This is an amazing!! I’m an INFP - but have long been in denial about it, despite multiple friends, tests, and a therapists telling me this was the case. Deep down I always knew this was the case but I worried if I identified with it I would tap into my less than stellar qualities: propensity to quit things, “lazy” - although I hate that word. These are two things I struggled with a lot. Anyway! I ended up becoming a physician. I was working at a women’s shelter in my 20s and was so inspired by this physician I met there. “What do you do?” I asked. “I’m a doctor,” she said. Went home - googled around - figured out how to get into med school with an English lit degree and the rest is history. I was lucky because I had a very strong GPA in undergrad because I only took classes I liked. If something was boring, I dropped it. For med school, having a high gpa made getting in a lot easier. Plus they loved that I was an arts student. Was med school easy? Umm - no. 😂. It was REALLY hard .. at first. Buy my first year I WANTED to quit. All I did was cry. But I had already paid so much and quitting just seemed like a bad idea. So I stuck it out. I figured they could throw me out - but I was gonna quit. Not this time Apple Jacks! Eventually, after a lot of effort, and oh so many tears, mistakes, and ping ponging around, I actually ended up finding my stride by third year. I started doing really well. Anatomy was TORTURE. But physiology was SO cool. I found something I loved and just dove in. I also started drawing/animating my notes - and it helped solidify everything. It took forever - but I became so obsessed with it that I came to enjoy studying. I think INFPs make AMAZING physicians. Not to toot my own horn, but patients are constantly telling the licensing board how kind and understanding I am. And they love my cartoons that I draw for them. Honestly, I don’t think I’m doing anything far and beyond. Listening? Not interrupting? Drawing cartoons with crayons? It all comes so natural. It’s stuff that can’t be taught. It’s my personality through and through. This is just to say … INFPs - yes! It’s SO hard to get through the grind. But if you can do it - and you totally can - there will be a day when you can relax and fall into yourself. My biggest advice and this will sound blasphemous is to try to avoid identifying with social Justice. Because as INFPs we have a natural propensity to already fall into this. If you start aligning with causes, it all becomes too much. I am a patient activist through and through. But I had to stop with the social justice stuff cause it consumed me. Now I see my work one-on-one, one person at a time. This is so much healthier for me, and it really feels more rewarding to just make someone’s day a little bit better. Am I gonna bring about world peace? No. But I can help nanna understand her meds and to me - it’s so much more rewarding. Honestly, I grew a lot in medical school. I changed, for the better. I thought I’d lost my imaginative spirit but really it just showed up differently. People would do entire lectures on stuff I could not pay attention too. Then I’d stand up and do an animated presentation on heart disease, drawing pictures of Bing Bong from Inside Out. Anything to keep me engaged. The class loved it. The profs - well - they tolerated it 😂 I didn’t really care tbh. I know it’s hard. Trust me I doubted myself a lot. I’d see all these nerds with their planners and organized bags and I just wanted to throw them out the window. But eventually, as I started to really learn how to tap into my strengths, people started seeing me as the smart, organized one - they started asking me questions! It was insane. You can do anything you put your mind too. You just have to realize that you’re gonna do it differently than everyone else. And that’s okay. It’s more than okay. It’s exactly how it’s meant to be done … for you!
thank you so much for sharing this. INFPs seem to be stereotyped most and that can lead to so much self doubt and questioning why we should even try to change if we are the most "impractical" and "weakest", personality type
you're welcome. i'm getting quite tired of the "i hate my infp personality type" perspective (which i dealt with too) and am looking for more ways to reframe it-- even if it helps just 1 person feel better about themselves.
I am tired with so much emotions, ideas, passions, Ne explorations. It is exhausting being so passionate and suffering so much for this world. Right now suffering so much for this world and all the injustice 😢😢😢😢😢
As a barber, I've always wondered why working with people would make me so tired. I always said I carry people's emotions and it's draining. I appreciate you so much for your explanation on this and your continued effort to helping people understand themselves. I appreciate you and your channel so much. ❤❤ I've been watching for years now and I always learn something brilliant! Keep on keeping on please and thank you! 🙏 😊
Oh, such a great video. I've been struggling lately with a group project, a creative project but with others who have, shall we say, a different way of presenting creatively. The idea for the project was mine but now it has been taken over by a goal oriented, over defining, theoretician, and I feel all joy has departed. And so have I, in my mind if not in reality. You've given me some great strategies to get through this. Thank you!
Hey Sherman! Yes! Getting older helps. Also, words help--e.g. the words that you put into the video; I really like that because it helps me to concentrate and fix the concepts you're talking about into the MBTI framework as well as my life. I've always taken notes to force myself to pay attention when listening to teaching because I 'catch' inspiration so easily. As soon as, you say something for which I have examples from life, I start reminiscing--which leads to envisioning future possibilities . . . and ten minutes later? . . . I don't even know what I missed! (Hope the monster didn't get the baby.😊)
Glad to hear the format worked well. I've got a few more like it coming. I've been told that my videos are hypnotic and it's hard to focus :P Not sure if I should just lean into it or not lol.
Awesome vid, thank you so much 🙏💖 Oh, the dreaded "taking action" thingy..;) I really, really know I should just go and do things, but why is it so hard to bring myself up to it, despite all the knowledge.. ;)
Thanks for advice! Especially on overthinking … I’ve been told I have endless What If’s …Which can be funny to others every now and then until you feel stuck in analysis paralysis😅
I have been trying to hustle and try out my crazy business ideas like car cleaning and my sensor type brother and cousins keep shutting my ideas down. I just don't know how to physically take action after I do all the math. My intj cousin understands and supports my ideas but we haven't done anything together yet. I just hope I can start something and stop being poor.
Recruiting people who cover your weaknesses is really important and a core skill of extraverted Thinking (Te). You need a well-rounded questing party if you want to beat the bosses.
We can do good in anything, we are known for our adaptability, and doing well at work but you might get get burn out, so imo, dream big go for it…lean into your creative side, yeah an artist’s path can be risky and low wage, but if u lean it you’ll thrive, google what’s good and bad for our type there are professional white collar jobs too like therapists
This is an amazing!!
I’m an INFP - but have long been in denial about it, despite multiple friends, tests, and a therapists telling me this was the case.
Deep down I always knew this was the case but I worried if I identified with it I would tap into my less than stellar qualities: propensity to quit things, “lazy” - although I hate that word. These are two things I struggled with a lot.
Anyway! I ended up becoming a physician. I was working at a women’s shelter in my 20s and was so inspired by this physician I met there. “What do you do?” I asked. “I’m a doctor,” she said. Went home - googled around - figured out how to get into med school with an English lit degree and the rest is history. I was lucky because I had a very strong GPA in undergrad because I only took classes I liked. If something was boring, I dropped it. For med school, having a high gpa made getting in a lot easier. Plus they loved that I was an arts student.
Was med school easy? Umm - no. 😂. It was REALLY hard .. at first. Buy my first year I WANTED to quit. All I did was cry. But I had already paid so much and quitting just seemed like a bad idea. So I stuck it out. I figured they could throw me out - but I was gonna quit. Not this time Apple Jacks!
Eventually, after a lot of effort, and oh so many tears, mistakes, and ping ponging around, I actually ended up finding my stride by third year. I started doing really well. Anatomy was TORTURE. But physiology was SO cool. I found something I loved and just dove in. I also started drawing/animating my notes - and it helped solidify everything. It took forever - but I became so obsessed with it that I came to enjoy studying.
I think INFPs make AMAZING physicians. Not to toot my own horn, but patients are constantly telling the licensing board how kind and understanding I am. And they love my cartoons that I draw for them. Honestly, I don’t think I’m doing anything far and beyond. Listening? Not interrupting? Drawing cartoons with crayons? It all comes so natural. It’s stuff that can’t be taught. It’s my personality through and through.
This is just to say … INFPs - yes! It’s SO hard to get through the grind. But if you can do it - and you totally can - there will be a day when you can relax and fall into yourself.
My biggest advice and this will sound blasphemous is to try to avoid identifying with social Justice. Because as INFPs we have a natural propensity to already fall into this. If you start aligning with causes, it all becomes too much. I am a patient activist through and through. But I had to stop with the social justice stuff cause it consumed me. Now I see my work one-on-one, one person at a time. This is so much healthier for me, and it really feels more rewarding to just make someone’s day a little bit better. Am I gonna bring about world peace? No.
But I can help nanna understand her meds and to me - it’s so much more rewarding.
Honestly, I grew a lot in medical school. I changed, for the better. I thought I’d lost my imaginative spirit but really it just showed up differently. People would do entire lectures on stuff I could not pay attention too. Then I’d stand up and do an animated presentation on heart disease, drawing pictures of Bing Bong from Inside Out. Anything to keep me engaged. The class loved it. The profs - well - they tolerated it 😂 I didn’t really care tbh.
I know it’s hard. Trust me I doubted myself a lot. I’d see all these nerds with their planners and organized bags and I just wanted to throw them out the window. But eventually, as I started to really learn how to tap into my strengths, people started seeing me as the smart, organized one - they started asking me questions! It was insane.
You can do anything you put your mind too. You just have to realize that you’re gonna do it differently than everyone else. And that’s okay. It’s more than okay. It’s exactly how it’s meant to be done … for you!
@@Ytvzoey we are system thinkers bro. You did and are doing great.
thank you so much for sharing this. INFPs seem to be stereotyped most and that can lead to so much self doubt and questioning why we should even try to change if we are the most "impractical" and "weakest", personality type
you're welcome.
i'm getting quite tired of the "i hate my infp personality type" perspective (which i dealt with too) and am looking for more ways to reframe it-- even if it helps just 1 person feel better about themselves.
I am tired with so much emotions, ideas, passions, Ne explorations. It is exhausting being so passionate and suffering so much for this world. Right now suffering so much for this world and all the injustice 😢😢😢😢😢
As a barber, I've always wondered why working with people would make me so tired. I always said I carry people's emotions and it's draining. I appreciate you so much for your explanation on this and your continued effort to helping people understand themselves. I appreciate you and your channel so much. ❤❤ I've been watching for years now and I always learn something brilliant! Keep on keeping on please and thank you! 🙏 😊
Oh, such a great video. I've been struggling lately with a group project, a creative project but with others who have, shall we say, a different way of presenting creatively. The idea for the project was mine but now it has been taken over by a goal oriented, over defining, theoretician, and I feel all joy has departed. And so have I, in my mind if not in reality. You've given me some great strategies to get through this. Thank you!
You can do it!
Let me know what you do and how well it worked. :)
Thank you for sharing this video, Matt! Loved the part about "overthinking to taking action" 💪
Thanks, Eddy!
Hey Sherman! Yes! Getting older helps. Also, words help--e.g. the words that you put into the video; I really like that because it helps me to concentrate and fix the concepts you're talking about into the MBTI framework as well as my life. I've always taken notes to force myself to pay attention when listening to teaching because I 'catch' inspiration so easily. As soon as, you say something for which I have examples from life, I start reminiscing--which leads to envisioning future possibilities . . . and ten minutes later? . . . I don't even know what I missed! (Hope the monster didn't get the baby.😊)
Glad to hear the format worked well. I've got a few more like it coming.
I've been told that my videos are hypnotic and it's hard to focus :P Not sure if I should just lean into it or not lol.
Awesome vid, thank you so much 🙏💖 Oh, the dreaded "taking action" thingy..;) I really, really know I should just go and do things, but why is it so hard to bring myself up to it, despite all the knowledge.. ;)
Such an inspiring video about reframing our INFP attributes that often don't seem to fit into that world. Thanks for that 🤗
Glad it was helpful! :)
Thanks for advice! Especially on overthinking … I’ve been told I have endless What If’s …Which can be funny to others every now and then until you feel stuck in analysis paralysis😅
Absolutely!!
The what-if-bus never stops. It'll always find a new idea and place to explore.
The important thing is to aim it in the right direction.
I have been trying to hustle and try out my crazy business ideas like car cleaning and my sensor type brother and cousins keep shutting my ideas down.
I just don't know how to physically take action after I do all the math. My intj cousin understands and supports my ideas but we haven't done anything together yet.
I just hope I can start something and stop being poor.
Recruiting people who cover your weaknesses is really important and a core skill of extraverted Thinking (Te).
You need a well-rounded questing party if you want to beat the bosses.
I see myself embodying isfj with myself and entj with others lately. I think age and experience and learning has to do with it as well
"You can't steer a parked car"
Me: *shocked pikachu face*
It's what I needed to hear. Thank you for making this video.
;) great!
Literally same
Can an INFP work in tech sales do you think?
if you're willing to put in the time and energy to be good at it (and you like it), then of course :)
We can do good in anything, we are known for our adaptability, and doing well at work but you might get get burn out, so imo, dream big go for it…lean into your creative side, yeah an artist’s path can be risky and low wage, but if u lean it you’ll thrive, google what’s good and bad for our type there are professional white collar jobs too like therapists