Another great video with great questions. Kari, you just have a way of soothing . I think you were called to a perfect profession. You care and it is so obvious to your viewers. I love being a subscriber. Thank you!
So far, this is the best 3 question video in my opinion. This guy really showed his interest in the trade and came up with some interesting questions. My cousin who runs the family funeral home had 8 traditional funerals last week and only 2 cremations. He and I really think the pendulum is starting to swing the other way.
@@kymduncan5292 Usually if they have the traditional funeral, with viewings the day before the funeral, and a open casket , they can embalm . It depends on the time factor, and if there is a open visiting time..
Kari, you are the cutest! 🥰 hehe, I love all the words you make up too! I totally do the same thing! Hehe, you’re a wonderful teacher with a beautiful soul and although I would never imagine myself marathon watching videos about the dead…..here I am!🤣🤣🤣🤷🏼♀️👏🏽
I admire you for not thinking about what a person did in their life. But treat everyone the same with dignity because we don't know where they will spend eternity. This is your calling for sure.
Lawrence, I love the family pictures behind you! I love ancestry so it’s beautiful to me! Very good thoughtful questions! Kari, amazing as always! I love to hear your experiences of such a vital needed service. My sister died from Covid April 9th. Watching your videos helped me so much! I had started watching the year before when her husband died. I wanted to know more since my husband is older than me and my father is 90. I wanted to be able to make wise choices. You helped me indirectly with my sister. My other sister kept asking, “how do you know all that!?” 😳 What a precious gift caring for the dead is. Not being able to be there with my sister at the hospital was just heartbreaking! Because of your videos I called the crematorium and asked if my other sister and I could be there with her and they were so gracious. My sister was shocked when I told her I wanted to be with our sister as she took her last journey but ended up being so glad we were there. It was truly precious. We told stories and laughed, of course cried. But it gave us a sense of closure. It’s because of you that I even thought of doing that and was comfortable to be with her. I am so grateful for that gift Kari. Thank you!!
Another great video .. Kari seem perfect for this line of work ! I have a question .. Have you ever walked into a meeting with a family and the family knew who you were from your you tube channel ? If so, was it a good it bad thing ? If I lived in your area and lost someone I would try and find you to care for my loved one . I think you are awesome . Thank you for creating content that helps all of us . I love your stories of folks you have worked on and how you handled them - hopefully you will do more videos on that.
If you die in prison, and nobody claims your body, the state will dispose of your remains in the most cost effective way. Usually a plywood casket, and buried in the prison cemetery.
II'm glad you mentioned that about direct cremation. I am fully supportive of looking for more green choices, having wakes at home, and not embalming. I chose a very traditional choice for my mother, and was happy with it. I gave her the funeral she wanted. However, at the risk of sounding cynical, not your channel, but Caitlin the Mortician, (who I do like), mentions a lot about price point of this and price point of that, and how to bury a body the absolute cheapest way. This is having negative outcomes in my experience. I know in my own family, I had one cousin die, very wealthy; he made his grown son the executor of his will, etc. The son chose direct cremation. No viewing, no memorial service, no get together. He made a few calls, his father's body was picked up, and that was it. It was like he had never lived, and it was just like ordering a dumpster removal. All of his father;s employees and coworkers were upset as well. Then my uncle died. He was a very religious man and a deacon in the church. He fell, (or was pushed) down the stairs. Was in ICU in a coma, his oldest son unplugged him, and right to cremation. He called my Uncle's siblings after it was done, so my poor 83 year old aunt was sobbing t only o me on the phone that they didn't allow him last rites, a wake, a funeral, not even a single prayer. No grave or stone. It wasn't a money issue; or rather it was in the sense that my uncle had left his family well provided for. He had a huge amount of life insurance. My cousin wanted as much of that for himself as possible. Even a memorial service would have really cost nothing, except perhaps $50 for the church. He wouldn't go for it. Within a week, he had thrown out all of my uncle's belongings. You might think they were on bad terms. No, they were not. It just seems that some of the younger people coming up through the ranks only think of price. Death is a minor blip in their schedule. They set aside just enough time and money to get their dead taken care of like leaving your dog's body at the vet to deal with, and life moves on. I can understand after how society has changed that perhaps they don't have nostalgia, or don't mourn. But I wish they would consider the people that do. All of the hundreds of people who worked with my Uncle for 50 years, went to church with him all of his life, not to mention his family. Please when you talk about eceonomizing, green funerals, cheapening things, and direct cremations, realize you have an opportunity to influence the people I'm speaking about, whose only looking to hear "How cheaply can I get away with?" Please be a spokesperson for us hurting people, and ask them to consider not only what kind of funeral the deceased would have wanted, but the others that want to say goodbye and have closure. What kind of message does it send when a pillar of a town who has been giving communion for many years in a church, to just be burned with no prayers like a bag of garbage. Maybe you, having such experience in dealing with families, can say something to arrest this trend. Inexpensive I get; disrespect I do not. I know it is a huge thing to ask, but perhaps you would consider doing a 5 minute video on this topic; combining a cheap price point with at least having a memorial service; or if they don't want to bother, allowing others to do it. I am not the only person this has happened to.
wmnoffaith1 ... Interesting. I saw my mother’s reactions to having a few family funerals in a short time. It was torture to watch. When she died, at 85, we had a small memorial service at her assisted living facility. My sister didn’t speak up to have a traditional funeral. It’s taken us 10 years to be able to talk about it. I’ve had to apologize and ask for forgiveness (multiple times), but we’re back on good terms. I should have asked for sister’s wishes, not considered cost, had a viewing, even though Mother didn’t want people to look at her, and thought of others who loved her, too. My sister knew lots of people wanted to pay respects and her grieve. I thought cremation wasn’t so hard on her grandchildren. My point is, talk and talk about it before hand and don’t let things continue without speaking up. I’m sorry this is long, but feel it’s important for me to share my guilty story, so you may not have one yourself. Thank you Kari and Lawrence!
Our family always followed the traditional service a viewing, a service, graveside and then a reception after. We had some family do just a graveside and that was it. While it was there choice it just felt strange like we just dropped the person off and walked away.
Hi Joe I'm Irish so I said I'd tell you about our traditions for our funerals. If our loved one passes ,they are taken to be embalmed, then the body is taken to a funeral home or a house for the wake. Personally our families like to keep our loved ones at home.family and friends come to the house too.we sit with our loved ones and yes there would be some ppl drinking .we sit and tell funny stories of deceased ,someone sits with the body at all times.Then in morning body taken to church for a mass then followed by the burial. After that we would go to a bar or house with friends and family and have some food. Then it follows again drinks funny stories and we sing .It might sound like a party atmosphere but it's not it's very respectful. We call it giving our loved one a good send off 🧚♀️🍀🙂
I am in Canada and I wonder how you feel about sending the deceased to a care center where all they do is embalm, dress, casket and send back to the funeral home.? My personal experience has been that the care is terrible, the embalming, cosmetics etc are poorly done and it seems just like a factory - in and out. Personally I got our home to stop this practice and now all care is done in house withour own directors or a trade embalmer if we are extremely busy. Your thoughts on this and having the body leave your care once the family has entrusted the arrangement to your firm.
I absolutely agree that all corpses should be treated essentially equally. That said, the ramifications to your business from public response/retaliation might be devastating to you. Something you really need to be proactive about.
Funeral directors sometimes say funerals are for the living, not the deceased. That said, it seems cold and inhuman they would deprive this Boston Marathon killer’s FAMILY the closure they deserve.
Something I have always wondered about, is if a trans individual passes away, and the family don’t know that the individual is in the process of transition, say for a male transitioning to female, and the family insist she be viewed as a male, but the passed individual would want to be viewed as a female, how would a funeral director deal with that situation?
why would any funeral director who are supposed to be professional and educated people disgrace the themselves by treating criminals or people they deem unworthy in a negative or disrespectful manner .once a funeral director crosses that line and mistreats and body they are no better then the criminal in fact maybe worse
@@KaritheMortician I felt bad I couldn't take the job my friend offered at his funeral home I know he could have used the additional help and I helped him out on occasion but I had emotional overload each night when I got home I am a highly empathetic person and I pick others emotions the sadness people experience during a loved ones final send off was overwhelming me some days but the flip side actually hurt me worse I seen so many people that had absolutely no feeling or emotion for there deceased parent or friend member they attended the showing and funeral under protest and dressed in casual clothes and could be heard telling others they were pleased about their share of inheritance or they were telling what a inconvenience their loved ones death was because they had to cancel a ski vacation to Vail
If a criminal has died, or been executed,etc..., the criminal has ultimately paid their debt to society. As for their soul and the afterlife, we humans have no jurisdiction to pass judgment. That jurisdiction belongs to God the Creator amd Judge of all, and Jesus Christ the Lord and Savior of all!
great videos you really have a passion for your profession a calling...you should own your own funeral home Kari or be a spokesperson for the profession. you are passionate about the profession. what gonna happen at 60k subs? 60 jumping jacks
Kari Lovely Lady When you mentioned about the body breaking down at death, the thought struck me, and here we go into the realm of Dr. Frankenstein: hypothetically, if, for instance, a person is on life support, and before the machine that kept the person alive is turned off, the body was injected with an anti-bacterial agent, would that counter the bacterial attack of the body after death?
Im sorry I didnt catch the livestream but I had a question. Its not being funny though...... I have a daughter who got actually got a scholarship into nursing school and she told me she wanted to work in a funeral home..... I told her good luck at Thanksgiving at my house. But my question was..... Have you ever been in your funeral home working on a body and a different body moves or grunts or even sits up. I have heard that bodies can do that?????? I would make new doors in that funeral home for expansion. Not funny but I hear it happens. Has any other mortician ever experienced that????? Im truly not trying to be funny. I watch Kari all the time.
I have a question. How do Funeral Directors sleep at night right after you meet with a family at a vulnerable time and you proceed to rip them off with your lies and Over Priced Unnecessary bull shit you sell them ?????
My personally belief is to show a family what merchandise I could offer ask if they have questions, then I go to arrangement area and wait FOR the family to make there selections. I NEVER pressure any one to attempt to upscale anyone.
Kari helped me SOOOO much 2 yrs ago when mum passed. I can’t be more grateful
Big hugs!
Excellent discussion!!
Thank you!
Another great video with great questions. Kari, you just have a way of soothing . I think you were called to a perfect profession. You care and it is so obvious to your viewers. I love being a subscriber. Thank you!
Wow, thank you!
We all have our calling in life, Kari thats why your an expert at what you do. Bravo!!!!!!!!
Thanks so much!
So far, this is the best 3 question video in my opinion. This guy really showed his interest in the trade and came up with some interesting questions. My cousin who runs the family funeral home had 8 traditional funerals last week and only 2 cremations. He and I really think the pendulum is starting to swing the other way.
Thank you!
Do you do embalming for cremation ? I'm sure this has been answered sorry
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@@kymduncan5292 Usually if they have the traditional funeral, with viewings the day before the funeral, and a open casket , they can embalm . It depends on the time factor, and if there is a open visiting time..
"Do you treat dead criminals differently?"
"Yes, it is not necessary to feed them or to guard them."
(Sorry, couldn't resist)
:)
He had great questions!
Yes!!
Kari, you are the cutest! 🥰 hehe, I love all the words you make up too! I totally do the same thing! Hehe, you’re a wonderful teacher with a beautiful soul and although I would never imagine myself marathon watching videos about the dead…..here I am!🤣🤣🤣🤷🏼♀️👏🏽
Hi Kari! Good questions asked by Lawrence and great answers you gave! Another good video from Kari the Mortician ^,^
I admire you for not thinking about what a person did in their life. But treat everyone the same with dignity because we don't know where they will spend eternity. This is your calling for sure.
Let it be you’re family member you will have different view on this .
Do you have to do more to protect yourself if a patient was on chemotherapy or had a nuclear machine procedure.
Lawrence, I love the family pictures behind you! I love ancestry so it’s beautiful to me! Very good thoughtful questions! Kari, amazing as always! I love to hear your experiences of such a vital needed service. My sister died from Covid April 9th. Watching your videos helped me so much! I had started watching the year before when her husband died. I wanted to know more since my husband is older than me and my father is 90. I wanted to be able to make wise choices. You helped me indirectly with my sister. My other sister kept asking, “how do you know all that!?” 😳 What a precious gift caring for the dead is. Not being able to be there with my sister at the hospital was just heartbreaking! Because of your videos I called the crematorium and asked if my other sister and I could be there with her and they were so gracious. My sister was shocked when I told her I wanted to be with our sister as she took her last journey but ended up being so glad we were there. It was truly precious. We told stories and laughed, of course cried. But it gave us a sense of closure. It’s because of you that I even thought of doing that and was comfortable to be with her. I am so grateful for that gift Kari. Thank you!!
Thanks so much!
Another great video .. Kari seem perfect for this line of work ! I have a question ..
Have you ever walked into a meeting with a family and the family knew who you were from your you tube channel ? If so, was it a good it bad thing ? If I lived in your area and lost someone I would try and find you to care for my loved one . I think you are awesome . Thank you for creating content that helps all of us . I love your stories of folks you have worked on and how you handled them - hopefully you will do more videos on that.
These are great, thank you
They should be treated with the respect and dignity you give everyone else.
I work in Healthcare. There was an Episode of House with a death row inmate. Made me very thoughtful about my own practice.
So true!
Another great question and answer video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Question , are unclaimed bodies from those that died in prison, embalmed before burial.
I was wondering too
I wouldnt think so.
Cremated
If you die in prison, and nobody claims your body, the state will dispose of your remains in the most cost effective way. Usually a plywood casket, and buried in the prison cemetery.
@@chuckrobinson599 , embalmed or not ?.
II'm glad you mentioned that about direct cremation. I am fully supportive of looking for more green choices, having wakes at home, and not embalming. I chose a very traditional choice for my mother, and was happy with it. I gave her the funeral she wanted. However, at the risk of sounding cynical, not your channel, but Caitlin the Mortician, (who I do like), mentions a lot about price point of this and price point of that, and how to bury a body the absolute cheapest way.
This is having negative outcomes in my experience. I know in my own family, I had one cousin die, very wealthy; he made his grown son the executor of his will, etc. The son chose direct cremation. No viewing, no memorial service, no get together. He made a few calls, his father's body was picked up, and that was it. It was like he had never lived, and it was just like ordering a dumpster removal. All of his father;s employees and coworkers were upset as well.
Then my uncle died. He was a very religious man and a deacon in the church. He fell, (or was pushed) down the stairs. Was in ICU in a coma, his oldest son unplugged him, and right to cremation. He called my Uncle's siblings after it was done, so my poor 83 year old aunt was sobbing t only o me on the phone that they didn't allow him last rites, a wake, a funeral, not even a single prayer. No grave or stone. It wasn't a money issue; or rather it was in the sense that my uncle had left his family well provided for. He had a huge amount of life insurance. My cousin wanted as much of that for himself as possible. Even a memorial service would have really cost nothing, except perhaps $50 for the church. He wouldn't go for it. Within a week, he had thrown out all of my uncle's belongings. You might think they were on bad terms. No, they were not. It just seems that some of the younger people coming up through the ranks only think of price. Death is a minor blip in their schedule. They set aside just enough time and money to get their dead taken care of like leaving your dog's body at the vet to deal with, and life moves on.
I can understand after how society has changed that perhaps they don't have nostalgia, or don't mourn. But I wish they would consider the people that do. All of the hundreds of people who worked with my Uncle for 50 years, went to church with him all of his life, not to mention his family. Please when you talk about eceonomizing, green funerals, cheapening things, and direct cremations, realize you have an opportunity to influence the people I'm speaking about, whose only looking to hear "How cheaply can I get away with?" Please be a spokesperson for us hurting people, and ask them to consider not only what kind of funeral the deceased would have wanted, but the others that want to say goodbye and have closure. What kind of message does it send when a pillar of a town who has been giving communion for many years in a church, to just be burned with no prayers like a bag of garbage. Maybe you, having such experience in dealing with families, can say something to arrest this trend. Inexpensive I get; disrespect I do not.
I know it is a huge thing to ask, but perhaps you would consider doing a 5 minute video on this topic; combining a cheap price point with at least having a memorial service; or if they don't want to bother, allowing others to do it. I am not the only person this has happened to.
Thanks so much for weighing in!
wmnoffaith1 ... Interesting. I saw my mother’s reactions to having a few family funerals in a short time. It was torture to watch. When she died, at 85, we had a small memorial service at her assisted living facility. My sister didn’t speak up to have a traditional funeral. It’s taken us 10 years to be able to talk about it. I’ve had to apologize and ask for forgiveness (multiple times), but we’re back on good terms. I should have asked for sister’s wishes, not considered cost, had a viewing, even though Mother didn’t want people to look at her, and thought of others who loved her, too. My sister knew lots of people wanted to pay respects and her grieve. I thought cremation wasn’t so hard on her grandchildren.
My point is, talk and talk about it before hand and don’t let things continue without speaking up. I’m sorry this is long, but feel it’s important for me to share my guilty story, so you may not have one yourself.
Thank you Kari and Lawrence!
Good, thoughtful questions and answers. 👍
Glad you enjoyed it!
You made this a very interesting video. Thanks for your wisdom; absolutely love your laugh! Bob Ganley
Glad you enjoyed it!
It's definitely your "Calling".❣
Thank you!
Our family always followed the traditional service a viewing, a service, graveside and then a reception after. We had some family do just a graveside and that was it. While it was there choice it just felt strange like we just dropped the person off and walked away.
Thank you for sharing!
Had to take a step back and think about these questions!
I agree, Kari, some good questions here. Hope you gave this young man some closure with his god fathers passing.
Good questions and answers
Is it true that some Irish funerals involve drinking and a party like atmosphere? Have you ever arranged a funeral like that? Thanks
An Irish wake
Hi Joe I'm Irish so I said I'd tell you about our traditions for our funerals. If our loved one passes ,they are taken to be embalmed, then the body is taken to a funeral home or a house for the wake. Personally our families like to keep our loved ones at home.family and friends come to the house too.we sit with our loved ones and yes there would be some ppl drinking .we sit and tell funny stories of deceased ,someone sits with the body at all times.Then in morning body taken to church for a mass then followed by the burial. After that we would go to a bar or house with friends and family and have some food. Then it follows again drinks funny stories and we sing .It might sound like a party atmosphere but it's not it's very respectful. We call it giving our loved one a good send off 🧚♀️🍀🙂
@@ladydi9290 I agree a thousand percent. It is supposed to be a celebration of the deceased's life
Great questions!
Thanks!
I am in Canada and I wonder how you feel about sending the deceased to a care center where all they do is embalm, dress, casket and send back to the funeral home.? My personal experience has been that the care is terrible, the embalming, cosmetics etc are poorly done and it seems just like a factory - in and out. Personally I got our home to stop this practice and now all care is done in house withour own directors or a trade embalmer if we are extremely busy. Your thoughts on this and having the body leave your care once the family has entrusted the arrangement to your firm.
I absolutely agree that all corpses should be treated essentially equally. That said, the ramifications to your business from public response/retaliation might be devastating to you. Something you really need to be proactive about.
As FA I treat every one with respect and dignity.
Funeral directors sometimes say funerals are for the living, not the deceased. That said, it seems cold and inhuman they would deprive this Boston Marathon killer’s FAMILY the closure they deserve.
Yes it was not a professional act
After a fall to the head ,does your brain repair itself ? Scartissue i mean?
It can but it takes a very very long time for fissures in your brain to repair. Sleep is the best thing for it.
Something I have always wondered about, is if a trans individual passes away, and the family don’t know that the individual is in the process of transition, say for a male transitioning to female, and the family insist she be viewed as a male, but the passed individual would want to be viewed as a female, how would a funeral director deal with that situation?
I’m sad she didn’t answer this question :(
Ask again, later. You’ll have other opportunities. Great question, Lisa Maggs!
I think I've just discovered my favorite YT channel ;
Thanks!!
why would any funeral director who are supposed to be professional and educated people disgrace the themselves by treating criminals or people they deem unworthy in a negative or disrespectful manner .once a funeral director crosses that line and mistreats and body they are no better then the criminal in fact maybe worse
So true!
@@KaritheMortician I felt bad I couldn't take the job my friend offered at his funeral home I know he could have used the additional help and I helped him out on occasion but I had emotional overload each night when I got home I am a highly empathetic person and I pick others emotions the sadness people experience during a loved ones final send off was overwhelming me some days but the flip side actually hurt me worse I seen so many people that had absolutely no feeling or emotion for there deceased parent or friend member they attended the showing and funeral under protest and dressed in casual clothes and could be heard telling others they were pleased about their share of inheritance or they were telling what a inconvenience their loved ones death was because they had to cancel a ski vacation to Vail
I've heard of a family member started having fluid come out from his nose, they had to keep casket closed.
Thank you
Awesome
Yes!
Death is an equalizer. Good or bad I think💜
If a criminal has died, or been executed,etc..., the criminal has ultimately paid their debt to society. As for their soul and the afterlife, we humans have no jurisdiction to pass judgment. That jurisdiction belongs to God the Creator amd Judge of all, and Jesus Christ the Lord and Savior of all!
Agreed
I just subscribe to your channel 🙂 great videos👍👌
Awesome! Thank you!
yea its texas huntsville texas
Texas uses the death penalty a lot more than most other states
Yes
great videos you really have a passion for your profession a calling...you should own your own funeral home Kari or be a spokesperson for the profession. you are passionate about the profession. what gonna happen at 60k subs? 60 jumping jacks
Thank you! lol not sure what I might do!
I wonder who did Charles Manson's body & John Wayne Gassy's body, etc....
So true
Kari Lovely Lady When you mentioned about the body breaking down at death, the thought struck me, and here we go into the realm of Dr. Frankenstein: hypothetically, if, for instance, a person is on life support, and before the machine that kept the person alive is turned off, the body was injected with an anti-bacterial agent, would that counter the bacterial attack of the body after death?
MOst likely no, it is a different type of bacteria than what we would fight during life.
Unfortunately for the traditional funeral industry your friend, the trocar is becoming more widely known 😣
Im sorry I didnt catch the livestream but I had a question. Its not being funny though...... I have a daughter who got actually got a scholarship into nursing school and she told me she wanted to work in a funeral home..... I told her good luck at Thanksgiving at my house. But my question was..... Have you ever been in your funeral home working on a body and a different body moves or grunts or even sits up. I have heard that bodies can do that?????? I would make new doors in that funeral home for expansion. Not funny but I hear it happens. Has any other mortician ever experienced that????? Im truly not trying to be funny. I watch Kari all the time.
They can NOT sit up :) A slight finger twitch or a noise when you move them as air is pushed out maybe.
kari you left out the one where you prepared a person and his TWIN walked in …..
Do you believe animals have souls?
Yes!
First!
Yes!
I have a question. How do Funeral Directors sleep at night right after you meet with a family at a vulnerable time and you proceed to rip them off with your lies and Over Priced Unnecessary bull shit you sell them ?????
Unnecessary and disrespectful to Kari. If you feel that way then educate yourself as a consumer before meeting with a funeral director. Troll
My personally belief is to show a family what merchandise I could offer ask if they have questions, then I go to arrangement area and wait FOR the family to make there selections. I NEVER pressure any one to attempt to upscale anyone.
Classy...
WTF is that?
what?
@@KaritheMortician
Pronouns? Man, woman etc?