12 Irrational Beliefs that can Hold You Back
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- Опубликовано: 13 окт 2024
- Human beings are prone to developing irrational, limiting beliefs, which often lead to distorted perceptions of reality and hinder personal growth. These irrational beliefs, identified by psychologist Albert Ellis, shed light on the faulty thinking patterns that can negatively impact our lives.
By examining these twelve irrational beliefs, we can recognise the fallacious thinking patterns that can hinder personal development and well-being. Awareness of these beliefs is the first step towards challenging and replacing them with rational and empowering perspectives. By cultivating a more realistic and adaptive mindset, individuals can navigate life's challenges more effectively and experience greater personal growth and fulfilment and improve overall mental health.
Looking at the beliefs from a general perspective, the perspective of having been in a narcissistic relationship, as well as how they might apply to a narcissistic person.
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Thank you, this is helping me. I am currently struggling to come to terms to the fact that I have to stop hoping that my mother will ever change. That she will do something to overcome her narcissism and finally see me and my pain. But it’s never gonna happen and I have to accept the unfairness of it.
Thank you.
One cannot help someone (such as a narcissist) if that person does not acknowledge they have a mental disorder in the first place. A narcissist's thinking can be highly irrational at times and it's best to avoid the narcissist completely if possible. Narcissist live in their own false reality in order to feed their extremely large egos.....
Thank you Darren for an absolutely great podcast. Everything you said is wise and helpful.
Thank you I'm gong to look more into this
Really good points... Internalizing some of them isn't so easy, but they're good to think about! 😊
This is such a spectacular subject - Thank you! ❤
My husband is the exact opposite. He may try something once and can’t do it but then has a pity party and says “I can’t do anything right”! That gets old too.
Sounds like he needs a cheerleader. Maybe you could be on his team?
@@tooruoikawa8985 I do encourage him but time after time it does wear on you.
You've told.him that for a generally responsible adult, it's oddly immature of him to expect mastery of any skill without putting in the time practicing the skill to become a master--generally acknowledged to be about 10,000 hours of practice to become an expert?
I read Albert ellis" books back in the 80's. --very helpful
Great video! A must watch as a reminder of where we can get ourselves stuck in our own thought processes. Thank you!
Really appreciate your taking the time and making the effort to discuss all this. Thank you. (Also looked up Ellis-interesting. And enjoy your sense of humor.)
Darren, thank you.❤
I have enjoyed your exposition so much, I'm going to keep it to remain myself the 12 irrational beliefs.
Thank you very much 👍
Hi, I write from Dublin, but I am originally from Belfast. I have just subscribed to your channel. Great stuff!
I have been studying psychology for 10 years. Learning the top stuff with you ;)
The question that is most important is "how did people become narcasistic? They don't get a book, go to training, they simply have the trait so I feel it is neurological damage. Narcissism and Autism sit in the same spectrum and I believe that the Columbia University study in 2017 on Vaccine Injury resulting in pre-natal fever, causing Autism (40-300% increase) has something to do with it. That the 'obliviously' autistic people form only a part of the cohort that is affected because our measurement of autism has a cut off point.
I also believe the zero carbon objective is reducing street lighting and causing a one sided peripheral strobe effect. This would trigger an unsettling feeling in an Autistic person and could cause issues at home.
Thank you for the video!
So helpful, thank you
Hi, I just watched this stream and wanted to thank you for your helpful videos, I've seen quite a few of them.
I also wanted to say that the movie you mentioned, "The Empire Strikes Back", is also one of my favorite movies. :)
And I understand from the models behind you that you have a thing for science fiction. Same here, I've also got SF models. :)
Anyway, thanks again for your videos!
Cheers!
My narc ex has a beautiful wife, is successful at work and gives talks on spirituality. It boggles my mind, but he was always nasty at home and had a 2nd image in public. I want to stop ruminating about his deceit, cheating on me and emotional abuse.
The ruminating has been really persistent for me too. Journaling, especially writing to myself as my own best friend has really helped. I hope you find relief.
That doesn't mean that will last like that
@@nicholecornes1915 thanks, yes, you're right. Everything is impermanence isn't it.
@@jera9654 thanks, im doing alot better, although I haven't been journaling much. I'm glad it's helping you. Can I ask what you tell yourself? I have some buddhist teachings that I tell myself.
Absolute gold 🙌
Thank you Darren 🙏.
Very helpful thank you.
It is possible that someone can change, however the discussion about someone repeatedly doing the same thing over and over again, apologizing for it then repeating compared with what Dr Ramani would say when they show you who they are the first time pay attention could use further clarification. Although a narcissist isn't going to tell you the truth or the whole truth the first time. It took me 23 years to get a version of the truth only because they forgot what they had originally said.
I took it he meant where they are on the spectrum, how deeply ingrained the traits are, and whether or not they want to change. He's mentioned this before, but he also said that those with strong narcissistic traits don't want to change because they take no responsibility for themselves. It's everyone else who has to change
If you could speak with “no contact” with parents. I feel it’s a very specific situation that causes guilt and isolation from more family than expected. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
I’d talked about no contact in a livestream of there’s anything there you’d find helpful?
Thanks again it is true you cannot buy love or friendship it is a temporary happy feeling they appreciate the gift’s but it doesn’t mean that they own you because of it beware of Greeks who bare gifts metaphor for Trojan horse not to say genuine people give gifts of appreciation for each other know the difference
Heaven is to want reality
Grocery manager down the street says stuff to me that leads me to think i have no value--im old so i should get off the planet soon!
It sounds like a bitter grocery manager. Don't allow him to annoy you. He has to live with himself every second of his life and that's his problem. Avoid talking to him and ignore everything he says.
@@Lyrielonwind thanks for your supportive words! I avoid him now as much as possible.
I laughed so hard on this toast bir omg
Narcissist hate godly people they wont say it but they do
Hello 👋
12 irrational beliefs.. 🫤
Besides believing in oneself..
ALL BELIEFS ARE IRRATIONAL.
Am I wrong? Is so, please enlighten me.
Why is the belief in the tribal jewish god not on the list?
Because without God you have no foundation. It is irrational to think you can live without a belief in someone you need. Your question, in its essence shows that you don’t understand what you are trying to deny.