It's not always possible to leave someone alone if you have to work with them. Being kind and fair, and hoping good behavior bears fruit is the easiest option. Always looking for signs of dislike is exhausting - take ot from a reformed paranoid!
My experience: 1. They don't return your calls. 2. They take forever to get back to you in text and only give you the briefest response. 3. They say or do things to try to get you to feel bad about yourself. 4. They get irritated with you easily. 5. You have to do all the work when dealing with them.
One of my "friends" said she meant to call me but always forgets, but she knew I'd call her. That was the last time I called her. Before that incident she and I had plans to do something together, then she met someone and wanted to include her, but the other person didn't want to do what we planned, when we met up, they went off and did their own thing.
This is a humorous comment but it's still really really deep. Paranoia (actual psychological paranoia) about people not liking you is a thing, and is tragic for anyone who suffers it. I do it to an extent but I've introspected a lot about it and am coming to terms with it, even compromising in situations to have myself at least appear more open to socializing. I spoke to a cute girl for the first time in years because of it just this past Monday (the paranoia for socializing in general is bad but cute girls ramp it up like 10x) so I'm making small progress, every journey begins with a single step.
One of the important lessons I've learned in my years of interactions with other people is the fact that, hard as it may be to accept, there are certain individuals who *will not like you* and will be stand-offish when you attempt to socialize with them. In some cases there might not even be a good reason why they don't like you. They just don't, and nothing you can do or say will change that.
Could it be because they are shy? It explains why so many people do not bother getting to know certain people, because they assume the other person may not like them.
Sir Percival Smallcock-Jones I was actually taught that from my Mother. The first time I shared with her when I was in Grammar School. That someone do not like me, and I do not know why? She broke it down like you just did.
@@corrinnaangel me to corrinna me to. Well yes me to but I'm simply replying because your pic is hot basically so that was a good enough reason I thought
I do the same, but then people will then misinterpret it as me not liking them. This will then make them villainize me, such as me being "arrogant" or "rude" etc. You'll be amazed at all the kind of negative things people will assume you to be behind your back, if you do not show a willingness to bond with them. Just so that they won't feel ruffled by your avoidance and think too much into it. So...I've learned since a very young age that, to save me the annoyance of "extroverts" who desire emotional comfort from others socializing with them, I usually have to be slightly more sociable than I would have preferred whenever I am outside or at work with others lol. But once I'm back home, I can finally be my peaceful and solitary self again, haha.
1) on their phone all the time when they are with you 2) never text back unless they want something 3) leave you out of plans unless your the only option 4) never ask how your doing 5) make side comments secretly putting you down I've had enough. I've cut these people. I attract narcissist types and they are plentiful
@@aharith9 ~ And everyone I know including my family. I should probably study psychology and become a psychopath; they'd probably like me much better then.
@@womanzuzu9688 You need to convince yourself 1st bc once you improve your intuitive ability to discern vibes, you'll no longer tolerate anyone who needs to be convinced of your awareness & boundaries or disturbs your inner peace, there's a reason you feel ways, ppl will gaslight you into doubting yourself. Learn to distinguish between paranoia by way of your own insecurity and warnings from your higher self sensing bs⚛ May sound fortune cookie preacher-ish but the lesson is always within 🕉
TIMESTAMPS: They keep their distance 0:41 The tone of their voice gives them away 1:29 They never listen 2:18 They fake a smile 3:07 They compress their lips 3:52 They rarely look you in the eye 4:51 They turn their feet away from you 5:32 They scratch their neck 6:19 Their arms and hands say it all 7:00 They don't mirror your body language 8:00
@@MikeEZ oh sorry - no not you. Was a general observation that narcs/toxic people have these patterns. Also realised that if we are anxious or a bit shy, we can have these patterns too 😣
@@Evajeanfreedom I definitely agree with you . sometimes, the narcs use that to their advantage to shift the blame off them.. I had a neighbor who was like that.. He would attack another's character to gain trust of others
They're rude and very quiet around you, pretend your invisible, exclude you, roll their eyes , seem annoyed or impatient with everything you say or do...are two faced snakes.. I see that I'm hated and people have always been mean to me all my life ....But whatever I don't care what they think I know who I am and I just see the fact that they are the ones who are miserable, insercure people who feel intimidated or jelous ..
@@teresabasinger5965 Cause we have rarely seen advice based on a more misguided premise. Michael Jackson wanted to be loved by everyone. Where did that path get him?
After years of working on my listening skills I have now learned that being a good listener has a downside. It attracts people who only want to talk about themselves and who quickly change the subject if it’s not all about them. Now I have to work on how to extricate myself from such all-about-me conversations.
These signs would only generally apply if the discussed behaviour is consistent - if they do it every time. Just use your own judgement and give people the benefit of the doubt once. If they continue to act like that then move on.
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It cracks me up, there's this girl who likes me but I can't stand. Her: "How are you?" Me: "I'm doing well." We have this conversation all the time, she still can't figure it out.
frank uduma. That's likely it for me, but they do it online. We haven't been in contact for years. So, they probably would stalk and dislike/ridicule from afar.
I am an introvert and have anxiety talking to people in general, also my voice is naturaly high and sweet (preppy) did i mention my lips are always compressed. So i do most if theses things, so its not right for people like me to get the wrap that i dont like them. My thing is most people with high social anxiety has these issues. It doesn't always mean they don't like you.
Curtistine Miller then you don’t live in the real world. When you have to work to pay bill; you will often be forced to work with people you do not necessarily like.
@@nellymalone2802 True but I believe that if we HAVE to work with people we don't like, we & they should try to get along with one another. NO need to make things even worse! Smh
Another good body language indicator is if someone gives you the finger, one time I was talking to someone and they kept flipping me off throughout the conversation and I got the feeling that they didn't really like me.
Sounds like the George Carlin approach. Just tell the person to ingest fertilizer and quickly expire, otherwise they will soon come in close cranial contact with some heavy metallic mining equipment.
Welcome to the club...on the positive side...if you're a girl, they won't run you out of town as long as they think they can still exploit you for something (usually money).
They won’t. TRUST.... People don’t like confrontation & will avoid the feeling of being judged & or questions as to the reasons why they don’t like you. That’s if they actually ever told you the truth. It’s easier for people to put on a front. A lot of people are followers anyway & a lot don’t like you just because someone else doesn’t like you & honestly probably couldn’t even tell you why they do anyway. It’s not worth your time.
lololololololololololololololololol the work place is usually full of folk that are trying to get ahead of whoever they're working with. If you're good looking and or attractive and people in higher positions gravitate to you and they see that. Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew! talk about wolves and catty behavior. Just a very unhealthy situation and experience. Folk that will do anything to get ahead that sees someone that isn't doing anything, but supposedly getting all the "opportunities" they would want to get to advance always in hate mode and envy mode. They're interesting though, as most folk like that don't realize that everyone isn't up for their shenanigans.
Constant phone-usage during conversations is the worst. It really shows how uninterested and self-centered a person is. I recently met a collegue of my husband's and he NEVER uses his phone during conversations. A very funny, open, honest and kind guy.
Not necessarily. If I'm on my phone while talking to someone it's because I dont want to be rude so I'm trying to hear what they have to say and dont want them to lose interest but also really need to get something done that is quick so I try my best to do both. It's either something that time is ticking on or I dont want to forget so I'd rather start or if it literally takes a min. I get it out the way. Then I can fully engage in the conversation without them losing interest and thats out of the way. I'm actually not being self centered.
That is really rude, despite your claiming of not being self-centred, @@RFernandez18. Human beings deserved to be listened to if they're taking the time to speak with you.
Very true. I always hate it when everybody is watching on there phones. Like the phone doesn't walk away. It will be in the same spot the next hour........ Some people just don't get it.😁
If they 1.Yawn whilst you speak to them. 2.Check their watch a lot when with you. 3.If your walking behind them they pretend they don't notice you and let the door go in your face. They dont like you but do you really care anyway?
People need to be more sensitive. And not "liking" someone is not a licence for disrespect towards them. Usually we don't know the more deep rooted reasons for why people are the way they are...🤷🏽♀️
It’s just easier if u go with ur gut instinct. I believed too ppl used to be my good friends until their negativity couldn’t be concealed anymore smh 🤦♀️
From my working in a global work force I found you have to be careful applying these ideas to every person. People are individuals that come from many cultures, and what might apply for one group will not automatically apply to everyone. This is particularly true when comparing western cultures to eastern cultures. Also, many cultures have created 'artificial' gender stereotypes that reward demure/shy female roles and aggressive male roles as a social norm. So people may be acting in a manner that contradicts their true intention out of social requirements rather than deceit.
@Margaret Gust Oh, you mean white middle class European based culture? So we should exclude all the Asian, Latin and Middle Eastern people that migrated to the US as not part of our culture? If traveling around the US has taught me anything, it is that the US has no distinct culture of its own, we have always been a mixture of different cultures depending upon where in the country you are located.
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Thanks for sharing these are very helpful. 1. they rolled their eyes or look away when you talk. 2.change the topic quickly when you are talking. 3. find flaws on you in every way.
Dealing LIFE mmmm not all the time sometimes when people change subjects pretty quickly it just means they are not comfortable or don’t want to talk about it and just have not always taught them selves to tell the person they don’t wanna talk about it whatever the subject is lol .
I can't make eye contact and it's not because I dislike someone, it's because I'm too shy to look at people in the eyes. Even the people I respect and love very much
That's true about low self esteem. When a person is uncomfortable with themselves , they don't know how to relax around people so they keep their distance. Some people think they're the BOMB and you're garbage so it's not you it's them and will shun you.
They don't like you... or they have a social disorder? Very easy to confuse the two. I thought this person I work with didn't like me, but it turns out she has terrible social anxiety. I do as well, but it's not as bad as hers. Now we're finally getting closer, and realizing how much more we have in common. She is still real nervous when we talk, but I don't know what that means yet.
I can always tell someone doesn't like me when they say: "I thought you said..." I think they're secretly calling me a liar, plus it's impolite. That is a red flag for me.
Agree with you. Another phrase they may say, " I thought we discussed this" which seems really insulting and condescending. Phrases like this inserted into an otherwise friendly conversatio0n convey, disrespect and their true opinion. Like so many here say, it's the vibe they give off that should always be trusted.
Many times a person will talk fast when they’re trying to get a point across they”re excited about. All these points are to be taken with a grain of salt and make sure you always respect the other person enough to let them speak and try not to constantly interrupt them. There are far too few listeners in the world! Be one and people will adore you.
Always remember, most times the other persons demeanour has NOTHING to do with us, its them. Although self examination is always good. Also, Please don't forget the people who might like you, but they need more time alone due to variety of things: they are exhausted, they ate introverted, they are having a bad day etc., or maybe a recent loss or challenges they need space to get through those tough things. Otherwise the information is very good.
I'm really glad he mentioned social anxiety at 5:19, because while watching this I realized that I might be making people think that I don't like them because I'm very bad at maintaining eye contact, listening super well to what they're saying, and I definitely like to keep my distance. I always sit away from my co-workers at lunch, for example, while they're usually crowded together in little groups. That must make them think that I don't like them but, it's not the case. At least for most of them, lol.
An excellent point. Certainly applied to me. Folks at work seemed very distant. I was therefore always uncomfortable in the social mix, except for longtime colleagues. Was hugely surprised by the turn out at my retirement dinner. Now I understand.
I'm surprised to hear about "no eye contact" because if I'm ensconced in what someone is saying, I often look away so I can concentrate. If I look at them, it causes me to lose focus on the conversation. I also sometimes look at someone when I'm getting mad at them.
At one point in my life I used to care who liked me and who didn't but at this point in my life I realize that people come and go so if you're disliked in a certain area it doesn't mean you're disliked in other places there are billions of people in this world so meeting new people never stops 💯 and besides making mistakes with how you communicate with people can make you a better communicator with the people who you interact with in the future
1. Talking too fast is a sign of emotional myopia, not that they don't like you. 2. Not looking at you when they talk to you is a sign they don't you around or they don't want to be there. It's hostility.
I used to be “normal” I guess but after being in college for two years I found that friends are over-rated. I’m still friendly to strangers and in group settings, but I prefer to mind my business
Daisy Observer I do the same AND TO determine if they're an acting unusually nice narcissist, coz I NEVER want to be around them again if I can help it (I attract them) they put on a deceptively wonderful act to draw you in... STAY AWAY from fakers (not always easy to tell, hanging back but being confident and assertive and knowing your own mind helps).
#2 I used to get lectures about not crossing my arms while waiting for customers but honestly, I just found it more comfortable and helped in passing time. I resented the intrusion in my personal space. Neither did I find wearing a false smile natural or helpful. Some people just naturally smile, most are more straight-laced.
When a person is balanced and grounded you can't see the whites of their eyes above or below the iris. If you can see the white below their eyes they are ungrounded and probably not focusing or taking in what you are saying. If they pull their nose up, sometimes only for a microsecond, they are showing disgust or revolution. The mouth forming an upside down smile is not accepting or digesting your comments, once again even if only for a moment. People who are better at hiding their emotions may freeze their expression and calmly agree and hold that expression for a little longer, taking note of whether you have realised what they are up to? After you have finished speaking, the other person moves their lip around, but doesn't actually say anything - they have just given you a 'mouthful' without saying a word....also watch the eyebrows. If you are aggravating someone, you can watch their eyebrows go from relaxed to the outside ends rise up and the centres turn in...When you are being empathetic the opposite happens and your outside ends move down around your eyes and the centre sides open up. When we communicate, the spoken word 7%, tone 55% and body language is 38%. Understanding body language greatly increases your communications skills. Great video, thank you!
To be honest you don't need to relay on these tips to see if someone doesn't like you. The're whole body language & approach tells you everything especially the way they talk to you
When walking away from an individual, look back at their facial expression. If it is a mean looking one, they hate you. If they are smiling, or with simple face expression, you have a friend in them.
There's also the possibility that someone who once showed me kindness somehow alienated me (cold shoulder for a warm greeting, verbally attacks you, etc.) so I no longer feel so welcome in that person's presence. If someone who used to be happy to see you is now very guarded, maybe ask yourself (or even them) if you have done or said anything hurtful to them. ...and if you weren't the first person to welcome, and then alienate that person, especially recently, it will be more difficult to win their trust back. The only question then, is, how important is that person's friendship to you? Do you care enough to make a genuine effort to make amends? Thankfully, one friend of mine did, and our friendship thrives today as before.
I know, it really is in context, compressed lips could mean thinking hard/ planning/nervousness too. You'll know if someone doesnt like you by the vibes
ha! Now hopefully this is on point because it really doesn't take much to know. Especially if someone dislikes you for no good valid reason. There's just a block of energy that comes with coming in contact with them or around them! But often times they're so weird, they'll put up a performance to make you think otherwise.
I couldn't even take this video serious after the narrator claimed that " when we're talking to people we don't like, our fake and friendly voice goes away". Mr. Narrator guy, everyone doesn't have a fake and friendly voice. Some people actually speak and deal with people from a genuine place until they're rubbed the wrong way (well that's if that person chooses to behave otherwise). The narrator really just confirmed a lot without even realizing that he did. But that's not news, as if you're an adult that's pretty much aware of The Who, what and when of those around you, you already know that 90% of the time, those that you're interacting with is performance mode. I personally find it interesting, as one has to really exert energy and become a whole nother person for what?!? It's no wonder most folk are just spent and wig out. As they withhold their real expressions DAILY, only to revert to a mask that leaves them in cray mode.
Yes, they turn their back to you and they dont even want to look at you. My current boyfriend does this early in the mornings and tells me he's facing the air conditioner to cool off ..... He never hears anything I say .... I have to repeat everythng 2 to 3 times and tells me ..." You know Im old and cant hear ....
Rebecca Deschenes If he's old & KNOWS he can't hear well even more so he should make more of an effort to listen & NOT turn away from you when you're trying to talk to him. Smh Poor excuse from him.
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Hey there, when was the last time you felt like someone truly DISLIKED you?
Alot of times.
Sometimes
All the time
Always
Please make a video about to overcome depression
I hope if someone hates me . They leave me alone.
It's not always possible to leave someone alone if you have to work with them. Being kind and fair, and hoping good behavior bears fruit is the easiest option. Always looking for signs of dislike is exhausting - take ot from a reformed paranoid!
Faxx but ppl are sick these days
Maybe they DO try to leave us alone, but because we don't take a hint well, we don't necessarily leave them alone! Lol
That's how people get beat up! Or killed, just saying.
I had a lady drop me without warning. I did everything for her. Including taking her shopping, out to eat.
I didn’t come here to see if someone dislikes me, I came here to see if it’s obvious that I don’t like someone
Lol me 2
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Your instincts will naturally tell you..you'll feel a bad vibe coming from them
Yep!!! Sure do!!!
My experience:
1. They don't return your calls.
2. They take forever to get back to you in text and only give you the briefest response.
3. They say or do things to try to get you to feel bad about yourself.
4. They get irritated with you easily.
5. You have to do all the work when dealing with them.
Toxic AF. get rid of him/her
6. When you know darn well they see you but they look away instead of saying hello.
coashddjj2 Sounds like my job. And that’s the nice group.
Yes!!
One of my "friends" said she meant to call me but always forgets, but she knew I'd call her. That was the last time I called her. Before that incident she and I had plans to do something together, then she met someone and wanted to include her, but the other person didn't want to do what we planned, when we met up, they went off and did their own thing.
I just assume everyone hates me. Saves time.
Me too
I know people don't like me and I no longer like people
SNAP 👍🏻
This is a humorous comment but it's still really really deep. Paranoia (actual psychological paranoia) about people not liking you is a thing, and is tragic for anyone who suffers it. I do it to an extent but I've introspected a lot about it and am coming to terms with it, even compromising in situations to have myself at least appear more open to socializing. I spoke to a cute girl for the first time in years because of it just this past Monday (the paranoia for socializing in general is bad but cute girls ramp it up like 10x) so I'm making small progress, every journey begins with a single step.
Except you're lying to be funny and get likes. You're basically not real. An NPC.
One of the important lessons I've learned in my years of interactions with other people is the fact that, hard as it may be to accept, there are certain individuals who *will not like you* and will be stand-offish when you attempt to socialize with them. In some cases there might not even be a good reason why they don't like you. They just don't, and nothing you can do or say will change that.
Could it be because they are shy? It explains why so many people do not bother getting to know certain people, because they assume the other person may not like them.
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Sir Percival Smallcock-Jones I was actually taught that from my Mother. The first time I shared with her when I was in Grammar School. That someone do not like me, and I do not know why? She broke it down like you just did.
@@bigvalley4987 I have found an instant dislike over the years for a few people, can't explain it, and I'm right every time,
Praise the Lord!
People who are very shy also don't make good eye contact.
Very true
Maureen Sarver yea don’t take one or two of these out of context and make it out to be one way or another. Its not a all or nothing thing.
This is not accurate, i wouldn't take it too seriously..
Exactly . That's what I was thinking of
John Smith its very serious I take it very serious
I do many of these things. Not because I don't like you, but because of social anxiety and depression.
Ya
Goodbread Johnson me too
@@corrinnaangel me to corrinna me to. Well yes me to but I'm simply replying because your pic is hot basically so that was a good enough reason I thought
N.W.O Whoknowstheshadowknows thank you sweetheart 😚
@@corrinnaangel its my pleasure gorgeous.
I keep distance most of the time, because I find happiness alone. Doesn't mean I dislike anyone. 🤷🏻♀️
Wow just like me.
I do the same, but then people will then misinterpret it as me not liking them. This will then make them villainize me, such as me being "arrogant" or "rude" etc. You'll be amazed at all the kind of negative things people will assume you to be behind your back, if you do not show a willingness to bond with them. Just so that they won't feel ruffled by your avoidance and think too much into it.
So...I've learned since a very young age that, to save me the annoyance of "extroverts" who desire emotional comfort from others socializing with them, I usually have to be slightly more sociable than I would have preferred whenever I am outside or at work with others lol. But once I'm back home, I can finally be my peaceful and solitary self again, haha.
Same here it's about your happiness not their
Gina Martinez seems like a narcissistic individual. 😉
Same here!
1) on their phone all the time when they are with you
2) never text back unless they want something
3) leave you out of plans unless your the only option
4) never ask how your doing
5) make side comments secretly putting you down
I've had enough. I've cut these people. I attract narcissist types and they are plentiful
One girl did number 5 but she didn't do the rest. What does this mean?
@@kingdomheartsispeak4724 anyone that puts you down doesn't deserve to be in your life.
@@aharith9 ~ And everyone I know including my family. I should probably study psychology and become a psychopath; they'd probably like me much better then.
Sounds like your baby daddy lol
My step mom. It's mutual
Energy speaks loudest, if you pay attention to how they make you feel, you will pick up on their shady vibes. Always trust your inner compass💡⚛👁
QueenWorldWide well said 👏👏👏
now how to convince your man you can do this without any false flags...hmmm. .
@@womanzuzu9688 You need to convince yourself 1st bc once you improve your intuitive ability to discern vibes, you'll no longer tolerate anyone who needs to be convinced of your awareness & boundaries or disturbs your inner peace, there's a reason you feel ways, ppl will gaslight you into doubting yourself. Learn to distinguish between paranoia by way of your own insecurity and warnings from your higher self sensing bs⚛ May sound fortune cookie preacher-ish but the lesson is always within 🕉
QueenWorldWide thank you QueenWorldWide that went straight to the heart and that's exactly what my soul needed to hear! thank you again
Yaymen!! Not everyone is Intuitive though. I sure am.
Some people "keep their distance" because they're introverts.
Ramboghini Balboni, and not everything shiny is a piece of candy. What's your point?
@Ramboghini Balboni did you know that the word "some" doesn't imply "all"?
You can tell the difference, introvert at least try to compare to ppl that doesn't like you at all.
yes introvert here
Same here
TIMESTAMPS:
They keep their distance 0:41
The tone of their voice gives them away 1:29
They never listen 2:18
They fake a smile 3:07
They compress their lips 3:52
They rarely look you in the eye 4:51
They turn their feet away from you 5:32
They scratch their neck 6:19
Their arms and hands say it all 7:00
They don't mirror your body language 8:00
Number 10 is 50/50 in my opinion.. I'm an introvert and some mistaken my distance as dislike but its far from it on most cases
Narcissists, basically! 😮
@@Evajeanfreedom In general or me??
@@MikeEZ oh sorry - no not you. Was a general observation that narcs/toxic people have these patterns.
Also realised that if we are anxious or a bit shy, we can have these patterns too 😣
@@Evajeanfreedom I definitely agree with you . sometimes, the narcs use that to their advantage to shift the blame off them.. I had a neighbor who was like that.. He would attack another's character to gain trust of others
Don't worry about those that talk behind ur back they're behind you for a reason 💯👍
@@monafee9606 👍
Some of these "signs" dont even neccesarily mean someone dislikes you.
@@keisuke3359 90% of the time certainly is cuz if they have anything good to say about you it should be said face to face not behind your back
@@pamspray1413 Alot of the time these means that the person is socially akward.
HalleluYah
I have social anxiety, My body is probably saying " go away " or " I don't want to be here ".
GhstPnk T yeah and that is exactly what you think
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I can relate! Lol I’m like no trust
Me I think you’re cool :(
They're rude and very quiet around you, pretend your invisible, exclude you, roll their eyes , seem annoyed or impatient with everything you say or do...are two faced snakes.. I see that I'm hated and people have always been mean to me all my life ....But whatever I don't care what they think I know who I am and I just see the fact that they are the ones who are miserable, insercure people who feel intimidated or jelous ..
Agreed
Idk dawg, if it’s like that maybe it’s a you problem
Moira Sullivan or if a family member hates you and they don’t talk to you or speak to you
Those r clear sighs of Really Really Disliking Some 1 or Dislike few people.
I felt that.
I dont give a Fu
yoyo tubero Preach 👌
You made my day! I concur 1000%
I agree ☝️
If you don't care, why click on this?
@@teresabasinger5965 Cause we have rarely seen advice based on a more misguided premise. Michael Jackson wanted to be loved by everyone. Where did that path get him?
After years of working on my listening skills I have now learned that being a good listener has a downside. It attracts people who only want to talk about themselves and who quickly change the subject if it’s not all about them. Now I have to work on how to extricate myself from such all-about-me conversations.
Yeah cut that person loose !---- THEY NEED TO PAY A SHRINK !
I agree. Some of my friends wear me out with constant babbling about themselves
What if you’re just tired, or not in the mood to deal with people.
These signs would only generally apply if the discussed behaviour is consistent - if they do it every time. Just use your own judgement and give people the benefit of the doubt once. If they continue to act like that then move on.
Or just not socializing.
Is this the case with you...?
Yea so true
Yes..
Honestly you can tell by the vibe you get from their body language. Just don't ignore the signs and you'll be okay.
Where to go
I want to give you something....
A compassionate heart,
A loving touch,
A gentle smile,
A warm embrace,
A listening ear,
A kind word,
A hope filled future
A purpose filled life,
A brand new start,
A heavenly home,
Complete forgiveness,
.... and yes, paradise forever.
Life is hard my child, but I am good.
All of this I offer you.
-The Lord Jesus Christ
But what about you Robin? What do YOU think?
I love you jesus.
that is so beautful
Robin Sk at least I know someone who always loves me.
@@josephbellofatto924 Me too....
As simple as this sounds, they never once ask how you are doing.
Sometimes they do just to get your information first so they can "one up" you with theirs.
It cracks me up, there's this girl who likes me but I can't stand.
Her: "How are you?"
Me: "I'm doing well."
We have this conversation all the time, she still can't figure it out.
Grit just out of curiosity why don’t you like them?
Oh heck yeah like at school
@@paulag5550 I really don't know what that's supposed to matter.
I only need one sign and i am long gone. Who needs them?
Same
Shyness, social anxiety, ASD are explanations for many of these behaviours.
True
Yes, thank you for recognizing that.
Some people are too naive too realise what kind of friends they have.
frank uduma. That's likely it for me, but they do it online. We haven't been in contact for years. So, they probably would stalk and dislike/ridicule from afar.
Sadly, that’s true.. 😔
For reall
how profound your statement sadly is....
Get active and make some real time investigation
Chances are if you dislike me i feel the same way too about you. 👌
Amen to that!
Yup
Yes, that is actually how it goes. You don't like them and they don't like you. It's a two way street.
Same
@@AzureKite191 lol just punch em in the face
I am an introvert and have anxiety talking to people in general, also my voice is naturaly high and sweet (preppy) did i mention my lips are always compressed. So i do most if theses things, so its not right for people like me to get the wrap that i dont like them.
My thing is most people with high social anxiety has these issues. It doesn't always mean they don't like you.
IM GLAD I READ YALLS TAKE AND OPINION ON THIS. THANKYOU
Some of this can be true...but it all depends...some people are shy..or introverted...and some people just don't know how to connect.
Best, most truest comment 🙂👍
True...that's why I don't smile
Just talk to them as if they where your friends😎
If I don't like someone I don't speak ,approach ,you .or pay any attention to you! .End of story!.
Curtistine Miller then you don’t live in the real world. When you have to work to pay bill; you will often be forced to work with people you do not necessarily like.
@Melissa H Orndorff It could be any race Human...
@Melissa H Orndorff Yeah, I've experienced hostility from blacks multiple times for no reason.
@@nellymalone2802 True but I believe that if we HAVE to work with people we don't like, we & they should try to get along with one another. NO need to make things even worse! Smh
Trueskeptic if it is “multiple times” maybe YOU are the problem....just saying.
Another good body language indicator is if someone gives you the finger, one time I was talking to someone and they kept flipping me off throughout the conversation and I got the feeling that they didn't really like me.
Hahahah
Good clue!!😂
Sounds like the George Carlin approach. Just tell the person to ingest fertilizer and quickly expire, otherwise they will soon come in close cranial contact with some heavy metallic mining equipment.
😂😂
I do most of these but it's just because of anxiety and insecurities
Enimo me too
Enimo
Same.
Exactly. that's why I don't really agree with this video
Yes!..same too
Same, like if I'm talking too fast it's usually just because I'm overly excited and or forgetful so I can't seem to get my words out fast enough
I just found out everyone hates me.
Lol ... some of these are just mere thoughts of being in this situation yet most are true ...
That's not true. I like you 😊
@@johnbotelho3453 awww man
Oh, I've seen your Most Disliked poster hanging at the post office!😱😁
Welcome to the club...on the positive side...if you're a girl, they won't run you out of town as long as they think they can still exploit you for something (usually money).
If someone doesn’t like me, I would hope they would tell me.
Me too.....honesty is the best policy
but no one can be that courageous
They won’t. TRUST.... People don’t like confrontation & will avoid the feeling of being judged & or questions as to the reasons why they don’t like you. That’s if they actually ever told you the truth. It’s easier for people to put on a front. A lot of people are followers anyway & a lot don’t like you just because someone else doesn’t like you & honestly probably couldn’t even tell you why they do anyway.
It’s not worth your time.
Not worth my valuable time.
Yeah, but in a respectful way.
YEAH, they're called *COWORKERS* 😂😂
Lala 2pac's Apprentice pretty much
lololololololololololololololololol the work place is usually full of folk that are trying to get ahead of whoever they're working with. If you're good looking and or attractive and people in higher positions gravitate to you and they see that. Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew! talk about wolves and catty behavior. Just a very unhealthy situation and experience. Folk that will do anything to get ahead that sees someone that isn't doing anything, but supposedly getting all the "opportunities" they would want to get to advance always in hate mode and envy mode. They're interesting though, as most folk like that don't realize that everyone isn't up for their shenanigans.
Lala 2pac's Apprentice real talk
Pretty much
You said it😄
Constant phone-usage during conversations is the worst. It really shows how uninterested and self-centered a person is.
I recently met a collegue of my husband's and he NEVER uses his phone during conversations. A very funny, open, honest and kind guy.
Or lowkey 👀 down at their watch... 😶😶
Not necessarily. If I'm on my phone while talking to someone it's because I dont want to be rude so I'm trying to hear what they have to say and dont want them to lose interest but also really need to get something done that is quick so I try my best to do both. It's either something that time is ticking on or I dont want to forget so I'd rather start or if it literally takes a min. I get it out the way. Then I can fully engage in the conversation without them losing interest and thats out of the way. I'm actually not being self centered.
I don't like people using their cell phones when I talk to them. It seems like what I have to say to them doesn't matter to them
That is really rude, despite your claiming of not being self-centred, @@RFernandez18. Human beings deserved to be listened to if they're taking the time to speak with you.
Very true. I always hate it when everybody is watching on there phones. Like the phone doesn't walk away. It will be in the same spot the next hour........ Some people just don't get it.😁
If they
1.Yawn whilst you speak to them. 2.Check their watch a lot when with you.
3.If your walking behind them they pretend they don't notice you and let the door go in your face.
They dont like you but do you really care anyway?
People need to be more sensitive. And not "liking" someone is not a licence for disrespect towards them. Usually we don't know the more deep rooted reasons for why people are the way they are...🤷🏽♀️
I really don't care if someone hates me, .
@@tammymariemartin3178 Wow! ...Even your boss or your S.O.? That's great!
I completely agree. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity.
True.
My thing is.. I can't look at the person I don't like. I can't help it. I just don't want to look at them.
I do this too. It's really, really obvious when I don't like somebody. My sibling is the same.
Why
It’s just easier if u go with ur gut instinct. I believed too ppl used to be my good friends until their negativity couldn’t be concealed anymore smh 🤦♀️
i love yur profile pic
i lovvv bts do uu??
I do most of these things but not because i dont like people more because im shy and awkward.
Absolutely.
Brad Davis lol me
Same 😕.
You’re very attractive
Yes me too. Shy people find it really difficult sometimes to act calm and natural.
And feeling out of place in your company doesn’t equate to disliking you.
when I dislike someone I ignore them so hard they begin to doubt their own existence.
😊
Me too, they just become invisible to me.
Chuck Norris, is that you? 😳
This is me asf . Will walk past you like you’re made of air
From my working in a global work force I found you have to be careful applying these ideas to every person. People are individuals that come from many cultures, and what might apply for one group will not automatically apply to everyone. This is particularly true when comparing western cultures to eastern cultures. Also, many cultures have created 'artificial' gender stereotypes that reward demure/shy female roles and aggressive male roles as a social norm. So people may be acting in a manner that contradicts their true intention out of social requirements rather than deceit.
@Margaret Gust Oh, you mean white middle class European based culture? So we should exclude all the Asian, Latin and Middle Eastern people that migrated to the US as not part of our culture? If traveling around the US has taught me anything, it is that the US has no distinct culture of its own, we have always been a mixture of different cultures depending upon where in the country you are located.
Right on point!
@@dragonmyst000 Yeah you said a mouth full. People in Colorado are way different than people in Alabama.
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Ok.. doc
Thanks for sharing these are very helpful.
1. they rolled their eyes or look away when you talk.
2.change the topic quickly when you are talking.
3. find flaws on you in every way.
Philine the Positive WIFE that’s so obvious so I don’t think they’d secretly dislike you
4. Interrupt you when you start talking
Yep! Totally agree with you Ms Dealing LIFE. I'd have to say that they probably don't dig you too much.
Dealing LIFE mmmm not all the time sometimes when people change subjects pretty quickly it just means they are not comfortable or don’t want to talk about it and just have not always taught them selves to tell the person they don’t wanna talk about it whatever the subject is lol .
@@davidblaskie8987 don't assume that is from dislike.
Actions do speak louder than words!
I figured out that my cat dislikes me
Cats dislike everyone.
Lol
my cat is a narcissist
@@bplatonova my cat has borderline personality disorder.
@@bplatonova 99.9% of cats are narcs. The remainder, act like dogs.
I do fake smile. And i let them know by saying, this is my fake smile. The reactions are hilarious 😂
Lol I should try that!
I have to try that
I do that a lot
They can"t stand me because i am striving hard to make life great for my selves. So true great video to hear.
i don't really care who hates me or love me..
Loves me?Do care
Hates me?Don't care
Ok?
It's none of my business what you think of me, and move on
I physically feel like throwing up when i hear their voice.
🤣😂🤣
I can't make eye contact and it's not because I dislike someone, it's because I'm too shy to look at people in the eyes. Even the people I respect and love very much
That's true about low self esteem.
When a person is uncomfortable with themselves , they don't know how to relax around people so they keep their distance.
Some people think they're the BOMB and you're garbage so it's not you it's them and will shun you.
I find it difficult to make friends with the people who don’t have common interests
Have u ever hated someone cause they have a bad attitude and u try 2 stay away from them..But they still come close 2 u even thou they suspect it .
They don't like you... or they have a social disorder? Very easy to confuse the two. I thought this person I work with didn't like me, but it turns out she has terrible social anxiety. I do as well, but it's not as bad as hers. Now we're finally getting closer, and realizing how much more we have in common. She is still real nervous when we talk, but I don't know what that means yet.
Maybe. I tend to get nervous around higher ups or men I find extremely attractive.
It means get on the loud speaker, and sing a love song to her, that should fix it. she won't feel anxiety after that.
This will make people extremely paranoid, especially if you're already paranoid.
Agreed!
Logging off lol
Lol
I can always tell someone doesn't like me when they say: "I thought you said..." I think they're secretly calling me a liar, plus it's impolite. That is a red flag for me.
i know what you mean. it seems like they try to make it as if you said something negative or undesirable
Agree with you. Another phrase they may say, " I thought we discussed this" which seems really insulting and condescending. Phrases like this inserted into an otherwise friendly conversatio0n convey, disrespect and their true opinion. Like so many here say, it's the vibe they give off that should always be trusted.
Many times a person will talk fast when they’re trying to get a point across they”re excited about. All these points are to be taken with a grain of salt and make sure you always respect the other person enough to let them speak and try not to constantly interrupt them. There are far too few listeners in the world! Be one and people will adore you.
Most people assume who I am without giving me a chance to speak. Then there’s others who are quite fond of me as I of them
Always remember, most times the other persons demeanour has NOTHING to do with us, its them. Although self examination is always good.
Also, Please don't forget the people who might like you, but they need more time alone due to variety of things: they are exhausted, they ate introverted, they are having a bad day etc., or maybe a recent loss or challenges they need space to get through those tough things. Otherwise the information is very good.
Agreed :)
I'm really glad he mentioned social anxiety at 5:19, because while watching this I realized that I might be making people think that I don't like them because I'm very bad at maintaining eye contact, listening super well to what they're saying, and I definitely like to keep my distance. I always sit away from my co-workers at lunch, for example, while they're usually crowded together in little groups. That must make them think that I don't like them but, it's not the case. At least for most of them, lol.
Ana Medina I can relate. It's hard for people to understand.
@Margaret Gust actually it's because we care too much. Namaste 🙏
An excellent point. Certainly applied to me. Folks at work seemed very distant. I was therefore always uncomfortable in the social mix, except for longtime colleagues. Was hugely surprised by the turn out at my retirement dinner. Now I understand.
Anna Medina don't like little clicks
@@msbelinda1000 what was the turnout for the dinner?
I'm surprised to hear about "no eye contact" because if I'm ensconced in what someone is saying, I often look away so I can concentrate. If I look at them, it causes me to lose focus on the conversation. I also sometimes look at someone when I'm getting mad at them.
You might be on the autistic spectrum.
Of course, there’s exceptions to the rule, because I do tend to look away when I’m trying to concentrate as well
Man, after watching this I realize I don't like myself. I just wasn't picking up on the signs.
I Don't Give A 💩...
R Yunny - You get the award for Best YT Comment!!
Yes you do or you wouldn't be watching.
@@CarlAquaForce expand your mind and understand the comment
R Yunny Exactly😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
People do all of the above when they are shy too. That makes them have no friends. I say that because I am one of them.
In some cultures, making eye contact is disrespectful. For example Australian aborigines.
Freelance opportunist well, the Australian aborigines need to respect my culture, as well.
Jay hilarious.
Thems fightin words...I mean eyes,GET EM!!
At one point in my life I used to care who liked me and who didn't but at this point in my life I realize that people come and go so if you're disliked in a certain area it doesn't mean you're disliked in other places there are billions of people in this world so meeting new people never stops 💯 and besides making mistakes with how you communicate with people can make you a better communicator with the people who you interact with in the future
1. Talking too fast is a sign of emotional myopia, not that they don't like you.
2. Not looking at you when they talk to you is a sign they don't you around or they don't want to be there. It's hostility.
if someone didnt like me...they didnt talk to me...and i didnt talk to them...
Anj. Sometimes it is a MISUNDERSTANDING. Only way to find out is to ASK.
I used to be “normal” I guess but after being in college for two years I found that friends are over-rated. I’m still friendly to strangers and in group settings, but I prefer to mind my business
You don’t have to depend on ideas and concepts to know wether the person likes you or not you can know it by your intuition.
Also, if, during your conversation, a person starts spontaneously bleeding from the eyes and ears... they MAY not care for you.
Or they have Ebola. Not like that means that you have to sympathize with them... More like, RUN MUTHAFUKA, RUN!
or they might be possessed
😂😂😂
i've found that if someone punches me in the face really hard its a pretty good indication that they might not enjoy my company.
No matter who dislikes you, just keep liking & praying to "The Most High"; He'll bless you above all those who dislike people.
no
@@ELFWARZ_DOT_COM satan is less evil than his maker
Helllllllo!!!!!! What do you think about people that are very quiet, they listen and observe, and not too talkative.
I'm like that. We're not quick to dislike people. We're quick to discern if we're welcomed around them. Peace keeping mechanism...
Daisy Observer I do the same AND TO determine if they're an acting unusually nice narcissist, coz I NEVER want to be around them again if I can help it (I attract them) they put on a deceptively wonderful act to draw you in... STAY AWAY from fakers (not always easy to tell, hanging back but being confident and assertive and knowing your own mind helps).
@@asseyez-vous6492 Yes!!!!
@@breakOtime I agree. I tend to be like that.
SNEAKY...MAYBE SHY...LOW SELF ESTEEM...MY EXPERIENCE HAS BEEN THAT...THEY WERE...SNEAKY,GRIMEY&A WASTE OF TIME.
When you just get over social anxiety but it comes back to haunt you
#2 I used to get lectures about not crossing my arms while waiting for customers but honestly, I just found it more comfortable and helped in passing time. I resented the intrusion in my personal space. Neither did I find wearing a false smile natural or helpful. Some people just naturally smile, most are more straight-laced.
When a person is balanced and grounded you can't see the whites of their eyes above or below the iris. If you can see the white below their eyes they are ungrounded and probably not focusing or taking in what you are saying. If they pull their nose up, sometimes only for a microsecond, they are showing disgust or revolution. The mouth forming an upside down smile is not accepting or digesting your comments, once again even if only for a moment. People who are better at hiding their emotions may freeze their expression and calmly agree and hold that expression for a little longer, taking note of whether you have realised what they are up to? After you have finished speaking, the other person moves their lip around, but doesn't actually say anything - they have just given you a 'mouthful' without saying a word....also watch the eyebrows. If you are aggravating someone, you can watch their eyebrows go from relaxed to the outside ends rise up and the centres turn in...When you are being empathetic the opposite happens and your outside ends move down around your eyes and the centre sides open up. When we communicate, the spoken word 7%, tone 55% and body language is 38%. Understanding body language greatly increases your communications skills. Great video, thank you!
Awesome.^
yes I've experienced first hand that "lip movement" thing with two people!
fake smile is most important to understand someone !!!
People fake smile also when are sad or tired or depressed or just want to be polite
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To be honest you don't need to relay on these tips to see if someone doesn't like you. The're whole body language & approach tells you everything especially the way they talk to you
When walking away from an individual, look back at their facial expression. If it is a mean looking one, they hate you. If they are smiling, or with simple face expression, you have a friend in them.
True.
Number 7 reminds me of what Ray Liotta said on Goodfellas: " Your enemies come in smiles.".
There's also the possibility that someone who once showed me kindness somehow alienated me (cold shoulder for a warm greeting, verbally attacks you, etc.) so I no longer feel so welcome in that person's presence. If someone who used to be happy to see you is now very guarded, maybe ask yourself (or even them) if you have done or said anything hurtful to them.
...and if you weren't the first person to welcome, and then alienate that person, especially recently, it will be more difficult to win their trust back. The only question then, is, how important is that person's friendship to you? Do you care enough to make a genuine effort to make amends? Thankfully, one friend of mine did, and our friendship thrives today as before.
There are a lot of generalizations and assumptions in this video. I think these assertions do more harm than good.
reading body language is haphazard at best
Absolutely. These aren't signs someone doesn't like you... that's literally the most superficial possible framing and it's bunk.
I agree
Grain of salt people!!!
I know, it really is in context, compressed lips could mean thinking hard/ planning/nervousness too. You'll know if someone doesnt like you by the vibes
I'm glad I'm an INTROVERT ❤
Same here but people disappoint me or betray my trust. I only need a few friends.
Same here!
Same.
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this channel should be called the oversimplification side
I'm glad I dont care. I walk with lord. And I learned to love everyone and even haters.
I've learned over time that if someone throws a drink in your face, they generally don't want to go out with you again.
Here's another: You get a restraining order from them.
🤣
Lol 😉
Dwl
Yup, that's very true!!! 😂😂😂
#11 You try to talk to them and they dont even acknowledge your presence
Everyone deserve love in this world😘😘😍😍
Exactly
❤❤❤
But not everyone gives it
Exactly
@@vickikendricks yeah some people just don't give love to people because they have a high pride on themselves. Like if u agree.
ha! Now hopefully this is on point because it really doesn't take much to know. Especially if someone dislikes you for no good valid reason. There's just a block of energy that comes with coming in contact with them or around them! But often times they're so weird, they'll put up a performance to make you think otherwise.
lololololol @ secret haters
I couldn't even take this video serious after the narrator claimed that " when we're talking to people we don't like, our fake and friendly voice goes away". Mr. Narrator guy, everyone doesn't have a fake and friendly voice. Some people actually speak and deal with people from a genuine place until they're rubbed the wrong way (well that's if that person chooses to behave otherwise). The narrator really just confirmed a lot without even realizing that he did. But that's not news, as if you're an adult that's pretty much aware of The Who, what and when of those around you, you already know that 90% of the time, those that you're interacting with is performance mode. I personally find it interesting, as one has to really exert energy and become a whole nother person for what?!? It's no wonder most folk are just spent and wig out. As they withhold their real expressions DAILY, only to revert to a mask that leaves them in cray mode.
But I do the neck scratching cause it's winter and my skin is itchy!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Maybe at least you are doing it in an innocent way, the eyes never lie though 😁
Yes, they turn their back to you and they dont even want to look at you. My current boyfriend does this early in the mornings and tells me he's facing the air conditioner to cool off ..... He never hears anything I say .... I have to repeat everythng 2 to 3 times and tells me ..." You know Im old and cant hear ....
Rebecca Deschenes His behavior will stay exactly the same or get worse. You decide if you feel valued or not and to stay or go.
Just give better head.
Rebecca Deschenes If he's old & KNOWS he can't hear well even more so he should make more of an effort to listen & NOT turn away from you when you're trying to talk to him. Smh Poor excuse from him.
@@Etuffly I would just give him some of HIS OWN medicine THEN walk away!
@@gj9157 Ewww!
The best as always Bright Side!
I don't care who dislikes me I don't give it much thought...but if someone likes me I tend to be a loyal friend.
Exactly!
They don't genuinely acknowledge u first when they noticed u UNLESS u go to acknowledge them first...then they tend to keep things brief.
As much as I dislike a person. I don't interrupt them or show any annoyance. I always show them respect as i would want.
I’ve noticed certain signs, I watch the eyes, caught eye rolls, one biggy is standing slightly turned away from facing you,