One thing that helped me was, when I had an intrusive thought, I would say, "It is just a thought." And then let it go. If you practice it, it helps you stop doing this compulsive behavior.
I've been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the last 6 months, and this made me motivated to fight it, and finally to keep living the life without intrusive thoughts making me go crazy, you guys are amazing! Appreciate you!
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts do not fight them and they will fade, practice this
@@justwantedtochangemyname Just accept them, they don't define you, you having those thoughts means that you're totally opposite of that and you would never do those types of things.
My intrusive thoughts always seem to be about people/animals around me, especially those whom look up to me or are in some ways vulnerable to or dependent upon me. And that sounds like the experience for many people here: You have a thought about harming/violating someone whom you have the responsibility of loving & protecting. Of course, this intrusive thought phenomenon all sounds “natural” but I know it feels the farthest thing from natural! I’ve been losing sleep over these thoughts and my obsession over them for 3 weeks now. Best of luck to all!
don’t let these thoughts get to you, I think what causes the thought is our greatest fear.For me it’s hurting others with my words, I always wanna be in a position where I uplift others and so my intrusive thoughts are the opposite.For you, those people look up to you, and the exact opposite of what you want, would be hurting them.I feel as though that may be the reason why those intrusive thoughts occur, becuase they’re repulsive, you’d never do it, and it’s something that horrifies you, so don’t let these thoughts get you down, they are worthless and not true.It’s hard to deal with them but I know we can prevail :)
I've been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the last 5 months...it's been hard focusing on school etc.. Im just glad to know that there are people out there to help. Thank you so much for this video ❤️
Viraaj, Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Hi Shyaam, thank you so much for the advice.. really means a lot. I will make sure I put your advice into practice. Once again, thank you ! :)
@@viraajanandkumar8769 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even I take a walk, when reading, on the laptop, before sleep etc and feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing needed. Stillness relaxes the mind quickly. Always do meditation without expectations. Let it happen to you. For a few days if you want to use headphones then the link is as follows--"Mini anapana 10 minutes meditation in English by SN Goenka". You are an Indian so you know about Vipaasna and anapana practiced all around the world. Best wishes.
I been having intrusive thoughts since 2017 after a weird negative spiritual and emotional episode. It haunted me for years. I was able to function and still travel and work. This video has been life changing. Really glad this and open conversation in regards to this. I am making the practice of truly understanding why I am having the intrusive thoughts. In fact, it means i really care about something. In my case, my intrusive thoughts show me that I truly care about personal and intimate relationships. I will practice not fearing the thoughts and most importantly not getting rid of them.
I've been struggling with intrusive thoughts for the better part of 6 years. This webinar has given me valuable insight that I am extremely grateful for. Thank you so much
Amazing video, thank you. I’ve suffered with anxiety for years, I also found the keto diet increased my anxiety which then increased the severity and frequency of intrusive obsessive thoughts I was having. I’ve spoken about this in therapy, read books and watch amazing videos like this and have found what you put in is what you put out. Healthy lifestyle, healthy diet, not reading and watching negative triggering news, accepting the thoughts will be here and they just flow like water. Don’t fight it, let them be and go on with life and think that you are not trying to banish the thoughts rather manage them and accept that they will be there and the less I interact with them the less severe, frequent and crippling they become.
I have recently concluded that my negative self talk is the result of long standing sibling abuse. I can be happy for them when they have good news, I can check on them by phone when they have Covid, give their photos hearts, but when I have something good happen or share photos, they just make snide remarks.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the past three years and your presentation gave me hope and so much information that i will use. Thank you again 🙏🏻
Hello, So I have anxiety which makes these Intrusive thoughts worse. I always get thoughts about Harming people I love. It really sucks! I just want to get better for my family
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts and they will fade, practice this
You may not agree but I have been watching your videos and wrote this down "The more I can learn to accept intrusive thoughts the more I have seen to realise what my Trauma's look like and that it is reactions from years of Trauma. Trauma when my inhibition has become damaged and took a real toll from when my Dad passed at 13 years. It also became damaged from outside allowed influence that had an outer intrusive patterning and that if you adapt to after a number of years it can prolong in your thought pattern and lead to these intrusive thoughts. When you can look at them without judgement I think you can see where they stem from which helps to start to look at and understand why your mind is projecting it." Honing to the present really has helped to hear that and to hear this up, so Thank you Very much.
Wow. I started researching this topic after a coworker asked me “what goes on in your head?” and I immediately answered “nothing.” Ironically, his question got me thinking.. why do so many people seem disturbed or bothered by their own thoughts? I’m 35 years old and I don’t recall having intrusive thoughts, or mistaking thoughts for who I am or what I want, or letting my thoughts dictate how I feel. I’ve always thought (haha) of my mind/thoughts as a tool - just because I pick up a hammer doesn’t mean I’m going to drive a nail. I have a lot to learn from this subject and I feel like it will help me become more tolerant of others, instead of assuming they’re only acting like they’re bothered simply by what is going on in their mind. Wow. Just wow.
My intrusive thoughts aren't about something I can control, they are about me dying, leaving my wife and daughter behind, based on the fact I had a stroke at the age of 33, I'm now 39.
James, My prayers are with you. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair. eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
my intrusive thoughts stopped for so so long, now they're back and its now about my sexual orientation and im so exhausted bc whenever i think abt it i start sobbing my eyes out
Your right ✅️ its always bout Something I Value important to me like im trying to be perfect the more i try the more it happens to me. Its awful been this way.
I have been facing intrusive thought over 1 month ,this caused my muscle mass down of 4 kg and high bp 150/100, and now i am used to it and think of it curiously ,the more effort you try to control these thoughts ,the more they anxious and mind is related to physical health ,sleep problems ,more stress ,that leads to insomania much more , enjoy intrusive thought in my point of view ,thats the only way to not feel anxious and stress ,one day will come when we can delete memories from our mind that when intrusive thoughts started ,that next level of science ,but i dont know why 1 percent of population have intrusive thought , previous life problem is behind it must bee, the best advice is to engage urself in some activities u like the most 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗, in current technology our mind is in our hand nothing can cure that we have to do it happily ,
I don’t know if I’m watching live or not, but my intrusive thought is thinking I will wake up feeling like vomiting and I’m very phobic about vomiting. Consequently I force myself to stay awake as long as I can.
Elizabeth, If needed visit a psychologist. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@avamiller2325 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing or counting needed. Never do meditation with expectations. Meditation happens to you from within if done sincerely. Read my msg and do the practice regularly to develop your mental muscles during these tough times. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Senior counsellor.
I AGREE 👍 💯 SUFFERED YEARS WITH THIS. EASED A BIT. BUT WHEN THINK BOUT IT REMINDS ME. STARTS AGAN. GREAT SEE IM NOT ALONE WITH THIS PROBLEM WERE GOOD PEOPLE TROUBLED. TAKE CARE LIZ
ERP is the single most effective strategy but it was glossed over and equated to the 4 steps which were more about mindfulness strategies with sone philosophies. It was all rather rushed. To equate ERP with the 4 steps is a generalisation as in many cases the exposure protocol is fairly direct but leads to very helpful outcomes.
I've had intrusive thoughts for nearly 30 years. At this point, they have manifested into it's own being nearly and I'm a slave imprisoned by my own mind. I don't get anymore sleep these days, the intrusive thoughts are making me into an insomniac. I just want to be able to sleep again. That's all I want. I just want to sleep.
I have very bad anxiety that has heightened since giving birth 3 months ago, I love my baby and my family so much that I worry so much they’re all going to die. And my brain imagines these situations because I’m so petrified of them happening. I approach everything with a worse case scenario attitude and it’s eating away at me. I have to check my baby’s breathing 5/6 times a night, I imagine him not being here because I’m so petrified of loosing him. It’s killing me
My best friends boyfriend commit suicide the end of may by mutilating his body with a knife. He didn’t really have any symptoms that would tell you he’d struggled with mental health. Turns out he was bipolar and suffered severe clinical depression for a long, long time. But after he died I suffered from intrusive thoughts as well. About snapping or losing my mind. I already have anxiety and slight agoraphobia. But you have to just understand that it’s a thought, meet it, shake it’s hand, and know you’re not alone. And it’s not indicative of something bad coming.
One small trick, that may make it LESS SCARY....& eventually lessen them.....is to see the INTRUSIVE thought as a cartoon w/ silly characters & voices as high pitched girly or like Donald Duck........it gives YOU CONTROL atleast of part of the thought....Also, YOU ARE NOT your THOUGHTS ......they are like Clouds....You are MUCH Bigger you are the WHOLE SKY!!........ DONT try to STOP them.....let them float by like clouds do, tell yourself... I see you, but you have no value in my life.....your subconscious picks up it as not important......( Eckhart Tolle, Spiritual teacher teachers HOW to handle these mind games❤️🙏) ....good Luck...........
For anyone going through tough times and these kind of thoughts in their mind you need to realize life is to live with Happiness.. don't struggle with a problem that you created, if you have created messed up thoughts or a way of thinking you are struggling with..Meditate in your head thinking back and realizing how you were feeling happy and wonderful in your life before this all started and when did your mind started to mess up..the more you want to know and think about why is your life and your brain is not straight the longer you will keep your miserable life alive..so if you hit the rock-bottom there's only one way out that is getting up and get outta there..Meditation is the key for every single problem in your head.Just remember our brain is more powerful than an elephant or a lion...lol
Murali, 60,000 thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reprogramme the mind. . Avoid watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am besieged by intrusive thoughts of suicide , but hate idea. I’ve tried years of treatment, but now feel the focus on treatment made it all worse. And then I was shocked to get an homicidal thought and discussed this with psychiatrist and asked what to do to get rid of them. I tried Dr Pennebaker technique on the internet to throw away the thoughts, bu have been arrested for this and accused of “soliciting murder” . Media and police humiliating. Had a near fatal cycling accident. Left disabled . I am an academic research doctor with higher degree in psychology. I’m keen to publicise the way the law may punish people for intrusive thoughts
I have intrusive thoughts about my ex/bestfriend nearly all day everyday. either its a memory, her voice, or thinking about her coming round the corner for example or just anything really. I don't pay attention to the thoughts as I know it can just make them worse and more frequent. I see a therapist and I meditate everyday once in the morning and once at night. I've also been on antidepressants for a month now for my anxiety/depression. I don't do any compulsions to make these thoughts appear or dissappear i just let the thoughts be. Any idea what this is. Is it related to my anxiety or depression?
It sounds like manifestations of trauma to me. Your mind is still processing and trying to make meaning of this person and your relationship with them. It is a good thing to meditate and find a therapist to work on yourself and work towards inner healing. Good luck with everything and know that even if it is overwhelming, you will get through this in the end.
What if no matter how much I try to accept the thought for what it is, just a thought, and not something I actually want and try to move on it keeps recurring? If the thought keeps recurring until I have the reassurance I desire that comes from the underlying cause of the intrusive thoughts.
I wanted to study psychology but for some inevitable reason I ended up taking accountancy. it makes me sad to think of it. i'm always unable to do things that i know would make my life more enthusiastic. I wish I could free my self from all the limitations that hinder me to live my life to the fullest. But I know i'm too young to think that my life is always gonna be like this although higher life expectancy is not 100% guaranteed.
It's never too late to do what you like. Go ahead and study psychology! Don't waste the rest of your life doing something that is not fulfilling to you
I’m not promoting the use of drugs by stating this but I tried acid several years ago and I remember feeling like it removed the false sense of limitations/boundaries in my mind and it’s been that way ever since.
Bernadeth, Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@jaiminsharma Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Tip #7 Is actually damaging to those with PTSD and OCD/IT. Triggers trauma response. Why do so many professionals not understand this and not only perpetuate pain but cause new pain? Need bottom up approach. Please make this clear so you don’t cause more problems. The ability to do CBT is just not there for many of those with PTSD, until they feel safe enough to process cognitively.
Its part of exposure therapy.Different things can trigger different people. If you found something triggering, discuss with your therapist and have a open conversation about what has triggered you in the past as well. There are so many coping skills and therapy styles. You just have to find the one that works for you. Exposure therapy is really helpful for some. He even said in the video if something doesn't help you, move on to something else.
It’s not damaging though is it. When you are so convinced of something and are trying to find an answer which you realistically can’t get then simply acknowledging that you may never know or that what you fear could be true is the only way of dealing with it. It’s either that or spend the rest of your life trying to find an answer. I’d rather accept uncertainty and be comfortable with that than keep fighting.
Jeffy, Practicals are needed. Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I think mine instrusive thoughts tink started when dabbled contacted sprits..then i was sure they can see my thoughts. I tried tink good thoughts..the more i tried .more i thought bad insulting thoughts about family. Even holy people in heaven i hate it happening im good person more try it not happen. More it happen. Scared God angry at me punish me. But tell him i dont ever mean it forgive me. Its just dreadful been this way.
My brain got bored of violent intrusive thoughts. Then it kinda personalised the intrusive thoughts towards what really distresses me and makes me avoid certain people. I imagine myself stabing myself as a way to get anger and distress out from that intrusive thought. Now I hate that one person most of the time and I live with them everyday so i can't just keep avoiding them. (They also really annoyed me to begin with-but the intrusive thought made it much worse..) What should I do?
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts do not fight them and they will fade do not fear them, practice this
I never really questioned my thoughts until someone made me notice I wasn't as innocent as I thought. But the hardest part for me is the bible says even our thoughts are sins so that is why I have a hard time dealing with it now more than ever. Can doctor speak to this topic and how it relates to the bible?
I had a similar experience of obsessing over the moral worth of my thoughts. Taking every thought captive, compulsively praying, and feeling like intrusive thoughts were from Satan. Jesus says that lust and hatred are the equivalent to adultery and murder, which can lead us to worry about any lustful or hateful thought. Worrying about having these thoughts can create more of them. There’s also the verse about the heart being deceitful above all things. I’d say practice more in the area of reducing fear/anxiety, and understand that thoughts don’t have to lead to actions.
my intrusive thoughts will be a certain phrase or part of a song and i can't stop repeating it in my head to the point that there is nothing else but the intrusive thought and i can't even watch tv anymore or focus. i feel like killing myself
Not worth it man, hang in there , I have been there and end up living a long life full of good and not so good, joys and sadness , love and abuse, but it was all worth fighting for my self. Take the meds, talk your brains out do what it takes, what ever it takes. You are worth it but your not going to know that until you try a few time and not give up.
Can anyone answer me, I'm suffering from severe anxiety, I look in the mirror and think I'm not me anymore, and get very frightened, is this a intrusive thought
I feel like a lot of the points made by each expert were just them reiterating the same exact point that was just made by someone else. Some helpful analysis, but less than helpful for making it day to day.
im hardly laugh who got this intrusive thought hahahahaha .. simple , dont take a seriously for this stupid thought and just ignored it , its no benefit hahaha... u cant argue with this thought .. if u argue them it will become worse and u will in psychiatric ward ... just relax and cool down...always hangout with you friends clubbing or party , enjoying urself , always doing sex , dont do masturbate and avoid alcohol & drug and dont always imagine something is not existing or not in reality ..
I feel like stabbing them, lol. I felt bad about her. But the examples were crazy. I think the thought a fearful thoughts we create into horror stories that make us anxious and depressed.
One thing that helped me was, when I had an intrusive thought, I would say, "It is just a thought." And then let it go. If you practice it, it helps you stop doing this compulsive behavior.
That's cbt. Great job. Doesn't work for alot of ppl . Glad it worked for you💛
One small add ,it's a fictional foolish thought
I've been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the last 6 months, and this made me motivated to fight it, and finally to keep living the life without intrusive thoughts making me go crazy, you guys are amazing! Appreciate you!
how do i get rid of my thoughts?
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts do not fight them and they will fade, practice this
@@justwantedtochangemyname Just accept them, they don't define you, you having those thoughts means that you're totally opposite of that and you would never do those types of things.
@@inf1nite419 if i accept them does it go away
@@inf1nite419 ?
My intrusive thoughts always seem to be about people/animals around me, especially those whom look up to me or are in some ways vulnerable to or dependent upon me. And that sounds like the experience for many people here: You have a thought about harming/violating someone whom you have the responsibility of loving & protecting.
Of course, this intrusive thought phenomenon all sounds “natural” but I know it feels the farthest thing from natural! I’ve been losing sleep over these thoughts and my obsession over them for 3 weeks now. Best of luck to all!
don’t let these thoughts get to you, I think what causes the thought is our greatest fear.For me it’s hurting others with my words, I always wanna be in a position where I uplift others and so my intrusive thoughts are the opposite.For you, those people look up to you, and the exact opposite of what you want, would be hurting them.I feel as though that may be the reason why those intrusive thoughts occur, becuase they’re repulsive, you’d never do it, and it’s something that horrifies you, so don’t let these thoughts get you down, they are worthless and not true.It’s hard to deal with them but I know we can prevail :)
You are not alone in this. Just remind yourself when it happens. "It is just a thought." and let it go.
I've been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the last 5 months...it's been hard focusing on school etc.. Im just glad to know that there are people out there to help. Thank you so much for this video ❤️
Viraaj, Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Hi Shyaam, thank you so much for the advice.. really means a lot. I will make sure I put your advice into practice. Once again, thank you ! :)
@@viraajanandkumar8769 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even I take a walk, when reading, on the laptop, before sleep etc and feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing needed. Stillness relaxes the mind quickly. Always do meditation without expectations. Let it happen to you. For a few days if you want to use headphones then the link is as follows--"Mini anapana 10 minutes meditation in English by SN Goenka". You are an Indian so you know about Vipaasna and anapana practiced all around the world. Best wishes.
I have severe anxiety and depression i understand completely
I been having intrusive thoughts since 2017 after a weird negative spiritual and emotional episode. It haunted me for years. I was able to function and still travel and work. This video has been life changing. Really glad this and open conversation in regards to this. I am making the practice of truly understanding why I am having the intrusive thoughts. In fact, it means i really care about something. In my case, my intrusive thoughts show me that I truly care about personal and intimate relationships. I will practice not fearing the thoughts and most importantly not getting rid of them.
I've been struggling with intrusive thoughts for the better part of 6 years. This webinar has given me valuable insight that I am extremely grateful for. Thank you so much
Amazing video, thank you. I’ve suffered with anxiety for years, I also found the keto diet increased my anxiety which then increased the severity and frequency of intrusive obsessive thoughts I was having. I’ve spoken about this in therapy, read books and watch amazing videos like this and have found what you put in is what you put out. Healthy lifestyle, healthy diet, not reading and watching negative triggering news, accepting the thoughts will be here and they just flow like water. Don’t fight it, let them be and go on with life and think that you are not trying to banish the thoughts rather manage them and accept that they will be there and the less I interact with them the less severe, frequent and crippling they become.
Wow I’m only 32 mins in but so much of this talk is resonating with what I’m going through right now. Thank you.
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It does deserve more likes and replies
I have recently concluded that my negative self talk is the result of long standing sibling abuse. I can be happy for them when they have good news, I can check on them by phone when they have Covid, give their photos hearts, but when I have something good happen or share photos, they just make snide remarks.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts for the past three years and your presentation gave me hope and so much information that i will use. Thank you again 🙏🏻
Hello, So I have anxiety which makes these Intrusive thoughts worse. I always get thoughts about Harming people I love. It really sucks! I just want to get better for my family
Same as me. Get help. I'm getting professional help now and it's starting to work.
@@jdonaldson5709 what are they doing to help you?
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts and they will fade, practice this
Its_jon_G how you doin now
@@luh4682 I'm doing better. Thoughts are still there but just learning how to not give it any attention.
You may not agree but I have been watching your videos and wrote this down "The more I can learn to accept intrusive thoughts the more I have seen to realise what my Trauma's look like and that it is reactions from years of Trauma. Trauma when my inhibition has become damaged and took a real toll from when my Dad passed at 13 years. It also became damaged from outside allowed influence that had an outer intrusive patterning and that if you adapt to after a number of years it can prolong in your thought pattern and lead to these intrusive thoughts. When you can look at them without judgement I think you can see where they stem from which helps to start to look at and understand why your mind is projecting it." Honing to the present really has helped to hear that and to hear this up, so Thank you Very much.
Wow. I started researching this topic after a coworker asked me “what goes on in your head?” and I immediately answered “nothing.” Ironically, his question got me thinking.. why do so many people seem disturbed or bothered by their own thoughts? I’m 35 years old and I don’t recall having intrusive thoughts, or mistaking thoughts for who I am or what I want, or letting my thoughts dictate how I feel. I’ve always thought (haha) of my mind/thoughts as a tool - just because I pick up a hammer doesn’t mean I’m going to drive a nail. I have a lot to learn from this subject and I feel like it will help me become more tolerant of others, instead of assuming they’re only acting like they’re bothered simply by what is going on in their mind. Wow. Just wow.
You are very lucky if you have never had intrusive thoughts. It's hell for people like me who have OCD.
My intrusive thoughts aren't about something I can control, they are about me dying, leaving my wife and daughter behind, based on the fact I had a stroke at the age of 33, I'm now 39.
James, My prayers are with you. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair. eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Been having the same thought too for almost a year now, has ulcer, been scared I will leave me my kids behind and it gives serious anixety
Thanks a ton for this. Very Helpful :) God bless you guys for posting such informational stuff
So helpful thank you
This was very helpful!
my intrusive thoughts stopped for so so long, now they're back and its now about my sexual orientation and im so exhausted bc whenever i think abt it i start sobbing my eyes out
Your right ✅️ its always bout Something I Value important to me like im trying to be perfect the more i try the more it happens to me. Its awful been this way.
Iv had this for my whole life.
I have been facing intrusive thought over 1 month ,this caused my muscle mass down of 4 kg and high bp 150/100, and now i am used to it and think of it curiously ,the more effort you try to control these thoughts ,the more they anxious and mind is related to physical health ,sleep problems ,more stress ,that leads to insomania much more , enjoy intrusive thought in my point of view ,thats the only way to not feel anxious and stress ,one day will come when we can delete memories from our mind that when intrusive thoughts started ,that next level of science ,but i dont know why 1 percent of population have intrusive thought , previous life problem is behind it must bee, the best advice is to engage urself in some activities u like the most 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗, in current technology our mind is in our hand nothing can cure that we have to do it happily ,
I liked your comment Ocd really steals from my life, i;m doing a few videos on it as i;m fed up with being bullied by it.
I don’t know if I’m watching live or not, but my intrusive thought is thinking I will wake up feeling like vomiting and I’m very phobic about vomiting. Consequently I force myself to stay awake as long as I can.
Elizabeth, remember than YOU run that body, it doesn't run you.
Need to get your emetophobia treated
Elizabeth, If needed visit a psychologist. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Hope it helps Me also!
@@avamiller2325 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. No deep breathing or counting needed. Never do meditation with expectations. Meditation happens to you from within if done sincerely. Read my msg and do the practice regularly to develop your mental muscles during these tough times. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Senior counsellor.
This video helped me so much♥️, thank you for sharing your valuable time to guide us.
REALLY REALLY THANK YOU ♥️!!
I AGREE 👍 💯 SUFFERED YEARS WITH THIS. EASED A BIT. BUT WHEN THINK BOUT IT REMINDS ME. STARTS AGAN. GREAT SEE IM NOT ALONE WITH THIS PROBLEM WERE GOOD PEOPLE TROUBLED. TAKE CARE LIZ
I have had intrusive thoughts for the last 9 months about harming someone I love . I don't know how to get rid of it. I'm scared. It makes me cry
I am with you bro, how do you feel now?
I have had Intrusive thoughts since age 15 and I am now 50. They are extremely terrifying and never go away 😳
They do go away you might just have a relapse..I was well for 6yrs before my relapse
Thank you so much
ERP is the single most effective strategy but it was glossed over and equated to the 4 steps which were more about mindfulness strategies with sone philosophies. It was all rather rushed.
To equate ERP with the 4 steps is a generalisation as in many cases the exposure protocol is fairly direct but leads to very helpful outcomes.
I've had intrusive thoughts for nearly 30 years. At this point, they have manifested into it's own being nearly and I'm a slave imprisoned by my own mind. I don't get anymore sleep these days, the intrusive thoughts are making me into an insomniac. I just want to be able to sleep again. That's all I want. I just want to sleep.
30 years wow & how they manifestd 😐
🙏🙏🙏
I liked your comment Ocd really steals from my life, i;m doing a few videos on it as i;m fed up with being bullied by it.
I have very bad anxiety that has heightened since giving birth 3 months ago, I love my baby and my family so much that I worry so much they’re all going to die. And my brain imagines these situations because I’m so petrified of them happening. I approach everything with a worse case scenario attitude and it’s eating away at me. I have to check my baby’s breathing 5/6 times a night, I imagine him not being here because I’m so petrified of loosing him. It’s killing me
My best friends boyfriend commit suicide the end of may by mutilating his body with a knife. He didn’t really have any symptoms that would tell you he’d struggled with mental health. Turns out he was bipolar and suffered severe clinical depression for a long, long time. But after he died I suffered from intrusive thoughts as well. About snapping or losing my mind. I already have anxiety and slight agoraphobia. But you have to just understand that it’s a thought, meet it, shake it’s hand, and know you’re not alone. And it’s not indicative of something bad coming.
This is what I need to work on. Often times I’ll think my thoughts are my reality when in fact they’re just thoughts.
Just what i needed.
I have ocd so this make the intrusive thoughts get really stuck. I HATE these intrusive thoughts.
One small trick, that may make it LESS SCARY....& eventually lessen them.....is to see the INTRUSIVE thought as a cartoon w/ silly characters & voices as high pitched girly or like Donald Duck........it gives YOU CONTROL atleast of part of the thought....Also, YOU ARE NOT your THOUGHTS ......they are like Clouds....You are MUCH Bigger you are the WHOLE SKY!!........ DONT try to STOP them.....let them float by like clouds do, tell yourself... I see you, but you have no value in my life.....your subconscious picks up it as not important......( Eckhart Tolle, Spiritual teacher teachers HOW to handle these mind games❤️🙏) ....good Luck...........
For anyone going through tough times and these kind of thoughts in their mind you need to realize life is to live with Happiness.. don't struggle with a problem that you created, if you have created messed up thoughts or a way of thinking you are struggling with..Meditate in your head thinking back and realizing how you were feeling happy and wonderful in your life before this all started and when did your mind started to mess up..the more you want to know and think about why is your life and your brain is not straight the longer you will keep your miserable life alive..so if you hit the rock-bottom there's only one way out that is getting up and get outta there..Meditation is the key for every single problem in your head.Just remember our brain is more powerful than an elephant or a lion...lol
Murali, 60,000 thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reprogramme the mind. . Avoid watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
this video helps alot thank you guys
Great reminare im suffering
with it alot
I am besieged by intrusive thoughts of suicide , but hate idea. I’ve tried years of treatment, but now feel the focus on treatment made it all worse. And then I was shocked to get an homicidal thought and discussed this with psychiatrist and asked what to do to get rid of them. I tried Dr Pennebaker technique on the internet to throw away the thoughts, bu have been arrested for this and accused of “soliciting murder” . Media and police humiliating. Had a near fatal cycling accident. Left disabled .
I am an academic research doctor with higher degree in psychology.
I’m keen to publicise the way the law may punish people for intrusive thoughts
How did you get help
Why am I worried that these intrusive thoughts the more I think of them or they come up - May turn into actions and I may lose control?
Im relatively interested in what happens in the mind of people who actually do these things🤔
I have intrusive thoughts about my ex/bestfriend nearly all day everyday. either its a memory, her voice, or thinking about her coming round the corner for example or just anything really. I don't pay attention to the thoughts as I know it can just make them worse and more frequent. I see a therapist and I meditate everyday once in the morning and once at night. I've also been on antidepressants for a month now for my anxiety/depression. I don't do any compulsions to make these thoughts appear or dissappear i just let the thoughts be. Any idea what this is. Is it related to my anxiety or depression?
It sounds like manifestations of trauma to me. Your mind is still processing and trying to make meaning of this person and your relationship with them. It is a good thing to meditate and find a therapist to work on yourself and work towards inner healing. Good luck with everything and know that even if it is overwhelming, you will get through this in the end.
What if no matter how much I try to accept the thought for what it is, just a thought, and not something I actually want and try to move on it keeps recurring? If the thought keeps recurring until I have the reassurance I desire that comes from the underlying cause of the intrusive thoughts.
You need to see a therapist if it’s too severe, take it from someone who was diagnosed with OCD.
I wanted to study psychology but for some inevitable reason I ended up taking accountancy. it makes me sad to think of it. i'm always unable to do things that i know would make my life more enthusiastic. I wish I could free my self from all the limitations that hinder me to live my life to the fullest. But I know i'm too young to think that my life is always gonna be like this although higher life expectancy is not 100% guaranteed.
It's never too late to do what you like. Go ahead and study psychology! Don't waste the rest of your life doing something that is not fulfilling to you
I’m not promoting the use of drugs by stating this but I tried acid several years ago and I remember feeling like it removed the false sense of limitations/boundaries in my mind and it’s been that way ever since.
It's never too late.. the "inevitable reason" is your unconscious reasons... Find them and heal them
Bernadeth, Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@jaiminsharma Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Tip #7 Is actually damaging to those with PTSD and OCD/IT. Triggers trauma response. Why do so many professionals not understand this and not only perpetuate pain but cause new pain? Need bottom up approach. Please make this clear so you don’t cause more problems. The ability to do CBT is just not there for many of those with PTSD, until they feel safe enough to process cognitively.
Its part of exposure therapy.Different things can trigger different people. If you found something triggering, discuss with your therapist and have a open conversation about what has triggered you in the past as well. There are so many coping skills and therapy styles. You just have to find the one that works for you. Exposure therapy is really helpful for some. He even said in the video if something doesn't help you, move on to something else.
It’s not damaging though is it. When you are so convinced of something and are trying to find an answer which you realistically can’t get then simply acknowledging that you may never know or that what you fear could be true is the only way of dealing with it. It’s either that or spend the rest of your life trying to find an answer. I’d rather accept uncertainty and be comfortable with that than keep fighting.
Agree.... acceptance and willingness are the ways...... do nothing is better than do something of trying to resolve something.
don’t know if i missed this, but what if the intrusive thought is about something you’ve done but never want to again? 😭
WPA should focus on Depression , Anxieties and OCD as much as it can.
Lmao girllll 29:50 had my heart racing
I had intrusive thoughts since I was 8
Jeffy, Practicals are needed. Stop watching negative shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am intrigued thoudsiver thoughts
I think mine instrusive thoughts tink started when dabbled contacted sprits..then i was sure they can see my thoughts. I tried tink good thoughts..the more i tried .more i thought bad insulting thoughts about family. Even holy people in heaven i hate it happening im good person more try it not happen. More it happen. Scared God angry at me punish me. But tell him i dont ever mean it forgive me. Its just dreadful been this way.
The host likes to listen to his own voice and constantly interrupts.
My brain got bored of violent intrusive thoughts. Then it kinda personalised the intrusive thoughts towards what really distresses me and makes me avoid certain people. I imagine myself stabing myself as a way to get anger and distress out from that intrusive thought. Now I hate that one person most of the time and I live with them everyday so i can't just keep avoiding them. (They also really annoyed me to begin with-but the intrusive thought made it much worse..) What should I do?
for thoughts like this you have to learn that you are not your thoughts and the thoughts you are getting are completely normal and so common, when these thoughts come do not desire them to be gone and don’t do something to get them out your head, let them come and notice they are just thoughts do not fight them and they will fade do not fear them, practice this
I never really questioned my thoughts until someone made me notice I wasn't as innocent as I thought. But the hardest part for me is the bible says even our thoughts are sins so that is why I have a hard time dealing with it now more than ever. Can doctor speak to this topic and how it relates to the bible?
I had a similar experience of obsessing over the moral worth of my thoughts. Taking every thought captive, compulsively praying, and feeling like intrusive thoughts were from Satan.
Jesus says that lust and hatred are the equivalent to adultery and murder, which can lead us to worry about any lustful or hateful thought. Worrying about having these thoughts can create more of them. There’s also the verse about the heart being deceitful above all things. I’d say practice more in the area of reducing fear/anxiety, and understand that thoughts don’t have to lead to actions.
My opinion on how my thoughts were each day first two months:
12/26/2019 4/10
12/27/2019 4/10
12/28/2019 2/10
12/29/2019 2.9/10
12/30/2019 3/10
12/31/2019 3/10
1/1/2020 5/10
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1/4/2020 6/10
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1/8/2020 2.5/10
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1/10/2020 5/10
1/11/2020 4.2/10
1/12/2020 4/10
1/13/2020 4.1/10
1/14/2020 5/10
1/15/2020 2/10
1/16/2020 2/10
1/17/2020 6/10
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1/19/2020 5.8/10
1/20/2020 5/10
1/21/2020 2.1/10
1/22/2020 1/10
1/23/2020 5/10
1/24/2020 5.1/10
1/25/2020 6/10
1/26/2020 6/10
1/27/2020 6/10
1/28/2020 5/10
1/29/2020 6/10
1/30/2020 6/10
1/31/2020 6.8/10
2/1/2020 5.4/10
2/2/2020 5.0/10
2/3/2020 6/10
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my intrusive thoughts will be a certain phrase or part of a song and i can't stop repeating it in my head to the point that there is nothing else but the intrusive thought and i can't even watch tv anymore or focus. i feel like killing myself
Not worth it man, hang in there , I have been there and end up living a long life full of good and not so good, joys and sadness , love and abuse, but it was all worth fighting for my self. Take the meds, talk your brains out do what it takes, what ever it takes.
You are worth it but your not going to know that until you try a few time and not give up.
I'm same as you .music thoughts on repeat ..how are you doing now??
So helpful, thank you.
Quick question can intrusive thoughts make your brain hurt when they happen
Can anyone answer me, I'm suffering from severe anxiety, I look in the mirror and think I'm not me anymore, and get very frightened, is this a intrusive thought
Sounds more like a symptom that occurs with panic/anxiety called 'depersonalisation'.
I feel like a lot of the points made by each expert were just them reiterating the same exact point that was just made by someone else. Some helpful analysis, but less than helpful for making it day to day.
Yeah yeah I like being interrupted 9:40😭
They weren’t too keen to pick up on that
I’m not bothered by them at all, so I wonder what that says about me lol💀
Who doesn’t think about wanting to hurt their spouse 😂 just kidding 😏
I never want to stab him just slap him
I am not tossing my fucking phone out the window
Another really helpful video on this topic:
ruclips.net/video/QkI6aEksbZ8/видео.html
im hardly laugh who got this intrusive thought hahahahaha .. simple , dont take a seriously for this stupid thought and just ignored it , its no benefit hahaha... u cant argue with this thought .. if u argue them it will become worse and u will in psychiatric ward ... just relax and cool down...always hangout with you friends clubbing or party , enjoying urself , always doing sex , dont do masturbate and avoid alcohol & drug and dont always imagine something is not existing or not in reality ..
That's so simple and true.
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I feel like stabbing them, lol. I felt bad about her. But the examples were crazy. I think the thought a fearful thoughts we create into horror stories that make us anxious and depressed.