my family and friends. Best to you man
@@connorm.6253 honestly bro go get outside, hit up your old friends, go get a haircut, figure out what your goals are bro, and don’t worry about girls right now, times will be tough, sit and cry until you can’t anymore, then pick yourself up and move on, you gotta become a better man to have a chance of getting her back , as long as you’re doing the right things you’ll feel good man, it’s been hard I feel that but journaling, lots of exercise, sleep, and staying off my phone some has been making this a lot better
@@connorm.6253 bro focus on all the stuff you knew in your gut wasn't right about her and the overall situation. Its has helped me to focus on the real negatives. Going no contact and really moving on has been the move
You’re one awesome person with great advice. I raised two boys of my own, and they turned out to be really good men. I think it’s great that you’re reaching out to these young men and women who may not have the parental support or parents in their lives. Thank you for what you do. You are a Godsend, in a decaying and moral less society.
This video has essentially been my Mantra for last week. I've never been a relegious person. However, after some critical mistakes I've made, and sybsequesntly finding your channel, my interest has been peaked. I've picked myself up a Jefferson bible as a gentle entry on my journey. Thanks, Dwayne.
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists" Thank you for this.
This could be taken out of context and sounds like we shouldnt grief.
@@hwanniggles187 don't take it out of context. It only gets worse if you don't move on.
Huge!
@@hwanniggles187 why would you take it out of context if the context is there?
@@hwanniggles187 I don't think you understand what he is meaning.
This man probably hurting so bad right now, put all his business aside to heal but still takes the time to send a message to help people who not only aren't going through as much as he is right now but also are going through things that are our own fault. Nothing but respect for you.
You know he makes money on this, right? lol
@@Mrgolfboy24so? He could've talked about his own pain. He didn't tho
@@Mrgolfboy24 you know this isn’t his only source of income right? Original comment still stands. He didn’t need to do this but he did, it’s respectable.
@@Mrgolfboy24 bahahahahaha fair point but I stand by what I said
@@mikeknipp8045 Hehe, fair enough :)
Hey Dewayne, I’m a 21 guy in college, feeling lost. Your videos have been a source of support, guidance, and assurance for me. Thank you for all that you do.
Lost how you've got your whole life ahead of you keep your chin up 😉
time to become a real man. Welcome zo the tribe my son
College is not for everyone - maybe try something more practical. Try various jobs if necessary, find out what you like.
go talk to the guidance counselor regarding school issues so you dont waste time getting something that isnt fitting for you
I have a feeling you're going to turn out just fine.
There is no age limits to this advice. I’m 51 and it is exactly what I needed to hear today.
45 and same here. May God bless us all . Thanks for your knowledge and kind words . Very helpful
I’m 19 years old and this man speaks through me. What a beautiful sane soul.
I hope i dont have to live till 51 omg. Im 29 and suffering in poverty. I wish i go to heaven today so god will..
@@redrain-f6pmoment by moment.
What can you do?
What next action can you take, to see a bigger view, more spacious perspective on your life?
Our brains lie sometimes.
Not to minimize what you are going through…however to say, that we can make it through extraordinary circumstances. I have.
I have come out on the other side many times and some of the worst times, propelled me towards my greatest purpose.
You have a purpose…maybe you just can’t see it clearly yet.
Can you contact anyone that can help?
I wish you well 💫
You are right, I am 254 and still needed that
As a former police officer and a pastor…I can’t thank you enough for this.
I messed up. Bad. Forgiving myself is a daily battle.
Everyone messes up. What you do after identifying it as a mess up is what defines you from that point on.
what did you do
@@brunogallego7507bro that’s what I want to know. Cause he was a pastor
Likewise but We can do all things thru Him who strengthens us✝️
@@joesdocsmaybe thats why he is aware of it. Being convicted of out past can be a good thing but like Duane says. Have the damm funeral and burry it. Thats what Im gonna do. Wanna know what I did? What dint I do….
Hey Dewayne, I'm a 16 year old porn addict and I've been that way ever since I was 8 years old. The last couple of months, I've been feeling kind of lost in life. Your videos really help me get into better mental shape, including this one. This video made me realise that I should own my mistake of letting myself get addicted and that I should own the mistake I made in order for me to be able to overcome this addiction. May your father rest easily, for he made you into a great man. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am forever grateful for the guidance you give to me.
I really pray that you can find help thru Jesus Christ..porn had me too for a long time as a grown man. It will mentally & physically affect you in a very bad way. Please resist at all times.
wow. that's impressive you're willing to admit that. Hopefully you got the help that you needed. I would imagine you are a leg up on your peers, you will all discover that alcohol and drugs will be around you soon if not already. If you ever start indulging in those things, remember what you've been through to fight addiction. it can hold true against other crutches. Good luck to you young man.
Much respect to you, I know that this is a hard one to acknowledge, even to oneself. I hope you will get new interests, something to pour yourself into, unapologetically. I was from 11 until 20, starting university. In many ways there's another world, that at least I can't blame myself through that for the things I fail, sometimes. But the hardest was to realize how I saw myself, and connect to something more important. You are well on your way, relax man.
@@alexbalint8718 well put. Hoping he reads these comments. All the best to you as well
wow i actually teared up a lil bit reading this cus ive had the same problem. it helps to know that someone else understands. stay strong my dude. thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
"Do not destroy yourself over a man that no longer exists". You always speak in a language that hits home to me. Thank you.
I’m a 16 year old with dyslexia and dyscalculia I lost my mom to suicide and my step dad left I’m living with my grandparents we’re struggling financially I had dropped out of school cause of stress and they’re was just too much for me to handle I was mentally drained but I’m getting right with god spending more time with family and even tho I’m 2 grades behind im gonna finish school
and i thought my life was hard
Proud of you brother i dont even know how are you still continuing everything in yourlife you are strong brother ❤
I believe in you dude. Keep going
Man, that is the proof we all need to continue even when we are at the verge of despair. May God guide and bless you, kiddo! ❤ keep seeking the light, wonderful one!
You got this! You can do it!
"Forgive yourself." The step I've always struggled so much with. Admitting when I'm wrong, owning it, accepting the consequences. Those are things I can do. But stopping my thoughts on it? Forgiving myself? I don't know how to do that. Thank you for even this little bit of thought and pressure to try and be better about that.
I have a hard time accepting consequences. Maybe because ive always tried talking my way out of punishments instead of dealing with the consequences of my actions.
You struggle with it because it isn't possible. You can't forgive yourself unless you think you're God. It isn't your job to forgive yourself. It's your job to confess, repent, and reconcile with the person you signed against. If it was you, then you reconcile with God. He will forgive you through Christ. You aren't supposed to forget. The memory keeps you from doing it again.
Your statement is not true. It doesn’t even make sense. If you can forgive someone else that did wrong, and not be God, how can you not forgive yourself the same way? Yes, God forgives us but we also forgive ourself.
for people confused, drycreekwrangler is referring to the reply made by @@laurenbatson5918pointing out that they're wrong for saying that one cannot forgive oneself, which i agree with. you can always forgive yourself.
I think when we messed up so bad, one of the consequences is live with it for the rest of our lives, wake up with it on our head and rest with it. Even though we know what we did wrong, we accept the consequences, we fight to change as people, and after all that the guilty will never leave us, and that guilty keep us moving away from the thinks we did, guilty is the worst feeling ever, but sometimes the hardest challenges shows us better
I recently went through a breakup. I messed up, I hurt the person I love more than anything. It scares me to think I lost the love of my life.
Same here...
@@Francis-of8cw Hey, mind sharing your story?
me too... I would do anything to have him back and show that I'd never hurt him ever again. He was sent to me straight from heaven and I can only hope I'm given one last chance to put things right. It really is the scariest, most anxious, heart-breaking feeling.
same
@Sykodelik64 I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand the pain of hurting someone you love, it's been 5 months since my breakup and while I have my bad days still where I don't even want to get out of bed it does get better even if at a very slow pace. I still want to change and be a better and more kind person. I know it's hard because some days all you can do is feel guilty and feel like youre a terrible and awful person. Maybe that person will never come back to me to give me a second chance and that's the consequences of my actions I have to bear. Regardless I have to change and believe that life gets better and that I can be better. Anyways sorry for blabbing but I hope that life will be better for you, stay strong.
Hey Dwayne, needed to hear this more than ever. I've been a alcoholic for 11 years. I ended up slipping in the kitchen and banged my head on the kitchens island and had a seizure. Woke up in the hospital and without hospital treatment my mortality was around 47%. The stories I heard while I was blacked out are just horrible. What it did to my friends and family made me decide to get help. I'm about almost 2 months sober and thankfully my job has been supporting me. I had to stop! It definitely woke my butt up. Everything you mentioned hit close to home and it made me realize even before watching this video a lot of things need to change for the better. One step at a time. Thank you sir
Get yourself a sponsor & work The Steps like your life depended on it. Because it does.
well done sir
Damn same thing happened to me in front of my dad, I slipped and banged my ear on a kitchen chair, split my ear but my dad saw the whole thing happen, looked at me like in a moron and went to bed..
@t u sorry man. I feel ya. My incident was in front of both my parents. Horrible
hope things get better
You're like a father some of us never had. Thank you for all you do. Bless you!
Yeah, he is. Love him.
Yes I concur. I never had a father that taught me anything or to even talk to. So I thank you sir so much.
Couldn't agree more; my father stopped visiting 3 years ago, and I missed out on a lot of things I should've learned, but this man has helped me. I still have a long way to go.
Word! My so called father threw me out like garbage when I was quite young. I would have given anything to have a dad like Dewayne. No grandpa or grandma either. Those are huge holes in my life, and another devastating issue that comes along with all this is that my family just doesn’t understand how it has affected my life. It’s extremely hard to talk about so I just bury my feelings and try to learn from folks like Dewayne. Thanks man!
This man must be protected at all costs.
this man does not need protection, this man provides his own protection
This man is trying to protect all of us.
Yes, Operation Human Shield is a GO
I'm pretty sure he can handle situations himself 😂 not sure how much his RUclips subscribers can protect him.
I'm struggling so hard to forgive myself. I felt emotionally hurt by my partner and so I emotionally hurt him, not on purpose, but as a result of my being upset-- that hurt him. And he broke up with me because of it. And I can't forgive myself. I wasn't loving enough, I wasn't caring enough, and I didn't realize how much I was lacking until he showed me the door. And I begged for him to let me prove to him how much I really understood now, what I needed to do. But he said it was too late. And I can't forgive myself for losing someone that was so precious to me. He was my entire world. People keep saying that I will meet someone else but I don't want anyone else, I just want him.
I’ve never had a male figure in my life. I’ve always had to figure stuff out on my own. These videos tug at my heart in ways I can’t describe. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
nah fr
I want so badly to be a man who can have these kinds of talks with the young men around me so they don't have to live such a confused life like I have. It takes time though. You really gotta work at being humble and knowing yourself to be able to speak like this and not have it sound like you're talking out your ass.
@@Jeebus-un6zz I've heard that being a man of your word makes a big difference in personal development.
Sometimes I find guys (Like this one) to listen to. One guy's channel I've been listening to months ago collects scrap metal and I found his voice and inner dialog to be of comfort and wisdom.
same bro same. always feeling not man enough. i got you
You helped me sir. I'm going through a very tough time constantly battling bad and dark thoughts about myself and others. It's a cycle of anger, sadness and loneliness catalyzed by a breakup and heartbreak.
I messed up, big time. And now i am paying for it by being reminded of how unacceptable i've always been, and how alone i really am especially when relying on my family.
You are a light in the dark for me, and one of the only people who can help me cry and work through what i'm feeling.
I hope you and your family are OK and my condolences to you regarding your father. He has raised a true man with a heart so big it can touch someone like me, across the planet.
Much love, and will keep you in my prayers.
Keep the chin up 😉. I've been true it all.
God bless you
Like the man said,if you mess up,,,,own it,,(and it sounds like you did),, now forgive yourself ,,,, don't be the man today that you were yesterday!😉 Keep your chin up man and know your not alone.🙏
Sounds like you're on the right path
It will be tough. When I said I went through hell. Believe me. People are scared of me..yet my 8 yr old son throughs his arms around me. Never quit.
I looked in the mirror and asked myself, Why are you angry all the time?
i'm so happy that you did that. it's hell of realization. i mean just admitting your deep feelings about yourself and your view of the world is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you've been in this state for a long time
Me too. In the past, I let My anger take everything away from me cuz I lack control and I’m not a bad person. But I became prideful and completely lost my identity
Just like myself.....
I’m a parent that has lost a child. Forgiving yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Even if you had nothing to do with what happened to your child, you feel responsible. It gets easier over time to continue, but your never free from the pain that creeps up on birthdays or other dates significant to your loss. You learn to live with it.
I'm sorry for your loss. I've also lost my child this passed year. I understand that feeling of not being able to forgive yourself despite not being at fault.
I know that when something so large effects you the only thing that you can do is make room for it, and I hope you've reached that point. I hope I do too. Us mommas are strong and I hope you never forget that.
Again, my endless condolences to you and yours. Stay strong.
I pray your days are full of joy and grace
I needed to hear this. I did something phenomeonally stupid while under the influence of drugs. Its eating at me. Ive been struggling with addiction for over a decade and finally got clean over a year ago. Then I relapsed and did something i would have never, ever done in my sober mind. I know the only way I can potentially get past it is to get and stay sober. I have to do this.
Become a better man. It's not the end of the world. Thank you, sir. I needed this. Thank you.
My father just passed, I’m sitting in his home which I guess is technically mine now. It’s hard not thinking about a lifetime of regret growing up. Thanks for the video and some insight.
I lost my mom at 14 and my dad is all I have left. I’m praying for you 🙏 may God bless you & your family abundantly my friend ✌️ 🖤
Man, this feels exactly like sitting down and having a talk about life with my grandpa before he passed. Thank you for letting me relive this feeling.
Watching this from Russia.
Kinda tough times we have here.
These videos make me feel alive.
Thank you, grandpa
Keep being strong ,everybody, we all will make it.
That sucks man. Hope u can survive
Wishing you well from the States, shame how the world works. Stay safe my friend
we in this together bro, dw, stay strong
I have visited your country only once. I wish you well. People are good but evil exists in the lies of certain neocons in govt. The good news is that more and more of us are starting to figure out the mainstream media as well as many politicians can never be trusted in the USA and other western nations.
When Sam Elliott in “ we where soldiers “ said
Any of you boys call me grandpa I’ll kill you 😂
Hi Dwayne. Sorry for your father. My grandma/mom is in the hospital for heart failure. I’m 27. There is some mistakes I have made that I haven’t moved past. This video was so spot on, and as a female, thank you. We have to face the consequences of the problems we caused. “I did it. I am sorry.” Thank you for your videos, and I send you hugs and comfort.
Hugs to both a y'all 🕊️
@@zanewalsh1812 thank you!!
I’m 21 years old struggling with alcoholism the past several weekends I have gotten drunk and acted a fool and thinking abt it has made me very ashamed. This video really just lifted me up and I appreciate you a lot. God bless you.
my brother you are blessed, don't quit we support what you do
Man youre going to realize that alcohol is a poison. Ive almost drank myself to death a few times in the past couple of years. Ive woken up in my own piss and just fallen back asleep. Stay away from Porn and alcohol and you will be way better off.
I'm 50 and did lots of stupid things and lost lots of friends family girlfriends friends etc etc. Believe me it was really bad but now I get to start fresh new beginning at 50. New friends new business partners, new girlfriends! Nobody is innocent not even our parents
the hardest part is thinking “how am i even gonna have fun if i can’t drink” i’m still trying to get past this
Hey man, I'm the same age same problem. About 7 months ago I missed work because I was still drunk and drinking the next morning. Puking. That was my moment for me, on my mom's floor, in my own throwup at 6am calling my boss. Now I tell you this, because 7 months later I don't drink, even when I crack a beer to enjoy with my meal. I can't finish it. Because, now I live on my own. Have a girlfriend who loves me, and a goof job making 8$ an hour more than I was before. I'm in control of my desires. It took a really tough spot to show me that I needed to stop.
I hope seeing someone the same age come through it on top shows you that you can do it before a tragedy shows you you have to change. I believe in you brother. You got this
I got 3Fs and fucked up my GPA. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’m 21. I’m not school smart or street smart. I don’t have any skills or motivation. I’m just exhausted and trying to survive this mind. I feel like I went the wrong way and I’m hoping I can find a way to feel better soon.
My friend, you are a smart, hard working human being and we all fail, its a pert of the process, take a step back and see what you can improve on even if it means that you need to get help from someone, keep pushing, keep working and pray, everything is gonna be alright ok?, take care!!
This earth is a laboratory some good some bad. Forgive yourself.
@@JustMe-ki3ce what service?
@@EveryonesRUclips100 the military
im in a similar position, ive been trying to pick up the pieces and ive been doing better but still stumbling every now and then. i dont know exactly your poisition or why youre failing but for me it was lack of motivation constantly going back and forth from staying on top of my schoolwork and studying and overall just trying to put my best effort forward to just doing the absolute bare minimum to get by because it feels like whats the use ive already dug this far into the pit im stuck in theres no way out. some of the things i learned that helped was to stop waiting for things to get better life is inherently suffering and if you just aim to hold out and survive long enough for a miracle itll never happen. all you can really do is focus on doing as much as possible to make life better and easier for you tomorrow. to succeed and continue. and instead of looking at mistakes as just a sign of your own failure as a person its just a mistake yes you mightve messed up or some other factors involved but that doesnt mean youre doomed to be that specific way, all that youre doing is focusing on the one failure out of all the other successes which makes you feel like shit and even less motivated to really try. hope theres something useful in here for you and that your situation gets better.
Hey DeWayne. I lost my father in October at the age of 22. He was 61. It's the hardest thing to lose a parent. Listening to you is like listening to him. Safe, secure, solid and protected, and at ease with himself and with the world. He was a great man and a great dad. The love never dies ❤
🙏
Stay strong. Be encouraged
Mine died when I was 15. Im 33 now. If I saw him face to face right now, Id beat the shit out of him. His death caused my family so much pain. I hate him for it.
It's been feeling like it's too late for me on several things in my life. Thanks Dewayne. Sincere condolences for your dad's passing.
It’s never to late. I’ve been through some very rough storms in my life as well. But since I gave my life over to Jesus Christ my life totally changed for the better. There’s nothing better than having peace joy and happiness now. Not that I still go through storms but I have Jesus to help me through those storms these storms are defeated because I have Jesus on my side guiding me through each and every one of them. I’ll be praying for you
Its newer to late if you are still breathing. One choice at the time
It might be. It might not be. You’ll never know if you don’t go for it
Sorry to hear about your Dad DeWayne. Take your time. My biggest mess up in my 58 years of life was getting caught shoplifting at 17. I went to face my Father to own up to what I did. I got the worst punishment anyone could get. Dad said "I am disappointed in you". That has stuck with me all my life. Those 5 words from my Father changed my life.
Those five words left a lasting impression on my life aswell….followed by that dreaded nothing being said any further
Same thing happened to me at 17. One of the greatest things to ever happen to me was my dad letting me know I was a loser at that point in my life
Sounds like you broke the first three rules of shoplifting. They call it petty theft, but you got a life lesson out of it so I'd say you more than broke even. Be good or be good at it.
i messed up by being impulsive, by acting on my feelings and being in a relationship (my first) which hurt me mentally. I have broke up couple months back but that person wasn't letting me go, so I had to make the rude decision today to cut them off permanently from every place, seems like a small story, but for me this has given me a lot of lessons. i need to be working on my traumas and needless to say, not get into relationships, even platonic, so impulsively, i need to understand my own self better, so I will be working on that now. thank you for thus video sir!
I broke a girls heart for being stupid and regretting it every day, I broke a promise about drinking and now I’m getting out of my house and I know I fell heartbroken and unwanted but I know now I need to become better thank you Dwayne
Very sorry for your loss. Your videos (and Momma's) have been a tremendous source of inspiration and comfort for me in recent months. I concur with all of the commenters saying, please take your time to heal and get caught up with your awesome projects, and we'll be patiently waiting for whatever you have coming. Thank you kindly for taking the time to share your Godly wisdom and love with the world. I see what you're doing as a ministry and I pray that it will continue to be as fruitful as ever for you guys.
Really needed to hear this, Dewayne. I really messed up bad about 3 months ago. I apologized profusely for it, I owned it from the start, I was honest from the start... But I still can't forgive myself and that's the hardest part. Hurting someone that means the world to you is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is redemption for sinners, even the worst of us, but damn it's hard to let go of that regret and grief. Knowing you've hurt one of the sweetest people in the world with your own ignorance and sin. I'll try to learn to forgive myself. Thank you for this video and God bless you and yours. And my condolences for your loss.
Thank you Dewayne. I have owned it and forgiven myself was the hardest part. I'm living my life for the lord now and happy as I've ever been. Im truly sorry for your loss.
@AdolfHitler-wo1my It's a bit personal. But I broke the trust of someone I love and it caused irreconcilable damage to the relationship. Satan whispers sweet sounding words into your ear if you let him, and it's best to flee from the temptations that will later cause us much grief and suffering.
@@imover9999my advice is let her go, and break up cuz it's not going to work anymore, move on. I'm 51 and done it before
@@nightowl6811 I appreciate the wisdom and advice. Honestly you're probably right. As painful as it is. Gotta focus on God and bettering myself and someone else will come into my life. Thank you for the harsh truth. Can only come from someone else who's been through it.
How’s it going DeWayne! Just want to say you gave me the courage to pursue the ranching life and eventually I will work towards becoming a wrangler. I retired from truck driving and I’m currently earning my keep working as a ranch hand. It’s been tough getting used to physical work again but it feels good at the end of the day. Thank you!
Forgiving myself is something I don't understand how to do.
I hope that you'll have some peace with yourself.
I’m a woman from uk 32, and I rely on this dude for life advice. Thank you. Thought u might be interested to know some of the weird corners of your demographic.
I recently just managed to blow up my whole life during a massive depression and lose a ten year friendship. Had just finally started (one taster appointment) treatment for mental health but now I have no one in my life. It seems early and chronic life long trauma may have caused a personality disorder and other stuff that I didn’t even know I had, if I do (undiagnosed).
I also live in the middle of nowhere with no car or money so your attitude towards country life really helps me accept my unusual situation and ur wisdom appearing today thanks to the algorithm, may have just saved my life today. Thank u.
Also a woman here, 24 years old, and it always seems like I find his videos when I need them most
I also just started therapy and everything went topside! Wishing you the best and hope things are looking up for you. Love and light ☀️
Hope you are doing better now, I'm 32 and in the UK a well but in Manchester, would love to live in the country.
Hi Dewayne,
Just wanted to let you know that your videos and podcasts have really helped me through some dark times recently. I’ve been watching for a little over a year now and have started eating healthier, exercising regularly, reading, breaking bad habits, attending church, and seeking mental health. You remind me of my grandpa who lived in Montana that I didn’t get to spend much time with. Thanks for giving young men advice and the truth that we need to hear. Keep up the good work!
I just stumbled on this channel, this is the first video I've seen. I needed this SO badly today, what a gift from the universe 😭
I have failed myself in last 4 years of my life. Gonna be better, I believe. Must be better.
Thank you for this video!
I've been living in financial anguish, health issues and a lot insecurities and regrets at age 25. I'm starting a new job soon and I'm working on turning it around, and hopefully doing so without missing too many bills. God is good to me and I can't stay worried for too long without realizing that it's just a season and it's not my lot in life. Thank you for these talks, Dewayne. And thank you to the rest of you in these comments who share your stories.
Dustin your so guy I hope ya can shake the funk off ..I know it’s not easy … I’m 66 and having start life over again .. with out anger !! But I’ve got a little hope today !!
Start bodybuilding
@@jasonclever4592shut up my god that’s the only ape advice y’all give
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your father, Dewayne. You take all the time you need. You don’t have to explain yourself too swiftly. Take care of yourself!
Sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne . He left a hell of a legacy behind in you . Your his will of fire. And you’ve helped me find my will of fire . I grew up without my pops in the picture and I never had any good male role models in my life . until I stumbled onto your channel . Some of your advice has put 20 years ahead of the curb of the guys around me and I don’t gate keep your content i put ‘em on .and I’m only 23 but I feel like I’ve been taught a lot from you.Thanks for being such a father figure to everyone who didn’t have one . Thank you ,Appreciate you , and love you sending prayers yours and mommas way ❤
Chariot of fire
I don't comment very often, no matter the video nor the channel, but in this occasion I felt the need of giving you my deepest condolences. Very sorry for your loss Dwayne. Greetings from Spain.
Just lost my dad on the fourth and did something regrettable this helped a lot thank you for your words
Dwayne, I had a very distant father growing up and he basically didn’t teach me shit. Thanks for these words every man needs to hear at some point. Very helpful, thanks again
Thank you I needed this, my drinking and drug use cost me my marriage and most of my friends. I've been trying to get better and today I've been 4 months sober 🙏
Congrats!!!
Stick with the winners.
One day at a time brother, stay strong.
Same here. We can do it.😮
This video seemed to come up at the best time for me. I’m struggling, losing myself. Wondering where to start or restart. And this has given me some foundation to grip onto. From a man that’s falling down, thank you sir! Thank you!
Same here
Start from where you are. Make your bed, tidy your room and take aim at something good in your life.
You can be better. Life can be better. This too shall pass.
God loves you.
Sameeee bro
You always upload at the perfect time Mr. Dewayne. Sorry to hear about your father, may he Rest in Power.
convinced me to get out and run. ran wayy more than I ever have before, 2.7 miles at a 10 min pace. Its not great but im so very proud of myself, I attribute a lot of it to your words.
I’m listening to your videos everyday now, they’ve helped me. I got on my knees and prayed to god to give me guidance , and you were the one he sent to me. Thank you for everything you do.
I'm so sorry for your loss. The man he raised tells us a lot about who your father was as a person. Now you can keep his spirit alive by spreading the wisdom he gave to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your family.
11:14 Gold! You're hurting and grieving, DeWayne, but you're "manning up" and moving on. I lost my father a bit over a year ago. I'll never be the man he (James "Jim" Lucas) was. He was my hero and I miss him dearly. Your wisdom and good nature is father like to me and much appreciated. I'm an adult but still learning and growing. I wish you and your family peace and all the best in this tough time. Your Dad must have been one awesome cowboy I'll bet!
Let me start of with my condolences. I lost someone close to me recently as well. Saying goodbye was very hard. Now, on the topic, thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this. I have made a ton of mistakes and have been struggling with them. The past 10 years (I'll be 33 in December) has been full of very terrible choices. Deliberate or not. Up until about 6 years ago, I made absolutely no effort to "man up" to any of it. I deliberately chose to be that person even if it meant hurting others and myself. Finally, in the last 5 years, I have made it an every day goal to improve and try to move on from all of it. This past week was hard. Losing a loved one reopened some stuff and get me dwelling on it all. I am extremely grateful to have stumbled upon this video because I needed to hear that talk. For what it's worth, I will continue to keep pushing and keep working on making things right because I still have a long road to go before things are right again. Thank you.
As a woman, watching your videos helps me learn to be a better woman and helps me learn that a man is capable of being truthful, faithful, and strong in God. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to make these. You’re truly a blessing. ❤
There's plenty of men like Dwayne. They are humble humble and don't boast.
Just keep on living the life. That's why many men young and old listen. A reminder of what's right
Thank you. I've been working on myself for years thank u.
“Apologize to yourself”
Damnit Dwayne you got me tearing up. I was an awful drunk and “apologized” so many times. But I had to get sober.. not just booze but my anger issues to.
Taken me a long long time to apologize to myself.. it’s a good feeling I won’t lie. These days I really cherish every moment I have with my loved especially, especially my wife and daughter.
Thanks again sir.
Dewayne…I needed this today. Thank you. My condolences for the lost of your father. You and your family will be in my prayers. Thank you for the encouraging words. This video was right on time.
Thank you. This saved me and really cleared my thoughts. Messed up. Admitted and after that she left me. I have been recovering since, it's been 6 months. Hardest times of my life so far. Forgiving myself has been the hardest part. I'm taking it one day at a time. Trying to be a better man. Thanks again. Greetings from Finland.
And how are you doing now? It's been about 10 months at this point, yes?
I hope you're healing, and I hope that you get a second chance with her one day.
You are a great speaker this has really helped me. Thank you.
One of the most helpful talks I've heard in my life. I've carried out owning my mistake to become a better, new self. I am never doing what I did again. I changed for me, and for everyone I care for. Forgiving myself and moving forward. God bless you. You've done so many of us a great service with your generous advice.
My sincere condolences Dwayne, my prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for being the light in the world for so many people, you don’t know just how much of an impact you made. You’re a blessing to so many struggling individuals, including myself. Thank you!
I extend my condolences to you and your family Dewayne. I went through the same scenario with my Dad several years ago. They were trying days all by themselves so cut yourself a little slack and let the grieving process also heal this loss instead of burying it in busyness. I’ll be praying for you brother. This video is a good and an introspective one, as usual!
Hey Dwane. Your videos have made me into a better man and has helped me grow up. I’m sorry for your loss. No matter how strong a man is, the loss of a father brings anyone to tears
I’ve made my mistake, a moment of blindness n ignorance in the midst of grief and mess. No excuse I triggered somebody I love into not wanting me - understandably. I don’t know how to release that and move on, and forgive myself. I know it was a gross oversight on my part, I’m trying so hard to be a good person. Idk how to shake this weight. I’ve made my amends, I know I’m changing and I will learn this lesson. Thank you for this video. Thank you
I am 31 years old and I constantly messed up. I have lied about things I haven’t done to prove that I am a bad ass when I am not. I have done things I am definitely not proud of. I hate myself for being this way. I have tried plenty of times to change and go a different route but I always fall back into the same shti. I pray for forgiveness and guidance but I sometimes feel is not working. Anyways I have deleted all social media. I’m going to give myself 30 days. I’ll continue to work on forgiving myself and just do better. Hope for everyone’s success and happiness.
I know the feeling of what you’re going through. I’m in the same boat with not being honest to be something different or to be afraid of rejection. It’s a daily battle of forgiving yourself and to be a better person for yourself. Will pray for your journey and may God bring you through it. I lost the love of my life due to my lies. So I’m going to make it right with myself and be a better man and hopefully she can forgive me and hopefully we can get back together. If not then I know what I need to do moving forward for now on.
@@trev8280thank you brother I’ll be praying for your journey as well. God bless you.
Thank you sir for the way you’re helping. Love from india 🇮🇳
Needed to hear this, So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne praying for you and your family in this time of mourning. My wife and I listen in regularly and your and mamas words have been a been a huge encouragement to our relationship to others and to our marriage. Going through the same thing with you my wife’s younger brother just unexpectedly passed on the 22nd and we buried him on the 27th. Poor kid was only 23. I hate it happened but I’m glad to have grounded was in the words that God gives and the words of encouragement that you speak on.
Much love brother,
Johnny & Lauren
My father commit suicide in 2020 when I was twenty five years old. I’m glad you got thirty more years of your father’s wisdom and friendship. I know you know he’s resting easy now, but that doesn’t make it any easier necessarily. Appreciate your channel and you sharing this part of your life with us.
I’m sorry man
Lost my father the same way in June last year when I was 22 years old, I know how you feel.
As always fantastic and grounded advice for a younger generation that needs it. My condolences on your father as well
I messed up really bad and lost my fiancé. Thank you for this video, I needed it
As someone who’s recently lost his grandfather in the late summer of 2022 I went through the same situation and I love to share story’s and the tales of my grandpa to everyone I know and just as he use to tell tales and share his life’s stories with everyone he met, to me it’s not focusing on them being gone it’s remembering the life they lived and all the memories of things you learned and loved about that person. God bless
So sorry to hear about your dad Dewayne , lost my dad a couple years back its not easy. All my best to you and your family
Your advice eases my struggles with self-forgiveness. Thank you.
“Nothing will destroy you more than not forgiving yourself” I appreciate these precious words, Thank you
Got my first DWI, Im terrified, ashamed, and cant even begin to forgive myself. It was a terrible mistake and I thank God no one was hurt. I really needed this, thank you.
I really needed this right now… I think I ruined my marriage. My wife and I are talking about it later today. She’s my wife, my best friend, my everything and I hurt her. I hope we can settle it and move forward, but I’ll find out soon.. wish us luck everyone…
Hope everything went well with the talk man ❤️💪
Hey man. I lost my girl of 5+ years last month because of hurtful things I’ve done in the distant past along with my refusal to change and improve my communication skills and listening. it’s been a lot of guilt, remorse, and sadness on my end. I feel as if I lost my soulmate and my best friend as well. I hope that conversation went well with your wife. Praying you guys figure it out
@@ggbooliano I'm on the same wave as you my friend, i'm praying for yous all! just know this isn't the end brothers, what's meant to be will be. GodBless
Hope everything went well brother.
@@ggboolianoI'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
Dewayne, it means the world to have you back. I sure did miss these chats which enlighten, strengthen, and embolden me and probably many other viewers. You’re a much needed voice in this crazy world. Since I’ve starting watching your videos two years ago I’ve really undergone a great change in my morals, values and beliefs, making me prouder of the man I am today. But there’s room for improvement, pieces to be mended. Thanks for being the catalyst for this journey. I’ll keep you forever in my prayers. Nonetheless, as much as you help out us and others, always know that we’ll be waiting whenever you need to take some time off. I hope that as this channel grows, a feeling of “responsibility” for your viewers won’t overwhelm nor overshadow the importance of your very own life. Wishing you the best Dwayne! Cheers!
I’m sorry for your loss, Dwayne. May your dad rest in peace. God bless.
Hi Dewayne, I'm Ron. I feel like you're doing great things with your channel by offering up your wisdom for people. It's like you're giving people someone to talk to, which is a big deal. Anyways, I appreciate what you do. And I'm sorry for your loss. Take care. 👊🏻
Wo-man here, thank you for your time when you are going through a tough time.
Your encouragement is a blessing, thank you 🙏🇦🇺
Going through a tough breakup , this is what I needed to see. I just have to deal with the consequences, and forgive myself. Thank you.
Time heals, my friend. You’re not perfect but you’re not your mistakes
you aren’t alone. I have made many mistakes in my relationship and one in the past. what matters is coming clean with honesty to those that we have affected with our mistakes. if we can’t be honest with others we can’t be honest with ourselves. I believe in you, You can do this! What matters is that you have your dignity and can hold your head high knowing you tried your hardest to make it right. that’s all we can do is try. I’m here if ya need anything, fr.
Going through the same.
You’re not alone. Messed up in my last relationship, and now that I’ve gotten myself together, it’s too late to fix what was broken. That’s the hardest part. It could have been in my grasp if only I’d been a real man. But all things work together for the good of those who believe in Him. I needed a lesson. The chastisement is painful, but I know it’s needed. Thank God for the progression towards manhood.
@@Mystical.MeeperHey man what’s your ig. I’m having problems just like this guy and I need someone to tell my problems
So sorry to hear about your Pa, DeWayne. It’s never an easy time for even the most enlightened folks when loved ones move on. Please accept my sincerest prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. The bits I’ve learned about you leave no doubt that he was a fine man. 👊🏻
I didn't realize that this video was gonna start out like this, I lost my grandmother at 91 on the 28th. It's crazy how small the world is. Hopefully, I can learn something today when I get to watch this fully, but right now, life is busy, and now I'm missing my Nana. Appreciate all you do.
I lost my when I was 18. We was very close
I've only watched a handful of your videos, and I know this might be late in saying this, and I do not know if you'll ever see or read this comment, but I sincerely wanted to say thank you for taking the time out of your day, especially with loss that had experienced to you shortly before making this, of which you have my deep condolences for; because you gave me a lot of perspective on things I have been dealing with.
The way you approached it, and how you said it, resonated with me, for that, I truly thank you, and simply wish to express gratitude.
By the way, a cigar highly reccomend is Perdomo, if you've never tried one, it's the first cigar I ever tried, and out of all the ones I've tried since then, it's my all time favorite.
Keep on truckin', and God bless.
In a world wrought with absent fathers you’ve been a blessing for me and I’m sure many others. Thank you ❤
Ive lost a Dad and two stepdads and I'm sorry you are going through this. You will be okay! It gets easier after it gets harder... ❤ he's with you.
Hello from Brazil Dewayne... you have been helping me a lot with your videos. I'm 28 and about to get married and I have a lot of things to improve in order to become a better men. I've never had a strong family to guide me through this thing called "life" as a men. But to my future wife and kids I know that they will need a good men with them so thank you so much! Your advices are the best things to have and it is so easy to understand and only someone with such life experience can pass to generation to generation. Keep in mind that many things that you say here I will pass along to my children in the future. And to prove that you are a blessing for me its that since i've started to follow some of your advices my life keeps getting better and I am more confident with myself. My condolences to you regarding you father's passing. Thank you again!
You got this bruno
Thank you, brother. I've been torturing myself for years over the past. I felt like I couldn't move on anymore. I was unforgivable. Your words gave me what I needed. I can't change it, but I CAN move on. That's what'll help me survive to see a better tomorrow. Will it be a better tomorrow? I used to think not, but with the past behind me, all I see is hope in my future, finally. Bless you, my friend. May God watch over you during this really tough time. Stay strong. You're needed in this world, brother 🙏
I'm 21, My wrong actions ended my 8 year relationship and I've broken her trust many times. I feel like a piece of shit i wanna be better so i can take her back someday..
Thank you for this video Sir, I didn't think I needed to hear it quite as much as I ended up actually needing to hear it. Sorry for your loss brother.
im so grateful ive come across your videos dry creek wrangler, im 17, 18 in two months, thank you for doing what you do pops.
My mistake was 27 years ago. Its caused me to be excluded from many things i regret not being able to participate in. I regret this daily. I'm finally going to the state to ask for forgiveness to allow me to feel whole again. Ive felt like less of a man and havent been able to forgive myself. I needed to hear this today and will try to move forward with forgiveness.
So very sorry to hear about your family’s loss Dwayne. I am sure that your father’s heart was overfilled with pride and joy at seeing the truly extraordinary man that you have become. (Couldn’t imagine losing my Dad and doubt I would be as strong as you under similar circumstances.)
You always inspire me to be a better man with your wisdom and i always feel better after watching your videos. This one arrived on my feed just at the right moment as if it was some kind of intervention. Thank you for everything you do, you're very much loved and appreciated by myself and so many others around the world.
I made too many mistakes and I lost her... forever. I then made even more mistakes that pushed her away. I sabotaged a 12-year relationship and although she's moved on, and I've 'moved on' from her as it's been almost 5 months, I am having a hard time forgiving myself. I realize if I do kill myself, the only ones I'm hurting are my family, while she may be sad, she'll move on as she has done. She's no longer her... and it was all my fault, i feel like i 'murdered' my wife. NEVER EVER LISTEN TO FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS. YOU AND HER ONLY.
I just saw a screenshot of this video on an IG page and wanted to watch the full version, and here I am. I'm sincerely sorry for your loss and I really liked your words about your father. I hope I have a child like you that will say those great words when I passed away. I've to say that your father is a very very lucky man to have a kid like you, sir. I can't even imagine how proud he is of your words... And the whole video impressed me a lot, I was in a tough period in my life, you encouraged me in a very best time. Greetings from Turkey, I hope all the beauties find you :)
Thank you, i really needed this today. Prayers to you and anyone who needs it .
RIP to your father.
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today.
Love from CA
Thank you for this. I tried to justify hiding cheating and finally did the right thing and told her. We are no longer together and that is the best thing for both of us. If you're in my situation, I'd recommend owning it and taking it as a sign to be better. I'm working on not dwelling on memories and good times because that's unnecessary pain. Its my fault, but I don't want to make myself suffer further. Time will heal and being honest allowed that process to start. Hope you all are well too.
In the same boat brother, feeling alone but it helps other men are going through it
@@gageparent9189 it's been about 2 weeks now and being secure and focused while feeling alone at times is getting more consistent for me. Handling the feeling and settling back into the groove of truly focusing on myself, my family and friends. Best to you man
Me too guys it happened last week same exact situation. It’s so hard sometimes I think it’s long gone at this point.
@@connorm.6253 honestly bro go get outside, hit up your old friends, go get a haircut, figure out what your goals are bro, and don’t worry about girls right now, times will be tough, sit and cry until you can’t anymore, then pick yourself up and move on, you gotta become a better man to have a chance of getting her back , as long as you’re doing the right things you’ll feel good man, it’s been hard I feel that but journaling, lots of exercise, sleep, and staying off my phone some has been making this a lot better
@@connorm.6253 bro focus on all the stuff you knew in your gut wasn't right about her and the overall situation. Its has helped me to focus on the real negatives. Going no contact and really moving on has been the move
You’re one awesome person with great advice. I raised two boys of my own, and they turned out to be really good men. I think it’s great that you’re reaching out to these young men and women who may not have the parental support or parents in their lives. Thank you for what you do. You are a Godsend, in a decaying and moral less society.
What do you know about morals?
This video has essentially been my Mantra for last week. I've never been a relegious person.
However, after some critical mistakes I've made, and sybsequesntly finding your channel, my interest has been peaked.
I've picked myself up a Jefferson bible as a gentle entry on my journey.
Thanks, Dwayne.
So Much Wisdom in This. ❤ thank You Sir. My Condolence on the Transition of Pa