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- Опубликовано: 3 июл 2020
- It is incredible to me how often I am asked and see this discussion so I thought I would sum it up for you and give you the ultimate test. Here it is...
' Full Proof ' I know I know. The surgery I had did that to me and I cannot see it. I do not get it but no excuses. Fucktard. lol - Marty
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*** Great comment from a long time viewer and I think it is really worthy of a top notch mention. It really says things in a way that is clear and without my voice:
"Before I knew what an INFJ was, I hated being me, then the INFJ label explained why I suffer. So then, I was okay wit it and think it’s cool, and I can learn about why as an INFJ that I behave the way I do. From there, I’ve made some changes and things are better. If I became another type, I don’t have another complete lifetime to master it. So no, at this point, I’ll keep my my INFJness." - Walter
For me its not the INFJ label that matters, it’s understanding myself more.
Hey Chris. Then you are miles ahead of 99% of those who are stuck on a label and get it! TYWC - Marty
Same here.
I don’t like a lot of things about being an INFJ but I am actively learning more about myself to better myself as well as my own relationships ect.
couldn't agree more Chris.
Same
Same. If im not then well ok.. What am I? 🤪 I like how i am and it amuses me now to see how others have to adjust now that im ok with it
As an infj, the fact that you took so long to get to the point was driving me nuts, but I agree with your points once u eventually made them 😂
Hi Eliza. I know. I am sorry. Everything is a big topic. I get it. I am trying. I promise. lol TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn don't be sorry. You're doing well :)
Yes I do agree with you on all the above but at the same time I could help but laugh with you Marty
GAWWWWWWWWWWWWDDDDDDDD 😂 😂 😂
SAAAAMEE OMGG
Being an INFJ is incredibly painful and I can't imagine anyone actually wanting to be one.
Hi Elizabeth.. I get it but wait for a video I am going to do tonight. K I think you will really like it. TYWC - Marty
That's the same way that I feel, Elizabeth. I believe that anyone that isn't an INFJ and was to feel what we go through, on a daily basis, would feel that we're cursed more than we are blessed. I'm in my 60's now and I have to tell you that I feel much better, as the years go by, than I did when I was younger. When I was younger I wanted to be understood and accepted for who I was but now that I'm older I realize more and more that as long as I'm satisfied with myself, then I don't care what anyone else thinks about me.
They want to be like us because they find us unique and interesting for the videos what they watch and for the information that link to us, without knowing how hard it is at first when you don't know how to handle or know that you're an INFJ.
Before, when I didn't know that I'm an INFJ, I'm having alots of burden, troubles in understanding why I'm like this and I'm often being depressed, but knowing someone like us make me curious to research about personality until I found out that I belong to the rarest personality.
That's why as INFJ knowing your personality is a big to understand yourself and why people found you intimidating, but I guess we're really not.
And because of the facts of the traits that we have others finds our personality interesting that's why they want to be like us.
But in reality, they find us intimidating, weird and KJ. They don't like the way we think because it's out of there line. That's what I noticed to the people around, and understand them now. They just want to be like us without knowing that in reality they don't like the way we are.
@@charlesertel1324 I love what you wrote. I feel similar!
I think they just want to be unique. It would be an interesting experiment to have these people live in our minds for a day
Before I knew what an INFJ was, I hated being me, then the INFJ label explained why I suffer. So then, I was okay wit it and think it’s cool, and I can learn about why as an INFJ that I behave the way I do. From there, I’ve made some changes and things are better. If I became another type, I don’t have another complete lifetime to master it. So no, at this point, I’ll keep my my INFJness.
Walter... Very well said and this made it to the video description. TYWC - Marty
I completely understand this. But it’s so hard to not wanna be something else while also resonating so well with what it means to be an INFJ. It feels like a trap. Like life gave me a cookie when I was born but didn’t tell me it was cursed. Haha. So long as we can become the best versions of ourselves. Thankfully other types like us enough that we can get some pretty solid role models and supporters.
Yeah exactly. It feels better knowing I'm not the only person who definitely didn't like their selves all that much. Now that I understand why and how others see me I feel like I finally understand why I'm like this and how I feel I'm starting to accept myself more than I ever have before.
same
I thought exactly that when the video finalized. (Sorry if there are any mistake, I'm native spanish).
Well, the language here is kind of tricky. I would not like to be an INFJ, but as long as I AM an INFJ, I am happier knowing that I am than not knowing, since it does relieve some of the self-hatred to know why I'm the way I am.
Charley. Go read the video description and the comment I posted. I think that will clear it up for you and place us back on the same page. ;) - Marty
Same. Well said.
That's exactly how I felt 8/3/2020! I don't feel alone anymore, at least not in my suffering.
Yes!
Yes exactly!
"I'm not trying to be right here"
One minute later: "I don't care what you say - I'm right end of story" 😂
You know Jonas, I LOVE it when I am called out in a nice IQ and professional way like you did. So please keep it coming. What I was trying to say is this:
" I am not always trying to be right, because I am not, but what I am saying is that if you are truly an INFJ you do not want to be and it is because it is a painful way of living. There is no escaping that point even if you like parts of the INFJ traits. "
I hope that clarifies but, yes, thank you for calling me out and laughing. TYWC - Marty
That is exactly what I am doing. Glad we are playing the same game and it better be football (soccer) TYWC - Marty
INFJ stuff contradicting ourselves in record speed
;) - M
@@marty_glenn I learned about HSP before I knew what an INFJ was. A penpal told me she thought I was HSP based on the long letters we wrote to each other. It was not until I read Elaine Aaron's book that I realised I am normal. I always wondered what was wrong with me until then. I always thought others were the same as me (which freaked me out because I thought they could see into my soul) yet I also always felt different (in an awkward and confusing way) Then I learned about INFJ and it seemed to explain more from the starting point of HSP. I would say it is the most confusing and painful thing I have ever been thru and I honestly don't know where I would be today without Elaine's book. At least, now I know why I am different and that different, for me, is normal. Just found your channel.
My boyfriend took the MBTI test once and got INFP. Do you discuss INFJ relationships with other personality types.
A common phrase uttered in my world: "I would never wish this feeling on anyone right now."
That is the4 basis for every time I say something about being an INFJ. TYWC - Marty
I would never wish it upon another..yet I delight in the uncanny Joys of it..though.. Trust Your Intuition..
You become better at it in time.
Or "I wish someone could sit with mind for just a minute and FEEL this".
“I'd never join a club that would allow a person like me to become a member.”
― Woody Allen
HaHa. That is funny. TYWC - Marty
Am I the only one completely bothered by “full” proof?
Hi Kate. Nope, Me too! ;) - M
So bothered
Me too
Fool Proof ... it is our personality that “saw” it!😂
Seen it in the thumbnail before I clicked the video. Actually clicked the video to look at the comments 😂
I wish I wasn't an INFJ because it feels like with people I'm always giving my 200% all and no one ever bothers to even give me 50% in return. So when relationships end, it's ALWAYS the other person's fault and so I feel like I have no control over any of my relationships because I'm always the one getting hurt and then I'm the one that feels like a dick cuz I shut off to people and end up not being able to forgive them. This always makes me feel guilty cuz I know where they're coming from and I understand why they are the way they are.
Other people always seem to think that they'll have me forever once we get along, but I'm always the one that has "it could end at any moment" in the back of my mind, and usually end up finding those reasons why it'll end when the other person never even saw it coming. So when people promise me forever, I don't believe them and they get hurt when I tell them something along the lines of "well, that'd be great... but nothing good lasts forever."
Some people also seem sorta terrified of me because they know if they hurt me I won't let them get away with it, I'll tell them how they hurt me and if they don't make an effort to fix it, I'll just get away from them and so then they start babying me or walking on eggshells and when I sense that insincerity it makes me hate them for thinking I can't handle the real them. Yes, I AM sensitive, but I would much rather cry and get over it than be lied to or given less than someone's all.
I'm aware that I hold people to really high standards. But what I don't understand is, if it's possible for me to treat you the best way I know how, why does it seem so impossible for everyone else to keep up when it's so easy for me? It's actually harder for me to purposely hurt someone than it would ever be for me to give someone basic respect or help.
BUT... all that being said, I really do love myself, INFJ-ness and all. I just wish other people understood me, were more patient with me or appreciative of me and, most of all, more REAL with me. I'd rather eat an ugly truth than a pretty lie any day, and even when I say this, people don't seem to believe me.
That's my pointless internet rant for the year! lol Bye!~
So true and exact. Well said. All of it. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn Thank you. I'm really glad I found your channel. (:
@@yoongoongi4349 ufff... 😥 That's me on those words above.
this is me to a tee. how wonderful and complex we are
Wow...you’ve literally put it all in words I couldn’t get my point across to others 😭🥺 thank you!
I’m still not sure if I’m an INFJ or not. Let me tell you how I found out I was an INFJ, if you’re interested:
I first found out about INFJs few months ago. I saw a video on my RUclips recommendations, the name was something like “10 signs you’re an INFJ, the rarest personality type in the world” and I literally said “how can i be rare? There are a bunch of people who have the similar likings and disliking as me!” and I didn’t even watched that video. After a few weeks I found out i was an INFJ and I didn’t cared about it because I forgot that it was the”rarest personality type”, when I remembered, i still didn’t cared that much because for me it was like one of those “Which character of Avenger are you?” quiz. But after i researched a bit about the INFJ world, I realized that I do a lot of things in real life that are mentioned in the video/website (not all of the personality traits mentioned in those videos describe me, but most of them does, if that makes sense). I found out what are the pros and cons of being an INFJ. So after you asked if I’ll be happy knowing that I’m not an INFJ, i said “Yes, I’ll be happy” since I want to be an ESFJ or an ENFP or an INTJ, but there was a part of me that refused because INFJs has some abilities that makes me actually like them. So it’s confusing...
It’s my very first time telling someone (if anyone’s even reading this) such a long story... I’m sorry if I disturbed you 😣
Sounds to me like you got the message of the video perfectly. Well said and I think many will read this and hear you. TYWC - Marty
I can relate. I don’t like being myself most of the time. But I’ve learned the hard way (rejection i mean) to accept myself and pay a little more attention to the things i like about myself.
This is the same video that came in my recommendation today and is as the same and I saw tons of video coz I could not belive I was an INFJ but I realised why I feel like that and all but this is exactly how I found out to..
I just totally can relate and felt the same.
I feel exactly the same.... it's fucked up.It really is😣
Honestly I dont mind being an INFJ and honestly I'm happy that I am because this is the way I was born. The only thing I do mind is that I dont know how to handle being an infj. This 'handling the infj' part is what makes being an infj so hard, because we are complex individuals.
However, I do disagree with you on the 'test' Marty, because I believe in seeing the positive side of everything and being an infj has so many benefits! :)
Have a good day!
Hi N. S. You will enjoy the next 3 videos about being an INFJ being uploaded now. Enjoy. And thank you. You have a nice day too. TYWC - Marty
( not an INFJ) 😂... If your happy and you know it raise your hand because you my friend are not what this man is speaking of. If you havent for a length of time felt in so much emotional turmoil that you feel as if the devil himself has your soul and it is on fire as he whispers all of your insecurities in your ear as you burn you know nothing of what you speak about. Such intense pain you would almost stick a knife through your own heart to stop the inner voice in your head that tells you to hate your self while you still want others to be happy and go above and beyond for someone else with that burning self hatred you will never know the mental exhaustion a true INFJ feels. I pray that's the case for you, because to me I'll take an physically pain over that emotional pain any day of the week. That's just the surface of one aspect. I feel like people like to say they are INFJ as if it's a trend. It doesn't make you cool. The only reason I even learned what its called is for the desire to put a name on what the heck I was dealing with in my own mind. Not because " I'm so happy and look at the bright things". No I wish I could just "be happy" when you wake up and with in 20 minutes of being awake you are exhausted at the back and forth in your mind of how you aren't good enough and somehow if you take care of everyone else's needs and wants it will somehow help you find peace. Sometimes it will bring a moment of silence from that inner voice but sooner than later that voice comes back. Anyone who has been through this even if happy will know exactly what this video is about and won't feel the need to disagree!
@@stephaniagriffith6329 wtf are u saying
Couldn't agree more. I'm just sick of any kind of melodrama at this point in my life.
N. S., I agree. And I think figuring out how to handle it comes with age, maturity, and personal experience. It's rough. Some of us won't make it, unfortunately.
INFJ male here. I wouldn't say I don't like being an INFJ, yes it's hard sometimes because nobody around you can relate to you as much as you can to them. But, it's a great thought to be unique and have these gifts of understanding people beyond the average sense. I do accept who I am, and I will continue to. Now a lot of us have issues with leaving our past mistakes behind (it haunts us), but I'm trying to look forward. I used to be very depressed, but I have come to learn to not be depressed anymore. I still siphon people's depression when talking about they're sad life, it affects me for about a day or more, but it goes away. I feel that INFJ's are here for a purpose, and I want to know that purpose, I feel that every personality is here for a purpose, all for a very good reason.
Is it enjoyable being an INFJ? No, but I am content being who I am in spite of that. It's less about being an INFJ and more about everyone else not being one and not understanding your mentality or intentions as an INFJ. The frustration of having pure intent and others misunderstanding and not seeing it/thinking there is a catch or ulterior motive. To me, being an INFJ is to be dead center of the spectrum on everything. Being simultaneously intellectual and feeling, being introverted and extroverted. The defining factor for me is that of being able to shift your perspective to that of anyone and understand them, even when they contradict, with the curse being that no one can do that for you. That literally everyone else can only see one side or the other, so you always feel on the outside. That's why we're so contradictory in nature and why we can relate to anyone, because we possess the ability to shift our perspectives at will. So am I happy to be an INFJ? Yes, I just wish everyone else was as well if that makes sense.
I understand and this makes perfect sense but this comment is an overview and not an in depth personal account. It does touch on it but; I am being overly critical I think. Good advice. TYWC - Marty
I think it depends on the state of the INFJ, for me, if I’d found out about this 10 years ago then yeah maybe I’d agree, but having come to this INFJ/MBTI stuff after a good amount of spiritual awakening and finding that I wasn’t so alone after all, I’d be disappointed. Coming to these understandings after some major internal work and coming to accept who I am without labels and loving myself regardless of any external or internal expressions I find it neat and cool to listen to people I can relate to and honestly it’s a breath of fresh air to hear why I work the way I work. Before it was just self criticism, feeling hard done by, feeling cursed, wishing I could just be someone else, but not anymore. So maybe I’m not an INFJ but I feel I am. Anywho I like your vids. You’re funny.
Hi Derrence. You said it well and I think you have it right and I have learned from this comment. Thank you. TYWC - Marty
At 60 i always struggled with this and i blamed myself for their issues with me. Now i am glad to be called obstinate stubborn and to feel like a complete alien. Im really ok with me
Does the brain ever stop? Like with all I try to learn, will my brain stop bullying me? It's a storm in here.
No. I self medicate. I have to. It is the only way and one day I will take my last breath and the mind will stop and then and only then will I get a good night sleep. TYWC - Marty
I love naps I look forward to not having to deal with my thoughts.
Honestly, I feel overwhelmed most days, especially now after having a family. It's hard to have time to do anything for myself anymore, everyone needs someone to listen and understand them. Being understood seems a millenia away. If I could be anyone else I would be an extrovert. Everyone likes to be around the extraverts and they are more highly regarded in this society anyway.
I mean to be real man. Who really sat here and said. "oh yay I'm special"
what? no. Its a burden, to feel so alone. so misunderstood. I looked at that small percentage and I see hopelessness. That I'm not like anyone else. That...I'll never relate. I already knew what you were going to say too. Isn't that crazy? best part is, is that even if you meet another INFJ. you both are clueless as to who you are to one another
edit: I realize this sounds unhealthy. But I promise. I don't always think like this. I just prefer to be honest. Darkly honest
Brilliant: "you both are clueless as to who you are to one another" - Marty
Seriously. :)
Marty why are you laughing randomly? I do the same exact thing, but I'm curious if you see the same thing I see.
When I laugh like that, I usually get a glimpse of myself through the lense of the "big picture" I've created in my head, which leads to me bursting out laughing to something only I can see.
Is this the same for you?
Yes. - M
It's not random. He's laughing because of a thought that we popped into his mind
On point description of why we look mental, we've already told the stories and made the jokes in our head, so we laugh before they even leave our mind
Starts at 3:43
Hi D... I added your comment to the video description. Thanks for that. ;) TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn your welcome keep up the great job and stay positive ☺️
Thanks - Marty
I don't care, i DON'T care if i am an INFJ or not. But i love the last two years when i found out that i am an INFJ. It helped me find myself, become confident in my abilities, become comfortable defining myself to myself and others.
It is not the label. It is the wisdom that is being unearthed with it when we find out that we are an INFJ.
I love to be an INFJ for a little while more until i am comfortable being an INFJ. Once i am comfortable being an INFJ i would probably never tell myself that i am an INFJ.
Finding out that i was an INFJ uncomplicated a lot of stuff. Without finding out that i am an INFJ it would have taken me a few more years. The TEST actually only sped up the time taken for the journey,the soul search. I know this would resonate with all INFJs.
What Marty really meant was that, we INFJs, the realy INFJs would not be clingy to the label but all INFJs would want to taste the wisdom that comes with finding out that you are an INFJ.
You get it and the video message. TYWC - Marty
“Would I be happy if I weren’t an INFJ” - No
“Do I want to be an INFJ” - No
So I’m a bit confused..my answer to the first question indicates I am “not” a true INFJ but my answer to the second question indicates I am an INFJ. 😶
Hi Queen B. You are exactly right. Well put. ;) TYWC - Marty
Queen B...I have the same dilemma. My answers were the same as your’s. I have taken the Briggs-Myer test (more than once, to be sure) and every single time...INFJ. It definitely answers so many questions, feeling different, feeling misunderstood, feeling not quite in the right place (no matter where I am).
@@exadoorrising1239 Go watch CPT video "why so many people think they're INFJ" - 16 personalities and similar test have NOTHING to do with cognitive functions
Well done. Sir. Being an INFJ, is a gift and a curse, however it is more of a Curse, I could do with out!
Hey champ. Thanks and always glad to see you commenting. TYWC - Marty
It's a chore , I near drank myself to death , before it started to make sense .
Hi K. Well just don't drink and drive and always have fun while doing it and be safe. Other then that, have some for me too. Thank you. ;)) - M
@@marty_glenn I mean I was an alcoholic most of my life , I knew something wasn't right , it was easy giving up once I did cognitive behavioural therapy , I had been judging myself so hard over so many years, I'm a healthy INFJ now , we are late bloomers though. When I realised I was an INFJ, 10 years after I gave up drinking , and then it was "oh now it makes " yeah it is good to know now , had I known back then I may of realised where my strengths were and taken a different life course . I think things do happen for a reason however .
Kieran. I get it. Self medicated is a common problem and I do not think many of us escape it. I do not. Sad but true. Happy you are healthy and on a better path. Good stuff... ;) TYWC - Marty
When you asked this question, I paused the video and immediately said yes. Then I started thinking. Lots of times I am saying that I don't want to be an INFJ. But at one point you have to accept your identity and live with it. Of course, it hurts to be an INFJ. It takes time to admit it. But now I can accept who I am and I'm trying to be strong. Just wanted to share it with you and tell you that I understand you at 100%. And something very annoying is that lots of people don't understand how painful it is to be an INFJ. About the question... My answer is yes, but I am an INFJ and that's it. If I have to be totally honest, I can't imagine not being an INFJ after being one. Probably everything would be different. If you think about it, you can't say 100% yes, because the INFJs are different and you know that part of you cannot imagine being like the other people. But yes, I would live easier and happier if I was not an INFJ. But I am an INFJ and this is who I am. I hope you can understand what I am trying to say.
Yes, I do and you got the message of the video. Well said. TYWC - Marty
Same here. Always hated it until the age of 29. I finally came to terms with it after I promised myself to be a better friend to myself. Fast forward, I cannot see myself being something else. I deeply resent it and don’t wish it to any one else, but I also love it because on a good day being an INFJ is bliss.
This made me cry. I knew what you were going to ask. And my immediate answer was yes. I’ve taken, and retaken tests. Getting the same INFJ. I like that I feel understood and can learn about myself, but I don’t like knowing I’m as different as I feel. I’m an oncology Social Worker turned program director of team that works to house the homeless. I do this very well, from my quiet, organized home office. And of course I have plans in my head about how to keep doing more. Ugh. Thank you for your insight.
Not sure how you do it. Strong. TYWC - Marty
The way you composed this test was completely accurate, I heard a subtle voice answering no to your first question, about being okay with normal, and I said what I said because I have done so much on myself, that I don't want to be someone else because I wouldn't have it any other way now, back then my answer would be yes.
Wanting to be an INFJ; is around the concept of wanting to feel special and rare, when in fact it is true that no one will ever be the same as you are. That is why your questions provide so much clarification, thank you.
Being an INFJ; is not something that I see as a a curse anymore, but hating myself, pushing myself and my own well being to the ground for all of my teenage years is enough for me to tell people that being INFJ, is something that might possibly be bestowed on you, and extremely hard. I have no idea how we were chosen for these types, but the sacrifice, the grit, the pressure and anguish that we place in ourselves is truly disastrous, and yet here we stand against it all...with it all. I only want people to be who they are, not someone else they desire to be. I looked for years to be anything BUT the INFJ...but now I feel calm within myself. Fighting constantly...but myself, I don't have to reason or fight with myself about who I am internally as much.
HI Double... Perfectly said and this comment, with others, is exactly the point. PERFECT! I do not understand why any INFJ would disagree with my video and if so why they would not say what you have. How does an INFJ just say " I disagree with this video. "
...say nothing more?
Spot on. TYWC - Marty
Thank you, I am hopeful.
The fact that i tuned in and said no and started tearing up. It confirmed it. It has been utterly lonely.
Yep. I get it. TYWC - Marty
so waht are other types? wahts diff between INFJ to INFJ-k -t -a eta? i assume theyres types form AAAA to ZZZZ? so theres AABF type? or it some archaic crap?
I do not play that game with the 'A' and the 'T' but I do not fault others for following it. There is some reality to it all. You just have to find what works for you. TYWC - Marty
what does it mean if you’re a bit indifferent? i took the 16personalities test and came back i was an infj. i don’t know a lot about it, i just started my research so i’m entirely against being one i suppose? does this mean i’m not one?
Indifferent is good. Very good. TYWC - Marty
Omg! That was amazing. You got a subscription. You see this in forums constantly. I would also say, when an INFJ first hears their MBTI, it speaks to them at such a deep level, to finally feel like they were understood, that is an amazing moment, and I think why so many INFJ''s get into MBTI compared to other types. When you hear other types question which type they are, you wonder why because for us hearing our type, it was a wonder to be understood.
Hi Cymbol... I believe this: The INFJ is the only type that is unique in that the message within this video cannot be applied to any other type. I believe this 100% and I do not know anything about MBTI. TYWC - Marty
I actually cried when I read my INFJ type, for the first in my life I felt understood..
take care everyone. and remember even if the test don't work for you. your still a gem in my book. keep your head high and believe in yourself. you don't need to be labeled as one thing or another to be special. you are already one of a kind.
;) - Marty
What is the difference in INFJ and ENFJ? I have a friend said we are extremely similar like almost 100%, as an INFJ, I don’t think we are, some part maybe but not all. Any thoughts?
It is the I vs the E and that is what?
www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/extraversion-or-introversion.htm
That is the answer at its core. TYWC - Marty
The only way to be with being an INFJ is knowing that you can't escape and learn to live with it not against it.
Since learning that I'm an INFJ, I understand why I suffer as I do and that has brought me a lot of peace and in some ways lowered my standards regarding others. Not myself though!
Yes. I agree. TYWC - Marty
So goes the sadness of the INFJ. TYWC - Marty
Keeping it simple, yes. I like it. Other videos I watched just kept bombarding you with information. Looking forward to watching other videos you have.
Thank you. Honest and Transparent. TYWC - Marty
you are saying that having a victim mentality is inherent to being an INFJ. I'm sorry for your pain and that of everyone who can relate to this. I'm also sorry for my own which is exactly why I don't allow myself to indulge such destructive self pity (or instinctively feel it). I don't see how someone with dominant Ni could even truly entertain this question. It's completely meaningless and goes against the way Ni makes connections of meaning in it's assessment of reality. I'm don't intend this as an attack, I am honestly struggling to see how this is relevant to the Ni world view, regardless of my personal opinion regarding how psychologically unhealthy this is. I think this is disrespectful to INFJs, quite frankly. I'm surprised to see one applying such a subjective sense of meaning to other people, that's not what we do. it's destructive and inaccurate. I'm really trying to give you a chance and I do sympathize with your sense of pain. it kind of seems like you're using the negative INFJ stereotypes to validate your unhealthy defense mechanisms. idk, I rarely form decisive judgements of people without a more complete understanding of them so I won't do that here. I have to be honest though, because I'm concerned about how unhealthy this appears.
Mithra. I am going to help you. Now I can only do so much. What I want you to do is take a look at all my videos and look at the pictures and the titles. Now I want you to just read some of the comments on other videos. I respond to every comment. I actually read every word and comment. Do you see that? Do you see that I listen to each and every person that comes to my channel. Can you imagine what a depth of understanding I have on so many people. Take a look at the number of comments and know that on each video... half are mine. Now for my response...
I SO appreciate your comment and understand why you would say what you did but...
" It is YOU that you should be concerned about as it relates to healthy vs unhealthy. " - M
...And here is why:
Read that paragraph again and know that you are not talking to some hack or someone who does not get mental health and healing. You did not hate on me. You used IQ and a professional approach with your comment which tells me that you thought it through. Please do not be sad for me, for I am sad for you.
So here is my final thought: If you disagree with me, that is ok, but I do not want you watching me and I would appreciate it if you would not come back. okay. But before you go please read the comments of other viewers and know that my goal for the channel was to have a comment section that was better then anything on RUclips and that starts with me, followed by the viewers. The comment section is where the gold is. I hope you see how see how much it shines; my videos cannot even be seen. I wish you the very best in health and happiness. TYWC - Marty
Mithra, thank you for your comment. I get concerned when people start to subject a particular subject and put a lot of emphasis on the negative of INFJ. I am an INFJ but I never go on about all the negative parts of it but see the positive as well. So, someone, to generalize about INFJ I find offensive and is destructive to those that will be sensitive to his hear or listen to this video about INFJ? I believe INFJ that is sensitive to nature and its surroundings can help human nature stay positive about this world of us and not surrender to the negative things in life. After all "LIFE" is a challenge and should be welcome by all.
You do realize that you are not the police of the INFJ community and I am not the voice of it. People are allowed to have an opinion and to state without fear that a person, such as you, re just going to hate on me for it. What about all the comments regarding how nice it is to know that a person is NOT alone and others feel the same. Is that not comforting and good as a person walks the path of life you speak.
I suggest you watch your fucking mouth Angela on my channel and in my comment section. You are close to getting banned. TYWC - Marty
As an INFJ I have rarely never been 100% sure about any fact, but I do know that this video doesn't jive with me. The whole concept of this video goes against everything in my being. A grouping of four letters does not make me who I am, it describes traits that I possess and helps me investigate facets of my personality. I am who I am, and even if I wanted to give up all the experiences that helped shape who I am(half of personality comes from environment) it is not possible to switch into a completely different personality(half of it is genetic.) We are all given a set of circumstances and must do the best we can with what we have. The grass is always greener, but at least as an INFJ I can see how crappy it can be on the other side. I am grateful to be me.
INFJ, but everyone like me should know that setting boundaries is ESSENTIAL for your success
Yes! TYWC - Marty
He is accurate. However, spiritual ascension has allowed me to accept many parts of me I wouldn’t have been able to before including my sexuality. Factors such as this do make a difference in ones answer... but it still rings true that it is quite a challenge for me to live my life as an INFJ. Exhausting most of the time.
Hey TD.
You said: me to accept many parts of me I wouldn’t have been able to before including my sexuality.
Me: What do you mean by this?
TYWC - Marty
This man had the audacity to sit there and tell INFJs how they’re supposed to feel and if you’re not okay with being submissive then, “yOuR nOt aN iNfJ”. MLK jr. was an INFJ, was he submissive? Hell naw. Honestly I wouldn’t even have a problem with not being and INFJ. When I first heard about mbti, I didn’t analyze the personality types and pick which one was most suitable. You pay attention to your everyday thought process and decisions. Have people who are close to you help analyze your decision making process if you can’t do it on your own. Not just pick and go like a fast food restaurant. From a feelers perspective it’s rude to not give people the opportunity to think for themselves if they don’t agree with you.
Hi Quiyna.
You said: "This man had the audacity to sit there and tell INFJs how they’re supposed to feel and if you’re not okay with being submissive then, “yOuR nOt aN iNfJ”."
Me: That is NOT at all what I said or did. OMG. Are you serious with that? Only a true INFJ is going to understand the greatness and the worst of being an INFJ. In the end an INFJ will always choose not to be one. Always! 99% of the time. 99% to me = 'Always'
If you are in the 1% then congratulations to you. If you are, can you please come and help me? because that 1% is ruining my life. I need help with that 1%.
You said: "MLK jr. was an INFJ, was he submissive? ....
I cannot even believe you took Martin Luther King Jr. and reduced him to this example, used this as a point to make against me, within your debate with me: "MLK jr. was an INFJ, was he submissive? ...."
You talk of this: From a feelers perspective it’s rude to not give people the opportunity to think for themselves if they don’t agree with you.
Me: Oh my fucking shit, are you serious with this bullshit!?! You must be, you wrote it.
So with that said, ( Don't watch me anymore but before you go, please read this and learn something ) this is what I have to say about that...
MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. WAS A GREAT MAN. Not because he was black. Not because he was fighting the White or green or purple. He was a GREAT MAN because he believed in himself and wanted all those around him to have the same self esteem. - ' BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND HAVE DREAMS. IF YOU DO...YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH THEM. NO MATTER WHAT COLOR YOU ARE OR WHO YOU ARE OR WHERE YOU COME! '
Go buy this book: "What the mind of a man or woman can conceive and believe he or she can achieve with a positive mental attitude " - Napoleon Hill ( Think and grow Rich! ) If you do you will understand inside the mind of Martin Luther King Jr. He wrote all about this same message. Go read what Martin Luther King Jr. Wrote. Have you even read what he stood for or do you just know that he was an INFJ. For fuck sake! Color did not write this book. GREAT MEN and WOMEN WROTE THESE WORDS AND THEY NEVER CHANGE. NEVER.
Great men and woman continue to echo these words and they will for eternity. Color does not know these words... Great 'BEINGS' inside this universe understand, know and live their lives by these words.
He was not FIGHTING anti slavery or for the black or African American. He was not FIGHTING the white man. He was fighting for EVERYONE to have this:
" TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND HAVE A DREAM. TO DREAM OF GREATNESS. "
HE WAS A GREAT MAN BECAUSE HE WAS A DREAMER. HE WAS A LEADER. A MAN WITH A DREAM WHO IS ALSO A LEADER IS VERY DANGEROUS PERSON TO THOSE IN POWER.!!! He was ASSASSINATED because he was a MAN WITH A DREAM. He was ASSASSINATED because he was LOVED for his MESSAGE and feared by those who know what his message can do for the world.
That is why he was assassinated. That is why! And what a tragedy it was. What a fucking tragedy!
Go read YOUR FUCKING USA HISTORY from 1850 - 1920. Holy fucking shit! Really. Dammit! Why do I feel compelled to write all this and say all this. Oh ya, that is a part of the 1% that makes being an INFJ so hard to live with and THAT was the point of this video. A point you completely missed. I am glad you are a part of the rare INFJ MBTI type. How the fuck do I get out? Can you help me with that, please? I want out and away from people who think like you do. Serious. Can you help me get out!
TYWC - Marty
P.S. Please do not ever insult Martin Luther King Jr. with a 3 letter acronym, spell his fucking name out, and please do not ever reduce his message or character or what he stood for by using this statement: "MLK jr. was an INFJ, was he submissive? ...." to debate a nobody like ME, as it I compare to Martin Luther King Jr.. What the fuck is wrong with you?
I am so sad that I had to write this and slam you this hard. I am so sad! But you deserve it. To bring Martin Luther King Jr. and LOWER HIM TO ME and TO THIS DEBATE / TOPIC. To even associate his name.!?!
What the fuck is wrong with you?
Honestly, I don't think anything you said was necessarily wrong. My husband is INTJ and he pretty much said something similar. But that's because most INFJ think in big ideas and with our feelings/beliefs. We don't (usually) look at things like this video and think about the details, just the overall way it made us feel and relate. We tend to see strait through the heart of things/messages without needing much detail.
My husband who is an INTJ saw this and picked it apart details by detail. He needed more evidence, more data, he needed to look into other INFJ and compare it to what was being said and use that data collection to find the flaws/ consistency.
He heard: "You're wrong I'm right."
I heard: " Being an INFJ isn't easy. You'd trade all your 'rareness' and 'uniqueness' for a moment of peace."
INTJ's first instinct (usually) when they see a tree is to get up close and look at the:bark, the bugs, and the leaves. Ask themselves: what kind of tree bark is this? It looks like it was damaged by a fire, how long ago was it damaged? What kind of bugs are living on this tree and what does that say about its type? The leaves seem to be growing just fine, I wonder if the damage wasn't as bad as I originally thought. Then they will step back and see the entire tree.
INFJ's first instinct (usually) is to step back and look at the entire tree, notice how the leaves are a beautiful shade of green and it makes us happy, look at it's trunk and see how it's slightly black from a forest fire that took place years ago, how that makes us feel kind of sad yet it also makes us feel hopeful because it's healing just fine. We might even relate the tree to the human condition. Then we will step closer and start looking at the bark, the bugs and the leaves, to see even more of the things that make it beautiful, yet also the things that make us feel it's pain.
Not sure that makes sense and maybe it's not an accurate analogy lol
Quiyna, I agree with your comment on this man that assumes to tell us how to feel and does "NOTHING but to say negative comments about INFJ. I may question certain facts about my INFJ but not because I am one but because of the gift I have with being an INFJ. I could read people and sense what their true motivation is. It is with the experience I learned to embrace who I am and will not consider changing any part of who I am.
Angela... Did you read my comment to this viewer. You basically said the same thing so do us both a favor and comment back to me and not the original commenter and say the same thing. That is not productive and will end getting you banned from my channel's comment section. TYWC - Marty
Question- I don’t like being INFJ per say, but I fear NOT being infj and being lost trying to find myself in the traits I was able to identify with. I took comfort in knowing that there were parts of me that have always felt out of place, lonely, ¿not normal? that are found in others. if I could chose another life for myself that wasn’t this one, I would. but I can’t. so I take the comfort of knowing others feel the same. does that make sense?
Well said. You got the video message. TYWC - Marty
Hey Marty this resonated really well particularly for infj types but may I just question this and hopefully others read it too, do you think other mbti types do not wish they were their types ? If so which and why?
When you said to ask my gut if I truly wanted to be an Infj, I was so overwhelmed with the strength of thinking the word no that I burst into tears. It was like a sudden mix of emotions that overcame me, like sadness, anger, disappointment. I don’t like my complex character and I would wish to understand myself better and naturally, but it is great to know that this is who I am. I literally tried to write a motivational sentence about how great our mind is, even though it hinders us from letting go but I rewrote it too many times haha. So, I just want to tell my fellow Infjs, there’s something special about caring too damn much.
Learning and surrendering to the facts and basics of you when dealing with others. Did that make sense? lol TYWC - Marty
I learned a long time ago that I'm obviously meant to suffer in this world, so now I just go with it and see where it takes me. It's made me the strong person that I am today, it's also made me a kind person and someone capable of so much love and I would never want to be anyone else
What a profound thought. You get a rose🌹
I can't say I'm happy to be an Infj, but I feel like I've come to terms with the idea. Obviously I can't accurately imagine what it's like to be another types besides who I am, so by makinga decision that fast, yes or no, is jarring . I tend to mute my odd tendencies, like to trail off into rants and unrelated things so people don't feel confused by me at first. I can’t tell if you meant "Would you be happy not to be special and rare like the infj?", if so, the answer is I'd be happy either way. The label doesn't affect my happiness, but knowing it, does give me some self respect that I may need. But if you meant "Would you be happy not beating yourself down into a pulp, sabotaging yourself and your future like an infj" then the answer is yes. I already touched on how I tend to suppress any odd or confusing trailing off, and I will always act very differently depending on who I'm with. Acting like someone you're not easily means that you aren't happy with who you are, like me. I honestly fought for months with myself to know if I was infj or not, I never wanted to commit to being sure of it because it was too real, and too big. But honestly, even if you weren't right, you still couldn't change my mind because my mind beat the hell out of me until I finally accepted that I'm infj. I'm not gonna let a random old guy (no offense) tell me otherwise. And that's the cheap reality and future I have ahead of me
But I may be more open minded than you, because I believe MBTI or any other personality typing is not an exact science, and no one fits perfectly into a box. So it may be that infjs don't have to beat themselves up or hate being an infj, but I say this knowing only one infj, me. Criticism is another thing, we are described as sensitive to criticism. Will that may be the case, since I make art I am subject to quite a bit of it, and I've learned to take it easier because it's not focused on me, it's on my art. If one criticizes my values and morals then I can't handle it unless I try to be mindful and improve myself
Still not 100% sure I'm an infj, so tell me what impression I gave you. What type do you think i am? so I can explore more possibilities without someone strictly telling who I am, I will need to decide for myself
was looking for a comment like this!!! exactly
After finding your channel earlier today, I’ve binge watched your content and couldn’t help but respect your depth to all of this. I’m an infj-a male at 21 and discovered it about two years ago. Life has been of course, hard but it’s truly a relief knowing others exist and my thought process isn’t freaky
;) - TYWC - Marty
This was such a relief to me. You have no idea. I was mandated to take an MBTI and do a retreat at work just a few years ago. I dreaded it. I hated it. I had no idea what MBTI was but a personality test sounded completely invasive and intrusive, and it was all a very LOUD extrovert’s idea. At any rate, afterward I finally could partly explain to my now husband why I have felt so exhausted for so much of my life. Why more than once I had been called “spooky, it’s just weird how would you know these things” which was so hurtful when you are just trying so hard to help someone. Why sometimes a person walks past me, and I feel my skin crawl because I know they are a bad person. Or why sometimes I see a person for 20 seconds and I cry because I know they are sad, or they are so humble, or they are so extraordinary. But, he still will never understand. I just want to be happy. I want to have a 1 minute small talk conversation with a stranger in the grocery store and walk away and never think about it. I want to go to a dinner party and visit friends and not have every single person tell me everything about their life that I’ve already figured out anyway and want advice that they won’t follow. I don’t want to know what that 9 year old little girl’s life is gonna be like when she’s 15 because of that one little behavior I just observed. It. Is. Exhausting. And it is a burden. And I just want a day every once in awhile to be easier. I found your channel today. And I am glad.
Here...catch... ( The marker is yours ) - Marty
I had the worst drama and trauma ever and made this personality test like for years, but it always said INFJ. I personally think with the growth I currently have, that I feel like having superpowers. I still suffer, but I learned this "Your pain will teach you until you overcome it". This helped me to love myself everyday again even if I feel alone and therefore I try to say "I am proud to be an INFJ". Yes it sucks, but to know that you are special makes you a cameleon in this world. I sometimes feel like a spy that was send to this earth to understand and change it for good.
I have a question for you Marty. Getting a little technical with the question. I don't want to be an "INFJ". I don't want to be "special". I have a lot of pain from being the way I am (INFJ or not), but at the same time I don't want to be dumb and not think things through and have no feelings or not care about people, or not be realistic like it seems a lot of other personality types are like. When you say, "be happy not to be an INFJ", do you mean by default i'm one of the other types? Cuz i've studied those too and can't relate to almost anything. I have no desire to be like that either. Not being an INFJ doesn't change who I am. Is the real question, would i be happy not to be who I am, and instead be normal? If so i would have reasons to answer yes and no. Or is it specifically, would I be happy not to be an "INFJ"? If I'm not an INFJ, do i still remain who I am? I'm fine with not being an INFJ. But if I'm not, I must be a YOSHI (my name), cus the other types sure as hell don't match me. Based on this answer, would you say I'm not an INFJ?
Let me say this: YOu talk more like an INFJ then you do not but do this: Pick another type that matches the closest to you and try it on for size. See how it fits. From there you can define you and then set boundaries and learn about ' True Empathy ' so that you can take care of you. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn
Of course i've given it quite a bit of thought and looked at the other types too. I listened to a youtuber named Michael Pierce who i think does a professional job at describing the types with care and precision. Most of the other types i have to think hard and pay attention to what he's saying to understand because It's so different from me. The only other type i can understand well is the INTJ, but it lacks the strong emotional foundation that I have... simply put, INFJ is the best match out of the 16.
My thought on the whole, "you can have it" proof that you're an INFJ is actually more based on whether or not you have found a good use, or way to be effective with the gifts that the personality comes with. Gifts like intelligence, being able to read people, being X amount of steps ahead, the ability to self evaluate and self fix, and so on. I think all of these can be quite useful if we learn to use them with wisdom in a way that doesn't make people hate us as a "know it all" like i've been called sooo many times, but rather respected enough that people would listen and improve their lives... I know, I sound like a narcissist. I am. But i also know and admit my weeknesses on a regular basis and genuinely care about people. That's why if i can find a way to be effective in people's lives and make a difference, i think maybe the pain of the past might be worth it. The past was painful, but maybe the future can be different.
Also. I don't let the personality type define me... i am who i am... just after so long of being misunderstood It's nice to have another professional source that describes me quite well so maybe people that take the time to get to know me, actually can.
Also, before I came across the 16 personalities I could never put my finger on why i was different. I didn't realize how different other people's way of thinking was. So It's helped me to properly understand and be able to explain to someone why there is such a big misunderstanding, and even be able to warn people about certain behaviors and explain what they ACTUALLY mean. For example i can say, " by the way, if i stare straight at you or a little to the side and down from your head with little to no expression on my face, i'm not not listing. I'm thinking deeply about everything you're saying and looking at it from a bunch of angles." (and if i stare a bit to the side i'm working up a rebuttal or comment on what they said at the same time as listening that i will possibly never say because i don't want to interupt. Or staring in between the eyes trying to figure out what looks like the most natural wat to look at someone when they're talking😂😂) ok, I could go on about it all, but I'll end it here! Thanks for the reply Marty!
Yoshi～
What you are describing is the 99% that I speak about in the other video but the 1% can be very strong and hard to live with. I think that is where this video goes wrong and your comment is very correcting. Thank you for that and I hope others read it and my comment so they can understand the video better. Very well said Yoshi. - M
Hi Marty. This is the first time I’ve seen your video. I couldn’t have said it better. Your absolutely right. I love that I have compassion, but the depths in which I feel not only for others, but to actually agonize as if it were my own pain….which of course is only a portion of what goes on inside my mind and heart… I’ve often wished I didn’t feel or know certain things. Thanks so much
Me: as an INFJ, I can converse with you casually but if you triggered my inner core I can talk to you as if I knew every speck of dust in this universe.
That is true and does that come around when you get pissed? or just slightly annoyed? TYWC - Marty
The whole time I was hoping that by the end of the video I would be like “oh great I’m not an INFJ”
Sorry. TYWC - Marty
I would say that I have no reason to think Marty's experience is the definitive experience of being an INFJ. I don't have to answer those questions the same way he does. His argument is also self-refuting. He says, "No matter how many video you watch and think, 'That's me!" doesn't matter" and then proceeds with a video doing the exact same thing. Also, there is no such thing as a "100% INFJ". There aren't only 16 types of people in the world. There are over 7 billion types of people in the world. These personalities exist on a continuum. Just because someone is an INFJ doesn't mean they will answer those questions the same way. I'm kind of indifferent to being an INFJ. When I was younger I wanted to be someone different so I could fit in. As an adult, I use the strengths of my personality to my advantage.
Perfectly said. One of the best and most silent 'F You' Marty, I have received yet and it is very well received by me. Not that, that, is what you are saying to me but you said this very well. TYWC - Marty
May I ask you a hypothetical question, sir?
If yes, how would you or any INFJ be different if instead of Ni, you had Ne? 🤔
P. S. I know such type is an ENTP subtype, but I would like to know how much of a difference that single Ne would make to an INFJ or vice versa, Ni to an ENTP. Would they be mostly the same?! 🤔 (without considering the inferior).
On my best day in this lifetime I would not even know how to answer you. I use it with every breath I take. i just know the answer; I just know. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn I see :) interestingly, this is how most Ni users answer such questions. I assume it's difficult even for most Ni doms to fully explain the function in words even though they've got a pretty good grasp on how it works!
In any case, I must say I appreciate your honesty and reluctance to give an inaccurate answer; It's not an easy thing to do!
Do yourself a favor if it means that much to you:
Look at the first 4 stack when calm and happy then look for stress and anger and what are the shadow functions. That will give you your best starting point on a persons MBTI type.
Have you ever read this:
Google this: Can INFJs be aggressive
Below is what comes up. Can you explain why this comes up on that google search?
I wonder if any one else notices this manifestation of the INFJ personality in the real world. They are typically very kind, caring, and loyal to their own (excepting those who abuse their partners) but hard-edged and downright aggressive in most other avenues of their lives.May 31, 2011
- Marty
@@marty_glenn no it doesn't mean much to me what your type is. I was only assuming you'd want to help your viewers who are struggling to type themselves. In fact I don't care about others who haven't gone through the troubles I have undergone. If I didn't know how it feels to misstype oneself I wouldn't post that comment.
I apologize if it offended you or anyone else.
Being an INFJ has its challenges. I firmly believe that if I was not an INFJ then I wouldn’t have gone through the trauma that I went through when I was unhealthy. But to answer your question, I wouldn’t have it any other other way. Being an INFJ gave me insight on how to be truly happy. If your a real INFJ and you’re not happy about it. Then that could only mean that somewhere in your life, someone is making you feel miserable. Protect your peace and make it your highest priority and watch the magic unfold.
I have other thoughts on this comment but I think its value is there. Well said. TYWC - Marty
Man, this man is so clear. LOL now i am an INFJ. it happened what i had feared. INFJ
Have to keep things simple. ;) TYWC - Marty
Please answer, although I am six months late. I have a question.
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I have difficulties with trusting the word of a person who has to say that he is right that often, but I think I understand your point. As an INFJ it can feel like nobody will ever be able to understand you. And you keep putting hope into the people you meet like "maybe they can-" but eventually there is only disappointment waiting for you. And you get caught up between thinking "screw you, then so be it, perhaps I'm just better than all of you" and immense guilt/shame for even attempting to think such a thing, as you are well aware of the fact that such thoughts come from feeling major insecurities and hurt. At least so it was for me. Plus many more things such as trying to help a person and trying to tell them that you understand them but they won't believe you etc. But. I would not be glad/happy/whatsoever if I was to find out that I am not an INFJ. I'd feel a little sad and lost because I lost the label that seemed to describe who I am. Humans like to have categories. I'd be left with wondering how the hell to label my personality otherwise. And I'd be confused about how such a fitting description should suddenly not fit me anymore. However, it wouldn't change a thing. I am who I am. INFJ is just a label. A label I like to have because it helps me to understand myself better. But well, like I said, if I'd find out that I am not a so called INFJ... I'd... still be me. I'd still feel the way I feel. So no, I would not be happy to find out about that. The negative aspects of my life would not disappear by that realization. (And btw, I am not striving to get rid of my flaws, I am striving to accept them, to accept and to love myself and to understand myself enough to not accidentally have others suffer because of behavior I might have.) So my question is... now that I wrote a little about myself here... Do you really think that I can't be an INFJ just because I accept who I am and don't wish to be somebody else?
Only you can decide the label you believe that you are but you wrote a very well said comment and related to the video and I think that is a great place to start. Why not keep doing the same work you are doing and keep on, keeping on. Well said. You are doing great. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn Thank you ^^ To be honest, I overcame that short moment of "ah help, who am I?" as soon as I had written that comment as I figured out that really, it simply doesn't matter xD I am who I am.
While watching this video I failed the test, but as soon as I listened to the part when you mentioned that "trauma and self-inflicted abuse of true infj can never say yes". And after thinking about it twice I think I'm an infj ,because i really relate to the fact that you said(i.e trauma and self-inflicted abuse of the true infj can neve say yes). And now I agree that I don't want to be an infj because I have also gone through self-inflicted abuse in my past and after realising that how messed up it was I really didn't want to be an infj .So does this makes me an infj or not?
Also, I failed the test at the first attempt is because I only watched the positive video about infj and in those videos they mentioned positive things only.
I'm very confused, if I'm an infj or not. Please help me. I'm waiting for your reply sir please help me.🙏🙏
Here is the message behind the video...
There is a part of the INFJ MBTI type this boosting to a persons self esteem and that is the rarity of the INFJ MBTI personality type. The person who does not want to be an INFJ gets how hard it is and would give up the rarity and be another type. I will always answer: No, I do not want to be an INFJ but I love parts of it because it is me and who I am and I love me. But, honestly, would I give it up and do life as another type all over again? Yes, I would.
Watch this video and make sure that you are an introvert or extrovert first. That is the number one thing you must do when trying to figure out what and who you are.
Are you Introverted? Extroverted? | This is a critical step in determining your MBTI.
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TYWC - Marty
Hi, I'm from Philippines and I'm 15 and just recently discovered mbti. I don't know, but I just wanted to share this to get things straight.
I had taken a test on a site about this and it says I'm an INFP. When I had read the description about it, there are some things that I could really really relate too such as daydreaming and not. I watched RUclips videos about INFP since I'd believed that I am. And then, I saw a video about comparing an INFP and an INFJ, for some reason, there are things that I could relate of being an INFJ and even while reading all those comments above, I could understand some of those struggles since for some reason I had been through of it or probably feels likes. Back to the video, that I'd watched. Since, the test says I'm an INFP, I didn't give a single attention about being an INFJ and just stick to being an INFP.
And then one night, while browsing RUclips I saw a video about being mistyped. So I took another test on different sites and I had received INFJ and ISFJ... It somehow frustrates me, because all this time I'm living with all this lies about myself.
Since I wanted a clear answer about myself, I tried to confirmed things first. Um you know...just like what you have mentioned in the video about, things of being an INFJ blah blah blah...signs etc. I have watched some of those videos and yeah, in a scale of 10 there are 8/10 things that I could relate too. At first, I couldn't accept it. Like there is still this side of me that, don't want to be an INFJ because I got really engrossed being an INFP. So I watched another video again, comparing INFP and INFJ... And yeah, maybe there's this possibility that I am an INFJ, so slowly I started to believe it. I tried to check being an ISFJ but...sorry I can't relate that much. I don't pay attention that much on my surroundings and I'm always stuck in my head.
And then I found this video, about being INFJ and since I wanted things to be straight, I watched it. There is still this side of me that I wanted to be an INFJ because I can't understand myself anymore and I don't know where to fit in. And there is this side of myself who don't want to be an INFJ or thinking that maybe I'm not an INFJ..... This video asked If ever I get mad or upset at you...or any negative emotion. Actually I got angry and frustrated not at you but for myself. How I wished, I didn't saw that video about being mistyped and remain believing I'm an INFP. Maybe I could be spared of all of this confusion I'm experiencing right now.....I know it might be stupid, but I would probably okay with that than this.
I love this video by the way, and I almost went nuts about those long introduction. But I agree with this, (even if I'm still not sure I'm an INFJ or not). I could even relate to your talking behavior, like there is this phrase you're saying and then another phrase would come out and then you would continue the phrase you're talking first and then back to the another phrase and so on... Until you get to your point that. Most people wouldn't understand that or would get confused (base on my experience, and I got no choice but to say what I said,*though I know it's obvious from their face they only get half of what I'm talking to)....Anyways I love your video and sorry if I talked to much( I have no one to talked too because I'm afraid I would freak my friends out) that's all... I'm sorry again
Keep doing what you are doing and stay on the path. It is a good path and one day you will know for sure. As for my video, forget the rare part of the INFJ and treat it like any other type. That is the best way to stay mentally healthy while you research MBTI and your best fitted type. TYWC - Marty
I have mentioned on many peoples comments section that I would not even wish the INFJ on even my worst enemy, it would be like sending them after the White rabbit while wearing kaleidoscope glasses - straight to a Sanitorium without chances of medical leave. We have had our whole lives to try and make sense of it, yet we are still learning.
Hey john. Very well said. Very! TYWC - Marty
If your question was rephrase differently such as: if you could be another personality type instead of an INFJ, would you pick that then you are correct… 100% of INFJ’s would say yes. But that doesn’t mean that if someone is convinced, they are an INFJ and they’ve just gotten to the point where they’ve learned to manage their personality type that, if you tell them that they were typed differently that they would be happy, the answer would be depends. Are you accurately typing them?
Quick question Marty. 😎👍 what is more important to you? Accuracy or Harmony?
Great question. Neither!
What those two words mean to me:
Accuracy - I am right. You are the one telling me that I am wrong. On my channel I am accurate. You disagree…correct? Then you should not watch me.
Harmony - I am one person on a RUclips channel and within my own world of accuracy there is harmony. Harmony only becomes disrupted when I receive comments from a person such as yourself that believes that I am inaccurate and play by my own rules that includes many things, but nothing more important than banning those who disagree with me.
The accurate truth within the harmony of my channel is calling out the hate and those that are rude and disrespectful for no other purpose than to be just those descriptions. My question for RUclips has always been the same: “Why comment when you can just click off the channel and watch another content creator who speaks of the accuracy and keeps the harmony fitting of your life and beliefs.”
What would you do if you actually found out that it is YOU who is not INFJ and is another MBTI type all together. Would you or better said, could you even recover? It is a rhetorical question so no need to answer but do what a true INFJ would do. Let us both see what you do and allow that to determine what MBTI you truly are since hard action(s) are what cognitive functions are all about. You cannot fake this so do not over think it as the INFJ cannot be faked…EVER! TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn Very well put and I appreciate you breaking it down and not just ranting or just using vulgar language to get your point across. 😎👍 To be honest I didn't accept myself as an INFJ-A for years. It is a curse and a blessing all in one. The thing I hate being asked by people is, "which is the best personality type?" 🤦♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏾♂️ There is no best, there is no worst. I would like to be another type because then it would be easier to connect with people. I do agree with the one question you have but there is more too it then just that simple question. Some of the most simplistic things in life are actually complex, and then some complex things are simple. The real challenge is being able to explain and have people understand that. Keep up the good work and even if people bash you screw them let your voice be heard. Truth must be said out loud or it will never be heard by the heart.
ok. Sounds good. Well said. - Marty
This relies on the premise that one has accurate knowledge of what it means to be INFJ, in order to not want to be an INFJ
Correct. That would be one part of the foundation of the videos message. INFJ or not; you get it and that is what is important. At least someone is using their fucking brain. Well said. TYWC - Marty
I got everything right except for the part of not wanting to be an infj, I'm truly happy and proud of being and infj, and it is weird to know that that means that I am not one. I will say that I am an A type infj (Assertive) and that might have something to do with it, but I don't know maybe I'm just not one, I don't relate with most people one the comments of infj videos like these, because of this same reason, they claim to be infj but yet seem so deppresed and emotionally unstable, can there truly not be an infj who is emotionally smart and stable? I'm no expert but I do think there must be many factors that lead the infj to feel a certain way about himself, I personally have my purpose in life and I'm decide to follow it through, maybe the rest of infj's haven't found their purpose? I mean I would definetely feel bad about myself if I didn't have the goals and clearness I have. Then again maybe I'm not an infj, although since we are being completely honest, I highly doubt it.
Nope. You are good. Keep on your path of self discovery. The video is about the rare part of the INFJ. I am sure you get it. But over all I think your comment says it all and is right. Keep on and the path is a good one.
If you only are afraid that you won’t be rare if your not an INFJ is wrong and is also shutting all over the other types. See the point? TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn I also got a bit confused. I have been practising meditation for two years, and a core idea of meditation is to accept oneself. So when I heard your question, I genuinely thought, “why would my identity bother me?”
Another important aspect of meditation is bringing mind and body together to be in the present. I’ve heard that Ni minds tend to drift into the future, and I do say I’ve had a lot of problems with daydreaming, but I can generally stay present now. My, I don’t believe I could survive these university years if it hadn’t been for meditation; I could barely get any homework done in middle school and high school.
I think I have INFJ traits, but honestly I don’t know what type I am. I have taken tests, but I can’t bring myself to fully trust their results, because meditation has changed me so much... the tests don’t take that into account.
Anyway, thank you for the video, sir! I felt like your honesty was almost breaking out of the screen, and that made me laugh! It surely is a unique and fun video :D
Perfect. Do not worry about it for what you are doing is spot on. Just keep doing what you are and keep looking at all the types and one day, as it did for me, it will just click and life will take on another level or view. I am INFJ today but tomorrow or 10 years from now? Who knows and who cares, as long as I am happier and my life is better and happier for those around me. TYWC - Marty
i have been trying for decades to really find out what my issue was until i was typed.
i just had my daughter tested and she is gifted so i worry she will have to suffer the same way i do so i feed her all the positive love i can.
i want to know are personality types nature or nurture ?
They are nature and changed by abuse and the inner child which takes over the nature. I hope that makes sense. TYWC - Marty
How do we change these inherent qualities to live life normally. Can we learn behaviour? Does it create an internal conflict?
Creates Internal Conflict. It creates uneasy feelings and lack of balance. Try it. ;) Let me know what happens. TYWC - Marty
At 3:40 I started laughing because I know where this is going and yes, I would be happy NOT to be an INFJ but since I am, I will take it upon myself to be burdened by this gift/curse because that's what we do. Great video!
p.s to be honest I'm still in denial that I'm an INFJ, I just wanna be an INTJ or sumn but the facts said nah.
Hi Darlin. Yep. That is how it goes. TYWC - Marty
Summary: In the first half of the video, he pounds his chest about how he doesn’t care about whatever you know about MBTI because his “test” is the absolute truth. If you don’t completely agree with him, or send hate comments, you are not INFJ. The sole qualifier to being an INFJ: not wanting to be INFJ. That’s it. End of story. No need to look into it any further. Agree? You’re INFJ. Disagree? You’re not INFJ.
What if I neither agree nor disagree...🤔
You know...
Hmmmm. Please do me a favor if you will; only take 2 - 3 minutes of your time. Go to the comments of this video and read a few. Read a few of my comments. Then read this comment from you again. Then...
Ask yourself if you deserve the following response from me?
Fuck You. You just wasted 10 - 15 of your life that you cannot ever get back so I urge you to not waste another second even replying to this comment and never watch me again. TYWC - Marty
If the way you were perceived by a particular viewer perturbs you, you may need to self assess as to why that perspective caused you discomfort. I do not post comments solely for my own benefit. If you did not benefit from my critical feedback, that is not my concern. I can’t do that for you.
I’d also add that we are not defined by our personality type. It is the beginning to self awareness, not the end. If you don’t “want to be” a type, there is absolutely nothing stopping you from developing new strengths from the other types. The MBTI gives you a starting point to begin to understand your natural inclinations that can (and should) be further built upon. It is not some type of avatar that you are permanently designated. We are not Pokémon.
You know as smart and level headed as you are, this is as far, I read it all, I needed to go. So let me teach you something that you are not aware of:
You said: "If you did not benefit from my critical feedback, that is not my concern. I can’t do that for you."
(This is a clear sign of an extroverted type and showcases extroverted control; also very unhealthy for an introverted type as well)
Now, please go read your comment again. The #1 question is this:
Did I ask you for 'critical' feedback? No I did not. Did you reference MBTI in a clinical way or with IQ? No, you did not. What did you do?
You just slammed me with hate. Nothing more and nothing less. Have you watched any other videos? Probably not.
Do this for me if you can, I think you will like the challenge, and nobody has been able to do it yet...
Can you please send me to a content creator on RUclips that does what I do on any level with regards to the following:
1. Honesty and Transparency
2. Openness about self
3. Experience and wisdom across so much of life
4. Knowledge and breakdown of MBTI ( Jung )
5. Depth of Intuition to show and bring said wisdom
6. Illustrate the Intuition and tie it with (Ti, Te, Fi, Fe, Se)
7. ...I can keep going if you like...
- Marty
p.s. checkmate; have a great day.
When you put out content that permits comments, you have accepted the inevitability of critical feedback. If you play baseball near windows, you have accepted by default the possibility of broken windows whether or not you desired the outcome.
Clearly, you have caused yourself to become negatively impacted by my comment. That was your choice. You could have, instead, taken it as an opportunity to learn how you are perceived by others (surely I was not the only to have this reaction to your video). Or, you could have simply ignored it. It was but one comment of 1,400. Hardly significant in the grand scheme of things.
My perception and reaction to your video is not anymore right than it is wrong. It simply is. It is to your advantage to learn from each interaction with another viewpoint you encounter. If you chose to become enraged, that is solely your decision. The reason this does not concern me is because it is your life, your emotions, your decisions. Not my own. I can’t control those things, so I do not concern myself with how they are or are not controlled.
For me, I do not select any singular MBTI type as an identity. I use it, rather, to understand my natural inclinations and which strengths I can further develop, or which weaknesses I can turn into strengths.
It is irrelevant to me if you think I am introverted or extroverted, or which type you think does or does not apply to me. You created what I consider to be a false choice in this video: if INFJ predominately pertains to an individual, s/he must chose between “I like that this type pertains to me” or “I do not like that it pertains.” I reject the premise entirely. The type that is most pertinent to my understanding of self is neither desired nor undesired. It simply is. I accept it and move on.
Do you I hate you in this video and this video in itself because I somehow recognise myself in those words and intentions? Because it's something some part of me would want to be affirming with the same mad conviction while the other part of myself is loathing me for wanting to do it/doing it? Do I hate you because you get to do what this big part of me wants to do but doesn't get to?
Probably. All the above and than some. TYWC - Marty
Marty, I've watched several of your videos. Your presentation method is interesting, at the least and provocative at most. I have spent most of my life asking myself: "Why don't I fit in?"; Why do I do the things I do?'; "Why am I so different?". At the same time people like me very much, I am very successful in my sales career, people tell me I'm special and unique. Only after I found out that I'm an INFJ did I fully understand why these things were true. Being an INFJ is a special privilege and the sooner in life one can find this out the more fulfilling one's life is. We are special. As you pointed out in another video, we are "outer worldly" and that is unique and special. If you are an INFJ, don't fight it, embrace it. Join in but don't join, be a part of it, but don't lose who you are. Most of the world are Sensors (S), be glad you're not. Know that you are special and use that for the good of the world. BTW, I say "I don't know" a lot because I'm sure the person I say that to wouldn't understand my explanation.
Thanks
I appreciate this comment and so will many others. Thanks. I am on it. TYWC - Marty
So, if you took away the INFJ “label”, I still have the same traits. My life, my suffering, my misery, my aloneness doesn’t change.
Yep. You got the video's message. TYWC - Marty
Honestly, I’m just glad I’m not alone. Other people make me feel like I’m crazy or weird. Yet I feel like I have this higher level of ...commonsense? I think the only positive things that come from being a INFJ is being able to read someone almost instantly and thanks to the constant over thinking , typically making the right decisions. The rest is nothing but anxiety, over thinking everything, loneliness, feeling doomed (might just be me lol), and etc.
I agree 100% TYWC - Marty
Commonsense lol agreed
The first video i watched of yours, being the one before this one, i thought you were an INFJ because of the way your passion is held back by wisdom in explaining details, the way you side track to hit another angle, and are straight forward and technical. And because the way your eyes look when you explain, like you are feeling it from experience and much thought, and pulling out all the information from a However old you are reservoir.
That is a very good comment and one I have not read before. Thank you. I do not care my type as long as I am getting it right but I like what you said. Unique and different. Spot on; Thank you for the comment. TYWC - Marty
This is so accurate. I’ve never seen any of your videos before but I subscribed. i don’t know how many times I have said that I would choose any of the other types before mine.
Thank you and glad you found it helpful. Appreciate the kind words. TYWC - Marty
Carrie, just found this video today. To Mary i would say: Spot on sir. Nailed it. I grew up thinking i had autism and somehow grew out of the worst of it. "Ignorance is Bliss." I would rather be anyone else. Then I could finally get some sleep and stop wondering why i bring my own destruction to the table, with my experience, whenever i walk into a conversation.
i liked when he laughed at himself at the beginning of the video. it reminds me when i do with myself. its good to see his authenticity.
Thank you. TYWC - Marty
I would have to disagree regarding a "true" infj would never want to hope/or want to be an "INFJ" The reason, is that knowing that you are an INFJ would be a RELIEF because it validates who you were, why you are and how you will be in the future. In other words, INFJ people would find solace in understanding there is a reason for why the are the way they are and that it's not simply an issue of being broke/child hood trauma or anything. Being and INFJ myself I can without a doubt prefer to KNOW I am an INFJ so that I wouldn't be depressed that there are other things going wrong that i don't understand why i act or behave the way I do. Think of it this way, We all created unique. so why do we try so hard to fit in? A TRUET INFJ would never try fitting in or be concerned about fitting in although it is good to understand WHY it is that we don't feel we fit in.
You got the video message. Well said. TYWC - Marty
im 15, i have spend my whole quarantine searching about MBTI . every test i took ill get INFJ. im not saying im happy with it but im okay with it. how can i get my accurate personality? my goal is just to understand myself more.
Watch me. Do not watch me.
READ THE COMMENTS. YOU WILL FIND YOUR ANSWER NUR ALYA. I PROMISE!
TYWC - Marty
This video confuses me, because I really identify with all of the traits i’ve learned about INFJ, and finding out that i’m this type has helped greatly with my self-worth and understanding. If i found out i wasn’t an infj, i would feel quite lost and upset, because then that would mean that i’m actually just crazy and i feel like i would be losing my identity. What other type could i possibly be?
Hold on for a second... I am not the end all and or be all and MBTI and the path toward understanding self is all about you and the reflection in the mirror. Nobody can tell you who you are or are not. My videos and my message are only a part of that journey and you should ONLY think about what I am saying and use it for you and only you and never to tell you what you are or what you are not. Does this help and make sense? Also, please watch other videos I have done and read the comments for videos as that is where 90% of the important content is and not within the videos. TYWC - Marty
I have a question: are you an INFJ-T? Have you ever transcended to an INFJ-A?
Since I do not believe in the T or the A I cannot answer but to answer you if I have to: No and then yes at times 80(T)/20(A) rule applies. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn why do you not believe in the T and A?
Why don't you just go straight to the point,,,, so many words before the real given that 100% proof.
Hey Brian. Do me a favor...
...don't fucking watch me. K. Thanks. TYWC - Marty
I left this comment for you on another comment but I want other readers to see this response from me:
"This is perfect and demands so much respect from me. To your point(s) and honest approach and what you are doing is showing a strong sense of self. Great boundary setting. You take care and I appreciate you and your position. - Marty"
I hear you and take care. Respect. ;) - Marty
;) I deleted the words to this comment. See this video for reason ;))
Life story and how not to criticize | Do you even understand the true meaning of doing the act?
ruclips.net/video/3NW66vRXfhk/видео.html
- Marty
What makes you think I said that for and to you? Think a little broader...
Maybe I said that for me and some of my memories of the not too distant past of my life. Video coming that will explain this comment and the ignorance of your age hate. But I respect the comment. Say as you wish but be straight up; something tells me you will not disappoint me. - Marty
Next video is for you my friend. Enjoy! What you do with your user name is your choice but you do not do my second request and you are done on my channel and in my comment section. Oh and for this last comment you made: Fuck You! - Marty
I just recently started learning about the 16 personality types, and its truly put my mind at ease. My entire life has been a series of struggles between loneliness, yet wanting to be alone, amongst all the other issues an INFJ has to face. I understand now that I’m not defective, it’s just my personality. I couldn’t care less about the “rare percentage.” It’s just a relief to finally understand who I am. Thank you and great point!
Great. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty
And if the goal is not to label myself but instead just being curious about what makes sense and what doesn't?
Yes. Simple way to say it...yes. TYWC - Marty
I feel like it’s a constant battle between my head and my heart it’s excruciating.. The internal struggle is real.. I don’t enjoy it, it’s not easy to live with, I have considered what I would be like to be someone else and how much easier it would be but in the same breath I wouldn’t want to be anyone else but me..
And there you have it.... - Marty
I haven't at all studied mbti type, I took the test once. It resonated at that moment. I've tried to deny or escape it. I don't care if people tell others or myself declared Infj, I've seen some of my contacts here be sliced publicly for not being an infj to their standards. It's sickening really whether we need to believe we are or not. It's only comforting for the moment.
Hi T. Yep. I get it and for me the basics: " If you want something and it is for a reason, then maybe you are not going to be clear about it and honest. "
Just my two pennies. TYWC - Marty
Ok if i WANT to be an INFJ, meaning im NOT an INFJ, then what personality do i have?
Well first. That is not how it works. The video is a play on the 'rare' part. So let me help you. It is okay to want to be an INFJ but does it support your self esteem. Would you be upset if you were not.
I am INFJ but sometimes INFP or INTJ. I have a video coming up that I think will really help. Do you want to be INFJ because it is rare and that is what supports your love of yourself?
No TRUE INFJ will say yes to that question. It is something that will not ever happen. That is the truth. Read the comments on this video and you will see the truth of the INFJ. TYWC - Marty
Makes sense... im just happy to be me, iev helped alot of people. And when people talk about INFJ, i relate to basically anything, but i dont find myself struggling... (idk how tf to even word this) [Im still a kid damit, im still learning]
Is it weird I had to literally play this clip a second time, cause I got conflicted? Maybe because I am fairly new to all of this and I don't exactly have that much confidence in myself to even do this.
Nope. There is a subtle way about it and the video has confused many of persons. TYWC - Marty
Its truly hard, to say I dont wanna be who I am, when I, am all I've known . When I looked back over my life, and saw the infj behavior even at the elementary school level, high school, young adult, and up to now, I like the serenity, the dislike of conflict, the need for conversation of substance, etc. Being who we are, as infjs, the blessings, FAR outweighs the curse. 😊😊😊
Hi Still... I get it and I have an idea about this very topic. Wait for the video... TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn Cant wait. I've been binge watching.😊😊😊
Insert Jesus Juice here, honestly it's about the path U were meant to walk. Jonah tried to run and he was swallowed by a whale and then spit onto the land of where he was required to be. No running away from what U called to do. Period end of story
Well... you know me and the juice. I never look for it but I’ll never not take it when handed to me. I’m too respectful for that. You know I appreciate the words; always. Thank you. - Marty
I know you mean well blue sky...infj4u...Infjs go after the big problems like getting the folks on Jesus Juice to sober up! Historian was a real job at the suggested time of the life of Jesus. None of them wrote down a single word about him! To your Tribe just remember...The truth isn't looking for you! Faith is what's holding your world together. Personal critical research will get you off the juice. No one can do it for you...Or anyone that thinks like you do...No, this is not the devil speaking. It's the voice of reason and logic! I completely understand why none of this matters to a person of faith. So do the baby makers of today! They will be credited with bringing an end to belief without evidence...Faith has been replaced by understanding. You can bet your afterlife on it!
Being an INFJ without hesitation I said no. Being an INFJ is hard to accept all of the time. It hurts, especially when that hurt belongs to someone else. There is not a day that goes by that I do not wish I was not like this. I can pick up on the different vibes in a room, who is and who isn't lying, who is genuine and who is not, who is hurting inside and wanting to help them all. Being an INFJ is stressful at times and is not a fun road to walk down. I am introverted so I do not have many friends if any. I feel like I am alone all of the time, that no one cares, and I feel invisible 100% of the time. So yes, I would love to have a "day off". Again, it is not whether or not if you can say yes or no to wanting to be an INFJ, it is whether or not if you can actually keep yourself from feeling and doing the things an INFJ is capable of doing. Growing up I learned that actions speak louder than words and in saying that there is your 100% fool proof test.
Marty, you are misguiding people all over the world. There is not one piece of fact behind any of your claims. Where are the facts that an INFJ would have? Fact, the more likes and subscribers you get the more money you make. Under no circumstance would an INFJ be misleading, nor would they be spreading untruthful things that would in the slightest way hurt someone. It is also not all about us and we would definitely not do it for money. Please stop claiming to be an INFJ because you are giving US a bad name and it is US who have to go behind you and clean up your mess. Okay that was five minutes, enough time wasted responding to your crap. if it is attention, you seek try getting out of the house more.
This is not the first video I disagree with, and I feel that it will not be the last. It is easy to read about what an INFJ is but to live it is another thing. I am sure that you are aware that one of the INFJs traits is to be able to know BS when they hear it and sometimes even before it is said. You also know that we are not the type of people to sugar coat things. I am usually not this rude to people but the message you are sending is wrong. You know nothing about what makes people the way they are. Everyone is different and you along with other people are trying to put "us" in a box that we do not fit in. Knowledge is and will always be knowledge, fact is fact, truth is truth and crap will always be CRAP. I call you out on your "facts" and ask that you show proof for your findings. Until then they are better left in your head. It is not by man or woman that I exist. It is of a higher power that I am here, and he is neither man nor woman he is a spiritual being. Thou shall have NO other Gods before me, the first commandment, love you neighbors as you do me. So, it is by Gods good graces that I am who I am and, in the position, to stand up against people like you. I in no way hate or dislike you as a person, just the message you are sending to others. Your videos have a much higher impact than you think they do. I think you should choose your wording better. It is people like you and the message you are sending that I along with others have to put a stop to. You are destroying this world!
Marty, I didn't know which one of your videos I should post this on but this was the most impactful one to me, I could use your help with a problem I've been struggling with.
First off, I love what you do here: I think providing a community for these misfit, misunderstood, and struggling minorities is a broad empathatic goal that I share with you. That is why I think you're the perfect person to help me with this problem I'm facing.
A term: "well". This refers to the pursuit at which infjs (as you said in a separate video) empathize and solve a problem. In my case, I have a well in individuals and a broader well for a community. I've got grand ambition to really help refugees by finding them a suitable groundwater source that is cheap and efficient enough to build a literal well. That is my life goal, however, at time I've been faced with the decision to sever relationships I would've otherwise provided for.
At what point do you sacrifice a microscopic well to help a macroscopic one??
You focus on how we often get hurt by being misunderstood or in some cases above another. It's a pain we and many others (outside of infjs) must bear. The pain breaks me but I mend from each fault with the solutions I provide; I can't decide in which pain I must mend: the one for the people I know are physically suffering or for the one who lies right in front of me?
Sorry for the long message, but your intro was long, lol, so now we're even.
lol - With the intro gone... If you are not doing what you love and what burns inside you and surrounded by those who appreciate you and allow you to be you and without shame then you are sadly not living and are sadly living for those who take the life from you. I hope that gives you a clear view from my view. TYWC - Marty
I would've agreed 100% with this, my emotional life has been hell since I have memory, but during these last years I've been getting close to true tranquility. Life is not perfect, I have several issues like anxiety and transient depressions every now and then and I become extremely sensitive, paranoid or overreactive some times. But I would definitely not change myself for anything. I am proud of myself. I don't particularly like being an INFJ because it made me feel so bad until these last years, but I don't dislike it either, because now that I'm beginning to know myself and learning to actually evolve as a person, I've actually been starting to make peace with my life.
But yes. These issues that we have, I have them, and I wish I didn't have them. But I just can't wish to not be me.
Maybe this video declares the difference between A's and T's?
Well said. How could anybody argue or debate. Great comment. TYWC - Marty
i only like to be infj because i finally feel like im in a place where i can finally understand myself and all of my thoughts. no one ever understands what i explain so many times 😭
All true. Even though negative sometimes comes out in depth; there is happy. ;) TYWC - Marty
Hey, I heard you mistyped yourself, is this video still true? Because I want to type myself and have a hard time doing this because I often can't decide, even when looking at the cognitive functions, and had problems taking the tests. When asking myself the question of this video, if I would want to be an Infj or not, my answer would probably be: I don't care what type I am. Therfore I guess I am not an Infj as I read in the comments of how a misery it is to be one. Right?
Hey... So here is the deal. I did not mistype myself. I did that video to say, 'Fuck You!*'...
...to all the haters and to all those who watch me that either are intimidated by me, get insecure by watching me or have no idea what cognitive functions are and are actually not INFJ and are mistyped themselves.
You said this:
"I want to type myself and have a hard time doing this because I often can't decide, even when looking at the cognitive functions, and had problems taking the tests."
My response:
Being an INFJ is no different than any other type as we are all unique with our own self. With that said, there are some very unique things that the INFJ holds but there are other types that also hold these unique qualities as well. It is the Ni dominant with the Judging that is the kicker. Those two things cause a lot of issues when considering the lack of Sensing and Thinking because the INFJ has the Ni and then Fe and very little Fi because it is actually a shadow or a cognitive function that is not being used. With that said, Feeling always trumps Sensing and most importantly thinking and those two functions cannot exist with Intuition; hence the difficulty of the INFJ as it is Ni dominant combined with a strict Judging rational thought process (With no thinking). See it now?
If you want to type yourself, watch my videos on Introverted vs extroverted. You must decide which one you fit and that is the starting point. From there you go to the Perceiving and Judging. Once you have those two done and you are 100% sure everything else is pretty easy.
I know all the videos I have done will allow a person to type themselves from a cognitive function foundation and not a behavioral foundation. They are not the same and most people are type behavioral and that is not correct and has caused a one big fucking problem with MBTI and typing; testing for MBTI type. I hope this helps and I think you are on the right path and doing great. Figure out who you are and be honest about and you will be happy with self and that is what I am about and this channel. I applaud you for wanting to get it right. Well done.
TYWC - Marty (INFJ)
* Fuck You Haters. Fuck all of You! I mean it. Go fuck yourselves!
@@marty_glenn Thanks :)
I’m not an INFJ but I like MBTI and i know one INFJ in real life. Great video! I recently got into astrology too, I’m trying to see if I can find a link between natal birth charts and mbti. Are you into astrology at all?
Hi Kathryn. I am going to do a video on this and it is a great subject. Look for the the astrology to support the MBTI type if that makes sense and not the other way around. TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn omg Thats exciting! Absolutely I will and I’m looking forward to it! Thank you for your videos! I love your conscientiousness and honesty! Great videos!
I think I can understand the spirit of your statement so in that sense I agree with you. I have always wondered why I'm the way I am, why I never fit in, why I seem to be an alien on earth and why wherever I go ppl seem to realise I'm different and treat me as such. It's been very difficult and I have often wished I was different. HOWEVER, since learning about the INFJ type and watching and reading info about INFJs I've finally come to understand a bit about my personality and when I watch them and hear that other ppl somewhere out there in the world feel and act and are labelled the way I do/am sometimes it gives me comfort. In that sense to find out that I'm not an INFJ would really upset me. Actually no. It wouldn't because nobody can convince me now that I'm not. I'm finally starting to feel less like a complete alien because of the research I've done.
If you're asking whether I think it's a great burden to be me then yes absolutely. I have wished I didn't feel so strongly about things while at the same time being very reserved. I have wished that I was less concerned about how others feel even to my own detriment. I would rather not say the thing that I know would hurt someone's feelings even when they are deliberately saying things to hurt mine. It sucks. It really does sometimes but I'm glad that at least I know.
The good part is that I'm happy when ppl share their concerns with me because they trust me to listen and offer a reasonable opinion. It has its perks. Idk...I often wonder why God made us like this. It's difficult.
Well said. You did a great job and I read and heard you. TYWC - Marty
This is how I feel bud
Nice answer can I qsk Witch faith are you from why you mentioned god
You are right! But now that I know that I am "something" and not alone, it gives me a fresh perspective and I don't feel like a total freak. I understand myself better knowing what my dominant functions are. The INFJ type is rare but the community IS INFJ strong. 🙏
It really is and I hope I have a hand in that. TYWC - Marty
Spot on. Sometimes I get emotional watching videos from other INFJ’s because I have spent so long feeling as if no one understands me, only to find out the only people who could ever fully understand me are those people who are INFJ’s as well. It’s sad in some ways but also feels as if a weight has been lifted. I understand the reason why now and that brings some comfort.
Very good. Small things matter especially when it deals with 'us'. TYWC - Marty
I love this video and totally agree with you. What type would you like to be if you could choose to be any of the others?
That is a great question and here is a question for your answer...
When you are an INFJ you cannot feel the other types, so I wonder how to even answer the question??? TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn Lol, so true! Still, I like to fantasize about being an INTJ, so I could ruthlessly go after whatever I want w/o caring about the effect it has on others, like the INTJ who broke my heart in pieces. Or, I imagine myself as an INTP genius, so involved in important work that I don't ever get my heart broken. Fantasizing and daydreaming are a way of working through things for this me, though maybe not as much as they would be for an INFP. Can any of the other types feel any of the other types? I would imagine INTJ and ENTJ have even less of a clue than we do as to what others are feeling.
Seminal song for any INFJ/INTJ:
"Eye In The Sky" by Alan Parsons Project
:) - M
I’ve never heard this song before so went straight to my Spotify to listen. Thank you 🙏
Who WOULD want this? To quote Beast in Black: "Emotional self-slaughter" (from the song Sweet, True Lies). What I would say is, being typed has helped me begin to make sense of myself, to myself. Thank you for your videos.
Hi Catherine. I guess a lot of people, hence the video and the topic. Right? TYWC - Marty
Already knew where you were going 😂
Ohhhhh! Sent that INFJ meme to you on IG that I mentioned in other video comment
Hi Red... Let me look... TYWC - Marty
I recently discovered that I type as an infj and have since spent hours researching it and resonating with it. I dont care about the rarity aspect, but yes I like the lable. It is the ONLY thing I've had in 30yrs of life that has explained why I am the way I am and has looked on me with compassion and understanding. It has told me I am good for being altruistic and not manipulative, something I've known all along but questioned because others told me I was. It has told me that my intuition which is almost always correct is a phenomenon shared by others and that I'm not a freak. It explains why I feel like a weirdo and a creep because I obsess over the people I care about and agonize over their hardships that I cant fix. It also explains why I am taking such a huge offense to being told I cant find the answer myself but have to rely on this video as the end all be all. I used to want to be someone else every day of my life, but now that I have this label I finally feel like my intense purpose driven mind and heart is justified for existing. I dont wish I could be someone else anymore, I wish I could bring this knowledge to the 8yr old me who needed it the most, so he could have hope and self compassion. Damn this pisses me off. Who are you to tell me that even though I have every other attribute of an infj I cant be part of your special club, just because I no longer loath myself? Why would you take that from someone? A sense of belonging and connection is what I have gotten from the infj online community. If I'm not one then I'm just back on the streets of uncertainty. No other type fits. Yes, I need this label. I need to be understood.