State of Hopelessness: Lincoln Univ. VP Of Student Affairs Died By Suicide After Workplace Bullying
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- Опубликовано: 12 янв 2024
- Lincoln University of Missouri is dealing with the death of its Vice President of Student Affairs, Dr. Antoinette Candia-Bailey, who died by suicide on January 8.
Her death has people calling for the university's president, Dr. John Moseley, to resign. Friday, the Lincoln University Board of Curators announced Dr. Moseley volunteered to be placed on paid administrative leave while a third party reviews the school's personnel processes.
According to those close to Dr. Bailey, she was subjected to a toxic work environment, enduring alleged bullying and harassment from President Moseley and other university officials. Despite her numerous attempts to seek support and address the issue, Dr. Bailey was allegedly left unsupported and disregarded.
She penned a letter on the day she died detailing the bullying she faced after disclosing her mental illness to the university officials.
Lincoln University National Alumni Association's President, Dr. Sherman Bonds, spoke with Roland Martin about this truly disturbing situation.
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These jobs do not care about you, never be afraid to disconnect and leave. Rest in peace queen
I agree❤
PRECISELY. Make a plan to GTFO. These damn companies do not own ANYONE. Let them know that clear and loud when you put in those 2 WEEKS! Deuces!
I noticed this... jobs where you are in a position of serving others on a personal level have the worst leadership officials...
Very true prayers to her family...this is sad 😢
I totally agree, we as black peoples have to start taking care of ourselves first and foremost and walking and by faith. Mental illness is real and I refuse to stay in a position that is affecting my mental health.
Our biggest mistake is knowing who they are, pretending to be shocked by their actions, and after thousands of years, thinking that they will somehow change.
Correct. Despite it all they sleep well at night.
And Dr. Moseley’s wife is Black.
yep. It never ceases to amaze me that in this day & age black folks continue gasping and pearl clutching when whites decide to white, despite us knowing their centuries long track record in their dealings with us.
YOUR biggest mistake is believing that nonsense that you posted.
The Awakening.
Never remove yourself from this planet because of a person, job, or situation.
Unfortunately, toxicity is what mankind is addicted to.
Depression will trick you into believing that is the best way out. I had major depressive disorder with suicidal ideation for a decade. I had a ton of friends and family who I thought adored me beforehand that did not give a flying fk. Two people cared. My brother and stepfather. But with depression you need a support group! Truth is I didn’t die because I could not hurt my daughter. I couldn’t do it to her! I could not risk hurting her mental health anymore than my own depression affected her life. I am a good mother but I went from super mom to a good mom but she was still affected because our social life changed. She wasn’t around my family often like before so she wasn’t able to create close relationships with them. By the time I started to encourage her to do it alone, the damage was done. It is easy to tell someone nothing or no one is worth your life but the darkness can be so unbearable that you just want it to stop. Or some might feel why didn’t she just leave. Depression is like a cancer of your brain. It just doesn’t allow you to think in your best form. She tried to leave and be able to support herself financially at the same time. U are also made fun of to the point you don’t even want to tell people how u feel. People would rather you tell them a lie so they don’t have to put any effort in other than two words or some bs suggestions that they somehow think a smart person hasn’t thought of themselves. Luckily I had a child, and though I fantasized about dying and it was the first thing my mind attacked me with when i would awaken, I was not actively suicidal because I kept telling myself it is a side effect of depression n that I don’t want to die. I also believe one day God would bring me out of it. I learned how the brain worked and started to reprogram enough that I got rid of the suicidal thoughts. I hope this helps someone who I believe is not trying to be insensitive but Lacks emotional intelligence. So many of you do. Major depressive disorder is just a different beast. Trust me feeling empty and nothing is worst than feeling emotions. You feel like a dead person walking. Unfortunately that little light that kept a person going just goes out. And I feel confident enough to believe everyone she was close to cared but didn’t care enough!
And you're part of that toxicity when you don't give a damn about them when they're struggling, then tell them how to feel when they reach out when they never asked you. Not saying I'm perfect either, I feed of some of the toxicity of humanity, but your "advice" is some of the most toxic ever because it's always after the fact. People like you might be the most significant reason for depressed people's chronic helplessness. You're so busy telling them how to feel and how to handle their pain based on how YOU handle YOURS, you don't want to listen and cut them off for struggling too long based on YOUR designated time line. You personally might be a better friend than most, so if that's the case, this applies more in a general manner. Too many people do this, especially when it comes to other people feeling this darkness to this point where they don't feel like they can talk to anybody because it's "toxic" to depend on or confide in others, on top of that, it's the job, so they must support themselves. You ignore the overloading that makes getting help almost impossible.
Then there are the consequences of leaving job...and then leaving another...and leaving another...which makes you seem less dependable, which is what companies look for, and makes you unable to hire eventually. This is what I'm dealing with after leaving job after job that didn't treat me right, or maybe I wasn't a good fit for. Now after getting another degree and searching for better jobs than retail (which does the same kind of false-performance-workload-increase-punishment style bullying that Dr. Bailey suffered), all I hear is NO or hear nothing at all. People like you are not considerate and only fake such consideration. Please look within yourself and fix that shit, because your "advice" doesn't help anyone when you only give it when it's too late, after disconnecting and never caring or "not wanting to hear it because it brings too many negative vibes when you're all about good vibes" or whatever.
Oh please she shouldn’t have killed herself, because of the racist white man. HBCUs don't need a white President to run an HBCU. Look yourself in the mirror and recognize your wrong.
Agreed. You're not entitled to the job. If the boss is hard to deal with, move on. Why kill yourself over a job? Like, she couldn't find employment elsewhere?
@@JohnnieWalkerDreadSome ppl aren’t as strong as you’re
I truly feel that people with exceptional talent are bullied the most. Their talent threatens the toxic power structure. This woman really cared. She was a leader and the administration knew that. Her vulnerability and strength intimidated them. Please listen to her letter. Heed her words.
I agree!
I agree!
Wow! I wish she would have just left the environment than this tragic. For anyone reading this, if you any have pressure please join a prayer group and allow others to fight this battle for you.
Please do not commit suicide. If you have a belief being challenged, put yourself first. Put yourself first no matter how long it takes for you to get the strengths to follow through. Keep it to yourself until you have the strength. No one you work with is your friend. Ever!
Exactly!
And, for those who sat back and watched this behavior towards Dr. Bonnie, you're just as guilty as Moseley. RIP, Queen!
People will see it happening and look away. It happens all the time. It's sad.
Especially if anyone on the board was aware.
YOU ARE SO RIGHT THEY NEEED TO GO TOO. i AM SOOO ANGRY.
@@chall4450oh darned
People ALWAYS sit back and watch. I've been in this same situation. Your co-workers are not your friends. AT ALL.
This a why people should not marry your job. One change in management can cause a work culture to become toxic.
Barron you are so so right. I worked 20 + years never put a picture on my desk nor wall .I never personalized my career.
I agree
Totally right!!!!
Right no pics degrees anything cause If I need to leave im out
@@shanonstarr3852 No body gives a f its the desperate measure of power. Women are the smartest creatures that walk and breed on this earth.
I can relate to this story in so many ways.
I'm currently experiencing this form of bullying regarding my rent controlled apartment.
I'm a disabled retired social worker who lives in Brooklyn, NY, and I've been bullied, gangstalked, gaslighted, slandered, assaulted, and cried out for help.
I endured this for 10 years.
I'm currently seeking legal assistance.
Please pray for me.
Thank God every day that I did not commit suicide.
God rest her soul😪
I am sorry please get help and move out of that place I can’t imagine you being bullied for 10 years that’s bit normal please 🙏🏻 save yourself and move out document the harassments on videos set up cameras etc
Keep safe until you leave ❤
Please hang in there and seek the help you need. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Sending prayers and many blessings to you.
You have hold on so far remember that. May our Lord Jesus Christ guide you/ us.
Much light and love to you
Well then why don't you pull the typical Jessie Smollett Tori and find the nearest White Gentile and your building to blame something on then you'll have the news casters at your door right away
Prayers going up❤❤
I work for myself now and have done so for 5 years. I hold three degrees, including a doctorate. I speak three languages. None of these insulated me from the brutality that is part of work and corporate culture. The lowest point in my career came when I had a corner office near the top floor of the seattle municipal tower and the title of director. I knew then that it wasn't worth it. It's never worth it. I took all my brilliance, professionalism, and credentials and put them to work FOR ME!
Good for you! My God Sistah grew up in Seattle! It’s nothing like how it used to be! Crime like Chicago n Detroit now! She is sad!
hallelujah
Wow, this is tragic!! I hate that she didn't make them pay for what they did to her!!! We experience bullying, racism and discrimination at EVERY turn.
Do you really believe she killed herself?
So true
Do believe any court in that state would have believed her over a pink skinned man and paid her?
Yep!!
When you are a THREAT (having smarts) to others’ (White people) my experiences. They’ll make EVERY ATTEMPT and ATTACK on bringing you down beneath them.
This is such a terrible story. Let us all pray for Dr. Bailey's family, friends, and colleagues.
Taraji was right. African Americans women tried and under paid. No one caring. The last to be paid.😭
Yes
22:15 I woke up to this story this morning, and I’m in my car shouting right now. My entire soul goes out to Dr. Bailey and her family. I can relate to Dr. Bailey’s frustrations and hearing her story as little fire and me to move forward with my case against my employer. Enough is enough. Rest up Dr. Bailey ❤🙏🏿
Please do. It can be an exhausting experience in the process (litigations, etc). But at least you'll have no regrets. This just ignited my flame for justice! Peace and Blessing on your path of justice. Discover an attorney who specializes in work related injuries and such. All the best.
Yes. This is heartbreaking ❤
This needs to go viral! This story should be on 60 minutes and every major news network.
I can't understand why it has not went viral.
Absolutely 💯
Viral for what ? most people don't care or have other pb...this is life 😢
@@sarahrean7174so true
Well they cannot report this as written unless they had prosecuted him for bullying otherwise it's just viewed as her word against his and then lots of people will vilify her saying she took her own life due to her mental illness not because of bullying....it would never end, public opinions can be horrible...I hate that she felt so horrible that she ended her life, she should've just quit then took this butt..hole down & filed charges
This is so disturbing and so tragic. Adults bullying other adults. May she rest in peace
Sadly, it's about pink skinned people wanting to control women and darker skinned people. Slave mentality.
It happens all the time. On my job I witness white females and males making up lies about their black colleagues and the white leadership automatically believe them and begin to target the black folks. The black employees are left with no choice but to file EEOC complaints which they usually don't win. America is a mess. The white folks are usually but not always of jewish ethnicity. Fact.
No. Let’s be all the way clear. White adult ppl bullying black adult ppl
Anybody bullying anybody is tragic
And unfortunately, as long as it's not based (or can't be proven that it's based on) race, sex, or any other protected classification, it's perfectly legal. Laws against this bullying is way overdue.
So many black women experience this in the workplace. Its a crime. Her letter speaks volumes and my heart is with her family. 💓
I’m experiencing this right now and I went to the General manager at my job who told me to be the bigger person which I’ve definitely been the bigger person while they’ve done nothing
Yes .. I went through on a couple of my jobs .. by the grace of God I am still standing... unfortunately she didn't have anyone she could confide in... SMH
I experienced worser
I'm experiencing this Right Now ..... Worser than this
Those the ones that get mistreated and used the most... Is God's people
I’m truly saddened by this. I actually worked with Dr. Bonita Candia Bailey in Student Affairs at my Alma Alta, NCATSU and I TOO experience the same level of abuse, bullying, and disrespect from both students and administrators while serving as the Director of Student Activity. I recalled reaching out to the Chancellor for help and to state the obviously, it turned against me. As a result, I spiraled out of control with alcohol abuse and eventually suffered a nervous breakdown. Unfortunately what happened (untimely demise) to my former colleague and Soror raised awareness to the horrific cruelty that takes place at HBCUs and I’m sure at other colleges. You never know one’s mental state therefore the Board , administration AND students need to be oriented on this type of behavior to eliminate work face bullying and senseless deaths such as my Soror. This could have been me however I listened to my black primary physician and black therapist and walked away from a 20 year career at the university, my alma mater,and still harvest my Aggie Pride. This really hurts me to my core. Soror Bonita Candia Bailey’s voice speaks loudly today and forever more!!!! This has to STOP!
@TabithaLowe so sorry about your friend.
Bonnie was a wonderful, loving warm, brilliant sister...I've known her my entire life as well as her lovely family. She will truly be missed...Mental health is not anything to be ignored. 😢
So sorry for your wonderful sisters loss, my 🙏🏾🙏🏾go out to you and her family.💪🏾💪🏾
My condolences for the loss of your sister-friend...our hearts are broken.
Very sorry for your loss. ❤
Does this mean that she might have considered the decision to get the hell out of there and move on?
So she was married, had children?????
If I'm not doing my job, help me or fire me.... don't bully me. SAD
Exactly! They don't bully us because we are doing bad they bully us because they do not want us there. I say us because I have experienced it too.
Totally I am dealing with this now from ours
This unfortunate situation happens often in the workplace. People in power are protected when they are wrong. The more the bullied employee complain, the worse the situation gets. The only thing you can really do is leave. Its sad but true.
Then leave. You're not entitled to the job.
Nothing that you just said is true Mr. Victimhood
@@JohnnieWalkerDreadYou really need to get a life lol
As an educator I can confirm that professional evaluations can be very stressful and taxing on our emotional well being.
Yes always been afraid of losing your job because some IDF donator is threatening to cut his donations ( not funding) into your university Already exploded budget
An evaluation is someone else opinion. It does not determine my value or expertise. It a document that tells me to stay or leave. As long as my money wasn't touched..it's their opinion.
Unfortunately, she took the easy way out. As an educator, you have to practice what you preach. There is help out there! Seek it! God rest her soul.
@@dontfallvictimthe easy way out???
I'm sorry this woman took her life over her job. She documented what happened very well and i hope her families gets justice. It's shameful that grown supposedly professional people act this way.
Yep I can’t imagine what she was thinking she was definitely mentally unstable sad she did not get the help she so desperately needed
Honestly I believe some of these whites are on a power trip. It's like they wanna flex and let the Black's know that they
are beneath them. I'm telling you all I believe something of these whites are just really flexing
I wish to God that she had support to realize she had other options than to take her own life!! That bully is still here, he's still on the planet but she's gone.
@mse9609 Well white privilege is real he was probably flexing his power over her and letting her know that he was above her
Why did she not sign this letter? This is typed all the way.
May Dr. Bailey rest in heaven. As a Black woman, I've beem the victim of workplace harassment and bullying, and nearly took my life too. I was saved because of a coworker's concern for me and finding me before I was able to put a period at the end of my life in 2016.
Nothing was done to the Deputy Director who tormented me. I was terminated after receiving mental health treatment. I still deal with workplace PTSD and continue seeing a therapist at present.
This is serious and as a black woman, I'll say we are the most overworked, over educated, underpaid, the most put upon and the last to be thought about.
Everyone take care of yourselves. May Dr. Bailey's family find peace someday.
sorru to hear you have been through it too; blessings, healing and good luck for you
As a person who suffers from major depressive disorder, I would like for people to understand that in the depth of depression your thought process is not always clear and concise. Not to say that she did not suffer bullying on the job. But, take into consideration that she was suffering from an admitted mental illness. I have had a suicide attempt, and by God's grace, I survived. Looking back, my reasoning for attempting suicide was not clearly thought through, and I was blessed to be able to have the opportunity to 'look back'. So many others, such as this sister, do not have the opportunity to see the situation with a clear mentality. RIP my sister.
Only God knows the truth and that all it matters.
Agreed. Her mental illness may have caused her to be a difficult person to work with. She did have two complaints filed against her by subordinates, and her disclosure of those confidential discussions was one of the reasons she was fired. Her letter to the president comes off as a rant. Regardless, it is probably unfair to lay her death at the feet of the president. Even if he was a bad boss, he wouldn't be the only bad boss out there. You quit and move on. Why she felt the need to grapple with him is beyond me.
I applaud you for your very important comment. You made valid points that can easily get overlooked. 😢
@@wr3504 That’s the best part. She’s in a better place now and those who bullied her will face judgement. I pray that anyone else going through this at the workplace seek professional support from a therapist, pastor, etc.
I WAS BULLIED FOR OVER A YEAR. I'M SO GLAD GOD WORKED IT OUT IN MY FAVOR. I PRAISE HIM.
I thank God for Favor in your life
My heart aches! Do you understand how bad things need to be for an African American woman to take her own life? Sounds like he used his position as a weapon and I pray the right thing is done on her behalf. His negligence and callousness has cost a life.
You mean human being to take her own life a person with mental illness doesn’t have to be white black and brown women stuffer as well this foolish needs to stop
Y’all kill each other in Chicago everyday so why is this different
Unfortunately, the type of behavior she was subjected to Is considered business as usual in some workplaces. It is tactical and plausibly intentional, definitely considered acceptable in some cases. So sorry she felt she had no other options.
You are so right!! It had to be bad..
yea and a high paying jobs not doing what you say does not qualify this woman had a PHD was not rational and was as selfish as they come .gtfoh
How horrific to work @ an HBCU as a Black American and come to this outcome. My sincere condolences to Dr. Bailey's family. She deserves justice. Rest in Peace 🕊🕊🕊🕊
Other people (white, black, male, female) DO SEE but choose to remain silent for fear of repercussions or they are enlisted to assist in the harassment of the person being bullied. I’ve seen it and experienced it
See, when it comes to someone’s paycheck being jeopardized by supporting a person being bullied, they will most of the time choose to preserve their own paycheck!
In some offices, black people like Dr. Bailey are just considered disposable and are to be mentally and emotionally destroyed for fun. I saw this happen too!
Please speak up. It may help save a life@@givenscommunications6307
Exactly, why have HBCU if they are going to hire white peoples to run them.
Absolutely CRAZY!!!!
Weak diversity hire doing diversity hire things
I hope he is fired and they are sued .. it’s called intentional infliction of emotional pain.. please personally sue him also !
I am saddened and outraged at the same time. The complete disregard of a capable and proven black educated woman, who was struggling with her mental health during employment in an obviously toxic work environment, is absolutely unacceptable. All for some ridiculous office politics and fear. This should never be tolerated. She obviously gave her life to and for her beloved alma mater because she loved it, the students and her life as an educator. It is illegal to use mental health against an employee. I pray all involved pay for what they took part in that cost this sister her life. May Almighty rest her soul.
The issue with workplace bullying is that it’s very covert - so it’s nearly impossible to prove it. It sucks that her life was cut short as a result. My heart hurts for this woman, and her family.
The senseless cowardly act of bullying has been going on for so long, when will it stop. It took my breath away to listen as you read that letter. I am so sorry for her and her family, but as she spoke of Karma, it is real and it ALWAYS comes around for good or evil.
Corporate bullying is common against our people. It not only causes mental health problems but also impacts our wealth. We lose our jobs, and we are the ones who have no means of restitution. I am sorry this happened to her.
@BlackGeoRUclips
At all levels of employment, workplace bullying is thriving like domestic terrorism & hate crimes in these United States of America. The Divided State of Disgrace. Amerikkka.
So true.
And our physical health
True statement
Facts all day… can relate
I am heartbroken over Dr. Bailey's death. My prayers are for her family and the LU family. There is a lot that can be said about this situation and the many struggles of Black women in higher education and corporate organizations. We live this type of mistreatment often. Workplace bullying is awful and has to be eliminated. Dr. Bailey's life mattered.😭
It’s been on steroids the last 5 years, though. Anyone who says we haven’t slid way backwards atp is smoking.
This appears to be bullying because of her mental illness. Please don’t push that fact to the background because of any bias ‘black’ women.
Family should “ LAWYER UP “ …..Sad Situation 😿💔😿
So True, Dear Sis!! These kinds of events tell us that we CANNOT become complacent (or complicit) in behaviors that STILL seek to undermine African Americans in every sector!! Be Well!!
This doesn't just happen to black people. It happens to all races, including white. Mental illness is something that people are still afraid of. People who don't understand it often end up making fun of and shunning people who are struggling with mental illness in the workplace. Have seen that happen at work and in non-workplaces, and it's rarely addressed in a compassionate or fair way.
Her letter was both informative, and heartbreaking. I am so glad she provided such detailed documentation. This toxicity in the workplace is all too common. Thank you Dr. Bonnie Bailey for sharing your story in order to seek improvement for the university moving forward. It saddens me such a BEAUTIFUL human being has left us. Please protect your peace from toxic workplaces, bosses, and coworkers.
I am so deeply saddened to hear this. I too was bullied at my old job. She told my story in her letter and I still suffer from from Deep Depression, Anxiety and PTSD due to the horrific things that I went through with the Company that I was working with. I only stayed at that Company for 3 Months and in those 3 months it was a living HELL. I was truly close to breaking or possibly being close to not hurting myself but hurting those at that job that were mistreating me. I pray for her family and I am so sorry that it lead to her having to take her life. This hurts my heart and in a way took me right back to where I was with that job.. PTSD is not JOKE....EVILNESS is no joke. KARMA is no Joke...When I think about having to go back into Corporate America I shut down and get severly depressed....Prayers for this Family and for Everyone who has faced and is currently facing ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE...IT IS REAL...RACISM IS REAL!!!!!!
Yes, the PTSD is real. This story triggered mine. This is how workplace violence happens. They're lucky she didn't snap and take their @$$es out too. Those who haven't experienced it can't understand what it's like to be in the depths of that living hell. I'm glad you were able to get out. Those scars run deep, healing is going to take longer than expected. Heaven help those who have been or are currently in a toxic work environment. We've worked too hard and come too far to be taken out like this.
I experienced this for a long time at my job and it's even worse now. It was very depressing and disheartening for years. But, now my perspective is different. So much so I refuse to leave, they have to fire me.
This story is so familiar and takes me back to my days in corporate America,,,, a Banking corporation, probably the largest, private banking,,, for the wealthy, annuities, investments, retirement planning,,, I would sit at the reception area when the administrative assistant went on break,,, the white Ivy League educated stock brokers told the NBA players I was the file clerk, found this out after I asked the brother why didn’t they trust me to work with them,,, this player apologized told two friends, they told two friends and suddenly I was the highest earner with my BA in journalism,,,, pissed the white boys off and they started a campaign to sabotage my work, I took my concerns to the VP, an old white woman that totally had my entire back,,,, THANK GOD,,,, it was the best(financially) and worse working environment I’ve ever encountered and it was frightening for a lil 30 year old black girl,,,,,panic attacks and sleeplessness,,,,
until I couldn’t take it anymore ,,, 7 figure settlement, after many witnesses made statements,,,, I get it!! Rest in the Roses my Sista❤️
WOW 😳!!!
I know this all too well. I worked as a professional within the NBA and some of the ‘men’ in the front office would tell colleagues that I was a ‘cheerleader’, sabotage projects/promotions, were constantly prying into my personal business, eavesdropped, etc. I dealt with all sorts of racism and sexism. It began when I was 21 until I was 25. A total nightmare. Coincidence to comment here about it too. 😏 I am glad you received a settlement. I was so traumatized I just ran away and began a brand new career.
I am so glad you fought back and won, but so glad you got out for your own well being in the end! YOU WON!!
look at God. I am so sorry you went through this
I LOVE that story! You go!
I taught my daughters at a very young age because my parents did not prepare me for the hate we get for the color of your skin. I became that angry Black woman until I forced myself to learn to deal with it. My youngest daughter called me a racist in the beginning until she had her first incident. Then she understood. Even though she resisted, I made her deal with it. I didn’t want my girls to feel the way I did. Nah, we don’t deal with that BS on any level!
My son had to learn the hard way, he was hanging around the guys we're going to say they're messy-cans. I told my son be careful, and he got very upset with me so I left him a lone. Needlessly to say those messy-cans picked an argument with him and they all stood together for mess.
What about the depression and anxiety? No shade but I keep reading comments about our blackness but this woman says in her letter she was bullied after disclosing her mental health information! Why are y’all dismissing that part?
My daughter called me racist too....they don't seem to understand what we cope with because of workplace bullies!
Quitting isn't always that easy. Perhaps she tried to stay as long as possible to keep food on her table. We don't know all of the circumstances. Did she have anyone willing to help financially and other ways? Also, as you said, mental health pushes one into other thoughts.
@@decamc1435I am pretty sure this job let to those issue too and if not, it definitely did not help
I’m sorry for this lady, this happens all the time to our folks and no one does anything about it!
I quit my job a few months ago! Please don’t let these toxic work environments claim your happiness and take your sanity! Protect yourself at all times, and remember that’s it’s acceptable and commendable to fire your boss, and quit workplaces that do not serve your needs!
Mental illness is so often used as a weapon. Knowing firsthand the depth and breadth of it, my heart hurts for the pain she suffered at the workplace.
This is triggering for me due to the fact I was bullied and harassed in an academic institution with no support. I resigned and sought counsel, I am hoping to get justice this apparently is a very serious issue amongst Black Women. My own family was encouraging me to stay but I was not going to further jeopardize my mental health. Super toxic. To add, leadership has to stop being lazy and learn to intervene quickly.
Ditto.
Yes, I too am a survivor of workplace bullying, and am currently going through litigation. I've taken medical leave, the whole bit. "The Black woman is one of the most disrespected people in the U.S." It is time that they recognize workplace bullying as a serious issue, and do something about it NOW!
Me too!
The man she describes, her boss is Narcissitic. It is a great tragedy that she killed herself over a human tragedy such as he.
My Condolences to the family.
@@gingerhopkins7134I agree. Moseley should not have been president at all. Poor decision by the board and curators
My prayers and condolences are with her family and friends.
As a black woman who used to be bound by the demonic spirit of suicide, my heart breaks for Bonnie. Countless black women endure workplace harassment, bullying, and discrimination.
Unfortunately and often, little to no assistance is given.
No job is worth our mental health. I have resigned from jobs to maintain my peace of mind.
I am so sorry that Bonnie felt her decision was the only way to escape the toxicity and trauma she endured.
😢
Unfortunately this happens more often than we care to mention at every work level out there. Sometimes it’s from our own people; from folks being too personal and not adhering to workplace boundaries. Employees are no longer respecting privacy and work place ethics. This is a very sad story. May she Rest In Peace.🙏🏽
Yes, I've been there. The worst part is that one of my biggest tormentors was another black woman. Maybe siding with the enemy was her way of survival since the bully was at the top, but I don't care. May that shuffling tap-dancing piece of 💩 get what she deserves for her role in bullying me. Quitting isn't easy when you need your paycheck. Going to HR would have made things worse for me, particularly being new and probationary. I'm thankful that after a year I found a way out. It's been 14 years but this story triggered anxiety I didn't know I still carried. I'm glad that workplace bullying is now out in the open and being talked about. Thank you for speaking out. Rest in power Queen. May your experience give others the courage to rise up, unite, and save themselves. 💔😥
The board needs to be held accountable also, Multiple emails obtained by someone close to Candia-Bailey and shared with KRCG show she sent emails to Moseley and the Board of curators outlining Candia-Bailey's request for Family and Medical Leave(FMLA) and Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), state that the relationship between her and Moseley went “downhill” due to her severe depression and anxiety. Additional emails reveal that when she made complaints about how she was treated to the Board of Curators, the board president wrote a response back to her saying in part, “Please be advised the Board of Curators does not engage in the management of personnel issues for Lincoln University and will not be taking further action related to this issue. "
I thought one of the initial purposes of any board was to oversee ALL issues, fairly and objectively ,,, make decisions, enforce policies, hold folks accountable,,,with its members being experienced professionals with a variety of expertise from various professions, including human services,,,, but that’s what I get for thinking,,, that was the most insensitive and BS excuse I’ve ever heard,,, totally disregarding her grievances, not even offering resources or direction that may have helped rectify her issues,,,pisses me off,,, RIP and deepest condolences to her loved ones ❤️
No matter they could have stood up for her, they re just as guilty. a this makes ME SOOO MAD. GET THAT MOSELEY OUT OF THERE.
@@chall4450well said. They all have to live with their conscience
Shame on all of them this is horrible
Why is he the President of an HBCU anyway??
Maybe I should share my emails from 2020, where I complained about Moseley and his disrespectful behavior to my son. Moseley is a bully, and tried to intimidate my Black Athletic Honor Student Son. Moseley needs to be removed from LU immediately. RIP, Queen! My heart hurts so bad. This could have been my son's outcome. I am so thankful that my son was not afraid to talk to me and my family, but the treatment during these times was heartbreaking!
Maybe you should share your emails you can honor her this way 💔😢
Share the emails tonight or first thing in the morning.
Please share it with the same news station that aired the others, as well as Roland.
YES share ANYTHING & EVERYTHING that can in any way help get this bast*rd removed!!!
Expose him
"DOCUMENT" While Planning To Leave... "THEN LEAVE"!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is soooooo, sad. This is a cautionary tale to leave situations that badly affect your well-being 💖💖💖.
Workplace bullying is real. It exists in k-12 settings with teachers and principals and in academia. Nothing is done about it. I know plenty of workplace bullies and their minions. HR doesn't resolve it, and leadership does not either. Usually the bullies are well respected and highly recommended. No one follows the board's policy that outlines workplace conduct.
HR resolves NOTHING. Bullying or any other employee issue with management. Paper tigers...
I had to call the police on a teacher at my child's school who was bullying him when the principal did not return my call. No more bullying.
@@6time686Thank you for stating that… definitely HR resolves NOTHING!
Be ready to be fired or let go, soon after that HR contact.
HR works for the company, not the employees. Always document everything and get an employment attorney! I cannot stress enough.
I'm trying to understand this. Why not just leave. 🤷♀️
❤She was probably best of the best. People who bully can't stand the best of the best. What a loss
Agreed. They only attack greatness!
Exactly 💯
no she was a weak illogical person and mentally unstable. She is a hero because she selfishly killed herself with no thought of her family??? She cant quit and get another job. If she was mentally ill she needed to be at home on disability this woman could lead nobody stop it.
I feel the same way about Dr. Claudine gay and I am not African-American or black
This is the same situation that many of us go through being excellent at our jobs. We show up and we lead and they notice, get anxious and fear our intelligence and then they start attacking, bullying and degrading. Taking licks until you can’t take it any more. Then, you stop wanting to be there and before you know it, it’s full blown toxicity. It’s crazy and ppl hide it because of livelihood. Sad.
I am a current First Gen grad/undergrad senior. Nothing in life is worth taking your life, talk to someone seek help. No No No being alive is a gift.
I've dealt with bullying in the workplace and its extremely stressful. I had a manager he was only in the position for a year and he was able to destroy moral and completely destabilize a team that was high functioning before he got the position. Thankfully senior leadership in my organization listened to staff and reassigned that boss, he couldn't even have contact with us after that. We are still recovering from the staff turnover that resulted from his terrible leadership. I had to take on so much more work, I gained weight from the stress.
I can see how someone with prior mental health issues might be pushed further into negative actions or coping strategies due to that. I think someone without mental health issues would quit, move on and find another job. I had one colleague that moved on and all of us would have done the same had the bully not been reassigned. I'm very sorry for her family.
We have free will to leave toxic work environments.
@@ianditwin7443So much easier said than done. Also, being that there are a myriad of toxic people in our world, it's sometimes not possible to run away.
@ianditwin7443
I pray that you find yourself in the state of hopelessness this woman and many like her find themselves and that you'll find the 'free will to move on,' you callus sob!!
This put it in perspective for me because I couldn't understand why she couldn't just pack her bags and bounce. Why stay in a place that's not giving you the respect you deserve to the point you want to take your life!?
Yea I guess I'm struggling to understand why she just didn't find a new job or retire she looked of retiring age. Why would suicide be the answer
My son was going through harassment and bullying at 24 years old. I was happy when he eventually got fired. He was hurt about it but now is working for less pay but is happy.
Background: it started the first day with him going in smiling and saying good morning. Later was asked, why are you coming in here smiling every day? 🤷🏽♀️🙏🏽
Just wow!!🙄🤷🏽🤦🏽
If it’s not too late, He file with the EEOC, and sue them. We tend to RUNAWAY from our jobs because that’s what their use to us doing Giving Them the Victory over us. I’m waiting for my job to attempt to FIRE ME. They found out I’d contacted EEOC, and was able to Civilly Sue the company they gave those nasty people options retire, quit, be demoted and they’ll Never get a higher up or boss position at that company again. I Played their game till it was NO LONGER WORTH MY LIFE. We aren’t suppose to be thankful or show gratitude for waking up every day. It’s terrible how slavery still Lives they just figured out a different dynamic of being EVIL.
@@naashormeofosu-appiah4138 Exactly, this happened earlier this year. Today, he ran his first 1/2 marathon in Houston. Smiling, just so happy right now. All I can say is thank you Lord 🙏🏽
That question they asked him speaks volumes.
According to mainstream media, we are a traumatized people and should therefore act accordingly. For some of us, no matter what slights come our way, some of us are determined to rise above and be polite and joyous because WE WERE RAISED TO NOT BE EVIL!
Examples of My Experience:
“What’s wrong with you; do you think you’re better?”
“You think you are too good to associate with us?” Employees at an insurance company where I worked said this to me and were so phony that I stopped going to after hours gatherings.
In this particular office, the WF who had a hankering for BM “Stuff” and the BF mangers would hire BM for their “potential” regarding their skills outside of work!
@@givenscommunications6307 He has a degree, hired in management, his people were the ones asking him about being nice & happy. He was treating them with respect, working after his shift was over and helping out. Older workers told them to leave him alone.
Afterwards, we discussed it. I told him if you would have went in there treating them like a bunch of Ninjas and writing every infraction up you would have been fine. That's not how he was raised so that was not an option.
It was so sad 🙏🏽
This happens all the time. Employers just look the other way even if you file a complaint. When you complain employers look at the complainer as if they are the problem and then they seek ways to get you out. I’m sorry this issue led to her death. RIP
Take it 2 court
Wow that is so powerful and moving, he needs to be held accountable so his insecurities can be addressed
It's HORRIBLE when your OWN people turn on you to help bully because they are "tokens."
EXACTLY!! The president of this institution had help in this bullying. They always do.
I agree with you and there are many of them, many! This is one of many reasons why it continues to happen in every industry.
There must be extensive training on bullying and harassment in the workplace. Additionally, strict anti-bullying and harassment policies must be put in place and enforced.
But it often comes from leadership itself. It is ingrained in organizational system.
Black people experience it on every end even when its a All Black staff let one of them not like you and its HELL
Been in HR for 10 years and did employee relations work for some of America’s biggest corporations and you’re right , bullying and toxicity runs rampant .. This is the reason I left HR. Based on my exposure to workplace complaints, she’s been bully her whole career and this time, it broke her.
It's sad when you have training on how to treat people.
IMO, training isn’t needed, these people know exactly what they are doing while trying to pretend they are not doing anything. There’s no level of training that can remove evil from the hearts of those doggedly determined to force their will on others. They know.🤬
As someone who had a career in student affairs, this happens often. I developed significant mental health issues working in this area of Higher Ed. I JUST got out of that mental hole after 6 years. I developed workplace PTSD and had years of therapy to get through it. I’m in a much better/happier place now and am working in Higher Ed in a different capacity, but the trauma is real for some. Some of my hardest days came when I worked in that area. It’s so demanding and turns you into a high functioning depressed person.
Please share how you transitioned out... its been 20 yrs... I need an exit door!
@@afletcher257 I was so overwhelmed and burned out that I just quit without another opportunity lined up. It was one of the hardest things I had to do for myself. My mental and physical health were at an all time low. My therapist (at the time) was kind enough to write a letter in support of me leaving my employer and that’s how I was able to receive unemployment. 4 years later, I can say definitively, the creator had better plans for me and I’m glad that I left when I did. Everything worked out in my favor and I am forever grateful.
Rest well sister. Your passing is not in vain. It has triggered me to seek out a mental health professional (Celeste at Better Help). II suffered greatly 2 years ago and thought I was okay, but I'm not. Thank you, sister. 💔 😢
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She wrote that so well AND I BELIEVE EVERY SINGLE WORD!!❤
@yoremerey1753 so I do! I also believe he saw greatness in her and he was insecure and jealous
Yes indeed. And I also agree, he was absolutely threatened, insecure, and jealous. He has a dark and jezebel spirit.
You better believe. it. I felt every word of what she was feeling
Exactly 💯
u believe she couldn't just quit take her PHD and go get another job?? This person didn't need to be anywhere near students She sounded entitled and unhinged this victim society is completely nuts
I quit a job due to extreme stress and a breakdown in my health and mental health. It took a year + for me to go back to work. I was that traumatized. You can email these evil people all you want; it does not matter to them. Same with HR. I understand that corporate is different from academia, but you have to take other action outside of the institution as I did. Federal law was violated and they would have been accountable! I have fought depression so I understand how she felt hopeless especially if this was combined with other stressors. But NO JOB, NO PERSON, IS WORTH YOUR LIFE!! I wish she wouldn’t have just resigned and pursued legal. May she rest in peace and Justice be served.❤🙏🏽
Just made a similar comment. I'm glad you're well.
Even the legal battles is't worth it
I faced bullying by a racist white nursing professor years ago who tried hard to gatekeep the nursing program and have me dismissed. To know folks "in power" try to do so much destruction hurts my soul. My heart goes out to Dr Bailey and her loved ones.
*Always remember they will find somebody to fill her position.* No job is worth your life or sanity.
I've been down that path because of the workplace. And because it's almost always people in power doing the bullying, the person getting bullied almost always end up with the short end of the stick. I know this for a fact from personal experience! My condolences to her family for a situation that should have never happened! 🙏🙏
Here's the deal:
Stuff doesn't occur in a vaccum. If somebody's being a bully, then somebody else knows about it, "sanctioned", and signed off on it.
That's what people in power do: they sanction the Bullies to go after you, to see how you react. If you stand up for yourself, they'll leave you alone.
You might have a crappy reputation, but you'll have your dignity and self-respect, and your job👈
@@mcole442
Not always, they may gang up on you and make your life a living hell. In fact, that is precisely what this story illustrates.
I feel the same way and have had a similar experience. THEY thought THEY were going to bully me such that I would q I feel the same way and have had a similar experience. THEY thought THEY were going to bully me such that I would quit and therefore, THEY would claim victory in getting rid of me. NO! I put in my time and retired. I got EVERYTHING I was due when I left.
Or should one make the conscientious decision to get the hell out of there?
God bless you for your courage 😇
They got together and colluded against her. She was fighting a missing battle. Case in point, her low score. If her queen was so poor in performance, someone would have addressed this issue with her when she faired below 90%. My condolences to the family and students, who will no longer benefit from her purpose in their lives.
This is terrible. It was painful and deep. There are so many work places that need to address work place bullying.😢
Mental health is Real, what a sad story of this beautiful Queen. Nobody deserves to have been treated that way. An educated Black woman who was crying out for help.I believe every word. Bullying in the work place unexceptionable. I pray they dismiss this individual he’s a toxic in person who should be charged with her death. Praying for her family
We all make choices. God only knows the truth and that’s all matters!! 🙏
This story makes me really really sad and I can totally relate. I, too, just walked away from a toxic environment. Workplace bullying is real and it is emotionally and physically draining when it comes from your direct report. Even worse, you are expected to endure being bullied, ignored, and disregarded in the workplace by those who have the power to address it, stop it, and discipline those who are doing it. In most cases, people will not speak up when they see you being harassed and mistreated. I have witnessed people shun me, turn and look the other way, or stop speaking to me altogether from fear of it happening to them or fear of losing their own jobs because of their association with me. When I finally walked away from the job for my own mental health, I felt 100% better. Typically, people will believe you did something wrong to deserve the bad treatment from a controlling boss. No worries, people will reap what they sow.
I’m GLAD that you registered your emotional relief & took remedial actions about your job. MANY people realized during COVID shut-downs that LIFE is more important that a job, especially, a thankless, toxic, hazardous job/career laced full of hostility & “environmental error factors,” that appear to be “random,” but are deliberately-intended to both structure & strengthen Systemic Injustice/Racism in a workplace. I wish you a smooth & total recovery, & hope you won’t hesitate to seek personal/professional help should you ever require. Thank you for sharing your own efforts. Best Wishes!
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Yes work place bullying is real, I too was bullied by my boss a very toxic work environment, I was ready to quit but they fired me it was the BEST thing they ever did because that push me more to find a better job, prayers for family, that's why it's not good to wear your job on your sleeves and let people in your work place know about your downfalls because they'll use it against you, your boss is not your friend.
This is a shame that this even happens in an educational institution where people are being taught to respect and embrace diversity with professionalism and understanding. For the president of an University to be involve and directly responsible for bullying of this magnitude is inexcusable. Her family should pursue legal action on her be half. The idea that her requests for FMLA and ADA accommodations were joked about and not honored is unfortunately familiar to me; as a former senior administrator to experienced this from an African American female supervisor. She had the support of her white direct supervisor and VP for student Affairs. It wasn't until I was terminated for refusing to sign "a last chance agreement" involving my federal right to use FLMA and ADA that I was fired. There many lies told and some of the same tactics were used that Dr. Bailey experienced. Karma is real and those that allowed this to happen to me were held responsible to a certain extent. Human Resources was restructured with a new administration; the HR representative assigned to my area, left the college; the EEOC officer was fired; FLMA and ADA was out sourced; my area was dissolved and the staff was reassigned to other departments, to remove them from under my former supervisor's division; my former supervisor's subordinates was reduced from 40+ to 4 clerical staff only; the VP, who allow the mishandling of my situation stepped down from the VP and took an academic advising position and subsequently retired. But, the damage was done, I had been fired for the first time ever; I lost my income, and senior administrator position in a higher education; my home, etc. Plus, one of my subordinates lost her job for not going along, with my supervisor's open bullying and making fun of me in meetings with my staff, etc. It was ugly and shameful. But, I had legal counsel, who advised me to not quit and let them fire me. It ended in a long drawn out legal problem that lasted five years. All of this was because I have a non visible physical illness and disability, which led to other major life changing factors in my life and someone wanting to get rid of me for not being "perfect" as they thought they were.
Whether black or white, when people don't respect differences and insist in interfering in federal law that has been put in place to help people, who are sick whether physical, mental or both it's an indicator that they lack emotional intelligence and shouldn't hold certain positions in the workplace. In my case, I was not able to meet with the president to advise him that I was being targeted and harrassed for my use of FMLA and ADA certification. All of my requests and attempts to follow the chain of command in order to see the president were purposely being blocked, until the very last day of my employment. Unfortunately, there is toxicity, harrassment and discrimination everywhere. But, it's really shameful when it happens in academia, where our children are being educated and mentored. Be mindful that's it's not just a race thing; because we as African Americans especially females, CAN be our worst enemies, too.
But, if you look at a the details it's usually really about the employee's effective leadership; professional work experience; personal bias, ealousy and insecurities; along with pure evilness; and their joyfulness in doing the dirty work of higher ranking administrators, who want keep their hands clean; etc. In my situation, I had an exceed expectations employment evaluations score and had collaborated with other directors at the college and developed a much needed student services initiative. I along with two colleagues received a bonus for our contribution to student services. The same colleagues, who are African American females outwardly defend me when I was targeted as a bad employee, who couldn't perform the duties of my position; and ineffective leader. However, my colleagues were told to basically "stand down." Once the legal investigation began by my attorneys the same colleagues, who were also friends were forced to disassociate themselves from permanently to keep their positions. That was a low blow that I'll never forget. One is now VP for Student Affairs at the same college. The other colleague evidentially left higher education for work in the public school system. However, there's still no contact on her part. So, lying and bullying me for having a medical condition that required me to adjust my work schedule; which was ADA certified and was suggested by EEOC via HR. but was rejected by my supervisor started a dirty campaign to get rid of me. Human Resources didn't stop the bullying and violation of my right to use FMLA and ADA; subsequently, followed what my supervisor, Dean and VP wanted which was to violated federal law and support the lie that did not perform my duties. Although, I never fail to exceed expectations from day one. So, if HR had stepped up and done their jobs this would've ended differently. The HR director did not disagree with a dean and VP which gives rise to the fact that HR's leadership and practices were ineffective and incompetent. This happened under a fairly new president's watch. I must say the major changes and restructuring that followed didn't help me. Perhaps, no one else will experience the toxic and hostile work environment, that I did for the same reasons nor same key people. However, the damage was done as far as I was concerned.
My thoughts and prayers are with Dr, Bailey's family and friends. May she rest in peace.
Rather than give in to their pressures, I stuck it out and retired a few years ago because I was determined to not allow them to mess with the money that was owed me.
Workplace bullying is real, especially against black women. She had been working on that letter for a while. I hope her soul is at peace. 🙏🏽💔
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Yes indeed. So true.
Especially if you’re prettier/more likable than everyone else you work with.
It is and thought this was the lady from mad tv
She unalive herself she's definitely not at peace
This story is heartbreaking! I’m also reading through the comments and so many of us share a similar experience, it’s like an epidemic! I hope her family seeks justice.
Lesson for everyone. I had a close friend who herself worked in HR. #1 thing she told me HR is not created for the employee. Your delusional if you think other wise. Think about it...if it was, some jobs would never need a union. I never forgot that. HR is created to protect the employer. Always. The trick is learning the red tape. All those employee books and papers you get when hired. KEEP THEM LEARN THEM. No matter how nice and smiling they are, email every thing and throw away NOTHING! Learn what their rules are and make them play by their OWN RULES. All these jobs have these bogus " visions" you know "we show respect, intergrity, Yada Yada Yada we know them and the thing is sooner or later...THEY break every one of them. But you learn them and then use them against THEM. Works for me. They either learn to leave me alone and let me do my job or You WILL pay unemployment. ON MY TERMS
This is too sad. Why didn't she have one person she could reach out to and feel supported? Why not one of her sorority sisters were there to give her the hope she needed. I cry for her and her family. 😢😢
Exactly. She was AKA and an alum of LU.
She hid her pain I'm numerous ways...
She was going through it... We need mental health all the way up the line
Yes we do my last job in 2019 was crazy but they had a mental health wellness person there so we could talk to her and she prayed with me. I remember that and did leave my job. I. Sorry she did this to herself
This is too much! This long letter shows how much she was stressed over this. Folks, God did not put you on this earth for this. No job is worth your Soul! When you are being mistreated and abused. Come out from among them, shake the dust off and move on! No one should be willing to subject themselves to such an environment. You cannot force anyone to love you. RIP Dr. Bailey. ❤
I worked for a CEO like this, the absolute worst!! I left and suffered with anxiety. This is so tragic, I’m so sorry sis. 😢
What is so tragic is that you didn't know that what you went through was Racially motivated Workplace Mobbing and Gang-stalking, look them up.
Grow up and become an adult
My God 😢😢😢😢😢. I am not in academia but a healthcare provider who was harassed and underwent similar treatment with a former administrator at a state agency for mental health and substance abuse. She focused on destroying my career and licensure with vindication. Karma is a b****!!!! Prayers for Dr. Bailey's family and LU ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
Black supervisors are bad also, sometimes they are worse than the white one. I know I had one!!
Wow 😮, this guy sounds EXACTLY like my current administrator! Just because people have the credentials and the degrees doesn’t mean they are good leaders. Leadership requires a different set of skills that some people just don’t have!
The kicker is that He Wasn't Qualified.
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@@c.muckercarrie5674 glad you said it because I am still to this day baffled that a b-ball coach who just obtained his PHd, no experience in admin and at that level succeeded everyone else. I was always like...did no one else apply!??!
No job no matter the status or amount of money it’s worth your peace on mind.
Unfortunately, this tragic outcome of academic bullying, is all too common in university settings!! Having spent 30 years at a PWI, and having continued my own educational journey achieving graduate and post-graduate degrees which were higher than the admins under which I served, I can attest to the tactics and strategies used to push one out (and it is definitely due to insecurity on their own part)!! I am SO disheartened at the loss of Dr. Bailey - to the academic communities and to our culture-at-large!!! Justice MUST be insisted upon on the behalf Dr. Bonnie Bailey and other faculty, administrators, and staff who are experiencing targeting by unscrupulous means!!! Rest Well, Dr. Bailey - you will not be forgotten!!!
It exist in every industry. So sad.
It is terrible that we have lost this wonderful lady. Bullying and more occurs even at Texas A&M. Dr. Leonard Bright shows videos on youtube that show the new President Mark Welsh gaslighting him and more. Thank you Roland for sharing this story, we will keep her family in our prayers.
Sad, just sad.
Thanks to your comment I watched all of his videos. I left a comment explaining how I found out about his videos. Recommended that he contact Roland Martin about the videos. He responded back to my recommendation. No clue how to contact Roland.
Oh A&M’s abusive culture is very deep rooted. (Roland & I are in the same class)
Dr. Antoinette Candia-Bailey sounded like a remarkable and caring woman. May she rest in peace. Her loss, is all our loss. She was a shining light for justice and compassion. 🙏🛐🕊️🕊️
This story hurts. Praying for all those who probably felt like they were a support for her.
That’s absolutely horrible and a tragedy!!! Bullying is not just from children and is a very serious issue!!! RIP ❤
My heart…
She went through so much. And he was a WM looking for power in a Black space. That man was intimidated by her. And rather than learn, you tear up… she was 49.
EXACTLY on a white man wanting power in black space. We all could smell that miles away without even knowing the story.
HE SHOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN AT THAT UNIVERSITY. ESAU IS EVERY WHERE GET HIM OUT OF THERE. HE LOOKS EVIL!!
I think it's a republican agenda to push black people out of leadership in hbcus. Remember, Republicans play the long game. They want to takeover and dismantle HBCU's. Why would a white man want to be a leadership of a hbcu?
Amen. This hit straight to the point. Like she said, karma is real.
She was terminated and not listened to by others. So very sad! Now they are sorry?! More needs to be FIRED!!
I have experienced this. And I left my job in 2020-sighting bullying from my manager. It took me YEARS to recover & HR made it worse!
I don’t even understand the point of HR. There was a WW harassing other ppl on our team & HR did nothing.😤
Micro management kills an office. I had a workplace bully who would give me an assignment, gave me the freedom to do as I wished as long as I came to final conclusion. I would complete the assignment and would be asked why I did it the way I did and so many other ex. but I finally had a manager who saw what this supervisor was doing and called her out. This saved me, I switched positions to get out from under her directly and we would meet with the manager together so there was no bullying and no misunderstanding between us. Really, I was excelling in my position even though the supervisor turned everyone else against me with gossip and by demeaning me in front of others. I wasn’t perfect but I did my job to the best of my ability. A few months later the supervisor got her dream job she lost it within months because the real person could not control the new office like she did at the office we worked together in. I would say This woman was micro managed and usually it is by an insecure person. I do hope they find that her boss is guilty of micromanaging to stop him from doing that to someone else.
Sounds to me they were trying to push her out and make her quit because she was better than them and a hard worker. People in the work force are so weird how they feel “threatened” from great employees like her. And with mental health issuess, makes people like her feel like a fucking failure. I believe God knows the truth and that all matters and it will expose this will help a lot of people that’s in the same situation and KARMA is coming. RIP Dr. Bailey.
I was internal audit director at a university and, as the only black and only female the department had ever had-I was bullied by the cfo, who was friends with my supervisor, and eventually fired because the results of my audit showed his lack of controls over funds. Now, 6 years later, the state auditors have discovered what I was reporting on back then. At the time, I went to EEO, but of course, they were no help. The cfo was made to step down a few months after he got rid of me. But that didn’t help my jobless situation.
I have found that EEO and HR only try to put the best face on a bad situation when you bring them a problem/concern. Your real life experience proves it!
@@givenscommunications6307 Exactly!
I hate to see this Roland!
A lot of our brothers and sisters do not “KNOW THE GAME”. They do not understand that just because you have a PhD you’re still a “Ninja whom is out of place in this society”. When they see that there are some of us in leadership positions and rolls then there is ALWAYS an Edomite whom inertly charged to destroy that black person and or their achievement!
We have to teach our children about -“How the world really is. 8 got that shit in my arm at 7 years of age when my parents had to sit me down and explain to me-“how it is in life”
Even when I attended graduate school at UOFH, I was prepared for the bs!
Yet I saw so many other students around me whom were not!
I am still at university and I understand this.
That is so sad. I wished she had gotten the help and support she needed. My sister too also committed suicide due to stressors at work due to racism and sexism as well as relationship problems. It is not easy. I too have been in such toxic environments and had to quit and move onto other things to save myself. Now I do part time jobs and run a business on the side and I am much more relaxed and in a happier space.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏾
@annamwale Thank you. Have a wonderful 2024.
This is a cautionary tale to all our women climbing the corporate ladder. Stop giving your best to these companies and institutions that don't care about you like a family would. Get back in God's order and prosper perhaps in your own business because these demons will work you until you have nothing left and how much money is worth your peace? This letter broke my heart to hear because we don't do this to ourselves normally, they do.
Or simply keep your mouth shut about apartheid and genocide as Dr. Claudine Gay maybe should happen she might still have her job! correct?
I don’t disagree with you but where are the righteous men at? Finding a righteous man who actual follows God is like searching for a needle in a haystack.
@@MutedMinimalist well, it depends on what you call righteous and what the Bible calls righteous. No person is declared righteous before God. When we accept the sacrifice of His Son and receive Him as our Savior, we're imputed with His righteousness as a gift.
However, there are many scriptures describing what a righteous person does. So you can find a righteous man, the question is, where are you looking and who's vetting the man.
Women pick the man THEY want and don't go to their fathers or uncles before they give their bodies and souls to that union. So even if the man was potentially righteous, they poison the potential for emotional gratification.
Now, the Bible did ask a question about finding a good woman. Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies." Virtuous women stand out from the crowd. Titus 2 says that older women (of character) are to teach the younger women how to love their children and HUSBANDS. Did you know that?
So when a man, (a predator/hunter) by nature, sees a weakness in the character (upbringing) of a woman, he will possibly exploit that if He's not obeying God. The job of the father or other respected men is to vet the man to see if he is godly.
Now, in light of these biblical parameters, did God not create righteous men, or is it the bypassing of God's order that's attracting hunters to exploit women who bypass God's order?
Study the story of Boaz and Ruth. She worked in a field full of men, but none approached her because she was a righteous woman. Boaz noticed her character and that she wasn't there trying to catch a man, but honoring her mother-in-law.
Her mother-in-law taught her how to approach this righteous man, and when she did in submissiveness, he covered her... because he'd seen her character. Find out what's in your character that's attracting dishonorable men.
@@markhorn7078 It’s very bold to assume that someone who agreed with what you said attracts bad men due to bad character. The truth is that no men approach because of my character and high moral standards. Which I why I proposed where are the righteous men? I know I am not alone as I see too many righteous women doing what God requires of them but not enough men doing the same.
@@MutedMinimalist when you become your own lawyer, you have a fool for a client. That's an old saying, but true and applicable to all til this day. Your assessment of what you say you are may be valid, and it may be true, but if the results don't bear out what you're saying you are, there's a flaw in the equation.
I don't know you, I just know the Bible. God promises things to those who obey His order and other things to those who don't. So either God lied or you're missing something in your character with God in your heart and walk.
The best case is that you're waiting for the right man that God will send, and the other is that you're in rebellion in some area that He won't allow you to get the promise until it's addressed.
Only you know. For instance, your standards may be high, but your projected attitude may be off-putting. Look how you responded to me in offense for giving you my limited biblical analysis. It didn't come across as feminine, in my opinion.
I, too, have seen many women who fit the description of a godly woman, but they had issues of unforgiveness, bitterness, and lived by fear.
When men get past the meeting phase, they're in immediate analysis and liability assessment mode. Every idle word and act is being ingested to see if the woman aligns with his world and spiritual view. Any issues with respect or presence of a father is 2nd on the list behind your faith if he's a godly man. Then comes other things like hopefulness, joy, etc.
What I said to you want bold. It was Bible. I have no opinions like you, I only shared the Bible's diagnosis for the issue. It's the same thing I would share with any of my daughters. By the way, many men of God have been shocked that the godly woman they found in the church divorced them after vowing not to. The church's divorce rate is the same as the world, and it's still 80% of the "self declared godly" women who file.
This must be considered when you're formulating your standards because the chilling effect of this has made men reluctant to marry if they have any value. This has shrank the available pool for you. You might have to reorganize your standards.
I would that you would receive the husband that you desire. Understand that something is preventing this, and it includes preservation of that man because God holds those who truly believe in Him to a higher standard. If there's any pride, it needs to be addressed.
I gave you a biblical example and other points that you didn't address. You came after the messenger instead of considering the message from a stranger God is using to share something with no gain for me.
I addressed male vetting because the truth is that if the Bible is correct, and God intends for His daughters to be covered in covenant, you've probably already had that husband in your life and missed him. Are your 'standards' God's standards? Is your heart submitted to Him in every area, including the order of marriage with your husband as your head? Or are you harboring resistance to what God ordained and don't realize it's keeping you from His promise? God didn't lie.
Man lies to himself all the time. That's a universal truth for us all, and that's why He promises safety in a multitude of COUNSELORS. Lastly, the Bible says that a person who would have friends must show himself friendly.
If no men are approaching, it's not because of your standards. They don't see them yet. Are you inviting? Is your appearance feminine and warm, or do you have a force field up?
Men either sense your holiness or assume that you're beyond their reach. Ruth approached Boaz first to let him know she was interested. That's when he let his intentions be known. I hope you can see the effort to try and explain comes from the heart of a man who wants all women of God to prosper. Modern ideologies have invaded the church, and it has alienated us all.
I literally just dealt with a situation like this. What do you do when a superior is so threatened by your presence? It creates a very anxious, unhappy life all around. The only thing u can do is declare and decree you are protected. And that nothing or no one can derail your current or future success
Powerful affirmation thank you for sharing!
You should be looking for another job and read the 48 laws of power so you are aware of the rules in the corporate world.
I work with seniors in St. Louis, MO, and we’ve had three people request transfers out of Lincoln University (St. Louis) because of a toxic environment. Something is going wrong with that institution.
the school is located in Jefferson City MO. not St.Louis!
Thank You. I have found it so strange that all these people came to LU so enthused and within a year or two were on the way out
this is so sad, i can’t begin to imagine the pain she was in, the pain her soul must’ve of been in, it’s dangerous out here man
This is tragic 😥...they should be ashamed and held accountable.
This story resonates with me as I am currently experiencing workplace harassment. Despite the fact that I have done my job for several years, I am enduring a hostile work environment. I feel like I’m being targeted because I have spoken out against racist slurs being directed towards me.
Document everything and consult with an employment attorney asap.
Document EVERYTHING and if you can't afford an attorney, Google and Google Scholar are your friend. Start researching and save any legal summaries, articles, and cases that are relevant to your situation. They may come in handy if your situation escalates. Save ALL Performance Evaluations, ALL Emails - including any emails that praise your work and work ethic, and save ALL written material where you documented your issues and the response you received. Dr. Bailey's situation was triggering for me -- it was like hearing a large part of my story except my harassers and racists are at the elementary school level. May Dr. Bailey Rest In Peace, and may her Spirit and Family witness the Karma that is sure to come!
All during the height of the OJ Simpson trial an employee would come into the office and tell OJ Jokes.
When we had an employee feedback meeting, I spoke up saying that I felt the jokes were offensive. A WF spoke up and said; “I think his problem is that he’s just sensitive!” I IMMEDIATELY replied; “it’s not a matter of being sensitive. Suppose when Bob Barker was going through his Price Is Right Scandal I had come in the office and said; ‘Hey what does everyone think of 70 year old Bob Barker making 40 year old Price Is Right models give him head;’ how would you white employees feel about that?”
Do you know ALL the white employees gasped at what I said? I once again IMMEDIATELY said; “And that’s my point! You are upset by what I said, just as I felt the OJ jokes being told were just as offensive!”
The manager abruptly ended the meeting, went to the Division Chief (a WM married and sexual harasser of men in the office - you read that correct) and she told him I tried to cause a “disturbance” in the meeting by talking about oral sex!
Within a year of that, the white employees banded together and insisted I be reassigned, which happened within a year.
These people are ruthless out here!
Leave! It will not get better. Signed, HR Pro
I did too! My prayers are with you in that you can endure until change comes for you, definitely look for a better work environment. Document, get counseling, make sure you send emails letting folks know how they are treating you and that the harassment is unwarranted and you want it to stop....make them pay!
It sounds like a toxic hell-hole wasteland, where failures at academia become Administrators and desire to kill and destroy the most creative, magical, and powerful under their rule. This is a business model that is far and wide it has caused generational trauma instead of generational wealth. Terrible. Bless you Roland and Crew for reporting on this. It is infuriating. ❤💐
This is heartbreaking. As someone who has experienced severe workplace bullying over a mental health condition, I watched this with tears pouring down my face. And I can guarantee after this tragedy that I will never kill myself until those responsible pay for their actions, no matter how bad things get for me. Rest in power, queen.
Work place toxicity that builds to bullying and gang stalking can be devastating to those caught in its grips without any support...unfortunately these incidents are more common than ever!!
My job stalking and bulling me all day everyday
I've been through this and words cannot describe how this video validated my sanity! I left, I quit, done! SO SORRY this happened and I can promise you, I KNOW what she's talking about and REST ASSURED, THEY WILL REAP. WHAT. THEY. SOWED!!!! The added periods were INTENTIONAL! 💥💯🎯
I too experienced this and my life was miserable. I tried for almost two years to fight a losing battle. They were trying to force me out and I could feel it, but I vowed to prove them wrong. Eventually, I could no longer take it and just quit December 2, 2022. They didn’t care about me I was just a number. I’m much happier now but still worry about the retirement I won’t get as I’m in my 50’s.
It was definitely bullying but nothing will happen to Mosley. Can you imagine making it all the way up to a Ph.D at the top of your game, dream job and still be a slave and nothing to show for it? Discrimination is very hard to prove (this is what all the lawyers I contacted told me). I suffered discrimination as a teacher in small town Nevada. There was no help for me and no mental help either. No doctor would give me mental health leave. They also gave me a fake bad evaluation. Her words sound just like the words I stated during my EEOC investigation. These White leaders will lie and all pull together. All the laws protect the company. I left the city where I was bullied, gave up and forfeited everything, Dr. Bailey decided to leave this world. Only death brought awareness to racism and severe work place bullying and harassment many Blacks in education endure.
I went through same. I haven't been back in the corporate world for two years now. I have fear of it happening again and now prefer to work alone.
@@JOY-tf7gj I am very happy you are working in a way in which you prefer. You are lucky to have that option.
This story really touched me, I am tired of the injustices towards us black and brown people. I pray for the family of Dr. Bailey, and her friends and the many lives that she touched. I want to see justice for her. No person should ever have to go through what she went through and endure what she went through. This is despicable!!. As a person who has experienced injustices, I believe it is my mission and my calling to expose the evil, and to stand up for for those who have experienced injustices of some sort, be a voice for the voiceless. Dr. Bailey, I did not know you, but Queen, God rest your soul, and May your legacy live on.
It's brown and Black people then why are you allowing all the brown people in the Gaza city to be genocide it underneath your eyes,,,By white people who don't even come from that land if you're allowing that to happen over there then how can you expect and unity over here because there's no unity over here that's why that's happening over there
Thank you to everyone who is praying for our family during this difficult time....
These people will try to break you down mentally. The taller you stand the harder they hammer. I just left a toxic corporate environment. I knew it was absolutely time to go when I was rated low on my review because although I was assigned and completed a lot of work I lost points for not asking for help. I was lied to and on, it was a mess at that place and it was depressing being demeaned on a consistent basis. These people are not our friends at work and black women specifically need to be super careful to protect mental health. May she rest in peace and this tragedy be a lesson to others to leave where you are just tolerated not welcomed ❤
Everything you said is true, but I experienced this heavily with my own pple. (blk) and with the others on the job. It has gave me depression, anxiety and fear of working with other people. I got sick mentally and physically behind a job and left traumatized from the mistreatment. Now I work alone generating income.