And your plan was probably made in a moment where you were in a more positive or determined mood… so maybe its not that you can’t have one or the other, but it’s actually following the mood and the plan
Thank you for making this video even without feeling like it. ✨ I am constantly batteling with these emotions that are holding me back. The feeling of failing over and over again and letting people down is exhausting. I am getting really anxcious about doing my work. It's a vicious circle and it gets worse every time. Thank you for the reminder, that it takes awareness to get over the negative programming. I noticed that I still feel bad, even after finishing a project because I almost always miss the deadline. (Timeblindness makes it hard for me to plan.) There is no positive feedback loop. And that makes it even harder to start the next time.
I’ve been told by at least 2 Dr. that I’m a shallow breather & need to practice breathing deeply. Are other INFP’s shallow breathers? & That it also is from grief.
I am too ! And I think that it might be due to the depth of our emotions, how deeply we feel, especially the negative/painful emotions that can take a long time to go away or diminish. It all takes its toll on us over time and it ends up impacting our breathing, I guess...I am also curious to know if other INFPs have the same issue with breathing. Learning to breathe right, breathing more deeply could improve a lot of things for us
A few years ago, I was having some health issues and somebody asked me to check my breathing. When I did, I realized that I was practically hyperventilating without even knowing it. Since then, I’ve more regularly been able to remind myself to take deeper breaths and fix my breathing.
I def forget why I was on the journey in the first place all the time, then just kinda can only see the labor and the effort but can no longer perceive the goal or value of the goal anymore. Then years later am like "why am I never arriving at any goals?" I have been learning hermetic internal alchemy recently and your advice here is basically the same, but updated to modern language. Learn how to WIELD yourself rather than RECEIVE yourself. It actually leads to MORE authenticity not less like it might seem like at first. Bc otherwise you're floating around on tides more than you might want to or currently can admit.
I have found that if I “dress the part” it instantly helps focus my mindset on completing a not fun task/action. I have to watch that I don’t visualize what that looks like for too long or I will run out of time to complete the action. If I want to get groceries early so I don’t waste my day. I’ll visualize how I want to look while shopping, do I stop for a coffee first, is my cart full or only the essentials. Then I get dressed and go. It really helps me.
Thank you for making these videos, a lot of advice that people give feels inaccessible or obvious to me because of my unique processing functions, but you make me feel understood.
@ I’ve always had trouble trying to stay consistent when working on long-term goals, and it’s easy to lose motivation or get distracted. I’d like to start a positive feedback loop, but old habits die hard 😓
This was something difficult because I needed to differentiate my personal failures from those already assigned by society. Labeling disabled people as weak and incompetent. Basically I didn’t fail the interview because everything went wrong, some interviews were a failure because immediately if you don’t have a drivers license they don’t want you working for them. You’re blind? How do you get around in life? You’d like to ask them is that seriously a question because I thought stupid questions don’t exist? Or do they? Differentiating between a them versus me problem. I don’t need to live up to societies expectations. Learn to grow comfortable in my own skin. Most often the stigmatized and biased misconceptions of ignorance would kill my mood. I don’t let it anymore. Those people are toxic and seizure triggers to avoid. They want to miss out no problem by me. I don’t wanna hang around them. Work or volunteer. Found something I’m OK with. Still revolves around music since I majored in music education.
I’ve noticed that when something is off in my life, everything I am doing pauses until balance is restored. Looking forward to using some of these tactics to restore my own internal balance, despite what may be happening around me.
External problems require external solutions Internal problems require internal solutions. As a parent ,Acknowledge and accept your wounded painful inconvenient emotions with love and kindness, and hospitality, and treat them as if they are your own inner child. For they really are, And as you do those wounded painful or inconvenient emotions will transform into joy and healing. Do not underestimate the power of self-awarenes, and acceptance , for you are not your feelings just like you as a parent are not your children. So be the parent who will help his children to transform into joy healing.
One question that I like to ask myself: what if I continue this behavior for the next month, year, 10 years, two decades… will I be more or less happy then? Sometimes, the easier thing to do is what seems difficult in the short term, but actually makes the future better.
I just saw a quote the other day that said "follow the plan not your mood" and I wanted to scream NO! 😅
And your plan was probably made in a moment where you were in a more positive or determined mood… so maybe its not that you can’t have one or the other, but it’s actually following the mood and the plan
“I now feel positive” is such a great url name.
I’ve saved this video to watch later when I’m in the mood
Dealing with this now man.
What will happen when you’re all done dealing with it and it’s a thing of the past?
Thank you for making this video even without feeling like it.
✨
I am constantly batteling with these emotions that are holding me back. The feeling of failing over and over again and letting people down is exhausting. I am getting really anxcious about doing my work. It's a vicious circle and it gets worse every time. Thank you for the reminder, that it takes awareness to get over the negative programming.
I noticed that I still feel bad, even after finishing a project because I almost always miss the deadline. (Timeblindness makes it hard for me to plan.) There is no positive feedback loop. And that makes it even harder to start the next time.
This is curious timing for a video like this because I’m also feeling this rn.
Curious indeed ;)
I’ve been told by at least 2 Dr. that I’m a shallow breather & need to practice breathing deeply.
Are other INFP’s shallow breathers?
& That it also is from grief.
I am too ! And I think that it might be due to the depth of our emotions, how deeply we feel, especially the negative/painful emotions that can take a long time to go away or diminish. It all takes its toll on us over time and it ends up impacting our breathing, I guess...I am also curious to know if other INFPs have the same issue with breathing. Learning to breathe right, breathing more deeply could improve a lot of things for us
True
A few years ago, I was having some health issues and somebody asked me to check my breathing. When I did, I realized that I was practically hyperventilating without even knowing it.
Since then, I’ve more regularly been able to remind myself to take deeper breaths and fix my breathing.
I def forget why I was on the journey in the first place all the time, then just kinda can only see the labor and the effort but can no longer perceive the goal or value of the goal anymore.
Then years later am like "why am I never arriving at any goals?"
I have been learning hermetic internal alchemy recently and your advice here is basically the same, but updated to modern language. Learn how to WIELD yourself rather than RECEIVE yourself.
It actually leads to MORE authenticity not less like it might seem like at first. Bc otherwise you're floating around on tides more than you might want to or currently can admit.
The Kavalian is a great starter point and the audio book is decent for anyone interested.
Thank God for mindfulness meditation. It helped become more aware of my internal dialogue.
I have found that if I “dress the part” it instantly helps focus my mindset on completing a not fun task/action. I have to watch that I don’t visualize what that looks like for too long or I will run out of time to complete the action. If I want to get groceries early so I don’t waste my day. I’ll visualize how I want to look while shopping, do I stop for a coffee first, is my cart full or only the essentials. Then I get dressed and go. It really helps me.
This is a great video, real practical advice and steps to take. Important to balance the deep work with this kind of approach ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Thank you for making these videos, a lot of advice that people give feels inaccessible or obvious to me because of my unique processing functions, but you make me feel understood.
Happy to help!
What are you working on now that I could help with?
@ I’ve always had trouble trying to stay consistent when working on long-term goals, and it’s easy to lose motivation or get distracted. I’d like to start a positive feedback loop, but old habits die hard 😓
This was something difficult because I needed to differentiate my personal failures from those already assigned by society. Labeling disabled people as weak and incompetent. Basically I didn’t fail the interview because everything went wrong, some interviews were a failure because immediately if you don’t have a drivers license they don’t want you working for them. You’re blind? How do you get around in life? You’d like to ask them is that seriously a question because I thought stupid questions don’t exist? Or do they? Differentiating between a them versus me problem. I don’t need to live up to societies expectations. Learn to grow comfortable in my own skin. Most often the stigmatized and biased misconceptions of ignorance would kill my mood. I don’t let it anymore. Those people are toxic and seizure triggers to avoid. They want to miss out no problem by me. I don’t wanna hang around them. Work or volunteer. Found something I’m OK with. Still revolves around music since I majored in music education.
I’ve noticed that when something is off in my life, everything I am doing pauses until balance is restored. Looking forward to using some of these tactics to restore my own internal balance, despite what may be happening around me.
Thank you Matt for making this new video, I needed this, I am going to apply your techniques to master my emotions instead of being at their mercy 👍👍
Perfect!
Keep me updated on how well it goes
External problems require external solutions
Internal problems require internal solutions.
As a parent ,Acknowledge and accept your wounded painful inconvenient emotions with love and kindness, and hospitality, and treat them as if they are your own inner child. For they really are, And as you do those wounded painful or inconvenient emotions will transform into joy and healing.
Do not underestimate the power of self-awarenes, and acceptance , for you are not your feelings just like you as a parent are not your children. So be the parent who will help his children to transform into joy healing.
Thank you for this. I can now take steps to move forward
nice bracelet!
Currently struggling with that now 😑
Haven’t been able to study for a few months
One question that I like to ask myself: what if I continue this behavior for the next month, year, 10 years, two decades… will I be more or less happy then?
Sometimes, the easier thing to do is what seems difficult in the short term, but actually makes the future better.