I just wanna add!! My mum is making a quick recovery - she's gone from wheelchair to walking stick, and her aim is to be able to dance at our wedding :)
Thinking about my "potential" gives me axienty. I don't want to think about huge goals, I want to feel rested for once. I want to learn how to rest without feeling guilty about not doing something "productive". I want to learn how to enjoy life. I don't want to base my selfworth on how much I produce or achived. Ex-gifted kid.
If on your death bed you would regret all those things and not resting more then this is all still applies. We are all in a different situation, so take the advice in a way that's most beneficial to you and your wellbeing
I think it's also important to recognize that sometimes what is considered "full potential" is what society normalizes as being what everyone should want. For example, complacency about the wedding could also be a sign you want a smaller, more intimate, wedding. But it's often hard to draw strict lines between these two notions. Trust me, I had a smaller wedding and it turned out to have all the problems of a big wedding!
@@zeyneplucy I don't think I have any real tips, I guess it's just a process of sometimes buying in the story of "full potential" and going for it full on (in the sense of what society says) and sometimes resting and thinking again about what feels right and what doesn't and taking that knowledge to redefine what "full potential" means to you. It also changes during your life, as your priorities shift. I guess the key is to continue questioning the mainstream ideas, but still take from them whatever works for you. Hope that helps!
“I don’t have a chronic illness” THANK YOU SO IMPORTANT. The Casey heist at lifestyle made me feel so bad about myself. This disclaimer means a lot more than you might think
I agree! Cam, you truly are so insightful & have a rare ability to capture what it is to be able to connect with everyone on any level to deal with issues that are wide ranging. 💜
In that case you better get to posting videos so future you can exist, and later reminisce on how old you was inspired by a doppelgänger future you who reminded you of yourself.
I love your disclaimer about the fact that you don't have kids, or a chronic illness or aren't taking care of someone. So many people give generalised solutions forgetting all the different struggles and issues people could be dealing with and making them feel even worse for not being able to reach that one-size-fits-all solution. 👏
This honestly could be a TED talk. I like the “easy path = hard life, hard path = easy life” part. That really is making me think about where I’m taking the easy path too much in my own life (staying at my boring job, not working hard enough to get in shape, etc.)
yess and this reminds me of a great quote that goes like “do the easy things, and your life will be hard. do the hard things, and your life will be easy”.✨💯
I really love how you mention other life circumstances like chronic illness. As a lifetime chronic ill person, I really appreciate you taking the time to mention that. We are all able to achieve things, we just take a bit longer and might require more help or flexibility, depending on our particular situation. Awesome work on the channel.
Just want to say thank you, Amanda. I am a lifer now... and I am having trouble coming to terms with all these limitations. I honestly kept holding out for a cure. Finally at the point where I realize this is just it for me (unless there's a miracle, who knows). I keep feeling like I can't do anything I wanted to... so thanks for saying we can still do, just slower, or with help...
I’m not sure achievements mean that much on your deathbed. Most of the time people regret not doing things that are comfortable or spending time with people they care about. I know of a miserable heart surgeon whose the head of an entire ICU and he could care less about anyone dying anymore. I bet he’s going to the grave with regret. It is meaningless until you find self love. Achieving goals doesn’t always equal self love. Accept yourself now and you will die fulfilled. Much love and wishes of healing to those who need it.
I definitely agree with that! Still I think the video is a really great way of determining if your life can improve in ways that you have direct control over
i totally get you but i think this is directed more to people that do not find motivation to do most basic self care stuff. Stuff that in the end gets you stuck into giving priority to other stuff over your basic needs, which ends up getting you a high bill in terms of life quality. Including the example you're providing (i dont think this guy wanted in the beginning to end not caring about people dying)
I just wanted to say, I found your videos after typing in "how to stop self sabotaging." Firstly, your energy and personality is incredibly relatable and comforting. Secondly, Your content is refreshingly valuable and helpful. I literally found you like an hour ago and already watched several of your videos. I was experiencing a moment of complete frustration and dissatisfaction of my life that made me feel like I was in a deep dark hole. Your videos are like the rope being thrown down to help me climb out. I know, corny. But thank you. Keep doing what you're doing.
The best part of the video for me was the disclaimer. I think that it is one of the most important parts! It takes into account the situation someone is in.
Yes!!!! It shows how compassionate and understanding he is. When he said if you’re dealing with disabilities or chronic illness that’s obviously different, it took a huge weight off instead of giving me a horrible feeling. 💚
Agreed! As someone with chronic illness that impacts everything I do, it can be hard to watch these things. But with that disclaimer I am able to put it down to my level and see what is actually possible instead of feeling like shit.
I feel like I'm actually working on living up to my potential and it feels great. I meditate and journal, and I've started exercising. I'm sober now. I'm a cartoonist, and I'm working on a comic that's actually being published. I'm in school. I have plans for the future. I'm disabled and have mental health problems so it's been an uphill battle and I know it's not always gonna be easy, but I feel like I'm actually working on things in a way that will make future me happy.
Sounds like it! This totally random stranger from the internet is happy for you and proud of you. Congratulations on your publication and your overall growth ✨
I have a small trick to help overcome that initial bump a lot of us experience when overcoming complacency. I call it "No Option." When you find it hard to do that thing you want or need to do, imagine a worst case scenario of you not doing that thing. Once you have the worst case scenario, tell yourself that "this is not an option" and immediately do it. I've been doing it for a couple of months now and it has been a lot easier to get things done. Give it a try!
SAME! I totally have ADHD too and pretty sure Struth does also hehe. We need that motivation like pain to get things done to get that dopamine to our brains. I relate so hard to all his videos!
Me too!! I am constantly looking up ways to “hack” my ADHD mindset… but this was the only thing that has truly made sense to me! I wish you all the best luck on your new goals ❤️❤️
I love all this advice but what I love even more is that you started out acknowledging that some people will have different barriers/obstacles to action and that's okay! So much "live your best life" advice is given in the tone of "all those things stopping you are just excuses!!" Which is so tone-deaf to anyone with differing life circumstances that it just sours the whole concept. I like how you said "there's nothing wrong with you" because little things like that really do make the difference.
The fact that you make the disclaimer about your capacity and that we might not all be able to do this is so self-aware and just shows how much you understand how human beings work. Thank you so much for your content.
I actually avoided watching this video for ages because I KNEW it would be about me and I didn't want to deal... It wasn't as bad as I thought. It was helpful. Thank you.
Really good steps to overcome complacency. Sometimes you just need to take small steps. I decided to sell my art online and dedicated a few days to setting up my online store. It's taken my way longer than I expected to list everything but love how it's turned out. I also started a RUclips channel to motivate me to make more art.
Having watched (and hugely enjoyed) many of your videos it seems you are almost always addressing ADHD without ever mentioning it. At first I was wondering why, but I now see that by not using medical terms you are giving a chance for everyone with related or overlapping issues (anxiety, procrastination, self-sabotage...) an equal chance at receiving the message fully regardless of their condition. Props to you.
The Cup List is similar to the Eisenhower decision matrix. If you don't make a plan for non urgent but important items, they can become urgent and important. Or, if you don't do them, stuff blows up. Yes, tackle urgent and important things. But you have to actually plan and do the important but non urgent stuff. Your channel is great! Thank you!
Well done brother, at 45 I STILL suffer from complacency, however, there is another side of being comfortable. It is not always so bad. Took my wife 10 YEARS to get married after we got engaged :) You're all good
It was interesting doing the thought experiment while listening to you. I have a chronic illness and I found that my pain actually lessened, because I can literally Not Do It. And I am already taking the steps - they just happen to be tiny. Turns out I'm not really complacent about many things at all, I constantly strive to do it all, big and small, I just have to practice a lot of acceptance over the fact that I often Can't. But it did give me perspective on some unnecessary fears holding me back, which I think this really helped me let go of. Thank you for that! 😊
I’m terrified of regret, and I’ve found that imagined deathbed regrets are so helpful in getting me to get crackin on being confident, taking leaps, and truly expressing my wants and desires
I really appreciate your disclaimer. I love your attitude in general. It's healing and constructive compared to all of the toxic positivity I feel bombarded by. I was homeless a few years ago after escaping domestic violence and I'll never see anything about "potential" the same again. I don't feel judged when I watch your videos, just inspired. Thank you
I just noticed how homey your videos feel, a lot of youtubers have them sitting in their room which is still pretty intimate and has a similar effect, but here it looks like a place where you would sit and talk with a person, coupled with your personality and style, makes a very pleasant viewing experience.
after finding this channel, I've realized I've led a long path of doing what I thought I should be doing and making people "proud" instead of going for the path I truly desired. This video has helped in giving me the motivation to stop being complacent in my life and actually move towards whats fulfilling for me, not what makes me comfortable. thanks
Currently binging all of your videos in a “time to get most of my sh*t together before I’m 30 so I can thank myself” spiral. Maybe I’ll meander back to this video in 5 years for an update lol - good stuff man.
I don’t want to speak too soon but this hit a good spot. I can be very complacent. But when you said “life is short and you want the experience” that’s a reason for me to take action sooner than later….
I really appreciate that little disclaimer, as someone with chronic health conditions and a shitty life, it can be disheartening to receive advice from someone with a more privileged perspective. "Just backpack around the world/ find a guru/ just hop in your private jet and spend a weekend in Paris with your imaginary boyfriend/ just hang out with the friends and family you don't have/ just get therapy even if you can't afford it/ just leave the house even though you're crippled with anxiety" Thanks Karen...
I sort of stumbled upon this method through trial and error myself. What I find helps is actually scheduling things - not "I'll do this on Sunday" but instead I open my calendar and drop the to-do things into a definite time (remember to give tasks 3 times longer than you think it will take). When I get that notification pop up, it's a lot harder to swipe it away when it's already sitting there than thinking "yeah, I'll do it later today" and catching yourself 34 videos deep on youtube with your hand stuck in a Pringles tube. You have that hesitation from swiping it away because you know you'll be failing your past self who already made the time investment to write it out and schedule it.
Loved this video. Thanks for giving actionable steps. Didn't feel like I was "advised". This is what I would like productivity videos to be like. Hope all your dreams come true for real!
After having a wedding i can say it’s overrated! A year of planning for a few hours that go by way too fast! That being said try to make the planning part fun and memorable!
I needed this! I’ve recently resigned from a job I’ve been at for 11 years, it was definitely the easy road but I feel like it would be a hard and boring life if I stayed. This has inspired me to stop being complacent about more things in my life. So thanks for sharing :)
Everything in life is hard, finding your soulmate and working on that relationship is hard, divorce is also hard, being alone is hard being successful is hard, not having what you've always wished for is hard. We just need to pick wisely and think long term
As a girl named Jessi who is definitely living in her cave of comfort: Thank you :D I only found your channel a week or so ago when Sydney went into lockdown again, but your advice is already helping me get my shit together mentally. Next step: crawling toward the light of that rugged wilderness, and sprinting 20 miles to my new cave :D Cheers~~
I don’t know whether you would find this fact boring or not (maybe you already know), but the videos you make help people far beyond English speaking countries. Big thanks from Russia. You really give me a lot of things to think through and helpful advices that came exactly on time of need Please have a nice day and all the best wishes with wedding! Sincerely, Eve
Your videos genuinely make me so happy. You have such an impact on people, I really hope you never stop being you and never stop uploading Thank you for such awesome videos
Needed this video. I've been feeling so frustrated as to why I just can't get these things done in my day to day!! Literally been years since we have had an organized, clean home and it feels like I just keep sweeping it under the rug (no pun intended lol). I feel bad because I let it go too far, and prioritize rest and leasure, but all of the angry energy I put into feeling bad, I could just use to do the tasks and that would be so much faster and so much less painful lol. Thanks for putting it all into words.
When we have an injury to heal from if we let our need for comfort control us while feeling complacent then it can make our healing time so much longer there is a danger of giving up. What a wonderful idea to include your mom in wedding plans! I feel inspired when hearing about the good attitudes a lot of young people have towards the older generation too while feeling thankful my daughters and a girl friend to one of my sons who is a welder who is so encouraging of me to not feel complacent while only ever seeking comfort for myself while she instead could be feeling resentful when assuming that I am trying to compete her whenever I put on a less tasty dinner for them because I am not even going to try and compete with 2 good cooks instead of only me. She complimented me on being able to be well organized in a smaller kitchen. I feel so lucky.
Your videos are genuinely such a source of inspiration bro, keep up the good work and do some different style videos (maybe a fred durst one because why not)
I cant tell you how much your videos help me to organise my life. just finished high school and I don't know what to do with myself but watching your videos helps a lot.
I made some steps today to start the process of developing new heirloom tomato varieties. This is likely an 8 year process or so, but I’ll be growing tomatoes anyway, might as well start this experiment. I see myself as a seed saver/protector and developer and new and wonderful heirloom tomato varieties.
The Cup List is highly relatable. We just moved into a new apartment so the tasks I'm being complacent about just tripled. I made my own Cup list (I'm calling it Offline Awesomeness) and tackling #1 right now. Time to put away these books! Thanks Struthless
okay but this channel is something else entirely. i can't stop watching, taking notes, laughing and crying all at the same time bc of how relatable and kind and inspiring you are. you're a genius, man.. thanks so much
Yooooooooooooooooo... "The cup list" sounds revolutionary. Because the bucket list would be the "ideal" life, but the cup list would be a BETTER life :O Like holy shit I am making one rn... tnx!
As someone who has always struggled with motivation I can confirm doing them feels better than not, 2 years ago I took on turning a truck into a home with all the comforts, I moved in 8 months ago and thought I was almost finished, ha, nope. I'm glad I didn't really grasp how much work it truly was going to be but even now I procrastinate but I always manage to get another job done that makes my life a little better, if you get overwhelmed, just stop and do something else for a while. Its not a sprint even though every boss every tells you it is.
@@krisellee2606 Hahah true. It was 1am when I was aimlessly browsing youtube instead of sleeping. So the starting minutes of this kicked my butt into realizing I was stupid and should sleep.
i'm going through a rough patch for a couple of years and have never given up on myself, until april when i got quite sick and my happy balance fell to hell. So honestly i've been slacking off even when circumstances were a bit stable. Thank you for sharing your learnings, i'm working to implement them gradually and successfully. 💛
I love your disclaimer. A lot of people will talk about what people should do or what they did and how to do it, but generalise, and then as a result, if there are exceptions, like illness or children, or whatever, since it's not mentioned, we feel like we're the not normal one. I've wondered if I was using those things as an excuse to myself. Your disclaimer is a nice remainder that it's normal, not all things will apply to all people, and it's just nice to hear, you know.
I was in a bad car crash four nights ago. For a split second when the airbag deployed and smoke filled the car, I thought I had died. I feel like if I died now, I would be really disappointed despite living a textbook good life. For years, I’ve lived a life strategizing different ways to achieve happiness and overcome barriers… the barriers ranging from friendships gone awry to just boredom. I’m a hard worker, had a 4.0 GPA through college, but I never feel like I’ve learned how to be ok with boring, mundane days without feeling loneliness or longing for “more”. It felt like a double edged sword, because the harder I worked, the less time I have to pursue deep friendships and enjoy my hobbies. But if I ever knew I didn’t do my best and just enough to get a “B” or “C+” (apply this to work life now), I didn’t feel proud of myself. I feel guilt and shame knowing I didn’t give something my all. I feel guilt struggling with discontentment, because I’m incredibly privileged. This makes me feel disappointed that I don’t know how to achieve real joy- the kind that doesn’t just come when something exciting happens and then ware off two days later when normalcy returns. At the end of the day, I pictured the first version of me with things achieved by reading the Bible, volunteering and putting others first. But besides growing my relationship with God and serving others, I still have a lot of questions about what route in life will bring long-lasting happiness and get me away from strategizing a new ways to FIND happiness each day. Many of the paths seem right and could all be the correct, biblical ones when I say them out loud (without going into detail of what they are), but they contradict each other. Or when I apply them, they work for a little bit and then ware off, and I’m once again left confused. I really don’t know why I’m sharing this, but God bless, and I hope y’all find that true, deep rooted, uneasily swayed joy that I’m determined to obtain through God.
Oh man- my wedding got canceled because of the quarantine and I was relieved as well- looking to plan something very simple for the second go around especially considering the money we lost from planning the first one
Firstly, I'm so glad your mom's recovering. I hope she gets more strength than ever before. All the best for your wedding if it hasn't happened yet. Even more best for your marriage. I'm I'm a little late to the party. Thanks for your post. These talks are always so inspiring. I hope to stop doubting myself and get to doing things. The greatest challenge i face is self doubt. What i do know is once i start something i give it everything i have. You're cool people. Thanks a many bunch.
Your videos are so organized, it makes me wanna write all the topics and act like a student. And honestly, I've learnt so much so far. Seriously, this is now my youtube fav.
Literally have no idea why this channel randomly popped up in my feed, but for once I salute the algorithm. Love this channel and I’m a subscriber now!!
As an old person I can say, as you get older life speeds up until it’s as if you’re on the Cresta Run to death! So don’t waste the time and energy you have in earlier years, for me that was 30s when I knew enough not to be a total tool but still had interest in plenty of new things and the energy to do them. Life changed for me when I ditched pleasing others and backpacked around Australia by for 6months. Taught a lot, especially that all I needed for happiness I could pack in a bag, that I could do anything, just about, and that I’m a nomad at heart. Get out of the rut, off the couch and do anything you would be talking yourself out of if too idle mentally to move. Good luck.
Bro. I watched your video on overwhelm this morning. Now watching this. Like half the shit you said in this video that you’ve wanted to do, you are doing now! Badass
Man you have no idea how much you help me. Whenever I'm stuck I'm like, yeah for sure there's a Struthless video for this. Plus you're exciting to watch and I laugh in the process. thank YOU
I don´t think I´ve ever seen anyone creating videos like you do. How you explain everything from your own experience, how you always break it down in specific points/parts/steps, how you always incorporate journaling and motivate us to do the same (cuz it really is on of the best tools seeing your thoughts/feelings in front of you on a piece of paper, and then analyzing them). I am just amazed by your videos. They lift me up, makes me feel motivated and most importatntly they make me feel not alone with these kind of problems. And the fact that with these 10 minutes you literally give us a toolkit for our brain, which is really useful I think. So yeah, basically thank you so so much for being here and sharing your life advices :)
dude you are brilliant. seriously every video you put out is so thoughtful and concrete and simple. thank you so much for everything you do, subscribing to your channel is one of the best decisions I've made in years
You've gone and done it again. Made a sweet video in 10mins that turns how you view and think about stuff on its head and it makes more sense than it did before. Thanks
I usually don't like these type of videos. They are not real, they tell you to get up and do something that you obviously can't right now, otherwise you would have done it. Also, I don't trust them. That's not you. You are good, man. I trust you. And you explain everything, which is super good. Keep up!
I did something similar to this 3 years ago with Peterson's Future Authoring program and I'm definitely living my better life! I own a great business, I'm on my way to owning my first condo and actually building my first home next year.
In another of your videos you said 'your older self will thank you'. The comparison of the two old 'me's' helps me get what you meant by it. Cheers mate.
I just wanna add!! My mum is making a quick recovery - she's gone from wheelchair to walking stick, and her aim is to be able to dance at our wedding :)
Thanks! I was actually wondering how she was. Great video! Can’t wait to get the book!
GLAD TO HEAR she's doing so well! And here's to that wedding dance!
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Well, that's just so wholesome. Your mom sounds super similar to my boyfriend's mom (she's a busy but impressive lady).
Great to hear, Campbell! Sending good vibes. Nice video as always ;-)
Thinking about my "potential" gives me axienty. I don't want to think about huge goals, I want to feel rested for once. I want to learn how to rest without feeling guilty about not doing something "productive". I want to learn how to enjoy life. I don't want to base my selfworth on how much I produce or achived.
Ex-gifted kid.
Being rested and at peace can be your goals! There's nothing wrong with that and its totally achievable!
If on your death bed you would regret all those things and not resting more then this is all still applies. We are all in a different situation, so take the advice in a way that's most beneficial to you and your wellbeing
"ex-gifted" is an interesting descriptor though
@@melonlemonn I don't know how to phrase it better 😅
Thank you for this comment, this is EXACTLY how I currently feel and been feeling for years
this channel is god tier
Naaah, it's struthless tier
100%
literally
I've watched so many videos but he... He is smart. Man, there are people like Jeff Bezos but they can't explain our nature and what to do with it
I'm not liking this comment because it's at 777 likes
Honestly, I was just getting all comfortable and then this popped up.
Same 😭
Same
i swear to got, he don't miss with those videos and they are always so on tiiiime
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Same
I think it's also important to recognize that sometimes what is considered "full potential" is what society normalizes as being what everyone should want. For example, complacency about the wedding could also be a sign you want a smaller, more intimate, wedding. But it's often hard to draw strict lines between these two notions. Trust me, I had a smaller wedding and it turned out to have all the problems of a big wedding!
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I''m struggling to draw strict lines between those two notions too:/ Any tips?
@@zeyneplucy I don't think I have any real tips, I guess it's just a process of sometimes buying in the story of "full potential" and going for it full on (in the sense of what society says) and sometimes resting and thinking again about what feels right and what doesn't and taking that knowledge to redefine what "full potential" means to you. It also changes during your life, as your priorities shift. I guess the key is to continue questioning the mainstream ideas, but still take from them whatever works for you. Hope that helps!
“I don’t have a chronic illness” THANK YOU SO IMPORTANT. The Casey heist at lifestyle made me feel so bad about myself. This disclaimer means a lot more than you might think
I agree! Cam, you truly are so insightful & have a rare ability to capture what it is to be able to connect with everyone on any level to deal with issues that are wide ranging. 💜
This dude is just so relatable. I feel like hes a male version of future- me explaining how to get my shit together
That's how it feels for me too! It gets funnier when you realize it's true 😂💕 good luck on your journey, friend! 🤗
In that case you better get to posting videos so future you can exist, and later reminisce on how old you was inspired by a doppelgänger future you who reminded you of yourself.
@@orphisv3523 I’m on board with all of you 🥰
@@Vladyyy This was so perfectly put! 👏👏
@@realdavebob 😄 thankssss bro!!
I love your disclaimer about the fact that you don't have kids, or a chronic illness or aren't taking care of someone. So many people give generalised solutions forgetting all the different struggles and issues people could be dealing with and making them feel even worse for not being able to reach that one-size-fits-all solution. 👏
This honestly could be a TED talk. I like the “easy path = hard life, hard path = easy life” part. That really is making me think about where I’m taking the easy path too much in my own life (staying at my boring job, not working hard enough to get in shape, etc.)
@@vincnt1 wtf😂😂
yess and this reminds me of a great quote that goes like “do the easy things, and your life will be hard. do the hard things, and your life will be easy”.✨💯
I really love how you mention other life circumstances like chronic illness. As a lifetime chronic ill person, I really appreciate you taking the time to mention that. We are all able to achieve things, we just take a bit longer and might require more help or flexibility, depending on our particular situation. Awesome work on the channel.
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Absolutely.
@@vincnt1 Don't know what I was expecting LUL
Just want to say thank you, Amanda. I am a lifer now... and I am having trouble coming to terms with all these limitations. I honestly kept holding out for a cure. Finally at the point where I realize this is just it for me (unless there's a miracle, who knows). I keep feeling like I can't do anything I wanted to... so thanks for saying we can still do, just slower, or with help...
I’m not sure achievements mean that much on your deathbed. Most of the time people regret not doing things that are comfortable or spending time with people they care about. I know of a miserable heart surgeon whose the head of an entire ICU and he could care less about anyone dying anymore. I bet he’s going to the grave with regret. It is meaningless until you find self love. Achieving goals doesn’t always equal self love. Accept yourself now and you will die fulfilled. Much love and wishes of healing to those who need it.
I definitely agree with that! Still I think the video is a really great way of determining if your life can improve in ways that you have direct control over
It's literally just about balance. Have enough time for yourself and time for your goals.
@@nuljeon Thank you for your insight. I really appreciate it.
@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 I agree that we need to focus on ourselves more and specifically carve out that time. Thank you for your insight. :)
i totally get you but i think this is directed more to people that do not find motivation to do most basic self care stuff. Stuff that in the end gets you stuck into giving priority to other stuff over your basic needs, which ends up getting you a high bill in terms of life quality. Including the example you're providing (i dont think this guy wanted in the beginning to end not caring about people dying)
I just wanted to say, I found your videos after typing in "how to stop self sabotaging." Firstly, your energy and personality is incredibly relatable and comforting. Secondly, Your content is refreshingly valuable and helpful. I literally found you like an hour ago and already watched several of your videos. I was experiencing a moment of complete frustration and dissatisfaction of my life that made me feel like I was in a deep dark hole. Your videos are like the rope being thrown down to help me climb out. I know, corny. But thank you. Keep doing what you're doing.
Holy cow, same! I made the same search and subscribed right after seeing the self sabotage video (though this is only the second video i'm watching)
true that! kind of same ,just that he was on my recommend haha.
The best part of the video for me was the disclaimer. I think that it is one of the most important parts! It takes into account the situation someone is in.
Yes!!!! It shows how compassionate and understanding he is. When he said if you’re dealing with disabilities or chronic illness that’s obviously different, it took a huge weight off instead of giving me a horrible feeling. 💚
Agreed! As someone with chronic illness that impacts everything I do, it can be hard to watch these things. But with that disclaimer I am able to put it down to my level and see what is actually possible instead of feeling like shit.
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I feel like I'm actually working on living up to my potential and it feels great. I meditate and journal, and I've started exercising. I'm sober now. I'm a cartoonist, and I'm working on a comic that's actually being published. I'm in school. I have plans for the future. I'm disabled and have mental health problems so it's been an uphill battle and I know it's not always gonna be easy, but I feel like I'm actually working on things in a way that will make future me happy.
Sounds like it! This totally random stranger from the internet is happy for you and proud of you. Congratulations on your publication and your overall growth ✨
@@wynthehuman Thank you so much!!
Sounds like your doing pretty well😊🤟 Congrats and you can definitely be proud of you👏👏👏👏👯♂️🎉 have a nice evening😊
@@LoLa-uv8hc Thank you that's very kind!!
Good for you! I'm still in school too and I have no idea what I wanna do with my life.
I have a small trick to help overcome that initial bump a lot of us experience when overcoming complacency. I call it "No Option." When you find it hard to do that thing you want or need to do, imagine a worst case scenario of you not doing that thing. Once you have the worst case scenario, tell yourself that "this is not an option" and immediately do it. I've been doing it for a couple of months now and it has been a lot easier to get things done. Give it a try!
Ahah, as someone with ADHD I’m constantly looking for tutorials on life, this is in my top 3 and I’ve been seeking life tutorials for almost a decade!
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yesss literally
SAME! I totally have ADHD too and pretty sure Struth does also hehe. We need that motivation like pain to get things done to get that dopamine to our brains. I relate so hard to all his videos!
Me too!! I am constantly looking up ways to “hack” my ADHD mindset… but this was the only thing that has truly made sense to me! I wish you all the best luck on your new goals ❤️❤️
umm, what does it feel to have an adhd?
I love all this advice but what I love even more is that you started out acknowledging that some people will have different barriers/obstacles to action and that's okay! So much "live your best life" advice is given in the tone of "all those things stopping you are just excuses!!" Which is so tone-deaf to anyone with differing life circumstances that it just sours the whole concept. I like how you said "there's nothing wrong with you" because little things like that really do make the difference.
Honestly, If you wrote a self help book I’d live by it
He has, it's on preorder
@@lawrencewallace4462 What's it called and where can it be pre ordered from?
The fact that you make the disclaimer about your capacity and that we might not all be able to do this is so self-aware and just shows how much you understand how human beings work. Thank you so much for your content.
I actually avoided watching this video for ages because I KNEW it would be about me and I didn't want to deal...
It wasn't as bad as I thought. It was helpful. Thank you.
Really good steps to overcome complacency. Sometimes you just need to take small steps. I decided to sell my art online and dedicated a few days to setting up my online store. It's taken my way longer than I expected to list everything but love how it's turned out. I also started a RUclips channel to motivate me to make more art.
Having watched (and hugely enjoyed) many of your videos it seems you are almost always addressing ADHD without ever mentioning it. At first I was wondering why, but I now see that by not using medical terms you are giving a chance for everyone with related or overlapping issues (anxiety, procrastination, self-sabotage...) an equal chance at receiving the message fully regardless of their condition. Props to you.
I've been so complacent here lately that it's actually making me anxious. This video came at the right time.
You are like the older brother everbody needs.Honest and real people are rare these days.
This channel was an awful lot of help to me during quarantine being an artist and all
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Struthless: "I'm not your dad"
Thomas Frank: *shuffles legal papers menacingly*
This is basically free therapy, thanks man.
The Cup List is similar to the Eisenhower decision matrix. If you don't make a plan for non urgent but important items, they can become urgent and important. Or, if you don't do them, stuff blows up.
Yes, tackle urgent and important things. But you have to actually plan and do the important but non urgent stuff.
Your channel is great! Thank you!
Well done brother, at 45 I STILL suffer from complacency, however, there is another side of being comfortable. It is not always so bad.
Took my wife 10 YEARS to get married after we got engaged :)
You're all good
It was interesting doing the thought experiment while listening to you. I have a chronic illness and I found that my pain actually lessened, because I can literally Not Do It. And I am already taking the steps - they just happen to be tiny. Turns out I'm not really complacent about many things at all, I constantly strive to do it all, big and small, I just have to practice a lot of acceptance over the fact that I often Can't. But it did give me perspective on some unnecessary fears holding me back, which I think this really helped me let go of. Thank you for that! 😊
I’m terrified of regret, and I’ve found that imagined deathbed regrets are so helpful in getting me to get crackin on being confident, taking leaps, and truly expressing my wants and desires
I really appreciate your disclaimer. I love your attitude in general. It's healing and constructive compared to all of the toxic positivity I feel bombarded by. I was homeless a few years ago after escaping domestic violence and I'll never see anything about "potential" the same again. I don't feel judged when I watch your videos, just inspired. Thank you
Most relevant topic in today’s time.Appreciate your knowledge and techniques to tackle it.
I just noticed how homey your videos feel, a lot of youtubers have them sitting in their room which is still pretty intimate and has a similar effect, but here it looks like a place where you would sit and talk with a person, coupled with your personality and style, makes a very pleasant viewing experience.
after finding this channel, I've realized I've led a long path of doing what I thought I should be doing and making people "proud" instead of going for the path I truly desired. This video has helped in giving me the motivation to stop being complacent in my life and actually move towards whats fulfilling for me, not what makes me comfortable. thanks
How is this channel free. The amount of effort, information and value that goes into every single video!!!
The business book HAHAH
Currently binging all of your videos in a “time to get most of my sh*t together before I’m 30 so I can thank myself” spiral. Maybe I’ll meander back to this video in 5 years for an update lol - good stuff man.
I don’t want to speak too soon but this hit a good spot. I can be very complacent. But when you said “life is short and you want the experience” that’s a reason for me to take action sooner than later….
Hope your month has been filled with much action and kicking goals, my friend :)
I really appreciate that little disclaimer, as someone with chronic health conditions and a shitty life, it can be disheartening to receive advice from someone with a more privileged perspective.
"Just backpack around the world/ find a guru/ just hop in your private jet and spend a weekend in Paris with your imaginary boyfriend/ just hang out with the friends and family you don't have/ just get therapy even if you can't afford it/ just leave the house even though you're crippled with anxiety"
Thanks Karen...
I sort of stumbled upon this method through trial and error myself. What I find helps is actually scheduling things - not "I'll do this on Sunday" but instead I open my calendar and drop the to-do things into a definite time (remember to give tasks 3 times longer than you think it will take). When I get that notification pop up, it's a lot harder to swipe it away when it's already sitting there than thinking "yeah, I'll do it later today" and catching yourself 34 videos deep on youtube with your hand stuck in a Pringles tube. You have that hesitation from swiping it away because you know you'll be failing your past self who already made the time investment to write it out and schedule it.
I'm glad you're mom is doing well!
I’ve just moved to a new country alone, and you’ve been a lifesaver during this period dude.
Loved this video. Thanks for giving actionable steps. Didn't feel like I was "advised". This is what I would like productivity videos to be like. Hope all your dreams come true for real!
your disclaimers telling me the there is nothing wrong with me is so comforting bless you
After having a wedding i can say it’s overrated! A year of planning for a few hours that go by way too fast! That being said try to make the planning part fun and memorable!
I hear what you're saying, but after 10 years of being married I still think of those couple of hours of pure joy very often.
Your videos are so down to earth and helpful. Thank you so much 😊
I needed this! I’ve recently resigned from a job I’ve been at for 11 years, it was definitely the easy road but I feel like it would be a hard and boring life if I stayed. This has inspired me to stop being complacent about more things in my life. So thanks for sharing :)
I think you just uncovered the cognitive dissonance in my life and why it feels so... distressing. Cheers mate.
Everything in life is hard, finding your soulmate and working on that relationship is hard, divorce is also hard, being alone is hard
being successful is hard, not having what you've always wished for is hard. We just need to pick wisely and think long term
This video made me feel much more than any TED talk I've ever watched. Thank you.
As a girl named Jessi who is definitely living in her cave of comfort: Thank you :D I only found your channel a week or so ago when Sydney went into lockdown again, but your advice is already helping me get my shit together mentally. Next step: crawling toward the light of that rugged wilderness, and sprinting 20 miles to my new cave :D Cheers~~
I don’t know whether you would find this fact boring or not (maybe you already know), but the videos you make help people far beyond English speaking countries.
Big thanks from Russia. You really give me a lot of things to think through and helpful advices that came exactly on time of need
Please have a nice day and all the best wishes with wedding!
Sincerely, Eve
I just want to thank you for your videos; they seem to come up in my feed when I need them the most. You rock!
his self-help videos are the only ones i can watch without feeling drained. truly a great guy doing great things.
Your videos genuinely make me so happy. You have such an impact on people, I really hope you never stop being you and never stop uploading
Thank you for such awesome videos
Needed this video. I've been feeling so frustrated as to why I just can't get these things done in my day to day!! Literally been years since we have had an organized, clean home and it feels like I just keep sweeping it under the rug (no pun intended lol). I feel bad because I let it go too far, and prioritize rest and leasure, but all of the angry energy I put into feeling bad, I could just use to do the tasks and that would be so much faster and so much less painful lol. Thanks for putting it all into words.
man your kid would be so lucky to have you for a father
When we have an injury to heal from if we let our need for comfort control us while feeling complacent then it can make our healing time so much longer there is a danger of giving up. What a wonderful idea to include your mom in wedding plans! I feel inspired when hearing about the good attitudes a lot of young people have towards the older generation too while feeling thankful my daughters and a girl friend to one of my sons who is a welder who is so encouraging of me to not feel complacent while only ever seeking comfort for myself while she instead could be feeling resentful when assuming that I am trying to compete her whenever I put on a less tasty dinner for them because I am not even going to try and compete with 2 good cooks instead of only me. She complimented me on being able to be well organized in a smaller kitchen. I feel so lucky.
That's such a sweet compliment :)
Your videos are genuinely such a source of inspiration bro, keep up the good work and do some different style videos (maybe a fred durst one because why not)
I cant tell you how much your videos help me to organise my life. just finished high school and I don't know what to do with myself but watching your videos helps a lot.
I made some steps today to start the process of developing new heirloom tomato varieties. This is likely an 8 year process or so, but I’ll be growing tomatoes anyway, might as well start this experiment. I see myself as a seed saver/protector and developer and new and wonderful heirloom tomato varieties.
The Cup List is highly relatable. We just moved into a new apartment so the tasks I'm being complacent about just tripled. I made my own Cup list (I'm calling it Offline Awesomeness) and tackling #1 right now. Time to put away these books! Thanks Struthless
Your videos are amazing, I love how I'm over here taking notes, excited about it hahahaha
Same. So much value in his storytelling.
You are contributing SO much to other people’s lives man. Including my own.
So good as always! I will probably listen to this one 25 more times.
okay but this channel is something else entirely. i can't stop watching, taking notes, laughing and crying all at the same time bc of how relatable and kind and inspiring you are. you're a genius, man.. thanks so much
Yooooooooooooooooo... "The cup list" sounds revolutionary. Because the bucket list would be the "ideal" life, but the cup list would be a BETTER life :O
Like holy shit I am making one rn... tnx!
As someone who has always struggled with motivation I can confirm doing them feels better than not, 2 years ago I took on turning a truck into a home with all the comforts, I moved in 8 months ago and thought I was almost finished, ha, nope. I'm glad I didn't really grasp how much work it truly was going to be but even now I procrastinate but I always manage to get another job done that makes my life a little better, if you get overwhelmed, just stop and do something else for a while. Its not a sprint even though every boss every tells you it is.
Awesome video! I’m gonna finish watching it later.
I innitially thought of replying with wtf, but realized I was about to do the same thing😦
@@krisellee2606 Hahah true. It was 1am when I was aimlessly browsing youtube instead of sleeping. So the starting minutes of this kicked my butt into realizing I was stupid and should sleep.
i'm going through a rough patch for a couple of years and have never given up on myself, until april when i got quite sick and my happy balance fell to hell. So honestly i've been slacking off even when circumstances were a bit stable. Thank you for sharing your learnings, i'm working to implement them gradually and successfully. 💛
I've been getting all comfortable since the last 3 months and tbh its completely killing my creativity.
Just wanna put it out there that your channel gives me hope around these bad times. It's a breath of fresh air watching your videos.
The only thing I’d like to add is: make your bed in the morning (honestly makes or breaks my day, kinda like the one minute rule thing)
I love your disclaimer. A lot of people will talk about what people should do or what they did and how to do it, but generalise, and then as a result, if there are exceptions, like illness or children, or whatever, since it's not mentioned, we feel like we're the not normal one. I've wondered if I was using those things as an excuse to myself. Your disclaimer is a nice remainder that it's normal, not all things will apply to all people, and it's just nice to hear, you know.
I want to go to this coffee shop haha
japan's got you covered
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I was in a bad car crash four nights ago. For a split second when the airbag deployed and smoke filled the car, I thought I had died. I feel like if I died now, I would be really disappointed despite living a textbook good life.
For years, I’ve lived a life strategizing different ways to achieve happiness and overcome barriers… the barriers ranging from friendships gone awry to just boredom. I’m a hard worker, had a 4.0 GPA through college, but I never feel like I’ve learned how to be ok with boring, mundane days without feeling loneliness or longing for “more”.
It felt like a double edged sword, because the harder I worked, the less time I have to pursue deep friendships and enjoy my hobbies. But if I ever knew I didn’t do my best and just enough to get a “B” or “C+” (apply this to work life now), I didn’t feel proud of myself. I feel guilt and shame knowing I didn’t give something my all.
I feel guilt struggling with discontentment, because I’m incredibly privileged. This makes me feel disappointed that I don’t know how to achieve real joy- the kind that doesn’t just come when something exciting happens and then ware off two days later when normalcy returns.
At the end of the day, I pictured the first version of me with things achieved by reading the Bible, volunteering and putting others first. But besides growing my relationship with God and serving others, I still have a lot of questions about what route in life will bring long-lasting happiness and get me away from strategizing a new ways to FIND happiness each day.
Many of the paths seem right and could all be the correct, biblical ones when I say them out loud (without going into detail of what they are), but they contradict each other.
Or when I apply them, they work for a little bit and then ware off, and I’m once again left confused.
I really don’t know why I’m sharing this, but God bless, and I hope y’all find that true, deep rooted, uneasily swayed joy that I’m determined to obtain through God.
Oh man- my wedding got canceled because of the quarantine and I was relieved as well- looking to plan something very simple for the second go around especially considering the money we lost from planning the first one
wireless vacuum cleaners are AMAZING.
And seriously, you're doing an amazing job. Big thanks for that :)
I need a bigger cup!!!!
Or am I missing the point ;-)
Yes.
I'll start with a teaspoon.
All the best everbodypeeps.
Been fighting a silly little(not so little) hoarding issue….I just cleaned my countertops after watching this. Thank you
Advice I would give to my unsuccessful future self: get a ballon :')
Firstly, I'm so glad your mom's recovering. I hope she gets more strength than ever before. All the best for your wedding if it hasn't happened yet. Even more best for your marriage. I'm I'm a little late to the party.
Thanks for your post. These talks are always so inspiring. I hope to stop doubting myself and get to doing things. The greatest challenge i face is self doubt. What i do know is once i start something i give it everything i have.
You're cool people. Thanks a many bunch.
Great videos man!
Your videos are so organized, it makes me wanna write all the topics and act like a student. And honestly, I've learnt so much so far. Seriously, this is now my youtube fav.
Somehow I can see you accidentally saying "I'm not your dad" to your kids once you have them lol
Literally have no idea why this channel randomly popped up in my feed, but for once I salute the algorithm.
Love this channel and I’m a subscriber now!!
No, it's the depression.
As an old person I can say, as you get older life speeds up until it’s as if you’re on the Cresta Run to death! So don’t waste the time and energy you have in earlier years, for me that was 30s when I knew enough not to be a total tool but still had interest in plenty of new things and the energy to do them. Life changed for me when I ditched pleasing others and backpacked around Australia by for 6months. Taught a lot, especially that all I needed for happiness I could pack in a bag, that I could do anything, just about, and that I’m a nomad at heart. Get out of the rut, off the couch and do anything you would be talking yourself out of if too idle mentally to move. Good luck.
Thank you for the transcript. Your videos help me out more than you know. I’m very grateful for what you been through and could teach from it
Bro. I watched your video on overwhelm this morning. Now watching this. Like half the shit you said in this video that you’ve wanted to do, you are doing now! Badass
Discovering struthless last week was the best thing happened to me. I just love his videos so much. Thank you for being .
Man you have no idea how much you help me. Whenever I'm stuck I'm like, yeah for sure there's a Struthless video for this. Plus you're exciting to watch and I laugh in the process. thank YOU
I don´t think I´ve ever seen anyone creating videos like you do. How you explain everything from your own experience, how you always break it down in specific points/parts/steps, how you always incorporate journaling and motivate us to do the same (cuz it really is on of the best tools seeing your thoughts/feelings in front of you on a piece of paper, and then analyzing them). I am just amazed by your videos. They lift me up, makes me feel motivated and most importatntly they make me feel not alone with these kind of problems. And the fact that with these 10 minutes you literally give us a toolkit for our brain, which is really useful I think. So yeah, basically thank you so so much for being here and sharing your life advices :)
dude you are brilliant. seriously every video you put out is so thoughtful and concrete and simple. thank you so much for everything you do, subscribing to your channel is one of the best decisions I've made in years
You've gone and done it again. Made a sweet video in 10mins that turns how you view and think about stuff on its head and it makes more sense than it did before. Thanks
You always break down these concepts till they're comprehensive , thank you!
I'm currently on the comfortable phase and I'm not complaining... Every phase of your life is important
I usually don't like these type of videos. They are not real, they tell you to get up and do something that you obviously can't right now, otherwise you would have done it. Also, I don't trust them.
That's not you. You are good, man. I trust you. And you explain everything, which is super good. Keep up!
I did something similar to this 3 years ago with Peterson's Future Authoring program and I'm definitely living my better life! I own a great business, I'm on my way to owning my first condo and actually building my first home next year.
In another of your videos you said 'your older self will thank you'. The comparison of the two old 'me's' helps me get what you meant by it. Cheers mate.