I had to learn this. It hurt my heart bad bc Brothas normally don't give up. Brothas stay in bc our heart is involved. He may do some stuff during the relationship, mess up etc.etc, but the mere fact that he didn't leave her for another speaks volumes. But, on the other side of it, whn she knows that you will NOT leave her for another. Whn she knows that you want her in every aspect of the word, physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. Whn she knows that he took his time to learn her body, her mind and build a soulful connection with her. Whn she knows that he worked through her challenges eventhough she threatens to leave him numerous times, messes with his heart knowing it hurts him, this is what becomes the spearhead of the issue. He is forced to leave. 😔. Well, I will stop right here. Perhaps I am speaking to something that has no merit or falls on callous hearts. 😔. Whn a Man loves a woman, you shld embrace Him wholeheartedly. It's a cold world, and he is built to move through it. He is your order in the chaos. 🫡! Indeed Allah is All in All. May Allah continue to bless you all and your families. GOLD•P
@@lynx6032 Right?! Her name is Chantal Heid and she’s a dating coach from Canada. She authored a book entitled No More Assholes. This clip came from a full interview that can be found here: ruclips.net/video/PMsvjBDOrfM/видео.htmlsi=FCfGy3BhR4ydjikA
You have to remember that they also dont understand what they are doing. They think they love you. The just dont realize its codependent not love. Thats why it feels like a lie
Right or if a person starts off doing a lot and then backs off from “doing” maybe you weren’t reciprocating anything to contribute and they back off to watch and see if you will contribute anything .
Speech comes from the heart. Word is Bond. Action is Important Also. But the Word of a Human Being should never be trifled with, because if they Say they probably feel. The Problem is some people ain’t Good with execution. So the idea of ‘Words Don’t matter’ is a drastic jump to conclusions.
@@jimmynomadd9405 Yes! I feel you! Words absolutely matter. I think she was just saying, don’t get caught up with words when the person’s actions constantly reflect the opposite. For example, if you’re with someone who is supposed to be your man/woman, but they are constantly playing games with you, ghosting you, gaslighting you, and manipulating you - and the moment you back off they come back smiling in your face talking about how much they like you trying to reel you in again … AND that’s a pattern that keep happening. She’s saying in situations like that, THEIR words don’t matter. Not everyone can be trusted with their words, unfortunately. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, especially if you thought you were truly in love with someone. 😔 I’ve been there.
i dont necessarily agree with this. i have had people in my life who i know who loved me. their actions didnt match due to their own deficits and flaws. it still means its time to move on, but maybe its easier to believe that someone doesnt actually love you and not someone loves you but is incapable of meeting your needs and showing it to you in action.
I wish she and I were friends and had been for many, many years! Would’ve saved me a lot of stress, as long as I listened…🤔hmmm, nvm, she doesn’t deserve an award winning moron like me as a buddy! It’s taken me 49 years to understand this. Ain’t what they say, it’s what they do. 🎉
Mom is right, kid.
Listen to her.
I had to learn this. It hurt my heart bad bc Brothas normally don't give up. Brothas stay in bc our heart is involved.
He may do some stuff during the relationship, mess up etc.etc, but the mere fact that he didn't leave her for another speaks volumes.
But, on the other side of it, whn she knows that you will NOT leave her for another. Whn she knows that you want her in every aspect of the word, physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. Whn she knows that he took his time to learn her body, her mind and build a soulful connection with her. Whn she knows that he worked through her challenges eventhough she threatens to leave him numerous times, messes with his heart knowing it hurts him, this is what becomes the spearhead of the issue. He is forced to leave. 😔.
Well, I will stop right here. Perhaps I am speaking to something that has no merit or falls on callous hearts.
😔. Whn a Man loves a woman, you shld embrace Him wholeheartedly. It's a cold world, and he is built to move through it. He is your order in the chaos.
🫡! Indeed Allah is All in All. May Allah continue to bless you all and your families.
GOLD•P
Damn who is this? She’s got good advice
@@lynx6032
Right?! Her name is Chantal Heid and she’s a dating coach from Canada. She authored a book entitled No More Assholes. This clip came from a full interview that can be found here: ruclips.net/video/PMsvjBDOrfM/видео.htmlsi=FCfGy3BhR4ydjikA
It is a simple concept, and the meaning so deep, we do find it difficult to understand...But life will fetch us around over time!!!
You have to remember that they also dont understand what they are doing. They think they love you. The just dont realize its codependent not love. Thats why it feels like a lie
Right or if a person starts off doing a lot and then backs off from “doing” maybe you weren’t reciprocating anything to contribute and they back off to watch and see if you will contribute anything .
Speech comes from the heart. Word is Bond. Action is Important Also. But the Word of a Human Being should never be trifled with, because if they Say they probably feel. The Problem is some people ain’t Good with execution. So the idea of ‘Words Don’t matter’ is a drastic jump to conclusions.
@@jimmynomadd9405 Yes! I feel you! Words absolutely matter.
I think she was just saying, don’t get caught up with words when the person’s actions constantly reflect the opposite. For example, if you’re with someone who is supposed to be your man/woman, but they are constantly playing games with you, ghosting you, gaslighting you, and manipulating you - and the moment you back off they come back smiling in your face talking about how much they like you trying to reel you in again … AND that’s a pattern that keep happening. She’s saying in situations like that, THEIR words don’t matter.
Not everyone can be trusted with their words, unfortunately. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, especially if you thought you were truly in love with someone. 😔 I’ve been there.
i dont necessarily agree with this. i have had people in my life who i know who loved me. their actions didnt match due to their own deficits and flaws. it still means its time to move on, but maybe its easier to believe that someone doesnt actually love you and not someone loves you but is incapable of meeting your needs and showing it to you in action.
I wish she and I were friends and had been for many, many years! Would’ve saved me a lot of stress, as long as I listened…🤔hmmm, nvm, she doesn’t deserve an award winning moron like me as a buddy! It’s taken me 49 years to understand this. Ain’t what they say, it’s what they do. 🎉