Ignoring the red flags of toxic people can alter your life. some warning signs that narcissists show
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- IGNORING THE RED FLAGS OF TOXIC PEOPLE CAN ALTER YOUR LIFE. SOME WARNING SIGNS THAT NARCISSISTS SHOW
SOMETIMES THE RED FLAGS OF NARCISSISTS ARE RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE. IGNORING RED FLAGS CAN ABSOLUTELY ALTER YOUR LIFE and HAVE YOU UNHAPPY FOR THE ENTIRETY OF YOUR LIFE. TRUST YOUR INTUITION BECAUSE YOUR HEART WILL GET YOU HURT A LOT OF TIMES. LIVE WELL AND WIN
Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.
The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.
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one of the best videos yet 🔥
I appreciate it
AGREED 1000%!!!
The situationship The Narc Shenanigan
that I am currently taking steps to disregard, This dude take his laptop in the bathroom, I wouldn't be surprise he will take a TV inside the bathroom 🤣🤣🤣
@@jenniferadderley2566 sooo funny.. Mine too 😁😁
Oh & bro be on His knees...
"If your brain and your heart are fighting, listen to your brain. Your heart will get you hurt." True 🌹
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OMG, so true!
I've been fighting with my heart and brain for the longest 😪 Lee is soooo right ✅ that love ❤ is not enough for a narcissist!! Nothing you do satisfies them, their very cunning, and sneaky. I hate the silence game and he knows it, says he does it to keep from arguing ( yeah right).
@Lesley T thanks dear! I'm 52 and have always wanted to be with this man, I left my husband for him and it's the worst thing I ever done. You never know a person till you live with them and stupid me still wants to try and make things work ( although in my heart, I know it won't). Low self esteem, caring more about others had always been my life story.
That's because the Bible says the heart is deceitfully wicked above All things who can know it
A person shows you how they feel about you by their actions not words!
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Today WE WON! I divorced (last month) my narc and moved out (today)! I’ve been watching your videos for the past eight months or so, they have been incredibly insightful and allowed me to make the right decision for myself and my son. Thank you so much, you are saving lives, and changing them for the better. Blessings to you!
Update: I recently bought my first home, my son and I now have a safe place to call home. 😌 I still watch your videos periodically to be mindful of any hovering since I still work with my ex. 😬 Thank you again for your content! 🙌🏼
👏 👏 stay strong on your journey
He saved my life too!
Congratulations Kerry 🎊
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I hope you watched the videos loud enough for him to hear you educating yourself! Congratulations on losing the weight 🌹🌹🌹
The gift of discernment is a blessing from God. Don’t waste it! Detecting evil from good spirits is a great piece of armor to carry.
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Wow thanks Vanessa 🤗
Amen !
That's so true!
Exactly !! 💜
“I’m on a path because I help more people than I hurt” …
This made my day 👍🏼
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I've concluded that with these people, they see wifely submission as weakness, forgiveness as permission, and a resilient happy disposition as idiocy.
Summed up my marriage 100 %
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@@mymai2792 Hello dear heart. I'm so sorry we are living this way. This was and is not the dream we had as little girls. We will pray for each other.
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When you stay, you are signing an agreement with the narcissist. You are signing up for the treatment you are receiving. I know it hurts, but do not ignore the red flags.
It’s tough but true
One thing someone said to me that changed how I felt about the toxic person in my life was “if he’s the same person 1,2,5 years from now and doesn’t change, would you still want to be with them?” When I realized I was focused on the potential of him changing vs who he really was, I left.
I hate that. I'm a devoted Christian and have been one for 40 years. GOD DOES NOT CONDONE US EVEN THINKING ABOUT us being in, engaging or even tolerating toxic folk. While God says that we must love people, He does tell us to separate from folk who are duplicitous, sneaky, full or strife and chaos whether they be IN the church or OUT. He even tells us not to be friends with angry people. (Proverbs 22:24) So if He doesn't want you befriending an angry person, then you know He wouldn't want you messing with a toxic and/or narcissist person especially one who refuses to change.
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Wow!!! Thank YOU! What should you do if that is one of your parents? (And I am 57) I went home to help my Mom, a narcissist. I am rescarred. I was not very nice to her, she was horrible to me, still after all of these years. I felt like I was 12 again. Bad idea to visit her for a whole entire month! What does the Bible say about that? Please? 🙏🏼
@@jacqueline4365 Hi Jacqueline. I apologize for my delayed response. I'm so sorry to hear that. I understand because there's toxicity everywhere and in every family even in some parents. To answer your question about bible references, a scripture God gave ME years ago in regards to guarding myself against toxic folk is Proverbs 4:23 "ABOVE ALL ELSE, GUARD your HEART with ALL DILIGENCE for out of it pursues the ISSUES of life." Short synopsis: What we open up our hearts to we reproduce (ISSUES). We (not anyone else) are responsible for becoming aware and honest and remaining active in protecting ourselves (ALL DILIGENCE). So set boundaries to protect yourself (GUARD your HEART). Doing it is paramount (ABOVE ALL ELSE). Here's what you need to realize, remember and keep in perspective about toxic family members, a toxic relationship is a toxic relationship whether it be friend, family or foe. What am I saying? No matter the relationship, you do not have to or should NOT expose yourself to toxic behavior from folk just because you're related especially if the person doesn't change. Period. Love them but love them from a distance. Blood is not always thicker than water. I have bible for that. God called Abram to leave his country, friends and family (Genesis 12:1) but Abram disobeyed and took Lot, his nephew, with him which resulted in unnecessary drama/ISSUES. While the bible does say that we should honor our parents (Exodus 20:12), JESUS shows that family relationships should not usurp principle (Matthew 12:46-50). Principle is fundamental truth or behavior and the fundamental truth in this context of dealing with toxic folk is Proverbs 4:23. Hope this helps. Free feel to DM on IG at @godsmoguldrdyan if you have anymore questions regarding scriptural application if you'd like. Other than that, please, please, please keep watching and listening to Lee because HE'S ON POINT especially in today's emotionally detached and desensitized culture.
Hilarious!!!! “Please stop ignoring the RED FLAGS!!!” I’m guilty of doing this too! You might need to make a video yelling at all of us. We sometimes just don’t get it!!!
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All? nah.
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I h'👂🏽 ya'!...Say dat'👍🏽!
Oh we get it. We just think the "(narc) is more beneficial than being alone....like doctors say (bad medicine) is more beneficial than the side effects it will cause.
So we ignore the flags hoping those conflicts (side effects)we know for sure are gonna come are easy to deal with. It never is though because the cosignant dissonance will always reveal are true thoughts. We must stop gaslighting our damn selves. I thght I knew it all until I met a covert. Played me like a PS3.
Ok, Lee.
Some of us stayed .. not because we didn't see the red flags.
But because WE GREW UP WITH THIS!! it's all we know. Our biological parent treated us like this, soooo it's " normal "
to us.
Yes, I'm in trauma therapy, btw
Stay in therapy. It’s worth it
This is an ugly truth I came to terms with about my family. I've emotionally disconnected and now I observe and adjust accordingly 🌹
Love Lee’s video. Yes. We sometimes don’t know any better and have never experienced any better. ❤️
@@KeiyaHood When I was a little girl, do you know how I realized all adult men weren't like my father? Mister Rogers. He was the person of everything I came to value and crave in a male. Kind, gentle, nurturing and understanding. Even now if I watch one of the videos of him on RUclips, I cry a bit. Because I'm still searching for that humanity in a man/ partner. I'll find it, I'm sure of it!!
@@suzanne4396 … stay strong , he is out there ! maybe not wearing a cardigan …
My ex narc lied about how many kids he had, his age, who he was and then I found out he was cheating on me with random chic on dating apps. I was out so fast! This guy is right, don't ignore these red flag's it will only get worse.
8 billion people AND YOU CHOOSE THE WORST ONE, And you double down on that choice?!?! Man there are no words for how much I love this channel.
I feel like I just got a whoopin when he started yelling “there’s 7 billion people you can choose from and you chose the wrong…why???! “ lmaooo dam so true
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💖💕WOW! “If your brain and heart are not in alignment you WILL get hurt...!” “ The heart can only feel, but the brain can see, feel, touch, smell AND hear!” WOW💕🙌🏻💕💯💯🥰🥰
I try ♥️
My narcissistic partner used to go through my phone, looking for something to be jealous or mad about. There wasn't anything to find because i was completely loyal, but he would find like a message from one of my friends that said he was a jerk or something, and fight with me about it. I guarded my phone, but was too afraid to look at his. He was very angry if he caught me "snooping." I left because it was easier to be alone than with him.
Hi Lee you're so damn funny, but very real with the facts of positivity.
Keep the list of nasty things he said and did in front of you. Review it when you feel weak. Box his shit up and go no contact. Give yourself time to heal by joining some local groups. Move on, don't look back.
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My therapist called it my truth journal. Every time I remembered something wrote it down. It's ridiculous how much I remembered when the brain fog lifted!
In the process.....
I love your take no prisoner posts. The passion for helping other people is evident! Thanks for doing what you do.
You’re welcome ☺️
Forgiving them is like forgiving a alcoholic for beating you because they apologized
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Been there. Even with this one.. :(
When I call him out on his shi*, he claims he's not being nasty/ mean.. I'm just Too Sensitive!!! And misreading things, and overly-emotional.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Going through a brake up with a narcissistic. 😓 Betrayed me in a worse way possible.
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stay strong lisa. you’re not alone🖤
Let me tell you from listening to Lee I now know exactly what I was going through and dealt with. Lee must have been a fly on the wall during my whole marriage. Shot out to people who see they have an issue and seek help.
Lmao. Thank you! you are correct. Thank you for opening our eyes. I didn't know what narcissism was but I knew my marriage wasn't normal and toxic.
YOU GOT IT
I know I kept saying to him" this is not normal " no response. They knew what they were doing. 3 years it was a overload. GONE
True. I'm same mad at myself for looked over all the red flags. One year with a narc. Well...lesson learned. I'm out. Thanks for the awareness! ✌️
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Righteous anger! Love it! Thank you.
You’re welcome
This guy actually makes narcissism funny. His honesty is brutal but the way he talks he really gets through to people.
Waiiitt so I’m only 40 seconds in and you said “putting your phone face down and having it on silent is a classic sign!” … I joined the military at during a time when you weren’t even allowed to walk and talk on your cell phone. In boot camp we were TAUGHT to turn our phones over as a sign of respect/giving full attention and certain military jobs REQUIRE phones on silent. So it becomes a HABIT. In my instance, add in motherhood and never wanting to wake up a sleeping baby and that habit of keeping my phone on silent got bigger. It was never about hiding anything in relationships. Further, my daughter listens to sleep stories on my phone to go to sleep every night, so my phone stays in her room overnight. It’s not cheating/toxic/narcissistic/red flag etc. No there is no passcode on my phone and my ex Narc always had access, BUT •sometimesssss• these things aren’t red flags. Occupation /lifestyle matters! I know tons of military people who silence their phones because we moved toward WhatsApp and there’s just too many notifications. Every case is different 😩😩
Context matters.
I’m laughing my ass off 🤣 You’re funny! Oh, and I blocked his ass after this one 💥 winning!
😂 stay safe
@Mental Healness - It's a great talk, Lee! I want to kind of explain why sometimes it's sooo hard to leave toxic people. I'm not sure how often it's mentioned.
Leaving toxic relationships (also friendships) is extremely hard for those of us, who are constantly rejected, or simply unwanted in our life.
I absolutely agree that there are 8 billion people in the world, but in reality, for many of us there's no one genuinely interested in us. And then the jerk appear. Sometimes his ONLY positive feature is that he is the only person to whom we are 'visible'. And sometimes he is the ONLY person who is present in our life. And then, such toxic person, as it was in my case, blackmails you saying, that once you leave him - you will end up alone. I left him, I am alone. And VERY lonely. I am proud of myself, that I escaped the abuse, by my heart breaks that the only part of my life when I felt 'visible', was with him. I don't really know how to deal with it and how to process it.
I believe the same thing causes many victims to stay, or being unable to live a happy life. Those of us, who got "recruited" from the place of deep loneliness and abandonment, return to that place once as soon as we escape the monster. It is super painful.
I hear you!!!! Yes!
I love what you are doing! I wish I would’ve found you sooner, because you are talking wisdom and truth! I have literally gone through EVERY SINGLE EXPERIENCE you talk about with multiple narcissists that I have been with in my adult life. Probably because I was raised by narcissists. But by the grace of God, I was able to become strong like a phoenix rising out of these narcissistic ashes,😂 and break the cycle! I am still going to continue listening to your videos because they give me inspiration and strength moving forward, to not fall into the same patterns. You’re awesome thank you.
you’re welcome. stay strong 💪🏽
This is so spot on! E.g. I always take my phone with me just because of my privacy, but if my partner would ask me to give him the phone I wouldn't have a problem with it. I just don't feel comfortable partners reading my texts with other people (e.g. I might have a friend telling me something personal). Yet again, I had a partner once who wouldn't give his phone no matter what and I knew he was texting back n forth with his ex. Even though he had told me it was just casual, I broke it off THE SAME NIGHT HE REFUSED TO GIVE ME THE PHONE, cried for the next 8 months, but didn't want someone to fuck up with the simple logic. Turned out he was a cheater, of course. I don't understand why people ignore such obvious things.
You straight "clicked" on us!!! I love it!! I love the passion in your voice. We are winners and winners never lose. Keep doing what you Lee. Thank you so much...
You’re welcome ☺️
I Listened to my brain my logic and severed my Heart from the toxicity of my
narcissist x. It was a hard decision but, I made it and got out!! I Deserved Better
Great vid! You made a lot of good points all TRUTH! 🙂 We need to hear tough talk sometimes and be woke up because Narcs are so good at gaslighting us and confusing us.
Thank you
SERiouslyyyyyy
In 15 years my ex husband's phone is always broken, accidently on silent, didn't see the text, email, missed call, doesn't get voicemails...yet he always on his phone... His excuses never change. Now I just laugh but it does hurt our kids that he ignores them
Same excuses I got from this guy I was dating about his phone
You helped me become aware what I was truly apart of. No contact for 3 weeks strong!!!! Thank you for your info!
Stay strong
You are so right.. I was married for 8 years to a narc , now I injured him and the no contact is driving him crazy... Hey block, hey block, .. every month I am so much stronger.. you helped me beyond belief. I realized I don't miss anything because he didn't give crap but turmoil for years. This time I win.. thanks Lee
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Hey Lee I'm 32 yrs old. My grandma put me on to your videos and they have helped me so much. Ive been married for 10yrs and your videos have helped me so much. I recently left my husband in August because everything you said became true. It wasn't like I was looking for the traits they came at me once I opened my eyes...that third eye with my 2 eyes open is something else. But all in all I just want to say thank you so much because if I wouldn't have seen your videos I don't think I would have ever left. Thank you!!
I think if we ignore the red flags beyond the point where we start to realise our boundaries and yet keep going back to them then we partly have ourselves to blame. I left my Ex, stuck by that decision and haven't gone back. No hoovering yet, but when he does I will stand firm. 🍒
stay strong
It's not about winning Lee...it's about not allowing them to hurt us, which you've been helping us with. Winning is so not what empaths are about. Blessings to you
Don't use the red flags to get tied up to the bed -- that was some straight poetry!
My ex narcissist was a freak who helped me learn to unleash more of my wild side. Sadly, the same qualities that made her so much fun in bed were also the qualities that made her a terrible partner for me in the ways that really matter. But now I can take what I've learned and let it be a gift to the ones who know how to properly receive and reciprocate the love I have to offer.
This is me right now man. I'm currently dealing with a toxic ex who has narcissistic traits. The sex between us is like porn style. But she ain't good for me
Thanks Lee, loved your videos. My eyes are open so wide now, including my 3rd eye. You have helped me a lot.with my healing from my ex narc husband
you got it
Lee you are fascinating because it’s your grandiose charm that I’m captivated by, but your message is the awareness of that charm and the dangers it holds. You’ve used your dark side to create light. Keep on keeping on.
Will do, Thank you
I literally felt the frustration. Thanks for caring Lee
That's so true. If you felt like you were hit by a rock in the first cheating instance and then you forgave the person, the next incident will happen and you'll feel like being hit by a truck and dead.
I appreciate u so much. I left my narcissist. He almost destroyed me. U r one of the ppl that helped me
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FACTS FACTS FACTS!! And what about the ppl that say “well, if you don’t trust them, dont be with them! I never check my husbands/wife’s/BF/GF/SO’s phone!”
EXACTLY like my X. It was such a disheartening feeling and i was so disgusted to see how he was hiding or puting on airplane mode .
But he was "forcing" me to accept that reality.
You crack me up Lee. But for real, ignored those red flags 🚩 in the beginning.. it’s true. Same reasons you get hurt in the end. The one I could not ignore was the lack of relationship and blaming of his own kids 💔 of course when I brought this up ( being a mother myself I told him it was unacceptable really and he needed to make it right with his kids) he blames me for not having his back and siding with his kids’ mom. Smh. This to me was one of the lowest things someone can do. It broke my heart for them. Yes if someone isn’t loyal to their own flesh and blood they will never be loyal to you. Thank you so much Lee 🙏🏽
I just need this entire video to be my alarm clock.
Love your honesty and passion. I so needed to hear this years ago. But no instead I spent 8 years ignoring ALL of the red flags, he lied about ANYTHING & EVERYTHING, cheated on me over 20 times, had a kid behind my back, emotionally and physically abused me. I literally forgave him for everything, bought him anything he wanted, to make him happy, in the stupid belief that he would change!
Praise the lord I came to my senses and got out nearly 3 years ago, BUT it had a devastating effect on me & I can no longer trust any man. I refuse to let any man get anywhere near me. Single for the rest of my life, but very happy with that decision.
Keep shouting from the rooftops Lee there are plenty people out there who need to hear your wisdom…… love you!! 🙏🏻❤️
stay empowered!
My ex narcissist used to have two phones. Always taking it in the living room, restroom. Garage, backyard, keeping it on silent. Wake up in the morning checking his message with his back facing me. mannn. That 💩made me sick😡. I was looking at him like WTF🔥
oh yes. We allow people to cause us to suffer. It is absolutely CRAZY!
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When u hit " I'm tired " yeah u about to ghost the whole situation after staying for years, it happens like that sometimes, your spirit got tired of your BS an got tired of u accepting that weak AF bs from that person. Thank your ancestors also because a lot of times that's when they stepped in an took over, everyone isn't meant to witness your major come up, notice how life is better when u finally walk away. I think most of us been threw this an learned the lessons the first time never allow anyone a second to waist your time
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And sometimes they'll leave the phone around you either as a power move knowing there's some questionable things in there it's like they know you won't look in the phone or like they're daring you to look in there.... because your intuition is never wrong those late night calls when the phone is ringing off the hook, nonstop text messages throughout the night and sometimes they'll just look at the phone and let it ring like they know not to pick up cause I'm there and when you ask them about it it's always a family member or sometimes they won't answer you at all which leaves your mind going crazy
Because this dating stuff is hard...it doesn't seem like alot of choices
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It’s not a lot of choices left - but 💯💯💯 it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who brings you down all the time
True the issue is getting your mind body and soul to believe that. It takes healing to see this
@Dye Dye you're 100% right. So we need to learn the techniques to coexist and deal with them! I'm writing a book on this. 9/10 times our households have one parent that is toxic or even narcissist which breeds more toxic and narcissist people #generational cycles
you have grown on me. I've watched periodically, and I called BS when you spoke about your cred. A couple of years later...i fux wit u. respect. I'm a survivor. I see you. you're a rare beneficiary of CBT.
Lee, thanks for your passion in this matter ❤ I believe you're so angry 😠 because you care ( it's sad you care more about us then we care for ourselves). Alot of us have stupid big hearts 💕 and care for others more than we care for ourselves. Having this kind of empathy definitely gets us hurt, used, frustrated 😠 😡 and tired. To many we look 👀 like fools ( and we are) but when we love, we love ❤ or we've been beat down ( mentally) so bad that we don't know that we deserve better. It's a sad 😔 vicious cycle that many of us feel we can change or deserve, I know that o one deserves to be used, abused, or taken advantage of but the heart is not so smart.
More like this please haven't laughed as much in a very long time your brilliant 😀 😄 😊
Thank you 😊
Your rants are so helpful! I needed to hear it just like that so that I NEVER look back. Thanks man 💪🏽👊🏾
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Man I wish I had an older brother like you when I was going through my shit. I've been divorced going on 3 years. SINGLE ever since and I am FINALLY winning. My boundaries have never been this solid. I have dodged a couple bad situations just by listening to my gut. Simply seeing/observing. Wish I had someone telling me like you tell it here! Sometimes you have to involve authorities to help put that protective wall 🧱 FOR you. May discernment be with you all 🙏
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Stop being so desperate to have someone, when you're desperate you're open to allowing yourself to be hurt... Stop overlooking the red flags, he is Right!!! People that does this no that it's Wrong but however they don't care doe and they will only become sneakier smdh. This Man Is 1000% RIGHT
This is so true.
Your so right, I'm actually talking out loud to myself!!!! I'll be doing a 1 on 1 soon.
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My ex narc told me his pass code to get into his phone, but then he never left his phone unattended until one time we were on vacation and he needed to charge his phone, I saw it in the bathroom charging so I locked myself in the bathroom and looked and discovered he gambled and lost $26,000 behind my back. I was so mad because I was the only one working at that time. That was the last straw.
I'm feeling proud to be able to state now that they're (he's VERY charismatic so it's easy for him to have more than one or one after another) welcome to as much cheek clapping as they can get from the last highly narcissistic person I became entangled with, whom I hope to never see again!
And I really hope that everyone else who's still under a narcissistic individual's spell, so to speak, reaches this stage sooner rather than later, which is bound to happen when the teacher is the extremely passionate, not to mention funny, Lee Hammock. ☺
healing is the goal. I hope ppl get there
Favoriting this one! When you said there are 8 billion people on this earth, why does it have to be this one in front of you? I truly don’t know why. They get their hooks in. But at some point you gotta want better for yourself.
We meet a narcissist for a reason.. We must learn something. Only when we are done with the lesson we are not over with him. I did not listen to anyone. They were right. But I was not ready. I had to learn my lesson the hard way. Narcissist is a teacher. We are a certain way, unconscious, too nice, naive, etc. A lot of things make us atracted to a narcissist. In some ways we want to be more like him. We start living through him. Because we don't really have a life. We are bored with life until we meet that fire. And then we get burned. Until we know what makes us so attracted to him we cannot be free. We will look for another narcissist. And another. YOU DO A GREAT WORK HELPING US TO UNDERSTAND OURSELVES WHEN YOU TELL US ABOUT YOU/THEM AND HOW IT ALL WORKS.
I have been watching you for quite some time you actually remind me of my ex narcissist even looks like him but what I love about your channel is you are just so transparent out in the open bold and you speak the truth and this is my first time messaging because I just want to say how proud I am of you of bringing up God and Jesus and what they have done and are doing for us that lets you know that is a whole other journey and stepping that you're going into you are definitely on the right path you are blessing more people than you're hurting and you're also using the glory of God's name I am so so proud of you may God bless you no matter how he made you in Jesus name amen
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I just want to say my childhood was very rough it began with abuse by men and I didn't know God or Jesus took me to I was 42 to add him into the equation to start receiving my full healing and now all this other stuff helps along the way but it pleases my soul to see that you are seeking God and Jesus and that means The impossible is possible and you can have complete healing but you're doing an amazing job you should be applauded acknowledged and feel just playing good about yourself for turning a negative into such a positive you are growing and as one of your watchers I am proud of you
I just wanted to add and I know this is a lot of information I've been in and out of counseling since I was five the magic of healing didn't occur like I said until my spiritual side completed my mind and my soul the three components were made up of spirit soul and body all three have to be addressed for complete healing it took me a long time to figure this out and now I am way more healed than I ever thought could ever imagine but yet a little more to go but I'm alive and I'm beginning to thrive so thank you for helping those along the way and I just wanted to let you know this added to the completeness of healing
Take the phone into the bathroom and say he listening to music. Don't forget putting Friends and Family members in a group call. Those the calls that only comes through when he's around you. Put everyone else on ignore. So the phone continues ringing going into voicemail. Or go straight to voicemail. Have you thinking he's loyal and you feeling good that no woman calling. PLEASE....
Watching your videos have helped me tremendously. Because I took your advice and finally let go of my narc boyfriend. And I miss him but like you said there's 7 billion people out there why settle for the one that treats me bad? I love myself more than that and thanks to you I will never fall in this trap again.
Red flags 🚩 flaming 🔥
It is so disheartening to watch
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You helped me Lee I left my husband ! 18 hrs away and I’m so At peace I’m happy kids are happy !! Life is great
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🤣🤣 shall I give you an answer why?
Because we don't believe we will actually find someone, we have scarcity mindset, and we are so mindfkd from being devalued and wanting to believe they might start valuing us and we can finally feel better.
Its our own trauma and abandonment history, and hopelessness.
And then there's the self sabotage element...
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@@KiKi-te9yd omg yes!! And then comes "battered woman syndrome"
I honestly sob when I watch Lee's videos because they hit so hard. My heart and soul are irreparably broken, all because I was a caring, trusting 18 year old who fell for a manipulative, evil, conniving man almost 20 years older than I was. And I had an entire religious community telling me I wasn't working hard enough to fix the marriage. It all ended when I was just shy of 46, and I lost everything. I mean everything. He won. 100%. And then the one relationship I get into? Of course with a super toxic narc. Despite serious therapy. Now I'm 54 and broke and broken. I wish people like Lee and Ben would have been around when I was young and still had a chance because the info hits differently when it comes from them. I bought Lee's self love journal last night. I'm not one to journal, but wtf. I really can't emphasize enough how much I wish videos like this would have been around when I was young and still had a chance. At least Lee can save many young people today from wasting their lives the way I did mine.
I ignored my brains 15 years ago, and I got burned too deep. Very true that we go for those who knows what we want, cos we tell them what we want. And they give it to us then we think we on cloud 9.while we actually are on red sea. Thanks for this. This time when I am going to be in a relationship, his family and friends will not be included to sugar code his behavior and his intentions. Because we put ourselves in a vulnerable situation by sometimes listening to their families while in the meantime what they say does not compare to their actions
I'm literally sick of my own shit ignoring red flags. Mine always had 2 phones always locked and would put it on do not disturb when he got home from work. I blew it off as business reasons but deep down I knew.
Totally love this video. I replayed it five (5) times. I can remember my friends and family giving warnings, and I got headstrong about the relationship that I was in with the Narc. Thank The Most God in Christ that I still got out. Those kinds of associations are insane. I definitely have my listening 👂🏾 ears on now. Thank you so much for your devotion and passion to help people like me. Many blessings to you.🙏🏾💕🔥
many blessings to you as well
I appreciate you and what you do sooooo much! Thank you. ❤
You’re welcome 😉
Seriously, I’m so grateful to G-d that he is using you to send us these messages. They’re literally a godsend.
God is with us
Thankyou for screaming the TRUTH
You’re welcome
Thank you for all your insights. And I love the ones where you play out the two sides. The people who have a problem with your information, it's because they don't want to leave their toxic relationships. Maybe they have low self esteem?
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Wow. My soon to be ex-husband changed all his passcodes, when we both had acess to each other's stuff. He then said when you treat me better I will give you my codes. I caught him on a dating website. He always took his phone wherever he went.
U nailed it about…Red Flags!!! & the #1 Importance.
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Ha! Your facial expressions….. lolol. You are right, I didn’t take enough time to heal but this time I left! He still tries to reverse Hoover me (weak sauce) but he lied, got caught confessed and lied again all within 5 minutes 🤥🤔 Weirdest behavior I had ever witnessed and I dealt with someone in psychosis multiple times.
Love this video and as usual your on point I ignored the red flags and my life was miserable I’m proud to say I’m narc free
Thank you 😊
Preach! That was me..'I'm going to go through these red flags until I find a green one' 😑
I'm glad you addressed intent as far as the phone. I had started turning my screen all the way down and putting it facedown at night so the light didn't keep me awake and he accused me of hiding something. Smh
I'm glad your winning and want to help more people win and work together
I thought of the flip side of this coin! Where some "victims" have been so ultra monitored, micromanaged and beat down that They end up having these same behaviors to protect their phones! Doing these same "hides" at all cost even though they have zero shady stuff on their phones. Their personal everything/ boundaries are always targeted for destruction. Because a blame-shifting, projecting, controlling narcissist type will find a way to use/leverage a simple puppy photo they have or an innocent "hello" text to their own grandma against them in some convoluted way.
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Oh my god.....everything you said is true.the first lie he 3ver told me was how hold he was.said he had no kids....8 months later he got a text at 4 am talking about " Hey baby daddy"
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True! I know one who wears earplugs with his phone in his pockets even when I'm the potty.
Thank you Lee for another positive motivating video. You are amazing. Rant all you want!!!! I love your words. Im getting stronger because of you. I need this!!! Thank you Lee
You got it. 💪🏼
I appreciate you so much Lee and I'm glad you really care about us you know cuz a lot of us do ignore the red flags thank you so much for taking your time to shake your finger at us cuz we need it appreciate you 💙✌🏾👏🏾
The more I was confronting and showing i know his sh**, the more possessive he was.
Till I had to get police restriction.
Except when they look through your phone to look for excuses to steal your information, or to find excuses to accuse you of all kinds of things.
It’s not a normal thing to go through another person’s phone without their consent or permission. That’s violation of privacy and boundaries, Narc behavior.
If they’re hiding it though when no one has done anything like that , then it could be yeah . It can also be paranoia too .
This channel is so good , thanks for doing this
I literally am watching you flip out and imagining myself saying this to my brother. I wish I could say it to him directly but the next best thing is to post it on social media hoping he sees your rant and imagines me saying this to him.
Healing is essential.
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💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🎯🎯🎯 You Nailed The Ending LEE
Lee. You 🏆 🥇 Won. I IGNORED and blocked 🚫 every single one of the hoover attempts. No contact 5 years. IM GOOD TO GO. 👍
Thank you for doing your very best to save us silly, dumb people! You're a good man. 👍🏼
you’re welcome. Thank you