1 Make them feel special 2 initiate with them 3 make them feel desired 4 Give them gifts that ease their burdens 5 Enable them from their obligations 6 Give them a good experience 7 Have a good sense of humour, make them laugh 8 Show interest in what they’re doing and what they have done 9 The gift of food goes a long way, give them their favourite treats and coffees 10 Make them feel cosy 11 Tell them how you feel and how they make you feel 12 Make them the only person you share your feelings with 14 Keep things fair 15 Listen to them even if you disagree with them 16 Show them how they’re incorrect in their thinking
sometimes isfjs can be very boring , they talk about their school friend , some random community they are in (they are in a lot of communities ) , etc and as a isfp , it can be very boring , but i dont disrespect them by changing topic or not listening i think this is one of the main reason i have a lot of isfjs in my life, asking about them now one thing i dont like about isfjs is taking a lot of responsibility then giving it to me , as an isfp , i only take responsibility for people i trust so i always help my isfj friends whenever needed cause they are trustworthy , however, they sometimes think , i like helping everyone , so they will be like 'my friend visible will do it for you' and the sad part is 4 out of 5 people doesnt even care about isfjs , they are just there to take advantage of isfjs helping attitude , especially my experience mostly esfps , enfps and indirectly enfjs , esfj and infjs , i feel like they just like using isfjs and isfjs doesnt care about it , because its the right thing to help people , which is very annoying sometimes
i have not done it but sometimes i even feel like abandoning the isfj because of their habit of helping people who doesnt help you , my fi makes me feel like i am being controlled by people when 'my friend' isfj helps people who treats isfj poorly , i think my fi doesnt like something associated with me acting like someone's slave
@@visible2927Fe is the selfless and the hyper gullible function. Its jobs is to help other in need. They are happy for doing it. Fe does not prioritize their own interest. You can't change this. It is the antitesis of Fi selfishness function.
The ISFJ's I know/knew were not boring. They r my fav. They are so underrated & not appreciated enough. They r resilient, intelligent, & strong..I learn so much from their quiet resilience & dutifulness. One is my travel partner, she likes new experiences, and is Witty..her clamp down & come backs catches us off guard sometimes, it seems to me she is measured in what she will obligate herself to, so I dont see her suffering burn out. She doesn't really talk about herself so, I try to ask a lot of questions & listen.
@@optimist-ri1439 maybe she is not comfortable with telling you about her life , i have seen sfjs not feeling comfortable to express , because someone can perceive them as boring , self-centered , etc i know a lot of isfjs , you have to ask questions about their life to get them talking about their life , but like i mentioned it can be boring sometimes , but listen and react like you loved it also someone with bad cognitive function knowledge can even perceive them as fi user , because they love talking about their life , community , new things they are learning , their relationships (the most annoying subject , at one point they were treating me like a relationship diary for example : today we kissed here , we had sx here , we are going here , my partners mom did this , etc )
I'm an ISFJ and I have to completely agree. The only guy I ever fell in love with made me laugh and listened to me. Sadly he never loved me back and I haven't fallen in love since then. Sometimes I wonder if he knew that I fell in love with him but I'll never know.
Make them feel special, initiate with them, make them feel desired. Give them gifts that ease their burdens. Enable them from their obligations. Give them a good experience. Have a good sense of humor, make them laugh. Show interest in what they’re doing and what they have done. The gift of food goes a long way, give them their favorite treats and coffees. Make them feel cozy. Tell them how you feel and how they make you feel. Make them the only person you share your feelings with. Keep things fair. Listen to them even if you disagree with them, makes them feel valued. Show them how they’re incorrect in their thinking .
Can you do this for all the types? Specifically INTJ and ESFP. I'm an ISFJ and blown away by how accurate this video is. And, currently in love platonically with an INTJ + romantically with an ESFP so am obviously interested in making sure they reciprocate :)
I’m an INTJ female dating an ISFJ female. We’re both middle-aged and I’m so smitten with and in awe of her and incredibly appreciative of her talents. I definitely think she’s “The One”. I naturally do all the things in this video except I don’t know how funny I am. 😕 As an INTJ I think we’re kinda intense and serious rather than funny. Honestly, to me, she’s the funny one. She makes me laugh all the time. She’s so adorable. ❤
I'm an isfj, and this was spot on except for one point. I actually wish my husband stopped getting me cozy stuff and actually get me jewelry. I love jewelry and it means more to me because when I look at my wedding ring I remember him and I'd love to show off my jewelry to other people and let them know my husband gave me this gorgeous sparkly piece of jewelry. But unfortunately he isn't understanding the subtle hints cuz to him these things are not important so he'd rather get me my favorite coffee and cookies which is cute but to me it's like these things will finish I want something I can actually wear and make a part of my signature look. Something I literally will always have with me lol not something I can eat away and need more of lol. Maybe I'm an exception lol. I feel so ungrateful for being this way but i cant express how much i love simple and timeless jewelry. Or like hik surprising me with a travelling opportunity etc. I feel i can naturally create my own coziness but me buying expensive things wont happen and i would like to get that once in a while.
how can an intj get over the reluctancy to invest resources and time in a friendship (pirate mode) with someone else after they got informed that they aren't their best friend's best friend (confirmed, not NE nemesis)
🤣🤣🤣. Me. "Chinese food for me" delivery guy " Chinese food for you". For to go sign at the Chinese restaurant... " For to go". 1.00 for to go..... Omg..
Yes they are, i have an isfj friend that has been dating an ENTJ dude for two years now, their relationship has grown stronger. I just don't know why he never wants her to look good physically, maybe it makes him insecure,idk, but its a good relationship
@@cynthiajuma9006 I'm the entj in this situation and I don't know why he doesn't want her to look good physically because I'm totally all about that I want my guy to look good! I do feel like we're pretty great together! But, he does have a hard time understanding my feeling/emotions sometimes... But maybe I have a hard time with expressing them properly at times, LOL...
Give an intp the experiences, specially good food and good sex. Always encourage an intp to explore, either solo or together. That's it and that's all.
@@honor9lite1337 thank you, much appreciated! I think that's checked, but they tell me they are "focused on work" and "need more proximity to start thinking about a continuous relationship" (I had to move away), is there any way around that? or no hope at all, because an INTP just needs a lot of exposure to the person in order to develop a bond and small packages of great experience will never do.
@@susmateja I could be wrong but it seems like you are trying to make an INTP chose you. That's not going to happen. INTPs don't like to chose (Ni critic), they want to be chosen (Ne parent). If you really want to be with this INTP you should express your feelings. Give their Si child a good experience, remember to express gratitude when the INTP does something for you (Fe inferior), then when you think it's the right time, say something like "I want you" and explain why. If that doesn't work I'm afraid nothing will. Good luck.
@@INFamousJudge576 It's so difficult for me to imagine what it must be like to "not want things" (I'm an infj), like how does one move forward, how does one pursue and end up with things they like? Is it just a kind of acceptance of things that come along? Or is it like wanting to have options and so not choosing anything to keep doors open at all time?
I'll save you the trouble of watching the video. We're the most common type, so do the most common loving things for us. If you hear about something that might be relatively nice, do it for the ISFJ in your life and they'll appreciate you for it. We are not hard to please, just don't be a dick.
Whoops! 1. Make them feel loved 2. Make them feel wanted 3. Ask about their lifes 4.make them laugh 5. Share them an experience 😶In conclusion, I accidentally made my isfj colleague addicted to me .One thing is sometimes I find it difficult to deal with her Fi critic because I found her intelligent than me.Yet, she doesn't see it yet due to her Fi critic 🥹
I'm an isfj, and this was spot on except for one point. I actually wish my husband stopped getting me cozy stuff and actually get me jewelry. I love jewelry and it means more to me because when I look at my wedding ring I remember him and I'd love to show off my jewelry to other people and let them know my husband gave me this gorgeous sparkly piece of jewelry. But unfortunately he isn't understanding the subtle hints cuz to him these things are not important so he'd rather get me my favorite coffee and cookies which is cute but to me it's like these things will finish I want something I can actually wear and make a part of my signature look. Something I literally will always have with me lol not something I can eat away and need more of lol. Maybe I'm an exception lol
The only thing I regret in life is treating my dear isfj brother zero attention and care while he constantly being my guardian/protector, and keeps "getting in my face" for attention and even "admiration" despite being a piece of sht trash I know I am even then until now I know I'm trash, compared to Fe Si users, tho I'm better than most at Te Fi. I'm intj. Now we used to hate each other but I try to ask his forgiveness(the only person I've ever admit wrong doing to), I'll keep all this in mind for all Si Fe users from now on. Thank you csj and everyone. My isfj was my protector against the "dark forces" of the mind, Im scared of everything, I see alot of things invisible to others when young, I never sleep, only nightmares but my younger brother was always up for me yet this is how I treat him when were older, I had no clue how it works, I just don't like him constantly sharing info to everyone about me about everything I'm extremely private person. Still I'm sorry and thank you
1 Make them feel special
2 initiate with them
3 make them feel desired
4 Give them gifts that ease their burdens
5 Enable them from their obligations
6 Give them a good experience
7 Have a good sense of humour, make them laugh
8 Show interest in what they’re doing and what they have done
9 The gift of food goes a long way, give them their favourite treats and coffees
10 Make them feel cosy
11 Tell them how you feel and how they make you feel
12 Make them the only person you share your feelings with
14 Keep things fair
15 Listen to them even if you disagree with them
16 Show them how they’re incorrect in their thinking
sometimes isfjs can be very boring , they talk about their school friend , some random community they are in (they are in a lot of communities ) , etc
and as a isfp , it can be very boring , but i dont disrespect them by changing topic or not listening
i think this is one of the main reason i have a lot of isfjs in my life, asking about them
now one thing i dont like about isfjs is taking a lot of responsibility then giving it to me , as an isfp , i only take responsibility for people i trust
so i always help my isfj friends whenever needed cause they are trustworthy , however, they sometimes think , i like helping everyone , so they will be like 'my friend visible will do it for you'
and the sad part is 4 out of 5 people doesnt even care about isfjs , they are just there to take advantage of isfjs helping attitude , especially my experience mostly esfps , enfps and indirectly enfjs , esfj and infjs , i feel like they just like using isfjs and isfjs doesnt care about it , because its the right thing to help people , which is very annoying sometimes
i have not done it but sometimes i even feel like abandoning the isfj because of their habit of helping people who doesnt help you , my fi makes me feel like i am being controlled by people when 'my friend' isfj helps people who treats isfj poorly , i think my fi doesnt like something associated with me acting like someone's slave
@@visible2927Fe is the selfless and the hyper gullible function. Its jobs is to help other in need. They are happy for doing it.
Fe does not prioritize their own interest.
You can't change this. It is the antitesis of Fi selfishness function.
The ISFJ's I know/knew were not boring. They r my fav. They are so underrated & not appreciated enough. They r resilient, intelligent, & strong..I learn so much from their quiet resilience & dutifulness. One is my travel partner, she likes new experiences, and is Witty..her clamp down & come backs catches us off guard sometimes, it seems to me she is measured in what she will obligate herself to, so I dont see her suffering burn out. She doesn't really talk about herself so, I try to ask a lot of questions & listen.
@@optimist-ri1439 maybe she is not comfortable with telling you about her life , i have seen sfjs not feeling comfortable to express , because someone can perceive them as boring , self-centered , etc
i know a lot of isfjs , you have to ask questions about their life to get them talking about their life , but like i mentioned it can be boring sometimes , but listen and react like you loved it
also someone with bad cognitive function knowledge can even perceive them as fi user , because they love talking about their life , community , new things they are learning , their relationships (the most annoying subject , at one point they were treating me like a relationship diary for example : today we kissed here , we had sx here , we are going here , my partners mom did this , etc )
Love this advice! All these recommendations come naturally for me! 😀 Just care about my feelzzzz , which they apparently do naturally!
Great video Joseph.... I love your analysis of ISFJ, n U r totally right. Thanks 🙏👍
I honestly don’t know why he fell in love with me, but he did and he won me over. I think being their friend might work. We were friends first.
~INTJ
I'm an ISFJ and I have to completely agree. The only guy I ever fell in love with made me laugh and listened to me. Sadly he never loved me back and I haven't fallen in love since then. Sometimes I wonder if he knew that I fell in love with him but I'll never know.
Was he an ISFJ too?
❤
Make them feel special, initiate with them, make them feel desired. Give them gifts that ease their burdens. Enable them from their obligations. Give them a good experience. Have a good sense of humor, make them laugh. Show interest in what they’re doing and what they have done. The gift of food goes a long way, give them their favorite treats and coffees. Make them feel cozy. Tell them how you feel and how they make you feel. Make them the only person you share your feelings with. Keep things fair. Listen to them even if you disagree with them, makes them feel valued. Show them how they’re incorrect in their thinking
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Isfj can remember dreams from their sleep more frequently
Can you do this for all the types? Specifically INTJ and ESFP. I'm an ISFJ and blown away by how accurate this video is. And, currently in love platonically with an INTJ + romantically with an ESFP so am obviously interested in making sure they reciprocate :)
I’m an INTJ female dating an ISFJ female. We’re both middle-aged and I’m so smitten with and in awe of her and incredibly appreciative of her talents. I definitely think she’s “The One”. I naturally do all the things in this video except I don’t know how funny I am. 😕 As an INTJ I think we’re kinda intense and serious rather than funny. Honestly, to me, she’s the funny one. She makes me laugh all the time. She’s so adorable. ❤
I'm an isfj, and this was spot on except for one point. I actually wish my husband stopped getting me cozy stuff and actually get me jewelry. I love jewelry and it means more to me because when I look at my wedding ring I remember him and I'd love to show off my jewelry to other people and let them know my husband gave me this gorgeous sparkly piece of jewelry. But unfortunately he isn't understanding the subtle hints cuz to him these things are not important so he'd rather get me my favorite coffee and cookies which is cute but to me it's like these things will finish I want something I can actually wear and make a part of my signature look. Something I literally will always have with me lol not something I can eat away and need more of lol. Maybe I'm an exception lol.
I feel so ungrateful for being this way but i cant express how much i love simple and timeless jewelry. Or like hik surprising me with a travelling opportunity etc. I feel i can naturally create my own coziness but me buying expensive things wont happen and i would like to get that once in a while.
You are NOT an exception. Long lasting things and not ephimerous...
OMG everything from 4:40 is sooo true 😍
how can an intj get over the reluctancy to invest resources and time in a friendship (pirate mode) with someone else after they got informed that they aren't their best friend's best friend (confirmed, not NE nemesis)
Just invest in them as much as they are invested in you
"Confirmed, not ne nemesis" lol 😂
Bruh these quora answers are awful
Nobody cares about ISFJs there. The intuitive bias is so strong on Quora XD.
🤣🤣🤣. Me. "Chinese food for me" delivery guy " Chinese food for you". For to go sign at the Chinese restaurant... " For to go". 1.00 for to go..... Omg..
Are ENTJs and ISFJs compatible?
according to Chase - yes
Yes they are, i have an isfj friend that has been dating an ENTJ dude for two years now, their relationship has grown stronger. I just don't know why he never wants her to look good physically, maybe it makes him insecure,idk, but its a good relationship
Yes, golden Quadra’s sfj’s ntp’s
@@hacked296 can you tell me more about this or give me a website with a link to read about it?
@@cynthiajuma9006 I'm the entj in this situation and I don't know why he doesn't want her to look good physically because I'm totally all about that I want my guy to look good! I do feel like we're pretty great together! But, he does have a hard time understanding my feeling/emotions sometimes... But maybe I have a hard time with expressing them properly at times, LOL...
Same question for INTP??
Give an intp the experiences, specially good food and good sex.
Always encourage an intp to explore, either solo or together.
That's it and that's all.
@@honor9lite1337 thank you, much appreciated! I think that's checked, but they tell me they are "focused on work" and "need more proximity to start thinking about a continuous relationship" (I had to move away), is there any way around that? or no hope at all, because an INTP just needs a lot of exposure to the person in order to develop a bond and small packages of great experience will never do.
@@susmateja I could be wrong but it seems like you are trying to make an INTP chose you. That's not going to happen. INTPs don't like to chose (Ni critic), they want to be chosen (Ne parent).
If you really want to be with this INTP you should express your feelings. Give their Si child a good experience, remember to express gratitude when the INTP does something for you (Fe inferior), then when you think it's the right time, say something like "I want you" and explain why.
If that doesn't work I'm afraid nothing will. Good luck.
@@INFamousJudge576 Thank you! You're totally right, that's exactly the case 😄
@@INFamousJudge576 It's so difficult for me to imagine what it must be like to "not want things" (I'm an infj), like how does one move forward, how does one pursue and end up with things they like? Is it just a kind of acceptance of things that come along? Or is it like wanting to have options and so not choosing anything to keep doors open at all time?
There’s an instrument of crime in your corner.
I'll save you the trouble of watching the video. We're the most common type, so do the most common loving things for us. If you hear about something that might be relatively nice, do it for the ISFJ in your life and they'll appreciate you for it. We are not hard to please, just don't be a dick.
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Whoops!
1. Make them feel loved
2. Make them feel wanted
3. Ask about their lifes
4.make them laugh
5. Share them an experience
😶In conclusion, I accidentally made my isfj colleague addicted to me .One thing is sometimes I find it difficult to deal with her Fi critic because I found her intelligent than me.Yet, she doesn't see it yet due to her Fi critic 🥹
What’s your type ?
6. Make them feel smart, ask them their opinion and a lot of question about their field.
Estp Fi polar isn’t very ideal and we don’t listen to them but make them laugh at least
I'm an isfj, and this was spot on except for one point. I actually wish my husband stopped getting me cozy stuff and actually get me jewelry. I love jewelry and it means more to me because when I look at my wedding ring I remember him and I'd love to show off my jewelry to other people and let them know my husband gave me this gorgeous sparkly piece of jewelry. But unfortunately he isn't understanding the subtle hints cuz to him these things are not important so he'd rather get me my favorite coffee and cookies which is cute but to me it's like these things will finish I want something I can actually wear and make a part of my signature look. Something I literally will always have with me lol not something I can eat away and need more of lol. Maybe I'm an exception lol
The only thing I regret in life is treating my dear isfj brother zero attention and care while he constantly being my guardian/protector, and keeps "getting in my face" for attention and even "admiration" despite being a piece of sht trash I know I am even then until now I know I'm trash, compared to Fe Si users, tho I'm better than most at Te Fi. I'm intj. Now we used to hate each other but I try to ask his forgiveness(the only person I've ever admit wrong doing to), I'll keep all this in mind for all Si Fe users from now on. Thank you csj and everyone. My isfj was my protector against the "dark forces" of the mind, Im scared of everything, I see alot of things invisible to others when young, I never sleep, only nightmares but my younger brother was always up for me yet this is how I treat him when were older, I had no clue how it works, I just don't like him constantly sharing info to everyone about me about everything I'm extremely private person. Still I'm sorry and thank you