How to get your life back on track: The Reset Method
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- If you want to get back on track for June 2021, then try this journalling exercise.
For the workbook, go to www.struthless.com and scroll down and click the orange button.
Hope this helps!
2021: it's month number 6
Me: so it's been 6 months?
2021: Well technically it's only-
Me: *makes this video*
This is my new favourite mistake I've made... enjoy the month headstart on half #2 lol
we don't come to you for your impecable maths skills!
@@struthless I panicked but than I saw ...aaaaahh another month left...I'm not finally lost, yet. 🤣
LOL! It's fine :)
@@struthless We needed the extra time, in all honesty. :)
You give the people what they need. I am people.
I'm people too. 🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️
And I can't agree more.
can confirm. i am people too
i prefer 10 quality videos to 52 half done. These are so useful
Truth!!! ❤👍
Hahaahah sameeee
We're definitely only 5 months into the year. Don't give me anxiety like that, I still need to do my taxes 😅
The taxes part is too relatable 😂😆😩
🤣🤣🤣
Girl same!
Same 🥴🥴🥴
@@mesCheerios One step ahead of you! :p
I never thought about the question "why do I deserve this change?" It's interesting. I saved this video because I don't have my journal with me. Also, my inner perfectionist (and procrastinator) thinks "oh, well, I need to find the perfect moment of the day to write."
I just subscribed we'll get you to a million! I also pre-ordered your book on Amazon, I can't wait!
1:29 *empty your head* brain dump. Your head is a computer and not a storage cabinet
2:19 *write down your goals from the start of the year*
3:11 *write down what you actually did in the fist half of the year*
4:11 *assess why you hit some goals and not others*
4:38 *write down your ideal second half of the year and WHY you want it*
5:22 *hierarchy of goals*
5:49 *who would you have to be to accomplish these goals*
6:40 *create a system where you can realistically hit these goals*
》(either create routines or break the goal into smaller chunks and turn them into habits)
》make the systems for when you're not at your best
7:55 *how do you stick to the plan when things get tough?*
8:48 *why do you deserve this improvement?*
9:17 *take the 1st step right now*
Thank you for time stamping these!!!
3:11 literally nothing lol
People like you must go to heaven.. thank youuuu 🙏🙏🙏🙏🌠🌠🌟🌟
@@Philipp-pz6yh I hear ya
Thank you soo much😭😭
I just got half a panic attack when you said the year is halfway done. It was january yesterday. 😭
same jesus christ what happened?
@@laurahigson8192 oh my no kidding
If it makes you feel any better, this video is basically like setting a due date a week before the actual one. This half of the year is only TECHNICALLY over at the end of June.
Frrrrr 😭
Really? I'm so happy it's already half this year. I was so stressed this past year up until May of this year. I work in public health and everything is finally *almost* getting back to normal and I can have more time to myself instead of working.
You are the humanliest human i have seen on internet. I don't know how to explain it but that is a really good thing.
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Also, "the pain of NOT doing it > pain of doing it" hit me in the gut. From over a year I've been telling myself it's time to share my art with everyone, kept stalling it. I promised two days ago that I would do it starting 1st June but it's 22:00 and I chickened out. Then I see this video. 😂
Still some time left, go for it!
Hi, Devleena! Your comment struck gold with me, I guess at the end you just get tired of being afraid and just do it.
Go for it!
The world needs your art. Do it.❤️
I did! Thank you all, so much. I was very confused about my first post so I was late. (I'm literally sitting on mountains of art 😅)
If anyone would be interested it's @ccu2077 on Instagram. 🙏
What I appreciate so much about your videos is your acknowledgement that there is not just one way to do things, and that failure is normal. I have OCD and ADHD and I struggle a lot with fatigue and time management, so I often find that advice from neurotypical coaches etc. can be counter-productive or just end up making me feel discouraged. I love that you provide so many useful tips and strategies while reinforcing that life is unpredictable and that different people respond to different things. :)
"failure is normal" is the most comforting thing I have ever heard :)
OCD and ADHD here too! Life is... massively difficult, to say the least.
@@abbyanderbard lm
I'm totally with you on that! I have a Sensory Processing Disorder, and fml if it isn't a real bugger on the brain! Fatigue and time management, yeah, completely relative! The majority of people who don't have issues like these, typically don't get it, and oftentimes it causes more anxiety, which only feeds the cycle. The struggle is real, but stay strong sister. You got this!
You guys are brave, any chronic illness/disability, particularly cognitively, is extremely difficult. As someone who is in the recovery from chronic fatigue, just getting on an even footing and finding a groove again is a herculean effort and you should be proud no matter what the outcome is
The point about making your systems for you-on-a-hard-day is such a good idea, it seems so obvious that that would have a better chance of sticking! I'm going to try that instead of creating systems for superhuman-me. Great video as always!
This is frequently where I fuck up! I get all motivated and PMA and set ABSURD tasks for myself, like 5am Club stuff which inevitably fails and my systems and habits go to shit after a week or so. Most ridiculous thing is I know I'm doing it...but somehow making the small changes don't seem like enough of an effort so I just wallow about until I'm motivated again. Daft.
@@SimpleSustainableLife haa I feel ya😁....
.....😑
'Make the systems for when you are at your weakest not at your strongest'
That is such realistic and understanding foresight.
I really appreciate how much you de-dramaticize failure or the anxiety that comes with not connecting to a particular method. Yeah, it's all good, it's not a big deal, this is all figureoutable, we're not doomed. Definitely helpful to hear that attitude and encouragement from someone else!
Yea, sometimes we should just chill and not take life too seriously.
You've only made 10 videos, but it's always quality content whenever you put something out
True.
Bruh your humility and kindness ♥️ So glad the algorithm introduced us.
'First step usually isn't more self-improvement content'- lol, called out. But it feels so good to binge your content!
I just rediscovered my old journals from the past 20 years. It's amazing how I've been dealing with the same struggles for that long. But I could see there were times I was making progress and how journaling was a big part of it. I am inspired to keep journaling for the next 20 years.
I don't think my life has ever been "on track" with what I wanted it to be or thought it would be. I have a lot I'm still working on this year, and I'm happy where I am even though it's not the path I thought I'd be on when I used to think about the future.
Great video and lots of food for thought
I'm amazed by how timely your videos always are with my current life. But I think it goes to show how we're all more similar than we think; despite living in different countries, with different lifestyles...we all have stories we can relate with, stories we can empathize with, and I think it's through these stories that we feel less alone and more hopeful that we can overcome them.
So thank you Struthless for making me feel less alone, for making me feel empowered, and for giving me so much practical tips and wisdom through your videos (I've been super grateful how frequent they are too!)
We're all just strangers on the internet (and you often refer to yourself as "that bald guy on the internet"), but at this point, we're all more than that. I think we've built a community of awkward, brave, kind, and whole-hearted people (you can tell I'm a Brené Brown fan HAHA)! Congrats on being 6 months sober too
oh my gosh, same! most of his videos come just as I need them
Right? Just yesterday I bought a second desk for my apartment, this new one is for studying only. I wanted to start exactly today with learning phsyics.
I can concentrate so much better without all the other (gaming related) stuff lying on the other desk. And now I even get recommend this video.
Congratulations
That was such a lovely comment to read. I've felt it!
Dude you're the coolest. Thanks for what you do. I followed your advice for the 70% rule months ago and it really helped me be happier with what i made This advice is what I recommend to others who want to get their goals completed, thanks for sharing
I do follow his 70% rules.. I feel happier and when the result ain't so lucky. I thank myself instead of blame
well
you: "think about what you've done in the past year"
me: ....*cricket sound intensifies*
him: "think about what you've done in the past year"
me: "But that wasn't my fault! They are out of hospital by now!"
That was a dark joke :-)
I did this exercise on Sept. 30th (2022) and today it's Nov. 3rd, so, almost five weeks in. The relief and sense of direction has been enormous. I feel satisfaction knowing I'm working toward the things I've decided are most important. I have patience for the life projects and goals that I've decided *aren't* on my 'most important' list for this stretch of time--I'm no longer worrying I'm 'not doing enough' for them because they're simply waiting their turn. Thanks to the habits I set up with this system, I actually finished a new piece of music for the first time in years, and I adapted these steps to reflect on that project and figure out what the next one will be.
Basically, this was one of the most effective and clarifying tools I've ever tried. Thank you.
It took me a few days to to the whole thing, because I get emotionally drained when untangling myself, but I did it!! And I feel satisfied. Thank you for making this booklet and video
Pretty sure July means half the year is over….
He's giving us a month's head start to get our shit together. ;)
june
June is the 6th month...
@@Jaylink15 lmao when the 6th month is over, then half the year is over
@@Jaylink15 therefore the last of the first half?
Me: Man, I'm feeling a little aimless and stuck. I could probably use a reset and reevaluation of where I'm at and where I want to go.
Struthless: I got you bro.
“take the first step right now.”
me lying in bed at 1:37am: 😳
Same, except it's 1:55 am for me. 😂 I'm still going to take the first step now though!
same
Watching this at 00:09 😅🤣
That comment scared the shit out of me
It's literally 1:37
@@p4gyt710 🤭
at the end of june we will be half way through I believe
I remember when I watched this video a year ago when it first came out. And now, as I am currently in a rut, I’m rewatching this video and doing the exercise. I’ve been in a rut because I’ve felt like I haven’t been very productive, but when I take a step back, I realize I’ve accomplished so much
A list of a few things I’ve done since the first time watching:
- (Sorta) got over my fear of driving and got my license
- Got accepted to college after two gap years thinking I couldn’t go back (and got scholarships and grants, so I won’t have to pay anything!)
- Started selling journals on Amazon
- Opened an Etsy shop for digital prints
- Got my first freelance writing gigs
- Started going out way more with friends and even went on a little road trip out of state, etc.
I’m glad I stumbled across this video again. You are a wise guy indeed! Thank you 🙏🏾
I was having a real moment of self-doubt and self-hate because I felt like Iike I hadn't moved forward at all since the beginning of this year (in fact even before that) but now I'm more motivated than ever. Followed your advice right away and took the first step for a better life. Thank you for helping me🙏
The timing of this couldn’t have been better for me. I’ve hit a point of realisation and am aware that what I want doesn’t line up to what I’m doing. I’ve still managed to achieve some big goals this year, but this put into perspective how my systems and the effort I put in could have been very different (dare I say, easier? Simpler? Less exhausting? A lot to think about). Great vid, thank you!
I mean, the second half of the year actually starts July 1 so if I procrastinate the next 30 days mind your business 🙃😉😅
😄😁😂
I like how he says he would love a million subscribers and now he is at that milestone. I am now motivated to accomplish my dreams in life
Thank you for the content and the constant push to actually take the steps. This is definitely the hardest part for me, so I really appreciate you taking the time to call that out. Your videos are extremely helpful because they bring a sense of realness to self help and you always leave room for people to feel out what is best for them. Thanks again
I watched this a week ago and said I’d come back to it. I just spent 3 hours watching you talk about each step and then really going deep and doing it. I wrote so much, learned so much. I think the bit where you evaluate the reasons why some goals were achieved and some were not is so interesting. And the parts about the kind of person I want to be and why I deserve to meet my goals were so empowering. I feel completely different about my goals now, super clarified on my purpose and priorities. This video and channel is such a gem I will be reccomending it to anyone who could use it ❤️❤️
You always have a fresh take on this stuff, they're never 'just another self improvement video'. Always super actionable and sympathetic while kicking your butt to do something. Thank you :)
Every couple of months I kind of spiral and your videos always help me get my head above water again. Spent about an hour and half doing these steps after a very anxious weekend and I feel a lot better and more centered and focused again. Crazy how just writing down what you're thinking/how you're feeling goes so far and making stressors external instead of internal. Thanks again for another quality video.
It's honestly kind of incredible how I always find your videos at the absolute perfect time. I have never encountered another creator who makes me feel so seen, understood, and personally challenged in the most positive and uplifting way. Whenever I'm struggling with something, I always run across one of your videos relating EXACTLY to my situation, and the way you break the problem down to make it seem less scary, more normal, more manageable, not to mention giving us PRACTICAL methods of overcoming those challenges.... I can't fully express how helpful it truly is.
THANK YOU for making the content that you do, for being vulnerable, and helping others like myself feel less alone.
Your timing is impeccable as usual!!! I was just thinking the other day that I should start giving myself half-year progress reports and here you are... Thanks dude!
This year is being crazy for me, I wanted to be a doctor but then my childhood dog died, and I needed to spent so much time with him so he would not die alone and scared. Than I decided that I will be a nurse, keep helping people but with more time for the ones I love in my personal life. I changed my room a little bit, started to study more English and Spanish, decided that I wanna learn how to sing, and that yoga really helps my mental health!!!!
I did not do anything that I said I would in January, however I'm learning so much about who I am, and who I wanna be for myself, and for the world, and for the spiritual world. I think I'm happy, that's scares me a little bit but I'm fine
Sorry for your loss! Hope you’re feeling better
I love how realistic you are with goal setting because other videos I’ve seen only go as far as to say “make little goals and work your way up” but I love that you added the idea of setting a system for your harder days. You break it down so well, thank you!!
Mate, you are such a blessing because you are so easy to relate to. Thanks again for this & all the others you've done. You help hundreds of folk every day, so keep feeling good & stay strong 💜
Lately I've felt absolutely bulldozed by the overwhelming weight of everything going on right now, but just watching this video and doing these exercises in my mind eased it a bit. The first step for my mid-year reset will be buying a journal 😎
Kindly cover depression, self-loathing/hatred, low self-esteem, fear of the future(catastrophizing) and self-blame. Suffering from these and I am definitely doing what you have said in this video
I like how you are able to find and ask out loud all these hard questions. It's like a superpower.
Legitimately the only channel that everytime I see a new video posted, I know I’m actually about to get helpful advice.
ur vids helped me get back into school to do a access course and now I'm going to a top uni for art and design
This is honestly life changing, gonna do this today to get a head start on the next half of the year ;)
Thank you a lot! Started the video with anxiety, but all the way through the video, it feels like talking to a friend and hearing their advise. Very comforting, in the sense that your sharing is not only relatable but also doable, whichever way you choose to do it, and that it's normal to fail sometimes. Really appreciate your honest insights, too. Wish you all the best for the upcoming half of the year!
Its been around a month since I've found your channel and, man, you inspire me so much and help me so much. I had been trying to quit smoking for a while and some weeks ago I changed to "I actually don't like the taste of these", just as I did when I became a vegetarian. I haven’t smoken since and, boy, did I had people offering me those, but I simply did not feel like smoking. I have been walking too, long distances, and I decided I want to run a São Silvestre by the end of the year and for the first time I feel like I'll be able. I've been journaling a lot more since I found you and I love your prompts and how much I've been rethinking my life.
I was in a really dark place, pretty much that paralyzing anxiety from the beginning of this video, but I've been feeling like things will work out. Thank you.
I wish you all the best ❤
The start of your vid resonates with me so much: Couple of minutes past midnight last night I was actually panicking a bit when I saw the date changing into June and actually talked to a friend how we´re basically at the half the year mark now and how we didn´t accomplished any bigger plans or dreams yet haha
Thank you for the vid and for the really realistic and practical tips , it actually helped me to calm down. Gonna go and take some action now. :D
2:10 mark "i recommend to start with at least 3 pages"
me: my mom issues alone was 7 pages long and i haven't stopped, i still add paragraphs now and then
The feelings of low self worth and horribleness came crawling back to me today but it was just a blessing to have found you. I’ve only watched two videos so far but honestly thank you for making these videos. It helps me put things in perspective and calm down a bit 🤗
Your videos are always helpful! It comes across that you genuinely care about helping people and not just fluffing your own ego. Thank you for being you. ✌️
Journaling just your thoughts helps you understand yourself. Have fun with it get a nice journal and a nice pen. Write what you want to say to someone. Write about a bird you saw. Write about anything. Just don't forget to date it.
This one hits harder now( Because it's like seven months already. And I'm really struggling on the 'why I deserve it' section. I came up only with the idea that I've been saving money for several years for this endeavour, and it means I had to self-discipline financially at least. Nothing else seems to indicate I'm entitled to success because I guess I haven't grown professionally.
Me too haha ! But don't give up. It's better to start now than later! Best of luck mate 🍀
It took me 2 hours to sit and fill this whole thing out but I'm so glad I did. Having the "why do you deserve this?" At the very end was incredibly useful for me. I've made these kind of journals constantly for many years and it's been hard to actually stick with it but I feel like this one has actually left me with a simple system I can work with and adjust, despite being a massive perfectionist.
Lately I've been going down a downwards spiral without quite knowing where to go with my life. But you always show me some light at end of the tunnel. Thank you for always giving us some great advice.
You have really good taste in making graphics, colors, layouts ! Thanks for the video. I started with goal setting but my life flipped around, but still it's always fun when You can continue !
thank you, genuinely, right now i am not in a good state, mentally and for the first time, it's been shown in my works/ job and it scares me that i won't be able to pull it back and I will ruin all the achievements i have made so far with the actions i am making, i want to get better but it's hard
So technically it's mid-ish July right now, but better late than never! Honestly I'm left speechless... You've done an amazing job here! Straight to the point, no drama, no judgement, no unnecessary fuss. I've spent the night listening to your videos while working and I can say you've definitely enlightened and encouraged me!
I’ve always done a quarterly reset and I always start by cleaning my room and folding my clothes. A clean room and organized wardrobe always helps me to actually think about what I want to accomplish because I have the space and can see all the materials I have to work with to accomplish those things when it’s clean.
Me: Could use some encouragement today.
Universe: Say no more. (Ding goes the notification alert) *New Struthless video available*
That James Clear quote was loaded. Going to need a bit to unpack that one. Thanks!
Hey struthless, you got anymore of your 2021 calendars hanging about for sale still?
Maybe you could do a reprint with only the last 6 months in it and call it The Arse End of 2021 calendar?
your videos are actually like massively helpful? none of this self help stuff usually works on me but yours are realistic that life is messy and its great! theyre also not moralistic at all which is nice for someone who struggles w anxiety and depression like myself
Literally the best, most motiviating, and practical video I have seen in the self-improvement community
instead of setting a career-ruining tweet, you should just set a sudoku puzzle to disarm your alarm. pro advices: also save money for a new phone
🍌 banana sticker for everyone who journaled today.
Dude! How do you always know what I need when I need you the most!? Wizard! A wonderful, grounding wizard 🙏
I just realized that living purposeful is better for every one around me. So refreshing to watch a practical video like this; with an action to follow while watching., and move these steps into time blocks of the future ! Thank you.
"write down what you actually did in the first half of the year" - does "surviving" count?
Yes and yes and yes
Someone like you on the other side of the globe was trying to survive while managing life and dreams. That other person is me. And so many others.
You ve got this
Survival, rest, recovery. Relearning to be human, learning what human means to you. All counts.
@@kaoutardaoudi2338 thank you, I pray that you and the many others find your peace ☮️
@@Onthe9thlife3730 true, I've never asked myself what being human means... To me! Thank you for the insight 🐱
Shieeeet.... i gotta watch it again... I didn't have me journal...
Oh boy I shure dont hope the algorythm does not see me watching struthless 2x 🙃
Your life is so on track that you were a month early! Love these videos. Thank you!
Atomic habits changed my life!!!!!!! I love that you broke down the year planning. I was just trying start basic stuff at the beginning of the year. My therapist has slowly gotten me to journal and it really has helped.
i am 0% done w my goals:)
Not sure when this channel pivoted from fucked up drawing of the Simpsons to insightful practical self-help but nice work 😎
Your timing is impeccable. Even though it’s 10, your 10 videos this year happen to be so perfectly-worded and come at just the right time for me. Thank you ☺️ x
I love how you put yourself out on your channel sharing all the weaknesses and insecurities openly in an amusing way ..... 😊
Going through every step was no small task, but my tank is completely refilled! Thank You!
This is by far the most useful and enjoyable content on RUclips for me right now. Thank you for being so crazy relatable and kind to this world.
Strong believers in journaling, especially for a targetted purpose! The last two days we've been figuring out what we want to do with our RUclips channel, because we really lost our way with it, and this is a great exercise that we're going to do to have our goals and disciplines written down. Thank you!
Every video and self improvement article I read just makes me believe that I can NEVER ever improve. For the past decade my life's been totally aimless with no motivation to the point that I don't know how people even have the energy to do the little things. ANYWAYS great video I hope it helps some people!
This is exactly the pragmatic, humble, and realistic pep talk I needed. Thanks. 🙏
I came across this video weeks ago and I finally watched it. I immediately got out my journal and followed your steps! It took 2hrs in total but I'm super proud! You really helped me since I felt very stagnant until I watched this video! I barely set any goals for myself at the beginning of the year (I only had one!) and that was proving to be the reason why!
Thank you so much man!! I appreciate you bare!!
Thanks for making mental clarity and improvement (and the systems to make them last) approachable, and guilt-free.
Needed this. After an entire year of being a pandemic wanderlust, I am grateful for your practical insights into how to set up/reset personal goals. For me (and maybe others) it's a current challenge to set up a healthy routine again. So, thank you. New sub
Thank you for being you. This video has truly given me so much to think about and it really solidified my inner calling to the blank page. In terms of filling it with art or even just words and this is just the beginning of a long exciting scenic road to somewhere I can't wait to arrive to. I hope that you are having a wonderful day filled with happiness and love.
Your videos have been so supportive for my mental health and over all expansion. Most of selfhelp youtube is great however what standout to me about your content is that its Theory to Practice. Mahalo for taking the time to make amazing, high quality, engaging, creative and accessable content. Much love!
So inspiring! I I've been watching this video over and over again since yesterday, and I've started my Reset straight away. Thanks for having such a contagiously fun mood and for making our days better with your wisdom. Love your channel, you're doing great! 💫
You're literally the best. I don't even know what else to say. THE. BEST.
as someone who literally has nothing and am on the edge of mental health, your videos are a life saver. the positive self talk is so foreign to me. but im just going to keep trying and watch your videos when im feeling like losing it. thank you for what you do
Just found your channel. Already cried twice in 2 videos. I've finally at 36 been doing really well and “taking my life seriously" and I need things like this to keep that upward trend and your vids hit the spot. Thanks.
This must be a sign!!! Im in a midlife crisis right now and your video came just at the right time, i dont know how God works but Im really greatful that you made this video 😁 pls keep up the great work a lot of people need the help!! 💕
Thank you for calling me out! I’ve been watching self improvement vids all week and no action. Journalling right now!
Just EXACTLY what I was praying for today. Thank you so much!
I was going to post about the whole 5-6 month thing. Saw that you'd already joked about it and other people joked about it, and you took it really well and rolled with it. I'm a wicked self-critical person, and seeing that in tangent with having watched a lot of your content spoke a lot to me. You seem like an awesome human. Keep doing your thing ma dude. Much love.
You are literally my mentor at this point. Thank you SO much for this type of content. I can’t wait for the new book.
Haven’t even watched 2 mins of this and I’m engaged! Legend!!!
Dude, you give therapist sessions for free to all of us. Bless you.
Thank you for this video! I'm feeling like I'm in the biggest rut of my life and need to move on/past it because life does indeed continue. Thank you for your down to earth and empathetic and open energy - Love your work!
God, I love you, for some reason half of your video summarize whatever thoughts I have at the moment and help them, which is amazing!
I've really needed something like this. was in a car wreck two days ago and found this video at the perfect time. Thanks man