The single biggest impact daily habit in my life has been to do something nice for Future Me. It can be something big (ticking another to do list item off a day or two early), it can be something small (setting out the supplies I need for the next day's work), it can be tailored to however much energy I have at the time and I always find it easy to do because I want Future Me to have a nice tomorrow. Framing it as a favour to "someone else" seems to be the magic ingredient. You start looking for ways to be nice to yourself, which is v wholesome 10/10 do recommend
I think I should try this because I'm usually horrible to myself when it comes to defining to do lists. It feels like this exercise could help me learn to balance it out
This is how I got through my first degree and hopefully how I’ll get through my second one (uhg while working full time - hard days, Future Me better appreciate it)
That is such a nice way of living. To prepare yourself such sweet things just to have an easier life. I never thought of it that way and you said it in such a lovely way that it inspired me. Thank you so much☺ and have a nice day
Recently my rule has been: don’t go to bed with dishes in the sink. It’s small. Typically takes 5 minutes to do. And the joy of waking up in the morning with an empty sink is just so wonderful. 10/10
@@GingeRenee I wonder if that's a personality trait. I couldn't care less, there could be a Leaning Tower Of Dishes in the sink and it makes no difference if I clean it up at 0800 hours or 2000 hours. 🤔
I do this to, it makes me feel organized and it's so nice to have a tidy kitchen when I wake up in the morning to make my coffee, it puts me in a good mood
A tidy kitchen goes with a tidy mind. Before going to work I like to get all the daily life chores done. Because everything is already tidy and minimalist it takes no more than 15 minutes.
My go to weird habit that I've always done is to do at least one bizarre thing a day physically. Could be making some weird noises, could be getting into a character, could just be contorting my body and walking around like a gremlin. It's been the cornerstone of my happiness, It keeps me in touch with my inner child, It helps me not take myself to seriously, and its like a micro-drum circle for my spirit once a day. The biggest bonus is that once you get good at It, you can use It to make other people laugh and smile. It helps other people let their guard down and grow closer to you because they're never worried about whether you think you are too cool for them or that they have to act carefully so that you won't judge them. It's only grown more important to me as the pressures of adult hood threaten to eliminate my sense of humor and awareness that I'm just a goofy hairless bi-pedal creature.
Love these, a habit I started after noticing I usually looked at myself in mirrors with a straight, neutral or even judgmental face, was to smile at myself when I saw me, as I would naturally do to a friend or someone I love, especially in the morning. It reinforced the idea that I was, in fact, someone I love! Such a small shift, but made a big difference
I love playing with expressions in the mirror! Think of different exaggerated scenarios and try different expressions for them, like small smile/curious look/confused look/astonished look, etc. Then you see your face in its range of emotions!
Before doing habits that generally aren't 'fun' while you're doing them (think exercise, doing the dishes, leaving for work, etc.), I use to focus on and visualize the discomfort or pain associated with that task - "this workout is going to be so tiring", "my hands are gonna get gross when I touch the food on my dishes", "work is going to be so boring today". Instead, I've started to focus on the positives associated with those tasks, and visualize the soon to be harvested fruits of my labour - "I'm gonna be so strong if I continue my workout routine", "I love it when my kitchen is clean", "Can't wait to see Harold at work today, that dudes a gem". By focusing on the positives around the tasks I generally viewed as difficult or uncomfortable, I started to change my mindset about starting those tasks. All of a sudden, I was getting dopamine hits from the anticipation of these tasks as I visualized the beneficial and desired outcomes of my efforts! No longer was I thinking, "I HAVE to do this task", but rather, "I GET to do this task". Sometimes all it takes is a shift in perspective to make things more enjoyable :)
Nice, really. I’m in the mindset of “I have to” right now and always heard about the “think about how you GET to” but they never tell you how to get there. I can’t just say “I GET to” five times and bam, it’s embedded in my mind. So thanks for this I’m going to try it because I do dread task just like that. Thank you thank you thank you!
THIS video is EXACTLY why I love your content so much. The way you bring a candid and unconventional approach to trite, cliche topics is so refreshing in this oversaturated self-help space, forever a fan of what you do :)
They are great habits except for the incense. This is nearly as bad as smoking. When you're burning incense, you're breathing smoke. Plus you don't really know what's in the incense. There is no strict regulation of the incense industry, and some of them contain all kinds of weird stuff. Carcinogenic.
THE FIRST TIP IS SOMETHING IVE DONE FOREVER. I feel so happy giving someone that secret unconscious happiness of having the bigger, yummier and more quality plate of food.
@@chilli-iceolive-abode2447 you certainly are not terrible! It makes sense that if you work hard to make something, you want the best one. Nothing wrong with that.
You know, this is weird. I always gave the people around me the better stuff. Then I got greedy, because they were always getting the best and the most, and I realized I was putting myself too far back in the line. Now? I let people do it for themselves. (Doesn't apply when cooking for guests, of course.)
@@kmscheid3303 Same!! Growing up with a younger sibling I was always taught to give others the 'better' portion but over time I noticed that they were not really reciprocating and kind of took it for granted.... as they were the youngest. This video reminded me to give more again (and maybe help teach my sis a lil awareness and gratitude so I don't get resentful hahaha)
random but good habits: 1) you're not finished an activity until you've tidied up 2) stand up your sponge and hang your dishcloth up 3) having 'mini rituals' for everyday tasks reduces cognitive load. do things in the same order each time (eg. night routine, shower routine, cooking routine, work routine, etc.) 4) have a list of people to keep in touch with so you don't forget anyone. specify an appropriate frequency to contact each person. 5) keep splitting a task into smaller tasks until the first one feels manageable, even if it wouldn't conventionally be seen as a task, eg. check calendar, or get vacuum cleaner. 6) make good use of your freezer 7)if you don't want to do something, journal about it to figure out what is stopping you 8) when making a financial decision, always run the numbers for your individual situation. no general guide will ever be perfect for your situation. eg. should I buy or rent a tool? 9)... but don't automatically feel bad for buying stuff. it might save you money overall, or it might save you time and time is money
> but don't automatically feel bad for buying stuff Do people actually feel bad for buying their own tools? At the very least it's much SAFER than renting. You can break it, fix it, modify it etc as much as you want and don't have to care about any payments, rules, the company you rented from going bankrupt etc. In the case of "intellectual property" like software you'll also have to care about getting your service cancelled for no reason. It became VERY common in the past seven years. It literally gives another company full control over your work.
i definetly started doing the "how is the best thing that has ever happened to me" one. last year i had to drop out of my master's degree because of my mental health and i ended up volunteering in poland, i gained experience and now im back to my master's and today i finished my internship, something that a year ago seemed impossible to do
My biggest habit (that is more of a motto that i continue to remind myself) is: Doing some of it is better than doing none of it. It helped through the biggest bouts of my depression, and when I don't feel like doing anything-even in regards to the 2 minute rule (which i try to live by) it motivates me enough
Earlier in my life I heard of the 5 seconds rule. It’s really useful for someone who suffers from mental health issues! It consists in when you have something to do you either count in your head or with a chronometer 5 seconds of doing it, because once you have started you’ll usually want to do it fully. This one thing has really helped me a lot when I was healing from several mental illnesses
When I was going through a rough patch I'd start my day either journaling or thinking of the answer to "What am I afraid of today?" Then I'd find myself debunking all my irrational fears and start my day a bit more centred and in control. When the fears would show up again through the day, I had already figured out their cause and their solution in the morning so it reduced stress. Hope this may help anyone!
I do the same sort of thing if I feel uneasy or something is bothering me; I'll stop and dissect what my uneasy feeling is about. Just the act of dissecting will usually make the source of the fear or uneasiness go away. I have a visual; in biology class we had to dissect a large earth worm. Just The act of dissecting made it disappear into a wet spot. That worm is my visual for cutting up my uneasy fearful thoughts. They just disappear when dissected. Or at least I'll find the real issue that is bothering me and say "oh is that all?"
I just wanted to pop in and say thank you. I lost my husband two months ago, after a two and a half year battle with cancer. It wasn't something we were prepared for, we had thought he had more time but his cancer had other plans. Now I am taking care of our two special needs boys, the oldest of whom is disabled, all on my own. I've been sinking into a pit of despair and depression under the pressure/ chaos and finding it increasingly difficult to hold true to promises I made my husband. Promises to stop procrastinating my dreams and to start creating art again. To stop being afraid to fail and to live. Then I found the video you made about finishing projects. And every day, sometimes a few times a day, I would find another video in your list and lights started coming on in my heart and mind. In the last week, through your tricks and content, I've been adapting ways to combat and quiet my anxiety and claw my way out of this pit. I've had breakthroughs that I have been struggling to made for years and it's due to the perspective you offer on your channel and the unique delivery method. So, thank you! I appreciate your content and look forward to seeing more. As for this video, I will be starting the gratitude showers, the two to do lists, the photographing sentimental items and the how is this the best thing to happen to me habits. My house is usually filled with music of one form or the other, as well as candles. I love cedar wick candles. They are wonderful. I've been doing the better plate to the guest for quite a while and love it. And live off the two minute rule, sometimes it's the only way I get anything done. Again, thank you so much for your content! You're awesome!
0:25 give the guest the better plate 1:30 photograph sentimental things before throwing them away 3:08 cold showers as a gratitude trigger 4:14 incense and whale noise 5:06 write two to-do lists for the same set of tasks (The ideal list and the bare minimum list) 6:22 the two minute rule (if something takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. Otherwise, schedule it) 7:26 hangin' out with your dogs 8:53 how is this the best thing that has ever happened to you?
@@sophierobinson2738 The friend who recommended this to me said, not FREEZING cold - unless you like that. Just a LITTLE cooler than normal. That's about my speed, and I don't always do it. But I'm going to start doing the gratitude part when I do.
My favorite habit is Art Before Dishes. What it means is that I put art first in my day (after breakfast). Art is big, endless and scary, but I have to work on it in some way for some amount of time, before any other task list thing that is easy to accomplish, easy to tick off as complete and requires no fighting resistance. I can do the dishes with my 3pm brain, but my bright 9am brain is sacred and must face the art. Though I'm not sure if this is compatible with the 2 min rule and the minimum requirement, it helps me feel like I'm always working on the big dream. No one gets a prize for a tidy home.
I do the 2 minute rule. It really does help with clutter and anxiety. Also, as you walk around your house, add the habit of looking for things that need to go to the same room in which you are headed, like a cup or blanket.
I do that too. Having worked in hospitality I had it drilled into me to 'never leave empty handed', so I always grab something that needs going somewhere else. I actually take the stuff up that I put on the stairs, too. ;)
Some of the habits that have helped me: 1. Picking out my clothes the night before and setting out my gym clothes. 2. Listening to audiobooks in the car. 3. Journaling during my lunch break. 4. Doing air squats whenever I'm waiting for something in the microwave or pushups during TV commercials. 5. Only snacking on fruit or nuts. 6. No caffeine or high carbs after lunch. 7. Celebrating/acknowledging little victories (after a workout, when I say no to sweets, etc.) 8. Reading or writing for 30 minutes before bedtime. (No electronics) 9. Feeding the nurturing voice in my head and starving my inner critic. (Counseling myself, outsmarting my inner critic)
Thanks everyone for watching and for your lovely comments!! Genuinely love reading them. (Edited to remove the vote link: thanks everyone who voted for my book!!)
Just did it, but I'll admit I had to vote for "The Backyard Adventurer" by Beau Miles too. You both make such great content. He brings us on his journey of discovery and you share your wisdom more directly. Thanks Cam (and prepaid editor) for another great video!
I divide my to do list in three parts: "Appointments" (for everything that needs to happen at a fixed time, whether it is a video conference, a medical appointment or meeting a friend), "to do" and "want to do". I started the "want to do" list because I realized that I focus too much on what I have to do and too little on what I actually want to spend my time with. "want to do" is for everything from doing a small step towards a longterm goal, spending time on a hobby project, scheduling an hour to read a book I enjoy or going for a walk, or doing one of those tasks that otherwise get pushed to the bottom of the to do list because they are not urgent. When depression hits really hard, I put a few ridiculoulsy little tasks on my to do list that even the most depressed version of me can accomplish, like "go outside for 10 minutes", "take a shower" or "cut fingernails". It feels really good and gives me a sense of having accomplished something when I tick off an item of my to do list - even if it's just cutting my fingernails or taking a shower. Plus, it keeps me from procrastinating on these things, which I often do when I'm really deep down in depression.
this is such a good idea and i will be trying this, thank you! sometimes things i want to improve (like running, learning the drums etc) are listed as a to do and that just takes the fun away a bit. this will definitely be better :)
Here's my habit: Every night when I get in bed with my husband and we're just lying there talking before we go to sleep, I think about how there is nothing else I'd rather be doing and nowhere else I'd rather be. That habit has triggered me to acknowledge that same feeling when it happens in other situations, and I'm surprised how often it crops up. Having a great laugh with a friend, eating something super delicious, even being there to comfort someone I love when they're hurting. It has made me appreciate the day-to-day magic of gratitude.
A habit that helps me a lot is that I write everything I want to do in a day on my to-do list, not just the work-related or tedious tasks. By also writing fun things on it, the to-do list isn’t this awful, hard thing weighing me down anymore but just a neutral list of stuff I wanna do
First of all, thank you ! Another habit I have, and have enforced in this video, is: The moment I learn something new, I try to explain it out loud as if I'm doing so for somebody who knows nothing about it, also, writing it down as well also helps. Doing that forces you to think about the information, and also often reveals what piece of the puzzle you lack, making you an expert and much smarter.
The 2-minute rule is like my 'just do 10 things' procrastination shifter: do the next thing that's to hand, like take a dirty plate to the kitchen, hang up a coat, take the rubbish out, etc... things that demand no problem-solving and can be accomplished fast. By the end of the 10 things, the wheels are starting to turn and some of the to-dos are done, making it easier to just continue. I've heard about another strategy for tackling a big chore, which involves just cleaning three metres around you. When that's done, you clean the next three metres and so it goes on until the house is clean. Congratulations on getting so far in the Booktopia competition! I bought your book the other day, actually, so it was nice to be able vote for it.
thanks for this! i've never heard "just do 10 things", i've heard "just do 10 minutes" of something, but even something as simple as that has never worked for me. 10 things is much more appealing -- i might not have the energy to focus right away, but i can get those 10 little things done and start to build momentum
Great list. Similar to the two minute rule I have a "if you touch it now you have to put it away" e.g. the amount of times I was moving my jacket from one chair to the table then to the bench, then to another chair instead of just hanging it up. Or random pile of pens and paper clips around the house instead of just putting it in the stationary drawer. Helps with kids too! Once you touch it, you gotta move it to where it belongs! Takes less than 30 seconds 90% of the time !
Definitely do habit #4, I've recently left my job and am home all the time with my partner and he constantly cracks "how do you not fall asleep", but he never suggests turning off the chill lofi and putting the scented candles out. I think he secretly appreciates the Zen chill space I'm building 😊
One of my weird habits as a non-traditional university student (I took 4 gap years and I'm in my second year at 25) is buy the cute/cool thing regardless of price. My best examples are drinking water and writing papers. For drinking more water, get the pretty water bottle, put stickers on it, etc. You are more likely to use it and actually stay hydrated if you like looking at it. For writing papers, I bought myself a fancy pink (in hindsight I should have gotten blue but I was way to excited when I found the pink) typewriter style key board that lights up. So now when I am slaving away on assignments and papers and my own personal creative writing I get the satisfying sound of a typewriter and its really pretty. Live your life for the aesthetic and to take if one step further romanticize your life.
@@owlluvers4ever I'm not sure if you're done or if you still have some time left in your program but it's never too late to start doing those little things. And thank you I get to start student teaching this year so I'm really excited
My mom was a hoarder, and then when I ran away at 18 and became homeless for like 6 years, adjusting to NOT holding on to everything has been very hard. I never learned how to organize, and always wanted to hold onto things, especially essentials (or things I deem essential, anyways). It’s a journey, but I’m walking the path and slowly de cluttering corners of my house, and the progress, however small, is still active improvement. I may never have that sleek and modern look in my home, but i have goals that im getting closer to, so I can go to bed (with a small pile of clothes inevitably sitting at the foot of my bed) feeling good about myself.
Great list! Making my home cozy and “sanctuary “ has been a big game changer. My cat also helps me stay on track because she has a schedule and of course taking naps with a purring cat is so healing. Love the pups! Animals really make life awesome!
Yes! I totally practiced habit #2 today; I had a pile of old painting rags that were sentimental to me. They reminded me of the decade long journey I have been on with painting, but they have become unusable and stiff (and maybe a little stinky with old turp). I kept them around because they reminded me of how hard I’ve worked and how many paintings I’ve made to get here. I decided it was time to clear them out of my studio so I took some pictures of them and sent them to the bin. I can personally confirm this is great advice. 👏🏻
Habit 1 is my mother's natural mode of functioning and she's the nicest person ever. About time I do it too. Thank you for these unique takes on self improvement. Your videos are incredibly cool
I have severe anxiety issues coupled with depression and I've slowly gathered some tools (over the years) to make it easier on myself when the anxiety takes hold and panic attacks are a thing. Seriously, not being in control of your body's reaction but fully aware mentally that it's not a big deal this thing you're hyperventilating about? Not fun! The "how is this the best thing that happened to me" I watched in one of your other videos (one of which helped me to start journaling) and it has literally changed my life. It's like learning a new tool to hack your own brain and it's like magic. And writing it down helps me to go back to it later! I never thought of it before, so thank you so much for sharing!! Your channel is crazy inspirational for me!
There's an interesting point about that first habit, when you always give the guest the better plate, this can also come back to viewing yourself as having low self worth. It's a similar reason people take better care of their family and pets than they do themselves, because they believe they don't deserve to be taken care of. People often "forget" to take their own medication, but this is very rare for those same people's pets. I'm not saying this is a bad habit that will destroy your self image, because I totally see the benefits of it, but I can also see how it relates to the unhealthy habit of viewing yourself as not deserving as good a treatment as everyone else.
Agree! I actually had to teach myself to give myself a nicer plate for the reason you mention - I was having a very low self worth. So my habbit would be the opposite - take care of my own needs before anything else.
I totally agree! I struggled a lot with low confidence and self-worth, and I give my all to my loved ones while at the same time believing that I am unworthy of the same treatment. I understand how that tip would be helpful for some people, but it wouldn't work for me personally.
I was thinking this! When I make food I make sure everyone gets the hour food first. Of course by the time I get to eat, my French Toast is always cold. I've started taking myself into having the first piece; I'm making it, and I deserve to have it hot, even if it is standing in front of the oven like a troll 😂
I also have a "stupid" but efficient unconventional habit, it's become a kind of quick meditation fix for my anxious, rumaging self : I learned that trick from a video on youtube and it's just nuts. I think it was about treating PTSD in unconventional ways without re-living the trauma. I'll try to paraphrase it accurately: What helps humans put things past them is most often a walk, a very long walk. But it has almost nothing to do with the fact that you are walking! It works because when you walk outside, you look left and right to gaze at your environment because you need to be in the present moment, in case anything happens in your surroundings. Our basic human programming, in short. Researchers have proven that, while being still, if you move only your eyes sideways, you can trick your brain into believing you are walking. So when you're hit with unpleasant thoughts, anxiety attacks, or PTSD flashbacks, you can just do that : sit still, but move only your eyes around. A few minutes do the trick! It's personaly been a game changer :) and I hope it helps out more people!
One of my biggest ones has been watching your “questions that changed my life” video on a regular basis and journaling on them on a regular basis. Really puts stuff into perspective and helps cover bases with the responsibility bit.
Funny you said "how can I make this the best thing that's ever happened to me?" Quite a few years ago I got sent to prison, for the 2nd time.... and I was thinking about my potential future. And I eventually asked myself this exact question. While I was locked up I took as many classes and courses as possible, volunteered for things, became a TA....and now my life is way better and I'm building my dreams instead of trying to steal them.
I love the decluttering idea with pictures! It never crossed my mind to do that but now I'm super motivated for the attic cleanup what I've been procrastinated for sooo long ☺ Thank you!
My new habit for the year is to draw a bird a day, to improve my wildlife drawing skills. That is how I found this channel! It was the video called "the drawing advice that changed my life" Classic video!! 😊
I love the way you say, when creating the to-do lists, what is the bare minimum I need to get done "in order to not create stress for future me"? I've heard so many people talk about creating a bare minimum to-do list but I always felt like even if I'd complete them I still hadn't accomplished anything. In pondering the way you frame this list, it makes me think, ok, if I want to ensure I'm not creating stress for future me, first I need to identify what stresses future me out the most. Turns out that is financial and health issues, not whether or not I've dusted the counters or scrubbed the sink. So if I only have an hour today to do something to make life less stressful for future me, I should use it to pick up an extra hour at work or go for a walk and get some exercise. Excellent video, as always!
Number 8 is top with me. I automatically do this habit. I had breast cancer and a mastectomy last fall. This March I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. Surgery next month. Last week my mom fell and broke both shoulders. My sister and I have been at the hospital around the clock being her arms for EVERYTHING. In each case I default to how is this the best thing that’s ever happened? My mom’s fall told me that my mom and sister were not supposed to go on their planned trip out of state this week. Her fall could have prevented a catastrophic car accident. Both cancers made me look inward on what I really want to do with my life. Your last habit with neuroplasticity made me do a happy dance!! I love your channel. You make a HUGE difference!!
Your videos have been a big blessing for me and one of my friends. You're realistic and know that people have limits and help us to be better and feel better. Thank you so much for help me change my life. I'm just a 18 (almost 19) yo who wants to get her life back on track and you've been a huge inspiration for that. Keep doing these videos cause they are amazing!
My weird "habit": I set my digital time 2 hours later than the actual time. this had helped me fix my sleep schedule tremendously! Also made me more aware of time. :P I absolutely love the two to-do lists habit! I'm gonna give it a try as well since I procrastinate a lot yet I act like I don't whenever I make to-do lists, which ends up in me not completing the list and feeling guilty. 😅 Love your creativity and humor in your videos, please do make more coz it feels nice and cool to watch your vid while drawing :))
@@mikkel3912 I think she means setting the time on her devices to two hours later than the actual time, so if its actually 8pm then her computer/phone shows that it's 10pm
I'm a biologist and I'm blown away by the genius with the cold shower idea. You're boosting your immune system, you're training to think while under stress, you're also practicing discipline, you're boosting your dopamine levels AND conditioning yourself in experiencing gratitude... all just by fucking showering. This is so simple but ticks off so many boxes. I'm impressed and will take this page out of your book, thank you!
One small hack I... uh... know of, but followed for a short time is this: when you have something bigger to do, and just aren't feeling of doing it, ask yourself what's the smallest thing you can do for it. And then do the smallest thing - it's like one small step up the staircase. And then you might feel more like doing it. If not, ask what's another small step to take.
Every time I shower after work, I speak aloud how grateful I am for showers. And then that slowly slips into every day life, speaking gratitude for little things. And I've felt much better for doing it.
The idea of photographing something before you throw it out seems to be really powerful. I struggle to declutter things as I get emotionally attached to them, but I know that I don't use them anymore. Perhaps, this is what I need to finally take better control over this in my life.
this is maybe the third video of yours I have watched and I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for your content. I'm currently trying to change my habits and get sober from multiple crutches and your content is really helping me find some clarity. Thanks!
Awesome video. Love the 2 to-do lists idea! My similar hack: in photography, it’s common to dump you entire memory card on the computer, but you typically only end up using a small % of the photos while all the blurry/bad/test shots clutter your hard drive. I go through each photo one by one ON IMPORT, so I know each shot that makes it onto my computer is halfway decent. This uses less computer resources and keeps my photos more organized. In everyday life you can ask yourself, “where am I dealing with waste?” And then, “what would it look like if it were easy?” to come up with a solution. For example, when you check your mailbox, probably only a small % of letters are important; most are junk. Instead of bringing the whole stack in and letting it sit on your kitchen table for a few days, perhaps you have a recycling bin near your mailbox and only bring any important mail into the house. Separately, I recently started folding clothes like Marie Kondo and it’s amazing how much space you get back!
I definitely want to start making the 2 to-do lists and I’m gonna start today. I remember watching a video where you introduced the method but I didn’t think I needed it. Now I do 🙈 thank you for the videos you put out, I always look forward to watching them. Your content makes me feel like I can tackle this massive thing called life. Lots of love!
I've been doing the cold shower and gratitude combo and I love it. best way to wake up and start the day and the gratitude takes your mind off the cold and makes it even easier. I also like to give boring tasks a little of my own flavour by creating my own methods or patterns and pairing it with something I enjoy eg washing the dishes with listening to music/audiobook or vacuuming in sections, hanging out washing while listening to a podcast, creating a game like how fast can I complete this. I find this makes boring tasks easier and more enjoyable to do!
This video is gold for so many reasons. I laughed, I learned and I was called out. I’ve never been called out on the fact that I give my husband the less appealing plate of dinner every damn day. My god I’m a horrible person. I’ll change that one starting tonight. Lol Loved the video! Thank you!
Right!😂 I laughed so hard , got convicted, felt attacked😂😂, felt understood🥲, and learnt a lot🤗. I just hope I can be consistent with the changes I need to make . Great video, great content! ☆☆
Going out with my dog helps me a lot, I stay more time outside, away from any digital distraction (because I don't take phone with me), I make more phisical activity, and it's just relaxing and gives a lot of positive energy to passing time and bonding with your animal
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
My brain is metaphorically exploding!!!! Take a picture of items that ONLY hold sentimental value and then throw it away!?!?! Seriously!?!? MIND BLOWN. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! I love your content by the way!
Hey, loved this video, mixing some conventional and unconventional habits. I am with you on the serving the best 🥘 meal to the other person habit, helps me to remember to put others first. The 2 minutes rule for me has been a game changer for me too. To Do list wise I stick with one idea list and just highlight the one most critical thing that needs to happen in that day, I had too much still on my minimum to do list 😞. The don’t missed things twice in a row habit has been good for me, especially with exercise 🏃♂️related habits. Thanks again for making this, I too have been focusing on habits in my videos recently, it is a game changing topic for many.
this relates to triggering positive reactions in negative situations.. I used to freak out every month that I was pregnant (irrationally) and pray that I got my period. Every month I would be so happy that I got my period that I began to associate period cramps with joy and now I almost enjoy the pain (weird, I know but it’s great).
- dividing my day into 4 periods: morning (me time) -> pre work (admin small work jobs, or study) -> work (I’m a music producer, so this is my studio time) -> night / come down (basically unwinding the day with healthy personal activities or jobs like groceries etc). This has helped massively cos now when it’s the morning / me time, I’m way more present, cos I know that It’s not the time to think or do work stuff, so my stress levels have been way chiller. And I feel super fresh and have way more energy during those serious work hours when that window comes around. Great video as always king x
I've got one! I know listening to music in the shower is not a new concept but dancing in the shower changed my mornings and therefore my life! I had a hell of a time though 2021 (who didn't?) and in an attempt to relieve my suffering, I created a morning playlist to get me out of bed and towards my coffee. One day the playlist followed me into the shower, and gradually the tunes became more upbeat, until now my shower time is like a one man rave (my poor neighbours). I know this habit would stress some people out, but moving my body to music I love improves my mood and sets a 'spring in your step' tone for my days. I leave the house stoked. Congrats on your nomination! Well deserved!
I recently starting doing one of the habits, so far it's working. I deleted Instagram from my phone. It's only been a week, but I've been focusing more on painting and loving my art instead of stressing over likes and followers. Instagram and social media are scarily addicting. I'm gonna try some of the other tips you mentioned, great videos as always! ❤❤❤
I’m not quite at the level of dogs and going outside, but cats really help me a lot. They remind me to take a break to breathe and use all my senses to feel how soft they are, look how cute they are, listen to their purring, and they usually smell like warm grass and sunshine, so I get a little visit from the outdoors.
Another great video, Mr. Struthless ;0) My version of the Gratitude Shower isn't cold water--it's that we have any water at all! Seriously, we open a tap and water comes out AND we can control the temperature AND the dirty water disappears down the drain. HOW AMAZING IS THAT?!! The habit of noticing really changed my life. Cheers to you and all your courageous viewers
I’m chronically ill and it’s taken me 10 years to finally start treating everyday as it’s own experience. Some days I am bed bound, and other days I can go on long hikes, so for me personally it’s not worth harping on how productive I was “supposed to be” based on the plans I made yesterday. Sometimes shit happens and plans need rescheduling, it’s not the end of the world. And to expand on the Two Lists thing; I’ve recently been making my “ideal day” to-do list before bed, and my “realistic day” to-do list after I’ve been awake for a bit the next morning, it’s really nice. At first I was overcome with guilt, but now I just notice more self compassion and funny enough a more efficient execution of traditional productivity. This video was fantastic
always a real pleasure when there's a new struthless video. "How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me?" really just changed the whole story of my last two weeks
I'm with you on the relaxing music and incense vibes. I do it every day while I'm working... Helps me stay calm and more focused. Its like a little hug! 😊👍🏼✌🏽
That first step I was taught as a child. It's what I used to tell anyone who called me a good person. "You're such a good person. You are giving and helping your friends, " but I say "because it makes me feel good."
I do and/or did a lot of healthy habits already. But even if I don't need your advice, being reminded to take care of myself and seeing how others take care of themselves is always good. I don't think you can ever get enough opinions on what works for people's emotional workouts.
I've been slowly moving into the two to-do lists---I found it extremely helpful to write down every single things I needed to do, but then when I actually looked at the list to get things done it would constantly overwhelm me to the point where I did nothing. I'm chronically ill so most of my days aren't filled with enough energy to get things done, so if I only have that one giant list I end up doing nothing. having two lists, one small do-or-die and one large everything-for-the-forseeable-future, has been working a lot better.
I used to, and sometimes still do, struggle with productivity. I found that giving each day only one productive task that you have to do helps. It’s just one thing that puts you into work mode and anything else is a bonus :)
Love love love your perspective on life and how you go beyond what we hear dozens of times about self care and how to practice it. Thanks for all your hard work!
Great list! One habit that changed my life was learning to give everything a home as close to it's point of use as possible (there is a reason coat closets are near the front door) and putting things back as soon as I was done with them.
Thanks so much for this, Cam. It has reinforced some ideas and brought new ones to work on. A year ago my wife passed away, and a month ago our dog too. My life has changed completely and I struggle to find purpose while distracting myself with work and materialism. I know I’m in a very dark place, but at least I’m aware and slowly dragging out of it. Your words have helped me on this. Thank you 🙏.
That’s so cool to hear Pablo, hope your continually working on yourself and using the two minute rule as that was the habit that most resonated with me. If your not, consider this reply as a reminder to start back up again. You got this man 🙏
I started setting a ridiculously small and easy goal every day. I go through the trouble of writing it down and putting a box next to it, so whenever I do whatever the goal is, I get the piece of paper and put a checkmark. The magnitude or difficulty of the goal is irrelevant to the brain, but you're training it to set a goal and getting used to being able to achieve it. Feels awesome and it's helped me reach many otherwise viewed as difficult goals in my business and personal life.
There's still a lot of things I need to do on the conventional list to improve myself but I was pleasantly surprised to see I already do the first one on this unconventional list. I'm the cook in my household. I like doing it and I'm the more picky eater, but I always offer my sister either first scoops out of the pot or best plate. Because cooking and feeding my love ones good food does give me joy.
thanks for sharing cam :) here are some of mine: - say and do what you want to, that better than regretting not saying or doing it - always have good goodbyes to your friends and family -- you never know if you'll ever see them again - if you're every uncomfortable, particularly in a social setting, ask yourself 'what would I do if I were alone?" and follow that (you're doing what you'd like to, not what you should based on other people) - take a breather and some stretches every once in a while
Love the cold showers concept. Also, as obvious as this might seem to some, the idea of separating home life from busy work life is the perfect way to find your sanctuary. WFH types like myself are itching to find that balance...harder than you think.
Dude! Literally all of these things resonate with me, I thought I was the only one who saw them in their life… I was just explaining to a friend about what love meant to me, and I said it’s being totally happy with eating the soggy fries so your loved ones could have the crispy ones; and I cook for my friends all the time! My apartment feels like you’re at the spa, and if the weather is nice, I’m outside as much as possible. Great stuff, thanks!
Ahh, great video. I Was struggling with depression , hating myself for being complacent due to depression and personal issues, felt like being the shell of the overachiever,joyful person i used to be. Started hating on myself for gaining weight, started concentrating on all my imperfections. I started doing these things that really helped 1)smile at myself in the mirror n blow myself a kiss. Felt stupid,negative and downright moronic at start, but slowly i started feeling prettier and the positive thought just made me feel prettier, n even be prettier(I believe in loa) 2) when faced with a situation with people involved, i wud ask myself what step i take now, will make me feel like a better person, n i do it. Helps me not let my desires gratification stop me from making the better decision 3) i learnt to forgive myself for my mistakes. 4) strive for better , not perfect
you are the ONLY productivity channel that has EVER resonated with me and i’ve been consuming this type of content for nearly a decade. you are an utter inspiration. thank you for existing.
Love this, thanks! Although if there's anyone with an ADHD brain around, you know the 2 minute rule isn't for us 😅 If I did this I would continuously change from one unfinished task to another because my capacity of sticking with what I'm doing without getting attacked by 4 or 5 visual reminders of other tasks is the reason I'm watching this kind of content
Same here, it is kinda bad advice for Adhd, I actually do the opposite. Take a task that seems big and get that out of the way. Literally as first thing I do
I have ADHD and it's life changing for me but I've done it my whole life, if I start slacking on the 2 min rule my life falls apart. It only applies to chores tho not yt vids. Honestly watch his whole vid on it, the basic principle is if it only takes 2 mins now then if you don't do it the next time you see it it will take 2mins + the time to remember the thing again + the time to build up the momentum to get up and do the thing + all the other things that have built up (20 dishes instead fo one). I do 30 sec rule though not 2 mins.
2 minute example. Looking at the "needs to be folded pile on the dryer and in the dryer", noticed hanging rack needed to be a bit higher. I thought, "I can do that in 2 minutes". Grabbed my drill, got it done, felt good, and I nearly emptied the laundry basket before I needed to move on with the rest of my day. I'm now getting ready to share this with multiple people I feel will also benefit from your messages. Thank you!
I just finished your book last night! I love that I found your channel - it’s been very inspiring ❤️ you’ve really put things in perspective and I’m starting to journal with intention so thank you for that (and maybe more books in the future???🤞🏼)
For finding work life balance while working from home, I use different light bulbs to help differentiate ‘work time’ and ‘creative time/rest etc’. I use white light bulbs in my office for work time, and warm orange light bulbs everywhere else
Dude. Thank you. I used to have some of these same habits before I went down a slippery sloping spiral of despair, drug abuse, dependency and self degradation, (wow, look at that alliteration, whew!) and your videos are helping to reframe my inner dialogue and get back to a bit more self love and self discipline! Oh and, it made me feel good because even at my worst, I still served others the prettier dish! Silly but a kind reminder of my better qualities. Keep the videos coming, I feel that you are helping soooo many people through the struggle right now, because, holy shit man, the struggle is SO REAL! Also overcomable! I don't care if thats not a word, using it anyway. Thanks man. Stay motivated. Its motivating!!!
you're awesome. i do a lot of your things. one weird one for me is that when i experience physical pain from an accident, i yell out yes and go accepting and deep into the minor pain. has resonated through different areas of my life. also dancing to music that i hate has done wonders.
Habit 1 but you’re a woman and therefore have been conditioned your entire life to never put yourself first hence you always serve people better plate but now it’s time to reclaim your worth and value so you’re no longer giving the best part, YOU PROUDLY TAKE IT 👁👄👁
Interesting. As a male, i was apparently taught so early in life to put myself LAST, after all females, all relatives, all friends. It's ingrained so deep that it has been automatic, with even a thought of what I want to do, creating guilt on a scale you CANNOT imagine.
Men are conditioned to go last in much worse situations, if theres theres ever a fire/shooting etc its 'woman and children' saved first and even if we do make it out alive were probs gonna have to run back in to help or sum shit lmaoo
Kristen Cooney 1 second ago “How is this the best thing that’s ever happened to me?” is the best thing I learned from all of the videos I’ve watched from you so far. I’m a new subscriber and I’ve probably watched about five or six of your video so far and all of them have been very helpful and very good. But this one really made me dig deep when I heard that question and I absolutely love the idea of reframing and think it’s so powerful. Thank you and keep creating content!
I LOVE the idea of writing two lists. I will definitely start doing that. Already try to implement the two minute rule. It really does make a difference.
Motivational Channels usually all seem the same to me- I just started watching your videos and man you give some attainable, solid advice. It's not the typical, "just believe in yourself!", but actual steps causing you to believe in yourself more. Thanks a lot man, and I wish you the best in life
I just found your channel today after struggling with one homework question for a long time. I have never been able to build good routines or habits, but after watching just 3 of your videos you have given me so many tips and links to other helpful information. Thank you for being so helpful and organized. Crying over python code was the best thing that happened to me.
We have colored lights everywhere. Having a soft teal or purple glow in the house at night blocks away most things in the house in a soft glow and not only causes less stress but more focus on whatever it is you’re currently doing
I always tell people that my home is my safe space. I also wear loose baggy clothing, light incense and candles and listen to loft sort of music. so nice and relaxing.
The single biggest impact daily habit in my life has been to do something nice for Future Me. It can be something big (ticking another to do list item off a day or two early), it can be something small (setting out the supplies I need for the next day's work), it can be tailored to however much energy I have at the time and I always find it easy to do because I want Future Me to have a nice tomorrow. Framing it as a favour to "someone else" seems to be the magic ingredient. You start looking for ways to be nice to yourself, which is v wholesome 10/10 do recommend
Thank you for sharing !! I always think about future me as the futur in some years I didnt realise it could be future me tomorrow
Wow i love this, im gonna try to implement this ! Thanks for sharing ❤️
I think I should try this because I'm usually horrible to myself when it comes to defining to do lists. It feels like this exercise could help me learn to balance it out
This is how I got through my first degree and hopefully how I’ll get through my second one (uhg while working full time - hard days, Future Me better appreciate it)
That is such a nice way of living. To prepare yourself such sweet things just to have an easier life. I never thought of it that way and you said it in such a lovely way that it inspired me. Thank you so much☺ and have a nice day
Recently my rule has been: don’t go to bed with dishes in the sink.
It’s small. Typically takes 5 minutes to do. And the joy of waking up in the morning with an empty sink is just so wonderful. 10/10
Definitely. I hate waking up to a sink of dirty dishes. Not a good way to start the day!
@@GingeRenee I wonder if that's a personality trait. I couldn't care less, there could be a Leaning Tower Of Dishes in the sink and it makes no difference if I clean it up at 0800 hours or 2000 hours. 🤔
I do this to, it makes me feel organized and it's so nice to have a tidy kitchen when I wake up in the morning to make my coffee, it puts me in a good mood
A tidy kitchen goes with a tidy mind. Before going to work I like to get all the daily life chores done. Because everything is already tidy and minimalist it takes no more than 15 minutes.
same, i now leave them on the table
My go to weird habit that I've always done is to do at least one bizarre thing a day physically. Could be making some weird noises, could be getting into a character, could just be contorting my body and walking around like a gremlin.
It's been the cornerstone of my happiness, It keeps me in touch with my inner child, It helps me not take myself to seriously, and its like a micro-drum circle for my spirit once a day.
The biggest bonus is that once you get good at It, you can use It to make other people laugh and smile. It helps other people let their guard down and grow closer to you because they're never worried about whether you think you are too cool for them or that they have to act carefully so that you won't judge them.
It's only grown more important to me as the pressures of adult hood threaten to eliminate my sense of humor and awareness that I'm just a goofy hairless bi-pedal creature.
i love this one. definetly gonna try
Hey, found one of my kind here.
I really gel with this one!
This sounds amazing! 😁
You sound like an awesome friend! I’ll remember this comment, I think reminding myself of my inner child is something so important
Love these, a habit I started after noticing I usually looked at myself in mirrors with a straight, neutral or even judgmental face, was to smile at myself when I saw me, as I would naturally do to a friend or someone I love, especially in the morning. It reinforced the idea that I was, in fact, someone I love! Such a small shift, but made a big difference
Ooo I love this!
I love playing with expressions in the mirror! Think of different exaggerated scenarios and try different expressions for them, like small smile/curious look/confused look/astonished look, etc. Then you see your face in its range of emotions!
Awesome. I learned that from Mel Robbins add the high five myself in the mirror
I only look in the mirror when brushing my teeth or flattening my hair.
I started complimenting myself when I see myself in a reflection, and honestly, my self-confidence has skyrocketed!
Before doing habits that generally aren't 'fun' while you're doing them (think exercise, doing the dishes, leaving for work, etc.), I use to focus on and visualize the discomfort or pain associated with that task - "this workout is going to be so tiring", "my hands are gonna get gross when I touch the food on my dishes", "work is going to be so boring today".
Instead, I've started to focus on the positives associated with those tasks, and visualize the soon to be harvested fruits of my labour - "I'm gonna be so strong if I continue my workout routine", "I love it when my kitchen is clean", "Can't wait to see Harold at work today, that dudes a gem".
By focusing on the positives around the tasks I generally viewed as difficult or uncomfortable, I started to change my mindset about starting those tasks. All of a sudden, I was getting dopamine hits from the anticipation of these tasks as I visualized the beneficial and desired outcomes of my efforts!
No longer was I thinking, "I HAVE to do this task", but rather, "I GET to do this task".
Sometimes all it takes is a shift in perspective to make things more enjoyable :)
love this ! 😁
Nice, really. I’m in the mindset of “I have to” right now and always heard about the “think about how you GET to” but they never tell you how to get there. I can’t just say “I GET to” five times and bam, it’s embedded in my mind. So thanks for this I’m going to try it because I do dread task just like that. Thank you thank you thank you!
Thank you. I love comments. Many a times, someone in some corner of the world reaches out to me through the comments and helps me feel less weird.
THIS video is EXACTLY why I love your content so much.
The way you bring a candid and unconventional approach to trite, cliche topics is so refreshing in this oversaturated self-help space, forever a fan of what you do :)
Well said!
They are great habits except for the incense. This is nearly as bad as smoking. When you're burning incense, you're breathing smoke. Plus you don't really know what's in the incense. There is no strict regulation of the incense industry, and some of them contain all kinds of weird stuff. Carcinogenic.
THE FIRST TIP IS SOMETHING IVE DONE FOREVER. I feel so happy giving someone that secret unconscious happiness of having the bigger, yummier and more quality plate of food.
Me too!!!!
I've always done the opposite and realise I must be a terrible selfish person 😬
@@chilli-iceolive-abode2447 you certainly are not terrible! It makes sense that if you work hard to make something, you want the best one. Nothing wrong with that.
You know, this is weird. I always gave the people around me the better stuff. Then I got greedy, because they were always getting the best and the most, and I realized I was putting myself too far back in the line. Now? I let people do it for themselves. (Doesn't apply when cooking for guests, of course.)
@@kmscheid3303 Same!! Growing up with a younger sibling I was always taught to give others the 'better' portion but over time I noticed that they were not really reciprocating and kind of took it for granted.... as they were the youngest. This video reminded me to give more again (and maybe help teach my sis a lil awareness and gratitude so I don't get resentful hahaha)
random but good habits:
1) you're not finished an activity until you've tidied up
2) stand up your sponge and hang your dishcloth up
3) having 'mini rituals' for everyday tasks reduces cognitive load. do things in the same order each time (eg. night routine, shower routine, cooking routine, work routine, etc.)
4) have a list of people to keep in touch with so you don't forget anyone. specify an appropriate frequency to contact each person.
5) keep splitting a task into smaller tasks until the first one feels manageable, even if it wouldn't conventionally be seen as a task, eg. check calendar, or get vacuum cleaner.
6) make good use of your freezer
7)if you don't want to do something, journal about it to figure out what is stopping you
8) when making a financial decision, always run the numbers for your individual situation. no general guide will ever be perfect for your situation. eg. should I buy or rent a tool?
9)... but don't automatically feel bad for buying stuff. it might save you money overall, or it might save you time and time is money
Good advice!
> but don't automatically feel bad for buying stuff
Do people actually feel bad for buying their own tools? At the very least it's much SAFER than renting. You can break it, fix it, modify it etc as much as you want and don't have to care about any payments, rules, the company you rented from going bankrupt etc.
In the case of "intellectual property" like software you'll also have to care about getting your service cancelled for no reason. It became VERY common in the past seven years. It literally gives another company full control over your work.
i definetly started doing the "how is the best thing that has ever happened to me" one. last year i had to drop out of my master's degree because of my mental health and i ended up volunteering in poland, i gained experience and now im back to my master's and today i finished my internship, something that a year ago seemed impossible to do
Congratulations! What a great reframing story :)
In other words, you are killing it! Congrats!
definitely* 😷
Congrats!! Yeah masters can be a doozy on mental health hey
My biggest habit (that is more of a motto that i continue to remind myself) is: Doing some of it is better than doing none of it. It helped through the biggest bouts of my depression, and when I don't feel like doing anything-even in regards to the 2 minute rule (which i try to live by) it motivates me enough
Yo, I needed this
Earlier in my life I heard of the 5 seconds rule. It’s really useful for someone who suffers from mental health issues! It consists in when you have something to do you either count in your head or with a chronometer 5 seconds of doing it, because once you have started you’ll usually want to do it fully. This one thing has really helped me a lot when I was healing from several mental illnesses
Love this answer something I dint see before in my life
When I was going through a rough patch I'd start my day either journaling or thinking of the answer to "What am I afraid of today?" Then I'd find myself debunking all my irrational fears and start my day a bit more centred and in control. When the fears would show up again through the day, I had already figured out their cause and their solution in the morning so it reduced stress. Hope this may help anyone!
That's a badass practice right there.
I love this
Brilliant! This is fabulous
Reminds me of the book Stop Worrying and Start Living by Carnegie. Similar idea if you get a chance to check it out! 😊
I do the same sort of thing if I feel uneasy or something is bothering me; I'll stop and dissect what my uneasy feeling is about. Just the act of dissecting will usually make the source of the fear or uneasiness go away. I have a visual; in biology class we had to dissect a large earth worm. Just The act of dissecting made it disappear into a wet spot. That worm is my visual for cutting up my uneasy fearful thoughts. They just disappear when dissected. Or at least I'll find the real issue that is bothering me and say "oh is that all?"
I just wanted to pop in and say thank you. I lost my husband two months ago, after a two and a half year battle with cancer. It wasn't something we were prepared for, we had thought he had more time but his cancer had other plans. Now I am taking care of our two special needs boys, the oldest of whom is disabled, all on my own. I've been sinking into a pit of despair and depression under the pressure/ chaos and finding it increasingly difficult to hold true to promises I made my husband. Promises to stop procrastinating my dreams and to start creating art again. To stop being afraid to fail and to live. Then I found the video you made about finishing projects. And every day, sometimes a few times a day, I would find another video in your list and lights started coming on in my heart and mind. In the last week, through your tricks and content, I've been adapting ways to combat and quiet my anxiety and claw my way out of this pit. I've had breakthroughs that I have been struggling to made for years and it's due to the perspective you offer on your channel and the unique delivery method. So, thank you! I appreciate your content and look forward to seeing more. As for this video, I will be starting the gratitude showers, the two to do lists, the photographing sentimental items and the how is this the best thing to happen to me habits. My house is usually filled with music of one form or the other, as well as candles. I love cedar wick candles. They are wonderful. I've been doing the better plate to the guest for quite a while and love it. And live off the two minute rule, sometimes it's the only way I get anything done. Again, thank you so much for your content! You're awesome!
0:25 give the guest the better plate
1:30 photograph sentimental things before throwing them away
3:08 cold showers as a gratitude trigger
4:14 incense and whale noise
5:06 write two to-do lists for the same set of tasks (The ideal list and the bare minimum list)
6:22 the two minute rule (if something takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. Otherwise, schedule it)
7:26 hangin' out with your dogs
8:53 how is this the best thing that has ever happened to you?
Thanks for the list!
Thank you for the time stamps. I often revisit Struthless' videos, so these time stamps help me rewatch the points that resonated with me the most.
@@sophierobinson2738 The friend who recommended this to me said, not FREEZING cold - unless you like that. Just a LITTLE cooler than normal. That's about my speed, and I don't always do it. But I'm going to start doing the gratitude part when I do.
For us impatient human beings. Still worth the watch though, I like his swagger.
@beep boop it is now.
It wasn't at the time of the comment...
My favorite habit is Art Before Dishes. What it means is that I put art first in my day (after breakfast). Art is big, endless and scary, but I have to work on it in some way for some amount of time, before any other task list thing that is easy to accomplish, easy to tick off as complete and requires no fighting resistance. I can do the dishes with my 3pm brain, but my bright 9am brain is sacred and must face the art. Though I'm not sure if this is compatible with the 2 min rule and the minimum requirement, it helps me feel like I'm always working on the big dream. No one gets a prize for a tidy home.
Oh my gosh I need this one! Thank you!
Marie Condo certainly do sorry
No one gets a prize for a tidy home.
That"s my same thought on the matter.
@@lillyfaiscabrerletmax9875 *Kondo
I mean sure, and I do the same, but who said you had to "get a prize" in order for something to be a priority?
I do the 2 minute rule. It really does help with clutter and anxiety.
Also, as you walk around your house, add the habit of looking for things that need to go to the same room in which you are headed, like a cup or blanket.
I do that too. Having worked in hospitality I had it drilled into me to 'never leave empty handed', so I always grab something that needs going somewhere else. I actually take the stuff up that I put on the stairs, too. ;)
Some of the habits that have helped me:
1. Picking out my clothes the night before and setting out my gym clothes.
2. Listening to audiobooks in the car.
3. Journaling during my lunch break.
4. Doing air squats whenever I'm waiting for something in the microwave or pushups during TV commercials.
5. Only snacking on fruit or nuts.
6. No caffeine or high carbs after lunch.
7. Celebrating/acknowledging little victories (after a workout, when I say no to sweets, etc.)
8. Reading or writing for 30 minutes before bedtime. (No electronics)
9. Feeding the nurturing voice in my head and starving my inner critic. (Counseling myself, outsmarting my inner critic)
Thanks everyone for watching and for your lovely comments!! Genuinely love reading them.
(Edited to remove the vote link: thanks everyone who voted for my book!!)
Since it takes less than two minutes, I guess I'm doing it 🤷
@@matigmatig lol
Yeah, I just did it, it really takes two minutes
Done
Just did it, but I'll admit I had to vote for "The Backyard Adventurer" by Beau Miles too. You both make such great content. He brings us on his journey of discovery and you share your wisdom more directly. Thanks Cam (and prepaid editor) for another great video!
I divide my to do list in three parts: "Appointments" (for everything that needs to happen at a fixed time, whether it is a video conference, a medical appointment or meeting a friend), "to do" and "want to do". I started the "want to do" list because I realized that I focus too much on what I have to do and too little on what I actually want to spend my time with. "want to do" is for everything from doing a small step towards a longterm goal, spending time on a hobby project, scheduling an hour to read a book I enjoy or going for a walk, or doing one of those tasks that otherwise get pushed to the bottom of the to do list because they are not urgent.
When depression hits really hard, I put a few ridiculoulsy little tasks on my to do list that even the most depressed version of me can accomplish, like "go outside for 10 minutes", "take a shower" or "cut fingernails". It feels really good and gives me a sense of having accomplished something when I tick off an item of my to do list - even if it's just cutting my fingernails or taking a shower. Plus, it keeps me from procrastinating on these things, which I often do when I'm really deep down in depression.
this is such a good idea and i will be trying this, thank you! sometimes things i want to improve (like running, learning the drums etc) are listed as a to do and that just takes the fun away a bit. this will definitely be better :)
Here's my habit: Every night when I get in bed with my husband and we're just lying there talking before we go to sleep, I think about how there is nothing else I'd rather be doing and nowhere else I'd rather be. That habit has triggered me to acknowledge that same feeling when it happens in other situations, and I'm surprised how often it crops up. Having a great laugh with a friend, eating something super delicious, even being there to comfort someone I love when they're hurting. It has made me appreciate the day-to-day magic of gratitude.
A habit that helps me a lot is that I write everything I want to do in a day on my to-do list, not just the work-related or tedious tasks. By also writing fun things on it, the to-do list isn’t this awful, hard thing weighing me down anymore but just a neutral list of stuff I wanna do
Over 2020 and 2021 this channel became one of my favorites. So proud and stoked that your book and animation studio are popping off.
Hell yeah.
Honestly refreshing to see someone get straight to the point no clickbait
I love this channel, it's obvious this is lived advice and not something everyone learns from reading a mass market self-help book
First of all, thank you !
Another habit I have, and have enforced in this video, is:
The moment I learn something new, I try to explain it out loud as if I'm doing so for somebody who knows nothing about it, also, writing it down as well also helps.
Doing that forces you to think about the information, and also often reveals what piece of the puzzle you lack, making you an expert and much smarter.
I really like that. I want to learn like Everything, so that's a great way to actually retain what I discover. Thanks!
The 2-minute rule is like my 'just do 10 things' procrastination shifter: do the next thing that's to hand, like take a dirty plate to the kitchen, hang up a coat, take the rubbish out, etc... things that demand no problem-solving and can be accomplished fast. By the end of the 10 things, the wheels are starting to turn and some of the to-dos are done, making it easier to just continue. I've heard about another strategy for tackling a big chore, which involves just cleaning three metres around you. When that's done, you clean the next three metres and so it goes on until the house is clean. Congratulations on getting so far in the Booktopia competition! I bought your book the other day, actually, so it was nice to be able vote for it.
Great idea to do 10 things to beat procrastination. I appreciate how quick and simple the things are - much inspired!
thanks for this! i've never heard "just do 10 things", i've heard "just do 10 minutes" of something, but even something as simple as that has never worked for me. 10 things is much more appealing -- i might not have the energy to focus right away, but i can get those 10 little things done and start to build momentum
@@natebates Absolutely!
Great list. Similar to the two minute rule I have a "if you touch it now you have to put it away" e.g. the amount of times I was moving my jacket from one chair to the table then to the bench, then to another chair instead of just hanging it up. Or random pile of pens and paper clips around the house instead of just putting it in the stationary drawer. Helps with kids too! Once you touch it, you gotta move it to where it belongs! Takes less than 30 seconds 90% of the time !
Definitely do habit #4, I've recently left my job and am home all the time with my partner and he constantly cracks "how do you not fall asleep", but he never suggests turning off the chill lofi and putting the scented candles out. I think he secretly appreciates the Zen chill space I'm building 😊
One of my weird habits as a non-traditional university student (I took 4 gap years and I'm in my second year at 25) is buy the cute/cool thing regardless of price. My best examples are drinking water and writing papers. For drinking more water, get the pretty water bottle, put stickers on it, etc. You are more likely to use it and actually stay hydrated if you like looking at it. For writing papers, I bought myself a fancy pink (in hindsight I should have gotten blue but I was way to excited when I found the pink) typewriter style key board that lights up. So now when I am slaving away on assignments and papers and my own personal creative writing I get the satisfying sound of a typewriter and its really pretty. Live your life for the aesthetic and to take if one step further romanticize your life.
I usually write in purple ink because it looks pretty but it’s easy to see and I use pink for number or bullet points etc
@@owlluvers4ever I'm not sure if you're done or if you still have some time left in your program but it's never too late to start doing those little things. And thank you I get to start student teaching this year so I'm really excited
@@niamh8154 that's really smart I think I might start doing that as well
"Self-development" videos are here to remind of us what we already know and guilt us into doing those things.
This video... was genuinely helpful.
My mom was a hoarder, and then when I ran away at 18 and became homeless for like 6 years, adjusting to NOT holding on to everything has been very hard. I never learned how to organize, and always wanted to hold onto things, especially essentials (or things I deem essential, anyways). It’s a journey, but I’m walking the path and slowly de cluttering corners of my house, and the progress, however small, is still active improvement. I may never have that sleek and modern look in my home, but i have goals that im getting closer to, so I can go to bed (with a small pile of clothes inevitably sitting at the foot of my bed) feeling good about myself.
Great list! Making my home cozy and “sanctuary “ has been a big game changer. My cat also helps me stay on track because she has a schedule and of course taking naps with a purring cat is so healing. Love the pups! Animals really make life awesome!
Yes! I totally practiced habit #2 today; I had a pile of old painting rags that were sentimental to me. They reminded me of the decade long journey I have been on with painting, but they have become unusable and stiff (and maybe a little stinky with old turp). I kept them around because they reminded me of how hard I’ve worked and how many paintings I’ve made to get here. I decided it was time to clear them out of my studio so I took some pictures of them and sent them to the bin. I can personally confirm this is great advice. 👏🏻
Habit 1 is my mother's natural mode of functioning and she's the nicest person ever. About time I do it too. Thank you for these unique takes on self improvement. Your videos are incredibly cool
I have severe anxiety issues coupled with depression and I've slowly gathered some tools (over the years) to make it easier on myself when the anxiety takes hold and panic attacks are a thing. Seriously, not being in control of your body's reaction but fully aware mentally that it's not a big deal this thing you're hyperventilating about? Not fun! The "how is this the best thing that happened to me" I watched in one of your other videos (one of which helped me to start journaling) and it has literally changed my life. It's like learning a new tool to hack your own brain and it's like magic. And writing it down helps me to go back to it later! I never thought of it before, so thank you so much for sharing!! Your channel is crazy inspirational for me!
There's an interesting point about that first habit, when you always give the guest the better plate, this can also come back to viewing yourself as having low self worth.
It's a similar reason people take better care of their family and pets than they do themselves, because they believe they don't deserve to be taken care of.
People often "forget" to take their own medication, but this is very rare for those same people's pets.
I'm not saying this is a bad habit that will destroy your self image, because I totally see the benefits of it, but I can also see how it relates to the unhealthy habit of viewing yourself as not deserving as good a treatment as everyone else.
Agree! I actually had to teach myself to give myself a nicer plate for the reason you mention - I was having a very low self worth. So my habbit would be the opposite - take care of my own needs before anything else.
I already wondered why I did that since well....since I was born I guess.... but yeah makes sense now
I totally agree! I struggled a lot with low confidence and self-worth, and I give my all to my loved ones while at the same time believing that I am unworthy of the same treatment. I understand how that tip would be helpful for some people, but it wouldn't work for me personally.
I was thinking this! When I make food I make sure everyone gets the hour food first. Of course by the time I get to eat, my French Toast is always cold. I've started taking myself into having the first piece; I'm making it, and I deserve to have it hot, even if it is standing in front of the oven like a troll 😂
I actually thought about the same thing. It is a funny one, all about perspective ;D
I also have a "stupid" but efficient unconventional habit, it's become a kind of quick meditation fix for my anxious, rumaging self :
I learned that trick from a video on youtube and it's just nuts. I think it was about treating PTSD in unconventional ways without re-living the trauma. I'll try to paraphrase it accurately:
What helps humans put things past them is most often a walk, a very long walk. But it has almost nothing to do with the fact that you are walking! It works because when you walk outside, you look left and right to gaze at your environment because you need to be in the present moment, in case anything happens in your surroundings. Our basic human programming, in short.
Researchers have proven that, while being still, if you move only your eyes sideways, you can trick your brain into believing you are walking. So when you're hit with unpleasant thoughts, anxiety attacks, or PTSD flashbacks, you can just do that : sit still, but move only your eyes around. A few minutes do the trick!
It's personaly been a game changer :) and I hope it helps out more people!
MY GOD. 🫶🫶🤯🤗🫠🙃🥹👍🏼🙏🏽🙏🏽 Thank you sooooooh much for posting! Makes so much sense. I love it. 🙃
One of my biggest ones has been watching your “questions that changed my life” video on a regular basis and journaling on them on a regular basis. Really puts stuff into perspective and helps cover bases with the responsibility bit.
i actually do something similar. whenever I'm not feeling great, i just watch a few of struthless videos that I know affect me. it helps a lot.
Funny you said "how can I make this the best thing that's ever happened to me?"
Quite a few years ago I got sent to prison, for the 2nd time.... and I was thinking about my potential future. And I eventually asked myself this exact question. While I was locked up I took as many classes and courses as possible, volunteered for things, became a TA....and now my life is way better and I'm building my dreams instead of trying to steal them.
I love the decluttering idea with pictures! It never crossed my mind to do that but now I'm super motivated for the attic cleanup what I've been procrastinated for sooo long ☺ Thank you!
My new habit for the year is to draw a bird a day, to improve my wildlife drawing skills. That is how I found this channel! It was the video called "the drawing advice that changed my life" Classic video!! 😊
So Wholesome!
I love the way you say, when creating the to-do lists, what is the bare minimum I need to get done "in order to not create stress for future me"? I've heard so many people talk about creating a bare minimum to-do list but I always felt like even if I'd complete them I still hadn't accomplished anything. In pondering the way you frame this list, it makes me think, ok, if I want to ensure I'm not creating stress for future me, first I need to identify what stresses future me out the most. Turns out that is financial and health issues, not whether or not I've dusted the counters or scrubbed the sink. So if I only have an hour today to do something to make life less stressful for future me, I should use it to pick up an extra hour at work or go for a walk and get some exercise. Excellent video, as always!
Number 8 is top with me. I automatically do this habit. I had breast cancer and a mastectomy last fall. This March I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. Surgery next month. Last week my mom fell and broke both shoulders. My sister and I have been at the hospital around the clock being her arms for EVERYTHING. In each case I default to how is this the best thing that’s ever happened? My mom’s fall told me that my mom and sister were not supposed to go on their planned trip out of state this week. Her fall could have prevented a catastrophic car accident. Both cancers made me look inward on what I really want to do with my life. Your last habit with neuroplasticity made me do a happy dance!! I love your channel. You make a HUGE difference!!
Your videos have been a big blessing for me and one of my friends. You're realistic and know that people have limits and help us to be better and feel better. Thank you so much for help me change my life. I'm just a 18 (almost 19) yo who wants to get her life back on track and you've been a huge inspiration for that. Keep doing these videos cause they are amazing!
My weird "habit": I set my digital time 2 hours later than the actual time. this had helped me fix my sleep schedule tremendously! Also made me more aware of time. :P
I absolutely love the two to-do lists habit! I'm gonna give it a try as well since I procrastinate a lot yet I act like I don't whenever I make to-do lists, which ends up in me not completing the list and feeling guilty. 😅
Love your creativity and humor in your videos, please do make more coz it feels nice and cool to watch your vid while drawing :))
2 hours later than what alarm?
@@mikkel3912 I think she means setting the time on her devices to two hours later than the actual time, so if its actually 8pm then her computer/phone shows that it's 10pm
@@jonathan-3008 that just dont make any sense. But that the only thought i had aswell
I like this idea!- having one timer/clock that ‘Future Me’ can see and regret not going to bed earlier. Action time!
@@TCTCTCTCTC wut
I'm a biologist and I'm blown away by the genius with the cold shower idea.
You're boosting your immune system, you're training to think while under stress, you're also practicing discipline, you're boosting your dopamine levels AND conditioning yourself in experiencing gratitude... all just by fucking showering. This is so simple but ticks off so many boxes. I'm impressed and will take this page out of your book, thank you!
One small hack I... uh... know of, but followed for a short time is this: when you have something bigger to do, and just aren't feeling of doing it, ask yourself what's the smallest thing you can do for it. And then do the smallest thing - it's like one small step up the staircase. And then you might feel more like doing it. If not, ask what's another small step to take.
Every time I shower after work, I speak aloud how grateful I am for showers. And then that slowly slips into every day life, speaking gratitude for little things. And I've felt much better for doing it.
The idea of photographing something before you throw it out seems to be really powerful. I struggle to declutter things as I get emotionally attached to them, but I know that I don't use them anymore. Perhaps, this is what I need to finally take better control over this in my life.
this is maybe the third video of yours I have watched and I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for your content. I'm currently trying to change my habits and get sober from multiple crutches and your content is really helping me find some clarity. Thanks!
Awesome video. Love the 2 to-do lists idea!
My similar hack: in photography, it’s common to dump you entire memory card on the computer, but you typically only end up using a small % of the photos while all the blurry/bad/test shots clutter your hard drive. I go through each photo one by one ON IMPORT, so I know each shot that makes it onto my computer is halfway decent. This uses less computer resources and keeps my photos more organized.
In everyday life you can ask yourself, “where am I dealing with waste?” And then, “what would it look like if it were easy?” to come up with a solution.
For example, when you check your mailbox, probably only a small % of letters are important; most are junk. Instead of bringing the whole stack in and letting it sit on your kitchen table for a few days, perhaps you have a recycling bin near your mailbox and only bring any important mail into the house.
Separately, I recently started folding clothes like Marie Kondo and it’s amazing how much space you get back!
" give the nicer plate to your guest" - got shivers from that wow. Immediately liked and subscribed. thank you very much sir.
I definitely want to start making the 2 to-do lists and I’m gonna start today. I remember watching a video where you introduced the method but I didn’t think I needed it. Now I do 🙈 thank you for the videos you put out, I always look forward to watching them. Your content makes me feel like I can tackle this massive thing called life. Lots of love!
I've been doing the cold shower and gratitude combo and I love it. best way to wake up and start the day and the gratitude takes your mind off the cold and makes it even easier.
I also like to give boring tasks a little of my own flavour by creating my own methods or patterns and pairing it with something I enjoy eg washing the dishes with listening to music/audiobook or vacuuming in sections, hanging out washing while listening to a podcast, creating a game like how fast can I complete this.
I find this makes boring tasks easier and more enjoyable to do!
This video is gold for so many reasons. I laughed, I learned and I was called out. I’ve never been called out on the fact that I give my husband the less appealing plate of dinner every damn day. My god I’m a horrible person. I’ll change that one starting tonight. Lol
Loved the video! Thank you!
Right!😂 I laughed so hard , got convicted, felt attacked😂😂, felt understood🥲, and learnt a lot🤗. I just hope I can be consistent with the changes I need to make . Great video, great content! ☆☆
Going out with my dog helps me a lot, I stay more time outside, away from any digital distraction (because I don't take phone with me), I make more phisical activity, and it's just relaxing and gives a lot of positive energy to passing time and bonding with your animal
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
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Annoy TF out of me , im not even sure why
My brain is metaphorically exploding!!!! Take a picture of items that ONLY hold sentimental value and then throw it away!?!?! Seriously!?!? MIND BLOWN. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! I love your content by the way!
Hey, loved this video, mixing some conventional and unconventional habits. I am with you on the serving the best 🥘 meal to the other person habit, helps me to remember to put others first. The 2 minutes rule for me has been a game changer for me too. To Do list wise I stick with one idea list and just highlight the one most critical thing that needs to happen in that day, I had too much still on my minimum to do list 😞. The don’t missed things twice in a row habit has been good for me, especially with exercise 🏃♂️related habits. Thanks again for making this, I too have been focusing on habits in my videos recently, it is a game changing topic for many.
this relates to triggering positive reactions in negative situations.. I used to freak out every month that I was pregnant (irrationally) and pray that I got my period. Every month I would be so happy that I got my period that I began to associate period cramps with joy and now I almost enjoy the pain (weird, I know but it’s great).
- dividing my day into 4 periods: morning (me time) -> pre work (admin small work jobs, or study) -> work (I’m a music producer, so this is my studio time) -> night / come down (basically unwinding the day with healthy personal activities or jobs like groceries etc).
This has helped massively cos now when it’s the morning / me time, I’m way more present, cos I know that It’s not the time to think or do work stuff, so my stress levels have been way chiller. And I feel super fresh and have way more energy during those serious work hours when that window comes around.
Great video as always king x
I've got one!
I know listening to music in the shower is not a new concept but dancing in the shower changed my mornings and therefore my life! I had a hell of a time though 2021 (who didn't?) and in an attempt to relieve my suffering, I created a morning playlist to get me out of bed and towards my coffee. One day the playlist followed me into the shower, and gradually the tunes became more upbeat, until now my shower time is like a one man rave (my poor neighbours). I know this habit would stress some people out, but moving my body to music I love improves my mood and sets a 'spring in your step' tone for my days. I leave the house stoked.
Congrats on your nomination! Well deserved!
I recently starting doing one of the habits, so far it's working.
I deleted Instagram from my phone. It's only been a week, but I've been focusing more on painting and loving my art instead of stressing over likes and followers.
Instagram and social media are scarily addicting.
I'm gonna try some of the other tips you mentioned, great videos as always! ❤❤❤
I’m not quite at the level of dogs and going outside, but cats really help me a lot. They remind me to take a break to breathe and use all my senses to feel how soft they are, look how cute they are, listen to their purring, and they usually smell like warm grass and sunshine, so I get a little visit from the outdoors.
Another great video, Mr. Struthless ;0) My version of the Gratitude Shower isn't cold water--it's that we have any water at all! Seriously, we open a tap and water comes out AND we can control the temperature AND the dirty water disappears down the drain. HOW AMAZING IS THAT?!! The habit of noticing really changed my life. Cheers to you and all your courageous viewers
I’m chronically ill and it’s taken me 10 years to finally start treating everyday as it’s own experience. Some days I am bed bound, and other days I can go on long hikes, so for me personally it’s not worth harping on how productive I was “supposed to be” based on the plans I made yesterday. Sometimes shit happens and plans need rescheduling, it’s not the end of the world. And to expand on the Two Lists thing; I’ve recently been making my “ideal day” to-do list before bed, and my “realistic day” to-do list after I’ve been awake for a bit the next morning, it’s really nice. At first I was overcome with guilt, but now I just notice more self compassion and funny enough a more efficient execution of traditional productivity. This video was fantastic
always a real pleasure when there's a new struthless video. "How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me?" really just changed the whole story of my last two weeks
This dudes RUclips Chanel is ACTUALLY GIVING like go bestie I love ur videos they’re actually helpful thank you!
I'm with you on the relaxing music and incense vibes. I do it every day while I'm working... Helps me stay calm and more focused. Its like a little hug! 😊👍🏼✌🏽
What do you listen to? As an old nerd I'm big on things like "Skyrim Rainy Night 10 hours"
That first step I was taught as a child. It's what I used to tell anyone who called me a good person. "You're such a good person. You are giving and helping your friends, " but I say "because it makes me feel good."
I do and/or did a lot of healthy habits already. But even if I don't need your advice, being reminded to take care of myself and seeing how others take care of themselves is always good.
I don't think you can ever get enough opinions on what works for people's emotional workouts.
The two to-do lists is a game changer! So self compassionate and practical 💕
I love number 7 on your list. My sign say, "Friends welcome, Family by appointment". This keeps me sane!
I've been slowly moving into the two to-do lists---I found it extremely helpful to write down every single things I needed to do, but then when I actually looked at the list to get things done it would constantly overwhelm me to the point where I did nothing. I'm chronically ill so most of my days aren't filled with enough energy to get things done, so if I only have that one giant list I end up doing nothing. having two lists, one small do-or-die and one large everything-for-the-forseeable-future, has been working a lot better.
I used to, and sometimes still do, struggle with productivity. I found that giving each day only one productive task that you have to do helps. It’s just one thing that puts you into work mode and anything else is a bonus :)
Love love love your perspective on life and how you go beyond what we hear dozens of times about self care and how to practice it. Thanks for all your hard work!
Great list! One habit that changed my life was learning to give everything a home as close to it's point of use as possible (there is a reason coat closets are near the front door) and putting things back as soon as I was done with them.
Thanks so much for this, Cam. It has reinforced some ideas and brought new ones to work on. A year ago my wife passed away, and a month ago our dog too. My life has changed completely and I struggle to find purpose while distracting myself with work and materialism. I know I’m in a very dark place, but at least I’m aware and slowly dragging out of it. Your words have helped me on this. Thank you 🙏.
That’s so cool to hear Pablo, hope your continually working on yourself and using the two minute rule as that was the habit that most resonated with me. If your not, consider this reply as a reminder to start back up again. You got this man 🙏
@@lachiedarnley2781, thank you! Indeed, that one is new for me, so your reminder works perfectly. Best wishes to you!
I started setting a ridiculously small and easy goal every day. I go through the trouble of writing it down and putting a box next to it, so whenever I do whatever the goal is, I get the piece of paper and put a checkmark. The magnitude or difficulty of the goal is irrelevant to the brain, but you're training it to set a goal and getting used to being able to achieve it. Feels awesome and it's helped me reach many otherwise viewed as difficult goals in my business and personal life.
There's still a lot of things I need to do on the conventional list to improve myself but I was pleasantly surprised to see I already do the first one on this unconventional list.
I'm the cook in my household. I like doing it and I'm the more picky eater, but I always offer my sister either first scoops out of the pot or best plate. Because cooking and feeding my love ones good food does give me joy.
thanks for sharing cam :) here are some of mine:
- say and do what you want to, that better than regretting not saying or doing it
- always have good goodbyes to your friends and family -- you never know if you'll ever see them again
- if you're every uncomfortable, particularly in a social setting, ask yourself 'what would I do if I were alone?" and follow that (you're doing what you'd like to, not what you should based on other people)
- take a breather and some stretches every once in a while
Love the cold showers concept. Also, as obvious as this might seem to some, the idea of separating home life from busy work life is the perfect way to find your sanctuary. WFH types like myself are itching to find that balance...harder than you think.
My problem with de-cluttering lies in the fact that I hate to create garbage out of stuff that can still be of use. It's a huge problem.
Dude! Literally all of these things resonate with me, I thought I was the only one who saw them in their life… I was just explaining to a friend about what love meant to me, and I said it’s being totally happy with eating the soggy fries so your loved ones could have the crispy ones; and I cook for my friends all the time! My apartment feels like you’re at the spa, and if the weather is nice, I’m outside as much as possible. Great stuff, thanks!
Ahh, great video.
I Was struggling with depression , hating myself for being complacent due to depression and personal issues, felt like being the shell of the overachiever,joyful person i used to be. Started hating on myself for gaining weight, started concentrating on all my imperfections.
I started doing these things that really helped
1)smile at myself in the mirror n blow myself a kiss. Felt stupid,negative and downright moronic at start, but slowly i started feeling prettier and the positive thought just made me feel prettier, n even be prettier(I believe in loa)
2) when faced with a situation with people involved, i wud ask myself what step i take now, will make me feel like a better person, n i do it. Helps me not let my desires gratification stop me from making the better decision
3) i learnt to forgive myself for my mistakes.
4) strive for better , not perfect
you are the ONLY productivity channel that has EVER resonated with me and i’ve been consuming this type of content for nearly a decade. you are an utter inspiration. thank you for existing.
Love that question “how is this the best thing that ever happened to me”. Great work you doing this world wonders! 🙏
Love this, thanks! Although if there's anyone with an ADHD brain around, you know the 2 minute rule isn't for us 😅 If I did this I would continuously change from one unfinished task to another because my capacity of sticking with what I'm doing without getting attacked by 4 or 5 visual reminders of other tasks is the reason I'm watching this kind of content
This is exactly what I thought 😅
Same here, it is kinda bad advice for Adhd, I actually do the opposite. Take a task that seems big and get that out of the way. Literally as first thing I do
I have ADHD and it's life changing for me but I've done it my whole life, if I start slacking on the 2 min rule my life falls apart. It only applies to chores tho not yt vids.
Honestly watch his whole vid on it, the basic principle is if it only takes 2 mins now then if you don't do it the next time you see it it will take 2mins + the time to remember the thing again + the time to build up the momentum to get up and do the thing + all the other things that have built up (20 dishes instead fo one). I do 30 sec rule though not 2 mins.
Me to I have loads of unfinished things on the go
2 minute example. Looking at the "needs to be folded pile on the dryer and in the dryer", noticed hanging rack needed to be a bit higher. I thought, "I can do that in 2 minutes". Grabbed my drill, got it done, felt good, and I nearly emptied the laundry basket before I needed to move on with the rest of my day. I'm now getting ready to share this with multiple people I feel will also benefit from your messages. Thank you!
I just finished your book last night! I love that I found your channel - it’s been very inspiring ❤️ you’ve really put things in perspective and I’m starting to journal with intention so thank you for that (and maybe more books in the future???🤞🏼)
For finding work life balance while working from home, I use different light bulbs to help differentiate ‘work time’ and ‘creative time/rest etc’.
I use white light bulbs in my office for work time, and warm orange light bulbs everywhere else
Dude. Thank you. I used to have some of these same habits before I went down a slippery sloping spiral of despair, drug abuse, dependency and self degradation, (wow, look at that alliteration, whew!) and your videos are helping to reframe my inner dialogue and get back to a bit more self love and self discipline! Oh and, it made me feel good because even at my worst, I still served others the prettier dish! Silly but a kind reminder of my better qualities. Keep the videos coming, I feel that you are helping soooo many people through the struggle right now, because, holy shit man, the struggle is SO REAL! Also overcomable! I don't care if thats not a word, using it anyway. Thanks man. Stay motivated. Its motivating!!!
I love the "giving someone the better plate" idea! It's kind and very obscure but does make a huge difference. (:
Taking a shower every day has changed my life too :D
you're awesome. i do a lot of your things. one weird one for me is that when i experience physical pain from an accident, i yell out yes and go accepting and deep into the minor pain. has resonated through different areas of my life. also dancing to music that i hate has done wonders.
Habit 1 but you’re a woman and therefore have been conditioned your entire life to never put yourself first hence you always serve people better plate but now it’s time to reclaim your worth and value so you’re no longer giving the best part, YOU PROUDLY TAKE IT 👁👄👁
lol I don't think I could ever take the better plate. I always give my sisters it. But I'm the the oldest so figures
Interesting. As a male, i was apparently taught so early in life to put myself LAST, after all females, all relatives, all friends. It's ingrained so deep that it has been automatic, with even a thought of what I want to do, creating guilt on a scale you CANNOT imagine.
Nothing to do with being a woman, it's being raised as a decent person. Gentlemen literally put "ladies first" in almost everything they do.
Men are conditioned to go last in much worse situations, if theres theres ever a fire/shooting etc its 'woman and children' saved first and even if we do make it out alive were probs gonna have to run back in to help or sum shit lmaoo
Kristen Cooney
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“How is this the best thing that’s ever happened to me?” is the best thing I learned from all of the videos I’ve watched from you so far. I’m a new subscriber and I’ve probably watched about five or six of your video so far and all of them have been very helpful and very good. But this one really made me dig deep when I heard that question and I absolutely love the idea of reframing and think it’s so powerful. Thank you and keep creating content!
I LOVE the idea of writing two lists. I will definitely start doing that. Already try to implement the two minute rule. It really does make a difference.
Motivational Channels usually all seem the same to me- I just started watching your videos and man you give some attainable, solid advice. It's not the typical, "just believe in yourself!", but actual steps causing you to believe in yourself more. Thanks a lot man, and I wish you the best in life
I just found your channel today after struggling with one homework question for a long time. I have never been able to build good routines or habits, but after watching just 3 of your videos you have given me so many tips and links to other helpful information. Thank you for being so helpful and organized. Crying over python code was the best thing that happened to me.
We have colored lights everywhere. Having a soft teal or purple glow in the house at night blocks away most things in the house in a soft glow and not only causes less stress but more focus on whatever it is you’re currently doing
I always tell people that my home is my safe space. I also wear loose baggy clothing, light incense and candles and listen to loft sort of music. so nice and relaxing.