For that person who needs to see this... If you are a widow i.e you're involuntarily having to raise your Son by yourself... I don't think apostle means that your son will be a failed man because there's no father... Here's what you do Encourage him to have male mentors, have your brother (if you have any) have a place in your sons life, that is if you're sure of your brother's values o... Encourage him to be close to masculine figures that will positively impact his life Dear Single Mom that didn't have a choice YOU ARE RAISING A KING YOU ARE HELPED BY GOD❤️
The very first thing I heard him said that saddened me, having to do many jobs, prayers, discipline to train my sons alone. My brothers who grew up with me are successfully married and are not petty, There is also a God factor in all of this.
Practical things before marriage: 1) Maximize your singleness 2) Marriage is a journey 3) Heal before you deal - Overreacting to things means you are seeing someone else in your spouse - Heal process ( Seek the Holy's spirit to mend your heart, your partner does not have to deal with your traumas) Heal and forgive ( Don't give the devil a foothold in your life by not forgiving them) 4) Learn submission ( Women who do well in marriage is the one who understands submission) We have to submit to wise head
Things you need to know as a woman before marriage: 1.Heal 2.Submit 3.Be financially stable -Friendship 4.Know basic homekeeping 5. Know God Things men need to know before marriage: 1.heal 2.financial stability 3.emotional maturity 4.understand the female species 5.get purpose right
This is so true,I saw myself turning into a toxic person because of an emotionally immature boyfriend who was a serial sexual offender,I became violent to the extent of lifting a knife threatening to kill him several times,he could embarrass me in public,I dumped him several times but he kept coming back,he knew I loved him and he could manipulate his way back into my life through my daughter 😢 but I thank God for setting me free from that foolish love before I could make the biggest mistake of my life,am now single and more sane,working on myself,consciously on my healing journey. I now know better and I value my mental health more
Keep healing in Christ...I've been there myself, also healing and God has been faithful. The Lord will give you peace in Him and your own husband after God's heart. The Lord continually be with you, keep you, transform you and meet you at every point of your needs in Jesus mighty name.
00:03 Preparing for marriage through practical teachings 02:59 Marriage is for complete individuals, not those who need another to complete them. 08:30 Ensure emotional intelligence before marriage 10:57 Authenticity before marriage is crucial 16:23 Heal completely from your past before marriage. 18:51 Healing is crucial before dealing in marriage 23:12 Emotional trauma needs healing and forgiveness for personal growth. 25:24 Don't carry emotional baggage into your marriage 29:43 Submission in marriage and its misconceptions 31:41 Take responsibility and understand the totality of marrying someone. 36:22 Be a woman your husband can trust and rely on. 38:25 Be financially independent before marriage 42:55 Sense compatibility and intellectual space are crucial for a successful relationship. 45:17 Practical steps for a successful marriage 49:50 Maintaining cleanliness and order in the home is crucial for a successful marriage. 52:22 Understanding the importance of prayer in marriage 56:29 Men need to bring more than just physical appearance to the table. 58:45 Men are often raised not to show their fears or emotions, leading to emotional struggles and difficulties in expressing love. 1:03:27 Communication is key in marriage 1:05:38 Men need emotional healing too 1:10:25 Understanding a woman's love language, including the role of money 1:12:49 Prepare financially and responsibly before marriage. 1:17:22 Men need financial security and emotional maturity before marriage. 1:19:28 Lack of emotional maturity leads to neglect and suffering in marriage. 1:23:23 Emotional abuse can be more harmful than physical abuse in a marriage. 1:25:26 Don't excuse mediocrity and be cautious in choosing a partner. 1:29:52 Understand the female species before you marry 1:32:07 Happy wife, happy life. Speak well about her, don't compare with anybody. 1:37:00 Communication is key in marriage 1:39:31 Get purpose right before marriage.
I'm single and been avoiding anything about marriage video cause I want to concentrate with God,but I just woke up this midnight to pray n got back here,❤
I've decided to go into a relationship this December after 8yrs of REAL breakup but listening to this message I realized that I was making the same mistake with this new person in my life because I don't talk, I tolerate all even though I know I am not comfortable with the act. Now I got it that a close mouth is a close destiny... Talking doesn't mean you don't respect or love your spouse but it brings out the best in them.
You better talk so he gets to know the real you. Cos one day you will start talking cos you will eventually explode if you keep bottling things up. If you are not talking then he doesnt know who you are. The issue is not to keep quiet but to learn how to communicate your feelings n opinions respectfully. You also need to set boundaries. A man who loves you will respect your opinion and boundaries
It’s been a beautiful journey of immense joy filled with revelations and healings since I started dating Jesus, I will date him until he personally hands me over to the man he has handpicked for me.
I use to be like that, I accept anything, I don't talk or react to negative actions, even when I'm hurt I hold it in claiming I want peace. But the day I realised that the peace is meant to start from within me I stopped. I stopped doing those things and I'm doing fine
I am 'complete' in Christ. It is difficult to expect love from others without first understanding the love of God. You will frustrate the people because they can't give you what 'only' Christ gives. Only God should give you meaning.
First time listening to your message and it has really enlightened me…I love the fact you did not leave any stone unturned and did not hide anything all in the name of spirituality. I like how you handled this session thank you Sir
Thank you Pastor Lazarus. The calmness with which you release this God given wisdom is a praise to God. Thank you Holy Spirit for blessing the body with your Sons with this Son.
Can't lie he looked intimidating on the thumbnail but I'm so glad I watched this👏 yeah he covers men and women's sides but essentially it's about the human heart plus being healthy and whole.
Man of God, stay forever blessed. I told my son today that I am amazed at how practical you are with your messages when you teach or preach, drawing examples from your own marriage that I am sure many men of God never carry with them to the pulpit. I am forever grateful that I came across your messages, I have answers to a whole lot now. Thank you
Marriage is not just a destination, it is a journey that requires a lot of equipping more importantly because the quality of the time the life you lived depends on it. Blessings Apostle 🙏🙏
Emotional Maturity fights 1.Abadonnment 2.Loneliness 3.Deprivity 4.Nakedness 5.Physical,Emotional and psychological abuse 6.Disregard 7.Mentally derangement.. Thanks you sir for this
There's so much healing to be experienced from this teaching for anyone who listens to this teaching... Whooosh🔥🔥 Thank you Apostle for sharing such depth.
Thank You Sir for this gem... At some point tears where in my eyes because of how direct, truthful and realistic this message has been.... You've helped me regain balance and clarity on how life should as a man.... God bless you sir
I cried at the start too when I realised how much baggage I've been carrying, childhood trauma and past partners trauma and now I'm struggling with letting people in and being vulnerable, we trust God for his healing though...
This series is just an eye opener for me. What a word... Jesus... Now I see reason behind my actions and acts.... God pls just take over. Thank you Apostle.
1,Heal from your past completely before you deal,2,learn submition as a woman, 3,be financially independent prov 31vs 10,if you don't have a job, what you need is work not marriage, Breakup happens, 4,learn basic home etiquettes/knowledge, be a home keeper, 5, know GOD, be a prayerful wife, apart from been a fine girl, what else can you bring to the table. MEN 1,Heal from baggages/Trauma,real men are whole men and whole men are scarce,2,Be financially mature,you need money as a man,In anything you do as a lady,never marry an irresponsible man, 3, Have Emotional maturity,4, understand the female species/Gender before you marry her, Happy wife, happy life, 5,Get your purpose right.
I am blessed and my decision as regarding choosing a partner and being the right partner for my spouse is taking a new & positive approach through your teachings sir..More Grace sir …I am so grateful
‘Love and Vows’ took another dimension. These are ‘practical’ things every couple and intending couples should sit with, in preparation for a great and peaceful home. God bless you Apostle for sharing this light.
I really enjoyed watching this and I'm not the type that listens to messages. However the guy that shouted 'kai!' At 26:35 when amala was mentioned cracked me up 😂
Wowww I am short of words. This is the 2nd teaching on marriage from Apostle Femi that I am listening to within a day, and I am really blessed sir. I have now searched for all your teachings on marriage on RUclips and queued them up to listen I'll also be saving them in a playlist so I can easily access and listen to them again
This here is a life and game changer for me. Thank you so much sir for standing for the truth and delivering God's message to His children. May God be with you forever.
God bless you sir, I am really blessed and this basics will help me a lot before going into it. I really do appreciate your sincerity honestly not all pastors will say some personal things while they were dating or even in their marriages and for the fact that you balanced the two gender that was awesome. You're indeed a blessing to this generation of ours. Thank you once again. ❤
For that person who needs to see this... If you are a widow i.e you're involuntarily having to raise your Son by yourself... I don't think apostle means that your son will be a failed man because there's no father...
Here's what you do
Encourage him to have male mentors, have your brother (if you have any) have a place in your sons life, that is if you're sure of your brother's values o... Encourage him to be close to masculine figures that will positively impact his life
Dear Single Mom that didn't have a choice
YOU ARE RAISING A KING
YOU ARE HELPED BY GOD❤️
The very first thing I heard him said that saddened me, having to do many jobs, prayers, discipline to train my sons alone. My brothers who grew up with me are successfully married and are not petty, There is also a God factor in all of this.
Practical things before marriage:
1) Maximize your singleness
2) Marriage is a journey
3) Heal before you deal - Overreacting to things means you are seeing someone else in your spouse - Heal process ( Seek the Holy's spirit to mend your heart, your partner does not have to deal with your traumas)
Heal and forgive ( Don't give the devil a foothold in your life by not forgiving them)
4) Learn submission ( Women who do well in marriage is the one who understands submission)
We have to submit to wise head
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Nice summary
It dope
God bless you,thank you so much
Things you need to know as a woman before marriage:
1.Heal
2.Submit
3.Be financially stable
-Friendship
4.Know basic homekeeping
5. Know God
Things men need to know before marriage:
1.heal
2.financial stability
3.emotional maturity
4.understand the female species
5.get purpose right
Understand male species
Very Concise.. Thanks
Thank you for this effort
This is so true,I saw myself turning into a toxic person because of an emotionally immature boyfriend who was a serial sexual offender,I became violent to the extent of lifting a knife threatening to kill him several times,he could embarrass me in public,I dumped him several times but he kept coming back,he knew I loved him and he could manipulate his way back into my life through my daughter 😢 but I thank God for setting me free from that foolish love before I could make the biggest mistake of my life,am now single and more sane,working on myself,consciously on my healing journey. I now know better and I value my mental health more
Keep healing in Christ...I've been there myself, also healing and God has been faithful.
The Lord will give you peace in Him and your own husband after God's heart.
The Lord continually be with you, keep you, transform you and meet you at every point of your needs in Jesus mighty name.
Glory to Jesus for you.
Amen❤❤❤@@elizabethagbenla4038
Been there 🥺I couldn't recognize my self...I'm glad am Healing and let go ,all been God
People can hurt you and move on and succeed.. your enemy is not God’s enemy.. this is touching 🙏🏾
People can hurt you and move on and succeed.. your enemy is not God's enemy. Life goes ooon
So learn to forgive so u can heal. And be healed
Indeed, this series has rescued me from self-destruction...... Make sure you recommend this message for everyone you know
Just 😢did
Thank you
@@preciousikechukwu8214
00:03 Preparing for marriage through practical teachings
02:59 Marriage is for complete individuals, not those who need another to complete them.
08:30 Ensure emotional intelligence before marriage
10:57 Authenticity before marriage is crucial
16:23 Heal completely from your past before marriage.
18:51 Healing is crucial before dealing in marriage
23:12 Emotional trauma needs healing and forgiveness for personal growth.
25:24 Don't carry emotional baggage into your marriage
29:43 Submission in marriage and its misconceptions
31:41 Take responsibility and understand the totality of marrying someone.
36:22 Be a woman your husband can trust and rely on.
38:25 Be financially independent before marriage
42:55 Sense compatibility and intellectual space are crucial for a successful relationship.
45:17 Practical steps for a successful marriage
49:50 Maintaining cleanliness and order in the home is crucial for a successful marriage.
52:22 Understanding the importance of prayer in marriage
56:29 Men need to bring more than just physical appearance to the table.
58:45 Men are often raised not to show their fears or emotions, leading to emotional struggles and difficulties in expressing love.
1:03:27 Communication is key in marriage
1:05:38 Men need emotional healing too
1:10:25 Understanding a woman's love language, including the role of money
1:12:49 Prepare financially and responsibly before marriage.
1:17:22 Men need financial security and emotional maturity before marriage.
1:19:28 Lack of emotional maturity leads to neglect and suffering in marriage.
1:23:23 Emotional abuse can be more harmful than physical abuse in a marriage.
1:25:26 Don't excuse mediocrity and be cautious in choosing a partner.
1:29:52 Understand the female species before you marry
1:32:07 Happy wife, happy life. Speak well about her, don't compare with anybody.
1:37:00 Communication is key in marriage
1:39:31 Get purpose right before marriage.
❤
God bless you for this
Thank you for this ❤
🎉Wow
Thank you so much
Thanks Boss
For a woman
Heal
Learn submission
Financial Independence
Home keeping
Know God
Thank you sir for this powerful message
I'm single and been avoiding anything about marriage video cause I want to concentrate with God,but I just woke up this midnight to pray n got back here,❤
Hahahah Hi partner in concretion😂 Holy Spirit brought me here too and God I’m lacking when it comes to marriage preps
Lol me too
Lols, you want to avoid marriage and be spiritual😂 it doesn't work like that
Financial stability
Emotional maturity
Healing ❤️
I've decided to go into a relationship this December after 8yrs of REAL breakup but listening to this message I realized that I was making the same mistake with this new person in my life because I don't talk, I tolerate all even though I know I am not comfortable with the act. Now I got it that a close mouth is a close destiny... Talking doesn't mean you don't respect or love your spouse but it brings out the best in them.
You better talk so he gets to know the real you. Cos one day you will start talking cos you will eventually explode if you keep bottling things up. If you are not talking then he doesnt know who you are. The issue is not to keep quiet but to learn how to communicate your feelings n opinions respectfully. You also need to set boundaries. A man who loves you will respect your opinion and boundaries
@@aeiou0123 thank you, that's what I should do now. I appreciate 🙏
It’s been a beautiful journey of immense joy filled with revelations and healings since I started dating Jesus, I will date him until he personally hands me over to the man he has handpicked for me.
I use to be like that, I accept anything, I don't talk or react to negative actions, even when I'm hurt I hold it in claiming I want peace. But the day I realised that the peace is meant to start from within me I stopped. I stopped doing those things and I'm doing fine
These words are practical and powerful." Be the kind of woman your husband can fall on without complaining that you don't have all the time"
Don’t mourn your single season, prepare🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾
Every married and single Woman should read that book
Title: The power of a praying Wife
Author: Stormie Omartian
A must read for every woman 👠
A must read 🔥
Pls where can someone get d book?
This teaching transcends beyond marriage.
Any lady I want to get marry to must listen and agree to what Apostle is teaching, no negotiation 😂
And what are you also doing ?
It is good that you also listened to it😂😂
That's great 👍
I honestly need to heal from the Past , it's has not be easy but I know this year I will enter a new dimension in Jesus name
May God Heal you,Sis🥰
May the holy spirit help me heal from past pain in jesus name
I am 'complete' in Christ.
It is difficult to expect love from others without first understanding the love of God.
You will frustrate the people because they can't give you what 'only' Christ gives.
Only God should give you meaning.
First time listening to your message and it has really enlightened me…I love the fact you did not leave any stone unturned and did not hide anything all in the name of spirituality. I like how you handled this session thank you Sir
I wish I can like this a million times God bless you Apostles Femi 🎉❤🙏
Poverty is also vanity, that one got me😂😂😂❤
Real men gravitate toward women who are productive.
Gbam!
Thank you Pastor Lazarus. The calmness with which you release this God given wisdom is a praise to God. Thank you Holy Spirit for blessing the body with your Sons with this Son.
God truly cares. I hope we will always run to him🙏
I have never experienced fatherly love before and I've asked God to help me heal before I'm ready for marriage
Can't lie he looked intimidating on the thumbnail but I'm so glad I watched this👏 yeah he covers men and women's sides but essentially it's about the human heart plus being healthy and whole.
Man of God, stay forever blessed. I told my son today that I am amazed at how practical you are with your messages when you teach or preach, drawing examples from your own marriage that I am sure many men of God never carry with them to the pulpit. I am forever grateful that I came across your messages, I have answers to a whole lot now. Thank you
I saw myself in this message and I thank God so much for rescuing me from what would have been a destructive marriage…Ahhh!!! God thank you!!!
Apostle: What’s your love language
Sister: Prayer🥹🤲😅
Not even halfway through the sermon; but, the gems deposited in this!
It's so sad I was not taught this before I got married
But am grateful to my marker I walked out peacefully
I'm enlightened🎉
Marriage is not just a destination, it is a journey that requires a lot of equipping more importantly because the quality of the time the life you lived depends on it. Blessings Apostle 🙏🙏
😂😂"you boil water it burn"😂i love this man, and his teaching, quite relatable, interesting and impactful.
This is very very on time.. truly these things need to be taught in alm churches... So marriages can work better!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌
Emotional Maturity fights
1.Abadonnment
2.Loneliness
3.Deprivity
4.Nakedness
5.Physical,Emotional and psychological abuse
6.Disregard
7.Mentally derangement..
Thanks you sir for this
1.Abandonment
2.Loneliness
3. Deprivity
4.Nakedness
5.Physical emotional and psycological Abuse
6.Disregard
7.Mental deraangement
Thanks for this.
I'm healing from my past , ijn amen. Not going back to the past anymore, letting my self Free and letting it go , all the hut
There's so much healing to be experienced from this teaching for anyone who listens to this teaching... Whooosh🔥🔥 Thank you Apostle for sharing such depth.
This series changed my perception about marriage.
Thank you for this message it saved me from self destruction
This message is making me heal from my past gradually. Its though, but I'm happy am healing gradually.
If you refuse to forgive those that injure u.u are hurting urself..kaii 🔥 Am blessed under this teaching...Thank u Jesus for opening my eye
Thank You Sir for this gem... At some point tears where in my eyes because of how direct, truthful and realistic this message has been.... You've helped me regain balance and clarity on how life should as a man.... God bless you sir
Amen.
Well done bro.
I cried at the start too when I realised how much baggage I've been carrying, childhood trauma and past partners trauma and now I'm struggling with letting people in and being vulnerable, we trust God for his healing though...
I am blessed by this eye opener, thank you Apostle.
This message is full of wisdom. It is a must listen by every single person before marriage
"many Saturdays are actually tragic events...silent burials" ..... so true
This series is the final teaching that will prepare me for the next stage of my life called marriage.
This series is just an eye opener for me. What a word... Jesus... Now I see reason behind my actions and acts.... God pls just take over. Thank you Apostle.
1,Heal from your past completely before you deal,2,learn submition as a woman, 3,be financially independent prov 31vs 10,if you don't have a job, what you need is work not marriage, Breakup happens, 4,learn basic home etiquettes/knowledge, be a home keeper, 5, know GOD, be a prayerful wife, apart from been a fine girl, what else can you bring to the table. MEN
1,Heal from baggages/Trauma,real men are whole men and whole men are scarce,2,Be financially mature,you need money as a man,In anything you do as a lady,never marry an irresponsible man, 3, Have Emotional maturity,4, understand the female species/Gender before you marry her, Happy wife, happy life, 5,Get your purpose right.
Thank you for this summary!
Well said
Thank you
Thank you everyone ❤️
This was a fantastic message. Singles and married can surely benefit from this. More anointing sir!
Heal before you deal.., indeed the message is healing it self
This series has changed the way I think and view marriage.
Thank you so much Apostle for the intentionality in bringing light and clarity.
A must watch video before getting married.
Thank you Apostle for the powerful teachings as always.
I'm glad i came across this message, thank you Jesus.
This series is a must watch! Full of so much wisdom that is needed in our generation. Thank you so much Apostle sir
I'll be better. I'm enlightened once again with an open heart to receive
Thank you, Sir. And to the gentleman who shared too❤
Get busy maximizing your single days, do not mourn it
A merry heart doeth good like medicine but sorrow dries the bones.
Ahhh I most say that I am blessed to have listened to this word, I believe that am already by this word n the power of God at work in it amen.....
Heal before you deal... Thank you Apostle
I am blessed and my decision as regarding choosing a partner and being the right partner for my spouse is taking a new & positive approach through your teachings sir..More Grace sir …I am so grateful
I'm totally blessed by this message. This is timely. More grace,sir.🙏
This series has been nothing short of healing and transformative. Thank you so much ,Apostle.
Dr oyin 💃💃💃💃💃
Thank u Lord from saving me from future trauma
I am completely heal from my past experience Holy spirit did that for me💯
I'm blessed.
Hallelujah 🙌
Married people are first single people... Being single is being complete...I am complete in Christ 🙌🙌
Sometimes unbelievers are better beinh friends than believer hahaha 😅that one killed me ooo🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Apostle Femi Lazarus🙂..Waking up every morning listening to you on PPC is like taking nutrient for the day..🙏🙏
Please what is PPC?
I discovered this channel yesterday yhooo yhooo yhooo 🔥🔥🔥 God bless this man of God
Hhmmmm! Chai. Deep words! I just dey shake my head/ laugh. More grace sir.
‘Love and Vows’ took another dimension. These are ‘practical’ things every couple and intending couples should sit with, in preparation for a great and peaceful home.
God bless you Apostle for sharing this light.
Marriage is a journey that requires a lot of equipping 🔥
I was more than blessed as a single lady🙏🙏 God bless you Sir
I’m highly impressed with your messages,thank you for healing wounded minds❤
Watched this on a different platform but I am grateful for Pastor Femi for teaching on the value of healing before marriage
I really enjoyed watching this and I'm not the type that listens to messages. However the guy that shouted 'kai!' At 26:35 when amala was mentioned cracked me up 😂
The Good Lord is ur strength sir🙏🏽🙏🏽
Ahhh Thank you Lord Jesus for your servant Apostle Femi I received healing and emotional deliverance while watching this message❤
Amazing and very sound, these are real life issues people should learn from.
This teaching was total healing
Thank you so much Dad
Wowww I am short of words. This is the 2nd teaching on marriage from Apostle Femi that I am listening to within a day, and I am really blessed sir.
I have now searched for all your teachings on marriage on RUclips and queued them up to listen
I'll also be saving them in a playlist so I can easily access and listen to them again
May God bless you man of God, you said everything is need to hear. I'm blessed
Don't give people impression that you can't cope without them, don't overreact, heal, forgive.
Have a vision you are pursuing ,Wisdom that delivers,He rescue me from the hostile army.Thank you so much Apostle.
This is well-balanced. Certainly not revealed by flesh. Such a blessing!!! Thank you sir
I am complete in Christ 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much Apostle for this teaching. I must confess it brought healing and light to me. I learnt forgiveness.
This here is a life and game changer for me. Thank you so much sir for standing for the truth and delivering God's message to His children. May God be with you forever.
Sir your wisdom and boldness needs to be studied. God bless you 🙏
Pov:me at 18 listening to marriage lessons
Thank you so much for this series Apostle, it has been healing for me among other things.
Thank you pastor Femi for this insight. Lord, help your church and your world.
Thank you so much papa for this teaching, it's all shades of light and deliverance
Lol 😂 oh! My God Pastor Lazarus femi is indeed very funny. I just love this man of God's life & his Sincerity in Christ Jesus
Wow hurting can bring personal ideologies!!!!!
It is always Apostle Femi sense of humour for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂 The description of the sister was laughable
sister joy you give me joy😂😂
God bless you sir, I am really blessed and this basics will help me a lot before going into it.
I really do appreciate your sincerity honestly not all pastors will say some personal things while they were dating or even in their marriages and for the fact that you balanced the two gender that was awesome.
You're indeed a blessing to this generation of ours.
Thank you once again.
❤
Listening to this now and I'm glad I stumbled on this❤❤...Thank you Sweet Holy Spirit
This is very very true and amazing!!!! To God be the glory
So much Wisdom dispensed in this message.
Thank you Apostle
This message is a game changer for me...the simplicity is just👌👌
Been blessed greatly by this series
This is awesome 💯.
God bless you sir.