5 Signs You’re Unknowingly Projecting a Feminine Vibe as a Man to Women
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- Are you being too feminine as a man? How can you attract a beautiful Christian woman? Here are 5 signs you are unknowingly being too feminine and pushing beautiful Christian women away from you?
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1) You are talking about your feelings and your problems too much.
2) You are valuing your friendships over your career.
3) You are too concerned with your physical appearance.
4) You need too much encouragement from her to pursue her.
5) You are not willing to sacrifice for those people you want to lead.
Nr 4 is definitely true
@@patdo4452 That would be neediness or a validation seeking attitude
The first 4 are worldly. The last, 5th one Biblical.
Men don't want to talk about work. When dating worst male or female mistakes is talking about ex's. Your dating to get to know each other,not to get to know your ex's 🤢
@@tbird7552 I agree with what you said
A godly woman should be nurturing and supportive of her husband's emotional well-being. It's part of her role as wife. I'd make a small tweak. A vulnerable godly man should address his emotions and thoughts to God first. However a man should be able to express himself to his wife with dignity
Perfect ly stated. Thnk you Brother ❤
There are when a woman just needs to talk
A man should take his problems to other men and be a solid rock to the family he leads.
@@frontdeskstaff9359 Only God is the rock. The wife is called help mate for a reason
A godly woman isn’t always the best. The last girl I almost ended up with was a devout Christian but was crazy as hell and she belittled me in every way possible. Avoid religious women!
This is what I wished I'd heard growing up but I'm glad I'm hearing it now. The masculine/feminine dynamic that exists between men and women needs to be spoken about more. I think deep down we all know it's there but don't know how to address it. Thank you Mark for these videos. I can't put into words how much I appreciate them
So glad the content has been useful! All glory to God!
I’ve been on a wwf binge. Anyone who knows the old school wrestling days will remember Macho Man and Miss Elizabeth. Miss Elizabeth was and still is the most gorgeous woman I’ve ever seen and that femininity is so powerful it helps compliment the Machoism in Randy Savage. Can you imagine if Miss Elizabeth start shouting OOOH YEAH, CREAM OF THE CROP! YOU GOING DOWN HULKSTER! It would disrupt the dynamic.
@@TheWutangclan1995 though it would be funny to hear her say it though
There is nothing in the Bible promoting "dating".
@@TheWutangclan1995 Ms Elizabeth met Lex Lugor and the rest is history 😆.
LoL 😂 sad part is you're talking about fictional characters which shows how messed up you are.🤭
When I ordered a Bud light, she went to the bathroom, and never came back
LOL
I recently friend zoned a guy because I just wasn't feeling any sexual attraction. When I thought about why, I realized it was because he had little to no masculine energy. Every point you touched on was not a 'feminine' trait he expressed. Instead, he was not masculine by being too passive, very agreeable, indecisive, shifting decision making to me, projecting a nurturing and caring energy and no energy that says "I am the foundation that keeps this family together. I am the one who you can look to, to stay calm and make good decisions that keeps everything stable when there is chaos."
they nag until he becomes this if she is toxic and im not saying you do this but I see this a lot THEN US MEN are taught "happy wife happy life " by the church. I don't think that's actually in the Bible " be gentle with your wife" . Now its crazy work with trying to put that genie back in the bottle
you dont have any attraction to him. period. if you had a high level of interest, you wouldnt care if he was a drunk goofball if hes a 6"5 green eyed fit muscular chadrone
Yea men are to lead the household, we all have problems but it sounds like he lacks purpose and drive. He needs to fix some things in his life before he is ready for a relationship... Leave ur baggage at the door and start a new journey together it's the best way. If being born again is washing away the sins of you former life of Christ... U should approach a relationship the same and check your past at the door, that was a different chapter in your life and this is a brand new one in the book of life so treat it accordingly.
You designed this channel for men. But as a woman, I find it just as interesting as your other channel. Great video. And super spot on from my perspective.
So glad you are enjoying it as well! I knew some women would watch it, but more so just wanted people to know the content focus of the channel. I think women would benefit a lot from hearing these concepts too. God bless!
Masculine and Feminine describes a hierarchical relationship. This is where you need clarification.
Men have a feminine relationship with their boss, the State, God, etc.
A wife has a feminine relationship with her husband but has a masculine relationship with her children.
A masculine man isn't going to suffer a woman's insecurity about his relationship with things that are above him UNLESS that relationship is unhealthy.
With that said, let's go through your list.
1. Talking too much about your problems.
It depends. Are you simply complaining, or are you communicating how you're feeling? Complaining indicates a submissive attitude toward your wife. Obviously, this is feminine. But if you're sharing what you're going through at the moment. There isn't an issue. You can also share feelings that aren't directly spoken, that invigorate romance or playfulness. Unfortunately, feelings are often confused with complaining or whimpering. This is nonsense. The winds of emotion drive our sails. Suppose a woman has a problem with her man feeling anything and wanting to share that with her. It would be best if you weren't married to her.
2. If you value your relationships over your career, you're feminine?
You're right; this one is bizarre. The fact that you need to dial it back and remind everyone that men need friends shows that you're not entirely confident about it.
Historically, the bonds of brotherhood shaped Empires. Men are weaker and more likely to live submissively to authority and to their wife if he feels like an island. I'm sorry, but if you think money-making needs to be done alone or that we need to constantly be in a box of professionalism. You're setting yourself up for a mid-life crisis. No matter how you rationalize it. A group of friends who run a successful business are going to be better off than a lone man who's constantly appealing to a boss that doesn't care about him.
3. If you're too concerned with your appearance.
To have self-respect, work out, be physically strong, and be attractive is feminine? Right...
Having mastery over your body and discipline over your appearance is entirely masculine.
4. If you need encouragement to pursue her
I'll never pursue a woman who doesn't want me there. I'm not about wasting my time. The pattern I see in your points is that you'll make an absurd point and then dial it back in your explanation. It doesn't come off as confident or masculine.
5. Sacrifice yourself
I think this is your best point. Men sacrifice themselves for those he's responsible for.
Overall I don't think anyone should take you too seriously, Men are ending themselves on mass because they're overworked and lonely, and nobody cares about them. Simultaneously, a cult tells women to value independence over family and career over their children. As "Biblical" as you think your advice is, it lacks discernment and sounds cold. You know this, too, because of how you dial back your points. God isn't cold towards those who need Him.
The most important things men need today are God, brotherhood, and family, in that order. We need to feel less like islands and more like packs of lions out on a hunt for our cubs back home. If women have a problem with that, you have a bigger problem than appearing feminine towards her.
Nothing but truth bro! 👏🏽 I’m becoming indifferent to the world. Feels like most are living a facade, men withdraw themselves and do what they believe a woman wants while she doesn’t even like herself that much.
We are living out the roles of Adam and Eve… I’m not religious yet I’m familiar with their downfall. Men today are weak for women and would lose themselves for her.
Thanks for stepping out and speaking the truth on currently touchy subjects.
God bless!
1) Complaining and talking too much is definitely a feminine trait. However, men need to vent their frustrations once in awhile, or else it builds up into uncontrollable frustration and anger. The key words are "once in awhile". A man who constantly complains is going to be a huge turnoff to women and people in general. 2) I have to disgree with this one. I think men should value their friendships and careers equally. A man who is constantly focused on his career but has no social life isn't going to be attractive to most women. Women are generally attracted to men who have good circle of friends and a good social life. A man with no friends or social life comes across as boring and socially awkward. Also, some women may see him as a meal ticket and only be interested in his money and resources. On the flip side, women are also not attracted to men who only want to hang out with friends and don't care about establishing a career or have no ambition. These guys are generally seen as lazy, unmotivated, and immature. There has to be a good balance between work and play. 3) This one is interesting... it really depends on the woman. However, most women have higher standards when it comes to a man's physical appearance and clothes than we were led to believe. Many women I've known have complained about the lack of effort men put into their physical appearance and clothes nowadays. I have to agree that most men do not dress to impress. A backwards baseball cap, t-shirt, and baggy pants aren't going to cut it for attracting beautiful women. Also, many guys don't work out and are overweight, which is also not attractive to most women. I'm not saying men need to be personal fitness trainers or dress like male models, but physical appearance is very important to most women, and women are more sexually attracted to men who take pride in their appearance. 4) Men are often obvious to a woman's signals, body language, and non-verbal cues to approach and pursue her. The truth is men actually need more encouragement to pursue women nowadays. Why? So many women give off "don't approach me" vibes nowadays. I've noticed in public that women, in general, have closed off body language or they are buried in their smartphones. Its hard for men to feel encouraged to approach women when they are so unwelcoming. Not to mention, women can cry sexual harassment for even looking in her direction. Also, women can be extremely cruel nowadays when rejecting men... they often take pleasure in humiliating men who they aren't interested in. This causes men to be more apprehensive about approaching and pursuing women, and rightfully so. Women need to be more welcoming, and men will be more encouraged to approach and pursue. 5) I agree 100%. Men need to be leaders in relationships with women. They need to protect, provide, and sacrifice for their wives. The caveat is that women need to be nurturing and compassionate and allow the man to lead the relationship without constantly undermining and disrespecting him.
I disagree with you on this one brother. The overall masculine/feminine theme is overplayed and like you said in the first one, it’s not covered in the Bible. It’s more new agey if you ask me.
Men holding in their emotions and over working themselves is the biggest reason why the suicide rates are so high and climbing in men 4:1 and also why we die younger than women. It bottles up until it’s just too much. We’ve got to stop doing this.
A Godly man is well rounded. He goes through different seasons where sometimes God calls him to rest, take time off work, cry, be pruned, be broken, release his emotions and traumas, and heal so he can emerge an even stronger and more well rounded man emotionally, spiritually and physically. And from there fully step into purpose. We lose a lot of men in this stage unfortunately because it’s not supported both internally and externally.
I appreciate that we can have these conversations and appreciate your channel brother. Thanks for allowing me to share. Amen 🙏
@selfcarefordudes Yes!! You put in words what I couldn't express. Thank you, I agree with you 100%
The "holding in emotions "is a women's POV that lacks understanding of how men work that men have failed to understand isnt the case
It's not hold them in and not letting yourself feeling/experience them
Its putting them off to a less problematic point to process and deal with them quietly
The reason su!cider rates for men are so high is because men are largely devalued and on many levels hated or feared even though men build, provide, and maintain EVERYTHING
If women stopped working would the economy collapse?
No
If men stopped working it would, men do the dangerous ,unwanted, and laborious jobs (plumber, water treatment, electrical, IT, leadership, garbage, military,etc)
That's not to Say women are less ,just to say that men put FAR, FAR more into the structure then women ever will and are treated like trash and worthless
Also look at the insanely high divorce and SA claims ,all primarily done by women
Women file divorce for insignificant things 70% of all divorces (honey moon phase ended and they got bored, he wasnt making 100k, she was cheating and got caught) an women get kids custody 90% even if the mother is clearly drug addicted or unstable and able to prevent men from seeing their kids of over a year fighting in courts just to end up broke,homeless, and still never seeing his kids
And SA is even worse women can claim SA and get a man arrested on the spot or at minimal beat down by the surrounding men without evidence
I can pull up a long list of names of men who were married for YEARS whose wife cheated and claimed SA or just randomly came out decades after he had a 1 night consenting stand and decided to claim SA because she regretted sleeping with him and they lost
Kids, jobs, family disowned them, and ultimately killed themselves
It's nothing to do with "holding emotions in" that's just a lack of understanding Male programming designed by God himself
Its what's happening to these men and their lack of God to guide and comfort them
@@notrelatedtobacon1282well said!
We have no idea if that’s what is causing suicide
In fact men express themselves now far far more than ever
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927 and the results of current relationships show it doesnt work
Thank you for these videos. It's good to see biblical dating and relationship videos which relate specifically to modern real life situations. The blunt advice is much needed.
thanks for the feedback, God bless!
Excellent video, Mark. We men need to hear more of this! ✝️
Please don’t speak for me. He sounds and gives off feminine energy himself. I do just fine and been married for 17yrs to a very beautiful woman and not just saying that because she’s my wife. Good luck and blessings to your love life eventually
Hey Mark I really like your videos. They have helped me so much throughout my walk with God and I’m sure they will continue to do so. I think it would be cool if you started a podcast on Spotify and/or RUclips. God bless you
My Christian father and my mother divorced when I was 10. I was raised by my mother, my 2 older sisters, my grandmother, and my aunts. My father was out of the picture. I had no male mentors. Not one. I was attractive to girls as a teen, but that attention dried up after high school. I never found a young wife or had a family. I attribute that in part to having picked up too many feminine characteristics from my upbringing without male role models, and too many females to pattern my behavior after. Although at my core I was all male (I rode a Harley to high school), I never learned how to be a man from other men and that hurt my ability to find and lock down a young wife. An example of what I mean is that I never learned until I was in my sixties that the man is supposed to lead in the relationship, probably because I did not see a man lead in any relationship. I only learned this when I tried to have a relationship in my sixties and the woman told me. I can't tell you how surprised I was. But when I reflected on this, I realized that when I felt a strong attraction to a young woman in my youth, I did naturally begin to lead. It just had not entered my consciousness until late in life that the man leading was proper and expected.
This is a super helpful video, I do think the church has unknowingly communicated that relationships are just as important for men as they are for women, so in practicality men receive that, and as they're growing up as young men in the church they prioritize relationships over their career and building themselves up, foundation for a family etc. Very true.
Amen. It's not to say men don't need friendships and such, but I do believe it is different than the way women need this. God bless!
Great content, extremely insightful aide to young men and men in general who are good hearted dudes BUT may struggle or have struggled with the nice guy-ism. When younger, I myself had struggled with being a best friend. Thankfully, and I praise God for the change, I am not that guy anymore. I am a good Man but not a nice guy. Frankly, what it took to literally break me out of that is not for the feint of heart. I made some mistakes and one led to time in state prison for 39 months, wherein I was around all men and had to learn to stand up for myself and carry myself like a man- not an arrogant man, just not how I had been. I learned faith, changed poor self esteem issues which had led me to criminal activities which are now long past, and when I came home I was no longer the best friend in female relationships, I was either just respectful-cool, or friends with guys only. The entire dynamic shifted first by prison, second by Biblical truths.
guess it's time for me to go to prison lol
@@danisthename7 Didn't make my character different just encouraged growth because there was no choice BUT to grow. You can do the same here, just ask the Lord to come into your life and apply knowledge.
@@nicholastracy4915very well put.
This is pretty much why Christianity is a joke. David was one of the MOST emotional people in the entire Bible and he was highly engaged in friendships and complaining. Psalms is 60% complaining. David was more masculine then anyone in this cheesy churches. Additionally men are being dropped due to their physical appearances. You could use a touch up in the fashion department
@@savvyguy1353 Joseph had a technicolor dream coat, bro. A DREAMCOAT. King D was pretty cool, too.
I think women and men fare better having a few friends but concentrating on caring for each other and their family and helping their family young and old succeed in health and wealth 💙🙏🏻💙
I agree with these and I’m a single christian female aged 36:)
Me too
Single for a reason, this is lame as shit
Why are you christian?
Thank you for this video, it's amazingly helpful. Venturing out with this new channel is gonna pay off in dividends in the future.
Men should not talk constantly about their problems, but they should not always keep them inside either. Men think we have to just fight through everything without talking about it and thats why the suicide rate among men is so high. Pick your spots fellas and handle your problems instead of just talking about them but please be open too. Dont be afraid to go to someone. Go to therapy, go to your family, go to a pastor etc. You are not weak because you talked to someone.
I believe this is why God designed us to have friends so that we could sharpen each other and not have to dump everything on our wives. But he devalued friendship in this video.
Thank you brother,well said. Excellent video. God bless.
God bless!
This is absolutely correct.
They don't want a guy that can talk, they want a guy that agree.
I only wish this content was available like this growing up. At 50, I've had to learn these lessons the hard way. Especially after the fact. My parents are wonderful God fearing Christians. They lived these examples much better than teaching them word of mouth. Example... there was no "birds n bees" explanation. And sex was strictly meant for the marriage. So as a kid who lacked self control, what happened should come as no surprise.
Great video. Covered a lot of points.
God bless!
Hey Mark! Love the content and agree for the most part. Just browsing through comments, it seems like many people have misunderstood your points and projected their frustrations onto you. I myself am tempted to do that, but I understand what you’re saying and that you’re NOT saying a man is never emotional or should never be honest with his wife. I think part of the problem is that so many men are beaten down by our culture that demoralizes men. They feel so misunderstood and unwanted-especially in a traditionally/biblically masculine way-that they just want to be heard, and a lot of emotions can come with that desire. So when they hear someone saying that a man should not be too emotional (I.E., characterized by emotion), what they might actually hear is more condemnation: they ARE unwanted. I think it’s important to recognize that. Society doesn’t want men, but our God does! As Paul Washer says, God loves his people-including his Sons!-deeply and perfectly and He accepts them even with their flaws. God desires that we grow in strength, knowing the depth of His love as our foundation. Only from this foundation can we truly be strong. God is our rock, as he was for David, for Christ! Both of these took all their struggles to the Lord and received strength to carry on. They “cast their anxieties upon Him.” They were strong only in the Lord. Jesus did nothing apart from His Father.
So all that to say, it might be good to emphasize some of these points in the future. Namely this: God’s love for his redeemed (I.E., regenerate) sons; the strength that we have is built upon the foundation of God. Sure, a secular man can be “strong” in a worldly sense, but only a man built upon Christ can be strong in a biblical sense.
Love to hear your thoughts if you ever come across this comment!
A brilliant video. Your best yet. You've really delivered some great insights there.
God bless!
Hey Mark! When you get a chance, God willing, can you give us tips for Christian men who are virgins or who those who are celibate. Thanks 🙏🏿
Great points, Mark.
I think with men who are more concerned with their friends than their careers, women will probably see them as more boyish/childish than feminine. However, neglecting your masculine role opens up criticism for both possibilities. I care about my friends' welfare a lot, and I'd say a lot more than money and career, but that could be linked to a side of me that is perhaps pastoral and views things from a ministerial perspective. 🤔
Yes because your career IS NOT your identitly, it's solely a means to an end, or vocation.
Yeah that’s pretty worldly of hom
This video had many biblical points, but the whole concept of 21st century "dating" is completely foreign to the Bible.
This video is spot on !’
I like the explanation on compartmentalization, although I think many men THINK they have left work at work, when in reality they are treating their wife and kids in a rough manner at home and won't open up about why. All he would have to say is his boss hired a new employee that hasn't been letting him get his work done and he's agitated. However, he thinks not mentioning it is better so he can avoid the source of his emotions. It's unhealthy and unfair because his anger is being projected onto his wife or kids. Women need a man who can be transparent.
Is it just me or is it sad we have to teach these kind of things to men these days. But I will say I believe there is something deeper as to why men are such sissies these days and women are masculine. If you read the book “the return of the gods” by johnathan Cahn he really lays it out about certain principalities and what not making men femine and transgender and what not. Super good book. God bless
It's sad, but it's the world we live in today.
Thank you brother you share wise information
These are really thorough, thanks
God bless!
This was sooo what I needed to hear and learn. Thanks, Mark!
The most contraversial video of yours I've seen so far, yet it has much in it to take into consideration. Thank you, Jesus loves you!
Valid points.
Good video man, keep up the great work.
Of course they want you to value your career more than friendships. At the end of the day, they want a workhorse who makes as little noise as possible. They don't love you. They love what you can do for them or how you "make them feel". Its one reason they're able to monkey-branch to the next guy so easily & rationalize their behaviors.
Divorce rates are no lower among Christians as compared to any other group. Don't fall for the trap. So long as the table is tilted, don't play the game.
They're less concerned with you taking care in your appearance because it makes you more feminine and more concerned that other women will see you. They know their own and what they would do. Fattening you up a bit & getting you to skip the gym is a way to make you less appealing to other women. As with the way they dress, women do things largely with other women in mind.
Never pursue a woman. Once she realizes she can subtly get you to jump through hoops, that is all you will do the rest of your married life.
And lastly, yes, they want the sacrificial lamb. That's why men are the ones who overwhelmingly die in wars & on the job. With luck, you've worked your butt off and have left her with property & an income so she doesn't have to work. Again, slip the chains, fellas. Modern women simply aren't worth the time or effort. The only reason "trad wives" seem to be a buzzword these days is because many women are learning that being independent means they have to work. Rather than do that, they'll practice batting their eyelashes again.
This is the best comment on here.
Good stuff! Great opinions.
💯% couldn’t agree more
Mexican beauty queen
Good points.
Great video Mark. I hope you get more viewers 💪🏼
Very well said brother!
The info from this video made sense. Look at how Gen Z and a large portion of Millennial boys/men were negatively affected by the modern feminist agenda.
Wow. This is True 🎯
God bless!
with regard to friendships: i've been focusing on building up relationships with godly men to work on holding each other accountable with regards to masculine pursuits that glorify God. And it has made progress in my career a lot slower. Not sure where to go with that
Do what the Holy Spirit is guiding you to do. Dont worry about stereotypes. Be free in God. Maybe you are called to a greater involvement in a religious group. Its not a career per se but its a life path.
Careers are replaceable. People aren't.
From a woman who tends to be a fixer 😉--
Listen carefully to your own sense that these so-called godly relationships aren't leading anywhere.
Go back to your personal prayer time and study time to get more clarity on your goals and how you should be spending your time!
~ Blessings
Focus on career. Friends naturally come in and leave your life as you climb the ladder and relocate. Friends/family will often not want you to climb the ladder. They say they do, but act differently as you advance. Seen this jealousy my entire life.
And "friends" shouldn't be viewed as permanent fixtures in your life, they will/should also be moving up.
Careers are VASTLY overrated, especially when one looks at a career from the perspective of being promoted and making more money.
It is not unmasculine to be kind, decent, benevolent or loving. It is also not unmasculine to be honest about one’s problems. My parents were married for 43 years and had a Catholic great marriage. My Father and Mother shared with each other about everything. My mother never thought of my father as less Masculine. That sharing made my father and mother better people. They taught my sisters and I to be the same way. If a woman cannot deal with my being well rounded….and fully integrated, I don’t need her.
Lol, how did you get me saying a man should not be kind or decent or loving from this video? You are adding things and missing the point entirely
@@agwformen You along with all of the other Alpha/Manosphere gurus seem to imply that men should not learn to have a higher Emotional Quotient, whether you know it or not. Strong and silent have their places along with open and caring…in a man that is a whole and fully integrated person. Men are not mean’t to be emotionless or unfeeling. We simply express those things somewhat differently…at times. A man who does not express his feelings and worries…is a man with serious health problems in his future.
I am a man….a Catholic gentlemen in fact…like Hilaire Belloc. I think and I feel and express both things…sentiment and thought, sadness and joy. I am an artist…a philosopher…a warrior…a stoic and a romantic. Put another way….I endeavor to be the optimal blend of the Star Trek characters…Spock, Kirk and McCoy. Too much of anyone of those personality types and I would not be a whole human person. My higher will controls my lower will…so I am not governed purely by hormones or my lower primal will. Through my relationship with Christ…via The Divine Life of The Church…I am given the Grace necessary for discernment of when to be more or less intellectual or emotional…warm or cool, etc. I don’t need a woman who cannot acknowledge that I am a human being with both emotion and logic and that I may be emotional rather than logical at times…just as she will be logical instead of emotional at times.
@@CaesarConsuloProVita he never said any of this. You’re projecting on to him.
Also he’s not a part of the “Manospehere”. Most of those men are not Christians. They’re just conservatives and base most of their teachings on Aristotle not the Bible.
You should actually hear him out instead of judging him with little knowledge about him. I’ve watched him for a while and he would never promote not being nice or loving, but a relationship with God above all.
He also didn’t say men can’t share there feelings. All he’s saying is men who do this TOO MUCH can come off feminine to a woman. That’s objectively true. Even if you met someone who accepted you as you are, she could still see the behavior as feminine. I know men who are straight who do feminine things. Some I thought were gay or in the closet so I never viewed them in a romantic light.
And most feminine Christian women don’t want a feminine man. Especially in today’s culture, it’s a red flag that you might be in the closet or into something on the down low. So to avoid a man coming out as gay later on down the line, they just don’t bother.
@@sweetxjc I stand by my post. There is nothing solely feminine about kindness, empathy, sensitivity or being in touch with one’s emotional self. I have done plenty of manly stuff for work and I have a high emotional quotient to boot.
One can read between the lines…he actually is saying what I pointed out…between the lines.
I am Catholic…not Protestant. I have no issue with Aristotle…to the extent that there are elements of his Philosophy that are true…as understood by St. Augustine of Hippo and St. Thomas Aquinas…both Christians and both Church Fathers. This guy is still pushing the manosphere stuff…just tweaked to fit with his Protestant Christianity. It still does not acknowledge that Truth that God made men with emotion.
You can stand by your false projections all you want, acting like your feelings are hurt, but you are going to convince only but a few. His point is how men act realitive to how women act. So you think men should act feminine? That is what you are saying. And there is no such thing as "protestant Christianity". Besides that he cited scripture, "protestant" is a false Catholic construct. There is just either Christian, or Catholic. And seeing you are Catholic, it figures you cite ungodly, cultural Marxist "manosphere" lies more than the Bible and what it says, as he shared.
Naw I mess with u for this. I subscribed.
This was great
Good video.
All men need a solid Brotherhood. Just a few good ones who will push each other to do good and productive things. Think anchors and sails. Is this person an anchor that is dragging me under? Or is this person a sail that encourages and energizes my positive direction and pursuits? Better to be alone than in Bad Company.
Point 1 has definitely been me. I see one of my issues now.
You gotta grow a beard just for this channel
This was great 🙏🏾!
Yeah number one was really off the mark overall good points I knew what you were getting at but your descriptions and delivery could be improved
The few friends I do have are family to me so yes, I do value them over my career. I can go get another job but I cant replace them.
MORE LIFE BOATS ON THE SHIP!!!
Your reference to there not being enough lifeboats for all passengers on board being a “movie thing” wasn’t just a movie thing. I presume you’re referring to the movie, Titanic, but that really did happen. The movie is based on a real life event, one of the most tragic accidents at sea ever recorded. That is the tragedy of the ocean liner, Titanic. It was a real ship, that struck an iceberg, 1500 people died in that tragedy, though the story of Jack and Rose is fiction. By regulations at that time in 1912, they weren’t required to have enough lifeboats for everyone on board. That tragedy changed a lot of laws and future safety and preparedness regulations and procedures for ships at sea.
I'm a Christian man and I am not attracted to Christian women because Christian women tend to be conventional. I don't like conventionality because it is limiting. One of these days I will find a good free spirited woman to marry. I'm praying for one. God brought a free spirited female friend to me and I'm hoping we will eventually be more
You’re getting some flak from people who don’t get it, but you’re right. Men who complain about their problems overly much, or start conversations off by complaining about how life sucks in some way, come off as whiny and weak, because they sound like women. Men are supposed to be strong, confident, and positive. These qualities enable them to lead the family through difficulties. This makes women not see such men as possible partners. This might not be from the Bible, but not all truths have to come directly from the Bible.
I have a close friend, who is much younger then me, who sees me as a father figure. He had terrible problems dating, and could never get past a second date, and often couldn’t achieve a date, due to what he said in texts. It was because he had this problem, and sounded too feminine. It took me a bit to get that fixed, because he had been raised by his mother, in a household with only women in it, but once I did get it fixed, his dating problem got much better, and he met his future wife 6 months later.
I blame abusive men for men not wanting to be masculine and in some cases wanting to be women. If your a little boy that watch your father abuse you and your mom it could make you hate men and not want anything to do with being masculine or worst not wanting to be a man.
I believe that what you expressed here is the core issue of the trans people. Childhood trauma makes them not want to be like their parents, and the lengths they wiil go to in order to be as different as possible from their parents will include not wanting to be what they themselves are. Only the Lord can fix a broken childohood, nothing else will work for these people.
@@alinpetrescu2309 Media don't help either. Men are always portrayed as bad guys beating up and forcing women to have sex when they say no. I can't blame some kids not wanting anything to do with being masculine.
I'm 20 now but when I was a kid my dad was quite abusive to my mom both emotionally and physically. He never did anything to me but it definitely gave me a negative view on my masculinity. My mom left him when I was 3 but for a while when I was younger I didn't like adult men other than my grandpa and uncles because of how my dad acted. It made me reject my masculinity. When I was younger I started having a desire to wear women's clothes and I still feel that way. Wish I didn't but I do. When I was younger I thought it meant I was gay or something. Now that I'm older I know I'm a straight guy but it really made me confused growing up. I see how having an experience of an abusive father could make other guys feel like they should be more feminine and I think that it's happening quite a bit in these modern times. I've realized that masculinity is in no way a bad thing and wish I knew that when I was younger. Sorry for the book lol.
@@hunterprice3320 Thank you for sharing, that was a valuable insight into the consequences of a lack of a positive father figure. God bless you for your courage and strength!
It’s all the pressures and expectations from society that make men want to change their gender, it can be very stressful being a dude
All of us can stand for some correction. Had this been about women needing to be more feminine and/or something about modernization, then there would be a lot more comments in agreement. Allow your heart to yield and accept biblical truth.
dude, the man in Bible that is called “man after God’s own heart” wrote mostly of psalms, and they are all about how he was felling and been vulnerability. The truly masculine man is that kind of man that is able to deal with his feelings and ego, not denying it.
Oh man is that why I hate talking about work at home, and answering questions or thinking about it.
For the lifeboat analogy: that changed when the Titanic sank. Maritime law now requires and excess of lifeboats be provided in addition to the ship’s maximum capacity
Thanks Mark for this great explanation on this topic, which is, honestly, rarely discussed.Since I am a single young man and grew up without a father, what would your advice be on how to become more masculine and in what way to become a good husband and father one day?Thanks.
As an older man I would say to be more masculine you need to challenge yourself to do tough things....ie. get up early, do a physically demanding job, get fit, be disciplined, etc.
For myself who was a little bit effeminate when younger, what changed me was doing Ayahuasca ceremonies, being really poor for some years, going on car trips into the countryside and sleeping in my car or tent.
"Iron John" by Robert Bly is good on this!
@@jasonsanders8091 Thank you for your advice.🙂
@@stefanstefan161You're welcome! Working in an all male environment as a removalist really helps too. Roughing it really. Also a belief that masculinity has some admirable qualities, different and often inaccessible to females. Such as stoical self control, bravery, logic, practicality, goal setting, intellectual acuity, etc
Don't believe this woke chicanery that masculinity is the root of all evil. Wokeness is the cancer actually!!
In all seriousness, just ACT the part. Watch masculine actors from movies in from the 60s, 70s, not current movies, current actors are mostly just goofy now. Act a bit like the old school guys. Move slower, speak less, limit extreme vocal intonations. Actually, eliminate the extreme vocal intonations. In short, be stoic.
Unknowingly is the thing, I know because I was there, until my girlfriend and I talked about it. Then I changed by God's grace
On #2, your expounding makes sense in the case of having kids, but HARD disagree on the main point. I’ve done that before, neglecting my friendships and lacking community while hyper focusing on work as a single grad student. It’s terrible-women want a provider, but not if he’s depressed and isolated.
The goal is to find a balance between your career/work and her friendship.
Great videos, I grew up with a father that hasn’t made it his biggest effort to follow Jesus Christ, I’m very thankful for your videos, they are helping me know how to be a biblical male. Great insight. Thank you, great Bible verses as well!
This is a result of Fathers being absent from the home. Children learn from their parents. If there is no father, the child models the mother. Since a childs survival depends on the parent, they have to believe what they have learned is correct. With the emphasis on women today, the boy is not allowed to see the mother as being wrong, therefore no reason to change.
Agape love should be the source of any Christ centered relationship.
Agape love is totally self-less, unconditional, and sacrificial just as Christ gives all for us.
It's a mutual willingness by both sides to give all to the other out of Agape love and honor to the Lord first and foremost. There is no selfishness involved.
👉Selfish motives are not allowed in the picture. This is a Christ centered marriage.
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2:51 as men don’t we also need to talk about problems to find a solution? Or am I just off about that idea?
talk with your Christian brothers not your wife (too much)
I agree 100%
With women initiating divorce ~70% of the time and divorce courts forcing the men to pay them cash and prizes for doing so, I would say many women in our society don't deserve the sacrifice the bible speaks of. The strong and independent women of today will not submit to a man and thus shall be treated as men. Responsibility without authority is slavery. Stay strong, only date submissive women.
The man walking on the outside of the sidewalk originally came from long ago (in England?) when humans would hurl their trash from up inside of the home and into the gutter. The man would walk on the outside so that he would protect his woman from any falling debris, and it would fall upon him, and instead of her.
For the topic regarding lifeboats, nowadays rules enforce a number of seats sufficient for all passengers. Or so I have heard.
In the past it wasn't necessarily like that...or at least, not on the Titanic.
Why are global testosterone levels falling? Why are men becoming increasingly feminized? Why are so many young men giving up and checking out of society? Why is lying around doing nothing more important than career-building? Um, I'd write more but my favorite TV show is coming on. Good luck guys.
Coz of porn.. each time there is a spike of testosterone, men watch porn and expel it through masturbation. It's so easy for them to get it with a click of a finger.. before men had to strive so much, work on himself his growth and give his best to build his life to please a woman and woo her to bed, now what's the need to go the hard route? Ther is no motivation as motivationa focus is produced in brain when testosterone builds to a certain level in tbe body
The whole "men don't need friendships as much as women" idea is crap. The friendship between David and Jonathan is held up as an ideal. Proverbs warns about a man isolating himself. Paul lamented when all of his close friends and compatriots left him. The difference is not that women need friendships more than men. It's that men form friendships differently from women. Men build friendships around doing things like work while women form friendships by talking and sharing. You should retract this because it's a dangerous idea.
“What is with that? I think that’s more of a movie thing.. hopefully, that’s not happening in real life.” Classic
I disagree with your claim that women aren’t visual, like men are. It’s a myth. They are probably more likely to be emotionally involved in their partners than men tend to be. However, if you did any research into the dating dynamics that social dating apps like Tinder have proven, it’s that women choose partners based on visuals just as much as men do.
What do you mean by spend too much time on physical appearance? I gym 4-5 times a week. I don't think this is too much. This point is confusing.
Bro what?! I'm glad you started off with saying this stuff is more so your opinion 😅
One thing i want to touch in is the physical appearance. Yea dont do your makeup as a guy but u should still be living healthy and working out. U should maintain a good physique i see alot of what i would call soft dudes in the church, lazy, fat, barely put together... Dont do that, practice proper hygiene and hit that squat rack and bench press. A fitness regiment and diet will also keep u disciplined. Plus if u are fit u will make her feel safe when she is with u and ultimately women want to feel safe when they are with their man.
The fact that a husband expresses his feelings is not a sign of being feminine! It's part of intimasy? A lot of men have commited suicide because they were not allowed to be vulnerable! I think it is a matter of of degree! These are good principles but there is a lot of middle ground and nuance,!!! Just some thoughts 13:36
2:44 it is true in a respect but Im wondering if this is even fair to guys...Im sensing a double standard here. So whats the husband supposed to do..poor thing. 😢 Of course go to God but if he cant talk to his wife then...who can he talk to. Im starting to wonder if we need to retire these ideas about what our spouses should and should not be and love them with a real sacrificial love.
I can't speak for most men (though I'm going to assume most men are like this), but for me it is useless to share my problems/feelings unless what is discussed is a way to fix it. Talking about it alone does absolutely nothing for me. I've done it before when I was younger, but I stopped because the problem/feelings didn't go away. I need a solution, not someone to just listen.
So, generally speaking, most women will only listen and not provide solutions.
I´am a catholic, but I think these ideas are valuable and useful for any young man who is trying to live a healthy masculinity in these modern weird times.
Nice list, but I disagree with 2. We live in a world where companies will cut you off in a heartbeat. I'd much rather have a great support system through the storms of life than pledge my loyalty to a company that has no obligation of loyalty to me.
Who said anything about staying at one company?
@@agwformen That's still one of the best methods of growing your career.
This is the first time I have heard what the dynamic is when a man is pursuing a woman, why she sometimes seems to be hard to get. You said because she wants to see how tough the man is in handling rejection. Makes sense.
Testing by creating artificial sotuations is manipulation
@agwformen Mark I watched this video about a year ago and I'm watching it again now and it still doesn't quite sit right with me, in part anyway. You spoke in other comments about red pill. Red pill basically says men can never come to their partner with an emotional problem (not complaining, just a human who has stress) out of insecurity, they may not call it that but it's what it is, fear of being seen in a certain light and being left in the worst case scenario. You could argue that's weak.
So if you say the bible was essentially the original red pill & being ultra traditional with no nuance is the only Godly way to be in your opinion, do you believe the psalmist, David, who is an archetypal masculine figure, who also showed such raw depths of emotion, was in fact more feminine? I ask this as I do agree that many women will say they want to hear a man open up perhaps with the best intentions, but secretly are disgusted by it, but I don't believe that's Godly at all, it completely disregards how God made us, some who experience more negative emotion than others. I also ask is I'm not ready to give up hope that a truly empathetic woman is able to hear this at times, not all the time, but a human amount, and not just cast a man into the feminine camp. Instead surely a Godly woman can recognise him for who he is, someone who contains traditionally (not necessarily truthfully) masculine and feminine traits but is still masculine overall. Thank you if you've read this and I hope you reply.
The trouble a lot of the time is that the church leadership (maybe unknowingly) feminise the men.
For example, in the church, we are taught that we are the ones to be rescued when, in fact, we are to co rule with Christ on the earth taking dominion.
Look at a Superman movie. For example, the man and woman watching the movie usually puts themselves in ether the superhero or the one being rescued.
But in the church it's another story!
Mark, I love your videos and I learn a lot from your video. But masculine and feminine talk I disagree.
I literally googled masculine definition, confident and assertive, these are great qualities and should not assign a gender.
Likewise, caring and family oriented, these are great quality, and also should not assign a gender.
Maybe use a different term instead of masculine and feminine, and say do not complain too much and transfer worry to prayer. I think this will make more sense.
Guys, if you have met ‘bad women’, I am sorry, but every woman is unique. Let’s not put title on gender and only discuss certain behaviors. One bad woman does not represent all women. That is called biased.
Just flip Bible and you will not find one single feminine this word.
However, Mark, I do appreciate a lot of your content. You did a good job.
True...
I am over emotional as a man, so I am divorced.
When the titanic sank there was just 20 life boats and no room and over 2'000 people on bord so to few boats on bord but after that law was change no ships have to have life boats for evey one now
A man who is keeping his personal business and feelings all to himself can also be a liar, a manipulator or pathological. Are those seriously traits women find attractive in a man?
Believe it or not, I think so. What you described is similar to the so-called bad boy. Many women are often drawn to them because they’re assertive, usually emotionally unavailable, don’t care (like a narcissist or psychopath), have a hidden life women want to learn about, and have a certain dark side to them. It’s the drama surrounding these kinds of personalities many women crave.
Apparently so. The Chad's are lying to them all the time.
I partly disagree on number one. For one, I find that if your talking about your problems too much, it’s not effeminate, it’s a sin. God asks us not to fret and to trust him. Us vocalizing our problems all the time is just putting a voice to our internal fretting. And while it may not always be that a woman wants you to help her with her problems, I think reassuring her is partly the job of a husband. Whether it is appreciated or not. I have 5 sisters and I can tell you very well how much they all despise when they are being ignored by their husbands. What your suggesting not a good blanket solution. Every woman is different and some of them may be that way, some of them may not. I agree in the sense that no Christian should be fretting over their problems too often. Our problems in America are a joke compared to the third world countries. To those who much is given, much is expected. In other words, our perceived problems in the lap of prosperity are embarrassingly dumb to voice when you consider what others are going through. Would you complain about how your boss treats you to some one dying from cancer or a starving child in Africa. If not, turns out your problems are self made and not real problems. Lol
Thanks
I gave up my career and became a stay-at-home father. Frankly, my wife was farther ahead in her career than in mine, so it made sense.
I would like to ask you a question if it is alright with you.I have also thought about this kind of thing happening to me one day since I am still single and have been thinking what would it be like if a woman was working and developing her career and I wasn't.For some reason, it sometimes feels like I would be less worthy than her.This is probably some kind of a limiting belief, but I always felt that it would be a natural thing for a man to be the provider.How do you accept this fact in your life and what is your line of thinking?How do you see your part of the contribution to your family?Sorry if the questions are too personal.I could use your perspective on this matter.Thanks
@Stefan Petrušić As a stay-at-home parent, I have done laundry; shuttled our to and from school, soccer practices, activities, and play dates; dealt with repairmen, done grocery shopping, and helped my wife with her Master's studies.
Our son has generally had a good vocabulary, with a stay-at-home parent with a law degree.
But, the people who seemed to have the biggest problem with me were stay-at-home moms. At pre-school many moms wouldn't talk to me, and the pre-school was at tge church we attended, a very liberal church.
These are good generalizations but some of our trans and homosexual problems today is society either not valuing a man's famine qualities (especially those who are more feminine than others) or the culture of so-called male toxicity which devalues the traditional male characteristics.
A lot of us don't earn enough to buy a nice home, a nice car and to keep a wife home with the kids like it was done in the 90's.
Their's a ton of pressure on us men to be successful and to take care of our wives, really really well, while they do nothing or very little in return 😕.