The Shift in Perspective from Your 20's to Your 40's

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  • @Andrew_Head
    @Andrew_Head Год назад +745

    This conversation could not be more relatable. Just turned 40 this year and all I want is comfort and consistency.

    • @l91106
      @l91106 Год назад +18

      sounds pretty boring

    • @tortenhebu
      @tortenhebu Год назад +1

      You got this. I’m 26 lelelelololooloooooolloooooooo

    • @tomevers6670
      @tomevers6670 Год назад +6

      To achieve Great things, you’re never comfortable and nothing is constant….
      Look at him, he’s not super healthy looking, most people don’t want to be him…
      So his perspective sucks for most people..

    • @katra777
      @katra777 Год назад +22

      ​@@tomevers6670most people? He has money and a family. There's more to life than looks.

    • @bigpickles
      @bigpickles Год назад +3

      Agreed. Something tweeners won't understand until they do the same.

  • @rromero79
    @rromero79 Год назад +193

    “In your 20s try everything. In your 30s figure out what you do best. In your 40s make money at what you do best. In your 50s try not to do much.” - Kinkos Founder
    Man learns much more from pain and adversity than from things that come easy.
    I’m in my 40s and I’m teaching my kids financial literacy. Every generation has to do better than the previous.

    • @isaacsmith9981
      @isaacsmith9981 Год назад

      @redfordkobayashi6936in the corporate world yes. Entrepreneurs at heart need to develop their communication, creative, & project management skills in their 20’s - & then it becomes much more likely the light bulb turns on. You’ll have more experiences & skills to be able to successfully start a business or create something that will make much more than the corporate chain

    • @creamy3803
      @creamy3803 Год назад

      ​@redfordkobayashi6936 what makes you belive that?

    • @foobarmaximus3506
      @foobarmaximus3506 Год назад

      Not all men. Some men do. Some never learn.

    • @jamesjarrett52
      @jamesjarrett52 Год назад +3

      Why would you stop trying everything in your 50s? Why stop living? Surely that's the time to keep pushing forwards. You'll end up in a box anyway!! Why put yourself in one before your time?

    • @rromero79
      @rromero79 Год назад +1

      @@jamesjarrett52
      Work…in your 50s try not to do much “work”.
      Enjoy life. Leisure.

  • @rootedundergroundmusic9274
    @rootedundergroundmusic9274 Год назад +651

    I'm 37, been raising kids since 19. Had 3 by the age of 26. I feel like I've been in my 40s since my 20s. My 2 older kids are now adults and as much as I've prepared them and raised them, they are such "babies" being that they don't have the types of responsibilities I had at their age. I don't think your age matters, it's your willingness to step up to the plate everytime, regardless of what you're up against in life.

    • @samantha3092
      @samantha3092 Год назад +11

      Same here. Though I appreciate my child having the privilege of not having the problems I did young.

    • @bobjones8838
      @bobjones8838 Год назад

      Same

    • @patrick03333
      @patrick03333 Год назад

      Facts

    • @paulw5039
      @paulw5039 Год назад +17

      @@samantha3092 I understand, but the problems you had taught you lessons about life, which you couldn't have learned nearly as effectively by someone simply telling you about them. So it's a catch-22. The more we try to protect our kids, the more likely they are to fail later in life because they never properly learned how to fail when they were younger.

    • @smashinheadsets7235
      @smashinheadsets7235 Год назад +25

      ok and you werent in a trench like your grandpa at 19, it's not like anyone made you knock up a girl at 19

  • @aaa84gt
    @aaa84gt Год назад +203

    I am closing in on my 40s as a male and I found that there's quite a lot of power behind keeping your thoughts for yourself in many situations (just play your cards in the background to get to whatever is the better outcome for you). I mean I have begun playing different scenarios and outcomes in my mind before opening my mouth, to my benefit.
    And I have lost about 90% of my firepower for chasing money, now I'm chasing comfort and free time to enjoy with my 1 year old daughter.

    • @trevorz459
      @trevorz459 Год назад

      I just turned 37 and didn't think I would ever have to think about being "over the hill" 🤯

    • @jajupa78
      @jajupa78 Год назад +5

      ​@trevorz459 you got a ways to go at 37. Top of the hill used to be 50 now its probably more like 65

    • @trevorz459
      @trevorz459 Год назад

      @@jajupa78 40 used to be considered, but I understand what you mean 😅👍

    • @rideroftheweek
      @rideroftheweek Год назад +13

      The best part about being over 40 is you're no longer driven by excitement. This allows you to walk away from bad deals and wait for good deals to come along. 17% on the latest new vehicle? No thanks I'll wait for the end of financial year sale and get a killer deal on a run-out model - top of the line with all the trimmings.

    • @OrangeTree253
      @OrangeTree253 Год назад +5

      @@rideroftheweekfor sure, you have been down the bad road enough times that you can start to recognize a bad idea before it really gets going. I was pretty good at that when I was younger but I kept getting these grand ideas about changing the world

  • @Butterb0ne
    @Butterb0ne Год назад +81

    When you are a child, you are watching your parents grow up. That's a pretty terrifying thought for some of us.

    • @Anne-ku3lj
      @Anne-ku3lj Год назад +3

      Well they’re 70 and I’m still watching and waiting

  • @larryalden79
    @larryalden79 Год назад +68

    The thing is, 20 or 40, that money still equals freedom. If you have a surplus then you can afford free time in your life. I realized this last year at 42 years old, when i finally could take my kids on a vacation to see the grand canyon, via road trip from Florida. And those few days of knowing i had enough money to pay for everything and to cover any travel emergency gave me great comfort. It will probably be the only vacation i am ever able to take in my life.

    • @SummerSun-sg3wf
      @SummerSun-sg3wf Год назад +6

      If Bidenflation wasn't so high, you could go on many many more

    • @edwardbrito4010
      @edwardbrito4010 Год назад +6

      Don’t just tighten up budget & plan get cheap deals or do fun cheap trips life too short do 1 trip.

    • @yousufleads
      @yousufleads Год назад +2

      ​@@SummerSun-sg3wfpersonal responsibility hurr durr sleepy joe bad

    • @Rojomanzana438
      @Rojomanzana438 Год назад +2

      @@yousufleads
      Having a husk as a president doesn't help.

    • @julianaponte3207
      @julianaponte3207 Год назад

      @@Rojomanzana438better than the one that actively fucked us and tanked our economy and is now blaming it on the other senile old man

  • @MacBaza
    @MacBaza Год назад +365

    I remember watching Jim Gaffigan on Comedy Central Presents in 2000 with my dad when i was in 6th grade. I remember that this was the hardest we've ever laughed together as a family.

    • @superintelligentapefromthe121
      @superintelligentapefromthe121 Год назад +11

      My Pops and I had a similar experience. May he rest in peace.

    • @Jessica_Zs
      @Jessica_Zs Год назад +2

      😂 I was in 8th grade!😂🎉🎉🎉

    • @RanjakarPatel
      @RanjakarPatel Год назад +2

      i never look four this mans but i am so proud he try his best his branes four improve and xcelent speech

    • @juliejones974
      @juliejones974 Год назад +19

      A typical Hollyweirdo now.

    • @keegantibbs1789
      @keegantibbs1789 Год назад +1

      Felt that. Back when my family was still one piece

  • @kameronurban3654
    @kameronurban3654 Год назад +1

    From a 22 year-old who was just earlier today freaking out that I’m doing terribly in life, this is one of the most wisdom-filled comment sections that I’ve ever seen. Thank you to everyone for the insight, God Bless 🙏🏼

  • @iamkesha.
    @iamkesha. Год назад +225

    I can relate to Jim's comment about his 19 year old getting offended when he recommended her to get a job that have financial security. I had that same conversation with my daughter when she was doing research for college and a major and I mentioned seeking an industry that offers financial security. She gave me an attitude and say she want a job that will make her happy. I let it go. She just finished her MFA and just moved to LA. People moving out of California and she moved there. All I can do is pray for her.

    • @vasudevsarvam6912
      @vasudevsarvam6912 Год назад

      Hi sir, I am from India and studying in decent Engineering college from India where I am sure to get decent paying private engineering job. I also have another option to get some government job in Engineering(both state and central government jobs)...with good package and permanent job till retirement and other facilities. What would u advice?? A high paying private job with some uncertanities or respectable package from permanent govt. job.😊

    • @jansonrawlings8169
      @jansonrawlings8169 Год назад +12

      @@vasudevsarvam6912You didn’t ask me, but as a government employee I would recommend going private

    • @vasudevsarvam6912
      @vasudevsarvam6912 Год назад

      @@jansonrawlings8169 Ohh thanks for ur feedback. Appreciated😊

    • @TBagsNPriceTags
      @TBagsNPriceTags Год назад

      @@vasudevsarvam6912a lot of people will tell you to get a private job while you are young and a government job when you are older since the government jobs typically have better benefits

    • @Tecolote41
      @Tecolote41 Год назад +12

      I never understood the problem with wanting to be happy. Really just... generally.

  • @danielmorris7648
    @danielmorris7648 Год назад +130

    If you dont stress in your 20s youll be exponentially more stressed in your 40s when you havent accomplished anything and still dont know how to what to do

    • @Mjg6633
      @Mjg6633 Год назад +1

      I agree.

    • @kzumazuml
      @kzumazuml Год назад +17

      Why are you acting like the 30s don't exist 😂

    • @scottashe984
      @scottashe984 Год назад +16

      You'll stress until the day you die. The more you stress the sooner that day arrives.

    • @missliz85
      @missliz85 Год назад

      💯

    • @racheltarentino3314
      @racheltarentino3314 Год назад

      That's why I'm putting all the hard work in now

  • @AnnetteWarren
    @AnnetteWarren Год назад +68

    I was so naive and immature in many ways as a 20 year old. But I always had a clear vision of financial stability because I knew it brought freedom. And I was absolutely right.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад +4

      “Freedom” is kind of a stretch. I prefer to say provide “opportunity”

    • @natantataii8195
      @natantataii8195 Год назад +8

      @@newagain9964 Nope Freedom is the word. If you get enough you will never really have a "real" boss again in your life. You choose who can be your boss, if you don't like your boss/employer you just quit your job. Financial freedom is under communicated. I am not talking about the rich, fancy stuff, but being debt free and not needing a job in order to be able to live in your house, pay your water/electricity bills etc.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад +2

      @@natantataii8195 um. Eventually you’ll need $. Unless u got a tree that grows it. And u can never be truly free. U don’t own the land ur place sits on. The gov or someone else does.

    • @natantataii8195
      @natantataii8195 Год назад

      @@newagain9964 I get what you are saying, but no government, king i.e owns any land more or less than any individual. And government is something made up, they only exist in the sense that other governments acknowledge them as government, not necessarily "the people".

    • @jont.3243
      @jont.3243 Год назад

      ​@natantataii8195 yes!

  • @footyball66
    @footyball66 Год назад +38

    The difference in perspective is that when you are young people tell you 'enjoy your younger years, they won't last long'....but this never worries you as you always feel you have time when you are young, you think older age is a million miles away. As you get later into your twenties you see the years tick by a lot quicker and you realise that you are in your 30's and time has caught up with you. You now realise why the older people told you to enjoy your younger years as you now realise how time flies. When you are young you have the 'feeling of missing out', when you're older you are more settled and not competing as much with your friends, so you don't have this constant feeling of missing out on a Friday night, or holiday away.

    • @Desnes7
      @Desnes7 Год назад

      So true

    • @bige1656
      @bige1656 Год назад

      You should be busting your ass in your 20's instead of your 40's it doesn't get easier it gets harder

    • @johnn.2017
      @johnn.2017 Год назад +1

      It's been said that life is like a roll of toilet paper: the closer you get to the end, the faster it goes!

    • @Johnnygga
      @Johnnygga Год назад

      It’s complete bullshit. Take shrooms and realize why.
      The older people are looking fondly at their younger years, telling young people to “enjoy their youth” - all while paradoxically, being as young as they’re ever going to be in that moment while they’re telling young people this.
      They will look back in their 60s and 70s and kick themselves for believing they weren’t young in their 30s and 40s and even 50s.
      Here’s the kicker: today you’re as young as you’re ever going to be. Every day. And the “thing” that is experiencing life unfold behind your eyes, never changes no matter how old you get. You’ll always feel like that 23 year old inside, even though you’ll be hurting and move slower and not look as good as you used to when you were 23 because you’ll be 60. So you’re essentially trapped. And you realize that the whole time all you had to do was be happy in the present moment… every. single. day.

  • @jopo7996
    @jopo7996 Год назад +149

    When you get older, you realize money gives you the freedom to buy more Hot Pockets.

    • @SH-ht3mp
      @SH-ht3mp Год назад +5

      Thank you for this.

    • @pointlessmanatee
      @pointlessmanatee Год назад +7

      when you get older you realize you can make home made hot pockets that don't make you feel like killing yourself when you eat them

    • @logicrules5793
      @logicrules5793 Год назад +5

      Remember the hot pocket commercial with the Japanese guy?
      What’s wrong with you? You no want girl.
      You want….
      HOT POCKEEEETS!
      Always my favorite

    • @boskostoybox
      @boskostoybox Год назад +1

      ​@@logicrules5793ruclips.net/video/wbX7pnclfL0/видео.html

    • @Fighting_Fatigue_117
      @Fighting_Fatigue_117 Год назад

      ​@@logicrules5793
      I did want girl until I saw her with another guy 🤢

  • @user-eamQvqpoqe
    @user-eamQvqpoqe Год назад +50

    It's not just "comfort". When you're 20, you can drink like a heathen monster, wake up the next day, and basically function normally -- so you think that there are no consequences to your actions. When you're 40, you can sleep awkwardly on your bad leg, wake up the next day, and now you can't pick up your kids from school -- so you look at every tiny action in light of consequences.

    • @_NetPositive
      @_NetPositive Год назад

      The reason you're so fragile in your 40s, is because of how brutal you were to your body in your 20s. Look after your body, and you'll always be able to enjoy things in moderation, with functionality

  • @robdubent
    @robdubent Год назад +276

    The as I got older I started realizing that half the country is utterly insane, emotional zombies. Guess it’s called wisdom.

    • @ninjanik2095
      @ninjanik2095 Год назад +12

      Zombies, aint that the truth. They tune in to fox news at the exact same time every day. Repeat it word for word. But people like me and you think on our own, dont we?

    • @theALMIGHTYYY
      @theALMIGHTYYY Год назад +2

      Facts

    • @SJD326
      @SJD326 Год назад +27

      @@ninjanik2095fox News, CNN and any other cringe far right/left media

    • @Aeonus
      @Aeonus Год назад

      @@ninjanik2095once you realize all news outlets are in it to generate outrage, which makes them money, you’ll be enlightened and stop the division.

    • @DaveSCameron
      @DaveSCameron Год назад +1

      Or cash chasing exploitation...

  • @WhitenStefan
    @WhitenStefan Год назад +31

    For me, the difference between 20 and 30 is two different people.

    • @robdubent
      @robdubent Год назад +3

      Wait til you’re 40

  • @punchtalestudio
    @punchtalestudio Год назад +5

    In still in my mom’s flat at 52 🤓 but it’s a 200 sqm in the center of Paris and I have rent from a couple of other flats. I travel all year long, no kids, no wife. When I see the grown up kids from my friends I have zero regret.

  • @MorsOktober
    @MorsOktober Год назад +15

    Having recently turned 30, I can confidently say that my mindset has undergone a significant transformation compared to my younger self at 20.

    • @its_smac
      @its_smac Год назад +3

      Likewise friend, wishing all my dirty 30s good luck and good fortune

    • @GarciaCapital
      @GarciaCapital Год назад

      @@its_smac good luck and good fortune!

  • @ephraimwinslow
    @ephraimwinslow Год назад +112

    Every year as a kid, you look back on your decisions and behavior the year prior and think:
    "...What was wrong with me??? I was a *moron* !"
    That stops for a while in your late teens and early 20s once you've convinced yourself you've got a good bead on things. Then you live enough life to have noticed a few meaningful patterns, and that same feeling comes back in full force. With interest.

    • @robdubent
      @robdubent Год назад +8

      Yeah I would have beat up my younger self lol

    • @ephraimwinslow
      @ephraimwinslow Год назад +9

      @@robdubent
      Yeap. Quote Red from The Shawshank Redemption:
      "I look back on the way I was then... the young, stupid kid who committed that terrible crime. I wanna talk to him. I wanna try to talk some sense to him. Tell him the way things are... but I can't. That kid's long gone, and this old man's all that's left. I gotta live with that."
      Add in a quick ass kicking and it summarizes how most men feel.

    • @techdeth
      @techdeth Год назад +3

      I'm fairly well off and settled but I'm still feeling very much like that in my mid 30's. Feel like I need to make a LOT happen in the next few years

    • @velvetjones8634
      @velvetjones8634 Год назад +3

      Well said and spot on.

  • @ambientaddict7613
    @ambientaddict7613 Год назад +30

    Just have fun & enjoy life guys. The existential topics will be here long after we're dead. Just enjoy what life brings you.

    • @GalaxyOfBoltz
      @GalaxyOfBoltz Год назад +6

      That’s honestly the best perspective I’ve found as well

    • @gregthomson2299
      @gregthomson2299 Год назад +2

      Yeah, earning money and working is such a 3rd world problem. 🤦‍♂️

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад

      The beatings will continue until moral increases, eh?

    • @atlntcostv7293
      @atlntcostv7293 Год назад +1

      How much fun until you’re a Bum? (Which isn’t fun at all)

  • @Filling_tags
    @Filling_tags Год назад +66

    Everyone saying care free 20’s that are now 40. Maybe back then! Nothing about being in your 20s is care free nowadays… that is unless your born with a golden spoon.

    • @maxryan8189
      @maxryan8189 Год назад +11

      100% I wish all I cared about is beer money 😮‍💨

    • @violetstameski664
      @violetstameski664 Год назад +4

      You should vote for Biden again in that case.

    • @ElectricIguana
      @ElectricIguana Год назад +5

      In 20 years, try to remember that you felt this way.

    • @fromulus
      @fromulus Год назад +1

      @@violetstameski664 Yeah vote for the guy that would make his term a giant revenge tour against his perceived enemies, or as we know them, people that don't agree with him. Far more sound choice, for sure.

    • @jaredphelps4226
      @jaredphelps4226 Год назад +5

      Couldn't agree more.
      I'm 25 so far the ride has been work work work.

  • @lovev9904
    @lovev9904 Год назад +1

    I'm an Independent Latino. Thank you Rogan!! One of the Best episode!!

  • @JREHighlights267
    @JREHighlights267 Год назад +9

    "Money is a terrible master but an excellent servant"

  • @ronredmond
    @ronredmond Год назад +18

    You can also get used to being uncomfortable, which makes being comfortable overwhelming and not actually a good feeling.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад +1

      Being comfortable does have some negatives. But mostly positives. However, existential issues exist and even increase as u have more time for them!

  • @jlordmaximus
    @jlordmaximus Год назад +51

    There are two significant points in a persons development, roughly around age 20 and 30. The first marks the point you move from information absorption to having your own experiences. The second marks the point you combine what you've learned with what you've experienced to develop your own principles. That is at least how it is supposed to work. Some people get hung up and never leave the second phase.

    • @patrickl5290
      @patrickl5290 Год назад

      can confirm, i'm 23 now and feel firmyl in that first phase still

    • @zdlax
      @zdlax Год назад +3

      I'm 35 and I never entered the second phase.

    • @colinlucas7662
      @colinlucas7662 Год назад +2

      Sound like you just made that up

    • @jlordmaximus
      @jlordmaximus Год назад

      @@colinlucas7662 A Jamaican guy told me that while we were sitting under a palm tree in Malaysia trying to get coconuts open without proper tools. Then I grew up and experienced it.

    • @colinlucas7662
      @colinlucas7662 Год назад +1

      @@jlordmaximus ok...

  • @jasonjoseph3975
    @jasonjoseph3975 Год назад +119

    You know virtually nothing in your 20's, but it's hard to comprehend this for us when we are that young! This is disputed at times by the young folks, but it holds true the large majority of the time. I look back and think how much I've learned between the two ages 20/40.

    • @Dave-cf4vd
      @Dave-cf4vd Год назад +19

      It's the Dunning-Kruger effect. The more you learn, the more you realize just how much you don't know. If all you care about is baseball and weed, you can pretty much be an expert on all things in your world.

    • @juanaltredo2974
      @juanaltredo2974 Год назад +6

      yep, but the tragedy is when you learn those things you lack freedom or health to take advantage of your knwoledge, if I was 20 with the knowledge I have now life would be such a parade and Id be crowned king of the internet and the world and cats

    • @jasonjoseph3975
      @jasonjoseph3975 Год назад

      @@juanaltredo2974 😂

    • @vasudevsarvam6912
      @vasudevsarvam6912 Год назад +1

      ​@@juanaltredo2974I am 21 but I sometimes think I am way too mature😂 and just want to be naive like other 20 year olds.

    • @Anne-ku3lj
      @Anne-ku3lj Год назад

      My experience is the opposite! I’m 40 and my intuition about people and situations has proved to be correct. My parents were abusive and manipulative though, so I guess my brain developed rapidly.

  • @wowomg1980
    @wowomg1980 Год назад +12

    I miss the energy I had in my 20’s but I don’t miss my mind. I’m definitely a different person today and I wouldn’t want to go back

    • @cattysplat
      @cattysplat Год назад +5

      I miss the fire in the furnace that gave me limitless energy. But I had no way to control it then. Youth is just energy wildly crashing into whatever is in front of it.

    • @wowomg1980
      @wowomg1980 Год назад

      @@cattysplat I’m damn near a Buddhist monk nowadays compared to the ding dong I was trying to impress people that didn’t matter looking for external validation ✌️🇺🇸

  • @JB-Mon
    @JB-Mon Год назад +6

    People want comfort as they get older because they need it. You can’t eat crap food for days when you are 50 without a huge affect on your body and the way you feel…you can’t sleep on the floor when you are 50 without your back hurting for days etc etc

  • @RBarn2000
    @RBarn2000 Год назад +15

    "money is freedom" that's why they want to take it away.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад

      That’s why they don’t give your fair share and hoard it.

  • @jessicacruz2974
    @jessicacruz2974 Год назад +9

    I’m a new parent with a 1 month old daughter changing the poopy diapers right now on lack of sleep and it’s tough for sure but when I’m feeding her at 3am, what I’m thinking about is how I am terrified of her going out into the world. In the world now and what it may become and the fact that she’s my daughter, a female. In this wild ever changing world. I’ve heard the expression that once you have a baby, your heart now exists outside of your body. And that is beyond true. I’ve been through some shit and I know she will too one day and it’s the scariest thing I’ve ever been faced with.

    • @RayCharles.
      @RayCharles. Год назад +2

      You not wrong for fearing for her future, the world is messed up. But kids aren’t dumb…
      So teaching them values and certain life lessons at a young age, SHOULD make them walk the right path. Rote learning is key for children.

    • @Gorevet
      @Gorevet Год назад +1

      this makes me not want to have kids

  • @raejae3755
    @raejae3755 Год назад +15

    I AGREE about the kids, babies are super easy, the real challenge comes when they start having adult problems!

  • @cakescakescakes
    @cakescakescakes Год назад +70

    he's one of my fave comedians because he's hilarious without needing to resort to excessive profanity and easy sexual jokes

    • @daakrolb
      @daakrolb Год назад +4

      Oh is that why? Oh thank you for telling us why.

    • @mindykloster3540
      @mindykloster3540 Год назад +1

      I love Jim! He’s a great comedian!

    • @shaneomac271
      @shaneomac271 Год назад +1

      i was thinking the same thing watching his new special last night. its not that those things bother me but Jim is just so good at not needing to use that crutch that its really something to be respected.

  • @W3Ar33pic
    @W3Ar33pic Год назад +29

    i think a lot of older men today have no idea what its like being 20 in todays world. i am 22 and feel like ive already been through an entire lifetime of stress and suffering. my generation is broken. most people my age are completely brainwashed and constantly full of intense anxiety. we cannot afford to be carefree in our 20s because life hit us so fucking hard while we were still so young. things are so different now.....

    • @Dave-cf4vd
      @Dave-cf4vd Год назад

      What are you stressed about? From my perspective (with a 20 year old kid) you guys got WAY MORE stuff paid for, with a way better quality of life than I had. You literally have no clue about money, and that's why everyone is a communist. The one disadvantage your gen has is you are probably completely screwed up with hormones, pthalates, bisphenyl acetate, etc. from plastics, thermal paper and everything else. I mean - in some areas 40% of you think you are the opposite gender, lol.

    • @Gasloot
      @Gasloot Год назад +1

      @@KAT-dg6elhey im21 working those hours it’s not everyone

    • @patrickl5290
      @patrickl5290 Год назад +2

      @@KAT-dg6el I think both you and W3Ar can be right. Life is materially easier for people now, but it is way more existentially stressful due to lack of common religion and anxiety induced by increased freedom of choice

    • @zeeboe4909
      @zeeboe4909 Год назад +5

      @@KAT-dg6el I don’t know why you’re surprised people don’t want to waste their whole lives working for little pay.

    • @1nick11
      @1nick11 Год назад

      @@KAT-dg6el i like this constant point you threw out here as if you were a bot retyping some twitter user's post. you typed this like you are in your 50s. im 29 and even when i was out there doing what you say "noone" is doing with all my buds, all we got was barely enough to keep the 4 walls up. didnt matter if we were working at a pizza point, carpet cleaning, hvac, construction, the employers are not paying more than min wage. does it look like we want to start work at 17 years old making shit for money for the first years of adult hood? stfu and foh

  • @Noumenon4Idolatry
    @Noumenon4Idolatry Год назад +6

    I’m 40 and I just let go of all these insecurities and fears. I think everyone young and old should let go of their fear of poverty. Just let it go. Find inner peace first. Then you will know exactly what to do.
    Allot of people chase financial security as well in fear and don’t achieve it.

    • @gtavmj-1852
      @gtavmj-1852 Год назад +1

      A BRILLIANT observation. 👍 if only more could think this way.

    • @Noumenon4Idolatry
      @Noumenon4Idolatry Год назад

      @@gtavmj-1852
      You could also add in
      Along with fear of poverty
      Fear of rejection
      Fear of abandonment of betrayal
      Fear of being alone
      Fear of death
      Any need to control the outcome
      Any need for approval
      Any need for safety
      Inner happiness and inner peace is king. 👑
      I’m still working on this but when I sit down and do it my mind goes silent and I intuitively know exactly what to do next without thinking. Making money is also more effortless. The less I chase it from a place of fear or desire, the more it comes to me without trying.
      I’ve always made bad decisions out of fear and positive ones from a place of serenity or love. The storm remains but so does the serenity. My energy improves and I am lighter and happier despite any outer circumstances.
      I don’t know why we teach kids do give up on their dreams and to seek security other then adults are afraid for their children. This will eventually breed resentment. Mostly because a person will never achieve their full potential. I believe Marcus Aurelius would agree and I doubt he was much of a Buddhist but he was a stoic.

    • @jasminecontreras7341
      @jasminecontreras7341 Год назад

      I’m in my mid twenties and I keep going back and fourth trying to figure out what kind of career path I want to work towards. I went to community college and switched my major multiple times so I took an almost 3 year break and I’ve been looking up career types almost daily in that time period and I think I finally know what I want to do because I know I’ll enjoy it and I’ll only have to get an associates degree and 4k worth of debt to get the job but then I’ll be making around $28-$35 an hour so around 3.8k-4.5k after taxes and I don’t know if that’s going to be enough to save 20% of my income per month, have money leftover for leisure, and save for vacations out of the country. I think this career choice would be a noble one that I would enjoy because I could use my natural strengths and help kids. I’d also get 2.5 months of paid vacation in the summer that I would like to use to see as many different countries as possible. I don’t know if this is the right choice solely based off of the income but I think if I’m not satisfied with the income I could find a way to make an extra 1k per month freelancing or something. The thought of having no extra money per month and having to live in survival mode because i picked the wrong education and career path terrifies me so I just overly analyze everything. I think this career path is it though

  • @jopo7996
    @jopo7996 Год назад +212

    Jim Gaffigan has put out an unbelievable amount of consistently high-quality comedy for years.

    • @sissy-_-fnyc
      @sissy-_-fnyc Год назад +41

      Too bad he destroyed it all by going full TDS!

    • @RealMTBAddict
      @RealMTBAddict Год назад +2

      Lol

    • @sthubbins4038
      @sthubbins4038 Год назад +3

      @@sissy-_-fnycWho do you want to be President in 2025?

    • @B-Nice
      @B-Nice Год назад +4

      ​@@sissy-_-fnycoh no, he's one of the MAGA groupies?? 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @sissy-_-fnyc
      @sissy-_-fnyc Год назад +1

      @@sthubbins4038
      Anyone prepared to return us to the foundational principles and destroy the bureaucracy that enslaves us all.

  • @iloveschicken6527
    @iloveschicken6527 Год назад +3

    We are in the last days of Revelations! It's clear! Keep your eyes open to the skies! God bless!

  • @Pilot_the_Dune
    @Pilot_the_Dune Год назад +21

    I had kids at 22. I am 46 now. My wife and I are on easy street. Kids moved out. The decision to have kids early was the best one.

    • @rezzbuilds8343
      @rezzbuilds8343 Год назад +8

      That’s where I’m headed too. Had kids at 25. House the same year. Why wait until you have no energy or time to have kids? Might as well get it out of the way before. People are too afraid to pull the trigger until everything is perfect which it never is. Truth is everything is difficult and subject to change at a moments notice

    • @Pilot_the_Dune
      @Pilot_the_Dune Год назад +1

      @rezzbuilds8343 Exactly. Main thing we figured out is no one has this under control.

    • @JennaLeeEquals3
      @JennaLeeEquals3 Год назад +12

      Honestly I’m glad I had my first at 39. I enjoyed my 20’s & 30’s, don’t feel 42 at all & I think it’s just different for everyone. I’ve always been a very active high energy type. Atleast I got to travel & do fun things that now I wouldn’t care to do- like I would never be into clubbing now but it was fun 20-25 years ago.

    • @fromulus
      @fromulus Год назад

      You've only done it one way, you couldn't possibly know if it was the best choice.

    • @Pilot_the_Dune
      @Pilot_the_Dune Год назад

      @@fromulus Most lifelong friends did it the other way. I know.

  • @atticusmcfly
    @atticusmcfly Год назад +11

    I'm 28 and if I had the perspective, knowledge, awareness and sense that I have now when I was 14, I would've graduated at the top of my high school class instead of just barely getting by. Time is the ultimate teacher and aging is a lesson in and of itself. Don't look back on your younger self with regret, just be content with what you have learned and keep acquiring wisdom as you go through life.

    • @ducksauce0074
      @ducksauce0074 Год назад +1

      Wow we are in the same boat. I had the exact same thought. I wish you well 🙏

    • @willzinc6137
      @willzinc6137 27 дней назад

      It's almost a cruel fact of life that we (hopefully) grow wiser as we age and lose some of our energy and yet that wisdom would've really helped us when we were more younger and more youthful.

  • @kcvriess
    @kcvriess Год назад +9

    40, Full time low to average paying job. Always in need of money but never in real difficulty, nor worried. Sure I'm limited in my choises but very happy. Jesus, my health and love are the only things that really mater.

  • @POINDXTRMUSIC
    @POINDXTRMUSIC Год назад +71

    2 rich guys talk about how secure their generational wealth is.

    • @tomben6180
      @tomben6180 Год назад +1

      They’re right though. In 2022 I didn’t worry about money at all, never checked my bank account as I was always comfortably in the green. I live in a small house, drive a good but standard SUV, go on holiday a couple of times a year… I’m an average working class guy… this year, the economic situation in my country has meant I am worse off and I’m not constantly having to limit my social life and have started shopping at budget shops for food. I feel less free than 12 months ago.

    • @kippbolt5449
      @kippbolt5449 Год назад +17

      **Two rich guys who risked it all and worked their butts off.

    • @mikebelnap3079
      @mikebelnap3079 Год назад +9

      They made their money the old fashion way……..they worked their asses off and both are talented

    • @9770G
      @9770G Год назад

      Your not wrong but at least they are the ones who made that $ and not the one who is gonna be handed it.

    • @maxryan8189
      @maxryan8189 Год назад +7

      Jim Gaffigans dad was a CEO of a bank lol "worked their asses off" ok...

  • @Ogmc2279
    @Ogmc2279 Год назад +28

    20 and 40 is two different people and lifetimes. Parts of me misses that 29 year old me for sure. Much more carefree and wild

    • @theworldisimmense
      @theworldisimmense Год назад +8

      I feel you , just turned 30 two Months ago and I wish I was 25-26 again

    • @Zenvana
      @Zenvana Год назад +7

      Wow! Reading both of y’all’s comments really just opens my eyes to perspective. I’m 26 and feel old, I wish I was 19-21 again

    • @danielmorris7648
      @danielmorris7648 Год назад +4

      Wtf are you people talking about? You were carefree and wild at TWENTY NINE wtf is happening. No wonder everything's so screwed up most people spend 1/3 of their life trying to get as drunk as possible

    • @vasudevsarvam6912
      @vasudevsarvam6912 Год назад

      Wtf😂...I am 20 and stressed the f up most time. Maybe cuz I don't drink😂

  • @rileyavey1237
    @rileyavey1237 Год назад +3

    Is anyone else in the middle watching this to try soak in life lessons to make their life a little easier acquiring some knowledge they didnt have before? Im 25 with my first baby 3 months old in 9 days all while pulling my life together from being an alcoholic and drug addict since i was 15 to me this is like talking to an old man on a park bench

  • @theIdlecrane
    @theIdlecrane Год назад +14

    I feel like I have been in my 40s since I was 21. It has been heart breakingly difficult.

    • @User98681
      @User98681 Год назад

      Old soul same here I’m 24 yr old young man

    • @foobarmaximus3506
      @foobarmaximus3506 Год назад

      There is always counseling.

    • @anthonywhite8845
      @anthonywhite8845 Год назад

      stop crying, man up

    • @richadambudgen7520
      @richadambudgen7520 Год назад

      That’s sad to hear, life can be hard no doubt. At least we’re all in it together flying through space on a giant rock.

    • @superunicorn1001
      @superunicorn1001 Год назад

      Hey cool others like me

  • @user-bp3xk5uz4q
    @user-bp3xk5uz4q Год назад +35

    I've determined that things that are made to make our lives more easier, more convenient, to be able to do things faster are really going to be the death of us. I never would have thought that when I was in my 20's or even 30's.

    • @sissy-_-fnyc
      @sissy-_-fnyc Год назад +8

      Prepare to survive 10 years without any electricity, that was my most recent challenge. I'm on the right path, but no where near ready.

  • @anklesoncredentials
    @anklesoncredentials Год назад +3

    growing up without a father didn't hurt me until I was the age that they had me. I wish I could go back in time to give myself advice.

  • @unclebubbaknowseverything9143
    @unclebubbaknowseverything9143 Год назад +2

    Knowledge does not equal Wisdom. Only Knowledge plus Experience can become Wisdom....

  • @lowellcalavera6045
    @lowellcalavera6045 Год назад +6

    I’m 62, and have had three families, and lived three utterly disparate lives. My Old Man Advice? “Save as much money as you possibly can.”

    • @rrussell9731
      @rrussell9731 Год назад +4

      That's good advice. I will add three more:
      1. Have self awareness. That is, see yourself as others do. This is hard because it can be painful.
      2. Keep in mind the saying, "I don't know what I don't know."
      3. Never stop growing, learning, helping, improving.

    • @jansonrawlings8169
      @jansonrawlings8169 Год назад +1

      How to save money: try having one, not 3 families

    • @lowellcalavera6045
      @lowellcalavera6045 Год назад +2

      @@jansonrawlings8169 Wow, that's brilliant advice. My first wife (two kids) divorced me at 26. It happens. My second wife (2 more kids) died of liver cancer at 42. I married again (one daughter) in 2004. And there it is. I hope it works out for you exactly as you think it should....but you should prepare for the very real possibility that it won't.

    • @jansonrawlings8169
      @jansonrawlings8169 Год назад +1

      @@lowellcalavera6045 ah man I’m really sorry to hear about some of that and for my comment. Just an off hand joke. Glad you’re continuing on

    • @lowellcalavera6045
      @lowellcalavera6045 Год назад +2

      @@jansonrawlings8169No worries. Life goes on, brother. ✌🏼

  • @joekerUli
    @joekerUli Год назад +27

    I turned 30 2 months ago, and I’m a completely different than I was when I was 20. I have way different priorities now.

    • @ledzeppelin1212
      @ledzeppelin1212 Год назад

      I hear ya. I go to bed at 830pm on Friday night to get up and work on my house the next day. When I was in my 20s, I stayed out until 4am with my friends.

    • @theworldisimmense
      @theworldisimmense Год назад +1

      Dudeeee, same , I be saying I turned 30 two months ago. I’m from late may 1993. I wish I was 25-26 again tho

    • @lauradoll4248
      @lauradoll4248 Год назад +2

      30 was a life changing age for me. For the first time in my life, I really didn't care quite as much about what other people thought about me.

    • @joekerUli
      @joekerUli Год назад

      @@lauradoll4248 I just came to that realization a couple weeks ago, idgaf about what other people think anymore.

    • @whackamolechamp
      @whackamolechamp Год назад +1

      You are on the right path. I hope you achieve success in whatever you pursue.

  • @waynedowney7616
    @waynedowney7616 Год назад +18

    What Joe says like 3/4 of the way through about how some of the most interesting people he knows had fucked up childhoods is really insightful. I have some successful friends who want to have kids but are struggling, and he's really worried about his child growing up to be spoiled because of their wealth. I told him he needs to keep that in mind and make sure he comes up with ways for his kids to earn privileges rather than just being handed everything to essentially simulate an upbringing with some privation. So the kids can understand things aren't free and you have to earn things you want.

    • @inedibledorito
      @inedibledorito Год назад +4

      I really resonate with this and wonder if I was too spoiled so I don't know any better. Not to boast at all but definitely something to reflect on.

    • @Sammasambuddha
      @Sammasambuddha Год назад +1

      It's more about becoming a responsible person, not earning privileges. There should not be any expectations of reward for doing the right thing. The act of being responsible is the reward.

    • @waynedowney7616
      @waynedowney7616 Год назад +1

      @@Sammasambuddha But how do you make someone responsible that has never had to earn anything and knows nothing but comfort? I'm basically talking about not giving them everything they want when they want it. Needing to get a job, and how to take direction/correction. My friend is rich, but is a driven hard worker because he remembers privation when he was little. His younger brother is a spoiled brat who has never worked an honest day in his life and is basically useless, because he was handed everything his whole life. I think we are hitting on the same thing... accountability.

  • @dajointguy9905
    @dajointguy9905 Год назад +9

    As Einstein once said, "Its ashame that youth is wasted on the young."

    • @barryryan5187
      @barryryan5187 Год назад +1

      that quote is from George Bernard Shaw

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад

      Youth is exactly where it’s supposed to be. Whomever said that just had a regrettable youth.

  • @bjkarana
    @bjkarana Год назад +3

    The proverb of "An old young man will be a young old man" comes to mind.

  • @BartG87-
    @BartG87- Год назад +3

    It's amazing how much we can change with age . In my 20's i was a raging alcoholic and i actually liked fighting !
    Now that i'm 54 , i avoid conflict at any cost . I'll try to keep others from fighting even ! It's just a big waste of time 🤷🏼

  • @bananawarriorwootwoot
    @bananawarriorwootwoot Год назад +11

    I think the shift for me happened within the 20-30 period itself. I'm almost 27 now and I just completely disconnected myself from fox, cnn crap.
    Now I just focus on video games,coding and watching the Conan O'Brien podcast and a little bit of jre (aliens and archeology etc ).
    Life's good.
    I can't believe how passionate I was just five years ago. Now it's just " I don't give a fuck"

    • @hannahmcafee
      @hannahmcafee Год назад

      Ah yes, the Chad fence sit. Cringe buddy.

  • @feverpyretic
    @feverpyretic Год назад +1

    I don't have money, but I have made extremely small changes in my life in relation to the products I buy, like if I'm skint, I refuse to buy the 'cheap' version of stuff. Once I made that choice, I told myself "I won't ever go back" I totally relate to Jim talking about 'comfort'
    Once you get there, and know you are capable of it, you don't ever want to go back.

  • @yupdatscookie
    @yupdatscookie Год назад +31

    And just like that, Jim nearly realizes that the very system that has generously rewarded him for his talent and work ethic is the very system he rages against. High praise to Rogan, for his patience while watching the same evolution he went through.

  • @bobbyblueholliday
    @bobbyblueholliday Год назад +1

    I think a little struggle is a necessary evil, due to experience in building upon the foundations of one’s physical and emotional integrity.

  • @CoachForsyth
    @CoachForsyth Год назад +9

    At 57 I would love to go back and talk to myself at age 19.

    • @vblock_zaza
      @vblock_zaza Год назад

      and tell what

    • @rrussell9731
      @rrussell9731 Год назад +1

      I hear you. I think about this multiple times a day. I came from a dysfunctional household, so I've pretty much been on my own since high school (in the 70s). I wish someone would have told me about thinking, reasoning, self awareness, finances, and the saying "You don't know what you don't know." American society is way to superficial and phony and that leads eventually to an unhappy life. Values are what matters.

    • @KAT-dg6el
      @KAT-dg6el Год назад

      If I woke up tomorrow & was 17 and graduating from high school again there is not one thing I would do the same! Not one.

    • @cattysplat
      @cattysplat Год назад +3

      I doubt young you would listen though. Such is the curse of youthful ignorance.

  • @dgrant7291
    @dgrant7291 Год назад

    When you are young being "happy" is one of the most important goals you strive for and dream you can somehow get there. When you reach middle age and later, you are just praying for a little less pain...just a little less. hence seeking comfort.

  • @MVPTC
    @MVPTC Год назад +8

    I’m a completely different person at 30 then I was at 20…. Now my only focus is my career and family.

    • @Oakleyworld
      @Oakleyworld Год назад +4

      At 40 I learned to enjoy my life, how boring for you, that's why I didn't have 10 kids like everyone else

    • @thesecondcoming2422
      @thesecondcoming2422 Год назад +5

      @@Oakleyworld if you actualy know a bunch of ppl with 10 kids chances are you're the one miserable and missing out lol

    • @MVPTC
      @MVPTC Год назад +2

      @@Oakleyworld I’m learning to enjoy life in my 30s after busting my ass from 20-30 lol

    • @Oakleyworld
      @Oakleyworld Год назад

      @@thesecondcoming2422 no they're all broke with no freedom

    • @9770G
      @9770G Год назад +1

      @@thesecondcoming242210 kids is much. I’d say 1-4 is more than enough. That said not everyone wants kids and that’s fine. Some ppl have them and aren’t cut out for it. Also doesn’t help that feminism has ruined marriage for men for the last 30 years.

  • @zel4365
    @zel4365 Год назад +1

    I try to consume this typa content because I can literally feel my brain rot away when I’m on tik tok but I’ll watch a vid like this and feel better at the end

  • @mcdamn_it
    @mcdamn_it Год назад +3

    To watch this today was interesting. My oldest child just took her very first 3 hour trip in her car, alone. Big deal to her, and as her father my emotions are wild.

    • @insuchaway
      @insuchaway Год назад

      Was it a mix of-
      Fear
      Excitement
      Anxiety
      Respect?
      Just imagining how I would possibly feel...

  • @popofilipo7114
    @popofilipo7114 Год назад +4

    This is why Joe is still a podcast king. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @LeviKerrison
    @LeviKerrison Год назад +3

    This is ridiculous, if you aren’t thinking about your safety, financial security and overall well-being in your 20s and moneys necessity than you’re going to end up in a gutter.

    • @willzinc6137
      @willzinc6137 27 дней назад +1

      You can pull yourself out of the gutter at any point though. It gets harder as time goes on but it's always possible.

  • @studentOfCodeX
    @studentOfCodeX Год назад +5

    I'm 27 Gaffigan was one of the first comedians I was introduced too. Hilarious!

  • @DrewsThoughts
    @DrewsThoughts Год назад +20

    It feels very weird to me seeing people my age on social media complaining about their life, complaining about their spouse etc. It's very Juvenile and immature. Like something you would do in your early 20s And I know people that are over 40 doing it. I always think like how haven't you grown up at all??

    • @kneeofjustice9619
      @kneeofjustice9619 Год назад +5

      A lot of people haven’t grown up. All my friends are much more older than me, like in their 30’s and 40’s and they still talk about things like they’re teenagers

    • @americandissident9062
      @americandissident9062 Год назад

      Boomers and Gen X are obsessed with Facebook and other social media.

    • @c1s1125
      @c1s1125 Год назад

      ​@silksonic3927if you are really gen z and you have the self awareness and nuance to notice this - you're off to a good start. I'm 35. My wisdom to you is to learn about how money works. Learn about what fiat currency is, what a debt based economic system is, what the Malthusian Worldview is, learn about how all of this equals downward pressure on the individual to control them. If you trade your time for money you are being made worth less as a function of the moneyprinting. This far removed from the gold standard in '71 means you will not become rich through the merits of your own labor. It is not enough to trade your time for money. A job is the lie that will keep you a serf to the rich and no rich person is obligated to teach the masses how this system is really all fake. You're a slave to your debt if you acquire it. There aren't as many jobs out there available that pay enough to justify the magnitude of debt acquired through higher education. There never were enough of those jobs to begin with. This is the system keeping you in your place - accumulating debt to chase the dead lie that is the American dream. If you want to escape the system you can't play their game. Find a way to make money while you sleep, as a millionaire friend told me. That's the only way to reach terminal velocity - which is financial freedom.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад +1

      Not to long ago, Our culture extended childhood.

    • @c1s1125
      @c1s1125 Год назад

      @@newagain9964 or - placed important parts of adulthood behind paywalls

  • @toastedbabybuns1000
    @toastedbabybuns1000 Год назад +24

    I had this prospective at 19. In order to have religious freedom, and freedom to live life on my own accord, I had to move out and support myself. Every little thing was budgeted. Then when I got married, that hyper stress for money switched to saving money for my husbands greencard, making enough to support ourselves, etc. We waited years to start having kids because I witnessed in my life what having kids before you're stable will do. We spent very little money on entertainment, new clothes etc, I just thrifted like crazy. I don't think perspective is hardwired at a certain age, but rather the environment your grew up in. A lot of privledged kids I went to school with who didn't have to worry about supporting themselves are just now considering moving out or saving money close to their 30s.

  • @deplorablecovfefe9489
    @deplorablecovfefe9489 Год назад +15

    My parents forced me into a after school factory job at fourteen, by the time I was 20, I was going on 30, I never had some 20 yr olds naivety. I was expected to act as a stand alone man at all times from freshman year on...driver license/car/insurance on my 16th birthday, had to keep working if I wanted to keep having a car...moved/pushed out of the house upon high school graduation...couldn't grow up fast enough for my parents...

    • @violetstameski664
      @violetstameski664 Год назад +3

      That’s a bit rough

    • @joeloweryourexpectationsbiden
      @joeloweryourexpectationsbiden Год назад +1

      Your parents did the right thing by preparing you for real life

    • @seanlavelle344
      @seanlavelle344 Год назад +4

      Sounds like your parents had a "sink or swim" Hard love approach to raising you. I'm glad you made it.

    • @1nick11
      @1nick11 Год назад

      @@HecateXander youre completely right telling this dude to stfu. i also had parents like this, to keep it short i wont go in detail. what i found is that maybe im a "good adult now" but i was ALWAYS having the affinity to be this way since i was a kid. you dont need the kid to mow the grass to teach him the value of mowing grass, they understand it, the adults are just being lazy having the kid do all the chores. now that im 29 and none of my siblings talk to our parents anymore, ive told them that they wanna say they did it in the name of "tough love" mf, its 2023, the era isnt 1950. we are just getting the tough part, the love doesnt matter because the tough is tough for made up reasons just to keep the power dynamic. its sick, you shouldnt be having kids if you are going to plan to raise them this way, its wild. throwing out your kid in highschool? why the fuck did you have offsprings if you were just gonna be assholes in the end. i dont have any kids, but you damn well believe they will be treated like a human.

    • @willzinc6137
      @willzinc6137 27 дней назад

      @@joeloweryourexpectationsbiden Nah this is too much.

  • @Abdominal65
    @Abdominal65 Год назад +15

    Life is tough, this is why we owe it to kids to grow up with two parents, one mother, one father, so they can benefit from both perspectives and learn from both. Kids need every advantage we can give them, while they're young, so they can stare down this world, win, lose or draw.

    • @sthubbins4038
      @sthubbins4038 Год назад

      Nice pivot to anti-gay Narrative!

    • @Abdominal65
      @Abdominal65 Год назад

      @@sthubbins4038 don't care. Being gay isn't a skill, talent or an accomplishment and we spend way too much time on it. Kids don't understand basic functions of government, yet can name of all the gay pronouns, that's a problem.

    • @Brofreshonal
      @Brofreshonal Год назад

      This has to be 1 of the dumbest comments on the internet 😂

    • @Vmax59
      @Vmax59 Год назад

      @@KAT-dg6el It is what it is… Focus on the solution instead of the problem and be there for your kids even if the father isn’t present.
      Teach them to not make the same mistakes when they’re older.

    • @jasminecontreras7341
      @jasminecontreras7341 Год назад

      Yep

  • @unknownfilmmaker777
    @unknownfilmmaker777 Год назад +13

    I'm 52. When I was in my mid 20s I thought I was smarter and more badass than I actually was. Industrial band, on a label, releasing records, great reviews, doing interviews. All the stuff that appeared to be going the right direction was actually camouflaging my ignorance, insecurity, lack of experience and the mistakes I was making, camouflaging the fact that I was my own worst enemy. Later on I realized that I, like all people, am a corrupt ignorant hypocrite, and this is why I let go of things like politics and just focused on improving myself personally, professionally, artistically and spiritually. When I look at the world, I see an ocean of people unaware of their own staggering corruption, ignorance and hypocrisy. I also figured out that the water seeks its own level, and that people are exactly the same as those they despise on the other side. Again, this is why I let go of such things, replaced ego and insecurity with joy and gratitude, and fly above the fray of us-vs-them tribal politics or judging others' art. All I can do is improve myself.

  • @familyguy1996iscool
    @familyguy1996iscool Год назад +1

    The movie Click comes to mind, where you can’t wait to get thru life to get to your successes, and if you had a fast forward button it would be useful, but after you have skipped thru all those years, you look back and wish you would have appreciated the time you had with your children when they were children, and your parents when they were younger and/or alive. There is no reason to skip thru life; enjoy every second of it

  • @SmoothJK
    @SmoothJK Год назад +14

    Meanwhile, everyone in college thinks they know everything.

    • @pg_jem
      @pg_jem Год назад +2

      Plenty of adults think they know everything simply because they were breathing for another decade then you. When realistically they've done nothing to improve or learn in the extra time that they have had.

    • @newagain9964
      @newagain9964 Год назад

      That’s starts way before college. It’s a culture thing. And there are plenty of (unhappy) adults/drones who have they audacity to think they know they answers. 🤦‍♂️

  • @sterlthepearl1000
    @sterlthepearl1000 Год назад

    Yesterday is not ours to recover, but today is ours to win or lose.

  • @strongblackcoffee9573
    @strongblackcoffee9573 Год назад +13

    Once you have a child and actually have to take care of someone else, you wake up to how difficult it is to live in America 😢

    • @opnarth
      @opnarth Год назад +1

      Why "in America"? Where is the living easier?

    • @jansonrawlings8169
      @jansonrawlings8169 Год назад

      In many ways America sets the precedent for the global economy. Currently, it doesn’t seem to be easy anywhere western style life exists.

    • @lifeisabadjoke5750
      @lifeisabadjoke5750 Год назад +1

      Stop having kids people.

    • @Mannsy83
      @Mannsy83 Год назад

      Try Sydney where average house is a million even in the crappiest areas

    • @strongblackcoffee9573
      @strongblackcoffee9573 Год назад

      @@opnarth countries with universal healthcare, childcare, paid family leave, education, public housing, etc... All these things are prohibitively expensive in the United States

  • @shortlessonshardquestions8105
    @shortlessonshardquestions8105 Год назад +13

    I am currently 40 and I find that working out and being somewhat uncomfortable is life-giving. Truly, to sit for more than an hour straight does not create a great feeling in me. Nearly everyday, I run about 4 miles in hilly terrain (I don't run downhill, though), do 64 cartwheels, hold a handstand for about a minute, and then cold plunge. These activities can be slightly to really uncomfortable depending on intensity. However, I physically feel as I did when I was in my early 20's because of this routine of physical output. Physically, emotionally, and mentally I feel "fresh" because of having been voluntarily uncomfortable.

    • @noblesavage6858
      @noblesavage6858 Год назад +3

      Underrated comment

    • @BB-mq9qk
      @BB-mq9qk Год назад +1

      I’m 39 in my short time on earth mindset and movement as life is critical to aging with grace imo.

    • @bvdatech1
      @bvdatech1 Год назад +2

      Life is about action, that's why. It's ok to have downtime bout too much will make you need 'it' in destructive ways.

    • @Anne-ku3lj
      @Anne-ku3lj Год назад +2

      I got that from intermittent fasting. Isn’t life weird?!

    • @shortlessonshardquestions8105
      @shortlessonshardquestions8105 Год назад +4

      @@Anne-ku3lj Oh yes, intermittent fasting really works in amazing ways. I'll go up to 18 hours without eating sometimes, and I have noticed how clearly I end up thinking about everything starting around the 14th hour. Thanks for mentioning intermittent fasting.

  • @nez9751
    @nez9751 Год назад +3

    From my experience just leaving my 40’s , I didn’t care about anything in my 20s other than making some money, partying.
    In my 40’s I care more , and sometimes worry why I didn’t before, I think when you become a parent which is did in my early 30s, things change to some degree. There can’t be any right or wrong way to do it as most people’s circumstances are different. I have friend older than me in their 50s and they have no kids, and they juts holiday, party to like I did in my 20’s then in a reduced fashion in my 30’s … and 40’s to be honest.
    I no it’s to just not be an idiot, and put your responsibilities first. My daughter is technically an adult now at 18 , but I worry more about her now than I did when she was 5

  • @camq-py7bs
    @camq-py7bs Год назад

    This is why it’s so important to have stable parents in your life.. I remember being lost in my early 20’s and thankfully my folks guided me to a great career. Now I’m 34, I feel very comfortable with where I’m at.

    • @EMVelez
      @EMVelez Год назад +7

      Those of us whose parents didn’t care are often lost in life.

    • @RexMundi_UTC
      @RexMundi_UTC Год назад

      100%

  • @The.world.has.gone.crazy...
    @The.world.has.gone.crazy... Год назад +8

    When i was 20 is a social leftist, know i am 40 and have a wife and 2 children im more conservative (not right).

    • @fullmoon1072
      @fullmoon1072 Год назад +3

      Same here. I was total leftist. Now I’m libertarian but align a lot with the far right but for different reasons

    • @erinsuzy613
      @erinsuzy613 Год назад

      Same. But I didn't have morals until I was mature and parenting really makes you responsible if you're doing it correctly.

    • @cattysplat
      @cattysplat Год назад

      @@Jiminy-trx Then when you retire you become liberal again for that sweet pension & benefits.

  • @renegadeace1735
    @renegadeace1735 Год назад

    One of the few comedians I've seen live.

  • @SinnerChrono
    @SinnerChrono Год назад +17

    Im 34. Im basically the same now as when i was 18 or 20 or 24 or whatever. I play video games all day, i get high, i work as little as possible and my parents fill the gaps. I have gone out of my way to avoid any change. I love comfort. I hate working. Its not worth it for me to work 40+ hours a week being screamed at humiliated and abused by angry customers who hate the company i work for. So since i was in frontline customer service i got the brunt of anger and hate. Id rather be dead than work for my entire life to make little to no money.

    • @roddydykes7053
      @roddydykes7053 Год назад +4

      I tell myself I’m above this mindset, but based on my actions - turning 30 next week, I’m exactly the same way and it makes me sick.
      Now I have a very needy poor Mexican girlfriend so I convince myself trying to improve her life will make mine meaningful.

    • @SinnerChrono
      @SinnerChrono Год назад +1

      @roddydykes7053 Why? I have a great life. I work 10 or fewer hours a week. I buy and eat whatever i want. And i have no responsibility other than making sure i get stoned every day. My life is wonderful. No stress, no anxiety, no, difficulties. My life is easy and taken care of for me 99% of the time.

    • @SinnerChrono
      @SinnerChrono Год назад

      @CoryPrior999 im in school full time, im getting a bachelor's in human services with an emphasis on mental and emotional wellbeing. Then, I'll be getting a masters in mental health counseling. However, the only way for me to do this is to max out loans each semester. All i need to do is make it until i get my loans, and then i dont need to work or anything. I do lyft about 10 hours a week, and it just doesn't pay much. If someone could show me how to set up for streaming and show me in person or w.e how to do all that and etc id consider that. But i can't teach myself things. I need direct support and guidance. RUclips videos show me how just dont work for me. I need direct support because i just assume anything I'm doing is wrong unless I've done it before successfully. Im not tech savy so the times ive tried looking into how to make even OBS work, and it never does. i dont understand that stuff. Im a people person. Im great with people awful with things or technology. I'd love to youtube on the side and make videos for people to enjoy. im just too dumb with technology of any kind to figure it out on my own. In 3 years, I'll have a career, as im on bimesters, not trimesters. No loans or financial support for summer classes. Ill be 37 by that time, and hopefully be able to find a nice cushy corporate job where i dont have to actually do work and i more exist to satisfy corporate requirements for mental health.

    • @anthonyf616
      @anthonyf616 Год назад

      God, in my early 20s and I don't want to be like this anymore

    • @SinnerChrono
      @SinnerChrono Год назад +1

      @anthonyfernandez82 be like what? Relaxed and carefree? Not beholden to anyone elses needs but your own?

  • @Acesnickvlc
    @Acesnickvlc Год назад +2

    At 20 I knew everything. I’m 38 and I know nothing. Old man says “it’s just the way she goes”.

  • @kingzach5000
    @kingzach5000 Год назад +8

    For kids, you have to give them controlled failures and then talk about it.
    Set them up repetitiously starting at 6 to 8 months old, this is the language stage, shapes and numbers. keep things fun and entertaining, and you will get better results. Around 1 year old you can start teaching them how to clean up after themselves. make it a game and help them as well. as a team repeat this daily. by the time they are 2 years old, you'll see a big change and this is the best time to start teaching them how to clean up around the house and help your kid get a real good understanding of things by explaining how things operate as simply as you can. Your kids will mirror what they see, so be positive, encouraging, and consistent. By 4 years old til about 6 your kid will learn at this rate for the rest of their life subconsciously. They will make decisions based on this portion of life, age 8 months to 6 years old. Thereafter, you just keep refining your kid updating their software. every four year, you will see a new version of your kid.

  • @Theus227
    @Theus227 Год назад

    Comfort, consistency, and peace are all I want now that I’m 40.

    • @trevorz459
      @trevorz459 Год назад

      I just turned 37 and looking for my Patti Mayonnaise 😂

  • @MVPTC
    @MVPTC Год назад +42

    At 20 you save money for beer. At 40 you save money for knee replacements.

    • @dailyhubranx
      @dailyhubranx Год назад

      In a nutshell 😂

    • @TheT040484
      @TheT040484 Год назад +17

      Knee replacement in your 40s? You drank too much beer in your 20s

    • @MVPTC
      @MVPTC Год назад +3

      @@TheT040484 that’s when you start saving for the inevitable health issues is my point 😂

    • @RealMTBAddict
      @RealMTBAddict Год назад +2

      What? Maybe you should be more active instead of sitting around all day.

    • @MVPTC
      @MVPTC Год назад +1

      @@RealMTBAddict you obviously didn’t watch the video lmao 🤣 🤡

  • @rushmatic
    @rushmatic Год назад

    It’s perspective too… I had an old friend of mine tell me that I’m too critical of myself be because I told him I’m not earning enough money. He was like “you’re crazy, you got it all”. I’m not sure but I do feel like money can buy happiness.

  • @mjwbulich
    @mjwbulich Год назад +112

    This line of thinking is why I have sympathy for people in prison. Even ones that committed horrible crimes. 20 year old me was violent and unpredictable. Impulse control was non-existent. I didn't even understand why I did shit. The thought that that stupid kid could have done something that put me in a cell for most of my life sends chills down my spine.

    • @Real-Ruby-Red
      @Real-Ruby-Red Год назад +12

      It’s true but there is not a solution here for that

    • @anthonywar7223
      @anthonywar7223 Год назад +10

      Same surprised I'm alive and a free man. I fear for my kids

    • @knky98bouba82
      @knky98bouba82 Год назад +9

      I understand, I was not a bad kid never did any kind of crime. Until the age of 17 when I was involved in an armed robbery even the judge was surprised that I went from no criminal activity straight to one of the worst. I was impulsive and easily mislead, I remember asking the arresting officer : when am I going home?
      The look on his face like wtf is wrong with u you're going to jail u idiot.
      I was just a lost kid that didn't know anything.

    • @CSwivel
      @CSwivel Год назад +13

      Foh! Not me! If you are violent towards others it’s a big FU from me!

    • @L0D1ZMA
      @L0D1ZMA Год назад +1

      @@knky98bouba82unfortunately if your easily influenced to do something that bad I could not imagine what you could be told that you would believe. You got way more work to do than you think.

  • @mattwatts33
    @mattwatts33 Год назад +1

    5 minutes of Jim Gaffigan and not 1 single mention of food!

  • @bran780
    @bran780 Год назад +20

    The truly hard part of parenting is having to sit back and watch your kids totally suck at parenting because of the current societal influences.

    • @Fragalaging
      @Fragalaging Год назад +9

      Lol easy to blame society for personal failings of a parent

    • @bran780
      @bran780 Год назад +7

      @@Fragalaging guessing you're not a parent or grandparent. Also guessing you're not too intelligent. If people couldn't be influenced by society there would be no need for propaganda.

    • @danielmorris7648
      @danielmorris7648 Год назад +5

      ​@@bran780no the other persons right. You have by far the most influence on your children, if that turn out crappy you were a crappy parent. That might suck to hear but that is the reality.

    • @bran780
      @bran780 Год назад +4

      @@danielmorris7648 go back, read, and try to do some thinking. If you can.

    • @cattysplat
      @cattysplat Год назад

      Yes and no. The insanely religious fervour that effected everything in our childhoods that many of us were brought up in, was just as ideologically fuelled as today's internet obsessed mobs. Many of our parents were very obsessed with greed and selfishness. Kids have had to look after themselves for a long time and are always exposed to being exploited.

  • @Tacmans
    @Tacmans Год назад +2

    Currently 20 and I feel old already lol interesting to see what life will behold. I have many projects I'm pursuing right now hopefully I can tackle them

    • @faustinreeder1075
      @faustinreeder1075 Год назад +1

      I’m 61. If you don’t drink yourself to death, overdose, or get murdered by a crack addict you’ll probably see 61.
      I’m just throwing these out even though you didn’t ask.
      1. Get a hobby. If your girlfriend says the hobby is stupid kick her to the curb.
      2. Save 15 percent of your gross income. Pay yourself first. You don’t need a lift kit on a truck or some other bullshit like a $5000 bicycle
      3. Invest in yourself. What does this mean? It means your health. Don’t be a fat lazy motherfucker. You don’t have to be a triathlete. Respect yourself. Eat good food. Exercise.
      4. Hang out with people who you want to be. If you are surrounded by losers that’s what you’re gonna be. A loser. You’re are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. Choose your friends wisely.
      5. Happiness is bullshit. The joy of life comes from constantly achieving goals.
      Luck is for losers. It’s your life and it’s yours to fuck up and
      Piss away.
      Stay hard!

  • @theALMIGHTYYY
    @theALMIGHTYYY Год назад +3

    At the tender age of 41 I’m just happy to be here after seeing 90% of peers dead or in jail

    • @donaldquirk7801
      @donaldquirk7801 Год назад +1

      Me too. I lost all my friends to suicide, drugs, and prison.

  • @Alex-hm7nt
    @Alex-hm7nt Год назад +18

    The one thing I've learned from parenting (came in as a step to a 15 yr old girl lol) is that you try to instill the best foundation you can and hope that they keep certain parts, while modifying it so that it works for THEM. They aren't necessarily going to do things EXACTLY how you would/will...and thats ok. That was the biggest challenge for me since my wife was YRS ahead in terms of familiarity and such and I had to trust she was doing the right thing (she did lol)

  • @peterbulloch4328
    @peterbulloch4328 Год назад +2

    If I hear another American parent say, " I have a daughter, and she is AMAZING!!" Like if he had a bowl of cereal that would be AMAZING too SMFH!

  • @rickycamilo4488
    @rickycamilo4488 Год назад +3

    being in your 20s now is a terrible time

  • @makatron
    @makatron Год назад +1

    Once you discover comfort and are able to afford it, there's no way back from that.

  • @Zeroo223-d2o
    @Zeroo223-d2o Год назад +4

    At 25 im scared of being 40 time is slipping by so fast.

    • @xboxndew
      @xboxndew Год назад +1

      26 and I feel like I'm turning 30 before I know it and I'm really struggling. I need to get my shit together

  • @sterlthepearl1000
    @sterlthepearl1000 Год назад

    The chains of habits are too lite to be felt, until they are too strong to be broken. Old habits die hard.

  • @ryanrockers
    @ryanrockers Год назад +1

    Jim looks comfortable

  • @a7xkyl
    @a7xkyl Год назад +3

    Me in my 20's "Do I have enough money to get beer?" Me in my 40's "Do I have enough money to get beer?"

  • @ButINowant2Binfluencer
    @ButINowant2Binfluencer Год назад

    It’s good that we have this information available to so many children now tho. I think that the younger generations are undoubtedly be different no matter what you do. Hopefully for the better!

  • @patrickgriffin3829
    @patrickgriffin3829 Год назад +6

    I have never been the biggest fan of Jim’s stand up, but man I really enjoy seeing him being human

    • @MasonBryant
      @MasonBryant Год назад

      A human with an insane deranged almost unhinged hang up on Trump.

  • @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340
    @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340 Год назад +1

    at 3:20 words of wisdom