This is spot on! Just broke up with a guy that buried his wife after 30 years of marriage as she was the bread winner, mommy, etc. He used her into the ground and bragged about how he never took a day off of work when she was dying of cancer! Then we started dating and I figured out his fake personality and how he was always trying to pull emotions from me about his no good Daughter (which was also a narcissist and didn’t want to take care of her 2 kids or work) trying to suck me dry. He is a covert narcissist. Done with that! So happy now! His Mother was a narcissist. At least according to him. Although his Sister didn’t see anything wrong with her. So who knows. I’m out and happy! Thank you for all of your videos. They are truly inspiring and spot on all the time! Very helpful to spot these people!
Spot on. You are expected to have no needs and you must always fulfil their needs because they are entitled. You cannot ask for affection and empathy from them ever. It takes a number of years to fully understand this and by the time one understands, one gets too overwhelmed to react and it is big blow for them. It is plain abuse.
I agree... It's more than just a personality disorder. It's Spiritual. It's Good verses Evil. It's Biblical. They are the Jezebel and Judas Iscariot evil entities.
When I stop treating him like the needy child and expected him to be independent and a contributor to the family, he left us for someone the same age as his mother who happened to have lost a son and treats him as such.
And that narcissistic MIL will be a nightmare on top of the narcissistic husband. She’ll defend her son even when she knows he is being abusive. It’s insane. My son will never know his paternal side for good reason.
This is so true. He admitted that he never cared for me but at the same time told me that he needed my unconditional love. It was always me touching him. He couldn't touch me back. He wanted me to buy things for him but didn't want me to spend my money on myself. My life was all about his needs. It was exhausting and draining. In the end, I had to choose myself, my health, and peace of mind. Crazy enough, I still miss the "good times" we had. Lol. But I will not go back.
This is so true. Narc (57 yr old) huband called me mom a few times. I am doing everything for him as if he is a toddler. If I'm not able to take care of his wants, needs and desires at the snap of a finger, he rages, screams & yells at me. The demands are simple tasks that any adult can do. This is so weird and I couldn't understand what is wrong with him. Thanks to your videos Danish, I now understand that he is a narc.
Thank you, Danish. It wouldn't have been possible for me to walk away from such a toxic relationship without your guidance and insights into these individuals and their family dynamics, as shared in your ongoing videos. Your efforts in spreading awareness are truly commendable. Many women in India are living in similar dynamics without even being aware of such narcissistic behaviors. I can say with certainty that India has a high rate of narcissism, considering the mindset of our society.
My ex husband would question me"how come i got in trouble or your upset with me but not (child 1 or child 2)" They are our children, his children, but would compare himself at times to them and it progressed, then he would want sex after such an unnatural encounter.
Danish, you are 100% right. Right before I filed for divorce from my soon to be ex who is a covert narcissist, i finally figured out that he doesn't need a wife -- he needs a MOTHER! I raised our two children by myself and still was expected to dote on him constantly. I was expected to manage our family schedule, make phone calls for him, cook and clean to his expectations, do all the yard work... everything. And then take care of him at the end of the day. But God forbid I ever had any needs of my own or was to tired to meet his. There would be horrible backlash.
Your exactly right. Once you figure it out it makes it easier to detach and start taking care of yourself. It's not a relationship it's never been a relationship. We were dooped. 😢😮
Literally true! Amazing. He got loaded one night and actually raised his fists, yelling: "...but you ARE my mother!" I knew his real mother....quiet and mouse-like and rarely spoke--nice woman but almost totally silent. Now I know why !!!
So funny when I was married we both read the 5 Love Languages!! I gave him all 5 and I never experienced 1 of them!! I have no clue what mine is!!! Thank you again for always being spot on!!
Danish ...your videos are something that I jolted with what I had been through... believe me Romance,love I never understood..it's true essence because fear humiliation ...and Alhamdulillah I came out🥰
My husband left to iraq to ..so call.. visit his mom. I will not be here for him. He needs to go elsewhere for supply. He said he would come back when his mom said he could? It doesn't matter to me if he stays there forever! I dont want him
I've seen them used as one of the flying monkeys & like the others, through peer pressure of wanting to fit in , they rarely realize their bad behavior is dictated to them.
Hello Danish I'm really happy you made this video as my older brother is definitely the narcissistic male after being raised by our psychotic narcissistic mother I realize I ended up more codependent and I'm fixing that funny thing is I never sold out a female companion to treat me with unconditional love like a child I've always sought out women who had self-respect dignity and liked reciprocity
Ex narcassist husbands mum sadly passed when he was 13 i realised he was treating me like his mum,he discarded me but came back with a food shop for me...still taking care of his mummy makes me feel ill but not as ill as him
My Narc step father loves to call my mother Mommy like he could ask or demand: Where is Mommy?, call Mommy! Mommy is sleeping in a crazy and weird way.
That is so true Danish the exmark that I was with for a year and a half he was with his mother his mother was a narcissistic mother his mother used to treat him like a kid and he treats his mother like a royalty I can understand why his wife for 37 years left them she divorced him and he claimed that he divorced her but I found the papers saying that she divorced him at the end of the day that's why his exmark mother's an artistic and he's narcissist as well so he devoted me a year and a half ago excuse me I'm sorry 2 years ago so you know what I'm glad he did I haven't spoke to him in 10 months and I feel good and God's presence and thank you to you Danish with this video helping me
@@ericschick06 Google Jocasta Complex. Yes, can’t make this up. Pics of her wrapped in a towel after coming out the shower, breast exposed. Pics of her in a two piece bathing suits, leg up on a tree.. just to name a few. She was 62 and he was 32. I found them in his phone one day he forgot to LOCK it down as he usually did. I took a screenshot of couple and sent them to my oldest son asking: “If I sent you pictures like these what would you do?” His response was: “Mom, I’ll have you committed to a psychiatric hospital!” I thought I was going crazy seeing what I saw..
They are so sick! 😢 Why they cannot admit it and seek help, but instead ruin other peoples’ lives?!
Very painful situation but true😢
This is spot on! Just broke up with a guy that buried his wife after 30 years of marriage as she was the bread winner, mommy, etc. He used her into the ground and bragged about how he never took a day off of work when she was dying of cancer! Then we started dating and I figured out his fake personality and how he was always trying to pull emotions from me about his no good Daughter (which was also a narcissist and didn’t want to take care of her 2 kids or work) trying to suck me dry. He is a covert narcissist. Done with that! So happy now! His Mother was a narcissist. At least according to him. Although his Sister didn’t see anything wrong with her. So who knows. I’m out and happy! Thank you for all of your videos. They are truly inspiring and spot on all the time! Very helpful to spot these people!
Evil
@@joslynnewens8706 Indeed! A hornets nest!
Spot on. You are expected to have no needs and you must always fulfil their needs because they are entitled. You cannot ask for affection and empathy from them ever. It takes a number of years to fully understand this and by the time one understands, one gets too overwhelmed to react and it is big blow for them. It is plain abuse.
My ex’s mom told me to baby him and always tell him yes.
They are demons not human....
I agree... It's more than just a personality disorder. It's Spiritual. It's Good verses Evil. It's Biblical. They are the Jezebel and Judas Iscariot evil entities.
AND resent you bcs they project all their hatred /blame onto every woman bcs of the twisted first female in their life relationship.
Omgosh!! He really knows how they' operate. They even expect you to pay all the bills forever. Walk, run, fly, drive far, far, far away.
My husband never wanted to pay bills. Lazy lazy but smokes ciggarett huka and on phone 24 hours.
When I stop treating him like the needy child and expected him to be independent and a contributor to the family, he left us for someone the same age as his mother who happened to have lost a son and treats him as such.
😮 omg!
And that narcissistic MIL will be a nightmare on top of the narcissistic husband. She’ll defend her son even when she knows he is being abusive. It’s insane. My son will never know his paternal side for good reason.
This! The mother of the abuser will then ask you: “ What did YOU do to provoke him/her?”
Both are sick!!
This is so true. He admitted that he never cared for me but at the same time told me that he needed my unconditional love. It was always me touching him. He couldn't touch me back. He wanted me to buy things for him but didn't want me to spend my money on myself. My life was all about his needs. It was exhausting and draining. In the end, I had to choose myself, my health, and peace of mind. Crazy enough, I still miss the "good times" we had. Lol. But I will not go back.
I understand this because I live it, I see it. Hopefully this information will help others, well done!
This is so true. Narc (57 yr old) huband called me mom a few times. I am doing everything for him as if he is a toddler. If I'm not able to take care of his wants, needs and desires at the snap of a finger, he rages, screams & yells at me. The demands are simple tasks that any adult can do. This is so weird and I couldn't understand what is wrong with him. Thanks to your videos Danish, I now understand that he is a narc.
Oh my I totally get this!! I finally learned from watching professor Sam varknin video specifically about this MOMMY . IT TRUELY BLEW ME AWAY
@@user-dr1ff1zt6h. I just watched the mommy videos by Professor Sam Varknin. He is awesome. Thank you for sharing!
Yes his videos are great. I learned so much. It’s helpful to understand what is causing all the toxic and manipulative behavior of your narcissist.
Thank you for your understanding. I work daily to get passed my ugly, narcissistic mom as I was growing up. Again, thank you. Peace
Thank you, Danish. It wouldn't have been possible for me to walk away from such a toxic relationship without your guidance and insights into these individuals and their family dynamics, as shared in your ongoing videos. Your efforts in spreading awareness are truly commendable. Many women in India are living in similar dynamics without even being aware of such narcissistic behaviors. I can say with certainty that India has a high rate of narcissism, considering the mindset of our society.
I was always the parent to the dysfunctional child
My ex husband would question me"how come i got in trouble or your upset with me but not (child 1 or child 2)"
They are our children, his children, but would compare himself at times to them and it progressed, then he would want sex after such an unnatural encounter.
That's the truth
Absolutely! Bulls Eye!
Nailed it!
So maybe THAT'S why they call you "mom" or "maw." 🙄
I believe. This is so disgusting...
Except “mom” in my case would send half naked selfies to her blood son once she week. Look up Jocasta Complex..
Danish, you are 100% right. Right before I filed for divorce from my soon to be ex who is a covert narcissist, i finally figured out that he doesn't need a wife -- he needs a MOTHER! I raised our two children by myself and still was expected to dote on him constantly. I was expected to manage our family schedule, make phone calls for him, cook and clean to his expectations, do all the yard work... everything. And then take care of him at the end of the day. But God forbid I ever had any needs of my own or was to tired to meet his. There would be horrible backlash.
Absolutely! At one time, I was told my greatest goal in life should be just like his mother
Your exactly right. Once you figure it out it makes it easier to detach and start taking care of yourself. It's not a relationship it's never been a relationship. We were dooped. 😢😮
And then they resent you for the dynamic they created.
I hate babysitting.
Literally true! Amazing. He got loaded one night and actually raised his fists, yelling: "...but you ARE my mother!" I knew his real mother....quiet and mouse-like and rarely spoke--nice woman but almost totally silent. Now I know why !!!
OMG, YES!!!!!!
So true, Sir!
So funny when I was married we both read the 5 Love Languages!! I gave him all 5 and I never experienced 1 of them!! I have no clue what mine is!!! Thank you again for always being spot on!!
Danish ...your videos are something that I jolted with what I had been through... believe me Romance,love I never understood..it's true essence because fear humiliation ...and Alhamdulillah I came out🥰
My husband left to iraq to ..so call.. visit his mom. I will not be here for him. He needs to go elsewhere for supply. He said he would come back when his mom said he could? It doesn't matter to me if he stays there forever! I dont want him
Spot on
This is exactly what he wants from me but I cannot do it no more, and then of course all the abuse comes
I've seen them used as one of the flying monkeys & like the others, through peer pressure of wanting to fit in , they rarely realize their bad behavior is dictated to them.
Omg !! Your comment let off alot of lightbulb and aha moments for me !!!
Sir please make more videos on father and son narsissit towards daughter and sister..
Hello Danish
I'm really happy you made this video as my older brother is definitely the narcissistic male after being raised by our psychotic narcissistic mother
I realize I ended up more codependent and I'm fixing that funny thing is I never sold out a female companion to treat me with unconditional love like a child I've always sought out women who had self-respect dignity and liked reciprocity
MASTERPIECE INFO, DANISH!! YES! 👍👏🌟🏆
Narc women do their own versions of this too.
Very true
He nailed it here 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Damn, that is the rock bottom truth. Sad, ugly and lonely truth
(இдஇ; ) OMG I can't even face of those memories of someone calling "Mommy? Sorry. Mommy?"
BARF!
Ex narcassist husbands mum sadly passed when he was 13 i realised he was treating me like his mum,he discarded me but came back with a food shop for me...still taking care of his mummy makes me feel ill but not as ill as him
Importers to say no and to see how they handle conflict or a need by you
Now I know why he told me what if my child will be like him,will I deny my child.i told him I will not raise my child to be like you
My Narc step father loves to call my mother Mommy like he could ask or demand:
Where is Mommy?, call Mommy! Mommy is sleeping in a crazy and weird way.
I was the mommy to my ex for 26yrs. It is also very difficult to be intimate with them when you feel like the mom 🤮
Not just when you feel like mom, my narc literally wanted to call me "mommy" in the bedroom!
@@clericoflight476 ewww…
Yes that's true 👍
YES- YES-YES-YES-
That is so true Danish the exmark that I was with for a year and a half he was with his mother his mother was a narcissistic mother his mother used to treat him like a kid and he treats his mother like a royalty I can understand why his wife for 37 years left them she divorced him and he claimed that he divorced her but I found the papers saying that she divorced him at the end of the day that's why his exmark mother's an artistic and he's narcissist as well so he devoted me a year and a half ago excuse me I'm sorry 2 years ago so you know what I'm glad he did I haven't spoke to him in 10 months and I feel good and God's presence and thank you to you Danish with this video helping me
Oh my goodness, you so know a mom from narcissistic behavior to her children. Punished if we showed the smallest need.
Yup!
His got his real evil mother for that.!
I am definitely not his mother.
Believe that 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
OMG OMG AM I HEARING THIS CORRECTLY…THIS IS EXACTLY 1,000,000 % MY EX NARCISSIST‼️
My ex had a literal meltdown because the store was out of Fiji water 😂 I can laugh now but it was certainly not funny then.
They’re so gross 🤮
When covert narcs are stuck in a same situation for long time do they change to malignant narcissists??
There are not that many in the world. It’s a human trait some just have more than others. And a very few. People are to quick to label others.
Yes easy relations rinse spin dispose fast living
I'm glad I don't have kids.
Is it a trauma bond between the narcissistic parent and child.
Sick
You will get a narcissistic mother and daughter more often
🎯🎯🎯💯👌🙏
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Not able to love partner...that's why they turn as their mother...
I had an extreme case where “mom” sent half naked selfies to her narc son on a weekly basis..
Ewww. WTF?
😮
@@ericschick06
Google Jocasta Complex. Yes, can’t make this up. Pics of her wrapped in a towel after coming out the shower, breast exposed. Pics of her in a two piece bathing suits, leg up on a tree.. just to name a few. She was 62 and he was 32.
I found them in his phone one day he forgot to LOCK it down as he usually did. I took a screenshot of couple and sent them to my oldest son asking: “If I sent you pictures like these what would you do?”
His response was: “Mom, I’ll have you committed to a psychiatric hospital!”
I thought I was going crazy seeing what I saw..
I did experience it
Sick but sadly dead true.
👍🏻💯🙌🏻
This is crazy are you kidding me?
No. All of us experiencing the same things aren’t crazy.
@@franco2b145 I’m not talking about the victim, but the abuser as I am a victim myself and came to this information don’t get me wrong
Or their husband and not yours