So good you turned from your deepest point of suicidal ideas. You are a great story teller, I apreciated your introduction of B. Riley House very much. Go on with it!
ThankU Nick. Can't speak for others, I used to kill pain. Miracle I did not succumb to self destruction. Needed both therapy & program. Our self esteem takes a massive hit growing up divergent
Nick, you said exactly how I feel, so true. I had an accepting intermediate family. The rest of my family I was good, but was never open and out. My years in school was hell, and hectic trying to balance my school work and my hormones and being called all types of degrading comments and actions, and church and being social. 😔😢
Compulsive sexual behavior can also be an issue in the LGBTQIA+ community! It's also a type of addiction! I'm not saying it only happens in the gay community, but a lot of us look for sex in a way that can be very derogatory, sometimes! Self respect, self love and some self-esteem will lead us to a better place!
Because of society’s overall lack of support and understanding of homosexuality as a whole. Most of us hide ourselves, …which leads to self esteem issues..which leads to insecurity …which leads to fear.. which leads back to hiding again..a continuous vicious cycle of fear, anxiety and depression , that takes it toll on you.. not an easy life, as you always have to live with the fact that once your “out” your labeled as gay first..as in “you know who that is, he’s gay “… how nice would it be if you didn’t need to come out and just be whoever you were, without any need to label it
This surprises me now really,are we that slow progress ? Makes me sad that SOME parts of society still think this way, I can’t wait for the day guys can walk down the road holding their partners hand. Sure some places can , but if straight ppl can why can’t we show affection. I do think many straight Males have come around I see on social media or in RL strangely it’s females I encounter with it.
@@KoalaBeer.I would love to see two guys holding hands where I live, but I worry the reaction might be hostile. I live in a small town in the far south-west of Cornwall. It's still 1994 down here.
I think it's because so many of us don't like who we are. My own mental health was poor in the '90s but I'm much better now. It helps that attitudes towards us (still struggling with the G word) are far better than they used to be, but I still lack confidence sometimes, especially when I'm around straight guys who are alpha. It's like I'm fearful of being found out, even though they probably wouldn't care anyway. Old habits are hard to break.
When I was young and discovering myself~~ I thought that being nice looking and attracting bed mates was the ultimate gay life~~ I found out very early after many disappointing encounters I was so very wrong ~~ I finally refused to become a sex object! I was a more one on one personable relationship! It just worked for me! When I made that decision it’s seems my entire life changed ~~ I met the man of my dreams~~ together 39 years and counting~~ my mental health improved realizing that I had much more to offer than just sex! At that time I did dabble in drug’s although not hard core ~ Seems like gay life is still centered around hotness and sex Along with that baggage also comes with low self esteem and self worth! Looks fade however you still have to look at yourself in the mirror ~~ So yes I think in the gay community should focus more on mental health and self worth! Yet here we are ~~still on the hamster wheel ~~ going in circles ~~ not all however many ~~ My two cents! Love all❤️
Thanks for this video! If society never fully accepts you then you're always going to be running against the current and that will more than likely lead to mental health issues. For some of us born before say 1990, it was less likely that our parents were going to be accepting and even my own mom who is most accepting now was very much against me being gay and definitely against me being gay and into older men. That's always left a psychological scar on me and that's combined with anything else that I already had to deal with.
YEA - Very glad to see your Scruff is back. I took my moustache off for the 1st time in my life... Then went with overall 3 day full stubble beard. I LOVE IT. Physical appearance is a huge part of our overall mental health. I believe it's because we are trying to attract another handsome man. In my case a Ecuadorian Hunk 😂🤡♥️ - JK Glad the hurricane didnt seem to hit you too hard ❤
I drink a lot of alcohol, but that's because I'm German 🤷🏽♂️. You should never drink because of depression or anxiety. Only drink, cuz you're happy or with friends or dancing.
We live in 2024 should mental health still be a thing about being gay? . I suffered in 80s/90s Aids crisis didn’t help ppl accept you I escaped getting it luckily . You’d think now with marriage legal, would be so easy to be yourself no? Wish I was in my 20s now.
I'm gay and I do not have any mental health problem related to drogs or similar. I think you must find the right association (with heterosexuals) who treath mental health and fit your problem. It could be physocogycal damage from various sources, lonelliness (friends, love, family individually or everyone the same time) and understand homosexuallity is not the problem. It could be religion, churches, spiritual things, volunteering, self-help groups... I do not know anything from you, but those things are usually different from place to place. You said you are listening already a doctor... so... you don't need this idea. I find the same struggle and i'm going on fighting my lonelliness (deep in so much different level), but i like volunteering, religion and mental health topic by myself. Maybe is your problem too. Edit: please do not read statistic of all the lgbtq+ as only one of them and not try to have a much bigger picture with those.
HI NICK IM DOING GREAT THAT HURRICANE JUST HIT FLORIDA UP TO HALF OF STATE CITIES JUST WASH AWAY AND FLOOD IT DIDN.T HIT IN OKLAHOMA CITY WELL FLORIDA GAY PRIDE GOT WASH AWAY THERE WILL BE NO GAY AS WELL BECAUSE GOD KNOW IT IT MADE ME SOOO SAD FOR IT LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰🥰
keep up the good work x
So good you turned from your deepest point of suicidal ideas. You are a great story teller, I apreciated your introduction of B. Riley House very much. Go on with it!
Thank you soo much ❤️❤️❤️
ThankU Nick. Can't speak for others, I used to kill pain. Miracle I did not succumb to self destruction. Needed both therapy & program. Our self esteem takes a massive hit growing up divergent
@@carlorizzo827 very good point thank you ❤️
Nick, you said exactly how I feel, so true. I had an accepting intermediate family. The rest of my family I was good, but was never open and out. My years in school was hell, and hectic trying to balance my school work and my hormones and being called all types of degrading comments and actions, and church and being social. 😔😢
Compulsive sexual behavior can also be an issue in the LGBTQIA+ community! It's also a type of addiction! I'm not saying it only happens in the gay community, but a lot of us look for sex in a way that can be very derogatory, sometimes! Self respect, self love and some self-esteem will lead us to a better place!
Because of society’s overall lack of support and understanding of homosexuality as a whole. Most of us hide ourselves, …which leads to self esteem issues..which leads to insecurity …which leads to fear.. which leads back to hiding again..a continuous vicious cycle of fear, anxiety and depression , that takes it toll on you.. not an easy life, as you always have to live with the fact that once your “out” your labeled as gay first..as in “you know who that is, he’s gay “… how nice would it be if you didn’t need to come out and just be whoever you were, without any need to label it
This surprises me now really,are we that slow progress ? Makes me sad that SOME parts of society still think this way, I can’t wait for the day guys can walk down the road holding their partners hand. Sure some places can , but if straight ppl can why can’t we show affection. I do think many straight Males have come around I see on social media or in RL strangely it’s females I encounter with it.
@@KoalaBeer.- my husband and I have been together 45 years & never held hands in public & we live in a progressive city, Philadelphia PA USA.
@@KoalaBeer.I would love to see two guys holding hands where I live, but I worry the reaction might be hostile. I live in a small town in the far south-west of Cornwall. It's still 1994 down here.
I think it's because so many of us don't like who we are. My own mental health was poor in the '90s but I'm much better now. It helps that attitudes towards us (still struggling with the G word) are far better than they used to be, but I still lack confidence sometimes, especially when I'm around straight guys who are alpha. It's like I'm fearful of being found out, even though they probably wouldn't care anyway. Old habits are hard to break.
@@kernow9324 thank you for this ❤️🙏 soo true
Yes its journey but you just keep ploding along.
I liked who I was am, I wanted others to though.
When I was young and discovering myself~~ I thought that being nice looking and attracting bed mates was the ultimate gay life~~ I found out very early after many disappointing encounters I was so very wrong ~~ I finally refused to become a sex object! I was a more one on one personable relationship! It just worked for me!
When I made that decision it’s seems my entire life changed ~~ I met the man of my dreams~~ together 39 years and counting~~ my mental health improved realizing that I had much more to offer than just sex!
At that time I did dabble in drug’s although not hard core ~
Seems like gay life is still centered around hotness and sex
Along with that baggage also comes with low self esteem and self worth! Looks fade however you still have to look at yourself in the mirror ~~
So yes I think in the gay community should focus more on mental health and self worth!
Yet here we are ~~still on the hamster wheel ~~ going in circles ~~ not all however many ~~
My two cents! Love all❤️
That's not just a gay thing.
thanks for the video nick i love your videos
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Thanks for this video!
If society never fully accepts you then you're always going to be running against the current and that will more than likely lead to mental health issues.
For some of us born before say 1990, it was less likely that our parents were going to be accepting and even my own mom who is most accepting now was very much against me being gay and definitely against me being gay and into older men.
That's always left a psychological scar on me and that's combined with anything else that I already had to deal with.
I totally agree and understand that ❤️
Have they expanded the rehab locations?
@@ontheaaron I don’t think so I gotta double check
YEA - Very glad to see your Scruff is back. I took my moustache off for the 1st time in my life... Then went with overall 3 day full stubble beard.
I LOVE IT.
Physical appearance is a huge part of our overall mental health. I believe it's because we are trying to attract another handsome man.
In my case a Ecuadorian Hunk
😂🤡♥️ - JK
Glad the hurricane didnt seem to hit you too hard
❤
I drink a lot of alcohol, but that's because I'm German 🤷🏽♂️. You should never drink because of depression or anxiety. Only drink, cuz you're happy or with friends or dancing.
We live in 2024 should mental health still be a thing about being gay? . I suffered in 80s/90s Aids crisis didn’t help ppl accept you I escaped getting it luckily . You’d think now with marriage legal, would be so easy to be yourself no? Wish I was in my 20s now.
Think it depends on how you grew up especially if your in a small town vs big city and the family dynamics
My personal answer: because even with a supportive home, growing up queer is still really hard in a still pretty queerphobic society.
I'm a 70-year-old Gay man and the word "qveer" is not in my vocabulary.
@@josephblue4135 Who cares.
@@josephblue4135 Exactly. I loathe that word.
I'm gay and I do not have any mental health problem related to drogs or similar. I think you must find the right association (with heterosexuals) who treath mental health and fit your problem. It could be physocogycal damage from various sources, lonelliness (friends, love, family individually or everyone the same time) and understand homosexuallity is not the problem. It could be religion, churches, spiritual things, volunteering, self-help groups... I do not know anything from you, but those things are usually different from place to place. You said you are listening already a doctor... so... you don't need this idea. I find the same struggle and i'm going on fighting my lonelliness (deep in so much different level), but i like volunteering, religion and mental health topic by myself. Maybe is your problem too.
Edit: please do not read statistic of all the lgbtq+ as only one of them and not try to have a much bigger picture with those.
My husband and I believe it’s the company that you keep more than anything else. Regardless, seek help if you need it. We all need some help sometimes
HI NICK IM DOING GREAT THAT HURRICANE JUST HIT FLORIDA UP TO HALF OF STATE CITIES JUST WASH AWAY AND FLOOD IT DIDN.T HIT IN OKLAHOMA CITY WELL FLORIDA GAY PRIDE GOT WASH AWAY THERE WILL BE NO GAY AS WELL BECAUSE GOD KNOW IT IT MADE ME SOOO SAD FOR IT LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰🥰