These thoughtful advice, mental health based videos you make are so incredibly helpful. And that's an understatement. Thank you, please keep making them!
The question I usually use is "if I saw someone else committing this action / behaving this way / saying this thing, what would I think of them?" I've managed to weaponise my judgemental nature for my own benefit 🤣😂
I have a question! Something I've been asking myself recently is "if this situation was never going to end, how would you make the most of it?" Basically I found myself getting caught in loops of wishful thinking - "I'll do this when I have more money/a different living situation/when I've lost weight" etc. Sometimes it'd be something like "I'll write my book once my desk is clean" and then I'd somehow avoid cleaning that desk for daaaays. So the question became "if the desk was never, ever going to be clean again, how would I cope with that? Would I still be able to write a book? Should I make a different goal, or can I work with this?" So I took my laptop with me outside and found a picnic table to work at. It's been surprisingly helpful in getting me to weed out the little things holding me back from big, important things.
It’s also good to point out that you decided to take the EASY way to “make a board game” analogy. You eliminated the variables that were making the objective harder and chose the faster route. One thing I’ve noticed in my 2 years of sobriety is my fear of failure. This was /is a blind spot for me; sometimes we inadvertently sabotage ourselves from the beginning of a “project” and make it difficult on purpose. Then you can just excuse it away as ‘too hard’ and try something else… it’s a vicious cycle of “negative” reinforcement. Great comments and input!
-How is this thing the best thing that's ever happened to me? -What would this look like if it were easy? -Will this make the boat go faster? -What would the ideal me do? -How is this my fault/responsibility? Excellent questions!
Mate, thank you so much for putting these up in such an open and honest way. You have a really unique way of being able to articulate these points without coming off as preachy or condescending. Genuinely appreciated.
I prefer "what good thing did you draw from it DESPITE of it". My childhood abuse gave me trauma, anxiety and depression and my chronic illness isn't helping. And I resent the idea that any of my achievements in life, even empathy, are BECAUSE of it. I don't want my abusers or my sickness to get any credit in my sucesses. They are mine and mine alone and I fought teeth and nail to be the person that I am today. So ye, I am an comic author, an outgoing and empathic person, witty and resourceful and hardworking.... Despite everything that happened to me and I am proud of that. It's not the abuse that got me here, but myself. .... This is in no way meant as an attack though. I definitely like the first question anyways and if it helps to pull something positive from something negative I'm all for it. I mainly reacted that strongly because it's a constant in media and Storytelling. That you can be glad to have been through something bad because it makes you a better person. Basically a "be glad" this happened to you. As if there would always be this big payoff proportional to how shitty things were for you. And I've been thinking about that for a long while now
I agree. While I encourage any trauma victim (esp sexual trauma) to deal with that trauma in any way they need to in order to survive, I don't like the narrative of "this had to happen to me for me to become x". It implies sexual violence serves some kind of positives purpose in our society and needs to exist. You do not have to be violated in order to feel empathy, in order to learn boundaries or in order to become stronger.
Jon Won Yes. The question really is: DESPITE of it. And I totally agree with your last paragraph (that´s the right word?). On the other hand, I really like the 4. question: "What would the ideal me do?" It was fun, defining my worst and my best "me" and just now, it´s helping a lot getting my decisions right.
@@nbucwa6621 There is no purpose "out there" outside of you. Only within you. There is no meaning there either. It lies within you. The world is what it is, and you have to play the hand you are dealt. Thinking life has to mean something or has a purpose of itself denies reality. SARS-COV-2 knows nothing of meaning or purpose but does what it does. The Rose and the Stinging Nettle does the same thing despite the difference in meaning and value we as humans attribute to it. Similarly, it's ultimately pointless to attribute meaning and purpose to what people do, because we are more like the Rose and the Nettle than we suppose. Abusers abuse. But that you have been abused need not define who you are. We need not stop growing and evolving because of what happened in the past, and we need not identify with it. Acknowledge it, learn from it, heal from it, and keep on growing. To do so is radical acceptance of the nature of existence. Moreover, your feelings about something that happened in the past are not the best guide to what you should be doing now. If your feelings about the past are a problem it is because you are prioritising the past. "Priorities determine problems. If you're not satisfied with the problems you currently face in your life, then take a long, hard look at the priorities that put those problems there." - - Mark Manson Any problems you have demand a price to stay in your life. They take time, energy, and focus to manage now and in your future. If that price is intolerable then you can choose to stop paying the price. If being angry or resentful serves you in some way, then accept the price of being angry and resentful. For some that is intolerable, and they choose not to have those feelings in their life. They forgive. It's a decision everyone has to make for themselves, at a time and place of their choosing. No-one can dictate whether you should or should not. It needs to be said that Forgiveness is not tolerance of trauma or those that hurt people. It's not for them, it is for those who have been hurt, and it is a decision to stop hurting more. If this suffering is unnecessary, then why suffer? Does it make the boat go faster? If you answer "No", then it's time to let it go. It's that simple, and often that hard. We have to be honest with ourselves about the kudos anger and resentment gives us. But in reality, in holding on to these may be obscuring deeper problems, that are extracting a higher price to keep them.
The 5 questions - 1. 1:33 How is the worst thing that's ever happened to me, the best thing that's ever happened to me? 2. 3:41 What would this look like if it were easy? 3. 4:53 Will it make the boat go faster? 4. 6:26 What would the ideal me do? 5. 8:00 How is this my fault?/How is this my responsibility? Leaving this here for myself and others!
I use to get motion sickness too. The best way I found to deal with it is taking some preventive medication beforehand (taking it afterwards doesn't work properly, damage is already done).
Great vid man, there's definitely a correlation between victims of trauma or abuse and being kind and wise in nature. I think it really helps us develop our empathy and more perspective. I'm a big advocate of "you are responsible for everything that happens to you". (in the sense that you're responsible for how you react and grow from it) A lot lot of people seem to misconstrue this statement with "everything that happens to you is your fault", (which couldn't be further from the truth). Love your work Cam, you've really been a big inspiration for me while I'm starting down the bus route of my career. It's awesome to get this kind of content from someone who's on the same wavelength, and who i feel i can relate to. Keep doing your thing bro, really does a lot for us :)
The concept of the wounded healer explains the link between trauma/abuse & empathy pretty well... There's some great videos here on RUclips on the concept - I particularly recommend those by Dr Gabor Maté & Oryx Cohen, I found them really useful & empowering when considering this topic.
I ask myself: "What would someone who loved themselves do?" This question helps me nurture myself and fosters a compassionate attitude. Also, I ask myself, "What does my heart really want?" Because often I get too lost in "should" and forget to hear my heart's desires.
i think that would be a healthier alternative to the "ideal me", because there is no such thing as an ideal person. and beating yourself up too much could do more bad than good, ultimately cause a lot more stress because you're not living a perfect and always productive life
@@graybirdynamnam Absolutely. I used to think in terms of "best self" a lot ten or so years ago, but I got into an unhealthy mindset where I drove myself insanely hard. I repressed a lot and thought I'd "handled it" but I hadn't. It's been much better for me to use this approach of self-care and self-love. :)
I utterly love your videos, they are some of the most helpful instructions for being creative I have ever found, I love your drawings, they are clever and funny, I love your honesty, I love your integrity, I love your wit, maybe the worst thing that happened to you helped you to be able to articulate and show vulnerability, which is rare and important, , doesn’t mean I don’t want that person dead, forgiveness isn’t necessary unless you need to, but anyway, you are one of my utter favourite youtuber/instagrammer persons and your content has brightened my days since I found your work, keep being you and look after yourself xxx
THANK YOU!!!! what a frikkin incredible thing to write - and thanks for taking the time to write it. I'm stoked that they're getting through, and on such a personal level. Lol @ the person dead line. The best thing I've read is "forgiveness is something you do for you, not for them". thanks again so much love 💕💕💕
Something similar happened to me :( I had been molested when I was younger by someone close to me and sometimes I just push it away and never bring it up. It rlly choked me up when you said that and I’m still sorry u went through that and it’s nice to see how far you’ve come.. Sometimes the best option is just to change the way u perceive the situations u went through like u said. And got me at the last one my brothers LOVE to blame my parents for not being rich but last time I checked we are now all adults and are responsible for our choices.
You just have a knack for making great, straight talking no bullshit, thought provoking videos, that you can just take away and really wrestle with and go back to when you need a kick up the arse. Keep making them and thanks for being so honest and real.
ok, been subscribed for over a year. YOU have upgraded my life. Yea I’m 57, 2 kids with disabilities, wife had a bout with seizures, I had cancer, surgery, radiation, estrogen shots.. (worse than the cancer.. only way I coped is by buying shoes.) diagnosed with heart disease, and a Tia, (mini stroke). All under the warm embrace of a global pandemic. ( kids picture is my son.) but did a movie, book and song videos with a group of talented young adults, starting a bunch of new programs for kids, running 2 small companies with 8+ employees. Love making bread. And watch your videos as I’m making breakfast in the morning. I’m was the chaotic type a creative guy.. but appear to be harnessing some of the snakes and half of them going in one direction is really fun. So… in advance of you getting a kid/kids, getting older and taking care of someone… Can you do a video on dealing with interruptions? I have come to integrate an interruption as part of the creative process.. ie the universe making me step away.. and come back with another snake in charge… But would be interested on your take. And you can look back on it when you do have “more issues” to grapple with and see how ya did. Thank soft your help. I have forwarded your videos to friends, colleges, kids, and watch them again and again to reinforce good snake behavior. The 5 things and “the Ibis” video have been my favorites so far. If your by New Jersey, let me know. I’ll bake you some bread! Craig
Whew! Title of my video some day: "This 1 video about 5 questions, that changed my life" 🤭 This is just awesome! Thank you for sharing & being vulnerable with us, man. Really means a lot 🙏
Damn. That is not easy to share such a personal and honest thing. I’m so sorry that happened to you, and grateful to have found your channel which shares real, life-grit stuff with integrity and humour. ✌️
I like the question "what would you tell a friend in your situation?" Because it lets you be more kind to yourself and also see the situation more clearly.
Immediately reminded me of a book I just finished "One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way" by Robert Maurer. One of the things he discusses is the power of using small questions to stimulate the brain (the one caveat being they cannot be big scary questions). "If you repeat the question over the course of several days or weeks-or for however long it takes-the hippocampus (the part of the brain that stores information) will have no choice but to address it. And in its own way, on its own timetable, the brain will begin giving you answers."
I paused at the bad you vs ideal you test. I tried it. I added a collumn to put on some notes. I'm gonna do it everyday I think about it. I'm at 5 vs 2. Bad me won today but I had a pretty rough day mentally speaking. So as I wrote in the note section "Today I lose. Let's try again tomorrow" Small steps like this makes you take some perspective. It's great. You rock man. Your videos are always a game changer. Like you knew what I needed to hear and / or learn. Thank you for that. Everyone trying to become better persons as I think we all do here should watch this video.
Thank you, Campbell Walker. I spent my morning (4-6am) binging on your channel because I was looking for content to help my 5-year-old daughter, Claire, deal with the frustration that she is not yet a master artist. Yesterday she had a meltdown that her drawing of Spyro the Dragon (from video games) didn’t turn out how she’d hoped. (Her drawing is actually really amazing). Maybe I need help, too; I’m frustrated that I am not a master parent. Her entire kindergarten schoolyear has been online because of COVID. I worry about kids who are being abused, sexually and otherwise, during lockdown. No amount of added SEL (social-emotional learning) can fix the reality that we are all painfully isolated and stressed out right now. I’ve been experimenting with gratitude and meaningful virtual connections. I know I need to start making my own videos about this, even if they are only 30%...❤️ You are inspirational!
This is such a beautiful video. I kinda had this life changing moment about a year after both my parents had died. I realised that the worst thing that I ever could have imagined happening actually had happened...and that strangely I was doing pretty good considering! It fully opened up a new perspective for me. I realised I was really, really strong and also felt a depth of character from having survived the intense suffering. Thankyou
Man, I love your content. I appreciate how honest and real you are. When you started talking about "What's the worst thing that ever happened to you?" and listed off a few things, my immediate reaction was to get a bit angry and think "how the f could being raped, or being beaten up by alcoholic parents possibly have a positive spin put on it?!" but your openness really shifted my perspective. Hope your followers keep growing and more people get a chance to see this.
I just found you, or let's say, the algorithm just moved you my way. There are so many things going through my head, too many to find fitting words for them. Thank you. Just for reminding me, that there are people like you out there. It doesn't quite sound right, words don't come easy today. (Given that words are my creative outlet that's a bit discouraging, but that's okay) Thank you for reminding me of things I've learned before, giving them new context and a visual representation for some that I didn't have that yet. Makes them easier to implement. In short: thank you.
Thank you!....I am a 56 year woman, and I am grateful for how much you have encouraged and taught me. You are wise, empathetic, and creative beyond your years. Be well and Keep on, Keepn' on !!!
"What can I do about it" is a good question for working your way out of overwhelming emotional situations. Maybe it's something practical to fix the situation, maybe it's 'remove myself from the situation and calm down for a while', maybe something else. But it's a good prompt to get your brain to find /something/ to hold on to when it feels like you're drowning.
omg, you don´t have any idea how much i missed youu:( youtube didn´t send me the notification and i was like "huh? i am very sure that i suscribed to the channel of this wonderful guy". and yes, i did. thanks for come back, struthless! c:
I love this, with the exception of number 5 - which I think might fall into the "If you come from a background of debilitating guilt, this one may need to go into the "for the advanced crowd" category." I absolutely believe in personal responsibility. The trick here is being NOW and FUTURE focused because 'guilt' about the past (i.e. what canNOT be changed, only how it is perceived/accepted/reframed (return to question #1)) can be incredibly debilitating and counter-productive. This was GREAT! Thank you.
I love the idea of flipping things around with "How can this be the best thing" and "what would this look like if it were easy". I tend to make things hard for myself and focus on the negatives. I will try and apply these to my life
This showed up in my feed on a day I was actively working to improve my mental health, going to therapy etc, thank you for taking the time to articulate your learnings. I found so much value in this video.
whoa just thinking about how much this could actually help just by thinking more positive, like you said, not forcing the brain to know why you are so bad but rather forcing it to think about why you are great
I didn't realize I was living by the 'how is this the best thing that's ever happened to me?' but I totally did that after various personal downturns and tradegies throughout my life. Lost my job? Well I guess it's time to pursue conventions and freelance art as hard as I can now that I have the time. I hate letting bad things that happened control my life, I try to use them as opportunities to re-evaluate what makes me happy and steer my boat in that direction.
My notes on the video if they're useful to anyone! Cam just makes such good points in all these video's that I felt the need to write them down! **The 5 Questions that Changed My Life** - your brain naturally answers questions you ask - why do I suck? -> find answers - why am I lovely? -> self-worth - Question 1: How is this the best thing that ever happened to me? - what are the worst things that happened to me and how is this good -> ability of empathy - what did it teach me? - fulfillment is the punchline - Question 2: What would this look like if it was easy? - “work is a hard thing to do: can’t avoid struggle” - make two lists: what do if it was hard? easy? - Question 3: will it make the boat go faster? - at every decision: having salad in stead of burger - will this make my movies better? - decision not easy: will jelling at the customer service guy make your movies better? - by not yelling you practise being patient and kind, helps - Question 4: what would the ideal me do? - tough love - three columns: everything I did today, bad you vs ideal you - do the action vote for bad you or good you. whoever wins is who you are becoming - Question 5: How is this my fault/responsibility? - my fault: disagreement at work: find your own blind spots: maybe they are smarter, I did something wrong - responsibility: for bad things that happened to you - my responsiblity to heal, go to therapy, strengthen brain, forgive abuser - blame yourself: to find how to improve, which problems you can change - NOT POWERLESS - blame game -> fix stuff -> self-respect
Wow I really needed this advice. Especially the first one “how does this bad thing that happened improve me as person?” is something I’ve been needing to consider for a while... I also liked the idea of making a tally of the two versions of yourself you could be. It’s like those games where choices determine your outcome, except it’s real. Thanks for making this video
you. dont. know. how. much. youre helping other people get their screws fixed. I hope everything get squeaky smooth with you moving forward. sending digital hugs to you 🙋🏻♀
THis is about the fifth or sixth of your videos I've watched, and I want to say THANK YOU for being SO open, forthcoming, and sharing your thoughts. Amazing, and SO helpful!
Your courage to share openly and compassionately are inspirational. It is evident you are a person who loves other people and wants the best for them. Thank you.
Just started watching your videos yesterday as I was setting myself up for a project I'd usually expect myself to fail at (something I've been trying to change for years) and you have honestly changed my life. Thank you so much man! You've filled me with so much hope and faith in my ability to cope with things as they come along in life. AAAAAH I just can't thank you enough for sharing yourself with the world.
I've been going through a low point and this video made my eyes full of tears because it helped me remember I already have all I need to get better. Thank you so much, I love you more with each video. I really hope your lifes is going fine.
I’m happy I randomly got your channel suggested to me. Your videos are easy to digest and I like the graphics and examples. It feels less clinical and scary, and more normal and small. Thank you, these examples feel workable and I feel capable.
Way to bring a grounded approach to life changing questions that reveal vulnerability not just in your own life but in every person who watches this video. RESPONSIBILITY! CHECKING BLIND SPOTS! admitting the cycles of thought we continue to live in and allow to thrive... This video is a gift. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Your work is so excellent, please continue to make these types of videos! I really enjoyed watching this, and marked it as one to come back to as well. Also - I quit drinking a year ago (after, similarly, drinking regularly since I was a teenager), and I can't recommend it enough, it's all upside. Cheers to you for your sobriety!
Dude, I fucking LOVE what you do and what you're about. I remember you saying if you aren't making videos you're on the drugs so it's great to see you're not, and good on you for turning a traumatic event into a positive, you're a bloody strong guy! You're helping me (and I'm sure many others) deal with shit and get my life the way I want it so Im super grateful to have found you. ❤️❤️❤️
I can relate so much to everything you say, after struggling with alc and drugs for the past ... holy shot... almost 10 years and now trying to build up a career as an illustrator , your advice is so fucking precious! Thank you.
Great advice and beautifully shared, thank you. Especially thanks for sharing your childhood abuse; it was pretty mindblowing how you used it as an example for "How is this my responsibility." You rock
Brilliant! You have a wonderful gift of taking complex painful realities & creating simplified ways to approach healing & growth. The beauty of this video is you start with a extreme personal truth to show anyone could reframe their thinking & make serious change in their lives if they look at things differently. Thank you for your honesty ,empathy & no bullshit approach to changing one's life . I am grateful I found your videos today .
Thank you very much for this video. I'm in therapy since march and this video is coming at the right time in my life. I'm very grateful you're doing those videos.
as a guy who was also sexually abused and struggles with addiction, this means a lot. especially since im autistic, trans, not accepted by family, and a bit socially stunted, it means a lot to find men like you who i can look up to for mental health and just general skills for coping with life. im disabled and cant really leave my house, watching your videos feels productive lol also, i must add that im also making a board game and can vouch for that example lol. we're making it out of paper and then throwing it into a website thatll make it for us for a decent price. and thats if we cant make it ourselves easily (mostly depends on price and what we feel like doing.. shes a premed student, so busy as hell, and im a lazy cripple)
I stumbled w your videos all randomly and I got to say that they got me. Deeply. Thank you so so much for sharing this, also thank you for opening up about something as personal and deep as child abuse is, not many men talk about it and that doesn't help them to find the closure they need. Really, thank you for your amazing videos.
My friend and i end up talking in metaphors a lot when we discuss mental health. We have a term for someone who pushes forward, through the murk and weeds, through the snapping claws of folks who don't believe in you, through the east currents and sunlight and back through the muck. Anyhow, you're a Big Fish and it's always delightful to find one!
Dude... all of your videos are fire. Exactly what I need in my life right now. Mad props for the heaving lifting, the deep digging. Doing the work. yes.
Your videos have really been helping me improve my life and help me along my creative journey. Thank you for putting in the time to makes these, you don't know just how many lives you're touching. Much love man
My daughter who is an artist found your video, and showed it to me. You video made my day! I watched it twice. I love how you have combined, creativity, authenticity, healing, and understanding how the mind works! These are all topics right up my ally. Love your humor, gentle but brilliant style of asking these profound questions.I think you are a master at much more that you realize and you are modeling to so many that great pain, can become powerful catalysts when they are transmuted. This is what the world needs!!! Please bring your brilliance and keep making these amazing videos!!!!!
I started youtube today looking at tips to get me into drawing manga. On the side of the video I was watching was your "The drawing advice that changed my life" video. I enjoyed that one and the next up was "Advice for people who feel like their art isn't unique" That's definitely a struggle question being 31 years old and never feeling comfortable about showing people my art. So once again I was impressed with how true to me these videos were. Then this one popped up. Everyone has struggles and "stuff" going on in their lives and I am no exception... Now I don't understand how a 10 minute video could change my life like it just did. I started youtube procrastinating about drawing a dream I had and effectively ended up with more truth and self help than I ever got sitting for hours with a counselor. Thank you my friend. I am greatly looking forward to binge watching the rest of your insights into my soul.
I just discovered your videos a week ago and am OBSESSED! Your articulation of thought, real-life examples form your own experiences, and practical suggestions for application to viewers’ lives have made this some of the best self-improvement content I’ve ever found on the internet. Plus, your willingness to be so open and vulnerable about your past in order to connect these practices to positive outcomes is nothing short of admirable, and awesome. I love your work!!! :)
so glad I just found your channel. I'm at the crux of a major life decision with my career and my bipolar brother just got out of rehab and has a lot of self examination and development he's gotta keep doing. Definitely going to be sharing this and thinking about these questions. Thank you!
youuu my man deserve more subscribers, you are such an inspiration, having gone through tough shit and then TAKING RESPONSIBILITY for your mental health, you areeeee amazing, I always thought that way and it's so refreshing to hear ppl with your background experiences and see how they are working to be better, I always prefer surround myself with people who didn't have a "shiny" past and want to be better, than with ppl that have had it good all their lives and thing that they don't need self development.
Found your channel today, watched 5 videos, love all of them. Thanks for all this and congratulations on winning your battles so beautifully. You are a great guy.
Just found your channel and I just need to say thank you for all the really awesome tips, positivity & confidence you’ve given me the past few weeks! Keep shining my friend ✨
I really appreciate that you used actually traumatic examples. Not a lot of people include that and that's the part I always have trouble... Thank you!
Your raw honesty has meant so much - in a world where everyone seems to wear a mask, I feel less alone when I hear you speak. The world needs your message and more people like you. You've managed to hit on all the key areas where I was seeking wisdom. Thank you. x
Everytime I feel like I'm not making an impact or my work isn't worthwhile, these videos always help me re-evaluate my sense of purpose and dedication! Thank you so much for making these. I'm one of your biggest fans :)
For the past year (especially during quarantine) I've begun to realize a lot of my inner hesitations and anxieties really started when I was just a kid. It was natural back then to be careful and cut myself down/self-doubt more often than actually applying myself or going outside of my comfort zone; these mental habits of self-doubt and instant-dismissal have snowballed ever since then. Now I'm a young adult, and have been carefully trying to weed out (re-wire my brain, really) all those bad mental habits that cause doubt and insecurities which have limited my thoughts and inspirations for decades.
I appreciate this video because it gives you questions that only you can have the answer for, rather than have life advice (or something round' that area) that can be viewed in way too many ways and would not have the same personal touch to it compared to an answer than comes from you and your mental state. Thank you my g. :)
Great stuff man. I've been sober little more than 3 years now and it's super helpful to hear your positive thoughts while you travel your journey. Thanks for being honest.
Wow, thank you for being so open! These questions are really deep and helpful to ask. My favorite was "What would the ideal me do". Would love to see more videos like this!
Thank you for sharing these ideas and your own experience so candidly. I am currently struggling to pull myself back to a good, healthy place. tackling autism-related communication issues, bipolar moods and my own similar trauma and i usually don't feel like i connect to the people in these types of video. However, your vulnerability and strength to be open about your negative experiences is so refreshing(!) and your ability to overcome these things makes me believe so much more that I can turn things around too. This is just what I needed right now so thank you!
Hey look, a video full of stuff that I can actually use in my life. Great job dude, a rare gem.
thanks so much!! mission accomplished then :)
struthless youuuu
These thoughtful advice, mental health based videos you make are so incredibly helpful. And that's an understatement. Thank you, please keep making them!
will do! tysm 💕💕
Brooke Glaser from Skillshare!! 🙋♂️✨
@@jjfecik Haha, that's me!
@@struthless They are impactful.
I need a big ass poster of these hanging on my wall as a daily reminder.
make one!
Probably gonna do exactly that real soon xD
I feel like struthless would do a good job illustrating something like this ;) Heck, I'd buy it. #hinthintnudgenudgesaynomore
list the advice , i will make and share the posters/hangings
The question I usually use is "if I saw someone else committing this action / behaving this way / saying this thing, what would I think of them?"
I've managed to weaponise my judgemental nature for my own benefit 🤣😂
Thank you Ash.....i love this
Lol
You so cool :)
Yes he is haha
@Sorelle you are awesome! I've been watching you for years! He's cool too :)
No u 💞
@@struthless yes, you! - you have to take responsibility for it lol!
He really is, I feel so grateful finding him. Thanks
I have a question! Something I've been asking myself recently is "if this situation was never going to end, how would you make the most of it?"
Basically I found myself getting caught in loops of wishful thinking - "I'll do this when I have more money/a different living situation/when I've lost weight" etc. Sometimes it'd be something like "I'll write my book once my desk is clean" and then I'd somehow avoid cleaning that desk for daaaays. So the question became "if the desk was never, ever going to be clean again, how would I cope with that? Would I still be able to write a book? Should I make a different goal, or can I work with this?" So I took my laptop with me outside and found a picnic table to work at. It's been surprisingly helpful in getting me to weed out the little things holding me back from big, important things.
That's a great idea. I know this loop you mentioned all too well, I need to use your question from now on. Thank you :)
It’s also good to point out that you decided to take the EASY way to “make a board game” analogy. You eliminated the variables that were making the objective harder and chose the faster route. One thing I’ve noticed in my 2 years of sobriety is my fear of failure. This was /is a blind spot for me; sometimes we inadvertently sabotage ourselves from the beginning of a “project” and make it difficult on purpose. Then you can just excuse it away as ‘too hard’ and try something else… it’s a vicious cycle of “negative” reinforcement. Great comments and input!
That's a great question!
-How is this thing the best thing that's ever happened to me?
-What would this look like if it were easy?
-Will this make the boat go faster?
-What would the ideal me do?
-How is this my fault/responsibility?
Excellent questions!
Mate, thank you so much for putting these up in such an open and honest way. You have a really unique way of being able to articulate these points without coming off as preachy or condescending. Genuinely appreciated.
Totally agree! So much value!
You are 100% correct with your observation!
I prefer "what good thing did you draw from it DESPITE of it".
My childhood abuse gave me trauma, anxiety and depression and my chronic illness isn't helping. And I resent the idea that any of my achievements in life, even empathy, are BECAUSE of it. I don't want my abusers or my sickness to get any credit in my sucesses. They are mine and mine alone and I fought teeth and nail to be the person that I am today.
So ye, I am an comic author, an outgoing and empathic person, witty and resourceful and hardworking.... Despite everything that happened to me and I am proud of that. It's not the abuse that got me here, but myself.
.... This is in no way meant as an attack though. I definitely like the first question anyways and if it helps to pull something positive from something negative I'm all for it.
I mainly reacted that strongly because it's a constant in media and Storytelling. That you can be glad to have been through something bad because it makes you a better person. Basically a "be glad" this happened to you. As if there would always be this big payoff proportional to how shitty things were for you. And I've been thinking about that for a long while now
I agree. While I encourage any trauma victim (esp sexual trauma) to deal with that trauma in any way they need to in order to survive, I don't like the narrative of "this had to happen to me for me to become x". It implies sexual violence serves some kind of positives purpose in our society and needs to exist. You do not have to be violated in order to feel empathy, in order to learn boundaries or in order to become stronger.
This idea resonates with me much more deeply.
Jon Won
Yes. The question really is: DESPITE of it.
And I totally agree with your last paragraph (that´s the right word?).
On the other hand, I really like the 4. question: "What would the ideal me do?"
It was fun, defining my worst and my best "me" and just now, it´s helping a lot getting my decisions right.
@@nbucwa6621 There is no purpose "out there" outside of you. Only within you. There is no meaning there either. It lies within you. The world is what it is, and you have to play the hand you are dealt. Thinking life has to mean something or has a purpose of itself denies reality. SARS-COV-2 knows nothing of meaning or purpose but does what it does. The Rose and the Stinging Nettle does the same thing despite the difference in meaning and value we as humans attribute to it. Similarly, it's ultimately pointless to attribute meaning and purpose to what people do, because we are more like the Rose and the Nettle than we suppose. Abusers abuse. But that you have been abused need not define who you are. We need not stop growing and evolving because of what happened in the past, and we need not identify with it. Acknowledge it, learn from it, heal from it, and keep on growing. To do so is radical acceptance of the nature of existence.
Moreover, your feelings about something that happened in the past are not the best guide to what you should be doing now. If your feelings about the past are a problem it is because you are prioritising the past. "Priorities determine problems. If you're not satisfied with the problems you currently face in your life, then take a long, hard look at the priorities that put those problems there." - - Mark Manson
Any problems you have demand a price to stay in your life. They take time, energy, and focus to manage now and in your future. If that price is intolerable then you can choose to stop paying the price. If being angry or resentful serves you in some way, then accept the price of being angry and resentful. For some that is intolerable, and they choose not to have those feelings in their life. They forgive. It's a decision everyone has to make for themselves, at a time and place of their choosing. No-one can dictate whether you should or should not. It needs to be said that Forgiveness is not tolerance of trauma or those that hurt people. It's not for them, it is for those who have been hurt, and it is a decision to stop hurting more. If this suffering is unnecessary, then why suffer? Does it make the boat go faster? If you answer "No", then it's time to let it go. It's that simple, and often that hard. We have to be honest with ourselves about the kudos anger and resentment gives us. But in reality, in holding on to these may be obscuring deeper problems, that are extracting a higher price to keep them.
The 5 questions -
1. 1:33 How is the worst thing that's ever happened to me, the best thing that's ever happened to me?
2. 3:41 What would this look like if it were easy?
3. 4:53 Will it make the boat go faster?
4. 6:26 What would the ideal me do?
5. 8:00 How is this my fault?/How is this my responsibility?
Leaving this here for myself and others!
Thank you 🥺💕
Thanks for writing these questions out - very helpful ❣️
This was very helpful, thank you 🙏
also acceptable is "Why am I lovely?"
THANK YOU!
Dude, you're so awesome.
That sounds like the absolute best way to throw up!!
As long as you didn't vomit on the dolphins 😂
And I love that question, I need to use this in my life as well :D
I use to get motion sickness too. The best way I found to deal with it is taking some preventive medication beforehand (taking it afterwards doesn't work properly, damage is already done).
Hope you had a good time at the Canary Islands. We live here in one of the most beautiful Islands.#LasPalmas #TriniRoyQui #QuinetteAdaobi
Great vid man, there's definitely a correlation between victims of trauma or abuse and being kind and wise in nature. I think it really helps us develop our empathy and more perspective. I'm a big advocate of "you are responsible for everything that happens to you". (in the sense that you're responsible for how you react and grow from it) A lot lot of people seem to misconstrue this statement with "everything that happens to you is your fault", (which couldn't be further from the truth).
Love your work Cam, you've really been a big inspiration for me while I'm starting down the bus route of my career. It's awesome to get this kind of content from someone who's on the same wavelength, and who i feel i can relate to. Keep doing your thing bro, really does a lot for us :)
Ditto for me Zachary! Exactly!
The concept of the wounded healer explains the link between trauma/abuse & empathy pretty well... There's some great videos here on RUclips on the concept - I particularly recommend those by Dr Gabor Maté & Oryx Cohen, I found them really useful & empowering when considering this topic.
Beautiful ❤️
I ask myself: "What would someone who loved themselves do?" This question helps me nurture myself and fosters a compassionate attitude. Also, I ask myself, "What does my heart really want?" Because often I get too lost in "should" and forget to hear my heart's desires.
i think that would be a healthier alternative to the "ideal me", because there is no such thing as an ideal person. and beating yourself up too much could do more bad than good, ultimately cause a lot more stress because you're not living a perfect and always productive life
@@graybirdynamnam Absolutely. I used to think in terms of "best self" a lot ten or so years ago, but I got into an unhealthy mindset where I drove myself insanely hard. I repressed a lot and thought I'd "handled it" but I hadn't. It's been much better for me to use this approach of self-care and self-love. :)
YES!!💖🌻amazing
👍🏽two thumbs up! Thanks for the insights!
Hello, fellow Teal Triber! I see we have similar taste in personal growth 😂🤙
I utterly love your videos, they are some of the most helpful instructions for being creative I have ever found, I love your drawings, they are clever and funny, I love your honesty, I love your integrity, I love your wit, maybe the worst thing that happened to you helped you to be able to articulate and show vulnerability, which is rare and important, , doesn’t mean I don’t want that person dead, forgiveness isn’t necessary unless you need to, but anyway, you are one of my utter favourite youtuber/instagrammer persons and your content has brightened my days since I found your work, keep being you and look after yourself xxx
THANK YOU!!!! what a frikkin incredible thing to write - and thanks for taking the time to write it. I'm stoked that they're getting through, and on such a personal level. Lol @ the person dead line. The best thing I've read is "forgiveness is something you do for you, not for them". thanks again so much love 💕💕💕
struthless I only write the utmost truth so thank you 💓xx
Something similar happened to me :( I had been molested when I was younger by someone close to me and sometimes I just push it away and never bring it up. It rlly choked me up when you said that and I’m still sorry u went through that and it’s nice to see how far you’ve come.. Sometimes the best option is just to change the way u perceive the situations u went through like u said. And got me at the last one my brothers LOVE to blame my parents for not being rich but last time I checked we are now all adults and are responsible for our choices.
You just have a knack for making great, straight talking no bullshit, thought provoking videos, that you can just take away and really wrestle with and go back to when you need a kick up the arse. Keep making them and thanks for being so honest and real.
ok, been subscribed for over a year.
YOU have upgraded my life.
Yea I’m 57, 2 kids with disabilities, wife had a bout with seizures, I had cancer, surgery, radiation, estrogen shots.. (worse than the cancer.. only way I coped is by buying shoes.) diagnosed with heart disease, and a Tia, (mini stroke). All under the warm embrace of a global pandemic. ( kids picture is my son.)
but did a movie, book and song videos with a group of talented young adults, starting a bunch of new programs for kids, running 2 small companies with 8+ employees. Love making bread. And watch your videos as I’m making breakfast in the morning.
I’m was the chaotic type a creative guy.. but appear to be harnessing some of the snakes and half of them going in one direction is really fun.
So… in advance of you getting a kid/kids, getting older and taking care of someone…
Can you do a video on dealing with interruptions?
I have come to integrate an interruption as part of the creative process.. ie the universe making me step away.. and come back with another snake in charge…
But would be interested on your take.
And you can look back on it when you do have “more issues” to grapple with and see how ya did.
Thank soft your help.
I have forwarded your videos to friends, colleges, kids, and watch them again and again to reinforce good snake behavior.
The 5 things and “the Ibis” video have been my favorites so far.
If your by New Jersey, let me know.
I’ll bake you some bread!
Craig
Whew! Title of my video some day: "This 1 video about 5 questions, that changed my life" 🤭 This is just awesome! Thank you for sharing & being vulnerable with us, man. Really means a lot 🙏
Damn. That is not easy to share such a personal and honest thing. I’m so sorry that happened to you, and grateful to have found your channel which shares real, life-grit stuff with integrity and humour. ✌️
I like the question "what would you tell a friend in your situation?" Because it lets you be more kind to yourself and also see the situation more clearly.
Immediately reminded me of a book I just finished "One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way" by Robert Maurer. One of the things he discusses is the power of using small questions to stimulate the brain (the one caveat being they cannot be big scary questions). "If you repeat the question over the course of several days or weeks-or for however long it takes-the hippocampus (the part of the brain that stores information) will have no choice but to address it. And in its own way, on its own timetable, the brain will begin giving you answers."
Man, you can't imagine how helpful the content you're making is, especially this board thing. You're like a relatable aussie guru with tatoos.
I paused at the bad you vs ideal you test. I tried it. I added a collumn to put on some notes. I'm gonna do it everyday I think about it.
I'm at 5 vs 2. Bad me won today but I had a pretty rough day mentally speaking. So as I wrote in the note section "Today I lose. Let's try again tomorrow"
Small steps like this makes you take some perspective. It's great.
You rock man. Your videos are always a game changer. Like you knew what I needed to hear and / or learn. Thank you for that. Everyone trying to become better persons as I think we all do here should watch this video.
Thank you, Campbell Walker. I spent my morning (4-6am) binging on your channel because I was looking for content to help my 5-year-old daughter, Claire, deal with the frustration that she is not yet a master artist. Yesterday she had a meltdown that her drawing of Spyro the Dragon (from video games) didn’t turn out how she’d hoped. (Her drawing is actually really amazing). Maybe I need help, too; I’m frustrated that I am not a master parent.
Her entire kindergarten schoolyear has been online because of COVID. I worry about kids who are being abused, sexually and otherwise, during lockdown. No amount of added SEL (social-emotional learning) can fix the reality that we are all painfully isolated and stressed out right now.
I’ve been experimenting with gratitude and meaningful virtual connections. I know I need to start making my own videos about this, even if they are only 30%...❤️ You are inspirational!
This is such a beautiful video. I kinda had this life changing moment about a year after both my parents had died. I realised that the worst thing that I ever could have imagined happening actually had happened...and that strangely I was doing pretty good considering! It fully opened up a new perspective for me. I realised I was really, really strong and also felt a depth of character from having survived the intense suffering. Thankyou
Thanks for sharing, you’re really living up to your chest tattoo ❤️
Man, I love your content. I appreciate how honest and real you are. When you started talking about "What's the worst thing that ever happened to you?" and listed off a few things, my immediate reaction was to get a bit angry and think "how the f could being raped, or being beaten up by alcoholic parents possibly have a positive spin put on it?!" but your openness really shifted my perspective.
Hope your followers keep growing and more people get a chance to see this.
I just found you, or let's say, the algorithm just moved you my way.
There are so many things going through my head, too many to find fitting words for them.
Thank you.
Just for reminding me, that there are people like you out there.
It doesn't quite sound right, words don't come easy today.
(Given that words are my creative outlet that's a bit discouraging, but that's okay)
Thank you for reminding me of things I've learned before, giving them new context and a visual representation for some that I didn't have that yet. Makes them easier to implement.
In short: thank you.
Thank you!....I am a 56 year woman, and I am grateful for how much you have encouraged and taught me. You are wise, empathetic, and creative beyond your years. Be well and Keep on, Keepn' on !!!
"What can I do about it" is a good question for working your way out of overwhelming emotional situations. Maybe it's something practical to fix the situation, maybe it's 'remove myself from the situation and calm down for a while', maybe something else. But it's a good prompt to get your brain to find /something/ to hold on to when it feels like you're drowning.
I don't know how you make personal development cool, but I like it!
omg, you don´t have any idea how much i missed youu:(
youtube didn´t send me the notification and i was like "huh? i am very sure that i suscribed to the channel of this wonderful guy".
and yes, i did. thanks for come back, struthless! c:
AAAAA you are so lovely!! ahaha yeah it's been a minute between uploads, so thanks so much for coming back! means a lot
A question I like to ask myself is “if I had everything I needed, how would I live my life?” This question helps to get out of a scarcity mindset
I love this, with the exception of number 5 - which I think might fall into the "If you come from a background of debilitating guilt, this one may need to go into the "for the advanced crowd" category." I absolutely believe in personal responsibility. The trick here is being NOW and FUTURE focused because 'guilt' about the past (i.e. what canNOT be changed, only how it is perceived/accepted/reframed (return to question #1)) can be incredibly debilitating and counter-productive.
This was GREAT! Thank you.
I love the idea of flipping things around with "How can this be the best thing" and "what would this look like if it were easy". I tend to make things hard for myself and focus on the negatives. I will try and apply these to my life
This showed up in my feed on a day I was actively working to improve my mental health, going to therapy etc, thank you for taking the time to articulate your learnings. I found so much value in this video.
whoa just thinking about how much this could actually help just by thinking more positive, like you said, not forcing the brain to know why you are so bad but rather forcing it to think about why you are great
I didn't realize I was living by the 'how is this the best thing that's ever happened to me?' but I totally did that after various personal downturns and tradegies throughout my life. Lost my job? Well I guess it's time to pursue conventions and freelance art as hard as I can now that I have the time. I hate letting bad things that happened control my life, I try to use them as opportunities to re-evaluate what makes me happy and steer my boat in that direction.
My notes on the video if they're useful to anyone! Cam just makes such good points in all these video's that I felt the need to write them down!
**The 5 Questions that Changed My Life**
- your brain naturally answers questions you ask
- why do I suck? -> find answers
- why am I lovely? -> self-worth
- Question 1: How is this the best thing that ever happened to me?
- what are the worst things that happened to me and how is this good -> ability of empathy
- what did it teach me?
- fulfillment is the punchline
- Question 2: What would this look like if it was easy?
- “work is a hard thing to do: can’t avoid struggle”
- make two lists: what do if it was hard? easy?
- Question 3: will it make the boat go faster?
- at every decision: having salad in stead of burger
- will this make my movies better?
- decision not easy: will jelling at the customer service guy make your movies better?
- by not yelling you practise being patient and kind, helps
- Question 4: what would the ideal me do?
- tough love
- three columns: everything I did today, bad you vs ideal you
- do the action vote for bad you or good you. whoever wins is who you are becoming
- Question 5: How is this my fault/responsibility?
- my fault: disagreement at work: find your own blind spots: maybe they are smarter, I did something wrong
- responsibility: for bad things that happened to you
- my responsiblity to heal, go to therapy, strengthen brain, forgive abuser
- blame yourself: to find how to improve, which problems you can change
- NOT POWERLESS
- blame game -> fix stuff -> self-respect
Solid video man, I loved that bad me/good me chart suggestion. Great way to really put down in simple terms how your utilising your day/time.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your absolute honesty. More people need to speak their truth and ask what good can come from it.
Wow I really needed this advice. Especially the first one “how does this bad thing that happened improve me as person?” is something I’ve been needing to consider for a while...
I also liked the idea of making a tally of the two versions of yourself you could be. It’s like those games where choices determine your outcome, except it’s real.
Thanks for making this video
Great advice and no beating around the bush. Short simple and sweet
Your open vulnerability gives so much hope. Thank you!
you. dont. know. how. much. youre helping other people get their screws fixed. I hope everything get squeaky smooth with you moving forward.
sending digital hugs to you 🙋🏻♀
Seriously, just brilliant. You’re a good soul, my friend. Don’t stop.
THis is about the fifth or sixth of your videos I've watched, and I want to say THANK YOU for being SO open, forthcoming, and sharing your thoughts. Amazing, and SO helpful!
A video with Insight, purpose, intent....A breath of fresh air and so rare to find on RUclips nowadays!
Your courage to share openly and compassionately are inspirational. It is evident you are a person who loves other people and wants the best for them. Thank you.
Thank you for being open and helping people like me.. the things you said were necessary but tough to hear.
Your vulnerability is refreshing and inspiring, please continue with these videos!
Struthless you are a bloody lord. Thanks for equipping us with the mental tools that help us improve our life and as such, the whole ass world
Just started watching your videos yesterday as I was setting myself up for a project I'd usually expect myself to fail at (something I've been trying to change for years) and you have honestly changed my life. Thank you so much man! You've filled me with so much hope and faith in my ability to cope with things as they come along in life. AAAAAH I just can't thank you enough for sharing yourself with the world.
I've been going through a low point and this video made my eyes full of tears because it helped me remember I already have all I need to get better. Thank you so much, I love you more with each video. I really hope your lifes is going fine.
I’m happy I randomly got your channel suggested to me. Your videos are easy to digest and I like the graphics and examples. It feels less clinical and scary, and more normal and small. Thank you, these examples feel workable and I feel capable.
Way to bring a grounded approach to life changing questions that reveal vulnerability not just in your own life but in every person who watches this video.
RESPONSIBILITY! CHECKING BLIND SPOTS! admitting the cycles of thought we continue to live in and allow to thrive...
This video is a gift.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Your work is so excellent, please continue to make these types of videos! I really enjoyed watching this, and marked it as one to come back to as well. Also - I quit drinking a year ago (after, similarly, drinking regularly since I was a teenager), and I can't recommend it enough, it's all upside. Cheers to you for your sobriety!
This got me out of a month of procrastinating. Your insights are golden, man. Thank you!
Dude, I fucking LOVE what you do and what you're about. I remember you saying if you aren't making videos you're on the drugs so it's great to see you're not, and good on you for turning a traumatic event into a positive, you're a bloody strong guy! You're helping me (and I'm sure many others) deal with shit and get my life the way I want it so Im super grateful to have found you. ❤️❤️❤️
I resonate with your thinking process. You’re one of few, I’ve genuinely resonated with at a core level. Thank you. 🗣👁
How can anyone be so simple and practical......thank you!!!! Your logic is so refreshing. What a wonderful video.
Excellent way to make people take responsibility for their lives! So many people need to hear this!
I can relate so much to everything you say, after struggling with alc and drugs for the past ... holy shot... almost 10 years and now trying to build up a career as an illustrator , your advice is so fucking precious! Thank you.
You made an ambitious promise, but you definitely didn't fail us! I immediately started taking notes, it is really a fantastic video. Great job, man!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS
So much admiration! Totally agree with everything you said
Great advice and beautifully shared, thank you. Especially thanks for sharing your childhood abuse; it was pretty mindblowing how you used it as an example for "How is this my responsibility." You rock
Brilliant! You have a wonderful gift of taking complex painful realities & creating simplified ways to approach healing & growth. The beauty of this video is you start with a extreme personal truth to show anyone could reframe their thinking & make serious change in their lives if they look at things differently. Thank you for your honesty ,empathy & no bullshit approach to changing one's life . I am grateful I found your videos today .
I've come back to this video several times since you uploaded it. I've found it really helpful, thanks for making it :)
Thank you very much for this video. I'm in therapy since march and this video is coming at the right time in my life. I'm very grateful you're doing those videos.
as a guy who was also sexually abused and struggles with addiction, this means a lot. especially since im autistic, trans, not accepted by family, and a bit socially stunted, it means a lot to find men like you who i can look up to for mental health and just general skills for coping with life. im disabled and cant really leave my house, watching your videos feels productive lol
also, i must add that im also making a board game and can vouch for that example lol. we're making it out of paper and then throwing it into a website thatll make it for us for a decent price. and thats if we cant make it ourselves easily (mostly depends on price and what we feel like doing.. shes a premed student, so busy as hell, and im a lazy cripple)
I stumbled w your videos all randomly and I got to say that they got me. Deeply. Thank you so so much for sharing this, also thank you for opening up about something as personal and deep as child abuse is, not many men talk about it and that doesn't help them to find the closure they need.
Really, thank you for your amazing videos.
My friend and i end up talking in metaphors a lot when we discuss mental health. We have a term for someone who pushes forward, through the murk and weeds, through the snapping claws of folks who don't believe in you, through the east currents and sunlight and back through the muck. Anyhow, you're a Big Fish and it's always delightful to find one!
Dude... all of your videos are fire. Exactly what I need in my life right now. Mad props for the heaving lifting, the deep digging. Doing the work. yes.
Your videos have really been helping me improve my life and help me along my creative journey. Thank you for putting in the time to makes these, you don't know just how many lives you're touching. Much love man
I'm so glad i have discovered your content!
My daughter who is an artist found your video, and showed it to me. You video made my day! I watched it twice. I love how you have combined, creativity, authenticity, healing, and understanding how the mind works! These are all topics right up my ally. Love your humor, gentle but brilliant style of asking these profound questions.I think you are a master at much more that you realize and you are modeling to so many that great pain, can become powerful catalysts when they are transmuted. This is what the world needs!!! Please bring your brilliance and keep making these amazing videos!!!!!
I started youtube today looking at tips to get me into drawing manga. On the side of the video I was watching was your "The drawing advice that changed my life" video. I enjoyed that one and the next up was "Advice for people who feel like their art isn't unique" That's definitely a struggle question being 31 years old and never feeling comfortable about showing people my art. So once again I was impressed with how true to me these videos were. Then this one popped up. Everyone has struggles and "stuff" going on in their lives and I am no exception... Now I don't understand how a 10 minute video could change my life like it just did. I started youtube procrastinating about drawing a dream I had and effectively ended up with more truth and self help than I ever got sitting for hours with a counselor. Thank you my friend. I am greatly looking forward to binge watching the rest of your insights into my soul.
I just discovered your videos a week ago and am OBSESSED! Your articulation of thought, real-life examples form your own experiences, and practical suggestions for application to viewers’ lives have made this some of the best self-improvement content I’ve ever found on the internet. Plus, your willingness to be so open and vulnerable about your past in order to connect these practices to positive outcomes is nothing short of admirable, and awesome.
I love your work!!! :)
I appreciate how open you are. You do this for the greater good
so glad I just found your channel. I'm at the crux of a major life decision with my career and my bipolar brother just got out of rehab and has a lot of self examination and development he's gotta keep doing. Definitely going to be sharing this and thinking about these questions. Thank you!
youuu my man deserve more subscribers, you are such an inspiration, having gone through tough shit and then TAKING RESPONSIBILITY for your mental health, you areeeee amazing, I always thought that way and it's so refreshing to hear ppl with your background experiences and see how they are working to be better, I always prefer surround myself with people who didn't have a "shiny" past and want to be better, than with ppl that have had it good all their lives and thing that they don't need self development.
Found your channel today, watched 5 videos, love all of them. Thanks for all this and congratulations on winning your battles so beautifully. You are a great guy.
I am so grateful for the RUclips Algo. It has been nagging me for months to watch your videos. I am so happy that I did
MAN. Ur killing it. Thanks for being so honestly and spreading good vibes and encouragement online. God Bless you 🤘🏾
Just found your channel and I just need to say thank you for all the really awesome tips, positivity & confidence you’ve given me the past few weeks! Keep shining my friend ✨
I really appreciate that you used actually traumatic examples. Not a lot of people include that and that's the part I always have trouble... Thank you!
Your raw honesty has meant so much - in a world where everyone seems to wear a mask, I feel less alone when I hear you speak. The world needs your message and more people like you. You've managed to hit on all the key areas where I was seeking wisdom. Thank you. x
This is so profound, I am going through a very tough breakup and your videos and positive energy make me feel peaceful and serene. Thank you so much
Everytime I feel like I'm not making an impact or my work isn't worthwhile, these videos always help me re-evaluate my sense of purpose and dedication! Thank you so much for making these. I'm one of your biggest fans :)
For the past year (especially during quarantine) I've begun to realize a lot of my inner hesitations and anxieties really started when I was just a kid. It was natural back then to be careful and cut myself down/self-doubt more often than actually applying myself or going outside of my comfort zone; these mental habits of self-doubt and instant-dismissal have snowballed ever since then. Now I'm a young adult, and have been carefully trying to weed out (re-wire my brain, really) all those bad mental habits that cause doubt and insecurities which have limited my thoughts and inspirations for decades.
I appreciate this video because it gives you questions that only you can have the answer for, rather than have life advice (or something round' that area) that can be viewed in way too many ways and would not have the same personal touch to it compared to an answer than comes from you and your mental state.
Thank you my g. :)
Struthless, you amaze me. You are so honest and open. Thank you for sharing some of your past and the way to a better future. Thank you so much 🙏💓
WOW you so resonate with me!! Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing difficult things! thank you, you are BRILLIANT!
That's so strong from you to be this open with us. Thank you! I'm so impressed you can't imagen.
Great stuff man. I've been sober little more than 3 years now and it's super helpful to hear your positive thoughts while you travel your journey. Thanks for being honest.
Wow, thank you for being so open! These questions are really deep and helpful to ask. My favorite was "What would the ideal me do". Would love to see more videos like this!
Love that this is short, without much drama, not overwhelming to apply in everyday life and very enlightening. Kudos!
Thank you for sharing these ideas and your own experience so candidly. I am currently struggling to pull myself back to a good, healthy place. tackling autism-related communication issues, bipolar moods and my own similar trauma and i usually don't feel like i connect to the people in these types of video. However, your vulnerability and strength to be open about your negative experiences is so refreshing(!) and your ability to overcome these things makes me believe so much more that I can turn things around too. This is just what I needed right now so thank you!
This is criminally under viewed. I love your content so much! Thank you for sharing yourself with us, your insight is invaluable!