7 Things Dating Couples Should Not Do | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • Опубликовано: 1 июн 2023
  • "I believe there are stages a relationship should follow, first friendship then dating but most times people jump into different phases of their relationship without due processes and it always ends up bad, sometimes disastrous."
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Комментарии • 216

  • @emastephen2607
    @emastephen2607 Год назад +451

    7 Mistakes.
    1. Not Cultivating or
    Building Friendship
    2. Not having clarity or vision.
    3. Not having mentors
    4. Having sex before marriage .
    5. Waiting to Have all the Money before you Marry.
    6. Playing House
    7. No premarital counselling

  • @abigaildoraa
    @abigaildoraa 7 месяцев назад +33

    7 mistakes dating couples make.
    1. Not building friendship (prov. 17:17) TPT .... If ure not touching each other, can you spend quality time together easily?
    2. Not having clarity (prov. 29:18)... What are we doing? Where are we going? What's the plan? When are we planning to get married? How do we work towards it?
    3. Not having mentors (prov. 31:1)MSG... have distant mentors and close mentors. Accountability is key. Let there be people that can counsel both of you.
    4. Having sex
    ... kissing never satisfies, it brings the fire .. create boundaries... Sex before marriage affects intimacy. Sex affects the trust because the person that cheats with you will cheat on you. Sex brings disrespect. It dishonors God.
    5. Waiting to have all the money before you marry.
    6. Playing house. Moving in together before the time. It affects commitment. Prov. 25:17
    7. Not doing pre-marital counseling. Love is never enough. Pre marital counseling ensures safety for both parties.

  • @rossyprim2336
    @rossyprim2336 Год назад +79

    Number one- Not building friendship proverbs 17:17
    A friend loves at all times
    Build your friendship
    Number two- Not having clarity Proverbs 29:18
    Not having vision the people perish
    Number three- Not having mentors proverbs 31:1
    Accountability is key
    Number four- Having sex before marriage
    Sex affects intimacy, respect, trust, good behaviour.
    Number five- waiting to have the money before marriage
    Number six- Playing house meaning moving in together, it reduces respect, motivation, anticipation, it brings challenges.Proverbs 25:17
    Number seven- They don't do premarital counselling.proverbs 15:22 Doing premarital counselling greatly reduces the chance of failing.

  • @byrnenoel6317
    @byrnenoel6317 Год назад +39

    1. Not Building Friendship 10:57-- The love of a friend stands strong; romantic love fades. A friend loves at all times. Can you all talk
    without touching each other, having sex, or discussing wedding plans?
    2. Not Having Clarity 13:00-- Not having clarity of where we are going (marriage?). When are we getting married? 4 years? 5 years? 1 year? Let's start working towards it. Let's not keep checking each other out.
    3. Not Having Mentors 15:22--
    4. Not Staying Celibate 18:23-- For some, they keep kissing and touching completely out of their dating. "Let's just talk"
    5. Waiting To Have All the Money 20:37-- You don't need a big house.
    6. Playing House 24:44
    7. Pre-marital Counseling 29:35

  • @soulmatesempire
    @soulmatesempire Год назад +24

    True, some churches don’t talk about marriage and relationship.
    Which is very bad

  • @Whenshetravelsnow
    @Whenshetravelsnow 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you , I never asked for clarity in the past but now am firm and stand with the Lord .

  • @missnuti
    @missnuti Год назад +65

    Please do another video telling us how to correct these mistakes. When you are already in the relationship

    • @kevinonsale5662
      @kevinonsale5662 Год назад

      True

    • @priscilliamaiyeko3626
      @priscilliamaiyeko3626 11 месяцев назад

      We really need this…

    • @samthecreator10
      @samthecreator10 10 месяцев назад +3

      You stop it. And have meaningful conversations and put God first in the relationship. That's how.

    • @chelumwenifumbo9983
      @chelumwenifumbo9983 10 месяцев назад +3

      I believe its practicing the opposite of these 7 mistakes.

    • @chelumwenifumbo9983
      @chelumwenifumbo9983 10 месяцев назад +2

      For instance if you been having sex with your partner, bring a stop to that.

  • @haroldmartin3652
    @haroldmartin3652 8 месяцев назад +9

    I really truly would like to get all of your book on relationship & marriage because I really truly want my second marriage to be very successful for a very long time

  • @irmamedom7256
    @irmamedom7256 6 месяцев назад +4

    May God deliver us from useless friends

  • @chrisax012
    @chrisax012 7 месяцев назад +2

    I am 23 now and I promise myself that no matter what happens... whether I am rich or not i must marry before the age of 28... God willing... Thank you sir for your teaching....

  • @agnesamitamasinde
    @agnesamitamasinde 10 месяцев назад +10

    His teachings blessed my life. It helped me know what marriage is. It enabled me choose the right man.❤🙏

  • @Minister--pat
    @Minister--pat Год назад +6

    I have made all this mistakes oooo...Thanks you pastor for teaching me this is basically for me.thank you so much....I am now single and will work it out ..

  • @EAtoons
    @EAtoons 6 месяцев назад +6

    Cheating is a personal decision. Some people will never cheat no matter how hard things are; others will always cheat no matter how good they have it.
    This is where true beauty comes in!
    Beauty isn't about having a pretty face. It's about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart, and a pretty soul.
    ✨ if you played your part and loved someone with all your heart
    ✨ if you spoke on your feelings & tried to communicate
    ✨ if you waited for change & none came
    it’s not your loss, it’s theirs. let go, heal, & move on to someone that deserves you.
    You deserve someone who you were created for and who was created for you, to understand and love you properly

  • @kesienaemefe4582
    @kesienaemefe4582 Год назад +41

    Every single person has to see this message 👏👏
    I feel so blessed after watching this

  • @naongakalumbi8670
    @naongakalumbi8670 Год назад +7

    I've been in a relationship and lonely before. Definitely being "married and lonely" must be worse

  • @breatheeleganceheart-talk
    @breatheeleganceheart-talk Год назад +16

    This is profound! Especially 3 and 7... young people don't seek knowledge anymore until they encounter problems in the marriage and most times its already too late.

  • @kwobsiemarius9613
    @kwobsiemarius9613 Год назад +21

    Pastor K ans his Kingso Kingso story is evergreen. Everything I listen to it i still enjoy jt

  • @obenamaduprince608
    @obenamaduprince608 Год назад +4

    I like the way he says "are you here somebody"😅

  • @peacegelwanmiwilfred7177
    @peacegelwanmiwilfred7177 Год назад +35

    Knowledge is truly powerful... Thank you pastor K for saying yes to Jesus, listening to you and your wife helped me allot .... you are truly a blessing.... thank you sir

  • @AnnetIyara-iu3ed
    @AnnetIyara-iu3ed Год назад +8

    Supporters don't matter if you're not prepared 💓

  • @cattyreals572
    @cattyreals572 Год назад +12

    This video just motivated me. Now I'm certain that I'm doing the right thing 😊😊😊

  • @oluwakemiakinwunmi1303
    @oluwakemiakinwunmi1303 Год назад +10

    In the multitude of counselor there is safety...thank you so much sir.

  • @OACTSPodcast
    @OACTSPodcast Год назад +12

    Listening to Pastor K is bliss! Second time this video has popped up and it's so fresh like a reminder

  • @veronicachukwu31
    @veronicachukwu31 Год назад +6

    I always feel blessed listening to you Pastor K & Pastor M.
    Truthfully, I'm amazed at how the world has changed so badly. It's so difficult to see a man that wants a relationship without sexual intimacy...
    I've had to give up several relationships because of the so-called sexual intimacy...
    It's so sad that very few ( so scarce to see) still understand and follow the standard already set by God ( Not defiling the bed).
    Too many misplaced priorities in today's worlds...
    God help we singles IJN

    • @theadunbarin
      @theadunbarin Год назад +1

      There are sooooo many men that wants to be in a relationship without sexual intimacy.
      Don't have that mindset that they are scarce or else that would be my reality.
      BTW, change your circles, serve, have mentors, pray and go out
      I personally know so many men that are willing to wait o.

    • @veronicachukwu31
      @veronicachukwu31 Год назад

      @@theadunbarin Beautiful piece! God bless you

  • @AnnetIyara-iu3ed
    @AnnetIyara-iu3ed Год назад +8

    A failure is known by his goals!💓

  • @Xeik38
    @Xeik38 Год назад +10

    He's so right ... Ladies we have the power !!!

  • @jareya
    @jareya 10 месяцев назад +2

    PK is so wise… his teachings are always a blessing

  • @denikepriceless1450
    @denikepriceless1450 10 месяцев назад +2

    God bless you Pastor K for this message. He that hath an ear let him hear what the spirit is saying. Every word is so true 💯

  • @TsholofeloHopeM
    @TsholofeloHopeM Год назад +8

    I love your teachings. These are very important keys. As singles may we do the right the things so that we can have godly and successful marriages.

  • @jesusmavericks
    @jesusmavericks 5 месяцев назад +1

    Talking of point 2 - You made mentioned dating without a PLAN. My question is, how do you PLAN a relationship?
    I mean how to have a Relationship Vision?

  • @user-hj5vm7dm3x
    @user-hj5vm7dm3x 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you sir, thou am still single ,am believe God for marriage, my first marriage broke when I was 20 years old, now am 32 I haven't heard what I learned from your teaching thank you , God give you long life and good health. Now am ready now for marriage

    • @sandramatua6293
      @sandramatua6293 8 дней назад

      My first mrg broke at 28 years. I am 31 now, waitin on the Lord.

  • @florenceadeoye17
    @florenceadeoye17 Год назад +2

    Thank you Jesus for creating this wonderful head over us.

  • @marycrown6529
    @marycrown6529 Год назад +4

    My ever able Counsellor sent by God
    God bless you Daddy
    I'm always inspired by your messages
    You'll live long and Mummy too with all your family members in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen.

  • @Gift_Ikechukwu
    @Gift_Ikechukwu 6 месяцев назад +3

    Amen 🙏
    I believe in the Lord our God

  • @pauloluwaniyi6741
    @pauloluwaniyi6741 Год назад +7

    Thank you very much Pastor, you are an answer to a generation. ♥️

  • @anthonianwaobioma
    @anthonianwaobioma Месяц назад

    This is amazing
    I grabbed it
    I just received the answers I needed 😌
    Thanks a lot 🙏

  • @favournoah9598
    @favournoah9598 Год назад +2

    Am always blessed whenever I listen to Pastor K

  • @debbiemumba3040
    @debbiemumba3040 Год назад +1

    I'm so encouraged by the message this video just popped up at random. 😊

  • @michelleadebiyi2341
    @michelleadebiyi2341 Год назад +4

    i love ur books❤️‍🔥🤲🏾,thank you for this video too and many more you’ve uploaded!

  • @laurynana843
    @laurynana843 Год назад +2

    Shalom Pasteur, une fois de plus, je suis enrichie par ces enseignements. Merci, que Dieu vous benisse abondament

  • @christakalembe241
    @christakalembe241 9 месяцев назад +1

    Wow,I am so blessed to listen to this word of God!

  • @sarahblessed-sayah
    @sarahblessed-sayah Год назад +2

    Kinzo! Kim so!! 😂😂😂. Bless your hearts pastor K and M.

  • @jummyalfred2909
    @jummyalfred2909 Год назад +2

    This message is Very awesome and full of wisdom. Listening to this message for the third time. Love you PK.

  • @adebanjomayowa3844
    @adebanjomayowa3844 9 месяцев назад +1

    God Bless You For This Message Sire!!!

  • @Lisaarkaifie
    @Lisaarkaifie 18 дней назад

    Great one Pastor Kay

  • @tifarahola
    @tifarahola Год назад +1

    Thanks for this teaching Pastor K.

  • @victoriaoluwatimilehin8770
    @victoriaoluwatimilehin8770 Год назад +1

    Wow
    These are all new and a direction
    The exact question I have been asking for a while . Since I gave my to Christ this year.
    I have been overthinking this relationship thing
    Thank you so much pastor
    You are now my distance mentor 😊

  • @rianangaemaluta
    @rianangaemaluta Год назад +6

    😂😂pastor K 30minutes of violence🤣🤣 thank you for the knowledge sir

  • @user-om6mo4zy3i
    @user-om6mo4zy3i 5 месяцев назад +2

    So how can you avoid sleep in his house when is a distance relationship thank you

  • @elyonolamide4561
    @elyonolamide4561 Год назад +5

    I am always happy listening to ur sermons nd viewing ur posts. Thank you so much sir for your impact.🙏🏽

  • @NatashaShapolaMwamba-ny9vy
    @NatashaShapolaMwamba-ny9vy 5 месяцев назад +1

    Daddy has never not delivered o

  • @FolakeAdunni
    @FolakeAdunni 5 месяцев назад +1

    I love this message

  • @gracekadiri2419
    @gracekadiri2419 Год назад +3

    Wow!!!!!!
    This blessed me pastor k

  • @oseghaleebenezer8482
    @oseghaleebenezer8482 Год назад +1

    I must admit you're funny... 🤣
    Nevertheless I love the simplicity of your messages. I glad to hear this.
    Thanks for making people have stable marriages.
    God bless you, sir!

  • @asunganyirose
    @asunganyirose Год назад +2

    This has really blessed me

  • @paulzerina
    @paulzerina 11 месяцев назад +1

    Wonderful Teaching!❤

  • @okoedionbridget5539
    @okoedionbridget5539 Год назад

    0:15. People undervalue the principle of marriage.

  • @Achieveress
    @Achieveress Год назад +1

    Wonderful Message and humourous while at it😂

  • @wezisiwale2354
    @wezisiwale2354 Год назад +3

    Pastor please make this book available in Zambia

  • @BerthaOrkar-wg7xe
    @BerthaOrkar-wg7xe Год назад

    Thank you Sir..I'm so much blessed from this meeting. May God bless you.

  • @user-ur8lm6pw1t
    @user-ur8lm6pw1t Год назад +1

    Powerful daddy thank you for the word 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @vindyprecious1531
    @vindyprecious1531 Год назад +2

    Am really blessed
    Thank you sir

  • @darlingtonodom6913
    @darlingtonodom6913 Год назад +1

    God bless you for this, on the part of mentorship, I introduced her to my mentors and she did same, when she wouldn't agree that what she's doing is wrong, I would let her mentor know and when she is reprimanded, she will be angry with me for letting them know. She always wanted to put a saint picture and I don't get why

    • @theadunbarin
      @theadunbarin Год назад

      Are they truly her mentors?
      Did you talk about the issue before taking it to her mentors?
      Just be wary.

  • @BlessingIhemekwelem
    @BlessingIhemekwelem 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks for these wise teaching...

  • @chelumwenifumbo9983
    @chelumwenifumbo9983 10 месяцев назад

    My mentor. Thank you for the teaching.

  • @funepoweiminna6355
    @funepoweiminna6355 6 месяцев назад

    God bless you for eye opening ❤❤❤.
    Thanks

  • @ifemizu82
    @ifemizu82 6 месяцев назад +1

    Beautiful piece

  • @MiracleWalkinz
    @MiracleWalkinz Год назад +1

    Thank you sir

  • @user-ql4dl9ox9d
    @user-ql4dl9ox9d 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you very much sir it will really go a long way God help me 🙏🙏

  • @oresotutolulope6159
    @oresotutolulope6159 Год назад

    Thank you so much sir. God bless you and ur household. This massage are all for me. Thanks a lot.

  • @sarahkumi
    @sarahkumi Год назад +3

    Thank you sir.🎉

  • @franchescaasamoah3046
    @franchescaasamoah3046 Год назад +3

    Great teachings. Thank u Sir

  • @user-hu4xb1ii4c
    @user-hu4xb1ii4c 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much sir. I am so blessed!

  • @floraapi9431
    @floraapi9431 Год назад

    I'm blessed. Thank you pastor sir

  • @Gift_Ikechukwu
    @Gift_Ikechukwu 6 месяцев назад +1

    God will bless you 🎉❤

  • @christianamartei
    @christianamartei 23 дня назад

    Wow🎉🎉God bless you sir❤

  • @user-fn1lm8lt5e
    @user-fn1lm8lt5e 5 месяцев назад +2

    How do i get some of this books 🤦
    I'm in a relationship and we're planning to get married

  • @emmanuelorji7274
    @emmanuelorji7274 Год назад

    God bless you Sir for the values shared.
    Pst, glad to know you're a fellow ex-commando.

  • @TettehJoyce-p2r
    @TettehJoyce-p2r 27 дней назад +2

    Am 31 I dating he for four years now and still he is not thinking about we settle down rather I should come over I intentionally travel to my mum place just for he to think 🤔 but still hmmmm

  • @Sibs_treats
    @Sibs_treats 11 месяцев назад

    This is really interesting.. I learnt alot .. thank you sir

  • @SpurgeonIloba-ip7wz
    @SpurgeonIloba-ip7wz Год назад

    I want to view the fine girlfriend part Abeg😂
    Thank you Sir
    I’m blessed by the message

  • @ApiyoKevin-oq7fb
    @ApiyoKevin-oq7fb 11 месяцев назад

    Am really so blessed by this message

  • @faithsamuel7553
    @faithsamuel7553 Год назад +1

    God bless you sir for this message 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @_QueenBell
    @_QueenBell 7 месяцев назад

    This was so good! Had me cracking up too 😂

  • @user-tp8qz8yt4x
    @user-tp8qz8yt4x 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much sir for this message 🙇

  • @kiizaaldrich327
    @kiizaaldrich327 Год назад

    I hear😂 its amazing 🎉 God bless you pastor kingsley

  • @nsonguruapeter4295
    @nsonguruapeter4295 Год назад

    God bless you sir
    I’m blessed from the word

  • @EverydayAfriTV
    @EverydayAfriTV Год назад +5

    This is lovely ❤

  • @amarachimonicachristian7142
    @amarachimonicachristian7142 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you sir... more anointing

  • @iam-paulvocal
    @iam-paulvocal Год назад

    Thank you so much sir for the advice

  • @user-ht7hs5cr3g
    @user-ht7hs5cr3g Год назад

    Thank you sir i really appreciate ur message

  • @ademolababatola5428
    @ademolababatola5428 Год назад +4

    Nice one

  • @tiygabaya1838
    @tiygabaya1838 Год назад

    God Bless you sir for this message 🙏🙏🙏

  • @nextdigitalzone
    @nextdigitalzone Год назад

    Thanks Pst. More grace

  • @NZB89
    @NZB89 Год назад +1

    Well done MOG

  • @JosephineDonkor-kk5rj
    @JosephineDonkor-kk5rj Год назад

    God bless you Man of God🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @rebeccamunyasia9498
    @rebeccamunyasia9498 10 месяцев назад

    Very insightful 😊

  • @johnuren4545
    @johnuren4545 11 месяцев назад

    Am bless mum
    Thanks 🙏
    More grace

  • @teeslessons
    @teeslessons Месяц назад +1

    Not having mentors ....

  • @didi_dickson
    @didi_dickson Год назад +4

    Wow...value loaded man of God🙌🙌 Chai! I can't find The ways to be an attractive person on this channel, please where is it?

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