As a woman, I can attest that all 5 things are EXACTLY what us true Christian women want. Guys, these are the things my girlfriends and I talk about. So believe everything Mark said and the reasons he gave for them.
Another fundamental point - you must be a Godly christian man at first place, then come all the mentioned qualities. A God fearing christian woman won't even consider dating a non-believer
Stuff like this was never told to me when I was younger and needs to be told to boys in youth group. Instead of making dating as a Christian all about following rules, like what it seemed like I heard growing up, the man to woman dynamic needs to be spoken about instead. Good stuff Mark. I appreciate your channel more than I can express in words
The problem is that the church generally is falling into allowing women to rule the roost too much. I have experienced it personally and was sent to Coventry by several of them for simply quoting Genesis 2:18. It is up to the men to take back the headship in the church from the feminists IMHO.
Spot on! I’ve wasted many years resenting Christian advice, around dating, for this very reason. I think this advice from agw is a breath of fresh air. I did not grow up with “godly, life-advice-giving-parents” either, as I think many people can relate.
@@donaldkunzer4097 this one, and a lot of his other videos on his channel for men, have been a breath of fresh air for me. It's so freeing when dating is spoken about based on the man to woman dynamic rather than treating it like it's something different just because of your beliefs. At least we're learning about it now
1. Your Physical Health (2:00) 2. You need to be financially Independent and Capable - the Provider (4:50) 3. You need a backbone - Be the Protector (7:55) 4. You need to be an initiator - The Pursuer (10:40)
Being financially independent takes at least a decade for most men. By that time like most men they will be looking for younger women just like what is happening in secular society and their peers will be old maids. Traditionally men and women married young and built things like financial stability together. Worked for millennia up until the past 50 years or so when we changed things. By the way how’s that been working?
@@jasonwilliams8321 This. It's so much healthier for a relationship too, since if a man and woman build wealth together, there shouldn't be an angst or anxiety that the woman or man will just leave the relationship and take all your money. I dont know why all of a sudden nobody wants to support marriage at a younger age, and yet question why so few people are marrying nowadays?
Truth, there are a decent amount of single men in my church right now, however I dont see any that seem ambitious about their career or future. One guy I talked to for awhile didnt want any form of accountability to reach his goals towards a career that could earn a living. He was very kind, but almost too kind for me.. I didnt feel his masculinity around him at all, I felt like he was a "best friend" so I had to stop talking to him bc I realized I could never see myself marrying someone less ambitious and driven than me. I didnt like being around a guy who couldnt make decisions and initiate and would say one thing and not do it part of the time.
Amen, this 5 qualities are very important to become a biblical masculine men as well, keep it up encouraging other single men who believes in Lord Jesus to become their best version of themselves, may God bless you brother Mark
Hey man thank you for this video, I've been watching a lot of your stuff for a while and just found this new channel. You touched a lot of details in this video that I was insecure about in my last attempted relationship. For example, she definitely knew more about the Word than I did and I let it get to me instead of learning how to lead regardless. I am also in the entry stages of my career and need to remind myself that I don't need to make enough to support a full family before I get into another relationship, but instead be content with being able to provide for myself and thanking God for that.
This was so good. I especially liked the verse he gave at the end of point 4 and his entire lesson in point 5. Mark Ballenger is so mature in the Word. I also wanted to point out about #1 that most Christian women do not discount men just because he might have some additional weight. If there's anyone that understands that you can still have some extra weight and/or slow metabolisms even though you eat right and exercise, it's us women! A true Christian woman should also be looking for integrity and not over emphasizing a man's physical appearance and, the same in reverse, a good Christian man should be looking for integrity in a woman and not over emphasizing her physical appearance.
I would definitely be interested in a video about dating and pursuing a Godly woman while also dealing with health issues and not being able to work. It is one factor that has discouraged me and to give up at times.
"Your physical health is a reflection of the choices your making & the discipline you have." This is perhaps 1 of the most controversial things you can say today. Bravo.
@@wampuscat1340 Generally that is true. It is controversial regardless of the gender. But several times more controversial when said to a w0man. That ironic thing is that it is often overweight people who discriminate against other overweight people esp when dating.
6:00 I gotta correct you right there. Living with one's parents has been the complete norm since the beginning of time throughout all cultures. Even now, the vast majority of homes across the globe are meant to accompany families and not individuals. The trend of living by yourself even at a very young age only became popular in the UK and North America during the 1950's and 1970's when housing was ridiculously affordable and the population was booming. But if you take a look at the world stage right now, not only do half of North American adults live with their parents (both men and women) because that golden age of affordable housing has been long gone, but the vast majority of young adults in every other country on Earth also live with their parents. So I wouldn't say that living with your family is a mark of poor financial independence. Because if that were the case, then the vast majority of young adults should not get married at all and will never get married, and any woman looking for an independent man while still living with her parents herself would be a complete hypocrite.
Yeah I think this is how stereotypes are born. One does not consider the circumstances but brings overgeneralized statements. No offense against Mark. I think he does what he can to encourage and taking responsibility which is at the heart of what he wanted to transport is definitely important!
Excellent video mark. Your intention for this channel just shines and is giving me so much valuable information that is very difficult to come by. And you always back it up with scripture! Could you do a video about the difference between looking and lusting? Alot of men struggle with healthy views of attraction and sexual appetite as Christians. Often condemning as something shameful and sinful. Wich causes even more problems. Not only do I think it would help a lot of people. I think it would be an awesome staple video for your channel cause it isn't often talked about. And I want to hear YOU talk about💯🔥👍
I really appreciate this. Especially the first one. Personally, I'm 6' 251lbs as of today and started the year at 270. I had to come to the fact of the matter that is, I need to get healthier. People tend to say that you'll find someone someday, but as you are. I understand they want to be nice, but sometimes we need to look in the mirror. Literally and metaphorically. If we want someone specific, what are we doing to match that person?
Right now I live with family. But I do it to save money since I haven't been able to find roommates I trust. I often wonder where the line is between financial independence and fiscal responsibility.
Everything is screwed up now and women in the church are not much different than women who are not religious. The church bought into the whole birth, school, work, death paradigm and now we see the results. Traditionally at least for thousands of years men and women married young. They built lives together enduring hardship and forged character and strong families. Now men are generally not financially secure until their mid 30’s and by that time most women in their age bracket Christians included are on the decline and have had multiple sexual partners since we weren’t meant to endure our peak sexual ages without an outlet ( formerly provided by early marriage). Men with equity will demand younger, more viable women and older women will end up old maids and bitter or in the constant cycle of providing cheap, no strings attached sex in exchange for any form of affection from guys who wont commit to them.
Can you please make a video for single or even married men with chronic physical health problems. Should these men date or pursue a relationship at all? Thank you.
If you have a chronically bad financial situation (ie great work-ethnic, great financial discipline, low paying job, high cost of living expenses, etc...) then it does not look like this is possible.
Honestly it's a little discouraging. I mean you're right Mark. It's discouraging though because I'm stuck in an undesirable financial situation. Yeah, I kinda hate where I'm at in life. I'm stuck splitting rent with my parents and siblings, and my oral health isn't something I'm proud of either. ( I was an abuser of soda drinks ) I have a good heart and intentions but now listing to this I'm feeling a little lost because I want to date and marry but the practicality at this time looks impossible. I'm only getting older I'll be 33 this year... Maybe my desire for marriage will never be fulfilled... Yet I press on despite my circumstances, sigh...
Have you considered relocating abroad? Find a good church in another country where the cost of living is cheaper? You'd have to find a way to work remotely, even if it's a remote work making $10/hr, or save up enough money over some months. You could fix your oral issues for far less money than in the states. I had a dental treatment in Istanbul several years ago, and up to this day it's held up. The dentistry office was more modern with the latest equipment than anything I've seen in the US. Spain, for example, has great dentistry services as well and it costs a fraction of what they'd charge back home. Maybe living abroad a few months at a time could be an option for you as well. Cost of living outside the US is often tremendously cheaper for Americans or other expats earning in USD or Euro etc. Abroad you'd actually be able to save money, as the dollar has more purchasing power over their currency, and the cost of living is also far more economical (for you) overseas. So your financial situation could improve. I moved out of the states recently because of this. I had enough paying three times more for everything. And although, I gave up on relationships, what I've noticed is the christian women abroad are very pleasant. Many of them will approach you. In countries like Germany, Sweden, Albania they do make an effort to talk to you. Why? Because there's far less christian men in their churches and many want to marry. In the US it's the complete opposite. But it's not for everybody, if you like where you're living, then don't do it. You'll miss home for sure. But if you are a bit adventurous and are curious, then maybe do some more research on this. I personally don't want to go back to the states if I can avoid it!
One thing I would like to point out, Mark, living with your parents is not a bad thing. Moving out early is a relatively new phenomenon in history. Even the scriptures say a man will leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife. I'm 28 and living with my mother. Not because I can't live alone, but due to past needs (severe injury and covid brought me back home), and nowadays, a desire to be fiscally responsible. If I can share my income with my mother right now, it benefits both of us today, and gives us one more season that we'll always cherish. Living with your parents while single is not a bad thing, so long as you aren't purely taking advantage of it. If you can live with your parents in a way that can directly transfer to living with your wife, there is no issue.
That’s your view, but mature women will not agree. If that’s what you feel led to do, go for it. But don’t pretend this wont be a hurdle with dating. As far as biblical trends, the way they expresses their adulthood in that culture was different. That’s a cultural difference, not a biblical command.
@@agwformen I simply think that by blanketing a view for “all mature women,” you’re creating a potential fallacy. Not all mature women believe this, as can be seen in many young couples and marriages in many I know, and probably in your life as well. It doesn’t line up with scripture, history, or even the church culture at large. CAN it be a hurdle? Yes. Is it intrinsically a problem? No.
Okay, "almost all" mature Christian women :) This is my view. You don't need to agree. It's my channel and video. Perhaps make your own if you want to convince people of your views. Sounds like you want to teach people your view, but I think it is generally wrong. I'm teaching masses, not the exception. Yes, you can find a woman if you live at home still. But it's bad advice to tell men it's okay to live at home at 28. In most cases, that's an issue and delaying adulthood.
@@agwformen yes, and where you’re teaching the masses, I’m simply encouraging you to be careful of these generalizations. I’ve yet to see one Christian relationship in anyone I know where the man living with his parents was a dealbreaker. I’m not here to spread my message. And I’m not trying to defend myself for being one who lives at home currently. I’m just speaking, one brother to another, about the dangers of over-generalizing. I love what you do, this is the first criticism I’ve had since following you. God bless, Mark
No problem with this....as long as its really a sincere Christian woman. Even then divorces happen at a massive rate and your financial independence is halved.
Question about point 2: If I'm living with my parents but going to law school, does the fact I'm studying for a financially independent career suffice for point 2 since I'm showing myself to be putting in the effort for long-term success? Or would my present state (living with my parents) override the fact I'm working towards a solid career?
I’m going to seminary to become a church planter and long term missionary… my income is going to suck and living status will probably be outside the US in the future. What should I do about the financial part?
About #1, Many women, especially in their 20s lately are attracted to skinny men/pretty boys. Are these types of women the wrong type to be attracted to? Many of these women do appear to be immature and not fully sure what they want.
A true Woman of God won't care about that. Not saying looks aren't important but a Alot of us have been tainted by social media on what is perceived as attractive. But you're not wrong.
Btw, living with your parents is NOT a bad thing. What guy is going to be able to bring a w0man back to his place with his parents home? It means your likley not promiscuous. As long as your contributing and not being lazy.
I would kindly ask if you could make another video about What you mentioned in regards to point 1, because I’m unfortunately disabled, and it seems as though women do not like disabled guys, because like you stated in other points, we are supposed to be the leaders and protectors. And I don’t think they would expect that from me. Of course, I’m more than capable of points 1 through five despite my height being a major disadvantage. At the same time, I am currently in college, and will look for a job after I graduate, or most likely before then.
I dated my wife for 5 years then was married for 6 months I worked hard all the time to contribute then I got a disease from a tick bite and ended up in the hospital with serious health problems for a few months and she never came to see me or called me not one time but she immediately got a boyfriend and left after wiping out our bank accounts and opening credit cards in my name and maxing them out,when I got out of the hospital our home was sold along with my belongings,I will stay away from dating and marriage from now on
BINGO. I am so sick of "Be the Man" videos, when in fact, women file for 80% of the divorces, christian or not. DO we have to go back to Genesis to revisit the questionable character of women ?
This list applies to all women. I’d hope that the one thing that separates Christian women from the rest is that, in addition to all of these expectations you mentioned, she looks for a man that understands the Word of God, which means he has strong convictions in it and lives by it in an exceedingly greater fashion over time. Fact is though, the vast majority of Christian women want the exact same type of men that non-Christian women want. In fact, all women only show interest in the top 20% of all men. The other 80% don’t exist in the eyes of women. So quite literally, I mean that Christian women want the same exact men that non-Christian women want.
Great video! In my situation, I am in my upper 20s, I still live with my family but that’s mainly because I work for a family business & proximity makes the most sense here. Do you think that still impacts my ability to date Christian women? I want to buy my own house but I also have been putting the money I’m not paying in rent/ mortgage towards a Roth IRA. To me, this is long term thinking, but can women see that? Or will they be caught up that I am living with my family?
I have something of a similar issue. I live on my own, but a lot of my income comes from properties I share with my family that I will eventually fully inherit. Right now, it's tough paying all the bills with my income from the full time job I have alone. And really, it feels like the only way a woman would know that is if she takes the time to get to know me. Me personally, I think having your own space that you and your wife can share is pretty important, but I don't really know what your full situation is. I wish you all the best though.
@@agwformen Interesting perspective. I think it’s important for Christian guys to hear that because a lot of us don’t hear that perspective. That could be part of why alot of them have dating issues. Most of the Christians I grew up around lived with their parents for a while or until they got married (I think this was more common in older/ more traditional homes though). I did have a financial plan with my situation though. So, I like to think it’s a calculated financial move that I’m making for my future family, but it did intent to be a short term stay and not long term.
@@Charles-e4x I actually have a similar situation.. I work for a family business on the property I grew up on, so it was impractical to move away. I also have investment prooerty I’ll eventually have to manage as well. So, I figured id save at least 50k over 5 years or so living at home & put that towards retirement. If you calculate that out by putting it into a retirement account and contributing $100 monthly for 30 yrs at an average of an annual 7% return, I’ll have $500,000 in retirement in 30 years. So, in alot of ways I think the “hurry up and move out” can be a scam. I just planned to move money I would’ve been spending on rent to my retirement that would benefit my future family. Short term sacrifices for long term benefits. I do think it’s valuable to move on your own though. I also see how women find that more attractive. But, there is more to wise financial decisions that living on your own.
@@Jayar_ I would recommend just getting a relatively cheap one bedroom apartment someplace close to your family. You probably won't have as much money as you would if you stayed home, but you'll have a place of your own. In one of his other videos, Mark mentioned how there's nothing wrong with a young married couple starting out in a single bedroom apartment with an old beat up used car. Basically, the point he was making was you can focus on your financial and career goals AND pursue a relationship at the same time as so many people choose to wait until they feel they're "ready" before they start dating rather than doing both at the same time. You don't need to be living anywhere lavish, just show the lady you're capable of living on your own and taking care of things.
I'm a Christian and now I know why Christian women don't like me. It's OK they're not worthy of me. I'm unhealthy. I chew tobacco and I guess that puts them off. I'm also on disability due to my unhealthy life. It's OK, I have a female friend who doesn't care about whether I got it together or not. Also it's OK because truth is we are saved by grace through faith and salvation is not dependent on works.
1) sell cocaine 2)participate in an interstate kidnapping ring 3) have Ray or Wayne as middle name 4)women get mixed up after going to Institute in Basic Youth Conflicts 5) be a pretty boy type.
If you're not a virgin, your heart and body is already entangled. Don't put that mess on someone new. its so wrong. do you want to be with someone that continually thinks of someone else? haha its stupid. major rehabilitation with God is needed for you. Marriage requires Purity and innocence. Find an Eve that hasn't bit the apple yet. or an Adam that pushed the apple away.
My husband needed to hear this..i tried for 43 yrs and got so upset..i left..communication never was there..sad..so i have been alone for 4 yrs now waiting for a new begining..❤
Pretty much all secular advice here. If you’re taking this guys advice, don’t even bother with women in the church. Just date non Christians because at least they’re honest about their shallow desires.
Frankly I disagreed with all these points . Nowhere in the Bible does it stated a man must be physically able and financially capable to support his wife. God does not judge you by your material possessions. He touches us through our hearts. Trust in God. Believe in Him and all your desires shall be yours 😊. Women who are touched by God will feel the same way.
Do all this, get divorced anyway. Even from a Christian woman. And the church will support her. Men are increasingly no longer interested in what women want, and are asking themselves why they would want a woman.
I'm tired of all this. I'm just gonna live my life best to the glory of God and if i find one i find one. Good material... but it's just gotta be simpler than all this
None of these wants are unique to Christian women. Also, notice the woman doesn’t have to bring anything to the table. We are truly living in a gynocentric society.
Now, let’s talk about the five things Christian women need to have to deserve a man like that, shall we? Be a virgin, no debt, no tattoos, be young… oops! Did I just disqualify 99% of women in church? 🙄🙄
@ProtoMan696 I by definition cannot hurt anybody by BEING the man I am. I can only hurt others by BEHAVING or ACTING in a way that hurts others. You lack vision in seeing difference between a person and his actions.
As a woman, I can attest that all 5 things are EXACTLY what us true Christian women want. Guys, these are the things my girlfriends and I talk about. So believe everything Mark said and the reasons he gave for them.
Yes!!
You don't know what you want, you just want it now, and I promise, you're not getting anything.
Is that why christian women date unbelievers over believers.
THANKS for the advice you and mark god and the holy Spirit is getting me ready for my spouse
But do you ever talk about how you want to SERVE your future Husband.....NO
Another fundamental point - you must be a Godly christian man at first place, then come all the mentioned qualities.
A God fearing christian woman won't even consider dating a non-believer
Exactly
Stuff like this was never told to me when I was younger and needs to be told to boys in youth group. Instead of making dating as a Christian all about following rules, like what it seemed like I heard growing up, the man to woman dynamic needs to be spoken about instead. Good stuff Mark. I appreciate your channel more than I can express in words
The problem is that the church generally is falling into allowing women to rule the roost too much.
I have experienced it personally and was sent to Coventry by several of them for simply quoting Genesis 2:18.
It is up to the men to take back the headship in the church from the feminists IMHO.
Thank you for your discoveries.
Spot on! I’ve wasted many years resenting Christian advice, around dating, for this very reason. I think this advice from agw is a breath of fresh air. I did not grow up with “godly, life-advice-giving-parents” either, as I think many people can relate.
@@donaldkunzer4097 this one, and a lot of his other videos on his channel for men, have been a breath of fresh air for me. It's so freeing when dating is spoken about based on the man to woman dynamic rather than treating it like it's something different just because of your beliefs. At least we're learning about it now
Hi, Jesus died on the cross so that we can be forgiven for our sins, so that we can repent and enjoy a relationship with God now and later. 🙏🙏🙏
1. Your Physical Health (2:00)
2. You need to be financially Independent and Capable - the Provider (4:50)
3. You need a backbone - Be the Protector (7:55)
4. You need to be an initiator - The Pursuer (10:40)
There’s a 5th one too! It’s the one that will help all of the others come into play.
Being financially independent takes at least a decade for most men. By that time like most men they will be looking for younger women just like what is happening in secular society and their peers will be old maids. Traditionally men and women married young and built things like financial stability together. Worked for millennia up until the past 50 years or so when we changed things. By the way how’s that been working?
@@jasonwilliams8321 agree waiting too long is not working too well for anyone
@@jasonwilliams8321 This. It's so much healthier for a relationship too, since if a man and woman build wealth together, there shouldn't be an angst or anxiety that the woman or man will just leave the relationship and take all your money. I dont know why all of a sudden nobody wants to support marriage at a younger age, and yet question why so few people are marrying nowadays?
Hi, Jesus died on the cross so that we can be forgiven for our sins, so that we can repent and enjoy a relationship with God now and later. 🙏🙏🙏
As a godly woman, I AGREE 💯 🌺 I watch AGW for women and thought I'd see what you guys are hearing. It is so, so good!
Thanks, Mark. I would have been glad if I had this type of mentorship growing up. Never too late. God bless.
Hi, Jesus died on the cross so that we can be forgiven for our sins, so that we can repent and enjoy a relationship with God now and later. 🙏🙏🙏
Bro this hurts as it highlights the areas that I lack. But I really do appreciate this, coming from a man of God. Much needed message for me.
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
Proverbs 27:6
God bless you and your journey, brother.
did you turn things around man?
Truth, there are a decent amount of single men in my church right now, however I dont see any that seem ambitious about their career or future. One guy I talked to for awhile didnt want any form of accountability to reach his goals towards a career that could earn a living. He was very kind, but almost too kind for me.. I didnt feel his masculinity around him at all, I felt like he was a "best friend" so I had to stop talking to him bc I realized I could never see myself marrying someone less ambitious and driven than me. I didnt like being around a guy who couldnt make decisions and initiate and would say one thing and not do it part of the time.
Amen, this 5 qualities are very important to become a biblical masculine men as well, keep it up encouraging other single men who believes in Lord Jesus to become their best version of themselves, may God bless you brother Mark
I sure appreciate all of the scriptures you're sharing and the great teaching. Well done. 💯
Thank u so much. A Catholic peruvian learning a lot from ur videos. Keep it up! This is great content, God bless!!!
Great content, Mark. Thanks for the mention of artists and musicians too!
Financially supportive - yes, but God is the ultimate provider
Hey man thank you for this video, I've been watching a lot of your stuff for a while and just found this new channel. You touched a lot of details in this video that I was insecure about in my last attempted relationship. For example, she definitely knew more about the Word than I did and I let it get to me instead of learning how to lead regardless. I am also in the entry stages of my career and need to remind myself that I don't need to make enough to support a full family before I get into another relationship, but instead be content with being able to provide for myself and thanking God for that.
Amen!!! 100%
A biblical Christian woman wants a biblical Christian man.
It has been written, and nothing else will suffice!
Thank you!
You just want a man who is already built his own life and career to be able to take care of you so you can leech off of his hard work.
This is really helpful content! I appreciate it.
This my friend should be taught!
Watching this video uploaded on my Birthday. Thank you Sir.
This was so good. I especially liked the verse he gave at the end of point 4 and his entire lesson in point 5. Mark Ballenger is so mature in the Word.
I also wanted to point out about #1 that most Christian women do not discount men just because he might have some additional weight. If there's anyone that understands that you can still have some extra weight and/or slow metabolisms even though you eat right and exercise, it's us women!
A true Christian woman should also be looking for integrity and not over emphasizing a man's physical appearance and, the same in reverse, a good Christian man should be looking for integrity in a woman and not over emphasizing her physical appearance.
I would definitely be interested in a video about dating and pursuing a Godly woman while also dealing with health issues and not being able to work. It is one factor that has discouraged me and to give up at times.
"Your physical health is a reflection of the choices your making & the discipline you have."
This is perhaps 1 of the most controversial things you can say today. Bravo.
Controversial when said to a woman, beauty at any size, etc. Men are expected to live up to this principle.
@@wampuscat1340
Generally that is true. It is controversial regardless of the gender. But several times more controversial when said to a w0man.
That ironic thing is that it is often overweight people who discriminate against other overweight people esp when dating.
6:00 I gotta correct you right there. Living with one's parents has been the complete norm since the beginning of time throughout all cultures. Even now, the vast majority of homes across the globe are meant to accompany families and not individuals.
The trend of living by yourself even at a very young age only became popular in the UK and North America during the 1950's and 1970's when housing was ridiculously affordable and the population was booming.
But if you take a look at the world stage right now, not only do half of North American adults live with their parents (both men and women) because that golden age of affordable housing has been long gone, but the vast majority of young adults in every other country on Earth also live with their parents.
So I wouldn't say that living with your family is a mark of poor financial independence. Because if that were the case, then the vast majority of young adults should not get married at all and will never get married, and any woman looking for an independent man while still living with her parents herself would be a complete hypocrite.
Yeah I think this is how stereotypes are born. One does not consider the circumstances but brings overgeneralized statements. No offense against Mark. I think he does what he can to encourage and taking responsibility which is at the heart of what he wanted to transport is definitely important!
Do a video on the 5 Love Languages
Excellent video mark. Your intention for this channel just shines and is giving me so much valuable information that is very difficult to come by. And you always back it up with scripture!
Could you do a video about the difference between looking and lusting? Alot of men struggle with healthy views of attraction and sexual appetite as Christians. Often condemning as something shameful and sinful. Wich causes even more problems.
Not only do I think it would help a lot of people. I think it would be an awesome staple video for your channel cause it isn't often talked about. And I want to hear YOU talk about💯🔥👍
I really appreciate this. Especially the first one. Personally, I'm 6' 251lbs as of today and started the year at 270. I had to come to the fact of the matter that is, I need to get healthier. People tend to say that you'll find someone someday, but as you are. I understand they want to be nice, but sometimes we need to look in the mirror. Literally and metaphorically. If we want someone specific, what are we doing to match that person?
Right now I live with family. But I do it to save money since I haven't been able to find roommates I trust. I often wonder where the line is between financial independence and fiscal responsibility.
Proverbs 31:1-3 Guys read this scripture. Hold on to it with all your heart.
I like these longer videos!
Everything is screwed up now and women in the church are not much different than women who are not religious. The church bought into the whole birth, school, work, death paradigm and now we see the results. Traditionally at least for thousands of years men and women married young. They built lives together enduring hardship and forged character and strong families. Now men are generally not financially secure until their mid 30’s and by that time most women in their age bracket Christians included are on the decline and have had multiple sexual partners since we weren’t meant to endure our peak sexual ages without an outlet ( formerly provided by early marriage). Men with equity will demand younger, more viable women and older women will end up old maids and bitter or in the constant cycle of providing cheap, no strings attached sex in exchange for any form of affection from guys who wont commit to them.
Exactly
Facts
Can you please make a video for single or even married men with chronic physical health problems. Should these men date or pursue a relationship at all? Thank you.
Amen.Thanks mark for this wisdom.
If you have a chronically bad financial situation (ie great work-ethnic, great financial discipline, low paying job, high cost of living expenses, etc...) then it does not look like this is possible.
Excellent advise all around. I’m glad I found this Chanel. Keep up the great work.
DO THE FOUR POINTS BELOW IN 3 - 5 MINUTES AND YOU WILL HAVE A HUGE FOLLOWING. TALK TO MEN LIKE MEN.
Honestly it's a little discouraging. I mean you're right Mark. It's discouraging though because I'm stuck in an undesirable financial situation. Yeah, I kinda hate where I'm at in life. I'm stuck splitting rent with my parents and siblings, and my oral health isn't something I'm proud of either. ( I was an abuser of soda drinks ) I have a good heart and intentions but now listing to this I'm feeling a little lost because I want to date and marry but the practicality at this time looks impossible. I'm only getting older I'll be 33 this year... Maybe my desire for marriage will never be fulfilled... Yet I press on despite my circumstances, sigh...
Joshua Eze RUclips channel. In short, become what you want to attract.
Have you considered relocating abroad? Find a good church in another country where the cost of living is cheaper?
You'd have to find a way to work remotely, even if it's a remote work making $10/hr, or save up enough money over some months. You could fix your oral issues for far less money than in the states. I had a dental treatment in Istanbul several years ago, and up to this day it's held up. The dentistry office was more modern with the latest equipment than anything I've seen in the US. Spain, for example, has great dentistry services as well and it costs a fraction of what they'd charge back home.
Maybe living abroad a few months at a time could be an option for you as well. Cost of living outside the US is often tremendously cheaper for Americans or other expats earning in USD or Euro etc. Abroad you'd actually be able to save money, as the dollar has more purchasing power over their currency, and the cost of living is also far more economical (for you) overseas. So your financial situation could improve.
I moved out of the states recently because of this.
I had enough paying three times more for everything. And although, I gave up on relationships, what I've noticed is the christian women abroad are very pleasant. Many of them will approach you. In countries like Germany, Sweden, Albania they do make an effort to talk to you. Why? Because there's far less christian men in their churches and many want to marry.
In the US it's the complete opposite.
But it's not for everybody, if you like where you're living, then don't do it. You'll miss home for sure. But if you are a bit adventurous and are curious, then maybe do some more research on this. I personally don't want to go back to the states if I can avoid it!
One thing I would like to point out, Mark, living with your parents is not a bad thing. Moving out early is a relatively new phenomenon in history.
Even the scriptures say a man will leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife.
I'm 28 and living with my mother. Not because I can't live alone, but due to past needs (severe injury and covid brought me back home), and nowadays, a desire to be fiscally responsible. If I can share my income with my mother right now, it benefits both of us today, and gives us one more season that we'll always cherish.
Living with your parents while single is not a bad thing, so long as you aren't purely taking advantage of it. If you can live with your parents in a way that can directly transfer to living with your wife, there is no issue.
That’s your view, but mature women will not agree. If that’s what you feel led to do, go for it. But don’t pretend this wont be a hurdle with dating. As far as biblical trends, the way they expresses their adulthood in that culture was different. That’s a cultural difference, not a biblical command.
@@agwformen I simply think that by blanketing a view for “all mature women,” you’re creating a potential fallacy. Not all mature women believe this, as can be seen in many young couples and marriages in many I know, and probably in your life as well. It doesn’t line up with scripture, history, or even the church culture at large.
CAN it be a hurdle? Yes.
Is it intrinsically a problem? No.
Okay, "almost all" mature Christian women :) This is my view. You don't need to agree. It's my channel and video. Perhaps make your own if you want to convince people of your views. Sounds like you want to teach people your view, but I think it is generally wrong. I'm teaching masses, not the exception. Yes, you can find a woman if you live at home still. But it's bad advice to tell men it's okay to live at home at 28. In most cases, that's an issue and delaying adulthood.
@@agwformen yes, and where you’re teaching the masses, I’m simply encouraging you to be careful of these generalizations. I’ve yet to see one Christian relationship in anyone I know where the man living with his parents was a dealbreaker. I’m not here to spread my message. And I’m not trying to defend myself for being one who lives at home currently. I’m just speaking, one brother to another, about the dangers of over-generalizing. I love what you do, this is the first criticism I’ve had since following you. God bless, Mark
@@NickBrennanAmove out bro, you can still help your mom out from another house
Good video Mark, this will help against beta wokeness! 👍
Thanks, I will definitely avoid all these things.
yes thats what it means.
No problem with this....as long as its really a sincere Christian woman. Even then divorces happen at a massive rate and your financial independence is halved.
Please make a video about the chronic illness and how it affects a man and his potential
Question about point 2: If I'm living with my parents but going to law school, does the fact I'm studying for a financially independent career suffice for point 2 since I'm showing myself to be putting in the effort for long-term success? Or would my present state (living with my parents) override the fact I'm working towards a solid career?
I’m going to seminary to become a church planter and long term missionary… my income is going to suck and living status will probably be outside the US in the future. What should I do about the financial part?
About #1, Many women, especially in their 20s lately are attracted to skinny men/pretty boys. Are these types of women the wrong type to be attracted to? Many of these women do appear to be immature and not fully sure what they want.
Way too specific of a worry. Focus on issues you actually have, not could have :)
A true Woman of God won't care about that. Not saying looks aren't important but a Alot of us have been tainted by social media on what is perceived as attractive. But you're not wrong.
Btw, living with your parents is NOT a bad thing. What guy is going to be able to bring a w0man back to his place with his parents home? It means your likley not promiscuous. As long as your contributing and not being lazy.
I would kindly ask if you could make another video about What you mentioned in regards to point 1, because I’m unfortunately disabled, and it seems as though women do not like disabled guys, because like you stated in other points, we are supposed to be the leaders and protectors. And I don’t think they would expect that from me. Of course, I’m more than capable of points 1 through five despite my height being a major disadvantage. At the same time, I am currently in college, and will look for a job after I graduate, or most likely before then.
You left out a 5th one... You need to listen to bluegrass Gospel music on a regular basis.
I think the man should be the provider no exceptions. No 50/50
I definitely got a back bone.
Nowadays, number 2 often means you need to be RICH
I dated my wife for 5 years then was married for 6 months I worked hard all the time to contribute then I got a disease from a tick bite and ended up in the hospital with serious health problems for a few months and she never came to see me or called me not one time but she immediately got a boyfriend and left after wiping out our bank accounts and opening credit cards in my name and maxing them out,when I got out of the hospital our home was sold along with my belongings,I will stay away from dating and marriage from now on
BINGO. I am so sick of "Be the Man" videos, when in fact, women file for 80% of the divorces, christian or not. DO we have to go back to Genesis to revisit the questionable character of women ?
Your wife sounds terrible
Sorry that happened to you. That's proof she didn't love you.
This list applies to all women.
I’d hope that the one thing that separates Christian women from the rest is that, in addition to all of these expectations you mentioned, she looks for a man that understands the Word of God, which means he has strong convictions in it and lives by it in an exceedingly greater fashion over time.
Fact is though, the vast majority of Christian women want the exact same type of men that non-Christian women want. In fact, all women only show interest in the top 20% of all men. The other 80% don’t exist in the eyes of women.
So quite literally, I mean that Christian women want the same exact men that non-Christian women want.
How many full range of motion pushups can you do in one go while fresh?
So do secular women also desire these things.. so what?
Great video! In my situation, I am in my upper 20s, I still live with my family but that’s mainly because I work for a family business & proximity makes the most sense here. Do you think that still impacts my ability to date Christian women? I want to buy my own house but I also have been putting the money I’m not paying in rent/ mortgage towards a Roth IRA. To me, this is long term thinking, but can women see that? Or will they be caught up that I am living with my family?
I have something of a similar issue. I live on my own, but a lot of my income comes from properties I share with my family that I will eventually fully inherit. Right now, it's tough paying all the bills with my income from the full time job I have alone. And really, it feels like the only way a woman would know that is if she takes the time to get to know me.
Me personally, I think having your own space that you and your wife can share is pretty important, but I don't really know what your full situation is. I wish you all the best though.
I do think that will hurt your dating efforts. It’s not impossible to overcome, but as a man I think it’s best to not be under your parents roof
@@agwformen Interesting perspective. I think it’s important for Christian guys to hear that because a lot of us don’t hear that perspective. That could be part of why alot of them have dating issues. Most of the Christians I grew up around lived with their parents for a while or until they got married (I think this was more common in older/ more traditional homes though). I did have a financial plan with my situation though. So, I like to think it’s a calculated financial move that I’m making for my future family, but it did intent to be a short term stay and not long term.
@@Charles-e4x I actually have a similar situation.. I work for a family business on the property I grew up on, so it was impractical to move away. I also have investment prooerty I’ll eventually have to manage as well. So, I figured id save at least 50k over 5 years or so living at home & put that towards retirement. If you calculate that out by putting it into a retirement account and contributing $100 monthly for 30 yrs at an average of an annual 7% return, I’ll have $500,000 in retirement in 30 years. So, in alot of ways I think the “hurry up and move out” can be a scam. I just planned to move money I would’ve been spending on rent to my retirement that would benefit my future family. Short term sacrifices for long term benefits. I do think it’s valuable to move on your own though. I also see how women find that more attractive. But, there is more to wise financial decisions that living on your own.
@@Jayar_ I would recommend just getting a relatively cheap one bedroom apartment someplace close to your family. You probably won't have as much money as you would if you stayed home, but you'll have a place of your own.
In one of his other videos, Mark mentioned how there's nothing wrong with a young married couple starting out in a single bedroom apartment with an old beat up used car. Basically, the point he was making was you can focus on your financial and career goals AND pursue a relationship at the same time as so many people choose to wait until they feel they're "ready" before they start dating rather than doing both at the same time. You don't need to be living anywhere lavish, just show the lady you're capable of living on your own and taking care of things.
Maybe ill go root of paul serve god and die alone sounds good. Gods all i need my purpose is clear.
I'm a Christian and now I know why Christian women don't like me. It's OK they're not worthy of me. I'm unhealthy. I chew tobacco and I guess that puts them off. I'm also on disability due to my unhealthy life. It's OK, I have a female friend who doesn't care about whether I got it together or not. Also it's OK because truth is we are saved by grace through faith and salvation is not dependent on works.
1) sell cocaine 2)participate in an interstate kidnapping ring 3) have Ray or Wayne as middle name 4)women get mixed up after going to Institute in Basic Youth Conflicts 5) be a pretty boy type.
If you're not a virgin, your heart and body is already entangled.
Don't put that mess on someone new.
its so wrong.
do you want to be with someone that continually thinks of someone else? haha
its stupid.
major rehabilitation with God is needed for you.
Marriage requires Purity and innocence. Find an Eve that hasn't bit the apple yet. or an Adam that pushed the apple away.
THIS.
God can change that"memories" but I agree with you. It's a BIG reason for divorce. Lookup statistics on this.
Myles Munroe explains this beautifully.
My husband needed to hear this..i tried for 43 yrs and got so upset..i left..communication never was there..sad..so i have been alone for 4 yrs now waiting for a new begining..❤
@@melindalabombard804
Are you still looking?
What part of the world are you located?
Pretty much all secular advice here. If you’re taking this guys advice, don’t even bother with women in the church. Just date non Christians because at least they’re honest about their shallow desires.
Frankly I disagreed with all these points . Nowhere in the Bible does it stated a man must be physically able and financially capable to support his wife. God does not judge you by your material possessions. He touches us through our hearts. Trust in God. Believe in Him and all your desires shall be yours 😊. Women who are touched by God will feel the same way.
The secret to attracting women, is to be hot.
Luke 6:20
And he lifted up his eyes on his disciples, and said, Blessed be ye poor: for yours is the kingdom of God.
Do all this, get divorced anyway. Even from a Christian woman. And the church will support her. Men are increasingly no longer interested in what women want, and are asking themselves why they would want a woman.
I would add that you need to have read the Bible all the way through at least once. How can you be the spiritual leader if you don’t know the word.
I'm tired of all this. I'm just gonna live my life best to the glory of God and if i find one i find one. Good material... but it's just gotta be simpler than all this
Problem is we sign a contract that she can break and benefit from.
All our society feeds us with is to bow down before woman, that's how a real man is. Hahaha
Lol, Every single woman wants these things.
None of these wants are unique to Christian women. Also, notice the woman doesn’t have to bring anything to the table. We are truly living in a gynocentric society.
If your really nice it'll make women want to date you
Now, let’s talk about the five things Christian women need to have to deserve a man like that, shall we?
Be a virgin, no debt, no tattoos, be young… oops! Did I just disqualify 99% of women in church? 🙄🙄
Haha Awesome!!
to be a real man you have to be a slave for woman, that is the inevitable nature of real relationship. hahah
aha
Bunch of lies. I got all those things and nary a woman. Don’t be deceived by a message that sounds good
Why would I want to be a man "women want to date"?
I want to be a man I want to be.
@ProtoMan696 I by definition cannot hurt anybody by BEING the man I am. I can only hurt others by BEHAVING or ACTING in a way that hurts others. You lack vision in seeing difference between a person and his actions.