This is true always look at their actions, I came home from work one night and she was watching stupid TV show called single moms , I played it cool and watched a little bit of it to see what kind of garbage propaganda they're teaching these women , it was a bunch of 30 -50 yr moms sleeping with 20 year old boys. Complete trash, I knew at that moment her mind was destroyed
@@marthasmadman you are getting wasted before a very important day, you are getting intoxicated and smell like an alcoholic when you are about to get married.
@@marthasmadman Its the heart behind it, Proverbs 4:23 says to guard your heart above all else and that show will distort her view on what a Godly relationship will look like. I know from experience
passivity only condones the wrong, a man without righteous anger is not a righteous man. rebuke is a necessity to a true christian, without rebuking a christian is as passive as the "christian" that doesnt prioritize going to church
@@derekagard We had different core values. She had a soft spot for the lgbt community and was free with her sexuality. So whenever these things arose, there was a big argument.
@@derekagard the people whos faith is really just post modern liberalism but they sprinkled with jesus on top. They basically keep only the parts of the bible that agree with their ideologies like being kind, but dont really believe in sin or wrath they believe in unconditional alove only and not judging. They believe its okay to be a practicing homosexual and are on board with all of todays prgressive ideologies. Basically jesus is a feely good person that wants us all to be nice to eachother and if you judge someone for any reason youre bad person. Look up a "pastor" named Brandon Robertson. Hes a progressive "christian"... he believes most of the bible is wrong and a oroduct of culture and that Christianity needs to evolve with culture. Basically if the whole world thinks abortion, homosexuality, suoer anti racism, burning down cities is ok then the bible needs to change to fit it. Basically they want God to look like them, they want to conform to the world and the culture and they are gaining tons of popularity. The United methodist church went woke and have drag queens preaching.
As a traditional Christian woman, I truly agree with each of these points and am grateful there are Godly men, like you, speaking truth to other men of God who will listen. These are the values I hold and want to continue to grow toward.
Traditional?.... Christian traditions include the crusades.. Also joining government and starting more wars and covering up crimes against the public... Thats not a good tradition.
BIG YES to the points about homeschooling! I was homeschooled growing up, and I would argue that it was one of the best things that my parents ever did for me.
My ex home schooled...second marriage to a guy she whored around with in the bars...the daughter hates her mother...she just home schooled so she could play with her kids and not work. then she left that guy for a music leader in church...they broke up because he had to be removed from church because he was drunk...so no...the bible says men are better if they are not defiled by woman...just dont do it
@@tonyd1149 The Most High is so good to us :) In all humility, I am grateful for life, health, and messages such as these that can help us connect to the Father, The Son, and Holy Spirit, and have a fulfilled life as a result.
Was just talking with my friend about this. Sometimes it seems like our standards are too high, but it’s better to stand with Biblical truth than anything else.
I would say high standards are when you consider material things as too important (like hair color, eye color, height, money etc). You can never have too high of a standard when it is the Bible.
I married a godly women. From a godly family. Turned out she was godly until she wanted/did commit adultery. Twice. 2023 dude. Godly women that do the right thing when no one is looking are unicorns. And unicorns don’t exist these days.
This is the most important video for men seeking to marry within God boundaries that I have ever seen on RUclips. I'll use this to my men mentorship program. God is with you, keep on going forward brother
There's also a lot of women who ended up being single a lot longer than they expected, and had to push themselves harder into their careers due to the need to support themselves sustainably. Many of us desired to be wives and mothers above all, but the timeline turned out very different.
The woman I knew all made that choice on their own. The rest married while they were young and remained happy. The others I knew who put career first ended up divorced unfortunately.
Something inside of Me said that I needed to say this to You: NEVER underestimate what God CAN and WILL do. Sarah had Issac at 90. The Shudimite woman was told She'd have a Baby in one year. Hannah didn't feel Love until She gave Her Child to God. Here's My point - all three of these Women of God and there THOUSANDS more I could give as examples gave up, but then God....THATS MY POINT right there. Don't put a PERIOD where God has a comma in Your Life. Ruth wasn't looking for Boaz, BUT THEN GOD...Hagar put Her Son under a tree to die, BUT THEN GOD...Rahab and Her whole Family were destined to die, BUT THEN GOD...Mary and Martha grieved the death of Someone, BUT THEN GOD...@LiLisLounge God SEES Your Heart. Her KNOWS Your Desires because He's the One Who put Them there. NEVER EVER UNDERESTIMATE WHAT GOD CAN AND WILL DO - FOR You and IN You. Here's My Decree and Declaration for You in this Season: BUT THEN GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! While you wait, Praise Him! He WILL give You the Desires of Your Heart. THANK YOU JESUS!!!💝💝💝
@@RetroCaptain There are a few who are not like that. I wanted to be married all through my 20's and now Im 32 and still single. I really did not want this at all and its not like I turned down potentially good matches to chase a career, in fact it was not the case at all for me. I might not ever get married so now I really need to find a way to better provide for myself financially.
Some women would love to follow their husband's lead and stay home with her babies, but make the mistake of marrying a man who secretly wanted a mommy, not a wife. If you want a wonderful Godly wife, make certain you are an awesome, Godly man first. You must be worthy of such a woman.
Great video, I have a friend who just got together with a girl who ignores a lot of this. I've tried to warn him but he won't listen to me sadly enough. It is hard to find a godly wife these days but with God's help anything is possible. God bless you Mark
choosing a wife like that is: have fun for 1-10 years and have pure hell after. Not worth it. Better to be alone and a little bored than living in pure hell.
I've subscribed. This is my 2nd video. These videos are making sense. I'm 33. I've dated so many women incorrectly. I want loyalty and my own family. You are telling me exactly what I must change. It's really making me understand faith. Sin ruins relationships. Obeying God makes them good.
♥️ This Mark! I’m a women who loves hearing your advice to men. I hope my future husband is out there listening to wisdom like this and knowing His Bible. This advice is great. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Amos 3:3 KJV A man and a women need to do more than just agree to get married. They need to be in agreement on where they stand in the word together, and their roles, like you are saying. A three strand cord is not quickly broken.
@@shaunhunterit342 because I had spent years being codependent on people until I really found Jesus. Right now I am a single women getting by and surviving with God. God wants us all to learn independence. We’re meant to be the head not the tail. We’re meant to walk in freedom and not bondage. That said there is a hierarchy in Marriage. God, the husband is the head of the household, the woman and then the children. But just because the man becomes the head of the household God does not want the women to stop taking care of herself. A proverbs 31 women was running her whole household and a business of her own while still giving respect to her husband and going to Him to make big decisions for the family. Men should want an independent women, not the way that worldly women think of independence but how godly women think of independence. To me that means a women that doesn’t get caught up in idolatry and people pleasing the world. She’s independent of the worldly ways. Her values are set apart, her spirit stands out from the world. She takes care of herself, she’s crucified her flesh and does not fall into temptation, she has all the fruits of the spirit, she has the full armor of God on, she’s debt free or working towards getting debt free so she has no hold on her. She is whole and centered in Christ and is looking for a man that is the same.
I’ve come across a woman who is interested in dating me but she’s a bit of a control freak and bossy. Although she’s a Christian, I’m not sure I like her attitude so I’ve run away.
In my experience, it's usually single mothers that act like that. They think you need their advice and input on everything, like their kids. No thanks, I have a mom already, lol.
This list is actually about identical to the list I use when filtering out women I’m interested in. It’s the quickest way to find out where they really stand on core values. As others have said, unfortunately, this eliminates so many women from the dating pool. So, don’t get discouraged when that happens, it just makes it easier to sift through. The only additional thing I would add about #1 is that unfortunately, I don’t think it is typically easy for those women who are in those positions of leadership outside the home to turn that off when they are in the household. Great list! If Christian men follow this, they’ll avoid most of the modern traps. And there are many.
You're right, it's not easy for women to switch from leader in the workplace to submissive at home, however, I've seen godly women who successfully do! But they definitely are rare
@@zacht.9585 I agree that it’s possible. I just think if you’re a betting man, you typically will be right on betting that the leader in the workplace will likely transfer that to the household.
The best leaders and CEOs are humble and are servants. Our society has a view of CEOs that they have to be maniacal and put the business first at all costs, even before family, which I don't think is right at all, male or female. But I understand your point. I personally don't desire to marry a CEO, however, I can imagine one desirable attribute of a woman in a leadership role is that she wouldn't be afraid to challenge you and help you become a better man. I'd rather that than somebody that's a pushover. Not that a "higher up" job is a prerequisite for that. Even if a "CEO type" isn't for you or me, I still strongly believe that a godly woman can be in that role and then submit to her husband at home. I've seen it in godly families quite successfully. Lastly, I find in interesting how much "business and commerce" is mentioned in Proverbs 31 when defining a wife of noble character.
Ephesians 5:21, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." We're called to submit to one another. Love each other. Men and women need each other, to keep this thing going. Love God, and love y'all. ❤
And if a woman leaves you because you have no money and stays with you if you have money, Thats NOT LOVE! THAT'S A GOLD DIGGER😅 If a woman REALLY loves you, either you have money or you're broke... She still stays with you, that's TRUE love❤🙏🏻
Brothers, this video is absolute 100% truth. Listen to this man. Please know when you first meet a lady, she is going to look her best, say all the right things, and put on the best impression possible--fake or not. It takes time to really get to know her. Do not rush into marriage and having children. It is far better to be engaged for 8 years and not end up getting married at all (because you discovered the red flags) versus marrying just four months after meeting her (with a baby on the way), only to end up her wanting divorce. What I tell teenagers these days is this: Before dating, build your bank. Build your body. Build your career. Learn basic survival, farming, and off-the-grid skills. Complete your education, trade, or certifications. Heal from any family or childhood traumas (a good mental health professional or church pastor makes a tremendous difference at this point in life). Create personal, life standards that are Bible-based for what you want in a wife, a family, how to raise your children and pets, retirement, hobbies, house, and so forth. Once you have those standards and know what makes you happy, do not compromise. In short, between now and your mid 20s and while continuing to be the best follower of Christ, get your sh*t together. Then...and only then...find a lady who has done the same. It will take time, but the patience is worth it. Best of luck to you.
"Heal from any family or childhood traumas" One word: FORGIVENESS I was someone who thought what I'd been put through was too bad and that forgiving would be like saying it was okay. I felt like forgiving would be accepting injustice. I felt like forgiving would be letting them get away with it. God by his grace showed me that forgiveness is freedom. All kinds of issues in my life are just disappearing once I took that step. And if we're talking about getting into marriage, knowing how to forgive will be an absolute must.
Hi Mark. I'm a woman and I have just come across your teaching here. I struggled in a very minor way with a few things on your list, but that could simply be because I need to think about what you said more deeply. I definitely agree with you on the moral issues such as abortion, same sex marriage, homosexuality, liberalism etc etc and it bothers me that some Churches are letting liberal thinking enter in. I clearly must have done something right because my husband and I have been married for 37 years and we decided very early in our marriage to invite God into our home and to submit ourselves to Him. From doing that, the rest seems to follow. One other important thing you may like to add to further lists is the need to have a long, sincere discussion about issues of faith prior to marriage. We did this before we married. And by issues of faith I'm talking about the Trinity, our belief in God, Jesus and what He has done for us and inviting the Holy Spirit into our life and the importance of reading the Bible daily and obeying it. I am NOT talking about airy fairy new age beliefs or some modern Jesus that many liberals seem to believe in. If a couple are not in agreement about such things then they should not get married. I have asked a few people lately if they had this type of discussion before they married and none of them did! Frankly, I think it is essential. I have seen a few instances where a lovely Christian man has married a non believer and in time he sinks down to her level. It's tragic and it has happened to at least two family members of mine.
You forgot two other red flags brother 8. A contentious woman The Bible describes that a meek and gentle spirit in a woman is of great value. And The book of Proverbs, Solomon said better to live on a corner of a roof then with a contentious wife. God blessed unity and humility not discord 9 promiscuous women are a sign of worldy carnal mindset and insecurity. Paul talked about this in the letters to the church of Corinth I believe. That she shouldn't focus on that world look. A woman looking beautiful in a modest dress or even jeans is fine but their is some clothing that speaks seduction. We're not talking about going swimming at the beach we're talking about everyday normal wear. A woman of virtue can still have class and cover herself. She uncovers herself for one man only her husband and man what a gift that is. If you sisters are reading this is nothing that speaks respect and love to your husband then reserving flirts and sexy clothing in intimate settings between him and you alone while covering up. It's a clear message to other men I'm taken and satisfied! And it improves on the marriage by the husband feels honored and valued knowing he alone has the gift to look up on your nakedness just like Adam and Eve did in the garden of Eden. They were both naked and unashamed. You don't unwrap a gift until it becomes yours first. Marriage covenant you are a gift to each other.
1 Timothy says that a woman should never teach or hold authority over a man. So, obviously they should never be a man’s boss in any scenario. God knows this because they lead with emotion and can’t separate from it when decisions need to be made for what is best
I am so appreciative of what you mentioned around 9:15 that women’s extreme compassion can bleed into different areas and override logic. You are spot on. This is exactly where we are in society. A micro perspective that has become a macro problem. Thanks for this channel and well done.
I been though a lot, great times and dark from my Narcissist ex. They are beyond crafy individuals...towars the end of my 5 year relationship, it got so dark. Devil was happy..I was empty and miserable. He even got mad when I talked about God, saying things like, "What has God ever done for me" who in there right mind gets mad about talking about the Lord? However, im still healing, and when God put me in a major spiritual Isolation (8 months so far) it was only so I became closer with God, put God FIRST, work on my relationship with my parent's, work on myself, gain courage, pray for Wisdom..ect..all Gods perfect plan. I feel it. I did all the bells and whistles to the wrong man & ignored Gods red flags. I already apologized to God. I finally listened to God after finally praying for answers, broke up with him, dodged that bullet!..and I give ALL glory to God for giving me another chance to put God number 1 in my life, and focus on scripture like, "Her Steps Are Ordered By the Lord" Psalms 37:23 ❤ road to sucess will happen with Jesus. I trust that now..and ill keep praying everyday the enemy gets so sick of me with my relationship with Jesus, he FLEES! Thank you SO much Mark for your words of Wisdom in this and all your videos.
@Jonster Small YES! Spot on, you are right! I gave my ex tons of reasons why God is so good and it just went in one ear and out the other. Very angry Narcissistic man...I fully believe in my heart that was God's way of speaking to me to leave the relationship. I finally started to get the urge to pray about it and I got my answers..more answers, growth and wisdom came from it all and actually listening to God, praise God on that one!
This only makes sense if the husband is a Godly man. Women submit, and men Love their wives as God has loved the church. She will submit to someone who truly loves her and the children, a patient, kind and loving man. Not an angry, control seeking and emotionally abusive man.
Of course, women shouldn't choose an abusive man. But once she makes a decision, she can't change it based on how she feels at the moment, if she feels loved or not, like some women try to twist the message. Please notice that chronologically first comes the wife's submission and then man's obligation to love her. You might think it is just a matter of topic inside the phrase. It is not because men are taught to love their wife as Christ loved the church, not the world, but the church. And who is the church? Those who accept Him as Lord and are willing to hear the word of God and carry it out. Only those who submit first to the word of God (or husbands) are entitled to the sacrificial love talked about in Ephesians.
In the marriage service in the Orthodox Church, we read the Epistle reading that talks of a wife submitting to her husband, which is certainly politically incorrect in today's society and may be jarring for visitors to hear. We do not read the Epistle reading that most other churches read that talks about love enduring all things and so forth, which was not addressing a married couple but a congregation.
He's spitting straight facts, the last girl proposed the idea to me to have another woman enter the bedroom , I couldn't believe what I was hearing after 7 years. She was not expecting my reaction, I said f*** no I'm dying a righteous man, after that she cheated on me and tried to come back but I never took her back. I'm wondering if this is a test from God?
Bro next girl you date try to stay away from sex until marriage. if you noticed the girl you are dating is open for sex before marriage go Next. Its way less time you will waste.
@@noeticnate1926 if you are born again, YOU ARE the rightousness of GOD in Christ Jesus, ide learn who you are in Christ bro, or the devil will eat you alive
We love the "Husbands love your wives, give yourself up for her as Christ loved the Church and died for it" part but we forget the Good wife in Proverbs. Women are called to give their lives up for their husbands, children and even servants. The only difference in how husbands and wives are to live with eachother is one has to be willing to die the first death but both are required to give themselves up entirely to eachother and their family and their charges in life.
Men and women alike, mate. Alain de Botton has a great book called Status Anxiety. He is spot on! So many superficial people looking for status symbols - certain kinds of cars, zip codes, private planes, boats, certain career titles and all of the other things of this world that mean very little in Reality...when it comes to love/loving/truly caring for/about others. Yes, I agree...lifestyle chasers ARE everywhere; narcissism is PREVALENT in todays society. Just like a lot of superficial women are looking for a man who can buy them lots of stuff, couple-up with (even if dysfunctionally so) and take them on holiday, men are looking for nurses (caregivers) and purses - wealthy women/sugar mamas who can buy them cars, boats and experiences that cost a lot of money. They will cling on to such toxic mentally, spiritually and emotionally immature party animals even if they have porn/sex, drug and alcohol addictions, even if it's likely that they might infect them with an STD after whoring around. Are we living in "end times"?...perhaps so. For many, sadly, character no longer matters.
I'm not Christian, I'm Buddhist, but these points are things my mom taught me growing up. It's not a religious thing. It's just traditional thinking, and it works. I don't understand why modern women want to be equal to men when we could come to the table with different roles and work as a team instead of fighting for who has more dominance. I'll gladly hold the fort, take care of the kids, cook, and be the maternal figure while my man goes out there to support the family and protect us. I'd rather be complementary to my man than a carbon copy 🤷🏻♀️
In regards to Red Flag 3 about her prioritizing her career man, I wish I would have listened to this before. The woman I was speaking to was a nurse and was always talking about doing travel nursing which involves leaving behind your family to essentially go make more money and talked about moving away a lot. Looking back at it that always made me feel wrong like why would you leave your family behind for more money, when you’re already making great money as a nurse in the hospital… made no sense to me and it just showed me where her headspace was at.
I agree with every reason listed here and the reasoning you gave for them. I would add such things as calvinist or any other strain of Christianity that is based on works and not on Christ alone. That falls under the unequally yoked heading.
@danstone8783 I agree about Calvinism, I don't like it either (in fact, I DESPISE organized religion's trappings, which are rooted in unscriptural doctrine)! If it's not found in the Bible, I consider myself under NO obligation to regard it, much less abide by it because, as far as I'm concerned, that's a matter between the Lord God and myself, otherwise!
Hmm….6:31. I dont know if i can agree with that statement. I lean conservative and while i do understand that most progressive women have a hard time aligning with scriptural values, i think we have to be careful not to put everyone in the same basket saying progressive christian = no genuine faith. I guess for me it depends what we mean by progressive. Do we mean like they lean progressive/struggle with certain things or do we mean they believe in a progressivilized gospel that is a false gospel. I know a really conservative christian girl who on paper should be traditional becuase she’s conservative, yet she has the most masculine energy and rudeness to her husband. As a conservative i can say that while i do agree dating progressive christian women is not the desire; dont be fooled lads into thinking a conservative woman will somehow be the checkmark to a good marriage.
@@lifeuhvriley yeah i understand his point in context…however the “a progresssive christian isnt a real christian” is not something im sure i can 100% agree fully (depending on the definition) We all have different points in our journey (a journey that is hopefully growing). Some may have a real genuine faith, but their other beliefs (to a certain extent of course) are clouded. Some are new christians. My overall point is: we need to be very careful when making broad stroke statements. If he just said its unwise to date progressive women, i would have no problem with that. Salvation though?…ehh
@@agwformen Thanks Mark ill check that out! Yeah i agree with a lot you say here. I just dont agree with “a progressive christian isnt a real christian”. How progressive are we talking? If its like far far our there then yeah, most likely i agree, but i think some can believe in Jesus genuinly and repent yet have some bad/mixed struggles with what they’ve known their whole life before salvation. Thats all. Either way agree that progressive women are not the ideal group to date from.
I forget if this was mentioned but it should be a red flag for Christian men, if she speaks poorly of those in authority, like her father(within reason) or a pastor. Honestly I hear this from christian women too often and it really makes me think. If I. Going to lead you in a relationship, how are you going to talk about me.
Mark, you've got my respect. I agree with everything, especially the last one. I remember getting into it with a modern woman because she was under the impression that she can do anything a man can do! I replied to her by saying "Ok! Go father a child!". That shut her up real quick.
Can a woman have a leadership position in the church to lead women? Im just curious. Our church has a women pastors but they are not leaders in the church above the men, they lead the women in discipleship im still kinda wrestling with women being pastors but if they are pastoring women? What say you?
A breath of fresh air here, thank you. I have had more experience watching Christian young women in the modern world of dating always default to dating and marrying non believers ... and the later crash. They want the guys with tats motorbikes and a 18 other girls chasing after him for their husbands. Then cry about having to live out her faith all alone
Facts being equally yoked is real if you try other wise you'll both just end up hurting each other when it all could have been avioded. I made this mistake and i felt terrible about the end out come for the both of use lessons learned.
Interesting. I am interested in 3 women right now. They all profess to be "Christian". One had 6 flags. One had 5 flags. The other ZERO. Thank you. That is the direction I will head in.
Spot on! Especially “traditional women” who are not traditional. They put up a front to prey on good men, hoping we will rescue them. Don’t waste your time with them, because you could be missing out on a real woman
The Lord is Very clear that a wife Must obey and submit to her husband, meaning she must do what he says under the consequence of sin as long as his command isNOT immoral, illegal, sinful, or harmful to herself or to others.
Submitting is submitting to our Saviour. It's the holy spirit working through our husband & the wife submitting ultimately to her Saviour. Now, if the husband isn't following or not listening to God, then no. By gentle persuasion of God's whispering.
...literally my 5yr marriage. God rescued me, and in my pain isolation and shame, i was forced to understand the root cause of my impatience and disobedience. I had to repent and ask God to forgive me for not trusting in him and acting on "emotion" Being subjected to narcissistic abuse and the Jezebel spirit is a direct result of disobedience, ignoring blatant red flags.
What you mean God rescue you? Did you decide to divorce her? Because if you was the one who decided divorce her you can’t remarried If she repent for her sins you should reconcile with her You can’t move for emotions is obedience
I do agree with abortion if the baby is dead before it is born, or the women was force into sex without her consent. However, I disagree with women who consent to having sex and don't want the baby a feel that abortion is the only option. There is adoption agencies that will give the child a loving home if the parents can't take care of the baby.
If the baby is already dead that is NOT abortion. There are amazing stories of redemption where women have kept children who were the product of rape. Why should a child have to pay the price for being the consequence of a rape by being murdered?
Conditional submission isn't submission at all. You submit weather you agree with it or not. The only time you don't submit is if they are asking you to do something evil or sinful. Marriage doesn't work without it. It becomes a war zone. That's why it's critical a man makes sure the woman he chooses is submissive and the wife makes sure she only marries a man she can trust to lead, who will take her wants and desires to heart and consider them in his decision making process.
When my husband and i got together, 16 years ago, we both were a bit more under the view that we were equal in most ways. Over the years we have become more traditional because we have found that both of us are much more happy when we acknowledge our differences. We have taken on more traditional roles over the years and are so much more content and our communication is better, since we are not on a tit-for-tat level anymore.
@breadandcircuses8127 why have we taken on more traditional roles? because the more we are able to be honest with each other about what we want, and discover more about ourselves and work through past traumas and issues, we find we are both happier in traditional roles. Most of the feminist ideals that i thought would make me happier and safer, was just putting up walls. once the walls are broken down, we found that our differences are beneficial to a healthy marriage.
My oldest brother has a Godly loving wife, and him a Godly loving husband. There was a time where his wife has to pursue her career in order to qualify for her masters. While my brother would have no choice but to take care of their child while the mother was gone. With him being the house husband(which is a thing btw). Roles does not really need to be mandatory in a Godly relationship, it all comes down to the couples' decision on what needs to be done. And somehow, my older brother and his wife went through well, now they both just finished their Masters Degrees together with their only child for their Masters photos.
What a great message! 👍👍 By the way, it took me almost three decades after I became a born again Christian to finally accept Ephesians 5:22; I thought because I wasn't married, it was okay not to accept it (well, I was somewhat of a feminist). 😖 Thank God for sanctification--the Holy Spirit Himself finally "tamed" me in this regard (and it was just a few years ago). 🤗
#1 Isn't there a bible verse that says men and women are equal? And that men need to love their wives as Christ loves the church (which Christ loved his followers as friends and not servants?) To me it always seemed men lead because of the garden of Eden but men and women are still equal and men can still be won by their wives in conversation. It seems to be for order and not because men and women aren't better or worse. All people are supposed to be submissive to God anyways. In the Garden of Eden God called outnfor Adam first, when Christ was resurrected, Jesus shown Himself to women first. It really makes ya wonder what the truth is in this matter. Makes me wonder anyways. I really liked the rest of it. I especially liked that you mentioned that it's the woman's choice to follow. The reason why I'm so passionate about a woman's role in the Christ is because I've been through spiritual abuse. I refuse to let the will of men damage people's relationships with God anymore. I am nit picky. Because if I'm not, people will make up all sorts of men's fables on why men lead in the home and church, stroking their egos and blinding themselves with pride, harming their women in the process. It's better to have a nit picky woman seeking the truth of Christ, then women falling away from Christ due to false teachings. False teachings of women have been prevalent in the church for generations and it needs to stop. There are women prophetesses in the Bible. There are women who had to stand for what's right by God when the men in their lives weren't following God. There are holy women who helped saved men from their own follies. There's way more to being a woman than being deceived in the Garden of Eden. We are called to be protectors of the home. So I pray all of us Christians someday really understands what Jesus wants for us. Clears all our misconceptions. And I hope we soften our hearts.
Equal value, does not equate to equal role. For example, With passenger trains there is a train driver, and a train guard. Both are needed (valuable), but they have a different role. The type of leading that the man is suppose to have, is one of responsibility. Yes I don't deny that men have misunderstood the type of leading to mean "I am man, my foot is down, end of discussion" But this isn't how it is meant to be... after all is that how Christ loved the Church... no it isn't. As a man (though I'm currently single), If my wife and kids are: Sheltered, fed, clothed, and safe, then I have made the right choices. If they are lacking any of these then I and I ALONE, have failed. Does that mean that the husband doesn't involve and discuss things with his wife... of course not! But what it does mean, is that after the discussion, and it is time to make a decision... the husband is the one who makes it, The wife trusts his judgement because if she has chosen wisely, she has chosen a husband who realises that she has a brain, and so takes on board what she says. Yes it is hard to submit, to trust someone so totally and completely, but the burden of responsibility for the wellbeing of the entire family, isn't "a walk in the park" either. So yes we are all equal in value (slave and free is also mentioned), but we have different roles.
She must submit to her earthly father and have respect for her earthly father. If she doesn't respect her earthly dad she won't respect her future husband.
I have met some women who have had horrible fathers or they are not in the woman's life. I think adding how she speaks of the pastor as another way to judge this.
Where I am in the Caribbean many women grew up without their fathers, unfortunately. I have found that those who do grow up with their fathers tend to be more "balanced" personally/emotionally. More emotionally healthy perhaps. That said, one major thing I have learned over the years, is to assess *How she speaks about her father*, whether she grew up with him or not. I've seen a strong correlation with this "metric" in particular.
Not true in the least neighbour. Familys have unfortunately many large challenges & trials like abuse, sexual assault, violence, addiction, honour killings even, fathers who are absent, fathers who cheat ect. Those aren't people that children should be learning submission from , it's not Godly. So you can't make such a broad statement.
I know that you’re trying to be helpful, BUT try viewing this from the perspective of a single guy, loyally serving The Lord, since his mid-20’s, now in his early 60’s, praying (& searching) for a Godly spouse for close to FOUR (4) DECADES, all to no avail. Trust me, if you try to view it from that perspective you may find that you become less harsh / demanding / etc. Just a thought.
Have you ever considered going to other countries that are more traditional in nature? I know you want to be married to a lovely wife who treats you well. A wife you can love and also cherish. You're in a tough spot, but the Lord knows your desires. Personally nothing about this video was harsh or demanding. These are standards that will help us as men avoid women that will cause contention, pain, and heartbreak. The standards presented will help us to marry a woman who accepts God's standards over what the world says is good. It will help us to have more peace and holiness in the family. A safe home for future children. A Spirit filled home that helps many people to learn of Christ.
submission doesn't mean a woman is their slave and gave in a man's wrong deeds. A woman submit to her husband because he is the head of their family but not to point of abusing her rights as wife.
oh really? 3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 1 peter 3:4
@@bradwhitt6768what do you think of your wife? your slave? Is there wrong in my comment above? FYI , a biblical description of a wife is the right hand woman or a sidekick to the husband in building their family. A WIFE IS NEVER A SLAVE!
@@m.o.s.h.1836 read what peter wrote. A wife is to be submissive even when her husband is not a believer so that her husband maybe we won over. No one is equating slave with being submissive. That is your problem. If you don't like being submissive to a man then don't get married.
@@bradwhitt6768 i did not say that a wife should not submit. However, I emphasize that being submissive to your husband means you allow them abused you or make you their slave. You need reading comprehension!
@@m.o.s.h.1836 Then you are saying women shouldn't submit. You need mental help. You're saying a wife should submit but also talking out of the other side of your mouth saying it means you allow them to be abused or made a slave. So which is it.
A sister at my church argues that in 100 years the church will have the same response to gay mariage as we did to slavery. She argues that just as we once believed the Bible condoned slavery (FALSE), that we will also start accepting the LGBT+ the way we accept African Americans. This is the kind of belief system that Christian men have to distance themselves from. This sisters husband has to watch his kids be raised with this ideology. 🤦🏽♀️🙏
Great list! I always hear lists about what to look for in a Godly guy and it seems so rare to find one and then I talk to single Christian Men and they feel the same way about finding Godly women… so crazy.
Thank you for this video - it’s always helpful for women to understand what dating looking like from a man’s perspective and how things look from the other person’s perspective. I would love to learn more about what godly submission looks like in a dating situation. I truly believe in a wife submitting herself to a husband but I’m confused how this should look in a dating situation when you are still getting to know the other person and trying to determine whether they are going to be the godly spouse that you will be submitting to. My last dating experience was with a man who demanded total submission from the start and it has left me feeling very confused as to what that should look like.
In my opinion, you should not submit before marriage. In your single state you submit to God your Heavenly father. He carries your heart always. You can discuss things of course. What would you do in marriage. But you are under NO obligation to him if he is not your husband . That's called control.
I've met dozens of good upstanding godly men over the years. There's actually lot out there. They are not found in "clubs" or "dances" the gym etc. They are working or at home
Great video! These are ALL dealbreakers for me when it comes to pursuing a woman for marriage. An eighth one would be a woman who doesn't listen to bluegrass music.
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If she watches the Bachelor and doesn’t see anything wrong with it, leave her
You are very right about this
Could I ask what is sinful about the Batchelor ?
This is true always look at their actions, I came home from work one night and she was watching stupid TV show called single moms , I played it cool and watched a little bit of it to see what kind of garbage propaganda they're teaching these women , it was a bunch of 30 -50 yr moms sleeping with 20 year old boys. Complete trash, I knew at that moment her mind was destroyed
@@marthasmadman you are getting wasted before a very important day, you are getting intoxicated and smell like an alcoholic when you are about to get married.
@@marthasmadman Its the heart behind it, Proverbs 4:23 says to guard your heart above all else and that show will distort her view on what a Godly relationship will look like. I know from experience
Adhering to these requirements will eliminate 95% of the women in the dating marketplace
Yeah and the missing 5 percent are already married 🤦🤦🤷🤷
😂 There is yet hope, still.
PS: The 5% in the dating market can't be married already... 🙂
PS: The 5% in the dating market can't be married already... 🙂
@@KeniGid okay fair point, but don't be so sure about that nowadays, the way folks are
100%. More men need to stand up and speak the truth without fear.
passivity only condones the wrong, a man without righteous anger is not a righteous man. rebuke is a necessity to a true christian, without rebuking a christian is as passive as the "christian" that doesnt prioritize going to church
Facts. I dated a progressive "christian". All these issues arose. Crushed me mentally at the end of it all.
Wow sorry to hear.. what do u mean progessive christian..issues like what?
@@derekagard We had different core values. She had a soft spot for the lgbt community and was free with her sexuality. So whenever these things arose, there was a big argument.
@@derekagard the people whos faith is really just post modern liberalism but they sprinkled with jesus on top. They basically keep only the parts of the bible that agree with their ideologies like being kind, but dont really believe in sin or wrath they believe in unconditional alove only and not judging. They believe its okay to be a practicing homosexual and are on board with all of todays prgressive ideologies. Basically jesus is a feely good person that wants us all to be nice to eachother and if you judge someone for any reason youre bad person.
Look up a "pastor" named Brandon Robertson. Hes a progressive "christian"... he believes most of the bible is wrong and a oroduct of culture and that Christianity needs to evolve with culture. Basically if the whole world thinks abortion, homosexuality, suoer anti racism, burning down cities is ok then the bible needs to change to fit it.
Basically they want God to look like them, they want to conform to the world and the culture and they are gaining tons of popularity. The United methodist church went woke and have drag queens preaching.
I can relate
@@ifeawosika966 Good you dated her and not date anymore.
100% agree.
Been with my girl for over 15+ years and she submits to the lord and so do I.
As a traditional Christian woman, I truly agree with each of these points and am grateful there are Godly men, like you, speaking truth to other men of God who will listen. These are the values I hold and want to continue to grow toward.
This is encouraging
Sounds great Anna grats for mindset!
W woman
Godspeed Anna
Traditional?.... Christian traditions include the crusades.. Also joining government and starting more wars and covering up crimes against the public... Thats not a good tradition.
BIG YES to the points about homeschooling! I was homeschooled growing up, and I would argue that it was one of the best things that my parents ever did for me.
AMEN!
Me too! My mother homeschooled us.
#naughty
Does home schooling cost?
My ex home schooled...second marriage to a guy she whored around with in the bars...the daughter hates her mother...she just home schooled so she could play with her kids and not work. then she left that guy for a music leader in church...they broke up because he had to be removed from church because he was drunk...so no...the bible says men are better if they are not defiled by woman...just dont do it
*Ignoring red flags might seem easier in the moment, but recognizing and acting on them early saves you from heartbreak later.*
I have NO PROBLEM with submitting. We have our respective roles to play to build each other up!
Will you marry me?
Go[Bible] Bless you much.
@@tonyd1149 The Most High is so good to us :) In all humility, I am grateful for life, health, and messages such as these that can help us connect to the Father, The Son, and Holy Spirit, and have a fulfilled life as a result.
@@smustipher 🙂 (Thank you for the kindness of a reply). God[Bible] Bless your family & home.
You are refreshing!
I’m here to see if I am a walking red flag. Lol
Me too!! And also to see what else I can work on so that I can be a good wife to whoever God has for me.
Look in the mirror
Same 😂
I rather take walking red flag than someone who apply any of those things that man said.
Then you probably are.
If she listens to Taylor Swift, leave her
Yes
Was just talking with my friend about this. Sometimes it seems like our standards are too high, but it’s better to stand with Biblical truth than anything else.
I would say high standards are when you consider material things as too important (like hair color, eye color, height, money etc). You can never have too high of a standard when it is the Bible.
Mark .... as a lady watching your channel .... Please make a video on eligible Christian men .... And also the red flags to watch out for.
If he (already) has several other women floating around him... you're going to have trouble.
I married a godly women. From a godly family. Turned out she was godly until she wanted/did commit adultery. Twice. 2023 dude. Godly women that do the right thing when no one is looking are unicorns. And unicorns don’t exist these days.
Please tell me that you walked.
@@notsureyou she had me falsely thrown in jail and had another guy in my house next day. Thankfully we have PI’s.
@@3chunter307that's what happened to my dad
This is the most important video for men seeking to marry within God boundaries that I have ever seen on RUclips. I'll use this to my men mentorship program.
God is with you, keep on going forward brother
I’m in my singleness season and striving to become a potential solid Christian worthy of such a blessing.
There's also a lot of women who ended up being single a lot longer than they expected, and had to push themselves harder into their careers due to the need to support themselves sustainably. Many of us desired to be wives and mothers above all, but the timeline turned out very different.
The woman I knew all made that choice on their own.
The rest married while they were young and remained happy.
The others I knew who put career first ended up divorced unfortunately.
Something inside of Me said that I needed to say this to You: NEVER underestimate what God CAN and WILL do. Sarah had Issac at 90. The Shudimite woman was told She'd have a Baby in one year. Hannah didn't feel Love until She gave Her Child to God. Here's My point - all three of these Women of God and there THOUSANDS more I could give as examples gave up, but then God....THATS MY POINT right there. Don't put a PERIOD where God has a comma in Your Life. Ruth wasn't looking for Boaz, BUT THEN GOD...Hagar put Her Son under a tree to die, BUT THEN GOD...Rahab and Her whole Family were destined to die, BUT THEN GOD...Mary and Martha grieved the death of Someone, BUT THEN GOD...@LiLisLounge God SEES Your Heart. Her KNOWS Your Desires because He's the One Who put Them there. NEVER EVER UNDERESTIMATE WHAT GOD CAN AND WILL DO - FOR You and IN You. Here's My Decree and Declaration for You in this Season: BUT THEN GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! While you wait, Praise Him! He WILL give You the Desires of Your Heart. THANK YOU JESUS!!!💝💝💝
@@worshipwhilewewait Amen! Thank you, @Worship While We Wait! That is very encouraging. God has a way of doing miracles for all His children!
@@RetroCaptain There are a few who are not like that. I wanted to be married all through my 20's and now Im 32 and still single. I really did not want this at all and its not like I turned down potentially good matches to chase a career, in fact it was not the case at all for me. I might not ever get married so now I really need to find a way to better provide for myself financially.
Some women would love to follow their husband's lead and stay home with her babies, but make the mistake of marrying a man who secretly wanted a mommy, not a wife. If you want a wonderful Godly wife, make certain you are an awesome, Godly man first. You must be worthy of such a woman.
Great video, I have a friend who just got together with a girl who ignores a lot of this. I've tried to warn him but he won't listen to me sadly enough. It is hard to find a godly wife these days but with God's help anything is possible.
God bless you Mark
choosing a wife like that is: have fun for 1-10 years and have pure hell after. Not worth it. Better to be alone and a little bored than living in pure hell.
I've subscribed. This is my 2nd video. These videos are making sense. I'm 33. I've dated so many women incorrectly. I want loyalty and my own family.
You are telling me exactly what I must change. It's really making me understand faith. Sin ruins relationships. Obeying God makes them good.
Same here, brother. 33 years old and finally eyes are being opened!
♥️ This Mark! I’m a women who loves hearing your advice to men. I hope my future husband is out there listening to wisdom like this and knowing His Bible. This advice is great. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
Amos 3:3 KJV
A man and a women need to do more than just agree to get married. They need to be in agreement on where they stand in the word together, and their roles, like you are saying. A three strand cord is not quickly broken.
So why the username?
@@shaunhunterit342 because I had spent years being codependent on people until I really found Jesus. Right now I am a single women getting by and surviving with God. God wants us all to learn independence. We’re meant to be the head not the tail. We’re meant to walk in freedom and not bondage. That said there is a hierarchy in Marriage. God, the husband is the head of the household, the woman and then the children. But just because the man becomes the head of the household God does not want the women to stop taking care of herself. A proverbs 31 women was running her whole household and a business of her own while still giving respect to her husband and going to Him to make big decisions for the family.
Men should want an independent women, not the way that worldly women think of independence but how godly women think of independence. To me that means a women that doesn’t get caught up in idolatry and people pleasing the world. She’s independent of the worldly ways. Her values are set apart, her spirit stands out from the world. She takes care of herself, she’s crucified her flesh and does not fall into temptation, she has all the fruits of the spirit, she has the full armor of God on, she’s debt free or working towards getting debt free so she has no hold on her. She is whole and centered in Christ and is looking for a man that is the same.
@@PrettyIndependent1 W woman
@@PrettyIndependent1 that's a better answer than I was expecting 👍
What’s your body count??
I’ve come across a woman who is interested in dating me but she’s a bit of a control freak and bossy. Although she’s a Christian, I’m not sure I like her attitude so I’ve run away.
🚩🚩🚩🚩always look for the fruit of the spirit. And 1 Corinthians 13 shows us what love looks like and what love is NOT.
Women are suppose to be submissive under men. She is not for you man.
If you're not sure you like her attitude, that's game over
Yeah. That would be hell on earth.
In my experience, it's usually single mothers that act like that. They think you need their advice and input on everything, like their kids. No thanks, I have a mom already, lol.
This list is actually about identical to the list I use when filtering out women I’m interested in. It’s the quickest way to find out where they really stand on core values. As others have said, unfortunately, this eliminates so many women from the dating pool. So, don’t get discouraged when that happens, it just makes it easier to sift through.
The only additional thing I would add about #1 is that unfortunately, I don’t think it is typically easy for those women who are in those positions of leadership outside the home to turn that off when they are in the household.
Great list! If Christian men follow this, they’ll avoid most of the modern traps. And there are many.
You're right, it's not easy for women to switch from leader in the workplace to submissive at home, however, I've seen godly women who successfully do! But they definitely are rare
@@zacht.9585 I agree that it’s possible. I just think if you’re a betting man, you typically will be right on betting that the leader in the workplace will likely transfer that to the household.
@Tblazer Exactly. Generally, these businesswoman types come with a certain energy. I don’t want to marry a competitor.
The best leaders and CEOs are humble and are servants. Our society has a view of CEOs that they have to be maniacal and put the business first at all costs, even before family, which I don't think is right at all, male or female.
But I understand your point.
I personally don't desire to marry a CEO, however, I can imagine one desirable attribute of a woman in a leadership role is that she wouldn't be afraid to challenge you and help you become a better man. I'd rather that than somebody that's a pushover. Not that a "higher up" job is a prerequisite for that.
Even if a "CEO type" isn't for you or me, I still strongly believe that a godly woman can be in that role and then submit to her husband at home. I've seen it in godly families quite successfully.
Lastly, I find in interesting how much "business and commerce" is mentioned in Proverbs 31 when defining a wife of noble character.
Women must answer to God in the end for not fulfilling their purpose. Men keep doing what God wants you to do!
Mark is fire with this channel!
🔥🏆✝️🏆🔥
Ephesians 5:21, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." We're called to submit to one another. Love each other. Men and women need each other, to keep this thing going. Love God, and love y'all. ❤
Hhhmmm. This seems like that equality monger. Men and women are not equal period. Did you read verse 22? Or you just stopped at verse 21?
And if a woman leaves you because you have no money and stays with you if you have money, Thats NOT LOVE! THAT'S A GOLD DIGGER😅 If a woman REALLY loves you, either you have money or you're broke... She still stays with you, that's TRUE love❤🙏🏻
PRECISELY!
As a woman I have to say this is the BEST video on this topic I’ve seen. Thank you so much for making this!
Brothers, this video is absolute 100% truth. Listen to this man. Please know when you first meet a lady, she is going to look her best, say all the right things, and put on the best impression possible--fake or not. It takes time to really get to know her. Do not rush into marriage and having children. It is far better to be engaged for 8 years and not end up getting married at all (because you discovered the red flags) versus marrying just four months after meeting her (with a baby on the way), only to end up her wanting divorce.
What I tell teenagers these days is this: Before dating, build your bank. Build your body. Build your career. Learn basic survival, farming, and off-the-grid skills. Complete your education, trade, or certifications. Heal from any family or childhood traumas (a good mental health professional or church pastor makes a tremendous difference at this point in life). Create personal, life standards that are Bible-based for what you want in a wife, a family, how to raise your children and pets, retirement, hobbies, house, and so forth. Once you have those standards and know what makes you happy, do not compromise. In short, between now and your mid 20s and while continuing to be the best follower of Christ, get your sh*t together. Then...and only then...find a lady who has done the same. It will take time, but the patience is worth it. Best of luck to you.
"Heal from any family or childhood traumas"
One word: FORGIVENESS
I was someone who thought what I'd been put through was too bad and that forgiving would be like saying it was okay. I felt like forgiving would be accepting injustice. I felt like forgiving would be letting them get away with it.
God by his grace showed me that forgiveness is freedom. All kinds of issues in my life are just disappearing once I took that step. And if we're talking about getting into marriage, knowing how to forgive will be an absolute must.
Hi Mark. I'm a woman and I have just come across your teaching here. I struggled in a very minor way with a few things on your list, but that could simply be because I need to think about what you said more deeply. I definitely agree with you on the moral issues such as abortion, same sex marriage, homosexuality, liberalism etc etc and it bothers me that some Churches are letting liberal thinking enter in. I clearly must have done something right because my husband and I have been married for 37 years and we decided very early in our marriage to invite God into our home and to submit ourselves to Him. From doing that, the rest seems to follow. One other important thing you may like to add to further lists is the need to have a long, sincere discussion about issues of faith prior to marriage. We did this before we married. And by issues of faith I'm talking about the Trinity, our belief in God, Jesus and what He has done for us and inviting the Holy Spirit into our life and the importance of reading the Bible daily and obeying it. I am NOT talking about airy fairy new age beliefs or some modern Jesus that many liberals seem to believe in. If a couple are not in agreement about such things then they should not get married. I have asked a few people lately if they had this type of discussion before they married and none of them did! Frankly, I think it is essential. I have seen a few instances where a lovely Christian man has married a non believer and in time he sinks down to her level. It's tragic and it has happened to at least two family members of mine.
If she has red hair and piercings is now a red flag for me 😂
Men need love in the form of respect. Women need respect in the form of love.
finally some relationship advice that i absolutely agree with. wish i heard this message 30 years ago. excellent biblically sound doctrine.
Prioritize Jesus Christ over youre own family as well. Prioritize him over everything. Dont let you're own family become idolatry.
You forgot two other red flags brother
8. A contentious woman
The Bible describes that a meek and gentle spirit in a woman is of great value. And The book of Proverbs, Solomon said better to live on a corner of a roof then with a contentious wife. God blessed unity and humility not discord
9 promiscuous women are a sign of worldy carnal mindset and insecurity. Paul talked about this in the letters to the church of Corinth I believe. That she shouldn't focus on that world look. A woman looking beautiful in a modest dress or even jeans is fine but their is some clothing that speaks seduction. We're not talking about going swimming at the beach we're talking about everyday normal wear. A woman of virtue can still have class and cover herself. She uncovers herself for one man only her husband and man what a gift that is. If you sisters are reading this is nothing that speaks respect and love to your husband then reserving flirts and sexy clothing in intimate settings between him and you alone while covering up. It's a clear message to other men I'm taken and satisfied! And it improves on the marriage by the husband feels honored and valued knowing he alone has the gift to look up on your nakedness just like Adam and Eve did in the garden of Eden. They were both naked and unashamed. You don't unwrap a gift until it becomes yours first. Marriage covenant you are a gift to each other.
1 Timothy says that a woman should never teach or hold authority over a man. So, obviously they should never be a man’s boss in any scenario. God knows this because they lead with emotion and can’t separate from it when decisions need to be made for what is best
That's right!! We each have different rolls as a king and queen. Excellent video!!!
This is a classic! The Lord bless you, brother.
I am so appreciative of what you mentioned around 9:15 that women’s extreme compassion can bleed into different areas and override logic. You are spot on. This is exactly where we are in society. A micro perspective that has become a macro problem. Thanks for this channel and well done.
Frustrated (non)Mothers Displacing their Nurturing on STUPID IMMATURE Men instead of getting married and rearing THEIR OWN Children
@@grayrider1865 Their logic is emotionally based
On point, Pastor Mark. God bless you for this. 😀
SOOOOO GLAD I DISCOVERED YOUR CHANNEL!!!
My ex wife of 31 years had ALL of these, which explains nearly everything. I wish I had this info 44 years ago.
I'm curious to what you think of men leaving the United States to find a traditional wife ????
It's valued being smart. Most women in the church are just as feminist and unbiblical as the rest.
I been though a lot, great times and dark from my Narcissist ex. They are beyond crafy individuals...towars the end of my 5 year relationship, it got so dark. Devil was happy..I was empty and miserable. He even got mad when I talked about God, saying things like, "What has God ever done for me" who in there right mind gets mad about talking about the Lord? However, im still healing, and when God put me in a major spiritual Isolation (8 months so far) it was only so I became closer with God, put God FIRST, work on my relationship with my parent's, work on myself, gain courage, pray for Wisdom..ect..all Gods perfect plan. I feel it. I did all the bells and whistles to the wrong man & ignored Gods red flags. I already apologized to God. I finally listened to God after finally praying for answers, broke up with him, dodged that bullet!..and I give ALL glory to God for giving me another chance to put God number 1 in my life, and focus on scripture like, "Her Steps Are Ordered By the Lord" Psalms 37:23 ❤ road to sucess will happen with Jesus. I trust that now..and ill keep praying everyday the enemy gets so sick of me with my relationship with Jesus, he FLEES!
Thank you SO much Mark for your words of Wisdom in this and all your videos.
_"What has God ever done for me?"_ That sentence really is narcissism in a nutshell!
@Jonster Small YES! Spot on, you are right! I gave my ex tons of reasons why God is so good and it just went in one ear and out the other. Very angry Narcissistic man...I fully believe in my heart that was God's way of speaking to me to leave the relationship. I finally started to get the urge to pray about it and I got my answers..more answers, growth and wisdom came from it all and actually listening to God, praise God on that one!
I experienced the same thing, I wasn't allowed to talk about God
Thanks for all of this Mark! God bless you for staying Biblical. 📖✝️
This only makes sense if the husband is a Godly man. Women submit, and men Love their wives as God has loved the church. She will submit to someone who truly loves her and the children, a patient, kind and loving man. Not an angry, control seeking and emotionally abusive man.
Of course, women shouldn't choose an abusive man. But once she makes a decision, she can't change it based on how she feels at the moment, if she feels loved or not, like some women try to twist the message. Please notice that chronologically first comes the wife's submission and then man's obligation to love her. You might think it is just a matter of topic inside the phrase. It is not because men are taught to love their wife as Christ loved the church, not the world, but the church. And who is the church? Those who accept Him as Lord and are willing to hear the word of God and carry it out. Only those who submit first to the word of God (or husbands) are entitled to the sacrificial love talked about in Ephesians.
If she hates her dad she will hate you.....RUN!!!!!!!!!
In the marriage service in the Orthodox Church, we read the Epistle reading that talks of a wife submitting to her husband, which is certainly politically incorrect in today's society and may be jarring for visitors to hear. We do not read the Epistle reading that most other churches read that talks about love enduring all things and so forth, which was not addressing a married couple but a congregation.
Yo Mark turned up frm the jump lol “#1…” Praise the Lord, saying it from the chest!! Praise the Lord, God bless everyone here
GOD bless you for all you do!
He's spitting straight facts, the last girl proposed the idea to me to have another woman enter the bedroom , I couldn't believe what I was hearing after 7 years. She was not expecting my reaction, I said f*** no I'm dying a righteous man, after that she cheated on me and tried to come back but I never took her back. I'm wondering if this is a test from God?
None of us will die righteous but good on you for striving for righteousness that’s all god really wants from us. Do the Right Thing Period
Bro next girl you date try to stay away from sex until marriage. if you noticed the girl you are dating is open for sex before marriage go Next. Its way less time you will waste.
@@noeticnate1926 if you are born again, YOU ARE the rightousness of GOD in Christ Jesus, ide learn who you are in Christ bro, or the devil will eat you alive
You shouldn’t be having sex before marriage to begin with
You need to read bible and go to church you are getting undisciplined in the faith
We love the "Husbands love your wives, give yourself up for her as Christ loved the Church and died for it" part but we forget the Good wife in Proverbs. Women are called to give their lives up for their husbands, children and even servants. The only difference in how husbands and wives are to live with eachother is one has to be willing to die the first death but both are required to give themselves up entirely to eachother and their family and their charges in life.
A lot of women are seeking financial intimacy, not emotional intimacy- Sadia Kahn. Beware of lifestyle chasers. They are everywhere.
Men and women alike, mate. Alain de Botton has a great book called Status Anxiety. He is spot on! So many superficial people looking for status symbols - certain kinds of cars, zip codes, private planes, boats, certain career titles and all of the other things of this world that mean very little in Reality...when it comes to love/loving/truly caring for/about others. Yes, I agree...lifestyle chasers ARE everywhere; narcissism is PREVALENT in todays society. Just like a lot of superficial women are looking for a man who can buy them lots of stuff, couple-up with (even if dysfunctionally so) and take them on holiday, men are looking for nurses (caregivers) and purses - wealthy women/sugar mamas who can buy them cars, boats and experiences that cost a lot of money. They will cling on to such toxic mentally, spiritually and emotionally immature party animals even if they have porn/sex, drug and alcohol addictions, even if it's likely that they might infect them with an STD after whoring around.
Are we living in "end times"?...perhaps so. For many, sadly, character no longer matters.
I'm not Christian, I'm Buddhist, but these points are things my mom taught me growing up. It's not a religious thing. It's just traditional thinking, and it works. I don't understand why modern women want to be equal to men when we could come to the table with different roles and work as a team instead of fighting for who has more dominance. I'll gladly hold the fort, take care of the kids, cook, and be the maternal figure while my man goes out there to support the family and protect us. I'd rather be complementary to my man than a carbon copy 🤷🏻♀️
Where can I find women like this? Can you make a video about it? Seriously, I'm starting to dislike my current situation in life
After watching this video, I have a pool of 5% to choose from. thanks for cheering me up.
Thank you for your biblically based videos Mark. They are important.
Please do that video you spoke of... on how men misuse the word submit !!! Asap please and thank you. God Bless!
In regards to Red Flag 3 about her prioritizing her career man, I wish I would have listened to this before. The woman I was speaking to was a nurse and was always talking about doing travel nursing which involves leaving behind your family to essentially go make more money and talked about moving away a lot. Looking back at it that always made me feel wrong like why would you leave your family behind for more money, when you’re already making great money as a nurse in the hospital… made no sense to me and it just showed me where her headspace was at.
I agree with every reason listed here and the reasoning you gave for them. I would add such things as calvinist or any other strain of Christianity that is based on works and not on Christ alone. That falls under the unequally yoked heading.
The doctrines of grace are NOT works based, hence doctrines of grace, not doctrines of works.
@@thesuperioraffection4502 Umm. are you agreeing or disagreeing?
@@danstone8783 Disagreeing on your doctrines of grace assessment.
@@thesuperioraffection4502 So you are saying that works are needed for salvation?
@danstone8783 I agree about Calvinism, I don't like it either (in fact, I DESPISE organized religion's trappings, which are rooted in unscriptural doctrine)! If it's not found in the Bible, I consider myself under NO obligation to regard it, much less abide by it because, as far as I'm concerned, that's a matter between the Lord God and myself, otherwise!
Hmm….6:31. I dont know if i can agree with that statement. I lean conservative and while i do understand that most progressive women have a hard time aligning with scriptural values, i think we have to be careful not to put everyone in the same basket saying progressive christian = no genuine faith. I guess for me it depends what we mean by progressive. Do we mean like they lean progressive/struggle with certain things or do we mean they believe in a progressivilized gospel that is a false gospel.
I know a really conservative christian girl who on paper should be traditional becuase she’s conservative, yet she has the most masculine energy and rudeness to her husband. As a conservative i can say that while i do agree dating progressive christian women is not the desire; dont be fooled lads into thinking a conservative woman will somehow be the checkmark to a good marriage.
I definitely understand what you're saying, but if you consider that point in context with the rest of Mark's list, he presents a very holistic view.
@@lifeuhvriley yeah i understand his point in context…however the “a progresssive christian isnt a real christian” is not something im sure i can 100% agree fully (depending on the definition) We all have different points in our journey (a journey that is hopefully growing). Some may have a real genuine faith, but their other beliefs (to a certain extent of course) are clouded. Some are new christians.
My overall point is: we need to be very careful when making broad stroke statements. If he just said its unwise to date progressive women, i would have no problem with that. Salvation though?…ehh
I explain that statement more here applygodsword.com/5-reasons-you-should-never-date-a-progressive-christian/
Dude my ex was perfect on paper, but a lot of the heart of someone can’t be put on paper at all
@@agwformen
Thanks Mark ill check that out! Yeah i agree with a lot you say here. I just dont agree with “a progressive christian isnt a real christian”. How progressive are we talking? If its like far far our there then yeah, most likely i agree, but i think some can believe in Jesus genuinly and repent yet have some bad/mixed struggles with what they’ve known their whole life before salvation. Thats all. Either way agree that progressive women are not the ideal group to date from.
I forget if this was mentioned but it should be a red flag for Christian men, if she speaks poorly of those in authority, like her father(within reason) or a pastor. Honestly I hear this from christian women too often and it really makes me think. If I. Going to lead you in a relationship, how are you going to talk about me.
👏👏👏👏Spot on. The world and culture has it wrong as usual.
Fantastic list, each of these items is definitely an early thing you should try and scout out.
Agree 100% with you - Please Lord GOD help our marriages as men& women to grow in You in Love and Respect for one another in Jesus Mighty Name 🙏🙏🙏
Mark, you've got my respect. I agree with everything, especially the last one. I remember getting into it with a modern woman because she was under the impression that she can do anything a man can do! I replied to her by saying "Ok! Go father a child!". That shut her up real quick.
Can a woman have a leadership position in the church to lead women? Im just curious. Our church has a women pastors but they are not leaders in the church above the men, they lead the women in discipleship im still kinda wrestling with women being pastors but if they are pastoring women? What say you?
I am ok with being submissive as long as he is not a TIRANT and tries to misquote the Bible!
Thats why God wants you to take your time to really figure out who you should submit to.
A breath of fresh air here, thank you.
I have had more experience watching Christian young women in the modern world of dating always default to dating and marrying non believers
... and the later crash.
They want the guys with tats motorbikes and a 18 other girls chasing after him for their husbands.
Then cry about having to live out her faith all alone
Facts being equally yoked is real if you try other wise you'll both just end up hurting each other when it all could have been avioded. I made this mistake and i felt terrible about the end out come for the both of use lessons learned.
Interesting. I am interested in 3 women right now. They all profess to be "Christian". One had 6 flags. One had 5 flags. The other ZERO. Thank you. That is the direction I will head in.
You’re interested in 3 women? Do they know about each other ?
Beware of the one with ZERO flag. That can't be true
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 They do not. That would be suicide lol
Speaking of the term "submit", that doesn't mean you take advantage of that particular scripture, nor take advantage of "submissiveness"
Based Mark. Love your content.
Spot on! Especially “traditional women” who are not traditional. They put up a front to prey on good men, hoping we will rescue them. Don’t waste your time with them, because you could be missing out on a real woman
The Lord is Very clear that a wife Must obey and submit to her husband, meaning she must do what he says under the consequence of sin as long as his command isNOT immoral, illegal, sinful, or harmful to herself or to others.
Submitting is submitting to our Saviour. It's the holy spirit working through our husband & the wife submitting ultimately to her Saviour. Now, if the husband isn't following or not listening to God, then no. By gentle persuasion of God's whispering.
One of your best informative Biblical videos yet. I have backed away from a lot of woman who buy into the worldly lies
Happy to see this video, im a single Christian woman, and think it is sound
...literally my 5yr marriage. God rescued me, and in my pain isolation and shame, i was forced to understand the root cause of my impatience and disobedience. I had to repent and ask God to forgive me for not trusting in him and acting on "emotion"
Being subjected to narcissistic abuse and the Jezebel spirit is a direct result of disobedience, ignoring blatant red flags.
What you mean God rescue you?
Did you decide to divorce her?
Because if you was the one who decided divorce her you can’t remarried
If she repent for her sins you should reconcile with her
You can’t move for emotions is obedience
@@lesliebrown1093 you have no clue what you're talking about
@@lesliebrown1093 you sound self-righteous and judgemental.
I do agree with abortion if the baby is dead before it is born, or the women was force into sex without her consent. However, I disagree with women who consent to having sex and don't want the baby a feel that abortion is the only option. There is adoption agencies that will give the child a loving home if the parents can't take care of the baby.
If the baby is already dead that is NOT abortion. There are amazing stories of redemption where women have kept children who were the product of rape. Why should a child have to pay the price for being the consequence of a rape by being murdered?
Do wives have to submit "first".... and then the man will treat her right? Or does this happen simultaneously?
Conditional submission isn't submission at all.
You submit weather you agree with it or not.
The only time you don't submit is if they are asking you to do something evil or sinful.
Marriage doesn't work without it. It becomes a war zone. That's why it's critical a man makes sure the woman he chooses is submissive and the wife makes sure she only marries a man she can trust to lead, who will take her wants and desires to heart and consider them in his decision making process.
When my husband and i got together, 16 years ago, we both were a bit more under the view that we were equal in most ways. Over the years we have become more traditional because we have found that both of us are much more happy when we acknowledge our differences. We have taken on more traditional roles over the years and are so much more content and our communication is better, since we are not on a tit-for-tat level anymore.
@breadandcircuses8127 why have we taken on more traditional roles? because the more we are able to be honest with each other about what we want, and discover more about ourselves and work through past traumas and issues, we find we are both happier in traditional roles. Most of the feminist ideals that i thought would make me happier and safer, was just putting up walls. once the walls are broken down, we found that our differences are beneficial to a healthy marriage.
Is a woman then, expected to show submission in a courtship relationship even though it’s not a marriage? If so, how?
Wonderful content!
God richly Bless you Mark!
My oldest brother has a Godly loving wife, and him a Godly loving husband.
There was a time where his wife has to pursue her career in order to qualify for her masters. While my brother would have no choice but to take care of their child while the mother was gone. With him being the house husband(which is a thing btw).
Roles does not really need to be mandatory in a Godly relationship, it all comes down to the couples' decision on what needs to be done. And somehow, my older brother and his wife went through well, now they both just finished their Masters Degrees together with their only child for their Masters photos.
What a great message! 👍👍 By the way, it took me almost three decades after I became a born again Christian to finally accept Ephesians 5:22; I thought because I wasn't married, it was okay not to accept it (well, I was somewhat of a feminist). 😖 Thank God for sanctification--the Holy Spirit Himself finally "tamed" me in this regard (and it was just a few years ago). 🤗
#1 Isn't there a bible verse that says men and women are equal? And that men need to love their wives as Christ loves the church (which Christ loved his followers as friends and not servants?)
To me it always seemed men lead because of the garden of Eden but men and women are still equal and men can still be won by their wives in conversation.
It seems to be for order and not because men and women aren't better or worse.
All people are supposed to be submissive to God anyways.
In the Garden of Eden God called outnfor Adam first, when Christ was resurrected, Jesus shown Himself to women first.
It really makes ya wonder what the truth is in this matter. Makes me wonder anyways.
I really liked the rest of it. I especially liked that you mentioned that it's the woman's choice to follow.
The reason why I'm so passionate about a woman's role in the Christ is because I've been through spiritual abuse. I refuse to let the will of men damage people's relationships with God anymore.
I am nit picky. Because if I'm not, people will make up all sorts of men's fables on why men lead in the home and church, stroking their egos and blinding themselves with pride, harming their women in the process. It's better to have a nit picky woman seeking the truth of Christ, then women falling away from Christ due to false teachings.
False teachings of women have been prevalent in the church for generations and it needs to stop.
There are women prophetesses in the Bible. There are women who had to stand for what's right by God when the men in their lives weren't following God. There are holy women who helped saved men from their own follies.
There's way more to being a woman than being deceived in the Garden of Eden.
We are called to be protectors of the home.
So I pray all of us Christians someday really understands what Jesus wants for us. Clears all our misconceptions.
And I hope we soften our hearts.
Equal value, does not equate to equal role.
For example,
With passenger trains there is a train driver, and a train guard.
Both are needed (valuable), but they have a different role.
The type of leading that the man is suppose to have, is one of responsibility.
Yes I don't deny that men have misunderstood the type of leading to mean "I am man, my foot is down, end of discussion"
But this isn't how it is meant to be... after all is that how Christ loved the Church... no it isn't.
As a man (though I'm currently single),
If my wife and kids are: Sheltered, fed, clothed, and safe, then I have made the right choices.
If they are lacking any of these then I and I ALONE, have failed.
Does that mean that the husband doesn't involve and discuss things with his wife... of course not!
But what it does mean, is that after the discussion, and it is time to make a decision... the husband is the one who makes it,
The wife trusts his judgement because if she has chosen wisely, she has chosen a husband who realises that she has a brain, and so takes on board what she says.
Yes it is hard to submit, to trust someone so totally and completely, but the burden of responsibility for the wellbeing of the entire family, isn't "a walk in the park" either.
So yes we are all equal in value (slave and free is also mentioned), but we have different roles.
She must submit to her earthly father and have respect for her earthly father. If she doesn't respect her earthly dad she won't respect her future husband.
I have met some women who have had horrible fathers or they are not in the woman's life. I think adding how she speaks of the pastor as another way to judge this.
Where I am in the Caribbean many women grew up without their fathers, unfortunately. I have found that those who do grow up with their fathers tend to be more "balanced" personally/emotionally. More emotionally healthy perhaps.
That said, one major thing I have learned over the years, is to assess *How she speaks about her father*, whether she grew up with him or not. I've seen a strong correlation with this "metric" in particular.
I disagree with you especially if her dad was abusive or absent
Yes she needs to submit to God than every thing else should fall into place
Not true in the least neighbour. Familys have unfortunately many large challenges & trials like abuse, sexual assault, violence, addiction, honour killings even, fathers who are absent, fathers who cheat ect. Those aren't people that children should be learning submission from , it's not Godly. So you can't make such a broad statement.
Important how she treats your cat.
Yes. 🐕😺💛
I know that you’re trying to be helpful, BUT try viewing this from the perspective of a single guy, loyally serving The Lord, since his mid-20’s, now in his early 60’s, praying (& searching) for a Godly spouse for close to FOUR (4) DECADES, all to no avail. Trust me, if you try to view it from that perspective you may find that you become less harsh / demanding / etc. Just a thought.
Have you ever considered going to other countries that are more traditional in nature?
I know you want to be married to a lovely wife who treats you well. A wife you can love and also cherish. You're in a tough spot, but the Lord knows your desires.
Personally nothing about this video was harsh or demanding. These are standards that will help us as men avoid women that will cause contention, pain, and heartbreak. The standards presented will help us to marry a woman who accepts God's standards over what the world says is good. It will help us to have more peace and holiness in the family. A safe home for future children. A Spirit filled home that helps many people to learn of Christ.
He's not being harsh or demanding. These flags are so red they should barely need stating.
submission doesn't mean a woman is their slave and gave in a man's wrong deeds. A woman submit to her husband because he is the head of their family but not to point of abusing her rights as wife.
oh really? 3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 1 peter 3:4
@@bradwhitt6768what do you think of your wife? your slave? Is there wrong in my comment above?
FYI , a biblical description of a wife is the right hand woman or a sidekick to the husband in building their family. A WIFE IS NEVER A SLAVE!
@@m.o.s.h.1836 read what peter wrote. A wife is to be submissive even when her husband is not a believer so that her husband maybe we won over. No one is equating slave with being submissive. That is your problem. If you don't like being submissive to a man then don't get married.
@@bradwhitt6768 i did not say that a wife should not submit. However, I emphasize that being submissive to your husband means you allow them abused you or make you their slave.
You need reading comprehension!
@@m.o.s.h.1836 Then you are saying women shouldn't submit. You need mental help. You're saying a wife should submit but also talking out of the other side of your mouth saying it means you allow them to be abused or made a slave. So which is it.
I'm going through a divorce right now. My soon to be ex trips many of these red flags. Wish I'd seen something like this 14 yrs ago.
She’s divorcing you?
A sister at my church argues that in 100 years the church will have the same response to gay mariage as we did to slavery. She argues that just as we once believed the Bible condoned slavery (FALSE), that we will also start accepting the LGBT+ the way we accept African Americans. This is the kind of belief system that Christian men have to distance themselves from. This sisters husband has to watch his kids be raised with this ideology. 🤦🏽♀️🙏
Basically avoid feminist/Liberals/"baddies"
Man, thank you for pointing these uncomfortable truths out.
I live in Sweden. I guess I will have to become a passport bro or be single forever.
Brilliant brother 👍
One thing to add to this: if she overindulges in alcohol periodically, particularly with her non-Christian coworkers. Just speaking from experience.
true
Some of us women would love to have a godly man to follow and submit to
Great list! I always hear lists about what to look for in a Godly guy and it seems so rare to find one and then I talk to single Christian Men and they feel the same way about finding Godly women… so crazy.
Thank you for this video - it’s always helpful for women to understand what dating looking like from a man’s perspective and how things look from the other person’s perspective.
I would love to learn more about what godly submission looks like in a dating situation. I truly believe in a wife submitting herself to a husband but I’m confused how this should look in a dating situation when you are still getting to know the other person and trying to determine whether they are going to be the godly spouse that you will be submitting to.
My last dating experience was with a man who demanded total submission from the start and it has left me feeling very confused as to what that should look like.
In my opinion, you should not submit before marriage. In your single state you submit to God your Heavenly father. He carries your heart always. You can discuss things of course. What would you do in marriage. But you are under NO obligation to him if he is not your husband . That's called control.
@@dawnstonerock4253 Thank you! You're so right, that passage is for married couples, not dating couples.
It's so sad that this even needs to be said.
It's so hard to find a good mate these days. ☹️ I'm holding on to hope for a husband, myself.
I've met dozens of good upstanding godly men over the years.
There's actually lot out there.
They are not found in "clubs" or "dances" the gym etc. They are working or at home
Great video! These are ALL dealbreakers for me when it comes to pursuing a woman for marriage. An eighth one would be a woman who doesn't listen to bluegrass music.
Bluegrass music 😅😅