You are the best thing that ever happened to anyone who has suffered from narcissistic abuse, as therapists just can’t give us the inside information like you do and that’s what we need to hear so that we can heal. And heal we do thanks to you xoxo
@@MentalHealness Hello, Question? So I confronted my spouse about messages with his coworker that i felt disrespectful. "Your the only reason why I still come. "I missed you yesterday. Make sure you delete these messages before you go home. Wink emoji and etc".. Ok... Now after that he tells me that he showed & told everyone at his job about me confronting him and showing them the messages!! I'm like wth you do that? He said because I want to show them that I don't have anything to hide and THEY agreed with him and said they also understood why I was upset. I felt like he only did that to cover HIS image but at the same time it didn't make sense to take that to his job.
Wow..this is exactly my ex. We were together 8 years.. everything that is said in this video is exactly what happened. He already has a new gf who he cheated on me with that is 11 yrs younger than him and now all of a sudden he's getting married. All this happened this year. I thought my life was over. I cried this entire year but thank God for my family and friends for helping get through this. I still have a lot of healing to go but I realized he's not worth it and I'm better off. My peace is more valuable.
I understand! But, think about what YOU KNOW about him; she will experience all of that plus more. Moreover, she may NEVER figure it out! Remember, she was alright with him LYING and CHEATING. She's his doormat NOT his WIFE. The bible states that a husband should be willing to lay down his life for his wife. A narcissist will NOT set aside anything for anyone! Everything is done to set a trap for later. I say thank you to the women that keep this demon occupied. Remember your worth and value as a woman. This is how I'm coping. Be blessed always! Thank GOD for our freedom and new life.
It's amazing how so many of us have similar stories. They are truly programmed a certain way, these narcissists. I was with mine 27 years, married 22. He made me end it by cheating, as well as showing me the utmost disrespect continuously for 30 days prior to my ending our marriage. That was exactly 2 years ago. We are still going thru the divorce process. It is excruciatingly painful. 🥺 We have teenaged boys. He has been with the mistress ever since I kicked him out of our home and she now refers to him as her fiance. It's sickening how they do this to us. But know that you are not alone. I'm still healing and it still hurts, but I am CERTAIN that my life is MUCH better without that POS being in it with me. And I'm sure that you know that as well. I pray for complete healing for you sweetie and that you find happiness and inner peace for the rest of your life. 🙏🏾
My ex said his reputation was what was most important to him. Meaning exposure is indeed their biggest fear. He never wanted me to speak to my family about our issues. He wants to look like an angel in the eyes of everyone outside. He goes around being the hero to his community, Mr Nice guy - so helpful and respectful to everyone, but behind closed doors is a verbal and sadistic abuser who has to let off on all those closest to them. When I’m at his home if we argue, he is so concerned with his neighbour hearing.
@@Mystery5000 If you're wondering if you're a narcissist... you're probably not a narcissist, their traits however, do rub off on us, it's an instinctual mechanism that helps us survive in the same environment as them. Just practice mindfulness, try to go about your life as if they don't exist. Once you're physically away from them find a therapist to help you examine what's changed in you if you don't feel you can do it yourself. Or ask people close to you to give you constructive criticism on what's changed in your behavior.
At the time, his concern with "you aren't going to villianize me are you?" Made me feel empathetic to the battles we'd fought to try and make it work. But I had an inkling it was primarily about "looks". And now with 20/20 hindsight, I'm confident that's all that was.
Omg.. described my rx to a T.. I got pregnant after I left him and he was Tribble to me and ignored me my whole pregnancy. I reached out to his family to connect him with my son and when they find out his behavior, they are shocked and held him accountable. He then reached outto me and blamed me for how his relationship is different duty then, versus being accountable.
I was pregnant on our 1 yr anniversary and when I think back that’s when I started to notice the change of behavior. It was a horrible 20 year marriage. My 3 kids are the the best thing that happened in that marriage even though he tried to destroy them as well. 20 months free, no contact just waiting for divorce court date. I’m 49 and it feels so great each day to be out of his presence. The holidays have been so nice. Your videos are dead on.
Yes. Just started no contact today. He was really frustrating me with the gaslighting, after I filed for divorce. He would take ANY communication from me even if we're arguing and repeating the EXACT same conversations / arguments from 1 day, 1 week, 1 month or even 1 year ago...I mean the EXACT SAME; just to have the communication. NOTHING positive coming from any of it.
Y’all the narc discarded me during my pregnancy and after he discarded us for his other baby mom...just to find out that child isn’t his 🤣 he told me like I was suppose to care smh ppl crazy
The guy I was dating for years had many women on his trap line. When I left him I said: I don’t want someone who throws crumbs at me when I can have a whole loaf of bread.
I love that you're going deeper with every video. It's so helpful to understand your thought process. This one hit me particularly hard. It's so true about other people not believing the victim because the suspected narcissist has worked so hard to craft their image. He even said to me recently, "Everyone loves me. Everyone thinks I'm amazing." Until they can reconcile who they are with you vs. who they are with everyone else, it's not a fight worth fighting. THANK YOU as always Lee.
Mine wasn’t well liked, he barely knew anyone, but some of the things he did in private were SO wierd that still now I think people think I’m exaggerating because they don’t respond when I’ve told them. Here’s just two: walking separately in the street - no way to walk next to (apparently common for narcs) and this one: brainwashed into thinking I’m morphing into someone else genetically and forced to research it and find a scientist online to study me or alternatively and easier stay away from family indefinitely until I heal and my molecules return. You see the problem?!
One woman in a survivor’s group had similar issue, hers for a short while wouldn’t let her walk on the grass in the garden as that’s where he’d buried the bodies (!) and they might grab her ankle but a few weeks later on a hot day when she asked ‘is it okay for the kids to play in the garden?’ He said ‘yeah sure - why wouldn’t it be?’ And never mentioned the bodies again, which I think must be the narc amnesia thing which mine def had.
That is so true! My ex discarded me in the most disgusting and traumatic way and picked up with someone before he actually left. He said if he hadn't left me I would have left him.... And I was changing. I was opening my eyes and he knew it...
It’s nice to see you healing...you’re obviously happier and healthier. You may always be a narcissist but you are definitely becoming a better you and that’s really the most any of us can do. Great work Lee, thank you for your help.
I know a few, and the fact that you openly admitted to NPD speaks volumes about how far you've come, as no other Narcissists ever do, I respect you friend!
Yes. I have been being discarded for months now from a live-in relationship with an extreme narcissist. Today was the first day that I realized h truly had a girlfriend. As God is my witness… I have been going through hell for seven months through his lying that I knew he was lying… But the minute I realized and caught him and knew there was a girlfriend… Today’s the first day I have felt any relief for the past three years. That was my closure.🙏♥️. Wish me luck.
That narcissist who is EVIL didn't want me to tell anyone either, he wanted to violate me and disrespect me,and lie on me AND HAD THE ORDASSICITY TO WANT ME TO JUST ACCEPT HIS INSECURE AND IMMATURE BEHAVIORS. HE IS THE REASON THE RELATIONSHIP DIDN'T WORK
Exposure. Yep. Reputation management seems to be front and center 24/7. He's not happy that I have a podcast and this channel for healing from abuse. 💯Thankful you've stepped out of it and leveraged it to help others Lee!! Bravo!!!! 👏👏
It's so ironic... He will have more respect for people that treats him bad than respect me who genuine is here.. I support, pray, love, I protect him.. He does all of this for outside people.... In the home he is a totally different person. He only talks when we talk about what he wants to talk about which is normally... His achievements and his childhood stories etc🤦🏻♀️
Man, you are taking your power back too Lee! Your true legacy is your own healing journey! I can see your inner emptiness is being filled with true self-validation each day. Your videos are getting better with your vessel of self-validation being filled by yourself. pushing out all the ego’s untrue beliefs about your true Self. Big applause to your inner shadow work and your therapist. By healing yourself you are making this healing power available for those in need. It’s transforming your trash into treasure. Keep up doing this amazing healing journey. As you said Keep Swimming like Dory said in Nemo. You are showing us the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Thank you for being our Dory. 🌟
For the first time, i am glad that i have experienced some traumas in my childhood. If i didnt i wouldnt had been able to figure out what his plan is. I am able to go through this terrible experience because of the strength i have developed due to those traumas. Its still hard....it still hurts. I wouldnt wish this on my worse enemy
If i was close to you, i think I would have that connection with you atleast to know more of how your mind works.... I feel blessed watching you and listening to your jokes and watching you laugh at your jokes aswell but most confirming is that ability of yours facing your demons and with time i could see improvements.. speaking freely about your illness and sending out the positive vibes to those in search... keep it up Lee, give thanks...🙏🏿💯🙏🏿💫
This is so true .. there’s solace in hearing this truth that when you try to share with family or friends and they don’t believe you. This info is so helpful..
My husbands best scape goat is saying to me, "I have a demon or a legion of demons in me, so it is not my fault and you have to learn to deal with it!"
Same here, mine said in the last weeks when he went a bit psycho ‘it’s not you it’s me’ then abuse abuse abuse then again ‘it’s not you it’s me’ I thought at the time it was the closest he ever got to admitting it was all him, obviously I know now he wasn’t admitting anything, just an excuse, mind manipulation as usual and no more details, just that sentence… more of a taunt and pressure point.
Dang! When they flip the switch and the demon comes out, watch out! That mess is bananas, and the human has left the building. Call in archangel Michael with a firery circle of protection for demon patrol. He is splitting, and it will not get better but only escalate worse!
Sincerely reconizing, and owning your narcissistic issues or traits sometimes come in the form of exposure! I feel if anyone is struggling with narcissism, and sincerely want to heal and become a better person, they would be able to own their issues, survive the exposure, begin healing, and (SINCERELY CHANGE) that is the ultimate recovery, this is just my opinion!!
If they’ve got it sooo bad , if NPD is like a spectrum, it’s who they are, like autism or aspergers and some can be pretty deep in it, I am not sure other than controlling rages what they can do about it even with willing. Can someone be trained to feel empathy and remember things when they have amnesia? Can they be trained to not live in a perpetual fantasy of themselves? I mean- it’s gonna be so hard and they have their high moments , their illusions. Do they want to lose it all to be a nobody? It’s a rotten mess and their lives aren’t all that bad compared to their victims. I maybe wrong. Just a thought.
@@caroliner1901 "can someone be trained to feel empathy?" The answer for narcs is yes. Their ability to feel empathy is intact. They can do it. "Even if they have amnesia?" The narc amnesia is fake, just so you know. They simply don't WANT to remember the bad they do, and lie to themselves about it not happening or it being bening. So yes, they can stop that as well. "Do they want to lose it all and be a nobody?" Here's the kicker: they already ARE a nobody. And this fact pains them so much that they go to great lengths to camouflage it. Narcissism didn't male them a somebody. Narcissism turned them into a toxic nobody. So onve they stop lying to themselves, it becomes easier to accept who they are and build a real identity for themselves instead of being a perpetual bad child. "Their lives aren't all that bad compared to their victims" I would think their lives are worse. They are the slaves of their fears, hiding away, and destroying everything that tries to show them reality. Permanently hateful, and permanently alone, even when surrounded, because all their relationships are superficial and conditional. At least, their victims have a "soul".
@@MentalHealness Thats how to get true respect of being famous is through helping humanity. Unlike the entertainers of today like the hoochie mamas kartrashians/jenners.
Thanks for getting therapy, staying in therapy and sharing yr gifts. And it's not delusions of grandeur to want to be seen, that's human and to be, and strive to be the greatest version of our highest vision is beautiful and utterly natural. If u could speak on the fear of being intimate and really loved accepted and known and whether they fear their darkness/ lack of connection to divine love I would b extremely grateful. Thanks! Kerstine blessed x
ya the “legacy” shit. i tbh don’t care at all and that was something i always have struggled to have that convo bc he cares so much about his reputation and his legacy and i’m like idc i just hope people think i was nice 😂🥺
Lee, I want to thank The Most High for you! You saved me. Thank you for all the information you provided. The narcissist made me discarded him. It has been a healing process. No more crying nights. I pray you and your family stay safe and healthy. Bless you brother.
In reality, I think you subconsciously hit the nail on the head with "all enemies foreign and domestic." It was actually hysterical 🤣 but hear me out.. Your country is your home, and your partner the domestic enemy. Outside the home is foreign land. You literally see exposure like a weapon of mass destruction and if discovered will leave you fighting foreign enemies for your reputation. That's how I feel in my house. I'm the worst enemy because I have the most dangerous weapon. Yet he can still leave me convinced that's it's better for humanity to hide it in the house.
Honestly is like you answer all my questions daily 🙌🏻💕 Funny cuz my narcissist didn't wanna marry but wanted to dragged me along.However he was moving so fast at first but when the time to commit arrived he was giving me mixed signs
Grateful for your videos. Have learned so much about myself and the partners I choose. No fingers or blame as "we" have both played our parts. Keep on spreading the message. Much love
Thank you for speaking out. its not easy to admit to be a narcissist. for you to come forward and state your thought process is amazing. Its so sad that one can love them deep in our soul and they don't see it or feel it. Never ending emptiness.
Abandonment… that is such a bad cycle they put themselves into. You don’t like people going and out of your lives but they treat people bad that they leave. And the cycle goes on and on.
@Mental Healness I thank you so much, I grew up with a narc, and she tried to drive me into committing suicide after my daughter died. I still feel rage toward her but it’s been 4 months since the blow up happened. You provide insight a doctor cannot. Forgiveness is not my strong point, she made up stories that turned a few family members against me, to maintain sanity I cut her off and anyone associated with her, when I try to stay away and maintain no contact she had some of her friends to contact me to be messy. I had to change my number, delete emails, and move to another side of town so she doesn’t send anyone to where I live. Thank you for this info, it keeps me from doing horrible things to her if I ever see her again. In my opinion I pray her karma is eating her alive, at the same time I’m grateful I’m at peace.🙏🏾
Narcissist want to be famous for validation and to feel important until they’ve achieve some thing in our worry, but many breakdown what is actually needed to do the work and then do the work because they can’t admit that they really don’t have the skill… They use the excuse of wanting to leave a legacy to cover up their true reason for wanting to be famous
This explains why my ex narc treated me bad. He loved bombed me and then started ghosting me when I figure out his games. Now I feel like I'm fighting for my life. Be careful ladies they might not just try to do something physical to you, but they will go above and beyond. My ex narc has been doing witchcraft or black magic on me. I've been getting attacked since I left him. But nothing can over POWER MY GOD! HE HAS THE LAST SAY SO!! SENDING LOVE & LIGHT TO ALL!! 🙏🏽❤
You have helped me soooo much! Thank you for helping others identify and heal. I was one those ppl that would say, it won't be me and look at me. Never saw it coming. Listening to you, made me realize I'm better than this and there is life after being with someone like the narc. Big ups to you Lee! God Bless!
Well, I have a small circle, he wasn't able to attack, I moved silent, and did better, last hoover..I took over my home, paying Bill's, No Contact, No talking about him whatsoever, and, I'm blessed! Sooo, whatever he said, ain't flying now! Yup..abandoned, just like when that chick came to What Is Now..My Home! Karma!
Yes Lee. My ex has all those and blocked once the shit hit the final fan. Leaving me in anger state! He threatened me with legal action if i exposed his true character and traits and he told me his intimacy fears and the fear of failing AGAIN were huge . No shit Sherlock!
While visiting my narc in jail once, he threatened to call the police on me, if I ever got angry about finding him with another woman in "my" house. I still can't figure out how that was suppose to work.
have you had a breakthrough in therapy? it appears you reflect on yourself. have you developed empathy? thank you for your work. i have been grade A supply to several narcissists and finally woke up at age 35 to the web i was in. i am doing better than ever, and this channel provides me with validation so i can heal on my own without getting entangled or expecting closure. thank you.
That was great! Thank you for keeping it real, and telling it like it is. I'm looking forward to part 2. Good for you for putting this out there for us. This will certainly add to your legacy :)
So true! Mine told me when i asked him why does he date other girls if he 'loves' me . He said BECAUSE it's to fill the void and that he doesn't like being alone! And that he suffers with depression! Anyways reason this was said because I broke up with him and walked away.but we did end up meeting up while he was in a relationship with someone else and i had asked him why would he lie and cheat on this other girl if he loves her?! And he just said that he loves me more and he knows what he gets with me. And explained the above! He said he doesn't like being alone and I think it's really sad! But anyways... we all have our journey just like you! You decided to be happy and make your life better. They can too! But they'd rather just fill the void and hurt everyone in the process.
This is helping me so much ... I've been gaslighted cheated on 3 x I know of smh lies manipulation love bombed to discard but I discarded him... No contact now he's texting deleting messages .. I'm good he weird asf ... Super Empath here 🎮🎯✌️
Lee, do a lot of narcissists talk to themselves? Practice conversations out loud with themselves? Replay conversations that they had with others in the past out loud?
You described exactly what happened, forced me to tell him to leave, to go to his mom's to firm up old lifestyle with extended family and so he wasn't so miserable. WTF ever 🙄
This sounds just like my kids father. He always had a backup plan. However, he always wanted to have me on reserve. I'm so happy I found your TikTok account.
First off,, I really appreciate you. I appreciate your honesty, vulnerablity, time, energy and all you do to help us. 💚 So serving him with divorce papers in the next week or two will make him afraid or hurt him because legal papers are a pretty clear message of, "I don't want you and I'm leaving you to be alone" I'm anticipating anger and passive aggressiveness. My lawyers and therapist think he's a narcissistic sociopath from the letters her writes me. We still live together and it sucks. I was wondering if you knew anything about narcissistic sociopaths and the difference between regular narcissists and narcissistic sociopaths?
Hey Lee..R y'all "one toke over the line, Sweet Jeaus" in this one? 😄😄. U seem overly happy here..but great advice, as always. Ur tie-dyed shirt speaks of the Hippie soul in you, dude! ☮☮✌✌💕💕
Lol, I exposed him back in March. Told his closest " friends " about his behavior, physical abuse, cheating. Three of them quit talking to him!! But he still wanted to be with me, couldn't leave me alone. .... Until I did.
Question: what happens if the narcissist doesn't have a back up plan? They threaten YOU with abandonment (because they know it's YOUR fear), but they think they have you so under control that they don't expect you to call their bluff?
The “here’s a baby 3 weeks in” triggered me. This is my experience and once I decided to go through with the pregnancy, after expressing I wasn’t sure and didn’t want to do it and being convinced, he smeared me to everyone. Said I was obsessed and tried to trap him. The whole experience has been very hurtful. Especially having to hear now that our child is a mistake and I had no reason to want to keep my baby. Smh
its really ironic that their biggest fear is to be alone when that is the inevitable fate of the narcissist because of how they push everyone away. and so delusional thinking no one sees the narcissism and its actually kind of hilarious to watch them move like they aren't so transparent, they really like to put on a show.
Listening to u has definitely given me insight on how to try to handle my husband. We have been together for 30 yrs and everything u say is spot on. I have went thru all these types of abuse. But for sure u validated things I have said the entire time and didn’t even know what I was saying. But this validated my feelings and emotions. It has helped although mine will never go to therapy.
Wow! Dam! You forever dropping some Narc Gems…… that is exactly what he did too. And it’s always been my fault. Thank you Lee for my Narc Repellent I use it daily .
Oh absolutely the back up plan and the devaluation campaign is coming like a flood. When they notice that you are noticing those repetitive behaviors they go hard to wipe your mind of what you have encountered.
That is where I am now. He has stopped doing everything. We barely speak I know he wants us to leave but I have nowhere to go. My kids and I are literally invisible to him. This is sooooo painful.
My 'Take Note' file filled up quite a bit tonight, thank you. When I heard certain things a narcissist does, it made me wonder if I am, but the difference in the reasons behind things is what showed me I'm not. Though this doesn't mean I don't also carry a load of my own unhealthy issues, it's just processed and taken cared of differently, for example, I avoid relationships in order to avoid the issues happening that i can't handle or fix. * But I wonder, are there narcissists who avoid relationships all together and rather be alone than go through the drama?
Lee, thank you for giving us all permission to love your recovering narcissistic ass, as i'm sure you've been learning that Love is a constant, not a reward or something to control, we should be able to feel like we can love you at our leisure, not at your green light. Truth is lovable, is Love. Keep ascending beautifully !
When I do leave, it'll be out of the blue and it'll shock the hell out of him. One day I'll be there and the next, I'll be gone. Just like that. He thinks I'll never leave.
That is a smear that doesn’t need a campaign. It’s left hanging in the air and in the psyche of the individual that people will think this. Because look they exposed (‘smeared’ which is the narcs lie) and discards. That’s some nasty stuff right there. And during the relationship you’re being set up to take their role as well. With comments or questions with a taste of judgement that ‘seem’ innocent but are intimidating like h*ll. And you don’t have a lie prepared if it’s too boundary breaking because you don’t lie. But you’re starting to create distance to get back to safety. And they give you the silent treatment for that. And then the Hoover if you don’t respond first. Until it all spirals and spirals and only You know who is the real manipulator but to the outside it will obviously from their perspective be You and they flipped to your character as the innocent one. Trust your guts and get out people and don’t doubt yourself. I’m getting the last narcs out of my life and I promise once they’re dead I will spit on their grave because you can’t kill them but they kill you. In an unseen way. And spitting isn’t against the law eh.
LMAO... Me and my narc met in a chat site. After the first couple times we hung out, it was good. Then he asked me to be his lady. I said no( I kinda knew who he was about and it was too soon for me to be committed) So I gave him a narcissist injury. But I didn't know I did. So his mask was starting to come off. Flaking on me, hitting my triggers, telling me some real off stuff to start an argument.. well I'm not ur average empath. I went to the website we met on and on his page I left a comment putting him on.. BLLLAAASSSTTT!!!! Putting every thing he said and did such as not wanting to wear a condom to certain embarrassing fantasies he told me. Letting all know his spit game that he tells to play victim. Then he blocked me. He forgot we became Facebook friends... So I shifted my wild and out there... Then he blocked me there. He has made another FB page and didn't make it private... Boom! I spilt it all again! Then he blocked me. Mind you we still messing around. My supply was to good to give up but after a bit, he blocked me. Period. Then as I went to a chat site he told me about, there I see him in line.. he made another profile in another chat site. I chimed in and boom..he blocked me.
@@MentalHealness You have opened my eyes so much. You hit on all the notes that I already knew and just brought them to life and put them into a perspective I could understand. Thank you for your time
I believe they don’t get away with anything. What comes around goes around, you reap what you sow. It’s a sad life for them, with no joy and nothing but regret.
My ex assh#$@* LOVED the dark he used to do his dirtiest deeds then..what a jerk and he'll never change!!! I've been gone from him for a long time..don't even really think about him except to BETTER myself..thanks Lee I believe and pray for the very best for you bruh..courageous warrior is what you is..
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Scared of being abandoned but give every reason for someone to not bother with them lol
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Early on, the narcissist told me in his best "victim voice" that everyone leaves him. I'm just now finding out why & that he wants it that way. 😥
That's why I keep saying their basically crazy .
Sounds more like a borderline
Sadly, it's just all too much, almost like some other dementional behavior!!
You are the best thing that ever happened to anyone who has suffered from narcissistic abuse, as therapists just can’t give us the inside information like you do and that’s what we need to hear so that we can heal. And heal we do thanks to you xoxo
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it
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@@MentalHealness Hello, Question? So I confronted my spouse about messages with his coworker that i felt disrespectful. "Your the only reason why I still come. "I missed you yesterday. Make sure you delete these messages before you go home. Wink emoji and etc".. Ok... Now after that he tells me that he showed & told everyone at his job about me confronting him and showing them the messages!! I'm like wth you do that? He said because I want to show them that I don't have anything to hide and THEY agreed with him and said they also understood why I was upset. I felt like he only did that to cover HIS image but at the same time it didn't make sense to take that to his job.
@@MentalHealness Why do you think he did that? If the shoe was on the other foot, he would have exploded like always.
This is very well put.
Wow..this is exactly my ex. We were together 8 years.. everything that is said in this video is exactly what happened. He already has a new gf who he cheated on me with that is 11 yrs younger than him and now all of a sudden he's getting married. All this happened this year. I thought my life was over. I cried this entire year but thank God for my family and friends for helping get through this. I still have a lot of healing to go but I realized he's not worth it and I'm better off. My peace is more valuable.
I understand! But, think about what YOU KNOW about him; she will experience all of that plus more. Moreover, she may NEVER figure it out! Remember, she was alright with him LYING and CHEATING. She's his doormat NOT his WIFE. The bible states that a husband should be willing to lay down his life for his wife. A narcissist will NOT set aside anything for anyone! Everything is done to set a trap for later. I say thank you to the women that keep this demon occupied. Remember your worth and value as a woman. This is how I'm coping. Be blessed always! Thank GOD for our freedom and new life.
I pity the poor girl he married.
It's amazing how so many of us have similar stories. They are truly programmed a certain way, these narcissists. I was with mine 27 years, married 22. He made me end it by cheating, as well as showing me the utmost disrespect continuously for 30 days prior to my ending our marriage. That was exactly 2 years ago. We are still going thru the divorce process. It is excruciatingly painful. 🥺 We have teenaged boys. He has been with the mistress ever since I kicked him out of our home and she now refers to him as her fiance. It's sickening how they do this to us. But know that you are not alone. I'm still healing and it still hurts, but I am CERTAIN that my life is MUCH better without that POS being in it with me. And I'm sure that you know that as well. I pray for complete healing for you sweetie and that you find happiness and inner peace for the rest of your life. 🙏🏾
@@1badassrn129 I'm so sorry you are going through this. I pray for your peace. With time you will heal and be better off without him.🙏🏽
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My ex said his reputation was what was most important to him. Meaning exposure is indeed their biggest fear.
He never wanted me to speak to my family about our issues. He wants to look like an angel in the eyes of everyone outside.
He goes around being the hero to his community, Mr Nice guy - so helpful and respectful to everyone, but behind closed doors is a verbal and sadistic abuser who has to let off on all those closest to them.
When I’m at his home if we argue, he is so concerned with his neighbour hearing.
Omg!!! Yesssss my soon to be ex does that ALWAYS wants to look the part knowing darn well he's a SCRUB!!!
@@Mystery5000 If you're wondering if you're a narcissist... you're probably not a narcissist, their traits however, do rub off on us, it's an instinctual mechanism that helps us survive in the same environment as them. Just practice mindfulness, try to go about your life as if they don't exist. Once you're physically away from them find a therapist to help you examine what's changed in you if you don't feel you can do it yourself. Or ask people close to you to give you constructive criticism on what's changed in your behavior.
At the time, his concern with "you aren't going to villianize me are you?" Made me feel empathetic to the battles we'd fought to try and make it work. But I had an inkling it was primarily about "looks". And now with 20/20 hindsight, I'm confident that's all that was.
Same. She wanted everyone to like her for some weird reason
Omg.. described my rx to a T.. I got pregnant after I left him and he was Tribble to me and ignored me my whole pregnancy. I reached out to his family to connect him with my son and when they find out his behavior, they are shocked and held him accountable. He then reached outto me and blamed me for how his relationship is different duty then, versus being accountable.
No one believed me or understood me either. He blamed me for everything. Threw me under the bus big time.
sounds about right
@@MentalHealness thank you for your honesty and in site it’s very helpful in my healing
Mine throws me under the bus weekly sometimes daily and then denies it. No one usually will believe you... not even the police.
Please get out. These predators don't change
Welcome to the club
I was pregnant on our 1 yr anniversary and when I think back that’s when I started to notice the change of behavior. It was a horrible 20 year marriage. My 3 kids are the the best thing that happened in that marriage even though he tried to destroy them as well. 20 months free, no contact just waiting for divorce court date. I’m 49 and it feels so great each day to be out of his presence. The holidays have been so nice. Your videos are dead on.
Candi Rayne you have a good heart and he is mad that he couldn’t destroy your self worth god bless your family
Yes. Just started no contact today. He was really frustrating me with the gaslighting, after I filed for divorce.
He would take ANY communication from me even if we're arguing and repeating the EXACT same conversations / arguments from 1 day, 1 week, 1 month or even 1 year ago...I mean the EXACT SAME; just to have the communication. NOTHING positive coming from any of it.
Y’all the narc discarded me during my pregnancy and after he discarded us for his other baby mom...just to find out that child isn’t his 🤣 he told me like I was suppose to care smh ppl crazy
Whewwww bet that hit his ass hard
The guy I was dating for years had many women on his trap line. When I left him I said: I don’t want someone who throws crumbs at me when I can have a whole loaf of bread.
I love that you're going deeper with every video. It's so helpful to understand your thought process. This one hit me particularly hard. It's so true about other people not believing the victim because the suspected narcissist has worked so hard to craft their image. He even said to me recently, "Everyone loves me. Everyone thinks I'm amazing." Until they can reconcile who they are with you vs. who they are with everyone else, it's not a fight worth fighting. THANK YOU as always Lee.
you’re welcome! stay strong
Mine wasn’t well liked, he barely knew anyone, but some of the things he did in private were SO wierd that still now I think people think I’m exaggerating because they don’t respond when I’ve told them. Here’s just two: walking separately in the street - no way to walk next to (apparently common for narcs) and this one: brainwashed into thinking I’m morphing into someone else genetically and forced to research it and find a scientist online to study me or alternatively and easier stay away from family indefinitely until I heal and my molecules return. You see the problem?!
I mean- it doesn’t make me look very good sharing these experiences with anyone!
One woman in a survivor’s group had similar issue, hers for a short while wouldn’t let her walk on the grass in the garden as that’s where he’d buried the bodies (!) and they might grab her ankle but a few weeks later on a hot day when she asked ‘is it okay for the kids to play in the garden?’ He said ‘yeah sure - why wouldn’t it be?’ And never mentioned the bodies again, which I think must be the narc amnesia thing which mine def had.
@Caroline R mine does and says weird stuff too. You're not alone here. He's super paranoid too which doesn't help at all.
That is so true! My ex discarded me in the most disgusting and traumatic way and picked up with someone before he actually left. He said if he hadn't left me I would have left him.... And I was changing. I was opening my eyes and he knew it...
stay safe and empowered on your healing journey
You’re not alone
It’s nice to see you healing...you’re obviously happier and healthier. You may always be a narcissist but you are definitely becoming a better you and that’s really the most any of us can do. Great work Lee, thank you for your help.
I know a few, and the fact that you openly admitted to NPD speaks volumes about how far you've come, as no other Narcissists ever do, I respect you friend!
Yes. I have been being discarded for months now from a live-in relationship with an extreme narcissist. Today was the first day that I realized h truly had a girlfriend. As God is my witness… I have been going through hell for seven months through his lying that I knew he was lying… But the minute I realized and caught him and knew there was a girlfriend… Today’s the first day I have felt any relief for the past three years. That was my closure.🙏♥️. Wish me luck.
That narcissist who is EVIL didn't want me to tell anyone either, he wanted to violate me and disrespect me,and lie on me AND HAD THE ORDASSICITY TO WANT ME TO JUST ACCEPT HIS INSECURE AND IMMATURE BEHAVIORS. HE IS THE REASON THE RELATIONSHIP DIDN'T WORK
You are leaving a legacy man, for sure! You helped me quite a bit, just by bringing facts.
Thank you 😊
A self aware narcissist. Wow, this is so interesting!! I think I found my new favourite YT channel
Wow, thank you!
Lee is beyond helpful and educating!!! I've learned so much from him...I watch him over and over... binge watch... you won't regret it!
We have to learn from both sides. Subscribe.✊
Exposure. Yep. Reputation management seems to be front and center 24/7. He's not happy that I have a podcast and this channel for healing from abuse. 💯Thankful you've stepped out of it and leveraged it to help others Lee!! Bravo!!!! 👏👏
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It's so ironic... He will have more respect for people that treats him bad than respect me who genuine is here.. I support, pray, love, I protect him.. He does all of this for outside people.... In the home he is a totally different person. He only talks when we talk about what he wants to talk about which is normally... His achievements and his childhood stories etc🤦🏻♀️
Man, you are taking your power back too Lee! Your true legacy is your own healing journey! I can see your inner emptiness is being filled with true self-validation each day. Your videos are getting better with your vessel of self-validation being filled by yourself. pushing out all the ego’s untrue beliefs about your true Self. Big applause to your inner shadow work and your therapist. By healing yourself you are making this healing power available for those in need. It’s transforming your trash into treasure. Keep up doing this amazing healing journey. As you said Keep Swimming like Dory said in Nemo. You are showing us the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Thank you for being our Dory. 🌟
I like your sense of humor. Makes the lessons more fun and relaxed. Other than that, your videos are quite informative. Thanks!
Somebody having a new partner so soon after breaking up with the previous person is a pattern I've seen over and over again! 😒
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Yup horrible creatures
I’ve seen it too.
For the first time, i am glad that i have experienced some traumas in my childhood. If i didnt i wouldnt had been able to figure out what his plan is. I am able to go through this terrible experience because of the strength i have developed due to those traumas. Its still hard....it still hurts. I wouldnt wish this on my worse enemy
If i was close to you, i think I would have that connection with you atleast to know more of how your mind works.... I feel blessed watching you and listening to your jokes and watching you laugh at your jokes aswell but most confirming is that ability of yours facing your demons and with time i could see improvements.. speaking freely about your illness and sending out the positive vibes to those in search... keep it up Lee, give thanks...🙏🏿💯🙏🏿💫
Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is so true .. there’s solace in hearing this truth that when you try to share with family or friends and they don’t believe you. This info is so helpful..
My husbands best scape goat is saying to me, "I have a demon or a legion of demons in me, so it is not my fault and you have to learn to deal with it!"
Yikes
Same here, mine said in the last weeks when he went a bit psycho ‘it’s not you it’s me’ then abuse abuse abuse then again ‘it’s not you it’s me’ I thought at the time it was the closest he ever got to admitting it was all him, obviously I know now he wasn’t admitting anything, just an excuse, mind manipulation as usual and no more details, just that sentence… more of a taunt and pressure point.
Yes, Caroline R, the narcissist told me "its never your fault" but then acted like it was with the silent treatment. Ugh!
Dang! When they flip the switch and the demon comes out, watch out! That mess is bananas, and the human has left the building. Call in archangel Michael with a firery circle of protection for demon patrol. He is splitting, and it will not get better but only escalate worse!
or “i warned you at the beginning i was like this” “you knew this was going to happen”
Sincerely reconizing, and owning your narcissistic issues or traits sometimes come in the form of exposure!
I feel if anyone is struggling with narcissism, and sincerely want to heal and become a better person, they would be able to own their issues, survive the exposure, begin healing, and
(SINCERELY CHANGE) that is the ultimate recovery,
this is just my opinion!!
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If they’ve got it sooo bad , if NPD is like a spectrum, it’s who they are, like autism or aspergers and some can be pretty deep in it, I am not sure other than controlling rages what they can do about it even with willing. Can someone be trained to feel empathy and remember things when they have amnesia? Can they be trained to not live in a perpetual fantasy of themselves? I mean- it’s gonna be so hard and they have their high moments , their illusions. Do they want to lose it all to be a nobody? It’s a rotten mess and their lives aren’t all that bad compared to their victims. I maybe wrong. Just a thought.
Do not hold your breath waiting for them to change.
@@caroliner1901 "can someone be trained to feel empathy?" The answer for narcs is yes. Their ability to feel empathy is intact. They can do it.
"Even if they have amnesia?" The narc amnesia is fake, just so you know. They simply don't WANT to remember the bad they do, and lie to themselves about it not happening or it being bening. So yes, they can stop that as well.
"Do they want to lose it all and be a nobody?" Here's the kicker: they already ARE a nobody. And this fact pains them so much that they go to great lengths to camouflage it. Narcissism didn't male them a somebody. Narcissism turned them into a toxic nobody. So onve they stop lying to themselves, it becomes easier to accept who they are and build a real identity for themselves instead of being a perpetual bad child.
"Their lives aren't all that bad compared to their victims" I would think their lives are worse. They are the slaves of their fears, hiding away, and destroying everything that tries to show them reality. Permanently hateful, and permanently alone, even when surrounded, because all their relationships are superficial and conditional. At least, their victims have a "soul".
Well Lee I think your legacy is coming true having a RUclips channel. You're pretty famous and in a good way🙂
Thank you I appreciate it
@@MentalHealness Thats how to get true respect of being famous is through helping humanity. Unlike the entertainers of today like the hoochie mamas kartrashians/jenners.
I love to watch your videos I learn alot I texted you and messenger please take the message
Thanks for getting therapy, staying in therapy and sharing yr gifts. And it's not delusions of grandeur to want to be seen, that's human and to be, and strive to be the greatest version of our highest vision is beautiful and utterly natural. If u could speak on the fear of being intimate and really loved accepted and known and whether they fear their darkness/ lack of connection to divine love I would b extremely grateful. Thanks! Kerstine blessed x
My ex use to say he was afraid “to be forgotten” I felt something when he said that.
ya the “legacy” shit. i tbh don’t care at all and that was something i always have struggled to have that convo bc he cares so much about his reputation and his legacy and i’m like idc i just hope people think i was nice 😂🥺
Lee, I want to thank The Most High for you! You saved me. Thank you for all the information you provided. The narcissist made me discarded him. It has been a healing process. No more crying nights. I pray you and your family stay safe and healthy. Bless you brother.
In reality, I think you subconsciously hit the nail on the head with "all enemies foreign and domestic." It was actually hysterical 🤣 but hear me out..
Your country is your home, and your partner the domestic enemy. Outside the home is foreign land. You literally see exposure like a weapon of mass destruction and if discovered will leave you fighting foreign enemies for your reputation.
That's how I feel in my house. I'm the worst enemy because I have the most dangerous weapon. Yet he can still leave me convinced that's it's better for humanity to hide it in the house.
Honestly is like you answer all my questions daily 🙌🏻💕
Funny cuz my narcissist didn't wanna marry but wanted to dragged me along.However he was moving so fast at first but when the time to commit arrived he was giving me mixed signs
Sounds about right
That was my experience too. Seems he just wanted to be engaged but never actually married. Sabotaged. I'm free now, mostly.
Grateful for your videos. Have learned so much about myself and the partners I choose. No fingers or blame as "we" have both played our parts. Keep on spreading the message. Much love
Wonderful!
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Thank you for speaking out. its not easy to admit to be a narcissist. for you to come forward and state your thought process is amazing. Its so sad that one can love them deep in our soul and they don't see it or feel it. Never ending emptiness.
Abandonment… that is such a bad cycle they put themselves into. You don’t like people going and out of your lives but they treat people bad that they leave. And the cycle goes on and on.
Keep it coming Lee so more people will not think they (the survivors) are not the ones who’ve lost the plot.
Thank you
Yes people don't understand... They look at you like no... Not him... I'm like hell yes...HIM!!
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Thank you for being open and honest. It is helping me to put an end to this relationship.
@Mental Healness I thank you so much, I grew up with a narc, and she tried to drive me into committing suicide after my daughter died. I still feel rage toward her but it’s been 4 months since the blow up happened. You provide insight a doctor cannot. Forgiveness is not my strong point, she made up stories that turned a few family members against me, to maintain sanity I cut her off and anyone associated with her, when I try to stay away and maintain no contact she had some of her friends to contact me to be messy. I had to change my number, delete emails, and move to another side of town so she doesn’t send anyone to where I live. Thank you for this info, it keeps me from doing horrible things to her if I ever see her again. In my opinion I pray her karma is eating her alive, at the same time I’m grateful I’m at peace.🙏🏾
Narcissist want to be famous for validation and to feel important until they’ve achieve some thing in our worry, but many breakdown what is actually needed to do the work and then do the work because they can’t admit that they really don’t have the skill… They use the excuse of wanting to leave a legacy to cover up their true reason for wanting to be famous
Everyone one is different but this is true for a lot
Thank you Lee. I appreciate all of your insight. It helps us all tremendously. God bless you with your journey. 🙏🏾
This explains why my ex narc treated me bad. He loved bombed me and then started ghosting me when I figure out his games. Now I feel like I'm fighting for my life. Be careful ladies they might not just try to do something physical to you, but they will go above and beyond. My ex narc has been doing witchcraft or black magic on me. I've been getting attacked since I left him. But nothing can over POWER MY GOD! HE HAS THE LAST SAY SO!! SENDING LOVE & LIGHT TO ALL!! 🙏🏽❤
You have helped me soooo much! Thank you for helping others identify and heal. I was one those ppl that would say, it won't be me and look at me. Never saw it coming. Listening to you, made me realize I'm better than this and there is life after being with someone like the narc. Big ups to you Lee! God Bless!
I was afraid for nothing, I realize that now! I live along and I love it!
CONGRATS ON GETTING BETTER AND HELPING US
I so appreciate your time and attention to the women of the world !
Well, I have a small circle, he wasn't able to attack, I moved silent, and did better, last hoover..I took over my home, paying Bill's, No Contact, No talking about him whatsoever, and, I'm blessed! Sooo, whatever he said, ain't flying now! Yup..abandoned, just like when that chick came to What Is Now..My Home! Karma!
AINT NO "BOO" AFTER 50YRS! PEACE!
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You are ONE of my favorite self-aware narcissists. 😉 Love this video, my friend. Excellent.
You just received my first ever comment "dislike". Lol jk ♥️
@@MentalHealness 🤷🏻♀️😂
Yes Lee. My ex has all those and blocked once the shit hit the final fan. Leaving me in anger state! He threatened me with legal action if i exposed his true character and traits and he told me his intimacy fears and the fear of failing AGAIN were huge . No shit Sherlock!
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While visiting my narc in jail once, he threatened to call the police on me, if I ever got angry about finding him with another woman in "my" house. I still can't figure out how that was suppose to work.
@@kimberlyjames4648 their rules are from the book of irrational !
@@kimberlyjames4648 they always threaten to call the police on you.
have you had a breakthrough in therapy? it appears you reflect on yourself. have you developed empathy? thank you for your work. i have been grade A supply to several narcissists and finally woke up at age 35 to the web i was in. i am doing better than ever, and this channel provides me with validation so i can heal on my own without getting entangled or expecting closure. thank you.
I feel like my entire therapy sessions have lead me to where I am now
@@MentalHealness Lee can you please tell me which doctor you are taking treatment from ..please please reply ..
Seems like you ARE leaving a legacy. Much appreciated.
That was great! Thank you for keeping it real, and telling it like it is. I'm looking forward to part 2. Good for you for putting this out there for us. This will certainly add to your legacy :)
Thank you
So true! Mine told me when i asked him why does he date other girls if he 'loves' me . He said BECAUSE it's to fill the void and that he doesn't like being alone! And that he suffers with depression!
Anyways reason this was said because I broke up with him and walked away.but we did end up meeting up while he was in a relationship with someone else and i had asked him why would he lie and cheat on this other girl if he loves her?! And he just said that he loves me more and he knows what he gets with me. And explained the above! He said he doesn't like being alone and I think it's really sad! But anyways... we all have our journey just like you! You decided to be happy and make your life better. They can too! But they'd rather just fill the void and hurt everyone in the process.
This is helping me so much ... I've been gaslighted cheated on 3 x I know of smh lies manipulation love bombed to discard but I discarded him... No contact now he's texting deleting messages .. I'm good he weird asf ... Super Empath here 🎮🎯✌️
I’m glad you are in therapy, thank you for these videos
appreciate it
Lee, do a lot of narcissists talk to themselves? Practice conversations out loud with themselves? Replay conversations that they had with others in the past out loud?
some do. it really depends. I do sometimes though
You described exactly what happened, forced me to tell him to leave, to go to his mom's to firm up old lifestyle with extended family and so he wasn't so miserable. WTF ever 🙄
STAY SAFE
This sounds just like my kids father. He always had a backup plan. However, he always wanted to have me on reserve. I'm so happy I found your TikTok account.
You got this!
fear of losing their reputation, yet they go on smear campaigns. WOW!
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Exposure!!! YES!!!! ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!!
Yy
Thank you
First off,, I really appreciate you. I appreciate your honesty, vulnerablity, time, energy and all you do to help us. 💚
So serving him with divorce papers in the next week or two will make him afraid or hurt him because legal papers are a pretty clear message of, "I don't want you and I'm leaving you to be alone"
I'm anticipating anger and passive aggressiveness.
My lawyers and therapist think he's a narcissistic sociopath from the letters her writes me. We still live together and it sucks.
I was wondering if you knew anything about narcissistic sociopaths and the difference between regular narcissists and narcissistic sociopaths?
Hey Lee..R y'all "one toke over the line, Sweet Jeaus" in this one? 😄😄. U seem overly happy here..but great advice, as always. Ur tie-dyed shirt speaks of the Hippie soul in you, dude! ☮☮✌✌💕💕
Lol, I exposed him back in March. Told his closest " friends " about his behavior, physical abuse, cheating. Three of them quit talking to him!!
But he still wanted to be with me, couldn't leave me alone. ....
Until I did.
Stay safe
You were quoting part of the Oath of Allegiance.
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You are tha bomb Lee...Thank You so much...Say hi to your lovely wife and kids
Will do. Thank you
Thanks for sharing.
Question: what happens if the narcissist doesn't have a back up plan? They threaten YOU with abandonment (because they know it's YOUR fear), but they think they have you so under control that they don't expect you to call their bluff?
The “here’s a baby 3 weeks in” triggered me. This is my experience and once I decided to go through with the pregnancy, after expressing I wasn’t sure and didn’t want to do it and being convinced, he smeared me to everyone. Said I was obsessed and tried to trap him. The whole experience has been very hurtful. Especially having to hear now that our child is a mistake and I had no reason to want to keep my baby. Smh
Love your baby and think of nothing but happiness cause what you feel is what your baby will feel...Let your child feel love by you 💕
He said our first is a mistake, our second is not his , our fourth I was trying to trap him
its really ironic that their biggest fear is to be alone when that is the inevitable fate of the narcissist because of how they push everyone away. and so delusional thinking no one sees the narcissism and its actually kind of hilarious to watch them move like they aren't so transparent, they really like to put on a show.
Listening to u has definitely given me insight on how to try to handle my husband. We have been together for 30 yrs and everything u say is spot on. I have went thru all these types of abuse. But for sure u validated things I have said the entire time and didn’t even know what I was saying. But this validated my feelings and emotions. It has helped although mine will never go to therapy.
Sherri can we talk?
Wow! Dam! You forever dropping some Narc Gems…… that is exactly what he did too. And it’s always been my fault. Thank you Lee for my Narc Repellent I use it daily .
i appreciate it
This is so accurate it's scary
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Oh absolutely the back up plan and the devaluation campaign is coming like a flood. When they notice that you are noticing those repetitive behaviors they go hard to wipe your mind of what you have encountered.
Yep no one believes me... I look like the out of line one and he looks well put together🤦🏻♀️he works hard to maintain "the image"
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Definitely fear of REJECTION!!
they drive you AWAY: & blame You
Mine always threatened to leave. Eventually I told him ok pack up and leave. He always had an excuse to stay when I told him to go.
That is where I am now. He has stopped doing everything. We barely speak I know he wants us to leave but I have nowhere to go. My kids and I are literally invisible to him. This is sooooo painful.
How are you now? Where you able to leave?
I like it everytime you laughed about yourself.. it made me laughed too! 😁😁
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40s and still petrified of the dark.
So True.
My 'Take Note' file filled up quite a bit tonight, thank you. When I heard certain things a narcissist does, it made me wonder if I am, but the difference in the reasons behind things is what showed me I'm not. Though this doesn't mean I don't also carry a load of my own unhealthy issues, it's just processed and taken cared of differently, for example, I avoid relationships in order to avoid the issues happening that i can't handle or fix.
* But I wonder, are there narcissists who avoid relationships all together and rather be alone than go through the drama?
Lee, thank you for giving us all permission to love your recovering narcissistic ass, as i'm sure you've been learning that Love is a constant, not a reward or something to control, we should be able to feel like we can love you at our leisure, not at your green light. Truth is lovable, is Love. Keep ascending beautifully !
Hey happy Friday 😎 this should be an interesting video
Same to you!
Thank Lee so much you have helped me so much..Thank you for your honesty🙏❤
You are great icon of the world .god bless you...👍🙏
Thank you 🙏🏽💯
When I do leave, it'll be out of the blue and it'll shock the hell out of him. One day I'll be there and the next, I'll be gone. Just like that. He thinks I'll never leave.
That’s not fair. Getting us to break up. Making us look like the narcissist. That hurts.
That is a smear that doesn’t need a campaign. It’s left hanging in the air and in the psyche of the individual that people will think this. Because look they exposed (‘smeared’ which is the narcs lie) and discards. That’s some nasty stuff right there. And during the relationship you’re being set up to take their role as well. With comments or questions with a taste of judgement that ‘seem’ innocent but are intimidating like h*ll. And you don’t have a lie prepared if it’s too boundary breaking because you don’t lie. But you’re starting to create distance to get back to safety. And they give you the silent treatment for that. And then the Hoover if you don’t respond first. Until it all spirals and spirals and only You know who is the real manipulator but to the outside it will obviously from their perspective be You and they flipped to your character as the innocent one. Trust your guts and get out people and don’t doubt yourself. I’m getting the last narcs out of my life and I promise once they’re dead I will spit on their grave because you can’t kill them but they kill you. In an unseen way. And spitting isn’t against the law eh.
LMAO... Me and my narc met in a chat site. After the first couple times we hung out, it was good. Then he asked me to be his lady. I said no( I kinda knew who he was about and it was too soon for me to be committed) So I gave him a narcissist injury. But I didn't know I did. So his mask was starting to come off. Flaking on me, hitting my triggers, telling me some real off stuff to start an argument.. well I'm not ur average empath. I went to the website we met on and on his page I left a comment putting him on.. BLLLAAASSSTTT!!!!
Putting every thing he said and did such as not wanting to wear a condom to certain embarrassing fantasies he told me. Letting all know his spit game that he tells to play victim.
Then he blocked me.
He forgot we became Facebook friends... So I shifted my wild and out there... Then he blocked me there. He has made another FB page and didn't make it private... Boom! I spilt it all again! Then he blocked me. Mind you we still messing around. My supply was to good to give up but after a bit, he blocked me. Period.
Then as I went to a chat site he told me about, there I see him in line.. he made another profile in another chat site. I chimed in and boom..he blocked me.
I am confused. Are you saying that you were (or are) still messing with him after putting him on blast?
@@denisenoles3159 stupidly.. yes
@@francesozuna6298 Not judging you but may I ask why?
if I knew y. I wouldn't. 🤷
@@francesozuna6298 Interesting
Ohh very stylish as usual....and of course great video likkkeeee....!!!💖
I appreciate it
He definitely has the fear of being exposed. I exposed him. His kids exposed him.. end story
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@@MentalHealness You have opened my eyes so much. You hit on all the notes that I already knew and just brought them to life and put them into a perspective I could understand. Thank you for your time
4years💪 congrats 🎉
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Congratulations! I really appreciate
Thank you
Narcissists is never getting away with nothing that’s the pitiful part that is such a sad way to live everyday just miserable 😖
They get away with things all the time
I believe they don’t get away with anything. What comes around goes around, you reap what you sow. It’s a sad life for them, with no joy and nothing but regret.
@@ledonahentley4488 🙌🏾
This was a very good and helpful information.You sure do speak the truth. Love it.
Thanks
You've read the 48 Laws of Power?! My narc would ALWAYS mention that book! Said I needed to read it. Interesting.
ive read it a few times
I believe their biggest fears are to experience what they do to you?
possibly
My ex assh#$@* LOVED the dark he used to do his dirtiest deeds then..what a jerk and he'll never change!!! I've been gone from him for a long time..don't even really think about him except to BETTER myself..thanks Lee I believe and pray for the very best for you bruh..courageous warrior is what you is..
He said, "what am I talking about?" That was great! 😂